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I do it ..met my stepson at 4 and he’s 8 ..my wife respects me as a man so she has no problem with me raising him as I see fit….if a man is walking around feeling like a toothless lion ..it’s not because of the woman and child only because they’re the weaker vessel
@Royale5600 Only a weaker vessel would raise another man's seed. There are thousands of men saying this. And it doesn't matter how much your wife respects you. You are not the biological father which means the actual biological father can overrule your say so despite what your wife says. He has rights YOU DON'T. And he can take y'all to court if he wants. Drama is an understatement. If it works for you, fine, BUT don't suggest or make it seem like it should be normalized or ok. You've missed the entire point.
@@Royale5600Or maybe he he holds it down for the mother and the children from another man, but is not being appreciated or getting the respect he deserves. Probably has no say on the discipline of the children...yet spends time and money with them. This wouldn't make him the "weaker vessel", that would be the woman. It is up to him to move on, but to jump on the guy because your situation is the exception to the rule is crazy. You sound like a woman.
I’m 23 years old me personally I have a stepfather I consider him my real father cause I interacted with him more than my real father I think you should do what you want to do in life and have people who don’t even know you how to live me personally do whatever it’s your life
It's been a thankless job for decades! Especially after you separate! The moms don't remember that you raised the kid or kids that ain't yours and they don't care about it either!
@@George-dy3pt my problem with having this way of thinking is you would have to live by this in more than just a sexual relationship if Everyman and woman thought like this the world would be way more colder than it already is
15 years is a long time when did you figure you didn’t want to be a step dad let me guess 😂😂😂 today cause daddy Anton posted a video about step dads y’all some followers Man think for yourself 😂😂😂
@@Jaydagoat_15you must be a proud stepdad. I was one for 9 years and it's not worth it from the beginning. Anton is dropping jewels to save the next man from going down that path
@@user-sz8il7io2p I’m 23 bro and a proud step dad to I got my own kids with my baby momma and her and my new girl they get along I thought it wasn’t gone work at first you know how it is me and my girl make sure these bills paid she cook for the family she clean cause I run shit in my house I done hung out with my step kid father smoking weed drinking and we don’t argue or nothing bro nah let me get back to work bro 😂😂😂😂
I had the stepfather experience in my twenties and it wasn't good. Two different fathers, neither wanted to take care of the kids, but, want to see them when they want. It was so humiliated and degrading. I spent my money on them and their mother while the their fathers did nothing. Yes! Brothers I was a SIMP. The big problem with stepfathering is the ladies don't let you know where you stand with the kids. You can throw out money but , when it comes to discipline you don't have so. The lady reminds you they're not your kids. I'm glad I learned it early in life and not late. I'm middle age now and separated. I will not ever again get invloved with a lady with small kids. Adult kids that are on their own only. To the young guys out there. Don't do it. Especially with todays women's attitude.
Not even if the children are grown. I notice women in their 40’s & older who STILL baby their Grown Ass Kids and want YOU To be the silent simp who go’s without while she attempts to re-raise her grown mistakes, because her and the fathers were too inept to do it in their infancy. Procure your Life and funds FIRST, then get you a young, childless woman and groom her to ‘Your liking.’ And Fuck how anyone feels about it.
Remember Fellas: Legacy matters. Ask yourself this question.. what void are you going to fill in a single mother’s life? She has kids already, she’s been through all types of emotional highs and lows with the kid’s father and she gave him the highest honor bearing his child…. You’re setting yourself up for the kill. Your first child must be her first child.
What legacy bro 😂😂😂 just cause you got kids don’t mean you got a legacy you got a million dollar life insurance policy the kids Got a trust fun y’all got kids by multiple different woman talking about a legacy come on bro😂😂😂 if your a regular civilian making 50k and under that’s not a legacy 😂😂😂😂
@@Jaydagoat_15dude Stfu…. You must be a little kid.. what’s the point of having all of that if you dont have a heir to the Throne? Your OWN seed to share it with in the future? Need you to think a little harder smart guy
@@movingforward-fc4lg I agree you shouldn’t go out looking to be a step father but if you just so happen to be a step father that’s the choice you mad and live with what happens whether there good or bad
I've been a stepfather. I'd never do it again. Ever. There's NO ONE more ungrateful than a single mother and her children. You can't discipline the kids. You haven't lived until you've heard your stepdaughter tell you, "YOU'RE NOT MY FATHER!" while the mother just stands there and doesn't check her. She might cheat on you with the baby daddy. What are you getting besides the big piece of chicken and no peace? There's no upside to being a stepfather.
FACT! NO THANKFULNESS AT ALL ESPECIALLY WHEN YOU HAVE RAISED HER KIDS! THEY FORGET ABOUT EVERYTHING YOU HAVE DONE FOR THEM BOTH AND SHE DONT CARE ABOUT IT EITHER!
Totally agree mate ! Theres always that masculine primal ticker in your head, feeling like you want to remove them all from your life. But then logic kicks back in and you know in your heart you cant kill or hurt a woman and kids so you just sit back down and allow yourself to be cucked even more 😂 been there an living it now and i cant wait to leave this bitch and her ratty kids. The only issue is i have my own son with her and i love my son unconditionally and will not leave him with them.
I hope you are right. But I still think it is just too many SIMPS out there who want female attention. And a woman with kids will give it to them so she will not have to struggle.
I don’t understand why men put themselves in situations like this my father always said never take care of another man kids cause the outcome is never good
@movingforward-fc4lg what happens when the biological father doesn't want you disciplining his kids? What if he says, "If you ever whup my kids, I'ma whup your ass. And every time I see you, it's on sight"? Now what? You now know that if you stay in the relationship, you just might have to unalive this dude. What man with options and common sense is signing up for that?
I hope these men listen! Because it's true! These women don't care that you raised their kids especially when you separate from them! All of them forget about the good you did and what you did for her blood and someone else's blood!
Now days dating BW is like signing a contract with the devil a trip to HELL just to get left for another man and 9X outta 10 it's pookies and Ray Ray's. Lol men of GOD gets left for devils
💯...🎯.. I would never talk to women with kids. When I wanted to get married and have kids I found someone single with no kids to start my own family and legacy.
What's the difference from a woman with kids than a woman with no kids cheating on you with her pookie EX and friends with benefits and work husbands. Either way if you find out you are going to leave right and it's still a chance of y'all raising another man's kids without a DNA test because BW cheat more than all the fire 🔥 in hell
Complete. Waste. Of. Time. Tried it 2x , dont recommended for any man building himself or wants more outta life, quickest way to deplete your finances and mental health.
To be honest, the way some black women are treating our black men ,the brother's should not want to be with these ratchet, money hungry,gold digging, multiple baby daddy's heifers, move on my Brother's, I have a 29 year's old Son, and I have told him to stay away from the baby mama's because I'm not going to be a grandmother to someone else's seed. I TOTALLY AGREE WITH YOU, & by the way I've been married for 31 years,so any chicken heads that wants to come for me RETHINK IT!!!!
I am 57 and my mother told me the same. Never bring another man's child in my home. Start your own family. Thank you Mom love you for saving me with that advice.
For any man that disagrees! Ask the woman you are dealing with would she want her son to date a woman with a child. You will get your answer from the source.
I disagree based on the circumstances but your point is spot on. At best they'll say be careful and most will say no. Even if they had someone marry them with kids
Made that mistake when I was younger. Never again. They will never respect you. She will never respect you. Once she finds another. That bond and, more importantly. Your money goes with her. Don't Waste time on single mothers.
@julistar90 Hi. I don't have any children either. But as a goat herder, I do have 1,000 goats. Is that a deal breaker for you? I'm truly looking for my Queen to be.
Who raised them? Their single mama! Speaking against single mothers takes the capacity to be honest with yourself and think negative things about your mother. I had a friend whose mother had 5 kids by 5 different men, he said that in each and everyone of those situations, it was the man's fault things didn't work out. When I pointed out how dumb that sounded, he and I stopped being friends...
Sorry to be this person but …. Being a step mother with a difficult baby momma on the other end is just as disrespectful…. Deadbeat mom trying to make everyone’s life a living hell, including the kid, weaponizing the child, undermining the father … and collecting a check every month and not using it properly … I wish it on no one
Man or woman, it's a bad deal for the childless person. If you don't have kids, your first time experiencing a child should be with another childless person.
Lol facts. It’s very disrespectful. A woman that I know asked me “do I want a stepson?” Mind you I don’t even have kids. So for her to ask me that is a violation. She asked me that as if she doing me a favor. Or if it’s a flex. That let me know what she actually thought of me. She just saw me a servant.
There is a generation of boys that grew up without fathers that want to be what they didn’t have. Then they were raised by their mother that tried to turn them into the men they wanted. These young heads are broken. Will Smith is an example 💯
@@ericvonjeffeson2640 by the same generation of men that said happy wife and happy life while not leading. The men in the house that don’t lead raise broken men. Look at all of these dysfunctional kids that come from beta fathers. From D Wade, Magic Johnson, Ja Morant, and Will Smith look at the dysfunctional kids. A man can be in the house and not lead. Men that are not raised by leaders submit. But you came to argue and giggle instead of thinking 🤔. Single mother raised energy if you’re not adding to the discussion stfu when grown folks are talking 💯
Great comment but Will Smith isn't an example. He didn't grow up fatherless and he's been in Hollywood for decades. He's not normal and neirher are any of the people in his so-called family lol.
@@Carmine.Falcone yeah that was a fail 😂. That era of happy wife happy life raised broken men when the father didn’t lead. I have egg on my face for that one I’ll stand on that 😂. We have those in our families. Beta father is just as bad if not worse than having no father at all. We need masculine leaders and feminine nurturers for these kids to be balanced. Now these kids are getting neither and we’re seeing the dysfunction and to be real I think this femininity freaky Friday swap is a factor in so much more 🌈 in the community. We upset the natural order. But there’s no way Will Smith was raised by a real one moving like this no matter how long he’s been in Hollywood 😂.
As a single mom this depresses me. I do my best for my child and I know I’m a good mom and woman. If this how men feel then I guess I will be on my own forever. It is what it is
Do not fret! Not every man feels this way. Not every situation aligns to this. We are creating more and more dissension between us. No other race of people are doing this on social media platforms. We do this in the spirit of "enlightenment" etc. The program is doing its job - merely by your belief and comment here. Creating isolation, opposed to inclusion. These scenarios are not thr majority. And, there are far greater challenges that humanity is facing at present. You are deserving of love from a man - if that is your desire. You did not make a baby on your own! And, whatever the dynamic that resulted in you being a single mom - is not solely on you. This father/dad should be accountable as well. These types of catch all posts are so damaging to everyone. It is programming at its finest and not in a good way. Always remember, you are worthy eternally. Just because. ❤
Lady let your children grow up and leave the house before dating. Teach your kids not to make the same mistake that you made. Bringing another male into that house that is not their father is bringing chaos into their life. Be the change you want in them.
I took a single mother and her daughter,we had 2 more girls together. She left me 5 years ago. After 3 years of misery I resurrected myself off the scrap heap. Last week I finalized my full custody of my girls,she is ordered to pay me child support and my step daughter moved back home with me and my girls. I have all three of my girls. Nobody will ever say thank you or that I'm doing what's right for them girls, while their mom lives a new life away from all of us with someone else. Focus on your kids,let them be your person and raise them right. Adding someone else in is complicated and comes with too many strings. There is a ton of danger in bringing others close to your babies. Just be careful and protect those kids. It's not about you and what you want, it's about duty to those kids that didn't ask to be born. Teach them to be better than you or me.
I stand firm with his point. Ive been saying this. Why as a single Man who put all this work in, im gonna choose a pre made family or someone else's family... When i can take my time and find a woman that is single and have no children...
This is where I am at informally don’t hardly engage myself with married people or people are in relationships I stop myself even if it’s family members
When I started dating I didn't know what I wanted exactly but I knew exactly what I didn't want and that was to date any female with kids that was my top non negotiable. I wanted to create my own family and did exactly that. I would never advise my son or any young black man to be a step daddy to anyone go build your own legacy...
What if your marriage doesn't work out now she is a single mom with a kid cause of you so now she is no longer valuable because it didn't work out with you
As a person who's been a stepdad on more than one occasion, I can tell you it's not worth the chapter. I'd rather write a new story with a childless woman.
I cosign all the other comments. I married a single mother and it was the worst decision of my life. I tell my stepson all the time , don’t make the same mistake I did.
Dont be a step dad. It is going to ruin you. And once you fall off, BECAUSE you were helping her, SHE IS GOING TO BE GONE. Do Not Do It. They literally have nothing to offer you except sex. Youre the one with everything she wants and needs.
I’m a single dad . I have three daughters. Women who have children do not come near me , as a rule, I always hear them discussing with their friends how they don’t like men who have children. That’s fine with me. It’s great to have three daughters who can keep women like that bay.
I know its so funny isnt it. They expect us to take to their kids and call me cruel for not wanting to play stepdaddy. Yet women truly are cruel and bitchy and would never take to another womans kids. The stats speak for themselves. For every stepmother, there are 10,000 stepdads. Women know the game and play it better than men, i hate to say. But its true.
Because they've been raised from a young age by their mothers to believe that being a stepfather is honorable and admirably masculine. It's only when they personally go through the experience as men that they realize they've been sold a lie, and often, it's too late. Fortunately, men are awakening to these realities and starting to change this narrative. Ty🙏
What if the woman is a widow? What if she was from a legitimate abusive marriage? Not all women are bad or have bad children there are decent people still around.
@@chrispettis1486 how is this BS 😂? These examples exist. Husbands die, men beat women and abuse them verbally, men run off with other women and while in many cases it's not all the man's fault like they make it seem, that doesn't mean the women left behind are all trash. I know a lot of dudes who saved kids lives by becoming their step father. I think the key is the earlier you start the better or if the kids are grown. I will say I have rarely seen it work with teenage children or live in adult children..
What about men who are broke due to things out of their control ? Such as a lay off due to the bad economy. But would a woman care why a man is broke ? No. So why should men care how a woman became a single mother ?
My 14 year old stepson come to me talking about I'm not going to school tomorrow cause it's a field tripped and it's not paid. And this like the 5th time he done it this year. So I gets pissed off and say why do you wait til the day before to tell me this when you could've said something along time ago to pay it. And he insist that they haven't told him nothing about the field trip in school that they sent something to some application that his mother has and never looks at. And Im like this is impossible that that they keep having these field trips and don't tell them nothing ahead of time. So the next day I call the school and speak with the secatary and ask why they don't give the kids advanced notice and she tells me that not only is the field trip free but they told them this yesterday and been talking about the damn field trip to the kids every day. And even after this the dude still sitting in my damn face lying saying they ain't told him and his mother defending all the way talking about he aint lying. Man don't get involved with a single mother.
Amen for not being afraid to speak the truth. I thought I was the only who thought this shit don’t make any sense. These women will never give you authority over those kids because they are not yours yet you will be expected to do everything there real father should be doing but isn’t. It don’t ever make sense.
It's because most men were raising by women. This has led to them being simps or exhibiting simp behaviors. The fear to hold women accountable runs deep in them. Can't criticize momma.
I grew up with two parents but my mom was the dominant force. When I grew up I started to see things in her behavior I object to, but it took awhile before I had the courage to tell her. Now I just tell her straight up ‘mom I disagree with xyz’ but it’s always a big risk she will get offended and give me the silent treatment for a week or two. And my mom is one of the good loyal ones (always stick by my dad even when he wasn’t particularly pleasant)
How did we get here? Every single thing in this Western culture is geared towards rewarding and sparing women the consequences of the bad and foolish actions. Men vote to protect women and children and women vote to protect themselves. All of the push is on one side. The 19th amendment wasn't part of the original Constitution FOR A REASON.
I raised a boy to be a man and no matter the DNA, he is my son. Yall make alot of good point, hold them accountable for they shit, I get it...but what about the kids? They're going to grow up and become adults in our communities.
I’m a stepdad and Dad. I don’t need anyone’s validation or life experiences. If you don’t wanna do it more power to you. Otherwise, move out the way for the next man up!
Your a great man for that I have a step-dad my real dad wasn't there but this man stepped up I love him I call him my dad it's not always a negative experience I had a great experience
Lets be honest me ! The only reason we end up as stepdads is because we are low in our selves and havent done the best for ourselves in life. Thats why you get back, what you give out, in a spiritual sense. When you are at your lowest, you will be dealt the most demoralising tasks in life. When you find your true masculinity and focus and bettering yourself, you’d never allow yourself to be put in such a degrading position.
Step dads are always looking for a pat on the back for being another man's child minder 📣....Meanwhile most baby daddies can still smash on sight.Stop trying to justify a Dummy move,take the L, you a Crash Dummy🔊....#SYSBM ✈✈✈🌎🙏
Single moms tend to choose short time fun over long term stability. Choose the boring dude to begin and stay with. It's not fair to make others pick up for your mistakes.
I'm a single parent & I'm not with it🤬😤💯❗‼️🙏🏽 I'm sorry, raised mine & don't want to raise nobody else's not in LINEAGE 💯❗‼️ Y'ALL FORGET ABOUT FAMILIES, I GOT TO BUY MORE WHICH MEANS LESS FOR MY SEED 🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯 THEN POOKIE & RAYRAY DON'T BUY FOR MY SEED 🤯🤯🤯🤯🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾🔥🙎🏾♀️🙎🏾 NAW, gotta deal with Pookie & rayrays family TOO 🤬😤🏃🏾♀️🏃🏽🏃🏾🏃🏽♀️
I tell you what, why doesnt everyone just start paying their neighbours mortgage…. Whilst you’re at it, pay for the monthly bills too…. And before i forget, pay the fuel for the car, food for the family and every other expense you can think of. But dont expect anything back, because you’re just doing it to be a nice person. Thats the reality of being a stepdad.
Never never never date single mothers guys it’s not worth the risk or just worth it at all…create your own damn seed and family if u want children etc.!
2:35 SINGLE MOTHER PARENTING. Duh, OBVIOUSLY with they mother being a single mother they will sympathize with single mothers. I grew with a single mother, she left due to my father's behavior and other things I won't share on the internet. SHE also decided she will NOT bring in a man to play step father. She dated, I can only remember 2 men honestly but those men were never around the house or me at their house and they playing step daddy.
Come on men, dont go against that primal instinct you feel when you are surrounded by kids and a woman that are nothing to do with you. Get out and leave before that lion comes out of you !
It’s ok to be friends with benefits to a mother but get married and try to run her or your home with step children it won’t work I promise those children can lie and you will be in trouble
Do it go both ways because my daughter don't date men with kids. She said she don't want to be a stepmother she want to be married one day and she want her and her future husband to have their first child together.
It doesn't go both ways. It's a lot easier for a woman to get custody of kids than it is for a man. If the man got custody of the kids that means he's probably pretty responsible. If the women got custody that just means she used the biased legal system and wants child support. Plus it's a lot easier for a woman to get pregnant than it is for a man to get a woman pregnant. A man having kids means that a woman chose him as the father of their child/children. Some women see validation in that. Nobody sees a single mom as validated, because spreading her legs is the easiest thing she can do.
It doesn't work both ways. Society tries to fool men into thinking it does. VVomen play along with the lie. They know it doesn't work both ways, even the delusional ones who truly believe it works both ways are lying to themselves. Here's why. Men who are fathers are proven providers. A vvoman is psychologically wired to seek out a provider and a protector. A man who is a willing father is a proven provider and protector. So a stepmother benefits STILL, from marrying a man with a child or children. She is only inconvenienced by the ex-wife/baby mama being bitter/vindictive. And even then, she ain't going nowhere if her husband protects and provides for her. She still gets something. Stepdaddies get NOTHING.
it goes both ways, a woman should be naturally inclined to want a family of her own, I think the main reason why a woman doesn't mind in general is because men are judged by their social status, so a high value man who can provide stability and protection won't lose as much value with children as a woman, because a woman is value on other terms. but if I were in your situation, I would still tell my daughter to give a man a chance, even if he has children, if he can provide enough stability and protection to take care of her.
Stay on topic, the conversation is about not dating or marrying single mothers. A childless woman shouldn't have a problem marrying a childless man, because most men don't have children.
I agree that you shouldn`t put yourself in that position. But, sometimes you could meet someone who by chance got in a predicament and got a child at an early age when they didn`t know any better. That doesn`t make them a bad person, life just happend. But if you met a person with several children, now that`s another story. My children are now grown. If for any reason I ever got single again, I would never be with anyone with young kids as I`ve been, there, done than n know it just too well. I know what it takes to raise a child. Me and my husband raised our children together with no outside help, so why would I want to help you raise your kids?! I woundn`t mind you having kids, they will just have to be grown and hopefully out of the nest. 😐😑
I was a step daddy @ tha age of 17 to a woman that was 44....had 3 kids...2 of them was older than me....since then I'd absolutely Never would date a woman with kids!!!!
Maybe, as soon as you had decided to be involved with a SM, you should enter therapy with the SM & all her kids. Set rules & expectations on money matters, discipline etc etc. Know what makes or breaks such a "new relationship". By 5th therapy break up without hard feeling if it does not work.
I agree, very very disrespectful. While I understand it's not as simple, however the bad and disruptive behavior needs to stop being rewarded or at the very minimum encourage the bio material contributors to work on the relationship for the kids. Couldn't be me tho...
All the Responsibility to kids that you can't check when they step out of line.....Marrying that Single Mother makes it worst because when you are done being disrespected in the Home you payed for by Her and Her Offspring she gets to Divorce you and take Half of things She didn't invest in.....
There's bad and good with everything that's also comes with being a stepmother and a stepdad But for people who said you shouldn't do it you wouldn't have a lot of actresses athletes and political figures if it wasn't for those men and women who stood up for some else child that wasn't theirs In life love is so rare and incredibly hard to find Don't cheat yourself out of the person You Really supposed to be with because You Want To be accepted by society standards And that's why relationships is so trash because everybody needs their relationship validated by society instead of just validating the happiness between your partners
Can it work? Yes. Is it more for some guys than most? Sure. Did it work out for me? Definitely. Would i suggest it to other guys? 85% of the time, i wouldnt. Few reasons for most guys to do it, olenty of reasons for most guys not to do it. It's situational, but usually just a bad idea.
Being a stepparent is the most unrewarding experience you could ever have in life 😂 Would not recommend. But kudos to those who have a mutually beneficial connection.
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I was a stepfather and it was terrible. I walked around the house feeling like a toothless lion. Don’t do it fellas!
I do it ..met my stepson at 4 and he’s 8 ..my wife respects me as a man so she has no problem with me raising him as I see fit….if a man is walking around feeling like a toothless lion ..it’s not because of the woman and child only because they’re the weaker vessel
@Royale5600 Only a weaker vessel would raise another man's seed. There are thousands of men saying this. And it doesn't matter how much your wife respects you. You are not the biological father which means the actual biological father can overrule your say so despite what your wife says. He has rights YOU DON'T. And he can take y'all to court if he wants. Drama is an understatement. If it works for you, fine, BUT don't suggest or make it seem like it should be normalized or ok. You've missed the entire point.
Not a toothless Lion, Damn that was hilarious 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤦🏾
@@Royale5600Do you have kids of your own?
@@Royale5600Or maybe he he holds it down for the mother and the children from another man, but is not being appreciated or getting the respect he deserves. Probably has no say on the discipline of the children...yet spends time and money with them. This wouldn't make him the "weaker vessel", that would be the woman. It is up to him to move on, but to jump on the guy because your situation is the exception to the rule is crazy. You sound like a woman.
In today's age, being a step father is a thankless job. Lot of baby mamas look at dudes with no kids as walking licks.
I’m 23 years old me personally I have a stepfather I consider him my real father cause I interacted with him more than my real father I think you should do what you want to do in life and have people who don’t even know you how to live me personally do whatever it’s your life
It's been a thankless job for decades! Especially after you separate! The moms don't remember that you raised the kid or kids that ain't yours and they don't care about it either!
@@George-dy3pt my problem with having this way of thinking is you would have to live by this in more than just a sexual relationship if Everyman and woman thought like this the world would be way more colder than it already is
@@Jaydagoat_15actually make us tighten up and build families instead of so many broken homes and this would not be such a problem
Facts learned that living in Chicago. I was a quick lick to them.
I've been a "step-father" for over 15 years. It is the WORSE deal, ever, for a man. NEVER...EVER do it!
R u still there being a Step Dad? Why so long? Just a question
15 years is a long time when did you figure you didn’t want to be a step dad let me guess 😂😂😂 today cause daddy Anton posted a video about step dads y’all some followers Man think for yourself 😂😂😂
@@Jaydagoat_15you must be a proud stepdad. I was one for 9 years and it's not worth it from the beginning. Anton is dropping jewels to save the next man from going down that path
@@user-sz8il7io2p I’m 23 bro and a proud step dad to I got my own kids with my baby momma and her and my new girl they get along I thought it wasn’t gone work at first you know how it is me and my girl make sure these bills paid she cook for the family she clean cause I run shit in my house I done hung out with my step kid father smoking weed drinking and we don’t argue or nothing bro nah let me get back to work bro 😂😂😂😂
@@Jaydagoat_15he was a stepfather for a long ass time. But im sure Anton is not the reason for that
I had the stepfather experience in my twenties and it wasn't good. Two different fathers, neither wanted to take care of the kids, but, want to see them when they want. It was so humiliated and degrading. I spent my money on them and their mother while the their fathers did nothing. Yes! Brothers I was a SIMP. The big problem with stepfathering is the ladies don't let you know where you stand with the kids. You can throw out money but , when it comes to discipline you don't have so. The lady reminds you they're not your kids. I'm glad I learned it early in life and not late. I'm middle age now and separated. I will not ever again get invloved with a lady with small kids. Adult kids that are on their own only. To the young guys out there. Don't do it. Especially with todays women's attitude.
Yea the KID needs to be old enough to watch themselves alone at home at least!
u still simping
better late than never my brother salute
@TruReligionTru Back to you brother. Thank you
Not even if the children are grown.
I notice women in their 40’s & older who STILL baby their Grown Ass Kids and want YOU To be the silent simp who go’s without while she attempts to re-raise her grown mistakes, because her and the fathers were too inept to do it in their infancy.
Procure your Life and funds FIRST, then get you a young, childless woman and groom her to ‘Your liking.’
And Fuck how anyone feels about it.
My favorite girlfriend ultimately wanted me to be a Stepdad to her bad child...I walked away
Great brother run run fast
One of the best decisions you ever made
@@Rashaadthegr8 I'll try to decipher your comment & answer..he came to live with us...after his Mother & I dated several years...
😭😂😂😭😭 pew pew
Same
Remember Fellas: Legacy matters. Ask yourself this question.. what void are you going to fill in a single mother’s life? She has kids already, she’s been through all types of emotional highs and lows with the kid’s father and she gave him the highest honor bearing his child…. You’re setting yourself up for the kill. Your first child must be her first child.
What legacy bro 😂😂😂 just cause you got kids don’t mean you got a legacy you got a million dollar life insurance policy the kids Got a trust fun y’all got kids by multiple different woman talking about a legacy come on bro😂😂😂 if your a regular civilian making 50k and under that’s not a legacy 😂😂😂😂
@@Jaydagoat_15dude Stfu…. You must be a little kid.. what’s the point of having all of that if you dont have a heir to the Throne? Your OWN seed to share it with in the future? Need you to think a little harder smart guy
My father always said never be a stepfather cause the outcome is never good
@@movingforward-fc4lg I agree you shouldn’t go out looking to be a step father but if you just so happen to be a step father that’s the choice you mad and live with what happens whether there good or bad
@@movingforward-fc4lgit never is tbh
I've been a stepfather. I'd never do it again. Ever. There's NO ONE more ungrateful than a single mother and her children. You can't discipline the kids. You haven't lived until you've heard your stepdaughter tell you, "YOU'RE NOT MY FATHER!" while the mother just stands there and doesn't check her. She might cheat on you with the baby daddy. What are you getting besides the big piece of chicken and no peace? There's no upside to being a stepfather.
FACT! NO THANKFULNESS AT ALL ESPECIALLY WHEN YOU HAVE RAISED HER KIDS! THEY FORGET ABOUT EVERYTHING YOU HAVE DONE FOR THEM BOTH AND SHE DONT CARE ABOUT IT EITHER!
@@George-dy3pt she can't respect someone who takes on another man's responsibilites. She's going to look at him as a simp.
@@fudgematthew33yeah been there before even if you take care of her children deep down inside her ,she won't be happy about it
Omg I feel this especially that no peace part
Totally agree mate !
Theres always that masculine primal ticker in your head, feeling like you want to remove them all from your life. But then logic kicks back in and you know in your heart you cant kill or hurt a woman and kids so you just sit back down and allow yourself to be cucked even more 😂 been there an living it now and i cant wait to leave this bitch and her ratty kids.
The only issue is i have my own son with her and i love my son unconditionally and will not leave him with them.
This man is going to single-handedly save men from the sickness of stepdaddyism 🙏🏾
I hope you are right. But I still think it is just too many SIMPS out there who want female attention. And a woman with kids will give it to them so she will not have to struggle.
I don’t understand why men put themselves in situations like this my father always said never take care of another man kids cause the outcome is never good
@movingforward-fc4lg what happens when the biological father doesn't want you disciplining his kids? What if he says, "If you ever whup my kids, I'ma whup your ass. And every time I see you, it's on sight"? Now what? You now know that if you stay in the relationship, you just might have to unalive this dude. What man with options and common sense is signing up for that?
Smh…
I hope these men listen! Because it's true! These women don't care that you raised their kids especially when you separate from them! All of them forget about the good you did and what you did for her blood and someone else's blood!
I’m a married man, but before I got married, I would refuse to date women with kids it was a turn off
Facts. That shit is annoying. Complete waste of time. I tried that shit when I was 22 never again….
Now days dating BW is like signing a contract with the devil a trip to HELL just to get left for another man and 9X outta 10 it's pookies and Ray Ray's. Lol men of GOD gets left for devils
💯...🎯.. I would never talk to women with kids. When I wanted to get married and have kids I found someone single with no kids to start my own family and legacy.
What's the difference from a woman with kids than a woman with no kids cheating on you with her pookie EX and friends with benefits and work husbands. Either way if you find out you are going to leave right and it's still a chance of y'all raising another man's kids without a DNA test because BW cheat more than all the fire 🔥 in hell
Complete. Waste. Of. Time. Tried it 2x , dont recommended for any man building himself or wants more outta life, quickest way to deplete your finances and mental health.
To be honest, the way some black women are treating our black men ,the brother's should not want to be with these ratchet, money hungry,gold digging, multiple baby daddy's heifers, move on my Brother's, I have a 29 year's old Son, and I have told him to stay away from the baby mama's because I'm not going to be a grandmother to someone else's seed. I TOTALLY AGREE WITH YOU, & by the way I've been married for 31 years,so any chicken heads that wants to come for me RETHINK IT!!!!
AMEN.
I am 57 and my mother told me the same. Never bring another man's child in my home. Start your own family. Thank you Mom love you for saving me with that advice.
That’s right! Tell them chicken heads run along 🏃🏾♀️
For any man that disagrees!
Ask the woman you are dealing with would she want her son to date a woman with a child.
You will get your answer from the source.
I disagree based on the circumstances but your point is spot on. At best they'll say be careful and most will say no. Even if they had someone marry them with kids
I think they will say “Well it all depends and if he loves her “. U know, the politically correct answer.
This the one right here
Made that mistake when I was younger. Never again. They will never respect you. She will never respect you. Once she finds another. That bond and, more importantly. Your money goes with her. Don't Waste time on single mothers.
Facts
I see why you man go through some much
Stay Far Away From "SINGLE MOTHERS" Don't Be A Step Dummy 💯
One main reason staying on purpose is key is because once you are in that relationship with them you will be the last priority even to yourself. Smh
Fact
I know this video is for men, but as a woman without kids when I tell people I don’t want to date man with kids I get looks.
Maintain that standard don't fold
@julistar90 Hi. I don't have any children either. But as a goat herder, I do have 1,000 goats. Is that a deal breaker for you? I'm truly looking for my Queen to be.
You shouldn't who in their right mind wants to raise another man or woman kids? And your legacy when you are gone is who?
Don't do it
@@stansberryjonesytare you playing or where did you get 1k goats?
What you speak is total truth!! I’ve learned a lot from my own experiences from being a stepfather. I can say, I would never ever do it again.
Who raised them? Their single mama! Speaking against single mothers takes the capacity to be honest with yourself and think negative things about your mother. I had a friend whose mother had 5 kids by 5 different men, he said that in each and everyone of those situations, it was the man's fault things didn't work out. When I pointed out how dumb that sounded, he and I stopped being friends...
The simping seems to only be getting worse. Dudes still validating the BBWs too 😂😂😂
I agree bro my father married a woman with Six kids and I’m his only child that has made me sick to my stomach
Was your father lonely? If u know? Just a question. A friend of mine married a woman with 4 kids. 16 months later they were divorced.
Bro, my dad did the same thing.
If u a stepfather just put on a clown suit everyday before u walk out the house ☠️💀😂
You men these days are straight bitches to make stupid comments like this. Mature please...
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Sorry to be this person but …. Being a step mother with a difficult baby momma on the other end is just as disrespectful…. Deadbeat mom trying to make everyone’s life a living hell, including the kid, weaponizing the child, undermining the father … and collecting a check every month and not using it properly … I wish it on no one
STEP MOMMAS ARE NOT EXPECTED TO GIVE MONEY TO THEIR STEP KIDS. That’s the difference.
Man or woman, it's a bad deal for the childless person. If you don't have kids, your first time experiencing a child should be with another childless person.
I feel you but females have less financial obligations
Bull it’s worse on the man because the kids are with the mother not the dad 95 percent of the time
THANK YOU FOR STICKING UP FOR MEN AND ACTUALLY SPEAKING FACTS ABOUT THESE WHORES WHO USE CHILDREN AS WEAPONS!
Lol facts. It’s very disrespectful. A woman that I know asked me “do I want a stepson?” Mind you I don’t even have kids. So for her to ask me that is a violation. She asked me that as if she doing me a favor. Or if it’s a flex. That let me know what she actually thought of me. She just saw me a servant.
What did you do? U still with her?
@@lertub you dead ass right now? It sounds like you’re fn trolling.
Being a stepfather was honorable back in the day. Now it’s a thankless job thanks to the ratchet 304s and their Pookies
Raising unappreciative kids with an entitled single mother is not the move vaginal irresponsibility
There is a generation of boys that grew up without fathers that want to be what they didn’t have. Then they were raised by their mother that tried to turn them into the men they wanted.
These young heads are broken. Will Smith is an example 💯
🎯🎯🎯
Will Smith was raised by both of his parents 😂
@@ericvonjeffeson2640 by the same generation of men that said happy wife and happy life while not leading. The men in the house that don’t lead raise broken men. Look at all of these dysfunctional kids that come from beta fathers. From D Wade, Magic Johnson, Ja Morant, and Will Smith look at the dysfunctional kids.
A man can be in the house and not lead. Men that are not raised by leaders submit. But you came to argue and giggle instead of thinking 🤔. Single mother raised energy if you’re not adding to the discussion stfu when grown folks are talking 💯
Great comment but Will Smith isn't an example. He didn't grow up fatherless and he's been in Hollywood for decades. He's not normal and neirher are any of the people in his so-called family lol.
@@Carmine.Falcone yeah that was a fail 😂. That era of happy wife happy life raised broken men when the father didn’t lead. I have egg on my face for that one I’ll stand on that 😂.
We have those in our families. Beta father is just as bad if not worse than having no father at all. We need masculine leaders and feminine nurturers for these kids to be balanced.
Now these kids are getting neither and we’re seeing the dysfunction and to be real I think this femininity freaky Friday swap is a factor in so much more 🌈 in the community. We upset the natural order. But there’s no way Will Smith was raised by a real one moving like this no matter how long he’s been in Hollywood 😂.
As a single mom this depresses me. I do my best for my child and I know I’m a good mom and woman. If this how men feel then I guess I will be on my own forever. It is what it is
Do not fret! Not every man feels this way. Not every situation aligns to this. We are creating more and more dissension between us. No other race of people are doing this on social media platforms. We do this in the spirit of "enlightenment" etc. The program is doing its job - merely by your belief and comment here. Creating isolation, opposed to inclusion. These scenarios are not thr majority. And, there are far greater challenges that humanity is facing at present. You are deserving of love from a man - if that is your desire. You did not make a baby on your own! And, whatever the dynamic that resulted in you being a single mom - is not solely on you. This father/dad should be accountable as well. These types of catch all posts are so damaging to everyone. It is programming at its finest and not in a good way. Always remember, you are worthy eternally. Just because. ❤
Your children will become adults eventually
@@357RedG And, you do not have to wait until your children are grown for a mate. You do not. I assure you.
Lady let your children grow up and leave the house before dating. Teach your kids not to make the same mistake that you made. Bringing another male into that house that is not their father is bringing chaos into their life. Be the change you want in them.
I took a single mother and her daughter,we had 2 more girls together. She left me 5 years ago. After 3 years of misery I resurrected myself off the scrap heap. Last week I finalized my full custody of my girls,she is ordered to pay me child support and my step daughter moved back home with me and my girls. I have all three of my girls. Nobody will ever say thank you or that I'm doing what's right for them girls, while their mom lives a new life away from all of us with someone else.
Focus on your kids,let them be your person and raise them right.
Adding someone else in is complicated and comes with too many strings. There is a ton of danger in bringing others close to your babies. Just be careful and protect those kids. It's not about you and what you want, it's about duty to those kids that didn't ask to be born. Teach them to be better than you or me.
Ive done the stepdad thing. Smdh. Got shot by the real dad. He also shot her 3 times. Neva again!
Cot damn. Glad you're alive to tell the story.
Damn! Glad you made it out okay
Damn brush lol glad u still here
They usually pick pookie and ray ray to be their baby daddies
Anton bout to increase the divorce rate he to on point 😂😂😂
That's all right. The gig is up. Men are wising up.
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I stand firm with his point. Ive been saying this. Why as a single Man who put all this work in, im gonna choose a pre made family or someone else's family... When i can take my time and find a woman that is single and have no children...
Women with no kids feel the same way about men with kids
@@tam6011 Which is fair 💯
This is where I am at informally don’t hardly engage myself with married people or people are in relationships I stop myself even if it’s family members
@@mrs.camillewarrenempress3115 🙏🏽
@@tam6011that why I don’t mess around with my brothers drama with woman and his kids mother
When I started dating I didn't know what I wanted exactly but I knew exactly what I didn't want and that was to date any female with kids that was my top non negotiable. I wanted to create my own family and did exactly that. I would never advise my son or any young black man to be a step daddy to anyone go build your own legacy...
What if your marriage doesn't work out now she is a single mom with a kid cause of you so now she is no longer valuable because it didn't work out with you
It's not just blacks anymore!
As a person who's been a stepdad on more than one occasion, I can tell you it's not worth the chapter. I'd rather write a new story with a childless woman.
What happens when 95% of the women in your age range (Millennial) have a kid(s) ???
You can’t throw a rock in the BC without hitting a single mother
be a passport bruh
It’s women overseas that are single mothers too😂
Gotta be better than what we have here
That's what i keep saying bra these women have 2 or 3 kids by 27 wtf is that and why do I wanna entertain being a man with no kids shit is crazy bro
Move to Florida or California Afro Latina's
Just like I say women without children shouldn't date/marry men with children.
It’s not the same
Say NO to being a stepdad!!
Dont even mess around with them. You will NEVER be the dad. She will hook you, drain you, then get back with the baby daddy.
Dating women over 30 or single mothers is a bad deal!
You sound foolish.
Being a step parent SUCKKSSS balls, don't do it people! RUN!!! 🏃♀🏃♂🏃🏃♀🏃♂
I cosign all the other comments. I married a single mother and it was the worst decision of my life. I tell my stepson all the time , don’t make the same mistake I did.
Dont be a step dad. It is going to ruin you. And once you fall off, BECAUSE you were helping her, SHE IS GOING TO BE GONE.
Do Not Do It.
They literally have nothing to offer you except sex. Youre the one with everything she wants and needs.
I 100% agree with Anton being a stepfather is the worst situation ever
I’m a single dad . I have three daughters. Women who have children do not come near me , as a rule, I always hear them discussing with their friends how they don’t like men who have children. That’s fine with me. It’s great to have three daughters who can keep women like that bay.
I know its so funny isnt it.
They expect us to take to their kids and call me cruel for not wanting to play stepdaddy.
Yet women truly are cruel and bitchy and would never take to another womans kids.
The stats speak for themselves.
For every stepmother, there are 10,000 stepdads.
Women know the game and play it better than men, i hate to say.
But its true.
Because they've been raised from a young age by their mothers to believe that being a stepfather is honorable and admirably masculine.
It's only when they personally go through the experience as men that they realize they've been sold a lie, and often, it's too late.
Fortunately, men are awakening to these realities and starting to change this narrative.
Ty🙏
Stepdad season already ended #SYSBM and #Passportbros are the proof of that.
What if the woman is a widow? What if she was from a legitimate abusive marriage? Not all women are bad or have bad children there are decent people still around.
Yeah this is bs
Then she should date single fathers
@@chrispettis1486 how is this BS 😂? These examples exist. Husbands die, men beat women and abuse them verbally, men run off with other women and while in many cases it's not all the man's fault like they make it seem, that doesn't mean the women left behind are all trash. I know a lot of dudes who saved kids lives by becoming their step father. I think the key is the earlier you start the better or if the kids are grown. I will say I have rarely seen it work with teenage children or live in adult children..
What about men who are broke due to things out of their control ? Such as a lay off due to the bad economy. But would a woman care why a man is broke ? No. So why should men care how a woman became a single mother ?
I'll tell you right now, we don't care - Stephen A. Smith voice
People with kids are better off dating other people with kids. People who are child free are better off dating child free people
I will die on this hill 💯
My mama always told us not to do it, and we had a stepfather.
Did y’all not like or respect your stepfather??
Stands up shakes handkerchief : Ypu go head preacher !!!!!
I know a guy that married a mother and she got mad at her son for dating a mother.
RS I got step kids, i love them, Still, I would NOT recommend it.
Thank you
Russell Wilson is a source of inspiration…he has a great career
He the biggest simp
My 14 year old stepson come to me talking about I'm not going to school tomorrow cause it's a field tripped and it's not paid. And this like the 5th time he done it this year. So I gets pissed off and say why do you wait til the day before to tell me this when you could've said something along time ago to pay it. And he insist that they haven't told him nothing about the field trip in school that they sent something to some application that his mother has and never looks at. And Im like this is impossible that that they keep having these field trips and don't tell them nothing ahead of time. So the next day I call the school and speak with the secatary and ask why they don't give the kids advanced notice and she tells me that not only is the field trip free but they told them this yesterday and been talking about the damn field trip to the kids every day. And even after this the dude still sitting in my damn face lying saying they ain't told him and his mother defending all the way talking about he aint lying. Man don't get involved with a single mother.
I came from a nuclear family and I agree men, all men, need to know what they are getting into.
I’ve never heard a man say no woman can discipline my kids
Amen for not being afraid to speak the truth. I thought I was the only who thought this shit don’t make any sense. These women will never give you authority over those kids because they are not yours yet you will be expected to do everything there real father should be doing but isn’t. It don’t ever make sense.
It's because most men were raising by women. This has led to them being simps or exhibiting simp behaviors. The fear to hold women accountable runs deep in them. Can't criticize momma.
I grew up with two parents but my mom was the dominant force. When I grew up I started to see things in her behavior I object to, but it took awhile before I had the courage to tell her. Now I just tell her straight up ‘mom I disagree with xyz’ but it’s always a big risk she will get offended and give me the silent treatment for a week or two. And my mom is one of the good loyal ones (always stick by my dad even when he wasn’t particularly pleasant)
How did we get here? Every single thing in this Western culture is geared towards rewarding and sparing women the consequences of the bad and foolish actions. Men vote to protect women and children and women vote to protect themselves. All of the push is on one side. The 19th amendment wasn't part of the original Constitution FOR A REASON.
That's the gynocentric plantation we are unfortunately made to suffer under.
I’ve been saying a similar thing: men AND women AND the courts hold men accountable. What about women? There’s a huge imbalance in our society.
I raised a boy to be a man and no matter the DNA, he is my son. Yall make alot of good point, hold them accountable for they shit, I get it...but what about the kids? They're going to grow up and become adults in our communities.
Being a stepfather can be a great thing for the family. Honorable too.
😂😂😂
Keyword for the family. You’re not going to even truely feel like a part of that own family you created in your delusional mind.
@@Slim2xzIslandyep sadly enough facts
@@mrs.camillewarrenempress3115 yea you just lose out on your own life 💯
@@Slim2xzIsland I am asking you questions did you lose all your resources and finances when you was dealing with an single mom
Update: Oh, yeah…she found a simp to take care of the kids and I still have her when I want to. 😊😊
Anton sounds harsh and judgemental but he's actually telling the truth and speaking of accountability.
I’m a stepdad and Dad. I don’t need anyone’s validation or life experiences. If you don’t wanna do it more power to you. Otherwise, move out the way for the next man up!
Thank you, sir!
*Next simp up but congrats
The simple life is a happy one 🤣
And the next man, and the next man, and the next ... 😂
Your a great man for that I have a step-dad my real dad wasn't there but this man stepped up I love him I call him my dad it's not always a negative experience I had a great experience
Lets be honest me !
The only reason we end up as stepdads is because we are low in our selves and havent done the best for ourselves in life.
Thats why you get back, what you give out, in a spiritual sense.
When you are at your lowest, you will be dealt the most demoralising tasks in life.
When you find your true masculinity and focus and bettering yourself, you’d never allow yourself to be put in such a degrading position.
Step dads are always looking for a pat on the back for being another man's child minder 📣....Meanwhile most baby daddies can still smash on sight.Stop trying to justify a Dummy move,take the L, you a Crash Dummy🔊....#SYSBM ✈✈✈🌎🙏
Men should marry their BM instead someone else’s BM. 😂😂😂
Single moms tend to choose short time fun over long term stability. Choose the boring dude to begin and stay with. It's not fair to make others pick up for your mistakes.
I'm a single parent & I'm not with it🤬😤💯❗‼️🙏🏽 I'm sorry, raised mine & don't want to raise nobody else's not in LINEAGE 💯❗‼️ Y'ALL FORGET ABOUT FAMILIES, I GOT TO BUY MORE WHICH MEANS LESS FOR MY SEED 🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯 THEN POOKIE & RAYRAY DON'T BUY FOR MY SEED 🤯🤯🤯🤯🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾🔥🙎🏾♀️🙎🏾 NAW, gotta deal with Pookie & rayrays family TOO 🤬😤🏃🏾♀️🏃🏽🏃🏾🏃🏽♀️
The truth hurts
I tell you what, why doesnt everyone just start paying their neighbours mortgage…. Whilst you’re at it, pay for the monthly bills too….
And before i forget, pay the fuel for the car, food for the family and every other expense you can think of.
But dont expect anything back, because you’re just doing it to be a nice person.
Thats the reality of being a stepdad.
You are a million percent correct, my dumb ass did it twice. Bro you need to interview me I got hech of stories and lessons for your audience
😆😆😆😆😆😆now you got me interested. 😆😆😆😆
Was it that bad?
Bad for me !
Taking care of someone else kids just mean your nothing but help 😂 don’t do it
4:04 men are on earth for THEIR OWN PURPOSE. taking on a piece of another man's purpose, the heck that come from!
Never never never date single mothers guys it’s not worth the risk or just worth it at all…create your own damn seed and family if u want children etc.!
2:35 SINGLE MOTHER PARENTING. Duh, OBVIOUSLY with they mother being a single mother they will sympathize with single mothers. I grew with a single mother, she left due to my father's behavior and other things I won't share on the internet. SHE also decided she will NOT bring in a man to play step father. She dated, I can only remember 2 men honestly but those men were never around the house or me at their house and they playing step daddy.
Come on men, dont go against that primal instinct you feel when you are surrounded by kids and a woman that are nothing to do with you.
Get out and leave before that lion comes out of you !
It’s ok to be friends with benefits to a mother but get married and try to run her or your home with step children it won’t work I promise those children can lie and you will be in trouble
Facts even KS said being a step dad is a bad deal !!
Do it go both ways because my daughter don't date men with kids. She said she don't want to be a stepmother she want to be married one day and she want her and her future husband to have their first child together.
It doesn't go both ways. It's a lot easier for a woman to get custody of kids than it is for a man. If the man got custody of the kids that means he's probably pretty responsible. If the women got custody that just means she used the biased legal system and wants child support. Plus it's a lot easier for a woman to get pregnant than it is for a man to get a woman pregnant. A man having kids means that a woman chose him as the father of their child/children. Some women see validation in that. Nobody sees a single mom as validated, because spreading her legs is the easiest thing she can do.
It doesn't work both ways. Society tries to fool men into thinking it does. VVomen play along with the lie. They know it doesn't work both ways, even the delusional ones who truly believe it works both ways are lying to themselves. Here's why. Men who are fathers are proven providers. A vvoman is psychologically wired to seek out a provider and a protector. A man who is a willing father is a proven provider and protector. So a stepmother benefits STILL, from marrying a man with a child or children. She is only inconvenienced by the ex-wife/baby mama being bitter/vindictive. And even then, she ain't going nowhere if her husband protects and provides for her. She still gets something. Stepdaddies get NOTHING.
it goes both ways, a woman should be naturally inclined to want a family of her own, I think the main reason why a woman doesn't mind in general is because men are judged by their social status, so a high value man who can provide stability and protection won't lose as much value with children as a woman, because a woman is value on other terms.
but if I were in your situation, I would still tell my daughter to give a man a chance, even if he has children, if he can provide enough stability and protection to take care of her.
Stay on topic, the conversation is about not dating or marrying single mothers. A childless woman shouldn't have a problem marrying a childless man, because most men don't have children.
If she dont have kids she most def can have that mindset 💯 i have no problem with that shit i pray she get married before she even have kids 💯
We need a advocate word counter for Anton
I agree that you shouldn`t put yourself in that position. But, sometimes you could meet someone who by chance got in a predicament and got a child at an early age when they didn`t know any better. That doesn`t make them a bad person, life just happend. But if you met a person with several children, now that`s another story.
My children are now grown. If for any reason I ever got single again, I would never be with anyone with young kids as I`ve been, there, done than n know it just too well. I know what it takes to raise a child. Me and my husband raised our children together with no outside help, so why would I want to help you raise your kids?! I woundn`t mind you having kids, they will just have to be grown and hopefully out of the nest. 😐😑
it dont matter if it one child or 10 . u making excuses for your own lack of ability to get a woman wit no children.
@@rjonesyow I didn`t have any kids when I married my husband and neither did he. We got two kids together and raised them together. 🤷🏽♀
This is excellent! Been having these conversations with my friends for decades.
I was a step daddy @ tha age of 17 to a woman that was 44....had 3 kids...2 of them was older than me....since then I'd absolutely Never would date a woman with kids!!!!
His parents as well. They allowed it.
Nah u was just a seasonal boy toy ain’t nobody saw u as step father 😂 but at least u got it out early
The Stepfather game is not good no matter what anyone says. thats an L for the man. if u are in that, get out of it.
Don't do it, fellas. It's not worth it!
Maybe, as soon as you had decided to be involved with a SM, you should enter therapy with the SM & all her kids. Set rules & expectations on money matters, discipline etc etc. Know what makes or breaks such a "new relationship". By 5th therapy break up without hard feeling if it does not work.
Preach brother
DEEP AND TRUE!!!!!!!!
Like you said, if folks want to do their thing, do it, but don’t fix your face to justify impracticality!
My husband is a step-dad to my daughter but, we’re older my daughter is 24. Everyone’s situation is different
Heartless!
Only 23 percent chance of marriage working out w step kids😮
The worst thing a man can do is become step father and save woman who isn’t goner fully appreciate you
Great video 👍🏿
I agree, very very disrespectful. While I understand it's not as simple, however the bad and disruptive behavior needs to stop being rewarded or at the very minimum encourage the bio material contributors to work on the relationship for the kids. Couldn't be me tho...
No child wants a stepfather so your starting out dysfunctional
DON'T DO IT!!!!!!!!!!!
All the Responsibility to kids that you can't check when they step out of line.....Marrying that Single Mother makes it worst because when you are done being disrespected in the Home you payed for by Her and Her Offspring she gets to Divorce you and take Half of things She didn't invest in.....
There's bad and good with everything that's also comes with being a stepmother and a stepdad But for people who said you shouldn't do it you wouldn't have a lot of actresses athletes and political figures if it wasn't for those men and women who stood up for some else child that wasn't theirs In life love is so rare and incredibly hard to find Don't cheat yourself out of the person You Really supposed to be with because You Want To be accepted by society standards And that's why relationships is so trash because everybody needs their relationship validated by society instead of just validating the happiness between your partners
What Good comes with being a Stepfather?
I notice that these dudes in skits are starting to say "On my stepdaddy" instead of saying "On God"
Can it work? Yes. Is it more for some guys than most? Sure. Did it work out for me? Definitely. Would i suggest it to other guys? 85% of the time, i wouldnt. Few reasons for most guys to do it, olenty of reasons for most guys not to do it. It's situational, but usually just a bad idea.
Do you need to stfu ? Yes! Are you a simp? Yup! Do you have a legacy? Nope! But another man will because the lift you did to continue his future.
😂 I've been dating my girl for a year. She's got an 8yr old. It's challenging as hell, and I wouldn't want my son or little brother doing it
Don't complain! Leave? You're wasting time.
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@@jasonkoroma4323 how so
Being a stepparent is the most unrewarding experience you could ever have in life 😂
Would not recommend. But kudos to those who have a mutually beneficial connection.