I feel like the way you are so thoughtful and prudent with the way you create your videos it tells us a lot about how kind hearted and wholesome your personality is. It's just the small things already that count for me: for example I appreciate deeply that you always hold in your breath to get a nice whisper sound, even though it's rather unpleasant to do so for you, or you mentioning that you promise to give each of both microphones the same amount of attention to keep the experience balanced - just to name two of loads of nice gestures from you - let alone all those personal and deep thoughts you share with us in this kindhearted and pure way. You can always see that you really mean it and I can truly say that it appears a 100% authentic!
Thank you so much, that's so sweet. I always get nervous about people either disliking the whispers or what I talk about, so to hear you say that means the world to me. I seriously just wanna share meaningful stuff and hear what you guys think about it, so this has been the best thing ever
@@seaturtle5719 it's not the breath holding itself, but the thought behind it if you are able to understand the value behind one's Actions - he does it specifically to not disturb our ASMR experience because the heavy breathing might put people off in the way the clicky and tingly whisper itself does trigger a lot of people. I just wanted to emphasize that I really appreciate the way he is being so thoughtful with his audiences preferences by acting upon it. I feel like you aren't taking it serious or you haven't spend a second thinking about what it actually means, so making fun of it seems like you didn't really reflect the message behind it
Jake this isn't you being narcissistic... we die alone so it is only normal that we mainly look out for ourselves. The mere fact you are aware of it is enough to prove you aren't. Big hug 😊
Whoa Jacob, this one hit me hard. Relaxing you are and the way you speak so eloquently keeps me listening but as a guy who’s not emotional myself you should know I watched, (not just listened), with tears streaming down my face. You look so fucking sad and although it’s not manly I wished I could just hug you so you’d know people are listening and do care. Whew! This took me back to my own experience a few years back. A bunch of my bros were going out to party one Friday. One of them left all 5 of us a voicemail saying he had bailed. The other 4 never reacted & went out but I felt something seemed a bit off. I called my friend & asked what was up and in the softest whisper his voice cracked and I could barely make out “please help me.” I told him I was coming over and told the guys I had a change of plans. He was 21 and lived off campus and I knew his roommate went home for the weekend so he was alone. I flew up the stairs and pounded on the door. After about 30 seconds that felt like forever he opened the door. I barely recognized him. He was blank, empty and completely broken. I just said his name and he burst into tears and fell into my arms. Thru his sobs he said his grades were down, he had massive credit card debts and his girlfriend had dumped him due to his alcoholism, (which I totally enabled). And his stepfather wouldn’t allow him to come home because he thought he was a loser. For hours I held him as we both cried and he said he had nothing in his life that mattered anymore. I tried to convince him he was not a loser. I told him I loved him and he was important to all of his friends. I was scared to leave him but after talking, crying and intervals of just silently holding each other I made him promise me he’d be ok until the next day. He walked to my car and we hugged one last time. He asked me “could you just please close your eyes?” I did and he kissed me very softly on the lips, whispered “thank you” and held me tighter than anyone before or since. To be VERY clear, this was not some gay shit. That is NOT what it’s about. It was two men, still boys in many ways, expressing their feelings and caring about each other. I drove home crying, worried about what to do for my friend. The next day he made an appointment at a wellness clinic for ongoing therapy. About a week later I received a card in the mail. He had written down how he felt about my changing my plans that night and what he had planned to do. Even now I’m really upset writing this. He said I’d have never seen him again had I not called him back. And he apologized for kissing me but that he didn’t know how else to show me how he felt. Apologized! Because as guys he was afraid I would be uncomfortable. Today he has a great job, a house and is a work in progress due to his alcoholism but he does have a girlfriend. I’m sorry this is so very long but the point I’m trying to make is everyone needs to reach out sometime. And I think you did with this vlog. You’re in therapy which is cool with me. I’m just guessing someone or something hurt you at one time, which is so common. But so many guys just shut down for fear of looking weak. But it takes a strong guy to share his feelings. And you don’t look weak to me Jacob. Keep reaching out. And if I was your friend I’d hold you and listen to every fucking word and cry with you. Because we’re human and expressing our feelings hurts. Bad. But it hurts a lot more to realize you might have lost your friend forever. Thank you Jacob. I love you man!🙏❤️
wow, this is such a beautiful comment with an amazing message 😢 so great of you to be there for your friend like that. i wish this type of behaviour was more normalised, like you said EVERYONE needs to open up and let their feelings out sometime. its a big part of the human experience ❤
I don't even know where to start bruh, that was so moving and so well-written. I always learn best from other people when they share their advice in the form of personal experience or a story, and what you wrote seriously just hit me like a truck. It makes me think about some of my friends, who have a much harder time opening up than I do, and how I can be to them who you were to your friend that night. Life really is all about the people around us, and your story is a perfect example of that. Thank you so much for sharing, I seriously don't know what else to say, I'm about to stare at a wall for 30 minutes and just think about that
Glad you appreciated it man. I don’t often share anything. Even my friends from that night don’t know what went down because it was between the two of us but watching you just made me open up to you.
@@jacobdreamsasmr not at all,dont worry about the background noise they are lowkey relaxing sometimes for a lot of people.Overall your videos are great🤝❤️
@@jacobdreamsasmr I did! but there were also certain parts where i wished it wouldve been gone. Maybe a video with less and then one with normal? Just giving out suggestions here, regardless I’m excited to see what comes next😁
@@anotherviewer9865 yeah that was the feedback from the mic that wasn't being whispered into, I'm gonna look into reducing that. I know you can do noise reduction but I don't wanna take away the whisper effect
You genuinely are so naturally beautiful, I don't know if you wear makeup obviously but I mean like the structure of your face is just really aesthetically pleasing, as an aspiring fashion designer you would be an amazing model! Aside from that though, you have such an interesting world view and it's so thought provoking and moving
Vulnerability hangover, i feel that, finally let it all out then regret it afterwards, wishing you had been more stoic and in control, young men desire and crave wise guidance, righteous talks with righteous men, its a reason im thankful to God, he gives wisdom, he sends people into your life that know better, with experience of their own, solid backgrounds and personal growth.
You're very articulate, it's really satisfying to hear someone go into depth about such complex topics like you have in this video. At 13:17 you said, "I almost feel embarrassed or ashamed whenever I tell somebody about something that's bothering me". This hit really close to home and I wanted to ask you about it. I'm glad you addressed any possible irony in your statements later on in the video, but I want to know if this 13:17 quote applies to your videos? Do you feel similar emotions with talking on TH-cam as you do talking to someone in person? Do you experience vulnerability hangovers after hitting 'post'? I hope you don't, and I thought I'd mention it because I think it's a positive sign that you feel comfortable being honest here. For some more irony, I think advice from online can be reallllly shitty, and needs to be taken with a grain of salt. Personally, I get overwhelmed if I have two pieces of advice that contradict each other, let alone possibly the entire internet. I do hope you find the advice or read an experience that helps you become more comfortable in yourself and less existential. I'm aware that this video is 6 months old and my advice might be old news since perhaps you've found your way through this already (hopefully!). I felt obliged to comment as your situation sits very similarly to mine, and perhaps most men our age. It's a really difficult perspective to have (I'm speaking for myself) when you advocate for men's mental health but not for your own. You seem like a cool, introspective, and thoughtful guy and those who you feel comfortable around should cherish that. Also the ear to ear was really cool. Is it easier to do than just the one mic?
I actually don't feel that way when I post to youtube, it's funny you ask cuz I am about to post something pretty vulnerable tmr that made me worry about it for the first time. I'm aware that a lot of people watch my stuff, but for me, making videos has always just felt like an outlet, and as soon as I press publish, I feel like I've released something from myself. I feel relief rather than anxiety. That being said, I think I do a pretty good job of expressing myself so I'm never too worried about saying something bad. When it comes to people though, I'm the opposite lately. I get really stressed about how I come off and how the other person's gonna respond. I think that's just cuz i'm insecure about my life rn, and I have this really strong desire to solve all my problems alone to prove that I'm smart enough to. Idk if that answered your question but I appreciate your comment. And two mics was a little more difficult logistically, but I felt pretty good when I was actually talking. Thanks again!
This has got to be one of the more interesting ASMR channels I tune in to ... Very Well articulated, keep sharing 🤙 don't be afraid to go longer as well throw a few 40 - 60min vids in the mix, keep it up. Cheer💤 btw dude you'd make a good psychologist
I’m still in that phase where if I’m under the influence I will tell my whole lifestory to anyone and everyone who wants to hear it. I think it’s also because its so easy to talk about while drunk because you’re basically numb to all the emotions paired with your life, or hoping to get validated. But the shame the day after is the worst for me, feel like I’ve bothered people all night with the rambling. It also kinda feels worse to be misunderstood, than to not share at all 😅 (When I’m drunk i talk like “tiny glowing screens pt 2 - watski”, you’ll either find this the most cringe shit ever or youll like it hahaha)
That's exactly what I used to do, and to an extent I think that's totally fine and it's really what made my nights out so fun. And you're right, I talked about it in the video but I obviously feel worse when I'm holding everything in, so I'd love to find more of a happy medium. If you have any tips on that I'm all ears And I just listened to that song hahah that's so dead on
@@jacobdreamsasmr honestly i wish i had a happy medium, I am at the bars right now with my friends for the first time in months and i had a sincere talk with my friend about it (honestly thanks to your video), that i needed to find balance between just completely spewing everything on them or just sharing nothing. They told me that they do love listening to me, but i should not be afraid to just text them to go out for coffee and talk, instead of just doing it randomly on a night out. I think thats pretty fair, because that gives them the time to evaluate if they have the space to listen to me and comfort me :)) I really love your videos man, you seem so sincere, intelligent and well articulate. I feel like if i really knew you in this life, we’d be really great friends.
I feel the same way sometimes, I feel like I overshare and then I wanna close my mouth and never talk again but also not lose my personality or authenticity, it’s hard out here!!
@@Sleepyyhead01 that's a good middle ground, I think the longer you hold something in, the more explosive it is when you let it out, then you end up with even more regret than had you just found a more reasonable way to express yourself. And we totally would be bruh come on now
Maybe, not that you’re older, opening up to those close to you makes you feel like you’re wasting their time or energy. When it was a stranger you didn’t really know what they were dealing with or how expressing your emotions would affect them. But knowing how your emotions affect your loved ones could make you hesitant to want to share them. What you said reminded me of my engram type and you might be the same. I’m type 6, where we feel a need for our feelings and actions to be validated by others and we can be swayed by others opinions on our lives. I did some digging and it says an ‘unhealthy’ 6 has “a fear of being left without support which will make them do anything so people won't leave them, but also lash out when they feel threatened.” Idk if any of this resonates with you or not.
Well I'm in the UK so our times won't match up however I listen to Qua asmr and catch him live because I'm always up late anyway 😂 alot of people clearly like you on here so deffo think about it! No pressure though, do everything for you.
I feel like the way you are so thoughtful and prudent with the way you create your videos it tells us a lot about how kind hearted and wholesome your personality is. It's just the small things already that count for me: for example I appreciate deeply that you always hold in your breath to get a nice whisper sound, even though it's rather unpleasant to do so for you, or you mentioning that you promise to give each of both microphones the same amount of attention to keep the experience balanced - just to name two of loads of nice gestures from you - let alone all those personal and deep thoughts you share with us in this kindhearted and pure way. You can always see that you really mean it and I can truly say that it appears a 100% authentic!
Thank you so much, that's so sweet. I always get nervous about people either disliking the whispers or what I talk about, so to hear you say that means the world to me. I seriously just wanna share meaningful stuff and hear what you guys think about it, so this has been the best thing ever
Ahh yes, holding your breath makes you kind hearted LOL
@@seaturtle5719 it's not the breath holding itself, but the thought behind it if you are able to understand the value behind one's Actions - he does it specifically to not disturb our ASMR experience because the heavy breathing might put people off in the way the clicky and tingly whisper itself does trigger a lot of people. I just wanted to emphasize that I really appreciate the way he is being so thoughtful with his audiences preferences by acting upon it. I feel like you aren't taking it serious or you haven't spend a second thinking about what it actually means, so making fun of it seems like you didn't really reflect the message behind it
I like this side of ASMR. Feels relaxing but also melancholic. Like I’m in a therapy session
My favorite ASMR channel right now . Simple soft whispering is about all I watch. So glad I found your channel.
Jake this isn't you being narcissistic... we die alone so it is only normal that we mainly look out for ourselves. The mere fact you are aware of it is enough to prove you aren't. Big hug 😊
Please don’t ever stop being active on this channel
Whoa Jacob, this one hit me hard. Relaxing you are and the way you speak so eloquently keeps me listening but as a guy who’s not emotional myself you should know I watched, (not just listened), with tears streaming down my face. You look so fucking sad and although it’s not manly I wished I could just hug you so you’d know people are listening and do care. Whew! This took me back to my own experience a few years back. A bunch of my bros were going out to party one Friday. One of them left all 5 of us a voicemail saying he had bailed. The other 4 never reacted & went out but I felt something seemed a bit off. I called my friend & asked what was up and in the softest whisper his voice cracked and I could barely make out “please help me.” I told him I was coming over and told the guys I had a change of plans. He was 21 and lived off campus and I knew his roommate went home for the weekend so he was alone. I flew up the stairs and pounded on the door. After about 30 seconds that felt like forever he opened the door. I barely recognized him. He was blank, empty and completely broken. I just said his name and he burst into tears and fell into my arms. Thru his sobs he said his grades were down, he had massive credit card debts and his girlfriend had dumped him due to his alcoholism, (which I totally enabled). And his stepfather wouldn’t allow him to come home because he thought he was a loser. For hours I held him as we both cried and he said he had nothing in his life that mattered anymore. I tried to convince him he was not a loser. I told him I loved him and he was important to all of his friends. I was scared to leave him but after talking, crying and intervals of just silently holding each other I made him promise me he’d be ok until the next day. He walked to my car and we hugged one last time. He asked me “could you just please close your eyes?” I did and he kissed me very softly on the lips, whispered “thank you” and held me tighter than anyone before or since. To be VERY clear, this was not some gay shit. That is NOT what it’s about. It was two men, still boys in many ways, expressing their feelings and caring about each other. I drove home crying, worried about what to do for my friend. The next day he made an appointment at a wellness clinic for ongoing therapy. About a week later I received a card in the mail. He had written down how he felt about my changing my plans that night and what he had planned to do. Even now I’m really upset writing this. He said I’d have never seen him again had I not called him back. And he apologized for kissing me but that he didn’t know how else to show me how he felt. Apologized! Because as guys he was afraid I would be uncomfortable. Today he has a great job, a house and is a work in progress due to his alcoholism but he does have a girlfriend. I’m sorry this is so very long but the point I’m trying to make is everyone needs to reach out sometime. And I think you did with this vlog. You’re in therapy which is cool with me. I’m just guessing someone or something hurt you at one time, which is so common. But so many guys just shut down for fear of looking weak. But it takes a strong guy to share his feelings. And you don’t look weak to me Jacob. Keep reaching out. And if I was your friend I’d hold you and listen to every fucking word and cry with you. Because we’re human and expressing our feelings hurts. Bad. But it hurts a lot more to realize you might have lost your friend forever. Thank you Jacob. I love you man!🙏❤️
wow, this is such a beautiful comment with an amazing message 😢 so great of you to be there for your friend like that. i wish this type of behaviour was more normalised, like you said EVERYONE needs to open up and let their feelings out sometime. its a big part of the human experience ❤
@@ravenokingThank you so much. I can’t imagine how I’d have felt had I also ignored his call.
I don't even know where to start bruh, that was so moving and so well-written. I always learn best from other people when they share their advice in the form of personal experience or a story, and what you wrote seriously just hit me like a truck. It makes me think about some of my friends, who have a much harder time opening up than I do, and how I can be to them who you were to your friend that night. Life really is all about the people around us, and your story is a perfect example of that. Thank you so much for sharing, I seriously don't know what else to say, I'm about to stare at a wall for 30 minutes and just think about that
Glad you appreciated it man. I don’t often share anything. Even my friends from that night don’t know what went down because it was between the two of us but watching you just made me open up to you.
To grow up is to live for more than ourselves, glad you’re learning that. It just keeps getting better and better, my friend. Much love ✌🏼
Omg this channel is getting better and better!
The double mic is the move fuck it sounds so good and your whispers are on point as usual🤝💯
Let's gooo that's great to hear, I'll do another vid w/ both of them soon
Did the background noise bother you at all or was it fine
@@jacobdreamsasmr not at all,dont worry about the background noise they are lowkey relaxing sometimes for a lot of people.Overall your videos are great🤝❤️
this came out amazing!!! love the effort you put into all your vids🙏
Thank you! I think I'll do another one soon and try to get less white noise in the background. Unless you liked that part of it too
@@jacobdreamsasmr I did! but there were also certain parts where i wished it wouldve been gone. Maybe a video with less and then one with normal? Just giving out suggestions here, regardless I’m excited to see what comes next😁
@@anotherviewer9865 yeah that was the feedback from the mic that wasn't being whispered into, I'm gonna look into reducing that. I know you can do noise reduction but I don't wanna take away the whisper effect
You genuinely are so naturally beautiful, I don't know if you wear makeup obviously but I mean like the structure of your face is just really aesthetically pleasing, as an aspiring fashion designer you would be an amazing model! Aside from that though, you have such an interesting world view and it's so thought provoking and moving
The studio light is carrying but thank you! When you make it as a designer I'll do a video in one of your pieces
@@jacobdreamsasmr you put it in writing I will sue if you don't now!! (Just in case I am gonna clarify that this is a joke so I don't get doxxed)
Best whisperer in the game !
Stop bruh I'm blushing
These videos are so different I love it keep it up👍🏾
I really enjoy watching your videos every time I deep clean my room it very relaxing and relatable keep up the great work such a peaceful channel 🌟
Thank you for letting me sponsor your deep clean
this video is so comforting
Vulnerability hangover, i feel that, finally let it all out then regret it afterwards, wishing you had been more stoic and in control, young men desire and crave wise guidance, righteous talks with righteous men, its a reason im thankful to God, he gives wisdom, he sends people into your life that know better, with experience of their own, solid backgrounds and personal growth.
Hello friend, I hope you are doing well)), glad to see and hear you, thank you very much for the video ❤ ❤ ❤
Thanks for watching! It means the world
Thank goodness for people like you!!!!
Love your authenticitiy
You're very articulate, it's really satisfying to hear someone go into depth about such complex topics like you have in this video. At 13:17 you said, "I almost feel embarrassed or ashamed whenever I tell somebody about something that's bothering me". This hit really close to home and I wanted to ask you about it. I'm glad you addressed any possible irony in your statements later on in the video, but I want to know if this 13:17 quote applies to your videos? Do you feel similar emotions with talking on TH-cam as you do talking to someone in person? Do you experience vulnerability hangovers after hitting 'post'? I hope you don't, and I thought I'd mention it because I think it's a positive sign that you feel comfortable being honest here.
For some more irony, I think advice from online can be reallllly shitty, and needs to be taken with a grain of salt. Personally, I get overwhelmed if I have two pieces of advice that contradict each other, let alone possibly the entire internet. I do hope you find the advice or read an experience that helps you become more comfortable in yourself and less existential.
I'm aware that this video is 6 months old and my advice might be old news since perhaps you've found your way through this already (hopefully!). I felt obliged to comment as your situation sits very similarly to mine, and perhaps most men our age. It's a really difficult perspective to have (I'm speaking for myself) when you advocate for men's mental health but not for your own. You seem like a cool, introspective, and thoughtful guy and those who you feel comfortable around should cherish that.
Also the ear to ear was really cool. Is it easier to do than just the one mic?
I actually don't feel that way when I post to youtube, it's funny you ask cuz I am about to post something pretty vulnerable tmr that made me worry about it for the first time.
I'm aware that a lot of people watch my stuff, but for me, making videos has always just felt like an outlet, and as soon as I press publish, I feel like I've released something from myself. I feel relief rather than anxiety. That being said, I think I do a pretty good job of expressing myself so I'm never too worried about saying something bad.
When it comes to people though, I'm the opposite lately. I get really stressed about how I come off and how the other person's gonna respond. I think that's just cuz i'm insecure about my life rn, and I have this really strong desire to solve all my problems alone to prove that I'm smart enough to.
Idk if that answered your question but I appreciate your comment. And two mics was a little more difficult logistically, but I felt pretty good when I was actually talking. Thanks again!
I love your content and your community comments it is all perfect to be real ☺️
This has got to be one of the more interesting ASMR channels I tune in to ... Very Well articulated, keep sharing 🤙 don't be afraid to go longer as well throw a few 40 - 60min vids in the mix, keep it up. Cheer💤 btw dude you'd make a good psychologist
Thanks Jake! I've got a couple vids I'm working on rn that should be a little longer and require maximum use of my lungs
@@jacobdreamsasmr 😂 👌
Love your posts ❤
Omgggg I've been waiting for this
I’m still in that phase where if I’m under the influence I will tell my whole lifestory to anyone and everyone who wants to hear it. I think it’s also because its so easy to talk about while drunk because you’re basically numb to all the emotions paired with your life, or hoping to get validated. But the shame the day after is the worst for me, feel like I’ve bothered people all night with the rambling.
It also kinda feels worse to be misunderstood, than to not share at all 😅
(When I’m drunk i talk like “tiny glowing screens pt 2 - watski”, you’ll either find this the most cringe shit ever or youll like it hahaha)
That's exactly what I used to do, and to an extent I think that's totally fine and it's really what made my nights out so fun. And you're right, I talked about it in the video but I obviously feel worse when I'm holding everything in, so I'd love to find more of a happy medium. If you have any tips on that I'm all ears
And I just listened to that song hahah that's so dead on
@@jacobdreamsasmr honestly i wish i had a happy medium, I am at the bars right now with my friends for the first time in months and i had a sincere talk with my friend about it (honestly thanks to your video), that i needed to find balance between just completely spewing everything on them or just sharing nothing. They told me that they do love listening to me, but i should not be afraid to just text them to go out for coffee and talk, instead of just doing it randomly on a night out. I think thats pretty fair, because that gives them the time to evaluate if they have the space to listen to me and comfort me :)) I really love your videos man, you seem so sincere, intelligent and well articulate. I feel like if i really knew you in this life, we’d be really great friends.
I feel the same way sometimes, I feel like I overshare and then I wanna close my mouth and never talk again but also not lose my personality or authenticity, it’s hard out here!!
@@Sleepyyhead01 that's a good middle ground, I think the longer you hold something in, the more explosive it is when you let it out, then you end up with even more regret than had you just found a more reasonable way to express yourself. And we totally would be bruh come on now
12:35 why how old art thee
yay you are back!!!
Maybe, not that you’re older, opening up to those close to you makes you feel like you’re wasting their time or energy. When it was a stranger you didn’t really know what they were dealing with or how expressing your emotions would affect them. But knowing how your emotions affect your loved ones could make you hesitant to want to share them. What you said reminded me of my engram type and you might be the same. I’m type 6, where we feel a need for our feelings and actions to be validated by others and we can be swayed by others opinions on our lives. I did some digging and it says an ‘unhealthy’ 6 has “a fear of being left without support which will make them do anything so people won't leave them, but also lash out when they feel threatened.” Idk if any of this resonates with you or not.
Perfect timinggg
this put me to SLEEEEEP last night
Great vid
You need a live so we can all talk to you!! ❤
I've definitely thought about going live but heavens it makes me nervous. What time of day would be best for you if I did?
Well I'm in the UK so our times won't match up however I listen to Qua asmr and catch him live because I'm always up late anyway 😂 alot of people clearly like you on here so deffo think about it! No pressure though, do everything for you.
So good 🤤
So relatable
Please do more ear to ear whispering
I think I’m gonna try a close up whisper video in the next week or two
PLEASE JACOB MAKE MORE OF THESE VIDEOS WITH THE TWO MICROPHONES IM BEGGING YOU PLEASE😭😭😭🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
The only problem I had was the mic I was not talking into was picking up a lot of noise, did you notice that or was it good
@@jacobdreamsasmri thought it was GREAT!!
@@jacobdreamsasmrI mean like yes but you have to be really awake to even notice it haha
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enjoyed
side note do you write poetry/short stories anything
I actually tried writing some short stories last year and really liked it. It was more just to creatively get my feelings out. How about you
@@jacobdreamsasmroh cool i was gonna recommend writing to express yourself and i do too
@@ariessasmr What kinda stuff do you write
@@jacobdreamsasmrjust poems but i’m trying to write a book 😬
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