I remember back in the 1980s (I'm 54) when my grandmother found an article on "difficult children" that mentioned the "sock seams & labels" issue - I was so relieved I was not alone - my family used to call me "the boy who cried wolf" - and my father would hit me & pull my hair and shout "fake, fake !" & " I'll give you something to cry about !" - because I was crying because my clothes hurt ... Thank you so much for your videos, Ella
Can TOTALLY relate to sock and bras!!! I remember having meltdowns as a child because I could feel the seems of my socks. Or taking them off 47 times to situate my socks because I could feel them crumpled inside my shoes. When I gain even a little weight...I have to have a bigger bra because I feel so restricted and can't concentrate.
My socks have to be of particular thickness, the seam has to run the right way and the ankle cannot be too high, my feet also cannot get warm or they need to come off because I can't handle warm feet and they can't have that weird middle sports band. I have so many specifics with my socks when I have to wear them, generally I hate wearing socks Also I cannot wear socks on carpet. The feeling of fabric against fabric literally hurts in a way
@@Catlily5 yeah, same. I wear one-size up sports bras that are super flimsy (calvin klein) but they don't hide much in cold weather. I'm also wondering what comfort bras are.
I recently realised I am autistic and I’ve had sensory issues like this for my entire life, I just thought I was weird. I’ve had a huge phobia of blood tests specifically for my whole life and what you said about getting blood tests is so spot on that it’s making me realise it might be an autism related issue not just a phobia!
It's like i listen to myself! :) I only wear yoga pants and lounge clothes and first thing i do is cut out the labels! Bra's make me feel restraint and breathless (up to the point i would almost wish i was 'breastless' ;) ) But last year i discovered the sloggie zero feel bra top and the zero feel bralette. These are the first and only bra's i can wear all day without any problem! :) I don't like to be touched softly, and i hate handshakes and hugs, but i'm not that sensitive for pain. More likely the opposite i think! It helps when you sinc your breath with the pain. Try to breath out (deep and long) when the needle goes in! Another hack that can help to cope with pain is something they call 'The gate control theory'. I truly hope these tips can make painfull moments a bit more manageable! ~Kim
I absolutely can relate to the clothes and eating and socks, I’m so shocked that someone else feels the same. I’m understanding all of these things about myself after my child’s diagnosis. Thank you for your video💜Sending virtual hugs
I would love a sensory room with lights, it sounds amazing!!!!!!!!!!! Struggle so much with sensory issues, especially sensory overload but I also love fidget toys and squishy toys etc.... Interested in the sensory oils!!
I use a square scarf that I fold on the bias as a blindfold that I wrap snuggly around the head. It keeps my eyelids relaxed in a closed position so it’s kind of like a weighted blanket for the eyes, and the pressure around my skull and the muffling of the sound helps as well.
Thank you so much for this!! I can't stand wearing a bra and always wondered why it doesn't seem to bother others as much. Never occurred to me it was a sensory processing issue! Same with socks not being perfectly aligned.
Thank you for this video! I’ve been struggling with sensory overload for as long as I can remember! Bright lights, too many things in a room/store, loud noises, touch, certain smells, vibration. If there is a fold in my pillow, I can’t sleep. A fold in my sock, I have to fix it. Can’t wear a bra, pantyhose or tight clothing.
One thing you don't mention is how anxiety and stress - especially when it comes to thoughts and feelings - relates to this subject. If I have several distressful problems I am struggling to solve in my life, then my body is tense all the time and I party shut off the environment which causes all kind of problems in relationships. I can tell everything at the same time without checking whether it is the right moment, I may miss simple information which makes others annoyed and I may just walk away just because of a small misunderstands because I am already in a destructive catastrophe mode. Under such circumstances the sound of a TV-program ca be completely overwhelming, but also if someone tries to talk about a problem with me. I cannot process all information at the same time, I get bad associations and my fantasies escalate and my brain shuts down. So, processing what people say to me is also a HUGE problem for me. It arouses all kinds of inner emotional reactions and stress.
Fairly sure bras are just a torture device. Ugh getting my wisdom teeth done was awful! I had my wisdom teeth out under a general and took way more pain killers than I wanted.
I have a fabletix scoop bra top that is SO comfortable. i could live in it. Its not tight at all, but is a great, thick material that makes it appropriate to wear as a regular top or undershirt. It just looks really plain and breathes well.
I have never heard anyone else describe what I struggled with for so many years with eating in other peoples houses. It caused me so much anxiety and I never understood until getting an autism diagnosis. Thank you 🙏🏻
I'm almost crying with the needles part. Everytime I need to get blood drawn I spend the rest of the day nursing my arm because of the pain and the humiliation of how much I react to it
Thank you for your videos, I completely relate to this. I had no idea this was linked to autism with bras and socks. Thought I was just weird. I find myself relating to all your videos. I'm undiagnosed, but I'm relieved that I found your videos. Always was worried wondering how come Im different and having so many issues in everyday life. I've been trying to figure out how to cope with my issues and find validated answers to my problems. Thank you
I don't like bras either. I stopped wearing them. Bralettes have changed my life! You should try them. I have one with no wire but cups and it's stretchy and feels amazing.
The sock/shoe thing cracked me up...I'm a personal trainer (fitness) who trains clients more often than not, barefoot. I also get the weirdest looks from my neighbors when I'm taking out the trash or my dog out to 'go' barefoot...rain or shine 🤣 I hate socks, I hate shoes...and bras and pants and tags and seams and touch LoL. So yeah, I totally get the sock/shoe thing!
I’m feeling this video so much! I have the same thing with my socks and shoes as well as the labels. There are so many of these issues I have with some degree or another. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and experiences!
I remember having a meltdown after my mom told me we needed to go bra shopping when I first started developing. I was so overwhelmed and then when I actually felt what it was like to have one on, I would have nothing to do with it. I was teeny tiny but we left the store with the only bra I would accept- an extra large bralette that was basically a giant kleenex held up by two silky soft straps. Haven't changed much as an adult hahaha I really relate to the sock and shoe thing as well!
Cool video. I'm also on the spectrum and am the reverse of you in that I have a processing delay when it comes to registering pain. So pain threshold is pretty high. I'm same as you when it comes to noise.
Pain? I can fracture a bone and not be bothered a lot by it. But spicy food? NOOOOO! Impossible! Also too salty, too sweet food - oh, I am such a picky eater. But... Rupturing an ear drum due to ear infection? Pneumonia? Meeh... It's like physical pain is a distant sound I can ignore. But shoes that go click-clack? Drives me MAD! I love proper massage, but please... Could I never be forced to hug anyone again? Or shake hands.
I relate to a lot of what you said! The sock thing is so real to me 😅 I have to cut the bits that stick out on the ends of the seam otherwise I feel it. After a while it can even become painful if I don't stop and fix my socks. Can't stand any piece of clothing that is misplaced, folded or wrinkled. I hate hate hate bunched up clothing. Light touch sticks for minutes, sometimes hours at a time and I can still feel it. Can't stand pain. In some areas, I barely feel pain at all. In some others though, it's like torture. Just poking my upper arms hurts as much as getting punched.
Oh yes, the seams in the socks. I have to wear my socks inside out which creates another issue because I'd rather wear them the normal way around but when you have sensory issues you learn to improvise...
I had to laugh (at myself) when you mentioned your pain response, because I feel like my own "touch" receptors are out of whack. If my partner tickles me, I tell him it "makes me feel like yuck". It's a feeling I can't describe; somewhere between excrutiatingly painful and embarrassing. Back scratches - which I love - HAVE to be direct contact with skin and have to be forceful. Any other kind of touch on my back just makes me more itchy, or annoyed (particularly if someone offers a back scratch but then just touches me lightly...I really loathe that). If I injur myself; like stub my toe or bump into something...it's THE END OF THE WORLD. Ditto to even the slightest pain inflicted by someone I trust, unintentional makes no difference. Yet, at times when I've been in pain in the past because of physical violence, medical issues, or accidents with strangers or people not in my circle, or when I am expecting the pain before it happens, my pain tolerance is incredibly high. Fabrics that feel..."yucky" cannot be on me. I don't even like looking at them, let alone having to touch them, yet having a tag on my shirt generally doesn't bother me unless it's pointy or scratchy. I usually feel like everything about me is overly complex...and subject to change!
👍 this is so important! yes it changes every day! love your squashed sandwich game. I use a small trampalean. i made a point to use my oil diffuser while I did my autism eval paperwork!
I thought feeling clothes and specially socks uncomfortable like that was normal but now that you mention it, I’ve never seen my co workers or friends constantly running to the bathroom or somewhere to fix them or just take them off and be able to breathe again
Yes! Can't breathe due to feet being trapped in socks! Intermittently. Inconsistently. Unbearably. Confusingly for others seeing my distress. Aggravating. Awareness that others experience sensations similarly feels comforting and encouraging.
Thanks for this. I’m 40 and just going through an autism diagnosis. Finding your videos really helpful and interesting. I’ve found LucyandYak clothes really good for lots of these clothing issues that I share.
Thanks Ella for the video. My son has SPD although he is not autistic. In addition to all the issues you mentioned (I really used to struggle with his obsession over clothes, belt, socks and shoelace but later it all made sense when he was diagnosed) he has issues with hot or cold touches, switching on light suddenly when he is in dark, taking medicines is a huge problem. I use simple solution like I count till 5 before I switch on the light so he is prepared or I switch on mobile phone torch first and after few seconds I switch on the room light so he has time to process it. It's really difficult to remember each time and especially keeping tab on others doing it. For medicine I make tiny pieces of the tablets so it's easy to gulp for him and give him bottle instead of glass so he doesn't spill the water in anxiety.
Yes to the squishy sandwich! I used to ask my sisters to lie on top of me when I was a kid, but as we grew older they found it too weird and stopped doing that.
I def have sensory issues.. the lights make noise and so does the oven even when it’s off. I can hear noises no one else seem to notice. Crowded places - or the grocery store even if it’s not crowded- make me stressed out and give me anxiety. Countless times I have left my groceries- in the cart, basket, or stuck them on a random shelf and ran out overwhelmed. What I have tried and seems to help me is either ear buds and music or days when I just need quiet I wear ear plugs. It seems to help me very well. Socks I’m the same way!! I can’t even wear the mismatched “matching” socks - I swear even if they are only different in color I can feel it. Same on bras and tags on clothes. I actually can’t even stand to wear brand name clothes if it has a brand name written across it there’s no way I’m buying or wearing it. Same with touch.. can’t stand soft feathery touching. I have so many quirks tho it drives me crazy sometimes. Seriously I have a hard time living with myself. I choose to be alone because I’m often embarrassed by myself and I don’t think anyone should have to put up with my crap or be exposed to it. Any advice on how to live with myself?
I have an obsession with scents. Example perfumes, aromatherapy. Cleaning products I can spend hours in LUSH cosmetics. I also love the smell of new trainers.
Yoga bras! That's what I wear! I can't stand ordinary ones either, they're SOOOOOO uncomfortable to the point of being painful!...Love your vlogs, I find them really useful! 🌻🌈
Same. I'm a fucking J cup. They literally hurt my shoulders. I'm slowly learning not to give a fuck. I am not here to be socially acceptable and palatable for others. I am here for my own existence. I will do what I damn well please
I have had the issue with clothes, especially socks but I somehow stopped. I had to learn how to stop being nervous and then it was easier to drop my fixation on the sensation. Rumination makes it worse but it takes a lot of effort to cut down on rumination. I hate being weighted down for long at all. Headbanging (the socially acceptable version of rocking) to a song is my preference. I'm just throwing out my thoughts since I stim with writing and speaking.
I’ve tried sensory deprivation pods. Soooo nice. I want one for my home for sleep. With my pain and sleep problems along with light and sound sensitivities I feel I would sleep better if I had this.
I sleep with eye mask and noise blocking headphones and I feel like it has the same effect! Although unfortunately the headphones can become uncomfortable after a while
@@yasmeenamzk yeah the eye mask elastic hurts my head and the headphones are also a no go. Too bulky. I have to turn over a lot because of the arthritis issues. Can’t stay in one position very long. Too painful. So just not an option for me. Glad it works for you though!
@@tiiaj7589 sorry about that! It can be uncomfortable, sometimes not sure how I even sleep with those things on except for the fact that the darkness and silence is very relaxing! Hope you find something that works for you
Wow, your videos are so relatable! (Plz forgivevthe length of this comment-I’ve been experiencing the limits of some personal sensory issues lately & this video came up in my suggestions at the right time to try & put all this into a maybe-comprehensible list of words?!) I’ve just seen that this video is an older one, but I just found it & it’s been saved to my “watch later” for a while. As yet, I’m undiagnosed, but it’s become so clear to me that I’m on the spectrum (& happily so...or maybe relieved is a better descriptor). I’m in my 40s & have just begun looking back at how I’ve been throughout the years, especially childhood & teens, as if they weren’t turbulent enough, right?! Part of me says, “well, you’ve lived on the spectrum for decades now, what benefit might there be to an assessment & professional diagnosis?” (Then, the other parts-the majority of “parts,” I suppose-tell me to be honest & therefore happier in the long run by seeking that diagnosis. I’m currently labeled as bipolar, and medicated as such. That’s been making less & less sense over some years bc I’ve never had a truly manic episode... it’s more like repeating periods of hyper productivity, then burnout or meltdown. I’m well aware of my depression & anxiety, but, as much as an ASD dx might help, I’m deeply afraid of being mislabeled again, perhaps this time as borderline personality disorder, or another thing about which I’ve not yet learned. I have really deep-seated trust issues around psych professionals who wield this odd power to utterly change a person’s life w the particular label that “fits best” based on one or a few meetings. Then, there’s all the concomitant overwhelm around Dr appts. I’ seen the same GP for 7 years & we have a comfortable relationship; my psychiatrist, whom I’d seen for nearly 20 years just retired, outta the blue basically. We were a great match-she wasn’t all about “ooh, what are you most-deeply feeeeling” or anything; she was very efficient & effective. Now, her replacement is male & likely far younger (less practiced? Maybe?). I meet him in May 2020 & I’m trying so hard to stop myself from ruminating over the facts of change, the potential for more change re medications, well yeah justvall the change-& the fact of a psychiatric professional who’ll be sitting there & judging every bit of my behavior... 😱 too muuuuch! Again, sorry for how long this is! I’m really self-conscious about my lack of “online etiquette,” bc ppl don’t have the time to read such lengthy missives...I get it, I’ve lost friends bc of it. (Tbh, though,? I’m an actual writer who was stuck w/in the confines of column inches for years when I worked as a print journalist. And thanks to a new understanding of the autism spectrum, I see so clearly why I’d find myself hunched in a corner, crying my eyes out from time to time. Those episodes were proper meltdowns; that trapped feeling I’d have? Sensory overwhelm. ASD just clarifies so much about my employment history, friendship losses, masking behaviors...so much!!) So yeah, my sensory issues are mostly around sound. I have a small special-needs pet sitting biz, & now I understand why I absolutely prefer to look after the cats. Dogs, especially small dogs, are shrilly loud-I’ve described it to my parents re their little girl Lily, as a sound that excoriates my soul. It’s not merely loud, it’s painful & I need to know exactly when they’ll be home so I can excuse myself to another room, close the door & wait til the dog is brought outside. I’m better w bigger dogs bc the timbre of their voices is lower-the high-pitched noise makes my brain shake... 😕 I’m also very sensitive to long lines at the grocery store; it seems like my brain multiplies the actual number of people present by like...four. I can see 3 ppl bit my brain says like 7-12 ppl. I kinda panic when faced w waiting in lines, no matter how long, at any store bc of that subconscious ppl multiplication. I get all sweaty & fidgety. I’ve long since eschewed most of my self consciousness around that, & it helps a little bit to just not care how others might see me...they’re not likely to be paying attention to anything but their own self-conscious issues, I guess. Hypersensitivity to sound is what really causes sensory overload. Aside from that, I’m definitely an oral-sensory seeker & really enjoy stimming w my uh...”chew toys?!” I sniff my food before putting it in my mouth, as well. Never been good at even pretending to be ok w eye contact-I don’t hear ppl, nor can I speak what I want to say when looking at others’ eyes. Eyes are too fascinating & too beautiful, & therefore too distracting to bother with in situations wherein it’s important to really hear & comprehend a person. My GP recently tried to force eye contact with me & I only recall that-can’t say what she said. I typically tell ppl (like drs & such) that I don’t care for direct eye contact bc I won’t hear them if I need to deal w their eyes, body language & time of voice. I won’t know what I said, nor will I ever hear anything but my inner monologue about how, eg, incredibly blue their eyes are. I’ve felt like that was a fairly typical thing for a long time, & that as long as I was honest & upfront about my eye contact issues, it didn’t really matter. Buuuit...now I’ve tried to imagine myself in their position, never seeing more than 3/4 of my face, likely wondering what, if anything specific, was so attention-grabbing that I needed to stare “there,” rather than “here,” (at their faces, I guess.) Ok,? I’m aware that I’ve gone on forever & it’s totally ok if you don’t read all of this. I know all these words can be overwhelming, even to ppl who know me really well. I’m kinda blowing off some steam today, anyway... so it’s probably extra long. And there’s a high probability that, an hour from now, I’ll feel embarrassed about going on & on like this & just delete the comment-not the first time that’s happened. Who knows, I guess? 🤷🏻♀️ Anyway, all I really wanted to say was how entirely your video topics personally resonate. And I really enjoy the Autism in Company videos you do w Ros. She’s awesome, too! Thanks for your positivity & relatability, Ms. Purple!! :)))) Gonna do a daring thing & hit “post” rather than read all this back to try to “carefully manage” others’ impressions. Posting in 3...2...1...NOW! 😳
I can relate sensory processing I have Aspergers dyspraxia bosch boonstra Schaff optic atrophy syndrome and sensory processing issues both over and under processing. I hate bras I can only wear non under wired bras. I’m a tactile person but understand other aren’t though I find that hard. I wear men’s T-shirt as I can’t tolerate tight fitting cloths. Hugs work for me like the weighted blankets other people.
What's funny about this is that I actually think I have the opposite problem with some of this stuff. So, for example, I can wear socks with holes in them for days until it just becomes too hard to ignore. I can be sensitive to smell, so in that sense, I do relate. For example, I really don't like open windows, because of the wind and the smell. But, with other things, I tend to struggle with being oblivious. I have even slept in my bedroom with the lights on. So, I don't know. Maybe I'm hyposensitive rather than hypersensitive to some of these things, which can be embarrassing in it's own way, but is a very different experience.
i also have an abnormally high sensitivity to pain-- i have always wondered why, because my pain throughout my life has not felt the way other people describe. also, while being in physical therapy, the therapist always mentions my abnormally low pain tolerance. i guess this is why 😭
I can relate almost those things.... but I do not know if it because my previous diagnostic? never I get a answer to any neuropsicologist or any doctor. Some things are too odd to tell. Like for example: I use the same pair( I have 2 pairs more) since I had 14 years old. i have 22 years old...The textures and sizes ( my feets are really small) isn't fit me. And the same thing you told: 5:53-6:23 happen to me... I really want answer.
Smells, omg, when my husband comes home from a trip he has to immediately take a shower because every time I hug him, I scowl and mention he smells odd. He even brings body and hair soap from home so the smells aren't from the overly perfumed crap they have in most hotels. I cannot walk through the laundry detergent aisle, one breath and I want to puke and pass out. I avoid stores that have perfume sections or other smelly things. I left the grocery store once because there was a woman wearing so much perfume that I couldn't avoid her stench. She apparently used her hands to douse herself because I grabbed a handle after she did I had to immediately go to the bathroom to wash my hands to get the smell off, then I left without buying food. I unfortunately am also very sensitive to lights and sounds :( and generally prefer to be alone rather than be overstimulated.
the socks n shoes thing, I'm like that too and my ankles, I need the pants to be long enough and snug. same with my undershirt tucked in. it cant be too long and bunchy nor so short i cnt raise my arms. ugh and when the seam in the armpit doesnt fit so there's like a weird wing thing happening 😣 it's gotta look right too. I thought I had narcissism or something im always unacceptably late for everything.i can only have friends who are cool with it. but i had been diagnosed with OCD/COMORBID ADHD and I'm not sure if this is autism too or if I hv both, but with adhd - I cannot begin to do the process of trying to get things just right until I'm already late and have no time. I don't get that "time to go" message no matter how many alarms I set. but it's not always - just too often to keep a steady job or make any commitments.
I’m looking for help for my son who has sensory processing disorder (I have it too ) but hes4 and autistic (as am I) and he has meltdowns and runs away from everything even dragging me lol. I’ll try that weighted blanket and try pressure things
I am having an issue finding out if I have sensory issues as an adult. Do I have issues, or have I just adapted as an adult? Ex. I am reliant on noise canceling headphones, must ware sunglasses outside, and have carefully organized my wardrobe to only include comfortable clothing. Before diagnosis I thought these were normal reactions because that is just how I learned to live my life.
Every time i have to buy bras its very hard to find the right one. I also never remember the size i wear, and when i check my bra for the size, of course the tag is gone, it’s been gone since the first day i got it. It all becomes a circle of anxiety over and over
I can't imagine could walk around with there sock crumpled in their shoe. I mean you would feel crumpled sock with every step. It would be like walking around with a rock in your shoe. Every movement would rub against foot. Possibly leading to a foot injury. Years ago I started wearing shoes I didn't have to tie up. I have two forms of arthritis and the one in the hip is worse. so it's hard for me to get my foot up where I can put the socks and shoes on. Also I recently changed to some fuzzy feeling ankle socks rather than the socks that went up my leg.
Hello. I was wondering, what if you cleaned the dishes with your own dishsoap before making food when you're not home? Have you ever tried it/did it change anything? Have a nice day x
I always said I sence pain weirdly cuz for example tattooing I brake out laughing cuz it tickles me a few tattoo artists love to tattoo me because they can see how much joy it brings me but always call me the cute weirdo....I hope it came from a good place I never know when people are makeing fun of me or not
My mom said I would scream about my socks when I was a child. I would never wear shoes either unless I was at school and as soon as I came home socks and shoes came off. I still can't stand them. Same with the bras. I get a tube top or those shirts with a slight compression and then I don't need a bra. I refuse to wear a traditional bra, it's to uncomfortable. Also there are a lot of clothing that are going label free. I look for those. I can't wear anything with a label up against my skin.
Needles...shudder. With the meds I’m on I’m ‘supposed’ to get blood tests every month. I am pretty sure I’d rather have the liver shutdown. 🤔 The meds also make me queesy. So eating isn’t easy.
For me, loud sounds are too much, if possible, I hold my ears or change the settings of my noisers. Loud, crowded places are terrible, I try to avoid them. If it’s impossible to avoid, my dog is helpful and my Noisecancelling headphones. There are friends I can’t eat.The consistence of food can be so horrible that I’m near the verge of vomiting. And I can’t eat food of which I don’t know how long it’s open or when it was baucht or cooked, the same is with drinks.The smell of food I don’t know can cause me feeling sick. I’ve got the same problems with socks and shoes as you described. If the sock go down my leg bothers me, too. I’ve to pull them up as soon as possible. I’m picky with clothes that touch my skin. I canz bare it if they’re itchy and I hate polyester because I have the feeling of smelling terribly stron very fast.If I could avoid or let’s say if I could be myself, I’d avoid shaking hands. I hate too rough hands and it feels horrible if the others hand isn’t closing strong enough, it feels like a dead fish or snake 🤢.Yes, I agree with you about labels, that’s why I cut them off and they can’t be hard or scratchy anymore, soi I’ve one thing less to bother.With pain it changes. Sometimes I can’t bare a little cut on my finger, most time I don’t feel it. I only feel the pain in my bones, caused by trauma and my body remerümbers it.Only people I like and trust may touch me. But they mustn’t smell bad, otherwise I have problems withstand.äi have probleblems with the dentist. He has to give a pain suppressing medicine to me me, otherwise I have the feeling of getting no air in my lungs while he’s repairing wholes in my tethth. But have a dentist who’s specialized on anxiety patients an it’s long time past that a dentist had to close a hole. It’s maybe also a traumatic flashback.I like good smells, too and have etheroils i like.I’m thankful that you talked about this, I never thought and reflected of that. Oh, unexpected noises make ne jump, too, but only if it’s quiet around me or if I’m deeply concentrated. Please go on talking, it’s really helpful for me. I hope my responds are okay and no rubbish. If that’s the case, please tell me and I’ll stop. That’s a great fear of mine: talking too much and then it’s only crap.
Great video! Me & my kids have the sound/noise issues, hatred of labels, certain fabrics, sock bumps, itchy underwear. Super fussy eaters. I don’t know if we are just sensitive or what. I have always felt socially awkward compared to other people. I feel like brain is quite chaotic & I never know what’s going to come out of my mouth! I love having a routine as it calms me. Not sure if I be classed as on the spectrum if tested. Maybe an introvert and quite an anxious person. I definitely push myself out of my comfort zone to achieve my performing hobbies, but this can cause Sleepless nights & a burning stomach, worrying whether it will go well & if I will say the wrong thing/be not good enough.
My daughter is autistic. She hasn't been diagnosed with sensory processing disorder but she requires a ton of sensory input. For example she can't just put a little bit of lotion on her self. She has to start at her belly button them she has to add so much lotion that it won't even absorb into her skin. Do you think that she may need to be looked at for sensory processing disorder? I have no idea how to help her she struggles everyday and that makes me anxious because I know she is trying but she has so many break downs in a day. Any advice is welcomed
I get touch sensory problems from being out of power so fucking often that in the cold I can now superheat my body, it brings warmth to frozen things, but it shocks me when i touch.
As a small child I would literally scream and cry if I could feel the seams in my socks. As an adult I no longer have as severe reaction about it but that's probably partially because I only buy veeeeery specific socks with little to no seams lol
I am autistic and I am wearing a bra. Therefore: 15% of my brain in going brabrabrabrabrabrabrabra for 14 hours a day. This is because ai have years of practice. When I was 14, 60% of my brain was going brabrabrabrabrabra all day, and I had to learn algebra, public speaking, and how to deal with bullies.
You’re funny, thanks for the chuckle mixed with sorrow at how hard we have to try. I haven’t found my people yet. I read these comments and I’m so lonely, I wish I knew people like you
Do you have trouble with hugs or even being touched or touching people and can relate to clothes and sound food and lights but never been tested for autism but been wanting to get tested because when I tell people I don’t like being touched I know it’s weird and for clothes I can only wear the soft silky shirts but also can’t have clothes touch me or I get irritated even though I can fit a xl I have to buy 3x I never unstood why but am going to ask my doctor so I can get answers love your videos
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Okay the last two sensory issues im not sure about their names but could those have to do with things like suddenly having a balance shift? Like when you stand normaly on two legs and suddenly your balance shift's and you wobble on one leg to keep yourself steady. And the other one could that also be things like suddenly bumping your head or other body part into a wall that has always been there?
Socks. Oh my God. Socks. My socks have to be of particular thickness, the seam has to run the right way and the ankle cannot be too high, my feet also cannot get warm or they need to come off because I can't handle warm feet and they can't have that weird middle sports band. I have so many specifics with my socks when I have to wear them, generally I hate wearing socks Also I cannot wear socks on carpet. The feeling of fabric against fabric literally hurts in a way, I would have meltdowns as a child over socks and destroyed so many pairs of shoes because I couldn't tolerate my socks so I would throw them away at school and wear my shoes without them
Not sure how normal this is or if other people experience this, but I can't brush my teeth in the morning with toothpaste, knowing I'm going to eat something later. Even hours after I have brushed my teeth with toothpaste. If I eat something, I can still taste the toothpaste with my food and the combination together taste disgusting. I normally brush my teeth in the morning with no toothpaste. Anybody have a similar experience??
Ah, so THAT'S the reason why I don't like brushing my teeth in the morning!! I prefer the taste of food and of my own mouth. I use a tongue scraper, which helps.
What about thongs? 😂😂😂 Socks, no one mentioned them before! The seam near the toes, the heel is not 100% fit, no show socks are impossible as they don’t stay right, calf socks are too restricting at calf level, etc. This life is hard
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I remember back in the 1980s (I'm 54) when my grandmother found an article on "difficult children" that mentioned the "sock seams & labels" issue - I was so relieved I was not alone - my family used to call me "the boy who cried wolf" - and my father would hit me & pull my hair and shout "fake, fake !" & " I'll give you something to cry about !" - because I was crying because my clothes hurt ... Thank you so much for your videos, Ella
You speak so eloquently and arrange your thoughts perfectly. It makes it easy to remember because you somehow organize the info in such a tidy way.
I'm sensitive to loud noises and distractions especially when working in an open plan office😴 Thanks for an insightful video 🙂
I so can relate to the knickers and socks touch issue
Can TOTALLY relate to sock and bras!!! I remember having meltdowns as a child because I could feel the seems of my socks. Or taking them off 47 times to situate my socks because I could feel them crumpled inside my shoes. When I gain even a little weight...I have to have a bigger bra because I feel so restricted and can't concentrate.
The seams on socks have to touch my toes the "right" way...
My socks have to be of particular thickness, the seam has to run the right way and the ankle cannot be too high, my feet also cannot get warm or they need to come off because I can't handle warm feet and they can't have that weird middle sports band. I have so many specifics with my socks when I have to wear them, generally I hate wearing socks
Also I cannot wear socks on carpet. The feeling of fabric against fabric literally hurts in a way
I've taken to wearing comfort bras instead of conventional ones. They're really comfy and give enough support for respectability when out and about.
What are comfort bras? I hate regular bras. I usually wear sports bras but they can be annoying .
@@Catlily5 yeah, same. I wear one-size up sports bras that are super flimsy (calvin klein) but they don't hide much in cold weather. I'm also wondering what comfort bras are.
That’s what I wear. Though I get a rash from mine if I wear it too long so I have to not wear it for more than going to the grocery store or church.
I recently realised I am autistic and I’ve had sensory issues like this for my entire life, I just thought I was weird. I’ve had a huge phobia of blood tests specifically for my whole life and what you said about getting blood tests is so spot on that it’s making me realise it might be an autism related issue not just a phobia!
It's like i listen to myself! :) I only wear yoga pants and lounge clothes and first thing i do is cut out the labels! Bra's make me feel restraint and breathless (up to the point i would almost wish i was 'breastless' ;) ) But last year i discovered the sloggie zero feel bra top and the zero feel bralette. These are the first and only bra's i can wear all day without any problem! :)
I don't like to be touched softly, and i hate handshakes and hugs, but i'm not that sensitive for pain. More likely the opposite i think!
It helps when you sinc your breath with the pain. Try to breath out (deep and long) when the needle goes in! Another hack that can help to cope with pain is something they call 'The gate control theory'. I truly hope these tips can make painfull moments a bit more manageable!
~Kim
i want a light in my room that projects onto the wall, love that
I absolutely can relate to the clothes and eating and socks, I’m so shocked that someone else feels the same. I’m understanding all of these things about myself after my child’s diagnosis. Thank you for your video💜Sending virtual hugs
I would love a sensory room with lights, it sounds amazing!!!!!!!!!!! Struggle so much with sensory issues, especially sensory overload but I also love fidget toys and squishy toys etc.... Interested in the sensory oils!!
Thank you so much Ella! I am 53 years old and can identify with almost everything you spoke of ! This helps me to be more mindful and avoid meltdowns!
Your channel is me split into 100's of TH-cam videos.
Thank you Ella.
I use a square scarf that I fold on the bias as a blindfold that I wrap snuggly around the head. It keeps my eyelids relaxed in a closed position so it’s kind of like a weighted blanket for the eyes, and the pressure around my skull and the muffling of the sound helps as well.
Thank you. What a useful suggestion!
Thank you so much for this!! I can't stand wearing a bra and always wondered why it doesn't seem to bother others as much. Never occurred to me it was a sensory processing issue! Same with socks not being perfectly aligned.
Thank you for this video! I’ve been struggling with sensory overload for as long as I can remember! Bright lights, too many things in a room/store, loud noises, touch, certain smells, vibration. If there is a fold in my pillow, I can’t sleep. A fold in my sock, I have to fix it. Can’t wear a bra, pantyhose or tight clothing.
One thing you don't mention is how anxiety and stress - especially when it comes to thoughts and feelings - relates to this subject. If I have several distressful problems I am struggling to solve in my life, then my body is tense all the time and I party shut off the environment which causes all kind of problems in relationships. I can tell everything at the same time without checking whether it is the right moment, I may miss simple information which makes others annoyed and I may just walk away just because of a small misunderstands because I am already in a destructive catastrophe mode. Under such circumstances the sound of a TV-program ca be completely overwhelming, but also if someone tries to talk about a problem with me. I cannot process all information at the same time, I get bad associations and my fantasies escalate and my brain shuts down. So, processing what people say to me is also a HUGE problem for me. It arouses all kinds of inner emotional reactions and stress.
Fairly sure bras are just a torture device. Ugh getting my wisdom teeth done was awful! I had my wisdom teeth out under a general and took way more pain killers than I wanted.
I have a fabletix scoop bra top that is SO comfortable. i could live in it. Its not tight at all, but is a great, thick material that makes it appropriate to wear as a regular top or undershirt. It just looks really plain and breathes well.
I have never heard anyone else describe what I struggled with for so many years with eating in other peoples houses. It caused me so much anxiety and I never understood until getting an autism diagnosis. Thank you 🙏🏻
I love my diffuser necklace and I use a calming/grounding blend in it.
My kiddo LOVES bear hugs!
I'm almost crying with the needles part. Everytime I need to get blood drawn I spend the rest of the day nursing my arm because of the pain and the humiliation of how much I react to it
Thank you for your videos, I completely relate to this. I had no idea this was linked to autism with bras and socks. Thought I was just weird. I find myself relating to all your videos. I'm undiagnosed, but I'm relieved that I found your videos. Always was worried wondering how come Im different and having so many issues in everyday life. I've been trying to figure out how to cope with my issues and find validated answers to my problems. Thank you
I don't like bras either. I stopped wearing them. Bralettes have changed my life! You should try them. I have one with no wire but cups and it's stretchy and feels amazing.
The sock/shoe thing cracked me up...I'm a personal trainer (fitness) who trains clients more often than not, barefoot. I also get the weirdest looks from my neighbors when I'm taking out the trash or my dog out to 'go' barefoot...rain or shine 🤣 I hate socks, I hate shoes...and bras and pants and tags and seams and touch LoL. So yeah, I totally get the sock/shoe thing!
@T1gerFang look in to and try the carnivore diet trust me
I only just figured out that I have sensory processing issues. I am 73.
Fragrance-free, living alone. With my emotional support dog.
I Greatly Appreciate the Content you have on your channel, So helpful for this aging ASC Woman! 👍🏼💛👍🏼
I am sooo similar to you in the can’t think if I’ve got uncomfortable labels etc
I’m feeling this video so much! I have the same thing with my socks and shoes as well as the labels. There are so many of these issues I have with some degree or another. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and experiences!
Thank you for making this video. I've always had sensory issues and it's so nice to know others are the same. I'm just like you.
Alison Rose you're welcome. Yes we are not alone.
I remember having a meltdown after my mom told me we needed to go bra shopping when I first started developing. I was so overwhelmed and then when I actually felt what it was like to have one on, I would have nothing to do with it. I was teeny tiny but we left the store with the only bra I would accept- an extra large bralette that was basically a giant kleenex held up by two silky soft straps. Haven't changed much as an adult hahaha
I really relate to the sock and shoe thing as well!
Cool video. I'm also on the spectrum and am the reverse of you in that I have a processing delay when it comes to registering pain. So pain threshold is pretty high. I'm same as you when it comes to noise.
Pain? I can fracture a bone and not be bothered a lot by it. But spicy food? NOOOOO! Impossible! Also too salty, too sweet food - oh, I am such a picky eater. But... Rupturing an ear drum due to ear infection? Pneumonia? Meeh...
It's like physical pain is a distant sound I can ignore. But shoes that go click-clack? Drives me MAD!
I love proper massage, but please... Could I never be forced to hug anyone again? Or shake hands.
I relate to a lot of what you said! The sock thing is so real to me 😅 I have to cut the bits that stick out on the ends of the seam otherwise I feel it. After a while it can even become painful if I don't stop and fix my socks. Can't stand any piece of clothing that is misplaced, folded or wrinkled. I hate hate hate bunched up clothing.
Light touch sticks for minutes, sometimes hours at a time and I can still feel it.
Can't stand pain. In some areas, I barely feel pain at all. In some others though, it's like torture. Just poking my upper arms hurts as much as getting punched.
Oh yes, the seams in the socks. I have to wear my socks inside out which creates another issue because I'd rather wear them the normal way around but when you have sensory issues you learn to improvise...
Wow, another great video, Thankyou, I am starting to make sense of myself at last 🤩🙏💖
I use earplugs when I can. The Surefire EPS 4s are awesome as they are reusable and go right into your ear canal.
Thankyou for this..the oils are such a great thing..will be trying these
I had to laugh (at myself) when you mentioned your pain response, because I feel like my own "touch" receptors are out of whack.
If my partner tickles me, I tell him it "makes me feel like yuck". It's a feeling I can't describe; somewhere between excrutiatingly painful and embarrassing. Back scratches - which I love - HAVE to be direct contact with skin and have to be forceful. Any other kind of touch on my back just makes me more itchy, or annoyed (particularly if someone offers a back scratch but then just touches me lightly...I really loathe that).
If I injur myself; like stub my toe or bump into something...it's THE END OF THE WORLD. Ditto to even the slightest pain inflicted by someone I trust, unintentional makes no difference. Yet, at times when I've been in pain in the past because of physical violence, medical issues, or accidents with strangers or people not in my circle, or when I am expecting the pain before it happens, my pain tolerance is incredibly high.
Fabrics that feel..."yucky" cannot be on me. I don't even like looking at them, let alone having to touch them, yet having a tag on my shirt generally doesn't bother me unless it's pointy or scratchy.
I usually feel like everything about me is overly complex...and subject to change!
👍 this is so important! yes it changes every day! love your squashed sandwich game. I use a small trampalean. i made a point to use my oil diffuser while I did my autism eval paperwork!
RedRock Asrama thank you. We have a trampoline too.
I thought feeling clothes and specially socks uncomfortable like that was normal but now that you mention it, I’ve never seen my co workers or friends constantly running to the bathroom or somewhere to fix them or just take them off and be able to breathe again
Yes! Can't breathe due to feet being trapped in socks! Intermittently. Inconsistently. Unbearably. Confusingly for others seeing my distress. Aggravating. Awareness that others experience sensations similarly feels comforting and encouraging.
Thanks for this. I’m 40 and just going through an autism diagnosis. Finding your videos really helpful and interesting.
I’ve found LucyandYak clothes really good for lots of these clothing issues that I share.
Thanks Ella for the video. My son has SPD although he is not autistic. In addition to all the issues you mentioned (I really used to struggle with his obsession over clothes, belt, socks and shoelace but later it all made sense when he was diagnosed) he has issues with hot or cold touches, switching on light suddenly when he is in dark, taking medicines is a huge problem. I use simple solution like I count till 5 before I switch on the light so he is prepared or I switch on mobile phone torch first and after few seconds I switch on the room light so he has time to process it. It's really difficult to remember each time and especially keeping tab on others doing it. For medicine I make tiny pieces of the tablets so it's easy to gulp for him and give him bottle instead of glass so he doesn't spill the water in anxiety.
Is there anywhere that has an extw sive list of sensory triggers please? Thank you your doing great things 🌟💛👌
Yes to the squishy sandwich! I used to ask my sisters to lie on top of me when I was a kid, but as we grew older they found it too weird and stopped doing that.
I can relate with bras..I have to wear braletes..I find the elastic with cotton fabric comfortable
I def have sensory issues.. the lights make noise and so does the oven even when it’s off. I can hear noises no one else seem to notice. Crowded places - or the grocery store even if it’s not crowded- make me stressed out and give me anxiety. Countless times I have left my groceries- in the cart, basket, or stuck them on a random shelf and ran out overwhelmed. What I have tried and seems to help me is either ear buds and music or days when I just need quiet I wear ear plugs. It seems to help me very well. Socks I’m the same way!! I can’t even wear the mismatched “matching” socks - I swear even if they are only different in color I can feel it. Same on bras and tags on clothes. I actually can’t even stand to wear brand name clothes if it has a brand name written across it there’s no way I’m buying or wearing it. Same with touch.. can’t stand soft feathery touching. I have so many quirks tho it drives me crazy sometimes. Seriously I have a hard time living with myself. I choose to be alone because I’m often embarrassed by myself and I don’t think anyone should have to put up with my crap or be exposed to it. Any advice on how to live with myself?
I have an obsession with scents. Example perfumes, aromatherapy. Cleaning products I can spend hours in LUSH cosmetics. I also love the smell of new trainers.
Yoga bras! That's what I wear! I can't stand ordinary ones either, they're SOOOOOO uncomfortable to the point of being painful!...Love your vlogs, I find them really useful! 🌻🌈
I stopped wearing bras
same, I am just looking for clothes that are saggy enough so that it is not that obvious
I wish I could.
I usually don’t, but I’m so large that it’s impossible in some situations. I found some pretty good ones that I can wear for a few hours at a time.
Same. I'm a fucking J cup. They literally hurt my shoulders. I'm slowly learning not to give a fuck. I am not here to be socially acceptable and palatable for others. I am here for my own existence. I will do what I damn well please
I have had the issue with clothes, especially socks but I somehow stopped. I had to learn how to stop being nervous and then it was easier to drop my fixation on the sensation. Rumination makes it worse but it takes a lot of effort to cut down on rumination. I hate being weighted down for long at all. Headbanging (the socially acceptable version of rocking) to a song is my preference. I'm just throwing out my thoughts since I stim with writing and speaking.
The sandwich activity seems like tons of fun 😄
Getting under tables at school - been there, done that !
I’ve tried sensory deprivation pods. Soooo nice. I want one for my home for sleep. With my pain and sleep problems along with light and sound sensitivities I feel I would sleep better if I had this.
I sleep with eye mask and noise blocking headphones and I feel like it has the same effect! Although unfortunately the headphones can become uncomfortable after a while
@@yasmeenamzk yeah the eye mask elastic hurts my head and the headphones are also a no go. Too bulky. I have to turn over a lot because of the arthritis issues. Can’t stay in one position very long. Too painful. So just not an option for me. Glad it works for you though!
@@tiiaj7589 sorry about that! It can be uncomfortable, sometimes not sure how I even sleep with those things on except for the fact that the darkness and silence is very relaxing! Hope you find something that works for you
@@yasmeenamzk me too!!! Thanks :)
Thanks for the vids. You’re awesome.
Wow, your videos are so relatable! (Plz forgivevthe length of this comment-I’ve been experiencing the limits of some personal sensory issues lately & this video came up in my suggestions at the right time to try & put all this into a maybe-comprehensible list of words?!) I’ve just seen that this video is an older one, but I just found it & it’s been saved to my “watch later” for a while. As yet, I’m undiagnosed, but it’s become so clear to me that I’m on the spectrum (& happily so...or maybe relieved is a better descriptor). I’m in my 40s & have just begun looking back at how I’ve been throughout the years, especially childhood & teens, as if they weren’t turbulent enough, right?! Part of me says, “well, you’ve lived on the spectrum for decades now, what benefit might there be to an assessment & professional diagnosis?” (Then, the other parts-the majority of “parts,” I suppose-tell me to be honest & therefore happier in the long run by seeking that diagnosis. I’m currently labeled as bipolar, and medicated as such. That’s been making less & less sense over some years bc I’ve never had a truly manic episode... it’s more like repeating periods of hyper productivity, then burnout or meltdown. I’m well aware of my depression & anxiety, but, as much as an ASD dx might help, I’m deeply afraid of being mislabeled again, perhaps this time as borderline personality disorder, or another thing about which I’ve not yet learned. I have really deep-seated trust issues around psych professionals who wield this odd power to utterly change a person’s life w the particular label that “fits best” based on one or a few meetings. Then, there’s all the concomitant overwhelm around Dr appts. I’ seen the same GP for 7 years & we have a comfortable relationship; my psychiatrist, whom I’d seen for nearly 20 years just retired, outta the blue basically. We were a great match-she wasn’t all about “ooh, what are you most-deeply feeeeling” or anything; she was very efficient & effective. Now, her replacement is male & likely far younger (less practiced? Maybe?). I meet him in May 2020 & I’m trying so hard to stop myself from ruminating over the facts of change, the potential for more change re medications, well yeah justvall the change-& the fact of a psychiatric professional who’ll be sitting there & judging every bit of my behavior... 😱 too muuuuch!
Again, sorry for how long this is! I’m really self-conscious about my lack of “online etiquette,” bc ppl don’t have the time to read such lengthy missives...I get it, I’ve lost friends bc of it. (Tbh, though,? I’m an actual writer who was stuck w/in the confines of column inches for years when I worked as a print journalist. And thanks to a new understanding of the autism spectrum, I see so clearly why I’d find myself hunched in a corner, crying my eyes out from time to time. Those episodes were proper meltdowns; that trapped feeling I’d have? Sensory overwhelm. ASD just clarifies so much about my employment history, friendship losses, masking behaviors...so much!!)
So yeah, my sensory issues are mostly around sound. I have a small special-needs pet sitting biz, & now I understand why I absolutely prefer to look after the cats. Dogs, especially small dogs, are shrilly loud-I’ve described it to my parents re their little girl Lily, as a sound that excoriates my soul. It’s not merely loud, it’s painful & I need to know exactly when they’ll be home so I can excuse myself to another room, close the door & wait til the dog is brought outside. I’m better w bigger dogs bc the timbre of their voices is lower-the high-pitched noise makes my brain shake... 😕
I’m also very sensitive to long lines at the grocery store; it seems like my brain multiplies the actual number of people present by like...four. I can see 3 ppl bit my brain says like 7-12 ppl. I kinda panic when faced w waiting in lines, no matter how long, at any store bc of that subconscious ppl multiplication. I get all sweaty & fidgety. I’ve long since eschewed most of my self consciousness around that, & it helps a little bit to just not care how others might see me...they’re not likely to be paying attention to anything but their own self-conscious issues, I guess.
Hypersensitivity to sound is what really causes sensory overload. Aside from that, I’m definitely an oral-sensory seeker & really enjoy stimming w my uh...”chew toys?!” I sniff my food before putting it in my mouth, as well. Never been good at even pretending to be ok w eye contact-I don’t hear ppl, nor can I speak what I want to say when looking at others’ eyes. Eyes are too fascinating & too beautiful, & therefore too distracting to bother with in situations wherein it’s important to really hear & comprehend a person. My GP recently tried to force eye contact with me & I only recall that-can’t say what she said. I typically tell ppl (like drs & such) that I don’t care for direct eye contact bc I won’t hear them if I need to deal w their eyes, body language & time of voice. I won’t know what I said, nor will I ever hear anything but my inner monologue about how, eg, incredibly blue their eyes are.
I’ve felt like that was a fairly typical thing for a long time, & that as long as I was honest & upfront about my eye contact issues, it didn’t really matter. Buuuit...now I’ve tried to imagine myself in their position, never seeing more than 3/4 of my face, likely wondering what, if anything specific, was so attention-grabbing that I needed to stare “there,” rather than “here,” (at their faces, I guess.)
Ok,? I’m aware that I’ve gone on forever & it’s totally ok if you don’t read all of this. I know all these words can be overwhelming, even to ppl who know me really well. I’m kinda blowing off some steam today, anyway... so it’s probably extra long. And there’s a high probability that, an hour from now, I’ll feel embarrassed about going on & on like this & just delete the comment-not the first time that’s happened. Who knows, I guess? 🤷🏻♀️
Anyway, all I really wanted to say was how entirely your video topics personally resonate. And I really enjoy the Autism in Company videos you do w Ros. She’s awesome, too! Thanks for your positivity & relatability, Ms. Purple!! :)))) Gonna do a daring thing & hit “post” rather than read all this back to try to “carefully manage” others’ impressions. Posting in 3...2...1...NOW! 😳
Please don’t delete. I love your extra long comment - I make videos for people to engage and you did it so well.
I can relate sensory processing I have Aspergers dyspraxia bosch boonstra Schaff optic atrophy syndrome and sensory processing issues both over and under processing. I hate bras I can only wear non under wired bras. I’m a tactile person but understand other aren’t though I find that hard. I wear men’s T-shirt as I can’t tolerate tight fitting cloths. Hugs work for me like the weighted blankets other people.
I find your videos very helpful and i can so relate with everything you say. New subbie =) thanks for your videos.
What's funny about this is that I actually think I have the opposite problem with some of this stuff. So, for example, I can wear socks with holes in them for days until it just becomes too hard to ignore. I can be sensitive to smell, so in that sense, I do relate. For example, I really don't like open windows, because of the wind and the smell. But, with other things, I tend to struggle with being oblivious. I have even slept in my bedroom with the lights on. So, I don't know. Maybe I'm hyposensitive rather than hypersensitive to some of these things, which can be embarrassing in it's own way, but is a very different experience.
You are wonderful Jeremy, Autistic male and happy with it
i also have an abnormally high sensitivity to pain-- i have always wondered why, because my pain throughout my life has not felt the way other people describe. also, while being in physical therapy, the therapist always mentions my abnormally low pain tolerance. i guess this is why 😭
I can relate almost those things.... but I do not know if it because my previous diagnostic? never I get a answer to any neuropsicologist or any doctor. Some things are too odd to tell. Like for example: I use the same pair( I have 2 pairs more) since I had 14 years old. i have 22 years old...The textures and sizes ( my feets are really small) isn't fit me. And the same thing you told: 5:53-6:23 happen to me... I really want answer.
Smells, omg, when my husband comes home from a trip he has to immediately take a shower because every time I hug him, I scowl and mention he smells odd. He even brings body and hair soap from home so the smells aren't from the overly perfumed crap they have in most hotels. I cannot walk through the laundry detergent aisle, one breath and I want to puke and pass out. I avoid stores that have perfume sections or other smelly things. I left the grocery store once because there was a woman wearing so much perfume that I couldn't avoid her stench. She apparently used her hands to douse herself because I grabbed a handle after she did I had to immediately go to the bathroom to wash my hands to get the smell off, then I left without buying food. I unfortunately am also very sensitive to lights and sounds :( and generally prefer to be alone rather than be overstimulated.
Thanks Ella think I know why I have always felt I got off on the wrong planet I am 57 💕💖💫
Oh! I thought everyone was like this. Just cut some labels out and sad about new socks too tight.
Hello! This was a great video, really helpful. Definitely helped me make sense of a few things I hadn't fully understood before.
Tudor Acid that's great, glad to help 🙂
the socks n shoes thing, I'm like that too and my ankles, I need the pants to be long enough and snug. same with my undershirt tucked in. it cant be too long and bunchy nor so short i cnt raise my arms. ugh and when the seam in the armpit doesnt fit so there's like a weird wing thing happening 😣 it's gotta look right too. I thought I had narcissism or something im always unacceptably late for everything.i can only have friends who are cool with it. but i had been diagnosed with OCD/COMORBID ADHD and I'm not sure if this is autism too or if I hv both, but with adhd - I cannot begin to do the process of trying to get things just right until I'm already late and have no time. I don't get that "time to go" message no matter how many alarms I set. but it's not always - just too often to keep a steady job or make any commitments.
I’m looking for help for my son who has sensory processing disorder (I have it too ) but hes4 and autistic (as am I) and he has meltdowns and runs away from everything even dragging me lol. I’ll try that weighted blanket and try pressure things
Could you do a video about how you and Mr. Purple deal with your meltdowns and Wonder Girls meltdowns and Super Kids meltdowns.
The Wacko Green Alien 1212 hi, good suggestion I’ll add this to my schedule.
I take a nail file to tags that I can't remove. And use a seam ripper for tags I can remove.
Lots of similar stuff, dealt with similar and different ways! I don't wear a bra in general. Never have.
I am having an issue finding out if I have sensory issues as an adult. Do I have issues, or have I just adapted as an adult? Ex. I am reliant on noise canceling headphones, must ware sunglasses outside, and have carefully organized my wardrobe to only include comfortable clothing. Before diagnosis I thought these were normal reactions because that is just how I learned to live my life.
Every time i have to buy bras its very hard to find the right one. I also never remember the size i wear, and when i check my bra for the size, of course the tag is gone, it’s been gone since the first day i got it. It all becomes a circle of anxiety over and over
I had a meltdown at 10 years old because new socks and cleats didn't fit right. Lost it right on the football field.
I am exactly like this but i didn’t realize it was strange
I can't imagine could walk around with there sock crumpled in their shoe. I mean you would feel crumpled sock with every step. It would be like walking around with a rock in your shoe. Every movement would rub against foot. Possibly leading to a foot injury. Years ago I started wearing shoes I didn't have to tie up. I have two forms of arthritis and the one in the hip is worse. so it's hard for me to get my foot up where I can put the socks and shoes on. Also I recently changed to some fuzzy feeling ankle socks rather than the socks that went up my leg.
Hello. I was wondering, what if you cleaned the dishes with your own dishsoap before making food when you're not home? Have you ever tried it/did it change anything?
Have a nice day x
I always said I sence pain weirdly cuz for example tattooing I brake out laughing cuz it tickles me a few tattoo artists love to tattoo me because they can see how much joy it brings me but always call me the cute weirdo....I hope it came from a good place I never know when people are makeing fun of me or not
My mom said I would scream about my socks when I was a child. I would never wear shoes either unless I was at school and as soon as I came home socks and shoes came off. I still can't stand them. Same with the bras. I get a tube top or those shirts with a slight compression and then I don't need a bra. I refuse to wear a traditional bra, it's to uncomfortable. Also there are a lot of clothing that are going label free. I look for those. I can't wear anything with a label up against my skin.
Needles...shudder. With the meds I’m on I’m ‘supposed’ to get blood tests every month. I am pretty sure I’d rather have the liver shutdown. 🤔 The meds also make me queesy. So eating isn’t easy.
For me, loud sounds are too much, if possible, I hold my ears or change the settings of my noisers. Loud, crowded places are terrible, I try to avoid them. If it’s impossible to avoid, my dog is helpful and my Noisecancelling headphones. There are friends I can’t eat.The consistence of food can be so horrible that I’m near the verge of vomiting. And I can’t eat food of which I don’t know how long it’s open or when it was baucht or cooked, the same is with drinks.The smell of food I don’t know can cause me feeling sick. I’ve got the same problems with socks and shoes as you described. If the sock go down my leg bothers me, too. I’ve to pull them up as soon as possible. I’m picky with clothes that touch my skin. I canz bare it if they’re itchy and I hate polyester because I have the feeling of smelling terribly stron very fast.If I could avoid or let’s say if I could be myself, I’d avoid shaking hands. I hate too rough hands and it feels horrible if the others hand isn’t closing strong enough, it feels like a dead fish or snake 🤢.Yes, I agree with you about labels, that’s why I cut them off and they can’t be hard or scratchy anymore, soi I’ve one thing less to bother.With pain it changes. Sometimes I can’t bare a little cut on my finger, most time I don’t feel it. I only feel the pain in my bones, caused by trauma and my body remerümbers it.Only people I like and trust may touch me. But they mustn’t smell bad, otherwise I have problems withstand.äi have probleblems with the dentist. He has to give a pain suppressing medicine to me me, otherwise I have the feeling of getting no air in my lungs while he’s repairing wholes in my tethth. But have a dentist who’s specialized on anxiety patients an it’s long time past that a dentist had to close a hole. It’s maybe also a traumatic flashback.I like good smells, too and have etheroils i like.I’m thankful that you talked about this, I never thought and reflected of that. Oh, unexpected noises make ne jump, too, but only if it’s quiet around me or if I’m deeply concentrated. Please go on talking, it’s really helpful for me. I hope my responds are okay and no rubbish. If that’s the case, please tell me and I’ll stop. That’s a great fear of mine: talking too much and then it’s only crap.
I agree with you on shaking hands.
me the exact same ❤️
When your kids are older, they might find olympic style weightlifting a really cathartic activity
Great video! Me & my kids have the sound/noise issues, hatred of labels, certain fabrics, sock bumps, itchy underwear. Super fussy eaters. I don’t know if we are just sensitive or what. I have always felt socially awkward compared to other people. I feel like brain is quite chaotic & I never know what’s going to come out of my mouth! I love having a routine as it calms me. Not sure if I be classed as on the spectrum if tested. Maybe an introvert and quite an anxious person. I definitely push myself out of my comfort zone to achieve my performing hobbies, but this can cause Sleepless nights & a burning stomach, worrying whether it will go well & if I will say the wrong thing/be not good enough.
Is there an 8th? Interoception? Knowing things such as hunger, temperature etc
Gosh, I thought the seam thing was normal. I even stress about the type of shoes I wear when driving.
thank u for your information sencery did u have any problem with toilet trainging my daughter is waiting to be screaned for oritsum
My mother had trouble toilet training me.
What’s the brand or place you got the oils for Autistics from ?
My daughter is autistic. She hasn't been diagnosed with sensory processing disorder but she requires a ton of sensory input. For example she can't just put a little bit of lotion on her self. She has to start at her belly button them she has to add so much lotion that it won't even absorb into her skin. Do you think that she may need to be looked at for sensory processing disorder? I have no idea how to help her she struggles everyday and that makes me anxious because I know she is trying but she has so many break downs in a day. Any advice is welcomed
I get touch sensory problems from being out of power so fucking often that in the cold I can now superheat my body, it brings warmth to frozen things, but it shocks me when i touch.
As a small child I would literally scream and cry if I could feel the seams in my socks. As an adult I no longer have as severe reaction about it but that's probably partially because I only buy veeeeery specific socks with little to no seams lol
I am autistic and I am wearing a bra. Therefore: 15% of my brain in going brabrabrabrabrabrabrabra for 14 hours a day. This is because ai have years of practice. When I was 14, 60% of my brain was going brabrabrabrabrabra all day, and I had to learn algebra, public speaking, and how to deal with bullies.
You’re funny, thanks for the chuckle mixed with sorrow at how hard we have to try. I haven’t found my people yet. I read these comments and I’m so lonely, I wish I knew people like you
Do you have trouble with hugs or even being touched or touching people and can relate to clothes and sound food and lights but never been tested for autism but been wanting to get tested because when I tell people I don’t like being touched I know it’s weird and for clothes I can only wear the soft silky shirts but also can’t have clothes touch me or I get irritated even though I can fit a xl I have to buy 3x I never unstood why but am going to ask my doctor so I can get answers love your videos
5:52 LOL ME
Apologies if this question has been asked to 100 times before . It looks like the website fragrance and autism is no longer going, so does anyone know of anything similar?
Okay the last two sensory issues im not sure about their names but could those have to do with things like suddenly having a balance shift? Like when you stand normaly on two legs and suddenly your balance shift's and you wobble on one leg to keep yourself steady.
And the other one could that also be things like suddenly bumping your head or other body part into a wall that has always been there?
This could be dyspraxia. Usually ADHDers have it
Socks. Oh my God. Socks.
My socks have to be of particular thickness, the seam has to run the right way and the ankle cannot be too high, my feet also cannot get warm or they need to come off because I can't handle warm feet and they can't have that weird middle sports band. I have so many specifics with my socks when I have to wear them, generally I hate wearing socks
Also I cannot wear socks on carpet. The feeling of fabric against fabric literally hurts in a way, I would have meltdowns as a child over socks and destroyed so many pairs of shoes because I couldn't tolerate my socks so I would throw them away at school and wear my shoes without them
I overreact, and my son underreacts and seeks stimulation that causes meltdowns for me. Daily. 👀😭
Not sure how normal this is or if other people experience this, but I can't brush my teeth in the morning with toothpaste, knowing I'm going to eat something later. Even hours after I have brushed my teeth with toothpaste. If I eat something, I can still taste the toothpaste with my food and the combination together taste disgusting. I normally brush my teeth in the morning with no toothpaste.
Anybody have a similar experience??
Ah, so THAT'S the reason why I don't like brushing my teeth in the morning!! I prefer the taste of food and of my own mouth. I use a tongue scraper, which helps.
What about thongs? 😂😂😂
Socks, no one mentioned them before! The seam near the toes, the heel is not 100% fit, no show socks are impossible as they don’t stay right, calf socks are too restricting at calf level, etc. This life is hard
If I found a sock, shirt, bra that works I buy several!