I have stayed away from all gossiping for 10 years, but my family has disowned me because I don't belong to the club of family gossip. I find myself all alone. Practicing higher consciousness is not a piece of cake and when you turn into a mystic you no longer belong in this society. Extreme higher consciousness is unsustainable in the 2024 environment and culture, especially if you are a woman . Blessings from Texas! 🙏
Yes it happens to others too, it is sad but if they are toxic and not even willing to grow AND cause you negativity are mean etc, then what is the point. I understand.
My mother taught me to mind my own business and not gossip about others, she also taught not listen or pay any attention to what others say about me. I have taught that to my daughter. Also if I have nothing nice to say I rather say nothing.
I learned the same from my mother, she remained neutral in the face of any gossip thrown at her and always minded her business she thrived on mental and financial levels and this is my biggest takeaway from her life. She is in her 60s now still minding her own business and I do the same, not giving two cents to naysayers/haters' opinions or gossip.
There is a big difference between gossips and genuine concern. One can't be cold and indifferent. One can engage in relationship avoiding gossips. This is possible only when your spiritual and social life is balanced.
To me sounds like depak has found life is easier if u dont care but 4 me me me. I dont care 2 help, i dont want to know and wam ur slammed by a dictator taking ur home, job and kids. Dont care
This is a genuine question, isn’t “engaging” even when uplifting, creative, non-judgment still entangling you into another persons karma? It seems impossible and maybe not even preferable to remain completely detached from others. Maybe I am misunderstanding his message. I agree about not perpetuating negativity and gossip but human interactions are so complicated.
If you don't judge "judgemental" you will be vulnerable. Vulnerable to being cheated, to be deceived, to the scams, to your enemies moves etc. It's a survival mechanism
I do think that there is a place for non-malicious gossip. As our communities become less engaged, abusers can get away with flying under the radar. However, if you hear enough things about someone’s bad behavior, it can help you to not fall victim to them.
You are correct, there have been numerous psychological studies which suggest that at the heart of human interaction is small talk, chit chat and gossip. There is no place for malicious gossip however most of our interactions and bonding with loved ones and others are centred around what could be termed gossip. people share stories, and their mundane day to day conservation can( in what is a increasingly lonely and less engaging society) sometimes be the only engagement they have. An isolated life in which we have no knowledge of any one else is a self centred cold world, like wise closing people down who may just need to unburden themselves is cruel and callous.
@Nessa2Bea- I agree! There has been too many years of silence regarding this type of thing. Selective gossip is good and better still going to the Police is great in conjunction with this.
You are 90% of the company you keep, so, invest wisely, lol, it took me 30yrs to distance myself from family and am still in the gentle process of. Misery loves company and as soon as the scapegoat puts boundaries in place, you become the blacksheep; go it alone, I have never looked back, best thing I ever did. Namaste.
Gossip means adding your version with intent and judgement .that leads to bad karma.if we have a free conversation (directionless) its good .at the same time if we are ignoring , avoiding escaping talks about relative sufferings that too leads to karma. So its a double edge sword .
This is so true and I felt very tired of and burdened by other people's business in last couple of years. Felt very light once I avoided all this and put my boundaries very sharp.
My natural lack of interest in gossip never seemed very significant to me, but now I feel such *_JOY_* for not being caught up in that. I didn't do it purposefully, per se, it's just my nature, but wow, I'm so happy about it, now! Thank you for this gift of knowledge, Dr. Chopra!!!
Me too.. same.. it's natural for me not to gossip.. and people looked at my like crazy all my life!! Today I became a life coach.. and able to pursue it since my work is non judgemental
The best way to avoid taking on others Karma is not to engage in Gossip and Chit-chat involving other people's stories, relationships and their affairs. It is tough to deal with some colleagues who only talk about these things. Thank you sir. I will strictly implement it from now on. I love you. Gratitude respect love peace joy oneness expandedness acceptance understanding and appreciation
Amen 🙏 People like us know that gossiping about people's life, disrespecting someone about the truth of their boundaries as well. Spreading it around in order to try ro control a person or manipulate others or a person. Using gossip from one's past to try to justify why you feel you have entitlement to be all on folks business. No one deserves karma behind disrespectful, control people. Or for a person standing up for themselves as well. God bless stay humble and respect other people's lives unless one is in abusive situations. Don't be the abuser neither the control.
Many folks are stating radical ideas such as removing the self from society. I believe the solution is to subject yourself around people you can trust and rely on. There are those of us out here that do not engage in the negative cycles
Dear Deepak, these are the perfect insights to share particularly now for this planet. I disconnected myself from several avenues of social media over 10 years ago after I witnessed the severity of negative entanglements that occurred between others. I remember asking myself why would I want to both engage in and absorb that kind of energy into my divine self because it felt like bad karma. Thank-you for sharing this with all of us. ❤❤❤
I endorse this perspective 💯%! As part of my healing journey I chose to live alone and away from familiarity! I love my silence n solitude! SO MUCH LESS NOISE IN MY HEAD SPACE!! From my experience any collaboration: business, social media, group chats etc made me feel heavy! In the holographic field any connection fostered instantly establishes an energetic entanglement! Choose Wsely who/what U invest your energy in!
Loved this. thank you. stuggle at work with all the gossiping so I now practice professional detachment. sometimes it feels powerful, sometimes it feels lonely.
I learned that people will try to drag you into thick drama via gossip that has nothing to do with you and when you say it has nothing to do with you and change the subject because you have relationships with the ones they are bringing up, they throw in that something was said about you. That’s when you have to be firm and not take the bait. Weak minds want company to make them feel better about themselves!
If something bad has happened to you in a spiritual community, find trusted people to tell and process properly - I say this because I was so afraid to speak up for fear of looking like I was ‘gossiping’ or creating drama that I held abuse inside of me and still find it tricky to be in the community. Part of me wants to scream about the terrible things some people have done. Ultimately I agree not to gossip, but I’m sending love to anyone who is carrying stuff inside - you need to find a way for it to come out that is safe 🙏
I do not think that when a victim reports a case of abuse of power to the rightful authority it qualifies as gossip. Gossip is frivolous and flippant discussion among people about things that don't concern them, and things of which none of the gossips is able or willing to change. They just just gather around to discuss for the emotional high they get out of talking about other people's business. That is gossip.
Incredible and useful guidance and wisdom (especially in these time). I started doing this 2 years ago, and couldn’t understand what I was doing, I was just being guided away from family, friends, and loved ones. And this video confirms and explains why I did it .Thank you always Deepak 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾💫💫👌🏾
Thank you. I didn’t know that you could manifest someone’s karma by becoming entangled in their story. I have to be consciously aware and detached emotionally and mentally, which helps to objective so I can be of service if the situation calls for it. I will practice.
Precisely why I don't engage in social media. Plenty of karma already. Just learning how to post a comment on your videos was a giant leap. Imagine what the Rishis would have had to say about Twitter! Thanks for sharing your Vedic insight in modern times.
I’m recently discovering this. The more I exist from my soul, the less I’m caring about what others think about me and what I think about them. I observe but don’t dwell on it too much. Thank you for this Mr Chopra. 😇💗
Excellent point!!! 😊. If more people begin to see the “ Gossip - Karma - link they may begin to feel motivated to look at their actions and begin to do what you so beautifully suggest in this video. Thank you 🌸🙏
I appreciate this Deepak. This makes sense, as I thought of some things and people from the past. This gossip karma also goes for those near us and those on tv and social media.
Thank you Deepak ❤🙏 Amazing that you put in very simply comprehendible context,how already created And collective burden gets perpetuated and re- inforced by engaging and letting oneself to be sucked by and into it.👌🙏💜
I LOVE YOU. This is of course wonderful as always. But, your correct use of WHO and WHOM literally creates BLISS in my physiology, haha. THANK YOU DEEPAK!
I used to seek out "conversations" and verbal/ relationship conflicts mainly with the view of helping the parties understand a better point of view. I don't get involved just give them a just- point of view or reframe a positive pov to the situation.. i agree with another used who mentioned less engagement would isolate ppl
Calmness is power and silence is powerful. Gossiping causes negative energies to be present in your life. I choose to be untangled with positivity and not entangled with negativity.
I dont know which cousin got engaged, which family friend died, which neice is getting married next year because I consciously keep away from. Relatives.their only conversation is gossip. I don't talk much to them. N wen I do, I just gush about my kids and ask abt their kids school and studies, complement them on their clothes and dats all. N my life is so light.
Oh wow, this is extremely difficult for me, not getting entangled with others stories. What am I/we suppose to do...look at them blankly, or what? I've been doing better in that respect BUT I live in housing development with like 60 people here. I DO understand what you're saying and it definitely does stir my insides up in more ways than one. Honestly, it makes me sicker than normal. Plus, yes, works on my nervous system and that creates so much distress. All I can say is that I'm going to do my best to stay clear of the chaos/definitely working on a better reaction
I think most of us find it difficult to not engage in conflict because we have become addicted to the chemicals our bodies release in conflict which make us more physically capable short term but always at a cost to our well being. I think we often get lost in the difference between seeking conflict and seeking resolution as the solution to conflict and knowing where we should consider ourselves responsible to engage in seeking resolution. Such as there is no reason for me to hear about other people's personal disagreements if it is not my place to make any decisions about what they should do. You told us in your comment how hearing gossip effects you and I think that would be a good response for many people though may need repeating. I've managed to make it a habit to reflect on my interactions with people and try to see what I could have said better or could have viewed the situation better. It usually just takes a couple moments to make a note of how I may have fallen into a reactionary state of mind. This also helps me to understand others who have no idea that they are almost always in a reactionary state. I also try to be mindful of my reactions throughout the day even in my own thinking. Your comment shows that you also do this introspection. I think I comment mostly to inform and encourage myself. I remember seeing on a tea box that inner peace can only be found within. I remember spending so much time trying to figure out what it meant and thought it was probably nonsense. I found it was referring to our being when it is not considering the world. I think our difficulty, challenge, is in learning to consider the world from it's foundation rather than it's appearance. 🙏
Japanese society might be the champion of not getting involved in other’s business…that society for some is lack of compassion though. It could be there are always two sides of the coin, otherwise I don’t know yet. ❤
@@lillyrocks2011 just search up any case where someone gets hurt or un alive in front of a crowd in Japan . They always act as if victim doesn’t exist and they keep moving without helping for a long period of time.
@@Anime-chan-gl4pe Probably that's because they don't want to make the person feel ashamed? In other places people just stare but nobody helps. I don't think Japanese people are so cold and lacking empathy, humanity.
Jenny ...agree Absolutely. Yet personally have realised...eventually we will have greater peace and contentment. Most importance Will Surely Be Happier ❤
"Gossip" is understood as negative talk. When you immerse yourself in false claims and negative emotion, you harm your body. The body responds energetically and spirals downward. Best to see the good in others and encourage it.
I agree I had a situation where someone had done something to me and I didn’t gossip about any nor did I spread malice or untruth, I said of what had occurred, but also it didn’t need to be spoken of for that moment and experience has passed, so why bring the past into the present. Not only that lost people don’t listen they hear according to their perceptions and where they are and are not even hearing what is being said hence so many mis understandings and disputes.
Wow, this resonated so much with me & my current circumstances of someone doing something to me to cause hurt, I have removed myself from the situation & stayed quiet only explaining the change in circumstances.
OMG. I work in healthcare. Members tell me horrible personal stories all the time. They need to talk to somebody. They are so lonely. I never thought I was creating karma. I will start putting boundaries. Thank you ♥
What I learned when dealing with other people's stories is not to give my opinion(because I'm so opinionated!! Ego!!) on the matter, in whatever they are saying, but just to acknowledge what they said. Whether it's a sympathetic, "I'm sorry you are......" or a "That's great" if they are happy about something. I keep it simple to let them know I heard them but I don't engage any more than that now, esp. with people whom I am not super close to. It really is draining getting tangled up in other people's lives. If they ask what I think(which is rare), I'll say it's more important what you think and feel. I find that's a great way to be engaged without being entangled. It;s a work in progress for me but it does get easier each time. Good luck on your journey!!
@@triciabethelart2300either way it's a story from a stranger so it's not related to you (and most likely involves other people) and certainly is draining ! Healthy boundaries are good.
I agree with refraining from negative ugly gossip. However, I just want to make sure that this is not confused with speaking up for injustices.... We also learn from hearing about people's stories. That is what propels us to change for the better.
What happens when you work as a therapist? How can you protect yourself from further karma entangling as you help others and listen to their stories? Is the intention of helping enough? (Very different energy that gossiping)
I agree, starting from the principle, that everything has a reason enough to happen, be it relationships, casual encouters, etc... therefore, we must use impartiality, without judging anything or anyone and let the timeless mind live the experience, great wisdom about this teaching, we would avoid unnecessary conflicts and wars. Namaste 😊
Hey Texas, get back into your family - some will eventually support and they will change. As a family, as human family, we have to be together to progress. Suggestion - listen to Pam Gregory. I think we often have to be a silent witness - this can clarify our development.
Gossiping, spying others & interested in others business. If someone share there problems never use their weakness to get your favor.... My mom always tell these things when we were young. Wise people don't care about others business 🌻🥰 wonderful sir🙏
We are living through times right now that are emotionally and idealistically very contentious. I have come across some people who insist that I agree with their beliefs. Although this is not exactly what you are describing, rather than allowing abusive communication, I have had to decide to quietly walk away. Surrendering what I cannot control or allow.
I can't remember the author's name, Terry something I think, I once read: "What you think of me is none of my business". I will always remember that good piece of advice. Staying above the fray is indeed good advice. Thank you Deepok.
Gossipers are idle people who don't cultivate their talents and interests like reading or writing a book or planting a garden. They are unfulfilled people without constructive things to do. 1 Timothy 5:13
So, I'm thinking how this might apply to people who grow up in abusive environments. Not "paying attention" to who said what to whom may not be the same as "engaging" in such gossip. Speech is the primary way human interact with each other, right? If they don't understand when they are being manipulated or abused because of their childhoods, they probably will continue to live with and be abused by similar characters to their childhood tormentors. So they need to pay attention and learn and then . . . distance themselves.
Stop talking about "Who said what to Whom...Who did what to Whom...Who did what with whom...". These are attracting others Karma and suffering to me. I have to be very careful with my colleagues. But they don't talk anything else other than that. How to Navigate this situation.... Thank you so much sir for your valuable guidance. I love you. Gratitude respect love joy peace oneness expandedness acceptance understanding and appreciation
I’m very good at minding my business. I stay in my own lane and drink my water!! What other people say about me is none of MY business!! Gossip and stress are not good mentally, physically and emotionally. They age you. We need to steer clear of other people’s karma.
pozdravljen.. vceraj ali dva dni nazaj, sem rekla, da ne mislim nikomu pomagati, amapk sedaj sem poslusala vas, in pripeljali ste me do tega,,da bom pomagala..hvala vam
As others have mentioned in the comments, the downside to all of this detachment is that you won’t fit in as much socially, you will be perceived by others as being different or a bit of a loner or just not part of the group, and we need to be ok with that somehow. ❤
Namaskar dr.ji. when I got initiated in the bhakti tradition I did study the Upadeshamrita by Rupa Goswamy which confirm your wise advise . Thanks again
I have stayed away from all gossiping for 10 years, but my family has disowned me because I don't belong to the club of family gossip. I find myself all alone. Practicing higher consciousness is not a piece of cake and when you turn into a mystic you no longer belong in this society. Extreme higher consciousness is unsustainable in the 2024 environment and culture, especially if you are a woman . Blessings from Texas! 🙏
I also have been accused of being insane, that is what hurts the most! I am only sharing my thoughts and feelings! 🙏
I can completely relate
Thank you for sharing. Just know you are not alone in your journey. Although I do not know you, I love you.
Yes it happens to others too, it is sad but if they are toxic and not even willing to grow AND cause you negativity are mean etc, then what is the point. I understand.
I relate
My mother taught me to mind my own business and not gossip about others, she also taught not listen or pay any attention to what others say about me. I have taught that to my daughter. Also if I have nothing nice to say I rather say nothing.
I learned the same from my mother, she remained neutral in the face of any gossip thrown at her and always minded her business she thrived on mental and financial levels and this is my biggest takeaway from her life. She is in her 60s now still minding her own business and I do the same, not giving two cents to naysayers/haters' opinions or gossip.
Simple and effective teaching. What a blessing from your mum 🙏
That's really ridiculous...if u don't talk to ur frnds n ur family then what do u do
Wise
That's a great piece of advice
i heard this line in an old movie,
"if you have nothing nice to say, keep your mouth shut"
There is a big difference between gossips and genuine concern. One can't be cold and indifferent. One can engage in relationship avoiding gossips. This is possible only when your spiritual and social life is balanced.
Exactly I agree
Perfect reply.
To me sounds like depak has found life is easier if u dont care but 4 me me me. I dont care 2 help, i dont want to know and wam ur slammed by a dictator taking ur home, job and kids. Dont care
Engage in a way that is fresh, non judgemental, creative and uplifting ❤
This.❤❤❤❤
This is a genuine question, isn’t “engaging” even when uplifting, creative, non-judgment still entangling you into another persons karma? It seems impossible and maybe not even preferable to remain completely detached from others. Maybe I am misunderstanding his message. I agree about not perpetuating negativity and gossip but human interactions are so complicated.
If you don't judge "judgemental" you will be vulnerable. Vulnerable to being cheated, to be deceived, to the scams, to your enemies moves etc. It's a survival mechanism
I have learn to be careful with my life. And not absorb others emotions
I do think that there is a place for non-malicious gossip. As our communities become less engaged, abusers can get away with flying under the radar. However, if you hear enough things about someone’s bad behavior, it can help you to not fall victim to them.
You are right. Staying silent allows for mobbing and bullying.
You are correct, there have been numerous psychological studies which suggest that at the heart of human interaction is small talk, chit chat and gossip. There is no place for malicious gossip however most of our interactions and bonding with loved ones and others are centred around what could be termed gossip. people share stories, and their mundane day to day conservation can( in what is a increasingly lonely and less engaging society) sometimes be the only engagement they have. An isolated life in which we have no knowledge of any one else is a self centred cold world, like wise closing people down who may just need to unburden themselves is cruel and callous.
Thank you for this insight
exactly!
@Nessa2Bea- I agree! There has been too many years of silence regarding this type of thing. Selective gossip is good and better still going to the Police is great in conjunction with this.
You are 90% of the company you keep, so, invest wisely, lol, it took me 30yrs to distance myself from family and am still in the gentle process of. Misery loves company and as soon as the scapegoat puts boundaries in place, you become the blacksheep; go it alone, I have never looked back, best thing I ever did. Namaste.
Same
Me too.
Gossiping is the worst against spirituality!
This is so true!
Silence is the best music to enjoy Right now in this planet to be connected with divine..❤❤❤❤❤🎉😊
Oh, lucky u! I got noisy and gossip neighbours.
Agree 💯
Absolutely
Absolute truth!
chant mantras. stop this nonsense of silence. mantras are the highest vibrations. silence only to avoid speaking nonsense.
So true !! Majority of people waste their lives in discussing about life of other people.. like how stupid it is !!
Gossip means adding your version with intent and judgement .that leads to bad karma.if we have a free conversation (directionless) its good .at the same time if we are ignoring , avoiding escaping talks about relative sufferings that too leads to karma. So its a double edge sword .
I like your perception. It’s better than most other people thoughts and feeling on this subject.
This is so true and I felt very tired of and burdened by other people's business in last couple of years. Felt very light once I avoided all this and put my boundaries very sharp.
My natural lack of interest in gossip never seemed very significant to me, but now I feel such *_JOY_* for not being caught up in that. I didn't do it purposefully, per se, it's just my nature, but wow, I'm so happy about it, now! Thank you for this gift of knowledge, Dr. Chopra!!!
Me too.. same.. it's natural for me not to gossip.. and people looked at my like crazy all my life!! Today I became a life coach.. and able to pursue it since my work is non judgemental
@@rainbow_world5560 Best to you in your new adventure of life coaching!
The best way to avoid taking on others Karma is not to engage in Gossip and Chit-chat involving other people's stories, relationships and their affairs. It is tough to deal with some colleagues who only talk about these things. Thank you sir. I will strictly implement it from now on. I love you. Gratitude respect love peace joy oneness expandedness acceptance understanding and appreciation
But what to do if you dont ask someone their opinion of someone else but they it to you and you attract what they told about them?
Amen 🙏 People like us know that gossiping about people's life, disrespecting someone about the truth of their boundaries as well. Spreading it around in order to try ro control a person or manipulate others or a person. Using gossip from one's past to try to justify why you feel you have entitlement to be all on folks business. No one deserves karma behind disrespectful, control people. Or for a person standing up for themselves as well. God bless stay humble and respect other people's lives unless one is in abusive situations. Don't be the abuser neither the control.
Many folks are stating radical ideas such as removing the self from society. I believe the solution is to subject yourself around people you can trust and rely on. There are those of us out here that do not engage in the negative cycles
Dear Deepak, these are the perfect insights to share particularly now for this planet. I disconnected myself from several avenues of social media over 10 years ago after I witnessed the severity of negative entanglements that occurred between others. I remember asking myself why would I want to both engage in and absorb that kind of energy into my divine self because it felt like bad karma. Thank-you for sharing this with all of us. ❤❤❤
I endorse this perspective 💯%! As part of my healing journey I chose to live alone and away from familiarity! I love my silence n solitude! SO MUCH LESS NOISE IN MY HEAD SPACE!! From my experience any collaboration: business, social media, group chats etc made me feel heavy! In the holographic field any connection fostered instantly establishes an energetic entanglement! Choose Wsely who/what U invest your energy in!
Loved this. thank you. stuggle at work with all the gossiping so I now practice professional detachment. sometimes it feels powerful, sometimes it feels lonely.
I learned that people will try to drag you into thick drama via gossip that has nothing to do with you and when you say it has nothing to do with you and change the subject because you have relationships with the ones they are bringing up, they throw in that something was said about you. That’s when you have to be firm and not take the bait. Weak minds want company to make them feel better about themselves!
If something bad has happened to you in a spiritual community, find trusted people to tell and process properly - I say this because I was so afraid to speak up for fear of looking like I was ‘gossiping’ or creating drama that I held abuse inside of me and still find it tricky to be in the community. Part of me wants to scream about the terrible things some people have done. Ultimately I agree not to gossip, but I’m sending love to anyone who is carrying stuff inside - you need to find a way for it to come out that is safe 🙏
I do not think that when a victim reports a case of abuse of power to the rightful authority it qualifies as gossip. Gossip is frivolous and flippant discussion among people about things that don't concern them, and things of which none of the gossips is able or willing to change. They just just gather around to discuss for the emotional high they get out of talking about other people's business. That is gossip.
I keep to myself. I’ve experienced so much in so many years when I surrounded myself around toxic people so my company is the best..
Yup. I just can't handle people anymore. Totally burnt out on idle socializing.
A great one ! Actually my journey on mindfulness meditation started to steer from Gossip! After 30 years finally peeking results! 🙏🏽
Incredible and useful guidance and wisdom (especially in these time). I started doing this 2 years ago, and couldn’t understand what I was doing, I was just being guided away from family, friends, and loved ones. And this video confirms and explains why I did it .Thank you always Deepak 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾💫💫👌🏾
Thank you. I didn’t know that you could manifest someone’s karma by becoming entangled in their story. I have to be consciously aware and detached emotionally and mentally, which helps to objective so I can be of service if the situation calls for it. I will practice.
Precisely why I don't engage in social media. Plenty of karma already. Just learning how to post a comment on your videos was a giant leap. Imagine what the Rishis would have had to say about Twitter! Thanks for sharing your Vedic insight in modern times.
I’m recently discovering this. The more I exist from my soul, the less I’m caring about what others think about me and what I think about them. I observe but don’t dwell on it too much. Thank you for this Mr Chopra. 😇💗
These are good thoughts to remember for keeping a clear head & so staying uplifted
Excellent point!!! 😊. If more people begin to see the “ Gossip - Karma - link they may begin to feel motivated to look at their actions and begin to do what you so beautifully suggest in this video. Thank you 🌸🙏
I appreciate this Deepak. This makes sense, as I thought of some things and people from the past. This gossip karma also goes for those near us and those on tv and social media.
I like this very much. You have great knowledge on lots of things. ‘Deal with your own Karma’.
Thank you Deepak ❤🙏 Amazing that you put in very simply comprehendible context,how already created And collective burden gets perpetuated and re- inforced by engaging and letting oneself to be sucked by and into it.👌🙏💜
Perfect for me to hear! I need these reminders.. nice and short and sweet and makes sense! 😊
I LOVE YOU. This is of course wonderful as always. But, your correct use of WHO and WHOM literally creates BLISS in my physiology, haha. THANK YOU DEEPAK!
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Thanks!
Thank you 🙏
I’m finally beginning to understand.❤❤
This is life changing & makes so much sense
Thank you for your support 🙏 🙌 ❤️ Highly appreciated 🙏 😊
We are all involved in human family karma whether we want it or not.
Voting for a party or not voting you still suffer consequences.
I used to seek out "conversations" and verbal/ relationship conflicts mainly with the view of helping the parties understand a better point of view. I don't get involved just give them a just- point of view or reframe a positive pov to the situation.. i agree with another used who mentioned less engagement would isolate ppl
Thank you for this precious reminder.
Its not only about gossip. Its also Getting involved with weird people by conversation. 😊
Calmness is power and silence is powerful. Gossiping causes negative energies to be present in your life. I choose to be untangled with positivity and not entangled with negativity.
I dont know which cousin got engaged, which family friend died, which neice is getting married next year because I consciously keep away from. Relatives.their only conversation is gossip. I don't talk much to them. N wen I do, I just gush about my kids and ask abt their kids school and studies, complement them on their clothes and dats all. N my life is so light.
the way to live
Family engagements or somebody dying isn’t gossip.🙈Please don’t reply I only enjoy reading my own comments.😂
Oh wow, this is extremely difficult for me, not getting entangled with others stories. What am I/we suppose to do...look at them blankly, or what? I've been doing better in that respect BUT I live in housing development with like 60 people here.
I DO understand what you're saying and it definitely does stir my insides up in more ways than one. Honestly, it makes me sicker than normal. Plus, yes, works on my nervous system and that creates so much distress. All I can say is that I'm going to do my best to stay clear of the chaos/definitely working on a better reaction
See all people as what they aspire to be... & know you have 3 choices=> Rob energy, Replace energy, Or look the other way
This is the illusion of (Free Will)=> Ever only One choice=> To Grow
@icesphere1205 your name is so appropriate 😂😅
@@hoayaweemaru9162 A.K.A... Snowball (see the 1st comments posted for this video), oh, & I live in Alaska
I think most of us find it difficult to not engage in conflict because we have become addicted to the chemicals our bodies release in conflict which make us more physically capable short term but always at a cost to our well being. I think we often get lost in the difference between seeking conflict and seeking resolution as the solution to conflict and knowing where we should consider ourselves responsible to engage in seeking resolution. Such as there is no reason for me to hear about other people's personal disagreements if it is not my place to make any decisions about what they should do. You told us in your comment how hearing gossip effects you and I think that would be a good response for many people though may need repeating. I've managed to make it a habit to reflect on my interactions with people and try to see what I could have said better or could have viewed the situation better. It usually just takes a couple moments to make a note of how I may have fallen into a reactionary state of mind. This also helps me to understand others who have no idea that they are almost always in a reactionary state. I also try to be mindful of my reactions throughout the day even in my own thinking. Your comment shows that you also do this introspection. I think I comment mostly to inform and encourage myself.
I remember seeing on a tea box that inner peace can only be found within. I remember spending so much time trying to figure out what it meant and thought it was probably nonsense. I found it was referring to our being when it is not considering the world. I think our difficulty, challenge, is in learning to consider the world from it's foundation rather than it's appearance. 🙏
Best advice.Thank you Dr. Chopra.
Japanese society might be the champion of not getting involved in other’s business…that society for some is lack of compassion though. It could be there are always two sides of the coin, otherwise I don’t know yet. ❤
Why? What's your experience?
Are they lacking compassion?
@@lillyrocks2011 just search up any case where someone gets hurt or un alive in front of a crowd in Japan . They always act as if victim doesn’t exist and they keep moving without helping for a long period of time.
@@Anime-chan-gl4pe Probably that's because they don't want to make the person feel ashamed? In other places people just stare but nobody helps.
I don't think Japanese people are so cold and lacking empathy, humanity.
Solitude and isolation arent the same...Japan is extremely lonely country...loneliness never gives us peace...so no
Jenny ...agree Absolutely. Yet personally have realised...eventually we will have greater peace and contentment. Most importance Will Surely Be Happier ❤
Great advice…the mind gies down the rabbit hole and drags the emotions…super constricting..
"Gossip" is understood as negative talk. When you immerse yourself in false claims and negative emotion, you harm your body. The body responds energetically and spirals downward. Best to see the good in others and encourage it.
Gratitude ❤🙏
I agree I had a situation where someone had done something to me and I didn’t gossip about any nor did I spread malice or untruth, I said of what had occurred, but also it didn’t need to be spoken of for that moment and experience has passed, so why bring the past into the present. Not only that lost people don’t listen they hear according to their perceptions and where they are and are not even hearing what is being said hence so many mis understandings and disputes.
Didn’t stop them from backstabbing me
Wow, this resonated so much with me & my current circumstances of someone doing something to me to cause hurt, I have removed myself from the situation & stayed quiet only explaining the change in circumstances.
Absolutely agree. Experienced it myself
Yes very true .We have to be careful not making new Karma..
Beautifully said! Such a wonderful video
Thank you very much for this wonderful message. I just needed to hear it today.
I totally agree Mr. Deepak ❤
OMG. I work in healthcare. Members tell me horrible personal stories all the time. They need to talk to somebody. They are so lonely. I never thought I was creating karma. I will start putting boundaries. Thank you ♥
What I learned when dealing with other people's stories is not to give my opinion(because I'm so opinionated!! Ego!!) on the matter, in whatever they are saying, but just to acknowledge what they said. Whether it's a sympathetic, "I'm sorry you are......" or a "That's great" if they are happy about something. I keep it simple to let them know I heard them but I don't engage any more than that now, esp. with people whom I am not super close to. It really is draining getting tangled up in other people's lives. If they ask what I think(which is rare), I'll say it's more important what you think and feel. I find that's a great way to be engaged without being entangled. It;s a work in progress for me but it does get easier each time.
Good luck on your journey!!
He said other people’s story not someone telling you their own story - that’s having a listening ear.
@@triciabethelart2300either way it's a story from a stranger so it's not related to you (and most likely involves other people) and certainly is draining ! Healthy boundaries are good.
@@Uilani-g4mI notice when I do that people are disappointed. But it does make them stop lol
Thank you 💖 for sharing. 🕊️
This is a very enlightening way to observe our relationships. Thank you so much for this video!
Very clearly explained-thank you.
I agree with refraining from negative ugly gossip. However, I just want to make sure that this is not confused with speaking up for injustices....
We also learn from hearing about people's stories. That is what propels us to change for the better.
This is my MIL. It’s one of the big reasons why she doesn’t like me. And she looks down on me like I’m the one with the problem 🤦🏻♀️
What happens when you work as a therapist? How can you protect yourself from further karma entangling as you help others and listen to their stories? Is the intention of helping enough? (Very different energy that gossiping)
We are trying to resolve issues and not badmouthing people
Amen I connect my self to this prophetic words, I receive wisdom, clarity and direction in Jesus Mighty name🙏 🙌❤️
I agree, starting from the principle, that everything has a reason enough to happen, be it relationships, casual encouters, etc... therefore, we must use impartiality, without judging anything or anyone and let the timeless mind live the experience, great wisdom about this teaching, we would avoid unnecessary conflicts and wars. Namaste 😊
This resonate a lot with me. I really like to listen to your wisdom, thanks for sharing.
Excellent advice. Thank you. I made this decision a while back and am a better and happier person for it.
Hey Texas, get back into your family - some will eventually support and they will change.
As a family, as human family, we have to be together to progress.
Suggestion - listen to Pam Gregory. I think we often have to be a silent witness - this can clarify our development.
Thanks for sharing
Thanks for sharing this wisdom 😊💜🙏🪷
the key word there - freedom. Awesome.
Absolutely this my mother taught me not to gossip!!
Very good words thankyou very much. 🌻
Wow I love this little video of wisdom 🤗🤩👍 exactly what I wanted 👍I appreciate it 😊
This is so basic and I must remember it daily.
True. Great advice, Thank you.
Gossiping, spying others & interested in others business. If someone share there problems never use their weakness to get your favor.... My mom always tell these things when we were young. Wise people don't care about others business 🌻🥰 wonderful sir🙏
This video brought me to tears... thank You, Mr Chopra ❤
yes!! so true, thank you.
Thank you!! 🙏🏽
We are living through times right now that are emotionally and idealistically very contentious. I have come across some people who insist that I agree with their beliefs. Although this is not exactly what you are describing, rather than allowing abusive communication, I have had to decide to quietly walk away. Surrendering what I cannot control or allow.
thank you so much for this clear statement
I can't remember the author's name, Terry something I think, I once read: "What you think of me is none of my business". I will always remember that good piece of advice. Staying above the fray is indeed good advice. Thank you Deepok.
Thank you ❤️ ✨️ 🙏
A non suffering life. What more needs to be said. ❤
Gossipers are idle people who don't cultivate their talents and interests like reading or writing a book or planting a garden. They are unfulfilled people without constructive things to do. 1 Timothy 5:13
So, I'm thinking how this might apply to people who grow up in abusive environments. Not "paying attention" to who said what to whom may not be the same as "engaging" in such gossip. Speech is the primary way human interact with each other, right? If they don't understand when they are being manipulated or abused because of their childhoods, they probably will continue to live with and be abused by similar characters to their childhood tormentors. So they need to pay attention and learn and then . . . distance themselves.
I interact with a high volume of people, professionally, and we are "entangled" in people's Karma .. We can do our best to mitigate it ..
Tyvm!!!!
Great knowledge, thank you 🙏
Stop talking about "Who said what to Whom...Who did what to Whom...Who did what with whom...". These are attracting others Karma and suffering to me. I have to be very careful with my colleagues. But they don't talk anything else other than that. How to Navigate this situation.... Thank you so much sir for your valuable guidance. I love you. Gratitude respect love joy peace oneness expandedness acceptance understanding and appreciation
Tell them kindly to shut off. Or go yourself elsewhere 😘
I think a comment made by ameya for this video would serve you well
I see it, thank you sir. you are right, good advice
GRACIAS GRACIAS GRACIAS Dr DEEPAK CHOPRA ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤😊😅
I’m very good at minding my business. I stay in my own lane and drink my water!! What other people say about me is none of MY business!! Gossip and stress are not good mentally, physically and emotionally. They age you. We need to steer clear of other people’s karma.
pozdravljen.. vceraj ali dva dni nazaj, sem rekla, da ne mislim nikomu pomagati, amapk sedaj sem poslusala vas, in pripeljali ste me do tega,,da bom pomagala..hvala vam
Received. Thank you.
Holding space for peoples secrets is a superpower not everyone is capable of
🙏So well said!
As others have mentioned in the comments, the downside to all of this detachment is that you won’t fit in as much socially, you will be perceived by others as being different or a bit of a loner or just not part of the group, and we need to be ok with that somehow. ❤
Namaskar dr.ji. when I got initiated in the bhakti tradition I did study the Upadeshamrita by Rupa Goswamy which confirm your wise advise . Thanks again
Thank you Deepak ❤