My mother left this world in laughter, we tried our best to give her more hope in our ignorance but she was so clear, happy, so content. She left her body by her choice all smiling without any ailments at just 70 . So proud of you amma🙏
I dont agree that being in your 70s n 80s u shudnt be like an 18 yr old. Why not? Is it better to behave like an 80 yr old in India usually kicked out or ignored by your kids?
@@Ra-rg1vk When 18 a man has a long way ahead, much to explore. the society with its usual tendency drags him to material pleasures. But slowly as he reaches 50s he should think the spiritual aspect of existence and turn more inward. Turning more inward does not mean quitting parties and dance. But being aware of the reality. Being aware of this reality, being concious of your spiritual existance, you can go PARTY...nothing wrong...(but you wont feel inclined to that when you feel this reality) This is what sadguru meant. Don't take the literal meaning...
I'm 74 and have been emergency hospitalized 3 times in 6 months. While ready to pass to another energy level I want to thank my wife foe being so attentive to my comfort and needs. God bless her.
My mother was sick in hospital . I had a dream where I saw her well dressed on a long bright boulevard . She kept walking away without turning backwards towards me untill she disappeared while I was watching . I understood that her time had come . I visited her with a close friend she knew well . I offered to pray for God to give her some more time with us ...... My mom shook her head to say NO . The next day , I called all my siblings , told them that I felt our mother was leaving us and we must all go together to be with her . We called a priest who took time to arrive due to other assignments in that hospital . He arrived and administered the last sacrament ( my mom was catholic ) and said prayed . Once we responded Amen to his prayer , our mother crossed her arms on her chest , turned one side and breathed her last in peace .
My mother is 86 and every day i take care of her like it is the last week and that has been the case for last 5 years. hope and pray we carry on for next 5 years if not for the next 10 years.
It's a very tough subject. Instead of children saying to parents, parents themselves have to realise these things and advise their children and other youngsters. This is from my personal experience. We are very fortunate that my parents went off at the ripe age of 88 & 93 without any panic. Ohm Namah Shivaya 🙏
Very very true! We ourselves have to realise that we are mortal & यम राजा can visit any second! Even if we are young the Ultimate Truth is that Life is transient! *भज गोविंदम्, भज गोविंदम्, गोविंदम् भज मूढमते*! 🙏🕉️🌺
😭 my dad is old and very ill but stable thank God… i felt the urge five years ago to bring him to pilgrim places…. I didn’t know the importance i see in this video but something inside me pushed me to do it and I feel so proud today that we went together in these places and he could have a spiritual life until he couldn’t talk anymore
My parents, especially my father is already aware enough. At the age of 50, he underwent bypass surgery and since then his withdrawal from material pleasures started. He devoted his life to bhakti, didn't care much about making a living. Somehow it was all taken care of.
Th same has happened to me, I’m practicing meditation for 37 years now, but since my last bypass surgery, I feel no joy in material pleasures at all, I only feel happy practicing Meditation, Bhakti , service and family, I ready to leave my body any moment now…Sadhguru is right we have to live in such a way as to be ready to go any moment.
I think after a certain age we all naturally progress to Bhakti and yearn for a decent exit from this world. As others have said there is more curiosity in spirituality as compared to the material world. This I think is a sort of preparation , isnt it ?
My father was in hospital knowing he was dying. He was in great pain. A war veteran of 6 years, a good man loved by his family. My bother and myself as his daughter, held vigil making sure he was never alone, holding his hand and rubbed his feet. I was with him the moment he willingly died, telling him the names of all family who loved him. In Australia and other cultures many daughters also can take the honour of being with our loved ones.
This is not about honour or something. In India there was and is (much less now) a large family set up called Hindu Undivided Family (recognised by law and shortly called HUF), where Parents live with their sons and their families together under one roof. That is why it becomes duty of a son to take parents, pilgrimage. Instead trying to deep root the dying one to this world by reminding them about worldly things, it is always better to help them get enlightened to the truth ( of course, not in a harsh way).
@@govardhanankn8427 that priority and your reasons I do understand but just saying that NOT All daughters and women everywhere are unable to tend to their parents in times of need in many parts of the world. This “must have a son” resulted in the end of new born girls through so many ways such as a grain of rice. All are God given.
@@govardhanankn8427you need not be harsh on gayedawn1. I am an Indian, and I agree with gayedawn1. Every country has its own culture. Gayedawn1 is a daughter and was just pouring her feelings out. We should learn to be compassionate towards each other. No harsh feelings, just thought of letting you know what I felt.
Death is our old old friend. It has visited us so many thousand times perhaps. It's going to happen one more time.Let me be wise to embrace that old friend when it's time.Nothing to be terrified of death.
I have followed Sadhguru for almost three years. I have learned many things from him, actually he has caused that I open my eyes to the truths of life even some of them are scary. Although for a few months I stoped to watch his videos but again I started. This advice made me to break in tears because I have not seen my parents for more than ten years. Here with my broken heart but hope I asking of you that please send me your prayers, blessings and positive energy in order to Divine ( in any form or name you believe on) direct my steps to the right way that me and my parents happily see each other and I can hug them. Light and Peace
I think in india the spiritual way sets in early.so most elders know that they will go soon even tho the children pretend to be cheerful.my mother had an operation and came home well but still she knew she was going and from a few years before she set her things right and gave away everything.i have learnt from her and working towards it.
Sadguru , we Kashmiri pandits recite Brahmini Vidya to parents reminding them of our sojourn in this loka & the everlasting Ataman that we actually are.🙏
My mama always say to me my child im not complaining you treat me so well while im still alive when i die one day dont be sad just know im happy She is all Iam left with and I try to do my best as her only child i just try
Same with my mother in law…. She selected the saree which should be made toward her dead body before it’s taken to cremation…she also told us what to do with her personal things & the rites to be done after she died…. ( she had cancer )
I think whether you are young or old we should b prepared for death an also have it written how to conduct the ritual an if u want a specific set of clothes most of us are very reluctant to speak about death
Just wanted to send love..totally feel you. I cry every night at lifes Misery and beauty . Wouldn't change it though...I just love them so much,the kids,everyone we know and the fact that the ones we don't know (like you and me) are exactly the same....how csn we hate each other ! Pure Love and strength to you ❤
Maybe you should read the Bagwat Geeta instead of following Sadguru that is the true Wisdom from God Almighty Krishna. It will also make you face lifes issues more steadily
People are scared of death but it is the reality. My grandmother even prepared the things for her death a way longer time like yellow clothing ( pitambar) so that the children will not have any difficulty in gathering things for funeral.
Exactly 1 month ago my Father passed away. He lived his life with a smile , working hard every day , providing resources and happiness to us. Till his last breathe myself, my mother & Sister and our whole family stayed with me.He met almost all the people he knew .He left this world without falling ill and without suffering any pain. He was working ,moving ,laughing spend so much time with us. I feel so lucky that at the last moment of his life I was there with him.
Totally agree that elders are trying to live a young person’s ideal life. To accept one’s advancing age and seek its particular lessons and fulfilment is very satisfying. Then one can very gradually detach from grasping the world, recognise what’s permanent and finally leave without painful regrets. Death is difficult to accept and spiritual practices are the only path that provides some relief.
Many a times parents are tied down with so much responsibilities and money constraints, only after retirement they get the opportunity to do what they like. I think it's absolutely ok as long there's a sense of detachment from wordly pleasures. Which I am sure they know. It's better to fulfill your wishes atleast you feel content and satisfied. My mother was fun loving but she left us in grace during her last days.
I do understand the point Sadhguru is trying to make. However, I am 25 and I have always thought about death since I am a kid. I always have been thinking about the other side and wanted to know what is the meaning of this life. I moved live in India and try to develop my soul every day. I have never been afraid of death, on the contrari I think its a beautiful experience. However, being aware of my own death, doesn't mean I can't dance, or be joyfull in life. There was a point in my life where I tried to deattach so much from life that I lost all interest about being in this world. I don't think that is healthy either. And I don't see why age has to determen that. I can die.too at any moment. The point of my life is to grow spiritualy. But at the same time I can laugh and I can share my life with people and be in this world. Otherwise why did I come to.this world? To just think about death? No. My grandma prays for two hours a.day and she goes to monasteries often to do spiritual retreats there. At thr same time.she also dances around the house or goes to the cina with my grandpa.. I would not like to see my.grandparents closed at home, just waiting for death. You can develop your soul and at the same time be active and joyfull. I don't see why that is seen as oposite.
Today several of the old has no company of children or grandchildren. So it is for us to understand and accept the reality. Fortunately there are Sadgurus who give us the sage advice. When in youth one does not get the lessons, oldage may not help as one is accustomed of the sound and activities encompassing his life.🙏🙏🙏
This may seem bit overwhelming but it is due to poverty why people follow westernization, Christianity and atheism to abandon their parents. Once poverty is gone, a human is more like Hindu, meditative, family and community provider etc
I will not be able to tell my parents. But I will follow myself, turn inwards gradually and will leave guidelines for my treatment if I fall siik so that I don't remain latched to life unnecessarily.
This may be true in your culture but in my culture I gladly accepted my responsibility to take care of my parents for 8 years. They both passed peacefully and in their own home. I treasure this responsibility and the opportunity to help them pass peacefully into the other world.
His thoughts are a perfect combination of age old traditions in Hindu society and the new age reality. It is a great service he is doing to society and humankind by sharing his view on so many such topics which explain the reality of life and the way to look at it. God bless him and wish him all the best for spreading the light of this knowledge to the world. Though a practising Hindu, his thoughts are above any race or religion.
True.. most upper class Hindus now are especially the younger generation are so greedy nd boasting abt their vedad nd scriptures. They never excercise anything spiritual. At least Sadguru is so biased that he attracts everyone alike.. anyone shall follow him. He is a wonderful present guru.
That is because He is a Jeevan Mukhta rishi. A realised being cannot be put confined in a defined territory of religion. He is free n secular by nature.
One doesn't have to tell a dying person that "You are going to die". The dying person already knows, better than the others. One can turn inwards and pray and meditate, without going to pilgrim places.
Absolutely! Nowadays the pilgrimage places have become so commercialised, so crowded, dirty that I feel I get more peace by being in a quiet place of worship even at home !!
I am sorry to say but nowadays the parent generation (60, 70,80yrs) is very very stubborn. Very very few are spiritually inclined. They want to go on enjoying life. Many of their attitude is that they will continue to live forever. There, if the son or daughter will go to remind them that their time has come and they should prepare -- God help that son or daughter in law!! I am not talking about all, but a lot are like this. They go on clinging to material abundance. Very little vairagya.
Yes very true, many r adamant and in our lndian culture,as parents are considered as God figures they just don't take any advice from their children. The truth is lndian people r more attached to things as well as people and relationships. We r unaware of vairagya.
This is so true...parents or children, we are all human with flaws, but the Indian culture puts parents and all other older relationships like some god and if you tell them something like what Sadhguru says, they think how dare you...and they will put you down, rather then have a healthy discussion. Like somebody said in the feed they are very stubborn and treat the female child worse as they think they don't belong to them.
I have somehow made them do inner engineering though with resistance. In the end we have the strongest connect with them so gradually they give in(Just keep trying 😉)
Both parents terminal and both 95. Dog 15 slowly winding down. Everything is a living gratitude 🙏 and appreciation. And as the only son who can visit ... its goid to have the chance to visit and be palliative care volunteer. Keeping everything okay. No fear. Even if afraid to last minute saying I do not want to die! Its just be here now. Calming them for now. It always helps. And its exhausting but essential to be there for each sentient beings.
@@filipmitrovic4103 truth is most of us have no idea, so speculation is useless. Really i want to know whats after death, doesnt mean i want to die, but im not afraid either.
Find on youtube .Well known hypnotherapists.They are performing past life regressions with their clients and describing what is happening after we leave physical body.Interesting stuff. Dolores Cannon or Michael Newton.
Being a son if u are getting married u must be at least be able to take ur parents to a pilgrim temple ... Be a man who can hold the houses and make it work and tell ur parents to now b in comforts and spend in innerself
I lost my father on 4th Nov.. exactly one month after I shifted bag baggage from Kolkata, and my bed ridden mother on 20th dec 21. Since then I hv started feeling tat nothing is predictable....why are people fighting for properties, money....when you hv to leave everything behind..that too.just any moment
Guruji we Indian parents, at least most of us are in the evolved mode. Lighting lamps, praying to god to give us a painless end and well being of our children and grand children, this is all our daily activities. It is ingrained in our being from childhood. we really don’t need our children to create that atmosphere. On the other hand our children create that atmosphere in their own way talking about will, nomination for the property, bank deposits etc now then , reminding us of our impending end. Please let us live our last days in some happiness ,doing things that we want to do, traveling, painting, getting together with friends etc without all the time thinking about death After all nothing is in our hands. So there is no particular age when we can say ok, from tomorrow I’m going to prepare for my death..
I agree with you. We are all equal in the eyes of death. Nothing to say that one’s older parents won’t outlive one. But a talk like this would be specifically geared towards older people who might get confused or terrified of the idea of death and to mentally prepare them for it. There are many folk who want to remain immortal. This may sound absurd but such people do exist . My mother is an incredible example of this. Continues making plans expecting to outlive every one else. Constantly creates cycles of dependency so that people and life only revolve around her. Is deeply focused on material attachments and existence. She does no turning inward whatsoever. Tried to introduce ideas around spirituality , yoga etc but she dismisses them as brainwashing nonsense . I guess some people are content being attached to their material existence till death. Who knows maybe this sort of material existence will bring her no fear of dying till the end. Or hopefully it will be a quick exit with no time to think or be scared. The inward journey is not necessarily for everyone. Best to leave people to figure out for themselves where and what they want to for the end. If your own soul is not speaking to you and there is no receptivity and one does not understand that there is a higher self and dimensions beyond death, it makes no sense to introduce or impose these ideas
My father went peacefully in his sleep despite him knowing that he is leaving us.That is the best way to leave.He was the most beautiful human being I have met like my mother. He knew and I knew but I also knew it was his moment of choice. He knew at the age of 75 when I first explained to him.He was living only for me. He is a Saint according to me. I did all I could for him till his last breath.❤ He was happy and blessed me saying I did everything for him.
My parents have always been materialistic and selfish all through till their current age of 75. It's how they are and it's too late to explain spirituality to them.
Sad because I devoted my life to my father .I had no children because he acted like a child do this or do that. He thought it was about money that's not why we do thing we do it be ause of god ten fays before he died he told his best friend I was a whore a loser and a disappointment. I'll not care for anyone else .my ec has cancer I told him hood luck on his journey with cancer all he gas been doing ut butching I'm.going to due alone oneday I waz just speaking to a neig hor about this. My.moms uncle hung himself over busi ess and the war
True. My aged mother is now treated this way. Yesterday all of us celebrated my birthday in pomp only for her. Gave the first piece of the Cocoa Creamer to her , and she was top happy then
My family still practise those taboo, timid. Taboo to talk about death, even lie to our parents when he or her is gonna ok when they sick... I am sad... It is better let our parents mentally prepare and face for their passing in peace... we all have to face it.. one final day,we also have to face it...
sadhguru we are so thankful for your videos. very practical and needed advise for the present generation. this son referred bhaja govindam, thirukural and thevaram to my mother when she was leaving. mother accepted and died gracefully after blessing all, consciously chanting vishnu sahasranamam
I am 67 and I have to share that it has been my saving grace to have met Her Holiness Sr Mata Amritanandamayi Devi or Amma, the hugging Saint. How blessed I feel that I can orient my life towards a spiritual goal before I die more effectively.
My father is bed ridden since 3 months, he has brain hemorrhage, he is struggling so much. I wanted to tell him all these before he got ill. But I missed the opportunity, I'm very sad for my father 😭😭
Prags Prajs Don’t worry, he will feel the love you have for him. Sadhguru said it is possible to communicate this message without clearly speaking it out. Your loving, calm and caring presence will be enough. You are great, let your father feel that it is ok to let go of the physical. Prayers for you🙏
At young age people have no surety of life . Should we stop living ..... "NO" At elderly, we cannot stop living as well and keep thinking now i am near death. Enjoy life knowing the fact that one day when there is a call from God we will embrace it gracefully as we did our duty, what was assigned to us by almighty !
My father is 70.He has done everything, what he could do for us. One year ago I noticed him stalking a young girl from neighborhood.i ignored it initially.the girl comes at her rooftop for laundry everyday. She is easily visible from my rooftop. Now my father spends whole day at rooftop looking at her rooftop.whenever she passes by my house, he comes down to the street and wait till she returns.i tried to give him indication that I know about this, but it seems he doesn't care. I didn't wanna tell this to my maa but I realize that he is not going to give up.so I told my maa about this. Guess what.. She didn't believe me and now had stop talking to me.
@@bernadetteraikar8822 what should I do? We live in a remote village.people will not understand this like you did. They'll pitty him.he will loose all the respect, what he has earned throughout his life.
Sadguru always confirms my inner experience and the path I’m following is illuminated by all he has learned and spoken. Sadguru is my flashlight in this world both inner and outer
Please remember that in the West it is the other way round. It is the daughters who continue to support the parents, not the sons -generally speaking. And yes, we do have a different way of looking at things in English speaking countries, the 'West' is very broad and too general, ALL cultures have different ways of doing things - it does not make one right and the other wrong, just different. In our countries, we too used to have a looking inward which has now disappeared. The reason that we 'in the West' encourage the old to keep living their lives to the full is because we believe that without purpose, your soul will give up, and making death your purpose isn't very constructive. But I agree that there should be an awareness of mortality, especially as one grows older, and also that this awareness can be a positive thing.
@@user-fw5qm9vu4s We don't stop living when we pass a certain age. PURPOSE - as in what you came here to learn and do- should be there throughout life, and no one suggested that the young can't have fun along with purpose. Limitations are ridiculous at any age.
Though I agree to prepare the mind and heart for the inevitable, I do believe that one should still live to enjoy themselves whether it’s enjoying a meal or the cinema because it’s an experience we get once while in this lifetime. My dad passed recently and we really thought he’d come home since it was a procedure the doctors promised would cure him and that didn’t happen. I hope he didn’t pass in terror but I do know he didn’t want to go nor was he or us prepared for the outcome. 💔
My grandfather left this world in dreams while nap grand father and i was there in room he asked for things he liked addiction at night sleepin it was cold asked local alcohol gave and next day tea in morning and was sleeping after some 30 mint nap he died while sleeping on sofa.R.I.P grandpa he was epic.
When my wife of 3 years kick me out of her house, my parents came and picked me up. Fortunately, i never had children with her. Now i live with my parents and i swear that i will love and take good care of them
My mum passed away from a heroin overdose when I was 15 years old, she had a lot of problems and I didn’t understand her at the time, I didn’t even think she liked me. 20 years later and only the past 5 years I’ve learned about her through a diary she kept which was mainly about me. Four children she had but she was to mentally unwell to look after me when I was born and I was dropped off on my Nan’s doorstep when I was a few days old. My mum visits me in dreams and I often have reoccurring nightmares of her house which I can’t understand why, it’s not something I constantly think about but I’m haunted by, maybe the trauma from her leaving this world so abruptly? I have lovely dreams of her speaking with me and When she has visited me she has told me things that I didn’t know so I know it wasn’t my own subconscious that made it up. I want to speak to her so. I want to know her 💔 How can I connect with her?
Haha, in my family the daughters are carrying out the son's work. So much for the importance of a son. No such thing. Whomever, who has the sense of responsibility can do the job.
@@Kim.Miller so true... I find it revolting. Masculinity and femininity are energies within each individual. We can choose to harness any whenever needed within limits. The external appearance n sexual functions of each gender is just a play of nature to propagate the species. However, we are here to discuss spirituality which usually involves energy. I hope he stops this confusion , attempting to justify or debate his way through just because people are giving him some respect.
Just like everything else we should be taught and make us learn about death and mortality so that when time comes we would not be afraid of death and die gracefully.
Let's not forget that society decided a son was the most logical to complete these things but no where scripturally does it say so. Many daughters today take over caring for their parents AND in laws, take both on pilgrimage, etc. When a couple takes the 7 phere they join together to pursue dharma and one aspect of this is caring for each others parents. Women's responsibility for their parents doesn't stop because they are married. Unfortunately, for better or worse the idea as evolved perhaps to make it easier on daughters that ok the son can take that responsibility but to be clear, many daughters do and should if they can, take care of their parents. It is a child's dharma to care for their parents as their parents cared for them, girl or boy doesn't matter. I say this because we all know some sons are not inclined to do this and vice versa some daughters are not inclined. However, may all parents be blessed that they have at least one child that cares for them in their old age.
One of the ten commandments is to love and respect your father and mother. This is how important parents are in our life. They are the only person mention specifically aside from God.
I have been brought up with orthodoxity and strong culture ...yet I have not been able to bring up my children in the same way Arrogance in them has hurt me as a single parent. They are the bosses ..and even ask me what I've been doing all day...while they sleep late and rise late.. Is it because my husband had an untimely death.. Today I'm lonely after educating my children and they are employed. ..I struggled to give them education. What has life shown me as a senior citizen ...I practice yoga and meditate... It they who need to grow inward... 🙏
I work in a nursing home and see the terror in the patients and their families. I also see calmness in some. It is almost exactly like birth . i love the simple truth of this video. Thank you.
Thanks for sharing your experience . I was moved to tears. I salute people like you who work in nursing homes. You provide a great service to the humanity.
It will come to parents naturally. For a child it is very difficult to tell his or her parent to get ready to leave the world! One can provide spiritual atmosphere and take them to temples/upanyasa etc
My mother left me last month , she was doing fine she was battling cancer but after the treatment and PET scan shows she has recovered a lot and it is in stable state. She was doing fine doing all household works , suddenly she fell down and bed ridden , we tried physiotherapy and she was doing fine all set to see her walking on her feet but again she fell down , one thing i can recall she said something is pushing me down i m trying my best to live but i am pushed by something, she then went in to depression stop eating, blood tests shows infection her saturation levels drop and we lost her last month in ventilator. I wish I could ask her last wish and talk to her what she wants from me😢 . Its not fare she lefte like this , my mom was so closed to me that entire my life we stay together i was a pamper child and her beloved.
I will definitely make sure to fulfill this for my parents. But first I am working on myself....I've noticed I am more capable of helping others once I started helping myself. The more conscious I am, the more conscious I can make my surroundings 🙏🙏🙏
I am 41 and I am aware that I may die tomorrow but my father who's 79, still has many desires in life. I don't think he realises that he may die any time. He's not turning inwards. I tried. And now being a single son, my worry is if my father outlives me. Now that's going to be horrible for him for sure.
I never knew this until now. But somehow, I have put a condition that my parents should go to dhamma (Vipassana) if I agree to get married. Well, I'm not wrong afterall :)
many old people came out of trauma&seriousillness after their siblings or other people’s luv & affection.I feel most imp is be connnected with elder ones,care &nurturing a plant make them flourish &alive .🌳🍀🌾🍂
I watched my uncle death due to heart attack, he suffered a lot due to pain but at the final moments prior to death .. I saw him very calm and relaxed...i am really surprised because he was far away from spiritual path.. More attached to material things
I’m seeing this after my mumma passed away..she had a very hard time at the end. She died in peace but only because she was in a coma from the pain relief.. I’m 39, in single and no kids, 4 big sisters and a father who has stage 4 dementia 😢 I was just taking a break and taking care of dad away from Mum promised her that I’d be back but she felt like she needed to go.. now I stare at the sky for hours wondering if she sees me looking for her, I wonder if she’s looking for me..
I'm glad I enrolled my dad for Vipassana Meditation and he realized that when his time comes he has to be in a balanced state of mind. I even wanted my mother to join the course, but she was too adamant and called me a fool. Unfortunately, she passed away due to CKD and her last moments were full of fear and anxiety. But, I'm happy to see how meditation has done wonders on my dad and he's prepared for death. Whatever time he's there with us. I hope he understands the true nature of life and death. I hope every son or daughter guide their ageing parents and give them hope and clarity
I think dating at 80 is not wrong , people should do whatever they like whenever they like. And going to pilgrimage must be at age people become "adults ", regardless of what age they become adults
Guruji isn’t spirituality something that should come from within? If In all their 80-90 years of life they have not cared for anything beyond the physical body and materialistic wants is it easy for us children to show them spirituality even though we practice it day after day. For such people they may have chosen not to realise spirituality. What then can we do?
Even the fact that you are meditating, is creating the atmosphere... Tell them that if one meditates in a family and gets liberation, then the entire family is liberated..This is an ancient belief by the way, I read this from the life history of Lokenath Baba...His father had sent him to learn yoga, because he wanted one from the family to become an ascetic and liberate the entire family chain... So we do not know, what is possible, and what is not.. Meditation is still a mystery to us seekers , as it is to our parents, Until we experience higher dimensions. Another fact, if your check the lives of great saints like Swami Vivekananda, and many, you will see that not everybody or may be nobody else in thier famliy practiced yoga..I have met a person who has not left his home for 25 years... I am pretty sure he is a realized person, though he doesn't speak of any realisation, his content face says it all... He does not have the eyes of a seeker anymore.. No one else in his family does meditation... These are just facts that I gathered, because I wanted the answers too... Honestly this is as much as I know, rest is my belief in God, or Brahman, or Kali, Shiva whatever form we call them... That same belief is often found in the hearts of our parents too.. Sri Ramakrishna Paramhansa used to say 'Like Father, like son' he meant your father here on earth when he said this to a person... He added that, the father and his son has the same soul... See how difficult it is to rationalise this, but a few message is definately conveyed to attentive listener when he said these lines... The message is that you might have got sripiritual tendencies because of your parents behaviour towarads you since youth.... The possibilities are many, any the possibilities are of no use.. But of very much use too... The possibilities is called savitarka of the mind before entering meditative states... So I just hope that we all find mukti brother... Hope that you al, and your family stay safe and find what you are searching so whole heartedly... And that we can create a better and more friendly atmosphere towards each other on the physical part of the reality as well... My advice will be, do not think that your parents will understand sprituality as you, it is practically not feasible for them at their agee beacuse of highly decreasing energy levels after 60... But I am sure that if you continue on tue yogic path... One day we shall overcome all odds... No easy game but we stand with you, and most importantly, God is always with you...
My mother left this world in laughter, we tried our best to give her more hope in our ignorance but she was so clear, happy, so content. She left her body by her choice all smiling without any ailments at just 70 . So proud of you amma🙏
That’s so nice…she was aware 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
So nice. Even I have the same like her.
I dont agree that being in your 70s n 80s u shudnt be like an 18 yr old. Why not? Is it better to behave like an 80 yr old in India usually kicked out or ignored by your kids?
@@Ra-rg1vk When 18 a man has a long way ahead, much to explore. the society with its usual tendency drags him to material pleasures. But slowly as he reaches 50s he should think the spiritual aspect of existence and turn more inward. Turning more inward does not mean quitting parties and dance. But being aware of the reality. Being aware of this reality, being concious of your spiritual existance, you can go PARTY...nothing wrong...(but you wont feel inclined to that when you feel this reality) This is what sadguru meant. Don't take the literal meaning...
I am proud of you.. my moms stop eating this few days, my dad health tremendously deteriorated after the 3rd jep...
I'm 74 and have been emergency hospitalized 3 times in 6 months. While ready to pass to another energy level I want to thank my wife foe being so attentive to my comfort and needs. God bless her.
My mom left her physical form on my shoulders telling me that she's leaving without any disturbance Thanks to All the Gurus who guided me 🙏 Om Guru Om
Great Gift for you and your late respected mother🙏🥰🙌🕉️🌼
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My mother was sick in hospital .
I had a dream where I saw her well dressed on a long bright boulevard .
She kept walking away without turning backwards towards me untill she disappeared while I was watching .
I understood that her time had come .
I visited her with a close friend she knew well .
I offered to pray for God to give her some more time with us ...... My mom shook her head to say NO .
The next day , I called all my siblings , told them that I felt our mother was leaving us and we must all go together to be with her .
We called a priest who took time to arrive due to other assignments in that hospital .
He arrived and administered the last sacrament ( my mom was catholic ) and said prayed . Once we responded Amen to his prayer , our mother crossed her arms on her chest , turned one side and breathed her last in peace .
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My mother is 86 and every day i take care of her like it is the last week and that has been the case for last 5 years. hope and pray we carry on for next 5 years if not for the next 10 years.
It's a very tough subject. Instead of children saying to parents, parents themselves have to realise these things and advise their children and other youngsters.
This is from my personal experience. We are very fortunate that my parents went off at the ripe age of 88 & 93 without any panic. Ohm Namah Shivaya 🙏
Very very true!
We ourselves have to realise that we are mortal & यम राजा can visit any second!
Even if we are young the Ultimate Truth is that Life is transient!
*भज गोविंदम्, भज गोविंदम्, गोविंदम् भज मूढमते*! 🙏🕉️🌺
So correctly said
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Absolutely true
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😭 my dad is old and very ill but stable thank God… i felt the urge five years ago to bring him to pilgrim places…. I didn’t know the importance i see in this video but something inside me pushed me to do it and I feel so proud today that we went together in these places and he could have a spiritual life until he couldn’t talk anymore
My parents, especially my father is already aware enough. At the age of 50, he underwent bypass surgery and since then his withdrawal from material pleasures started. He devoted his life to bhakti, didn't care much about making a living. Somehow it was all taken care of.
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Th same has happened to me, I’m practicing meditation for 37 years now, but since my last bypass surgery, I feel no joy in material pleasures at all, I only feel happy practicing Meditation, Bhakti , service and family, I ready to leave my body any moment now…Sadhguru is right we have to live in such a way as to be ready to go any moment.
I think after a certain age we all naturally progress to Bhakti and yearn for a decent exit from this world. As others have said there is more curiosity in spirituality as compared to the material world. This I think is a sort of preparation , isnt it ?
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My father turned inwards and in 20vyears he found his guru and achieved moksha.
that's great....
My father was in hospital knowing he was dying. He was in great pain. A war veteran of 6 years, a good man loved by his family. My bother and myself as his daughter, held vigil making sure he was never alone, holding his hand and rubbed his feet. I was with him the moment he willingly died, telling him the names of all family who loved him. In Australia and other cultures many daughters also can take the honour of being with our loved ones.
This is not about honour or something. In India there was and is (much less now) a large family set up called Hindu Undivided Family (recognised by law and shortly called HUF), where Parents live with their sons and their families together under one roof. That is why it becomes duty of a son to take parents, pilgrimage. Instead trying to deep root the dying one to this world by reminding them about worldly things, it is always better to help them get enlightened to the truth ( of course, not in a harsh way).
@@govardhanankn8427 that priority and your reasons I do understand but just saying that NOT All daughters and women everywhere are unable to tend to their parents in times of need in many parts of the world. This “must have a son” resulted in the end of new born girls through so many ways such as a grain of rice. All are God given.
@@govardhanankn8427you need not be harsh on gayedawn1. I am an Indian, and I agree with gayedawn1. Every country has its own culture. Gayedawn1 is a daughter and was just pouring her feelings out. We should learn to be compassionate towards each other. No harsh feelings, just thought of letting you know what I felt.
Death is our old old friend. It has visited us so many thousand times perhaps. It's going to happen one more time.Let me be wise to embrace that old friend when it's time.Nothing to be terrified of death.
Death is not a friend you're delusional 💔
@@kaitlinmontgomery2750you are delusional. Death is absolute and the only real thing which is certain to every human at some point of life.
I have followed Sadhguru for almost three years. I have learned many things from him, actually he has caused that I open my eyes to the truths of life even some of them are scary. Although for a few months I stoped to watch his videos but again I started. This advice made me to break in tears because I have not seen my parents for more than ten years. Here with my broken heart but hope I asking of you that please send me your prayers, blessings and positive energy in order to Divine ( in any form or name you believe on) direct my steps to the right way that me and my parents happily see each other and I can hug them. Light and Peace
where are your parents buddy?
I think in india the spiritual way sets in early.so most elders know that they will go soon even tho the children pretend to be cheerful.my mother had an operation and came home well but still she knew she was going and from a few years before she set her things right and gave away everything.i have learnt from her and working towards it.
Sadguru , we Kashmiri pandits recite Brahmini Vidya to parents reminding them of our sojourn in this loka & the everlasting Ataman that we actually are.🙏
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That's exactly our belief too
My mama always say to me my child im not complaining you treat me so well while im still alive when i die one day dont be sad just know im happy
She is all Iam left with and I try to do my best as her only child i just try
My own father prepared himself for death kept aside his last cloth now i remember.....what a wise man he was 🙂🙏
Same with my mother in law…. She selected the saree which should be made toward her dead body before it’s taken to cremation…she also told us what to do with her personal things & the rites to be done after she died…. ( she had cancer )
@@actualangel5133 Its important if loved ones can have a say on what their wishes are at the end of this physical realm and to honour them
My dad too .
I think whether you are young or old we should b prepared for death an also have it written how to conduct the ritual an if u want a specific set of clothes most of us are very reluctant to speak about death
Same with my parents
This is so heart wrenching to hear.. About our parents.. I know it's truth but i always feel that moment should never come 🥺🥺 terrible truth of life
Just wanted to send love..totally feel you. I cry every night at lifes Misery and beauty . Wouldn't change it though...I just love them so much,the kids,everyone we know and the fact that the ones we don't know (like you and me) are exactly the same....how csn we hate each other ! Pure Love and strength to you ❤
Same here. On top of it I am in a bad marriage. U will truly miss them.
Maybe you should read the Bagwat Geeta instead of following Sadguru that is the true Wisdom from God Almighty Krishna. It will also make you face lifes issues more steadily
Lol why
True😭
People are scared of death but it is the reality. My grandmother even prepared the things for her death a way longer time like yellow clothing ( pitambar) so that the children will not have any difficulty in gathering things for funeral.
really wise of her. respect to her.
Exactly 1 month ago my Father passed away. He lived his life with a smile , working hard every day , providing resources and happiness to us. Till his last breathe myself, my mother & Sister and our whole family stayed with me.He met almost all the people he knew .He left this world without falling ill and without suffering any pain. He was working ,moving ,laughing spend so much time with us. I feel so lucky that at the last moment of his life I was there with him.
you are lucky and blessed
Totally agree that elders are trying to live a young person’s ideal life. To accept one’s advancing age and seek its particular lessons and fulfilment is very satisfying. Then one can very gradually detach from grasping the world, recognise what’s permanent and finally leave without painful regrets. Death is difficult to accept and spiritual practices are the only path that provides some relief.
Like an infant I learn so much from watching.
Many a times parents are tied down with so much responsibilities and money constraints, only after retirement they get the opportunity to do what they like. I think it's absolutely ok as long there's a sense of detachment from wordly pleasures. Which I am sure they know. It's better to fulfill your wishes atleast you feel content and satisfied. My mother was fun loving but she left us in grace during her last days.
I do understand the point Sadhguru is trying to make.
However, I am 25 and I have always thought about death since I am a kid. I always have been thinking about the other side and wanted to know what is the meaning of this life.
I moved live in India and try to develop my soul every day. I have never been afraid of death, on the contrari I think its a beautiful experience.
However, being aware of my own death, doesn't mean I can't dance, or be joyfull in life.
There was a point in my life where I tried to deattach so much from life that I lost all interest about being in this world.
I don't think that is healthy either.
And I don't see why age has to determen that.
I can die.too at any moment.
The point of my life is to grow spiritualy.
But at the same time I can laugh and I can share my life with people and be in this world.
Otherwise why did I come to.this world? To just think about death? No.
My grandma prays for two hours a.day and she goes to monasteries often to do spiritual retreats there.
At thr same time.she also dances around the house or goes to the cina with my grandpa..
I would not like to see my.grandparents closed at home, just waiting for death.
You can develop your soul and at the same time be active and joyfull. I don't see why that is seen as oposite.
Today several of the old has no company of children or grandchildren. So it is for us to understand and accept the reality. Fortunately there are Sadgurus who give us the sage advice. When in youth one does not get the lessons, oldage may not help as one is accustomed of the sound and activities encompassing his life.🙏🙏🙏
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This may seem bit overwhelming but it is due to poverty why people follow westernization, Christianity and atheism to abandon their parents. Once poverty is gone, a human is more like Hindu, meditative, family and community provider etc
Inward looking life journey starts long ago before we get old!
I will not be able to tell my parents. But I will follow myself, turn inwards gradually and will leave guidelines for my treatment if I fall siik so that I don't remain latched to life unnecessarily.
Beautiful
My grandfather passed in peace with calm words.
A great example and gift.
Like he did in so many of his ways
This may be true in your culture but in my culture I gladly accepted my responsibility to take care of my parents for 8 years. They both passed peacefully and in their own home. I treasure this responsibility and the opportunity to help them pass peacefully into the other world.
His thoughts are a perfect combination of age old traditions in Hindu society and the new age reality. It is a great service he is doing to society and humankind by sharing his view on so many such topics which explain the reality of life and the way to look at it. God bless him and wish him all the best for spreading the light of this knowledge to the world. Though a practising Hindu, his thoughts are above any race or religion.
True.. most upper class Hindus now are especially the younger generation are so greedy nd boasting abt their vedad nd scriptures. They never excercise anything spiritual. At least Sadguru is so biased that he attracts everyone alike.. anyone shall follow him. He is a wonderful present guru.
That is because He is a Jeevan Mukhta rishi. A realised being cannot be put confined in a defined territory of religion. He is free n secular by nature.
This is so true! And is another reason on the importance of awakening spiritually in one's lifetime! Thank you.
Thanks Sadhguru for reminding us of our traditions and culture with the necessary explanation of why it is done this way.
One doesn't have to tell a dying person that "You are going to die".
The dying person already knows, better than the others.
One can turn inwards and pray and meditate, without going to pilgrim places.
Read puranas. They explain why pilgrimage is important
Absolutely! Nowadays the pilgrimage places have become so commercialised, so crowded, dirty that I feel I get more peace by being in a quiet place of worship even at home !!
It's practically impossible in such dire scenarios.
Unless the person has dementia
I am sorry to say but nowadays the parent generation (60, 70,80yrs) is very very stubborn. Very very few are spiritually inclined. They want to go on enjoying life. Many of their attitude is that they will continue to live forever. There, if the son or daughter will go to remind them that their time has come and they should prepare -- God help that son or daughter in law!! I am not talking about all, but a lot are like this. They go on clinging to material abundance. Very little vairagya.
Absolutely correct 💯
Yes very true, many r adamant and in our lndian culture,as parents are considered as God figures they just don't take any advice from their children. The truth is lndian people r more attached to things as well as people and relationships. We r unaware of vairagya.
This is so true...parents or children, we are all human with flaws, but the Indian culture puts parents and all other older relationships like some god and if you tell them something like what Sadhguru says, they think how dare you...and they will put you down, rather then have a healthy discussion. Like somebody said in the feed they are very stubborn and treat the female child worse as they think they don't belong to them.
I have somehow made them do inner engineering though with resistance. In the end we have the strongest connect with them so gradually they give in(Just keep trying 😉)
True
Most of the old people wants to live beyond and very difficult to make them.understand that we all dying type of being🙂🙏
I lost my father in December 2020 my father was fully support to my life know I lost it by believing others I can't come out from the loss..
Thank you Sadhguru with your guidance I am feeling blessed that I am doing right thing.
Both parents terminal and both 95. Dog 15 slowly winding down. Everything is a living gratitude 🙏 and appreciation. And as the only son who can visit ... its goid to have the chance to visit and be palliative care volunteer. Keeping everything okay. No fear. Even if afraid to last minute saying I do not want to die! Its just be here now. Calming them for now. It always helps. And its exhausting but essential to be there for each sentient beings.
True for all of us not just our parents!
Unconditional love respect and gratitude.
Be gentle with them .. let them be born into next life having been feeling appreciated and loved.
How will feel millions of people who died suffering in wars and ,form hunger ,accidents and in terror in next life ? That doesnt make any sense.
@@filipmitrovic4103 truth is most of us have no idea, so speculation is useless. Really i want to know whats after death, doesnt mean i want to die, but im not afraid either.
Find on youtube .Well known hypnotherapists.They are performing past life regressions with their clients and describing what is happening after we leave physical body.Interesting stuff. Dolores Cannon or Michael Newton.
I was waiting in a bank while watching this, my mom was directly in front of me, i almost cried
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Being a son
if u are getting married u must be at least be able to take ur parents to a pilgrim temple ...
Be a man who can hold the houses and make it work and tell ur parents to now b in comforts and spend in innerself
I lost my father on 4th Nov.. exactly one month after I shifted bag baggage from Kolkata, and my bed ridden mother on 20th dec 21. Since then I hv started feeling tat nothing is predictable....why are people fighting for properties, money....when you hv to leave everything behind..that too.just any moment
Guruji we Indian parents, at least most of us are in the evolved mode. Lighting lamps, praying to god to give us a painless end and well being of our children and grand children, this is all our daily activities. It is ingrained in our being from childhood. we really don’t need our children to create that atmosphere. On the other hand our children create that atmosphere in their own way talking about will, nomination for the property, bank deposits etc now then , reminding us of our impending end. Please let us live our last days in some happiness ,doing things that we want to do, traveling, painting, getting together with friends etc without all the time thinking about death
After all nothing is in our hands. So there is no particular age when we can say ok, from tomorrow I’m going to prepare for my death..
Well said!
You must prepare for death right from birth, Sadhguru was answering a question which was asked for older parents
I agree with you. We are all equal in the eyes of death. Nothing to say that one’s older parents won’t outlive one. But a talk like this would be specifically geared towards older people who might get confused or terrified of the idea of death and to mentally prepare them for it. There are many folk who want to remain immortal. This may sound absurd but such people do exist . My mother is an incredible example of this. Continues making plans expecting to outlive every one else. Constantly creates cycles of dependency so that people and life only revolve around her. Is deeply focused on material attachments and existence. She does no turning inward whatsoever. Tried to introduce ideas around spirituality , yoga etc but she dismisses them as brainwashing nonsense . I guess some people are content being attached to their material existence till death. Who knows maybe this sort of material existence will bring her no fear of dying till the end. Or hopefully it will be a quick exit with no time to think or be scared. The inward journey is not necessarily for everyone. Best to leave people to figure out for themselves where and what they want to for the end. If your own soul is not speaking to you and there is no receptivity and one does not understand that there is a higher self and dimensions beyond death, it makes no sense to introduce or impose these ideas
Living each day excellently n knowing it could be the last..that's my way of dying with no regret.
Well said!
My father went peacefully in his sleep despite him knowing that he is leaving us.That is the best way to leave.He was the most beautiful human being I have met like my mother.
He knew and I knew but I also knew it was his moment of choice.
He knew at the age of 75 when I first explained to him.He was living only for me.
He is a Saint according to me.
I did all I could for him till his last breath.❤
He was happy and blessed me saying I did everything for him.
My parents have always been materialistic and selfish all through till their current age of 75. It's how they are and it's too late to explain spirituality to them.
So true!! They will never understand...infact they think that something is wrong with us...
Agree. I see this in both my parents in law
Sad because I devoted my life to my father .I had no children because he acted like a child do this or do that. He thought it was about money that's not why we do thing we do it be ause of god ten fays before he died he told his best friend I was a whore a loser and a disappointment. I'll not care for anyone else
.my ec has cancer I told him hood luck on his journey with cancer all he gas been doing ut butching
I'm.going to due alone oneday I waz just speaking to a neig hor about this. My.moms uncle hung himself over busi ess and the war
its never too late, show them this video and ask them to take it seriously.
In today times, most parents like this only
Very true be it life or death lets embrace it consciously and in a calm way🙏
True. My aged mother is now treated this way. Yesterday all of us celebrated my birthday in pomp only for her. Gave the first piece of the Cocoa Creamer to her , and she was top happy then
My family still practise those taboo, timid. Taboo to talk about death, even lie to our parents when he or her is gonna ok when they sick... I am sad... It is better let our parents mentally prepare and face for their passing in peace... we all have to face it.. one final day,we also have to face it...
sadhguru we are so thankful for your videos. very practical and needed advise for the present generation. this son referred bhaja govindam, thirukural and thevaram to my mother when she was leaving. mother accepted and died gracefully after blessing all, consciously chanting vishnu sahasranamam
I am 67 and I have to share that it has been my saving grace to have met Her Holiness Sr Mata Amritanandamayi Devi or Amma, the hugging Saint. How blessed I feel that I can orient my life towards a spiritual goal before I die more effectively.
Thank you Sadhguru Ji for reminding me my dharam as a son, I will definitely going to do so by whatever little means i hv.
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Sadhguru the more I listen the more I get enlighten 🙏🏼
My father is bed ridden since 3 months, he has brain hemorrhage, he is struggling so much. I wanted to tell him all these before he got ill. But I missed the opportunity, I'm very sad for my father 😭😭
So sorry to hear that, hope he gets well soon 🙏🏼
🙏🏽❤️ praying for your father friend
prayers for your father
Prags Prajs Don’t worry, he will feel the love you have for him.
Sadhguru said it is possible to communicate this message without clearly speaking it out.
Your loving, calm and caring presence will be enough.
You are great, let your father feel that it is ok to let go of the physical.
Prayers for you🙏
But maybe he can still feel love - can you give him the hug?
At young age people have no surety of life . Should we stop living ..... "NO"
At elderly, we cannot stop living as well and keep thinking now i am near death. Enjoy life knowing the fact that one day when there is a call from God we will embrace it gracefully as we did our duty, what was assigned to us by almighty !
This is real way to life instead of falsifying life,thanks for this important video and Namaskaramu
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Reminder is required :
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My father is 70.He has done everything, what he could do for us. One year ago I noticed him stalking a young girl from neighborhood.i ignored it initially.the girl comes at her rooftop for laundry everyday. She is easily visible from my rooftop. Now my father spends whole day at rooftop looking at her rooftop.whenever she passes by my house, he comes down to the street and wait till she returns.i tried to give him indication that I know about this, but it seems he doesn't care. I didn't wanna tell this to my maa but I realize that he is not going to give up.so I told my maa about this. Guess what.. She didn't believe me and now had stop talking to me.
😂 I hope this is not a real story but it does sounds funny to me
He doesn't want to believe that he's growing old. It's his insecurity which is making him behave in such a manner.
@@bernadetteraikar8822 what should I do? We live in a remote village.people will not understand this like you did. They'll pitty him.he will loose all the respect, what he has earned throughout his life.
Men will be men!
Most old man are like that where i live
Self Contentment and no greed & jealousies will keep you happy
Sadguru Jee Pranam,
Thanks for sharing this insightful and significant message for parents S well as their kids.
Sadguru always confirms my inner experience and the path I’m following is illuminated by all he has learned and spoken. Sadguru is my flashlight in this world both inner and outer
Please remember that in the West it is the other way round. It is the daughters who continue to support the parents, not the sons -generally speaking. And yes, we do have a different way of looking at things in English speaking countries, the 'West' is very broad and too general, ALL cultures have different ways of doing things - it does not make one right and the other wrong, just different. In our countries, we too used to have a looking inward which has now disappeared. The reason that we 'in the West' encourage the old to keep living their lives to the full is because we believe that without purpose, your soul will give up, and making death your purpose isn't very constructive. But I agree that there should be an awareness of mortality, especially as one grows older, and also that this awareness can be a positive thing.
Without purpose? So parties and dates r the purpose at that age? There's no purpose left
@@user-fw5qm9vu4s We don't stop living when we pass a certain age. PURPOSE - as in what you came here to learn and do- should be there throughout life, and no one suggested that the young can't have fun along with purpose. Limitations are ridiculous at any age.
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Though I agree to prepare the mind and heart for the inevitable, I do believe that one should still live to enjoy themselves whether it’s enjoying a meal or the cinema because it’s an experience we get once while in this lifetime. My dad passed recently and we really thought he’d come home since it was a procedure the doctors promised would cure him and that didn’t happen. I hope he didn’t pass in terror but I do know he didn’t want to go nor was he or us prepared for the outcome. 💔
I learnt many things for you. Now I feel this is a necessity..
Excellent and most important facet of human birth
Wow! What an amazing & insightful video.
My dad left this world with a cigarette in one hand and a glass of whiskey in the other.
He lived a happy 47 years old.. R.I.P. 🙏
Thanks Sadhguruji ..this lighting of lamp & chanting at the time of approaching death is a common practise across India ..thanks for reminding us 🙏🏼
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We need to be conscious all our life.
Go inward in all ages
True picture sadguru showed us how to manage old age thankyou guruji
My grandfather left this world in dreams while nap grand father and i was there in room he asked for things he liked addiction at night sleepin it was cold asked local alcohol gave and next day tea in morning and was sleeping after some 30 mint nap he died while sleeping on sofa.R.I.P grandpa he was epic.
When my wife of 3 years kick me out of her house, my parents came and picked me up. Fortunately, i never had children with her. Now i live with my parents and i swear that i will love and take good care of them
My mum passed away from a heroin overdose when I was 15 years old, she had a lot of problems and I didn’t understand her at the time, I didn’t even think she liked me.
20 years later and only the past 5 years I’ve learned about her through a diary she kept which was mainly about me. Four children she had but she was to mentally unwell to look after me when I was born and I was dropped off on my Nan’s doorstep when I was a few days old.
My mum visits me in dreams and I often have reoccurring nightmares of her house which I can’t understand why, it’s not something I constantly think about but I’m haunted by, maybe the trauma from her leaving this world so abruptly?
I have lovely dreams of her speaking with me and When she has visited me she has told me things that I didn’t know so I know it wasn’t my own subconscious that made it up.
I want to speak to her so.
I want to know her 💔
How can I connect with her?
Hi mam can
Haha, in my family the daughters are carrying out the son's work. So much for the importance of a son. No such thing. Whomever, who has the sense of responsibility can do the job.
He OFTEN justifies sexism.
@@Kim.Miller so true... I find it revolting. Masculinity and femininity are energies within each individual. We can choose to harness any whenever needed within limits.
The external appearance n sexual functions of each gender is just a play of nature to propagate the species. However, we are here to discuss spirituality which usually involves energy. I hope he stops this confusion , attempting to justify or debate his way through just because people are giving him some respect.
@@Kim.Miller yes
Just like everything else we should be taught and make us learn about death and mortality so that when time comes we would not be afraid of death and die gracefully.
Let's not forget that society decided a son was the most logical to complete these things but no where scripturally does it say so. Many daughters today take over caring for their parents AND in laws, take both on pilgrimage, etc. When a couple takes the 7 phere they join together to pursue dharma and one aspect of this is caring for each others parents. Women's responsibility for their parents doesn't stop because they are married. Unfortunately, for better or worse the idea as evolved perhaps to make it easier on daughters that ok the son can take that responsibility but to be clear, many daughters do and should if they can, take care of their parents. It is a child's dharma to care for their parents as their parents cared for them, girl or boy doesn't matter. I say this because we all know some sons are not inclined to do this and vice versa some daughters are not inclined. However, may all parents be blessed that they have at least one child that cares for them in their old age.
You are very WISE.
One of the ten commandments is to love and respect your father and mother. This is how important parents are in our life. They are the only person mention specifically aside from God.
So true Sadguru that was exactly I did when my mum time was coming thank you this has clear so much of my vision PRANAM
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I have been brought up with orthodoxity and strong culture ...yet I have not been able to bring up my children in the same way
Arrogance in them has hurt me as a single parent. They are the bosses ..and even ask me what I've been doing all day...while they sleep late and rise late..
Is it because my husband had an untimely death..
Today I'm lonely after educating my children and they are employed. ..I struggled to give them education.
What has life shown me as a senior citizen ...I practice yoga and meditate...
It they who need to grow inward... 🙏
no need to feel lonely the source of existance is always within you, thats pretty great company! :D
I work in a nursing home and see the terror in the patients and their families. I also see calmness in some. It is almost exactly like birth . i love the simple truth of this video. Thank you.
Thanks for sharing your experience . I was moved to tears. I salute people like you who work in nursing homes. You provide a great service to the humanity.
It will come to parents naturally. For a child it is very difficult to tell his or her parent to get ready to leave the world! One can provide spiritual atmosphere and take them to temples/upanyasa etc
My mother left me last month , she was doing fine she was battling cancer but after the treatment and PET scan shows she has recovered a lot and it is in stable state. She was doing fine doing all household works , suddenly she fell down and bed ridden , we tried physiotherapy and she was doing fine all set to see her walking on her feet but again she fell down , one thing i can recall she said something is pushing me down i m trying my best to live but i am pushed by something, she then went in to depression stop eating, blood tests shows infection her saturation levels drop and we lost her last month in ventilator. I wish I could ask her last wish and talk to her what she wants from me😢 . Its not fare she lefte like this , my mom was so closed to me that entire my life we stay together i was a pamper child and her beloved.
I will definitely make sure to fulfill this for my parents. But first I am working on myself....I've noticed I am more capable of helping others once I started helping myself. The more conscious I am, the more conscious I can make my surroundings 🙏🙏🙏
Ideally, Sadhguru could have told us what death means to him and how we can prepare for death. Death can come to anyone not necessarily in old age.
He has a book out named "death; an inside story."
This man is awesome.
Not bad for someone worth $25M.
Bauht sahi kaha guruji ne clearly
I am 41 and I am aware that I may die tomorrow but my father who's 79, still has many desires in life. I don't think he realises that he may die any time. He's not turning inwards. I tried. And now being a single son, my worry is if my father outlives me. Now that's going to be horrible for him for sure.
Keep pooja in your house from time to time, it might help
I never knew this until now. But somehow, I have put a condition that my parents should go to dhamma (Vipassana) if I agree to get married. Well, I'm not wrong afterall :)
absolutely genius man!
Hahaa..nicee🙏🙏
many old people came out of trauma&seriousillness after their siblings or other people’s luv & affection.I feel most imp is be connnected with elder ones,care &nurturing a plant make them flourish &alive .🌳🍀🌾🍂
I watched my uncle death due to heart attack, he suffered a lot due to pain but at the final moments prior to death .. I saw him very calm and relaxed...i am really surprised because he was far away from spiritual path.. More attached to material things
Thank you Sadguru 🙏🙏
Super super thanks SADGURU 🤘
Thank you. This is the best thing I have seen in some time.
I’m seeing this after my mumma passed away..she had a very hard time at the end. She died in peace but only because she was in a coma from the pain relief..
I’m 39, in single and no kids, 4 big sisters and a father who has stage 4 dementia 😢
I was just taking a break and taking care of dad away from Mum promised her that I’d be back but she felt like she needed to go.. now I stare at the sky for hours wondering if she sees me looking for her, I wonder if she’s looking for me..
I hope Your words illuminate generations to come and go, be the guiding force of spirit.
Awareness is very important thing in life that's why we need awareness or need someone to aware them. Help them.
Pranam sadguru.
Vaazhga Valamudan ✨💖💯✨💝
I'm glad I enrolled my dad for Vipassana Meditation and he realized that when his time comes he has to be in a balanced state of mind. I even wanted my mother to join the course, but she was too adamant and called me a fool. Unfortunately, she passed away due to CKD and her last moments were full of fear and anxiety. But, I'm happy to see how meditation has done wonders on my dad and he's prepared for death. Whatever time he's there with us. I hope he understands the true nature of life and death.
I hope every son or daughter guide their ageing parents and give them hope and clarity
Namaskaram, great thing that you did for your father , that’s exactly what sadhguru insists as the most important duty of a child🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
@@TheMysticWorld thanks Sir
I think dating at 80 is not wrong , people should do whatever they like whenever they like. And going to pilgrimage must be at age people become "adults ", regardless of what age they become adults
Yess it's good to feel incomplete and die terrorised at 80 when you have the option of feeling complete from within and dying gracefully 🤭
My parents don't have sons. I will be setting the atmosphere and reminding them all! Asé
Guruji isn’t spirituality something that should come from within? If In all their 80-90 years of life they have not cared for anything beyond the physical body and materialistic wants is it easy for us children to show them spirituality even though we practice it day after day. For such people they may have chosen not to realise spirituality. What then can we do?
namaskaram, as sadhguru says as children its our duty to keep trying...keep trying and keep trying hoping that one day they will realize....
Even the fact that you are meditating, is creating the atmosphere... Tell them that if one meditates in a family and gets liberation, then the entire family is liberated..This is an ancient belief by the way, I read this from the life history of Lokenath Baba...His father had sent him to learn yoga, because he wanted one from the family to become an ascetic and liberate the entire family chain... So we do not know, what is possible, and what is not.. Meditation is still a mystery to us seekers , as it is to our parents, Until we experience higher dimensions.
Another fact, if your check the lives of great saints like Swami Vivekananda, and many, you will see that not everybody or may be nobody else in thier famliy practiced yoga..I have met a person who has not left his home for 25 years... I am pretty sure he is a realized person, though he doesn't speak of any realisation, his content face says it all... He does not have the eyes of a seeker anymore.. No one else in his family does meditation... These are just facts that I gathered, because I wanted the answers too... Honestly this is as much as I know, rest is my belief in God, or Brahman, or Kali, Shiva whatever form we call them... That same belief is often found in the hearts of our parents too..
Sri Ramakrishna Paramhansa used to say 'Like Father, like son' he meant your father here on earth when he said this to a person... He added that, the father and his son has the same soul... See how difficult it is to rationalise this, but a few message is definately conveyed to attentive listener when he said these lines... The message is that you might have got sripiritual tendencies because of your parents behaviour towarads you since youth.... The possibilities are many, any the possibilities are of no use.. But of very much use too... The possibilities is called savitarka of the mind before entering meditative states... So I just hope that we all find mukti brother... Hope that you al, and your family stay safe and find what you are searching so whole heartedly... And that we can create a better and more friendly atmosphere towards each other on the physical part of the reality as well... My advice will be, do not think that your parents will understand sprituality as you, it is practically not feasible for them at their agee beacuse of highly decreasing energy levels after 60... But I am sure that if you continue on tue yogic path... One day we shall overcome all odds... No easy game but we stand with you, and most importantly, God is always with you...
This is one of the important topic of life thank you guru ji