Growing up as a girl with ADHD I wanted to be loud and talk to my classmates during class soooo badly but the anxiety of getting in trouble or being a "problem child" was so overpowering that I would sit silently and doodle or stare into space in order to not feel like I was going to explode. When I got diagnosed at like 12 or 13 years old, I didn't have any coping skills and my schoolwork suffered really badly because I pretty much went to school and absorbed nothing due to my inattention. I know late diagnosis for girls is pretty common and it really sucks that no one knew how to help me until I was pretty much out of middle school. By working on self confidence, coping skills and organization with my therapist and Learning Center facility at my school I have been able to do fairly well in high school, but it is really painful because it feels almost "too late" because my foundations are not strong and hold me back when it comes to simple math, grammar, and spelling (see also my dyslexia).
I almost relate! I mean I was diagnosed really young but I was never given proper aid in my school, even though my parents informed my school. Now Im in college, everything feels too late for me with my grades because I am so bad at keeping up my grades. My brain feels like it absorbs such a limited amount of info
It's never too late! I wasn't diagnosed until college, because, even though I'm a boy, I had anxiety just like you. All through middle school and high school, I felt so out of place, because I would be staring off into space and then I wouldn't know what was happening around me. No matter when we get diagnosed, we're always going to have a lot to work on, but just like you wish you had been diagnosed in middle school instead of high school, I wish had been diagnosed in high school instead of now. It sounds like you have some great resources at school, and if you decide to go to college you can start practicing the techniques you'll need to do well in the much harder college classes!
Katelyn Tanaka I have ADHD and anxiety and I try to be a positive advocate for young children and adolescents with ADHD/autism my channel is Mollys mayhem! I talk about my own personal experiences with ADHD and anxiety and autism... I hope you join my journey xxxI
Internet Clown I have ADHD and anxiety and I try to be a positive advocate for young children and adolescents with ADHD/autism my channel is Mollys mayhem! I talk about my own personal experiences with ADHD and anxiety and autism... I hope you join my journey xxxx
Can everyone else with Adhd and short term memorization issues agree that the scariest thing at the start of school years is the getting to know each other game where you have to memorize everyone elses name and repeat it to the class. I hate it because I'm terrible at it. I'm a junior in highschool and we still do that horrid game.
@@aqua_459 I was friends with people that I had to asked their name every day because I could not remember it for half a year... and longer. Thankfully they just thought I was quirky, not rude or desinterested.
@@hannajung7512 Honestly I am so glad to not be in highschool anymore. I'm now a freshman in college and am having a great time with good people. I don't have to ever play those awful memorization games and I have never been happier about that lmao
I was diagnosed at a very young age but my parents never educated me on ADHD. I’ve never had medication or any support. Now in quarantine I am watching videos about ADHD and learning I’m not dumb or abnormal! Idk how to describe the sense of relief knowing other people go through the same things.
Me too! I was diagnosed around 13 and also with bipolar (which was wayyy off) so my mom disregarded everything the psychiatrist had said. I'm just now rediscovering this
I was diagnosed at 4 years old. My mum did her very best, and I got a lot of help from people within the medical field during my childhood. Still struggle as an adult tho
I COMPLETELY UNDERSTAND. I feel like people are going to ask me "why are you happy that you have ADHD?" and I don't know how to say "well everything I do wrong made me feel like I was broken but now I know its not me being broken, its me being different, and now I'm relieved."
As a girl I struggled a lot with the inattentiveness. In class I would almost always be in my own world. The teachers always had their classes set up based on short term memorization, so I just got really good at that and breezed through k-12 allowing the problem to go unnoticed. College has been absolutely terrible though because it isnt set up the same way, that's what made me notice I may have an issue.
I have ADHD and anxiety and I try to be a positive advocate for young children and adolescents with ADHD/autism my channel is Mollys mayhem! I talk about my own personal experiences with ADHD and anxiety and autism... I hope you join my journey xxx
Dude…I always thought that was just normal in people and I didn’t think any of the ADHD symptoms I relate to was even a symptom and was just normal in everyone 😵💫 I need to see a doctor to see if I get diagnosed or not
This is such a helpful channel. I'm a wife and mother and my husband and daughter both have adhd. It really helps to learn more about how it affects them.
I was diagnosed with ADHD at 37 years old, and you telling me about your college experience reminded me of mine. I would procrastinate on projects until the last minute. This is why I gave up on my Architecture major and went into urban planning. I also remember a time I completely forgot my final college writing portfolio was due at the end of the year on the bus. In a panic in the hallway, I hobbled together old drafts I did previously and submitted them. Not only did I get an A, but the college writing professor asked me if it was ok to use one of my college writing portfolio items as a teaching example for other classes. I always just squeaked by. Procrastination followed by intense pressure to perform.
Colleen’s Cookie I have ADHD and anxiety and I try to be a positive advocate for young children and adolescents with ADHD/autism my channel is Mollys mayhem! I talk about my own personal experiences with ADHD and anxiety and autism... I hope you join my journey xxx
Most people have aspects of both. And keep in mind... It's rarely a physiological difference that causes most of these gendered differences in presentation for these disorders. It's socialization, first and foremost. Little girls and boys are getting socialized to their gender stereotypes from before year one. The way adults treat a baby changes based on both culture and gender, this is why kids show different brain patterns across countries from a WAY younger age than you'd expect.
I’ve talked to my doctor about my concerns of possibly having ADHD (it’s taken me 6 years to speak up ab this, I’m now 18yrsold) and I’m not diagnosed yet but I’ll be speaking to my doctor soon about it again. I relate to a lot of everything you mentioned in this video and once I figure out my brain and get a diagnosis, i think I would feel very relieved whether it be adhd or something else. Thank you for your videos, you’re doing amazing! 💗
I guess im super lucky as i was diagnosed at 8 and i am a girl and i have both sides i didnt know ADHD could cause my social anxiety and my self esteem
I just discovered your channel, and I find your videos very interesting (and comforting)! I was diagnosed very recently (I'm 25): my anxiety was masking a lot of symptoms. But as a child, they were more like those associated with boys! The fact is that society is much less accepting of a girl who talks fast and loud, moves all the time, and is disorganized... For a long time I thought I was just a tomboy who had to learn to behave like a "real lady" hahaha x)
Emilie Mercier I know! I’m 18 and I’m really thinking about seeing a doctor because I’m pretty positive I have ADHD. Was it scary seeing a doctor about a diagnosis as an adult?
@@Teddy_Iz_Bri First, I went to a psychologist for my anxiety, because it was overwhelming. It turned out that she was specialized in ADHD, and she put me on the right direction as the sessions went on (several months). I have not passed the "official tests" yet (in France, only psychiatrists are allowed to do so...). ADHD is just starting to be recognized in France, so finding a specialized professional helped me a lot! She never judged me, and she linked my discomfort and difficulties to the symptoms: it's very guilt-relieving. :) Now I'm in a phase where I'm learning to notice the symptoms in my daily life and adapt to them in a healthy way. I would probably take the official tests some day, but I want to try without treatment for now, see how it goes (maybe it is a bit dumb, but... meh ^^). I am sorry, my answer is a bit long T.T I hope it's not too out of line.
Oh my gosh, I completely relate to this. I felt like more of a boy when I was younger, always competing with them for attention. Eventually after puberty I did enjoy more feminine things, but still have a loud, active personality.
I’m not diagnosed with adhd but I had random ad for adhd symptoms in girls and I clicked on it and I instantly recognized alot of the symtoms and it was kinda crazy bc i just thought thats how everyone thinks but apparently not so im going to a doctor to see if i have adhd :) kind of scared tho
I’m 20. I felt so lost for the past six years, and now it seems like everything is coming together. And attentiveness. 100%. I can’t pay attention to anything, or focus on something for longer than five minutes. I’m also inside, in my room, all day every day pretty much. Yeah, we’re in quarantine, but what about before that? It’s like a day goes by, and I don’t even notice it. 4 years, four different antidepressants. Nothing is working. I thought I was just unmotivated, and when I brought that up, I was told I was just depressed. Which I was, but now I’m not so sure that’s the only thing. I know I could be doing better in school, and I know I could be doing so much. I have so many great ideas, but I can’t follow through for the life of me even though I desperately want to. I was speaking to a close friend of mine, and she was actually the one who said that I might have ADD/ADHD. She has it herself, and has been on Adderall since she was 13. I can’t believe I’ve never thought of that. I think I’m going to schedule an appointment with a psychiatrist.
Anyway, this actually has something to do with what the video is about. I remember when I was younger, people would always talk about how my brother was the 80 HD one, and how I was so calm and collected. I wasn’t, but they couldn’t see that though. Makes sense. Also, my mom was a meth addict before I was born, so Her views on ADHD medication are very strong. I know that’s why my brother never got medicated, but I don’t want to be like him. He’s not doing so hot in life. He was also Never taught how to cope with it, and seeing how as I’m not diagnosed, I haven’t either. I just feel like I need to do something, but I don’t think my family would approve.
I'm glad you are finding your way! This is brand new to me, day 2 actually. I'm 22 so if you ever wanna a support friend let me know I'm seeking out lol
I really think i have adhd. But i dont know how to tell people. I am even afraid of telling my parents because im imagining the worst possible scenarios in my head. Someone please help?
hey! i'm a 20 year old girl who was just diagnosed with adhd, and watching your videos has helped me learn so much! I had no idea that a lot of the bottled emotions etc. were a sign of the adhd. I just starting treatment and I'm very glad to report that i'm already noticing such a big difference and i'm so glad to have found your channel to learn more. keep up the good work :)
i fit nearly all of these and i have also been asked mulitple times if i have adhd. This has really made me think about it and past the year my school work and just work in general has been really bad. to this day i have not been able to absorb any of the stuff im being told in class and i wouldnt pay attention because of my innatention to the subject. I have never really commited to a group project or socialising, I have alot of anxiety and very low self esteem, i have been took out of class's and given detentions because of my lack of work and focus. At random points of the day i can go from screaming with joy to complete anger, i often have panic attacks due to just this huge wave of sadness coming over me when im just fine. I zone off alot during conversations if im not interested and i cant really commit to anything unless its something im going to enjoy, where i usually sit there for hours on end doing something i enjoy. i get in trouble alot because i cannot complete homework, i do online homework but i would be a minute in and i would immediately be scrolling on instagram or anything else. I have also shown that i have an immediate desire to do something i like the idea of, for example i might want to buy a new phone case and i would straight away go online and order one. I also find a really big angression and annoyment if i cant do the idea i had thought of. i have a strong feeling that i might have adhd and i would love to go to a doctor about it so i can get stuff done to benafit me, however i am scared of telling my parents of the possability i might have adhd, considering what they have said to me in the past- that negativity has latched onto me and its really stressing me out that i might have adhd. any advice or help with seeking help would be amazing and i would be highley grateful. took me alot to write this all out ngl
I have adhd i have had it since i was 6 and i don't think my mother quite knows what adhd is but i can't take the meds because they make me sick or depressed so idk what to do with that but its great see someone talking about the truth of adhd
Thanks :) I'm sorry that the meds have such a bad effect on you! I have tons of other videos that talk about other coping strategies that might help you
I am going to the doctor to see if I have adhd but my dad thinks adhd isn't real but my mum say she doesn't know but my parents said even if you do have it nothing is changing in school or at home
Wow that's me😥BUT I am Strong‼💯 I AM going to find my Superpower with my ADHD‼💯🥰 thank you😊 for taking your time and putting these out for me and others, To understand ourselves it really does help‼💯 thank you🥰
The more angry I am, the harder it is to think. The more angry I am, the more my brain races and I can’t control anything that I do. So I might be hurting others verbally.. or physically.
I've read through a bunch of comments and I relate a scary amount. I know I've been diagnosed with executive functioning disorder and I might have a form of disgraphia. Now I'm sure I have ADHD or ADD because this explains a lot.
Looking back on my childhood idk how I wasn’t diagnosed sooner. I was always talking in class. Playing with toys in my desk, and if the teacher took those away I would play with pencil shavings. And I always had to sit in the back of class (not very helpful) so I always was standing and doing random shit in class.
Okay, I’m eleven. I took this test that he had, said I have adhd. I have all the symptoms male and female! I don’t know if I actually have it, I took another test and it said yes but I have no idea what to do. I’ve been the problem child since I was born, pretty much. Everyone says I’m smart, my grades say otherwise. I never think before I act and got detention in third grade because I punched the annoying kid. I don’t know how to tell my mom or talk to her about this, because I don’t think she’ll believe me Somebody send help
I'm a male and I have never been diagnosed with ADHD, however I display less of the hyperactivity symptom and MANY of the inattentiveness and memory symptoms. My number 1 report card comment in school was "He is easily distracted", literally every report card had that and I would be off in my own world or chewing a pencil or doodling on my page. I still do that sort of stuff at work and I always need something available to play with (post it note, tape, metal tye).
I think my symptoms got overlooked in this way even though/maybe because I'm a trans woman. I didn't know why I kept spacing out during class, why I couldn't keep up with the teacher and write enough of the important information. I had to either listen and remember or take notes and absorb nothing during class. Lots of social anxiety, not a lot of friends, as well as acting out in ways that made people think I was weird/stupid and sometimes got me in trouble. Frequent nervous/fidgety behaviors too, like tapping pencils, clicking pens, bouncing my foot. At one point I was obsessed with trying to solve a Rubik's cube for the first time, I brought it to every class one day and ignored every lecture trying to finish it. Finally towards the end of the day, I was in history class and I did it! I was so elated that I blurted out and interrupted the teacher's lecture, "Oh my god! I finally solved it!" One of the kids congratulated me, then the teacher said, "That's great, you can put that on your resume when you're older: solved rubik's cube during history class in 11th grade." Anyway, my symptoms weren't the typical hyperactive stuff for the most part but when that hyperfocus kicks in it's like I'm possessed.
I am a transgender male and I am a junior in highschool. I was diagnosed with Adhd in elementary school and I never really knew how Adhd affected me as I thought it was sort of just a normal thing. Until like middle school and highschool I really realized how terrible I am at socializing in a way. I enjoy spending time with friends and talking to them, but some days it seems I have a million things to say all at once and instead I stay quiet. My adhd causes me to be very fidgety and impulsive and I have several bad habits such as nail biting. I have hyper thinking where I cannot stop thinking I guess, which my mom has told me isn't normal and I never really noticed that other people are able to just like slow down their thinking (sounds kind of boring though). I like to think though and it's my favorite hobby. Anyways though as a transgender male, I have a mainly a male brain just it's wired differently and it's attached to the wrong body. I've joked with my friends before that I was very unlucky for the brain I have as I have dyslexia, dyscalculia, adhd, and I'm transgender. Although I don't mind really because all I've known is being me. Anyways I'm glad I can somewhat relate to someone else in the comments. This is a very unorganized comment as I just went with whatever I thought to write.
@@leesnyder1112 Yep, if there's one thing I know about adhd it's that we sure do all have a lot in common. I loved to socialize but I couldn't do it well in large groups, and loud environments made me shut down after a while. Being at school was kind of lonely because I just couldn't interact and socialize the way everyone else did. I constantly felt like I was being left out, whether deliberately or not, and that nobody cared to hear what I had to say because when I did manage to participate in social groups I'd get really self-conscious and worry if I'd said something weird when I don't get the reaction I was expecting. So yeah, much of the time I'd be a passive observer, constantly trying to think of ways to participate but not being sure when it was appropriate to interject, not to mention how badly it stung every time I wasn't heard or was ignored.
I’m pretty certain I’ve got inattentive adhd, when I was a teenager and really struggling with a nervous breakdown due to my projected career going up in flames because of injury, my doctor asked me to make an appointment, I turned up and she said “I’ve been reading this book (Women with ADD, Sari Solden) it sounds just like you!” I took the book and put post it’s highlighting everything that rang true, it was full of post it’s with notes on them. I went back a week later and showed her. She agreed. That was that. She never referred me, so I just took the book and put it on my shelf and forgot about. Until life happened again I was struggling even more with the things I struggle with anyway. So I turned to google and there seemed to me answers and a light bulb of recognition sparked. Hopefully once lockdown is over I can go get referred to the local adhd unit. I’m furious with myself for putting it off for over a year and now found out from a friend in the system she’s been waiting years for diagnosis since her son was diagnosed.
I dont want to self diagnose because people hate thats but i have most of the symptoms (girl) and my daydreaming/zoning out was that bad in primary that i got nicknamed “the daydreamer” by everyone and now whenever i zone out they sometimes say the daydreamer is back
I got dignoised at 9 but that was because i was getting checked for autsuim but i said i didn't have it and the doctor said it was more adhd then autsim, i think the reason why i got dignoised with adhd instead of add was because im both
me as a little girl with ADHD i would stare off into space not paying attention being losing things miss placing things and being hyperactive and impulsive jumping and running around climbing not siting still and talks excessively cant wait my turn in games and talking restless acts as like i'm driving by a motor ETC. I got diagnosed at 3 years old and i'm going to be 28 years old in 5 months and i'm getting put back on meds.
I got diagnosed with ADHD when I was 9 because I was being dignosed with autism because I did some stuff that my 1 minute older twin brother does but he can’t talk and I knew I didn’t have it because I can talk and it basically said I had adhd instead of autism and yes I’m aware that people are able to talk and have autism but when I was 9 I didn’t know another autistic person until I was 12 and I show sighs from boys and girls with my adhd
I am 28 I have ADHD I have it’s a long time when I was 5 and I do Laugh out loud sometimes no reason . I worried a lot and I cried when I’m super stressed .
I'm 15 I've watch a shit ton of vids on this and holy hell I had all of these girls n boys( more so on the boys side) and yet I still haven't been diagnosed, my family's doctor retired. I don't know who to talk to about it and my parents don't believe that I have it. It's really frustrating.
I’m not diagnosed with adhd but a lot and I mean A LOT of the symptoms I am seeing in my daily life. My whole school life I’ve always been the “distracting others and easily distracted “ and most of what they mean I assume is bc I’m always up, moving, talking. Like damn I go to write something but my hands too shakey and bouncing my leg or just moving something helps me steady my hand. And it’s not like I don’t try to sit down n do my work but fuck dust particles is all it takes for me to go on a mad thought journey or even just dissociate for large chunks of time
What are the symptoms of ADHD hyperactive type for girls? As I have been showing both inattentive and hyperactive types. I am also in the processing of getting a proper diagnosis. I am also in university and I feel like if I have to work extra hard at coping skills as well as schoolwork.
hah, i don’t know if i have adhd but i just wanna know if this is a symptom when i’m trying to talk and there’s a video playing in the background, i can’t talk because i’m more focused on the video in the background. is that a symptom?
I told my mom that all the things she knew I struggled with were signs of Inattentive ADHD, so we went to a "professional" who made me do two types of tests. One of them scored me based on if I had signs of it to me. This one was obviously outdated, they made ADHD and ADD two different things, meaning anyone with slightly mild Combined ADHD would never get diagnosed. I got way more points then normal people, but 1 point off from being diagnosed with ADD and 2 points off from ADHD. That means normal people get a score of 1-2, to get diagnosed you need 8+, and I got 7 twice. Then, the second test, was giving me fun puzzles to solve and seeing if I did anything like tapping my leg or staring at a wall in the middle of a puzzle??? But that's bad because 1. fun puzzles are fun, therefore it's gonna trigger the hyperfocus part and not the unfocused part that they are specifically looking for 2. I don't bounce my leg or tap my fingers so that's why I can't have ADHD, that makes sense 3. I'm intelligent and did well on the puzzles (that were entertaining so I was hyperfocused) so intelligent people can't have ADHD; as well as many many other problems. However, the paper quizzes from art one made me diagnosed with social anxiety. Apparently social anxiety has nothing to do with not wanting to talk to friends and more like thinking everything you said to your friend was wrong and now you ruined your friendship because you yawned while they were talking. Who knew? Not me obviously, the school systems don't teach you about mental health.
"There's also lack of focus" Me, who's had to rewind like 10 times already because I got distracted by the way my arm can move, bend and rotate: **laughs nervously* I got distracted by my sister's chewing while typing this and didn't finish😂 i had to delete it and retype it all cause I can't edit comments I've already sent and while retyping it I zoned out, wondering if some animals want to be humans seeing as people always want to be animals
I have all the symptoms in boys and I am a boy and I can type really fast is this something I bounce off the walls and I get angry and distracted easily loool
Ok so I’m 11 and I think I have ADHD, I CAN NOT focus on a book, *reads* mind: “oh oh I have a croissant for lunch” eyes: *actually reading it but brain not remembering it bc thinking abt something else* then the teacher “just read it again” bro I’ve read the same page 34 times I don’t think ima remember it *teacher explains what the activity is* Eyes: following the teacher watching what we need to do Mind: “oh no that poster is falling down” Body: 💃 (moving side to side) *goes back to table* me: “___ I blanked out what do we need to again? Sorry 😢” Them: “AGAIN!” or “JUST FOCUS!” (Not understanding after I’ve told them multiple times) Me: I’m sorry 😭 *trying to do the activity at the table* My right leg: 💃 or ⬆️ …………………………….⬇️ Friend: “stop bouncing your leg i can hear it and it’s annoying” Me: *keeps on doing it but trying to do it quieter* Them: “STOP I CAN’T FOCUS” *changes spots* Me: 😭 Me: “mum can you test my for ADHD I really think I have it” Mum: no you were born normal and you are normal just stop” *couple days later* Me: “mum can you just please test me “ *explains why I think that* Mum: “just focus” Me: 🥺 I wish I could *different day* Me: “ok I just have trouble learning and I wanna know if I have it so I can get help, I can’t just focus, I try REALLY hard to yet my brain doesn’t want me to, so can you just please test me if I don’t, I’ll drop it completely” Mum: “what do you think it’s cool or something!?!?!!!!” Me: 😭 mind 💭No I just wanna be normal💭😭😭 Reasons Blanking out ALL THE TIME Can’t focus Leg likes to go weeeeee I forget VERY EASILY tell me something important and I’ll forget immediately I’m VERY hyper Problem paying attention Short attention span I talk a lot Disorganised Others but can’t think of them I’m done if you read all that tell me if u think I have adhd Comment yes or no (if lots of yes ima try and get my mum to take me to the doctor to test) (Every single word is true) Thx for reading here’s a cookie 🍪
growing up. I was annoyed with myself. that's how distracting I was, I feel it still when I'm at work and I have that " Misery loves company" feeling, I can say or do things that I'm basically watching in the third person, and just disappointed with myself, but I'll do anything for a laugh or a hint of approval. I'm turning 30 soon and I've never been to a doctor to be diagnosed with anything, although I think I should now, its a problem, especially with my emotions.
Growing up as a girl with ADHD I wanted to be loud and talk to my classmates during class soooo badly but the anxiety of getting in trouble or being a "problem child" was so overpowering that I would sit silently and doodle or stare into space in order to not feel like I was going to explode. When I got diagnosed at like 12 or 13 years old, I didn't have any coping skills and my schoolwork suffered really badly because I pretty much went to school and absorbed nothing due to my inattention. I know late diagnosis for girls is pretty common and it really sucks that no one knew how to help me until I was pretty much out of middle school. By working on self confidence, coping skills and organization with my therapist and Learning Center facility at my school I have been able to do fairly well in high school, but it is really painful because it feels almost "too late" because my foundations are not strong and hold me back when it comes to simple math, grammar, and spelling (see also my dyslexia).
I almost relate! I mean I was diagnosed really young but I was never given proper aid in my school, even though my parents informed my school. Now Im in college, everything feels too late for me with my grades because I am so bad at keeping up my grades. My brain feels like it absorbs such a limited amount of info
It's never too late! I wasn't diagnosed until college, because, even though I'm a boy, I had anxiety just like you. All through middle school and high school, I felt so out of place, because I would be staring off into space and then I wouldn't know what was happening around me. No matter when we get diagnosed, we're always going to have a lot to work on, but just like you wish you had been diagnosed in middle school instead of high school, I wish had been diagnosed in high school instead of now. It sounds like you have some great resources at school, and if you decide to go to college you can start practicing the techniques you'll need to do well in the much harder college classes!
When I was a kid I had to check my backpack multiple types before I went to bed and now I don’t check it one bit
Katelyn Tanaka I have ADHD and anxiety and I try to be a positive advocate for young children and adolescents with ADHD/autism my channel is Mollys mayhem! I talk about my own personal experiences with ADHD and anxiety and autism... I hope you join my journey xxxI
Internet Clown I have ADHD and anxiety and I try to be a positive advocate for young children and adolescents with ADHD/autism my channel is Mollys mayhem! I talk about my own personal experiences with ADHD and anxiety and autism... I hope you join my journey xxxx
Can everyone else with Adhd and short term memorization issues agree that the scariest thing at the start of school years is the getting to know each other game where you have to memorize everyone elses name and repeat it to the class. I hate it because I'm terrible at it. I'm a junior in highschool and we still do that horrid game.
Lee Snyder I did that in Spanish and almost had a panic attack because we also had to say it in Spanish and I couldn’t even remember it in English
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Holy shit... this sounds aweful.... I am so glad we got name plaketts at the start of each class with a new teacher... up to 13th grade.
@@aqua_459 I was friends with people that I had to asked their name every day because I could not remember it for half a year... and longer.
Thankfully they just thought I was quirky, not rude or desinterested.
@@hannajung7512 Honestly I am so glad to not be in highschool anymore. I'm now a freshman in college and am having a great time with good people. I don't have to ever play those awful memorization games and I have never been happier about that lmao
I was diagnosed at a very young age but my parents never educated me on ADHD. I’ve never had medication or any support. Now in quarantine I am watching videos about ADHD and learning I’m not dumb or abnormal! Idk how to describe the sense of relief knowing other people go through the same things.
Me too! I was diagnosed around 13 and also with bipolar (which was wayyy off) so my mom disregarded everything the psychiatrist had said. I'm just now rediscovering this
I was diagnosed at 4 years old. My mum did her very best, and I got a lot of help from people within the medical field during my childhood. Still struggle as an adult tho
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I COMPLETELY UNDERSTAND. I feel like people are going to ask me "why are you happy that you have ADHD?" and I don't know how to say "well everything I do wrong made me feel like I was broken but now I know its not me being broken, its me being different, and now I'm relieved."
As a girl I struggled a lot with the inattentiveness. In class I would almost always be in my own world. The teachers always had their classes set up based on short term memorization, so I just got really good at that and breezed through k-12 allowing the problem to go unnoticed. College has been absolutely terrible though because it isnt set up the same way, that's what made me notice I may have an issue.
I have ADHD and anxiety and I try to be a positive advocate for young children and adolescents with ADHD/autism my channel is Mollys mayhem! I talk about my own personal experiences with ADHD and anxiety and autism... I hope you join my journey xxx
This is exactly the same for me. I graduated 3rd in my class, then dropped out of college twice.
Dude…I always thought that was just normal in people and I didn’t think any of the ADHD symptoms I relate to was even a symptom and was just normal in everyone 😵💫 I need to see a doctor to see if I get diagnosed or not
This is such a helpful channel. I'm a wife and mother and my husband and daughter both have adhd. It really helps to learn more about how it affects them.
My parents literally don't believe in ADHD. They believe that it's just an excuse for parents to meditate their kids.
I was diagnosed with ADHD at 37 years old, and you telling me about your college experience reminded me of mine. I would procrastinate on projects until the last minute. This is why I gave up on my Architecture major and went into urban planning. I also remember a time I completely forgot my final college writing portfolio was due at the end of the year on the bus. In a panic in the hallway, I hobbled together old drafts I did previously and submitted them. Not only did I get an A, but the college writing professor asked me if it was ok to use one of my college writing portfolio items as a teaching example for other classes. I always just squeaked by. Procrastination followed by intense pressure to perform.
When I was a kid in school I was definitely very easily distracted. I would even play with my pencils lol
GoranAkuto I’m still in school and I stick pins in my trousers if I have one or a pencil 🤣
Ima be honest same lol
That don’t mean u have adhd
Ha same.
Welp... I’ve been showing both girl and boy symptoms... that’s great...
Me too 😅 like I said it's only the moat common in each, lots of people show both symptoms
I have all the symptoms lmao, literally all
Colleen’s Cookie I have ADHD and anxiety and I try to be a positive advocate for young children and adolescents with ADHD/autism my channel is Mollys mayhem! I talk about my own personal experiences with ADHD and anxiety and autism... I hope you join my journey xxx
Most people have aspects of both. And keep in mind... It's rarely a physiological difference that causes most of these gendered differences in presentation for these disorders. It's socialization, first and foremost. Little girls and boys are getting socialized to their gender stereotypes from before year one. The way adults treat a baby changes based on both culture and gender, this is why kids show different brain patterns across countries from a WAY younger age than you'd expect.
@@MollysADHDMayhem Oh wow! That’s cool. I subbed to your channel!
Finally. A channel I can relate to 1000%👏🏻👏🏻
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I’ve talked to my doctor about my concerns of possibly having ADHD (it’s taken me 6 years to speak up ab this, I’m now 18yrsold) and I’m not diagnosed yet but I’ll be speaking to my doctor soon about it again. I relate to a lot of everything you mentioned in this video and once I figure out my brain and get a diagnosis, i think I would feel very relieved whether it be adhd or something else. Thank you for your videos, you’re doing amazing! 💗
Can you tell me about it? I’m 17 and got an appointment next week about it. I feel very nervous
How do I get a appointment with a doctor? ( I'm 15 my family doesn't have a family doctor)
I guess im super lucky as i was diagnosed at 8 and i am a girl and i have both sides i didnt know ADHD could cause my social anxiety and my self esteem
I just discovered your channel, and I find your videos very interesting (and comforting)! I was diagnosed very recently (I'm 25): my anxiety was masking a lot of symptoms. But as a child, they were more like those associated with boys! The fact is that society is much less accepting of a girl who talks fast and loud, moves all the time, and is disorganized... For a long time I thought I was just a tomboy who had to learn to behave like a "real lady" hahaha x)
Emilie Mercier I know! I’m 18 and I’m really thinking about seeing a doctor because I’m pretty positive I have ADHD.
Was it scary seeing a doctor about a diagnosis as an adult?
@@Teddy_Iz_Bri First, I went to a psychologist for my anxiety, because it was overwhelming. It turned out that she was specialized in ADHD, and she put me on the right direction as the sessions went on (several months).
I have not passed the "official tests" yet (in France, only psychiatrists are allowed to do so...). ADHD is just starting to be recognized in France, so finding a specialized professional helped me a lot! She never judged me, and she linked my discomfort and difficulties to the symptoms: it's very guilt-relieving. :)
Now I'm in a phase where I'm learning to notice the symptoms in my daily life and adapt to them in a healthy way. I would probably take the official tests some day, but I want to try without treatment for now, see how it goes (maybe it is a bit dumb, but... meh ^^).
I am sorry, my answer is a bit long T.T I hope it's not too out of line.
Oh my gosh, I completely relate to this. I felt like more of a boy when I was younger, always competing with them for attention. Eventually after puberty I did enjoy more feminine things, but still have a loud, active personality.
Me too..
I’m not diagnosed with adhd but I had random ad for adhd symptoms in girls and I clicked on it and I instantly recognized alot of the symtoms and it was kinda crazy bc i just thought thats how everyone thinks but apparently not so im going to a doctor to see if i have adhd :) kind of scared tho
I have adhd and it CAN be disciplined if you instill willpower and mental discipline through good habits at a young age
Adhd is a gift not a curse you just have to learn how to utilize it correctly
I could barely sit still in elementary school; had to be put in a chair during class time because I couldn’t sit still on the carpet
I’m 20. I felt so lost for the past six years, and now it seems like everything is coming together.
And attentiveness. 100%. I can’t pay attention to anything, or focus on something for longer than five minutes. I’m also inside, in my room, all day every day pretty much. Yeah, we’re in quarantine, but what about before that? It’s like a day goes by, and I don’t even notice it.
4 years, four different antidepressants. Nothing is working. I thought I was just unmotivated, and when I brought that up, I was told I was just depressed. Which I was, but now I’m not so sure that’s the only thing. I know I could be doing better in school, and I know I could be doing so much. I have so many great ideas, but I can’t follow through for the life of me even though I desperately want to.
I was speaking to a close friend of mine, and she was actually the one who said that I might have ADD/ADHD. She has it herself, and has been on Adderall since she was 13. I can’t believe I’ve never thought of that. I think I’m going to schedule an appointment with a psychiatrist.
Anyway, this actually has something to do with what the video is about. I remember when I was younger, people would always talk about how my brother was the 80 HD one, and how I was so calm and collected. I wasn’t, but they couldn’t see that though. Makes sense. Also, my mom was a meth addict before I was born, so Her views on ADHD medication are very strong. I know that’s why my brother never got medicated, but I don’t want to be like him. He’s not doing so hot in life. He was also Never taught how to cope with it, and seeing how as I’m not diagnosed, I haven’t either. I just feel like I need to do something, but I don’t think my family would approve.
I'm glad you are finding your way! This is brand new to me, day 2 actually. I'm 22 so if you ever wanna a support friend let me know I'm seeking out lol
I really think i have adhd. But i dont know how to tell people. I am even afraid of telling my parents because im imagining the worst possible scenarios in my head. Someone please help?
hey! i'm a 20 year old girl who was just diagnosed with adhd, and watching your videos has helped me learn so much! I had no idea that a lot of the bottled emotions etc. were a sign of the adhd. I just starting treatment and I'm very glad to report that i'm already noticing such a big difference and i'm so glad to have found your channel to learn more. keep up the good work :)
i fit nearly all of these and i have also been asked mulitple times if i have adhd. This has really made me think about it and past the year my school work and just work in general has been really bad. to this day i have not been able to absorb any of the stuff im being told in class and i wouldnt pay attention because of my innatention to the subject. I have never really commited to a group project or socialising, I have alot of anxiety and very low self esteem, i have been took out of class's and given detentions because of my lack of work and focus. At random points of the day i can go from screaming with joy to complete anger, i often have panic attacks due to just this huge wave of sadness coming over me when im just fine. I zone off alot during conversations if im not interested and i cant really commit to anything unless its something im going to enjoy, where i usually sit there for hours on end doing something i enjoy. i get in trouble alot because i cannot complete homework, i do online homework but i would be a minute in and i would immediately be scrolling on instagram or anything else. I have also shown that i have an immediate desire to do something i like the idea of, for example i might want to buy a new phone case and i would straight away go online and order one. I also find a really big angression and annoyment if i cant do the idea i had thought of. i have a strong feeling that i might have adhd and i would love to go to a doctor about it so i can get stuff done to benafit me, however i am scared of telling my parents of the possability i might have adhd, considering what they have said to me in the past- that negativity has latched onto me and its really stressing me out that i might have adhd. any advice or help with seeking help would be amazing and i would be highley grateful. took me alot to write this all out ngl
Bro i have the symptoms of both, i dont rlly want to ask my parents to take me to the doctors though bc they will just think im being silly.
Ok now I have to watch the video again because I can't focus on the video I easily distracted on comments
I've had adhd and it's a struggle lol
I have adhd i have had it since i was 6 and i don't think my mother quite knows what adhd is but i can't take the meds because they make me sick or depressed so idk what to do with that but its great see someone talking about the truth of adhd
Thanks :) I'm sorry that the meds have such a bad effect on you! I have tons of other videos that talk about other coping strategies that might help you
bro this is so true im a girl and have ADHD 😢
My people! I found my people!!
I am going to the doctor to see if I have adhd but my dad thinks adhd isn't real but my mum say she doesn't know but my parents said even if you do have it nothing is changing in school or at home
Wow that's me😥BUT I am Strong‼💯 I AM going to find my Superpower with my ADHD‼💯🥰 thank you😊 for taking your time and putting these out for me and others, To understand ourselves it really does help‼💯 thank you🥰
The more angry I am, the harder it is to think. The more angry I am, the more my brain races and I can’t control anything that I do. So I might be hurting others verbally.. or physically.
And immediately after.. "what? I didn't mean that, I was just trying to say... OK it's in the past, let's have fun"
Is it possible to have mild ADD? Because my symptoms aren’t awful but I’m not normal...?
I've read through a bunch of comments and I relate a scary amount. I know I've been diagnosed with executive functioning disorder and I might have a form of disgraphia. Now I'm sure I have ADHD or ADD because this explains a lot.
what if I'm a child and I'm too scared to tell my parents because I think that they'll say I'm overreacting?
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Looking back on my childhood idk how I wasn’t diagnosed sooner. I was always talking in class. Playing with toys in my desk, and if the teacher took those away I would play with pencil shavings. And I always had to sit in the back of class (not very helpful) so I always was standing and doing random shit in class.
I was diagnosed with adhd very young but it was never delt with i had no idea alot of these was because of my adhd
Okay, I’m eleven.
I took this test that he had, said I have adhd. I have all the symptoms male and female! I don’t know if I actually have it, I took another test and it said yes but I have no idea what to do. I’ve been the problem child since I was born, pretty much. Everyone says I’m smart, my grades say otherwise. I never think before I act and got detention in third grade because I punched the annoying kid. I don’t know how to tell my mom or talk to her about this, because I don’t think she’ll believe me
Somebody send help
I have a question. How do you do math? I do it in a super out of the box way it can make it easier sometimes and harder others
I'm a male and I have never been diagnosed with ADHD, however I display less of the hyperactivity symptom and MANY of the inattentiveness and memory symptoms. My number 1 report card comment in school was "He is easily distracted", literally every report card had that and I would be off in my own world or chewing a pencil or doodling on my page. I still do that sort of stuff at work and I always need something available to play with (post it note, tape, metal tye).
i love ur videos❤️
Thanks! 😊
I think my symptoms got overlooked in this way even though/maybe because I'm a trans woman. I didn't know why I kept spacing out during class, why I couldn't keep up with the teacher and write enough of the important information. I had to either listen and remember or take notes and absorb nothing during class. Lots of social anxiety, not a lot of friends, as well as acting out in ways that made people think I was weird/stupid and sometimes got me in trouble. Frequent nervous/fidgety behaviors too, like tapping pencils, clicking pens, bouncing my foot. At one point I was obsessed with trying to solve a Rubik's cube for the first time, I brought it to every class one day and ignored every lecture trying to finish it. Finally towards the end of the day, I was in history class and I did it! I was so elated that I blurted out and interrupted the teacher's lecture, "Oh my god! I finally solved it!" One of the kids congratulated me, then the teacher said, "That's great, you can put that on your resume when you're older: solved rubik's cube during history class in 11th grade."
Anyway, my symptoms weren't the typical hyperactive stuff for the most part but when that hyperfocus kicks in it's like I'm possessed.
I am a transgender male and I am a junior in highschool. I was diagnosed with Adhd in elementary school and I never really knew how Adhd affected me as I thought it was sort of just a normal thing. Until like middle school and highschool I really realized how terrible I am at socializing in a way. I enjoy spending time with friends and talking to them, but some days it seems I have a million things to say all at once and instead I stay quiet. My adhd causes me to be very fidgety and impulsive and I have several bad habits such as nail biting. I have hyper thinking where I cannot stop thinking I guess, which my mom has told me isn't normal and I never really noticed that other people are able to just like slow down their thinking (sounds kind of boring though). I like to think though and it's my favorite hobby. Anyways though as a transgender male, I have a mainly a male brain just it's wired differently and it's attached to the wrong body. I've joked with my friends before that I was very unlucky for the brain I have as I have dyslexia, dyscalculia, adhd, and I'm transgender. Although I don't mind really because all I've known is being me. Anyways I'm glad I can somewhat relate to someone else in the comments. This is a very unorganized comment as I just went with whatever I thought to write.
@@leesnyder1112 Yep, if there's one thing I know about adhd it's that we sure do all have a lot in common. I loved to socialize but I couldn't do it well in large groups, and loud environments made me shut down after a while. Being at school was kind of lonely because I just couldn't interact and socialize the way everyone else did. I constantly felt like I was being left out, whether deliberately or not, and that nobody cared to hear what I had to say because when I did manage to participate in social groups I'd get really self-conscious and worry if I'd said something weird when I don't get the reaction I was expecting. So yeah, much of the time I'd be a passive observer, constantly trying to think of ways to participate but not being sure when it was appropriate to interject, not to mention how badly it stung every time I wasn't heard or was ignored.
0:34 Yeah, okay, come over here, I don't mind.
As a girl with adhd, i feel really different
I’m pretty certain I’ve got inattentive adhd, when I was a teenager and really struggling with a nervous breakdown due to my projected career going up in flames because of injury, my doctor asked me to make an appointment, I turned up and she said “I’ve been reading this book (Women with ADD, Sari Solden) it sounds just like you!” I took the book and put post it’s highlighting everything that rang true, it was full of post it’s with notes on them. I went back a week later and showed her. She agreed. That was that. She never referred me, so I just took the book and put it on my shelf and forgot about. Until life happened again I was struggling even more with the things I struggle with anyway. So I turned to google and there seemed to me answers and a light bulb of recognition sparked. Hopefully once lockdown is over I can go get referred to the local adhd unit. I’m furious with myself for putting it off for over a year and now found out from a friend in the system she’s been waiting years for diagnosis since her son was diagnosed.
I dont want to self diagnose because people hate thats but i have most of the symptoms (girl) and my daydreaming/zoning out was that bad in primary that i got nicknamed “the daydreamer” by everyone and now whenever i zone out they sometimes say the daydreamer is back
It feels good to space out, does that make sense?
I got dignoised at 9 but that was because i was getting checked for autsuim but i said i didn't have it and the doctor said it was more adhd then autsim, i think the reason why i got dignoised with adhd instead of add was because im both
this made think, do i have adhd or am i just a loud introvert?
oh anxiety and depression were mentioned... haha 😅
self-esteem too ALSKSLSDJDJ
me as a little girl with ADHD i would stare off into space not paying attention being losing things miss placing things and being hyperactive and impulsive jumping and running around climbing not siting still and talks excessively cant wait my turn in games and talking restless acts as like i'm driving by a motor ETC. I got diagnosed at 3 years old and i'm going to be 28 years old in 5 months and i'm getting put back on meds.
I got diagnosed with ADHD when I was 9 because I was being dignosed with autism because I did some stuff that my 1 minute older twin brother does but he can’t talk and I knew I didn’t have it because I can talk and it basically said I had adhd instead of autism and yes I’m aware that people are able to talk and have autism but when I was 9 I didn’t know another autistic person until I was 12 and I show sighs from boys and girls with my adhd
I am 28 I have ADHD I have it’s a long time when I was 5 and I do Laugh out loud sometimes no reason . I worried a lot and I cried when I’m super stressed .
I'm 15 I've watch a shit ton of vids on this and holy hell I had all of these girls n boys( more so on the boys side) and yet I still haven't been diagnosed, my family's doctor retired. I don't know who to talk to about it and my parents don't believe that I have it. It's really frustrating.
I’m not diagnosed with adhd but a lot and I mean A LOT of the symptoms I am seeing in my daily life. My whole school life I’ve always been the “distracting others and easily distracted “ and most of what they mean I assume is bc I’m always up, moving, talking. Like damn I go to write something but my hands too shakey and bouncing my leg or just moving something helps me steady my hand.
And it’s not like I don’t try to sit down n do my work but fuck dust particles is all it takes for me to go on a mad thought journey or even just dissociate for large chunks of time
As a girl with adhd ı have social anxiety and ı think adhd in Girls kinda has more emotion problems???? But ı might be wrong
Thank you my bestfriend she has adhd and my boyfriend too:)
I talk a lot and I don’t always like it
From me clicking on the video to 2:34 me: Huh what were you saying?
See I display the more male symptoms. I think I always have. I think I was lucky in that way to be diagnosed quite young.
What are the symptoms of ADHD hyperactive type for girls? As I have been showing both inattentive and hyperactive types. I am also in the processing of getting a proper diagnosis. I am also in university and I feel like if I have to work extra hard at coping skills as well as schoolwork.
hah, i don’t know if i have adhd but i just wanna know if this is a symptom
when i’m trying to talk and there’s a video playing in the background, i can’t talk because i’m more focused on the video in the background. is that a symptom?
I have it
I told my mom that all the things she knew I struggled with were signs of Inattentive ADHD, so we went to a "professional" who made me do two types of tests. One of them scored me based on if I had signs of it to me. This one was obviously outdated, they made ADHD and ADD two different things, meaning anyone with slightly mild Combined ADHD would never get diagnosed. I got way more points then normal people, but 1 point off from being diagnosed with ADD and 2 points off from ADHD. That means normal people get a score of 1-2, to get diagnosed you need 8+, and I got 7 twice. Then, the second test, was giving me fun puzzles to solve and seeing if I did anything like tapping my leg or staring at a wall in the middle of a puzzle??? But that's bad because 1. fun puzzles are fun, therefore it's gonna trigger the hyperfocus part and not the unfocused part that they are specifically looking for 2. I don't bounce my leg or tap my fingers so that's why I can't have ADHD, that makes sense 3. I'm intelligent and did well on the puzzles (that were entertaining so I was hyperfocused) so intelligent people can't have ADHD; as well as many many other problems. However, the paper quizzes from art one made me diagnosed with social anxiety. Apparently social anxiety has nothing to do with not wanting to talk to friends and more like thinking everything you said to your friend was wrong and now you ruined your friendship because you yawned while they were talking. Who knew? Not me obviously, the school systems don't teach you about mental health.
Is adhd genetic A lot of my family have it?
That is one factor
"There's also lack of focus"
Me, who's had to rewind like 10 times already because I got distracted by the way my arm can move, bend and rotate: **laughs nervously*
I got distracted by my sister's chewing while typing this and didn't finish😂 i had to delete it and retype it all cause I can't edit comments I've already sent and while retyping it I zoned out, wondering if some animals want to be humans seeing as people always want to be animals
I have all the symptoms in boys and I am a boy and I can type really fast is this something I bounce off the walls and I get angry and distracted easily loool
Ok so I’m 11 and I think I have ADHD,
I CAN NOT focus on a book, *reads* mind: “oh oh I have a croissant for lunch” eyes: *actually reading it but brain not remembering it bc thinking abt something else* then the teacher “just read it again” bro I’ve read the same page 34 times I don’t think ima remember it
*teacher explains what the activity is* Eyes: following the teacher watching what we need to do
Mind: “oh no that poster is falling down”
Body: 💃 (moving side to side)
*goes back to table* me: “___ I blanked out what do we need to again? Sorry 😢”
Them: “AGAIN!” or “JUST FOCUS!” (Not understanding after I’ve told them multiple times)
Me: I’m sorry 😭
*trying to do the activity at the table*
My right leg: 💃 or ⬆️
…………………………….⬇️
Friend: “stop bouncing your leg i can hear it and it’s annoying”
Me: *keeps on doing it but trying to do it quieter*
Them: “STOP I CAN’T FOCUS” *changes spots*
Me: 😭
Me: “mum can you test my for ADHD I really think I have it”
Mum: no you were born normal and you are normal just stop”
*couple days later*
Me: “mum can you just please test me “ *explains why I think that*
Mum: “just focus”
Me: 🥺 I wish I could
*different day*
Me: “ok I just have trouble learning and I wanna know if I have it so I can get help, I can’t just focus, I try REALLY hard to yet my brain doesn’t want me to, so can you just please test me if I don’t, I’ll drop it completely”
Mum: “what do you think it’s cool or something!?!?!!!!”
Me: 😭 mind 💭No I just wanna be normal💭😭😭
Reasons
Blanking out ALL THE TIME
Can’t focus
Leg likes to go weeeeee
I forget VERY EASILY tell me something important and I’ll forget immediately
I’m VERY hyper
Problem paying attention
Short attention span
I talk a lot
Disorganised
Others but can’t think of them
I’m done if you read all that tell me if u think I have adhd
Comment yes or no (if lots of yes ima try and get my mum to take me to the doctor to test)
(Every single word is true)
Thx for reading here’s a cookie 🍪
growing up. I was annoyed with myself. that's how distracting I was, I feel it still when I'm at work and I have that " Misery loves company" feeling, I can say or do things that I'm basically watching in the third person, and just disappointed with myself, but I'll do anything for a laugh or a hint of approval. I'm turning 30 soon and I've never been to a doctor to be diagnosed with anything, although I think I should now, its a problem, especially with my emotions.
hi
Ah yes all of them
😁
Just saying..
Instead of saying gender could you maybe say sex instead?
Either I have ADD or feminine ADHD... they both are a burden lol
What’s feminine adhd ?
As a girl with adhd ı have social anxiety and ı think adhd in Girls kinda has more emotion problems???? But ı might be wrong