A ten year old not knowing that putting an animal in a plastic bag is dangerous and abusive is extremely concerning. I wouldn’t allow the kid to take the puppy either, not only because of what he did, but also because I would question the competence of the parents!
Final statement is spot on. Plus who is going to feed and potty train the puppy? The inept parent who doesn't see a dog as a living being or the 10 yr old who thinks it's OK to suffocate it because he wants it now?
I agree I think about my 10 year old granddaughter and she would know better then to put anything living in a plastic bag ....it is like one of the first things you teach a child why they can't play with them and what could happen by doing so.....
@sarahgump8225 oh wow ten! Im listening while playing a game and missed the age of the child. I was wondering how old cuz I was thinking if the kid was like preschool or toddler aged I would understand him not understanding that he needed to apologize cuz he wouldn't understand why a pup in a bag is a deadly situation. But scary for a ten yr old to behave that way and not realize why that is inappropriate behavior. Also what is wrong with this family that there are so many people in it that are making OP feel bad for their decision??
Story #4 - I am concerned that the child was left alone with a bunch of young puppies, mostly because animals can get protective with their newborns and the mum might've attacked him. But if he doesn't care about the wellbeing of the animal now, and his mum doesn't see the value in teaching him, I would be really worried about it's ability to thrive with them. He's throwing a tantrum and his mum is enabling him.
I'm worried because he was told why he couldn't have the puppy. He still took the puppy anyway, knowing that it still needed its mother. He knew he was doing wrong because he hid the bag. He didn't apologize which means to me that he doesn't think what he did was a big deal even after seeing how OP and the mother dog reacted. He didn't care about the mother's feelings, so why would he care about the puppy's.
Agreed. Neither adult should've left a child alone of that age with any dog, certainly not a nursing mother with puppies. Sister does not have the knowledge to keep both a child and a dog safe from each other. And OP should not be breeding dogs. I hope she gets her dog spayed once the puppies are placed. This is the backyard breeder people warn you about. I'm glad she's doing right and not giving her nephew a puppy, as that was a bite waiting to happen. But her dog should've have gotten pregnant in the first place and she should never have left him alone with the mother/puppies either. Please don't buy/take dogs from these people, I know it's tempting because they seem nice but it just encourages them to continue breeding because they make money or are easily able to rehome the puppies. They don't see that those puppies may go on to have painful and expensive genetic problems because they didn't spend the money to test the breeding animals. They could go onto have temperament problems that didn't show up in the breeding animals because they were so young when bred etc. Either go to a responsible breeder or a rescue/shelter. These types of situations are how dogs wind up in shelters in the first place. These are where they come from.
@@imzadi83fanvids7wow that’s a whole lot of assumption, and I’m sure that you are Mary Poppins and are practically perfect in every way. I agree that “backyard breeder or puppy mills are absolutely horrible. That wasn’t what was stated in this post though.
@@imzadi83fanvids7 wow you got all that from the post??? You have no idea what her training is. None of us do. The child is ten, I grew up in the country so I would assume that a child of the age had been taught by his parents how to treat animals. My nephews are 4, 7, and 10 they all have animals the 10 year old raises his own cows and dog. They have been taught how to treat animals. This is the fault of the mother!
Who's training, OP? The dog? The sister? If they said he was ten I missed it sorry, and was assuming he was younger, my bad. Yes some ten year olds are fine with animals, some are not. Regardless leaving a child alone with a nursing mother dog is not responsible, especially when that dog doesn't live with that child. @@robinbailey8491
1) Yes, I would have done the same thing. 2)Get the marriage annulled and co-parent. As far as the "friends" saying she is wrong, get new friends 3)nope, it's your daughter's birthday and for your husband to act like a child, he can go live with his sister. 4)it's not a broken promise. It is protecting an animal. Dion has proven he isn't responsible enough for a pet. Go low contact with the sister and her family.
#2 I wonder if there was previous red flags that she ignored, if so she may forgive him this because it's a pattern with them. I hope that she gets away from him. It would be the best for her and her young daughter.
#4 Dion's mom is the problem. The adult in th household is the responsible party and she is unwilling to be responsible for the puppy's care. The fact that someone, presumably her, filmed the child crying and sent it means that she is training her child TO throw tantrums to get what he wants. She clearly doesn't know correct adult behavior herself, much less how to raid a small human or a pet.
In the fourth story, the boy put the puppy in a plastic bag?! No way in hell I'd allow him the responsibility of caring for a dog after that. I'd be wary of him being around any living creature unsupervised after that.
For story 4: totally agree, he is not responsible enough for a pet. And to top it off, the mom is enabling his poor judgment and behavior. He’s 10. No means no and throwing a tantrum is not ok. It sounds like the nephew needs to mature and can be responsible for himself and appears ready to be be responsible for a stuffed animal as a pet at this point in his life.
Okay the first one it's a parking lot it had other spots. It wasn't his obligation to go on the other person's timeline. His reasons for staying don't matter he could be having his lunch for all it matters. He didn't hold up the line she did. She could have swung around again and let others out or she could have seen the rain found a far parking spot and ordered the food for curb side pick up. She had other options, and was taking options away from another person.
second story: whilst the first two red flags are true, the third one (walking away at your own wedding) is actually quite a good and healthy thing to a certain extent. Something like that is likely to make you react rather than respond, so taking yourself out of the equation, even just to calm down, is something I'd encourage, if only to calm down.
Came to the comments to say the same thing. Better to remove yourself from the situation, saying something would have caused an even bigger scene, and even if you do manage not to say anything, it's going to show all over your face that you're ticked off (at least it would in my case).
I agree 100%. I don't deal well with conflict because of past trauma in my life, so that's reason #1 why I walk away. But also, like you said, when you react you can say words that you can't take back. My father once called me a b!tch in anger. He tried to apologize but it really hurt me. I wasn't sure if he apologized because he was sorry or because of how my Mom and I reacted. I once called him a name but I knew and meant what I was saying.
Agree. That's super toxic to be around, I would have left and immediately gotten the marriage annulled...no way would I put myself thru that...those are not healthy ppl to have in my life!!
I agree as well, it's not avoiding the conflict, but rather stopping the situation from escalating. Based on the situation, if ahe hadn't left she most likely would have lashed out at him in tears due to the betrayl. And what would be the reason to stay when she doesn't have a good mood about it and doesn't feel like she can trust those around her. Secondly, she needs to remove herself from those friends because anyone who tells someone that they are the one in the wrong because they got upset about the moment being stolen is very much so, not a friend. Although they most likely didn't understand the situation, they shouldn't have been rude to her given that they don't know why she left or what the reason she was so upset to the point that she left.
First story is 100% a good apple. We don’t reward rude behavior. And any side effects of the rude person’s obstinance is their fault, not the person standing up to them.
Totally agree with you. I probably wouldn't have been brave enough to stay in that space with that rude lady honking her horn at me, but if I were brave enough, I would have done exactly the same thing. I am not at all a petty person; I bend over backward to help others, but this lady was totally out of line, and all those who had to wait because she wouldn't take "no" for an answer are not waiting there because of OP but because this Karen refused to move along.
There's also the fact that someone getting into their car doesn't actually mean they are ready to leave. It's possible that there are going to be more people coming out. Maybe they were in a different line. Maybe a friend or relative is getting off work and will be coming out in a few minutes. The person who wanted the space is definitely in the wrong. And everything that happens next is that person's fault.
ANY time someone acts like that with me my car goes into park and stays there honk at me at a light .2 seconds after it changed we are going to be sitting here foe another entire light. Part of the problem with the world is we reward bad behavior and the second she moves tells the one that honked they got their way and it reinforces bullying type behavior
@@lydiacasagrande8437 I hate the people that are three cars back that honk as soon as the light turns green. Like dude, that's not how this works. Also, the person in front may be seeing something the others aren't. Maybe there's a cyclist or another car that doesn't look like they're stopping. That two second wait isn't going to change the whole day of the people waiting.
@@johnclaybaugh9536 EXACTLY I can't tell you how many accidents I avoided because I DONT go the second the light turns green too many people still see green when it's red... parking lots as others have pointed out there are so many reasons someone isn't leaving right away
I don't think the 1st story was in the wrong. The lady felt super entitled and should have just kept going when he didn't reverse after honking. She chose to make that line instead of looking for another spot. I personally hate when people wait for someone to leave a parking spot, because they have no obligation to leave the spot.
Agreed. If someone is being rude af they will continue to be rude af if they learn being rude gets them what they want. Plus he wasn’t the one “making everyone wait”. The minivan that didn’t continue on after seeing that he wasn’t going to move is the one that made everyone wait.
I don’t think he was wrong for taking the time he needs, but he was definitely petty. I think crab-apple. I might have done the same and also been petty, because entitled people annoy me, but being petty is not “good apple”
For story number one, the person holding up everyone else by waiting for a spot they are not entitled to is in the wrong. OP is entitled to that spot until they are ready to leave it. We don't need to reward rude, entitled behavior. If the parking lot is full, you keep circling it rather than making everybody behind you sit and wait because you don't want to walk a little further. When I'm stuck behind someone like that, I never resent the person still rightfully sitting in their spot. I resent the person who thinks everyone else should accommodate them so they can have the exact spot they want.
@@purpleclaws202 who's rewarding anybody by saying that they're entitled to stay in their parking spot? I think sometimes people actually do need someone to stand up to them. Even if it seems petty. You can't bully your way into making people accommodate you. Her kids don't need to see that behavior pay off for their mom and learn that it works to yell and honk.
Apple #1 He didn't hold up anyone. All the inconvenience was on the white mini van. Tge people behind her were inconvenienced by her not the man parked. For all she knew he could of been waiting on someone else to come out the store. I don't agree with giving her the spot because I don't want to reinforce Be rude = Get what you want.
Yeah i agree. The mom was being a karen. I do that sometimes too where im in a spot and i fiddle with my phone to find a song. 😅. Though i never had a person yell at me to get out of a spot. Im sure there were other spots that the mom could've parked.
I grew up in new york where people are really desperate to get parking, in parking lots or on the street. But, it's wildly accepted that if they haven't moved then you need to move on instead of causing a whole line of cars. This was on her.
I agree with and I agree with Rebecca. I will admit that I have done the exact same thing. I know I’m being petty and a crab apple, but sometimes you just have to be petty. While I may be stooping a little, I won’t reinforce rude or entitled behavior even if that means I’m rude back.
Story 4 I think it would be different if the mother's attitude had been different. If the mother had been apologetic and turned it into a learning moment for her son. Heck depending on how the Aunt felt (ultimately she'd be justified in saying no), I'd ask the Aunt if he could earn the puppy back by showing responsibility wither that's picking up poop in the yard, helping the puppies find nipples during feeding time, making sure the mom had food and water, brushing their fur and basically caretaking for this furry family. All would be surprivised, of course.
It might even be worth saying no to this litter of puppies, but he could learn by helping his aunt with the mama dog (after the litter can be separated from her) to learn how to care for a dog.
Honestly, I don’t think this is a learning point for this kid. This kid has proven that he has zero decisional capacity ability, my boyfriend’s youngest sister is 10 years old. She would never make this decision because she knows one plastic bags suffocate and two she knows that the puppy needs to be with his mom. I don’t think in any way that this aunt would’ve ever turned around and said OK now that you said I’m sorry you can have the puppy. I think it’s very important that they said no you cannot have this puppy now that you showed me the kind of decisions you’re gonna make literally this kid could do this again if this aunt gave the kids a puppy and see the kid was going over to his friends house for a sleepover and he wanted to bring his puppy what’s to stop him from shoving the puppy in another plastic bag only this time the puppy wouldn’t make it. The aunt did the right thing to have the kid turn around and say I’m sorry just to get the puppy isn’t the kid learning from the experience the kids should feel bad the kid Should be thinking wow I could’ve had a puppy, but if I didn’t make that stupid mistake, I would’ve had my own puppy. Those are things that this kid really needs to reflect on now this kid should not be trusted with any living animal until he can prove that he has better decision making capacity. A plastic bag and the fact that the kids mom is not even upset parents see hundreds of warnings on plastic bags that say do not leave around children suffocation risk do you really think the suffocation risk goes away because it’s a different species no, the puppy can still suffocate in the bag. The mother should’ve just been a As appalled as the aunt was.
Story 1. Good apple. They did nothing wrong and the other person was extremely rude. I don’t care how busy they are, honking and yelling at people is never the way to go. People who decide to act like that should not get what they’re trying to bully someone into giving them. The person honking at them are the ones who held up everyone. Story 2. Good apple. That husband and those “friends” are all terrible people. If you’re upset with someone, ANYONE, you don’t cuss them out. You have a civil conversation and listen to them. No one in OP’s life sounds like they’re capable of that. OP is surrounded by nothing but toxic people. Rebecca has good points about OP leaving the reception being unhealthy, but that doesn’t excuse what they did. Story 4. Good apple. God, I wish there was someone you could report them to to prevent them from getting an animal in the future because that is a horrifically dangerous environment for any animal.
I agree Story 1 Good apple. While the driver wasn't waiting for someone else to come out of the store there is no way the other driver didn't know he wasn't waiting for a roommate or someone else to get done.
I mean, though I agree w what ur saying on story 1 to an extent, I feel like if you sit and wait there, you're being a child, and that's coming from a 14 year old. I would have only tried to find the song faster or just pick a random 1 and leave. Also I feel like people forget that people can have bad days, and was honking the horn and being rude about it the right way to do it? Probably not, but even so, there's a whole line, don't be the one that holds up the line js becuz 1 person was ude
@@whatismylifeanymore completely agree, also coming from a 14 yr old! I get that he wants to listen to a good song as he drives, but is it really that important to find one that you have to do it at the expense of so many people's (an entire line of cars) time? imo, the answer is no.
@@chrissyj_ For me it's important, but not important enough to hold up an entire line, like if it's that important leave and go pick park in another spot like in another parking lot or smth to pick your song
Story 2: Sorry Rebecca but it's not a red flag to remove yourself from a situation. Her husband went behind your back & betrayed her trust. There's 3 possible outcomes for that situation. One, get into an argument with her husband in front of the guests & embarrass herself. Two, leave. If she's THAT level of pissed & she didn't want to make a scene, leaving is the better solution. Three, (what some people do) put on a happy face, grit & bear it & yell at hubby later. But at a wedding where emotions are HIGH, the last option usually doesn't happen, it'll always be the first two. Story 4: "he learned his lesson" "What does he need to apologize for? The puppy was fine!" Umm what? He put a PUPPY in a PLASTIC BAG! Give the kid a stuffed animal because he's in NO WAY responsible enough to care for a living thing. I'd never leave him alone with any animal again honestly. Also the sister sending a video of the nephew crying & calling her names...?! Nice try manipulative Mandy, your tricks don't work here.
Ok. I feel you. I get it. As much as I think its almost never the right choice, Sometimes removing yourself is the play, but only with an explicit 'I need to go cool off rn, but we're gonna talk about this later'. To me, the red flag is that she ran off and never seems to have come back around to have that conversation.
The video of him crying and calling her names really got me. The sister wouldn't have cared if he had killed the puppy, she would have demanded another one. My son will be 10 very soon and I know so many kids from his school, I just can't fathom a 10 yr old thinking that was ok.
She didn’t say her leaving was a red flag did she? Because that’s obvious fine. I think she ment the fact that the husband went behind her back then cursed her out.
Story 4: Absolutely the Good Apple! If the sister & nephew are not responsible enough to at the very least apologize they are not responsible enough to take care of a puppy! A puppy is a lot of work, care & inconvenience. Sounds like the nephew is spoiled & can’t be bothered to be upset or inconvenienced. The sister is gross!
The puppy story: I would go a step further and get written proof that the son almost killed a puppy (probably through texts) and has not shown remorse, then send that proof to all the local animal rescues.
Story number 2, NTBA Leaving should have been the best thing to do. She did not start yelling, she did not put on a fake smile while emotions BOIL inside her. She left to think without all eyes on her. She left with grace and still did not ruin the proposal or wedding badly. I respect her.
I had a cousin, she was six when she got a kitten. I met the kitten and she attached to me. I didn’t know why, but she loved me. I was like 10. My cousin would grab the kitten by her tail, she wanted to be the only one to hold her, and she would chase the poor baby around the house. The kitten is an adult cat now. She hides and is afraid of people. I feel so bad for the poor cat.
3. She didn't exclude him, she just mentioned that it probably wasn't going to be something he wanted to do and they made an offer to hang out another time. Sister is making a mountain out of a mole hill.
Let's remember that when someone comes out to their car, they may not be the only person who is coming our to that same car. Sure, the person in the first story may have been a little rude, but the honking driver was also quite rude.
That escape room story: nah op is good apple. SIL is being an entitled parent to demand changes to someone else’s birthday party. When you were talking about your friend’s bachelorette party, it reminded me of my husband’s best friend’s wedding. I was helping the bride get last minute things together. One of those was how the ring barer was bringing down the wedding rings. She wanted them in a special box. The groom’s mom tried to get me to do something else with the rings. I stood there and listened politely to her idea and all that then said “that’s an awesome idea but this is how the bride wants it done so this is how we are going to do it.” She said okay and walked off. The groom and 2 of his groomsmen were standing there with their jaws on the ground in shock that she just walked away. Well after the wedding, bride and groom are off to their honeymoon when the mom calls the groom to tell him how big of a B I was to her at the wedding 😂😂😂 nah ma’am this is not your day sweetie
1. I don't think he deserved even the crab apple. He wasn't making everyone wait, she was. She was assuming he was actually leaving, he could have been waiting for someone in the store still! He didn't go out and harass someone for honking at him, she harassed him for "taking too long" because she assumed she knew what he was doing. She had no right to rush him and make him out to be the bad guy.
I do agree that Minivan Lady was extremely rude and entitled, but we do know from OP’s own admission that he was being petty and not actually waiting for someone or another reason to not move his car, we know he only did it to annoy Minivan Lady. I don’t fault him, because rude entitled people are terrible and make us want to response in kind. I totally understand his reaction. But it’s not a reaction of good apple goodness.
1st story... Good Apple 💯. Being petty is one of the few pleasures left in this life, and this entitled lady freaking out at your car window... clear cut case of FAFO.
Story 2: the SECOND I heard “we’re getting married because we’re expecting” my FIRST thought was “oh this is not going to last.” The story just confirmed it. Good apple, EVERYBODY ELSE is the jerk. It’s fine to ask. But how dare the husband agree to it. That day is about him and his wife. My own father doesn’t know how to take no from my wife or any of my siblings or I, and I really think if my mother wasn’t from such a strict religious background, they would have been divorced a long time ago. They even say the same thing.
#1:Good apple. If someone starts honking like that, it is Just. So. Annoying. Your choices then are either to drive into traffic while agitated, or to take some time to calm down. In that situation, I would probably have remembered something else I needed from the store.
Story 2: I saw Someone comment about weddings being a high emotional environment. And this is true, especially as the beide ant the groom. So sometimes it is better to remove yourself from this emotional pressure and cool down a little bit. She must have been so damn disappointed in her husband, who she - until this very second - thought she would spend the rest of her life with. What else should she have done? Confronted him the second or after the proposal happened? It was already too late anyways. Her trust was broken. She was hurt. So she could have either made a scene and embarrass everybody involved or remove herself from this situation and get much needed distance. This actually can be a very mature response. For example, the best man‘s girlfriend might have had no clue this was going to happen. The bride might have cussed her out (too) in front of al the guests and made her feel bad about something she was involuntarily involved in. She might just end the relationship with her husband there and then in don’t of the guests, because the emotions are just getting the best of her. We don’t know that. And I think you forgot to mention the husband cussing her out afterwards is a huge red flag too. Cause he is not even seeing the problem in his behavior
10:57 Leaving that situation is very healthy. She was very likely to blow up in that moment and she needs space to calm down and collect herself. There’s a big difference between walking out during a one on one conversation without establishing an agreement to take a break and walking out of a highly emotional, extremely public situation to avoid reacting in a way you may regret not thinking about beforehand.
Story 2 is wild! I’d be furious as the bride but no way I would leave my own wedding. IMO that marriage would benefit from building communication skills.
Story 1. 😂 I would have done the exact same thing. The line building up behind her is her fault for hovering. You're supposed to go around the parking lot until you find an empty spot, not just hold the line up waiting for someone to leave because you want that spot. The mini-van was the bad apple in my opinion, OP was a good apple all the way 😂😂
Story 3: Not super relevant but I’m a triplet and if one of us had a friend that wasn’t super close with 2/3 of us their parents always felt the need to invite the other two out of obligation and it made us so mad. If one sibling is going it doesn’t mean the others have to go too.
Rebecca you are a saint by not being petty. I just got done watching ALL the Bad Apple Videos and in none of them you stoop to pettiness. Also, I just want to say that I am definitely picking up your style of reading with emotion and expression. I use that to read to my child and he definitely is more entertained. You are awesome. ❤❤
I agree! that kid will probably be a serial killer, they start by hurting animals. I actually didn't watch #4 the comments I read were enough. I just can't handle that stuff.
The lady in the last story is my hero! She made the right choice. Animals are FAMILY and should be treated as such!!! Assuming you treat your family well. I probably treat my animals better than the rest of my family. Good apple all the way 🍎
#4… Absolutely disgusting!!! I go without so my dog has all he needs and then some!! I have an iPhone 6… okay!! A puppy in a plastic bag!!?!? And then the mom lets the kid send a video crying and calling the aunt names!!! Nope!! no way no how… way to immature for any animal and completely agree… if there are other animals in that household, I would genuinely be concerned for their well being!!!!!! GOOD 🍎!!!! No puppy!!!!
#1 is good apple imo. When faced with confrontation, especially when operating a vehicle, you shouldn’t act hastily. That includes obliging. You feeling rushed could lead to your own dangerous driving.
With story 4, I have a similar experience. I have pet Guinea pigs and my mums friend wanted to give some to her daughters. before I gave them to the children I carefully supervised them to make sure that they were OK with it and also the Guinea pigs (2 young boy guinea pigs) were ok with it and I made sure that the place the guinea pigs were going to live was suitable and the new carers of them were able to. It seems a bit over the top, but if someone is going to be given care of my pets, I want to make sure that they will do it properly. They were able to prove that they can properly look after them and the guinea pigs took a liking to them so they moved in with them. OP in story 4 is a great apple, there is NO WAY i would ever give that kid a pet. He needs to be able to show that he can look after them properly and NOT PUT THEM IN PLASTIC BAGS. There is no way I would give him a pet after that!
Story 2: for this one, I don't entirely blame her for getting married because she said the wedding was in a church, and that tells me it's at least somewhat of a religious family, and sometimes in these religious families, especially Catholic or baptist, having children while not being married is considered living in sin, I actually know someone who was forced to get married to this awful man because they have children together, even though the mother hated him, she made her get married to him, so that could be why they are getting married. Also, it is rather common to do proposals or pregnancy announcements at weddings, but only when both parties are in on it and both parties are involved in the proposal or announcement, like you see when the bride is throwing the bouquet, sometimes they instead turn around and give it to their best friend or whoever is about to be proposed to, and then the boyfriend comes in with the ring. Lastly, when you are in situations that you don't want to be in that may or do upset you, it is best to remove yourself from the situation, especially if you don't want to make a big scene in front of everyone
I agree with you about the religious factor. I agree with you about it being common that those things happen at receptions but it's with the new wife's approval. I have a feeling that they had a pricey wedding and she/her family wanted to whole event to be about her. Once the new engagement is announced, the event is now an event for the new couple.
I would say no to giving the dog to the nephew also. There was one dog that I adopted from a shelter just so a father and young son wouldn’t take him. The young son pulled him out of the create he was in by the dog’s neck. I did find the dog a good home, with a couple who really loves him.
Last story I thought the nephew was about 4 or 5 years old and would have given them a bad apple because I thought of course he is still learning and the parents will help him know how to treat the dog. But, i went back and they said the nephew is 10! He is way too old to behave this way. My own 10 year old would never do anything like this nephew did in the story. He isn’t being disciplined or taught at home and should not get a puppy. Good apple all the way.
story 1 good apple. there is no requirement that if you are in the car that you Must start backing out whenever the people behind you tell you so. you honk at me it better be an emergency. petty? absolutely but if you are waiting on me im not running on your timetable and i dont care if its an emergency on your end etc. you fail to plan you plan to fail.
For apple #2, I get why she left. She probably didn’t want to make another scene at her wedding. Also, even if that wasn’t the case, she is pregnant, so her emotions were probably heightened and it was probably even worse for her to see her husband do that knowing they have a child together on the way. If this were to happen to me, my mom, my dad and I would have just left together as well (you know, after the cops left following my mom punching my husband in the face lol). It’s flabbergasting when someone you love and trust so deeply (and who along with your’s child you are pregnant with) humiliates you in such a grand way (in front of your whole group of loved ones).
I agree about the parents being angry too. I have a feeling it was a pricey wedding/reception. Because of this they wanted the whole event to be about the bride. The new husband has no respect for his wife's feelings. He also put his friend's needs above his wife's feelings. I could not forget that and I honestly couldn't forgive it either.
@@purpleclaws202question what should she have done? Explode then and yell at him to make a bigger scene or put on a fake smile and explode at him later? Or leave without saying anything to collect yourself and have a calmer fight when you get home? I honestly don’t see how she created that big of a scene- she left there was no yelling, they probably still proposed. Sure she could have put on a fake smile but then she would probably just explode and say things she regrets at home anyway. She’s also pregnant which has mood swings so leaving was probably the option to create the least of a scene.
As someone who has experience with young children and kittens... I got my first kitten at 13, her name is Hermione. She's now six. My brother was nine years old. I want to say Hermione was MY KITTEN right from the dang getgo, ok? She's always been my kitten, my responsibility. I couldn't pay for everything back then obviously. I babysat, but I spoiled my sweet baby. Maybe because I'm a girl, maybe because he's a boy. He was straight up abusive. He would 'boop her nose' and I'd CRY to my parents that he was being way too rough! They said she's fine. I'd walk in on him spinning her around, rocking her way too harsh on the rocking chair, to the point she couldnt WALK right when I chased him away. When I tell you Hermione was a precious kitten in the shelter, she was. She loved all of us. But over the years she grew so cold, so mean, and so untrusting. She all but mauled my Mami when she was cuddling her in bed one night. I tried to keep my cat with me as much as I could, and at the time, I really didn't understan the extent of the animal abuse this baby went through. Believe me when I say I feel AWFUL about this now. My parents still refuse to admit my brother made her the way she is. I have her safe and with me now. She refuses to ever be held, and she only likes certain people. She loves me, and she'll jump in my bed or cry when I've closed her out of my bedroom before bedtime because she likes sleeping with me or in her bed under my bed. She took TIME to warm back up. Little kids don't know any better sometimes. Sometimes. I have little cousins male and female that treat their pups and cats like they're the most delicate creatures. A small child with a puppy is dangerous from the getgo. But because he was foolish enough to put a PUPPY in a PLASTIC BAG absolutely not. OP made the correct decision. I don't know if the nephew is just too young, or if he's got something going on. And I don't mean to be grim, but abusers, and murderers even.... tend to harm animals in their youth. It might be something worth checking on. And another note, the sister sending a video of him CRYING! What the heck!? If I were OP, I'd 100% cut them off, I don't want people like that in my life, and she doesn't deserve that either.
I'm actually going good apple for the first one! The woman in the van was being rude! The way I see it, if she's gonna honk her horn at him because he took THIRTY SECONDS to pick a song, absolutely! She can wait a little longer! And yes, the people behind her still had to wait, but she made a choice to be impatient, so she can wait longer too! And you can all disagree with me and that's fine! But in my mind, if she's gonna honk her horn after THIRTY SECONDS, you deserve to wait!
yeah, and i saw someone else mention how he couldve been waiting for someone else which is 100% true. you dont get to dictate other peoples time, especially when you dont know whats going on
Story #3: Absolutely the good apple. I worked for an escape room, and we had a "scary" room. I never found it scary even before I worked there, but I understood that some people would. Anytime someone said they wanted to do it but was a little scared I reassured them that there would not be anyone in there with them, just their party. Nothing would jump out or touch them. We were lucky enough that our room was themed around a horror movie, and we were able to center they're concerns to things that may or may not be in the room.
#1 Good Apple he had every right to sit there as long he wanted to. Her expecting him to move just because she wanted the spot is wrong, she had no idea why he was still there, he may have been waiting on someone else. I can’t stand when someone blows the horn at me, unless there is a true emergency.
Story 3: One would think that there would have to be something else going on for the husband to sleep on the couch. Unfortunately, I have a brother-in-law like that. The moment his wife doesn't do what he wants, he does the same thing.
1.....Good Apple. The horn blower was entitled and awful instead of patient. She needed to be taught a lesson for the rest of humanity. In my opinion, the writer wasn't being petty he was letting her know that blowing your horn and throwing a tantrum Will Not get you what you want. I think we should say thank you for that. Perhaps in the future she'll wait patiently. Moving his car would have just taught Horn Blower that this will work in the future, thus ruining people's parking experience for years to come. Also to blame the person in the parking spot (not blocking traffic) for holding up traffic.....when the one holding up traffic was the Horn Blower seems like slight victim blaming. And if not giving them a spot ruins their day.....that's on them. What if the person in that car never planned to leave? Was waiting on someone? Or was planning on dropping his bags and going to another store? Is it still their fault traffic is held up? I get your point I just think you're way too nice to think oh you blew your horn.....let me move for you. Absolutely not.
#1 - I agree; I hate being waited on for a space and getting honked at. I wish people would do what I do: wait briefly, make sure you left enough room, and if the other person backs out lucky you, but otherwise, just move on. If I'm going to be in the space a long time (relatively) after putting the groceries in the car, I might not turn it on, oor if I do, keep it in park, so people don't think I'm about to back out. It's sad that such a small thing became a confrontation. You don't have to start leaving the space just because someone honks, but did that have to by why you stayed longer than you would have otherwise? If they honk, proceed as you were. Sadly, both people escalated and are in the wrong. Nobody has walked up to me like this before, but if they did, I would just calmly let them know I was on the phone and being safe. "Sorry, but I'm going to be a few minutes." You're better off being the "sane" person in a tense situation. The other lady should have moved on to another space. #2 - It's such a faux-pas to propose, etc. at someone else's event. Call it tacky, call it rude, whatever. It's terrible that OP's partner doesn't respect her enough to tell the friend 'no' and to stick up for her. I agree that they don't have a good foundation for a marriage. It's a hard decision: does the bride shout at people at her wedding, or quietly walk away? Thankfully she didn't have a fit; she would have been in the right, but still, what would people remember? When you marry a person, you're not yanking them out of their friends' and family's lives. I'm not a huge fan of the phrase, "you don't just marry the person; you marry their family," but unless they're strictly no-contact, the person you don't like could be in your life. It sounds like OP isn't very close to her partner's friends. Letting someone propose at your wedding requires a strong bond, and these people clearly don't have it. The bride did the least "flip-out" thing she could do aside from sit there and take it. She and her partner clearly don't have good boundaries or respect, and I would have called of the wedding-- well, I wouldn't have accepted the proposal to begin with.
As I’m eating a Krabby Paties when you say to treat ourselves with something small and was thinking sugary sweets wise immediately while I already had 6 cookies as well 🤣🤣🤣🤣
I disagree with the first story. It's also common knowledge to move on if you have a line of cars and the car you're waiting on doesn't move for 20 seconds. She should not have honked or gotten out, thats so rude, and as a society we should stand up to people like that. You don't get to berate people just because you feel entitled to the spot. If I was that person I would have gotten out and went back into the store.
The second prompt she is not a bad apple. They did the same thing with the golden bachelor where they asked the groom if it was OK for the man to propose at the banquet. I understand that she didn’t want it on her terms I don’t think he should’ve went ahead with it, especially do it behind her back.
My boys were 1 & 3 when we got our family dog. They knew far better than the nephew in the last post even then. Doggo's parents were owned by the same lovely couple & we got him for less than advertised due to a typo in the ad. However the other family in a brand new landrover 2 wks after new reg which it had. Well they decided that morning when the yougest daughter mentioned having a doggo. They were not only able to drop the £900 on one puppy on a whim but on two so their older daughter didn't feel left out... Not that she wanted one mind just so she wouldn't feel left out... Thankfully we got our doggo & they were refused.
Story #2 - from my culture wedding is supposed to be for the couple to share their happiness with their love ones. Things like proposal and pregnancy announcement are actually encouraging and usually the couple themselves will help with the announcement. Still the OP wedding and she can do what makes her happy but it’s also the groom wedding and he should also be able to share it with his love one.
Story #3 - We always priorities what the person who's event is want and they we adapt who can and who can not attend. This is so normal in Belgium, that even the kids understand when we say "you can and you can not go because of this and that". What we do when one of ours sons can go and the other can not is - we do something special with the one that stays home (something he wanted to do but his brother isn't interested) so, they even sometimes are looking forward to the time they will be excluded, because they know they can then do what ever they want and enjoy it completely.
Honestly for the fourth story this person is a good apple this kid clearly did not understand that puppies are fragile and puppies need to stay with their mom my boyfriend has a 10-year-old sister and I have a dog who I plan to have at least have one litter of into her life and I know that even if yesterday she got pregnant and gave birth I know that my boyfriends 10-year-old sister would understand that those puppies need to stay with their mom those puppies are fragile and delicate at 10 years old you know that you don’t you can’t say that anybody doesn’t know better at 10 years old unless they have severe mental defects. This girl was absolutely right to go back on her word. This kid did not deserve a puppy after doing that not only was he trying to steal the puppy from what I’m assuming is his aunt but he’s literally putting the puppy in a plastic bag. Ask my boyfriend’s 10 year old sister what happens if we put one of the cats in a plastic bag and she would immediately say they would suffocate because they can’t stay in a plastic bag no animal can and that is the correct response for a 10-year-old a 10-year-old knows that a living animal can’t be put in a plastic bag. I feel like this kid just did not care about the puppies health therefore leads me to believe that once the puppy was his, he would do crazy things with the puppy like maybe take the puppy outside or put it on a skateboard and send it down a hill. I don’t know what kids would do but honestly this kid does not have good decisional capacity if he decided hey they said that Mom needs to keep the puppies because the puppies need to drink the Mom‘s milk. The best thing I can do is shove this puppy in a plastic bag and steal it. it would’ve been completely different if the aunt went back on her word when the kid literally did nothing wrong but this kid did do something wrong he could’ve killed that puppy
story#1-the lady should get get a good apple.she is parked there and should take as long as she wants.if your in a hurry park somewhere else and stop blowing your horn!
For story one, the moment someone becomes rude, if you just go with "i'm going to be the bigger person" that will only reinforce their rude behaviour. If the person moved after they got honked for 5 seconds which is definitely excessive, the honeker lady would get approval of her behaviour. The other people in line tho, they did nothing wrong but that's life.
I don't like that both husbands in 2 & 3 are telling the wives that they are ruining things & making them feel guilty. No, the friend & the SIL (respectively) are causing problems & demanding their way during an event that isn't theirs. I would really like to know how the girl who got proposed to felt. If it were me, I'd be super embarrassed for upstaging the bride and having no control over it.
Story 3, that’s an entitled aunt. No OP is not the bad apple. I understand the little boy might feel left out which is sad but his mum can deal with that and it can be a teaching moment
Story #2: When my brother in law was planning to propose, my sister was maid of honor in her friend’s wedding. He proposed a few days after when we were still on vacation (a few hours away from the wedding) but in no world would he propose before OR AT the wedding. He knew people would be asking my sister about the proposal and the ring, and this night was about the bride and groom. People who do anything to take attention away from the bride and groom have problems. When those people are aided BY the groom, everyone has problems.
I just wanted to thank you for commenting on the need to respect animals' spaces after that 4th story. I've wanted a pet for decades but the places we could afford to rent didn't allow them until we could finally get a cat in September of 2022. We got an adult black inside cat who has anxiety issues so we've gone to a lot of trouble to make sure he can feel comfortable and confident in his home. One thing we learnt quickly was that he curls up and puts his paw over his face when he's trying to sleep and doesn't want to be bothered. He is not a stuffed animal that we can pick up (he HATES being picked up, that loss of control terrifies him!) and harass however and whenever we like. He's a living being that deserves the right to say no to unwanted touch. Even if you reach out to touch him when he's not curled up and hiding his face, he still gets to give permission or not. He'll sniff your hand for ages and you aren't allowed to pat him until he finishes and rubs his cheek on you; that's his permission to pat. If you go ahead anyway, after I've explained that, he'll try to get away from you and I'll be a protective mama bear and you've just lost your rights to his company until he chooses to be near you again. I cannot imagine how I'd react if someone put him in a plastic bag of all things. It gets me riled up just thinking about it. No. Just no.
My mom is a breeder and if she saw a kid attempt to steal a newborn (I assume) puppy in a PLASTIC BAG she would flip! She would not let that kid have one, and would be appalled at the mom's disregard for the puppy's well-being.. I feel like she'd cut contact with that person. ANIMALS ARE NOT TOYS!
I agree with you on all of them. Especially with the last one. I have a cat and I would not trust him with my cat untill he learns not to do that stuff to a living breathing animal.
Story #3: For my birthday parties when I was little, I always invited my friend who lived across the street and had a sister two years younger. Somehow, her little sister ALWAYS knew when we were eating cake (we had curtains in our front windows, and kids our age didn’t have cell phones at the time!), and would ring our doorbell and have cake with us. She went home when she was done, and never got upset as long as she got her cake. You don’t need to include everybody you know at your birthdays.
OMG. That puppy is so lucky and at so young an experience like that could cause lasting effects for the puppy. OP is absolutely right not to give the family a puppy. When you are responsible for bringing living beings into the world, you're responsible for doing right by them and giving a puppy to that home after the kid did that would be incredibly irresponsible and forsaking her duty to the puppy. OP gets a super apple as far as I'm concerned. Also at TEN?! Animal abuse like that could be a warning sign of severe psychological issues and I certainly hope (although I doubt) that mom takes kid to a therapist. The only thing that OP did wrong in this situation was let a kid visit small puppies unsupervised.
Can we all just thank Rebecca for posting Am I The Bad Apple every Tuesday and I love that she acts out a little bit of the story thank you Rebeca for making videos and making my day❤
omg the last story makes me PISSED i have a puppy and he is my absolute world and if anyone came near him and tried to hurt him by putting him in a plastic bag, I would lose it
The fact that the 10 yr old didn’t know that putting it in a bag would kill it 😿 lowkey a bad mother for not teaching that to her son when I was 4 I put a grocery bag over my head and my mom took it off and taught me that it could kill you and it’s dangerous
The kid put A PUPPY in A PLASTIC BAG, and rhe mom DIDN'T THINK IT WAS A PROBLEM?? Oh My god, absolutely rhe right decision to keep the little one away from that home. I don't think it would survive the first week, but even if it did, the kid wouldn't be able to train it, and I can't imagine the mom would care enough to take any responsibility for it. It must have been an awful situation for both the dogs and the owner, but at least it happened before it was too late.
4. I'm shocked Mom didn't correct or disapline or teach the child when that took place. If you can't guide and correct a child out of inappropriate pet handling, your family is not ready for a pet.
A ten year old not knowing that putting an animal in a plastic bag is dangerous and abusive is extremely concerning. I wouldn’t allow the kid to take the puppy either, not only because of what he did, but also because I would question the competence of the parents!
I agree. That kids sounds like a serial killer in the making
Final statement is spot on. Plus who is going to feed and potty train the puppy? The inept parent who doesn't see a dog as a living being or the 10 yr old who thinks it's OK to suffocate it because he wants it now?
I wouldn't trust him with a younger sibling.
I agree I think about my 10 year old granddaughter and she would know better then to put anything living in a plastic bag ....it is like one of the first things you teach a child why they can't play with them and what could happen by doing so.....
@sarahgump8225 oh wow ten! Im listening while playing a game and missed the age of the child. I was wondering how old cuz I was thinking if the kid was like preschool or toddler aged I would understand him not understanding that he needed to apologize cuz he wouldn't understand why a pup in a bag is a deadly situation. But scary for a ten yr old to behave that way and not realize why that is inappropriate behavior. Also what is wrong with this family that there are so many people in it that are making OP feel bad for their decision??
Story #4 - I am concerned that the child was left alone with a bunch of young puppies, mostly because animals can get protective with their newborns and the mum might've attacked him. But if he doesn't care about the wellbeing of the animal now, and his mum doesn't see the value in teaching him, I would be really worried about it's ability to thrive with them. He's throwing a tantrum and his mum is enabling him.
I'm worried because he was told why he couldn't have the puppy. He still took the puppy anyway, knowing that it still needed its mother. He knew he was doing wrong because he hid the bag. He didn't apologize which means to me that he doesn't think what he did was a big deal even after seeing how OP and the mother dog reacted. He didn't care about the mother's feelings, so why would he care about the puppy's.
Agreed. Neither adult should've left a child alone of that age with any dog, certainly not a nursing mother with puppies. Sister does not have the knowledge to keep both a child and a dog safe from each other. And OP should not be breeding dogs. I hope she gets her dog spayed once the puppies are placed.
This is the backyard breeder people warn you about. I'm glad she's doing right and not giving her nephew a puppy, as that was a bite waiting to happen. But her dog should've have gotten pregnant in the first place and she should never have left him alone with the mother/puppies either. Please don't buy/take dogs from these people, I know it's tempting because they seem nice but it just encourages them to continue breeding because they make money or are easily able to rehome the puppies. They don't see that those puppies may go on to have painful and expensive genetic problems because they didn't spend the money to test the breeding animals. They could go onto have temperament problems that didn't show up in the breeding animals because they were so young when bred etc.
Either go to a responsible breeder or a rescue/shelter. These types of situations are how dogs wind up in shelters in the first place. These are where they come from.
@@imzadi83fanvids7wow that’s a whole lot of assumption, and I’m sure that you are Mary Poppins and are practically perfect in every way. I agree that “backyard breeder or puppy mills are absolutely horrible. That wasn’t what was stated in this post though.
@@imzadi83fanvids7 wow you got all that from the post??? You have no idea what her training is. None of us do. The child is ten, I grew up in the country so I would assume that a child of the age had been taught by his parents how to treat animals. My nephews are 4, 7, and 10 they all have animals the 10 year old raises his own cows and dog. They have been taught how to treat animals. This is the fault of the mother!
Who's training, OP? The dog? The sister?
If they said he was ten I missed it sorry, and was assuming he was younger, my bad.
Yes some ten year olds are fine with animals, some are not. Regardless leaving a child alone with a nursing mother dog is not responsible, especially when that dog doesn't live with that child. @@robinbailey8491
“Dion is the kind of kid who would find a way to drown his goldfish.”
- my sister when she was listening to me watch this
1) Yes, I would have done the same thing.
2)Get the marriage annulled and co-parent. As far as the "friends" saying she is wrong, get new friends
3)nope, it's your daughter's birthday and for your husband to act like a child, he can go live with his sister.
4)it's not a broken promise. It is protecting an animal. Dion has proven he isn't responsible enough for a pet. Go low contact with the sister and her family.
#2 I wonder if there was previous red flags that she ignored, if so she may forgive him this because it's a pattern with them. I hope that she gets away from him. It would be the best for her and her young daughter.
Yup. All of this!! 🙌🏽✨
#4 Dion's mom is the problem. The adult in th household is the responsible party and she is unwilling to be responsible for the puppy's care. The fact that someone, presumably her, filmed the child crying and sent it means that she is training her child TO throw tantrums to get what he wants. She clearly doesn't know correct adult behavior herself, much less how to raid a small human or a pet.
Totally agree with you there. SOme of these stories are a bit concerning and have me wanting updates too
In the fourth story, the boy put the puppy in a plastic bag?! No way in hell I'd allow him the responsibility of caring for a dog after that. I'd be wary of him being around any living creature unsupervised after that.
For story 4: totally agree, he is not responsible enough for a pet. And to top it off, the mom is enabling his poor judgment and behavior. He’s 10. No means no and throwing a tantrum is not ok. It sounds like the nephew needs to mature and can be responsible for himself and appears ready to be be responsible for a stuffed animal as a pet at this point in his life.
Okay the first one it's a parking lot it had other spots. It wasn't his obligation to go on the other person's timeline. His reasons for staying don't matter he could be having his lunch for all it matters. He didn't hold up the line she did. She could have swung around again and let others out or she could have seen the rain found a far parking spot and ordered the food for curb side pick up. She had other options, and was taking options away from another person.
Well they do matter. Because he told us soo....yeah he was being petty. Are we still in high school??
second story: whilst the first two red flags are true, the third one (walking away at your own wedding) is actually quite a good and healthy thing to a certain extent. Something like that is likely to make you react rather than respond, so taking yourself out of the equation, even just to calm down, is something I'd encourage, if only to calm down.
Came to the comments to say the same thing. Better to remove yourself from the situation, saying something would have caused an even bigger scene, and even if you do manage not to say anything, it's going to show all over your face that you're ticked off (at least it would in my case).
I agree 100%. I don't deal well with conflict because of past trauma in my life, so that's reason #1 why I walk away. But also, like you said, when you react you can say words that you can't take back. My father once called me a b!tch in anger. He tried to apologize but it really hurt me. I wasn't sure if he apologized because he was sorry or because of how my Mom and I reacted. I once called him a name but I knew and meant what I was saying.
Agree. That's super toxic to be around, I would have left and immediately gotten the marriage annulled...no way would I put myself thru that...those are not healthy ppl to have in my life!!
I agree. I walk away from conflict to cool off. That's what I was taught to do. Walk away, cool off. It's not toxic.
I agree as well, it's not avoiding the conflict, but rather stopping the situation from escalating. Based on the situation, if ahe hadn't left she most likely would have lashed out at him in tears due to the betrayl. And what would be the reason to stay when she doesn't have a good mood about it and doesn't feel like she can trust those around her. Secondly, she needs to remove herself from those friends because anyone who tells someone that they are the one in the wrong because they got upset about the moment being stolen is very much so, not a friend. Although they most likely didn't understand the situation, they shouldn't have been rude to her given that they don't know why she left or what the reason she was so upset to the point that she left.
First story is 100% a good apple. We don’t reward rude behavior. And any side effects of the rude person’s obstinance is their fault, not the person standing up to them.
Totally agree with you. I probably wouldn't have been brave enough to stay in that space with that rude lady honking her horn at me, but if I were brave enough, I would have done exactly the same thing. I am not at all a petty person; I bend over backward to help others, but this lady was totally out of line, and all those who had to wait because she wouldn't take "no" for an answer are not waiting there because of OP but because this Karen refused to move along.
There's also the fact that someone getting into their car doesn't actually mean they are ready to leave. It's possible that there are going to be more people coming out. Maybe they were in a different line. Maybe a friend or relative is getting off work and will be coming out in a few minutes. The person who wanted the space is definitely in the wrong. And everything that happens next is that person's fault.
ANY time someone acts like that with me my car goes into park and stays there honk at me at a light .2 seconds after it changed we are going to be sitting here foe another entire light. Part of the problem with the world is we reward bad behavior and the second she moves tells the one that honked they got their way and it reinforces bullying type behavior
@@lydiacasagrande8437 I hate the people that are three cars back that honk as soon as the light turns green.
Like dude, that's not how this works.
Also, the person in front may be seeing something the others aren't. Maybe there's a cyclist or another car that doesn't look like they're stopping. That two second wait isn't going to change the whole day of the people waiting.
@@johnclaybaugh9536 EXACTLY I can't tell you how many accidents I avoided because I DONT go the second the light turns green too many people still see green when it's red... parking lots as others have pointed out there are so many reasons someone isn't leaving right away
I don't think the 1st story was in the wrong. The lady felt super entitled and should have just kept going when he didn't reverse after honking. She chose to make that line instead of looking for another spot. I personally hate when people wait for someone to leave a parking spot, because they have no obligation to leave the spot.
Nah fr. If there are ZERO spots, okay. But if there is even one spot open just go there. It’s not that hard
Agreed. If someone is being rude af they will continue to be rude af if they learn being rude gets them what they want. Plus he wasn’t the one “making everyone wait”. The minivan that didn’t continue on after seeing that he wasn’t going to move is the one that made everyone wait.
I don’t think he was wrong for taking the time he needs, but he was definitely petty. I think crab-apple. I might have done the same and also been petty, because entitled people annoy me, but being petty is not “good apple”
For story number one, the person holding up everyone else by waiting for a spot they are not entitled to is in the wrong. OP is entitled to that spot until they are ready to leave it. We don't need to reward rude, entitled behavior. If the parking lot is full, you keep circling it rather than making everybody behind you sit and wait because you don't want to walk a little further. When I'm stuck behind someone like that, I never resent the person still rightfully sitting in their spot. I resent the person who thinks everyone else should accommodate them so they can have the exact spot they want.
We also don't need to reward petty behavior
@@purpleclaws202 who's rewarding anybody by saying that they're entitled to stay in their parking spot? I think sometimes people actually do need someone to stand up to them. Even if it seems petty. You can't bully your way into making people accommodate you. Her kids don't need to see that behavior pay off for their mom and learn that it works to yell and honk.
Apple #1 He didn't hold up anyone. All the inconvenience was on the white mini van. Tge people behind her were inconvenienced by her not the man parked. For all she knew he could of been waiting on someone else to come out the store. I don't agree with giving her the spot because I don't want to reinforce Be rude = Get what you want.
Yeah i agree. The mom was being a karen. I do that sometimes too where im in a spot and i fiddle with my phone to find a song. 😅. Though i never had a person yell at me to get out of a spot. Im sure there were other spots that the mom could've parked.
I grew up in new york where people are really desperate to get parking, in parking lots or on the street. But, it's wildly accepted that if they haven't moved then you need to move on instead of causing a whole line of cars. This was on her.
I agree with and I agree with Rebecca. I will admit that I have done the exact same thing. I know I’m being petty and a crab apple, but sometimes you just have to be petty. While I may be stooping a little, I won’t reinforce rude or entitled behavior even if that means I’m rude back.
Yeah Rodgers was wrong on that
Story 4 I think it would be different if the mother's attitude had been different. If the mother had been apologetic and turned it into a learning moment for her son. Heck depending on how the Aunt felt (ultimately she'd be justified in saying no), I'd ask the Aunt if he could earn the puppy back by showing responsibility wither that's picking up poop in the yard, helping the puppies find nipples during feeding time, making sure the mom had food and water, brushing their fur and basically caretaking for this furry family. All would be surprivised, of course.
It might even be worth saying no to this litter of puppies, but he could learn by helping his aunt with the mama dog (after the litter can be separated from her) to learn how to care for a dog.
Honestly, I don’t think this is a learning point for this kid. This kid has proven that he has zero decisional capacity ability, my boyfriend’s youngest sister is 10 years old. She would never make this decision because she knows one plastic bags suffocate and two she knows that the puppy needs to be with his mom. I don’t think in any way that this aunt would’ve ever turned around and said OK now that you said I’m sorry you can have the puppy. I think it’s very important that they said no you cannot have this puppy now that you showed me the kind of decisions you’re gonna make literally this kid could do this again if this aunt gave the kids a puppy and see the kid was going over to his friends house for a sleepover and he wanted to bring his puppy what’s to stop him from shoving the puppy in another plastic bag only this time the puppy wouldn’t make it. The aunt did the right thing to have the kid turn around and say I’m sorry just to get the puppy isn’t the kid learning from the experience the kids should feel bad the kid Should be thinking wow I could’ve had a puppy, but if I didn’t make that stupid mistake, I would’ve had my own puppy. Those are things that this kid really needs to reflect on now this kid should not be trusted with any living animal until he can prove that he has better decision making capacity. A plastic bag and the fact that the kids mom is not even upset parents see hundreds of warnings on plastic bags that say do not leave around children suffocation risk do you really think the suffocation risk goes away because it’s a different species no, the puppy can still suffocate in the bag. The mother should’ve just been a As appalled as the aunt was.
Story 1. Good apple. They did nothing wrong and the other person was extremely rude. I don’t care how busy they are, honking and yelling at people is never the way to go. People who decide to act like that should not get what they’re trying to bully someone into giving them. The person honking at them are the ones who held up everyone.
Story 2. Good apple. That husband and those “friends” are all terrible people. If you’re upset with someone, ANYONE, you don’t cuss them out. You have a civil conversation and listen to them. No one in OP’s life sounds like they’re capable of that. OP is surrounded by nothing but toxic people. Rebecca has good points about OP leaving the reception being unhealthy, but that doesn’t excuse what they did.
Story 4. Good apple. God, I wish there was someone you could report them to to prevent them from getting an animal in the future because that is a horrifically dangerous environment for any animal.
I agree Story 1 Good apple. While the driver wasn't waiting for someone else to come out of the store there is no way the other driver didn't know he wasn't waiting for a roommate or someone else to get done.
And I match energy.
I mean, though I agree w what ur saying on story 1 to an extent, I feel like if you sit and wait there, you're being a child, and that's coming from a 14 year old. I would have only tried to find the song faster or just pick a random 1 and leave. Also I feel like people forget that people can have bad days, and was honking the horn and being rude about it the right way to do it? Probably not, but even so, there's a whole line, don't be the one that holds up the line js becuz 1 person was ude
@@whatismylifeanymore completely agree, also coming from a 14 yr old! I get that he wants to listen to a good song as he drives, but is it really that important to find one that you have to do it at the expense of so many people's (an entire line of cars) time? imo, the answer is no.
@@chrissyj_ For me it's important, but not important enough to hold up an entire line, like if it's that important leave and go pick park in another spot like in another parking lot or smth to pick your song
Story 2: Sorry Rebecca but it's not a red flag to remove yourself from a situation. Her husband went behind your back & betrayed her trust. There's 3 possible outcomes for that situation. One, get into an argument with her husband in front of the guests & embarrass herself. Two, leave. If she's THAT level of pissed & she didn't want to make a scene, leaving is the better solution. Three, (what some people do) put on a happy face, grit & bear it & yell at hubby later. But at a wedding where emotions are HIGH, the last option usually doesn't happen, it'll always be the first two.
Story 4: "he learned his lesson" "What does he need to apologize for? The puppy was fine!"
Umm what? He put a PUPPY in a PLASTIC BAG! Give the kid a stuffed animal because he's in NO WAY responsible enough to care for a living thing. I'd never leave him alone with any animal again honestly. Also the sister sending a video of the nephew crying & calling her names...?! Nice try manipulative Mandy, your tricks don't work here.
Ok. I feel you. I get it. As much as I think its almost never the right choice, Sometimes removing yourself is the play, but only with an explicit 'I need to go cool off rn, but we're gonna talk about this later'. To me, the red flag is that she ran off and never seems to have come back around to have that conversation.
The video of him crying and calling her names really got me. The sister wouldn't have cared if he had killed the puppy, she would have demanded another one. My son will be 10 very soon and I know so many kids from his school, I just can't fathom a 10 yr old thinking that was ok.
Story #2 Has the bride heard of an annulment?
@@timtodd1965 funny enough, with all the Reddit stories I've heard/ read A LOT of people don't know about annulment. Which is wild to me.
She didn’t say her leaving was a red flag did she? Because that’s obvious fine. I think she ment the fact that the husband went behind her back then cursed her out.
Story 4: Absolutely the Good Apple! If the sister & nephew are not responsible enough to at the very least apologize they are not responsible enough to take care of a puppy! A puppy is a lot of work, care & inconvenience. Sounds like the nephew is spoiled & can’t be bothered to be upset or inconvenienced. The sister is gross!
I’ve got mad respect for the people who write paragraphs on these stories.
The puppy story: I would go a step further and get written proof that the son almost killed a puppy (probably through texts) and has not shown remorse, then send that proof to all the local animal rescues.
Sadly, even if they got blacklisted from local rescues, the mom would probably turn to a breeder next. 😔
Story number 2, NTBA
Leaving should have been the best thing to do. She did not start yelling, she did not put on a fake smile while emotions BOIL inside her. She left to think without all eyes on her. She left with grace and still did not ruin the proposal or wedding badly. I respect her.
Running off is still causing a scene stupid
I had a cousin, she was six when she got a kitten. I met the kitten and she attached to me. I didn’t know why, but she loved me. I was like 10. My cousin would grab the kitten by her tail, she wanted to be the only one to hold her, and she would chase the poor baby around the house. The kitten is an adult cat now. She hides and is afraid of people. I feel so bad for the poor cat.
3. She didn't exclude him, she just mentioned that it probably wasn't going to be something he wanted to do and they made an offer to hang out another time. Sister is making a mountain out of a mole hill.
Let's remember that when someone comes out to their car, they may not be the only person who is coming our to that same car.
Sure, the person in the first story may have been a little rude, but the honking driver was also quite rude.
That escape room story: nah op is good apple. SIL is being an entitled parent to demand changes to someone else’s birthday party. When you were talking about your friend’s bachelorette party, it reminded me of my husband’s best friend’s wedding. I was helping the bride get last minute things together. One of those was how the ring barer was bringing down the wedding rings. She wanted them in a special box. The groom’s mom tried to get me to do something else with the rings. I stood there and listened politely to her idea and all that then said “that’s an awesome idea but this is how the bride wants it done so this is how we are going to do it.” She said okay and walked off. The groom and 2 of his groomsmen were standing there with their jaws on the ground in shock that she just walked away. Well after the wedding, bride and groom are off to their honeymoon when the mom calls the groom to tell him how big of a B I was to her at the wedding 😂😂😂 nah ma’am this is not your day sweetie
Good for you! Your friend is lucky to have someone like you have her back.
1. I don't think he deserved even the crab apple. He wasn't making everyone wait, she was. She was assuming he was actually leaving, he could have been waiting for someone in the store still! He didn't go out and harass someone for honking at him, she harassed him for "taking too long" because she assumed she knew what he was doing. She had no right to rush him and make him out to be the bad guy.
I do agree that Minivan Lady was extremely rude and entitled, but we do know from OP’s own admission that he was being petty and not actually waiting for someone or another reason to not move his car, we know he only did it to annoy Minivan Lady. I don’t fault him, because rude entitled people are terrible and make us want to response in kind. I totally understand his reaction. But it’s not a reaction of good apple goodness.
Story #4 - I 💯 agree you! My dog is my baby and I can’t imagine someone treating her like that. That poor puppy.
I wouldn’t trust the kid in that last story with a giga-pet.
Story 4; I totally agree. That child isn’t ready and his parents appear to be blind to that and worse, they’re enabling it.
Omg the sister is definitely not mature enough for an animal. She was obviously the person who had video taped her son crying and CALLING HER NAMES.
1st story... Good Apple 💯. Being petty is one of the few pleasures left in this life, and this entitled lady freaking out at your car window... clear cut case of FAFO.
Story 2: the SECOND I heard “we’re getting married because we’re expecting” my FIRST thought was “oh this is not going to last.” The story just confirmed it. Good apple, EVERYBODY ELSE is the jerk. It’s fine to ask. But how dare the husband agree to it. That day is about him and his wife. My own father doesn’t know how to take no from my wife or any of my siblings or I, and I really think if my mother wasn’t from such a strict religious background, they would have been divorced a long time ago. They even say the same thing.
#1:Good apple. If someone starts honking like that, it is Just. So. Annoying. Your choices then are either to drive into traffic while agitated, or to take some time to calm down. In that situation, I would probably have remembered something else I needed from the store.
Story 2: I saw Someone comment about weddings being a high emotional environment. And this is true, especially as the beide ant the groom. So sometimes it is better to remove yourself from this emotional pressure and cool down a little bit. She must have been so damn disappointed in her husband, who she - until this very second - thought she would spend the rest of her life with. What else should she have done? Confronted him the second or after the proposal happened? It was already too late anyways. Her trust was broken. She was hurt. So she could have either made a scene and embarrass everybody involved or remove herself from this situation and get much needed distance. This actually can be a very mature response. For example, the best man‘s girlfriend might have had no clue this was going to happen. The bride might have cussed her out (too) in front of al the guests and made her feel bad about something she was involuntarily involved in. She might just end the relationship with her husband there and then in don’t of the guests, because the emotions are just getting the best of her. We don’t know that.
And I think you forgot to mention the husband cussing her out afterwards is a huge red flag too. Cause he is not even seeing the problem in his behavior
Story 3- I’d come up with a compromise. Escape room happens, then maybe have a larger group join in for cake/presents after.
10:57 Leaving that situation is very healthy. She was very likely to blow up in that moment and she needs space to calm down and collect herself. There’s a big difference between walking out during a one on one conversation without establishing an agreement to take a break and walking out of a highly emotional, extremely public situation to avoid reacting in a way you may regret not thinking about beforehand.
Story 2 is wild! I’d be furious as the bride but no way I would leave my own wedding. IMO that marriage would benefit from building communication skills.
Story 1. 😂 I would have done the exact same thing. The line building up behind her is her fault for hovering. You're supposed to go around the parking lot until you find an empty spot, not just hold the line up waiting for someone to leave because you want that spot. The mini-van was the bad apple in my opinion, OP was a good apple all the way 😂😂
Story 3: Not super relevant but I’m a triplet and if one of us had a friend that wasn’t super close with 2/3 of us their parents always felt the need to invite the other two out of obligation and it made us so mad. If one sibling is going it doesn’t mean the others have to go too.
I do agree with Rebecca. if things are about you... or your friend on their day.. you don't decide to change it for someone else.
Rebecca you are a saint by not being petty. I just got done watching ALL the Bad Apple Videos and in none of them you stoop to pettiness. Also, I just want to say that I am definitely picking up your style of reading with emotion and expression. I use that to read to my child and he definitely is more entertained. You are awesome. ❤❤
I love that! Rebecca's so cool!
Isn't there a TH-camr who always says at the outro of his video "I love you beautiful people stay petty y'all"?
For story 4 I don’t understand these kids who like abuse and hurt animals when I was a kid I cried when people smashed mosquitos
I agree! that kid will probably be a serial killer, they start by hurting animals. I actually didn't watch #4 the comments I read were enough. I just can't handle that stuff.
Story #1 is a good apple why is in the wrong he doesn't owe anyone anything
The lady in the last story is my hero! She made the right choice. Animals are FAMILY and should be treated as such!!! Assuming you treat your family well. I probably treat my animals better than the rest of my family. Good apple all the way 🍎
#4… Absolutely disgusting!!! I go without so my dog has all he needs and then some!! I have an iPhone 6… okay!! A puppy in a plastic bag!!?!? And then the mom lets the kid send a video crying and calling the aunt names!!! Nope!! no way no how… way to immature for any animal and completely agree… if there are other animals in that household, I would genuinely be concerned for their well being!!!!!! GOOD 🍎!!!! No puppy!!!!
1. crab
2. good
3. good
4. good (my prediction was bad but the twist made me go good)
I would have homesteaded in that parking spot. Give me time to get myself together and move. Good apple.
#1 is good apple imo.
When faced with confrontation, especially when operating a vehicle, you shouldn’t act hastily. That includes obliging. You feeling rushed could lead to your own dangerous driving.
With story 4, I have a similar experience. I have pet Guinea pigs and my mums friend wanted to give some to her daughters. before I gave them to the children I carefully supervised them to make sure that they were OK with it and also the Guinea pigs (2 young boy guinea pigs) were ok with it and I made sure that the place the guinea pigs were going to live was suitable and the new carers of them were able to. It seems a bit over the top, but if someone is going to be given care of my pets, I want to make sure that they will do it properly. They were able to prove that they can properly look after them and the guinea pigs took a liking to them so they moved in with them. OP in story 4 is a great apple, there is NO WAY i would ever give that kid a pet. He needs to be able to show that he can look after them properly and NOT PUT THEM IN PLASTIC BAGS. There is no way I would give him a pet after that!
Story 2: for this one, I don't entirely blame her for getting married because she said the wedding was in a church, and that tells me it's at least somewhat of a religious family, and sometimes in these religious families, especially Catholic or baptist, having children while not being married is considered living in sin, I actually know someone who was forced to get married to this awful man because they have children together, even though the mother hated him, she made her get married to him, so that could be why they are getting married. Also, it is rather common to do proposals or pregnancy announcements at weddings, but only when both parties are in on it and both parties are involved in the proposal or announcement, like you see when the bride is throwing the bouquet, sometimes they instead turn around and give it to their best friend or whoever is about to be proposed to, and then the boyfriend comes in with the ring. Lastly, when you are in situations that you don't want to be in that may or do upset you, it is best to remove yourself from the situation, especially if you don't want to make a big scene in front of everyone
I agree with you about the religious factor. I agree with you about it being common that those things happen at receptions but it's with the new wife's approval. I have a feeling that they had a pricey wedding and she/her family wanted to whole event to be about her. Once the new engagement is announced, the event is now an event for the new couple.
Yall are still immature probably why you agree with her
I would say no to giving the dog to the nephew also. There was one dog that I adopted from a shelter just so a father and young son wouldn’t take him. The young son pulled him out of the create he was in by the dog’s neck. I did find the dog a good home, with a couple who really loves him.
Last story I thought the nephew was about 4 or 5 years old and would have given them a bad apple because I thought of course he is still learning and the parents will help him know how to treat the dog. But, i went back and they said the nephew is 10! He is way too old to behave this way. My own 10 year old would never do anything like this nephew did in the story. He isn’t being disciplined or taught at home and should not get a puppy. Good apple all the way.
story 1 good apple. there is no requirement that if you are in the car that you Must start backing out whenever the people behind you tell you so. you honk at me it better be an emergency. petty? absolutely but if you are waiting on me im not running on your timetable and i dont care if its an emergency on your end etc. you fail to plan you plan to fail.
Is it bad that when I read these myself on Reddit I pretend she’s reading them to me like I read in her voice in my hard
idk but I do the same thing
For apple #2, I get why she left. She probably didn’t want to make another scene at her wedding. Also, even if that wasn’t the case, she is pregnant, so her emotions were probably heightened and it was probably even worse for her to see her husband do that knowing they have a child together on the way. If this were to happen to me, my mom, my dad and I would have just left together as well (you know, after the cops left following my mom punching my husband in the face lol). It’s flabbergasting when someone you love and trust so deeply (and who along with your’s child you are pregnant with) humiliates you in such a grand way (in front of your whole group of loved ones).
I agree about the parents being angry too. I have a feeling it was a pricey wedding/reception. Because of this they wanted the whole event to be about the bride. The new husband has no respect for his wife's feelings. He also put his friend's needs above his wife's feelings. I could not forget that and I honestly couldn't forgive it either.
@@janejones7638her leaving was MAKING A SCENE
@@purpleclaws202question what should she have done? Explode then and yell at him to make a bigger scene or put on a fake smile and explode at him later? Or leave without saying anything to collect yourself and have a calmer fight when you get home? I honestly don’t see how she created that big of a scene- she left there was no yelling, they probably still proposed. Sure she could have put on a fake smile but then she would probably just explode and say things she regrets at home anyway. She’s also pregnant which has mood swings so leaving was probably the option to create the least of a scene.
As someone who has experience with young children and kittens... I got my first kitten at 13, her name is Hermione. She's now six. My brother was nine years old. I want to say Hermione was MY KITTEN right from the dang getgo, ok? She's always been my kitten, my responsibility. I couldn't pay for everything back then obviously. I babysat, but I spoiled my sweet baby. Maybe because I'm a girl, maybe because he's a boy.
He was straight up abusive. He would 'boop her nose' and I'd CRY to my parents that he was being way too rough! They said she's fine. I'd walk in on him spinning her around, rocking her way too harsh on the rocking chair, to the point she couldnt WALK right when I chased him away.
When I tell you Hermione was a precious kitten in the shelter, she was. She loved all of us. But over the years she grew so cold, so mean, and so untrusting. She all but mauled my Mami when she was cuddling her in bed one night. I tried to keep my cat with me as much as I could, and at the time, I really didn't understan the extent of the animal abuse this baby went through. Believe me when I say I feel AWFUL about this now. My parents still refuse to admit my brother made her the way she is.
I have her safe and with me now. She refuses to ever be held, and she only likes certain people. She loves me, and she'll jump in my bed or cry when I've closed her out of my bedroom before bedtime because she likes sleeping with me or in her bed under my bed.
She took TIME to warm back up. Little kids don't know any better sometimes. Sometimes. I have little cousins male and female that treat their pups and cats like they're the most delicate creatures.
A small child with a puppy is dangerous from the getgo. But because he was foolish enough to put a PUPPY in a PLASTIC BAG absolutely not. OP made the correct decision. I don't know if the nephew is just too young, or if he's got something going on. And I don't mean to be grim, but abusers, and murderers even.... tend to harm animals in their youth. It might be something worth checking on.
And another note, the sister sending a video of him CRYING! What the heck!? If I were OP, I'd 100% cut them off, I don't want people like that in my life, and she doesn't deserve that either.
I'm actually going good apple for the first one! The woman in the van was being rude! The way I see it, if she's gonna honk her horn at him because he took THIRTY SECONDS to pick a song, absolutely! She can wait a little longer! And yes, the people behind her still had to wait, but she made a choice to be impatient, so she can wait longer too! And you can all disagree with me and that's fine! But in my mind, if she's gonna honk her horn after THIRTY SECONDS, you deserve to wait!
yeah, and i saw someone else mention how he couldve been waiting for someone else which is 100% true. you dont get to dictate other peoples time, especially when you dont know whats going on
Story #3: Absolutely the good apple. I worked for an escape room, and we had a "scary" room. I never found it scary even before I worked there, but I understood that some people would. Anytime someone said they wanted to do it but was a little scared I reassured them that there would not be anyone in there with them, just their party. Nothing would jump out or touch them. We were lucky enough that our room was themed around a horror movie, and we were able to center they're concerns to things that may or may not be in the room.
#1 Good Apple he had every right to sit there as long he wanted to. Her expecting him to move just because she wanted the spot is wrong, she had no idea why he was still there, he may have been waiting on someone else. I can’t stand when someone blows the horn at me, unless there is a true emergency.
Story 3: One would think that there would have to be something else going on for the husband to sleep on the couch. Unfortunately, I have a brother-in-law like that. The moment his wife doesn't do what he wants, he does the same thing.
1.....Good Apple. The horn blower was entitled and awful instead of patient. She needed to be taught a lesson for the rest of humanity. In my opinion, the writer wasn't being petty he was letting her know that blowing your horn and throwing a tantrum Will Not get you what you want. I think we should say thank you for that. Perhaps in the future she'll wait patiently. Moving his car would have just taught Horn Blower that this will work in the future, thus ruining people's parking experience for years to come. Also to blame the person in the parking spot (not blocking traffic) for holding up traffic.....when the one holding up traffic was the Horn Blower seems like slight victim blaming. And if not giving them a spot ruins their day.....that's on them. What if the person in that car never planned to leave? Was waiting on someone? Or was planning on dropping his bags and going to another store? Is it still their fault traffic is held up? I get your point I just think you're way too nice to think oh you blew your horn.....let me move for you. Absolutely not.
#1 - I agree; I hate being waited on for a space and getting honked at. I wish people would do what I do: wait briefly, make sure you left enough room, and if the other person backs out lucky you, but otherwise, just move on. If I'm going to be in the space a long time (relatively) after putting the groceries in the car, I might not turn it on, oor if I do, keep it in park, so people don't think I'm about to back out. It's sad that such a small thing became a confrontation. You don't have to start leaving the space just because someone honks, but did that have to by why you stayed longer than you would have otherwise? If they honk, proceed as you were. Sadly, both people escalated and are in the wrong. Nobody has walked up to me like this before, but if they did, I would just calmly let them know I was on the phone and being safe. "Sorry, but I'm going to be a few minutes." You're better off being the "sane" person in a tense situation. The other lady should have moved on to another space.
#2 - It's such a faux-pas to propose, etc. at someone else's event. Call it tacky, call it rude, whatever. It's terrible that OP's partner doesn't respect her enough to tell the friend 'no' and to stick up for her. I agree that they don't have a good foundation for a marriage. It's a hard decision: does the bride shout at people at her wedding, or quietly walk away? Thankfully she didn't have a fit; she would have been in the right, but still, what would people remember? When you marry a person, you're not yanking them out of their friends' and family's lives. I'm not a huge fan of the phrase, "you don't just marry the person; you marry their family," but unless they're strictly no-contact, the person you don't like could be in your life. It sounds like OP isn't very close to her partner's friends. Letting someone propose at your wedding requires a strong bond, and these people clearly don't have it. The bride did the least "flip-out" thing she could do aside from sit there and take it. She and her partner clearly don't have good boundaries or respect, and I would have called of the wedding-- well, I wouldn't have accepted the proposal to begin with.
That kid should never have a pet
As I’m eating a Krabby Paties when you say to treat ourselves with something small and was thinking sugary sweets wise immediately while I already had 6 cookies as well 🤣🤣🤣🤣
I disagree with the first story. It's also common knowledge to move on if you have a line of cars and the car you're waiting on doesn't move for 20 seconds. She should not have honked or gotten out, thats so rude, and as a society we should stand up to people like that. You don't get to berate people just because you feel entitled to the spot. If I was that person I would have gotten out and went back into the store.
Let me just say that for story number 4, if that was my kid, he would not get that pet. Period.
Definitely going to be treating myself this week. I just finished my finals today.
The second prompt she is not a bad apple. They did the same thing with the golden bachelor where they asked the groom if it was OK for the man to propose at the banquet. I understand that she didn’t want it on her terms I don’t think he should’ve went ahead with it, especially do it behind her back.
My boys were 1 & 3 when we got our family dog. They knew far better than the nephew in the last post even then. Doggo's parents were owned by the same lovely couple & we got him for less than advertised due to a typo in the ad.
However the other family in a brand new landrover 2 wks after new reg which it had. Well they decided that morning when the yougest daughter mentioned having a doggo. They were not only able to drop the £900 on one puppy on a whim but on two so their older daughter didn't feel left out... Not that she wanted one mind just so she wouldn't feel left out...
Thankfully we got our doggo & they were refused.
All good apples. 1 the entitlement nope I will be finding the perfect song and absolutely anything else I need to do before driving ...
What person puts a living thing in a plastic bag. Child or not, that's problematic. That family has no business with any pets.
Second story: that is literally the worst time to do it. Get yourself a new husband. Disrespectful, all of them.
I think Story #1 is a Good Apple… but I understand why they would be a Crab Apple
Some religions say you can't be saved if you don't marry you baby daddy, I hate that, that is one of the most toxic things to happen.
I always love these videos! Love you, Rebecca! ❤
Story #2 - from my culture wedding is supposed to be for the couple to share their happiness with their love ones. Things like proposal and pregnancy announcement are actually encouraging and usually the couple themselves will help with the announcement. Still the OP wedding and she can do what makes her happy but it’s also the groom wedding and he should also be able to share it with his love one.
Story #3 - We always priorities what the person who's event is want and they we adapt who can and who can not attend. This is so normal in Belgium, that even the kids understand when we say "you can and you can not go because of this and that". What we do when one of ours sons can go and the other can not is - we do something special with the one that stays home (something he wanted to do but his brother isn't interested) so, they even sometimes are looking forward to the time they will be excluded, because they know they can then do what ever they want and enjoy it completely.
Honestly for the fourth story this person is a good apple this kid clearly did not understand that puppies are fragile and puppies need to stay with their mom my boyfriend has a 10-year-old sister and I have a dog who I plan to have at least have one litter of into her life and I know that even if yesterday she got pregnant and gave birth I know that my boyfriends 10-year-old sister would understand that those puppies need to stay with their mom those puppies are fragile and delicate at 10 years old you know that you don’t you can’t say that anybody doesn’t know better at 10 years old unless they have severe mental defects. This girl was absolutely right to go back on her word. This kid did not deserve a puppy after doing that not only was he trying to steal the puppy from what I’m assuming is his aunt but he’s literally putting the puppy in a plastic bag. Ask my boyfriend’s 10 year old sister what happens if we put one of the cats in a plastic bag and she would immediately say they would suffocate because they can’t stay in a plastic bag no animal can and that is the correct response for a 10-year-old a 10-year-old knows that a living animal can’t be put in a plastic bag. I feel like this kid just did not care about the puppies health therefore leads me to believe that once the puppy was his, he would do crazy things with the puppy like maybe take the puppy outside or put it on a skateboard and send it down a hill. I don’t know what kids would do but honestly this kid does not have good decisional capacity if he decided hey they said that Mom needs to keep the puppies because the puppies need to drink the Mom‘s milk. The best thing I can do is shove this puppy in a plastic bag and steal it.
it would’ve been completely different if the aunt went back on her word when the kid literally did nothing wrong but this kid did do something wrong he could’ve killed that puppy
#3 my thought was why not do the escape room on her actual birthday and then just have a small family party with him that Saturday
story#1-the lady should get get a good apple.she is parked there and should take as long as she wants.if your in a hurry park somewhere else and stop blowing your horn!
For story one, the moment someone becomes rude, if you just go with "i'm going to be the bigger person" that will only reinforce their rude behaviour. If the person moved after they got honked for 5 seconds which is definitely excessive, the honeker lady would get approval of her behaviour. The other people in line tho, they did nothing wrong but that's life.
I don't like that both husbands in 2 & 3 are telling the wives that they are ruining things & making them feel guilty. No, the friend & the SIL (respectively) are causing problems & demanding their way during an event that isn't theirs. I would really like to know how the girl who got proposed to felt. If it were me, I'd be super embarrassed for upstaging the bride and having no control over it.
12:24 as a therapist leaving a toxic environment is possibly the healthiest thing anybody could do.
You said the important thing, animals need GOOD homes.
Story 3, that’s an entitled aunt. No OP is not the bad apple. I understand the little boy might feel left out which is sad but his mum can deal with that and it can be a teaching moment
Story #2: When my brother in law was planning to propose, my sister was maid of honor in her friend’s wedding. He proposed a few days after when we were still on vacation (a few hours away from the wedding) but in no world would he propose before OR AT the wedding. He knew people would be asking my sister about the proposal and the ring, and this night was about the bride and groom. People who do anything to take attention away from the bride and groom have problems. When those people are aided BY the groom, everyone has problems.
Nothing wrong with A little pettiness when entitled people get demanding...just saying. Good Apple 🍎 #1😂
Whole heartedly agree
I just wanted to thank you for commenting on the need to respect animals' spaces after that 4th story. I've wanted a pet for decades but the places we could afford to rent didn't allow them until we could finally get a cat in September of 2022. We got an adult black inside cat who has anxiety issues so we've gone to a lot of trouble to make sure he can feel comfortable and confident in his home.
One thing we learnt quickly was that he curls up and puts his paw over his face when he's trying to sleep and doesn't want to be bothered. He is not a stuffed animal that we can pick up (he HATES being picked up, that loss of control terrifies him!) and harass however and whenever we like. He's a living being that deserves the right to say no to unwanted touch.
Even if you reach out to touch him when he's not curled up and hiding his face, he still gets to give permission or not. He'll sniff your hand for ages and you aren't allowed to pat him until he finishes and rubs his cheek on you; that's his permission to pat. If you go ahead anyway, after I've explained that, he'll try to get away from you and I'll be a protective mama bear and you've just lost your rights to his company until he chooses to be near you again.
I cannot imagine how I'd react if someone put him in a plastic bag of all things. It gets me riled up just thinking about it. No. Just no.
My mom is a breeder and if she saw a kid attempt to steal a newborn (I assume) puppy in a PLASTIC BAG she would flip!
She would not let that kid have one, and would be appalled at the mom's disregard for the puppy's well-being.. I feel like she'd cut contact with that person.
ANIMALS ARE NOT TOYS!
I had to fill out a resume type form to adopt my second bunny. More shelters should do that (and pet stores).
I agree with you on all of them. Especially with the last one. I have a cat and I would not trust him with my cat untill he learns not to do that stuff to a living breathing animal.
Story #3: For my birthday parties when I was little, I always invited my friend who lived across the street and had a sister two years younger. Somehow, her little sister ALWAYS knew when we were eating cake (we had curtains in our front windows, and kids our age didn’t have cell phones at the time!), and would ring our doorbell and have cake with us. She went home when she was done, and never got upset as long as she got her cake. You don’t need to include everybody you know at your birthdays.
OMG. That puppy is so lucky and at so young an experience like that could cause lasting effects for the puppy. OP is absolutely right not to give the family a puppy. When you are responsible for bringing living beings into the world, you're responsible for doing right by them and giving a puppy to that home after the kid did that would be incredibly irresponsible and forsaking her duty to the puppy. OP gets a super apple as far as I'm concerned. Also at TEN?! Animal abuse like that could be a warning sign of severe psychological issues and I certainly hope (although I doubt) that mom takes kid to a therapist. The only thing that OP did wrong in this situation was let a kid visit small puppies unsupervised.
THANK YOU FOR SAYING THIS! DOGS ARE FOR RESPONSIBLE CHILDREN WHO ARE MATURE AND NOT ALMOST SUFFOCATING A BABY BC HE WANTS A LIVING DOLL!
Can we all just thank Rebecca for posting Am I The Bad Apple every Tuesday and I love that she acts out a little bit of the story thank you Rebeca for making videos and making my day❤
Yes, thank you, Rebecca!! I look forward to Tuesdays especially because of "Am I a Bad Apple?"!!
omg the last story makes me PISSED i have a puppy and he is my absolute world and if anyone came near him and tried to hurt him by putting him in a plastic bag, I would lose it
1. Yes. You began the event with the sole purpose of irritating her.
First story- crab apple. Second story- good apple third story- good apple fourth story- good apple
The fact that the 10 yr old didn’t know that putting it in a bag would kill it 😿 lowkey a bad mother for not teaching that to her son when I was 4 I put a grocery bag over my head and my mom took it off and taught me that it could kill you and it’s dangerous
The kid put A PUPPY in A PLASTIC BAG, and rhe mom DIDN'T THINK IT WAS A PROBLEM?? Oh My god, absolutely rhe right decision to keep the little one away from that home. I don't think it would survive the first week, but even if it did, the kid wouldn't be able to train it, and I can't imagine the mom would care enough to take any responsibility for it.
It must have been an awful situation for both the dogs and the owner, but at least it happened before it was too late.
Why do people think name calling and insults are going to get them what they want?
4. I'm shocked Mom didn't correct or disapline or teach the child when that took place. If you can't guide and correct a child out of inappropriate pet handling, your family is not ready for a pet.