I'm glad now Chris is treating her respectfully and helping her overcome her past and now they have a beautiful baby boy. I hope now melissa knows she has gone through the worst and can now get through anything as she came out stronger then ever.
@@kennethg5460 um....read the room. Zara was talking about how happy she is for Melissa being in a much better place with a man who treats her right and a beautiful baby boy, and you're telling here to grow up? For what? Chris is Melissa's HUSBAND, the father of her baby. Who hurt you?
@@emilyblais6407 They are merely just actors from a television show. "Chris" and "Melissa" are not your friends. You people need to wake up and start separating fantasy from reality. Just because you "follow them" on SM does not mean you know them or they give a fuck about you or what you think.
actualy she is not that strong if she got divorced then jumped back into another relationship so fast she could have idk try being single for a bit before getting involved with whoever.
okay so i was scrolling down the comments and i found so many awful things and i felt like i needed to say something. first, she's talking about her ex-husband Blake Jenner, not her current husband Chris Wood. second, she mentioned on her igtv that sometimes she had to fight back (which is completely normal and okay) and that they both mentally abused each other because their relationship was just toxic and horrible. that doesn't change the fact that he physically abused her and that he manipulated during the entire course of their relationship and he continues to do so right now, by addressing this almost one year after, just when melissa announced the birth of her child and said that she's happy with herself and her family. he also gaslighted her in his entire post and tried to look like a victim when he just isn't. if you believe the abuser and not the victim something is clearly wrong with you. #IStandWithMelissa
Yes! Another common comment from men is the old 'if you'd been with a nice guy like me instead of going for a chad, this wouldn't have happened! You'd have been treated like a princess every day(yaaay?)'. These self-declared 'nice guys' make it very clear that they're exactly the type of person to abuse a partner. It's so sick that in 2020, domestic violence is still widely disbelieved, and/or the victim is blamed... on another level, given Trump and his cronies' opinion & treatment of women, it's sadly not too much of a surprise that misogyny in all it's forms has become cool for some. They even attach it to being anti-'woke', for goodness sake.
Excellent comment!! There is so much victim blaming. It's much easier to just assume the person is lying or making it up. Yet there are stories like Melissa's all over the place. And BTW not all the abusers are men, although sadly the large portion are. There are also abusive women and they are just as bad as the men. Such a powerful message from Melissa. It takes so much courage to share an experience like hers. I have even more respect for her now than I did before.
She doesn't need freeze breath, laser eyes, or the ability to fly and move fast to be able to be strong, independent and brave. Thank you for sharing your story to the world.
I totally agree , with it being mental health day today when you are in that kind of situation , it's the control and being blamed for no reason etc. over and over.it terrible for anyone who is going through that now .but there is help and organisations
With so much of "her" that went down that drain with each violent incident, it's a wonder she still has so much love, and joy, that she projects. Such a beautiful person, and I hope young men, boys, learn to treat women with respect, as I am doing teaching my own son.
Seeing Melissa's video the first time last year, I am stunned that something like this would happen to her and after I read Blake's post concerning this, I'm both angry and disappointed. He tried to blame Melissa for the "abuse" she inflicted on him, but she's only trying to defend herself if that violence kept escalating and he tried to play the victim. Just because Melissa is defending herself doesn't give him any excuse to play it off as abuse; I'm glad that Melissa is doing okay now and is married to Chris who treated her a lot better. As for Blake's Instagram apology on what he done, while I'm glad he confessed to what he did to her, he doesn't have any right to place blame on someone who's an actual victim of domestic abuse. If anyone has an issue about what I wrote here, I'll delete this comment; if not, that's okay because I'm here expressing what I feel about Blake's "apology" and being a supporter for Melissa. #IstandwithMelissa ❤
An interesting and balanced comment. Hopefully both Benoist and Jenner will now move on with their lives and learn the lessons. Relationships are complex and the key is to communicate. It appears some resentment built up within Jenner and he was not mature enough at that stage in his life to deal with it other than to strike out. His recent Instagram post at least showed he had come to terms with some of his issues and - while doing some blaming of his own - generally accepted blame and hoped to become a better participant in relationships. As with all "celebrity" stories we don't have access to all the facts - nor are we entitled to them - but I am sure most would agree that once abuse becomes physical - by either gender - then it is time to confront it and get out. Silence is not the answer.
I'm annoyed that there's a part of me that wants to consider Jenner to be telling the truth. I don't want to get myself in a situation where I root for the wrong person so that's probably why a part of me wants to think of him as correct, yet if I embraced that then most likely I'd end up doing just that.
I dont get who would want to abuse their own mate, well Blake put bad out and his punishment will that he lost his chance to hang out and still mate the true supergirl
I saw Chris and Melissa on their vacation in Italy and he was such a gentleman to her that reaffirms the theory that chivalry is not dead, it still lives!
I remember her video coming out and it came at a really dark time for me. I was in an emotionally abusive relationship, a couple of times it got physical. Watching her video made me realise that what was happening wasn’t right and she helped save me from a prolonged dangerous relationship
It's very nice to see her talk so confidently about this compared to how she was in the video. I'm so glad shes is getting better with all this and want to share her story to help other people. She's a superhero on screen and in real life.
the guy that my parents tried to set me up was exactly like this. mind u, I'm Asian so all the blame goes to the girl for dumping an abusive guy. The guy told me that I couldn't wear skirts, talk to men, go to work (coz men would talk to me), keep him company at all times when he was bored but be on hold when he was busy, berated me when he had road rage, told me I was too serious and was fat, went to my parents house at strange times, emailed other women sexual remarks behind my back. After 2 weeks I was so fed up I cried to my parents and asked him to let me go. But then the harassment with emails and texts and phone calls started. I just blocked him. Then he sends me emotional emails and there was one time I emailed him back coz I felt so guilty and my parents were so upset that I broke up with him. Then he tried to lure me possibly to attack me but I didn't respond. thank god. many may ask me why I emailed him back that one time. trust me, this guy is so manipulative. And I felt so guilty and my dad was so pissed off at me for rejecting him and many years later my mom always tells me I missed such a great opportunity to find a perfect guy like him. Now watching this video I am so glad I broke it off. Otherwise I would probably be dead or married him and b abused. He had all these signs. Even simple things like what I would wear. I'm glad she spoke up coz other women out there will b able to identify the signs and leave or at least seek help. The worst thing is the ppl so close to you like your parents supporting him and telling u that he was probably the best thing that ever happened to me and how I was so worthless that I could possible never find a man ever is heart-breaking. But I saw thru his lies and deceit but most ppl won't. So pls help someone out there who needs help and never side with the abuser.
I'm so sorry what happened with you. I hope you are doing fine❤️ My family went through something similar like this. I cant share that story here but i can relate too much to this. I'm really glad that now you are okay
I am so sorry you had to go through this. I hope you are doing better and you did the right thing leaving him and I am sure that you will find someone else who appreciates you❤️
She posted her first video almost a year ago & it’s admirable to see how far she’s come. There’s a reason she’s out here blossoming with her career, marriage & now new bundle of joy. We love you Melissa.💕🙏🏼 Update: as of today he finally made a statement post on his IG.
@@arceerogueharleyquinncapta9925 That is true but he seems like a caring individual given his mental health awareness campaign that he started, IDONTMIND. Can’t know what happens behind their doors but he seems like a nice and thoughtful guy
I thought she was playing Supergirl - but she is playing just herself. The Supergirl in the series is sometimes astonishingly fragile for a woman of steel - and empathic, caring and so incredibly nice. But that seems to be just Mrs Benoît. To overcome such a traumatic experience at all is hard work. To overcome it as good as she did is just one in a million.
You’re such an inspiration, Melissa. Your story helped me get out of a toxic friendship that I had been stuck in for months almost a year and you helped me see my self worth without them. Thank you 💕
Wow. Went from watching bloopers of her being all bubbly to this, totally by accident. I would never have known, or guessed, but I suppose that's the power of self-silencing due to domestic violence. The strength of character it took for her share her story with not just a few people, but the whole world, and all of the scared and healed survivors...is truly remarkable. I already had so much respect for her, but this is something else entirely. Hugs to all survivors out there, and strength to all of those who haven't quite found their courage to break free. You can do it. You are loved. You have so much support!
Melissa didn't deserve to go through that, she's so caring, strong, funny & so beautiful. Mrs. Benoist we love you so so much you deserve better relationship & your current husband treating you right
Why would someone want to do this to a woman especially your wife the one you profess your love for. She is the most sweetest woman out there. That is sad that women have to care this pain forever.
I don't hear one word about I went to the police and file a complaint they took me to the hospital so they can do a rape kit on me I don't hear the magic words I don't hear her naming her partner everybody suspect that it was her ex-husband the one she met on Glee what a pity I didn't help have no sympathy for her because she didn't drop who the guy was or person who did it which means that she was protecting this jerk and the fact that she didn't do that that meant he had something on her. The problem with Melissa is she just doesn't do social media
Melissa Benoist is my Supergirl Kara on and off screen and like the legendary Christopher Reeve as Superman she Melissa became a real life Supergirl after what she went through with domestic violence and came out stronger because of it. No man should hit a woman ever it's just wrong. I am a huge fan of Melissa's work have been for years. Very happy she came out stronger than ever. Help Hope and Compassion For All ! that's Supergirl's motto and we could all use a lot of kindness in the world because gosh knows we need it now. I'm glad Chris Wood is giving Melissa all the love in the world and she is so happy. Take care Melissa you will always be my Supergirl Kara Zor-EL Always and Forever 💗💙❤!!!
She's always so happy and upbeat. I'm sorry these terrible things happened to you but I'm also glad that this garbage person didn't break your spirit. You are a survivor and you're even stronger for sharing your story. P.S. I love you as Supergirl. You're amazing.
First of all, I have so much love for this brave woman 💜💜💜 She's amazing and this will change people's lives. Second to her abuser: you do not throw a phone "aimlessly" and do that much damage to someone's face!!! We are not idiots. Hopefully no one falls for that line from his "apology".
she IS supergirl. not, not for the cape she wear nor the character she play, it’s the strength within her that’ll always make her her the hero that she is.
It's so so important that people share their stories. I really applaud her, it's probably one of the most difficult things as well. Being a survivor myself, I remember how long it took to share my story. I felt it was all my fault. And listening to her, it was like re-living my past. The healing journey is a long journey. I documented mine and turned it into a documentary. Every time I watch it, it's like watching someone else... I became stronger after it. And it's hard to believe I was ever in such a dark place inside myself. My heart goes to all people going through domestic violence. Let's speak up and change this. We can do it.
She's one of the strongest women I've ever seen and seeing that video of her was heartbreaking. She's a true inspiration and I'm so happy she's now in a happy place with her beautiful family ❤️. She just radiates joy and hope, a literal angel 💖.
After seeing Melissa Benoist play Supergirl I always thought she was so cute and adorable. I can't believe that such a monster could do such a thing to a fragile little angel that she is.
Melissa's message is incredibly important to hear. The abuse cycle is real and can trap wonderful persons like Melissa. Melissa is a REAL superheroine to share her wisdom.
I remember watching a previous video with Melissa Benoist in, talking about domestic violence. I watched Melissa talking about Blake, beating her up senselessly, brakes my heart. I'm glad that Melissa is living her life now.
Hearing her tell her story in such open detail is a relief. She knows herself pretty well. And is not likely to ever find herself in that type of relationship again. Brave for a woman famous for her role as Supergirl to tell a story like this in such blunt and clear detail.
almost 10 years ago, i remember an aunt who was at the time in such an abusive relationship the father of her child would hurt them every single time the child cries or do anything that he didn’t want, one time, we had to go to their house in the middle of the night, i was around 7 or 8 at the time, i had to stay inside the car while they took my 3 years old cousin and my aunt out of the house, their body full of blisters and my aunts head red from the blood on her forehead, i’ll never forget that night, not knowing what to do sitting there watching everything unfold, my mom and dad apologised to me so often that night because i wasn’t supposed to be seing that, and i hope i didn’t because to this day i can still remember that night from leaving our house to rushing to the hospital to them coming home with us till they get back to their feel, my aunt is okay now, she isn’t with any man after that because that experience scarred her, my cousin is good too, thankfully she doesn’t remember much of it, just that her dad was a sorry excuse for a man, the man once contacted them, asking for a second chance and a relationship with his daughter, they reported him and is now not allowed in their subdivision, they never saw him again from then on, thankfully
Thank you! You gave me the courage to leave my abuser. It was hard for me to admit I was a domestic abuse victim being a 27 year veteran Paramedic/Firefighter. I put off my injuries as to being received on this call or that one. No one knew and I suffered in silence and shame. Once I was injured in the line of duty and force retired, due to a major spinal jury, I couldn’t suffer it any longer. Strikes to my spine would make me pass out. Anyway.....thank you for your courage to inspire my own. You saved my life. ❤️
That is a true friend. Someone that cares enough to risk a friendship falling apart to ask you if something is going on. That friend whoever they are, is a wonderful person. It takes a lot of courage to do that.
my sister's ex boyfriend was starting to show some of the signs you mentioned, and she got out of the relationship as soon as possible. thank you so much for making this, it could have ended a lot worse..
I can't believe some asshole would do that to someone he supposedly loves. I know someone who was in an abusive relationship, and she's scared to this day. I'm glad you made it. Much love!
She’s so strong and powerful, wow. She’s a real-life Supergirl. 💙 Edit: I forgot how horrible the descriptions were, so listening to them just now again hit me so so hard. She is so much stronger than she knows and so much more powerful than people give her credit for. I highly doubt Melissa will actually see this but if she ever does, stay strong! You are so wonderful and you are a bright light that people will try to take advantage of, but you are strong and you will shine through the darkness ⭐️
About your edit honestly same. Hearing this again is awful, despicable... she's so brave, beautigul and wonderful. She only deserves love and now she has a wonderful husband and a baby boy and i'm so happy for her.
We are so happy that you posted in this video. Did I know that you're Nervous to tell everybody but to just let you know. if you're getting abused again or you're sad and heartbroken. Just know that we're here for you to support you whatever you are feeling and we all love you Melissa.😢😢😢😢
I'd say something about this story: I begin to say this summer I started to watch ''Supergirl'' so she started to look like to me a kind and a cute person, and I had just known that she was abused, this is such terrible stuff because she didn't earn this for sure. So as a man I want to tell to all the men please don't mistreat the women, If you love their laugh, their beauty, their speaking, their smile, their personality because a man will always deserve of a woman like a woman needs a man in her life. Thank you Melissa Benoist for what you did, you are brave and strong, we'll love you forever as an actress and as a woman.
You are amazing Melissa. You deserve a better life and you have Chris on your side now. This is a brave move of you, telling your own story about domestic violence. With respect and love. Wish you the best.
thank you i’m coming to terms i was being mentally abused that could’ve ended up very badly due to him punching the wall a couple times when mad at me just showed me if he was willing to be violent in front of me what else would he do
Thank you for sharing your story. Yours is a story similar to my own. Thank you for being brave and showing women that they can come out of this and that we are valued.
I love Melissa as Supergirl, but admire her strength and courage as a survivor of such terrible abuse. Incidentally, I often wondered about that scar above her left eye, whenever there were close ups of her face on Supergirl. I assumed it was an acne or chicken pox scar. Now we know the truth.
I'll never understand how anyone can act that way towards someone they supposedly love. Kudos to you Melissa for sharing your tale, hopefully it will encourage others to seek help getting away from whatever untenable situation they find themselves in. Love and light to you and to anyone in fear for their safety
I tell all the women and girls I care about, that once a man gets violent with them, no matter how much they apologize, it always gets worse. I'm glad you survived that ordeal, you are a wonderful actress and I enjoy seeing you on the screen. Speaking out is a huge step. Kudos to you!
I’m so happy that she found Chris and that they have a happy life together she is a strong woman in a sense she is a supergirl she didn’t need to go through all the things she went through with Blake he treated her unfairly and cruel he should really be thrown in prison for what he did to her. He did apologize to her but that doesn’t take away the things that he did to her. It actually makes me mad to see Blake Jenner on Supergirl season 1. She really is brave to even talk about what she went through. If I was in a relationship like that I don’t think I’d have the strength to talk about the things that Happened. And she’s right there is help for people going through relationships like that
I really admire this woman! I thank each of the people who had the courage to tell their experience, thanks to this there are many men and women who have put a stop to it
Most of us can't even fathom the pain Melissa has gone through in this relationship. She is so incredibly brave for speaking out about this and I personally, am so glad she is on the path to recovery. As her fans, we should only spead positivity and do our part in helping her healing go as smoothly as possible. #IStandWithMelissa
I truly appreciate that Melissa came out about this. A month ago I managed to leave a relationship in which the person was controlling me. I am so so so fortunate that I got out before anything too physical ever happened. There was some but nothing extreme like an iPhone to the face. I just wish she had managed to get out before it wrecked her. I am so happy for her that she has found Chris now and everything has started to fall into place.
Hearing your story just breaks my heart. No one should experience what you have been through. If they are able to hurt you willingly, don't give them a second chance. They don't deserve it at all. You are my favorite Supergirl, my paragon of Hope.
Despite what Melissa have been through, she's a real supergirl tho... she's so strong to share such a story to all of us❤❤... just couldn't believe how can he lend a hand on her which damages her eyesight 😒
If I had a girlfriend like her, I would be thrilled and excited everyday having her around. Why would her ex want to beat Melissa up and take advantage of someone like her? Most people retreat and never come back from being physically and mentally abused. Thankfully she fought back to be a better person.
That's because we take the good people for granted thinking even in this day and age that they wouldn't leave us, the abuser is mostly under the false assumption that the person is dependent on them. They are more concerned with showing an outward perfect image. In short, they think they have the right to treat people like garbage.
Cause he’s mentally f*(7 up and will always be especially if he’s a narcissist. And since he was physically abused, the only way he’ll change is if he acknowledges that’s he’s got major anger issues.
Omg I didn’t know this happened to her and she is the bravest person I know, for sharing her story and for spreading awareness so that others can potentially build up the courage and speak up and protect themselves. We love you Melissa and we are so happy you found Chris because he is too an amazing person, and anyone else out there who is dealing with anything like this we love you and hope your safe. ❤️
She is my biggest INSPIRATION. SHE is my IDOL. i have learnt from her a lot..... : to stand up, and fight the situation. And from years she dugged her pain inside , but never shown outside. When ever I listen her words, about what happened to her, my heart literally broke And I appreciate her a lot bcz of her strongness and WILL LOVE YOU MELISSA......❣❣❤
Man here. I just don't get how someone can say they love you then turn around and hurt you. That is sick. Wish her the best of luck in life and love. For all the woman who read this, someone who hits you doesn't love you. They hate themselves and just want to control you. Seek help at the first sign because it will NOT get better and NO ONE deserves the abuse. NO ONE!
I'm so proud of her for coming out and getting the strength to say it is absolutely incredible. She is one of my idols and she is so strong. I wish all the best for her and her family.
I am so happy that you are getting past all this physical abuse. Your willingness to share your experience with the rest of us shows that you really ARE a Supergirl (do not forget to check whether your baby has YOUR powers or Monel's powers)
not just a supergirl but a superwoman, I'm happy for her and all of the other women that have suffered from abusive relationships,!! women, we are all so strong, if all of us knew the power that we have... - - - - stay strong and fight for what's right and thank you melissa for speaking up about something so deep but so important and showing that no one's life is perfect and we need to keep fighting and never lose hope!
I couldn't be more thrilled that she's been in a loving caring cherished relationship with Chris for 7 years now. She is truly Supergirl the Woman of Steel, it wasn't just a written part for her. ❤️❤️❤️
What a kind human being. I’m so sad people in this world can be so cruel. We need more kind people who support one another, who stand up for each other, and love each other. 🤍
I often come back to this. When I saw the video where she told her story for the first time I was in an abusive relationship which just started to become more toxic. I hadnt realized it but her talking of the beginning stages made something click for me that something isnt right with my relationship but it didn't really sink in at that moment. But I'm very sure that her story helped me realizing how much worse it will get and that I won't be able to change that. I left that relationship after conflicts just began to escalate violently. Her story and her bravery really helped me and saved me from much more. Sharing something so personal, traumatizing and vulnerable with so many people like she did is so brave and strong and I'm forever thankful for that.
I'm glad now Chris is treating her respectfully and helping her overcome her past and now they have a beautiful baby boy. I hope now melissa knows she has gone through the worst and can now get through anything as she came out stronger then ever.
Who cares? If you can't pay your rent will "Chris" be there for you? Grow up.
@@kennethg5460 dude wtf I get you're miserable but stop trying to make everyone feel the same
@@kennethg5460 Dude wtf is wrong with you?
@@kennethg5460 um....read the room. Zara was talking about how happy she is for Melissa being in a much better place with a man who treats her right and a beautiful baby boy, and you're telling here to grow up? For what? Chris is Melissa's HUSBAND, the father of her baby. Who hurt you?
@@emilyblais6407 They are merely just actors from a television show. "Chris" and "Melissa" are not your friends. You people need to wake up and start separating fantasy from reality. Just because you "follow them" on SM does not mean you know them or they give a fuck about you or what you think.
She's one of the strongest women ever!
She's super girl
And lad who hits a woman is a shit house
Yeah right, lol.
people say that to almost every x-th girl on youtube
actualy she is not that strong if she got divorced then jumped back into another relationship so fast she could have idk try being single for a bit before getting involved with whoever.
okay so i was scrolling down the comments and i found so many awful things and i felt like i needed to say something. first, she's talking about her ex-husband Blake Jenner, not her current husband Chris Wood. second, she mentioned on her igtv that sometimes she had to fight back (which is completely normal and okay) and that they both mentally abused each other because their relationship was just toxic and horrible. that doesn't change the fact that he physically abused her and that he manipulated during the entire course of their relationship and he continues to do so right now, by addressing this almost one year after, just when melissa announced the birth of her child and said that she's happy with herself and her family. he also gaslighted her in his entire post and tried to look like a victim when he just isn't. if you believe the abuser and not the victim something is clearly wrong with you. #IStandWithMelissa
Yes! Another common comment from men is the old 'if you'd been with a nice guy like me instead of going for a chad, this wouldn't have happened! You'd have been treated like a princess every day(yaaay?)'. These self-declared 'nice guys' make it very clear that they're exactly the type of person to abuse a partner. It's so sick that in 2020, domestic violence is still widely disbelieved, and/or the victim is blamed... on another level, given Trump and his cronies' opinion & treatment of women, it's sadly not too much of a surprise that misogyny in all it's forms has become cool for some. They even attach it to being anti-'woke', for goodness sake.
@@simonjohnston9488 you know who to thank for that, albeit you'll never admit
he wasn’t the victim, she was. self defense is not abuse !! #istandwithmelissa
Thank u for this comment!❤
Excellent comment!! There is so much victim blaming. It's much easier to just assume the person is lying or making it up. Yet there are stories like Melissa's all over the place. And BTW not all the abusers are men, although sadly the large portion are. There are also abusive women and they are just as bad as the men.
Such a powerful message from Melissa. It takes so much courage to share an experience like hers. I have even more respect for her now than I did before.
She doesn't need freeze breath, laser eyes, or the ability to fly and move fast to be able to be strong, independent and brave. Thank you for sharing your story to the world.
❤❤❤❤
Does anyone else find Melissa's voice soothing
Absolutely
Oh hell yeah
Shes in my bank
Yes!
100% she should do audible!
I'm glad that she is in a better relationship 😌 💕
I totally agree , with it being mental health day today when you are in that kind of situation , it's the control and being blamed for no reason etc. over and over.it terrible for anyone who is going through that now .but there is help and organisations
Me too
she might not be if the rumors of her and woods divorce turn out to be true.
@@arceerogueharleyquinncapta9925 hmm how did that turn out? 🤣
This woman is an Angel on Earth.
* Supergirl fans will see my point here *
Fax I watched the episodes and it was the best show I've seem since I watched the flash ❤❤❤❤
With so much of "her" that went down that drain with each violent incident, it's a wonder she still has so much love, and joy, that she projects. Such a beautiful person, and I hope young men, boys, learn to treat women with respect, as I am doing teaching my own son.
That's true. She projects so much love, sunshine, I just hope it she is feeling so much inside.
we need more fathers like you to teach their sons like you are
maybe she is partially a cat?? The are remarkable that way.
Seeing Melissa's video the first time last year, I am stunned that something like this would happen to her and after I read Blake's post concerning this, I'm both angry and disappointed. He tried to blame Melissa for the "abuse" she inflicted on him, but she's only trying to defend herself if that violence kept escalating and he tried to play the victim. Just because Melissa is defending herself doesn't give him any excuse to play it off as abuse; I'm glad that Melissa is doing okay now and is married to Chris who treated her a lot better. As for Blake's Instagram apology on what he done, while I'm glad he confessed to what he did to her, he doesn't have any right to place blame on someone who's an actual victim of domestic abuse. If anyone has an issue about what I wrote here, I'll delete this comment; if not, that's okay because I'm here expressing what I feel about Blake's "apology" and being a supporter for Melissa. #IstandwithMelissa ❤
An interesting and balanced comment. Hopefully both Benoist and Jenner will now move on with their lives and learn the lessons. Relationships are complex and the key is to communicate. It appears some resentment built up within Jenner and he was not mature enough at that stage in his life to deal with it other than to strike out. His recent Instagram post at least showed he had come to terms with some of his issues and - while doing some blaming of his own - generally accepted blame and hoped to become a better participant in relationships. As with all "celebrity" stories we don't have access to all the facts - nor are we entitled to them - but I am sure most would agree that once abuse becomes physical - by either gender - then it is time to confront it and get out. Silence is not the answer.
Blake Jenner is narcissistic he basically shifted the blame as if she abused him too she did not she fought back
I'm annoyed that there's a part of me that wants to consider Jenner to be telling the truth. I don't want to get myself in a situation where I root for the wrong person so that's probably why a part of me wants to think of him as correct, yet if I embraced that then most likely I'd end up doing just that.
I dont get who would want to abuse their own mate, well Blake put bad out and his punishment will that he lost his chance to hang out and still mate the true supergirl
He mellisa do you know 2nd wave covid 19 2021 ?
I saw Chris and Melissa on their vacation in Italy and he was such a gentleman to her that reaffirms the theory that chivalry is not dead, it still lives!
I remember her video coming out and it came at a really dark time for me. I was in an emotionally abusive relationship, a couple of times it got physical. Watching her video made me realise that what was happening wasn’t right and she helped save me from a prolonged dangerous relationship
I hope your doing better now love
So proud of you, hope you're better now 🌻
It's very nice to see her talk so confidently about this compared to how she was in the video. I'm so glad shes is getting better with all this and want to share her story to help other people. She's a superhero on screen and in real life.
she is
the guy that my parents tried to set me up was exactly like this. mind u, I'm Asian so all the blame goes to the girl for dumping an abusive guy. The guy told me that I couldn't wear skirts, talk to men, go to work (coz men would talk to me), keep him company at all times when he was bored but be on hold when he was busy, berated me when he had road rage, told me I was too serious and was fat, went to my parents house at strange times, emailed other women sexual remarks behind my back. After 2 weeks I was so fed up I cried to my parents and asked him to let me go. But then the harassment with emails and texts and phone calls started. I just blocked him. Then he sends me emotional emails and there was one time I emailed him back coz I felt so guilty and my parents were so upset that I broke up with him. Then he tried to lure me possibly to attack me but I didn't respond. thank god. many may ask me why I emailed him back that one time. trust me, this guy is so manipulative. And I felt so guilty and my dad was so pissed off at me for rejecting him and many years later my mom always tells me I missed such a great opportunity to find a perfect guy like him. Now watching this video I am so glad I broke it off. Otherwise I would probably be dead or married him and b abused. He had all these signs. Even simple things like what I would wear. I'm glad she spoke up coz other women out there will b able to identify the signs and leave or at least seek help. The worst thing is the ppl so close to you like your parents supporting him and telling u that he was probably the best thing that ever happened to me and how I was so worthless that I could possible never find a man ever is heart-breaking. But I saw thru his lies and deceit but most ppl won't. So pls help someone out there who needs help and never side with the abuser.
I'm so sorry what happened with you. I hope you are doing fine❤️
My family went through something similar like this. I cant share that story here but i can relate too much to this. I'm really glad that now you are okay
I am so sorry you had to go through this. I hope you are doing better and you did the right thing leaving him and I am sure that you will find someone else who appreciates you❤️
im so happy you got out of that
Ma'am please knock some sense into those dumb parents of yours
Yeah I’m glad that you are ok this shit is so fucked up
She posted her first video almost a year ago & it’s admirable to see how far she’s come. There’s a reason she’s out here blossoming with her career, marriage & now new bundle of joy. We love you Melissa.💕🙏🏼
Update: as of today he finally made a statement post on his IG.
Omg I did not realize that was a year ago🤯🤯
Conveniently timed apology. My abuser did the same. I hope it doesn't steal an ounce of Joy from Melissa or Chris right now.
She is literally my role model bc I know how she feels she is the real SUPERGIRL
Me 2 her supergirl taught me to never loose hope and that hope is always the strongest super power everyone has
Supergirl is about hope and love too.
What's bc in English in hindi it means sf
Such a strong woman. I’m so happy that she is now in a happy relationship where she’s respected and treated right.
So happy that she's with Chris now and he's treating her with respect. She deserves the world. What a queen.
suposetly you mean we have no clue if he really is or not.
@@arceerogueharleyquinncapta9925 That is true but he seems like a caring individual given his mental health awareness campaign that he started, IDONTMIND. Can’t know what happens behind their doors but he seems like a nice and thoughtful guy
I thought she was playing Supergirl - but she is playing just herself. The Supergirl in the series is sometimes astonishingly fragile for a woman of steel - and empathic, caring and so incredibly nice. But that seems to be just Mrs Benoît. To overcome such a traumatic experience at all is hard work. To overcome it as good as she did is just one in a million.
It could have been when she was on Glee as well but she was apparently already in show business.
Oh, by the way, you spelled her name wrong.
The fact that she spoke out on such a horrible experience and is in the process of healing makes me love her even more
yeah to bad it was a few years to late.
She is so strong, beautiful, hilarious, kind, sweet and caring! She is so perfect but she was hiding this all along🥺
You’re such an inspiration, Melissa. Your story helped me get out of a toxic friendship that I had been stuck in for months almost a year and you helped me see my self worth without them. Thank you 💕
Yeah she inspired me too
Wow. Went from watching bloopers of her being all bubbly to this, totally by accident. I would never have known, or guessed, but I suppose that's the power of self-silencing due to domestic violence. The strength of character it took for her share her story with not just a few people, but the whole world, and all of the scared and healed survivors...is truly remarkable. I already had so much respect for her, but this is something else entirely. Hugs to all survivors out there, and strength to all of those who haven't quite found their courage to break free. You can do it. You are loved. You have so much support!
She is the bravest women I ever seen
Melissa Benoist is a Paragon of Hope
Melissa didn't deserve to go through that, she's so caring, strong, funny & so beautiful. Mrs. Benoist we love you so so much you deserve better relationship & your current husband treating you right
This is what a real Supergirl looks like♥️
This woman is an icon, how anyone could treat her this way be beyond my comprehension. We love you Melissa.
I wonder who’s that friend. So much thanks to her 😭
Why would someone want to do this to a woman especially your wife the one you profess your love for. She is the most sweetest woman out there. That is sad that women have to care this pain forever.
I don't hear one word about I went to the police and file a complaint they took me to the hospital so they can do a rape kit on me I don't hear the magic words I don't hear her naming her partner everybody suspect that it was her ex-husband the one she met on Glee what a pity I didn't help have no sympathy for her because she didn't drop who the guy was or person who did it which means that she was protecting this jerk and the fact that she didn't do that that meant he had something on her. The problem with Melissa is she just doesn't do social media
Melissa Benoist is my Supergirl Kara on and off screen and like the legendary Christopher Reeve as Superman she Melissa became a real life Supergirl after what she went through with domestic violence and came out stronger because of it. No man should hit a woman ever it's just wrong. I am a huge fan of Melissa's work have been for years. Very happy she came out stronger than ever. Help Hope and Compassion For All ! that's Supergirl's motto and we could all use a lot of kindness in the world because gosh knows we need it now. I'm glad Chris Wood is giving Melissa all the love in the world and she is so happy. Take care Melissa you will always be my Supergirl Kara Zor-EL Always and Forever 💗💙❤!!!
I need to talk with those too people who disliked the video 🙂
It has gone up to 6 how dare they why would they...
She's always so happy and upbeat. I'm sorry these terrible things happened to you but I'm also glad that this garbage person didn't break your spirit. You are a survivor and you're even stronger for sharing your story.
P.S.
I love you as Supergirl. You're amazing.
That’s why she’s my hero❤️ she’s so strong and she inspired me every single day of my life
The fact that she started dating again (with Chris) and she overcame that is amazing and super
their married now, and they have a kid!
@@chiudo295 i know!! Huxley Robert Wood.
no it shows she is weak and did not give herself time to heal propper.
@@arceerogueharleyquinncapta9925 no. It shows she found an amazing man who helped her with her healing process and she found her soulmate.
First of all, I have so much love for this brave woman 💜💜💜 She's amazing and this will change people's lives.
Second to her abuser: you do not throw a phone "aimlessly" and do that much damage to someone's face!!! We are not idiots. Hopefully no one falls for that line from his "apology".
She’s so brave and kind after everything, she’s an inspiration and a hero.
she IS supergirl. not, not for the cape she wear nor the character she play, it’s the strength within her that’ll always make her her the hero that she is.
It's so so important that people share their stories. I really applaud her, it's probably one of the most difficult things as well. Being a survivor myself, I remember how long it took to share my story. I felt it was all my fault. And listening to her, it was like re-living my past. The healing journey is a long journey. I documented mine and turned it into a documentary. Every time I watch it, it's like watching someone else... I became stronger after it. And it's hard to believe I was ever in such a dark place inside myself. My heart goes to all people going through domestic violence. Let's speak up and change this. We can do it.
I’m happy that she got through that ok
I can't believe how she got enough courage to say the things she did because if I was her I'd be too scared even though it's years after
She's one of the strongest women I've ever seen and seeing that video of her was heartbreaking. She's a true inspiration and I'm so happy she's now in a happy place with her beautiful family ❤️. She just radiates joy and hope, a literal angel 💖.
After seeing Melissa Benoist play Supergirl I always thought she was so cute and adorable.
I can't believe that such a monster could do such a thing to a fragile little angel that she is.
I agree! I hate Blake Jenner for what he did to Melissa. I can't even rewatch glee scenes that he's in because of what he did
Me too. I can't even begin to fathom how she felt and what happened because she's such a light in the dark
Such as life
Melissa's message is incredibly important to hear. The abuse cycle is real and can trap wonderful persons like Melissa. Melissa is a REAL superheroine to share her wisdom.
I remember watching a previous video with Melissa Benoist in, talking about domestic violence. I watched Melissa talking about Blake, beating her up senselessly, brakes my heart. I'm glad that Melissa is living her life now.
Hearing her tell her story in such open detail is a relief. She knows herself pretty well. And is not likely to ever find herself in that type of relationship again. Brave for a woman famous for her role as Supergirl to tell a story like this in such blunt and clear detail.
thank you Melissa Benoist for sharing your pain...
watching glee and seeing them act together makes my stomach churn. melissa is so strong truly
What a huge inspiration to so many women and men who have gone through secret abusive relationships who have to live in constant fear of speaking out.
almost 10 years ago, i remember an aunt who was at the time in such an abusive relationship the father of her child would hurt them every single time the child cries or do anything that he didn’t want, one time, we had to go to their house in the middle of the night, i was around 7 or 8 at the time, i had to stay inside the car while they took my 3 years old cousin and my aunt out of the house, their body full of blisters and my aunts head red from the blood on her forehead, i’ll never forget that night, not knowing what to do sitting there watching everything unfold, my mom and dad apologised to me so often that night because i wasn’t supposed to be seing that, and i hope i didn’t because to this day i can still remember that night from leaving our house to rushing to the hospital to them coming home with us till they get back to their feel, my aunt is okay now, she isn’t with any man after that because that experience scarred her, my cousin is good too, thankfully she doesn’t remember much of it, just that her dad was a sorry excuse for a man, the man once contacted them, asking for a second chance and a relationship with his daughter, they reported him and is now not allowed in their subdivision, they never saw him again from then on, thankfully
Super loooooooooong sentence it’s like a essay
#IStandwithmelissa.
Thank you! You gave me the courage to leave my abuser. It was hard for me to admit I was a domestic abuse victim being a 27 year veteran Paramedic/Firefighter. I put off my injuries as to being received on this call or that one. No one knew and I suffered in silence and shame. Once I was injured in the line of duty and force retired, due to a major spinal jury, I couldn’t suffer it any longer. Strikes to my spine would make me pass out. Anyway.....thank you for your courage to inspire my own. You saved my life. ❤️
That is a true friend. Someone that cares enough to risk a friendship falling apart to ask you if something is going on. That friend whoever they are, is a wonderful person. It takes a lot of courage to do that.
She's so brave❤ love her. I'm sure her story is inspiring women all over the world.
my sister's ex boyfriend was starting to show some of the signs you mentioned, and she got out of the relationship as soon as possible. thank you so much for making this, it could have ended a lot worse..
I can't believe some asshole would do that to someone he supposedly loves. I know someone who was in an abusive relationship, and she's scared to this day. I'm glad you made it. Much love!
More POWER to you Melissa! You are indeed the Supergirl of this earth and the bringer of hope and light!
She’s so strong and powerful, wow. She’s a real-life Supergirl. 💙
Edit: I forgot how horrible the descriptions were, so listening to them just now again hit me so so hard. She is so much stronger than she knows and so much more powerful than people give her credit for.
I highly doubt Melissa will actually see this but if she ever does, stay strong! You are so wonderful and you are a bright light that people will try to take advantage of, but you are strong and you will shine through the darkness ⭐️
About your edit honestly same. Hearing this again is awful, despicable... she's so brave, beautigul and wonderful. She only deserves love and now she has a wonderful husband and a baby boy and i'm so happy for her.
@@lenajones6117 yes, it really hurts, but it shows just how strong and powerful she is! absolutely! :)
@@thewaterymellen she really is, yeah
FR THO HAHAHA probs because we see so many of the same things so ALGORITHMS hahaha
Thanks for sharing your story Melissa. God bless you!
We are so happy that you posted in this video. Did I know that you're Nervous to tell everybody but to just let you know. if you're getting abused again or you're sad and heartbroken. Just know that we're here for you to support you whatever you are feeling and we all love you Melissa.😢😢😢😢
I'd say something about this story: I begin to say this summer I started to watch ''Supergirl'' so she started to look like to me a kind and a cute person, and I had just known that she was abused, this is such terrible stuff because she didn't earn this for sure. So as a man I want to tell to all the men please don't mistreat the women, If you love their laugh, their beauty, their speaking, their smile, their personality because a man will always deserve of a woman like a woman needs a man in her life.
Thank you Melissa Benoist for what you did, you are brave and strong, we'll love you forever as an actress and as a woman.
You are a good person bro.. i wish every men thought like you
You are our supergirl. Strong, brave, never let them treat you badly. Value yourself and be happy with your husband. I love them😍
You are amazing Melissa. You deserve a better life and you have Chris on your side now. This is a brave move of you, telling your own story about domestic violence. With respect and love. Wish you the best.
Thank you! I am a survivor of domestic abuse it’s a very scary thing!
In tears. I just want to hug you, Melissa. Thank you for sharing your story.
thank you i’m coming to terms i was being mentally abused that could’ve ended up very badly due to him punching the wall a couple times when mad at me just showed me if he was willing to be violent in front of me what else would he do
That is a super girl. Not all heroes wear capes and she’s a héroe
Thank you for sharing your story. Yours is a story similar to my own. Thank you for being brave and showing women that they can come out of this and that we are valued.
I love Melissa as Supergirl, but admire her strength and courage as a survivor of such terrible abuse. Incidentally, I often wondered about that scar above her left eye, whenever there were close ups of her face on Supergirl. I assumed it was an acne or chicken pox scar. Now we know the truth.
I'll never understand how anyone can act that way towards someone they supposedly love. Kudos to you Melissa for sharing your tale, hopefully it will encourage others to seek help getting away from whatever untenable situation they find themselves in. Love and light to you and to anyone in fear for their safety
I tell all the women and girls I care about, that once a man gets violent with them, no matter how much they apologize, it always gets worse. I'm glad you survived that ordeal, you are a wonderful actress and I enjoy seeing you on the screen. Speaking out is a huge step. Kudos to you!
I’m so happy that she found Chris and that they have a happy life together
she is a strong woman in a sense she is a supergirl she didn’t need to go
through all the things she went through with Blake he treated her unfairly and
cruel he should really be thrown in prison for what he did to her. He did apologize
to her but that doesn’t take away the things that he did to her. It actually makes
me mad to see Blake Jenner on Supergirl season 1. She really is brave to even
talk about what she went through. If I was in a relationship like that I don’t think I’d
have the strength to talk about the things that Happened. And she’s right there is help
for people going through relationships like that
I really admire this woman! I thank each of the people who had the courage to tell their experience, thanks to this there are many men and women who have put a stop to it
Most of us can't even fathom the pain Melissa has gone through in this relationship. She is so incredibly brave for speaking out about this and I personally, am so glad she is on the path to recovery. As her fans, we should only spead positivity and do our part in helping her healing go as smoothly as possible. #IStandWithMelissa
I truly appreciate that Melissa came out about this. A month ago I managed to leave a relationship in which the person was controlling me. I am so so so fortunate that I got out before anything too physical ever happened. There was some but nothing extreme like an iPhone to the face.
I just wish she had managed to get out before it wrecked her. I am so happy for her that she has found Chris now and everything has started to fall into place.
iPhone to the face ouch.
She’s so strong and beautiful 🥺❤️❤️
Hearing your story just breaks my heart. No one should experience what you have been through. If they are able to hurt you willingly, don't give them a second chance. They don't deserve it at all.
You are my favorite Supergirl, my paragon of Hope.
She is a hero and I admire her so much and im glad she shared her story with the world... we love you Melissa
I love how she’s wearing the supergirl earrings.
That’s cause she was filming supergirl when she made it
Brave to tell this-but, helpful to so many-I’m sorry you experienced this.
Despite what Melissa have been through, she's a real supergirl tho... she's so strong to share such a story to all of us❤❤... just couldn't believe how can he lend a hand on her which damages her eyesight 😒
If I had a girlfriend like her, I would be thrilled and excited everyday having her around. Why would her ex want to beat Melissa up and take advantage of someone like her? Most people retreat and never come back from being physically and mentally abused. Thankfully she fought back to be a better person.
Ikr if I had her I would be so happy her humor can light up anyone's day even in their darkest time
That's because we take the good people for granted thinking even in this day and age that they wouldn't leave us, the abuser is mostly under the false assumption that the person is dependent on them. They are more concerned with showing an outward perfect image. In short, they think they have the right to treat people like garbage.
Cause he’s mentally f*(7 up and will always be especially if he’s a narcissist. And since he was physically abused, the only way he’ll change is if he acknowledges that’s he’s got major anger issues.
I'm so glad that she got such a good friend who was able to recognize the signs and get help. Everyone should have a friend like her:)
I'm so much loves her personality and her movies.. "God bless her long journey to a beautiful success"
Omg I didn’t know this happened to her and she is the bravest person I know, for sharing her story and for spreading awareness so that others can potentially build up the courage and speak up and protect themselves. We love you Melissa and we are so happy you found Chris because he is too an amazing person, and anyone else out there who is dealing with anything like this we love you and hope your safe. ❤️
Es muy valiente, me alegra que logró pasar esto y que ahora ella esté bien 💜
IDK how anyone could hurt someone so beautiful
She is my biggest INSPIRATION. SHE is my IDOL. i have learnt from her a lot.....
: to stand up, and fight the situation.
And from years she dugged her pain inside , but never shown outside.
When ever I listen her words, about what happened to her, my heart literally broke
And I appreciate her a lot bcz of her
strongness and WILL
LOVE YOU MELISSA......❣❣❤
I love you Melissa Benoist ❤️ You are a great person :)
Man here. I just don't get how someone can say they love you then turn around and hurt you. That is sick. Wish her the best of luck in life and love. For all the woman who read this, someone who hits you doesn't love you. They hate themselves and just want to control you. Seek help at the first sign because it will NOT get better and NO ONE deserves the abuse. NO ONE!
She’s a hero on screen and off screen. And I love her
What A Way To Cap Off Domestic Violence Awareness Month 2020! 💜 🙏🏻 4 Sharing Your Story To Everybody, Supergirl/Melissa! ❤️💙
I'm so proud of her for coming out and getting the strength to say it is absolutely incredible. She is one of my idols and she is so strong. I wish all the best for her and her family.
I am so happy that you are getting past all this physical abuse. Your willingness to share your experience with the rest of us shows that you really ARE a Supergirl (do not forget to check whether your baby has YOUR powers or Monel's powers)
not just a supergirl but a superwoman, I'm happy for her and all of the other women that have suffered from abusive relationships,!! women, we are all so strong, if all of us knew the power that we have...
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stay strong and fight for what's right
and thank you melissa for speaking up about something so deep but so important and showing that no one's life is perfect and we need to keep fighting and never lose hope!
Omg i cant believe this its so sad but I'm glad that she is with Chris and that he treats her so well. Congrats on the baby 💙🌹💙🌹💙🌹💙🌹
he suposetly treats her well stop assumeing he is this god like dude.
Wow; Now this is TRUE strength Melissa, not just television acting. At the risk of sounding condescending, I'm proud of you!
I couldn't be more thrilled that she's been in a loving caring cherished relationship with Chris for 7 years now. She is truly Supergirl the Woman of Steel, it wasn't just a written part for her. ❤️❤️❤️
she's so strong to share her story , a role model to me that woman , hope she's happy now
What a kind human being. I’m so sad people in this world can be so cruel. We need more kind people who support one another, who stand up for each other, and love each other. 🤍
I'm just glad she's much happier now 😔
I often come back to this. When I saw the video where she told her story for the first time I was in an abusive relationship which just started to become more toxic. I hadnt realized it but her talking of the beginning stages made something click for me that something isnt right with my relationship but it didn't really sink in at that moment. But I'm very sure that her story helped me realizing how much worse it will get and that I won't be able to change that. I left that relationship after conflicts just began to escalate violently. Her story and her bravery really helped me and saved me from much more. Sharing something so personal, traumatizing and vulnerable with so many people like she did is so brave and strong and I'm forever thankful for that.