Dekho bro mante hai parents galat hote hai pr yeh ghar ke mamle me plz desh ko maat lao. Pura desh ke baro me bol rahe ho to ultimatly bahut bada statement de rahe ho... Aur woh bhi engreji me... Yeh koi baat hui bhala
@@txp6940 bura lage ya na lage pr generally yahi problem h Indian parents ke sath. Ya to vo khule sandh ki tarah chhor dete h apne ladke ko ya to vo pura bandh hi dete h ek cow ki tarah.
Very true I'm preparing for IES and my parents aren't agreeing with me and wants me to go to some industry and do what others do and they don't understand tht everyone are different ... And they keep bragging about how I'm jobless and all ., It makes me sick 😓
Everytime I argue with my mom, she always ended it with "I don't care about you anymore". I'm so sick of this, I wanna be a good daughter but we're just too different. I'm tired...
Same bro my mom is also like this only first she get angry on little things and when I say something she's like u don't respect me and other stuff. I'm tired now
Same here...i love her 2 much but she is such an orthodox women thst she goes with the society without any concern ..that how it will affect their child
Me my father sooo different... He scold me before relatives without any reason... Me and my mom... But my mom always argue with me. And asking y you are arguing with your dad before relatives.. Without reason, any one scold me I got angry I can't control myself.. My dad and my mom always arguing me ...So I am tired.. 😤
Just had a conflict with my parents..and cried two hours straight away and cursed my density that why I am still alive..ek hi chij 100 Baar puchege fr kehege hum pyr se Puch rhe h tumhe baat krne k tmeej nhii hai logo ko baccho ko Dekho ..faalana dimkaana
@Srajit Bhardwaj I knw they r concerned about us and I respect that but Woh hmari life ki har chij control krna chahte hai..aise toh hum kbi grow hii nii Kr pyege life Mai.. Saari life hum unka hath pakad k thodi chlege yr
@@sonamthukral1771 I just hate this thing .. why do girls have to understand everything and have to adjust in that situation... 🥺 Don't we have our lives? Don't we deserve to be happy? Is their anyone who can answer these questions
@@himanshirohilla1218 dear listen..I think this is what we call generation gap..also it is bcoz of communication gap between parents and children..phle k time Mai maa baap k samne girls cutsleeve tk nii pehnti thi ghr ki aurate pallu leti thi dheere dheere so chij khtm hogyi aj girls shorts b pehnti h aur jyda modern h toh bikini bhi chlti hai toh jamana change toh ho rha h but haa bht parents h jinki Soch stereotype h kyoki unhone apni jindgi waise hii jee h ab Kuch parents h Jo modernity ko except Kr rhe h Kuch nii ....I will just advice you to do what feels good to u and make u happy.. eventually Aapke parents understand kr lenge uss chij ko aur fr bhi nhi krte toh bhi Apne Dil ki suno..lots of love to u
@@sonamthukral1771 I do what I fell write but in this lockdown ... Things are getting worse ... And the worst thing is relatives they make situation even worse... By the way thanks for your advice 😘 take care.. and God bless you💙
Just had a huge family fight with my parents and I'm sick of their toxic taunts and patterns recurring everytime. I'm just working on getting educated and being financially independent so that I can move out immediately
I just had one with my mother. I own the part that I play in our relationship and I realize too that how I feel or my perspective or even my healing is never taken in consideration because I am not her age as she tells me. It’s not her responsibility to fix and heal me or change the relationship nor is my responsibility to change her. She wants constant control and I don’t care who it is. Nobody is going to be up in my face dictating my life and how I should live it. It’s difficult because I don’t know how to grieve a living parent but I will make it out of this. I will be financially free and move out as soon as possible. I hope you did the same!✨
many Indian parents dont understand what their childrens want...all time they just compare u with others..rather than motivating u they just make u negative..guyz keep ur desire burning n dont focus on negatives..just put ur energy, concentration, thought on ur aim always! do meditation for this.
My mom is like, she spill out all of her anger on me. She always says that I irritate her. Yah I know I irritate but I do it only when she gets angry with me without any proper reason.
I’m 32 years old and STILL conflicting with my parents. I’ve always wanted to have a decent, adult relationship with them but for whatever reason we cannot see eye to eye. And I’m seeing lots of Indian, Chinese, and Arabic people frustrated too but just know it’s happening everywhere. I’m American. Older people somehow have a hard time understanding/empathizing with people 25-30 years younger I guess.
It happens same with me ... My mom feels like cooking a tasty dish makes me happy , but really she never properly communicated with me.. that made me even worse
Life itself is imperfect in all forms , people build unnecessary walls around for sometime they try get over it when it's too late by then others have left them far away. Its sad phase of reality. Don't try others to make us happy we are the beginners of this endless endeavor. Best wishes
Nah dude they are not protective, they are controlling + bully (my parents bully me for my weight) They just want us to successful so they can live their dreams through us (what about us ?) They just want puppets who never complain, get good grades and don't question their decision I don't think in future, whenever I'll become independent I'll ever be able to live with my parents. It's sad but true, sometimes the things you have, you don't seem to value it. Same with our parents Constant comparison kills us
I hope after 15-20 years, when maybe I will be a mother of one or two, or maybe not.. I hope I will remind these.... 1. I will not pressurizing my child doing things he doesn't like.. 2. I will not remind him everyday that I am PAYING FOR HIM. IT'S TOO MUCH PAIN TRUST ME.. 3. I will accept the way he or she is... 4. I will be his/her best friend...
I feel same, what I am not to do my children after I am a mother. When I feel sad, depressed, feels to suside so many times, I don't put my childrens to that situations. Because I felt why I am thinking like this , and why don't quickly recover from my mental upset and physical upset from my parents.
Was in need of it, so desperately in this suffocating lock down . Thank you sadhuguru . Also the comments section feels like friends sitting together and helping each other out.🤗🤗
Rigit. Not ready to listen their child. They will do only things that they want and they believe. And that's situation creates anger and conflicts. What to do in this situation?
Listen from 1 ear and let it out from the other ear. Just don't react. They are telling their opinion, they are not orders. U r not bound to follow their opinion. Just don't fight, focus on doing urown thing. If they don't like it and ask u to leave the house, then leave the house. But don't leave the house just out of anger. Most parents will understand with time if u don't argue with them every now and then.
@@perfectlyinsane6308 don't worry bro in life you won't get everything you want . If you feel lonely go to some bar and pick up some girls. Or go to a strip club and have fun . Just don't get aids.....
@Forever alone This is pretty common, in lot of households. I was just like you struggling for long time trying to walk on eggshells around them. This is pretty close to Narcisstic symptoms, read about narcissism and how narcissistic parents behave and how you should deal with them . This will help you immensely!
Don't care about others perception , everyone are on their own journey , just focus on yourself that's is the only thing that matters. The rest is just a illusion that teaches us so we can mature spiritually
The problem with me is my parents always think that I have an issue with them, but I seriously don't. The moment I start answering them about the topic they are talking about they just say you have problem with us and that just end the entire topic. They don't listen, never understand. And I'm just broken from inside. It hurts because I can't talk my heart out with the people who deserve to listen to me, understand me more than anyone else.
I hope somebody will read this and tell me whether I'm right or wrong, cause I wanna know if I'm the problem in my family....I REALLY DO... My mom said I'm not her daughter anymore...and that I will never succeed...I made her cry, I feel terrible... a few weeks ago I had a heated argument with my sister and she came to talk to me twice...but that day was the last straw for me...my sis told me that I was just taking advantage of everyone around me, when I asked her to take me to my school to collect my marklist, the entire ride she kept insulting me and I walked halfway back home in tears...I was so upset, that I vowed that I'd never speak to her again...and my mom came up to me and told me that I should go talk to her because she came to talk to me twice...but she never apologised...she just tapped me...I never got "I'm sorry" out of her...and my mom kept forcing me to apologise to her and saying things like "when we are gone you guys will only have each other" and it pissed me off...it ended with her crying because I was being mean to her and she said that I'm not her daughter anymore and that she didn't want me anymore...she also cursed me...am I wrong for getting mad at my mom for this? Your comment makes sense I argue a lot with my family but for a while it was all okay, then this happened...
I try to do the same with my Mom but sadly she won't listen as much as possible to ascertain. It's frustrating when she cuts me off, multiple times, and won't let me finish speaking.
I learned a funny thing... It's like if your father was a drunkard from birth... You just go on about your life... It doesn't bother you much... But it's the expectations that hurts... It's why we are constantly hurt by someone or the other.... All you can actually do is to be the bigger person in the situation... Assess it, build your own life... Move away if they are toxic... Only do your duties when they need help... Know that they will also step on you if you play the doormat... But then say things respectfuly ... Like... Tell her what hurt you and if she still makes it about herselevs then let it be.... You tried... First ask them in depth what you said hurt them because sometimes explaining can make them realize that they are actually being petty.... But dont expect they are older so they should do better kind of thing... Because the are no better than any other humans,.. Not everyone grows as they age.... .. All this said.... Even I can't practice it.... It boils my blood everytime I hear my parents badmouthing me because I am jobless single at 29 and overweight... Even though I have a degree and I have reasons why I am struggling to find my way again.. But they did try, ,, as time went on they also started getting bitter.... I might move out soon.. I don't know if that will solve it.... But I will atleast have freedom... And then I don't know.... It's like I am working on accepting them as they are but I still get angry when they taunt me... And they as adults too I have seen them unable to mend other relationships or how they grow distant from my relatives because they don't treat them as expected.... So that's exactly how they will behave with their children too.... Not every parent has a good personality... They wouldn't suddenly become wise in front of their kids... One day you become a mother doesn't mean you suddenly become a women of character... But the love shows when all is good... And their character shows when all is not good..... Nothing you can do about it than to work on your selves. But turns out I am not that big of a person myselves... Open conversations can definitely help... But in my case I have to be financially independent before I can ask them to treat me like an adult and to demand freedom which is my primary stressor right now. ... Another thing I would ask is if their love is only as good as my achievements but maybe I could forgive that one because I know they are not that big a person.. .... But definitely not getting what you want from your child is like a milder version of loosing your child for parents who haven't learned to manage their expectations... In your case, ask your sister why she said that and what they would want you to do differently.... And then you can work around that... Let them know that if they draw a line because they are frustrated .... You wouldn't just tolerate everything....so if just telling them to shut up wont work then ask them what you should do so they won't speak to you like that.... Good luck kid.... For me I know I should get a job.. And them maybe I can tell them that I will make my own choices and that I won't become this superachiever billionare family girl who would live under their wings... They can't help it and you can't fix them... But you decide what you will allow into your life... But still girl don't end up alone... It's still better to gave a family than none unless they become too much that you need to seek police Or a psychologist...
I feel good now that I just don't like my parents now. I mean I have decided not to expect any emotional support from my parents. So don't feel alone. All have this issue. But my problem is I am dependent on them..
Believe me. Its way better to not be in the trap and what if your father is not there to be your ground when you are falling. GODFATHER you heavenly father is always there. He got you in this world because his world wouldn't be complete without you in it. Be happy and always make yourself proud of breaking the curse chain. ❤ YOU ARE STRONG.
Most of the times I feel like I'm a burden on my parents.... They never cared about me....they never care how do I feel...what I'm going through... since childhood its feel like I'm my own guardian... Doing all stuff on my own .... I always crave for their love...
The fact that in the comment section most of the commenters are Indians. This gives me the most devastating scenario of the nearest future of India. Fact 2 that your parents will never come across this comment section and see your comment. Therefore well I'll confess ,I came here out of emotional outburst.i'm typing when my eyelids are giving me repeated threats that they can't hold my tears anymore. Oh !!!! am I crying ??? -Yes. Is it a very frequent fact?? -Yes. And how do you overcome this stress? -I watch Sadhguru.
After seeing all the comments I came to know there are lot of people who suffer with the same problem as of me....the problem is parents ego that y should I accept the one when I haven't choosen for them they don't have problem if they choose the same person ....the only problem is nt with the person it's with their attitude .....they won't bother whether we will be happy or not they want the things according to their wish to build their social respect they don't want to bother about their child life ...donno when this caste system goes away from India and become more republic
My mom and I used to argue all the time. But now, I've tried my best to do whatever she wants me to do. But sometimes I just wanted to be respected as a person, I want to choose my own life. I want to have my own dream. But it seems like, everything has been destroyed. Now I don't have any dreams, I don't know what to do, I don't know what my life is. But still, I want to be a good daughter.. it's just we're very different...
Hmm. I still want to keep a good relationship with my parents. But I think I'm willing to pay the prize and live my own life as I want it. Maybe someday they'll understand and then there won't be any conflicts
It's so hard when u didn't receive love from ur parents since birth. No affection love understanding.... Growing up I got to hear that i was born in the wrong family and I don't deserve them..... Growing up I got beaten almost to death by my dad and even now it continues..... People domt see you as a person.... More like an object...... People domt allow you to persure things and try to control ur life...... Being financially dependent feels like a curse........ Crying in front of them feels like demeaning ur self esteem.... For me unfortunately the term people symbolises my parents........ You guys who have an understanding and not do abusive parents are so lucky ❤️
Sometimes parents try to emotionally blackmail us when they want us something to do of what they like, they think is more efficient for us. This is really sick of them. Before doing this they need to understand our point of view too as well as our perspective. Today, things are not the same as they were used be 20-30 years ago. This is absolutely true that at the end of the day, parents always want the best for their children but with this they shouldn't understimate their child's potential and capability, which are overshadowing because of their decisions. I think Indian parents are more driven by the society instead of their own instincts in taking decisions about what they needs to do.
Problem is indian parents don't realize that their children can grow up too. We are toddlers for them for entire life. My MIL thinks that my husband is a kid still who doesn't know the know hows of the world. And I being younger than him, I am just a dumb chick
@@shivanshdubey431 I really don't think I would need to do that. Not that I am ashamed of talking in Hindi, but it's a really simple comment that I made. Anyone with basic knowledge of the English language can easily understand it. So, maybe you are the one who needs to brush up his skills. PS. I usually comment in English so that a wider range of users and viewers can understand what I mean to say. You surely are not one of them.
@@thegoldenblushofficial MILs creating lot of man child in India who doesn't even know to wash their own plates , marriage in India sounds like arranging babysitters to these man child after period of mothers responsibility. Not in all cases! But this is a majority case .
Basically every decision has a reaction, sometimes it's conflict, and it's up to you whether you fight against it. If you truly believe in your decision then I'm guessing you'll fight, and deal with the conflict, otherwise you're going to give up, and, or you can do something different.
My parents lack on communication, that's why they prefer to sleep separated than talk back at each other and that silence is killing me inside. sometimes I would think about suicide cause of too much pain. I know my parents are also human, they have flaws but they shouldn't have considered their children first. yah ,now I'm scared to commit into relationship , worst , marriage
I know it hurts... please meditate And belive there are persons like Sadhguru for our liberation...I have seen my mother cheating on my father...And my father knows it but doesn't care at all....I have survived and doing wonderful... please meditate and focus on your career....
As time evolves changes are imminent so you need not the same journey as others. So plz do take courage to give the space one needs including yourself. If you need to fly you need strong wings, so set it right all the best
I understand you bro, I feel it will be better if you could find one activity which you could put your energies away from their judgement and have some time which rejuvenates you. And as for your parents, if you could let them know about your feelings in some peaceful way - through a grandparent or someone they trust, then you can try that , if not , then I think it will be better if you could avoid having confrontations with them, especially over things which are not that necessary. I hope you find this helpful. All the best👍
I feel you... my parents were overprotective when I was a kid and now I hate it! I wanna be independent and they still treat me like I'm 5 I'm only 18 I know but they treat me like I'm 5...and I hate it...they are like "you should be grateful that you grew up in "luxury"" and I get it I was a very ANNOYING kid and they still bring up bad stuff I did when I was 4-8 yrs old I'm a completely different person now... but they still do it... they just never give me the chance to change...
I think parents should be very caring during childs childhood and strict during school days and best friend during teen age. But no on understand this.
The toughest thing I face with my parents is finding peace with them. I feel shamed, ridiculed, and degraded. And I do not tolerate it at all. Yet, I am the one made to feel bad for not wanting to be treated that way. It is hard for me to face my mother physically. Although I need to grow up and do so for both of our benefit. So that I can establish some sort of peace.
It is just difficult, considering every time that I have faced her, it always goes back to being the way it was. It always goes back to arguments that consist of her feeding off my energy by causing me fear. It is exhausting, and it’s even more exhausting because I really don’t want to be seen as if I am trying to make myself victim. I know I hold accountability for things I’ve done, but I should be able to say, that what I go through is absolutely not okay. However, unfortunately, I need to handle it like a grown woman.
I feel the same. My parents have everything set in stone, and they have it all planned out on what they want their offspring to do. No explanation suffices, no amount of logic is enough. I understand that I have it better than lots of people, and my parents are certainly nice, but that doesn't really suffice for me.
In Bhagvad Gita It is also mentioned that there will be a time in Kalyug when parents will clean their children so bad that they will terribly bruise them. ( This is a metaphor where it is suggested that the parents control and attachment will be so unnecessarily high that its going to suffocate the children of kalyug...( As per Krishna) and that's evident. The Bhagavad Gita, which is surely the basic text on the practice of detachment, is wonderfully explicit on this point. Krishna tells Arjuna that acting with detachment means doing the right thing for its own sake, because it needs to be done, without worrying about success or failure.
U can't have logical talk with them , it just end up u getting blackmailed back.🙄 It just not only for our wish but for any other decision making they think us as kids. Later when it's late they understand but again continue the same thing.
I like how people getting so comfortable and clearing their mind and heart in the comment section...but this also show how many problems we have in our life...
I would love to see more Indias' youth staying in the homeland to grow and improve everything.Being devoted to the beautiful culture and creating projects to improve the health and food sources,etc.for this most beautiful country.
The main reason we Indians are going abroad is mainly because of our parents and society ..we cannot make our country beautifull by living with toxic people ...
@@adil5904 yeah 90% of the people come under the shitty judgemental society of India and if we are educated(not by degrees) and have a better perspective of life we will be judged! Beta aisa kapda maath pehno, degree lelo, yeh sab business maath karo and it never ends
The important thing in life is, do you care about yourself? How will you give birth to your own existence? Unconfortable situations, hurdles in life are opportunities for us to grow and shine by ourselves, don't expect anybody to make your life shiny and wonderful (not even your own parents), that is an individual responsibility and choice ;)
it took so much violence and trauma to grow this silent that i prefer to live alone than life with my family not because i don't love them but because i simply have no energy left to cope up with the environment. i'm just holding on for as long as i can and trying to forgive myself and my parents.
99.99 % of problems will never occur if we could speak honestly whatever we've in our mind. Which will never happen in indian homes. The sad part is we've very less divorce rate in the world.
Maximum respect for Sadhguru! Great messages! But as happens frequently he doesn't reply to the question. Why he doesn't pay the attention he says to be so important in life?
With parents, their whole problem is about their expectations out of their children. They want to get everything with a limited effort. On top of that those impractical expections are highly influenced by the existing social norms and the toxic relatives who have exploited them their entire life and now want to do the same with us.
I cry every single day because my parents does not understand what I think they think that only study makes us successful i research about computers and their parts is time waste I like comp and I ll they don't understand us
Children and parents don't need to keep sacrificing for each other out of pleasing and obligation. There is only truth and honesty in expressing your own choices and taking responsibility for the consequences. There is NO have to just WANT to❤️
If you feel that way then you can't do anything to make them understand about your feelings because then they think that you are being a drama queen and attention seeker. Just don't drain your energy by giving explanation everytime. They won't understand you. Ever. So it's better to invest your time on hobbies and making yourself strong and better than before.
I have the same problem...I'm completely isolated from conversations and sometimes they laugh so loud so I can hear...and when I talk I have to repeat myself several times because they're talking over me or on their phones...its not a nice feeling to know your parent doesn't think much of your company
who all are here after a conflict with mom and dad raise your hands am here after hearing a whole yelling session from my mom am fed up i really can't get her sometimes she is really nice but i can't even imagine her other side
My parents are getting old. They need emotional support, they feel helpless without me. Traditionally, they are using the same trick as everyone else's parents to control me and my emotions to the end of their life. We have to live with it anyway. If we are going to a night club, please don't forget to buy something for your parents like slippers for your mom and some healthy food for your dad. I believe in balance. I told my parents that don't stop me to go to Goa, Night Club or a Movie. If you need something do tell me. But do not stop me to do my own things.
Whyyy my parents don't even try to understand me and my perspective and whyyy always the ending of any argument comes over blaming the mobile phone....why can't theyyyy sometime put their ego aside and think about what I am sayinggggg..whyy whyyyyy...I just want them to understand me and treat me as a blooming flower Also why can't I ignore those bitter words from themmm
Some parents thnk that they are alwys right but they don't but they don't agree evn if you proved abt itt .. but they don't nd somehow they manage to show tht they are right nd u are wrong.. by their tough words which at some point hurts u so muchhhhhhhh
Ok so this happened just few hours ago... My mother literally beated me up to death in front of my relatives who had came.... Just because I opposed her. Some of my school document went missing which I had to sumbit tomorrow, due to some my carelessness and her as well. Actually I putt those documents in her polythene.which she threw away without looking at them. And she blamed me for all that that why I putt them in that. She made a whole fuss out of that situation and then she started beating her head up in front of the relatives for no reason, this act of hers i found really disturbing and the moment i argued with her for doing this all. She beated me so badly. I hope no one gets a mother like her. She is a true momster I hate her.
Parents are like "sari galti humari hi hai" they blame us for everything that goes wrong. If you try to be bold and show them the mirror, they will assign all the bad adjectives to you without giving it a second thought that it affects our emotions !! And moreover, they validate everything by saying "we've been through it too, and there's nothing wrong in it." No body js ready to come out of the bog, they are staying there and dragging us in too !!
Sometimes children r more knowledgeable than parents. Parents won't accept this fact. Parents and children should understand each other and also adjust with eachother
If you are being drained by your much loved ones, huge love and support to you. Know that you have the power to cut them out, make them realise their essence, make a distance with them. Its not necessary for you to hate them but you can maintain a distance for your own wellbeing. You cannot make everyone Happy. Just make sure you do well. ❤️
It's sometime so difficult to even answer polite to parents coz on either ways harsh or polite they think I am back answering, I just feel so depressing at times .....
I am 36 years old , but can't tolerate my parents fight. For the smallest thing like going out some place with family together , buying a shirt etc in have to argue with my father . He goes against of everything I chose to be , literally each and everything. Good help me.
The sad thing is no parents watch these kinds of videos, the children do. Not saying the parents must watch these and the children don’t have to, but sometimes there are things that require effort from both sides…
My mom and I had a huge fight because I came home after drinking. Nothing illegal but she hates that I go out drinking. She has problems with how I live my life but she’s home constantly and not working at all. So our relationship is not only dependent on an emotional level, she is dependent on me and my sister on financial situations. She called the police on me yesterday night but the center hung up on her. So I called the police for her. But the problem was I was the one who got hit and I was the one who keeps getting wrung up on the line of strings. I know she is my mother and I have done many wrongs but I can’t forgive her and myself and I also can’t get over the fact that she tried to call up the police on me for drinking.
Indian parents are always critical of your mistakes, they never allow room for mistakes, that is why we never grow, we never dare to take a risks
Ur absolutely true
Dekho bro mante hai parents galat hote hai pr yeh ghar ke mamle me plz desh ko maat lao. Pura desh ke baro me bol rahe ho to ultimatly bahut bada statement de rahe ho... Aur woh bhi engreji me... Yeh koi baat hui bhala
Same
@@txp6940 bura lage ya na lage pr generally yahi problem h Indian parents ke sath.
Ya to vo khule sandh ki tarah chhor dete h apne ladke ko ya to vo pura bandh hi dete h ek cow ki tarah.
same to Chinese parents
Sometimes parents forget that children are born through them , not to them.
Thisss
You are right sis 😭
FACTS👍🏾
Stop loving but DON'T HATE
Khalil Gibran 🖤
Just try to get mental and financial independence as soon as possible. It empowers you to take your own decisions in life.
thank you for this reminder. It helped me today :))
Very true I'm preparing for IES and my parents aren't agreeing with me and wants me to go to some industry and do what others do and they don't understand tht everyone are different ... And they keep bragging about how I'm jobless and all ., It makes me sick 😓
Even this doesnt help cz one we earn and if we take our own decisions parents say WE ARE DISRESPECTFUL AND EGOISTIC
Yes true or parents will make your life miserable
So true..
Everytime I argue with my mom, she always ended it with "I don't care about you anymore". I'm so sick of this, I wanna be a good daughter but we're just too different. I'm tired...
Stop loving but DON'T HATE
Same bro my mom is also like this only first she get angry on little things and when I say something she's like u don't respect me and other stuff. I'm tired now
Same here...i love her 2 much but she is such an orthodox women thst she goes with the society without any concern ..that how it will affect their child
Me my father sooo different... He scold me before relatives without any reason... Me and my mom... But my mom always argue with me. And asking y you are arguing with your dad before relatives.. Without reason, any one scold me I got angry I can't control myself.. My dad and my mom always arguing me ...So I am tired.. 😤
@@gonefishing5401 How can you do that?
let us not have children until we become open-minded to accept them , love them unconditionally.
Agree so muchhhhhh❤
Parents donot understand that evrybody need their space ..even if they are your children. .problem is they want to control everything about u
Just had a conflict with my parents..and cried two hours straight away and cursed my density that why I am still alive..ek hi chij 100 Baar puchege fr kehege hum pyr se Puch rhe h tumhe baat krne k tmeej nhii hai logo ko baccho ko Dekho ..faalana dimkaana
@Srajit Bhardwaj I knw they r concerned about us and I respect that but Woh hmari life ki har chij control krna chahte hai..aise toh hum kbi grow hii nii Kr pyege life Mai.. Saari life hum unka hath pakad k thodi chlege yr
@@sonamthukral1771 I just hate this thing .. why do girls have to understand everything and have to adjust in that situation... 🥺 Don't we have our lives? Don't we deserve to be happy? Is their anyone who can answer these questions
@@himanshirohilla1218 dear listen..I think this is what we call generation gap..also it is bcoz of communication gap between parents and children..phle k time Mai maa baap k samne girls cutsleeve tk nii pehnti thi ghr ki aurate pallu leti thi dheere dheere so chij khtm hogyi aj girls shorts b pehnti h aur jyda modern h toh bikini bhi chlti hai toh jamana change toh ho rha h but haa bht parents h jinki Soch stereotype h kyoki unhone apni jindgi waise hii jee h ab Kuch parents h Jo modernity ko except Kr rhe h Kuch nii ....I will just advice you to do what feels good to u and make u happy.. eventually Aapke parents understand kr lenge uss chij ko aur fr bhi nhi krte toh bhi Apne Dil ki suno..lots of love to u
@@sonamthukral1771 I do what I fell write but in this lockdown ... Things are getting worse ... And the worst thing is relatives they make situation even worse... By the way thanks for your advice 😘 take care.. and God bless you💙
Just had a huge family fight with my parents and I'm sick of their toxic taunts and patterns recurring everytime. I'm just working on getting educated and being financially independent so that I can move out immediately
Welcome to Kenya Rachel
I just had one with my mother. I own the part that I play in our relationship and I realize too that how I feel or my perspective or even my healing is never taken in consideration because I am not her age as she tells me. It’s not her responsibility to fix and heal me or change the relationship nor is my responsibility to change her. She wants constant control and I don’t care who it is. Nobody is going to be up in my face dictating my life and how I should live it. It’s difficult because I don’t know how to grieve a living parent but I will make it out of this. I will be financially free and move out as soon as possible. I hope you did the same!✨
many Indian parents dont understand what their childrens want...all time they just compare u with others..rather than motivating u they just make u negative..guyz keep ur desire burning n dont focus on negatives..just put ur energy, concentration, thought on ur aim always! do meditation for this.
Same bro... Comparison... 😭
I have developed inferiority complex becoz of my dad
They only want "what will people say"
@@Sandy-cv2ns same here
You need to understand that it's not you who is problematic, it's them!
Its like every successful person has said : don't be afraid to take a risk
Lemme run outtta my housee🏃🏼♀️
@@infinitechallanges3599 Yeah👌
Let me run 6 miles on heavy rain 🏃
listen carefully, he said you have to decide how much risk you want to take & there is no right or wrong.
I will move out soon
our parents were also parented by unfit parents. Just evolve into a responsible person yourself and drop baby sitting expectations
That's true
I disagree. My mother had 10 siblings n they ran wild. They had a blast but she turned out so dominating and naggy
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Awesome
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My mom is like, she spill out all of her anger on me. She always says that I irritate her. Yah I know I irritate but I do it only when she gets angry with me without any proper reason.
omg... you are not alone!
Yeah just now I had it....its so I dont know how to explain it nvm...we r all on the same page i guess so
Yeah and just chill relax after some spouts ...it will be al fine ..^_^
Same bro
we Are not alone , don't take stress be relax and enjoy your life
Same problem i hate my parrents they underestimate a lot and insult me somtimes it looks like they are black mailing me
My family members fighting everyday making me an emotional wreck
Me too
Me too daily Fight in my home wat can i do daily iam passing sleepless nights
@@Uiop794 can we talk together on Instagram? coz I am having the same problem .and I need someone to share with.. And short it as well.
Me too
Sometimes i think ...why i m here in this world
Trust me ...for a girl its far more difficult 😕
Trust me it isn't
@@bonn94 ok
Trust me in my life boys life is more hectic.. My sister has more Privallage than me
Well it doesn't depends in gender. I think every child with a dream of their own has this problem.
@@sunesarakunal3508 so kismt kismt ki baat h 😂😂
I’m 32 years old and STILL conflicting with my parents. I’ve always wanted to have a decent, adult relationship with them but for whatever reason we cannot see eye to eye. And I’m seeing lots of Indian, Chinese, and Arabic people frustrated too but just know it’s happening everywhere. I’m American. Older people somehow have a hard time understanding/empathizing with people 25-30 years younger I guess.
bro same here.
It happens same with me ...
My mom feels like cooking a tasty dish makes me happy , but really she never properly communicated with me.. that made me even worse
Life itself is imperfect in all forms , people build unnecessary walls around for sometime they try get over it when it's too late by then others have left them far away. Its sad phase of reality. Don't try others to make us happy we are the beginners of this endless endeavor. Best wishes
Are you still staying with them?
@@notavailable708 no we’ve lived apart for years. Just don’t agree on much when we speak.
I feel every pain like others . I am from India... My father always take decision on behalf of me.. N controlling my life...
I am really happy that i'm not alone
Same..
Same my father controls life of my all family member, i take every decision to satisfy his ego😔
Same bro
Pus*y.😂😂😂😂
Quarantine has led me here and fights with parents i m happy it hppned atleast we know reality which we werent aware bffr
me too from south India help me 😥😥
@@nagamani4035 hii.... Can i help uhh🙂
@@coldhearted2741 wht u will help 🙄🤣
kumar k 👍🙏
@@nagamani4035 😅😅
Over Protective parents excessively is a curse for the future of children and is always fatal to their mental and physical strength.
Nah dude they are not protective, they are controlling + bully (my parents bully me for my weight)
They just want us to successful so they can live their dreams through us (what about us ?)
They just want puppets who never complain, get good grades and don't question their decision
I don't think in future, whenever I'll become independent I'll ever be able to live with my parents. It's sad but true, sometimes the things you have, you don't seem to value it. Same with our parents
Constant comparison kills us
@@Izzy- us bro us 😭😭
I hope after 15-20 years, when maybe I will be a mother of one or two, or maybe not.. I hope I will remind these....
1. I will not pressurizing my child doing things he doesn't like..
2. I will not remind him everyday that I am PAYING FOR HIM. IT'S TOO MUCH PAIN TRUST ME..
3. I will accept the way he or she is...
4. I will be his/her best friend...
👏👏
2nd problem why I'm here
@@patilganesh5279 same bro i am very sad
I feel same, what I am not to do my children after I am a mother.
When I feel sad, depressed, feels to suside so many times,
I don't put my childrens to that situations.
Because I felt why I am thinking like this , and why don't quickly recover from my mental upset and physical upset from my parents.
Please dont judge you children
Was in need of it, so desperately in this suffocating lock down . Thank you sadhuguru . Also the comments section feels like friends sitting together and helping each other out.🤗🤗
True
Strangers will always be the true friend 😀
@@mr.filmworm4018 yea strangers will also understand you more than your own parents
Rigit. Not ready to listen their child. They will do only things that they want and they believe. And that's situation creates anger and conflicts. What to do in this situation?
Leave your parents , start your new life in a different house different city (you can settle in Mumbai )
Free Yourself
Yep! I guess it's the same in every household
Listen from 1 ear and let it out from the other ear. Just don't react. They are telling their opinion, they are not orders. U r not bound to follow their opinion. Just don't fight, focus on doing urown thing. If they don't like it and ask u to leave the house, then leave the house. But don't leave the house just out of anger. Most parents will understand with time if u don't argue with them every now and then.
@@periodictech4248 I agree. Well said.
This lockdown had broke me emotionally down😭
Exactly 😭
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What happened???
Its true🥲
It had me isolated in the first year of lockdown.
Why do parents discriminate between their two children? Specially a boy is treated with upper hand, it really hurts me
No bro it's not the case in my house my sister is more privilaged than me. I don't even get their mental support. 😂😂
@@perfectlyinsane6308 don't worry bro in life you won't get everything you want . If you feel lonely go to some bar and pick up some girls.
Or go to a strip club and have fun .
Just don't get aids.....
@Forever alone This is pretty common, in lot of households. I was just like you struggling for long time trying to walk on eggshells around them. This is pretty close to Narcisstic symptoms, read about narcissism and how narcissistic parents behave and how you should deal with them . This will help you immensely!
@@abhinikam105 same here bro
@KK Gangopadhyay seems like your parents are toxic. Not everyone is like that. Mind your words
Don't care about others perception , everyone are on their own journey , just focus on yourself that's is the only thing that matters. The rest is just a illusion that teaches us so we can mature spiritually
Very interesting perspective. As if we all are granted an individualized illusion to decipher
@@Ryan-fp3vw 😂😂😂😂😂
Mith .. I Agree ☝️
But in my case i am drowned
The problem with me is my parents always think that I have an issue with them, but I seriously don't. The moment I start answering them about the topic they are talking about they just say you have problem with us and that just end the entire topic. They don't listen, never understand. And I'm just broken from inside. It hurts because I can't talk my heart out with the people who deserve to listen to me, understand me more than anyone else.
I hope somebody will read this and tell me whether I'm right or wrong, cause I wanna know if I'm the problem in my family....I REALLY DO...
My mom said I'm not her daughter anymore...and that I will never succeed...I made her cry, I feel terrible...
a few weeks ago I had a heated argument with my sister and she came to talk to me twice...but that day was the last straw for me...my sis told me that I was just taking advantage of everyone around me, when I asked her to take me to my school to collect my marklist, the entire ride she kept insulting me and I walked halfway back home in tears...I was so upset, that I vowed that I'd never speak to her again...and my mom came up to me and told me that I should go talk to her because she came to talk to me twice...but she never apologised...she just tapped me...I never got "I'm sorry" out of her...and my mom kept forcing me to apologise to her and saying things like "when we are gone you guys will only have each other" and it pissed me off...it ended with her crying because I was being mean to her and she said that I'm not her daughter anymore and that she didn't want me anymore...she also cursed me...am I wrong for getting mad at my mom for this?
Your comment makes sense I argue a lot with my family but for a while it was all okay, then this happened...
I try to do the same with my Mom but sadly she won't listen as much as possible to ascertain. It's frustrating when she cuts me off, multiple times, and won't let me finish speaking.
I learned a funny thing... It's like if your father was a drunkard from birth... You just go on about your life... It doesn't bother you much... But it's the expectations that hurts... It's why we are constantly hurt by someone or the other.... All you can actually do is to be the bigger person in the situation... Assess it, build your own life... Move away if they are toxic... Only do your duties when they need help... Know that they will also step on you if you play the doormat... But then say things respectfuly ... Like... Tell her what hurt you and if she still makes it about herselevs then let it be.... You tried... First ask them in depth what you said hurt them because sometimes explaining can make them realize that they are actually being petty.... But dont expect they are older so they should do better kind of thing... Because the are no better than any other humans,.. Not everyone grows as they age.... ..
All this said.... Even I can't practice it.... It boils my blood everytime I hear my parents badmouthing me because I am jobless single at 29 and overweight... Even though I have a degree and I have reasons why I am struggling to find my way again.. But they did try, ,, as time went on they also started getting bitter.... I might move out soon.. I don't know if that will solve it.... But I will atleast have freedom... And then I don't know....
It's like I am working on accepting them as they are but I still get angry when they taunt me... And they as adults too I have seen them unable to mend other relationships or how they grow distant from my relatives because they don't treat them as expected.... So that's exactly how they will behave with their children too.... Not every parent has a good personality... They wouldn't suddenly become wise in front of their kids... One day you become a mother doesn't mean you suddenly become a women of character... But the love shows when all is good... And their character shows when all is not good..... Nothing you can do about it than to work on your selves. But turns out I am not that big of a person myselves... Open conversations can definitely help... But in my case I have to be financially independent before I can ask them to treat me like an adult and to demand freedom which is my primary stressor right now. ... Another thing I would ask is if their love is only as good as my achievements but maybe I could forgive that one because I know they are not that big a person.. ....
But definitely not getting what you want from your child is like a milder version of loosing your child for parents who haven't learned to manage their expectations... In your case, ask your sister why she said that and what they would want you to do differently.... And then you can work around that... Let them know that if they draw a line because they are frustrated .... You wouldn't just tolerate everything....so if just telling them to shut up wont work then ask them what you should do so they won't speak to you like that.... Good luck kid.... For me I know I should get a job.. And them maybe I can tell them that I will make my own choices and that I won't become this superachiever billionare family girl who would live under their wings... They can't help it and you can't fix them... But you decide what you will allow into your life... But still girl don't end up alone... It's still better to gave a family than none unless they become too much that you need to seek police Or a psychologist...
yeah, they get very defensive easily...the communication is trash
Thank you Sadhguru for listening my prayer..
In this period i am having conflicts with my parents and now you have just answered my question.
Me too bro. Help.
In 2021 , my relationship with my parents went downhill and I don't even talk with them anymore.. Life hits hard a lot..
Same here ..i don't know they talk with me again or not😔
I feel blessed 🙏🏻 and free because of that.
I feel good now that I just don't like my parents now. I mean I have decided not to expect any emotional support from my parents. So don't feel alone. All have this issue. But my problem is I am dependent on them..
Believe me. Its way better to not be in the trap and what if your father is not there to be your ground when you are falling. GODFATHER you heavenly father is always there. He got you in this world because his world wouldn't be complete without you in it. Be happy and always make yourself proud of breaking the curse chain. ❤ YOU ARE STRONG.
Indian parents are the most difficult 😩😂
True
Are you Indian, bro?
True
So true
Authentic Self Guide so true bro 😂
Most of the times I feel like I'm a burden on my parents.... They never cared about me....they never care how do I feel...what I'm going through... since childhood its feel like I'm my own guardian... Doing all stuff on my own .... I always crave for their love...
It is painful when parents neglect our emotions. But we can find happiness by loving ourselves, and being kinder to ourselves.
I hope you don't let them affect your loving nature, try understanding their perspective, if they still don't respond well, it's their loss.
Same case with me
The fact that in the comment section most of the commenters are Indians.
This gives me the most devastating scenario of the nearest future of India.
Fact 2 that your parents will never come across this comment section and see your comment.
Therefore well I'll confess ,I came here out of emotional outburst.i'm typing when my eyelids are giving me repeated threats that they can't hold my tears anymore.
Oh !!!! am I crying ???
-Yes.
Is it a very frequent fact??
-Yes.
And how do you overcome this stress?
-I watch Sadhguru.
I go to temple and worship god. And listen to music ❤️
More power to you, hope you'll work hard and create a life u desire
Sameeeeee
After seeing all the comments I came to know there are lot of people who suffer with the same problem as of me....the problem is parents ego that y should I accept the one when I haven't choosen for them they don't have problem if they choose the same person ....the only problem is nt with the person it's with their attitude .....they won't bother whether we will be happy or not they want the things according to their wish to build their social respect they don't want to bother about their child life ...donno when this caste system goes away from India and become more republic
I am also CA.. Want to marry another CA and facing same issue like you.. Hope God understands us and turns things into our way
I'm CA and my boyfriend also CA
@@athachethivanta7497 what the status did your parents agreed?
@@namitakotian9451 not yet they were silent donno what their intention we should have patience that's it
@@athachethivanta7497 same here.. We don't have any other opition other than waiting.. Hope for the best🤞
My mom and I used to argue all the time. But now, I've tried my best to do whatever she wants me to do. But sometimes I just wanted to be respected as a person, I want to choose my own life. I want to have my own dream. But it seems like, everything has been destroyed. Now I don't have any dreams, I don't know what to do, I don't know what my life is. But still, I want to be a good daughter.. it's just we're very different...
I can feel your sacrifies
Hmm. I still want to keep a good relationship with my parents. But I think I'm willing to pay the prize and live my own life as I want it. Maybe someday they'll understand and then there won't be any conflicts
Same here
Same 😂
I thought all this controlling attitude was with African parents only.I have decided to do what's make me happy,such parents will never change.
It's so hard when u didn't receive love from ur parents since birth. No affection love understanding.... Growing up I got to hear that i was born in the wrong family and I don't deserve them..... Growing up I got beaten almost to death by my dad and even now it continues..... People domt see you as a person.... More like an object...... People domt allow you to persure things and try to control ur life...... Being financially dependent feels like a curse........ Crying in front of them feels like demeaning ur self esteem.... For me unfortunately the term people symbolises my parents........ You guys who have an understanding and not do abusive parents are so lucky ❤️
Sometimes parents try to emotionally blackmail us when they want us something to do of what they like, they think is more efficient for us. This is really sick of them. Before doing this they need to understand our point of view too as well as our perspective. Today, things are not the same as they were used be 20-30 years ago. This is absolutely true that at the end of the day, parents always want the best for their children but with this they shouldn't understimate their child's potential and capability, which are overshadowing because of their decisions. I think Indian parents are more driven by the society instead of their own instincts in taking decisions about what they needs to do.
Very true 😂
Problem is indian parents don't realize that their children can grow up too. We are toddlers for them for entire life.
My MIL thinks that my husband is a kid still who doesn't know the know hows of the world. And I being younger than him, I am just a dumb chick
What are you saying if you cant speak eng properly then it's not a big deal speak in hindi so we can understand.....
@@shivanshdubey431 I really don't think I would need to do that. Not that I am ashamed of talking in Hindi, but it's a really simple comment that I made. Anyone with basic knowledge of the English language can easily understand it. So, maybe you are the one who needs to brush up his skills.
PS. I usually comment in English so that a wider range of users and viewers can understand what I mean to say. You surely are not one of them.
@@shivanshdubey431 really?, you didn't understand what she meant?
@@sankarnath5445 probably guruji is still decoding what is MIL!!!
@@thegoldenblushofficial MILs creating lot of man child in India who doesn't even know to wash their own plates , marriage in India sounds like arranging babysitters to these man child after period of mothers responsibility.
Not in all cases! But this is a majority case .
I think people need to learn parenting in India. Giving birth and being a good parent is totally unrelated
Hm
Its difficult dear...
Yes in college itself or even higher secondary. Should be part of the syllabus.
Basically every decision has a reaction, sometimes it's conflict, and it's up to you whether you fight against it. If you truly believe in your decision then I'm guessing you'll fight, and deal with the conflict, otherwise you're going to give up, and, or you can do something different.
Thought I am the only one who feel my parents are toxic. Looking at comments, I am no more guilty 😅
Sameee :)
But I'm always like "what if I'm the problem"
I thought it was over for me 😢
I was also sad when i came here but after reading comments im also clam😂
My parents lack on communication, that's why they prefer to sleep separated than talk back at each other and that silence is killing me inside. sometimes I would think about suicide cause of too much pain. I know my parents are also human, they have flaws but they shouldn't have considered their children first. yah ,now I'm scared to commit into relationship , worst , marriage
Same here
I know it hurts... please meditate And belive there are persons like Sadhguru for our liberation...I have seen my mother cheating on my father...And my father knows it but doesn't care at all....I have survived and doing wonderful... please meditate and focus on your career....
My dear sister I feel u
I feel exactly the same after witnessing my parents' relationship 😣
As time evolves changes are imminent so you need not the same journey as others. So plz do take courage to give the space one needs including yourself. If you need to fly you need strong wings, so set it right all the best
I wish parents and children dono k liye counseling compulsory krna chaiye..they will understand each others psychology better
The worst part is when they want you to do everything they want
He has LIVED what he says. Blessings sadhguru
Freedom cannot be achieved without being a rebel.
daily got mental illness by my parents 😞 i am going deeper into depression even i don't fave any friends 😔😞
I understand you bro, I feel it will be better if you could find one activity which you could put your energies away from their judgement and have some time which rejuvenates you. And as for your parents, if you could let them know about your feelings in some peaceful way - through a grandparent or someone they trust, then you can try that , if not , then I think it will be better if you could avoid having confrontations with them, especially over things which are not that necessary. I hope you find this helpful. All the best👍
I feel you... my parents were overprotective when I was a kid and now I hate it! I wanna be independent and they still treat me like I'm 5 I'm only 18 I know but they treat me like I'm 5...and I hate it...they are like "you should be grateful that you grew up in "luxury"" and I get it I was a very ANNOYING kid and they still bring up bad stuff I did when I was 4-8 yrs old I'm a completely different person now... but they still do it... they just never give me the chance to change...
Same. Parents only cause extra stress to their kids
Generation gap also happens due to jealousy on the part of parents
Jealousy in what sense?
True...they don't want their child to become more powerful than them
@@shilpa6913 u should take action
@@shilpa6913 they are called toxic parents..it's a term not so popular in India but it's exists Google it
you are right bro
The thing is you get so frustrated and annoyed and you end up trying to take your life or even end up being self destructive. And it's so frustrating.
I think parents should be very caring during childs childhood and strict during school days and best friend during teen age.
But no on understand this.
My parents and my granny are my besties and they had never compared me with anyone ..... 😀❤️😘
@@invincible9643 luckiest one🙂
@@invincible9643You're so lucky.😔
My parents were next to God for me, they have always supported in all my decisions and I have supported theirs always.
The toughest thing I face with my parents is finding peace with them. I feel shamed, ridiculed, and degraded. And I do not tolerate it at all. Yet, I am the one made to feel bad for not wanting to be treated that way. It is hard for me to face my mother physically. Although I need to grow up and do so for both of our benefit. So that I can establish some sort of peace.
It is just difficult, considering every time that I have faced her, it always goes back to being the way it was. It always goes back to arguments that consist of her feeding off my energy by causing me fear. It is exhausting, and it’s even more exhausting because I really don’t want to be seen as if I am trying to make myself victim. I know I hold accountability for things I’ve done, but I should be able to say, that what I go through is absolutely not okay. However, unfortunately, I need to handle it like a grown woman.
I feel the same. My parents have everything set in stone, and they have it all planned out on what they want their offspring to do. No explanation suffices, no amount of logic is enough. I understand that I have it better than lots of people, and my parents are certainly nice, but that doesn't really suffice for me.
I hope your situation got and gets better
@@honeycoffee5 felt this 😞
In Bhagvad Gita It is also mentioned that there will be a time in Kalyug when parents will clean their children so bad that they will terribly bruise them. ( This is a metaphor where it is suggested that the parents control and attachment will be so unnecessarily high that its going to suffocate the children of kalyug...( As per Krishna) and that's evident.
The Bhagavad Gita, which is surely the basic text on the practice of detachment, is wonderfully explicit on this point. Krishna tells Arjuna that acting with detachment means doing the right thing for its own sake, because it needs to be done, without worrying about success or failure.
U can't have logical talk with them , it just end up u getting blackmailed back.🙄
It just not only for our wish but for any other decision making they think us as kids. Later when it's late they understand but again continue the same thing.
Whenever we want to talk logically wo apna ego beech me le ate h. ego hi sari problem ki jad h B.C.
I like how people getting so comfortable and clearing their mind and heart in the comment section...but this also show how many problems we have in our life...
I would love to see more Indias' youth staying in the homeland to grow and improve everything.Being devoted to the beautiful culture and creating projects to improve the health and food sources,etc.for this most beautiful country.
BLUE WATER PINES true
I should visit!
Onli government can do it
The main reason we Indians are going abroad is mainly because of our parents and society ..we cannot make our country beautifull by living with toxic people ...
@@adil5904 yeah 90% of the people come under the shitty judgemental society of India and if we are educated(not by degrees) and have a better perspective of life we will be judged! Beta aisa kapda maath pehno, degree lelo, yeh sab business maath karo and it never ends
Most parents if we're clever enough, they wouldn't became parents in the first place.
yes
😂😂😂😂
Clever? Responsible you mean. Loving. Aware. Absolutely. People who can't love don't have the RIGHT to have a kid imo.
That’s for sure
I’m willing to pay any price
Thank you so much for adding the subtitle! Continue doing it!
I'm not satisfied with the answer
William Shakespeare he said he’s not satisfied, not that he didn’t understand it.
Consult a mental doctor then
Then, give a better answer. Or search for one 😊
me too
@@ratanshil9330 if his opinion doesnt match urs u think he needs a mental doctor bro u hv got some problems then
Wow.... Explained so simply and clearly... Thank you Sadhguru🙏😄
Thankyou sadhguru... You solved this most burning question of our generation in such an easy way... 🙏
I love you Sadhguru. You always help me when I need it the most. Thank you for all that you do for people and for this world.
I want peace ☮️.
My family won't understand me & all anymore.
My parent's always torcher me every second .....
Ours have disowned us.
@@PB24x7 what really?!
@@bhoomik54 yes. My mother has disowned me and my family for her other rich son.
My father simply don't care that I exist...
Oh I feel for you brother...my father too
Same here
The important thing in life is, do you care about yourself? How will you give birth to your own existence? Unconfortable situations, hurdles in life are opportunities for us to grow and shine by ourselves, don't expect anybody to make your life shiny and wonderful (not even your own parents), that is an individual responsibility and choice ;)
@@LovelyEaseJoyandGlory enough motivating
Same here mate
it took so much violence and trauma to grow this silent that i prefer to live alone than life with my family not because i don't love them but because i simply have no energy left to cope up with the environment. i'm just holding on for as long as i can and trying to forgive myself and my parents.
Touchwood my parents never stopped us from anything even if they strongly disagreed so i never realised that others feel like this.
Mine too. In fact, my parents sacrificed a lot to make sure my dreams could come true - so I owe a lot to them for the life I have today.
u must be very lucky thn!
Niharika Agarwal you’re lucky :) my mom is like your parents :) but my dad can behave like an a**hole at times.
Sbke parents same nii hote
You are really lucky then and I'm happy for you ☺
Ownership is such a pleasurable emotion to experience.
They always compares me with everyone which makes me more difficult to do anything
We all should fix this in our mind that we are not going to repeat this type of parenting on our children.
Can we appreciate the beautiful question from a beautiful lady?
The way he answers is high quality that most of us don't understand.
You are awesome guru ❤
99.99 % of problems will never occur if we could speak honestly whatever we've in our mind. Which will never happen in indian homes. The sad part is we've very less divorce rate in the world.
Maximum respect for Sadhguru! Great messages! But as happens frequently he doesn't reply to the question. Why he doesn't pay the attention he says to be so important in life?
With parents, their whole problem is about their expectations out of their children. They want to get everything with a limited effort. On top of that those impractical expections are highly influenced by the existing social norms and the toxic relatives who have exploited them their entire life and now want to do the same with us.
I cry every single day because my parents does not understand what I think they think that only study makes us successful i research about computers and their parts is time waste I like comp and I ll they don't understand us
I don't know how Sadguru have answer's to every questions. It's amazing Sat Sat Naman Sadguru🙏
U too have just carve it
Children and parents don't need to keep sacrificing for each other out of pleasing and obligation. There is only truth and honesty in expressing your own choices and taking responsibility for the consequences. There is NO have to just WANT to❤️
But I have another problem my mother always prefer my younger sister and she never been taken my side I don't know why I always feel neglected...
Show them u also deserve some respect by making ur dreams come to true
@@coldhearted2741
Yeah 🙌
If you feel that way then you can't do anything to make them understand about your feelings because then they think that you are being a drama queen and attention seeker. Just don't drain your energy by giving explanation everytime. They won't understand you. Ever. So it's better to invest your time on hobbies and making yourself strong and better than before.
I have the same problem...I'm completely isolated from conversations and sometimes they laugh so loud so I can hear...and when I talk I have to repeat myself several times because they're talking over me or on their phones...its not a nice feeling to know your parent doesn't think much of your company
its not like dear she loves you too
who all are here after a conflict with mom and dad raise your hands am here after hearing a whole yelling session from my mom am fed up i really can't get her sometimes she is really nice but i can't even imagine her other side
Me and then she starts to curse me or cry because I'm not a cryer anyway maybe I'll apologize
My parents are getting old. They need emotional support, they feel helpless without me. Traditionally, they are using the same trick as everyone else's parents to control me and my emotions to the end of their life. We have to live with it anyway. If we are going to a night club, please don't forget to buy something for your parents like slippers for your mom and some healthy food for your dad. I believe in balance. I told my parents that don't stop me to go to Goa, Night Club or a Movie. If you need something do tell me. But do not stop me to do my own things.
Same issue m facing right now..😞
Whyyy my parents don't even try to understand me and my perspective and whyyy always the ending of any argument comes over blaming the mobile phone....why can't theyyyy sometime put their ego aside and think about what I am sayinggggg..whyy whyyyyy...I just want them to understand me and treat me as a blooming flower
Also why can't I ignore those bitter words from themmm
This man gives way to live life 🔥
Some parents thnk that they are alwys right but they don't but they don't agree evn if you proved abt itt .. but they don't nd somehow they manage to show tht they are right nd u are wrong.. by their tough words which at some point hurts u so muchhhhhhhh
Ok so this happened just few hours ago... My mother literally beated me up to death in front of my relatives who had came.... Just because I opposed her. Some of my school document went missing which I had to sumbit tomorrow, due to some my carelessness and her as well. Actually I putt those documents in her polythene.which she threw away without looking at them. And she blamed me for all that that why I putt them in that. She made a whole fuss out of that situation and then she started beating her head up in front of the relatives for no reason, this act of hers i found really disturbing and the moment i argued with her for doing this all. She beated me so badly.
I hope no one gets a mother like her. She is a true momster
I hate her.
Parents are like "sari galti humari hi hai" they blame us for everything that goes wrong. If you try to be bold and show them the mirror, they will assign all the bad adjectives to you without giving it a second thought that it affects our emotions !! And moreover, they validate everything by saying "we've been through it too, and there's nothing wrong in it." No body js ready to come out of the bog, they are staying there and dragging us in too !!
Same thing happened, just few minutes ago.
Sometimes children r more knowledgeable than parents. Parents won't accept this fact. Parents and children should understand each other and also adjust with eachother
Such profound advice because it is so extensible to not only parents if you listen closely enough
the whole thing is that you have to pay the price for what u need badly.
If you are being drained by your much loved ones, huge love and support to you. Know that you have the power to cut them out, make them realise their essence, make a distance with them. Its not necessary for you to hate them but you can maintain a distance for your own wellbeing. You cannot make everyone Happy. Just make sure you do well. ❤️
It's sometime so difficult to even answer polite to parents coz on either ways harsh or polite they think I am back answering, I just feel so depressing at times .....
One of the best feelings in life so far is the feeling of INDEPENDENCE. No one is bitching about the decisions you make
I am 36 years old , but can't tolerate my parents fight. For the smallest thing like going out some place with family together , buying a shirt etc in have to argue with my father . He goes against of everything I chose to be , literally each and everything. Good help me.
Don't worry if you whatsupp we can discuss our problems
Stop loving but don't hate :)
He really explain things very subtly
The sad thing is no parents watch these kinds of videos, the children do. Not saying the parents must watch these and the children don’t have to, but sometimes there are things that require effort from both sides…
My mom and I had a huge fight because I came home after drinking.
Nothing illegal but she hates that I go out drinking.
She has problems with how I live my life but she’s home constantly and not working at all.
So our relationship is not only dependent on an emotional level, she is dependent on me and my sister on financial situations. She called the police on me yesterday night but the center hung up on her. So I called the police for her. But the problem was I was the one who got hit and I was the one who keeps getting wrung up on the line of strings. I know she is my mother and I have done many wrongs but I can’t forgive her and myself and I also can’t get over the fact that she tried to call up the police on me for drinking.
Looking at how so many people are suffering in the comments makes me so sad man :((
I simply clicked this video because of how wise this man looked
My mom always get angry on little things and when I say something she's like u don't respect me and other stuff. I am tired of this now😑😢
Very well said Sadhguru. Listening to you clears the mind all the time.
The price he is taking about, in case of parents, is VERY, and I mean VERY expensive. So, be VERY careful while deciding to pay for it.
Are you a parent ???
@@shivamb.3973 He is probably
Hah
Indian dad
Least helpful video I’ve seen