How to Stop Drinking Alcohol - Full Course for Beginners
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 30 พ.ค. 2024
- This course is for anyone who wants to know how stop drinking alcohol and change their lives, with 14 powerful lessons that will help you transform your relationship with alcohol for good.
You may not want to work through all 14 lessons in the course in one go, so please ensure you subscribe to the TH-cam channel so you can come back to the video and access other helpful stop drinking videos at anytime.
You can subscribe to the channel here: / @besober
Below you will find a list of all lessons in the stop drinking course so you can jump back in and out easily.
Stop Drinking Alcohol for Beginners - Lesson List
00:00 - Introduction
02:56 - Your reasons why
04:33 - The journey to stopping drinking
10:44 - Treat it as an experiment
14:49 - Tools for stopping drinking
20:05 - Understanding your values
23:53 - The emotional rollercoaster
28:04 - False beliefs about alcohol
35:23 - The way we view sobriety
37:46 - Making a plan
42:45 - Knowing yourself better
46:22 - Getting the support you need
49:06 - Stopping cravings for alcohol
50:34 - Your next steps
Other resources:
Facebook group: / 1960061840706240
Stop drinking programme: www.joinbesober.com
Official website and blog: www.besober.co.uk
Please leave a comment and share your experiences as you work your way through the course.
Simon Chapple
The Quit Alcohol Coach
www.besober.co.uk
I'm 50 and have drank heavy and moderate for almost 30 years like you. I stopped 3 weeks ago today after listening to the Huberman Lab podcast about the devastating effects of alcohol on the body and mind. My father at 84, has dementia from a lifetime of alcohol abuse. I decided to enjoy the second half of my life and really work on deeper more meaningful relationships. I subscribed today.
I love @hubermanlab am 11 days strong 💪🏾
Yes it's a horrible addiction .
It was a filler for lonliiness in my marriage that disintegrated....
That led to that feeling repeating itself when I didn't have my children over the weekend .
Other reasons now .LOVE IT WHEN I DONT DRINK . KEEP A DIARY .....
THANK you. You are human and in touch with us .
But so trying to be less needy .
Awesome. I am so motivated by this video and the cooments im rrady to kickbthe bottle litteraly
Could you post the link, pretty please 🙏 😊
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I want to be free from alcohol and never turn back.
You can master it. Its in your name. 🙏🏻
I’m on day 5 of probably the 3rd time in 5 years I’ve tried to give up drinking and I’m feeling really low and anxious today. Accidentally walked into a deli to get some cheese and saw all of the wine looking amazing. Was a surprisingly hard moment, just the thought of never having a single glass again. It’s so difficult to imagine that, but I can’t go on drinking 100+ units a week and 200+ on a very bad week (like last week), also at seriously inappropriate times eg before and during work. Please pray/send good vibes or whatever you do/believe in…I really need the help!
I want to stop self-sabotaging my life with alcohol. I’m so appreciative of this video!
Today is day ten for me. I’m depressed and want to grab some beer to relax but I don’t want to go back to it.
Depression is the trigger that took 6 months of sobriety from me. It can be such a tricky trigger too, because until you are in the midst of it again, if you are feeling happy go lucky in life, it’s hard to prepare for a next depressive episode. That’s what I’m working on now.
Great job! 🎉 keep going 💪
I decided to quit drinking for good 3 days ago and have been watching a series of YT videos on the effects of alcohol and recovery. Well, this morning my 8yo logged into TH-cam on the main TV and saw the history of my recent alcohol-related playlist videos. One headline stated in bold letters, "Alcohol is a Toxin!!" And my son read that headline outloud and said, "I bet if you knew alcohol was a toxin you definitely wouldn't want to drink it." 😢
That's it. A switch just went off in my head like never before. If I have another alcohol drink (which I won't), my children will think I'm KNOWINGLY drinking a TOXIC beverage. How terrifying is that from the viewpoint of young children?! Nope! I'm done!
That’s so brilliant! Almost the exact same thing happened to me with my kid half an hour ago! I can’t believe it really. She said. That’s it now nobody is going to drink poison (she called it poison instead of toxin). How can I go back to drinking - to her this will mean that it’s ok to poison yourself. I feel that it n my way give her a green light to all kinds of drugs in the future. Who knows if this can be a formative moment for her?
Over six and a half years sober!
Amazing. inspirational stuff!
Heading into day 3 of cold turkey has not been a good time. But I’m excited to get past this and grow as a person. We got this guys
Hi I am 64 and its the 8th April 2024 and after watching your video I am starting my journey to sobriety 😊 thank you for this course which will defiantly help my journey !!!
I listened to your podcast when I first tried to get sober and got to 40 days and gave in and drank. Now here I am on my second attempt, 2 weeks out from a year sober. I've learnt so much about sobriety since that first attempt and this time it's stuck. Never give up giving up.
That’s amazing!
Ive been trying for years my life has been a mess and been going in circles..now I have a fatty liver..need to get serious about sobriety ...I'm drinking natural light right now
👏🏼👏🏼❤👍🏼
One of the things that keeps me from quitting is fear of withdrawal. So usually I’ll say I’ll taper down but end up drinking the same amount.
This definitely describe me too. Withdrawal are getting worst tho
Me too
The fear of withdrawal made start slowly, but you need to exercise, take loads of fruits and back off completely
I have to take Benzos just to handle the anxiety because my withdrawals are crippling anxiety
I'm not a beginner, but this video came on while I was cleaning. I listened to the whole thing and it was a great refresher for me. We are all so lucky to have Simon in our corner!
Thanks Lee, I am so pleased it helped - maybe 'Stop Drinking for Beginners' is a bit to narrow as the course applies to anyone who wants to quit alcohol regardless of where they are at on the journey, thanks for commenting and being part of the community.
My bloods came back really high iron. My hematologist told me alcohol was the problem. I was horrified. It took me another week until I got the letter saying I was probably suffering liver disease. I stopped there and then. There were no horrid symptoms (2 bottles of wine a day) 42 days later I had the scan to see if I had stiff liver. The results were great- still waiting on the abdom scan results. I slipped back into drinking again. I'm horrified by my own behaviour.
I tend to hate myself 4-5am. I tell myself I'm not drinking anymore. By early afternoon the other me says ill just have a drink for one last day. I'm sick of me!
This is me too. If there’s any wine left in the bottle the next day (rare), it’ll go down the sink but by 4pm I’m driving to the off licence again. I’m sick of me as well!
You just described myself. Seems I'm not alone.
Yep me too
😊 I deal with the same lie...I'm like one more and I'll stop ...I have a fatty liver so that's my wake up call to stop but I can't seem to wake up
What really helped me to start is to delay, go out of the kitchen and go for a walk, even 10 min. It’s just bloody hard
What I hate about quitting is the anxiety ! I can’t even leave the house .
Pacing back and foward I tried tapering the alchohol just ends up with more alchohol. I drink because I have anxiety as it is but I came to discover that drinking gives you more anxiety when you stopped drinking it’s horrible . I have quit but I relapsed
Please consider talking to a doctor about a medical detox
I think thats a great idea for myself, too, as whenever I try to wean off, I get so much more anxiety that I end up drinking more!@@gmac1762
Yes I have the same issue. I wake up with panic attacks even.
Day 3 poured it all out and absolutely hate alcohol. I’m so committed to never drinking it again. I’ve never been this adamant about anything before. The lies of it all. I’ve recognized I’m powerless when using it but I have the power to not use it and that’s where I am. Good luck and God bless all in your journey to a fulfilled life of freedom from this poison.
how are you still doing. Generally curious because Im about to pour everything out too.
Doing well. Some days are tough but I just remember what it does and how I felt. It lies to us constantly it’s awful. But there is a life rich without it. I exercise more, better moods, sleep and am actually clear headed. I’ve received numerous compliments about how I look good that working out and eating healthy has done. Little do they know it was the alcohol aging and dragging me down on all levels. I perceive alcohol as a parasite that will influence your mind any way it can to get you to drink the alcohol it needs to survive. I’m praying for you
@@joelmay4539 thanks day 3 🤘🏼shakes are finally subsiding
@@joelmay4539 thank you so much for replying that helps me
The mental games start about 3 weeks out. I went to the gym and just worked through it. The mind is powerful but under your control. The shakes and irregular heartbeat lasted a few days. Going on over a month the thought of drinking is fleeting thank God. Went and saw 3 Dog Night in Nashville last night. Had Diet Coke and a nice meal downtown no alcohol and had a great time. Wish you well and look forward to hearing about your success and fulfilled life without the poison. God bless
I feel betrayed, weak, angry, abandoned, depressed, anxious, tired isn’t on there, let down, hurt, burn out, exhausted… I’m a care giver for an alcoholic elderly parent who drinks at 82 and I struggle not to drink as I’m constantly at bottle shop at his request for his beers. My mum has no functioning liver cause of alcoholism with no plans to quit. Fml. Love life though. I look forward to the sober chapters of my life I’m working on currently trying.
I'm 37 and want to quit before it's too late. The time of day that I drink is a big trigger for me. If I don't drink at that time, I feel bored, flat, and depressed. Like you suggested, I'm going to sit with those feelings and see what I can learn.
20+ years sober I have a partner who is active 1-2 bottles of wine a day who told me she has been doing things her way for 35 years and dosen't think it's a problem.
I know exactly how she feels was there myself 30+ years ago she absolutely dosen't want to see the bad side of addiction I am hoping she might watch this video and maybe get the motivation to change.
When I was active I didn't want to quit either I had to pray for the willingness to try to change it finally worked for me this video has alot of wisdom and can relate at a very deep level I was definitely a low bottom drunk and visited jails institutions and almost died numerous times.
Drinking robs me of my finances, leave me with so much regret and makes me so unproductive. I hate drinking
This is the first video where I am actually excited to be alcohol free. You really broke something as scary as being “alcohol free” into manageable actionable tasks. Seriously can’t thank you enough, and I am actually hopeful I can get it this time ❤ Day 2
Day 2 sober for me. Almost 60 years old and I've drank heavy since my teen years. I've quit for 2 years at a time on 3 different occasions. I'm hoping the tools I'm learning here will help me quit for good this time.
sounds exactly like me..I've quit for three years and shorter periods too...but seem to circle back to drinking. Good luck to you..
47 and been a heavy drinker the last 15 odd years, started as being a fine wine shop manager in my late 20s and surrounded by the culture. Ive drunk some good booze in my time but over the last few years I'm now just drinking boxed wine everyday and being a functioning alcoholic. On day 6 so far and not suffering any physical withdrawals but the boredom is real haha. I'm gonna do a month first then see where it goes from there
Yes my problem is boredom it’s so hard to not be bored
I'm in afraid mode of detoxing as a single mother of two sons and restaurant owner . I can take time off for a week though cannot avoid my shop and family duties . Appreciate your passion for this horrible addiction
God bless you. I'm on day 45 and I feel amazing
This video came up for me at the right time. I just had a setback and I really needed to hear this message! The main thing I got from you in this video was that I really need to make sure my "WHY" is strong, and that I'm always aware of why I'm getting sober, to always remember exactly why I want to change my life for the better and be sober.
Hi Jeff, I hope the video helped. Yes, having a strong reason WHY is the foundation of success when it comes to making a change. Think about whenever you have wanted to achieve something in life, the stronger your WHY, the more motivated you will have been and the more capable you will have been of smashing obstacles out of your own way. Keep up the work!
I have a great reason to quit tank you very much.
Hi Simon I’m on day one today, I’ve had a few attempts and failed, this time I’m determined, your videos are so inspiring thank you
I know i want to be sober but i just wanted to say that when you said "imagine all the things you could do" I drink becaue, or it's going on because i can only stand for two to three hours a day. So your "think what you could do" for me... means lay on a bed where ive been for 20 years.... I bet there are many people like me too.... I just wanted to add that.... I'll be joining your fb group.... :)
Hi Simon i just discovered you today. I'm 54 have practically drank everyday since age 16. I had 21 days off for a rehab. I did 30 days twice on my own when my pancreatitis flared up. I have had 5 attacks of that . I woke up today with it so 6 now and I can't eat drink etc because my body needs to fix itself again. My partner has just gone to get me a small can of rum and coke as I am shaking but I won't be able to finish it as my pancreas won't be happy. My 1st attack I was in an induced coma and was told I would be gone in 7 years if I carried on. Well obviously I didn't listen to them , i was 38 and had hepatitis c as well. That was cured by chemo but after the 3rd time they said they won't treat me so I just stayed in bed and had tomato soup. The best thing was losing my job in a private members club where I would be tanked up by 11am. The chemo made me drink triple. Spirits were great I could drink 20 doubles and not feel drunk but 3 glasses of wine and I was wasted. Very odd. Anyway. I know the time is now to start stopping. Hence finding you and sober Leon and a few more. Thank you so much for your content. I look forward to going through all the videos. And I look forward to being sober.
Terrible how the pancreatitis forces me to stop and not my decision. But I am determined this time. Time is speeding up. Many thanks.
I had pancreatitis twice. Hospitalised both times. Painful thing.
Alcohol makes life worse than it is its that -1 when your at zero. Your brain may tell you otherwise but you realise the next day you gone backwards in life again. I need to remember this always.
I gave up drinking for lent and felt bloody amazing! Slept like a log, anxiety was SO much more manageable/less intense. Then I ended up in the pub with a friend and drank 5 pints of Stella and felt AWFUL for about a week afterwards. I don’t want to let go of how good I felt whilst I gave up for lent, so I’m doing a 30-day alcohol-free stint now. This video was great and I’ve subscribed to the site. Thank you. John
I've tried so many times to quit drinking but keep failing but I've discovered Simon and really enjoy watching his videos. I've found a good motivation now and it's working thanks simon🙏👍
Thanks Daniel, that means a lot, keep me updated on your progress. Simon
I had 8 months of Sobriety then I tryed out Alcohol and its so hard to stop again. Alcoholic life doesn't skip a beat. Need help
Just done Christmas without alcohol. I'm in the stage of two minds. I've always been a binge drinker. Not every day but would just like to stop. Thanks for the vids.
Same! Keep it up!!!
Day one been drinking 30 years. Just dumped out all the alcohol in my house, want to be around for my son and start feeling again. Thank you for this video and the necessary tools to get me going on the right path.
Im so tired to going bk and forth with it...im worried for my health but when fridays come I usually am able to convince myself to have a drink....
Hopefully this course will help you learn new techniques for stopping drinking that you can start to practice, keep me updated on your progress, there are so many tools and so much support, you are not on your own - Simon
I do this too....only 2 or 3 x a week...my wife also. I get to late afternoon after doing jobs & feel it's a reward. I feel stressed when I don't drink & it does relax me. The next day I feel stupid...I drink around 3 bottles of wine a week. My wife encourages me & will drink even if I don't which makes it harder ..
Simon, I love that you are dedicating your life to sobriety and you are such a huge impact on our growing sober community! Its the only way to live.. Dedicating the miracle of our lives to be impactful. As for alcohol, it is such a scam. I am part of ' The Path' with Annie Grace. I am still working on getting alcohol out of my life entirely. No 'moderation' for me! I have mastered not drinking socially, I love being totally present and I exercise on a regular basis which makes me feel awesome! But I still drink to numb out a bad situation in my life. I will overcome, I will not quit. I will not stop learning.. Thank you so much FOR YOU!
Thanks Jennifer for such a lovely comment, it is great to hear what awesome progress you are making. Keep up the great work and please keep me updated on your journey - Simon
It’s so hard for me to quit drinking, when I’ve been drinking Four Loko(s) DAILY since 2009. I have to find the willpower to stop, and unfortunately I just bought 2 four lokos (that I didn’t drink tonight) and a Jack Daniels honey bottle that I’m drinking due to “food poisoning”. I really want to stop, and I’ve tried telling myself this, but my mind always tells me I need a drink when I get pissed off or need a “boost” when I’m working around the house.
I stopped drinking ( a damascene moment?). Having bought a round of six drinks the pub would not accept cash, my card would not work, the barman insisted I use my phone which I don’t know to.I remonstrated with the barman, my “friends told me to chill”, I pointed out that the establishment would not accept payment from me so I suggested they send an invoice, I left in a taxi.
After a bit of self examination I came to the conclusion that it was silly fighting to give my money away, I stopped and have not had a drink in 3 years, saving £10k a year on drink and taxis.
Don’t miss it.
Happy Hermit.
I didn't think anyone had more books than I do! I spent 5 weeks in the Priory last year, and have been going to SMART recovery twice a week ever since. So I am almost 15 months sober. I am in my 70s, and have drunk stupid amounts for decades. I had a very long, difficult and unhappy marriage, and my reason for drinking was to escape. However, my husband died nearly two years ago, taking with him my reason for self-medication. My therapist thinks I am suffering from PTSD, but I feel more able to deal with this now. I had certainly reached rock bottom when I went to the Priory, and was told that, if I hadn't stopped drinking, I would have been dead, which I could well believe because I was quite seriously ill. I am now able to do the things I really want to do instead of spending my days collapsing in a drunken heap. So, I would advise anyone to find some support, whether AA, SMART or anything else because it's just so difficult to do this alone, and ultimately alcohol will kill you.
I hope you are doing well..
Simon, you are the biggest inspiration I've ever found. I'm on my last box of wine and look forward to sobriety. Thanks a million Simon!
come back in three weeks and let us know how you are doing
@@petermcdermott3996 I'm sober and will also quit smoking tomorrow. How's that for a let down?
Yes thank you
Why do you need some guy off You Tube to help you ? Do your own research ffs..
I've struggled for a very long time with this. And now have decided to refuse alcohol yet again. Unfortunately I'm only on my first 24 hours again and it's very uncomfortable but I've stopped before but I believe I'm really done now
Thank you for the video currently 9 days sober it’s been a ruff 9 days but your video has given me more hope of going on this journey
Living in a camper and am 5 months in spain. Dave and Yvonne who stood behind me has stopped completely after 50 years of heavely drinking.
I was so inspired with his story and am listening your yourube video's.
From now on i never ever going to drink alcohol again and going it to do with Dave to support each other ;-), although he is doing it great without me. he's doing it for himself and not for anyone else.
Now i'm going to save more money... thank you all... Ya'll can do it !!
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Hi, my good friend Annie has pointed me in your direction and I’m totally ready to turn my back on alcohol now! I’m ready and I’m listening
Let's do this Rachael🎉
I'm on day 1.. I'm at rock bottom with my marriage and son being effected by my drinking.
Day 1 over here too. Stay strong
Day 1
Day 1 also
Day 1 too.
How are you doing now? Staying strong?
Just started listening to you on TH-cam. Will listen to podcasts if I can find them. I want to quit drinking for my health and my children. I'm 33 and have been binge drinking beer for years now. Never got into hard liquor which I thank lord for. I still just want to quit though. I want to improve myself for my children and give them my full attention. I will reach out for help. I hope I can do it because my body can't take it anymore. I feel like trash every morning. Racing heartbeat and always scared I'm going to have a heart attack. Here is to day 1 10-31-2023
Ive been cutting down this week from upwards to 16-18 a night and the last 3 days have been or less, I feel scared but also a little more clear already. I have a long road ahead but I'm gonna try fully skipping days very soon
Just found this. Today is the start of my journey and day 1. I don't want to drink anymore. Just had enough of all that shit.
Hope you are doing better ❤
This is a great video to watch and learn from. Today I start my journey to stop drinking to better myself as a human being.
Day one. Again. This time it will stick!
I'm with you, day 2 again for me. Let's keep in touch
I love this, so refreshing knowing I’m not alone
I feel hope
I am about to kick off a 30 day AF experience and will refer to this highly valuable course - thank you!
Thank you, appreciate this course.
Thanks - day one starting again after lapsing after previous 25 day sober. Had heavy weekend of drinking, feeling like crap as I am sitting here but glad I found this video to assist with my next 30 days (plus) WIl sure follow your other video's and feel back after 30 days.
I’m ready!
Great video. Good job everyone and keep going. Don’t beat yourself up for any relapses. Start over and you’ll get there stronger than ever ❤
Thank you so much for this useful information simon
This was an amazing find - instant sub. Thank you 😘.
Day 3. Feel like crying. Slipped up last weekend and I was 11 days sober before and lost the need to drink but this weekend I went to a party and really screwed up. I’m back on the painful bus again. My girlfriend drinks which doesn’t help. Today I have no motivation and I don’t have so much I need to do. I want to get back to where I was last week.
I’m so darn grateful for this video, thank you . Wow’
My first day today...🙏🙏🙏🙏 So glad I found you
So happy I joined here love listening go this I need to start working on myself!
The hardest thing is to list the strong reasons not to drink. Alcohol makes me feel better, but deep down I want to quit.
Facts and a plan. This is very hopeful. I’m in.
Without a doubt the best quit drinking video out there!! THANK YOU 😀
I just watched this video and I just learned a lot -thanks
Ill be following this channel and the Facebook page if i can find it.
Thank you Simon. Very comprehensive and valuable.
Thanks Felicity, so pleased it helped.
Simon I’ve been sign posting a few people in your Facebook group to this course. I intend to watch it myself at some stage as you never stop learning.
Thanks Oliver, I appreciate you sharing it, I am sure it will help a lot of people :-)
Thank you for this clear complete helpful content ❤
This is brilliant
stressed, overwhelmed in reference to the emotion wheel, im 5 days in this hour, thank you for putting the time in on creating these videos,they are a help and its appreciated
Great course. Thank you so much. Starting my 30 days today. ❤❤❤❤
I'm starting today
Lost "…you are the first to make me feel like I may be able to do this x
This video has been very helpful. I want to quit alcohol entirely, but the biggest problem is that all my friends take alcohol.
Thankyou I'm in facilitator training at so it's good to hear super people point of view🤗
Day 2! I’m committing to 90 days.
You are the first TH-camr that i have ever “rang the bell” on… never have i ever turned on notifications…
I def need help. I've tried other programs and have thought about joining AA but shy away from that. I will give your program a try and really work with it. I'll have to listen and re-listen to this video over and over again and make some notes. Thank you for this.
Sharing is valuable
Excellent video, thank you sir.
L-glutamine works well to lessen alcohol cravings.
You are the best"quit alcohol channel"I've come across 💯,,
For those of us that have hit and are still sinking in a"rock bottom",, I don't know what to say 🙏,, "I guess quitting alcohol is the step",,,
"Don't be like me and give up on your self because there's to much damage",,,"I here we can recover"👍👍
Now I'm alone,,,I'm scared to educate myself,, again wow,, about you saying"values"!!!,, thanks again Simon
"Gabba"!!!🤔
Hi Lee - thanks for the comment, I am so pleased to hear that the channel is helping. The antidote for fear is....courage, that is what will get you moving forward with purpose. Simon
@@besober thanks so much for reply Simon,, your a good man💯
Thank you Simon for your great video, i turn 44 today and decided to quit drinking, i only drink weekends, but to much. Is time to quit. I Will work in your process, God bless you...
Simon thank you! This is the best advice I've ever received even better than any drink addiction councillor I've had. So many tools to take away, I'm on day 3 at the moment but that's only because I'm under my parents care. I'm afraid once I go home again and I'm am alone and bored I'll make that shameful treck to the shop. I feel you have given me some hope with the information you have shared. Thank you so much 😍
Hi guys..
Drank for 30 plus years..I'm 48 now..
I'm 11 days sober and I feel absolutely amazing...going for complete abstinence...
Wish me luck..and good look to everyone else who is struggling with this poison...!!❤
Look I've drinking for 39 years, and I'm now 54 years old. But now I've finally had enough of this Literal Poison!
Same
Great upload and breakdown of the subject matter. We do join a special community when we chose to stop drinking. Alcohol has taken and will continue to only take away from my life.
Thanks, so glad you found the course helpful.
Thanks for sharing, I really need help before it's too late 😢
Thank you for putting this together-I am almost there but the lack of sleep and not being able to fall asleep without drinking is a constant problem-I don’t want to substitute one drug for another so sleeping pills are out of the option. What do you suggest?
I’m currently working to become sober. Slowly coming off alcohol and hopefully quit for good. Third times a charm? 🙏
Thank you and I’m going to stop because of you !
Thank you for sharing your knowledge. I have a relative who is addicted to alcohol. It would be great if you could share tips on how to trigger insight in a alcoholic.
This man is real!
Im on day 3 AF . THANKS!
Well done Lorenzo, keep checking in and updating with your progress.
Top Bloke 👍
*You can do it my dear super hero* @bigK ❤️
Wao! Day 3 off buzz . Woke up more relaxed I hope to do more days. Merry Christmas without buzz❤
Hello Simon! I took a risk today. Attended a party today, I was offered beer, but I opted for a soft drink instead. Some friends were disappointed, others were happy for me. Harray! I hope to do day four tomorrow. Thanks
Feeling a bit anxious about making these changes.
I’m at day 1 again ! And it’s all because of anxiety I hate it