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- Are ALL Foreigners Supporting a Filipinas Family?! Foreigners giving monthly support seems to be assumed by most people. Is supporting a Filipinas family really that common?
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As a Filipina, this is my question..
If supporting the woman's family is a non-issue /not required for Filipino men, why should it be any different for foreign men?
Maybe foreigners should start to change their mentality that relationships are purely transactional..that everything is about money, thinking they can only get women bec their wallet is their only asset.
If you are a decent man, you will only look for a Filipina who is a wife material, then I'm 💯 sure they will NOT even be requiring you to provide financial help to her family. But if you're just a passport bro who just wants temporary pleasure & who picks up girls everywhere, get prepared to get scammed.
To me, its that simple..
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Thanks for your comment. Most of us live far away from the Philippines and we only know what we see on internet. I am happy to hear that decent Filipinas are out there.
Just like how any man can buy and own land in the Philippines but as a foreigner you can not own land on your name. Crazy. But any person from the Philippines can buy and own land in the countries these foreign men come from.
@@gary4451 there are a lot of decent Filipinas, MAJORITY are, but you wont hear anyone talk about them bec that is not what sells in social media
Most are working and are taken, dating a Filipino guy. If you go here, you'll learn about the truth.
@@emileneslo5695 Thats not the point Im making tho. I feel that foreigners and Filipinos have EQUAL opportunities in finding a good woman to date. The difference is THE FILIPINO USE THEIR HEADS. They know he culture perfectly well to know relationships here does NOT revolve around money. They get women with charisma, character, attitude, deep friendship, humor and respect towards her family members.
Foreigners dont get that. It must be from the materialistic mindset from the West. I dont know.
I'm married 8 years to my Filipina wife with 7 year old daughter. I'm 63 and retired, not wealthy. I do help my wife's family if I can because I'm a compassionate person. Life is rough in PH. I help what I can afford.
Nothing wrong with that
@@ItsMe_Philippines The trouble is when you're enabling them to not better their own situation. But everyone needs help at some point
@destroyermaker absolutely there is no limit to helping, bit know when your being used. My little brother is doing that and it pisses me off, I work and I'm handicap. Just be aware of the people trying to suck everything out of u
How Rachel's confidence has grown over time/videos. She now speaks up, even leads some parts, and clearly feels comfortable. You still (humorously/perfectly) keep her in check, but I must say, your dynamics, confidence and (value-based) content is lovely to see. Thank you.
Thank you, I really mean that.
I was a social worker for many years and I always said if I was hungry I would knock on a poor persons door before a rich person The rick person would call the police and the poor person would feed you
Very true!
Thanks for another video! Comment for the algorithm 😂
Thanks brother!!
I've been with my filipina wife for 30+ years, living in the US. She has a big family in both the US and the Philippines. We don't regularly support any family member; however, we do occasionally get the call asking for help. What's frustrating are the family members that have no savings and choose to live beyond their means, yet are are quick to ask for help. We've essentially become a backstop for when things go south. And being filipina, my wife has too big of a heart to tell them no, so I have to be the a-hole.
We have friends like that. We had to cut them loose. My wife is 1 of 11. She draws a hard line with her family.
I've had to tell people no before after giving them help multiple times. Then they would get upset and shocked and I would just nicely say "you need to prepare yourself and not just run to me every time something comes up".
When I visited I was amazed how the people who had "so little" would give so much. The food spreads I experienced the few times with my fiance's family would give an American church's potluck a run for it's money. That was totally a run on sentence. Time for more coffee.
Great approach on the video.
lol thank you
12%?! From what I’ve watched on other vlogs I would have guessed 80%! Thanks for the real deal clarification! That $ that I was budgeting for family support can now go toward my visit to Makati!😉👍🏻 Best to you both!
That 12% also had the largest age gaps. For example, majority of them were over 60 years old and the Filipina happened to be under 25. Coincident?
@@ItsMe_Philippines That makes sense. By that age their $ is working for them and I imagine they don’t mind throwing some to the fam, considering what they’re getting in return…?
Every situation is unique. Your house is a mansion compared to the house my fiancee wants. At the moment I only support my woman and no one in her family while she is getting better and she wants me to stop sending her once the doctors let her start working again, which we have spoken at length about. We both have goals to have a small house in Provence and be totally off grid which makes her eyes glaze over because she thinks it's so expensive but she will learn doing things your self is cheap if you know how
Very true and well said. If I could go back, I would’ve made my house half the size as it causes too much attention.
This was a good way to approach a touchy subject. I will just say I have similar thoughts about enabling & the risks that come from handing too much away. I also think mixed in with scam stories the line gets blurred, but imo that is a different thing entirely. Thanks for reaching out & trying to get some data on it. This gives me even more hope on finding a good woman where the family all knows the boundaries & doesn't use their daughter as a piggy bank, I mean this in a loving, but serious way. I'd like to help & not be pressured either.
Thank you I appreciate the positive comment and I tried to handle it carefully. Unfortunately, whenever I’m hearing horror stories it’s because they didn’t discuss it ahead of time which I think is the most important part. And yes, sadly, I’ve also seen daughters. used as a source of income.
Well said.
My friend is married to someone from the Philippines for over 25 years. He met her here in the USA where her and him were in the same college. He has an engineer degree, and the wife received her degree in science and works at a lab, but she can work only 18 months in her field then had to return to the Philippines. So, they got married and she stayed in the USA waiting for her green card Her father had a decent job but got sick and could not work as much leaving them strap for money. So, he does not give them cash, but he had someone over there to deliver them all the food they need to live on for one month at a time. Her parents not once asked for money. So, he said that it cost him around $150 a month which is cheap. Once in a while he pays their electric bill.
Makes sense
I funded my father in law in 2009 for a large 3 hectare parcel of land. The family harvests the land twice a year which provides them with income. I also funded my sister in law for a small house on the property. My sister in law and her husband raise livestock and fruit trees for an income. I am in NC USA currently with my Filipina wife of 14 years. We are scraping every penny to retire in the PH as soon as possible. I give to my family because I have a good paying secure job and I feel very fortunate. I also believe there is much to say about individuals who help others before they consider even themselves. Probably my Christian background. It’s kind of a pay-it-forward mentality I have. It also feels rewarding and makes me feel good to help 😊
Home looks absolutely awesome.......decor is on point sir........ur wife and u have great taste.
Thank you but she gets all the credit for the decor!
Thank you for taking the time to make another video. Its always fun to watch you two interact on any subject :)
It was a touchy one!
Great video i believe alot of us support our Filipina family. Its in our upbringing in America
Giving support or help while still living abroad is completely different
@ItsMe_Philippines yes true but I live here in Philippines. I buy them bag of rice and a bag of corn grits each month plus I buy other groceries for them and put money in their pocket
Love how genuine you both are, absolute relationship goals here. Plus the way you both talk about subjects like this is so refreshing
Thank you, it was a tough one!
The reason I like you both is that you are decent human beings, you are kind without being naive. You are well matched.
Thank you
I know you didn't want to cover this topic but I'm really glad you did. This was an excellent video, and certainly puts my concerns to rest with some facts and real-world info. Thank you so much!
I told my fiance that as long as we can maintain our way of life, pay our bills and she's working that its her money and she can send money. I totally understand because of the income and cost of living disparity.
I should note her family would never ask for anything or expect anything. They still thank me for taking them to dinner and Airbnb weekend when I was there last.
That’s a great way to look at it and I completely understand. My wife has her on Monday and I would never help with it.
I agree, it's not your obligation, but if something extreme arise, help out. There is no statute saying u marry a filipina, but just be aware and conscious
Agreed
I've seen and experienced the same situations here in the States, it is not unique to the Philippines. If you have substantial means and start "helping", the requests will continue and increase. The trick is to always say, "No". If you do decide to help, it should be unexpected and of less value than what was asked. You most likely will not be the only person that is being asked to help.
You are in a relationship with that individual, not the entire family.
Great comment and good point
Thank you for shining a good light on this topic!
It was a touchy one!
I agree with what Cory & Rachel said. The way Rachel put it is the best way to explain since She is a Filipina and knows the culture. I have been coming to the Philippines for the past almost 21 years and when I used to visit the Philippines especially the Dumaguete area at least twice a year so I have learned a lot from those years about Filipinos. When you want to do something do it because that's how you feel and want ,not because you are obligated and you have to. Most of Filipinos love surprises they don't expect a lot even if you made a dinner and invite them over it makes them so happy. I like to from time to time invite poor and orphan kids by cooking for them their favorite food. I don't do it because I have to do it or to impress anybody . I do it because it comes from my heart and appreciate all the blessings God gives and one important thing think is to look at their happy faces. We as foreigners need to give a little and be thankful to everything we have and the reason I said that is because a lot of foreigners come to the Philippines just to have fun. Giving a little is not going to make us poor and to me giving is appreciating what we have and extending our hands whenever is possible for those who are unfortunate.. Filipinos are very generous especially the poor ones even if they have one bowl of rice and a little fish if He sees you hungry He will give it to you before He eats it. Peace and love to all.
Thank you for taking the time to write that as it's a great comment.
@@ItsMe_Philippines you are welcome 😁
My wife and I are living in Vancouver and have been married for 22 years and we somewhat support her family. More towards her daughters grandmother ( she had a daughter before I came along) who is old and getting minimal support from the rest of her Philippine family
That’s helping one person and a great thing to do. Supporting the rest of the family (the ones that can work) is where I feel it’s not the right thing to do.
Totally agree!!
The beautiful Filipina I want to marry told me something disturbing. Her 2 Aunts want to control MY money. I believe it would be by them intimidating and manipulating my Filipina girlfriend, as she is very submissive and has a very kind heart. I want to help her, and her family, but I draw the line at being used, I worked almost 50 years to earn my money and am very frugal, but I splurge on my gf. I have told her that I will control the finances and she can control the household. I don't mind helping her family by giving money for basic food stuffs, but U know that every Auntie, niece, nephew and cousin will come out of the woodwork to ask for money from the 'rich' foreigner boyfriend
That will happen for the first year, but if you keep telling everyone no. They’ll get the point very quickly.
My wife and I feel the same as you to. We help when really needed now she has cousin that knows she is married to someone from the US and they ask often but she just says she doesn't have it. Like you said they stop working. Great video on the topic
It was a touchy subject so we tried to do our best.
This was a very informative topic…… your wife as always is adorable and very thoughtful even in her opinions ….. you two are a beautiful couple ! 💗💗 God Bless you both !
Thank you I really appreciate that. God bless you as well!
Agree on your thoughts...
I do employ 4 family members, but it's a pay for work situation...
No issues, as I need the employees anyway, so someone else would be earning the money...
Enabling is not a good thing... Helping because you can and it's warranted is OK...
Hair looking good! 👍
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Giving people work is virtuous
We have family members employed as well and he's a great worker.
At this time of uncertainty, its nice to watch you and king marcos just live normal lives.
I’ve been married to my Filipina wife for over eight years. I have never been asked from her family for support. If there’s an event, a funeral or someone needs medical or dental care I’m very willing to help, but Ive never been asked to pay the entire bill. Every couple of years we send Balikbayan boxes with stuff that only improves their lives. People shouldn’t believe everything they hear on the internet, see for yourself.
Perfect way to handle it
My wife is from Iran and does has a brother still living there and we do help him. Inflation over there is over 43%. Even he make good money the buying power is very low.
Hi Corey and Rachel, Good topic. Just before I married my wife 15 years ago we actually had this discussion and made sure we had and understanding. In 15 years my Filipino family has never asked us for a dime, Have there been times there were needs of course there was but the way that was handled was we would split cost evenly with other family members. This was for stuff like Nany's medication or a family members hospital stay. There were never any allowance, or money for starting a business. But for a genuine need of course.
Smart man and great comment.
I provide my Asawa, Basics.
Anything over and above is hers., and she is eager to work, Every day....
There ARE situations that are encouraged to HeLP if you can...
Safety, Food and Clean Water, and Rice is priceless there.
Well said
I agree with love for family but also Utang loob for those who don't know look it up. Establish boundaries early on with their partner. I have seen it get toxic with the wrong partner due to lack of communication. If you do it should be from the heart as a gift. Love your channel and you got a great partner and I love your content. I had to communicate with my Filipina. Unfortunately when this topic is discussed some families think they have access to the money the foreigner has that was meant for his wife and children. I agree with helping like you guys discussed as long as helping does not hurt or make them dependant of that help. Love your content and straightforward approach to the topics. Give them fish they eat for a day. Teach them to fish they eat everyday. I agree with education to help the gain upward mobility not sit around with the red horse. God bless.
Thank you
In a way yes. Even though I do not directly send money, my wife sends money all the time. My wife only pays for her car payment, everything else is on my plate. I would estimate 30-40% of my wife's income goes back home. The sad part of that is they don't seem to understand the value of money. She sends money for one thing but it always gets spent on luxuries not needs.
Very interesting and sounds like a problem. If she has a car payment, I’m guessing she moved out of the Philippines?
@@ItsMe_Philippines Yes we live in TX and we would like to live in PH when I retire. We already have a house in Negros Oriental and by that time the two little ones will have graduated high school. She is thankful being able to help but it upsets her when they ask for more because now it an "emergency". lol
One other thing, THANK YOU for always responding to your viewers. You are one of the best out their!
I experienced the exact situation with my ex. She worked part time and only paid her car payment and part of the insurance. When she would ask me for non routine items for herself, I would tell her to buy them; ie. fashion purses and shoes. She would get upset and say she had to send the money to her family. I would enjoy tampo for a couple of days 😂
@@ChristopherKnN Ohhhhhh tampo. Same here, can't tell you how many purses and gold jewelry she has. I told my wife I will not buy her another purse, shoes or jewelry. It's not worth being used/worn one time and then sit in the back of the closet.
Yes, the Filipino people are hard working and willing to work when they can.
100% agree
Definitely one of your finest videos. You've addressed a vitality important subject, with discernment, intelligence, yet most importantly, kindness. So many In the Philippines view a Western marriage as winning the lottery. We'll, most lottery winners go broke because if you can't manage what you have, how will you manage found money?
Thank you and that's a great comment and valid point my friend!
You 2 are adorable together!! Love it
Thank you
Loving the channel bro and from one gym bro to another looking jacked keep it up 💪 😁. Thanks for the advice and tips legend keep it going. Salamat. 🎉❤😊😅
Thanks bro!
Love your earrings Rachel.. I believe thats true anywhere you live. If you can afford to help now and than no problem BUT if your constantly helping you'll create people that just want to mooch and do nothing for themselves.
Great comment, thank you and she loves her earrings!
Good morning you two .....that concept is a old world concept that has died over the years with the rize of selfishness..... it's nice to see
Once again great job
Thank you, my friend!
I think a lot of guys have a really selfish and myopic mindset when it comes to this topic. They fail to realize that marriage is a union. When you marry a Filipina her family becomes your family too, and your family also becomes part of her family. You should love your family and take care of them to the extent that you are able. It is important to realize that the western model of the self-contained nuclear famiy is unusual both across time and across geography. In most of the world the family is "semi-nuclear". This means that you will have your own house as a couple for privacy for sexual intimacy reasons, but the extended family is still part of regular life (frequent get togethers) and economic support, not just an annual dinner together for Thanksgiving or Christmas.
The Philippines has a much weaker government social safety net than the US with more irregular employment. The Filipino brother-in-law who asks you for money may genuinely be out of work and need help. In the US he could turn to unemployment insurance, the local church, and government welfare (which is meager but a first line of support). In the Philippines the family is the social safety net. Before you harshly turn the brother-in-law away, assuming he is just being greedy or lazy, consider the social and economic context.
Likewise, it is the strong cultural norm in the Philippines (based upon principles from the Bible) that the first-born son (or daughter in a family without sons) will care for the parents in their old age, since government and employer pensions are meager to nonexistent (the US was like this too prior to Social Security). So if you marry the first-born Filipina in a family of all daughters realize that if you refuse to help her parents they will likely live their twilight years in destitution. No decent Filipina would want to see her parents so terribly dishonored like this, and nor should she. This doesn't mean you need to fund them a life of luxury, but it does mean that an outright refusal to share what you have with them (assuming you are not impoverished yourself) is extraordinarily selfish and insensitive.
Filipinos are great people! Been there twice and will go again in Feb 2025
Amazing people!
Rachel, nice earrings. Beautiful house.
Thank you!
Another very informative video your content never fails to be interesting. You guys covered some very important points, I am sure this video will clear up a lot of miss information that has been on the web. Love the respect and communication between you guys. Wishing you guys all the best.
Thank you and well said. Touchy subject for us but we tried to handle it correctly
Great video !. Hope you had a great week there!.
Thank you, and we did!
No unless u have been there and met them . Im heading for the first time to meet my Mary face to face . She never ask because they take care of each other all she ask for is hugs and kisses 😊 just be careful thank y'all for sharing your wonderful story 🙏 😊
Have fun!
Nothing but im really excited 😊
I want to tell you. I'm so proud of both of you. I knew someone from here at the muffin. California would send money all the time. And all I did is want more and you guys are awesome. You've worked hard for your stuff and what is still amazing is that when you're saying that yet said one time was? People always wish and wish they want to do something and have a dream come true.But they never make it happen.And you did both of you.I'm so happy for you guys.I give you profits and I think you're amazing people and I enjoy watching your videos.Have you been filling the Earthquakes?Are having any the flooding issues going around by you?You'll take care
Thank you, some flooding yes but we are slightly elevated so no issue for us.
Tasteful and tactful video on a contentious subject. Well done guys.
Thank you, it was a touchy one for sure
My girlfriend has a decent IT job, so she helps her extended family at the level she prefers. I give her extended family $0. I provide a very good lifestyle for her and her two young children. So, my support ends at exactly those 3 people. It doesn't matter what emergency comes up. I don't do emergencies. I only pay for the 3 of them (what I consider my family).
Great way to keep it and makes perfect sense 👍🏻
All good information for everyone…
ALL THE BEST…
Thank you, and happy to help!
I agree 100% an example I have I told my filipina wife I would buy her nice a birthday cake. She said it would be 650 PHP then she said her other nieces and nephews were jealous so I said ok I'll buy all of them a birthday cake. But by the end of the year it was costing me 1500 PHP per cake (the same type of cake) and I ended up buying a cake for all of her brothers and sisters nieces nephews several family friends. And it was expected that I would continue the next year. Imagine their surprise when I said nope that was a one time thing. Now I watch what I say and do. Atleast untill I move to the Philippines 🇵🇭.
650 is already a nice cake here!
Very good points and earrings look great!😂
Thank you and lol
Great presentation to a sensitive subject, probably one key difference of west vs east and ironically one of the thing that attracts us is their philosophy
Could also be differences between if you get together with a rural lady with more impovished background or an urban with better financial position, responsible giving is a wonderful feeling
Good comment 👍
Thanks for dispelling the myth. I was under the impression that almost all of the Filipina's family expected the foreigner to be their retirement plan. I also observed that when people are given things without earning them through their own work that the tend to take them for granted. My older brother was spoiled rotten by my parents. I was largely invisible. Guess who became the most successful son (yes...me).
Great comment lol
I push the ring button too: I disagree big time. I know over 100 foreigners I have talked to in last 2 years. Everyone provides something for their wife’s family
That could be the case in the circle that you’re in. I’m not disagreeing that it happens. I noticed the trend right away that it seemed to be a relationships with the largest age gap. Coincidence?
I would have guessed it was higher but most Filipinos I met that were family oriented are proud people so they probably don't like asking for help unless they really need it. I tipped someone a thousand pesos once at a steakhouse in Manila and they put it in the tip jar for everyone to share. I said no that was for you but she wanted to share it.
That’s common here and the person would probably get fired if they actually kept the tip. I learn the hard way from giving tips without doing it in secret and then having the manager take it and then warn the employee.
Do not give cash just help them with food or some needed items.
We were at the grocery store, and a lady came up and wanted money for food. We pointed at our groceries and told her to pick something out. Nope, she wanted money.
That has happened to me as well!
Your a lucky man Cory, your beautiful wife is so smart, sweet and classy. You found the total package with her. Sadly I see many Filipinas on TH-cam now making videos that could be called “ girls gone wild phillipines” just to get money from perverts, creeps and weirdos. The same type of men that go to strip clubs and give their money to strippers. I don’t think these girls understand the type of men they are dealing with and they get encouraged to do things that will not better their lives. I understand why they do it but it’s still sad to see it and it has kind of turned me off to the Philippines. The two of you however are wonderful and give me encouragement that it still may be a place I’d like to live. Thanks for that.
I respect my wife and she respects herself so selling her morals for "likes" is not something that interest us!
Your hair looks great Brah!❤
Thank you 😁
I just love them together!!
Thank you 😊
Showing off the forearms in the screenshot. I lift… I know. 😝 😆
The wifey is always hilarious. 😆
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When it comes to the elderly I will help because I can. That is when I move their next year, if I land in that situation.
Nice Video! There are the Haves and Have-Nots. I would not want to be perceived has the Haves in the Philippines. Peace
Thank you! And I get what you’re saying
With my feyonce she's has 6 kid's and my sister in law has 3 kids her husband works very hard selling fish I help them with Emergencies. And stuff, that's out of their control no one gets a salary and my feyonce has her own business and she works every day so no one is being lazy and not working hard but yes I help the family when they need it but they don't get a salary ❤❤❤❤❤
There is definitely A LOT of Simp Walking ATM's in the Philippines‼
Some of the calls I from them are entertaining lol
I thought it was way more than 12%, very informative video, but lets be real in the States usually is much closer to home, e.g. your wife and sometimes dates that will be gunning for your wallet and sizing your value depending on how thick it is, so for most US man it shouldn't be too much of a shock that some Filipinos may do the same at times, good post thanks guys!
Of course you help family but not regularly as a demand from them rather you bring your parents or your aunt some groceries,
invite them to dinner, buy them a winter coat because the don´t have that much retirement money to ease their lives.
Agreed
I think Paul from the Phillipines answered it as well, and one of his perspectives was if the filipina was helping out her family and you wanted her to leave her job to focus on your relationship, it might be a valid reason to expect some support to her family.
That sounds like it makes sense, except for the Filipino would have never made of income to help. If she’s making a $50 a week which is average pay here, she can’t even afford her own place. Point being, she made enough to get herself some clothes, food for herself, and pay for her cell phone bill.
Let’s be honest, everyone has a unique experience on if they support their gf or wife’s family. But let’s also look at the facts. The majority of the Philippines is living in poverty. Yes they work but have a very low income and don’t have many of the basics that we take for granted in USA. Most don’t own cars, own a house that is built in modern standards and have typical bathroom, kitchen and laundry room.
So with that said. That Filipina is entering a relationship with a foreigner that will be her sponsor and support her traveling abroad and other expenses such as a car or motorcycle. That Filipina would never be able to afford a house. Will that Filipina ask her bf or husband to support her parents or siblings. Not all will but obviously FAMILY is a priority for most Filipinos and if that foreigner is providing a very nice lifestyle for his Filipina wife/gf. She’s not going to neglect the fact that her family is poor and struggling. Many of those poor families are too proud to ask their daughters for money but some will think, why can’t that foreigner provide them with a little help.
Personally,I obviously support my wife and her mom happens to own the property that my wife and I have improved. So technically yes I support my wife’s family because we share her mom’s home. When we buy our new property and build a home, we will be bringing my mother-in-law with us. She’s our family. The family home will probably be rented our if her mom wants to sell it, it’s up to her.
100% I don’t mind sharing, too a limit. 😊
Sharing is good, supporting is not
Great Video Corey and Rachel. I can relate to this. We send money back to family to support my wifes mother who has health issues. We only send extra when there is a illness in the family or something like that. I agree its important to not enable people. If you dont mind me asking Corey, what line of work are you in? I am just curious as to what kind of work can be done while living full time in the philippines.
Thank you very much, I appreciate the positive comment.
As far as work goes, not to sound sarcastic when I say this, but I would google online careers. If I explained what I do it would definitely not apply to you as it’s extremely rare. However, I have friends over here that are online accountants, handle taxes, IT support, digital marketing, photo editors, video editors, product support specialist, and even online personal trainers. Point being is that I could list 100 different careers so you would really want to google and research what would apply to you.
If 12% percent are giving money directly to the family, and 28 percent are giving their partner an "allowance," and you're paying for the family member education, emergencies etc. That means well over 60% of the foreigners are helping their extended family directly or indirectly. Giving is loving, but dont get taken advantage of.
12% were helping, 28% would help with their allowance, the other 60% is not helping at all.
do you have to support them? No. WILL they ask for money? 100% absolutely yes without question. A cousin, an uncle.....SOMEONE will reach out to you or your wife and ask for money and get upset when you don't give it. The big question is whether or not your wife or GF will expect you to and get upset if you do not. The other thing to be aware of is even if YOU as a foreigner do not give them money your wife WILL from her finances which will probably directly affect you or her when SHE asks you for money next week because she's now short. This is a 100% guarantee that someone WILL ask you for money. It's a good topic to talk about with your filipina before you commit to marriage or a relationship. In my experience filipino's are truly terrible by and large with dealing with money and anything with planning for the future. It's just not in their cultural mindset.
I have to disagree a bit. My wife is a natural penny pincher and has been since I first met her.
I understand a lot of your comment, but some of that I disagree with. My wife has a bachelors on business and she’ll tell someone no before I would. She’ll help them find a job, or apply for school, encourage them not to make bad decisions. But she’s never giving out cash.
You can just say "Who are you?" If someone asks you for money right away. Are people really this bad at playing the long game? I can't imagine someone asking me for money unless I know them very well.
Hi Brother, l dated a pinay at one time in my life and l understand the culture, l figure once l get there , my girlfriend/fiance will get money and whatever she wants to do with that money will be on her , l wil explain to her unless it’s a real emergency, no direct income but if she helps her mom and dad out with her money, l won’t have a issue with that. I don’t have a problem with treating the family to a party ( especially on holidays like Christmas/ Holy Week). But to expect me to take care of the entire family would be a strain on me and possibly our relationship. But my wish would be to meet someone there who works even it’s at a McDonald’s, so at least she will understand about the value of money. Thanks again for another great video and have a great weekend 😊
Great comment and I love the way you’re thinking, Brother!
Addendum. When we retire to the Philippines in a few years then the money will be reduced because we are there then and no longer working. We help others in the family when we can. We are not obligated to and mostly we don’t ….aside from Lola
Good 👍🏻
Without saying it you perfectly described the US welfare system.
Pretty much!
Got to love true hearts!!
I enjoy readying their comments lol
Good video. I've been talking to a filipina. I wondered how tonreact if the subject came up. Thanks for the info. Hopefully, the subject won't come up. Thanks! JD
You NEED to bring it up yourself so you have an understanding prior to anything. Otherwise they might expect one thing and you are expecting another.
Never hide from things, confront them so you're prepared!
@ItsMe_Philippines Thanks man!
Still a good video. Thanks.
Glad you enjoyed it!
she has a heart as big as the moon, i dont have an extended family and my neighbors arent neighborly, should woulda coulda retired in Phils a long time ago
At least come visit!
Great content. Thanks for having the data and not just an opinion.
Our pleasure!
In the Philippines, there is no social security, your children are your social security once you retire. Taking care of your aging retired parents is culturally expected. This is the case in many Asian countries.
This is the way it used to be all over the world.
Yes there is social security here and all the people I know pay it every month to prepare for retirement. Her dad just applied for example now that he met the age.
People saying there is not is just because they avoided paying and NOW are in a bad spot.
I'm really big on birthday so I try to make sure they have cake and food so they can have a party
We do the same!
You don't have to be a foreigner to support a Filipinas Family. We supported her mom and deadbeat son for the first 5 years. Then she and her mom had a big argument and it stopped. I am waiting to see how long it lasts. So far just over a year.
Shouldn’t a big part of that decision be your input?
@@ItsMe_Philippines It was. I was ok with it, since it was not a huge sum. We would send a Christmas box each year and send money every 3 months to help her mom fund her SSS, plus extra for groceries.
The last year we gave more in an effort to help with home repairs.
The house looks great -
Thank you!
I would give cash for a hospital bill or a car or a home repair expediture.
Those things all make sense to me. Agreed. 👍🏻
You better go in person to make sure it arrives where it's intended .
@@robbyrose6904 agree pay directly
zero planning for your future, never saving something is totally beyond me ..
YES .. you don't live to work ... but you don't slow down the second you have a few hundred pesos in your pocket ..
Trust me, I get it, 100%. When I mentioned to people about always saving 10 to 20% of your income, they stare at me like I have two heads.
I will help the family in emergency, surgery and hospital but that it. I do however support her mum and dad as they are elderly and have no pention plan thanks to the corrupt government's.
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I think that’s a private matter but I know my wife family lives different and my wife is grateful for all I do for her and her family and yes we do what we can ! But Brother I still work a full time job and many details I’ve also worked hard my entire life ! I would never allow freeloading but the comment you made about a years salary for her sister is less than a week salary for you ! So yes Sir if it’s done right with our small amount goes a long ways in the Philippines so we don’t have to be rich to make a huge difference in their lifestyle! Enjoy your channel you yourself know it’s a different animal here in the States 🙏🏻🙏🏻
Agreed, but foreigners living in there home country are not part of this because they are not foreigners when they are home.
She means the bell:)
I support them, They work for it, Hell I support the whole community, But nothing is free, Fact. If there is a death we usually donate, But no free handouts lol
Great way to phrase it!
I did NOT buy or get my wife on a loan. I do NOT support her family. My obligation is for my son and wife only. Culture or not!
Smart man 👍🏻
It's me - your happy insta like😊
Perfect comment 😂
Like I said before I plan on being there within a year I can tell you now if I or when I find someone I do not will not support the family. If she wants to with her own money that is up to her but I will advise she should not. Good advice as always you two. I was dead set on BGC but I am now also looking at Cebu. Dramatic cost of living difference between the two.
Very large difference and great comment. Not to stir things up, but Davao is also a great option and even cheaper.
Rachel doesn't like to buy purses???? hahhahahaha Ok Cory. It's your story, tell it the way ya want. 🤣🤣
She only has two so no she really doesn't lol
Ohh wow..if I told you my horror story on helping my pH. family over there, especially during the pandemic, in the tune of 1,000s of dollars, because no one could work and had no way to buy food at all.
The pandemic was an emergency was it not?
@ItsMe_Philippines yes it was, and I had no trouble helping. But when we had to let them know we had to stop sending money.. they said and I quotes" we never asked you to send"
It seems like every Filipino family always has a medical emergency.. but then all of a sudden they do have parties and karaoke singing everywhere, is that a coincidence😮
No. My Filipina sister is the one paying alimony to her ex-husband (an American deadbeat lawyer who refuses to work) and will continue to do so until their child turns 18.
Nadia that’s what happens when you get married if you make more money you have to pay. It’s not his fault.🤷🏻♂️
prenup, prenup, prenup 👍
@@RealJayNice he committed adultery, then filed for the divorce and demanded alimony yet he got away unpunished for his comission of adultery and was awarded alimony. It's pre-meditated IMO and he used his knowledge of the law to his advantage but it's his fault for making all those choices and for choosing not to work.