The #1 reason for me is the biological father. They're usually jealous and will even try to cause trouble or try to take your life. Lots of men lost their lives dealing with single mothers.
This is going to sound weird but from April 2015 to June 2018 I had a series of nightmares where a relationship with a single mom led to the biological father wanting to kill me. The nightmares stopped years ago but still bother me.
I dated a single mom for 2 years. After the relationship, she told her 10 year old son to burn all my clothes. Same son she wanted me to love and be a father to for so long. Currently involved in a court case against her. NEVER AGAIN!!!!
I dated a single mom of 2. Different dad's. It was cool. We dated for 2 years. Then we had a fight and broke up for a month and she calls me back wanting to come back but in those 30 days she got pregnant by another dude. So now she's gonna be a mother of 3 with 3 baby dad's. Lol I dodged a bullet because I'm working towards my masters degree and buying a house and I cant imagine if that would've been mine. It's crazy. Women are fucked up
I'm Sorry, but that Woman is Out of Control. I've met many Single Mothers who don't Sleep with anyone!! Men love to JUDGE ALL women for what One or Two women do; but When you say to them: "ALL MEN ARE THE SAME" They All Jump and Get Offended. If Single Mothers are all the same; ALL MEN are abusive and Cheaters. ha, ha, ha.
Absolutely correct, you are!! Having a relationship with a single mother is like carrying extra luggage throughout your journey. Travel. Light and with necessities only! God bless
@@shawnsuave5694 The SM i dated is my neighbor (still). She found another "victim". They always find a simp, thats the sad thing. In china they are fucked, called leftover women.
100% Correct ... Prisons / Jails are full of criminals who were raised by a single mother... Single mothers are useless at raising children... Single mothers are not very good at anything other than opening their legs for "Chad" and "Tyrone"
@@Mandy-Bee-k7kNot really I dated one as well and I had to pay for everything and she didn't do one thing for me except cheat expect me to pay all her bills and children's stuff had no discipline on the children. And had an awful personality. She didn't bring nothing to the table as well as my child's mother except fights over miniscule things. Unless you can prove that your not. And not change up when you get commitment and are there for the man and want to help and not just keep off the man.
Oh and forgot to say we were dating for a week and she got a speeding ticket and she wanted to to pay the 600 dollars for her and if I didn't I wasn't a good bf. Like get outta here
I have no kids and dated a single mother I tried to make it work but in less than two months I had to end it cause she would always bring up her kids dad like “my baby daddy this and my baby daddy that” lastly I asked her if she knew how to cook cause I was the one cooking then she responded with “I used to cook for my husband, yes I can cook” I was like ehhhh I’m out of here. Also, she is still married to him.
I am 51. In 1995 I was 22 US Army stationed in Germany 🇩🇪. Met gorgeous Brazilian who had 2 kids w German and was getting divorced. I fell in love. Moved in. But, I knew it was a bad call. Army asked if I wanted to extend 1 more year in Germany? I said no, knowing it would hasten our break up. It did. 1998, I was back in USA 🇺🇸, and got a Christmas 🎄 card from her w new last name Tucker and military address. She married another soldier. 2004, I bumped into her in Germany 🇩🇪 again !! She had another kid w the American. I was an officer now. We had a 1 hour conversation. Caught up. They moved to Georgia. 2019, I went back to Germany. I FB peeked her. Divorced. I am happy w my wife and 2 kids in California. I was lucky 🍀. It’s painful. Like cutting off your infected leg. But, you will be better off. Trust me. I wish I could talk to her 2nd ex husband and ask if he felt it was worth it. He got 2 kids out of her, so maybe? But, now I know she is bound to him and Georgia for YEARS due to custody. Oh well. Life. AVOID 🚫 UNNECESSARY DRAMA 🎭!!! PS5 DEAD-DROP
You will NEVER be priority number one. You are only a meal ticket for as long as she can find somebody she can level up with. She will expect you to divert your every resource so her kids can go to college to be damned if you save a penny for your retirement. Even when the kids grow to be an adult, you will be stuck footing the bill for her grand kids. I'm speaking from experience. IT WILL NEVER END.
1. Lose your wretched attitudes. 2. Realize you sit on the bottom of the dating pool. 3. You compete with gorgeous, young women who are kid free! 4. You have nothing to offer high value men. 5. Accept personal responsibility for failing to preserve the family you had. 6. To attract/keep a man, you need to do EVERYTHING better than your competitors (young hotties with no kids). 7. Lower your expectations. In reality, you have nothing to offer except another man's offspring. 8. Grab the first simp you can. This is as good as it gets for you. Just try not to destroy his life too...
@@MrShabamon my working theory is that it’s all solipsism. Women constantly want a man who is around their age, maybe slightly older. So if they’re 40, and want to date a man aged 40-45, they assume that the same attributes that they’re attracted to, will attract men. So if they’ve also advanced in their career, gone on exotic trips, picked up hobbies, etc, then they think that they’ve gained value on the dating market. Unfortunately for them, men don’t select women based off of how much they help their own life. Men select women based off of their looks and personality. A cute 20-something that smiles and is sweet will always Trump a 40 year old woman, no matter what.
Man I do feel bad for them. To pay for a mistake your entire life, that’s harsh for anybody. I’m sure there are some if not lots of guys in prison humbled and deserving of a second chance. And let’s be honest, we’ve all risked it once or twice with a girl in our youths. Yeah it’s a choice and a dumb one at that but you’re not exactly thinking clearly when all your blood is localised in the nether regions. It would suck to accidentally get someone pregnant and pay for it your entire life by being akin to a piranha on the dating market. Having said that I’m not gonna argue for dating single mothers, but I do feel bad for them. But I guess they’ll always have some blue pilled beta bucks prospects so maybe it’s all good.
All these reasons can be distilled to one sentence. Single mothers have too many problems and baggage, therefore, DO NOT make her problems and baggage your problems and baggage.
@@jokicback2backmvp877he seeded her womb. He gave her a child. They shared that bond. And from research is showing microchimerism shows likely she retains the dna from all men she slept with. Remember women are emotional. Baby is an intensely physical and emotional endeavor. She walks around saying who the baby daddy is. Looks at Chad Jr. and looks for the part of Chad in child. It’s just a known “thing” how we all agree the sky is “blue” and get on with the day.
They are self destructive damaged good and will destroy anyone who tries to help them. I ain't deliberate - it's in their nature. It's like the story of the fox and the scorpion.
Now it is 2023. The stats have come in. Single father households fare almoat as well as two parent households, while single mothers do far worse than both single father or two parent households; yet family courts overwhelmingly give custody to single moms.😂
a birthing woman has already chosen their provider. men would be well advised to not step on another man's toes in this regard. the only reason I need.
Yeah, i tried twice with this one woman. Both times she hopped off of me onto another man. Shes currently banging another guy right now as it is. Stopped talking to me because i was hesitant to raise another guys kid. Man i couldnt help it, her little girl wanted me to pick her up and told me she loved me but I didnt feel the same. Seeing another guys facial features made me ill
I am 51. In 1995 I was 22 US Army stationed in Germany 🇩🇪. Met gorgeous Brazilian who had 2 kids w German and was getting divorced. I fell in love. Moved in. But, I knew it was a bad call. Army asked if I wanted to extend 1 more year in Germany? I said no, knowing it would hasten our break up. It did. 1998, I was back in USA 🇺🇸, and got a Christmas 🎄 card from her w new last name Tucker and military address. She married another soldier. 2004, I bumped into her in Germany 🇩🇪 again !! She had another kid w the American. I was an officer now. We had a 1 hour conversation. Caught up. They moved to Georgia. 2019, I went back to Germany. I FB peeked her. Divorced. I am happy w my wife and 2 kids in California. I was lucky 🍀. It’s painful. Like cutting off your infected leg. But, you will be better off. Trust me. I wish I could talk to her 2nd ex husband and ask if he felt it was worth it. He got 2 kids out of her, so maybe? But, now I know she is bound to him and Georgia for YEARS due to custody. Oh well. Life. AVOID 🚫 UNNECESSARY DRAMA 🎭!!! PS5 DEAD-DROP
I didn’t even date, I was just talking to one casually through text and I wanted to die. Her mental was so wrecked! She was the biggest turn off I’ve ever experienced. Quickly understood why she was single.
It's not single moms....it's not single dad's...it's kids who get the shaft.Your a guy with no kids...then ya stay the hell away from single moms.Because a good one wouldn't want you in their life anyways....
BM articulates this topic so well. I took on a single mom, no amount of effort and dollars from me changed how the child turned out, poor genetics from baby daddy won.
I married a single mom, it didn't work out. I wouldn't do it again because by and large, single mothers have low self esteem who have chosen terrible, unhealthy men. But I am grateful for the chance to have helped raised her children and teach them values of hard work and making good choices in their lives. Save your money, work hard, be the best you can be, don't have sex before marriage but if you do, don't knock them up! Today they still remain in touch with me for friendship and counsel. I don't buy into any of that "They're not your children" BS. That's pure selfishness. If I have made a difference in their lives and making better choices and changing bad traditions, it will have been worth it to society and civilization.
Sir was it really worth it in the end? Think about how much money you wasted on her and her kids. Think about how much time you wasted dealing with that woman. Also I hate to say it but you are a simp of the worst kind. If that woman respected and appreciated you she would still be married to you and followed your program. You get no prizes for cleaning up another man’s mess. And you get no accolades for saving a single mom. In the end all you got was a broken heart and broken wallet. So stop trying to make yourself seem like you are doing society a favor by saving single mothers. She did you the same way that she did the men that came before you! All single mothers need to continue down the conveyor belt of misery and destruction until they drop into the bucket!
stuuuuupid!! ... for every single mom, there's a single dad who we have to watch out for almost all the same reasons! ... he's "committed" for the next 18 years!! .... men are such selfish GD hypocrites!
"Tough & Independent" aren't really traits I look for in a woman. So whether single mothers are/aren't Tough & Independent is kind of a moot point anyway. I'm looking for "Gentle & Feminine" etc... as opposed to some wannabe man.
stuuuuupid!! ... for every single mom, there's a single dad who we have to watch out for almost all the same reasons! ... he's "committed" for the next 18 years!! .... men are such selfish GD hypocrites!
I was at the court house to pay a speeding ticket and i saw 26 single moms there to claim child support that day and hear is the really crazy part all thoses kids had the same fathers most of those kids were related they had all been sleeping with the same 4 men
@Orange Buddha Apparently, he still makes stuff but stears clear of politics. It all got to be too much for him I suppose. Plus he loves his family. Sad how the "free" West isn't so free anymore.
I married the tri fecta of dysfunction. A Single mother that was divorced, daddy abandonment issues, with a son husband. It was doomed before it started!
I keep seeing videos on why guys shouldn’t date a single mom. And i get it. Completely get it. But… can you make a video on what a single mom should do? Like some advice?… like… is this it? Life pretty much ends for single moms? Anyone that comes across this comment, give me your response pls. No rude comments, I genuinely want to know. My mom was married to my father for ten years and had me and my brother. Then they divorced because he cheated several times. My mom never remarried or dated or met with another guy ever again. My dad was her first everything (sex, relationship, kiss, marriage etc). She stayed loyal to him and got spat on in the end and then decided to stay alone for ever and raise her two kids.
The short answer is this: KARMA is a big ole' 304 beeatch. In general, girls are in their prime between 18-25 years old. Guys? The girls don't talk to them when they're 18. By 21, he's not good in bed. 23, he has no life experience. 25 and still broke. But when he hits 28-35 years old the vultures start swirling overhead. These same females that rejected him and talked sh*t about and to him just 10 years earlier are now VERY interested in him. There are tons really nice guys in their late teens and early 20s, it's simply girls only want the top 1% and reject those who they perceive as "less than". So what's a single mom to do? They wanted the bad-boy, so they got him and everything that went along with him. They rejected the nice guy who wanted to be with her 10 years before.
As a single, mid 30s man with no kids, my best advice is to raise your damn kids. Your life isn't over, you started another life that you have to take care of. So do it. I have no such commitments except work. Heck, I don't even work anymore. I quit two months ago and have doubled my income with swing trading. I am an electrician, so I'm not some doctor you'd swoon over. I'm the guy that can fix your problem, whatever your problem. House, car, I do all my own maintenance unless the tools are more expensive than the job. My outstanding debt is $2200. Yeah. It doesn't drop any panties over here either. You're shopping out of your league, and if she ain't obese, I'm shopping out of my league. But I'm not taking on the liability of another mans b@stard. I have assets to lose. It really is a simple cost benefit analysis. You can hope for is a simp or captain save a 304, but you'll likely always be disappointed in him.
I am loving your mom!!! She has enough self worth to leave a bad relationship. Creating a better, happier life for her kids and herself. I would be very carefull about dating any man if i were a single mom, the well being of my kids comes first.
No you can't because you are not in the same caliber of other men. Single parents should seek to date other single parents. So you should only being dating single mothers or widowed women with children not childless women as it isn't fair for both parties.
Andre Scott: If that is your baby in the picture; He is beautiful!!! If you want my honest Opinion; Be Smart, and don't let Any man or people tell You what to Do with Your Life. One thing that You should never Do, is live your life according to Other people's Opinions! Always get to know the person/woman first; I say that because You could be missing out on a Gem of a Woman if you go with Prejudice into a relationship. There are a lot of Single mothers who are probably not the best fit for You; and there are many that Could be a Great fit for You; as it has nothing to Do with being a Single Mother and more to Do with the Person itself.
Andre Scott: Keep in mind that You want to meet and be with a Nice Lady; regardless of her Age, Civil Status, or children. Some Single Mothers happen to be Very Solid and Decent Women. Some Single Mothers also give Great education and Good manners to their children. Also, Not every single mother depends on Gov't Assistance.
It's equally true for both sexes. Dating, or having relationships with single moms, or single dads is like going swimming in a pond full of sharks, and you are bleeding. The moms and dads are really craving for a break from their responsibilities, and you will be the wallet, or baby sitter, or both in the end. So stay away from the pond!
Man this is my first video of yours I’m watching let me just say your absolutely correct and Rest in Paradise to my good friend Brandon Montelongo your last name is exactly what drew me here and I’m taking this video as a lesson told
Stefan was one of the first creators on you tube. He had millions upon millions of views and lots of videos. He was cancelled though. He still posts elsewhere but tries not to post anything controversial.
The SM i was with for almost 4 years on the 2nd or 3rd year she started to get iffy but would always gaslight me and deflect or downplay me when i'd address these concerns. I suspected "our" friend Josh Barringer of fucking around with her because of the friendliness, he started coming around to our apartment wayy too much calling her too frequent speaking to us on messenger video when he could've called me. Man that's that fake shyt brother i tell ya. I never had any real proof but it's that gut feeling and red flags i feel. He eft two of his axe body sprays (copying off of me, he always wanted to be me) at our apartment from him hanging out with us the day before and i asked her whose they were, and she said your friend (Josh). There started to be random tension from him when he would hang out with us like he was frustrated but scared to fight. I went distant and stayed with my parents for about a month (due to this antagonizing old 304 name Tonya that was talking shyt about my brother so i was simply avoiding her) but this led to our sudden demise. She lied and said that i didn't talk to her for a whole month (that's not true) . So she suddenly text me while she knew i was at my family reunion talking about. We need to talk and face to face but she ended up sending me a paragraph saying why she wants to take a "break" because she needs to take care of her mom being on oxygen and living with her, herself, her kids (which don't live with her and live with her sister. Because she was unhappy. She also said that she didn't wanna be in a relationship right now. I'm thinking like yeah kool if that's what you want . But after i came from the reunion that i didn't get to enjoy because her text ruined it . I went to her apartment while i knew she was gone partying to get my PS5 and clothes ASAP. She said that we can still be friends and fuck tho. But i told her the next day i was good on that "i don't take breaks". However, we did smash again the following day but i didn't even orgasm and the flame was really gone and she was dry even more than usual. Went against everything for her but the first chance she got she was fucking with other niggas and lied about it. One i suspect was my so called friend Josh. I had that gut-feeling so really she wasn't fooling nobody. She claimed she would never fuck Josh due to him being hideous, and like a brother to her but i never beleived her lying ass! She even thought that would make it credible i her mom vouched for her.. She was also raised by a single mother and her sisters are single mothers too. Except one of the sisters.
It's not always like this. My dad married my mum when she had my two older half-brothers. Their dad died in a house fire and wasn't the best person when he was alive. They instantly liked my dad and even more when I was born. My parents have been married for 13 years and still are. Just remember that not all relationships like this are trash, it just depends if you can handle it, or if the mother is crappy.
@@scotabot7826 my mum was a single mother when she met my dad though??? That is what's being said here. The difference is that my brother's father wasn't in the picture since he is, well, dead.
@@nananyantakyi1549 we may well have more sympathy for the widow - but life is not fair - she is still a single mother - maybe no pos bio father interfering - however believe me all the other problems remain and will eventuate -
Something happen with me. I was dating a single mom with 4 kids and she was like 40 or some crap. That Slut was so dumb she left me with no closure and blocked me after 5 years of dating. I had to pay for everything and even help pay those kids shit. She got all different baby dads and didn’t even consider getting married or child support for them. She barley worked and heavy into drugs and alcohol. I was huge into the gym and work and she didn’t think I was loyal enough. She walked anyway . So my question is it worth running back to when I had lots of investment with her? She did have some good things tho like works, nice car, nice chemistry and etc. Now she’s dating a new dude even the new dude disrespected her kids, her culture and own family. On the other hand I respected them all. Any suggestions???
This guy is just amazing Because he was that good they destroyed him on YT. Good you put these videos on. As a single mum i can tell you he is 200% right. We already have the babies, we always need more cash.
Andrew Tate gets banned because of this. STAY AWAY from Red Flaggs Woman. At all cost. My last 2 years, was incredible. 19 Countries in 14 Months. Dream Car, Motorbike... Thats only i found Red Pill 2 years ago.
This video is about this man and how he never forgave his mom leaving his dad. I know few single moms that are in successful relationships( after a while not straight after ) after breaking up with a father of the child .
Been thinking about leaving my situation she's 25 and has a 5 year old and honestly is the best girl I've ever met in my life... She's done anything I've asked of her and more constantly shows love affection and care and cleans and cooks talks about the future and shows nothing but loyalty and respect to the point she asks me if her cloths are appropriate, I haven't caught her in a single lie, and she is going to college for a hair degree. I've already told her about disciplining her child and that if she shields him from me at any point I will leave.. She completely agrees that I should be disciplining the child just not physically obviously but tbh I wouldn't hit my own child. We've also discussed that if he hits me with the your not my father he will be punished not that I want him to call me dad but saying that would hurt my feelings. Her bd is a deadbeat who wants to see the son but doesn't want to pay child support, I've read there messages without her knowing and it honestly seems like she just wants child support from him and has no feelings for him (that Ik of) because he used to beat and abuse her. The only negative I can think about is that shes somewhat controlling but I feel it's in a good way at times like getting me to fold my cloths and clean my room sounds like a mom ik but it is something I need to start doing she has a bit of an attitude too. I've been talking to her since August of 2021 and really as I get deeper into the relationship I get a little scared... Like I'm scared to put all this effort and money into someone elses legacy and lineage... Or for him to resent me... I just want that spiritual bond with my son and ik I can't have that with him so it makes me a bit sad. She really is a great person so it would hurt to cut her off should I try to make it work or leave? Idk what I should do can someone help me?
Think real hard about your long term future...and what her job or career brings in financial....are you the bread winner? Look 3 years or maybe even 10 years into your future with her and the kids....will u still be happy? I was in your situation at one time and it didn't work not because of her but I was in a position that wasn't ready to continue with her. The only thing that bothered me the most was my age being 20 yrs older than her.. don't ignore the facts that are there. This is a big change in your life you will be stepping into. I was happy dating the single mother but it didn't go past 1year. Again not because of her it was my decision to leave. She is with someone else now and is dedicated to him. I am happy for them if it was really meant to be? So think real hard how u want this and if u will regret letting her go? Just don't ignore how you really feel about the future...don't ignore the facts and I'm talking about everything your feelings how she feels her about you and teats you with respect...ect... ect...
Leave bro get the pain over with a lot of us have been there done that it’ll be one of the best hardest decisions you made. As a man we’re territorial and that deadbeat man will always be in her life because they are technically a family if you accept it or not and and at any point that man can get his shvt together and comeback it’s always a backdoor for him he’s the biological father you’ll nvr get that real love from her son especially in this society he’ll grow to resent you because your not his dad so especially when you discipline him he’ll deep down think your not my dad idgaf wha you saying without him actually saying it. Trust me man go build your own legacy and lineage don’t build another man’s he’ll get the credit you never will plus you’ll have an actual real bond with your own kids and it’ll nvr be an awkward conversation or awkward situation when it’s time to discipline your kids cuz they are yours and they won’t resent you low key because you are their biological dad and it’ll nvr be a backdoor for another man just y’all 💯
And also life happens so say for instance if she cheats or gets bored or just decides she doesn’t want to be with you anymore and you have built a relationship with that kid and put a lot into him financially she can take him away from you no questions asked cuz your not the biological father and If she wanted you can nvr see that kid ever again and she could easily hold that against and use him as a weapon to get things out of you
dont swim where other men have drowned, dont build a family where other men have failed to build a family. maybe she is the exception(from reading this it doesnt sound like it), or maybe you lack the experience to discern what you are dipping into, but ill say realise that you are inserting yourself in some other man's family, and not just some guy's family but a fractured family, and it will never be fixed. trust me i was the step child, there is no happily ever after with blended families, thats why theres all these videos because ordinarily you cant know this stuff if you never experienced it. theres endless complications when it comes to blended families, you think she doesnt have feelings for him but she does, she literally let him make a copy of himself without commitment, just because some people have toxic and abusive relationships doesnt mean they dont love each other through all that hate and dysfunction. relationships in our times are hard enough, go find someone else, i know its hard to hunt for yourself but you have to, you dont have a choice. you have what it takes to get your own girl, one you can grab by the hair knowing you got her by normal merits, not one who allowed you to get her because of circumstances.
I'm a single mom survivor here. Got out clean & very lucky because I almost didn't a couple of times. The Lord was looking out for me 🙏 All he says it absolutely true. Poor decision making, her 2 girls struggled in school, spends more than she makes, house/car a constant mess, couldn't bond with the kids, constant ex drama, always complaining, I was always 3rd rate even to the cats, But the sex was great lol.
Not to mention the ex can train their child to lie on the new boyfriend just to get out of child support gaining custody I’ve seen that happen to a guy in the past. Ps that’s why most people are against remarriage.
One bad thing about being a single mum, that my son doesn't learn any man life skills. Only when i go to parents place then dad teachers him how build stuff. I just get son help mow the lawn. Wash dishes but i don't know how teacher how to build . Because am single mum yes he goes to public school and i only work part time because i don't have anyone to help out . I tried to work full time but to difficult as late picking up a few times then made to pay extra hard when theres no man around to help. So i get some government help being a single mum. I choice the wrong man he was controlling and isolated me from friends and family as living in state where have no help. Am divorced
I'll never date another one again had 4 kids with different dads. She wanted me to pay for everything and gave nothing back in return I stopped dating her after a few months a waste of time and effort completely useless
The #1 reason for me is the biological father. They're usually jealous and will even try to cause trouble or try to take your life. Lots of men lost their lives dealing with single mothers.
The women should choose better men.
thats why i stay away from single moms. Widows on the other hand are completely different.
This is going to sound weird but from April 2015 to June 2018 I had a series of nightmares where a relationship with a single mom led to the biological father wanting to kill me. The nightmares stopped years ago but still bother me.
@@RexColt men should also choose better women…
True.
NEVER DATE A SINGLE MOTHER
Period, especially if you don't have any kids of your own.
If you go broke she'll leave you 😂😂
EVER!
Period.
I dated a single mom for 2 years. After the relationship, she told her 10 year old son to burn all my clothes. Same son she wanted me to love and be a father to for so long. Currently involved in a court case against her. NEVER AGAIN!!!!
Wow that’s awful man. What’s the court case about?
@@K4113B4113 She loaned a lot of money from me, and refuses to pay me back. Nothing but trouble
@@wabosenglishhub That sucks. Hope you get it back and never have to see her again.
@@wabosenglishhub how are rhings going?
@@wabosenglishhub thanks her too court for accountability
I dated a single mom of 2. Different dad's. It was cool. We dated for 2 years. Then we had a fight and broke up for a month and she calls me back wanting to come back but in those 30 days she got pregnant by another dude. So now she's gonna be a mother of 3 with 3 baby dad's. Lol I dodged a bullet because I'm working towards my masters degree and buying a house and I cant imagine if that would've been mine. It's crazy. Women are fucked up
'Merica.
I'm Sorry, but that Woman is Out of Control. I've met many Single Mothers who don't Sleep with anyone!! Men love to JUDGE ALL women for what One or Two women do; but When you say to them: "ALL MEN ARE THE SAME" They All Jump and Get Offended. If Single Mothers are all the same; ALL MEN are abusive and Cheaters. ha, ha, ha.
😂😂😂
Dude I'm speaking to this chick right now, single mum, and she says that she wants me to nut in her. These bitches are addicted to random semen.
These 304's are dirty and spiteful asf!
just remember that the kids, not yours, will always come first
I dated a single mom back in 2016. I will never never ever date another one for as long as i live.
Absolutely correct, you are!! Having a relationship with a single mother is like carrying extra luggage throughout your journey. Travel. Light and with necessities only! God bless
@@supercat380 it actually was like that. Who in their right mind would repeatedly do that? Not me.
@@shawnsuave5694 you are indeed a certified smart man through this wise decision😊
@@shawnsuave5694 The SM i dated is my neighbor (still). She found another "victim". They always find a simp, thats the sad thing. In china they are fucked, called leftover women.
me tooooo worse thing i ever did
When a women says she doesn’t need a man, that means she doesn’t want to take care of a man but she still needs a man to provide for her.
single moms often have no boundaries, sleeping around is normal too them
That’s all women bc of a thing called hypergamy
Man 15 reasons is not needed just don't do them
There is really only 1 reason not to date a single mother that matters- SHE HAS A CHILD!
Simple but profound. Enough said
Are you god?
A child that's not yours and never will be
children of single moms often come to a bad end
100% Correct ... Prisons / Jails are full of criminals who were raised by a single mother... Single mothers are useless at raising children... Single mothers are not very good at anything other than opening their legs for "Chad" and "Tyrone"
Never again, to put up with lots of problems and you will never get anything back from them, except anger and disrespect.
Do not do it, guys.
@@Mandy-Bee-k7k nothing but a used vagina and problems...
@@Mandy-Bee-k7kNot really I dated one as well and I had to pay for everything and she didn't do one thing for me except cheat expect me to pay all her bills and children's stuff had no discipline on the children. And had an awful personality. She didn't bring nothing to the table as well as my child's mother except fights over miniscule things. Unless you can prove that your not. And not change up when you get commitment and are there for the man and want to help and not just keep off the man.
Oh and forgot to say we were dating for a week and she got a speeding ticket and she wanted to to pay the 600 dollars for her and if I didn't I wasn't a good bf. Like get outta here
I have no kids and dated a single mother I tried to make it work but in less than two months I had to end it cause she would always bring up her kids dad like “my baby daddy this and my baby daddy that” lastly I asked her if she knew how to cook cause I was the one cooking then she responded with “I used to cook for my husband, yes I can cook” I was like ehhhh I’m out of here. Also, she is still married to him.
I am 51. In 1995 I was 22 US Army stationed in Germany 🇩🇪. Met gorgeous Brazilian who had 2 kids w German and was getting divorced. I fell in love. Moved in. But, I knew it was a bad call.
Army asked if I wanted to extend 1 more year in Germany? I said no, knowing it would hasten our break up. It did. 1998, I was back in USA 🇺🇸, and got a Christmas 🎄 card from her w new last name Tucker and military address. She married another soldier. 2004, I bumped into her in Germany 🇩🇪 again !! She had another kid w the American. I was an officer now. We had a 1 hour conversation. Caught up. They moved to Georgia. 2019, I went back to Germany. I FB peeked her. Divorced. I am happy w my wife and 2 kids in California. I was lucky 🍀. It’s painful. Like cutting off your infected leg. But, you will be better off. Trust me. I wish I could talk to her 2nd ex husband and ask if he felt it was worth it. He got 2 kids out of her, so maybe? But, now I know she is bound to him and Georgia for YEARS due to custody. Oh well. Life.
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Screw that crap. I would've got outta there too!
Don't be a woman's clean-up Guy. Or rebound guy. Respect yourself brother
They shouldn't have cancelled Stefan , he is one of the smartest philosophers ever.
Lol. That’s why they canceled him
Yes, that’s why he’s gone. Truth terrifies them.
Philosophy is not truth or facts
@@matthewrodgers740 He was very philosophical in between dropping truthful facts weak people couldn’t handle. Hence, they cancelled him.
that's why they cancelled him.
You will NEVER be priority number one. You are only a meal ticket for as long as she can find somebody she can level up with. She will expect you to divert your every resource so her kids can go to college to be damned if you save a penny for your retirement. Even when the kids grow to be an adult, you will be stuck footing the bill for her grand kids. I'm speaking from experience. IT WILL NEVER END.
I dated a divorced single mom for 4 years and got fuck over and over and over again. don’t do it guys
how so? did she take your money and run? or lied to you
Especially when you ain’t go no one children yourself
"Like clowns coming out of a car at the circus". That made my day!
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I also got that hilarious mental image...🤣
1. Lose your wretched attitudes.
2. Realize you sit on the bottom of the dating pool.
3. You compete with gorgeous, young women who are kid free!
4. You have nothing to offer high value men.
5. Accept personal responsibility for failing to preserve the family you had.
6. To attract/keep a man, you need to do EVERYTHING better than your competitors (young hotties with no kids).
7. Lower your expectations. In reality, you have nothing to offer except another man's offspring.
8. Grab the first simp you can. This is as good as it gets for you. Just try not to destroy his life too...
True however most woman think as they age up they become more desirable and that's not the case
@@MrShabamon my working theory is that it’s all solipsism. Women constantly want a man who is around their age, maybe slightly older. So if they’re 40, and want to date a man aged 40-45, they assume that the same attributes that they’re attracted to, will attract men. So if they’ve also advanced in their career, gone on exotic trips, picked up hobbies, etc, then they think that they’ve gained value on the dating market.
Unfortunately for them, men don’t select women based off of how much they help their own life. Men select women based off of their looks and personality. A cute 20-something that smiles and is sweet will always Trump a 40 year old woman, no matter what.
Man I do feel bad for them. To pay for a mistake your entire life, that’s harsh for anybody. I’m sure there are some if not lots of guys in prison humbled and deserving of a second chance.
And let’s be honest, we’ve all risked it once or twice with a girl in our youths. Yeah it’s a choice and a dumb one at that but you’re not exactly thinking clearly when all your blood is localised in the nether regions.
It would suck to accidentally get someone pregnant and pay for it your entire life by being akin to a piranha on the dating market.
Having said that I’m not gonna argue for dating single mothers, but I do feel bad for them. But I guess they’ll always have some blue pilled beta bucks prospects so maybe it’s all good.
@@K4113B4113 They're truly not worth pity... 🤢
Can I buy you a beer?
All these reasons can be distilled to one sentence. Single mothers have too many problems and baggage, therefore, DO NOT make her problems and baggage your problems and baggage.
All Men Do Need Continued Education In Red Pill
we must continue to teach red pill to all men especially the young ones
@@IsambardKingdomyeah be a 40 years and marry a 20 year old.....
If that's your teaching, u are just a clown then.....
I've watched many videos about not dating single Moms.
Yours has been the best so far.
Really hits home why you shouldn't date single moms.
Try Keven Samuels on TH-cam.
@@ericdebord RIP Godfather
Taylor The Fiend , manosphere, 2 other good channels.
The Baby dad lives in her mind forever and she will always be sexually attracted to him
You mean the child's father not the "baby dad"
Why would she be always sexually attracted to the baby daddy?
@@jokicback2backmvp877he seeded her womb. He gave her a child. They shared that bond. And from research is showing microchimerism shows likely she retains the dna from all men she slept with. Remember women are emotional. Baby is an intensely physical and emotional endeavor. She walks around saying who the baby daddy is. Looks at Chad Jr. and looks for the part of Chad in child.
It’s just a known “thing” how we all agree the sky is “blue” and get on with the day.
This is so true
Thats so true. I even had one tell she was in love with the childs father and will always love him. How stupid can you be to tell your boyfriend that?
They are self destructive damaged good and will destroy anyone who tries to help them. I ain't deliberate - it's in their nature. It's like the story of the fox and the scorpion.
Very well said!
I feel bad for single mothers
Stephan is 100% absolutely right. There are exceptions to everything of course but by and large he is spot on.
Sorry, no exceptions. It's the circumstance created by stupid careless people.
Now it is 2023. The stats have come in. Single father households fare almoat as well as two parent households, while single mothers do far worse than both single father or two parent households; yet family courts overwhelmingly give custody to single moms.😂
after age 2 to 3 years parenting should be dominated by the fathers and other men
a birthing woman has already chosen their provider. men would be well advised to not step on another man's toes in this regard. the only reason I need.
Yeah, i tried twice with this one woman. Both times she hopped off of me onto another man. Shes currently banging another guy right now as it is. Stopped talking to me because i was hesitant to raise another guys kid. Man i couldnt help it, her little girl wanted me to pick her up and told me she loved me but I didnt feel the same. Seeing another guys facial features made me ill
Facts
I am 51. In 1995 I was 22 US Army stationed in Germany 🇩🇪. Met gorgeous Brazilian who had 2 kids w German and was getting divorced. I fell in love. Moved in. But, I knew it was a bad call.
Army asked if I wanted to extend 1 more year in Germany? I said no, knowing it would hasten our break up. It did. 1998, I was back in USA 🇺🇸, and got a Christmas 🎄 card from her w new last name Tucker and military address. She married another soldier. 2004, I bumped into her in Germany 🇩🇪 again !! She had another kid w the American. I was an officer now. We had a 1 hour conversation. Caught up. They moved to Georgia. 2019, I went back to Germany. I FB peeked her. Divorced. I am happy w my wife and 2 kids in California. I was lucky 🍀. It’s painful. Like cutting off your infected leg. But, you will be better off. Trust me. I wish I could talk to her 2nd ex husband and ask if he felt it was worth it. He got 2 kids out of her, so maybe? But, now I know she is bound to him and Georgia for YEARS due to custody. Oh well. Life.
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@@deaddropsd1972 PS5? 🤣 thanks for sharing your story
lol
Facts
never again. listen to the men!
Women will consider this hate-speech. lol
The truth is hate to those who hate the truth.
All truth is hate speech 🤷♀️
Like most things that are TRUE!!!
I didn’t even date, I was just talking to one casually through text and I wanted to die. Her mental was so wrecked! She was the biggest turn off I’ve ever experienced.
Quickly understood why she was single.
It's not single moms....it's not single dad's...it's kids who get the shaft.Your a guy with no kids...then ya stay the hell away from single moms.Because a good one wouldn't want you in their life anyways....
Simp lol
"Because a good one wouldn't want you in their life anyways" FACTS.
dont want another mans mistakes sorry suffer
You can date a single mom if her kids have moved out and have their own lives.
But , men are staying single for eternity.
Still don’t be a stepdad
BM articulates this topic so well.
I took on a single mom, no amount of effort and dollars from me changed how the child turned out, poor genetics from baby daddy won.
I was with a single mom for seven years what actually broke my heart wasnt her affair it was the look in her kids eyes when i said goodbye. Brutal.
I married a single mom, it didn't work out. I wouldn't do it again because by and large, single mothers have low self esteem who have chosen terrible, unhealthy men. But I am grateful for the chance to have helped raised her children and teach them values of hard work and making good choices in their lives. Save your money, work hard, be the best you can be, don't have sex before marriage but if you do, don't knock them up! Today they still remain in touch with me for friendship and counsel. I don't buy into any of that "They're not your children" BS. That's pure selfishness. If I have made a difference in their lives and making better choices and changing bad traditions, it will have been worth it to society and civilization.
That’s where you go wrong raising another man child
Sir was it really worth it in the end? Think about how much money you wasted on her and her kids. Think about how much time you wasted dealing with that woman. Also I hate to say it but you are a simp of the worst kind. If that woman respected and appreciated you she would still be married to you and followed your program. You get no prizes for cleaning up another man’s mess. And you get no accolades for saving a single mom. In the end all you got was a broken heart and broken wallet. So stop trying to make yourself seem like you are doing society a favor by saving single mothers. She did you the same way that she did the men that came before you! All single mothers need to continue down the conveyor belt of misery and destruction until they drop into the bucket!
Truth has been spoken.
stuuuuupid!! ... for every single mom, there's a single dad who we have to watch out for almost all the same reasons! ... he's "committed" for the next 18 years!! .... men are such selfish GD hypocrites!
SO, All men are Cheaters, and ALL MEN are wife beaters then??
Who hurt you bro?
Bed Em , Don't Wed Em, don't let them move in, Don't give them a key,
"Tough & Independent" aren't really traits I look for in a woman. So whether single mothers are/aren't Tough & Independent is kind of a moot point anyway.
I'm looking for "Gentle & Feminine" etc... as opposed to some wannabe man.
Step 1: Have a kid
Step 2: Find a dad to take care of it
The American way 🇺🇸
Even if it's not the birth dad
stuuuuupid!! ... for every single mom, there's a single dad who we have to watch out for almost all the same reasons! ... he's "committed" for the next 18 years!! .... men are such selfish GD hypocrites!
You mean... find a simp to care of the kid.
You mean find a sucka.
If I could like this twice, I would!
haha thanks
I was at the court house to pay a speeding ticket and i saw 26 single moms there to claim child support that day and hear is the really crazy part all thoses kids had the same fathers most of those kids were related they had all been sleeping with the same 4 men
And What that Says About those 4 "men"??
People like those are the trash of society
@@anymjohnson1729 that they are disgusting animals
They got pregnant by the local "community activist" 😂
The odd part is the statistics on divorce say over 70 percent of women actively leave the marriages on their own choice
I remember this video. Stefan says it hard. Impressive with impact, as always.
whatta treat to see stef on u tube again. its like the good ol days
They say the best thing a man can do for his kids is love his wife.. they never say anything about women.. coz they don’t have the capacity of a man.
Forget the 15 rules just don’t do it is easy as that
They really did Stefan wrong. Canceled for what? I never heard a good reason.
@Orange Buddha Apparently, he still makes stuff but stears clear of politics. It all got to be too much for him I suppose. Plus he loves his family. Sad how the "free" West isn't so free anymore.
I married the tri fecta of dysfunction. A Single mother that was divorced, daddy abandonment issues, with a son husband. It was doomed before it started!
Thanks guys. This is a reupload from one of my favorite channels before he got his channel deleted by the psychos on TH-cam! Thanks homies!
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I was looking for this for years. Thanks for the reupload as I couldn't find it on Bitchute.
Masterpiece. Both funny and logical, you nailed it!
Went out one date following week asking for help rent dodger tickets or car payment. 😂😂😂😂
no thanks
for god sake where can i find his videos ?
He uploads to odysee under the name freedomain
I appreciate your help .thank you very much sir.👍 @@apples874
The biological father will always be part of your life. ALWAYS. Best to just not go there.
I keep seeing videos on why guys shouldn’t date a single mom. And i get it. Completely get it.
But… can you make a video on what a single mom should do? Like some advice?… like… is this it? Life pretty much ends for single moms?
Anyone that comes across this comment, give me your response pls. No rude comments, I genuinely want to know.
My mom was married to my father for ten years and had me and my brother. Then they divorced because he cheated several times. My mom never remarried or dated or met with another guy ever again. My dad was her first everything (sex, relationship, kiss, marriage etc). She stayed loyal to him and got spat on in the end and then decided to stay alone for ever and raise her two kids.
The short answer is this: KARMA is a big ole' 304 beeatch.
In general, girls are in their prime between 18-25 years old. Guys? The girls don't talk to them when they're 18. By 21, he's not good in bed. 23, he has no life experience. 25 and still broke. But when he hits 28-35 years old the vultures start swirling overhead. These same females that rejected him and talked sh*t about and to him just 10 years earlier are now VERY interested in him. There are tons really nice guys in their late teens and early 20s, it's simply girls only want the top 1% and reject those who they perceive as "less than". So what's a single mom to do? They wanted the bad-boy, so they got him and everything that went along with him. They rejected the nice guy who wanted to be with her 10 years before.
@@mitch1847 Girls want may want good guys but they do NOT want nice guys, nice guys come off as fake bro
As a single, mid 30s man with no kids, my best advice is to raise your damn kids. Your life isn't over, you started another life that you have to take care of. So do it.
I have no such commitments except work. Heck, I don't even work anymore. I quit two months ago and have doubled my income with swing trading.
I am an electrician, so I'm not some doctor you'd swoon over. I'm the guy that can fix your problem, whatever your problem. House, car, I do all my own maintenance unless the tools are more expensive than the job. My outstanding debt is $2200.
Yeah. It doesn't drop any panties over here either. You're shopping out of your league, and if she ain't obese, I'm shopping out of my league. But I'm not taking on the liability of another mans b@stard. I have assets to lose. It really is a simple cost benefit analysis. You can hope for is a simp or captain save a 304, but you'll likely always be disappointed in him.
I am loving your mom!!! She has enough self worth to leave a bad relationship. Creating a better, happier life for her kids and herself. I would be very carefull about dating any man if i were a single mom, the well being of my kids comes first.
She is the exception!!!
I want you guys opinion? What if I am a single father. Should I still have the same mindset when it comes to single moms or be open to it?
No you can't because you are not in the same caliber of other men. Single parents should seek to date other single parents. So you should only being dating single mothers or widowed women with children not childless women as it isn't fair for both parties.
Have the same mindset. It’s rewarding to take care of your own children and a thankless job to take care of another man’s children.
Andre Scott: If that is your baby in the picture; He is beautiful!!! If you want my honest Opinion; Be Smart, and don't let Any man or people tell You what to Do with Your Life. One thing that You should never Do, is live your life according to Other people's Opinions! Always get to know the person/woman first; I say that because You could be missing out on a Gem of a Woman if you go with Prejudice into a relationship. There are a lot of Single mothers who are probably not the best fit for You; and there are many that Could be a Great fit for You; as it has nothing to Do with being a Single Mother and more to Do with the Person itself.
Andre Scott: Keep in mind that You want to meet and be with a Nice Lady; regardless of her Age, Civil Status, or children. Some Single Mothers happen to be Very Solid and Decent Women. Some Single Mothers also give Great education and Good manners to their children. Also, Not every single mother depends on Gov't Assistance.
@@anymjohnson1729 thanks for the kind words!!! God bless you be safe out there
i knocked up a single mom convinced her ex to adopt, and i fled never to look back
You’re a deadbeat father
It's equally true for both sexes. Dating, or having relationships with single moms, or single dads is like going swimming in a pond full of sharks, and you are bleeding. The moms and dads are really craving for a break from their responsibilities, and you will be the wallet, or baby sitter, or both in the end. So stay away from the pond!
WOW, what a generalization! So, is SAFE to SAY that ALL MEN are ABUSIVE then?? And that ALL MEN CHEAT??
Not equal. Definitely can suck for both. However it is not equal
Man this is my first video of yours I’m watching let me just say your absolutely correct and Rest in Paradise to my good friend Brandon Montelongo your last name is exactly what drew me here and I’m taking this video as a lesson told
I miss Stefan. He's analysis and commentary was on a next level.
I often wondered what happened to his channel.
They take their relationship the least seriously… you are the very last thing once she gets her fix in the first few months
Nice video, does he have a channel.
Stefan was one of the first creators on you tube. He had millions upon millions of views and lots of videos. He was cancelled though. He still posts elsewhere but tries not to post anything controversial.
Single mom I was with kept a young guy around and cheated on me.
The SM i was with for almost 4 years on the 2nd or 3rd year she started to get iffy but would always gaslight me and deflect or downplay me when i'd address these concerns. I suspected "our" friend Josh Barringer of fucking around with her because of the friendliness, he started coming around to our apartment wayy too much calling her too frequent speaking to us on messenger video when he could've called me. Man that's that fake shyt brother i tell ya. I never had any real proof but it's that gut feeling and red flags i feel. He eft two of his axe body sprays (copying off of me, he always wanted to be me) at our apartment from him hanging out with us the day before and i asked her whose they were, and she said your friend (Josh). There started to be random tension from him when he would hang out with us like he was frustrated but scared to fight. I went distant and stayed with my parents for about a month (due to this antagonizing old 304 name Tonya that was talking shyt about my brother so i was simply avoiding her) but this led to our sudden demise. She lied and said that i didn't talk to her for a whole month (that's not true) . So she suddenly text me while she knew i was at my family reunion talking about. We need to talk and face to face but she ended up sending me a paragraph saying why she wants to take a "break" because she needs to take care of her mom being on oxygen and living with her, herself, her kids (which don't live with her and live with her sister. Because she was unhappy. She also said that she didn't wanna be in a relationship right now. I'm thinking like yeah kool if that's what you want . But after i came from the reunion that i didn't get to enjoy because her text ruined it . I went to her apartment while i knew she was gone partying to get my PS5 and clothes ASAP. She said that we can still be friends and fuck tho. But i told her the next day i was good on that "i don't take breaks". However, we did smash again the following day but i didn't even orgasm and the flame was really gone and she was dry even more than usual. Went against everything for her but the first chance she got she was fucking with other niggas and lied about it. One i suspect was my so called friend Josh. I had that gut-feeling so really she wasn't fooling nobody. She claimed she would never fuck Josh due to him being hideous, and like a brother to her but i never beleived her lying ass! She even thought that would make it credible i her mom vouched for her.. She was also raised by a single mother and her sisters are single mothers too. Except one of the sisters.
Fuck her move on
I agree...nice presentation....ill be back....when will people respect life ? When there is hardly any left..
Just got out of one with 8 kids holy hell did i get burned and i mean burned
Details?
Eight?!
It's not always like this. My dad married my mum when she had my two older half-brothers. Their dad died in a house fire and wasn't the best person when he was alive. They instantly liked my dad and even more when I was born. My parents have been married for 13 years and still are. Just remember that not all relationships like this are trash, it just depends if you can handle it, or if the mother is crappy.
lucky for you, however exceptions do not disprove the vast majority of outcomes
Not talking about widowed women. That's completely different than what's being discussed here.
@@scotabot7826 my mum was a single mother when she met my dad though??? That is what's being said here. The difference is that my brother's father wasn't in the picture since he is, well, dead.
You just named the exception to the rule..She was a widow that's different
@@nananyantakyi1549 we may well have more sympathy for the widow - but life is not fair - she is still a single mother - maybe no pos bio father interfering - however believe me all the other problems remain and will eventuate -
I saved this one, even before I watched it all 👍🇬🇧
Briliant ! 100% true
This is the realest i ever heard it broken down on these single mothers. Excellent video
Just wondering where the male responsibility fits in this....
Exactly 💯!
Something happen with me. I was dating a single mom with 4 kids and she was like 40 or some crap. That Slut was so dumb she left me with no closure and blocked me after 5 years of dating. I had to pay for everything and even help pay those kids shit. She got all different baby dads and didn’t even consider getting married or child support for them. She barley worked and heavy into drugs and alcohol. I was huge into the gym and work and she didn’t think I was loyal enough. She walked anyway . So my question is it worth running back to when I had lots of investment with her? She did have some good things tho like works, nice car, nice chemistry and etc. Now she’s dating a new dude even the new dude disrespected her kids, her culture and own family. On the other hand I respected them all. Any suggestions???
He should teach a class, he speaking facts 😂
Thx. Your wisdom is very much appreciated sir.
Brother, this video is awesome and so true. :D
This guy is just amazing Because he was that good they destroyed him on YT. Good you put these videos on. As a single mum i can tell you he is 200% right. We already have the babies, we always need more cash.
You need to do more content like this
What’s this guys name ?
Stefan Molyneux
dumbo
no timestamps😢
Wow. This one might last a week or 2 at the most but thanks for the re-upload.
Andrew Tate gets banned because of this. STAY AWAY from Red Flaggs Woman. At all cost. My last 2 years, was incredible. 19 Countries in 14 Months. Dream Car, Motorbike... Thats only i found Red Pill 2 years ago.
Stefan got banned far before anyone knew who Andrew Tate is
This video is about this man and how he never forgave his mom leaving his dad.
I know few single moms that are in successful relationships( after a while not straight after ) after breaking up with a father of the child .
Literally nothing that you wrote changes the fact that dating a single mom is in every way WORSE than dating a woman without kids.
@@user-vg8ox3he1i.....Why is it always wose? A lot of Women without kids have issues as well!
Awesome! 👏👏👏
Best presentation yet about the down side of single mothers - Men watch it 10 times and memorise this content and teach young men
Great philosopher, and he is missed¡
Been thinking about leaving my situation she's 25 and has a 5 year old and honestly is the best girl I've ever met in my life... She's done anything I've asked of her and more constantly shows love affection and care and cleans and cooks talks about the future and shows nothing but loyalty and respect to the point she asks me if her cloths are appropriate, I haven't caught her in a single lie, and she is going to college for a hair degree. I've already told her about disciplining her child and that if she shields him from me at any point I will leave.. She completely agrees that I should be disciplining the child just not physically obviously but tbh I wouldn't hit my own child. We've also discussed that if he hits me with the your not my father he will be punished not that I want him to call me dad but saying that would hurt my feelings. Her bd is a deadbeat who wants to see the son but doesn't want to pay child support, I've read there messages without her knowing and it honestly seems like she just wants child support from him and has no feelings for him (that Ik of) because he used to beat and abuse her. The only negative I can think about is that shes somewhat controlling but I feel it's in a good way at times like getting me to fold my cloths and clean my room sounds like a mom ik but it is something I need to start doing she has a bit of an attitude too. I've been talking to her since August of 2021 and really as I get deeper into the relationship I get a little scared... Like I'm scared to put all this effort and money into someone elses legacy and lineage... Or for him to resent me... I just want that spiritual bond with my son and ik I can't have that with him so it makes me a bit sad. She really is a great person so it would hurt to cut her off should I try to make it work or leave? Idk what I should do can someone help me?
Think real hard about your long term future...and what her job or career brings in financial....are you the bread winner? Look 3 years or maybe even 10 years into your future with her and the kids....will u still be happy? I was in your situation at one time and it didn't work not because of her but I was in a position that wasn't ready to continue with her. The only thing that bothered me the most was my age being 20 yrs older than her.. don't ignore the facts that are there. This is a big change in your life you will be stepping into. I was happy dating the single mother but it didn't go past 1year. Again not because of her it was my decision to leave. She is with someone else now and is dedicated to him. I am happy for them if it was really meant to be? So think real hard how u want this and if u will regret letting her go? Just don't ignore how you really feel about the future...don't ignore the facts and I'm talking about everything your feelings how she feels her about you and teats you with respect...ect... ect...
You already have the answer. You are simp, and just keep on simping loser.
Leave bro get the pain over with a lot of us have been there done that it’ll be one of the best hardest decisions you made. As a man we’re territorial and that deadbeat man will always be in her life because they are technically a family if you accept it or not and and at any point that man can get his shvt together and comeback it’s always a backdoor for him he’s the biological father you’ll nvr get that real love from her son especially in this society he’ll grow to resent you because your not his dad so especially when you discipline him he’ll deep down think your not my dad idgaf wha you saying without him actually saying it. Trust me man go build your own legacy and lineage don’t build another man’s he’ll get the credit you never will plus you’ll have an actual real bond with your own kids and it’ll nvr be an awkward conversation or awkward situation when it’s time to discipline your kids cuz they are yours and they won’t resent you low key because you are their biological dad and it’ll nvr be a backdoor for another man just y’all 💯
And also life happens so say for instance if she cheats or gets bored or just decides she doesn’t want to be with you anymore and you have built a relationship with that kid and put a lot into him financially she can take him away from you no questions asked cuz your not the biological father and If she wanted you can nvr see that kid ever again and she could easily hold that against and use him as a weapon to get things out of you
dont swim where other men have drowned, dont build a family where other men have failed to build a family. maybe she is the exception(from reading this it doesnt sound like it), or maybe you lack the experience to discern what you are dipping into, but ill say realise that you are inserting yourself in some other man's family, and not just some guy's family but a fractured family, and it will never be fixed. trust me i was the step child, there is no happily ever after with blended families, thats why theres all these videos because ordinarily you cant know this stuff if you never experienced it. theres endless complications when it comes to blended families, you think she doesnt have feelings for him but she does, she literally let him make a copy of himself without commitment, just because some people have toxic and abusive relationships doesnt mean they dont love each other through all that hate and dysfunction. relationships in our times are hard enough, go find someone else, i know its hard to hunt for yourself but you have to, you dont have a choice. you have what it takes to get your own girl, one you can grab by the hair knowing you got her by normal merits, not one who allowed you to get her because of circumstances.
I'm a single mom survivor here. Got out clean & very lucky because I almost didn't a couple of times. The Lord was looking out for me 🙏
All he says it absolutely true. Poor decision making, her 2 girls struggled in school, spends more than she makes, house/car a constant mess, couldn't bond with the kids, constant ex drama, always complaining, I was always 3rd rate even to the cats, But the sex was great lol.
lol lol you lost me on the IQ part. so I am dumb because I am not married? or I missed something on the statement
You do not know what average mean do you ? Ironically you display your lack of intellect with your comment!
What about psycho ex husband, he is also in the package.
Wow, this is one of the most toxic and bigoted men that I have ever seen in my life.
Exactly 💯!
He is absolutely right!!!
Don’t guys don’t. I did and I regret
Not to mention the ex can train their child to lie on the new boyfriend just to get out of child support gaining custody I’ve seen that happen to a guy in the past. Ps that’s why most people are against remarriage.
15 reasons not to brush your teeth with brake cleaner.
Loved this very informative video. We are in idiocracy in the making. The plants crave electrolytes 😂
One bad thing about being a single mum, that my son doesn't learn any man life skills. Only when i go to parents place then dad teachers him how build stuff. I just get son help mow the lawn. Wash dishes but i don't know how teacher how to build . Because am single mum yes he goes to public school and i only work part time because i don't have anyone to help out . I tried to work full time but to difficult as late picking up a few times then made to pay extra hard when theres no man around to help. So i get some government help being a single mum. I choice the wrong man he was controlling and isolated me from friends and family as living in state where have no help. Am divorced
Yeah thats why a single mom ALWAYS needs help not love. Only a young woman with a low body count can still love. Thats the truth.
I'll never date another one again had 4 kids with different dads. She wanted me to pay for everything and gave nothing back in return I stopped dating her after a few months a waste of time and effort completely useless
rarely does it work out long term