Follow the beat of your own drum. People are dumb. Parents can be dumb too. I get the need to be told not to cry and be strong (I experienced it myself as a girl since I was taught to toughen up as the oldest), but parents forget to explain the when and why. They just don't want others to prey upon your weaknesses or be too emotionally swayed. It is perfectly normal to show emotion and express it around those you love and care for because hiding it will only harm relationships. Just don't freely show vulnerability because there are many bad people out there. You just have to learn when it should be expressed. Mabye, write a journal, analyze, and reconsider what you have been taught. Words are not law. Only you can choose how to turn out. Don't blame others. Fix those issues yourself because in the end, number 1 (you) comes first, but do not become closed off to new ideas. Follow your heart, but don't neglect your mind and gut. 😊
as a girl I thought it was unfair that girls are stereotyped as more emotional than boys and boys aren't supposed to cry :( . I think it's unfair tbh even as a girl
Right, men and women both perpetuate the negative stereotype that “men don’t cry” when they shame their bros or brothers for being vulnerable. Its a strength, not a weakness
Ah, take my advice and ignore those people. Life will soon teach them a thing or two about emotions the hard way. It always goes like that. You're your own being. You shouldn't always listen to what others are saying. Especially kids. You know what's best for you.
As a teenage girl in the group of “weird kids” at school, something that’s pissed me off the most is the reactions of others when a boy does something vs when a girl does the exact same thing. If a boy does something obnoxious, they get those giggles and laughs from girls and his friends, yet when a girl does it she gets made fun of and called weird. It’s such a double standard Edit: Lol why are people telling me to speak for myself? Is that not what I'm doing, speaking about my own experience?
@dollguts9801 something like singing a song as a joke, clapping when they're not supposed to at something, making weird faces. Honestly stuff that I find annoying too, but no one seems to care when guys do it but it's always a big deal when a girl does
@@rocksyumyum9244Bro literally! I’ve been called “weird af” even though the dude that told me that is always doing the most randomness stuff in class lol. Lets just be our self honestly:)
@@rocksyumyum9244 yea this is a very naive comment, as a straight up male i can tell you no boy is seen as funny for being obnoxious; young men who act like this are seen as people incapable of doing literally anything.
actually girls don’t get puberty any earlier than boys do. Everyone hits puberty at different times, while it is possible for some girls to get it maybe at 9 or a little earlier, it doesn’t mean they get it faster.
@@matthue1 you know what math is? On average,girls start puberty earlier than boys,average is when you add all the numbers and divide it by the number of the numbers that you add,and biologically speaking girls start puberty earlier than boys,I know some might start earlier or later but still 2 twins of the same one female one male with the same diet and exercise the female will probably start around 9-10 years old while the male will start around 11-12 years old
I appreciate how respectful you were covering this topic ,some channels are like “girls are better “ or “boys are better” and this channel is refreshing to see
I feel like the problem is if a boy does something wrong people just say “Boys will be boys” and let it slide. A boy bullied my little sister, hitting her and calling her names and this was the pastors son. And his parents did nothing and said it’s just how boys play and they should just get along and be friends. Just because boys can play more rough doesn’t mean they should be excused from the consequences of their actions. The issue is with society and parents imo
Thing is, even thought I’ve seen people discuss this in multiple places across the internet I haven’t, at least not where I live, seen this. In fact, I’ve only seen the exact opposite. There was this one example of this one girl with anger issues in my school who got pissed off at someone 3 years younger (she was 15/16, the boy was 12/13) because he threw a basketball and missed and it hit her and broke her glasses. She chased him across the whole school, not in a playful way, but in genuine aggression and she was trying to fuck him up for it. When she got caught by a teacher, I don’t know exactly what happened but she was in lessons the next day, probably only got like a detention or something. I must add that the boy she was chasing was legit running for his life and he was screaming the whole time, not playfully, but in genuine fear. But then there was this other example of one time when it was summer there was some boys with water guns and they squirted each other with the water and were playing. I kid you not, as soon as a teacher even just SAW them holding the water guns (tiny see through plastic toys) they stormed up to them, yanked the guns and sent them to isolation for a day or two. There’s of course way more examples I can say but no one wants to read that. Essentially, what you said about boys actions being undermined may be true, but I have not experienced it. Ever.
@@connectionterminated7012Its probably due to the halo effect. If someone has a good trait, like being good looking, their bad traits are easily ignored. As example, most people love their parents, so they blur out some critical actions of them. What Im saying is, is that girls in school get better treatment than boys from teachers, due to them behaving better and listening during lessons. Its a real thing btw that girls have it easier in school, but guys have it easier later in work. Both are equally wrong and should be talked more about, since there are still many guys saying feminism isnt needed and that its just them hating guys and stuff (sure it is in some cases) and since theres no such thing as ,,maleism" even tho its needed aswell. Well in the end we wouldnt have all these problems if we we're more understanding and overthink.
@@pizzamen7818 this is absolutely true. In my school, some of the most best students are also some of the worst ones in terms of behaviour and yet they usually get seen as the same as every other student, if not better, because of that trait. I’m talking like being straight up bitches to some teachers and yet they are overall seen as good students. Aswell, I can see what you mean how guys may have it easier later on in life, and it is actually a valid reason to why I have not seen such as I am still only 16 and have only finished school recently and, again, I agree with you saying they both need to be addressed, because even though they are not a cause of sexism and rather human nature, they should still have things in place to stop such views from happening
Well the boys will be boys thing, usually is a good attitude, not a bad one. It's allowing kids to be kids and to resolve things amongst themselves. What kills this is when you try to intervene too much.
I have moments when I can be mature, & moments when I'm immature. I also have moments when laziness makes me not wanna do any sort of work, & I have to force myself to do it.
Or maybe you have abit of that testosterone hormone, women have that too but not much, and too much of that hormone in girls cause mental, physical, and emotional problems.
Ngl same I often get distracted and bursting out on situations, and whenever my interests are being mentioned my attention to it is faster than speed of light.
@@oceanexblve884 If you are struggling read this~ I know I’m young but I would just like to say that, In 7th grade I was in a very dark place. I couldn’t feel much emotion and I had thoughts of revenge and the other things. But God saved me, he gave me the people in my life and he showed himself to me. Even in my darkest days he was there with me, he never left me. One day while I was in bed I started to pray with my hand go the sky and I felt something holding my hand. At that very moment I it was him. I repent of all of the sins I have committed. I am ready to begin a new life with him. There is still time go repent love one another and believe in Christ for he will forgive you❤️ He helped me in hard and he will help you too:). Just pray!
I feel the same. I'm 18 for 2 months now and i'm already dealing w so much, is so stressful... Not only do i feel i grew up quickly bcs i got boobs at 11 smth (thankfully they stopped growing), and period at 13 but i still 'act like a kid' as my mom says and idc, i feel comfortable and i'm just having my own fun and distractions from the adult years i'm going to face...
I knew I wasn’t just imagining stuff. As a girl in middle school, I’ve always wondered why the boys would be yelling and running around making stupid jokes. They literally look like little kids.
Idk im pretty chill for the most part unless we're 7hours in school and the last class is history. I just cant help it anymore. None can. It just activates my monkey brain.
damn as a girl i wish i could multitask, have great attention span and not get so easily distracted by the littlest details, but hey at least im very empathetic🤷♀
As someone who worked a lot with teenagers, i have to say that the "mature" girls are just more adult to the outside, as soon as a situation gets out of their hand, they are back to little girl mode asap.
As someone with a sister and having seen a similar situation I can definitely agree with this, although I think boys have this but to a lesser degree. One example is when a classmate slapped another one to where his nose started bleeding, and the girl who was first chosen by the teacher refused because she was “not good with blood”. Another boy had to go with the guy whose nose was bleeding.
This was exactly what I was looking for, plus everyone really forgets that girls at this age are extremely petty and do insane stuff just a lot less noticeable. If a girl hates another girl, they’ll spread rumors and try to get their friends to bully them in a less noticeable form, if a guy hates another guy they’ll fight it out which well you know gets the attention of everyone.
No cuz the girls at my school are so immature they wanna fight or arugue whenevr sumthin happens the boys suripsingly dont sometiems they do but not really
Ngl I think it’s just mothers and society babying them, since birth women are constantly being told, be more mature, be more respectful, be more this, be more that. I mean for y e a r s. We are told that *we* need to cover up for other men. So we learned to do these things for safety, we were cooking, cleaning, taking care of siblings well before brothers, guy friends, knew how to make their own food. I’ve been told my whole life (as a women) you must excel in everything or you will not be taken seriously so I did, I needed to be smarter.
100%. This is the comment I was looking for. Although some things might come more naturally for the different sexes I think the way you're brought up and society impacts most of it. A boy raise in a household where he's allowed to show emotions and encouraged to be empathetic will be so. Same the other way around
@@sunflowers_wren oh 110% there will be outliers that men raised in a healthy home with very little for (I hate this word but it is what it is) the patriarchy has little influence over the members will raise good and self sufficient men (and women)
I just remember a quote I read a long time and if I'm not bad, it was a scientist and feminist who quoted that women are only taken serious when they're better or worst than men and unfortunately she has reason. As a women we have too much pressure to excel in everything we do and if isn't the case, we always down ourselves and even with feminism this not changed at all cause corporations and mass media got and transformed the meaning of empowerment in order to teach girls and women they aren't valid if not excel in everything they done and it's specially harmful for neurodivergent girls, saying these by experience, I'm a ADHD woman
Even physically? Edit: bitches im tired, I didn’t watch the vid so I was also thinking they (the vid) meant physically as well so I asked what the comment meant ig the phrasing is weird
Young fem-adult here, I still have my sophomoric humor in me, and yeah, I can emphasize you gals are going through the weird phase like I had when I was your age. Hoho! Gyyaaattt!!!
@@xivering I didn’t watch the vid so I was also thinking they (the vid) meant physically as well so I asked what the comment meant ig the phrasing is weird
as a teen girl I really loved this video, and its really annoying when guys barely have an compassion at times- like for example in pe in our current unit if a guy swings a bat for baseball and misses multiple times no one says anything as soon as its a girl every guy is yelling at her- why do guys (at least at my school) think of girls as their ops????
I remember this one guy at my school. If he missed too many times on his team and the next day in a different team, the boys would always get mad at him for it, and it was just him! And the other boys who miss it don't happen to them and some to the girls. 😅
I also think part of what you described as being "natural" for either is partly due to the socialization of both. Like you said society expects different things of each gender from a young age which means each gender is developing the pathways which we see strengthened in one or the other from a young age due to societal expectations/upbringing from toys, and play to how they are taught to interact with others. Girls are typically taught from a young age to participate in more social activities but boys tend to be pushed to more physical activities. Girls are given more exposure to materials that teach emotional intelligence than boys and so on. How each turns out and grows up is likely a mix of both hormones/biology and socialization and each one likely plays some role in developing the other.
What I think when I hear this kind of argument is when did it all start and why? My thinking is that there would have had to of been a natural distinction between men and women for society to then dictate rules. And if that is the case why even assume it was nurture instead of nature?
I guess this explains why I had such a tough time making friends in middle and high school. As a pre-teen, I was still a kid who wanted to play tag and chase, while my female friends were the super social kind and not rarely disliked my lack of social skills and shyness. Meanwhile, the boys who were supposed to understand me were beggining to get all weird about atraction and all. In the big scheme of things, I couldn't be friends with either the girls or the boys... *sigh*
I would’ve loved to have a friend that would play tag with me in middle school 😭 it sucks that you couldn’t be friends with anyone in middle school but I hope you have some friends now :)
@@M155_M00nlight I have friends now :) and we drink together and get cuddly. Unfortunately school wasn't a blast for me. Thanks for caring!! I hope you are also doing ok
@@julialyra1310 I’m glad that you have great friends now! Anyways, I’m doing pretty good! I just feel a little lonely since I don’t really have many friends irl 😭 and the ones that I do have are friends from when I was younger that have grown up and now have different interests. It’s pretty awkward when we see eachother again since we don’t know what to talk about. It’s so easy making friends when you’re little! I kind of wish people can just walk up to some other person, talk to them, and become friends! 😭 Sorry for the long reply lol! Have a good day/night :)
@@M155_M00nlight You seem like a very heartwarming person. Sometimes it can be difficult to make friends if you're not used to it, but believe me... it gets easier everytime. Just a "hello, guys, how are you doing" can start a friendship in the right enviroment. Doing things you love and sharing time with others can spark friendships too, since you already have something in commom. But yeah, is just that easy. And friends will always (or almost always 😂) introduce their friends to you.
I was more mature than 95% of girls in middle and high school. It just caused me to be known as "lame" and "boring" at school, while the girls who were mature were always praised for being smart, especially by older male teachers which pissed me off the most.
As a boy i couldent help but feel bad knowing girls become smarter faster first before boys but as I matured now i now understood that boys and girls are in a different leauge of their own. There shouldnt be any comparison at all.
its not that they get smarter faster, its that they are FORCED to grow up faster, be it by their parents/teachers or other adults in their lives girls are expected to take care of boys at every stage in their life, even as TODDLERS
I bet there is an actual cult that literally has the exact names out there. There's gotta be a reason for why the fictional Assasin's Creed Assasins were called "The Brotherhood".
As a girl I always noticed we started maturing way earlier. I started puberty around 10-11 years old and got my first period at 11. My brother didn't start puberty until he was 12-13 years old. And when I was 12-13, I was at the peak of my hormones. He was just starting. I'm almost 17 now and I'm still in puberty a little bit. My brother is now 15 but he's still going through it.
I'm a boy, I know that girls mature quicklier, but I still think it's okay to be childish. That's why I like when people are both mature and play like little kids.
Well in my family, girls are trained to be civilized and domesticated from birth, while boys get to grow wild and are not expected to refine themselves until adolescence. By then they learn manners but are not as responsible and emotionally mature as the girls are at the same age. Girls are not allowed to break down or show anger because its a sign of weakness. Boys can show anger though, because for them its not weakness. Its masculine strength. I will not be training my children the way my family did me and my cousins. The tradition of toxic mental health and self destruction will not be upheld in my branch of the family tree.
I'm quite confused by many of the comments. It seems like everyone is just sharing their personal experiences. Because what you said almost exactly applies to boys as well. The whole boys must not break down they must be strong and stoic and no emotions while it's okay for women to cry or be angry or violent. That seems to happen a lot more, atleast in my experience. It's very subjective.
@@Orca_mammal most girls who become empathetic is ONLY for other girls, that’s why most of the women ignore mens pain and struggles and only talk about their FeEliNgS, women can’t comprehend the fact that men have struggles in their life too
Well, we can flip this and say that boys are not allowed to cry and get told the same thing. Both boys and girls face double standards, people just learn to grow up and deal with them. From my experience, when a girl gets mad, most of the time they yell, call each other names, or talk trash on social media, while boys, on the other hand straight up fight or kill eachother. The reason why I think it's more accepted is because, like you said, boys need to mature. Maturing as a boy means realizing that not every confrontation requires physicality, and this is something that can only be learned through experience and time. Overall, girls are often better at following rules while guys are not.
You might have ADHD yes, but its important to keep in mind everyone is different and not ever female is 100% of each trait he listed. One person might have more empathy than "book smarts" or the other way around. Its a spectrum, like everything else that relates to humans.
I feel like I'm constantly being told to work harder and be more mature. I have an older brother, and he's allowed to act like a little boy while I'm expected to act like an adult. It's a clear double standard. When my brother is sick, he gets sympathy and care: "Oh, my poor baby, you can stay home today. Do you want me to order you some food?" But when I'm sick, I'm told, "You're not sick. Get up. You need to be mature and act like it. No wonder you fail at everything you do. You're so lazy; I'm not letting you stay home." Girls are often expected to work harder to earn love and respect. In gender reveal videos, parents sometimes express disappointment when they're having a girl but celebrate when it's a boy. This attitude is similar to cultural expectations in places like China, where sons are seen as the future caretakers and pride of the family, while daughters are often just expected to marry and leave. In many cultures, men are valued more highly and seen as individuals, whereas women are often reduced to objects.
I don't know where you live but that seems quite rough. And to be honest in some aspect the reverse is true. Men who performs well are definitely seen as more important in traditional culture but there is still a lot of tradition where women are seen as very important due to their role as mothers and there are often codes and tradition and a certain empathy that are reserves to woman in many culture. Sadly there are some culture where women perceived value is extremely low and that's sad. Though the example you give a bove looks more to me like favoritism to the youger sibling than sexism but i don't know your family or culture
It's not a double standard in your house, maybe, but just because you're a girl and he's a guy doesn't mean that boys get special treatment. I'm a boy with a brother and a sister, and I have to deal with the same stuff. Sometimes it's just that your parents know you're the best of the bunch and want you to be the successful one. My sister and brother are way off track so my parents don't care. They want me to have high grades and be in shape for my benefit. It's just called being a parent.
This is so true. I had this argument with other kids in 3rd grade. I had a sudden growth spurt and started puberty quite early. Yet there's so many freshmen boys I know that are so short and lanky. I started at 8 years old.
@@ANIMATEDMEDICALLINES Very!!! Also, sorry for such a late response. But I had my first period at 10 years old. I started actually growing breast when I was 8. Really felt like it happened overnight 🥲
as an almost adult female I can confirm its because most of us are forced to grow up, and with periods happening at the lowest age i've seen 5-6 yrs it's kind of a given. Along with parental figures always telling us to grow up, act our age, etc. Especially with young women who started their periods early on in life, i've noticed quite a lot more in adults telling kids with periods to grow up more averagely than the ones who start at like age 12 and up. It's not all period based either, it also has to do with gender norms in some cultures, like in my culture (wayyy back in the day before I was even born) women do all the house work, take care of the kids, rarely get to have fun, and forced to dress a way that men (not all men) see fit. Some of the norms from the older standards still linger to this day. SOME guys are very childish along with everything else, someone has to be the adult sometimes. Though all in all good ass video dude!
first both men and woman go through double standards and have there own struggles, but The main reason for this is in general guys don't listen to the rules as much as girls do parents tell both girls and boys to mature but boys just don't listen and take time to learn from personal experience rather than being told, for example friend groups in general girls will listen to there friend groups or not even notice start to dress or have similar trends and act a certain way to not stand out which is why guys seem weird in middle school because they arent realizing people are changing and are not making fart jokes 24/7 get embarrassed and learn not to do it again woman learn from socializing/being told while men learn from experience.
Real most things I could agree on, but ehh I don’t think girls are cool and collected, most teenagers can be super damn annoying, they’re always crazy brother.
As a girl, personally I noticed myself maturing socially when I felt pressured to. In middle school during recess, boys would run around and play whatever game they could think of and girls would just stand there and scroll on their phones while talking about some kids who don't even go to the same school nor I know who they were. Of course I was bored and the only thing I could think about is how fun it must be with the boys. Still, I felt really uncomortable with the thought of trying to join in with them, like I'd be judged so I didn't. After a couple weeks of recesses like that, my need to participate in physical activity at random moments and play was gone. Tbh I'd rather just stand there and wait for recess to be over.
Same ngl, the guys in my school would be chasing eachother around, having fun, etc while the girls would just be gossiping and talking about boring things imo. I miss playing tag with my friends in elementary, must be really fun for the guys, if I were to do that now I'd be called a weirdo and probs immature as a girl since I'm no longer an elementary schooler, and like you said joining them as a girl would feel strange, and I'm quite socially awkward myself, which would make it even more uncomfortable. Cause of this I don't really get along much with both guys and girls at school, I don't fit in with both :/
Not really, according to multiple different studies, women biologically mature faster both physically and mentally. Men end up reaching the same level of maturity but it may take a bit longer.
One thing I think to note is how girl's strengths and weaknesses and boy's strengths and weaknesses complement each other. We need girls and boys to be different. And a side note that sisterhood that was mentioned didn't mention any of the downsides, like the fact the girls can be absolutely brutal to each other.
As a teenage girl, I feel like a weirdo 99% of the time bc I only learned stuff like socializing and working on conversations when I was 11 while the girls in my school learned it at 8. I ended up being a huge fan of science stuff, dinosaurs and bugs and a lot of my classmates consider me weird for that. I also never understood why my classmates hated eachother just bc they were different gender bc little me thought the only difference was where and how they pee :/
If you are referring to possibly maybe being transgender then okay, but if this video made you think that then no. This BS video is just more misogynistic garbage to sexualize girls and make them seem like a god like object. Don’t believe this BS. Little girls are just like little boys.
😂 desperate enough to be a man? Just because you are impulsive doesn’t mean you are a man, not all men are impulsive just like not all women like Barbie dolls.
As a girl my empathy is in literal ruins. Other than listening I can only give harsh comfort and brutal honesty which obviously just usually makes things worse. Then when I have breakdowns the comfort other girls provided me never helped, it couldn't tackle down my negative thoughts no matter how much they told me that I didn't let my team down or that Im good at other things (the problem was the thing I was raging and crying about was that I used to be decent at a certain sport but one day it was like I lost all the "talent" I had before and it kinda felt like losing my honour even if I didn't even had that sport as a hobby(I know I sound like Zuko from ATLA)) So this "good at empathy" thing is honestly very useless. This whole comforting I recieved in that situation just made it much much worse Wdym Im good at something else?! I also want to add this sport to that "something else" you speak of! So don't even go around telling me that I'll be fine with just the talent of drawing and horse riding when I want to "master" more things, I want more good qualities that you need to learn and is not a personality trait or the so called empathy
@jazmineszlari414 I give the truth but what I do is encouragement (eg. Your football skills are sloppy but don't worry practice with me a bit and we can work on your weak areas) break someone down so you can build them back up and reinforce them With you Don't give up try another way Because there's always room for you to improve at something you aren't as good at as you would like to be Literally believe in yourself If you want to do more do more Believe
@@jazmineszlari414 so i was brutally honest if the problem cause by themswlve but vice verca i will be conforting if the problem was out of their control
Exactly. It just feels completely half-hearted and ungenuine. Some things require harsh, blunt advice, that's gonna hit you like a fright train, but it'll get you through it.
I'm a male and I grew up emotionally mature, but also smart too. As a result i kinda became an outcast in my school... well not exactly, but I didn't really connect with other kids at my school, especially because I thought they were dumb, due to doing actions that were dumb obviously. I was basically more mature then rest of my classmates and kids at my school to the point I don't think I ever had friends, only aquntences.
same man. I self taught myself a lot of science in middle school, because I grew up surrounded with encyclopedias and documentaries. particularly I was very interested on climate science, and with all the media coverage climate change got during the early 2010's, I couldn't understand why my peers didn't care about climate change and ecology, it ended up driving a wedge between me and my peers due to the lack of common interests, and as a defence mechanism, I ended up acting really uptight and snobbish in school. That wedge turned into a ravine as we moved through school. And while all my school friends keep in contact with each other till this day, none of them speak to me anymore.
thats me now im in hs and have higher grades, play sports but don't do anything dumb or "fun" but problem with that is im seen as a lame so I don't have any real friends more like school buddies everyone knows my name but not me as a person, most girls date the immature guys even though most of the comments I seen have been bashing immature guys the same guys that go out parting drinking underage doing drugs driving hell cats 120mph down the high way are the same guys that have multiple girls in there snapchat haram its just funny to me how they complain about what they seem to like 🤣
I've just always assumed the reason girls "mature" faster, is just because of societal expectations. A point mentioned in the video. Most of the time, in families with both sons and daughters, daughters are the ones more strictly raised to not only help and support their parents, but the family as a whole. Something that's not expected of boys. Like, let's think of it: in a family, women (moms and daughters) are the ones who cook, clean, wash the dishes, mop the floors, do the laundry; washing everyone's clothes, also do the groceries, and most of the time, they're also the ones who help the younger kids/siblings with their homework. What do men do in a family? Take the trash. Fix electronics whenever they stop working (like tvs and computers), and that's something that only happens once in a blue moon. And if they try once and can't fix these electronics, they can take them to a professional who will. And do the groceries too, only if a woman has written them a shopping list. So, not even shopping is something they can do without a woman's help to tell them what the household needs and doesn't need. Parents usually put these harsher expectations on their daughters, cause they know that in the future, daughters are just more likely in general to stick up for and take care of their parents and other elderly or disabled members of the family, once their parents reach a certain age where they can't take care of themselves anymore. It's their daughters they'll be relying on, way more than their sons. So, that's why daughters are taught and "trained" from an earlier age how to act like adults. I know there’s cases of divorced parents where the father takes care of the children, so he has to pick up on all these skills and pass them on to their kids. Or cases of couples with only male children and 0 daughters, so they're forced to make their boys grow faster and teach them all the things, usually only a daughter would help with. And I know there's also plenty of cases of girls either abandoning their parents/not taking care of them when it's their turn to step up as young adults, so it's the sons who have to assume the role of caretakers for their elderly parents. But despite this, it doesn't change the fact that, families in most societies, rely on their daughters and put on them waaaay more pressure and expectations than they do their sons. Who just generally tend to have more free time to play and be kids/teens. It's also worth mentioning that parents also tend to be way more strict with their daughter's grades at school, than they do their son's grades. Like, for example, a 7 or 6.5 outta 10 is not an acceptable grade for a daughter, but it's fantastic and worthy of celebration for a son. These are all factors that combined together, lead to girls maturing faster. Families, the essential building blocks of societies, simply need their daughters way more than they need their sons. That's why girls usually can cook, or prepare some simple meals for the family in case the mother is busy or absent at the moment, as teenagers. Whereas boys don't learn how to cook till they move out, in which case they're forced to. Or sometimes there’s married men who can't cook yet, so if the wife decides to go visit some relatives for a couple days, they literally cannot feed their kids. It's in cases like these, where having an aunt, even if just one, on either side of the family tree, to step up and replace the mom while she's away, cause in some cases, the dad is that incompetent, is a blessing. And I'm talking from experience here. The moment I learned how to wash the dishes, so I could clean after my mom while she cooked, I was so young and short, I didn't even reach the sink, and needed to stand on a stool to do so. That's why I believe women mature faster than boys. Growing up their families need them way more than their brothers, who contribute little to nothing to the household. That is, unless they have only one sister who can't do everything alone and needs help. One sister, who is the baby of the family (the youngest one) so boys/brothers have to take over her work round the house till she grows up enough to wash the dishes. And unless the only sister or one of them is disabled in any way, thus requiring the boys to step up and help. But in cases of completely normal families, most of the time, it's the women who do everything to keep everyone alive and well-fed. That's why they're forced to mature faster, and age gaps between wives and husbands when they get married are significant, but still acceptable in some places round the world; simply cause the younger brides (like, in their early 20s), are expected to be as mature and smart (sometimes even more) than their grooms/husbands who tend to be in their 30s. Women are just that necessary, even if no one wants to admit it.
Well not completely wrong in traditional stand points. From a biological point of view it is natural that women would be more needed by default. And that's the big difference between the treatment of the two sex, women will naturally be seen as important and trained and people tend to pay more attention to them, whether positively or negatively, whether they like it or not. Uselless to say that tends to create bitter women who never wanted to fulfill thus role or that just felt robed of their childhood. On the other hand men have to live with the facts that no one gives a fuck about them unless they prove they matter by being able to provide, and when they do they are expected to provide and be food fathers, jobs that they really haven't been prepared to fulfill, add to that a tendancy to poorly manage their emotions because it's another thing they aren't really taught, boosted with testoterone and fed with dreams of competitions and you got ticking time bombs especially in a society that value less and less physical strength. That also shows why women tends to be less represented when it comes to people on the street... (now Like everything i've said it surely change depending on culture) but also we see them less at truly important roles. Because they are peirceived as having inherent value they are less likely to be at the absolute bottom but also less likely to be at the stop as whatever else they do is doomed to be in competition with this inherent value + the competitive mentality is less taught to women. Ok this was a long one and I'm no expert so take it with a huge grain of salt but I do think it's important to talk about those traditional role and they're advantage and disadvantage on both sides as only then we can understand the problem and see what to keep and what must change. Because pointing each others and say "they're worse" isn't really gonna help in the long run.
here's the thing, try to do some harsh work that men usually do, like working in the field, y'know those low paying job that required hard labor where most people going to end up doing because realisticly more than half of the population are at the middle to lower economics classes and not those feminist "CEO". Try doing that first and then comparing it to those house chores that can easily be done in less than 3 hours.
As a vice president girl in my class I just hate it how if a boy does something it's seen as "fUnNy" while if a girl does the same thing it's seen as "wEiRd". A boy in my class (one of the troublemakers I JUST HATEEEE) literally unbuttoned his pants and fixed his... Y'know. while there was a girl behind him (he was facing the boys) HE DID IT IN CLASS NOT EVEN THE RESTROOM and HE DIDNT EVEN GET PUNISHED. THE BOYS LITERALLY JUST LAUGHED and I just hate it!? The double standard is so annoying I just want to expell theese boys!!??? Sorry I ranted... The boys in my class are just getting so annoying cause they don't have DISCIPLINE. Every time. I tell them to "sit down", "quiet" they ignore me. EVEN THE DAMN PRESIDENT OF THE DAMN CLASS. It's just getting so annoying I don't even care to do anything so I'll just sit there feeling stressed and annoyed.
Ehhh, how old are you exactly? Lemme tell ya a secret trick when it come to « troublemakers » in class. You should simply ignore them, telling them to sit down or do whatever you ask is just going to fuel them. While it is pretty obvious that you are still considerably young, know that the reason why we (men) are generally indisciplined in school is simply because it is completely uninteresting to us. I was not a troublemaker when I was young, I was more like the « quiet kid » type, but I was not disciplined at all in my study and was always trying to find a way to evade them. Even now, am over 20 years old and I still find school uninteresting. So its not really a question of « maturity », women only mature faster than men physically. Men mature faster on some point and women do on others. Sometime it can even be individual-based. We are simply made to perform different in certain part of our society.
@@Captainendou Nobody likes it but you girls are generally more disciplined there. While we boys even the best academically sometimes may seem the extrovert going places types.
I'm a girl and I was never really good at school I always had good grades butI don't know how to navigate the social world. I hate talking to people it's really hard to talk to people actually. And I also don't know how to express my emotions. I hate doing that I mean, I can express being happy. Or angry. But I can't express being sad. That's that's too much. No, no one can see me sad.
@@LadyKorinotyetVt I can relate to what you are saying. I hate socializing, women never have each other's backs when it comes to having friends. Also, women aren't that smart or emotionally mature so this video is false.
As male myself,I had couple of friend who is always Immature when it comes to sholat (Praying) and playing video games with their voice raised and they still do it till this day. (Sorry if I had broken english)
I'm a guy 17, but in a nutshell, sisterhood can be extremely toxic. They act like friends, but in reality, it's just a group of girls trying to one-up each other at every chance they get - whether it's a new boyfriend, purse, shoes, car, or even bragging about their boyfriend's income or looks and when there not around they talk behind each others back most of the time by 12th grade year most sister hood or large friend groups have broken up and have a lot of beef.
Everyone is different, though. For instance, I'm a woman on the Autism Spectrum, so socialization was difficult for me, even though I wasn't diagnosed immediately. It actually took me longer to develop my social skills, and to become more comfortable around others. Even now, I'm still learning how to hone my social skills. Also, having Autism often makes difficult for me understand emotions, even though that's a skill I'm "supposed" to have, as a woman. I don't always know what someone else is feeling, unless I ask, for instance, I don't always know when they're mad at me, or not. The things that I've often struggled with and still do came a lot easier to my sister, and to other non-Autistic women. Actually, the issues that I've mentioned describe most people on the Spectrum, male or female. I think this is something that you've overlooked, how disability affects development. Otherwise, the video was funny and informative.
i feel like it’s because girls are always raised and expected to be more mature. to take care of babies,siblings,kids,cook,clean, and most of the time we don’t even have a voice.
Am I the only boy here who matured a lot quicker? And I'm 15. I mean I could see the emotions in others at a young age. Plus being wise. I might not always have the exact answer, but I would direct you in the right direction. Plus give you some wise lesson or something. No girl I know can do that. I guess girls these days aren't as mature, at least where I am. I'm more of a military general than any of my peers, boy or girl. But I do like a bit of chaos at times. That's why I always leave people to learn from their mistakes. All the while, I'm laughing my, beg pardon my wordage, ass off. After all, the best way of learning is from your mistakes. Also, male brains fully mature at 25? Am I some oddity or something? Or am I gonna get even more mature? I'm more or less an old Grandpuff, even though I'm 15. Everybody thinks I'm strange because of it. At least I wasn't left in some shed for God knows how long. A bit of referencing there at the end.
Even if you are mentally mature, the brain physically isn't until your mid 20s Just an odd curiosity and recomendations from legal sources, but it is not adviced to consume weed before you reach that age range, it will fuck up the development of the brain itself until reaching 25
16, and have acted like an adult at least emotionally/mentally since I was probably 10 or so, maybe a bit younger. Never gotten myself into major drama, never picked fights and actively avoid unnecessary confrontations and I always make sure to check in on my friends; even though they never check up on me - which can be determined as more of a societal issue with boys never really being taught how to deal with emotions they or someone else experience. In my experience though, most girls that I know are way more mature than guys that I know, in terms of emotional understandings as well as good manners. Most of my guy friends insult me or someone else a few times daily (usually playfully, but it still can sting) whereas most of the girls that I’m friends with would never say anything harmful to me or someone else.
Or instead of saying Emotional Quotient, there's (SEQ) Social Emotional Quotient or (EIQ) Emotional Intelligence Quotient. AKA Interpersonal and intrapersonal intelligence. Emotional Quotient seems close to being a misnomer.
I used to always struggle to sing higher pitches in church choirs as I pass puberty. It turned out to be an advantage to me now, because my pitch range became wider. It's almost like my voice chord had a hypertrophy.
I’m a girl and I’m kinda scared about my monthly subscription. I mean,I know I haven’t been showing signs of it’s arrival it’s just that i wanna be prepared but I don’t know who to talk to😢😢😢 Edit: *I got it* 😃-
you could also talk to some friends who've already experienced it. It shouldn't be too bad the first year you get it and symptoms/side effects vary from every woman. dont be too scared girly you'll be ok😋
Homlander: or we are the perfect fusion stronger , smarter, faster, larger better were just better!!! lol jk neither is imperfect or better we need eachother stop spreading hate.
When I went home from school a few years ago, on the bus there was an autistic little girl(Around 12 maybe) talking to someone on the phone, and some high schoolers(Girls) made fun of her because of how she talked, me(I was like 15-16 and a boy) and some other guys around were very annoyed by what they did(I could have said something, but the girl didn't heard it and I didn't wanted to start arguing unnecessary). I was also abused by girls in elementary school a lot, even the girl I loved hated me because I gave her a necklance. That's it. No boys or girls are less or more mature, we are just different, what we can probably say is that there are more mature girls, than mature boys, but that's it.
i'm a 21 almost 22 man and i can EASILY put myself in that "absorbing life lessons" phase. I'm just recently finding good explanations to dilemmas i had till now, from my personal perspective, i've always been the "mediocre at everything" and "always the latest to understand the obvious" guy. But now, tables have turned, i'm ahead mentally. While other of my age are still thinking about impressing girls, looking the strongest.. i'm learning how to recognize manipulative behaviours, what power is, how to deduct what would be the next step of a person... while analizing my life from the start and using that knowledge to find mistakes i've made to understand them.
At 11yo I, F from a poor family, remember being falsly bullied by another girl for wearing the same shirt 2 days in a row. I'm pretty sure she was just trying to secure her place in the pecking order, but it still hurt.
I was playing in ground at 13,got my periods at 16 , i am 19 still didn't get underarm hairs. Its different for each and every person, some gets it earlier some get doesn't, but this society will always accept too much from women.Little girls of 13 are sexualised where are boys of 13 are kids. 😢😢😢
you know as girl - i feel somehow we must get mature quicker bc if not there are some consuequences society has us to offer in school, on street, at work...
My definition of maturity is a very unique thing. 1. Independence is using your own original constructions to acquire your needs. This means all bought toys are thrown out, but play with made toys continues. It also means inventing your own farming practices, recipes, architecture, and art, whether you have the means to carry them out or not. 2. Emotional regulation means steering away from emotions that lead to illegal activity in specific environments. It involves an understanding of what activity is illegal in what environments, an understanding of what activities are impulsive in what emotions, and the creation of additional barriers to the motion from one emotion to another in the form of set questions to poll of the environment. 3. The progression is never ending. Both independence and emotion regulation fail to accomplish many of their ultimate goals without a bit of manipulation, including not being accused of manipulation. The gap in my understanding representing the functions of the social world was filled this past year, but the ability to actively change it isn’t found there. Today I explored the social need ladder in parallel with the thresholds of emotion. This ought to help me avoid other people’s anger if it’s just in essence proactive appeasement.
As a guy, I've always hated that girls' mature faster argument, which is typically used as an excuse for creeps to talk to girls who are way too young for them. I've never had a problem with maturity, nor have i ever had a problem with girls. My first girlfriend was a grade above me at the time, and my first job was 15. I always just saw it as a YOU issue if you couldn't grow up fast enough to get girls to like you. No hate to anyone who took a while to mature but it's no ones fault but your own.
That's not how it works. It's biological and girls can get treated differently then boys... It's not the creeps who are saying this but people who observed like parents or teachers.
i hate to say it, but i only knew like 2 girls who were actually mature. It makes me disappointed to see other kids my age not care as much about doing what's best, and also just be kinda annoying at times like bro come on you're not 7 anymore
The thing that I hate about being a boy is that others think it's weird for me to show emotions.
Follow the beat of your own drum. People are dumb. Parents can be dumb too. I get the need to be told not to cry and be strong (I experienced it myself as a girl since I was taught to toughen up as the oldest), but parents forget to explain the when and why. They just don't want others to prey upon your weaknesses or be too emotionally swayed.
It is perfectly normal to show emotion and express it around those you love and care for because hiding it will only harm relationships. Just don't freely show vulnerability because there are many bad people out there. You just have to learn when it should be expressed.
Mabye, write a journal, analyze, and reconsider what you have been taught. Words are not law. Only you can choose how to turn out. Don't blame others. Fix those issues yourself because in the end, number 1 (you) comes first, but do not become closed off to new ideas. Follow your heart, but don't neglect your mind and gut. 😊
Their the weird ones not u , emotions r natural is they can't accept that , it's their own damn problem not u
as a girl I thought it was unfair that girls are stereotyped as more emotional than boys and boys aren't supposed to cry :( . I think it's unfair tbh even as a girl
Right, men and women both perpetuate the negative stereotype that “men don’t cry” when they shame their bros or brothers for being vulnerable. Its a strength, not a weakness
Ah, take my advice and ignore those people. Life will soon teach them a thing or two about emotions the hard way. It always goes like that.
You're your own being. You shouldn't always listen to what others are saying. Especially kids.
You know what's best for you.
As a teenage girl in the group of “weird kids” at school, something that’s pissed me off the most is the reactions of others when a boy does something vs when a girl does the exact same thing. If a boy does something obnoxious, they get those giggles and laughs from girls and his friends, yet when a girl does it she gets made fun of and called weird. It’s such a double standard
Edit: Lol why are people telling me to speak for myself? Is that not what I'm doing, speaking about my own experience?
Can u provide examples? I understand this comment but what is something a girl would get called weird for but a boy it’s a free pass?
@dollguts9801 something like singing a song as a joke, clapping when they're not supposed to at something, making weird faces. Honestly stuff that I find annoying too, but no one seems to care when guys do it but it's always a big deal when a girl does
@@rocksyumyum9244Bro literally! I’ve been called “weird af” even though the dude that told me that is always doing the most randomness stuff in class lol. Lets just be our self honestly:)
@@rocksyumyum9244 yea this is a very naive comment, as a straight up male i can tell you no boy is seen as funny for being obnoxious; young men who act like this are seen as people incapable of doing literally anything.
@@rocksyumyum9244i'd say it depends on who it is, but im sorry that you had to go through those stuff.
Honestly I think girls and boys need to stop thinking that there sex is worse or better. They are just different.
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Adapted to whats needed, still i pray for a day i can be something els then a human
As a girl I always wondered why girls get puberty earlier than boys-
Thank you for this 😭🙏🏻
Now you know. Now I also somewhat understand why am I this quiet as an dude.
Yeah,in 4th-6th grade the boys looked like toddler face while girls were taller and way more mature
I understand, we are a bit late
actually girls don’t get puberty any earlier than boys do. Everyone hits puberty at different times, while it is possible for some girls to get it maybe at 9 or a little earlier, it doesn’t mean they get it faster.
@@matthue1 you know what math is? On average,girls start puberty earlier than boys,average is when you add all the numbers and divide it by the number of the numbers that you add,and biologically speaking girls start puberty earlier than boys,I know some might start earlier or later but still 2 twins of the same one female one male with the same diet and exercise the female will probably start around 9-10 years old while the male will start around 11-12 years old
I appreciate how respectful you were covering this topic ,some channels are like “girls are better “ or “boys are better” and this channel is refreshing to see
i love oiled up men
@@rizzing_mogger WOAHHH
He just insulted Everyman 💀
Non binary people are best
@@rizzing_mogger BASED
I feel like the problem is if a boy does something wrong people just say “Boys will be boys” and let it slide. A boy bullied my little sister, hitting her and calling her names and this was the pastors son. And his parents did nothing and said it’s just how boys play and they should just get along and be friends. Just because boys can play more rough doesn’t mean they should be excused from the consequences of their actions. The issue is with society and parents imo
Thing is, even thought I’ve seen people discuss this in multiple places across the internet I haven’t, at least not where I live, seen this. In fact, I’ve only seen the exact opposite.
There was this one example of this one girl with anger issues in my school who got pissed off at someone 3 years younger (she was 15/16, the boy was 12/13) because he threw a basketball and missed and it hit her and broke her glasses. She chased him across the whole school, not in a playful way, but in genuine aggression and she was trying to fuck him up for it. When she got caught by a teacher, I don’t know exactly what happened but she was in lessons the next day, probably only got like a detention or something. I must add that the boy she was chasing was legit running for his life and he was screaming the whole time, not playfully, but in genuine fear.
But then there was this other example of one time when it was summer there was some boys with water guns and they squirted each other with the water and were playing. I kid you not, as soon as a teacher even just SAW them holding the water guns (tiny see through plastic toys) they stormed up to them, yanked the guns and sent them to isolation for a day or two.
There’s of course way more examples I can say but no one wants to read that. Essentially, what you said about boys actions being undermined may be true, but I have not experienced it. Ever.
@@connectionterminated7012Its probably due to the halo effect. If someone has a good trait, like being good looking, their bad traits are easily ignored. As example, most people love their parents, so they blur out some critical actions of them. What Im saying is, is that girls in school get better treatment than boys from teachers, due to them behaving better and listening during lessons. Its a real thing btw that girls have it easier in school, but guys have it easier later in work. Both are equally wrong and should be talked more about, since there are still many guys saying feminism isnt needed and that its just them hating guys and stuff (sure it is in some cases) and since theres no such thing as ,,maleism" even tho its needed aswell. Well in the end we wouldnt have all these problems if we we're more understanding and overthink.
@@pizzamen7818 this is absolutely true. In my school, some of the most best students are also some of the worst ones in terms of behaviour and yet they usually get seen as the same as every other student, if not better, because of that trait. I’m talking like being straight up bitches to some teachers and yet they are overall seen as good students. Aswell, I can see what you mean how guys may have it easier later on in life, and it is actually a valid reason to why I have not seen such as I am still only 16 and have only finished school recently and, again, I agree with you saying they both need to be addressed, because even though they are not a cause of sexism and rather human nature, they should still have things in place to stop such views from happening
Strange. It’s the exact opposite that happened to me
Well the boys will be boys thing, usually is a good attitude, not a bad one. It's allowing kids to be kids and to resolve things amongst themselves. What kills this is when you try to intervene too much.
I have moments when I can be mature, & moments when I'm immature. I also have moments when laziness makes me not wanna do any sort of work, & I have to force myself to do it.
It's all about finding that balance and pushing through those lazy moments!
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Same lol
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i'm a girl and have all the behavior characteristics you mentioned in boys but maybe i just have undiagnosed adhd💀
Who needs a diagnosis when you're already rocking those behavior characteristics like a boss!
@@ANIMATEDMEDICALLINESa diagnosis helps people know they’re not alone. If I was never told I was neurodivergent It would be really sad.
Or maybe you have abit of that testosterone hormone, women have that too but not much, and too much of that hormone in girls cause mental, physical, and emotional problems.
Ngl same I often get distracted and bursting out on situations, and whenever my interests are being mentioned my attention to it is faster than speed of light.
Omg girll cuz same 💀
As a 19 year old woman, I feel like I grew up way too fast. :( it’s sad.
As a 18(Almost 19 yo woman) I feel like I grew too slow. I got 🍒 at 11 and a period at 13(2 months away from 14)🧍🏽♀️
@@oceanexblve884Wow my boobs grew at 13 and my period started at 15. Also I was extremely childish and still am
@@oceanexblve884 If you are struggling read this~ I know I’m young but I would just like to say that, In 7th grade I was in a very dark place. I couldn’t feel much emotion and I had thoughts of revenge and the other things. But God saved me, he gave me the people in my life and he showed himself to me. Even in my darkest days he was there with me, he never left me. One day while I was in bed I started to pray with my hand go the sky and I felt something holding my hand. At that very moment I it was him. I repent of all of the sins I have committed. I am ready to begin a new life with him. There is still time go repent love one another and believe in Christ for he will forgive you❤️ He helped me in hard and he will help you too:). Just pray!
I feel the same. I'm 18 for 2 months now and i'm already dealing w so much, is so stressful... Not only do i feel i grew up quickly bcs i got boobs at 11 smth (thankfully they stopped growing), and period at 13 but i still 'act like a kid' as my mom says and idc, i feel comfortable and i'm just having my own fun and distractions from the adult years i'm going to face...
@@ikaniitoshi don’t worry I act like a kid also. I’m saving money to buy a steam deck and have Sony angels coming in the mail you’ll be fine.
Girls in elementary: mature
Girls in middle school: wtf happened?
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middle school they throw it all out of the window for a 2 year period lo
i was immature all the way til highschool lmao
puberty happened
Everyone’s like that in middle school tbh
I knew I wasn’t just imagining stuff. As a girl in middle school, I’ve always wondered why the boys would be yelling and running around making stupid jokes. They literally look like little kids.
My school, they look like adults, act like noisy squirrels on a sugar rush. Stay strong, it's going to get worse.
Everyone in my school is crazy lol
as a boy going thru puberty we do that stuff cuz we js like having fun lmfao
@@zerogaming2142 I’ve heard. Still very annoying. Y’all have to calm down once in a while 😭😭
Idk im pretty chill for the most part unless we're 7hours in school and the last class is history. I just cant help it anymore. None can. It just activates my monkey brain.
damn as a girl i wish i could multitask, have great attention span and not get so easily distracted by the littlest details, but hey at least im very empathetic🤷♀
same
Please give me some of your attention span I will give you some of my multitasking in exchange.
I need it.
@@konnanina deal :D
Exact same here, I often feel like I'm a failure of a girl. Cause I've never been part of a "sisterhood" and my attention span is horrible bad.
Should we tell her?
I am 18 and still laughed at that butt joke 😂
That’s a good one no matter how old you are
@@Underfell_sandd or are u 8 ? You even managed to mess up than with then 😂
Me too
I thought about it and giggled 😅
Lol me too my humor is mostly poop jokes
As someone who worked a lot with teenagers, i have to say that the "mature" girls are just more adult to the outside, as soon as a situation gets out of their hand, they are back to little girl mode asap.
As someone with a sister and having seen a similar situation I can definitely agree with this, although I think boys have this but to a lesser degree. One example is when a classmate slapped another one to where his nose started bleeding, and the girl who was first chosen by the teacher refused because she was “not good with blood”. Another boy had to go with the guy whose nose was bleeding.
This was exactly what I was looking for, plus everyone really forgets that girls at this age are extremely petty and do insane stuff just a lot less noticeable. If a girl hates another girl, they’ll spread rumors and try to get their friends to bully them in a less noticeable form, if a guy hates another guy they’ll fight it out which well you know gets the attention of everyone.
No cuz the girls at my school are so immature they wanna fight or arugue whenevr sumthin happens the boys suripsingly dont sometiems they do but not really
Mostly the guys who are unserious are actually smart but just when they want to
@Only4_janett Yeah, at my school, some girl fight for the prettiest things, or they go way too far. Onetime, they tried to assault a cop
Ngl I think it’s just mothers and society babying them, since birth women are constantly being told, be more mature, be more respectful, be more this, be more that. I mean for y e a r s. We are told that *we* need to cover up for other men. So we learned to do these things for safety, we were cooking, cleaning, taking care of siblings well before brothers, guy friends, knew how to make their own food.
I’ve been told my whole life (as a women) you must excel in everything or you will not be taken seriously so I did, I needed to be smarter.
You deserve a like sis and your comments should be pinned thanks for being real
100%. This is the comment I was looking for. Although some things might come more naturally for the different sexes I think the way you're brought up and society impacts most of it. A boy raise in a household where he's allowed to show emotions and encouraged to be empathetic will be so. Same the other way around
@@sunflowers_wren oh 110% there will be outliers that men raised in a healthy home with very little for (I hate this word but it is what it is) the patriarchy has little influence over the members will raise good and self sufficient men (and women)
I just remember a quote I read a long time and if I'm not bad, it was a scientist and feminist who quoted that women are only taken serious when they're better or worst than men and unfortunately she has reason.
As a women we have too much pressure to excel in everything we do and if isn't the case, we always down ourselves and even with feminism this not changed at all cause corporations and mass media got and transformed the meaning of empowerment in order to teach girls and women they aren't valid if not excel in everything they done and it's specially harmful for neurodivergent girls, saying these by experience, I'm a ADHD woman
Be more femenine, be soft, go and nurture your familiars and more, also the pressure comes more than grannies than our moms
as a teenage girl im mad immature
Even physically?
Edit: bitches im tired, I didn’t watch the vid so I was also thinking they (the vid) meant physically as well so I asked what the comment meant ig the phrasing is weird
sameee
@@G-NG3RRRboy what 💀💀💀
Young fem-adult here, I still have my sophomoric humor in me, and yeah, I can emphasize you gals are going through the weird phase like I had when I was your age.
Hoho! Gyyaaattt!!!
@@xivering I didn’t watch the vid so I was also thinking they (the vid) meant physically as well so I asked what the comment meant ig the phrasing is weird
As a girl I think I lost the maturity race track
lol
Same
Don't worry, you shouldn't be sad about that
As a 18 year old man I am heavily discouraged by the fact that you women mature faster
@@archangelrapheal5231 Its better if we mature slower tbh
For me I think it's different for everyone, because I matured faster then the girls I am friends with.
Ofcourse it's different for everyone. I got my period at 12 and my friend got it at 8-
@@multidebbie1I got mine at 14 lol
Same lol
@@SweetEvaporation lol same
Sure it might differ for some but there's a mean average to it
as a teen girl I really loved this video, and its really annoying when guys barely have an compassion at times- like for example in pe in our current unit if a guy swings a bat for baseball and misses multiple times no one says anything as soon as its a girl every guy is yelling at her- why do guys (at least at my school) think of girls as their ops????
Have you tried using fear? It works extremely well.
I remember this one guy at my school. If he missed too many times on his team and the next day in a different team, the boys would always get mad at him for it, and it was just him! And the other boys who miss it don't happen to them and some to the girls. 😅
Reminds me of the time I went to camp, there was a Gaga ball area, and all the girls would get targeted first 🗿
@@AShortDork REAL
@@AShortDork I remember my cousin and her friends who get targeted by her little brothers and their friends when they do a water balloon fight
I also think part of what you described as being "natural" for either is partly due to the socialization of both. Like you said society expects different things of each gender from a young age which means each gender is developing the pathways which we see strengthened in one or the other from a young age due to societal expectations/upbringing from toys, and play to how they are taught to interact with others. Girls are typically taught from a young age to participate in more social activities but boys tend to be pushed to more physical activities. Girls are given more exposure to materials that teach emotional intelligence than boys and so on. How each turns out and grows up is likely a mix of both hormones/biology and socialization and each one likely plays some role in developing the other.
Exactly. Nature vs nurture and I think nurture is the main cause of these things
finally a good comment
Who is society and why did it do this
@@MarkelMathurin we are society 😨
What I think when I hear this kind of argument is when did it all start and why? My thinking is that there would have had to of been a natural distinction between men and women for society to then dictate rules. And if that is the case why even assume it was nurture instead of nature?
I guess this explains why I had such a tough time making friends in middle and high school. As a pre-teen, I was still a kid who wanted to play tag and chase, while my female friends were the super social kind and not rarely disliked my lack of social skills and shyness. Meanwhile, the boys who were supposed to understand me were beggining to get all weird about atraction and all. In the big scheme of things, I couldn't be friends with either the girls or the boys... *sigh*
hey, dont be sad, you can be friends with a tree
I would’ve loved to have a friend that would play tag with me in middle school 😭 it sucks that you couldn’t be friends with anyone in middle school but I hope you have some friends now :)
@@M155_M00nlight I have friends now :) and we drink together and get cuddly. Unfortunately school wasn't a blast for me. Thanks for caring!! I hope you are also doing ok
@@julialyra1310 I’m glad that you have great friends now! Anyways, I’m doing pretty good! I just feel a little lonely since I don’t really have many friends irl 😭 and the ones that I do have are friends from when I was younger that have grown up and now have different interests. It’s pretty awkward when we see eachother again since we don’t know what to talk about. It’s so easy making friends when you’re little! I kind of wish people can just walk up to some other person, talk to them, and become friends! 😭 Sorry for the long reply lol! Have a good day/night :)
@@M155_M00nlight You seem like a very heartwarming person. Sometimes it can be difficult to make friends if you're not used to it, but believe me... it gets easier everytime. Just a "hello, guys, how are you doing" can start a friendship in the right enviroment. Doing things you love and sharing time with others can spark friendships too, since you already have something in commom. But yeah, is just that easy. And friends will always (or almost always 😂) introduce their friends to you.
I was more mature than 95% of girls in middle and high school. It just caused me to be known as "lame" and "boring" at school, while the girls who were mature were always praised for being smart, especially by older male teachers which pissed me off the most.
As a boy i couldent help but feel bad knowing girls become smarter faster first before boys but as I matured now i now understood that boys and girls are in a different leauge of their own. There shouldnt be any comparison at all.
Nah i dont want to mature fast why cant i just enjoy my life
No, they mature faster. Getting smart is getting good at what you get good at they just grow up fast
As a boy i accepted my fate girls are more mature than boys because boys still slap others ass in secondary school
its not that they get smarter faster, its that they are FORCED to grow up faster, be it by their parents/teachers or other adults in their lives
girls are expected to take care of boys at every stage in their life, even as TODDLERS
Real
I'm so happy I'm a guy@@lxmesoda
Okay but the "Sisterhood" and the "Brotherhood" sound like cults 💀
I bet there is an actual cult that literally has the exact names out there. There's gotta be a reason for why the fictional Assasin's Creed Assasins were called "The Brotherhood".
@@TheSecondLaughingSoldier yes!
my class used to have "The Seven Souls" (girls) and the "The Eight Brothers" (boys) 💀
@@H0n35t :0
@@H0n35t Did the girls like Undertale, perchance?
As a girl I always noticed we started maturing way earlier. I started puberty around 10-11 years old and got my first period at 11. My brother didn't start puberty until he was 12-13 years old. And when I was 12-13, I was at the peak of my hormones. He was just starting. I'm almost 17 now and I'm still in puberty a little bit. My brother is now 15 but he's still going through it.
Your brother beats it daily.
@@samesaiwan9880wth?💀
@@acoolyoutubechannel7849 people try to ignore the message but it’s The Truth.
@@acoolyoutubechannel7849 he didn't stutter
Same I started going through puberty at 10-11 and got my period at 13(2 months away from 14)
I'm a boy, I know that girls mature quicklier, but I still think it's okay to be childish. That's why I like when people are both mature and play like little kids.
My girlfriend ♥️
Well in my family, girls are trained to be civilized and domesticated from birth, while boys get to grow wild and are not expected to refine themselves until adolescence. By then they learn manners but are not as responsible and emotionally mature as the girls are at the same age. Girls are not allowed to break down or show anger because its a sign of weakness. Boys can show anger though, because for them its not weakness. Its masculine strength. I will not be training my children the way my family did me and my cousins. The tradition of toxic mental health and self destruction will not be upheld in my branch of the family tree.
Good decision and i hope you're doing well, growing time bombs men and bitter women is definitely outdated
I'm quite confused by many of the comments. It seems like everyone is just sharing their personal experiences. Because what you said almost exactly applies to boys as well.
The whole boys must not break down they must be strong and stoic and no emotions while it's okay for women to cry or be angry or violent. That seems to happen a lot more, atleast in my experience. It's very subjective.
@@Orca_mammal most girls who become empathetic is ONLY for other girls, that’s why most of the women ignore mens pain and struggles and only talk about their FeEliNgS, women can’t comprehend the fact that men have struggles in their life too
Well, we can flip this and say that boys are not allowed to cry and get told the same thing. Both boys and girls face double standards, people just learn to grow up and deal with them. From my experience, when a girl gets mad, most of the time they yell, call each other names, or talk trash on social media, while boys, on the other hand straight up fight or kill eachother. The reason why I think it's more accepted is because, like you said, boys need to mature. Maturing as a boy means realizing that not every confrontation requires physicality, and this is something that can only be learned through experience and time. Overall, girls are often better at following rules while guys are not.
I like how he tried not to shit on boys to much lol
he didnt try, he's just stating facts
yup i was litteraly cussing the girls
Rather overdid complimenting girls since he knows it's more likely they would be offended otherwise, the video just backhandedly described this
@@widar1plays645 I think your right
@@widar1plays645less of compliments, more of facts
ay i got reccomended this your channel must be growing
Can only hope that to be true
SSSniperWolf being 31 years old to dox Jacksfilms without being mature enough:
lol
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TH-cam is still recommending her shit even after all of this is happening
She's on the left side of the female maturity bell curve
I'm a girl and my attention is bad I can not focus on one thing but I can multitask because my attention is jumping from one thing to another
You might have adhd
@@peacefullbreeze been doing some research probably
You might have ADHD yes, but its important to keep in mind everyone is different and not ever female is 100% of each trait he listed. One person might have more empathy than "book smarts" or the other way around. Its a spectrum, like everything else that relates to humans.
You're literally like me
i always get this feeling like that im stressed when im doing work or im in class and i can’t focus
I feel like I'm constantly being told to work harder and be more mature. I have an older brother, and he's allowed to act like a little boy while I'm expected to act like an adult. It's a clear double standard. When my brother is sick, he gets sympathy and care: "Oh, my poor baby, you can stay home today. Do you want me to order you some food?" But when I'm sick, I'm told, "You're not sick. Get up. You need to be mature and act like it. No wonder you fail at everything you do. You're so lazy; I'm not letting you stay home."
Girls are often expected to work harder to earn love and respect. In gender reveal videos, parents sometimes express disappointment when they're having a girl but celebrate when it's a boy. This attitude is similar to cultural expectations in places like China, where sons are seen as the future caretakers and pride of the family, while daughters are often just expected to marry and leave. In many cultures, men are valued more highly and seen as individuals, whereas women are often reduced to objects.
I don't know where you live but that seems quite rough. And to be honest in some aspect the reverse is true. Men who performs well are definitely seen as more important in traditional culture but there is still a lot of tradition where women are seen as very important due to their role as mothers and there are often codes and tradition and a certain empathy that are reserves to woman in many culture. Sadly there are some culture where women perceived value is extremely low and that's sad. Though the example you give a bove looks more to me like favoritism to the youger sibling than sexism but i don't know your family or culture
As an older brother myself, my deepest condolences go to you
It's not a double standard in your house, maybe, but just because you're a girl and he's a guy doesn't mean that boys get special treatment. I'm a boy with a brother and a sister, and I have to deal with the same stuff. Sometimes it's just that your parents know you're the best of the bunch and want you to be the successful one. My sister and brother are way off track so my parents don't care. They want me to have high grades and be in shape for my benefit. It's just called being a parent.
Hold up why do you only have 91 subscribers? That's criminal! You just earned yourself a sub!
Thank you so much for subscribing, I really appreciate your support!
This is so true. I had this argument with other kids in 3rd grade. I had a sudden growth spurt and started puberty quite early. Yet there's so many freshmen boys I know that are so short and lanky. I started at 8 years old.
It's interesting how growth spurts can vary so much among individuals!
@@ANIMATEDMEDICALLINES Very!!! Also, sorry for such a late response. But I had my first period at 10 years old. I started actually growing breast when I was 8. Really felt like it happened overnight 🥲
Hi
as an almost adult female I can confirm its because most of us are forced to grow up, and with periods happening at the lowest age i've seen 5-6 yrs it's kind of a given. Along with parental figures always telling us to grow up, act our age, etc. Especially with young women who started their periods early on in life, i've noticed quite a lot more in adults telling kids with periods to grow up more averagely than the ones who start at like age 12 and up. It's not all period based either, it also has to do with gender norms in some cultures, like in my culture (wayyy back in the day before I was even born) women do all the house work, take care of the kids, rarely get to have fun, and forced to dress a way that men (not all men) see fit. Some of the norms from the older standards still linger to this day. SOME guys are very childish along with everything else, someone has to be the adult sometimes. Though all in all good ass video dude!
first both men and woman go through double standards and have there own struggles, but The main reason for this is in general guys don't listen to the rules as much as girls do parents tell both girls and boys to mature but boys just don't listen and take time to learn from personal experience rather than being told, for example friend groups in general girls will listen to there friend groups or not even notice start to dress or have similar trends and act a certain way to not stand out which is why guys seem weird in middle school because they arent realizing people are changing and are not making fart jokes 24/7 get embarrassed and learn not to do it again woman learn from socializing/being told while men learn from experience.
Wait why does bro only have 19 subs?
Good question! Please spread the love 💕
@@ANIMATEDMEDICALLINES You got it Sir 👍
@@ANIMATEDMEDICALLINES now you have 89 subs!! :D
123 now
184 now!
i am biologically female, and i think i ran the wrong way on the race track 💀💀💀
Same, I’m trans now
Congrats bro
"girls keeping cool and collected"
My sister:
Real most things I could agree on, but ehh I don’t think girls are cool and collected, most teenagers can be super damn annoying, they’re always crazy brother.
As a girl, personally I noticed myself maturing socially when I felt pressured to. In middle school during recess, boys would run around and play whatever game they could think of and girls would just stand there and scroll on their phones while talking about some kids who don't even go to the same school nor I know who they were. Of course I was bored and the only thing I could think about is how fun it must be with the boys. Still, I felt really uncomortable with the thought of trying to join in with them, like I'd be judged so I didn't. After a couple weeks of recesses like that, my need to participate in physical activity at random moments and play was gone. Tbh I'd rather just stand there and wait for recess to be over.
Yall had recess in middle school?
@@suspiciousstew1169 I'm not sure how I'm supposed to call it. A 20 min break at around 10: 30
Same ngl, the guys in my school would be chasing eachother around, having fun, etc while the girls would just be gossiping and talking about boring things imo. I miss playing tag with my friends in elementary, must be really fun for the guys, if I were to do that now I'd be called a weirdo and probs immature as a girl since I'm no longer an elementary schooler, and like you said joining them as a girl would feel strange, and I'm quite socially awkward myself, which would make it even more uncomfortable. Cause of this I don't really get along much with both guys and girls at school, I don't fit in with both :/
Wait you guys could use phones at school?
@@spicyramensnack4413 Same.
All the girls tell me that I act like a boy lol
Well, me too, but it doesn't mean that I am a man
@@mundaneMannequin"MEN ARE BRAVE"
- Batman
Same
Oh thank God, there's no war in this comment section🙏
Looks like the peace treaty is in full effect in this comment section!
Yippee! (≧▽≦)
Oh wait, there's one
Aw danggit...
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Boys are gooder than girls!!!!!!@!!!1!!!!🤮🤮🤮🤢🤢🤮🤮🤮🤮👎🏻👎🏻👎🏻
Dude I was expecting this video to have thousands of views how is this so underrated 😭
It does, has 19k(19,000)
@@angelicmcleod5099 yeah I meant likes/comment rather than views
Then whyd you say views@@sonyp1483
@@sonyp1483well now it has 12k likes and 1.6k comments at the time of writing this
@@Angel-mf6rs I'm happy for him! Guess that means I was early lol x)
Lack of discipline towards guys compared to girls. There you go
huh
Not really, according to multiple different studies, women biologically mature faster both physically and mentally. Men end up reaching the same level of maturity but it may take a bit longer.
you didn't even watch the video before you commented this, didn't you?
i hope theres no gender wars from a misogyny stan or an extreme feminist
oh fucking god
Plays a big part, but please watch the video before commenting
One thing I think to note is how girl's strengths and weaknesses and boy's strengths and weaknesses complement each other. We need girls and boys to be different.
And a side note that sisterhood that was mentioned didn't mention any of the downsides, like the fact the girls can be absolutely brutal to each other.
As a teenage girl, I feel like a weirdo 99% of the time bc I only learned stuff like socializing and working on conversations when I was 11 while the girls in my school learned it at 8. I ended up being a huge fan of science stuff, dinosaurs and bugs and a lot of my classmates consider me weird for that. I also never understood why my classmates hated eachother just bc they were different gender bc little me thought the only difference was where and how they pee :/
nah i think i was born with a dude's mind 💀
If you are referring to possibly maybe being transgender then okay, but if this video made you think that then no. This BS video is just more misogynistic garbage to sexualize girls and make them seem like a god like object. Don’t believe this BS. Little girls are just like little boys.
Oh dang I feel bad😔✊
A surprise to be sure, but a welcome one
No, you don't have "dude's mind", you is you, that's all
😂 desperate enough to be a man? Just because you are impulsive doesn’t mean you are a man, not all men are impulsive just like not all women like Barbie dolls.
I’m a male & very nice, kind, & matured
20 year old young man watching this video because I have lots of girls who are my best friends.
Exactly me fr
We're even the Same age😂😂
Bro went from "Testosterone is lazy" to "Double standards suck" in three fourths of a video
true both genders haver double standers with benift on both sides.
Not to perpetuate sexism, but no one I knew sat around talking about how we were going to solve the next math problem in class?😂
Nobody want to talk about mat problem after class. When its finish, its finish😂
Forreal. I loathed going back to class
most girl's empathy sucks, it focuses on making the person feel better instead of tackling the root problem, its annoying man
As a girl my empathy is in literal ruins. Other than listening I can only give harsh comfort and brutal honesty which obviously just usually makes things worse.
Then when I have breakdowns the comfort other girls provided me never helped, it couldn't tackle down my negative thoughts no matter how much they told me that I didn't let my team down or that Im good at other things (the problem was the thing I was raging and crying about was that I used to be decent at a certain sport but one day it was like I lost all the "talent" I had before and it kinda felt like losing my honour even if I didn't even had that sport as a hobby(I know I sound like Zuko from ATLA))
So this "good at empathy" thing is honestly very useless. This whole comforting I recieved in that situation just made it much much worse
Wdym Im good at something else?! I also want to add this sport to that "something else" you speak of! So don't even go around telling me that I'll be fine with just the talent of drawing and horse riding when I want to "master" more things, I want more good qualities that you need to learn and is not a personality trait or the so called empathy
@jazmineszlari414 I give the truth but what I do is encouragement (eg. Your football skills are sloppy but don't worry practice with me a bit and we can work on your weak areas) break someone down so you can build them back up and reinforce them
With you
Don't give up try another way
Because there's always room for you to improve at something you aren't as good at as you would like to be
Literally believe in yourself
If you want to do more do more
Believe
@@jazmineszlari414 so i was brutally honest if the problem cause by themswlve but vice verca i will be conforting if the problem was out of their control
Exactly. It just feels completely half-hearted and ungenuine. Some things require harsh, blunt advice, that's gonna hit you like a fright train, but it'll get you through it.
Sometimes that is all someone can give.
If it's not what u need, get it from someone else
4:45 "Making them quick to master conversation, empathy and complex feelings"
I FEEL IMMATURE HELP-
being immature aint bad
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Oh yeah?
*matures at the speed of light*
got places to go gotta follow my rainbow
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Me a girl: About that😅
There can be exceptions in both sides, obviously
I'm a male and I grew up emotionally mature, but also smart too. As a result i kinda became an outcast in my school... well not exactly, but I didn't really connect with other kids at my school, especially because I thought they were dumb, due to doing actions that were dumb obviously. I was basically more mature then rest of my classmates and kids at my school to the point I don't think I ever had friends, only aquntences.
Nah everyone in my school has the same mind its crazy
I'm a girl,but I can agree on that,since the kids in my class act even worse than wild kids...and I feel frustrated a bit😅
same man. I self taught myself a lot of science in middle school, because I grew up surrounded with encyclopedias and documentaries. particularly I was very interested on climate science, and with all the media coverage climate change got during the early 2010's, I couldn't understand why my peers didn't care about climate change and ecology, it ended up driving a wedge between me and my peers due to the lack of common interests, and as a defence mechanism, I ended up acting really uptight and snobbish in school. That wedge turned into a ravine as we moved through school. And while all my school friends keep in contact with each other till this day, none of them speak to me anymore.
I’m am the sigma
thats me now im in hs and have higher grades, play sports but don't do anything dumb or "fun" but problem with that is im seen as a lame so I don't have any real friends more like school buddies everyone knows my name but not me as a person, most girls date the immature guys even though most of the comments I seen have been bashing immature guys the same guys that go out parting drinking underage doing drugs driving hell cats 120mph down the high way are the same guys that have multiple girls in there snapchat haram its just funny to me how they complain about what they seem to like 🤣
I've just always assumed the reason girls "mature" faster, is just because of societal expectations. A point mentioned in the video. Most of the time, in families with both sons and daughters, daughters are the ones more strictly raised to not only help and support their parents, but the family as a whole. Something that's not expected of boys. Like, let's think of it: in a family, women (moms and daughters) are the ones who cook, clean, wash the dishes, mop the floors, do the laundry; washing everyone's clothes, also do the groceries, and most of the time, they're also the ones who help the younger kids/siblings with their homework. What do men do in a family? Take the trash. Fix electronics whenever they stop working (like tvs and computers), and that's something that only happens once in a blue moon. And if they try once and can't fix these electronics, they can take them to a professional who will. And do the groceries too, only if a woman has written them a shopping list. So, not even shopping is something they can do without a woman's help to tell them what the household needs and doesn't need.
Parents usually put these harsher expectations on their daughters, cause they know that in the future, daughters are just more likely in general to stick up for and take care of their parents and other elderly or disabled members of the family, once their parents reach a certain age where they can't take care of themselves anymore. It's their daughters they'll be relying on, way more than their sons. So, that's why daughters are taught and "trained" from an earlier age how to act like adults.
I know there’s cases of divorced parents where the father takes care of the children, so he has to pick up on all these skills and pass them on to their kids. Or cases of couples with only male children and 0 daughters, so they're forced to make their boys grow faster and teach them all the things, usually only a daughter would help with. And I know there's also plenty of cases of girls either abandoning their parents/not taking care of them when it's their turn to step up as young adults, so it's the sons who have to assume the role of caretakers for their elderly parents.
But despite this, it doesn't change the fact that, families in most societies, rely on their daughters and put on them waaaay more pressure and expectations than they do their sons. Who just generally tend to have more free time to play and be kids/teens. It's also worth mentioning that parents also tend to be way more strict with their daughter's grades at school, than they do their son's grades. Like, for example, a 7 or 6.5 outta 10 is not an acceptable grade for a daughter, but it's fantastic and worthy of celebration for a son.
These are all factors that combined together, lead to girls maturing faster. Families, the essential building blocks of societies, simply need their daughters way more than they need their sons.
That's why girls usually can cook, or prepare some simple meals for the family in case the mother is busy or absent at the moment, as teenagers. Whereas boys don't learn how to cook till they move out, in which case they're forced to. Or sometimes there’s married men who can't cook yet, so if the wife decides to go visit some relatives for a couple days, they literally cannot feed their kids. It's in cases like these, where having an aunt, even if just one, on either side of the family tree, to step up and replace the mom while she's away, cause in some cases, the dad is that incompetent, is a blessing.
And I'm talking from experience here. The moment I learned how to wash the dishes, so I could clean after my mom while she cooked, I was so young and short, I didn't even reach the sink, and needed to stand on a stool to do so. That's why I believe women mature faster than boys. Growing up their families need them way more than their brothers, who contribute little to nothing to the household. That is, unless they have only one sister who can't do everything alone and needs help. One sister, who is the baby of the family (the youngest one) so boys/brothers have to take over her work round the house till she grows up enough to wash the dishes. And unless the only sister or one of them is disabled in any way, thus requiring the boys to step up and help.
But in cases of completely normal families, most of the time, it's the women who do everything to keep everyone alive and well-fed. That's why they're forced to mature faster, and age gaps between wives and husbands when they get married are significant, but still acceptable in some places round the world; simply cause the younger brides (like, in their early 20s), are expected to be as mature and smart (sometimes even more) than their grooms/husbands who tend to be in their 30s. Women are just that necessary, even if no one wants to admit it.
Lmao what a crazy ass comment
Well not completely wrong in traditional stand points. From a biological point of view it is natural that women would be more needed by default. And that's the big difference between the treatment of the two sex, women will naturally be seen as important and trained and people tend to pay more attention to them, whether positively or negatively, whether they like it or not. Uselless to say that tends to create bitter women who never wanted to fulfill thus role or that just felt robed of their childhood. On the other hand men have to live with the facts that no one gives a fuck about them unless they prove they matter by being able to provide, and when they do they are expected to provide and be food fathers, jobs that they really haven't been prepared to fulfill, add to that a tendancy to poorly manage their emotions because it's another thing they aren't really taught, boosted with testoterone and fed with dreams of competitions and you got ticking time bombs especially in a society that value less and less physical strength. That also shows why women tends to be less represented when it comes to people on the street... (now Like everything i've said it surely change depending on culture) but also we see them less at truly important roles. Because they are peirceived as having inherent value they are less likely to be at the absolute bottom but also less likely to be at the stop as whatever else they do is doomed to be in competition with this inherent value + the competitive mentality is less taught to women. Ok this was a long one and I'm no expert so take it with a huge grain of salt but I do think it's important to talk about those traditional role and they're advantage and disadvantage on both sides as only then we can understand the problem and see what to keep and what must change. Because pointing each others and say "they're worse" isn't really gonna help in the long run.
here's the thing, try to do some harsh work that men usually do, like working in the field, y'know those low paying job that required hard labor where most people going to end up doing because realisticly more than half of the population are at the middle to lower economics classes and not those feminist "CEO". Try doing that first and then comparing it to those house chores that can easily be done in less than 3 hours.
For parent part it was kinda cultural thingy? Because in SEA, at least my country, every gender, som or daughter must take care their parent.
@@valhatan3907 Well hope your find your own happiness despite the ambient culture.
As a vice president girl in my class I just hate it how if a boy does something it's seen as "fUnNy" while if a girl does the same thing it's seen as "wEiRd". A boy in my class (one of the troublemakers I JUST HATEEEE) literally unbuttoned his pants and fixed his... Y'know. while there was a girl behind him (he was facing the boys) HE DID IT IN CLASS NOT EVEN THE RESTROOM and HE DIDNT EVEN GET PUNISHED. THE BOYS LITERALLY JUST LAUGHED and I just hate it!? The double standard is so annoying I just want to expell theese boys!!??? Sorry I ranted... The boys in my class are just getting so annoying cause they don't have DISCIPLINE. Every time. I tell them to "sit down", "quiet" they ignore me. EVEN THE DAMN PRESIDENT OF THE DAMN CLASS. It's just getting so annoying I don't even care to do anything so I'll just sit there feeling stressed and annoyed.
Lol if they did that in my school there dead lol
what they should do? boys laugh at many things because they dont have sticks in butts lol
Ehhh, how old are you exactly?
Lemme tell ya a secret trick when it come to « troublemakers » in class.
You should simply ignore them, telling them to sit down or do whatever you ask is just going to fuel them.
While it is pretty obvious that you are still considerably young, know that the reason why we (men) are generally indisciplined in school is simply because it is completely uninteresting to us. I was not a troublemaker when I was young, I was more like the « quiet kid » type, but I was not disciplined at all in my study and was always trying to find a way to evade them.
Even now, am over 20 years old and I still find school uninteresting.
So its not really a question of « maturity », women only mature faster than men physically.
Men mature faster on some point and women do on others.
Sometime it can even be individual-based.
We are simply made to perform different in certain part of our society.
@@trigz8626 Bro who doesn't skip studies and finds school interesting, Im a girl and want to die because of this hell called "school".
@@Captainendou Nobody likes it but you girls are generally more disciplined there. While we boys even
the best academically sometimes may seem the extrovert going places types.
I'm a girl and I was never really good at school I always had good grades butI don't know how to navigate the social world. I hate talking to people it's really hard to talk to people actually. And I also don't know how to express my emotions. I hate doing that I mean, I can express being happy. Or angry. But I can't express being sad. That's that's too much. No, no one can see me sad.
Well, everything that they just described I have never experienced in my life I have never had a group of good girlfriends like that
@@LadyKorinotyetVt I can relate to what you are saying. I hate socializing, women never have each other's backs when it comes to having friends. Also, women aren't that smart or emotionally mature so this video is false.
I can relate girl 🤝
As a boy, I can relate. I feel like a 10-12 year old trapped in a 19 year old body.
As male myself,I had couple of friend who is always Immature when it comes to sholat (Praying) and playing video games with their voice raised and they still do it till this day. (Sorry if I had broken english)
no your English is actually good 👍🏾
When I was younger it took me ages to even start to mature and it still is
Well I was in puberty way late too soo don't feel bad.
If girls are good at focusing studying and noticing emotions then why the heck am i not like that , im not normal lol
Don’t worry, there are always exceptions. Nothing wrong with you ♥️
It's Personality, not ur capabilites
I hate those teens feeling like they are mature yet almost always make wrong decisions
My sister in a nutshell.
As a girl, just my adhd making me feel different lol
It’s ok you can just be yourself
Yeah I’m autistic myself, and my brain works different as well.
@@sonicfan82oh yeah? i'm both adhd AND autism! amateurs!
(yes, cursed with both)
@@sergiomarc4826 OK, I just live with it on the daily, I don’t make it everything about me, I feel like it’s a piece of my identity.
Unfortunately I never had the "sisterhood"..
sisterhood is not a real thing
same. Never had a "hood" of any kind.
I'm a guy 17, but in a nutshell, sisterhood can be extremely toxic. They act like friends, but in reality, it's just a group of girls trying to one-up each other at every chance they get - whether it's a new boyfriend, purse, shoes, car, or even bragging about their boyfriend's income or looks and when there not around they talk behind each others back most of the time by 12th grade year most sister hood or large friend groups have broken up and have a lot of beef.
Everyone is different, though. For instance, I'm a woman on the Autism Spectrum, so socialization was difficult for me, even though I wasn't diagnosed immediately. It actually took me longer to develop my social skills, and to become more comfortable around others. Even now, I'm still learning how to hone my social skills.
Also, having Autism often makes difficult for me understand emotions, even though that's a skill I'm "supposed" to have, as a woman. I don't always know what someone else is feeling, unless I ask, for instance, I don't always know when they're mad at me, or not. The things that I've often struggled with and still do came a lot easier to my sister, and to other non-Autistic women. Actually, the issues that I've mentioned describe most people on the Spectrum, male or female.
I think this is something that you've overlooked, how disability affects development. Otherwise, the video was funny and informative.
I can feel the chatgpt in the script lol
Nah like fr
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i feel like it’s because girls are always raised and expected to be more mature. to take care of babies,siblings,kids,cook,clean, and most of the time we don’t even have a voice.
Am I the only boy here who matured a lot quicker? And I'm 15.
I mean I could see the emotions in others at a young age. Plus being wise. I might not always have the exact answer, but I would direct you in the right direction. Plus give you some wise lesson or something.
No girl I know can do that. I guess girls these days aren't as mature, at least where I am. I'm more of a military general than any of my peers, boy or girl.
But I do like a bit of chaos at times. That's why I always leave people to learn from their mistakes. All the while, I'm laughing my, beg pardon my wordage, ass off.
After all, the best way of learning is from your mistakes.
Also, male brains fully mature at 25? Am I some oddity or something? Or am I gonna get even more mature?
I'm more or less an old Grandpuff, even though I'm 15. Everybody thinks I'm strange because of it. At least I wasn't left in some shed for God knows how long.
A bit of referencing there at the end.
Oh and I stopped laughing at butt jokes at 8 years old, I think.
Even if you are mentally mature, the brain physically isn't until your mid 20s
Just an odd curiosity and recomendations from legal sources, but it is not adviced to consume weed before you reach that age range, it will fuck up the development of the brain itself until reaching 25
DNA works in mysterious ways!
16, and have acted like an adult at least emotionally/mentally since I was probably 10 or so, maybe a bit younger. Never gotten myself into major drama, never picked fights and actively avoid unnecessary confrontations and I always make sure to check in on my friends; even though they never check up on me - which can be determined as more of a societal issue with boys never really being taught how to deal with emotions they or someone else experience. In my experience though, most girls that I know are way more mature than guys that I know, in terms of emotional understandings as well as good manners. Most of my guy friends insult me or someone else a few times daily (usually playfully, but it still can sting) whereas most of the girls that I’m friends with would never say anything harmful to me or someone else.
@@corvettezone1771 Huh, well same. Except the girls I know being mature.
How tf was I both? Like I was a girl and matured faster and all but i would also wear the same jeans for a week straight and I still do
There's EQ and then there's IQ. The two are not the same and often are inversely correlated.
thats false higher IQ indulges have higher empathy
@@devadutsbalan9135no they just get better at faking it
@@keklord4128Dang.
Or instead of saying Emotional Quotient, there's (SEQ) Social Emotional Quotient or (EIQ) Emotional Intelligence Quotient. AKA Interpersonal and intrapersonal intelligence. Emotional Quotient seems close to being a misnomer.
Not true
My boy classmates don't care how anything works and don't even try to solve problems.
What's ur grade like 6 to 9 and plus I'm betting hall girls br getting on their nerves 24 7
I used to always struggle to sing higher pitches in church choirs as I pass puberty. It turned out to be an advantage to me now, because my pitch range became wider. It's almost like my voice chord had a hypertrophy.
0:30 Why did I laughed
YOU NEED MORE SUBS YOUR VOICE SOUNDS SO PROFESSIONAL
Isn’t it a AI voice though?
@@kroga3549 u sure?
@@killerkid2642 yeah I’ve definitely heard it in a lot of other places to be sure of that
I’m a girl and I’m kinda scared about my monthly subscription.
I mean,I know I haven’t been showing signs of it’s arrival it’s just that i wanna be prepared but I don’t know who to talk to😢😢😢
Edit: *I got it* 😃-
is your mom with you, or do you have any older sisters? they should be able to help you navigate through that
you could also talk to some friends who've already experienced it. It shouldn't be too bad the first year you get it and symptoms/side effects vary from every woman. dont be too scared girly you'll be ok😋
In Germany every boy is ATLEAST mature by 15.Never saw a weird/childish 15 year old
Yeah, because they've all had a sip of beer or wine and enlightened
i love how you potray girls and boys difference along with their growth through this very creative animation 🤩 kuddos to the animator and conseptor!
Started my first period on my 12 BIRTHDAY and it was so painful it made me scream cry, and pass out, they had to send me to the ER and call my parents
We are missing half a chromosome we are just genetically imperfect in a sense (Men XY, Women XX). Look it up if you are interested.
Homlander: or we are the perfect fusion stronger , smarter, faster, larger better were just better!!! lol jk neither is imperfect or better we need eachother stop spreading hate.
i got called out on the same shirt 3 days in a row
4th time it should be in the laundry. 🧺
same and im a girl
@@MarinKoholint frrr
Help I’ve done this for like 2 weeks, and somehow the jacket didnt even smell or turn yellow
When I went home from school a few years ago, on the bus there was an autistic little girl(Around 12 maybe) talking to someone on the phone, and some high schoolers(Girls) made fun of her because of how she talked, me(I was like 15-16 and a boy) and some other guys around were very annoyed by what they did(I could have said something, but the girl didn't heard it and I didn't wanted to start arguing unnecessary). I was also abused by girls in elementary school a lot, even the girl I loved hated me because I gave her a necklance. That's it. No boys or girls are less or more mature, we are just different, what we can probably say is that there are more mature girls, than mature boys, but that's it.
i'm a 21 almost 22 man and i can EASILY put myself in that "absorbing life lessons" phase.
I'm just recently finding good explanations to dilemmas i had till now, from my personal perspective, i've always been the "mediocre at everything" and "always the latest to understand the obvious" guy. But now, tables have turned, i'm ahead mentally.
While other of my age are still thinking about impressing girls, looking the strongest.. i'm learning how to recognize manipulative behaviours, what power is, how to deduct what would be the next step of a person... while analizing my life from the start and using that knowledge to find mistakes i've made to understand them.
awww i hope all the little kidos growing up find a happy path to adulthood
Video is really accurate. Lots of stuff said here, I can attest to. Great video bro, I hope you can grow more😎😎
Appreciate it!
Gonna be honest, I think that was the longest intro I've heard in a while, other than that, great video
Noted!
it’s cuz we are just cool like that
"Why do girls mature faster?"
Boys: casually skydiving without parachutes at 3 am in ohio
Girls may mature faster, with side effect of increased base craziness
At 11yo I, F from a poor family, remember being falsly bullied by another girl for wearing the same shirt 2 days in a row. I'm pretty sure she was just trying to secure her place in the pecking order, but it still hurt.
wearing the same shirt 2 days in a row isn’t even bad like what. just ignore that stupid girl she’s probably just insecure
The seals cake was privileged when it slipped in the pool but the car pushed it in
I was playing in ground at 13,got my periods at 16 , i am 19 still didn't get underarm hairs. Its different for each and every person, some gets it earlier some get doesn't, but this society will always accept too much from women.Little girls of 13 are sexualised where are boys of 13 are kids. 😢😢😢
That's really sad and boys are more likely to be called kid more
This just feels like ChatGPT
you know as girl - i feel somehow we must get mature quicker bc if not there are some consuequences society has us to offer in school, on street, at work...
My definition of maturity is a very unique thing.
1. Independence is using your own original constructions to acquire your needs. This means all bought toys are thrown out, but play with made toys continues. It also means inventing your own farming practices, recipes, architecture, and art, whether you have the means to carry them out or not.
2. Emotional regulation means steering away from emotions that lead to illegal activity in specific environments. It involves an understanding of what activity is illegal in what environments, an understanding of what activities are impulsive in what emotions, and the creation of additional barriers to the motion from one emotion to another in the form of set questions to poll of the environment.
3. The progression is never ending. Both independence and emotion regulation fail to accomplish many of their ultimate goals without a bit of manipulation, including not being accused of manipulation. The gap in my understanding representing the functions of the social world was filled this past year, but the ability to actively change it isn’t found there. Today I explored the social need ladder in parallel with the thresholds of emotion. This ought to help me avoid other people’s anger if it’s just in essence proactive appeasement.
I know male and female minds might be more prone to follow these stereotypes I feel like alot of this is cultural conditioning.
I kinda like it because im used to it and its normal for me but if its mixed then its even better
For real
As a guy, I've always hated that girls' mature faster argument, which is typically used as an excuse for creeps to talk to girls who are way too young for them. I've never had a problem with maturity, nor have i ever had a problem with girls. My first girlfriend was a grade above me at the time, and my first job was 15. I always just saw it as a YOU issue if you couldn't grow up fast enough to get girls to like you. No hate to anyone who took a while to mature but it's no ones fault but your own.
That's not how it works. It's biological and girls can get treated differently then boys... It's not the creeps who are saying this but people who observed like parents or teachers.
Same
"why girls mature quicker" bro it is rare af to see a girl that's legit mature- oh wait this means puberty, wait what
i hate to say it, but i only knew like 2 girls who were actually mature. It makes me disappointed to see other kids my age not care as much about doing what's best, and also just be kinda annoying at times like bro come on you're not 7 anymore
I mean, as a girl i never felt i matured quicker than boys
I literally feel like I am more immature than the boys
@@rebacathek-popfan7950 I feel like I’m more childish than boys, but they are more immature especially when talking about girls. 🫤
@@rebacathek-popfan7950 same😭
I love the respectful aproach to the difference between the sexes. It's rare to see that
As a girl. Its funny bc i got TALL and all of the boys were short 💀
That’s literally the middle school rite of passage bro 💀
And then in high school...