Hey guys I need help. I was wondering what it means when a girl does not have on her Facebook page that she in a relationship but on her boyfriends wall, it shows that they are in a relationship. I always thought that if a couple is exclusive, they would have it where both of their Facebook pages show that they are in a relationship. I like this girl and every time we have hanged out on campus, she has never brought up that she has a boyfriend. The reasons of why I know she has a boyfriend is because she friended me on Facebook by sending me a friend request and I have seen where she has been in pictures with him. She's very flirty with me as she touches my arms and laughs at all of my stupid jokes. Advice would be much appreciated on how to treat this situation.
+Greedy Rick We exchanged numbers two days ago and I tried to set something up with her this weekend but she said she was busy doing her school work this weekend. I'll most likely see her on campus Monday and I wish that she would just open up about her boyfriend that she never has mentioned about. I would like to date this girl, but if she is in a serious relationship, than I need to just back off. I need to figure out how to open her up on this topic without making it awkward.
Greedy Rick Yeah she's young. A freshman in College. She's naturally a nice girl and is sweet to everyone so if I ask her upfront, she'll probably give an honest answer.
Greedy Rick Lol maybe. I think I'll just casually bring up what her interest are and then whatever she says, I'll say, "well what does your boyfriend think of that?" and see how she responds.
+MarveltheCross316 Once you figure out the boyfriend situation, (assuming she doesnt have one). You're next sentence needs to be direct "Well look... I think you're absolutely amazing and I want you" *Let her digest it, she will blush and smile* then say "When are you free?" Something along those lines. If she acts unavailable, just let it go and tell her to get in touch when she has time. Then let it go and see if she gets in touch.
basically me and this girl had been friends for about 3 years as she was seeing one of my friends during that time. after they broke up we became closer and ended up hooking up and getting together, basically we spent too much time together in a short time frame(spent a week solid either she stayed at mine or I stayed at hers and only space we had was during work. she was saying to me and her family hat she could see us going long into the future and started thinking of holidays and stuff for next year. we went out one weekend clubbing (my first time as it's not my scene as I'm a raver) and I kicked off a little after some lads was flirting with her and I know it was my insecurity and the fact I was steaming drunk. basically I got too clingy and when she ended it I begged for a 2nd chance and agreed to try and be friends but realised I can't do it. now I feel like I have walked she won't come back because she is seeing some other lad she really likes and she said to me she can only see me as a friend. basically I just dno what to do as I don't want to lose her but I don't want just a friendship and I struggle not to innit ate contact with her. plus her family have pestered me saying if I walk away that it will all be over and I won't have another chance with her, and to still see eachother as friends and see if something will grow. O dno what to do please help me!!!!!
Is it ever acceptable to let someone in who initially put you second? I guess it comes down to values, but would I want to take back leftovers? What are your guys' thoughts on this?
+Orgil Batzorig It is not acceptable to let them in if things stay the same. I don't believe any value system would permit being someones backup. I would do whatever possible to get this girl out of your mind.
Corey Wayne you my friend are more valuable than the clearest diamond
The other day, my female friend said something along these lines: We are women and we are meant to chase men.
This makes so much sense I can't even believe I ever thought otherwise.
Hey guys I need help. I was wondering what it means when a girl does not have on her Facebook page that she in a relationship but on her boyfriends wall, it shows that they are in a relationship. I always thought that if a couple is exclusive, they would have it where both of their Facebook pages show that they are in a relationship. I like this girl and every time we have hanged out on campus, she has never brought up that she has a boyfriend. The reasons of why I know she has a boyfriend is because she friended me on Facebook by sending me a friend request and I have seen where she has been in pictures with him. She's very flirty with me as she touches my arms and laughs at all of my stupid jokes. Advice would be much appreciated on how to treat this situation.
+Greedy Rick We exchanged numbers two days ago and I tried to set something up with her this weekend but she said she was busy doing her school work this weekend. I'll most likely see her on campus Monday and I wish that she would just open up about her boyfriend that she never has mentioned about. I would like to date this girl, but if she is in a serious relationship, than I need to just back off. I need to figure out how to open her up on this topic without making it awkward.
Greedy Rick
Yeah she's young. A freshman in College. She's naturally a nice girl and is sweet to everyone so if I ask her upfront, she'll probably give an honest answer.
Greedy Rick
Lol maybe. I think I'll just casually bring up what her interest are and then whatever she says, I'll say, "well what does your boyfriend think of that?" and see how she responds.
Rodri Btz
Will do
+MarveltheCross316 Once you figure out the boyfriend situation, (assuming she doesnt have one). You're next sentence needs to be direct "Well look... I think you're absolutely amazing and I want you" *Let her digest it, she will blush and smile* then say "When are you free?" Something along those lines. If she acts unavailable, just let it go and tell her to get in touch when she has time. Then let it go and see if she gets in touch.
Cory I need help
+Vortex DnB Well the first step to getting help is admitting that you need it. Step 2 might be explaining your issue.
basically me and this girl had been friends for about 3 years as she was seeing one of my friends during that time. after they broke up we became closer and ended up hooking up and getting together, basically we spent too much time together in a short time frame(spent a week solid either she stayed at mine or I stayed at hers and only space we had was during work. she was saying to me and her family hat she could see us going long into the future and started thinking of holidays and stuff for next year. we went out one weekend clubbing (my first time as it's not my scene as I'm a raver) and I kicked off a little after some lads was flirting with her and I know it was my insecurity and the fact I was steaming drunk. basically I got too clingy and when she ended it I begged for a 2nd chance and agreed to try and be friends but realised I can't do it. now I feel like I have walked she won't come back because she is seeing some other lad she really likes and she said to me she can only see me as a friend. basically I just dno what to do as I don't want to lose her but I don't want just a friendship and I struggle not to innit ate contact with her. plus her family have pestered me saying if I walk away that it will all be over and I won't have another chance with her, and to still see eachother as friends and see if something will grow. O dno what to do please help me!!!!!
So you wrote this 3 years ago....how are you doing now? How does it feel looking back at this post?
Is it ever acceptable to let someone in who initially put you second? I guess it comes down to values, but would I want to take back leftovers? What are your guys' thoughts on this?
+Orgil Batzorig It is not acceptable to let them in if things stay the same. I don't believe any value system would permit being someones backup. I would do whatever possible to get this girl out of your mind.
The same I wouldn't want to be a back up.. but coach Corey says to not take them serious and just have fun sounds good lol
👍🏽👍🏽