Yes. A lot of people just open up to me, randomly, about anything and everything. I can't say I enjoy it. I do not; it's a massive pet peeve, but I understand that sometimes people just need an ear, so I give it to them. Cause I know what it's like to feel lonely or ignored and I don't want to be the reason someone feels like that.
Although I’m an introvert I appreciate people like Jeannie and Tamera who are genuinely interested in having a conversation & bring you out of your comfort zone . I wouldn’t mind having a convo with them at all & I wish I could be as open and friendly as them 😭😭
Hannah J same for me too! Like if you’re genuine about it then I’ll talk to you. But if you truly don’t care and it’s pointless then I’ll pretend I’m texting someone 😅.
Well Tamera is also an introvert and Jeannie has claimed on the show she is an introvert. The thing is most introverts hate small talk but love big talk. We like getting to know people on a deeper level, not superficially. It’s not that we hate talking, it’s just that what the majority of the world likes to talk about is uninteresting to us.
Kat A. Well when you put it like that that is DEFINITELY true!! I’ve never thought about it that way but when it is something deep I’m on fire and ready to talk!!
Hannah J you can do anything you set your mind to 💚 I used to be really shy and kept to my self now I am outgoing will start convos with complete strangers you got this ! 👏 😊
One time I was waiting for my bus and an elderly man came up to me and tried to start a conversation. I was annoyed at first, but then I just decided to talk to him. After our conversation, he thanked me and told me that I made his day and that he just lost his partner and was feeling lonely. Since then, I try my best to talk to people even when I don't feel like it
I was just listening to Amanda's podcast on an episode about the show and she said that same thing about Jeannie. She said during breaks Jeannie asks deep questions to get to know her better she really appreciates that. Now if notice on other episodes Amanda will be like, "Yeah I just told Jeannie about a time...." I love that character trait!
I love people like Tamera. I honestly feel so invisible in life that sometimes when a random person tries to talk to me it actually makes me feel good :)
I’m noticing people in general now are just annoying as hell !! They don’t want to talk to anyone in a public setting but have no problem having strangers on their social media seeing their daily activities smh
But I'm not forced to speak to anyone who follows me on social media. When I'm trapped in an elevator and your talking to me it would beyond rude for me to ignore you and pretend I don't hear you speaking.
I personally don’t allow strangers to see my social media but like it’s annoying when u clearly don’t want someone to speak to u and they constantly talk
Isn't that the irony of life? Or hook up with a total stranger you meet in a bar or club but say i dont talk to random people I dont know. The way people rationalize the way they think and justify the things they do is mindboggling .
I talk to people in the elevator. Lol. I always ask how people are, make a quick joke about the weather, and then wish them a beautiful day. No one has ever seemed annoyed. You never know when someone needs kind words.
And you might be the only person they speak to that day. Everyone has a different situation and sometimes they do talk to let things out. I hate small talk but sometimes its ok. It might benefit them more than me.
But you're not talking their ears off and I'm sure you pick up on clues and would know when you shouldnt continue with the talk. You just work with a vibe.
I will say that it’s annoying when people do it but I’ll absolutely be polite and give the biggest smile regardless. You should keep doing it though, just bc it’s annoying to me, I’m sure it’d make someone else’s day
Jeannie is always so supportive of her other co-hosts and always points out their quirks and what makes them individual. Quite sad to see that this is not reciprocated back to her. Especially Adrienne trying to bring Jeannie down because she’s different. Instead of celebrating Jeannie’s strengths she’s always judging.
@You Tried It! She always thinks about others. 💜 I hate small talk but you never know if you're the only person they'll speak to that day. People want to be heard. I try to be mindful of that.
I know this is about elevator talk alone, but in general we need more compassion. I used to be that person who didn’t like to talk, and I lean more towards the introverted side, but I’m always open to conversing with people. I may not be that comfortable with starting one but I instantly make people feel welcomed if they do want to talk. You never know what someone is going through, and some people are longing for that one person to just talk to. You’d be surprised on how many people that feels alone on a daily basis and don’t have anyone to talk to. Even if it’s just small talk, people usually start off with that before going deeper. I’m so used to strangers talking to me now because it happens a lot, and I personally would feel terrible if I’m giving off a vibe that I want to be left alone, and the whole time in their head they thought they found a person to vent to.
I'm an awkward introvert, but I love when someone seems genuinely excited to talk to me. I feel uncomfortable with forced small talk bc it's awkward and draining, but don't mind when someone's bringing their energy just enough to boost your energy. Especially if I know the interaction is going to short.
I feel the exact same way! Especially because sometimes I worry that I annoy people when I talk, so when someone is excited for talk to me, I feel a lot more relaxed and like I can be myself
@@kosiegbuonu5124 yes! I struggle with social anxiety and I feel the same way everyday. When I’m finally ready to talk to someone I feel like I’m annoying ppl. But when ppl come up and talk to me, even if it’s a simple hello or compliment I feel happy inside and it really makes my day. The smallest things can cheer someone up. I’m still a natural introvert and homebody and like time to myself lol but having barely anyone at all to talk to becomes very uncomfortable and lonely. I don’t like being lonely almost 24/7 and I’ve been struggling with loneliness for years now and it’s quite tiring tbh.
I'm an introvert, and I prefer not to have conversation at all when I'm out. That just guarantees that I will always be in an elevator, on a bus, or in a waiting room etc., with someone who will, at random, start talking to me. Like Jeannie and Tam I'm also an empath, so I wind up responding and having deep conversation with total strangers.
I understand Adriane, but sometimes a "how are you?" or "how is your day treating you?" can change someone's entire day. I make an effort to ask all the time, and every once in a while I get a meaningful genuine connection or people vent and it makes me happy that they found an outlet.
ya i think these 4 girls have a dynamic that just cant be topped with anyone UNLESS they all make amends and tamar comes back. i do like her tho and she gives RLY good insight at times so ya i dont mind her ya i just prefer the 4 of them a lil more
Adrienne: “Really you wanna have small meaningless talks? Everything is so surface level with Ade. Just because you don’t like or understand something doesn’t mean it’s meaningless. I really think Ade needs to be a bit more mindful, you can see her reevaluating her thoughts after Jeannie started talking about the deeper aspects of the conversations. Everybody is different, respect people for who they are and never undermine people’s differences. That’s what makes us unique. Don’t be so quick to criticise
I love having deep honest conversations in new places with new people. I often hear a new perspective and I enjoy the thought that I might not see that person again.
Man... I love Jeannie. The way her mind works, I can relate and it makes me feel like it’s ok to be an empathetic even when people might take advantage of you sometimes. God works through relationships. Amen.
I'm the same I can be awkward around unfamiliar people so unless you're asking me for directions or soemthing, please don't speak to me. A smile will suffice 😁
@@the1theonly_princesseri934 oh for sure. There are days I don't even want to hear the wind but Adrienne sounds like she wants to talk to no one except her current acquaintances. Basically " no new friends". Idk I guess her facial expressions get to me but I'm from NYC too so idk 🤣
Gabriela M yeah in another segment on “making new friends” she said she’s not looking to make new friends but she’s also not blocking anyone out...then she said “well I don’t want to make new friends; I want to build the relationships I have.”
@@Sonicxis4ever she's confusing lol. That's weird, to think like that. I'm super introverted but I would never have that attitude. Everyone is different. I'm sure she would love to be friends with JLo or beyonce lol.
I agree with Tamera and Jeannie! I feel like a small conversation can turn into something meaningful and can change someones mental state for the better. I live for those moments.
Jeanie, I agree with you cause this is what you used to do on 'How do I Look' and you helped many people . I used to be snobbish but I went through a difficult time and I realized it is therapy to talk to people, cause when you have these meaningful convos you start healing. Love from Kenya.
I’m like Jeannie! I worked at 1 fast food restaurant for 7 years. And I usually worked drive thru. Most drive thrus have a timer so the service is quicker. Most times I would get in trouble for messing up the time for talking to the customers. But over time I learned how to be quick but still make that customer feel heard/special during that small amount of time. But no joke, just from what I heard from the customers and them friending me on social medias after I moved, 75% of those customers either stopped or slowed down on going there once I left. Oddly I have social anxiety and I’m an introvert but I’m great at talking to people one on one lol. But I’m also good at sensing when someone doesn’t want to talk. Another thing there were 4 customers out of the many that I served there. They were sooooo dismissive and showed no interest in talking. I always gave them the same positive energy every time they came through knowing how dismissive they would react. And over time they broke, and have been some of the coolest people I have ever met. Some people just have a guard up and want to see who’s genuine and who isnt
When most elderly woman or men initiates a conversation in any way, I talk to them or volunteer to help in any way because loneliness is a disease ya'll. The same thing goes for most adult aswell. At least for a short period of time, I know deep down I gave them comfort or someone to listen to their stories. Of course, I know when to shut up hahaha
For most people talking IS awkward. I would hate being talked to just leave me alone the elevator ride isn't that long that you gotta hold conversation lol.
@@mojjim2177 I mean that's your opinion. Which is fine. I'd just prefer not speaking at all. I don't like interacting with people I don't know time doesn't make a difference to me.
I don't like having conversations with strangers. I appreciate having deep convos with people I know and trust but never with a stranger that may take advantage of you. Especially where I was raised we were taught to mind our business as some ppl may take your friendliness as you being weak and easy to take advantage of.
The only reason I don’t like open ended conversations on the elevator is because if they’re in the middle of their sentence and it gets to my floor I feel awkward trying to leave when they don’t stop talking
This is why I dont leave anywhere without my headphones. You'll either get a head nod or smile and then I make it clear there is no other conversation to be had.
Sometimes people just need to know someone cares. We don't know what people are going through and we being so consumed in our own world has caused us to be disconnected in heart. It doesn't take ANYTHING away from you to just be kind and caring. Yes we all have DAYS that we don't want to be bothered but it shouldn't be ALWAYS. CMON!!
“This is The Real you know that right?” Loni is so funny! I was thinking the exact same thing. She’s literally on the show at that very moment. Tam didn’t have to keep mentioning the name. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣❤️
See, I love Tamera and Jeannie's perspective.. personally, I enjoy engaging with others and striking up convo. Idc who it is, I'm going to ask how ur day has been and genuinely mean it. :) God bless!
People don’t make small talk with me. I am a fully covered Muslim women, full black face cover. I feel that I have to make small talk to make people feel comfortable about being in a space with me. Question for the public... if you saw someone like me I get it’s confronting, would it help if I was to make small talk and you make you laugh or we relate to something together?? Just curious..
Definitely. I think that the assumption is that fully covered Muslim women may not be spoken to, or are reclusive. So if you strike up a conversation, I’d definitely get into a Jeannie’esque soul searching convo with you 😂
I wouldn’t mind if you talked to me to meet another friendly person during the day. 😊👍🏾 But always remember to keep doing you. Your job isn’t to make other people feel at ease purely because of your religion and its practices, people should be respecting each other _regardless,_ just as long as we’re all not hurting anybody. 👌🏾
Ofentse Makonya also people are scared of me or hate me just because of a piece of fabric on my face. I understand though because of unfortunately some that have done monstrous things, it’s human nature.
GoodOlAllisonHarvard I do feel like it’s my job because people are scared of me or hate me. Worst is little kids, I always go down to them and say “it’s just another mommy under here” with a huge smile, hate them to be scared.
In the UK, unless you're in the elevator with someone you know, we RARELY have conversations in the elevators (they're called lifts in the UK, in case you wanted to know😊). The most conversation you'll get is "what floor do you want?"
I am a calm quiet person who keeps to herself, so when people do speak to me I often get startled and reply quickly. I forget to come off social a lot, but sometimes I find myself answering nicely in a calm manner. I want to be able to speak to people more without coming off closed, even if I am not prepared for it. If I am not in a good mood I don't like to talk to anyone, but I that doesn't mean I should be mean to strangers who want to small talk. Adrienne sounded very angry and over the top here.
If we are cutting it short with the responses. That means we dont wana taaaalk! You extroverts keep on going with the questions 😄 and it's not that we're rude it's just we aren't social like that, it takes time before I can start a full convo with people.
That’s me I’m usually out anyway with my kids and I cant focus on a simple conversation but on the other hand I’m an empath I cant have basic conversations it always becomes deep
I like how @2:54 you can spot the half of the table who like and make small-talk, and the other half who have it initiated by someone else and don’t like it. 😂😭👍🏾
It's a hit or miss for me. There are days where I can have really long conversations with strangers that start from the most trivial things ( usually when I'm at the grocery store) and there are days where I would prefer no one look in my direction or speak to me. As a human, you should be able to read body language and notice when someone is not in the mood for convo.
Small talk is like “ nice weather we’re having huh? “ lol I actually don’t mind having more meaningful convos with my Uber drivers and such. I’ve had some really interesting convos with drivers . But it has to be when it’s not early in the am lol . It’s a blessing to connect with ppl through convo. You network etc that way
Adrienne still has NY mentality. It’s like this in NY almost all the times. I’m like Tamera (at times). I do say hello and will press the button if necessary. But, there are times where I don’t want to talk at all.
There is a difference between being highly empathetic & being an empath though. And an empath is actually too accommodating to the extent where they practice self-denial. It is dysfunctional, stems from childhood and can lead persons to be in co-dependent relationships. People need to be careful about throwing that word around for several reasons. It also makes you sound boastful. I do like though the fact that they take the time to have deep conversations and not just surface level. Not many people possess that characteristic.
I hate small talk. Don't talk to me if I don't know you. I hate forced conversation it makes me feel uncomfortable . About 2 weeks ago I had just attended my first French class opposite the building where the class takes place is a fast food place. After my 3 hr class I decide to go get something to eat, I'm sitting there enjoying my cheeseburger and scrolling through my phone and one of my French classmates walks in and decides that out of over a 50 tables and chairs he is going to sit right opposite me 🙄. Of course I can't ignore him so now I can't even enjoy my food because my attention is divided. As I said earlier if you don't know me from Adam just leave me alone.
Literally why I started to skip my lunch at work and walk the mall. I get 1hr to myself a day and I don't want to spend it talking to you let me have my silence and find someone who wants to talk to you
Some small talk can be awkward, but if it happens naturally and comfortably, lean in to that! Once I was in the waiting room of an outpatient clinic and I met this sweet old lady who's husband was at the clinic. I lived away from home during college and was facing some trouble with my insurance company (the reason I was in the waiting room and not in the clinic itself) and she told me about her family's troubles with insurance as well. She said she hated the thought of me going through this without my parents so she gave me her number. We talked and she invited me over to her house for cookies and tea. After a while, I broke my phone and lost her number, but three years later and she just reached out to me again! She's truly a blessing.
Honestly it’s a hit or miss with me. Sometimes I mind. But for me it kind of makes me feel better when someone acknowledges me even for a moment. Or vice versa. Even if it is just a nod and how are you...! it’s probably because I’m the type of person who can worry even about strangers feelings too. If someone looks like they could use a hey, or when you walk away and just say have a great day. Something about it can change my whole day! 🤷🏼♀️😊 sorry if I didn’t make sense.
I think more people would like small talk if it wasn't so boring, but due to unwritten social rules you're stuck talking about boring topics like the weather. Then again, you can expand into more meaningful convos afterwards
I had a small or oops long talk with a guy in a plane from Geneva to Doha and do I saw the breakthrough that that has brought in my life I can't appreciate his nosy talk 😀😀😀...I ended enjoying and we didn't realise we spoke for 6.45hrs🙃🙃😁
I am not one for small elevator talk other than the occasional hello. I think we put way too much emphasis on people to talk to one another. I am not much of a public speaker and won't initiate conversations but one thing I will not do is turn down someone who wants to talk to me. I enjoy real deep conversations (as opposed to gossip) with people who I feel are being themselves and not following some script. What I do not enjoy is when people give you all of their opinions and the second you give them yours they clapback.
I don't mind friendly people, and the small talk from time to tome. But when I'm eating or in a cab, I prefer my alone time because that's almost the only alone time I get from my busy day and I like to zone out.
Exactly Loni! I will plug in and put on headphones without music playing if I have a Chatty Kathy or Karl in the seat next to me. Ain't nobody tryna talk a long time on a flight ESPECIALLY when other people are listening!!!
I agree with Jeannie and Tam. I am also an empath and sometimes I just love to listen and not talk or just have a hearty and genuine conversation no small talk, no gossip or materialistic chit chat. In heavy social settings I’ll do it to an extent but it usually leads to a deeper more personal conversation.
I honestly think it depends on the type of area/environment you grew up . Adrienne is from NY and she has said in other times that New Yorkers would put a serious face so no one messes with them ( not because they want to be rude . They just don’t want to take a chance of running to someone sketchy which is common in NY especially in the city ) . I like starting small talk . I have met sweet elderly ladies or people my age and just started with a compliment if I like their outfit and can always keep it going.
My definition for small talk is what Jeannie said - meaningless gossip or conversation that has no uplifting base and that conversation is one I do not have time to engage. I must say most times at I am on buses/elevators it is my time to meditate/alone times and most times my face is masked. I like being alone, the sound of silence is soothing but if someone says hi, I will always respond.
Literally we all have different Souls so no one will ever have the same Mind, Heart or Personality to the next person...just please always be yourself you are unique in every way 💛💛💛💛
Scorpios only like deep conversations with people they trust. Very few people know The Real us. We are attractive weird sexual and mysterious. We rarely cry on camera. Our strong passionate emotions are hidden under a thick sheet of ice unless we trust you and the eyes are the window to our souls. Adrienne is a textbook Scorpio.
I think that is such a beautiful trait that Jeannie has. Some people just want to be heard
Yes! Sometimes you might be the only person they'll speak to that day.
Yes. A lot of people just open up to me, randomly, about anything and everything. I can't say I enjoy it. I do not; it's a massive pet peeve, but I understand that sometimes people just need an ear, so I give it to them. Cause I know what it's like to feel lonely or ignored and I don't want to be the reason someone feels like that.
Right.. I’ve met someone like jeniee
Although I’m an introvert I appreciate people like Jeannie and Tamera who are genuinely interested in having a conversation & bring you out of your comfort zone . I wouldn’t mind having a convo with them at all & I wish I could be as open and friendly as them 😭😭
Hannah J same for me too! Like if you’re genuine about it then I’ll talk to you. But if you truly don’t care and it’s pointless then I’ll pretend I’m texting someone 😅.
Hannah J Right I can’t be like that at all since I had a traumatic experience trying to quote “make friends with some”. 🤷🏿♀️💯
Well Tamera is also an introvert and Jeannie has claimed on the show she is an introvert. The thing is most introverts hate small talk but love big talk. We like getting to know people on a deeper level, not superficially. It’s not that we hate talking, it’s just that what the majority of the world likes to talk about is uninteresting to us.
Kat A. Well when you put it like that that is DEFINITELY true!! I’ve never thought about it that way but when it is something deep I’m on fire and ready to talk!!
Hannah J you can do anything you set your mind to 💚 I used to be really shy and kept to my self now I am outgoing will start convos with complete strangers you got this ! 👏 😊
One time I was waiting for my bus and an elderly man came up to me and tried to start a conversation. I was annoyed at first, but then I just decided to talk to him. After our conversation, he thanked me and told me that I made his day and that he just lost his partner and was feeling lonely. Since then, I try my best to talk to people even when I don't feel like it
That’s so sweet of you!
Omg, I love that🤗
Wow that's sweet of you
Jackie Reacts That is so sweet that bring me to tears 😭 thanks for sharing this I really needed to read this 💯. 🙂
Thanks for sharing this beautiful story!
I was just listening to Amanda's podcast on an episode about the show and she said that same thing about Jeannie. She said during breaks Jeannie asks deep questions to get to know her better she really appreciates that. Now if notice on other episodes Amanda will be like, "Yeah I just told Jeannie about a time...." I love that character trait!
Love that about her! ❤
I love people like Tamera. I honestly feel so invisible in life that sometimes when a random person tries to talk to me it actually makes me feel good :)
Taytay Queen God sees you 💚 Praying that He will surround you with community and that you will KNOW how loved + valuable to this world you are.
I’m def an empath cause reading that made my eyes water 😭. Girl YOU MATTER! Never forget that. 💙
Man that made me cry. I am so sorry that you feel invisible because you are not. You are just as important as anyone else
I’m noticing people in general now are just annoying as hell !! They don’t want to talk to anyone in a public setting but have no problem having strangers on their social media seeing their daily activities smh
facts
But I'm not forced to speak to anyone who follows me on social media. When I'm trapped in an elevator and your talking to me it would beyond rude for me to ignore you and pretend I don't hear you speaking.
I personally don’t allow strangers to see my social media but like it’s annoying when u clearly don’t want someone to speak to u and they constantly talk
Isn't that the irony of life? Or hook up with a total stranger you meet in a bar or club but say i dont talk to random people I dont know. The way people rationalize the way they think and justify the things they do is mindboggling .
Right, it's kind of like a double standard
“This is The Real you know that?” Hahaha Loni 😂
Loni had me laughing 🤣😂
Haha that was funny. I was wondering why Tam kept saying I said it on the real like she wasn’t actually on the real.
Tamera kept saying she talked about it on the real... As if she was on the view or something...
I talk to people in the elevator. Lol. I always ask how people are, make a quick joke about the weather, and then wish them a beautiful day. No one has ever seemed annoyed. You never know when someone needs kind words.
And you might be the only person they speak to that day. Everyone has a different situation and sometimes they do talk to let things out. I hate small talk but sometimes its ok. It might benefit them more than me.
But you're not talking their ears off and I'm sure you pick up on clues and would know when you shouldnt continue with the talk. You just work with a vibe.
I like u just based off your comment💛
I love this comment!
I will say that it’s annoying when people do it but I’ll absolutely be polite and give the biggest smile regardless. You should keep doing it though, just bc it’s annoying to me, I’m sure it’d make someone else’s day
"You might as well slap me" Lol Adrienne is hilarious😂
Jeannie is always so supportive of her other co-hosts and always points out their quirks and what makes them individual. Quite sad to see that this is not reciprocated back to her. Especially Adrienne trying to bring Jeannie down because she’s different. Instead of celebrating Jeannie’s strengths she’s always judging.
@You Tried It! She always thinks about others. 💜 I hate small talk but you never know if you're the only person they'll speak to that day. People want to be heard. I try to be mindful of that.
Asian hospitality
loni literally complimented her in this video
esther frimpong this is more towards Adrienne tbh who has more of a problem with Jeannie being an empath and wanting to have deep conversations
S G nah she’s a kind person. It’s not unrealistic to be positive and nice sis
I wanna be friends with Jeannie. She's so real and down to earth 🥺
Me too!!! She so much fun😁
I'm with Adrienne. I don't like small talk. Unless you're asking me a question, leave me alone please.
lilian makori right 🤣
Same
U have anger issues
Oho K how? Some of us just don’t wanna talk to strangers bc it makes us uncomfortable and awkward. You dramatic
Yeah if it’s nothing of importance, let’s not waste each others time.
I know this is about elevator talk alone, but in general we need more compassion. I used to be that person who didn’t like to talk, and I lean more towards the introverted side, but I’m always open to conversing with people. I may not be that comfortable with starting one but I instantly make people feel welcomed if they do want to talk. You never know what someone is going through, and some people are longing for that one person to just talk to. You’d be surprised on how many people that feels alone on a daily basis and don’t have anyone to talk to. Even if it’s just small talk, people usually start off with that before going deeper. I’m so used to strangers talking to me now because it happens a lot, and I personally would feel terrible if I’m giving off a vibe that I want to be left alone, and the whole time in their head they thought they found a person to vent to.
I like you cause you seem like a kind person 😊
suxexa aw thank you ❤️
liaaa you are welcome 💛
It’s really not that deep. I don’t want to have a therapy session with someone I do not know in the lift
Ricky Franc sometimes people are not looking for answers, just someone to hear them out but ok.
😂😂 Tam is so friendly 😂
We all need a friend like Tamera. She so sweet and genuine.
I'm an awkward introvert, but I love when someone seems genuinely excited to talk to me. I feel uncomfortable with forced small talk bc it's awkward and draining, but don't mind when someone's bringing their energy just enough to boost your energy. Especially if I know the interaction is going to short.
I feel the exact same way! Especially because sometimes I worry that I annoy people when I talk, so when someone is excited for talk to me, I feel a lot more relaxed and like I can be myself
@@kosiegbuonu5124 yes! I struggle with social anxiety and I feel the same way everyday. When I’m finally ready to talk to someone I feel like I’m annoying ppl. But when ppl come up and talk to me, even if it’s a simple hello or compliment I feel happy inside and it really makes my day. The smallest things can cheer someone up. I’m still a natural introvert and homebody and like time to myself lol but having barely anyone at all to talk to becomes very uncomfortable and lonely. I don’t like being lonely almost 24/7 and I’ve been struggling with loneliness for years now and it’s quite tiring tbh.
I'm an introvert, and I prefer not to have conversation at all when I'm out. That just guarantees that I will always be in an elevator, on a bus, or in a waiting room etc., with someone who will, at random, start talking to me. Like Jeannie and Tam I'm also an empath, so I wind up responding and having deep conversation with total strangers.
Me too! It just depends on the situation.
Same here
You said it best! Same
Omg the true new Yorker in Adrienne came out with this small talk!! I feel you girl
I understand Adriane, but sometimes a "how are you?" or "how is your day treating you?" can change someone's entire day. I make an effort to ask all the time, and every once in a while I get a meaningful genuine connection or people vent and it makes me happy that they found an outlet.
I'm with Jeannie and Tamera. I love meaningful short talks, you'll never know who you would end helping or helping you.
OMG JEANNIE IS ENGAGED 😭❤️ I'm so happy that she found someone that made her happy. She really deserves it!
There’s something off with Adrienne these days- like her vibe is off
"These days" they're showing old clips...
@@bestress04 these clips are honestly not that old
She seems so negative
Apolonia Ondo Mmmmhm
Whoops, your jealousy is showing
Adrienne always change her mind on everything... if Tamara doesn’t agree lol 😂
she used to do the same thing w Tamar
Am I the only one that really enjoys this show without Amanda? I don’t have anything against her personally but I think she doesn’t fit the show
I feel this way Tamera is my favorite person on the show.
ya i think these 4 girls have a dynamic that just cant be topped with anyone UNLESS they all make amends and tamar comes back. i do like her tho and she gives RLY good insight at times so ya i dont mind her ya i just prefer the 4 of them a lil more
Adrienne: “Really you wanna have small meaningless talks?
Everything is so surface level with Ade. Just because you don’t like or understand something doesn’t mean it’s meaningless. I really think Ade needs to be a bit more mindful, you can see her reevaluating her thoughts after Jeannie started talking about the deeper aspects of the conversations. Everybody is different, respect people for who they are and never undermine people’s differences. That’s what makes us unique. Don’t be so quick to criticise
@john smith How many times are you going to comment this? Are you forgetting how in love Adrienne is with her husband?
@john smith That has nothing to do with what we're talking about. Adrienne is with him. Get over it.
@john smith My bad. I had no idea you knew Adrienne personally.
@john smith Umm, you are a bit too consumed. Read a book instead.
@john smith Kiely, is that you!?
I love having deep honest conversations in new places with new people. I often hear a new perspective and I enjoy the thought that I might not see that person again.
Most times when you think it's just small talk..you take something away from it
Man... I love Jeannie. The way her mind works, I can relate and it makes me feel like it’s ok to be an empathetic even when people might take advantage of you sometimes. God works through relationships. Amen.
Miss Tamera on the Real😍 Her personality lights up the show❤️
I'm the same I can be awkward around unfamiliar people so unless you're asking me for directions or soemthing, please don't speak to me. A smile will suffice 😁
How are certain extroverted people supposed to know that lol
suxexa then they shouldn’t be having small talk with random people
I'm sorry but Adrienne sounds miserable lol. I know she's not but she seems so "get away from me", in this segment.
Gabriela M that’s how it be sometimes. Especially if I got my headphones on.
@@the1theonly_princesseri934 oh for sure. There are days I don't even want to hear the wind but Adrienne sounds like she wants to talk to no one except her current acquaintances. Basically " no new friends". Idk I guess her facial expressions get to me but I'm from NYC too so idk 🤣
Gabriela M lmaooo that nyc part. Yeah Ade still has a ton of growing to do.
Gabriela M yeah in another segment on “making new friends” she said she’s not looking to make new friends but she’s also not blocking anyone out...then she said “well I don’t want to make new friends; I want to build the relationships I have.”
@@Sonicxis4ever she's confusing lol. That's weird, to think like that. I'm super introverted but I would never have that attitude. Everyone is different. I'm sure she would love to be friends with JLo or beyonce lol.
We could play a drinking game with "what a concept." Everytime Adrienne says, "What a concept" take a shot. You'll be drunk after every show LOL 😂
I agree with Tamera and Jeannie! I feel like a small conversation can turn into something meaningful and can change someones mental state for the better. I live for those moments.
I am exactly like Tam, I do that all the time.
Jeanie, I agree with you cause this is what you used to do on 'How do I Look' and you helped many people . I used to be snobbish but I went through a difficult time and I realized it is therapy to talk to people, cause when you have these meaningful convos you start healing. Love from Kenya.
I’m like Jeannie! I worked at 1 fast food restaurant for 7 years. And I usually worked drive thru. Most drive thrus have a timer so the service is quicker. Most times I would get in trouble for messing up the time for talking to the customers. But over time I learned how to be quick but still make that customer feel heard/special during that small amount of time. But no joke, just from what I heard from the customers and them friending me on social medias after I moved, 75% of those customers either stopped or slowed down on going there once I left. Oddly I have social anxiety and I’m an introvert but I’m great at talking to people one on one lol. But I’m also good at sensing when someone doesn’t want to talk. Another thing there were 4 customers out of the many that I served there. They were sooooo dismissive and showed no interest in talking. I always gave them the same positive energy every time they came through knowing how dismissive they would react. And over time they broke, and have been some of the coolest people I have ever met. Some people just have a guard up and want to see who’s genuine and who isnt
I love this story! Also, I had no idea there was a timer.
Why Adrienne being negative all the time
Thank u. She’s always bothered and annoyed talking about everything
When most elderly woman or men initiates a conversation in any way, I talk to them or volunteer to help in any way because loneliness is a disease ya'll. The same thing goes for most adult aswell.
At least for a short period of time, I know deep down I gave them comfort or someone to listen to their stories.
Of course, I know when to shut up hahaha
Adrienne was having major flashbacks, she was mad loooool but i’m with her
Why is it that we can’t enjoying talking to each other on an elevator without feeling awkward. How annoying is that ???
I don’t know why I don’t feel awkward ...possibly cause I’m slightly extroverted than most people I guess. I like talking to people lol
For most people talking IS awkward. I would hate being talked to just leave me alone the elevator ride isn't that long that you gotta hold conversation lol.
lexnikolle Exactly it’s not that long so what’s wrong with 30 seconds of human interaction?
@@mojjim2177 I mean that's your opinion. Which is fine. I'd just prefer not speaking at all. I don't like interacting with people I don't know time doesn't make a difference to me.
It’s too forced and very draining for some like myself
I don't like having conversations with strangers. I appreciate having deep convos with people I know and trust but never with a stranger that may take advantage of you. Especially where I was raised we were taught to mind our business as some ppl may take your friendliness as you being weak and easy to take advantage of.
The only reason I don’t like open ended conversations on the elevator is because if they’re in the middle of their sentence and it gets to my floor I feel awkward trying to leave when they don’t stop talking
This is why I dont leave anywhere without my headphones. You'll either get a head nod or smile and then I make it clear there is no other conversation to be had.
“you know THIS is the real” i love this show 😂
Sometimes people just need to know someone cares. We don't know what people are going through and we being so consumed in our own world has caused us to be disconnected in heart.
It doesn't take ANYTHING away from you to just be kind and caring. Yes we all have DAYS that we don't want to be bothered but it shouldn't be ALWAYS. CMON!!
“This is The Real you know that right?” Loni is so funny! I was thinking the exact same thing. She’s literally on the show at that very moment. Tam didn’t have to keep mentioning the name. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣❤️
See, I love Tamera and Jeannie's perspective.. personally, I enjoy engaging with others and striking up convo. Idc who it is, I'm going to ask how ur day has been and genuinely mean it. :) God bless!
Everyone like different stuff but you can tell when someone don't want the small talk, then you respect that
People don’t make small talk with me. I am a fully covered Muslim women, full black face cover. I feel that I have to make small talk to make people feel comfortable about being in a space with me. Question for the public... if you saw someone like me I get it’s confronting, would it help if I was to make small talk and you make you laugh or we relate to something together??
Just curious..
Definitely. I think that the assumption is that fully covered Muslim women may not be spoken to, or are reclusive. So if you strike up a conversation, I’d definitely get into a Jeannie’esque soul searching convo with you 😂
I wouldn’t mind if you talked to me to meet another friendly person during the day. 😊👍🏾
But always remember to keep doing you. Your job isn’t to make other people feel at ease purely because of your religion and its practices, people should be respecting each other _regardless,_ just as long as we’re all not hurting anybody. 👌🏾
Actually I'd talk to you 😊..
Ofentse Makonya also people are scared of me or hate me just because of a piece of fabric on my face. I understand though because of unfortunately some that have done monstrous things, it’s human nature.
GoodOlAllisonHarvard I do feel like it’s my job because people are scared of me or hate me. Worst is little kids, I always go down to them and say “it’s just another mommy under here” with a huge smile, hate them to be scared.
I really like small talk, short and meaningful. Not every conversation has to be deep
I love what Jeannie said! Being open and available as a vessel of God’s love and community is what it’s all about. 💚
I wish I could meet someone like Jeannie 😭
Capricorn can make me cry in the first few seconds of talking to them. 🤣 I loooove it.
Talia Voider we have that affect lol
Joanekquah Landers Yes!
"Hi" and a smile is what I always do. But that's as far as I go.
I don't mind it but only if they initiate it because I'm just that person.😂✌🏼
Loni and Adrienne are me lmaoo I'm part of the 66%.
At business school, they teach us about networking. You don’t know who you will meet and where tou will meet them.
Tamara and Jeannie have such a beautiful soul ❤️.
In the UK, unless you're in the elevator with someone you know, we RARELY have conversations in the elevators (they're called lifts in the UK, in case you wanted to know😊). The most conversation you'll get is "what floor do you want?"
I am a calm quiet person who keeps to herself, so when people do speak to me I often get startled and reply quickly. I forget to come off social a lot, but sometimes I find myself answering nicely in a calm manner. I want to be able to speak to people more without coming off closed, even if I am not prepared for it.
If I am not in a good mood I don't like to talk to anyone, but I that doesn't mean I should be mean to strangers who want to small talk. Adrienne sounded very angry and over the top here.
If we are cutting it short with the responses. That means we dont wana taaaalk! You extroverts keep on going with the questions 😄 and it's not that we're rude it's just we aren't social like that, it takes time before I can start a full convo with people.
That’s me I’m usually out anyway with my kids and I cant focus on a simple conversation but on the other hand I’m an empath I cant have basic conversations it always becomes deep
Just curious....how do you know you’re an empath?😛
Invest in a pair of bightly colored visible headphones completely changed my life. No more small talk for me.
Loni and Adrienne’s faces at 2:54 is killing me 😂
I like how @2:54 you can spot the half of the table who like and make small-talk, and the other half who have it initiated by someone else and don’t like it. 😂😭👍🏾
I absolutely love meaningful conversations, but sometimes I simply am not in the mood to talk.
It's a hit or miss for me. There are days where I can have really long conversations with strangers that start from the most trivial things ( usually when I'm at the grocery store) and there are days where I would prefer no one look in my direction or speak to me. As a human, you should be able to read body language and notice when someone is not in the mood for convo.
It depends what kind of mood I'm in. Sometimes I'm all for small talk. Other times I don't walk anyone to talk to me or even look in my direction.
Small talk is like “ nice weather we’re having huh? “ lol I actually don’t mind having more meaningful convos with my Uber drivers and such. I’ve had some really interesting convos with drivers . But it has to be when it’s not early in the am lol . It’s a blessing to connect with ppl through convo. You network etc that way
Adrienne still has NY mentality. It’s like this in NY almost all the times. I’m like Tamera (at times). I do say hello and will press the button if necessary. But, there are times where I don’t want to talk at all.
There is a difference between being highly empathetic & being an empath though. And an empath is actually too accommodating to the extent where they practice self-denial. It is dysfunctional, stems from childhood and can lead persons to be in co-dependent relationships. People need to be careful about throwing that word around for several reasons. It also makes you sound boastful. I do like though the fact that they take the time to have deep conversations and not just surface level. Not many people possess that characteristic.
I'm with Tam and Jeannie, I can have small talk, but I always have a appreciation for deep conversations.
I hate small talk. Don't talk to me if I don't know you. I hate forced conversation it makes me feel uncomfortable .
About 2 weeks ago I had just attended my first French class opposite the building where the class takes place is a fast food place. After my 3 hr class I decide to go get something to eat, I'm sitting there enjoying my cheeseburger and scrolling through my phone and one of my French classmates walks in and decides that out of over a 50 tables and chairs he is going to sit right opposite me 🙄. Of course I can't ignore him so now I can't even enjoy my food because my attention is divided. As I said earlier if you don't know me from Adam just leave me alone.
Literally why I started to skip my lunch at work and walk the mall. I get 1hr to myself a day and I don't want to spend it talking to you let me have my silence and find someone who wants to talk to you
@@ashleybullard6712 You get me🗣💘.
I never really initiate elevator or plane convos, but everyone who DOES initiate convo with me is SO interesting and helpful.
Adrienne is really a New York chick lol 🤣🤣 that's deadass facts about people chatting in the elevator.
Jeannie is engaged to Jeezy yall. Congrats hunnayy!! 💙💙💙
Some small talk can be awkward, but if it happens naturally and comfortably, lean in to that! Once I was in the waiting room of an outpatient clinic and I met this sweet old lady who's husband was at the clinic. I lived away from home during college and was facing some trouble with my insurance company (the reason I was in the waiting room and not in the clinic itself) and she told me about her family's troubles with insurance as well. She said she hated the thought of me going through this without my parents so she gave me her number. We talked and she invited me over to her house for cookies and tea. After a while, I broke my phone and lost her number, but three years later and she just reached out to me again! She's truly a blessing.
I miss it being just the four of them, wish we could go back 😭 They have amazing chemistry together and l hate the new sitting arrangement
Left side of the table are extroverts right side of the table are introverts. I'm on the right side of the table lol.
Loni’s eye roll tho! 😂💀
Honestly it’s a hit or miss with me. Sometimes I mind. But for me it kind of makes me feel better when someone acknowledges me even for a moment. Or vice versa. Even if it is just a nod and how are you...! it’s probably because I’m the type of person who can worry even about strangers feelings too. If someone looks like they could use a hey, or when you walk away and just say have a great day. Something about it can change my whole day! 🤷🏼♀️😊 sorry if I didn’t make sense.
Amazing discussion. I wish everyone the best and stay safe. Blessings
AHHHHHH WHO ELSE HEARD??? CONGRATS ON THE ENGAGEMENT JEANNIE & JEEZY!! So happy for both of them ❤️❤️❤️
Congrats Jeannie on your engagement ❤️❤️
I think more people would like small talk if it wasn't so boring, but due to unwritten social rules you're stuck talking about boring topics like the weather. Then again, you can expand into more meaningful convos afterwards
I feel Loni. I’m required to speak a lot for work so when I clock out I want silence. I don’t like small talk. I’m busy doing xyz.
I had a small or oops long talk with a guy in a plane from Geneva to Doha and do I saw the breakthrough that that has brought in my life I can't appreciate his nosy talk 😀😀😀...I ended enjoying and we didn't realise we spoke for 6.45hrs🙃🙃😁
I am not one for small elevator talk other than the occasional hello. I think we put way too much emphasis on people to talk to one another. I am not much of a public speaker and won't initiate conversations but one thing I will not do is turn down someone who wants to talk to me. I enjoy real deep conversations (as opposed to gossip) with people who I feel are being themselves and not following some script. What I do not enjoy is when people give you all of their opinions and the second you give them yours they clapback.
I don't mind friendly people, and the small talk from time to tome. But when I'm eating or in a cab, I prefer my alone time because that's almost the only alone time I get from my busy day and I like to zone out.
Exactly Loni! I will plug in and put on headphones without music playing if I have a Chatty Kathy or Karl in the seat next to me. Ain't nobody tryna talk a long time on a flight ESPECIALLY when other people are listening!!!
Tamera has a heart of gold ✨ I love her 😍
Congrats on your engagement Jeannie!! 🥰
I act into it but I have bad anxiety when ANYONE talks to me. Also, I’m really awkward. It’s part of my personality
I love when Loni goes in that high pitched laugh. always cracks me up XD
I agree with Jeannie and Tam. I am also an empath and sometimes I just love to listen and not talk or just have a hearty and genuine conversation no small talk, no gossip or materialistic chit chat. In heavy social settings I’ll do it to an extent but it usually leads to a deeper more personal conversation.
I honestly think it depends on the type of area/environment you grew up . Adrienne is from NY and she has said in other times that New Yorkers would put a serious face so no one messes with them ( not because they want to be rude . They just don’t want to take a chance of running to someone sketchy which is common in NY especially in the city ) . I like starting small talk . I have met sweet elderly ladies or people my age and just started with a compliment if I like their outfit and can always keep it going.
My definition for small talk is what Jeannie said - meaningless gossip or conversation that has no uplifting base and that conversation is one I do not have time to engage. I must say most times at I am on buses/elevators it is my time to meditate/alone times and most times my face is masked. I like being alone, the sound of silence is soothing but if someone says hi, I will always respond.
Literally we all have different Souls so no one will ever have the same Mind, Heart or Personality to the next person...just please always be yourself you are unique in every way 💛💛💛💛
Scorpios only like deep conversations with people they trust. Very few people know The Real us. We are attractive weird sexual and mysterious. We rarely cry on camera. Our strong passionate emotions are hidden under a thick sheet of ice unless we trust you and the eyes are the window to our souls. Adrienne is a textbook Scorpio.
I can’t do vulnerable with people I don’t know. 🤣
I'm with Adrienne. If my earbuds are in, do not disturb