🤩 Thanks for watching! If you want to achieve your ideal retirement life (full of purpose, energy, and passion), be sure to watch this Free Workshop: How to Turn Your Successful Career Into a Successful Retirement 👉bestnextchapters.secondwindmovement.com/training-video I teach you step-by-step The Rewire Method, so you can avoid falling into a too-common retirement rut and instead live a healthy, active, engaged retirement life
This is excellent advice! I'm already doing this to some degree, but I can do it even more. True deep friendships are a priceless treasure. I am very grateful for that I have, but I think I'll follow some of your tips to strengthen those I have, and expand my life and be open to new ones as well.
Thanks for sharing Margarita! Glad you found it helpful. That's fantastic you're already doing some of these - may you deepen your current relationships and enjoy connecting with new friends! 💕
When u grow apart frm old relationships there was a reason for it. I tried that and it left me frustrated and self hating for even trying to resuscitate something that was better off dead. I’m so DONE … it’s all embarrassing
I know, right? Fighting to keep connection when they are moving away from what we had? They say they are still there but really have moved on hurts. I am Retiring soon, I will not keep any co-workers as friends, my social circle just got Very Small! Only family and a few friends? I need to make new friends now.
May you continue to grow and evolve in your best self and attract the friendships and relationships that align the most, thanks for watching and for striving to be better 🙏
Friends are overrated. The only time my “friends”come around is when I can do something for them when I need a hand they’re never around. I haven’t had a true friend since I retired from the military
Thanks for sharing - I understand how that can be very challenging, especially as you offer help to others without receiving or feeling the reciprocation. You're not alone and there are ways to turn things around and connect in meaningful relationships. Reach out if you want help. Thank you so much for your service in the military 🙏💕
I’m with u! Grateful for my dogs. People hv always sucked in my life. I had one friend left…ONE!!! And I just got tired for doing all the work without reciprocation.
I'm not sure what interests you have but sharing activities is a good way to improve friendships. If I bike or ski with a buddy the chances they'll be asking for my help are minimal. Same goes for dancing or Karaoke, non task oriented activities are your solution.
Sick of trying. Most don't want to go do things and want to just sit, eat, shop and gossip at my age - 50. I am not into that and seek groups that do active things like horseback riding, hiking, kayak etc. Lasting friendships don't seem to be a thing in my world. Everyone moves away and most people out there do not connect with me at all. They all want to sell me something or want something. I have boundaries. So I gave it a go for years and has some fun, but am losing interest in making friends anymore lol I have more fun and less drama doing things alone or sticking to small groups of activity buddies
You're in the prime of your life, eager to explore, experience and enjoy, and yet it feels like you're swimming against the tide. I know it can be disheartening when it seems like everyone around you is content with a more sedate lifestyle. But remember, there's a whole world out there filled with people who share your love for adventure and active living. Take a look at travel groups like Road Scholar, for instance. Or maybe Meetup groups in your area. They're filled with folks over 50 who are just as passionate about staying active as you are. The point is, you're not alone in your quest for an active, fulfilling lifestyle. There are plenty of groups out there filled with people who share your interests and values. And who knows? You might just stumble upon some lasting friendships along the way.
In my experience, if all I am doing is listening to them then I usually become a dumping ground and it is a habit for them. They talk about themselves and all their interests but when I start talking about my life, they are quiet, don’t comment on what I just said and then go back to only talking about themselves. So now I will listen when I want to and is I feel they are ignoring me then when they start talking about themselves, I ignore it and talk about me. I’m hoping they get the hint that we take talking and listening turns.
Its even more difficult if you suffer from an anxiety disorder. 1. I don't have any casual connections. 2. Can't say yes if no one asks you. 3. I am a great listener because I have a fear of public speaking. 4. This is irrelevant because i don't have any casual friends. 5. This is a big ask, Its like saying if you want friends get a college degree first. If you don't already have this your not going to be able to pull it out of your pocket. It will take time, a lot of time.
Thanks so much for sharing. Anxiety disorder poses big challenges - know that you're not alone. It's nice to hear that you're a great listener. While some of these tips appear to be tall orders, may you strive to meet yourself where you are and micro-step your way up. I have found there is one big common theme - going inward first to connect with your authentic self is an important foundation for opening up to more aligned people, friends, and opportunities. Sending you love 💕
U hv to know urself to stay away from toxic relationships. But even with that it isn’t easy. People r just too busy and too uncaring. It’s almost hopeless for me
Thanks so much for sharing, I'm sorry you're feeling a bit of hopelessness. Know that you're not alone. I've found that people who first go inward to connect with themselves at a deeper level have a crazy way of attracting people who are more aligned and less toxic. May you find comfort in your own authenticity and engage with people who appreciate you! 💕
My name is Andrina am 50 years old . Move to the United States 2 years ago living in East New York. I am a loyal person good listener. If anyone looking for friendship not sexual relationship. I’m here
Hello Andrina,, welcome to the United States and thank you for reaching out! Your journey sounds like quite an adventure and it's wonderful to see your open heart and willingness to forge new friendships. 🤗
I live in Massachusetts it’s the absolute worst place to meet any friends like everybody unless I do all the work nothing gets done like nobody ever says oh do you want to do this high have to do all the work make all the plans and I’m tired of it very difficult I moved last year. There’s only six units and like half of the people smoke so there’s nobody to go walking with smoking and walking don’t go hand-in-hand really depressing I’m 57. There’s nobody good at my work everybody’s a Backstabber I would never trust them and it’s just awful. I’m really down about it.
I'm really sorry to hear you're feeling this way, but remember, it's okay to feel down sometimes. Moving to a new place and trying to connect with people can be challenging, especially when it feels like you're doing all the work. But please don't lose hope. Every cloud has a silver lining. You're in a period of transition right now, and while it might be tough, it's also a chance for you to grow and discover new aspects of yourself. Stay strong, keep reaching out, and keep believing in yourself. You've got this! 💪
Hi Bonnie! If you want help with the process of connecting with your authentic self, feel free to schedule a free Breakthrough Session with me personally here - bestnextchapters.secondwindmovement.com/schedule
Thanks so much for sharing - you are not alone! There are so many opportunities to broaden your social circle if that's what you desire. May you follow your internal passions and purpose, so your meaningful relationships and connections may follow 💕 Feel free to reach out for a free Breakthrough Session if you want help with this bestnextchapters.secondwindmovement.com/schedule
🤩 Thanks for watching! If you want to achieve your ideal retirement life (full of purpose, energy, and passion), be sure to watch this Free Workshop: How to Turn Your Successful Career Into a Successful Retirement 👉bestnextchapters.secondwindmovement.com/training-video
I teach you step-by-step The Rewire Method, so you can avoid falling into a too-common retirement rut and instead live a healthy, active, engaged retirement life
This is excellent advice! I'm already doing this to some degree, but I can do it even more. True deep friendships are a priceless treasure. I am very grateful for that I have, but I think I'll follow some of your tips to strengthen those I have, and expand my life and be open to new ones as well.
Thanks for sharing Margarita! Glad you found it helpful. That's fantastic you're already doing some of these - may you deepen your current relationships and enjoy connecting with new friends! 💕
When u grow apart frm old relationships there was a reason for it. I tried that and it left me frustrated and self hating for even trying to resuscitate something that was better off dead. I’m so DONE … it’s all embarrassing
I know, right? Fighting to keep connection when they are moving away from what we had? They say they are still there but really have moved on hurts. I am Retiring soon, I will not keep any co-workers as friends, my social circle just got Very Small! Only family and a few friends? I need to make new friends now.
May you continue to grow and evolve in your best self and attract the friendships and relationships that align the most, thanks for watching and for striving to be better 🙏
Friends are overrated. The only time my “friends”come around is when I can do something for them when I need a hand they’re never around.
I haven’t had a true friend since I retired from the military
Thanks for sharing - I understand how that can be very challenging, especially as you offer help to others without receiving or feeling the reciprocation. You're not alone and there are ways to turn things around and connect in meaningful relationships. Reach out if you want help. Thank you so much for your service in the military 🙏💕
@@CynMeyerSecondWindMovement thanks. hey want to come over and help me cut firewood. Hahahahaa
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I’m with u! Grateful for my dogs. People hv always sucked in my life. I had one friend left…ONE!!! And I just got tired for doing all the work without reciprocation.
I'm not sure what interests you have but sharing activities is a good way to improve friendships. If I bike or ski with a buddy the chances they'll be asking for my help are minimal. Same goes for dancing or Karaoke, non task oriented activities are your solution.
Wow! as I read this; I thought I posted it!
Always appreciate your recap
Happy to hear that! We'll make sure to always include it ☺️
Sick of trying. Most don't want to go do things and want to just sit, eat, shop and gossip at my age - 50. I am not into that and seek groups that do active things like horseback riding, hiking, kayak etc. Lasting friendships don't seem to be a thing in my world. Everyone moves away and most people out there do not connect with me at all. They all want to sell me something or want something. I have boundaries. So I gave it a go for years and has some fun, but am losing interest in making friends anymore lol
I have more fun and less drama doing things alone or sticking to small groups of activity buddies
You're in the prime of your life, eager to explore, experience and enjoy, and yet it feels like you're swimming against the tide. I know it can be disheartening when it seems like everyone around you is content with a more sedate lifestyle. But remember, there's a whole world out there filled with people who share your love for adventure and active living.
Take a look at travel groups like Road Scholar, for instance. Or maybe Meetup groups in your area. They're filled with folks over 50 who are just as passionate about staying active as you are.
The point is, you're not alone in your quest for an active, fulfilling lifestyle. There are plenty of groups out there filled with people who share your interests and values. And who knows? You might just stumble upon some lasting friendships along the way.
In my experience, if all I am doing is listening to them then I usually become a dumping ground and it is a habit for them. They talk about themselves and all their interests but when I start talking about my life, they are quiet, don’t comment on what I just said and then go back to only talking about themselves.
So now I will listen when I want to and is I feel they are ignoring me then when they start talking about themselves, I ignore it and talk about me. I’m hoping they get the hint that we take talking and listening turns.
Taking turns talking and listening is such a simple but important shift - hopefully, they’ll catch on soon!
Its even more difficult if you suffer from an anxiety disorder.
1. I don't have any casual connections.
2. Can't say yes if no one asks you.
3. I am a great listener because I have a fear of public speaking.
4. This is irrelevant because i don't have any casual friends.
5. This is a big ask, Its like saying if you want friends get a college degree first. If you don't already have this your not going to be able to pull it out of your pocket. It will take time, a lot of time.
Thanks so much for sharing. Anxiety disorder poses big challenges - know that you're not alone. It's nice to hear that you're a great listener. While some of these tips appear to be tall orders, may you strive to meet yourself where you are and micro-step your way up. I have found there is one big common theme - going inward first to connect with your authentic self is an important foundation for opening up to more aligned people, friends, and opportunities. Sending you love 💕
@@CynMeyerSecondWindMovement Thank you for your reply.
U hv to know urself to stay away from toxic relationships. But even with that it isn’t easy. People r just too busy and too uncaring. It’s almost hopeless for me
Thanks so much for sharing, I'm sorry you're feeling a bit of hopelessness. Know that you're not alone. I've found that people who first go inward to connect with themselves at a deeper level have a crazy way of attracting people who are more aligned and less toxic. May you find comfort in your own authenticity and engage with people who appreciate you! 💕
My name is Andrina am 50 years old . Move to the United States 2 years ago living in East New York. I am a loyal person good listener. If anyone looking for friendship not sexual relationship. I’m here
Hello Andrina,, welcome to the United States and thank you for reaching out! Your journey sounds like quite an adventure and it's wonderful to see your open heart and willingness to forge new friendships. 🤗
Thank u
Interesting!!
Glad you think so!
I live in Massachusetts it’s the absolute worst place to meet any friends like everybody unless I do all the work nothing gets done like nobody ever says oh do you want to do this high have to do all the work make all the plans and I’m tired of it very difficult I moved last year. There’s only six units and like half of the people smoke so there’s nobody to go walking with smoking and walking don’t go hand-in-hand really depressing I’m 57. There’s nobody good at my work everybody’s a Backstabber I would never trust them and it’s just awful. I’m really down about it.
I'm really sorry to hear you're feeling this way, but remember, it's okay to feel down sometimes. Moving to a new place and trying to connect with people can be challenging, especially when it feels like you're doing all the work. But please don't lose hope.
Every cloud has a silver lining. You're in a period of transition right now, and while it might be tough, it's also a chance for you to grow and discover new aspects of yourself. Stay strong, keep reaching out, and keep believing in yourself. You've got this! 💪
I don't see the link for "connecting with yourself"...
Hi Bonnie! If you want help with the process of connecting with your authentic self, feel free to schedule a free Breakthrough Session with me personally here - bestnextchapters.secondwindmovement.com/schedule
At 50 only have 2 old lady friends …..pretty sad
Thanks so much for sharing - you are not alone! There are so many opportunities to broaden your social circle if that's what you desire. May you follow your internal passions and purpose, so your meaningful relationships and connections may follow 💕 Feel free to reach out for a free Breakthrough Session if you want help with this bestnextchapters.secondwindmovement.com/schedule
Id be so grateful for those two friends since I’m down to zero
I'm old emough; I'm 64 but pysically feel 29; my 84 year old lady neighbor and I connect. 😮