That is true. They will blame you for cutting them off and being irresponsible. But then why did they hurt you in the first place? Why did they not care enough to apologize or make amends? The proof of the puddling is in the eating, as the saying goes.
Everything you said is so true. And yes, silence is the best when it comes to narcs. Never tell them your plans or how you're feeling, they'll just pull you back in. Just focus on your life and stay away from them. And once you leave, never let them in again.
I went no contact for life with the whole narcissistic family pack who abused me for decades. I moved home and blocked them without a single word spoken and now I’m born again. It’s been five years now.
The best short regarding narcissists. And also, when you can, leave him/her and break the so called “friendship”. Your peace of mind is more important than having a friend or relative who belittles you and disrespects you.
Yup. Friends don't do what those narcisists do, so no use calling that. I've seen people genuinely say "Oh I'm sad because a friend is stalking me and threatening me to kill me" .....my good lord that is Not a friend.
Danish, you are one of the Real Ones. When I listen to you, I KNOW you have truly experienced narcissistic abuse and your advice is both solid and very much appreciated. ♥️
When I realized he love seeing me hurt I started telling him I'm hurt when I wasn't. He backed of satisfited and I regain strength. He didn't know that I wasn't hurt at all when he said he met a new woman, but I made him believe I did. He then spent even more time with her and I wasn't bothered with thing he could have done if he knew
This shows that the "appear weak when you're strong and strong when you're weak" is more than successfully applied to that kind of people. Also, I heard you can scam them because they "don't see further than their nose"-meaning they are so focused on themselves they have zero ability to read the room.
Best training for me is putting "idiot" or "bs" or "enemy" or "my heater" or "parasite" as names on phone number, so when they call and phone rings I'm always prepared emotionally. Soon after I adopt that in myself. They are finished in me!
This is one of my favourite videos❤ after so many years of abuse, all this steps are what I actually needed. However, yesterday, I am not sure if it was me being triggered more like standing up for myself, I opened the car door with my heel and got out of the car on a busy road, everybody was looking… I put on my sunglasses and my head up and walked away, didn’t close the door while he was begging not to cause a scene and get back in the car. Primitive abusers. The reason they want and are trying to put us down the entire time is because of they don’t, we might see them for who they truly are. They cause drama fights, so we get upset and we shift our focus.
So true, I used to constantly try to explain and get him to understand how I felt and it did no good. Especially about his flirtatious behavior with women.
I so understand your feelings. Always trying him to understand the hurt he caused me until I didn't care anymore. When I showed him I didn't care he tried other ways or went beyond flirting. When I understood he needs my hurt I made him believe it hurt when it didn't. That saved me! He didn't try to extend his behaviour, because I told him how this all hurt me and that was right up his alley! And I was able to get strong er because I didn't care anymore!
Yes.i tried to reasonably explain how he has hurt me and it always used to come back to the same conversation.gaslighting.i just wonder myself why the fuck was I traumabinded with him
One time explain. He’s not 2 years old so then you move one! They play the witch to them being the victim when you want to talk or they don’t understand what you’re talking about! Life is too short !!
Sometimes it's better to fake a reaction, so they think they'll have you. They'll just try something worse because they want a reaction, they feed on it! Fake it and they're satisfied and you'll have time to regain strength!
😂😂😂. You got it! If married I have so many tips and after marriage so many more and with kdis…oh boy yall need those tips too!!!!! It’s a war that you must win and by leaving you already got one amazing achievement accomplished! bIG WIN! That’s why they ticked off!!! They will Come After everything. You love so be smart and use what they throw to your advantage! Tell them nothing!!!! Also work hard on your kdis!
Out of HUNDREDS of videos I've watched on your channel, you packed more useful information into this one per second than any of the others. Well done!!! I'm going to watch this one every night for the next 30 days minimum.
I love what he said about DO NOT explain yourself. You don’t owe any explanations! Obviously I understand this is in context of course. But it is a slippery slope to start feeling you need to explain yourself. I love my therapist and one thing she has said is “you don’t have to ever feel guilty for saying NO!” The end
I come from a narcissistic family and because of unhealed wounds. I attracted a narcissistic man. After several therapy sessions, I learned about narcissism and ready to move on with my life and rebuild myself for my daughter
Thank you. I had been trying to deactivate that impulse of telling everything to him and to explain myself too much. Is difficult when they're blamers nd they ask stupid questions about stupid things just to make you talk to provoque reactions. I've achieved sone good stuff.
You are "SO RIGHT"‼️👍 I’m doing ALL 5 things have been for a while ‼️ And when I do respond I say ‼️”WHAT EVER “‼️ and WALK ‼️ I won’t let ANYONE ELSE TAKE MY MIND,HEART, SOUL ‼️‼️ GOD made you for this my friend KEEP GOING 🕊️🕊️🕊️
Yes.. I taught my self not to rise to the bait. I don't react. I didn't help out either, and last night I got tossed out of the house after she engaged my dad into yelling at me . But I knew something was going to happen. Her and my dad yelling and screaming..wow.. i patted myself on the back for not rising to take the bait.. and now I am sleeping outside in my truck.
My spouse asked me why I’m not talking to him? My answer was , I don’t want to argue with you, that’s not holding a conversation. So just like I thought 💭 the evening is nice and quiet 🤫 😊 PERFECT!!!
#4 is what I am working on right now. I have PTSD so it's easy for them to trigger my feelings. Even though I act calm and unruffled, they can tell that my feelings are involved. I am watching the Stoic channel for help with corralling my emotions.
Danish, you are truly heaven sent, you have helped me SO much already🌹Your videos are my constant source of sanity, support, healing and essential for the process of building trust in myself💚Blessings and best wishes to everyone 🌺
Danish, you are incredible. You actually saved me. I owe million thanks to you. I actually did everything you said and the the result is just fantastic. I am a new person now. 🙏🙏🙏
Just In Time. It's over one week and one day, today. ------ I can't completely stop seeing him because of the business we have AND I was thinking about doing one more verbal closure with him. Now I'm not going to. Thank you Dr Grande.
I know for a fact you have the best advices for us to navigate through this difficult time in our life Thank you for everything you have done for your friends 🎉🎉🎉
Sounds right. You can't even communicate with them when they don't want it to happen. They complain regardless about how you can't communicate. Don’t give them more fuel for the fire.
Trying to break away from my FOO's (elderly parents, siblings, and their sympathizers) norm is the most challenging task for me. They are the Establishment in my life. Their masks fell off when my mother and sister warned me not to cause trouble or else my teen daughter will hate me. And behind my back, they put ideas in my daughter's head to undermine my parenting skills. My father is complicit. I finally realized now they don't see me as an able/capable 50s yo adult, and a mother. I told them "I had enough of them. Good bye."
"Do not do a closure with narassist" but narassist are smart, they have been playing the mind game for decades and moreover they will come to know that they are been treated on silent or ignore mode. How do we disconnect permanently especially if they are family members.
I think there are two ways. First, make a good enough living so you never have to depend on a narcissist for your support. And secondly, stay away from them. They are bad news. The further you are away from them, the better off you will be.
Not telling others is a hard one. But yeah. When you tell family. The flying monkeys stand for the Narcissist! Since your crying and telling what happen. They still believe the crazy one!
Been there done lived that. It’s painfull... but at least now you know that they have never been in your corner. 🍀🍀 Get new social circles, loving, honest ones.
Say I am not having this conversation with you. Leave the room. Or tell him/her to leave the room and when you can be quiet we can be in the same room together.
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Their disrespect was the closure. Let them think on that themselves.
THIS 👉🎯👈!!!
That is true. They will blame you for cutting them off and being irresponsible. But then why did they hurt you in the first place? Why did they not care enough to apologize or make amends? The proof of the puddling is in the eating, as the saying goes.
Exposure is your Closure. Rejection is your Protection.
Everything you said is so true. And yes, silence is the best when it comes to narcs. Never tell them your plans or how you're feeling, they'll just pull you back in. Just focus on your life and stay away from them. And once you leave, never let them in again.
Explaining: Your friends don't need it, and your enemies won't believe it.
Well said.
Don't ever forget that last part.
💯‼️
@@hopeausbyn1734Wow. That tells me a lot about who my real friends are. Thank you!
"do not tell them your plans". This one is so real! The narc in my life always wants to ask me my plans and have conversations.
Yeah so they can sabbatoge it!!!
@@octoberdawn1087 Precisely.
I fucked up 😢
So what to do now
Do not tell anyone anything.
My so called friends were working for him 😢
I went no contact for life with the whole narcissistic family pack who abused me for decades. I moved home and blocked them without a single word spoken and now I’m born again. It’s been five years now.
Thank you. I am trying the same. ❤
that is amazing and took a lot of strength, good for you!
I'm there. I finally reached that place. I prayed and prayed and one day it just clicked like a light switch. Everything you just said. I get it now.
❤❤❤❤💪💪👏👏👏👏👏👍
Me too!
The best short regarding narcissists. And also, when you can, leave him/her and break the so called “friendship”. Your peace of mind is more important than having a friend or relative who belittles you and disrespects you.
Yup. Friends don't do what those narcisists do, so no use calling that.
I've seen people genuinely say "Oh I'm sad because a friend is stalking me and threatening me to kill me"
.....my good lord that is Not a friend.
Danish, you are one of the Real Ones. When I listen to you, I KNOW you have truly experienced narcissistic abuse and your advice is both solid and very much appreciated. ♥️
It was a no brainer. Blocked any way for them to be able to contact me, then went no-contact with them.....Haven’t looked back!!!!
When I realized he love seeing me hurt I started telling him I'm hurt when I wasn't. He backed of satisfited and I regain strength. He didn't know that I wasn't hurt at all when he said he met a new woman, but I made him believe I did. He then spent even more time with her and I wasn't bothered with thing he could have done if he knew
The coping mechanisms here people have been uinn with these monsters is itself showing resilience.finally i feel that I am not alone.
Mean while it’s party time!!!😂😂😂🥂🥂🥂. They not smartest to in shed but they think so!
This shows that the "appear weak when you're strong and strong when you're weak" is more than successfully applied to that kind of people. Also, I heard you can scam them because they "don't see further than their nose"-meaning they are so focused on themselves they have zero ability to read the room.
Great strategies
Best training for me is putting "idiot" or "bs" or "enemy" or "my heater" or "parasite" as names on phone number, so when they call and phone rings I'm always prepared emotionally.
Soon after I adopt that in myself.
They are finished in me!
I put c*m sl*t n she even saw it once by accident n didn’t make a big deal at all. Likely cuz she knows she’s a pos
I have him saved by his first name followed by “Toxic Monster”.
This is one of my favourite videos❤ after so many years of abuse, all this steps are what I actually needed. However, yesterday, I am not sure if it was me being triggered more like standing up for myself, I opened the car door with my heel and got out of the car on a busy road, everybody was looking… I put on my sunglasses and my head up and walked away, didn’t close the door while he was begging not to cause a scene and get back in the car. Primitive abusers. The reason they want and are trying to put us down the entire time is because of they don’t, we might see them for who they truly are. They cause drama fights, so we get upset and we shift our focus.
So true, I used to constantly try to explain and get him to understand how I felt and it did no good. Especially about his flirtatious behavior with women.
I so understand your feelings. Always trying him to understand the hurt he caused me until I didn't care anymore. When I showed him I didn't care he tried other ways or went beyond flirting. When I understood he needs my hurt I made him believe it hurt when it didn't. That saved me! He didn't try to extend his behaviour, because I told him how this all hurt me and that was right up his alley! And I was able to get strong er because I didn't care anymore!
@@milaeri5109same for me not caring really helps me out a lot 😊
Yes.i tried to reasonably explain how he has hurt me and it always used to come back to the same conversation.gaslighting.i just wonder myself why the fuck was I traumabinded with him
One time explain. He’s not 2 years old so then you move one! They play the witch to them being the victim when you want to talk or they don’t understand what you’re talking about! Life is too short !!
Words/reactions of any kind are fuel for a narcissist. Just maintain silence. Don’t react. They will try EVERYTHING to get you to react.
Sometimes it's better to fake a reaction, so they think they'll have you. They'll just try something worse because they want a reaction, they feed on it! Fake it and they're satisfied and you'll have time to regain strength!
Absolutely
@@milaeri5109😂😂 YES! Play stupid!!!😂😂
One thing about a narcissist is there are patient. They can rip you apart or little by little they and do not try to get in a hurry with it.
Sounds like you basically mirror their behavior!! Defeat a narcissist by acting like one. Brilliant.
Yep!
😂😂😂. You got it! If married I have so many tips and after marriage so many more and with kdis…oh boy yall need those tips too!!!!! It’s a war that you must win and by leaving you already got one amazing achievement accomplished! bIG WIN! That’s why they ticked off!!! They will
Come
After everything. You love so be smart and use what they throw to your advantage! Tell them nothing!!!! Also work hard on your kdis!
Out of HUNDREDS of videos I've watched on your channel, you packed more useful information into this one per second than any of the others. Well done!!!
I'm going to watch this one every night for the next 30 days minimum.
I love what he said about DO NOT explain yourself. You don’t owe any explanations! Obviously I understand this is in context of course. But it is a slippery slope to start feeling you need to explain yourself.
I love my therapist and one thing she has said is “you don’t have to ever feel guilty for saying NO!” The end
I come from a narcissistic family and because of unhealed wounds. I attracted a narcissistic man. After several therapy sessions, I learned about narcissism and ready to move on with my life and rebuild myself for my daughter
Living with a narcissist is a perilous condition that always turns to nightmare 😢
I live with both.
Very true indeed. It's so sad when we think we can trust someone and then figure out this person is absolutely not who we thought /believed they were.
I agree with you, Danish. You're very accurate. Thanks for the wonderful advice. It helped us a lot.❤
This is so true. They spend so much time trying to manipulate and disrespect you. They need to pull you into their dark space.
once more your advice is simply invaluable - thank you ever so much!
Thank you. I had been trying to deactivate that impulse of telling everything to him and to explain myself too much. Is difficult when they're blamers nd they ask stupid questions about stupid things just to make you talk to provoque reactions. I've achieved sone good stuff.
You are "SO RIGHT"‼️👍
I’m doing ALL 5 things have been for a while ‼️
And when I do respond
I say ‼️”WHAT EVER “‼️
and WALK ‼️
I won’t let ANYONE ELSE
TAKE MY MIND,HEART,
SOUL ‼️‼️
GOD made you for this
my friend KEEP GOING 🕊️🕊️🕊️
PHENOMENAL ADVICE! Thank-You!!!!!🤙🏼🌺
Thankyou for sharing because he is still hoovering asking how I'm doing if I'm ok. Well he does not need to know nothing about my life.
Thank you Danish for reminding us how to deal with these narcissists. These points are all very important. Bless you❤
NO CLOSING, ONLY FOR YOURSELF!!!
Done MOVING ON THANK YOU DANISH
Yes.. I taught my self not to rise to the bait. I don't react. I didn't help out either, and last night I got tossed out of the house after she engaged my dad into yelling at me . But I knew something was going to happen. Her and my dad yelling and screaming..wow.. i patted myself on the back for not rising to take the bait.. and now I am sleeping outside in my truck.
This is so true and valuable tools to use dealing with a narcissist. 👍
My spouse asked me why I’m not talking to him? My answer was , I don’t want to argue with you, that’s not holding a conversation. So just like I thought 💭 the evening is nice and quiet 🤫 😊 PERFECT!!!
Thank you for putting it all together
I also stopped sharing my happiness with these sad sacks, this empowered me❤
#4 is what I am working on right now. I have PTSD so it's easy for them to trigger my feelings. Even though I act calm and unruffled, they can tell that my feelings are involved. I am watching the Stoic channel for help with corralling my emotions.
Danish, you are truly heaven sent, you have helped me SO much already🌹Your videos are my constant source of sanity, support, healing and essential for the process of building trust in myself💚Blessings and best wishes to everyone 🌺
Totally true .....directly related to personal development.
#5..Facts..very important..💯
Thank you because I don't think I can leave
This is so helpful!
Danish, you are incredible. You actually saved me.
I owe million thanks to you.
I actually did everything you said and the the result is just fantastic. I am a new person now. 🙏🙏🙏
Someone give this man a medal!
❤ thank u so much. Need also a video on how to naturally repel a narcissist! Keep it up ❤
Thank you Danish !
You are either angel or you have done through something similar that we have experienced.. Thank for your tips and insights
Danish is both an angel and experienced.
Thank u ..❤u r really helping people..
Just
In
Time.
It's over one week and one day, today.
------
I can't completely stop seeing him because of the business we have
AND
I was thinking about doing one more verbal closure with him.
Now
I'm not going to.
Thank you Dr Grande.
Spot on ❤danish you re the best
Your emotional response for anything is food for them. VILE!! If you see them zero emotional reaction to anything they say.
I gotta practice that! What if they say when Hello to me in public? Should I just ignore them?🥰
@@mesalouis8976Don't fall for their lies or fake promises.
I know for a fact you have the best advices for us to navigate through this difficult time in our life
Thank you for everything you have done for your friends 🎉🎉🎉
Oh my brother l love you Danish you the best 🙏thank you so much l really appreciate the advice.
Sounds right. You can't even communicate with them when they don't want it to happen. They complain regardless about how you can't communicate. Don’t give them more fuel for the fire.
💯 OUTSTANDING 🎉
This takes a lifetime for some of us. And better late than never.
💯 Well said
Nr 6 talk about death around them, they are terrified of it 😂
😂😂😂
Very helpful information and I am going to explore nervous system regulation
💡 This is golden; brilliant guidance & reminders. Thank you,
Silence kills them they pretend it doesn't but it does they usually stalk when you do that stalking means you inflicted a narcissistic injury
So clever and important. Thank you
No 5 is my power house. I am successful because I don't tell my narcissistic husband what I am doing. He is a procrastinator.
Trying to break away from my FOO's (elderly parents, siblings, and their sympathizers) norm is the most challenging task for me. They are the Establishment in my life. Their masks fell off when my mother and sister warned me not to cause trouble or else my teen daughter will hate me. And behind my back, they put ideas in my daughter's head to undermine my parenting skills. My father is complicit. I finally realized now they don't see me as an able/capable 50s yo adult, and a mother. I told them "I had enough of them. Good bye."
You are so right.
Thank you so much, Danish Bashir.
Brilliant Sir. Thank you. Just in time.
I still struggle with #3. I am doing much better at #5, though. Thank you a bunch for this video!
"Do not do a closure with narassist" but narassist are smart, they have been playing the mind game for decades and moreover they will come to know that they are been treated on silent or ignore mode. How do we disconnect permanently especially if they are family members.
No contact.
Or min gray rock if u must see them few times a year.
NO CONTACT. PERIOD. EVER.
I think there are two ways. First, make a good enough living so you never have to depend on a narcissist for your support.
And secondly, stay away from them. They are bad news. The further you are away from them, the better off you will be.
Not telling others is a hard one. But yeah. When you tell family. The flying monkeys stand for the Narcissist! Since your crying and telling what happen. They still believe the crazy one!
Been there done lived that. It’s painfull... but at least now you know that they have never been in your corner. 🍀🍀
Get new social circles, loving, honest ones.
Super helpful. My EXnarc is out of sight but I know he'll show up and I'm "training" for it.
Love Love this advice!
So true ! Less is more #5!!
Perfect help
They try everything to get through to you, even calling you through the kids' phone
Thank you. 🌟🌟💯😃👍
! I'm doing these trying my best,but it's really hard when you're surrounded by those shameless ones
Thank you for the message... I'll do it
Thank you for your wonderful message
That is, fantastic!!! I see how that would do it.
Thank you once again❤❤❤❤❤
I needed this reminder
Thank you so much 🙏🙏🙏
Super helpful. Thank you.
Thank you 😢
I agree to your advices, Sir!
Thank you so much for your advices!
Thank you for knowledge ❤
Thank you very much Angels Danish❤
Very, very helpful!
Thank you danish❤now I m feeling much better
This is so important
There is no closure
Thee are things I cannot change
My boundary is that narcissists have no place in my life.
You are right.
Great number 5 superb
Well said … all great points
Good list!
Thank you!
I am silent around them but that doesn't stop them. They pick pick pick to try to get a response.
Say I am not having this conversation with you. Leave the room. Or tell him/her to leave the room and when you can be quiet we can be in the same room together.
Excellent content
Thank you
Superb.. 👍🏻👌🏻🙏🏻