How Do You Feel About Uninvited Guests?
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 15 ส.ค. 2018
- Adrienne Houghton, Jeannie Mai, Loni Love, and Tamera Mowry-Housley express their feelings about uninvited guests. Do you believe in “the more, the merrier,” or do you think it’s disrespectful to bring a plus one unannounced?
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Worse thing is when the friend starts having inside jokes, or own convo with the extra person they brought. It just really messes up the flow and energy.
Nette exactly!!
That is so rude omg🤦♀️
Don’t come to my house uninvited. I’ll never understand why people think that’s okay 😩
Cray May Same, lol!!!!!
Right. Had this happen on my 30th birthday and let's just say... Someone almost got pushed off a balcony! Smh! Some people don't have etiquette!
Not to mention when some of these people are RUDE!!!!!
Girl if someone rings my bell and I am not expecting anything or anyone, you are not getting in because I am not even getting up to open the door.
@Melissa Harvey My Mother in law just loves “popping” in on me, when I live an hour away from her. She did this one time while my husband I were home, but we didn’t answer the door. She waited in her car for 3 hours, trying to call and text us.
You better be asking if you're allowed to bring somebody...that's pretty rude to just bring someone without asking and so inconsiderate.
Solin T. super inconsiderate 👍i agree
I totally agree with Adrienne as far as wanting to protect myself, so being careful not to allow negative people into my home or space.
Since sometimes they just meet you once and are rude. Yess that happens!
@@noellefinlay998 yes. This absolutely happens.
“Heaven forbid, an unmatched chaiyahh” 😂😂😂😂😂
You can tell in the past that Adrienne hung around toxic people.
The Kardashians
Kiely
Rohan krishnan SHADE
@@rohank5 nah most likely Kiely Williams and her family.
I love Adrienne’s new mindset.
Taupe Shell 😎
YES...SHE'S GROWING!!
That has been my mindset for two years now. I found out everyone and everything carries certain energy: it is my prerogative to choose the type of energy I allow in my life especially when in circumstances/situation I have total control of, for example a party as opposed to a work situation.
I decided to be very picky about places I go and who I hang around.
This year I had to say no to a my very close friend who I love and adore so much because I didn't feel like being around her other friends.
I wouldn’t bring people if they weren’t also invited. In my opinion, it’s a little tacky.
The person that brought that friend is putting everyone in an awkward situation. Me, with an unexpected guest at my event. But also the guest, who was probably told it was all good, then gets there and can feel that they're unwanted. Who wants to feel insecure about being an intruder the entire event? So no, you're not doing anyone a favour by bringing people without asking.
HannibelleLecter What would u say about being happily invited to a family part (friends family b/c you aren’t from the area and are trying to make friends) but when u get their that “awkward unwanted” feeling is on you, like the girl that invited u is paying atttebtion to her childhood friends not spending time with u besides the group photo?
I think that's just an awkward part of making new friends, and once you get to know them, you'll eventually get over that feeling and feel wanted. It's a completely different situation, the main difference being that they all organised for you to come (right?), and you weren't just sprung on the host by your friend. From my experience, you'll feel more tight with them as every party comes :)
I'm glad I have a nonchalant attitude where I hardly feel awkward in any situation 😏
@@fluffernickel6386 thats not always good. You need to be able to pick up on whats happening around you. Its emotional intelligence.
@@9188jenni I rescind my statement I now know the awkwardness in it
I'm exactly like Adrienne, why bother surrounding yourself with people who make you feel bad and miserable when you could be around people that make you happy and just amazing? And honestly, every since I dropped the people that made me feel shitty I am 100% better mentally for it!
I hate it when people do that but once someone is in my house, they are my guest and I treat them as such. Hospitality was important in my household growing up and now as an adult it just comes naturally. No one leaves my house hungry, upset, or empty handed. That being said, I expect the same courtesy from guests. Once they out my house, my friend or family member who brought a million ppl gonna hear it. That simple.
Brilliant mindset! Wish people were this mature
Very mature of you!! We are a small breed indeed.
That is called Ministering God's grace , Love, and His correction. God bless you!
LovelyVintageRose tbvvvvh
Same
Unfortunately because of my mom. I end up being the uninvited friend and it’s really annoying because I can see the disappointment and annoyance on their face. It’s quite hurtful honestly
hahahahahahahaha cant you tell ur mum you dont want to go out with her all the time
Alma first of all I’ve tried that. Second. My mom is African. How well do you see that going
Then don’t go
If someone ask me to join an event I always stress them by asking if theyre sure people are expecting me. Aint nobody frowning on me bih
I love hearing Adrienne defending her happiness now. I think during previous shows she’s been uncomfortable with “confrontation” or speaking up if something is making her unhappy. I’ve always looked up to her- I love her so much!!
Karina Bolling 💗 yeah! I think it’s important that we be strict and precise about what makes us happy and surround ourselves with whatever these are 👌🏻😊
As someone who has social anxiety,I try to always bring a friend that I know and am comfortable with if I'm invited to events that I know are gonna be with mostly people I dont really know. BUT I ALWAYS ASK FIRST! I never just show up to the event with my friend. I ask the person right when I'm given the details of the event,and if they say no,well then I just make up some excuse later to why I can't go. 🤷♂️
Snatched. Social anxiety is literally something that is just in your head. As long as you live you will have to encounter strangers and you have to know how to co-exist with others unless you live on a deserted island. You have to learn how to relax around others because more often than not, they (guests,etc) are fine, it's you with the problem and that can kill a good vibe. Relax, check your own energy, and have a good time, should you encounter a negative person simply ignore them.
social anxiety is just in your head? that's funny i thought it was a condition you got in your leg... 🙄
anyway unsolicited advice aside, I get what you mean @Snatched. it can be kind of difficult but the important part is that you're considerate enough to ask the host beforehand.
momo magic just like I could be moved on without response, you could be as well. Unsolicited or not, I gave advice because "social anxiety" is something that I'm overcoming as well and this is literally something I know first hand. I'm not about to baby anyone and promote being anti social. No one said you had to be a social butterfly but literally you have to relax if you want to exist in a world with someone other than yourself
Nadji Heiress Hun, if you think it's as easy as telling someone to "just relax" ...you clearly don't nor did not have social anxiety. You probably confused it with just being socially awkward or something. Now I do agree that you shouldn't baby anyone nor enable mental illness, however the way you're going about it shows you clearly have no clue what you're talking about.
@@exquisite921 If you're not a licensed MD, you dont need to be telling people what anxiety is or that "it's all in your head". That is a very dangerous thing to do, especially with people who suffer from it. Anxiety it self is not just in someone's head, and requires more than just "relaxing" and calming down. Just because you're getting over it your own way doesn't mean it will work the same for other people. Children have anxiety, animals have anxiety and adults have anxiety. You clearly don't have social anxiety if you can sit here and conflate it with being socially awkward, which is something completely different.
Pls stop doling out unsolicited advice and telling people wrong information, especially when it is biased information.
Oh no the unmatched chair 😂
Bringing uninvited people is rude. It ruins my vibe. I can't talk about what I wanted cus you want to bring a person I don't know like that
Same Adrienne! Gotta set boundaries seriously . Protecting your own happiness is SUPER important
The ladies are correct. Quality over quantity. I too now only surround myself with people that I really want to spend time with. I made a vow 2018 would be drama free and for the most part it has been. Life is great! 🤗🤗🤗
Wait...didn’t I see this video a while ago?
And yet you still watched it.
Thought I was the only one!
Ashley Moore if you think my comment was hostile, then either you don’t know vocabulary or you really don’t have much experience on the internet. Either way, good luck. You’re gonna need it.
Rainbow Purple stfu thanks
Rainbow Purple daaaaaaammmmmnnn ...you need a hug?? Geesh
i want to see tia and tamera on the Real again
Angelina Katy me tooooo!!!
Yes!
Me too!! And a Sister Sister reboot!!
Me too
Adrienne... I hope you realize honey that that’s called having a “happy home”. When your space, in any sense, is at a nice, tranquil peace... you want to continue to feed that feeling/state.
I don’t understand how people think it’s okay to show up somewhere uninvited especially if we are not really close. THE AUDACITY.
I had an old friend who would always show up with an extra person all the time. At first it didn’t really bother me but as times went on even when it was explained that there was only a certain amount of people allowed or limited space. One time when there was a birthday for our mutual friend, She ends up bringing her exes new girlfriend to our friends own birthday party. It made our friend very uncomfortable at her own birthday party and it was just disrespectful. After that we all had to cut ties with her because it was just unbelievable
Kindness and respect goes a long way. It also helps with planing. I also agree with the negative energy thing. Why start trouble when you know certain people don't get along.
OMG THIS HAPPENED TO me! my girlfriend invited a bunch of ex colleagues to what was meant to be an intimate gathering after I had some family issues... I explained it to her and how to ask me first and she just didn't get it and we ended up not talking anymore.
She's inconsiderate.
She’s not your friend and it definitely wasn’t a loss
I have a friend who brings her new flavor of the week to chill with our group. Honestly she just gets invited to less stuff...
Don’t let them in. Period.
I had this problem at my wedding. We could only have 50 guest for the reception. My husband gave me the list of the most important family and friends he wanted there and I had mine... 😑well the wedding day comes and it’s the reception and and I notice and uninvited guest on my husbands side of the family came along with a plus one! And it threw off the seating arrangement and I had two of my family members have to sit in a different room from the reception to eat their meal. That had me ticked off. It’s not as though I didn’t want them there, but there was only so much room and MONEY! So only most important people were invited and I just felt offended at that 😕🤷🏽♀️.
Shelby E You’re nicer than most. I would have told them they can stay for the ceremony, but they can’t stay for the reception. That’s rude as hell to show up uninvited to an event like a wedding (which I’m sure you took a good amount of time and effort planning) and expect other people to rearrange around you. Nah fam, you can leave after we say I do!
lexi219 thank you, I never did say anything to them. At the end of the day everyone was having a good time and my two family members were not upset. But I know the next event I have there will be my party planner at the door asking for names and invitations 🙃
An univited guest with plus one that is crazy!Its already bad that you were not invited and you need to drag another uninvited person? Like no shame or respect for peoples wishes if everybody knows only a certain number of people will be attending you cant just show up. If its a wedding where anybody can drop by then it wouldn't matter.
My aunt invited her coworker /friend to my sister's wedding. The friend brought her whole family too! My sister didn't want her at the wedding and later on it caused a huge issue between our family. The uninvited person took centerpieces and extra things that my sister did not want them to take. Now it's just very awkward.
When Ade said “a chair that doesn’t even match” she sounded like she was about to cry. I FELT that!!! I’m OCD as well and if I have things set a certain way and someone ruins it.. I’ll probably cry
I honestly think that people should be considerate before they just bring somebody to your event... like some people will take advantage and be like : oh don't worry , this person is cool I don't mind ! Like I'm a person who is welcome to anybody but if I don't know who you are bringing or didn't ask you to bring a plus one then follow the directions... it's unfair for the guests who were invited & inconsiderate and it shows they didn't atleast take into account your directions & wasn't thinking of you or your feelings... you get taken for granted and it's so not cool
Myronn Coleman not just events but also ur house as well
Adrienne and Loni's makeup, hair, and outfit just looks so flawless! They are both serving serious looks!!!
I’m 21 and I’m already at this mindset 😂 had to have experiences that got me there but I’m totally for this! 👏🏽
I love this show! I wish I could join these convos!
They all look lovely😍
this topic reminded me of the time I got setup to be third wheeling my “friends” at the time with their boyfriends and I was all lonely in the middle of them at the movies 😭😭 I was so mad
Adrienne is 100% right!! I’ve gone out with friends so many times and then they’ve had other people show up (that i wasn’t aware was gonna be there) and they were so negative, rude and just horrible people it put a dampener on my night
My brother in law is the one that always does this 😒 because he's a social butterfly. He'll invite Joe shumo off the street cause they were having a good conversation...like to a public place, or your event that's different. But to my house or my party like excuse you...at least ask! If people ask then that's a different story, most of the time I'd say sure. But somtimes you're not in the mood fot extra guests you don't know! Smh 🙈 ugh we're working on it...lol
That's very inconsiderate of him... not to mention not very safe or smart, you never know what a stranger's ulterior motives are.
momo magic I know! It drives me crazy lol we've had to have conversations about it. He's...getting better 😔
I’m really loving all the ladies vibes
I turn the uninvited away. Call me cold.
Suwayne Evans and please tell me the formula to doing that!
Yes, I do the same thing to, if I didn’t invite you, you ain’t coming into my house.
I'm in love with tamera's and Jeannie's outfits
Lmfaoooo 😂 Tamera said the “Shoo!” too
Ugh just the title got me upset , when they don’t even know me like that and like ya just invite them ... like my baby shower and they showed up empty handed and she had 3 kids with her 🤦🏻♀️
I love it when Jeanie talks she makes sense
this video was already uploaded
Ashanti Salmon yess like 2 years ago
Jeannie’s look of disgust when Adrienne was telling her story 😂😂 I love her.
Oh gosh I struggle with that because I have a twin and we do everything together!! I know Tamara can relate!!
“I’ve just started learning what boundaries are”
This rule applies to family members too.
Im enjoying these clips !
are these new episodes?
I admire Adrienne she is just like me
She protect her happiness period
That's true I had a party at my place one time and they brought uninvited guests. The uninvited people showed up first without the invited people so we just didn't open the door for them.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣this is so me.
I don't like it when people stop by my house unannounced. That is one of my pet peeves. Sometimes, I may be painting, writing, or just relaxing and don't wish to be disturbed. And at other times, I may have company already. Show up at my house unannounced = You'll be knocking but you won't get in. And I will never be bothered to explain or apologize. It's that simple.
Love what Jeanine says here. Absolutely!
I’m sorry but that is rude to invite extra people when you didn’t ask first. You should ask first especially if the person is paying. If you are paying for your guests then you can bring whoever!
You just need to know your friends. I have a friend who often brings someone without announcing that someone else is coming. Now I expect it, so I say directly if it is okay to bring extra people or not. Also, when I make reservations, I tell people how many people I have a reservation for and even give them the first names of who is on the reservation so it's clear.
Totally agree with that.
Adrienne always has a story to tell
This is why I never go to places without an invite from the host
We host a Christmas morning Breakfast every year. My friend and her kids come, but she showed up not only with her kids but the new boyfriend of a month and his 5 kids. There was not enough food or seating. Plus the boyfriends kids damaged a room door in my house. I was pissed. There was no heads up.
I’m 16 and I am already like that. I have made my friendship circle smaller than it was before cause I am not into the stupid drama and petty arguments that bid friendship circles cause. I am going into college in the uk and I need to focus on a levels not if some friends in the friendship circle liked me or trying to get two friends to be friends again cause it would be awkward if they are not.
Faith Umoren good for you. I'm the same. Don't won't none of your bitchy two faced drama.
Girl focus on urself! The same thing happened to me when I was sitting my GCSEs and a bunch of "friends" only wanted to bring drama into my life so I cut them off... fast forward to now I have drama-free friends and all the hard work paid off as I recently finished medical school. Always do you boo.
Tamera and Jeanie are looking fly!
If I'm going out with one of my friends and she didn't tell me she was bringing one of her friends my whole vibe and mood is off
I’m the same way when I get invited somewhere I always ask who’s going or who’s gonna be there .. nahh I’m not with the drama ..
Totally agree with Adrienne.
SAME Adrienne... Agree 👏👏💕
I'm sooo adrienne. I just hang out with people who I know so better for you to respect that😌
Me and Adrienne share the same birth day and I relate to her soooo much!!!
You producers or whatever really think us viewers are stupid with these reuploads ! So damn annoying !!
jotam J lol they’re off season rn so they aren’t making new episodes. They’ve never made new episodes until the fall.
right i noticed that as well
Shayna Dorsey yes I’m aware but I’ll rather not have them upload the same clips than wait till late September!
jotam J Ohh this was a reupload. No wonder why the episode quality is GOOD.
Fire Thoughts yess🙄🙄
It’s plain rude to bring someone or several people who were not invited. I was at my friends birthday party last month that was held at her house, and she got a text from one of our other friends in the middle of the party saying she wants to bring 2 people nobody knew well, and told my friend to kick someone out of the invite to make room for them. I was shocked. After my friend said no she didn’t respond or show up.
I'm with Adrienne on this
Adrienne your makeup looks so good. Did you do it yourself?
If you bring a uninvited plus one to my party, you and you’re friend can both leave. You clearly wanted to hang out with them so go do that. 🤷🏼♀️
You better make me a plate.
Set boundaries
Really depends on the occasion. If its a big house party or like a big garage party of course they can come. But if its an important event like a wedding or a baby shower or something that should be about close family, then no or at least say before hand.
Yes Adrienne! If somebody is gonna be there who is not planned, it throws everything off! All you gotta do is ask me if you wanna bring somebody and imma say no
My ex bff kept making my bday celebrations a girls nights for her friends I didnt know and she tried to bring people to my wedding and not only did I uninvite her but I disassociated myself with her because she is always surrounding herself with drama
That pisses me off. If I invite you, that means i want just YOU TO COME! I didn’t ask you to bring your boyfriend or friend you haven’t seen in a while, or that one friend you got that you know i don’t like. I will ask that person and you to take ya ass home cuz i’m not dealing with that. Especially if i’m planning the situation
What bothers me is if someone invites me to their party and the whole time they’re with their other friend and not talking to me at all
If you want to bring someone over to party or gathering you have to tell me who they are. Honestly my friend has done this a few time, the other day it was suppose to be only me and her going out cuz we had important stuff to discuss. And all of a sudden a bunch of people were invited and I didn’t even know till the night before. And all of a sudden it became a small birthday celebration. She should be grateful I knew like half the people there and the birthday was someone I have spent time with or I would have been fuming.
I miss Tamar and I LOVE the quality of this episode.
“that doesn’t even match” 😂
So why do they re-upload these old videos?😒🤦🏽♀️
Depends on the person they’re bringing and where we’re going if brought with.
I need Adrienne’s shirt!!!😍
I hate when people come to your house uninvited especially family members 😏
Yeah I don't answer the door.
I have never understood people who come and they bring another person/people without asking myself and my group of friends. I was raised if you are invited to something you are invited no one else certain exceptions apply such as the person said I could bring a plus one. I have had it before where a friend of mine brought someone else without asking it pisses me off its just so rude especially if you are planning an event like a dinner reservation or a party you need to know how many people are coming so you can plan on how much food you are provided etc. I just accept my friend and the person into my home though and i talk to my friend about it later as i do not want to ruin the night and cause drama etc. I could go on...
If someone knock my door without invited? Well im not going to open the door period 😂
I have a friend who constantly brings plus ones. It's annoying, to say the least. She is on her way to never being invited anywhere with me again
Agreed Adrian!!!!!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
My friends and i when we were in college decided to book a hotel and have a girls night. One of the girls invited 3 more girls so it limited the space in the room and they didn't help pay, i was so annoyed one of my friends and i left.
Loni's side eye tho 😂😂😂
At my 40th birthday surprise dinner last summer, my uncle who was was invited with his wife ONLY showed up with his wife, his five kids and another adult friend of his! My poor husband who planned the whole surprise was left with the additional bill as he was too diplomatic to ask my uncle to pay for his additional guests’ food. When I found out they weren’t all invited I was so annoyed to say the least 🙄
When I first saw the title, I assumed it was about your bffs coming over without calling and was shocked at the comments. But then I finally played the video 😂😂😂 who tf DOES that?
My boyfriend and i were planning a nee years eve party. Another friend of my boyfriend asked what are plan was and who was invited. When we explained we were keeping thing intimate we only people we really know because we just moved into a house and didnt want to have a ragging party with random people. Suddenly once we told people not to bring strangers and that we didnt want a super loud kegger everyone decided they would just plan a whole new party somewhere else. I was a bit pissed since i had already planned ours but frankly was okay with not having to host or cleanup.
Tamara looks beautiful on this set
Are these videos new??
Tamera wore Jeannie’s outfit in the video titled “is it better to be late than never”
I do the same as Adrienne, I ask first before i go somewhere, who is going to be there.