I couldn’t afford my bus to work!! How fast fashion made me BROKE
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 27 มิ.ย. 2024
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Chapters in this video:
0:00 No Buy Intro
00:36 My Story
02:08 Wasting ALL my money on fashion
03:04 My Money "set point"
03:48 Thinking fashion will fix your life
04:22 Tip 1 | Live within your means
05:30 Too broke to afford my bus to work
06:38 Tip 2 | Set a budget and stick to
07:29 Tip 3 | Buying for Longevity
08:35 Tip 4 | Identify your Shopping Triggers
10:12 Tip 5 | Try a No-Buy for a set period of time
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Let me know how your no buy / low buy journey is going ✨ I hope by sharing my story it may remind you that fashion is just not worth struggling for. And it’s also a reminder to myself ❤
I have never liked shopping. The more I see in store, the faster I get overwhelmed and buy nothing at all. 😅 I saved a lot over the last 15 years (I‘m 37) wearing the same style. However, I love travelling and that‘s where my money usually goes making memories all over the world. ❤️
That’s the best place to invest your money, in experiences!! 🙌
I wish I lived in a part of the world where there weren't such extremes of temperature. +35°C or higher in summer, -25° in winter. The amount of clothes you need for that is insane. Just footwear alone: super warm boots for the city in winter, super warm dressier boots, superwarm tall boots for if you need to shovel snow up to your waist, regular-warm boots, regular warm dressier boots, rain boots of varying heights, warm running shoes, lighter running shoes, high heels, flats, numerous pairs of sandals of varying types for summer, the list goes on. And good quality winter stuff is bloody expensive.
Yes I can imagine that’s really tough to have such extreme seasons. I guess practicality always wins and if you need it, you need it! Definitely buying good quality at least means you don’t have to constantly shop x
Do you happen to live in Canada?
100%. In such climate you need to have basically 9 wardrobes - for winter, mid season and summer - nice pieces for work, basic pieces to walk around/vacation and something practical/ugly to walk a dog or work in the garden. I can not downsize that. Minimalism is just a joke in my climate )))
Nobody needs to own that many styles of clothing. No one on this earth needs to own a pair of heels or a pair of dressy boots. Nobody needs all those styles of shoes just for summer. I literally wear either Crocs or cheap jelly shoes in summer and my life hasn't ended. In winter all you need are sneakers and a pair of winter hiking boots. If you work in a professional environment then you need a pair of professional looking shoes but you can literally just slip into them when you get into work and they don't have to be heels or dressy flats, they can be orthopedic shoes or whatever and you can buy those used or at a discount. You can buy winter coats already used. You can buy knitwear already used. You can buy rain boots already used. You are a slave to patriarchal beauty standards for women. You feel like you have to wear all these different trending styles to be accepted. I used to feel this way despite never having the money and I still managed to be physically comfortable. I have lived in Bulgaria where the seasons are unbearable and women absolutely can't afford all those different clothes. The biggest scam is also the bra industry. I am technically a size 38J and I don't wear a bra anymore. I have never been more physically comfortable. Women are told that they need to lift, suck and pull everything in to be socially acceptable. They are told that how they already are when they don't buy all this expensive shit is ugly and unacceptable. It's fucking ridiculous. I'm not saying I don't have my own personal style, I live for sanrio and florals and ultra feminine, loose flowy, boho, oversized styles, but I don't buy clothes all the time and I refuse to spend a lot of money on anything and I don't care if I look a bit 'mis matched' and I'm not the pinnacle of fashion.
I live in such climate as well. Working from home is a blessing for me when it comes to my wardrobe. Nobody would give a f if I was sitting in my pyjamas all day (I don’t, but I mostly wear athleisure as I walk my son to the kindergarden). But even when I was working from office on daily basis, I didn’t need so many pairs of shoes. And regarding transition between seasons, I have the same set for winter -> spring and autumn -> winter also I have one set for spring -> summer -> autumn. But generally I have a base clothes I can wear the year round, and then some season specific, but they are in minority.
This is a lesson in staying away from fast fashion, pick a style and by investment pieces that will last you for decades 👍
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Absolutely!! ♥️
I wanted to stop shopping for a year or two now, I really got sucked in about five years ago. When I realised I needed to stop, I used to shop on and off anyway, then be annoyed with myself. I watched similar videos to help me, but I still didn’t feel I could stop. Then I realised that I was buying constantly because I was watching clothes all the time and started borrowing books from library instead to help me to pass my resting time in different way. It only recently hit me, that my wardrobe was too full and I can’t fit any more stuff, that’s when I didn’t want to look at clothes any more. It’s been a month, I still looked at clothes from time to time, desired them and left it till later. Mentally I could already do it, then it just didn’t make any sense. I want to give my wardrobe some love now and I will focus on wardrobe clarity and declutterring. For once I felt satisfied with what I’ve got.
That’s amazing!! I think sometimes we need to be ready to make the change, I had been wanting to try a no buy year for a couple of years before I actually did it. Reading is definitely a much better way to spend your time. It’s so easy to be influenced to shop when constantly scrolling online. Xx
Thank you for making this video it’s like the universe knew I needed a kick up the bum. I’ve tried so many times to stop shopping but I fall back in the trap again. I think I set too much of a challenge saying that’s it no more shopping no limits, rules just no more shopping ever!! And when it’s going well I think great I’m sorted and treat myself!!!
I’m ashamed to say I’m in my 40’s and still don’t have this sorted 😢
But I find it so inspiring seeing younger woman stand up and say no I’m not living my life like this so it’s time to try again this time it’s for 3 months, I have more than enough so I’m challenging myself to make my clothes work for me, fingers crossed this is the time ❤
I think your message and guidance are much appreciated by many. I’m now in my 60’s and learned over the years to nurture my specific style than waste money on many senseless pieces. I’m a patient buyer and will wait for end of season sales. I do twice a year wardrobe decluttering as I need space in my wardrobes. Some of my pieces of clothing I’ve had for years now, and i still love wearing them. Our money is precious and earned from hard work, and I would rather have some for later than nothing at all.
Thank you so much Marthina! Patience is certainly key. Sounds like you have a great approach to your wardrobe x
I used to buy tons of cloths and shoes, was spending every cent I had (and honestly even more) online. Than I had a boy and stopped working, since I had no money of my own anymore, just a joint bank account with my husband I had to stop shopping cold turkey. I thought it would be very hard, but to my surprise it was not. After a short while I felt liberated. I used to love my closet, suddenly it was a burden. I didn‘t want to spend my little free time i had in the evening arranging cloths I never had any occasion to wear anyway and that didnt fit my body nor my new lifestyle anymore. Started selling everything, couldnt believe how much stuff I had, how much of it was brand new and how much money I had wasted!!! It’s 8 years later now, today I enjoy a small wardrobe and could never go back, it just hurts me to know in what stupid way I used to spend all my money
That’s great! Sometimes when we’re forced into it we think it’ll be harder but actually it’s just what we need to get started 😊 xx
Thank goodness that I never got into fast fashion. I am a child of the children of the Depression. I was taught to use, reuse, recycle, and to live frugally. I was also inspired by my grandmothers, aunt and mother, to create some of my own clothes, and other items. I still remember the joy that I had, when wearing creations that they made for me. I have been making some of my own clothes, and clothes for my family, and household items, for a long time. Now in this time of inflation, I am returning to do more of this. It is therapeutic, and gives instant gratification, as you can enjoy the fruits of your own creativity. I think about now, and for what I will need in next few years.
It’s such a special thing to be able to make your own clothes, and for your family. Sewing is definitely a lost art that unfortunately isn’t being handed down from generations anymore. I plan to make clothes for my kids when the time comes. But I find sometimes the fabric that is available to me is almost as cheap as the clothes in the shop. X
@@gemmaamclean Some ways to save money, and have better quality fabrics: Look in your closet, to find clothes that you wouldn’t wear anymore, but where the fabric is still in good condition. These items are no longer clothing, but should be seen as pieces of fabric, to cut up and use again. Thrifting may also be a good source of fabrics. People give away clothing that no longer fits, or is out of style. The fabrics may still be in good condition, and from the recent era, when the quality was good. Some of the joyous items that were made for me as a child, were made from very wonderful fabrics, from used clothing that was remade for me.
@@sherylfetik4126 yeh I buy a lot second hand! Love finding some hidden gems x
Loved this video! My low buy is going so bad... I started of so strong but last month was a total failure. I've completely fallen off the wagon. It's harder than I expected, but that's why creators like you are so inspiring!
So glad you liked it! I haven’t been doing mine perfectly either. I feel guilty getting items sent to me from brands. It’s not about doing it perfectly though but just trying in the first place. I’d say expect the hurdles along the way and if you fall, just get back up and keep going 😊 nobody’s perfect x
Get back on it! You can still do it and learn from the last month = not a failure 🧡🧡🧡
I have an ins and outs list on my phone. The goal is that the ins are lower than outs. Everything that gets worn out, declutterred or donated goes in the outs list. And you see really quickly that it takes forever for something to be worn out. So that is eye opening. I also use habit tracking app daily to note down if i made any clothes or beauty purchases and it actually seems to help. It so fun to see that your success rate is high and it also keeps you mindful and accountable. I have been keeping a spreadsheet of clothing and beauty stuff with prices, when bought and when worn first. That started as just trying to keep track but also is eye opening in a sense that i had to buy something but 6 months later still not worn it... i am not doing a no buy but defintely a very low buy and also these methods have been really helpful and grounding to me.
I LOVE this ideas of an ins and outs list! I’ll have to start one myself. You have some really great processes for tracking your success 😊🙌
My low buy is going relatively well. I stayed in my budget for summer, bought only second hand (except underwear and a bikini) and now go on a shopping fast again until I need some knitwear for winter. 😊
That sounds like you’re doing so well 🙌✨🎉 wel done x
About buying classic styles I would add that you can buy trends if you’re willing to wear them even when they’re out. I personally love what I love and I don’t care if people think it’s out.
Yes absolutely! But then I feel like it’s not just a trend for you, it’s part of your style 😊
Great and informative video as always.
I started my no buy year last year in November and so far it’s going great. Not purchase a single new thing, just few make up replacements that I was running out of it. I decided to try whole year no buy. Also I did huge closet declutter and donate 80% of my clothes. I’m trying to figure out the style I love and it’s practical this year and purchase only new items only if work with my style. Currently I’m stay at home mom and don’t have income and taht helps me no thing about shopping /spending money on things that I don’t need!
Thank you Natalia. Ah we started around the same time! Sounds like you’re doing so well. Ha yes it always helps when the budget isn’t there to do a no-buy, I’m the same. My mortgage increase has taken what would have been my clothing budget anyway, it’s a good thing I’m doing a no buy 😂 although as I mentioned, past me would have spent the money anyway.
Thank you sharing this and your honesty! This video was such a good reminder. Instant gratification can drive bad habits and ultimately ruin your future, I have to remind myself of this from time to time.
Of course! ♥️ thank you for watching and commenting. I need this as a reminder to myself too x
you are very brave to share this... i commend you for sharing! ❤
Thank you lovely ♥️
I totally relate with everything you have said. Tysm
Thank you for this reminder! ❤
You’re welcome 😉 it’s also a reminder to myself x
This year I challenged myself to a low buy clothing year and to help me with this I had to keep a running list on my phone of everything I bought. This has been eye opening. I wouldn't say I have been spending like crazy, but I would not say I've done a low buy so far. The list has slowed me down, I think, with continuing to buy so much. I look over the list as a reminder of all I added to my closet (I buy 2nd hand and often out of season so a lot of these new additions are unworn and packed away for winter) to work on being satisfied. It is a struggle!
Such a great idea keeping a list of what you buy. I wish I had kept track of anything new that entered my closet, as I’ve had some brands pieces come in, even if I haven’t ‘technically’ shopped. I think when my no buy is finished I’ll do a low-buy and keep track then. Maybe for the moment you can be happy with having more awareness around your spending, even if it hasn’t changed all that much yet. I think it will come with time. Xx
I do the same thing! I set a budget and keep the tally on my phone calendar along with the list of items I spent it on.
Love these tips! I just recently started discovering my sense of style so I sort of ramped up buying pieces last year but now I feel that i know what fabrics and silhouettes I like so I plan to start a low buy soon! This was definitely motivating!
Glad you enjoyed it! That’s great, sounds like you’re really getting to grips with your style and your shopping habits xx
Loving this video ❤
Thanks so much Sophia ♥️ glad you enjoyed it x
I bought last piece of clothing in December and this was stupid. Recently I decluttered my wardrobe and it's amazing Soon I will move to my new apartment, and as a mortgage is coming I will not buy clothes, shoes or kitchen stuff unless absolutely necessary. Movings as well as cleaning apartment after my deceased parents were lessons that most of clothes are useless and not needed. Having less saves a space and our wallet.
Yes my mortgage is impacting my spending too, I can’t even image in having the money for clothes so good thing I’m on a no-buy! Best of luck with your move , how exciting! X
A great video from the heart. All your tips were very useful. It's so easy to spend money...especially on-line...temporary satisfaction that soon fades....can relate to what you say Gemma.
Thanks so much Patricia, so glad you found it useful. So so easy!! It’s never been easier to spend money as is these days. All you need is your phone x
My no buy is going sorta well !! It's like a roller coaster tbh, I realised I attach a LOT of my self worth to what clothes I wear, I used to shop a LOT for my fantasy self and also never think about how sustainable my clothes were or whether I'd even want to wear them in the long run. I started around the middle of January and these changes are slowly setting in, which im very happy about . I also realised how much I looked to buying something or anything at all , to regulate my emotions instead of doing the proper deep work. I am also struggling with being more compassionate towards myself overall and not blaming me when I do find myself succumbing to old mental habits and looking for those superficial hits of dopamine. It has also made me look at all kinds if consumption related habits that I have , like the content I consume on social media, the food I eat and made me critical and more intentional about it all !
It sounds like you’re developing a great understanding of how you interact with shopping and browsing, which is amazing! I love you’re point on being conscious of everything you’re consuming, I’m working on that too x
Hi Gemma, Thank you for such an excellent and inciteful post😊. After being a shopaholic for most of my adult life (and that's a long time!) I decided to do no buy month from end of April 2024 to end of May 2024, I found it really very hard to complete, (not helped by some friends not taking my no spend month very seriously 🙁)..... but I did do it🤗 Yey! However, now we are in June and well I've busted the budget I set myself 🥺. I am going to do another no spend month in July ....I am hoping it will be better this time as I've done more preparation and I now have a better idea of what my weaknesses and triggers are! Look forward to more of your content Thank you again Caroline
Hi Caroline, That’s amazing!! Well done on your no buy month! 🙌 that’s great that you’ve been uncovering your triggers to shop, I think that’s where we get caught out hen we try not to shop and then put pops our trigger! Wishing you the best of luck with it 🙌 xx
@@gemmaamclean Thank you Gemma, I will be watching your progress on your no spend year ...you are doing really well so far! Keep up the good work!🤗
I’m from working-class family, I have been struggling financially for the longest time…and I would still be spending my student job earnings on clothes. They got us, they got us all…Some people would literally not eat or take the bus just to buy a new shirt.
It’s so true!!! Advertising sucks us in to think our lives will be better for it.. yet it’s actually worse because we’re broke!!
I really enjoyed this video! I’m trying to do a low buy. By the way when you point up to related videos, there’s nothing there.
I’m so glad you enjoyed it! Thank you for letting me know, I’ve updated that now ♥️
I am new to a low buy. I’ve only been going for 4 days, but I am really proud of myself because in the past, it wouldn’t work at all and now I’ve not shopped for 4 days (I attempted a low buy year in 2023 and it just wouldn’t work at all).
I still had money for the bus, but I can relate to being super broke because of a shopping addiction.
4 days is still a win 🏆 well done!
I dont have body type to do fast fashion, I buy high quality one cause apparently it fits me well since I dont dress like shein nor aritzia girls. But what break me were perfume and skincare 😂
That’s a great point, better quality a lot of the time means a better cut and fit. Yeh not into the Shein look myself 👀 I guess perfume and skincare is expensive too right?!
It all ended for me when I realized that following trends was all patriarchal bullshit and I wasn't dressing for myself. I still love fashion but I don't buy things nearly as often and I spend a lot less. I also know how to sew and I upcycle a lot. Quality fabric is also extremely cheap where I currently live.
That’s so lucky, I would love to live near quality fabric shops. I sometimes wonder if the fabric I buy is any better than buying fast fashion. But I low sewing as a slower approach to adding to my wardrobe, it’s a lovely skill to have. Xx
@@gemmaamclean I live in china and order fabric directly from the factory. You wouldn't believe the technology they have in these factories. They have a computerized machine for everything and they are able to mass produce so rapidly. I recently ordered 6 meters of calico cotton with a ditzy floral design and it was around £6 in UK money. Sellers order this in western countries plus shipping and they jack up the price to make a profit.
i think not having your style and trying different ones at uni or even high school is fine. obviously, not going over your budget.
Of course, experimenting is so important! At any stage if you’re still trying to find your style. But within budget ideally 🤪 xx
I thought the common sense is not to buy what you cant afford…how can you even buy it? You still have to pay off your credit card.. btw maybe your extravagant spending did get you a bf lol 😉
I guess some people can’t afford to pay off credit cards and end up in a pile of interest or debt. For me it was spending the money I had on clothing and then needing support for bills etc. I don’t think my spending got me a bf, he’s extremely frugal so wouldn’t have been that impressed by it 😂