Meeting POLISH IN-LAWS FOR THE FIRST TIME [Dos and Don'ts]

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  • What is it like meeting your Polish in-laws for the first time? what do's and don'ts should you pay attention to?
    Well I got your back! after 8 years with my In-law's I think I have a thing or two I can teach you so you are able to get be welcomed into the family the right way!
    I hope you guys like the episode, if you do please give me a thumbs up and share the video with whomever you think might enjoy it!
    Poz!
    Time Stamp:
    0:00 - Intro
    1:55 - 1- No public displays of affection
    2:54 - 2- Accept a drink but be careful!
    4:11 - 3- Always eat what you are offered
    6:39 - 4- Be careful with the compliments
    7:33 - 5- Look presentable but don't try too hard
    8:11 - 6- Don't speak about politics
    8:41 - TIPS FOR FOREIGNERS ONLY
    9:11 - 7- Foreigners can get away with being less formal
    10:35 - 8- Learn some words in Polish and use them
    11:02 - 9- Observe how they manage their time and respect it
    11:57 - 10- Don't try to be anybody else but yourself
    12:52 - Outro
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  • @VigosDad
    @VigosDad  3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Polish Subtitles READY! Poz!

  • @jedruskmicic1167
    @jedruskmicic1167 3 ปีที่แล้ว +86

    Diabeł postanowił zaszczepić Anglika, Francuza, Niemca i Polaka. Mówi do Anglika:
    - Proszę tu twoja szczepionka.
    - Nie chcę!
    - No weź, dżentelmen by się zaszczepił.
    I Anglik się zaszczepił. Diabeł zwraca się do Niemca:
    - Teraz Twoja kolej.
    - Nie dziękuję!
    - No weź, dżentelmen by się zaszczepił.
    - Nie chcę!
    - To rozkaz!
    I Niemiec się zaszczepił. Diabeł zwraca się do Francuza:
    - Teraz Ty.
    - Nie zmusicie mnie!
    - No weź, dżentelmen by się zaszczepił.
    - Nie dziękuję!
    - To rozkaz!
    - I tak nie się nie zaszczepię!
    - Ale wiesz, teraz taka moda.
    I Francuz się zaszczepił. Diabeł zwraca się do Polaka:
    - Zostałeś tylko Ty.
    - Nie zaszczepię się!
    - No proszę, dżentelmen by się zaszczepił.
    - Nie ma mowy!
    - To rozkaz!
    - Nie!
    - Wiesz, teraz taka moda.
    - Nie zrobię tego i tak!
    - Słuchaj... kim ty właściwie jesteś?
    - Polakiem.
    - Aaa, Polakiem! To wiadomo, że ty się nie zaszczepisz.
    - CO KURWA, JA SIĘ NIE ZASZCZEPIĘ???!!!

    • @Immigrantwriter
      @Immigrantwriter 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      piekne 😂😂😂

    • @kurrwa
      @kurrwa 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Ze mną się nie napijesz? 😂😂

    • @kayaquestions
      @kayaquestions 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      😂😂😂👌

    • @EyeScreamPL
      @EyeScreamPL 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yeah, we're the rebels! :D

    • @malgorzatamakowska9910
      @malgorzatamakowska9910 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Trudne naogol ale nie dla mnie...na covid zaszczepiłam się bo musialam iść do dentysty...

  • @edytaszafraniec7837
    @edytaszafraniec7837 3 ปีที่แล้ว +74

    Babcia waiting at the window is so true!

  • @1027ak
    @1027ak 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Oglądam sobie dziś już kolejny film na tym kanale, i dochodzę do wniosku, że jest on jednym z najmądrzejszych w kategorii małżeństwa mieszane i poradniki o Polsce i Polakach. Vigo's Dad, kim jesteś z zawodu? Bo "inteligencja emocjonalna" to Twoje trzecie imię 😎👍🏻🥂

  • @majasawinska713
    @majasawinska713 3 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    Awesome episode! A tip for all of you with special diets: make sure your partner brings it up (multiple times!) with her family before your visit! Keep mama informed so that she doesn't spend her morning cooking something you won't eat! Simply, make sure your diet or lifestyle won't come as a surprise during the first visit, resulting in an awkward Vegan vs Mama's best chicken soup staredown.

    • @Immigrantwriter
      @Immigrantwriter 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      very true!

    • @Immigrantwriter
      @Immigrantwriter 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      we're vegan actually so we know all about this staredown haha 😬

  • @martadybal9183
    @martadybal9183 3 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    I think the key is just to be yourself and not trying to impress too much. It’s a natural reaction that we want to be accepted by the parent’s of someone we love , but sometimes you may come accross as fake. Anyway, I watch your videos and think that you make a great couple. It’s an amazing thing that you can laugh at the silly and weird stuff about the country you come from. It takes a lot of work and willing to make it work ;) looking at the video where is both of you and watching you both communicate-it’s a real pleasure . i think that you have achieved something , that a lot of people can learn from :) buźkas !

    • @VigosDad
      @VigosDad  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      aww thank you for the sweet words!

  • @imthegest
    @imthegest 3 ปีที่แล้ว +41

    My parents in law doesn’t speak English and I don’t speak Italian so I always just sit quietly and drink wino 😬

    • @VigosDad
      @VigosDad  3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      that is always an ok option too :D

  • @hubertbenke7343
    @hubertbenke7343 3 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Hi VD! Pole married to a Japanese here. Being a bit more formal saved me when meeting my in-laws. Love your insights about Poland, and you're right about no.3 - Food. Is. Important. ;) Speaking of which (unrelated to in-laws) - there's one more thing about it. The meal is on the table and the host doesn't expect anything in return. Having guests from other countries I've noticed that some even offer money because they want to chip in (I guess), which is borderline offensive. Always happy to see your episodes, all the best!

    • @VigosDad
      @VigosDad  3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      oh that must be an interesting scene. Japanese + Polish! I myself have Japanese family, cheers and thank you!

    • @JerzyFeliksKlein
      @JerzyFeliksKlein 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      OMG, offering money to the in laws for the food they prepared...what do you think it's a restaurant? 😂Probably one of the worst things you could do. Don't ever and I mean EVER do it. Regardless of the culture. I can't imagine where this would have been welcomed.

  • @marcinsznn
    @marcinsznn 3 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    2:54 unfortunately some people don't accept "no", unless you have a very good reason (for example health problems). This pressure is very stupid, and sometimes this people say something like "won't you drink with me"/or something). That's awful and very annoying. Some people don't drink because their own reasons. Some people don't understand that. So sad :/

    • @bebokRZly
      @bebokRZly 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      You need to be so harismatic and so trsutworthy, so at the end the stubern person will understand what is doing. Or event if not, other people in room will se you are polite, but mom/dad/grandma is rude with this pressure :)

    • @TurdusConcept
      @TurdusConcept 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      It is very sad that in Poland so far an assertive refusal is very often not well understood :(

    • @mayfair_forest_witch
      @mayfair_forest_witch 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      There are two easy ways to say no. One if you arrived to your in-laws with your car, you are a driver, you don't drink, it is very much respected in Poland. Second thing, if you take any meds, just don't get yourself in a trap and don't make up any long-term illness. Something simple will do, like you have a back pain, you took a pill and you don't want to mix it with alcohol. But if you actually do take meds then you are covered. Taking care of your health is taken seriously in Poland, especially you'll notice older generation talking about their health or lack of it all the time.

    • @erikajasinski4633
      @erikajasinski4633 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@mayfair_forest_witch you just say that you don’t drink and they will respect you for it .

    • @6utS
      @6utS 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      if u arent drinking its suspicious/ means u want to hide something/ur true self, ofc ppl, especially ur future inlaws gonna be pissed at such a sneaky behaviour, u can tell them u normally never or almost never drink, so u will just drink a lil bit tho, gotta drink no matter what(unless ur doc said otherwise/are on antibiotics etc, but its an exception that confirms the rule:P).

  • @Immigrantwriter
    @Immigrantwriter 3 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    It's true Polish people often don't trust people who don't drink 😂😂😂 it's like 'oh, so you think you're better than me then?!' or 'what is it that you're hiding that you don't want to come out, psycho?!' it's is ridiculous and a bit sad, but it is common within the culture! I think it's true in the entire region.

    • @VigosDad
      @VigosDad  3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      lol oh my

    • @bebokRZly
      @bebokRZly 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      old soviet proverb:
      Who doesnt drink, is an informer!
      And there is something about it :D Alcohol is not masking youre character. It's droping down mask. If You are full of sh..., after couple of drinks it will be visible even more :D But if you are chearfull, then You will be happy drunky :D

    • @hubertbenke7343
      @hubertbenke7343 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Amen to that, I've also noticed that part ringing so true!

    • @Ansset0
      @Ansset0 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Depends on how much empathy and education your circle has. Recovering alcoholic or designated driver or any other reason.. It should always end up in: "do you drink?" - "no i do not".. period. no questions asked, no judgement made.
      This damn stereotype of being an outsider if you don't drink is a true curse.

    • @erikajasinski4633
      @erikajasinski4633 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Not true this is an old tradition . I am Polish and I don’t drink. When I was in Poland no one gave ma a hard time because I don’t drink old people and young .

  • @expatfamilylive9041
    @expatfamilylive9041 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    We believe that people are people everywhere) and if you approach anyone with respect , it will turn out to be good =)

  • @magunu6734
    @magunu6734 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Es cierto! Siempre que voy a la casa de mis suegros y tengo la oportunidad de decir alguna palabra de mi vocabulario polaco, su reacción siempre es positiva y alegre. Me encantó el video!

  • @rjagiu
    @rjagiu 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Hi. Awesome job mate. For me (polish guy living in UK) you point out things I would never notice. Keep going, never stop. High five!

    • @VigosDad
      @VigosDad  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      thank you Sir!

  • @danieljurkiewicz1695
    @danieljurkiewicz1695 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Great observations! :) so true. Thumbs up!

  • @grzegorz3116
    @grzegorz3116 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Świetnie opowiedziane. Daję suba 👍

  • @domfertala387
    @domfertala387 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    True things saying in quite a funny way - like a always with you guys 😉😂💪😂

  • @weronikamamot2654
    @weronikamamot2654 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This is SO SPOT ON!! I'm gonna show it to my partner ;-)

  • @MABeniowski
    @MABeniowski 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hi, VD. I have seen some of your YT films and already noticed you but man, today you have got my FULL ATTENTION. You are really gifted and have great insight. I do not know a thing about your past (maybe you did introduce yourself in one or two films I didn't yet see) but your temperament, good heart (it seems), and great presentation skills broke any ice that could still linger somewhere. I salute you. Cheers!

  • @krakendragonslayer1909
    @krakendragonslayer1909 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    She is great, she explains everything via the prism of a real, deep-rooted Polish soul.

  • @mayhem6630
    @mayhem6630 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Love this episode :) Greetings from Krakow/Manchester :)

  • @Ichidelle
    @Ichidelle 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I saw The puzzle on the wall. Love it ♡

  • @rufsven8312
    @rufsven8312 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Great video!

  • @agneselsayed8948
    @agneselsayed8948 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Loved it!

  • @kbs1212
    @kbs1212 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I haven’t met his family just yet but the day is fast approaching... and I’m terrified of them finding out I don’t eat meat or dairy; the core of Polish food. Feeling anxious about disappointing them, especially his mamusia. I considered being flexible with dairy just to make them happy, but I’m not sure it’ll help much. It’d be nice to have a video covering the topic of dietary restrictions and how to handle the subject in a way that is respectful to Polish culture. I’m so happy this channel exists! Dziękuje ci

    • @VigosDad
      @VigosDad  3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      thank you, great suggestions. In the mean time it's imperative that your partner starts working on this as soon as possible on his end. He's the one that needs to tell his parents that there are some things you don't eat for certain reasons. :)

  • @xneoken
    @xneoken 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Great video! A lot of this is so true. I'm a social and talkative person. When I met with my girlfriend's parents and grandparents, being a foreigner it felt easy to interact with them despite their lack of English. I would avoid joking because often that would get lost in translation.

  • @joannaurban2418
    @joannaurban2418 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Some tips for meeting your Spanish in-laws:
    - eat meat and drink wine even if you don't
    - use the name of the region (Catalan, Basque etc.) instead of saying "Spanish" and call their language "castellano"
    - if there is a local language (Catalan, Basque etc.), start studying it
    - leave breadcrumbs all around and put your piece of bread on the table
    - hide your passion for introvert activities like reading alone in silence: what you like is being surrounded by noisy people 24/7
    - hide your workoholism: the life is there to enjoy it among noisy peoole,not to study towards a third Master's degree
    ;)
    Greetings from the Basque Country! Pozdrowienia!

    • @Immigrantwriter
      @Immigrantwriter 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      cudne! te okruszki najbardziej mnie urzekly, pamietam z Hiszpanii ❤️❤️❤️

    • @joannaurban2418
      @joannaurban2418 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Za to moi "porzundni" poznańscy rodzice dostają na widok okruszków zawału.

    • @Ansset0
      @Ansset0 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      "leave breadcrumbs all around and put your piece of bread on the table" Would You care to elaborate?

    • @joannaurban2418
      @joannaurban2418 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      In some countries bread can never be put on the table, always on the plate, and you try not to leave any crumbs. In Spain it's the opposite. You are also allowed to litter in bars, even spit out olive stones and throw empty seafood shells on the floor.

  • @michuparedes
    @michuparedes 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Me watching this for my future polish in laws that don't exist yet hahahahahaha

  • @sokalbenoit
    @sokalbenoit 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Hi Vigo's Dad! Amazing tips, very spot-on. I can see you've really done your research :) Guys - listen to this man - he knows what he's talking about :)

  • @itsnatcole
    @itsnatcole 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Ok i guess its time to write down all the advice from JT and Karolina and keep them in a pocket or a bag 🤣 Love your videos, there's a lot of work behind them, you explain everything so clearly and simple dzięki !! 🙏🏻

    • @VigosDad
      @VigosDad  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hahahha you are very kind hugs.!

  • @annakalicka3430
    @annakalicka3430 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I love "Na Zdrowieing"!!! :D

  • @TrailblazingMedia
    @TrailblazingMedia ปีที่แล้ว

    gonna bookmark this just in case :D

  • @VigosDad
    @VigosDad  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Hej guys! I hope you enjoy this episode, if you have any funny stories about meeting your in-laws please let me know here in the comments! I'm sure we can all have a laugh! P.S. IF YOU HAVE A DIETARY RESTRICTION, PLEASE DON'T LISTE TO ME AND EXPRESS IT IN ADVANCE TO YOUR PARTNER SO THEY LET YOUR IN-LAWS KNOW. I am generalising when I say you should suck it up and eat everything they give you. If you don't eat meat, just express it, or if you are allergic to a certain food. I'm sure it'll be fine with your in-laws: ☺

  • @williammacrillo5584
    @williammacrillo5584 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I believe the best sign of cultural integrity is respect for diversity. The individual, like the group, must understand that their way of life is not the one and only possible way. A culture must be able to not make me feel judged for my different customs. However, your video is very interesting to read up on aspects of Polish culture. But I hope they have a little more flexibility in accepting other ways of doing things, and that they can forgive a hand on the knee 😝

  • @Ansset0
    @Ansset0 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I have to congratulate you, guys (I'm sure TJ, as always had huge help from Karolina) on taking such a heavy subject of polish savoir-vivre with in-laws.
    sorry for the caps, but IT'S A LONG COMMENT ;)
    Some of the mentioned behavioral patterns are specific to my family. It's hard not be subjective to some degree.
    It's a bit different if the lady's being introduced has potential to become the one. Same goes with gentlemen. The more involved the couple is, the more grilling one has to expect. Boyfriends/Girlfriends are accepted with full honours, but with a mental note "(s)he's" a temp. A couple involved for months already - different story.
    Grilling or I'd even say INTERROGATION - usual questions - is ALWAYS treated as an informal introduction to the family, baptism of fire, initiation ceremony.. so to speak. It's also a sign of respect from my family. The bottom line is always to get to know the new family member a bit better. Maybe it's a tradition of sorts even ;)
    Nobody gets hurt in any way. Ever!
    Maybe that's quite unique, but my family sticks together as hell. 40-50 people popping in for Xmas dinner or 20-25 for Saturday's afternoon tea to my only living Grandma (called The Queen Mother as the most senior Lady of the Family [ She's well over 90!]) is a normal thing. 120-150 members on bi-annual family gathering - NORMAL thing :)
    People are comming from most of the continents just for this very special weekend.
    If it's possible, an introduction of new lady or gentleman is staged so the Queen Mother can meet her/him almost the same time as in-laws. Another sign of respect to the Elders. And a lot more fun. Newly introduced partner is always overwhelmed and "how thr heck your family does that" - keep such close relationships.
    Yet! Not a single living soul has ever had something against the "candidate". We respect each others choices and we support them. After one is baptised ;) every single family member would take a bullet or donate a kidney for her/him. There are no exceptions. Family is family.
    When it comes to meeting the in-laws, a bit more general (but IMHO!):
    Food - highest sign of appreciation (but it has to be honest, when you're green or blu-ish on your face, that's suicidal) is to ask for the recipe and some tips&tricks in the matter of preparation.
    It's perfectly acceptable to politely refuse a dish, yet it's rare occrurance, because the child has already prepared parents for the visit. At least it should.
    If that's acceptable, young couple should at least offer to clean after the meal and/or prep a tea, serve it with dessert. Some moms-in-law would defend their kitchens as a lioness defends her cubs. "Quests do not clean" rule is still very deep woven into Polish hospitality.
    Dress code - smart casual I'd say (factoring the weather). No one will expect a smoking suit or little black dress with 5 inch heels for a lazy afternoon and chat :)
    As long as clothes are washed and not destroyed, you should be ok. As you have noticed, TJ, overdoing is not welcome.
    Little addendum: with my mother: Clean your nails or you'll find potassium cyanide in your soup.
    No "Pani Kasiu / no Ma'am". First name basis straight away, yet it is expected for the in-laws to propose it, which happens in seconds in most cases.
    Going per "mom/dad" requires different sets of circumstances: you moved in together and getting very serious, one proposed to another, you are pregnant et cetera.. or you got yourselves a 30 year mortgage LOL
    You (as a gentleman) could also earn an amazing amount of extra points with mother in law, if you'd kiss her hand when introduced. Be subtle about it.
    For the better part of the last century (and since the Dark Ages) it was expected of a man, esp. educated and inteligent.
    It's NOT considered as sign of affection. It's a sign of respect. Same goes with opening the door for a lady. On the other hand, when you are a lady, extra points can be won if you'd offer to help with prepping the meal. It does include small chitchat, but nothing serious. If mom-in-law has only boys, you may expect "daughter I never had" treatment. So much love that could be asphyxiated. All in good faith. Same goes with a father in law with several daughters. Expect a grand tour of any and all the mechanical equipment owned :D [Overstated, but only a bit]
    Here, where I'm stuck for now - Southern Wales, Cardiff area, when I do open the door and let the lady go first, or just hold the door for her I get the look "WTF?" Then comes a smile. Sometimes you can even witness a blush :)
    For foreginers it's all a little bit harder. I belive I know what I'm talking about. I'm involved with Lady of Ukrainian roots for over a decade now. My brother is married to Scottish noblewoman which spent half her life in Germany.
    Above all - be yourself, be kind, clean, polite and well behaved, yet chill a bit. You're the one invading and taking away their daughter or son. You should have a huge amount of benefit of a doubt and tolerance for new behaviours, previously unseen. Inlaws acceptance is important, but you are involved with their son/daugher, not them.
    Doing some research would score some points. Always.

    • @VigosDad
      @VigosDad  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      very well said!!

    • @Ansset0
      @Ansset0 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@VigosDad Thank You :) Although I was a little scared when I copy/pasted it.. it's so long.. (I use notepad to write comments :D )

  • @markbeck8384
    @markbeck8384 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I sort of did this sort of stuff on the side, as it was my brother entering a Polish family, not me. I learned early not to discuss politics or religion, and to be respectful. I was lucky in that I was already on-time, reliable, appreciative of their cooking, and sort of fond of old people. I was a little surprised, as an outsider, how strong the drive for family and marriage was; and also the respect for working, and continuing to work way past normal retirement. These guys are workaholics.

  • @oliwiaafeltowicz7557
    @oliwiaafeltowicz7557 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Very important in meeting parents (as Polish to Polish parents) is to bring flowers for the mother (nothing to extra, 3/5 flowers is enough) and some alkohol for the father (again, nothing too expensive, but also not too cheap).It is viewd as little extra thought put to that meeting.

    • @n0rmalna
      @n0rmalna 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      You have right but my mother prefer food or sweets , wine or somebottle always nice but rather not vodka and beer

  • @nancyr685
    @nancyr685 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    not just babcia waits... once, while in uni, I mentioned to my father I would be visiting home soon. Didn't say when, so for days my dad would barely sleep and just wait in the kitchen for my arrival.

  • @NIELKA
    @NIELKA 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Have you learnt all this the hard way, or Karolina had prepared you well before you met her parents? Acurate observations, spot on.

  • @kozuchh
    @kozuchh 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Can I ask you where did you buy your hoodie? It's great :)

  • @bip5395
    @bip5395 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I do have a friend here in Cracow who is Irish. He owns a business in here, lives here for around 10 years and speaks Polish very well.
    On the other hand we are fluent in English.
    He definitely earned his stripes when there were 4 Polish people, used to speak in English to foreigners, one Irish, conversation in English and he suddenly said 'rozmawiajmy po polsku'.

  • @agnieszkakmieciak225
    @agnieszkakmieciak225 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    For the second tip (alcohol one): they shouldn't have troubles understanding a "no", if you say you're driving. They might even praise you for responsibility.
    About the food tip: there is a big chance that a mother will ask about what food you like or if there is something you can't eat, for example in case of food allergies. And even if she won't, you can try to talk about it with the person you're with so they can let their mother know without special asking before a visit. ;)

  • @missgms7781
    @missgms7781 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Brazilians are the polar opposite, we even greet with kisses on the cheek, we love chatting and touching and hugging and all the rest, and we like people who walk around with a smile or a cheerful and open expression, I bet polish people would feel confused around here XD

  • @kartom3780
    @kartom3780 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I know it's not strictly about the video but I'd like to share my two observations (?) about Poland and Latino countires based on what you said in your previous videos.
    1. You mentioned that Dominican people don't drink that much alcohol at their parties when Polish people think they cannot have fun without drinking. And Dominicans/Latin people are way more open and touchy with others when Polish people are seen as closed and reserved at first, or at leat towards stragers. And that's why I think it might be connected with driniking alhocol. Alcohol makes you feel more relaxed, happy, touchy and open. I think that maybe that's why Domincan people don't feel like they need to drink to have fun. Because they are culturally/naturally way more open and touchy whereas Polish people feel reserved and closed wihtout drinking and alcohol lets us be on the same level of openess what Latin people are naturally on.
    2. You mentioned that in Poland we have huge weddings when in Dominican Republic weddings are smaller. And you noticed that in Poland we don't dance as much as in Latin countries because in Dominican Republic people dance at every family gathering like los cumpleanos de la abuelita. I think it's also conntected. Like we don't have any family party that we could dance. When we want to dance we go to a club. So when we finally have a wedding which is an opportunity to dance and party, it lasts for 12 hours.

    • @VigosDad
      @VigosDad  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Very well said!

    • @lesfleurs9781
      @lesfleurs9781 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      I’m Polish and in our house we always danced when people came over. It was just part of the fun and no particular occasion either.

  • @gracezydor5856
    @gracezydor5856 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Exactly be yourself..we will figure out very fast ..who you are ..we are very intelingent ppl and have incredible isntink…especially women callss it 6 sens !!!!!

  • @piccolapolacca
    @piccolapolacca 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    The more I watch your videos, JT, the more I realise how little Polish I am... Don't get me wrong your observations are spot-on. But they explain why I've always felt like a black sheep in my own country...;) Maybe I am secretly Latina ;)

  • @anten2812
    @anten2812 ปีที่แล้ว

    I'm polish and i can confirm most of things that have been said in this video.

  • @gonon99
    @gonon99 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    indeed sir

  • @kayaquestions
    @kayaquestions 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    So true 😅😅😆👌

  • @wg890
    @wg890 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    how it's possible you dont like the polish sernik na zimno??🧐😮

    • @VigosDad
      @VigosDad  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      hehehe I just don't like it :D I don't eat any of it now because I'm vegan but even before I was vegan I never liked Cheesecake either

  • @marekspisak3647
    @marekspisak3647 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Well defined target

  • @limaontoby3300
    @limaontoby3300 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You didn’t add bringing a flower for her or is not a good ideal?

  • @wer.3026
    @wer.3026 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    About "drinking coulture"... I think times are changing. Loooong time ago my dad stop drinking (without special reason) and all family was in shock but in the end they stop asking him and now even don't remember how much he was "good" in drinking twenty years ago xD Now people are more understending. It depends from family how long they will complain about this but not drinking isn't crime and no one will be offened...
    at least I think so..

  • @marzenabaginska1612
    @marzenabaginska1612 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    😂😂🤣🤣🤣It's funny but you got it right

  • @dbt79
    @dbt79 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    the thing with BABCIA in the window !! 1000% true story !

  • @gimiter7463
    @gimiter7463 ปีที่แล้ว

    i love sernik

  • @magorzatazuzanna6840
    @magorzatazuzanna6840 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    😁👍😊

  • @tranzit0101
    @tranzit0101 ปีที่แล้ว

    22 years married to a Polish woman and mother-in-law still hates me father-in-law liked me a lot.
    Still need help or is it hopeless.

  • @virtuomax
    @virtuomax 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    No kapcie and now no sernik na zimno?! Oh boy! You starting walking on thin ice bro.:D

  • @JerzyFeliksKlein
    @JerzyFeliksKlein 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Kto nie pije ten donosi! 😂

  • @engeyy
    @engeyy 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    3:53 Kto nie pije ten donosi ;P

  • @dollysvlog727
    @dollysvlog727 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    what about bringing gifts to meet the them?

  • @monikamika573
    @monikamika573 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    One for sure, prepare yourself. Family dinner, especially meeting in laws it's not happening just like that...do some homework.

  • @mayfair_forest_witch
    @mayfair_forest_witch 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Learning few polish words is important, you are right that if you won't pronounce them perfectly it's not a problem, but, make sure you do try. Do not try to say polish work with strong american or any other accent, and most of all, never ever "americanise" polish words, like this dreadful "pierogis", please just don't, it's pierogi, it's already plural, one is pieróg or pierożek, two or more is pierogi. Hearing "pierogis" is very cringy for many polish people.
    However, it's a classic case of "do as I say not as I do" because we cringe at the sound of our words being "americanised" but we do love to "polonise" English words.
    Other thing, obviously you won't do that at first meeting, but even if you know your in-laws well, you met them many times and you feel like you are buddies, do not correct their pronunciation of some English words or names, brand names etc. You'll hear polish people pronouncing incorrectly words like Scrabble, Disneyland or Disney, Presley, Chicago, you'll hear us saying "guglować" instead of googling. And many more. We know we are pronouncing it wrong. We polonise the sound of these words when we talk to each other, even Polish people who speak English fluently will do that when talking among polish people. Same goes with other words borrowed from other languages, we purposely "polonise" their pronunciation, just deal with it :) Japanese people do same thing, they take English word and give it a Japanese touch.

  • @aa-dt5bf
    @aa-dt5bf 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I was living with my girlfriend over 4 years and still when we visit her parents we had to sleep in separate rooms :P

    • @rozalive1451
      @rozalive1451 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yes, it is a sin to send unmarried people to the room / bed together. Even if you are neglected but not or not yet in church, you will get two separate beds and rooms

  • @ApeironTO
    @ApeironTO ปีที่แล้ว

    how can you not like sernik na zimno
    mind blowing

  • @OtharSmirnow
    @OtharSmirnow 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    The level of your analysis is in the upper registers

  • @luciakoz2493
    @luciakoz2493 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Babcia stojąca w oknie: zło(to)

  • @AlmostDon
    @AlmostDon 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Normally, realtionships with your own family are already pretty traumatic. Add a 50% of pressure and another 25% of exprectations, and that's the spooky experience with in-laws (not just in Poland!) HAHAHAHAHA.

    • @VigosDad
      @VigosDad  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      😂

    • @Ansset0
      @Ansset0 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      It's a pity to hear (or extrapolate) that you have so shty relationship with the family. Pressure and stress often motivates. You are, appraently, frozen ;)

  • @mrtomcruise5192
    @mrtomcruise5192 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Do polish like russians or germans more?

    • @VigosDad
      @VigosDad  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      and that is the question! 😅

  • @GreatPolishWingedHussars
    @GreatPolishWingedHussars ปีที่แล้ว

    Another funny video! By the way, it is very advantageous if you are Catholic. So before you meet the in-laws, convert to Catholicism if you're not Catholic! :)

  • @rozalive1451
    @rozalive1451 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Czesc, z checia obejrzalam. Jesli chodzi o ubranie to fakt nie trzeba garnituru ale codzienny stroj nie koniecznie pasuje. Uwazam, ze dzinsy schludne bez modnych dzior i Polo to dobra wersja.
    Niestety zalozenie, ze idziecie tylko na herbate nie jest dobre... Polacy gdy dpodziewaja sie gosci to duzo szykuje, wiec to prawie impreza.
    Sportowa bluza i modnie poszarpane jeansy moga nie zrobic dobrego wrazenia.
    Polecam gore z wygodnego materialu ale z kolnierzykiem(polo bluzka, sweter) i spodnie klasyczne ciemne z jeans albo inny material.

    • @VigosDad
      @VigosDad  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      no! zgadzam się

  • @shens2661
    @shens2661 ปีที่แล้ว

    Pretty much Asian and middle eastern culture here.

  • @ariel6574
    @ariel6574 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    love and respect and all but how can you not like sernik na zimno is beyond me really

  • @tombartram7384
    @tombartram7384 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Do's = wrong
    Dos = right.

    • @VigosDad
      @VigosDad  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      you sir are correct! Fixed! and thank you

  • @magorzatamagorzata769
    @magorzatamagorzata769 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Jak można sernika nie lubić????

  • @Marta-qd1oe
    @Marta-qd1oe 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Super odcinek bardzo mi się podobało pliss dawajcie polskie napisy trafiłam na Was niedawno też mieszkam w Uk

    • @VigosDad
      @VigosDad  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Napisy jutro! ❤️

    • @Ansset0
      @Ansset0 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Napisy pliss, miesz(k)am w UK, a nie potrafiem sklecic dwoch zdaniow w anglo-saskiem jezykiem? Fuj! Przecinkuf tesz mi sie zapomnialo bylo?

    • @Marta-qd1oe
      @Marta-qd1oe 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Ansset0 Specjalnie napisałam to po polsku... I bądź grzeczniejszy bo też potrafię być bardzo wredna

    • @Marta-qd1oe
      @Marta-qd1oe 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@VigosDad Dziękuję😀

  • @loveniczek
    @loveniczek 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    JAK ŚMIESZ nie lubić sernika na zimno?! 😂

  • @magicstep
    @magicstep 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    good video, will send you some vegan sernik na zimno, enjoy

  • @erikajasinski4633
    @erikajasinski4633 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    About drinking you are wrong . I am Polish don’t drink lived in Poland 6 years and no one ever gave me a hard time about not drinking ever .

    • @VigosDad
      @VigosDad  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      That’s a strong statement. “You are wrong”. Maybe our experiences have been different, what do you think? It might be that men and women in Poland are treated a bit different when it comes to drinking. Who knows.

  • @CCBMORAG5
    @CCBMORAG5 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Ty po prostu nas rozumiesz. A skoro nas rozumiesz to już nie jesteś obcokrajowcem ale Polakiem. Trochę słabo mówisz po polsku ale to bardzo trudny język więc my nie mamy wielkich wymagań co do tego. Fajny z Ciebie facet.

  • @mementomori878
    @mementomori878 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Kds

  • @gracezydor5856
    @gracezydor5856 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Not exactly!!!!they love it !!!you have to be careful!!!!hou have to give good impression!!!!if you said you don’t drink they will bi suspicious! Be yourself !!!!!!always works …don’t pretend you are not …they will figure out sooner then you expect?????? BE CAREFUL!!!!!!POLISH PARENTS ARE VERY PROTECTIVE!!!!!M!

  • @dominikbanan3707
    @dominikbanan3707 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Żadnego Polaka??