I’m so glad that Steven advocated for you. I’m also a nurse, and I’m very familiar with nurse Ratchet’s like that. Not only do they make their patient’s life difficult, they also make their coworkers lives difficult. Any whooo... I’m super happy for you guys. ♥️
Ugh my experience.🙄 I had my husband ask for a different nurse. She really made me feel horrible maybe it was because I just had a baby idk but I cried.
Wow thank u for sharing this ! My son is now 8 and I had a bad experience with nurses too. I thought it was just me.. I’m 4 months pregnant and scared because I don’t want to switch doctors but she’s affiliated with the same hospital where I had my bad experience. This time around I will speak up if I’m feeling mistreated!
I actually don’t care if this whole channel doesn’t even mention makeup anymore. I love watching you and Steven and baby O❤️ And of course the doggies. I love the stories the story times and all of that. Don’t rush back into makeup girl don’t even worry about it. How about a story of all of this from Steven’s point of view? How is Steven doing?
Yesss very well said and yes that would love to see that a guys perspective on how they feel going through or seeing their significant other in pain or what goes through their would love stevens side story
@@almasandoval670 why comment? are you looking for someone to beg you to stay? off you go!! theres plenty of make up channels for you to get lost in. drama!
Girl this was the most REAL postpartum video I’ve ever seen, I mean that in the best way. So many moms will need this, you’re being that person who is breaking the barrier and letting women know what they need postpartum but also letting them know so so many moms go through hardships right after a baby comes. It’s the most amazing time but at the same time a mix of emotions with ups and downs. I’ve been super honest with friends and give them lists on what to get etc. Anyway I just want to say we love you desi! Big hugs! You and Steven are doing amazing!
As an expecting father, this was super helpful. It has provided me with some different things to look out for with my fiancee. In addition, it gave me a bunch of helpful items to add to the baby registry for her. Thank you for sharing your experiences.
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Would Steven ever film a video of his side of the postpartum experience? I know you touched on somethings that he does to support you. My partner and I have been watching your parental journey and he often wonders about dad tips. Love you guys and congratulations again!!
Same. But I think most of us haven’t been taught about any of this. And I personally need to know what I’m signing up for before I even consider having kids 😭
I’m always amazed at how much hate there is for mothers. Breastfeeding? Great. Formula? Great! C-section? Awesome. Vaginal birth? Cool! Women are already subjected to so much hate and negativity, if you do your best every day for your kids, that’s what matters. Happy for you and your growing family! ♥️ thanks for sharing your story.
👏 🙏 👏 🙏. People need to hear this. The mommy shaming, the woman to woman shaming just needs to stop. We woman are amazing, what we’re capable of us amazing. Ok that’s all.
I actually never wanted to leave a comment because I figured “they aren’t going to read it or care” but I had my twins on the same day you had Ocean so we were pregnant at the same time. I also had a hard time breastfeeding and my babies also lost weight. It was such a break down for me, but knowing that you went through the same thing makes me feel a lot better. This is also my first pregnancy so we are in this together. Your videos have definitely helped me as I am a first time mom as well. I remember on your fertility journey the IVF DR asking you how many eggs you wanted to be implanted and you said having two the first time around is going to be hard....well let me tell you it was a good choice. Having twins is soooooooo hard. So glad you have all the help you need. Stay strong mommy.
Hi! I just read your comment and I’m not a mama BUT I was 6lbs 5oz when I was born; my mom had the same experience with me when I was a baby. She thought that I was latching on and getting enough milk etc. I was her second baby so she thought things were fine and had no idea that in fact I wasn’t feeding correctly and had lost weight. I dropped down to 5lbs or something. Her doc told her to switch to formula (which TBH she was totally ok with!) so she did and it was smooth sailing. I turned out great LOL 😂 and my mama is AMAZING and strong & the BEST MAMA, just like YOU!! 💖
I had horrific postpartum to the point I almost committed suicide. Thank God I have the best husband. No one tells you how hard your first child is to adjust to. I always tell people how wonderful it is to be a mom, but it is also the hardest thing.
I’m so sorry! It is so hard to go through such a huge shift. I don’t think anyone can prepare someone until they have their own baby. I’m glad you had such a great support system
@@DesiPerkins it is. I had babies 17m apart so it was a journey! We ended up stopping after two, because of how hard it was on me. But then we fostered babies for 3 years in flint and that was a blessing!!!!
🤗 BIG HUG!! Its so incredibly HARD to be a mom!! You are VERY lucky you had a supportive husband. We were on the same boat.... I have postpartum depression, anxiety, and OCD. My husband thought/thinks I made it all up and was and still is horrible with me. He absolutely does not understand anything nor can I make him understand. I can't even talk about it because it enrages him. My "best friend" just disappeared so I felt abandoned, lost, and lonely. My only support system was my mom but unfortunately she passed away the day after Christmas. You can imagine how I felt and still feel. I push through for my kids but that first year was HELL to say the least.
I am literally so happy that someone is talking about everything! Because a lot of women make giving birth like the most amazing glorious thing in the world, and let me tell you it is not! There is a lot that goes on and a lot to learn and know that no one talks about! I am so happy you are explaining everything to the tea!
For real! Like the Women That get special pretty gowns to give birth. I’m like.... girlllll you are NOT ready for the body fluids about to exit you. Lmao 😂
@@fernandagonzalez7270 Hahahah exactly! when I had my first baby, after my baby came out, the doctor told me to push again! I thought I was having another baby (twins), but it’s was for the placenta, I had no idea hahahahaha so embarrassing
Desi this is beautiful! I’m 67, mother and grandmother. My advice is: cherish every single moment, because one day you will turn around and be me. Time goes by so fast, enjoy the journey!!! Blessings to you!🙏❤️🙏❤️
As a FTM, this hit hard for me. The story about the nurse, the breastfeeding struggle and just mourning the life pre-baby was all relatable. Now at almost 5 months post partum, I feel much better about myself.. And now I cant even picture life without my baby.
This needs to be on all sorts of media outlets. When I gave birth, being a labor and delivery nurse, postpartum was very hard. No one ever prepares you for the hormonal shifts, self adjusting issues, and new emotions you have to navigate. Everyone focuses on the baby and you might look good, but, sometimes you don’t feel good. Having a GREAT support team makes or breaks your pp journey. And I think a lot of people don’t understand that. I cannot thank enough for opening up and being honest with the vulnerable states you experience during postpartum. You’re doing awesome!
Girl, I can't imagine how tough all these things have been, but you are BURSTING with confidence talking about them now, you sound like you've given birth 20 times already. Your kid is lucky to have you as a mom!
It’s insane to me how mommas have done this on their own for centuries...so much info and support out there nowadays! You are a warrior, and I learned so many new things in this vid that people haven’t shared. Thank you!!
Hi ☺️ I am a mother of 5 children, of which the oldest is 23 and the youngest is 9. This must be the best childbirth, post-childbirth and breast-feeding etc. video I've ever seen! You tell all the less comfortable and painful things that come with having a baby! You are an absolutely inspiring woman! This video should be shown to all the first-time mothers!!! Congratulations to the whole family on the newborn boy 💙! Greetings from Finland 🇫🇮, which is located near the North Pole ❄️⛄️(where Santa lives 🎅🏻)...
I’ve never cried so much, I felt this so much. The tears hit hard about breastfeeding for me and having to supplement with formula but I tell myself everyday that she’s eating good and happy. Being a first time mom isn’t easy but like you said so rewarding!
me watching this at 18, with no kids and not planning on having any for a long time: “wow. this is good to know” hahaha you’re a warrior desi, all moms are
That’s so rude that the nurse rolled her eyes at you and said “it’s normal” when you were SHAKING like that and so scared, like it might be obvious to HER, cause she sees it all the time, but obviously YOU don’t see that all the time, it’s your first time giving birth or seeing someone give birth!
I opted for no epidural. The nurse for my First born was a champ. The nurse for my second in a private hospital told me if you don’t want the pain that is why there is epidural. My mother in law said is it sometimes some repercussions after that. She rolled her eyes and said people all over the world came to us do you think we can tell you to do something if you have repercussions after that.
Society is so pressed on women “snatching back” post partum. Not all of us have that bounce back ability. We have to as a society accept women where they are and not pressure us to becoming that perfect magazine mom everyone is so obsessed with. Own your transition and let women ride the waves of coming into motherhood! No postpartum experience is linear.
I’m pregnant for the first time and since I’m so young everyone tell me you won’t even be able to tell I’ve been pregnant after birth. That freaks me out. I don’t want aaaany expectations on me and my body. It is what it is and it will be what it will be. :/
It's like people we carried and grew our baby for 9/10 months it doesn't take a week to bounce back everyone's body is different. At about 6 months postpartum I started feeling like myself again it was a roller coaster no doubt
Take all of the “free” things the hospital provides for you. Once its been taken out of its original shipping packaging and placed in your room its deemed a biohazard. They just throw it all away opened or unopened.
Oh girl, same on so many of these. We had the best nurse then right before delivery WORST nurse change. My milk never came in and I was devastated. Our pedi told me to supplement and pump when I could but I never got my milk so could never pump. And body image...someone told me, it takes 9 months for your body to make a baby, it takes 9 months to get your body back. And I found it to be true. Once my daughter turned 1 I felt like I was finally back to “normal”. It’s the most amazing emotional journey. I’ve loved seeing yours, thank you for letting us be a part.
I’m 8 weeks pregnant and the people in my family haven’t even been this real with their births! Thank you for being so honest through your motherhood journey 💕😭
I’m almost clocking on my 1st trimester and it’s so true this journey can be lonely because nobody is as real to sort of prepare you for the journey 😢😢. These have probably been the loneliest 3 months of my life .
@sheikarose not everyone goes through this. This is dramatic. It IS painful (I didnt get and epidural with any of my kids, THATS painful.. but when you're numbed with an epidural, its so not). The afted care is definitely not a that and going to the bathroom does not hurt.. only with a c section as I did with my last. Your vagina does not hurt afterwards either. Stitches, if you have them feel uncomfortable but is definitely not painful as she describes. You've got to remember some people define discomfort as dramatic pain. It really is NOT all that she is sharing. Do not get scared or anxious about childbirth. Its the most beautiful experience ever and everyone I mean EVERY ONE is different and has a different experience. In my opinion, she is being way to dramatic. Or perhaps maybe she is not, she just may be one that is hugh maintenance and does not do well with discomfort.
Just wanted to say a shout out to all the ob nurses out there, yes they too have bad days, unfortunately not every woman who gets pregnant is healthy physically and mentally. They see the best and the worst. The are there. They see things that would give you shivers and sometimes they witness unbelievable miracles. I'm sorry your nurse was having a moment in her head. Maybe she had to deliver a baby that was addicted the night before and was still hurting from that. We will never know. Just wanted to say that nurses are amazing people. They deserve more credit for what they do. Congratulations on your new bundle of joy!! Being a mom is an amazing journey ♡♡
DESIIIII!! Your subscriber count is 333 right now which is an angel number. It literally means ''Take this as a sign you’re on the right path, your prayers have been heard, and you’re heading in the right direction''. WHICH IS CRAZY because Ocean is a little miracle baby we all know you waited forever for 🥺🥺🥺❤️
Women that haven't had a baby yet! KEEP THIS VIDEO FOR REFERENCE! Ya'll are SO LUCKY. TH-cam wasn't a thing back when I had my first baby and the feeling of having no idea what I was doing consumed me. Thanks Desi for posting this! I am so happy for you 💜
I recently found out that I am pregnant, I am just about six to seven weeks, and it’s been a very tough and stressful week. You sharing your story has helped me put things in perspective and provided me with hope that even through difficult times we can and will come out of it strong and empowered. Blessings to you and your family, and I pray you continue to feel better each and every day and get through those tough days❤️❤️❤️
Pleeease do a baby must haves! I really appreciated this video- I'm pregnant and due April 1st. Trying to mentally prepare myself but also freaking out. Thank you!
This video speaks to me on sooo many levels. I am four months postpartum and I have had all the same experiences as you, mama. Women are freakin amazing. I’m just saying.
Also, to any new moms watching, FED IS BEST. Period. If anyone tells you different, they’re wrong. I promise you when they go to college, they don’t ask your kids if they were breastfed or formula fed. Motherhood is hard enough, make it easier for yourself where you can ❤️
i gave birth over 25 years ago and had exactly the same situation where a new nurse with a not so great vibe take over and it is still part of my memory to this day! Well done for taking action, i wish we had back then too,
Am I ready for a baby? No. Am I taking notes? Absolutely. And I’m so happy that your friend was able to make you feel ok about having to formula feed. Formula feeding is still feeding and that’s all that matters. Moms shouldn’t feel ashamed for having to supplement. All that matters is that your baby eats. 🖤
Anyone else get phantom let down pains just from watching this? Just me. Cool. Also, THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU desi for sharing this. This is filled with so much great input and options for new moms. I wish I had, had something like this with both of mine. Bless you.
The whole time I was pregnant, I told myself I wouldn’t put pressure on myself to breast feed or feel guilty if breast feeding didn’t work out for me, and then my baby was born and I did exactly that. I felt like such a failure but the fact is that he’s healthy and happy and that’s all that matters. Our mental health is so important as moms and although I am still ‘mourning’ over not being able to breast feed, I know I’m still doing my best for my baby. And you are too!! We have to support and uplift each other!
Watching this video was like deja vu from labor to postpartum. My daughter is now 1. Enjoy every moment. They grow so fast😭 So happy for you both Desi❤️
I’m 19...single and pregnant and it’s been sooo hard but these videos make me feel like things will be okay❤️ thank you I hope you continue to do good :)
Girl I cleared out everything the provided in the hospital. The nurses even smuggled me in some extra stuff. Nurses can make or break an experience. In my experience, I was blessed with the most amazing nurses. I sent them a muffin basket after I got home.
The breastfeeding topic really hit me as it was so difficult for me. I was judged by family and I felt like an even worse mother. Now pregnant with my second and I really pray that someday people will stop looking down upon moms that can’t breastfeed. Much love to you as you are doing an amazing job with ocean ❤️
Listening to your breastfeeding journey was like reliving my experience I feel like a lot of women go through the same thing but no one talks about it, thank you for this
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I’m a ftm & gave birth in October. The labor & delivery nurses are angels. I know it’s their job to help every step of the way but it felt extra comforting to have them since my mom couldn’t be there (only one support person which was my bf) When they showed me how to use the bathroom/all the ins & outs, I legit felt that motherly energy I needed. The best ppl!
I have 1y.o twin boys and still here for the great info! I won't be getting pregnant anytime soon because I also had a hard time getting pregnant. I didn't get depression either but I did have those days where I just couldn't handle anything but I was alone so I had to no choice for me really but this was just so informative raw & real. Congrats Desi & Steven! You've got this & it's ok to have bad days. I feel like they make us better because we get this drive that we will do it again and be the best mother we can ever be. Mucho amor!
I gave birth at 22 to my beautiful son; my parents were both there I wasn’t even embarrassed giving birth I embraced it!! I embraced how powerful and gifted women are , we literally give birth to new generations. I felt so powerful and amazed of what my body can do! So congratulations to you Desi✨🦋 welcome to motherhood 💗💗💗
Tengo tiempo sabiendo que no quiero ser mamá, pero ver este video me hace asegurarlo más How strong you are Desi, full respect for you and all the mamas out there
Omg my baby is now 4 and hearing you speak is having me relive all those feelings. Motherhood really is a transformation. It tears you down and builds you in to a new person. Congrats on baby O love
Desi I’ve seen many postpartum vids. You gave the most real raw true after postpartum. Mom of four here so I know it’s not easy but it’s definitely very rewarding. Keep it up we have good days and not so good ones but at the end of the day it’s all worth it. Your doing a great job momma.👍🏻
Desi!!! You were literally my inspiration to get pregnant. You made me realize how beautiful it would be to be a mom.. and now, i am 23 weeks pregnant, expecting a baby boy 🥰 Thank you!
I had my baby 4 months ago and one thing that was a GODSEND after pushing and tearing was a numbing spray. I highly recommend using one especially to help with the sting of the stitches!
The best advice I can give to new mothers is, don’t be so hard on yourself. Perfection is an unattainable goal and you will question every decision trying to achieve it.
I gave birth 10/19/2020 to my first born son. I love watching your stories and videos. I feel like I can relate so much. Thank you for being open and honest ❤️
I literally just broke down when you spoke about breastfeeding. I had a similar experience as yours and I can totally relate it was one of the hardest things ever. Girl I love how transparent you are💖
Thanks for sharing!! My daughter will be 16 months in a few days...my husband and I went through 4 years of infertility before having her. I remember I was sooooo excited to finally be a mom but then every night at 7pm on the dot I would cry and just feel soooo sad for no reason. I def battled some post partum depression and anxiety but Im happy to say it didnt last too long and now my daughters my best friend and I feel sooo blessed to be a mom!
Talking about the milk supply and finding out you weren’t producing enough that hit home. Same thing was happening to me 😔🥺. Thanks for making us feel not alone!
Yessss! I work at a hospital if the nurse is not supportive or helpful in what YOU need ask to speak to the charge nurse tell them what is going on and ask for a new nurse!! I can’t not stress this enough!!
38 weeks here and I already don’t recognize myself at times when I look at myself some days. I can’t wait to meet my baby girl! Pregnancy is hard and I could just imagine how postpartum/breastfeeding is going to be like. Sending all the beautiful mamas a big hug! We got this! 😘
Mom guilt and anxiety is real and should be addressed more often. The postpartum care in America needs a huge overhaul. I also had a nurse I didn't like and wish I advocated for myself. The postpartum blues come on so strong and it's hard to talk about it. It's so wonderful that you are using your platform to share. I love that I feel secure in my new identity as a mom
These videos are so important I'm not pregnant or anywhere near getting pregnant but this is so informative and I know I will remember this in the future. More of this content on TH-cam plz
Yes my Mom bought me a A girdle with adjustable straps like a Faja right after I gave birth to my first baby at 17years old and I had a c-section and it hurt sooo bad but it also helped everything stay in place and pushed it all in. But after a month my stomach was back flat. With every pregnancy I used them except with my son then that’s when my stomach didn’t go back flat🤦🏽♀️ I had c-sections with all 4 of my kids. 👍🏽 Girl you look amazing and again congratulations on your baby boy. I’m now 43 and all my kids are grown up except my son he’s 13yrs old and My stomach never was the same after him. That faja is a game changer for real!
This video helped me so much, motherhood is so hard mentally and physically but so rewarding. Feels nice that I’m not alone. Thanks for sharing your story , Ocean is so blessed ❤️
Girl! I got the chills and trembles right before I delivered 2 of my kids and I HATE that feeling. I didn't know what was happening the first time either but fortunately I did have a nurse explain it all to me and what my hormones were doing. You totally did the right thing with the nurse situation. Nobody needs negativty during such a huge moment in their lives
Thank you for sharing your breastfeeding story! I’m struggling right now trying to breastfeed my newborn. And knowing I’m not the only one who felt like a “failure” is comforting. Thank you Desi💙
I’m glad they gave you a new nurse! The shakes is totally normal. I didn’t get it until after I delivered but my water broke right before I delivered. I remember apologizing to the doctor because she was trying to suture me up from my tear and I was just shaking uncontrollably. She chuckled and said don’t even worry about it’s totally normal it’s from your hormones.
I got ripped off, for our first child, our son, I had to have an emergency Csection, then with our second our daughter I also had to have a emergency Csection 2 wks before her due date. So both my pregnancies I had Csections. I really wanted to push! Lol I used to practice when I was going to the bathroom🤣🤣🤣 while I was pregnant with our son, I seriously would pretend when I was alone in the bathroom using the potty that I was pushing the baby out. I really wanted to experience the whole birthing process. It’s great hearing you and the baby are adjusting well and motherhood has come naturally to you. 💙💙💙💙
You were my favorite you tuber before you were pregnant, and now that you’ve had Ocean your videos help me so so much. I found out I was pregnant unexpectedly last November, and every single video you’ve posted has helped me so so much because i feel completely clueless. Thank you, Desi
I was fortunate enough to have the most amazing dedicated labor nurse. I swear she was the reason I didn’t have a c-section. She honestly went above and beyond!!! At one moment came to me told me she had dropped her other patients to stay with me the whole night she said “we’re having this baby tonight!”
It totally does but we have to remember that some people respond better to a more direct approach. She didn’t and so she got another nurse and that’s okay.
I am pregnant with my first baby, and as excited as I am I am also scared of labor and delivery and postpartum. I don't think you can prepare at all for this journey and I have been praying and giving it to God for strength and guidance. Thank you for sharing your story and being real without making it scary to listen to. Women are warriors and I wish society would hype moms up more instead of focusing on the bounce back or getting back to the gym. I think for me being off social media and focusing on my baby and myself will be a healthy start to Motherhood. Love you Desi!
I’m going to be a first time mom and it’s so wonderful to hear you and everyone in the comments sharing their experiences and advice. Definitely makes me feel less lonely! Also would love a baby must haves!!
I agreed about how important your nurse is to your delivery. I don’t think I could have done it without her. Shoutout to my nurse Brenda. As a ftm, She told me everything I needed to hear.
I literally didn’t know how to describe my hormones and feelings after birth because it wasn’t necessarily PPD but you described it perfectly like a shift of identities and becoming a new person almost was spot on
What i learned in school is that some people can have Post Partum Blues, which seems to be what Desi described (off days, where you feel super bad, but it’s temporary and you get better) VS. Post-Partum Depression which is more serious and does NOT get better with time
FTM are really feeling this video.. honestly I would see your videos, instagram post and be so jealous as a mom, I remember your first post with your elvie pumps full and I just cried so much.. I thought to myself that I was the failure and you were super mom! This video is an eye opener that most moms go through this.. and adding to that im a csection mom.. BUT that cute teethless smiles are PRICELESS!! ❤️
I love your real ness and openness. I am in the midst of family planning and have been watching videos nonstop. I’ve been watching you for years and feel like you are my older sister! I’m the oldest in my family and no one really talks about these things so I’m very grateful for you. I love you Desi! 💕
I’m 26 not thinking about getting pregnant anytime soon. but I was so into this video because of the rawness of it. And it one day I am bless with a baby, I feel more prepared
Ive watched for years and this journey has brought me to tears! I couldn't be happier for a complete stranger that shared so many beautiful vulnerable moments~ If God gave Desi a message and opportunity to make her mark, she has this world in graffiti lol! Thank you guys, so much love and blessings!
Currently 37 weeks pregnant with my first baby !! Little boy due February 18th 💙 This video was hands down the most informative one !! Honest and real which is what I’ve been looking for... I’m really scared not knowing what to expect and if I can handle what’s about to come. Postpartum is what’s freaking me out. Thank you so much dezi for going in depth on what goes on and your recommendations on what to get. If anyone else has any more to add please comment ! ❤️
Just to hear Desi talking about Postpartum after being pregnant, she’s come such a long way and I’m so happy to see a little mini Perkins 😇
I’m so glad that Steven advocated for you. I’m also a nurse, and I’m very familiar with nurse Ratchet’s like that. Not only do they make their patient’s life difficult, they also make their coworkers lives difficult. Any whooo... I’m super happy for you guys. ♥️
Ugh my experience.🙄 I had my husband ask for a different nurse. She really made me feel horrible maybe it was because I just had a baby idk but I cried.
Wow thank u for sharing this ! My son is now 8 and I had a bad experience with nurses too. I thought it was just me.. I’m 4 months pregnant and scared because I don’t want to switch doctors but she’s affiliated with the same hospital where I had my bad experience. This time around I will speak up if I’m feeling mistreated!
Me, 23, single and not pregnant: wow I kinda want everything
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SAME!!!!
Literally same😂
Me, 26, single af: same.
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I actually don’t care if this whole channel doesn’t even mention makeup anymore. I love watching you and Steven and baby O❤️ And of course the doggies. I love the stories the story times and all of that. Don’t rush back into makeup girl don’t even worry about it. How about a story of all of this from Steven’s point of view? How is Steven doing?
Yesss very well said and yes that would love to see that a guys perspective on how they feel going through or seeing their significant other in pain or what goes through their would love stevens side story
AGREEEED! please bring steven into a video like this or ask him to upload to his channel :) i think a guys prespective should be heard
Then unfollowed. You are in the wrong channel. Where are you going that you have to do your makeup anyway.
@@almasandoval670 why comment? are you looking for someone to beg you to stay? off you go!! theres plenty of make up channels for you to get lost in. drama!
@@almasandoval670 alma baby i think you read my comment wrong hunny! but go awf
Girl this was the most REAL postpartum video I’ve ever seen, I mean that in the best way. So many moms will need this, you’re being that person who is breaking the barrier and letting women know what they need postpartum but also letting them know so so many moms go through hardships right after a baby comes. It’s the most amazing time but at the same time a mix of emotions with ups and downs. I’ve been super honest with friends and give them lists on what to get etc. Anyway I just want to say we love you desi! Big hugs! You and Steven are doing amazing!
Agreed! Love her honesty and talk about everything! ❤️
Agree! Such a great video!!!
Agreed, my mom stayed with me for a few weeks after birth and when she left I bawled my eyes out...and the thing is I am not an emotional person..
As an expecting father, this was super helpful. It has provided me with some different things to look out for with my fiancee. In addition, it gave me a bunch of helpful items to add to the baby registry for her. Thank you for sharing your experiences.
sir, you dropped this 👑
@@giovannaelyssaacuna348 this made me literally LOL at work, so thank you. Hope you have a great day.
@@PharaohJay417 lol I love to see it! Same to you! 😊
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You’re such a good husband!
Please do baby must haves 🙏🏼 and what you bought and didn’t use/didn’t need 🙏🏼❤️🦋
Yes!!!! Please!!!!
Yesss!
Yes!
Would Steven ever film a video of his side of the postpartum experience? I know you touched on somethings that he does to support you. My partner and I have been watching your parental journey and he often wonders about dad tips. Love you guys and congratulations again!!
I love how I don’t even have a boyfriend but here I am, learning what I need post pregnancy 😂
Girl same. No plans to have babies for years but here i am 😂
Same😅
Same😂 I love watching baby and pregnancy video’s but no baby’s for me right now
Sameee
Same. But I think most of us haven’t been taught about any of this. And I personally need to know what I’m signing up for before I even consider having kids 😭
I can't stress enough how important it is to have a labor nurse who you vibe with honestly. My labor nurses were incredible.
I’m always amazed at how much hate there is for mothers. Breastfeeding? Great. Formula? Great! C-section? Awesome. Vaginal birth? Cool! Women are already subjected to so much hate and negativity, if you do your best every day for your kids, that’s what matters. Happy for you and your growing family! ♥️ thanks for sharing your story.
Seriously! ❤️❤️❤️
For real everyone is different idk why we are always competing with each other 😔
👏 🙏 👏 🙏. People need to hear this. The mommy shaming, the woman to woman shaming just needs to stop. We woman are amazing, what we’re capable of us amazing. Ok that’s all.
Yes!! “Breast is best”... please, “feed your baby and mind your damn business” should be the phrase!!
I actually never wanted to leave a comment because I figured “they aren’t going to read it or care” but I had my twins on the same day you had Ocean so we were pregnant at the same time. I also had a hard time breastfeeding and my babies also lost weight. It was such a break down for me, but knowing that you went through the same thing makes me feel a lot better. This is also my first pregnancy so we are in this together. Your videos have definitely helped me as I am a first time mom as well. I remember on your fertility journey the IVF DR asking you how many eggs you wanted to be implanted and you said having two the first time around is going to be hard....well let me tell you it was a good choice. Having twins is soooooooo hard. So glad you have all the help you need. Stay strong mommy.
Hi! I just read your comment and I’m not a mama BUT I was 6lbs 5oz when I was born; my mom had the same experience with me when I was a baby. She thought that I was latching on and getting enough milk etc. I was her second baby so she thought things were fine and had no idea that in fact I wasn’t feeding correctly and had lost weight. I dropped down to 5lbs or something. Her doc told her to switch to formula (which TBH she was totally ok with!) so she did and it was smooth sailing. I turned out great LOL 😂 and my mama is AMAZING and strong & the BEST MAMA, just like YOU!! 💖
I had horrific postpartum to the point I almost committed suicide. Thank God I have the best husband. No one tells you how hard your first child is to adjust to. I always tell people how wonderful it is to be a mom, but it is also the hardest thing.
I am so glad you’re here 💜
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I’m so sorry! It is so hard to go through such a huge shift. I don’t think anyone can prepare someone until they have their own baby. I’m glad you had such a great support system
@@DesiPerkins it is. I had babies 17m apart so it was a journey! We ended up stopping after two, because of how hard it was on me. But then we fostered babies for 3 years in flint and that was a blessing!!!!
🤗 BIG HUG!! Its so incredibly HARD to be a mom!! You are VERY lucky you had a supportive husband. We were on the same boat.... I have postpartum depression, anxiety, and OCD. My husband thought/thinks I made it all up and was and still is horrible with me. He absolutely does not understand anything nor can I make him understand. I can't even talk about it because it enrages him. My "best friend" just disappeared so I felt abandoned, lost, and lonely. My only support system was my mom but unfortunately she passed away the day after Christmas. You can imagine how I felt and still feel. I push through for my kids but that first year was HELL to say the least.
I am literally so happy that someone is talking about everything! Because a lot of women make giving birth like the most amazing glorious thing in the world, and let me tell you it is not! There is a lot that goes on and a lot to learn and know that no one talks about! I am so happy you are explaining everything to the tea!
For real! Like the Women That get special pretty gowns to give birth. I’m like.... girlllll you are NOT ready for the body fluids about to exit you. Lmao 😂
@@fernandagonzalez7270 Hahahah exactly!
when I had my first baby, after my baby came out, the doctor told me to push again! I thought I was having another baby (twins), but it’s was for the placenta, I had no idea hahahahaha so embarrassing
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Desi this is beautiful! I’m 67, mother and grandmother. My advice is: cherish every single moment, because one day you will turn around and be me. Time goes by so fast, enjoy the journey!!! Blessings to you!🙏❤️🙏❤️
I’m not planning on having kids anytime soon but that doesn’t mean I didn’t watch this ENTIRE video minute for minute lol. This was so interesting!!!
As a FTM, this hit hard for me. The story about the nurse, the breastfeeding struggle and just mourning the life pre-baby was all relatable. Now at almost 5 months post partum, I feel much better about myself.. And now I cant even picture life without my baby.
i’m 22. two cats, one dog. and i’m SCARRED.
all the mommas out there are true super heroes. congrats desi🥺
This needs to be on all sorts of media outlets. When I gave birth, being a labor and delivery nurse, postpartum was very hard. No one ever prepares you for the hormonal shifts, self adjusting issues, and new emotions you have to navigate. Everyone focuses on the baby and you might look good, but, sometimes you don’t feel good. Having a GREAT support team makes or breaks your pp journey. And I think a lot of people don’t understand that. I cannot thank enough for opening up and being honest with the vulnerable states you experience during postpartum. You’re doing awesome!
Girl, I can't imagine how tough all these things have been, but you are BURSTING with confidence talking about them now, you sound like you've given birth 20 times already. Your kid is lucky to have you as a mom!
I’m not pregnant, nor will I be in the next 5 years but I just loved watching your whole journey from the beginning to now motherhood!! So proud.
It’s insane to me how mommas have done this on their own for centuries...so much info and support out there nowadays! You are a warrior, and I learned so many new things in this vid that people haven’t shared. Thank you!!
Hi ☺️ I am a mother of 5 children, of which the oldest is 23 and the youngest is 9. This must be the best childbirth, post-childbirth and breast-feeding etc. video I've ever seen! You tell all the less comfortable and painful things that come with having a baby! You are an absolutely inspiring woman! This video should be shown to all the first-time mothers!!! Congratulations to the whole family on the newborn boy 💙! Greetings from Finland 🇫🇮, which is located near the North Pole ❄️⛄️(where Santa lives 🎅🏻)...
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I’ve never cried so much, I felt this so much. The tears hit hard about breastfeeding for me and having to supplement with formula but I tell myself everyday that she’s eating good and happy. Being a first time mom isn’t easy but like you said so rewarding!
me watching this at 18, with no kids and not planning on having any for a long time: “wow. this is good to know” hahaha you’re a warrior desi, all moms are
Thanks 💞
I’m so happy to see you back on TH-cam! Ocean is such an absolute cutie, you and Steven are amazing parents 💙
That’s so rude that the nurse rolled her eyes at you and said “it’s normal” when you were SHAKING like that and so scared, like it might be obvious to HER, cause she sees it all the time, but obviously YOU don’t see that all the time, it’s your first time giving birth or seeing someone give birth!
I opted for no epidural. The nurse for my First born was a champ. The nurse for my second in a private hospital told me if you don’t want the pain that is why there is epidural. My mother in law said is it sometimes some repercussions after that. She rolled her eyes and said people all over the world came to us do you think we can tell you to do something if you have repercussions after that.
Society is so pressed on women “snatching back” post partum. Not all of us have that bounce back ability. We have to as a society accept women where they are and not pressure us to becoming that perfect magazine mom everyone is so obsessed with.
Own your transition and let women ride the waves of coming into motherhood! No postpartum experience is linear.
Couldn't agree more, thank you for saying this.
Ride the waves of coming into motherhood. That’s is the best description I’ve ever heard about it. 🙌🙌
I’m pregnant for the first time and since I’m so young everyone tell me you won’t even be able to tell I’ve been pregnant after birth. That freaks me out. I don’t want aaaany expectations on me and my body. It is what it is and it will be what it will be. :/
It's like people we carried and grew our baby for 9/10 months it doesn't take a week to bounce back everyone's body is different. At about 6 months postpartum I started feeling like myself again it was a roller coaster no doubt
Take all of the “free” things the hospital provides for you. Once its been taken out of its original shipping packaging and placed in your room its deemed a biohazard. They just throw it all away opened or unopened.
Postpartum nurse: I second this. I literally make all my patients take it home even if they don’t “need it”.
Yep. This! They also factor it in to the cost of your hospital bill. TAKE IT!
Oh girl, same on so many of these. We had the best nurse then right before delivery WORST nurse change. My milk never came in and I was devastated. Our pedi told me to supplement and pump when I could but I never got my milk so could never pump. And body image...someone told me, it takes 9 months for your body to make a baby, it takes 9 months to get your body back. And I found it to be true. Once my daughter turned 1 I felt like I was finally back to “normal”. It’s the most amazing emotional journey. I’ve loved seeing yours, thank you for letting us be a part.
This is sooo helpful Desi! Please please do a video on what you are using vs. what you're not! Ocean is lucky to have you as his mommy
This I have to do because I feel like I got so much that I never used!
i think i could listen to you talk for hours. i swear you are one of the only youtubers whose videos i dont fast forward through.
I’m 8 weeks pregnant and the people in my family haven’t even been this real with their births! Thank you for being so honest through your motherhood journey 💕😭
I’m almost clocking on my 1st trimester and it’s so true this journey can be lonely because nobody is as real to sort of prepare you for the journey 😢😢. These have probably been the loneliest 3 months of my life .
@sheikarose not everyone goes through this. This is dramatic. It IS painful (I didnt get and epidural with any of my kids, THATS painful.. but when you're numbed with an epidural, its so not).
The afted care is definitely not a that and going to the bathroom does not hurt.. only with a c section as I did with my last. Your vagina does not hurt afterwards either. Stitches, if you have them feel uncomfortable but is definitely not painful as she describes. You've got to remember some people define discomfort as dramatic pain. It really is NOT all that she is sharing. Do not get scared or anxious about childbirth. Its the most beautiful experience ever and everyone I mean EVERY ONE is different and has a different experience. In my opinion, she is being way to dramatic. Or perhaps maybe she is not, she just may be one that is hugh maintenance and does not do well with discomfort.
Just wanted to say a shout out to all the ob nurses out there, yes they too have bad days, unfortunately not every woman who gets pregnant is healthy physically and mentally. They see the best and the worst. The are there. They see things that would give you shivers and sometimes they witness unbelievable miracles. I'm sorry your nurse was having a moment in her head. Maybe she had to deliver a baby that was addicted the night before and was still hurting from that. We will never know. Just wanted to say that nurses are amazing people. They deserve more credit for what they do. Congratulations on your new bundle of joy!! Being a mom is an amazing journey ♡♡
DESIIIII!! Your subscriber count is 333 right now which is an angel number. It literally means ''Take this as a sign you’re on the right path, your prayers have been heard, and you’re heading in the right direction''. WHICH IS CRAZY because Ocean is a little miracle baby we all know you waited forever for 🥺🥺🥺❤️
Women that haven't had a baby yet! KEEP THIS VIDEO FOR REFERENCE! Ya'll are SO LUCKY. TH-cam wasn't a thing back when I had my first baby and the feeling of having no idea what I was doing consumed me. Thanks Desi for posting this! I am so happy for you 💜
I recently found out that I am pregnant, I am just about six to seven weeks, and it’s been a very tough and stressful week. You sharing your story has helped me put things in perspective and provided me with hope that even through difficult times we can and will come out of it strong and empowered. Blessings to you and your family, and I pray you continue to feel better each and every day and get through those tough days❤️❤️❤️
I did not know you could request another nurse! Thank you so much for that. Im 22 weeks and very anxious over the delivery process.
Pleeease do a baby must haves! I really appreciated this video- I'm pregnant and due April 1st. Trying to mentally prepare myself but also freaking out. Thank you!
Best wishes to you especially for a safe delivery! God speed.
You can do this, Mama! You are literally MADE for it ❤️ Trust your Body and your Baby ✨
(My son was born April 1st! But 11 years ago already 🙂)
This video speaks to me on sooo many levels. I am four months postpartum and I have had all the same experiences as you, mama. Women are freakin amazing. I’m just saying.
Also, to any new moms watching, FED IS BEST. Period. If anyone tells you different, they’re wrong. I promise you when they go to college, they don’t ask your kids if they were breastfed or formula fed. Motherhood is hard enough, make it easier for yourself where you can ❤️
i gave birth over 25 years ago and had exactly the same situation where a new nurse with a not so great vibe take over and it is still part of my memory to this day! Well done for taking action, i wish we had back then too,
Am I ready for a baby? No. Am I taking notes? Absolutely.
And I’m so happy that your friend was able to make you feel ok about having to formula feed. Formula feeding is still feeding and that’s all that matters. Moms shouldn’t feel ashamed for having to supplement. All that matters is that your baby eats. 🖤
Anyone else get phantom let down pains just from watching this? Just me. Cool.
Also, THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU desi for sharing this. This is filled with so much great input and options for new moms. I wish I had, had something like this with both of mine. Bless you.
The whole time I was pregnant, I told myself I wouldn’t put pressure on myself to breast feed or feel guilty if breast feeding didn’t work out for me, and then my baby was born and I did exactly that. I felt like such a failure but the fact is that he’s healthy and happy and that’s all that matters. Our mental health is so important as moms and although I am still ‘mourning’ over not being able to breast feed, I know I’m still doing my best for my baby. And you are too!! We have to support and uplift each other!
Watching this video was like deja vu from labor to postpartum. My daughter is now 1. Enjoy every moment. They grow so fast😭 So happy for you both Desi❤️
I’m 19...single and pregnant and it’s been sooo hard but these videos make me feel like things will be okay❤️ thank you I hope you continue to do good :)
I wish you all the best♥️You can do it girl♥️😊
Girl I cleared out everything the provided in the hospital. The nurses even smuggled me in some extra stuff. Nurses can make or break an experience. In my experience, I was blessed with the most amazing nurses. I sent them a muffin basket after I got home.
The breastfeeding topic really hit me as it was so difficult for me. I was judged by family and I felt like an even worse mother. Now pregnant with my second and I really pray that someday people will stop looking down upon moms that can’t breastfeed. Much love to you as you are doing an amazing job with ocean ❤️
Listening to your breastfeeding journey was like reliving my experience I feel like a lot of women go through the same thing but no one talks about it, thank you for this
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I’m a ftm & gave birth in October. The labor & delivery nurses are angels. I know it’s their job to help every step of the way but it felt extra comforting to have them since my mom couldn’t be there (only one support person which was my bf) When they showed me how to use the bathroom/all the ins & outs, I legit felt that motherly energy I needed. The best ppl!
Yes! I ended up with such an amazing nurse in the end and she felt like a mom. It was so nice.
I have 1y.o twin boys and still here for the great info! I won't be getting pregnant anytime soon because I also had a hard time getting pregnant. I didn't get depression either but I did have those days where I just couldn't handle anything but I was alone so I had to no choice for me really but this was just so informative raw & real. Congrats Desi & Steven! You've got this & it's ok to have bad days. I feel like they make us better because we get this drive that we will do it again and be the best mother we can ever be. Mucho amor!
I gave birth at 22 to my beautiful son; my parents were both there I wasn’t even embarrassed giving birth I embraced it!! I embraced how powerful and gifted women are , we literally give birth to new generations. I felt so powerful and amazed of what my body can do! So congratulations to you Desi✨🦋 welcome to motherhood 💗💗💗
I gave birth to my son at 21 and my mother in law was there for him and my daughter 4 years later
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How strong you are Desi, full respect for you and all the mamas out there
This makes me appreciate my mom even more if that’s even possible 🥺❤️
Omg my baby is now 4 and hearing you speak is having me relive all those feelings. Motherhood really is a transformation. It tears you down and builds you in to a new person. Congrats on baby O love
I have been waiting for this!! I LOVE watching Ocean grow. His smile, his deep dimples, proud tia over here!
Same!!!
Desi I’ve seen many postpartum vids. You gave the most real raw true after postpartum. Mom of four here so I know it’s not easy but it’s definitely very rewarding. Keep it up we have good days and not so good ones but at the end of the day it’s all worth it. Your doing a great job momma.👍🏻
Desi!!! You were literally my inspiration to get pregnant. You made me realize how beautiful it would be to be a mom.. and now, i am 23 weeks pregnant, expecting a baby boy 🥰
Thank you!
I had my baby 4 months ago and one thing that was a GODSEND after pushing and tearing was a numbing spray. I highly recommend using one especially to help with the sting of the stitches!
The best advice I can give to new mothers is, don’t be so hard on yourself. Perfection is an unattainable goal and you will question every decision trying to achieve it.
I gave birth 10/19/2020 to my first born son. I love watching your stories and videos. I feel like I can relate so much. Thank you for being open and honest ❤️
I literally just broke down when you spoke about breastfeeding. I had a similar experience as yours and I can totally relate it was one of the hardest things ever. Girl I love how transparent you are💖
Thanks for sharing!! My daughter will be 16 months in a few days...my husband and I went through 4 years of infertility before having her. I remember I was sooooo excited to finally be a mom but then every night at 7pm on the dot I would cry and just feel soooo sad for no reason. I def battled some post partum depression and anxiety but Im happy to say it didnt last too long and now my daughters my best friend and I feel sooo blessed to be a mom!
Talking about the milk supply and finding out you weren’t producing enough that hit home. Same thing was happening to me 😔🥺. Thanks for making us feel not alone!
Same here!
Same here🥺
Fenugreek seeds really help in milk production. In India we have a whole diet for post parfum milk production
Yessss! I work at a hospital if the nurse is not supportive or helpful in what YOU need ask to speak to the charge nurse tell them what is going on and ask for a new nurse!! I can’t not stress this enough!!
Congratulations on baby Ocean and for your new journey of motherhood! Your happiness and warmth is contagious 💙
YOUR ARE GLOWING!!!! MOTHERHOOD IS EMBRACING YOU!!!!! 🥰
38 weeks here and I already don’t recognize myself at times when I look at myself some days. I can’t wait to meet my baby girl! Pregnancy is hard and I could just imagine how postpartum/breastfeeding is going to be like. Sending all the beautiful mamas a big hug! We got this! 😘
Mom guilt and anxiety is real and should be addressed more often. The postpartum care in America needs a huge overhaul. I also had a nurse I didn't like and wish I advocated for myself. The postpartum blues come on so strong and it's hard to talk about it. It's so wonderful that you are using your platform to share. I love that I feel secure in my new identity as a mom
Your hair!!! Obsessed with the 90s Mariah Carey curls 😍
These videos are so important I'm not pregnant or anywhere near getting pregnant but this is so informative and I know I will remember this in the future. More of this content on TH-cam plz
You can tell Desi is a true gardener because she pronounced it “perennial” instead of “perineal” 😂
Yes my Mom bought me a A girdle with adjustable straps like a Faja right after I gave birth to my first baby at 17years old and I had a c-section and it hurt sooo bad but it also helped everything stay in place and pushed it all in. But after a month my stomach was back flat. With every pregnancy I used them except with my son then that’s when my stomach didn’t go back flat🤦🏽♀️ I had c-sections with all 4 of my kids. 👍🏽
Girl you look amazing and again congratulations on your baby boy. I’m now 43 and all my kids are grown up except my son he’s 13yrs old and My stomach never was the same after him. That faja is a game changer for real!
This video helped me so much, motherhood is so hard mentally and physically but so rewarding. Feels nice that I’m not alone. Thanks for sharing your story , Ocean is so blessed ❤️
Girl! I got the chills and trembles right before I delivered 2 of my kids and I HATE that feeling. I didn't know what was happening the first time either but fortunately I did have a nurse explain it all to me and what my hormones were doing.
You totally did the right thing with the nurse situation. Nobody needs negativty during such a huge moment in their lives
I’m not pregnant, haven’t had a baby, don’t plan on having a baby any time soon but I’m sure gone watch this whole video
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Same 🙌
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Me too😂🤍🤍. I'm so appreciative of her sharing her experience .
Hated the pain and discomfort but loved being cared for by the nurses. I got help to shower and everything
Thank you for sharing your breastfeeding story! I’m struggling right now trying to breastfeed my newborn. And knowing I’m not the only one who felt like a “failure” is comforting. Thank you Desi💙
I’m glad they gave you a new nurse! The shakes is totally normal. I didn’t get it until after I delivered but my water broke right before I delivered. I remember apologizing to the doctor because she was trying to suture me up from my tear and I was just shaking uncontrollably. She chuckled and said don’t even worry about it’s totally normal it’s from your hormones.
I got ripped off, for our first child, our son, I had to have an emergency Csection, then with our second our daughter I also had to have a emergency Csection 2 wks before her due date. So both my pregnancies I had Csections. I really wanted to push! Lol I used to practice when I was going to the bathroom🤣🤣🤣 while I was pregnant with our son, I seriously would pretend when I was alone in the bathroom using the potty that I was pushing the baby out. I really wanted to experience the whole birthing process. It’s great hearing you and the baby are adjusting well and motherhood has come naturally to you. 💙💙💙💙
I couldn't push, and had to have a c section because of medical reasons. Not pushing does not make us lesser.
You are still wonder woman in my eyes.
Yeah two c sections as well. Emergency c section with the first and then medical reasons for the second.
You were my favorite you tuber before you were pregnant, and now that you’ve had Ocean your videos help me so so much. I found out I was pregnant unexpectedly last November, and every single video you’ve posted has helped me so so much because i feel completely clueless. Thank you, Desi
Such a beautiful soul you are. Thank you truly for sharing your whole journey from beginning until now with us. You are truly a beauty to watch.
I was fortunate enough to have the most amazing dedicated labor nurse. I swear she was the reason I didn’t have a c-section. She honestly went above and beyond!!! At one moment came to me told me she had dropped her other patients to stay with me the whole night she said “we’re having this baby tonight!”
The nurse you get really makes a difference. So sad you had a bad experience with that nurse!
It totally does but we have to remember that some people respond better to a more direct approach. She didn’t and so she got another nurse and that’s okay.
I am pregnant with my first baby, and as excited as I am I am also scared of labor and delivery and postpartum. I don't think you can prepare at all for this journey and I have been praying and giving it to God for strength and guidance. Thank you for sharing your story and being real without making it scary to listen to. Women are warriors and I wish society would hype moms up more instead of focusing on the bounce back or getting back to the gym. I think for me being off social media and focusing on my baby and myself will be a healthy start to Motherhood. Love you Desi!
I’m going to be a first time mom and it’s so wonderful to hear you and everyone in the comments sharing their experiences and advice. Definitely makes me feel less lonely! Also would love a baby must haves!!
My sister in law had the shivers too! You’re not the only one!
I agreed about how important your nurse is to your delivery. I don’t think I could have done it without her. Shoutout to my nurse Brenda. As a ftm, She told me everything I needed to hear.
So crazy!! I swear we had a very similar birth and postpartum experience. I had my son on Nov 5th, so you are preaching to the choir over here girl 🙌
I literally didn’t know how to describe my hormones and feelings after birth because it wasn’t necessarily PPD but you described it perfectly like a shift of identities and becoming a new person almost was spot on
What i learned in school is that some people can have Post Partum Blues, which seems to be what Desi described (off days, where you feel super bad, but it’s temporary and you get better) VS. Post-Partum Depression which is more serious and does NOT get better with time
FTM are really feeling this video.. honestly I would see your videos, instagram post and be so jealous as a mom, I remember your first post with your elvie pumps full and I just cried so much.. I thought to myself that I was the failure and you were super mom! This video is an eye opener that most moms go through this.. and adding to that im a csection mom.. BUT that cute teethless smiles are PRICELESS!! ❤️
I’m due in 3 weeks and I’ve been waiting for this video since ocean was born 🥺
I love your real ness and openness. I am in the midst of family planning and have been watching videos nonstop. I’ve been watching you for years and feel like you are my older sister! I’m the oldest in my family and no one really talks about these things so I’m very grateful for you. I love you Desi! 💕
I just had my baby girl in October and to know that you are experiencing the same thing makes me feel so better
I’m 26 not thinking about getting pregnant anytime soon. but I was so into this video because of the rawness of it. And it one day I am bless with a baby, I feel more prepared
I'm so genuinely happy for you desi your pregnancy has been the happiness and light of my 2020 year 🥺
Ive watched for years and this journey has brought me to tears! I couldn't be happier for a complete stranger that shared so many beautiful vulnerable moments~ If God gave Desi a message and opportunity to make her mark, she has this world in graffiti lol! Thank you guys, so much love and blessings!
Currently 37 weeks pregnant with my first baby !! Little boy due February 18th 💙 This video was hands down the most informative one !! Honest and real which is what I’ve been looking for... I’m really scared not knowing what to expect and if I can handle what’s about to come. Postpartum is what’s freaking me out. Thank you so much dezi for going in depth on what goes on and your recommendations on what to get. If anyone else has any more to add please comment ! ❤️
I'm due Feb 18th with my first. Good luck!!!
Good luck! Watch madelinedominguez post partum things video. That one helped me when i had my daughter 2 yrs ago
@@Virgoae Thank you !! I will definitely watch it !
@@amymacmillan5673 Congratulations !! Good luck to you too 😊