It might be weird but.. listening to these stories is so deeply, profoundly humbling that I think they're maybe helping me to be a better person, think more about those around me, look after myself better. We all get one life; some people have had it almost incomprehensibly hard, how fortunate am I...
I think being exposed to lots of people's different experiences is contextually helpful for your own growth. A lot of my growing points in my life were from hurting really bad. Feeling it as much as possible and then a lot of listening to people. New and old. Usually asking a cashier how they're day is going is pretty enlightening for me if they answer with more than "fine, how are you?" There's a lot of power in listening. This channel is great for that.
Its not weird. These stories have had a profound effect on me . Sometimes I will think wow I was so loved giving me the ability to love my daughter and granddaughter.
My mother suffered for hours untill i told the nurse to end it. My father passed peacefully. My little sister fell into a coma and passed during the night. My big sister was 45 and looked literally like a 90 year old. She asked for death assistance. I have the same cancer of my father and my wife nearly lost her life to multiple myeloma, a bone marrow cancer. Yes cancer has declared war on my familly. I have trouble finding joy in life anymore even if i have everything. Take care of your famillies like i wish i had.
I saw a definite and immediate shift in Cat's mood @15:00...and it's when she begins talking about her kink/goth communities. Cat's face lit up, the tears stopped, her voice became stronger and she began to smile. I'm so glad that she found safe and happy haven within those spaces. What a beautiful soul in spite of all the hardship and trauma. God bless you, mija💞
I came to the United States in 04 and most Americans that grew up in a stable home don’t understand how good their life is. Hearing these stories make me realize that bad things happen to everyone no matter where. Being a survivor of a civil war I don’t feel alone anymore after some of these stories.
This really broke my heart 💔 that she had to deal with all that toxicity at such a young age. She's such a brave and strong young woman for telling her story. I'm so glad she got help from a therapist and she said it's actually helping her! That itself was a big step! You can tell she's such a genuinely good person who has a good, kind and loving heart!
She has such sadness in her but at the same time she is literally one of the most beautiful souls I've ever sat and listened to. She's so intriguing, passionate, raw, expressive and honest. I would love her as a friend. May God bless you.
My mom died 6 months ago and I discovered all the trauma from my childhood, and the toxicity of my relationship with my mom has made it so much harder to grieve and heal. I not only am grieving the loss of my mom, but the childhood I never had and the fact that I can never fix things with her now. I hope that you can heal and hopefully you are getting therapy... it helps. Good luck Cat.
Oh my gosh I am speechless. Thank God for Uncle George you are an angel and your Momma lives through him. I am so so sorry for what you have gone through. Cat you are beautiful inside and out and have some happiness. You are a precious soul and may God bless and protect you
I adore what you said at 13:10 "Even though I've been hurt so much, I love with such a fierceness, love with such a weight. When I give my heart to somebody, it might as well be out my chest! But it's only because I know what extreme heartbreak and loss feels like." What a profoundly beautiful and wise thing to say. To cherish and relish what we have while we have it. Thank you so much for telling your story. I wish the best for you Cat.
Our lives were so similar. Lost my mom to cancer this yr. Cat I hope you continue to heal girl. You're such a beautiful strong soul. Your words helped me heal so much. 🖤 thank you for sharing your heart and soul with us.
I lost my dad to cancer in January. He was diagnosed with it just 1 month prior; his dying and later passing has traumatised my nuclear family and some of my extended one as well. But, I was surrendered by sickness too, my dad had multiple health problems and my mom has almost died from cancer and soon after she recovered from it she came down with Parkinson's. So.... Yeah, I totally relate with all of you and I have to still recover mentally & emotionally from all of it & some more...
I related to her story so much....I lost a sibling suddenly at 14 which lead to my mother freezing up and detaching from me as a parent....as a result I pretty much had to fend for and raise myself. I lived a really fast life to cope with the pain of the loss that to this day, I don't even know how I made it out to the other end. When she described loving fiercely because of all of the hurt and loss she's experienced...I felt that. I think that is a direct response to long term negativity and suffering....My mother was diagnosed with cancer in 2019 and has been fighting the disease like a CHAMP ever since. I've found less destructive ways to cope in my adulthood and am grateful to be partnered with someone who would never let me fall to the wayside. Cat...I'm sending you so much love and I hope that you find peace and solace in the end. You've got this.
As a mother who lost a child when my daughter was 14 I just want to say I'm sorry you had to go through so much on your own. I know that I also "checked out" for a while and my daughter suffered because of it. It was never intentional I just could not see past my own pain. I didn't want to live and felt so alone. My daughter had her own grief but we coped differently. It was hard for us to understand one another. Prior we were unbelievably close but grief caused distance between us. I am so grateful that she has forgiven me for not being the mother she deserved during those times. Reading your comment felt like such a direct connection for me. I am glad you are thriving as my daughter is and I know your mom has to be a strong woman . I wish you all the healing in the world
@@JB-nr7iy thank you so much! We all have our own ways of coping with loss and I’m sure your daughter was/is empathetic of that. Recognizing the error is the first step to healing. Sending you and your daughter so much love!
Mark, in a way you're lowkey a therapist. People come and tell you their stories. And sometimes you listening to them vent is soothing to them cuz they may just want someone to listen to them. And u do just that. 🙌🏾
@@elemintefordyce3955 good question.. cuz some of these stories we be listening to does make u roll ur eyes and If we rolling them mark gotta be aswell.. lol
"Beauty from Ashes" That's you Cat.I had a crappy childhood until I was 4 and was put into a wonderful foster home.Thank God for my "mom and dad" Like your uncle they cared for and took care of me.I was angry and mixed up for a long time and I still dont know who I am at times ,all these years later.I loved your words" just be yourself" It has meaning coming from you.Thank you for sharing.Im so glad you decided to stay -on the planet❤️
She carries her mom's burden and thinks she is responsible and bears guilt in what happened to her mom. As a child, she was all alone with an adult cancer patient, she never had a proper childhood. She got all caught up in between her parents' relationship and the abuse. She talks about her mom's abuse as if her dad had been her boyfriend, not her mom's. The truth is that her mom also controlled her, lived through her, and didn't respect the fact that you can't expect a child to be one's friend in replacement of a marriage or adult friends. Unfortunately, the mom also contributed to her PTSD. Commiting a suicide in another room of her daughters' was unfortunately also a sign that she might not have been that golden as her daughter remembers her. I understand that the dad is the culprit but - not the only one. Speaking from experience. She is problaby a relationship addict, and a people pleaser. She was conditioned to this from early childhood. She comes from abusive family, is conditioned to abuse, and she lost herself to that. All her story is about the suffering of other people around her. But you do not see her in her story, she is all but dissolved. That's codependancy in a nutshell.
I thought her ma sounded manipulative. Not that she was a bad mom. But as adults we need to know measures with these babies. We are their remodels. Strength. Support. Love. Teachers. I hope she finds out how to be so so strong
Cat I think you have a great strength within you that's slowly manifesting. I know first hand you can come back from ANYTHING with enough bravery and honesty. You definitely have both. When you learn to wield it, you can use it to save lives. You're already lending some of that strength just from sharing your story. You can pick up your sense of humor through the sadness that follows you, so I believe the you without all the hurt is still holding on to hope of that better life.
I empathize with Cat. I worked in our Cancer Hospital for over 22 years. I have seen many of my patients pass, but also seen many of my patients survive Cancer & go on to lead productive successful lives. It would be tough for a child to watch their parent pass from Cancer & then a suicide. Thank you for sharing this video with us. This is reality...& Cancer affects everyone. I don't know one person that is not affected by it. (Either a friend or a family member.) 💔😕 It's sad that her Dad is an addict & was never there for them. So much childhood trauma. I wish Cat all the best. 👍😊 I'm so happy that she has her Uncle. She has that support & they have both received help for their own trauma.
My ex, who's since passed from his addictions, experienced similar strife having a mom with cancer and a dad with addiction issues and drank himself to death right after his wife passed when my ex was 12 years old. Life can be so unfair to ppl sometimes
I hope she heals continues to heal...the act of fighting your dad to help your mum changes the hell out of you...and if you werent able to fix that b4 he dies it messes you up forever. Beautiful young lady, beautiful out and in. Made me cry.
@curtis morris I've been in therapy about 40 years and through close to 10 therapists. Some traumas you never "get over"...it's an every day struggle. Especially witnessing someone commit suicide. I've watched the soul leave 3 of THE MOST important people in my life and even though it was peaceful, it was traumatic. I can't even imagine being a child and witnessing the aftermath of a suicide.
What do these interviewees have in coming? Complex PTSD from childhood. If we want to make 🇺🇸 better we need to help kids from ages 0-5. I believe in the future we will start to focus on better childhoods.
Cat, girl! I love you, everything about you. Beautiful, funny, strong, so so strong. The way you are just who you are, no apologizes, just yourself. That lesson she taught you was a legacy of strength. You inspire me.
Our Goth community (and the Metalhead community) worldwide get a bad rep to often and it's good to have someone talk about it in a more positive manner. We may be a bunch of weirdos but for the most part we take care of each other as best we can, cause we know the dark.
This is so true. My daughter has a few friends now decades. I love them. Some of the most genuine empathetic souls. They don’t wear the makeup and clothes the way they used to. All are welcome here as long as they are respectful. To judge by appearance or out of fear means losing out on some of the most beautiful souls.
A wise saying that has always stuck with me: "blood ain't always thicker than water, and family can bring you down quicker than strangers". My heart goes out to this lovely young lady. I wish her the best and I truly hope she can heal from this.
Cat, your interview, the honesty of it, was so refreshing …you’ve come thru so much - more than you were probably able to relay - with an understanding of what’s truly important… being yourself, caring for others & standing up for yourself. We’re all nursing past & present wounds & bruises - psychologically & physically - and all deserve to be treated with the respect & dignity we give to others. Wishing you much love & happiness as you carry on thru life❤
She's very young. Which is so great to try to turn a negative or a lot of negatives. Felt it and lived that life. Now to see things so positive. She has passion and wants that happiness . Good job she is doing well. Bravo for being young and wanting more. Because you know you are worth it. All the happiness you deserve girl. Go get it!
Cat's story hit home for me. I too lost my mother to cancer. I was 7. My father AKA Monster was physically abusive to her and mentally abusive to my brother and I. It's tough losing your mom. I'm glad you have your uncle. You are a beautiful person and I wish you the very best. Thanks for sharing your story. 💚💛
Sometimes a path is not obvious or seen. Back in the day ,pre-internet,we would have had to wait for a magazine or book or transcript, screenplay,etc. To know her or anyone's story. Changing the way we access information.
Each of these stories break my heart...what a difference a best friend could've made in her childhood (or anyone else Mark interviews), someone that had her back no matter what. I would love to be her friend, what a kind and insightful person. The things people go through is actually insane, and I love that this channel constantly challenges first impressions or societal expectations. I'm so glad she's made a better life for herself as she's gotten older.
Thank you Cat for the courage to share your story. I cried hard several times because I could relate. We are not alone in our suffering, though it often feels like that. The part about being yourself and being careful who you trust is so completely right. I wish I had better words to describe my appreciation for how this story showed up at the right time in my life.
Wow. She swings from low to high it’s manic. She would probably be Great talking to people with anxiety and depression. Put all of that energy into good use. She’s got a huge heart and a sweet personality. She just needs to find something or someway to balance herself out and not go to such drastic extremes. Maybe helping other people would in turn help her and she would feel a sense of accomplishment. PS: she is definitely the classiest dressed lady I have ever seen in your videos. 😉🌻💕
It was heart wrenching listening to what you had to experience Cat. I also watched my dear mum suffer with damn cancer for 13 hellish years. After we lost mum it took forever to finally remember the great times we shared. Oh how I adored mum and she will forever be my hero. Then it was my turn to get cancer. Stage 3 lymphoma in 2021. I’ve been in remission since July 2021. I despise cancer and how we suffer, as well as our entire family. Listening to Cat brought back similar memories. I wanted to reach into the phone and give you a hug. You are such a beautiful person. I’m very sorry to hear that you lost your dear mum at such a young age. I hope you will find happiness Cat! ❤🙏🏻
Cat, I’m so sorry for your pain. You will get to a point where you’ll be happy and just living your life. The past does not define you. Please be strong, it will get better.
Cat, You're the daughter that every mother is blessed to have. I'm sorry you had to deal with a father like yours while helping your mother through her treatments. Check out the works of Elizabeth Kubler-Ross, MD and her several books on Death and Dying, Afterlife, Life Lessens, etc. A foundation has been set up regarding her works. She talks about how we can tune in to our beloved whom we've lost. I wish you continued healing moving forward. God Bless. ♥
36. So sad. Mine made it to its reverse, 63, cancer visiting for the third time. Still hurts. "What does it mean to be a happy person?" Great question. Find the answers each day.
Mark, please give this woman a job with you....what an impact she will make on all the people you meet. 😢 Young, insightful, articulate and CLEAN . What an angel !!❤
My mom was a cancer nurse for 33 years, she has multiple myeloma now she actually diagnosed herself. She's in remission but multiple myeloma is an incurable Cancer... It scares the shit outs me, what I know she's gonna go through... And I'm an adult, I couldn't imagine going through that as a child...
Praying for you Cat! You are a very good daughter. As a mom with only 1 daughter, she is my best friend. I am sure you were a huge comfort to her xo 🙏❤️
Your daughter shouldn't be your best friend. Intent or not, it's a form of abuse and she won't be better for it even if it's good for you. You're suppose to be the adult, her mom and her caregiver, not her gal pal. Please look into this toxic parenting style if you don't believe a random yt comment and stop. Have boundaries with her and keep her out of your adult worries and issues. Let her have her childhood.
@@lemon1657 wow!! Thats alot of judgement! My daughter happens to be a psychiatric nurse with a master's degree who works three jobs and makes a point to call me everyday just to talk about her day not mine abuse is not even a factor take it somewhere else
@@raelenelabby6407Working in psychology is NOT an indicator of being a stable adult, neither is financial success. Making her your "best friend" as a child instead of being her guardian and protector is still child abuse, she just grew into the emotional abuse and repeats the pattern as an adult. Parent's job is to parent and protect, not use their child for their narcissistic friendship needs (ask any therapist) The fact she calls you every day as an adult is deeply disturbing and indicative of the lifelong brainwashing. You did a number on her. She's still tethered to you and that's not normal. Unhealthy.
What do these interviewees have in coming? Complex PTSD from childhood. If we want to make 🇺🇸 better we need to help kids from ages 0-5. I believe in the future we will start to focus on better childhoods.
Yeah, I watched cancer waste my father away over about 2 months then I lost my wife to an overdose. I can’t get over not being able say by to my wife, but I could never watch her go through what my father did. If I’m ever given a fatal diagnosis I’m giving everyone I know a up to a certain date to say goodbye and I’ll take myself out after that. I don’t wanna waste away myself nor put others through that, but I want to give people a chance to say goodbye.
Cat, what a beautiful girl you are, and so aware! You couldn't choose the cards that you were dealt as a child, but you already see the good in the bad ... and it's so true that we're forged through our hardships. Keep setting down the loads you took away from childhood, and enjoy being YOU!
She’s got a heart of gold a sweetheart so much love to give. Hope she finds her path with someone that can love her as big and deep as she can love forever. To have that loyalty and someone that will be there forever to laugh and say hey it’s going to be alright
Hey Cat💕, I know exactly what you and your brother have experienced. I’m autistic and when I was 14, i became a carer for my own mother for the same reason… Most depressing, yet humbling time of my life! I had been dealing with bullying at school, my high school “sweetheart” thought it would be smart to break up on VALENTINES DAY where I was also raped that same night, for the first time by a man old enough to be my father… I met evil at an early age too, sis. That statement was too accurate about being the only girl in a Hispanic household and how sheltered, yet mature we’re forced to be! I also found myself in the BDSM community at 16/17… DDLG may have been what saved me from ending it all back then. It provided me a feeling of respite, after caring for my mother and my siblings at an age where I needed support + other trauma really took a toll on me! Thankfully, my mother beat that disease and is living life to the fullest! I’m both overjoyed and blessed to say this! 🙏🏽 However, I can empathize with your brother. Please don’t take his aggressive outbursts personally! Watching sick people suffer the way they do can evoke a plethora of emotions in us… The root of it all is POWERLESSNESS. The mere fact that there’s NOTHING you can do! You can’t end the pain for them and you can’t end the torture for yourself. Everyone is enduring some sort of misery or misfortune… Apparently, needlessly. This would infuriate anyone! So, go easy on him and be gentle with yourself - It’s the only way to truly heal. 🧘🏽♀️💯 You’ve got this! 👑💖
Absolutely incredibly insightful and loving comment. You are smart and honest and kind and that will definitely make a life infinitely better. Best wishes 🕊️
Cat, you are so intelligent! Gorgeous, too! Wishing you all the best, dear! I'm glad you have your uncle. Thank you for telling your story. So sorry about your mom & the bad experiences. Keep breathing and trying.
Cat you’re such a beautiful soul. Really resonated with you & your story. Love that you’re doing the work on you & breaking those generational curses. Godspeed, love you from Chicago 💕
Right after that I just wanted to say I think she looks wonderful that is a beautiful outfit and very complimentary to her I love her style she looks great from head to toe and why am I saying this I don't know there's a lot of other things I could point out about the interview but that was the first thing that stood out to me I have all the best hopes for her and her
Wow, this is an incredible story, thank you for sharing Cat. Your bravery and resiliency through all of your trauma is inspiring. Wishing you the most beautiful life experiences ahead, as you are truely meant for greatness 💛💛
Cat, you went through a lot of very hard stuff, too much probably for a young girl, but look at you - you are articulate, smart, insightful and a survivor. When you get as old as I am you'll be able to look back and see all your tough times as great lessons and strengtheners. You said so many incredibly wise things in 35 minutes. I hope you go forward in your life with strength and courage. It's not such a bad world out there, at least not where I live (which is not the US). Get well educated, travel, meet different people. So many will love that you value being real and having integrity. As for your brother, he has to fight his own demons and try to heal. Try not to let him hurt you. He's lost and hurting but hopefully in time he will find his peace. You're a beautiful bird who needs to fly; don't let anything or anyone clip your wings. And I believe your Mum is with you, happy to see you soar.
I don't care what anyone says once they come visit our Mark and offload. It's just what these people need, it helps them internally with them trauma bonds, that they have kept locked up for such a long time. It will get their cogs going in their heads going as they strive for a safe, calm healthy life and peace in their lives. Bless you Cat, and bless you Mark.
This is the first time I've said this on this channel, Cat seems to be suffering from " martyr Syndrome". I hope she receives psychotherapy. She is literally all over the place emotionally. She can switch her emotions on and off.
The histrionic narration also made me sit up and take notice. With all my heart, I wish that with the help of her therapists the woman will be able to integrate the death of her mother and the failure of her father into her life story over time. And there is this story of an underage teenager who was able to enter and be accepted into BDMS circles.I wonder how such abuse can go unnoticed and go unpunished?
@@helenaneumann1872 I would suggest a skilled therapist would somehow start to work with those traumas in so many years, as childhood is the basis for all mental health... Hard to avoid talking about your traumas when chatting almost a decade with a therapist.
I Love Cat, She Has an Extraordinary Personality. I identify with her so much being a survivor of so much trauma and grief so young myself. I totally understand her. I pray For peace for her. God Bless her ❤😇😇😇😇
Thank you for sharing and hope you continue to heal. It hit me when you said you didn't care about money. You care about ingenuity and being real. I'm myself and I have nobody. I agree with you. Real love and friendship matter. Not riches.People are always in the clouds of fantasy. Especially on social media. I'm not saying be sad all.the time, but people treat you like poison if you're going through things and really need someone to talk to. Nobody asks for the cards they get dealt and sometimes there are just too many in a short amount of time. It's hard to get back up, and hard to be a puppet for people who want you to hide it all.
Such beauty in your soul, you are an internaliser, someone who thinks deeply for others, just wants peace, and has an open heart... your brother is an externaliser, who will always blame others and never take responsibility..sadly will never change. Give yourself credit lovely, you have risen above it! Your mama gave you great counsel and look at you blossom! I admire you so much❤❤❤
Cat's story has me in tears within the first 3 minutes, thank you for your bravery and telling your truth. I've lost people close to me from cancer too, her story hits home so much. Cat, you're a beautiful soul and I'm sending you so much love and healing! xoxoxoxoxo
when you hear her get into detail it’s like you’re imaging you are in her position at the time things were happening and it’s like you’re feeling the same exact thing she is describing, and when you have had a loss when you’re young you know what it is like, such a sad story but a strong woman.
Cat is still so young...I hope she has a truly professional, supportive team, yes it takes a team, for her to keep learning and growing so she can move through and beyond her childhood trauma. She is cute and funny, but that's a facade; a coping mechanism she's learned to put out there to hide how much pain she's in. Keep going to therapy, Cat. You got this. Do the work - it will be hard, but you are strong and can put the awful shit your parents did to you in the past...in the past.
Oh sweetheart, as the mother of six adult daughters, I just want to hug you and hold you. You are extremely beautiful and I hope you know that. Beautiful inside, and outside. There's so much in my heart, but the words will not come. Just know that I will pray for you, and pray that God gives you a wonderful life ahead. God bless you my beautiful girl
Mark, thank you so much for letting Cat ramble. Your a wonderful person for people to talk to, what ever it is in you, people are able to let stuff go. Thank you
I saw my "dad" point a gun at my mom and tell her to start praying because she tried to stop my dad from stomping on my 13yr old brother... I had to stay at my neighbors that night, they had to take my brother to the hospital because he had broken his neck "falling down the stairs"... I still feel horrible about it to this day, it was my fault my brother almost died....
I know this is a odd thing to post here, but I just wanted to remember Aaron Carter today. It really was a kick in the heart to hear that he actually is gone. I feel like he is so many of the stories in here. Money doesn't matter when it comes to these overshadowing struggles people go through. He was thrown into the entertainment business at the age of nine or ten, I remember he was so little. He became insanely popular, like Justin Bieber popular. It was crazy. He earned loads of money which he should get when he became 18 years old. By then the money was gone. His parents had blown his money. That right there. What a horrible stab in the back. By your own parents! How can you ever trust anyone after such a betrayal? Aaron came from a lot of mental illness in his family. One sister died of drugs. She was schizophrenic and bipolar I believe. I believe there's more substance abuse within the family. Aaron was blessed with both issues. Lucky little Aaron became addicted to loads of chemicals and struggled with lots of mental issues. All he ever wanted was to be loved. And he was constantly searching for a girlfriend. His dream was to find the one, marry her and start a family. I believe he was searching for and wanting stability more than anything in life. When you've lived a life like his where there's absolutely no stability whatsoever, people tent to want to settle down and create their own family because that can give stability. Aaron met a girl a couple of years ago and she became pregnant very early in the relationship. Unfortunately the stability he was desperately trying to find wasn't there. There were accusations of abuse from both him and her. A lot of chaos and drama. But in November last year, one of Aaron's biggest dreams came through. He became a Daddy to a little boy. Sadly this wasn't enough to fix what was wrong. First Aaron lost custody and a short time after his girlfriend lost custody too. I believe she got it back soon and Aaron went to treatment. This was in September this year. It just made me so incredible sad that he lost the lifelong battle. Thst he never found stability. I so wanted for him to find a grounded girl from a big wholesome family so he could feel like he belonged. Unfortunately he didn't. The fairytale never had a chance to become anything but the grim reality. Rest in peace, you extremely talented, beautiful, sweet, quirky, naive, and very tender soul. Rest easy, Aaron, I'm so sorry that you never found the stability and love down here.
Such a brave and lovely woman. Intelligent, compassionate. May God Bless Cat with real love, with happiness and with healing of memories so that she can overcome her deep pain and live a better, fulfilling life. Everyone, please pray for her.
So many similarities in my own story. Addiction, Domestic Violence, Illness and Poverty. You have your whole life ahead of you. I wish you nothing but the best in life. God Bless you 💙
What a profound young woman! As with the other videos I have watched, this one hurt badly, listening to all the endured trauma. I do hope, a year later, seeing this, that she has continued her postive, onwards journey. Can you do an update on her, please?
My husband is dying of cancer right now and my daughter is only eight. She knows he’s sick but doesn’t know how bad it is. I wanted to wait until after the holidays to tell her but now I’m scared that he won’t survive that long. After listening to this woman tell her story I think I should tell her. I just don’t know. What do you guys think?
I absolutely think you should tell her. Kids are alot more in tune then we think. I personally would be really mad if no one told me and then he's just gone one day. I'm so sorry for what ur going through and you are in my prayers. ❤
She's old enough to know the truth. Don't keep her from the human experience. We are all going to died. My husband died in 2020 from cancer. Our young grandkids lived with us. They asked questions and we were honest with them. If they need to take them to a therapist. Prayers for you and your family ✨🙏🏽✨💔❤️🩹♥️
Yes, I agree, you should tell her now. Take away the "oh my God I can't believe he's dead" aspect. This way she'll know what's going to happen. 8 is young but not too young to understand. My heart goes out to you! Sending my prayers as well!
@@ivaloowilson3524 So you understand exactly where I’m coming from. If you don’t mind - what we’re some of the harder questions your grandkids asked and how did you respond?
A person showcased on this platform usually presents themselves in a very different way. I was struck by laughter. How often do we hear laughter on this channel that's not simple chuckling due to polysubstance misuse? Hardly ever. Refreshing. She has endured a lot, Her strength will likely create a great place for her to shine despite her circumstance thus far. Well done.
Cat is a beautiful and absolutely charming woman. Her outlook and attitude is so uplifting. You're amazing Cat, thank you for being strong and a wonderful person no matter what hardships you've been through.
Her hair, her clothes and the kindness and empathy with which she speaks makes her look angelic.
I hope she can heal from this
It might be weird but.. listening to these stories is so deeply, profoundly humbling that I think they're maybe helping me to be a better person, think more about those around me, look after myself better. We all get one life; some people have had it almost incomprehensibly hard, how fortunate am I...
Reincarnation is a thing. We all get to have many lives.
It's not weird, you are just a descent human being.
I think being exposed to lots of people's different experiences is contextually helpful for your own growth.
A lot of my growing points in my life were from hurting really bad. Feeling it as much as possible and then a lot of listening to people. New and old. Usually asking a cashier how they're day is going is pretty enlightening for me if they answer with more than "fine, how are you?"
There's a lot of power in listening. This channel is great for that.
Its not weird. These stories have had a profound effect on me . Sometimes I will think wow I was so loved giving me the ability to love my daughter and granddaughter.
My mother suffered for hours untill i told the nurse to end it. My father passed peacefully. My little sister fell into a coma and passed during the night. My big sister was 45 and looked literally like a 90 year old. She asked for death assistance. I have the same cancer of my father and my wife nearly lost her life to multiple myeloma, a bone marrow cancer. Yes cancer has declared war on my familly. I have trouble finding joy in life anymore even if i have everything. Take care of your famillies like i wish i had.
I saw a definite and immediate shift in Cat's mood @15:00...and it's when she begins talking about her kink/goth communities. Cat's face lit up, the tears stopped, her voice became stronger and she began to smile. I'm so glad that she found safe and happy haven within those spaces. What a beautiful soul in spite of all the hardship and trauma. God bless you, mija💞
I came to the United States in 04 and most Americans that grew up in a stable home don’t understand how good their life is. Hearing these stories make me realize that bad things happen to everyone no matter where. Being a survivor of a civil war I don’t feel alone anymore after some of these stories.
This really broke my heart 💔 that she had to deal with all that toxicity at such a young age. She's such a brave and strong young woman for telling her story. I'm so glad she got help from a therapist and she said it's actually helping her! That itself was a big step! You can tell she's such a genuinely good person who has a good, kind and loving heart!
Cat needed so much to be heard, and I hope she can move on from her many traumas and heal. ❤️
You can just tell Cats life has effected her greatly. I hope she continues to heal! You are so special ❤❤
She has such sadness in her but at the same time she is literally one of the most beautiful souls I've ever sat and listened to. She's so intriguing, passionate, raw, expressive and honest. I would love her as a friend.
May God bless you.
My mom died 6 months ago and I discovered all the trauma from my childhood, and the toxicity of my relationship with my mom has made it so much harder to grieve and heal. I not only am grieving the loss of my mom, but the childhood I never had and the fact that I can never fix things with her now. I hope that you can heal and hopefully you are getting therapy... it helps. Good luck Cat.
I'm so sorry. I hope however you're dealing with everything is getting you by. I wish you the best.
@@shaketheyolkofinauspicious4417 thanks so much!!
Oh my gosh I am speechless. Thank God for Uncle George you are an angel and your Momma lives through him. I am so so sorry for what you have gone through. Cat you are beautiful inside and out and have some happiness. You are a precious soul and may God bless and protect you
I adore what you said at 13:10 "Even though I've been hurt so much, I love with such a fierceness, love with such a weight. When I give my heart to somebody, it might as well be out my chest! But it's only because I know what extreme heartbreak and loss feels like." What a profoundly beautiful and wise thing to say. To cherish and relish what we have while we have it. Thank you so much for telling your story. I wish the best for you Cat.
Our lives were so similar. Lost my mom to cancer this yr. Cat I hope you continue to heal girl. You're such a beautiful strong soul. Your words helped me heal so much. 🖤 thank you for sharing your heart and soul with us.
I lost my mum and dad too my dad only 2 months ago, we've also got a lot of sickness and our family as well. I was never popular either.
I lost my dad to cancer in January. He was diagnosed with it just 1 month prior; his dying and later passing has traumatised my nuclear family and some of my extended one as well. But, I was surrendered by sickness too, my dad had multiple health problems and my mom has almost died from cancer and soon after she recovered from it she came down with Parkinson's. So.... Yeah, I totally relate with all of you and I have to still recover mentally & emotionally from all of it & some more...
I related to her story so much....I lost a sibling suddenly at 14 which lead to my mother freezing up and detaching from me as a parent....as a result I pretty much had to fend for and raise myself. I lived a really fast life to cope with the pain of the loss that to this day, I don't even know how I made it out to the other end. When she described loving fiercely because of all of the hurt and loss she's experienced...I felt that. I think that is a direct response to long term negativity and suffering....My mother was diagnosed with cancer in 2019 and has been fighting the disease like a CHAMP ever since. I've found less destructive ways to cope in my adulthood and am grateful to be partnered with someone who would never let me fall to the wayside. Cat...I'm sending you so much love and I hope that you find peace and solace in the end. You've got this.
As a mother who lost a child when my daughter was 14 I just want to say I'm sorry you had to go through so much on your own. I know that I also "checked out" for a while and my daughter suffered because of it.
It was never intentional I just could not see past my own pain. I didn't want to live and felt so alone. My daughter had her own grief but we coped differently. It was hard for us to understand one another. Prior we were unbelievably close but grief caused distance between us.
I am so grateful that she has forgiven me for not being the mother she deserved during those times. Reading your comment felt like such a direct connection for me. I am glad you are thriving as my daughter is and I know your mom has to be a strong woman . I wish you all the healing in the world
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@@JB-nr7iy thank you so much! We all have our own ways of coping with loss and I’m sure your daughter was/is empathetic of that. Recognizing the error is the first step to healing. Sending you and your daughter so much love!
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I’m 60 years old man. I learn a lot from this beautiful child wisdom. God bless her
Mark, in a way you're lowkey a therapist. People come and tell you their stories. And sometimes you listening to them vent is soothing to them cuz they may just want someone to listen to them. And u do just that. 🙌🏾
I wonder how he deals with it..listening to all of it
@@elemintefordyce3955 good question.. cuz some of these stories we be listening to does make u roll ur eyes and If we rolling them mark gotta be aswell.. lol
I do food reviews while I’m high off zaza on my yöutube chånnel. I just quit my job too..
1000% Agreed! Everyone needs to be heard. Thank you so much for this channel mark!
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I hope Cat is doing well and is finding peace. She seems like a genuinely good soul. Wish I could give her a hug.
"Beauty from Ashes" That's you Cat.I had a crappy childhood until I was 4 and was put into a wonderful foster home.Thank God for my "mom and dad" Like your uncle they cared for and took care of me.I was angry and mixed up for a long time and I still dont know who I am at times ,all these years later.I loved your words" just be yourself" It has meaning coming from you.Thank you for sharing.Im so glad you decided to stay -on the planet❤️
She carries her mom's burden and thinks she is responsible and bears guilt in what happened to her mom. As a child, she was all alone with an adult cancer patient, she never had a proper childhood. She got all caught up in between her parents' relationship and the abuse. She talks about her mom's abuse as if her dad had been her boyfriend, not her mom's. The truth is that her mom also controlled her, lived through her, and didn't respect the fact that you can't expect a child to be one's friend in replacement of a marriage or adult friends. Unfortunately, the mom also contributed to her PTSD. Commiting a suicide in another room of her daughters' was unfortunately also a sign that she might not have been that golden as her daughter remembers her. I understand that the dad is the culprit but - not the only one. Speaking from experience. She is problaby a relationship addict, and a people pleaser. She was conditioned to this from early childhood. She comes from abusive family, is conditioned to abuse, and she lost herself to that. All her story is about the suffering of other people around her. But you do not see her in her story, she is all but dissolved. That's codependancy in a nutshell.
Absolutely!!
I thought her ma sounded manipulative. Not that she was a bad mom. But as adults we need to know measures with these babies. We are their remodels. Strength. Support. Love. Teachers. I hope she finds out how to be so so strong
Thank you for this excellent comment.
Damn bro. All I can say is that I'm happy she at least had the chance to speak her piece.
Cat I think you have a great strength within you that's slowly manifesting. I know first hand you can come back from ANYTHING with enough bravery and honesty. You definitely have both. When you learn to wield it, you can use it to save lives. You're already lending some of that strength just from sharing your story. You can pick up your sense of humor through the sadness that follows you, so I believe the you without all the hurt is still holding on to hope of that better life.
I empathize with Cat. I worked in our Cancer Hospital for over 22 years. I have seen many of my patients pass, but also seen many of my patients survive Cancer & go on to lead productive successful lives. It would be tough for a child to watch their parent pass from Cancer & then a suicide. Thank you for sharing this video with us. This is reality...& Cancer affects everyone. I don't know one person that is not affected by it. (Either a friend or a family member.) 💔😕 It's sad that her Dad is an addict & was never there for them. So much childhood trauma. I wish Cat all the best. 👍😊 I'm so happy that she has her Uncle. She has that support & they have both received help for their own trauma.
My ex, who's since passed from his addictions, experienced similar strife having a mom with cancer and a dad with addiction issues and drank himself to death right after his wife passed when my ex was 12 years old. Life can be so unfair to ppl sometimes
I hope she heals continues to heal...the act of fighting your dad to help your mum changes the hell out of you...and if you werent able to fix that b4 he dies it messes you up forever. Beautiful young lady, beautiful out and in. Made me cry.
5years in therapy? She needs a new therapist.
@curtis morris I've been in therapy about 40 years and through close to 10 therapists. Some traumas you never "get over"...it's an every day struggle. Especially witnessing someone commit suicide. I've watched the soul leave 3 of THE MOST important people in my life and even though it was peaceful, it was traumatic. I can't even imagine being a child and witnessing the aftermath of a suicide.
What do these interviewees have in coming? Complex PTSD from childhood. If we want to make 🇺🇸 better we need to help kids from ages 0-5. I believe in the future we will start to focus on better childhoods.
What a strong woman to survive such pain.
Cat, girl! I love you, everything about you. Beautiful, funny, strong, so so strong. The way you are just who you are, no apologizes, just yourself. That lesson she taught you was a legacy of strength. You inspire me.
Our Goth community (and the Metalhead community) worldwide get a bad rep to often and it's good to have someone talk about it in a more positive manner. We may be a bunch of weirdos but for the most part we take care of each other as best we can, cause we know the dark.
That's right ♡
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True true.
This is so true. My daughter has a few friends now decades. I love them. Some of the most genuine empathetic souls. They don’t wear the makeup and clothes the way they used to.
All are welcome here as long as they are respectful.
To judge by appearance or out of fear means losing out on some of the most beautiful souls.
A wise saying that has always stuck with me: "blood ain't always thicker than water, and family can bring you down quicker than strangers". My heart goes out to this lovely young lady. I wish her the best and I truly hope she can heal from this.
Cat, your interview, the honesty of it, was so refreshing …you’ve come thru so much - more than you were probably able to relay - with an understanding of what’s truly important… being yourself, caring for others & standing up for yourself. We’re all nursing past & present wounds & bruises - psychologically & physically - and all deserve to be treated with the respect & dignity we give to others. Wishing you much love & happiness as you carry on thru life❤
She's very young. Which is so great to try to turn a negative or a lot of negatives. Felt it and lived that life. Now to see things so positive. She has passion and wants that happiness . Good job she is doing well. Bravo for being young and wanting more. Because you know you are worth it. All the happiness you deserve girl. Go get it!
Wow, so many different and strong emotions. What a strong and beautiful woman
Cat's story hit home for me. I too lost my mother to cancer. I was 7. My father AKA Monster was physically abusive to her and mentally abusive to my brother and I. It's tough losing your mom. I'm glad you have your uncle. You are a beautiful person and I wish you the very best. Thanks for sharing your story. 💚💛
I feel her heartbreaking. In my opinion, she needs a new therapist. Thank you Mark for all you do. You are a true modern day Saint.
Deeply agree. Cat's trauma seems so fresh and in the moment, that is not typical. She needs much better help.
I want this beautiful soul as a friend. She is an absolute treasure.
This girl. 😥 Too much pain. She has a strong will to keep going. A beautiful soul. I pray her heart can heal and believe in you Lord. 😭😭
She looks like a painting
Your story made me cry. I relate to many things & I feel like we’re at the same level in life too. You’re going to do great things!!
Sometimes a path is not obvious or seen. Back in the day ,pre-internet,we would have had to wait for a magazine or book or transcript, screenplay,etc. To know her or anyone's story.
Changing the way we access information.
The cancer part really hit home.
I hope Cat finds her way of dealing with everything!
Each of these stories break my heart...what a difference a best friend could've made in her childhood (or anyone else Mark interviews), someone that had her back no matter what. I would love to be her friend, what a kind and insightful person. The things people go through is actually insane, and I love that this channel constantly challenges first impressions or societal expectations. I'm so glad she's made a better life for herself as she's gotten older.
Thank you Cat for the courage to share your story. I cried hard several times because I could relate. We are not alone in our suffering, though it often feels like that. The part about being yourself and being careful who you trust is so completely right. I wish I had better words to describe my appreciation for how this story showed up at the right time in my life.
Wow. She swings from low to high it’s manic. She would probably be Great talking to people with anxiety and depression. Put all of that energy into good use. She’s got a huge heart and a sweet personality. She just needs to find something or someway to balance herself out and not go to such drastic extremes. Maybe helping other people would in turn help her and she would feel a sense of accomplishment.
PS: she is definitely the classiest dressed lady I have ever seen in your videos. 😉🌻💕
I have the same issue and nothing has worked to help me feel balanced
This woman is my hero. Her positivity and outlook despite her experiences is just heartbreakingly beautiful ❤
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It was heart wrenching listening to what you had to experience Cat. I also watched my dear mum suffer with damn cancer for 13 hellish years. After we lost mum it took forever to finally remember the great times we shared. Oh how I adored mum and she will forever be my hero.
Then it was my turn to get cancer. Stage 3 lymphoma in 2021. I’ve been in remission since July 2021. I despise cancer and how we suffer, as well as our entire family.
Listening to Cat brought back similar memories. I wanted to reach into the phone and give you a hug. You are such a beautiful person. I’m very sorry to hear that you lost your dear mum at such a young age. I hope you will find happiness Cat! ❤🙏🏻
Cat, I’m so sorry for your pain. You will get to a point where you’ll be happy and just living your life. The past does not define you. Please be strong, it will get better.
The way she says hi 🥺🥺🥺
What a sweetheart 💖 just starting the interview.
Captivating
Cat,
You're the daughter that every mother is blessed to have. I'm sorry you had to deal with a father like yours while helping your mother through her treatments. Check out the works of Elizabeth Kubler-Ross, MD and her several books on Death and Dying, Afterlife, Life Lessens, etc. A foundation has been set up regarding her works. She talks about how we can tune in to our beloved whom we've lost. I wish you continued healing moving forward. God Bless.
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36. So sad. Mine made it to its reverse, 63, cancer visiting for the third time. Still hurts.
"What does it mean to be a happy person?" Great question. Find the answers each day.
Mark is the definition of work ethic.
Mark, please give this woman a job with you....what an impact she will make on all the people you meet. 😢 Young, insightful, articulate and CLEAN . What an angel !!❤
My mom was a cancer nurse for 33 years, she has multiple myeloma now she actually diagnosed herself. She's in remission but multiple myeloma is an incurable Cancer... It scares the shit outs me, what I know she's gonna go through... And I'm an adult, I couldn't imagine going through that as a child...
Praying for you Cat! You are a very good daughter. As a mom with only 1 daughter, she is my best friend. I am sure you were a huge comfort to her xo 🙏❤️
Your daughter shouldn't be your best friend. Intent or not, it's a form of abuse and she won't be better for it even if it's good for you. You're suppose to be the adult, her mom and her caregiver, not her gal pal. Please look into this toxic parenting style if you don't believe a random yt comment and stop. Have boundaries with her and keep her out of your adult worries and issues. Let her have her childhood.
@@lemon1657 wow!! Thats alot of judgement! My daughter happens to be a psychiatric nurse with a master's degree who works three jobs and makes a point to call me everyday just to talk about her day not mine abuse is not even a factor take it somewhere else
@@raelenelabby6407Working in psychology is NOT an indicator of being a stable adult, neither is financial success. Making her your "best friend" as a child instead of being her guardian and protector is still child abuse, she just grew into the emotional abuse and repeats the pattern as an adult. Parent's job is to parent and protect, not use their child for their narcissistic friendship needs (ask any therapist) The fact she calls you every day as an adult is deeply disturbing and indicative of the lifelong brainwashing. You did a number on her. She's still tethered to you and that's not normal. Unhealthy.
What do these interviewees have in coming? Complex PTSD from childhood. If we want to make 🇺🇸 better we need to help kids from ages 0-5. I believe in the future we will start to focus on better childhoods.
@@lemon1657 you need to keep your pseudo psychology to yourself!
You are obnoxious A.F!!!!
Year 3 of cancer treatment. I’m not rotting from the inside out. I wish someone could help her with that. It must be awful to feel that way
Turkey tail, paul stamets ted talk.
I don't know which is worse, losing someone slowly over time, or suddenly, without warning. I have done both and they r both horrible
Yeah, I watched cancer waste my father away over about 2 months then I lost my wife to an overdose. I can’t get over not being able say by to my wife, but I could never watch her go through what my father did. If I’m ever given a fatal diagnosis I’m giving everyone I know a up to a certain date to say goodbye and I’ll take myself out after that. I don’t wanna waste away myself nor put others through that, but I want to give people a chance to say goodbye.
I have had both also. They are both shocking. You are correct.
@@myeyeswentdeaf6213 I understand that!
Such a poor angel. My dad had cancer and killed himself and I found him. I pray she finds relief!
Cat, what a beautiful girl you are, and so aware! You couldn't choose the cards that you were dealt as a child, but you already see the good in the bad ... and it's so true that we're forged through our hardships. Keep setting down the loads you took away from childhood, and enjoy being YOU!
I've said this before; your work will be studied for years to come. You are doing angels work.
She’s got a heart of gold a sweetheart so much love to give. Hope she finds her path with someone that can love her as big and deep as she can love forever. To have that loyalty and someone that will be there forever to laugh and say hey it’s going to be alright
Hey Cat💕, I know exactly what you and your brother have experienced. I’m autistic and when I was 14, i became a carer for my own mother for the same reason… Most depressing, yet humbling time of my life! I had been dealing with bullying at school, my high school “sweetheart” thought it would be smart to break up on VALENTINES DAY where I was also raped that same night, for the first time by a man old enough to be my father… I met evil at an early age too, sis. That statement was too accurate about being the only girl in a Hispanic household and how sheltered, yet mature we’re forced to be! I also found myself in the BDSM community at 16/17… DDLG may have been what saved me from ending it all back then. It provided me a feeling of respite, after caring for my mother and my siblings at an age where I needed support + other trauma really took a toll on me! Thankfully, my mother beat that disease and is living life to the fullest! I’m both overjoyed and blessed to say this! 🙏🏽 However, I can empathize with your brother. Please don’t take his aggressive outbursts personally! Watching sick people suffer the way they do can evoke a plethora of emotions in us… The root of it all is POWERLESSNESS. The mere fact that there’s NOTHING you can do! You can’t end the pain for them and you can’t end the torture for yourself. Everyone is enduring some sort of misery or misfortune… Apparently, needlessly. This would infuriate anyone! So, go easy on him and be gentle with yourself - It’s the only way to truly heal. 🧘🏽♀️💯 You’ve got this! 👑💖
Absolutely incredibly insightful and loving comment. You are smart and honest and kind and that will definitely make a life infinitely better. Best wishes 🕊️
Cat, you are so intelligent! Gorgeous, too! Wishing you all the best, dear! I'm glad you have your uncle. Thank you for telling your story. So sorry about your mom & the bad experiences. Keep breathing and trying.
Cat you’re such a beautiful soul. Really resonated with you & your story. Love that you’re doing the work on you & breaking those generational curses. Godspeed, love you from Chicago 💕
Cat reminds me so much of my niece. She is so wise. Thank God she came and did this interview. I really like her spirit. She deserves peace.
Right after that I just wanted to say I think she looks wonderful that is a beautiful outfit and very complimentary to her I love her style she looks great from head to toe and why am I saying this I don't know there's a lot of other things I could point out about the interview but that was the first thing that stood out to me I have all the best hopes for her and her
Thank you mark , I appreciate what your doing
Wow, this is an incredible story, thank you for sharing Cat. Your bravery and resiliency through all of your trauma is inspiring. Wishing you the most beautiful life experiences ahead, as you are truely meant for greatness 💛💛
Cat, you went through a lot of very hard stuff, too much probably for a young girl, but look at you - you are articulate, smart, insightful and a survivor. When you get as old as I am you'll be able to look back and see all your tough times as great lessons and strengtheners. You said so many incredibly wise things in 35 minutes. I hope you go forward in your life with strength and courage. It's not such a bad world out there, at least not where I live (which is not the US). Get well educated, travel, meet different people. So many will love that you value being real and having integrity. As for your brother, he has to fight his own demons and try to heal. Try not to let him hurt you. He's lost and hurting but hopefully in time he will find his peace. You're a beautiful bird who needs to fly; don't let anything or anyone clip your wings. And I believe your Mum is with you, happy to see you soar.
Prayers for Cat and her family and her growth to be herself and healing from her past. 🙏🏽
Wow...Great testimony it amazes me what type struggle people live through and still be so positive..
I don't care what anyone says once they come visit our Mark and offload. It's just what these people need, it helps them internally with them trauma bonds, that they have kept locked up for such a long time. It will get their cogs going in their heads going as they strive for a safe, calm healthy life and peace in their lives. Bless you Cat, and bless you Mark.
This is the first time I've said this on this channel, Cat seems to be suffering from " martyr Syndrome". I hope she receives psychotherapy. She is literally all over the place emotionally. She can switch her emotions on and off.
The histrionic narration also made me sit up and take notice. With all my heart, I wish that with the help of her therapists the woman will be able to integrate the death of her mother and the failure of her father into her life story over time.
And there is this story of an underage teenager who was able to enter and be accepted into BDMS circles.I wonder how such abuse can go unnoticed and go unpunished?
She said she's been in therapy for 8-9 years
@@Foreignmonk34 ... and hasn't processed her losses yet...which by the way isn't a reproach!
What a hateful thing to say, are you even aware of the clinical definition of that condition?! Educate yourself!
@@helenaneumann1872 I would suggest a skilled therapist would somehow start to work with those traumas in so many years, as childhood is the basis for all mental health... Hard to avoid talking about your traumas when chatting almost a decade with a therapist.
I Love Cat, She Has an Extraordinary Personality. I identify with her so much being a survivor of so much trauma and grief so young myself. I totally understand her. I pray For peace for her. God Bless her ❤😇😇😇😇
Such a sweet girl. Thank you for sharing your story with us. It heals me.
Thank you for sharing and hope you continue to heal. It hit me when you said you didn't care about money. You care about ingenuity and being real. I'm myself and I have nobody. I agree with you. Real love and friendship matter. Not riches.People are always in the clouds of fantasy. Especially on social media. I'm not saying be sad all.the time, but people treat you like poison if you're going through things and really need someone to talk to. Nobody asks for the cards they get dealt and sometimes there are just too many in a short amount of time. It's hard to get back up, and hard to be a puppet for people who want you to hide it all.
Such beauty in your soul, you are an internaliser, someone who thinks deeply for others, just wants peace, and has an open heart... your brother is an externaliser, who will always blame others and never take responsibility..sadly will never change. Give yourself credit lovely, you have risen above it! Your mama gave you great counsel and look at you blossom! I admire you so much❤❤❤
Cat's story has me in tears within the first 3 minutes, thank you for your bravery and telling your truth. I've lost people close to me from cancer too, her story hits home so much. Cat, you're a beautiful soul and I'm sending you so much love and healing! xoxoxoxoxo
when you hear her get into detail it’s like you’re imaging you are in her position at the time things were happening and it’s like you’re feeling the same exact thing she is describing, and when you have had a loss when you’re young you know what it is like, such a sad story but a strong woman.
Cat is still so young...I hope she has a truly professional, supportive team, yes it takes a team, for her to keep learning and growing so she can move through and beyond her childhood trauma. She is cute and funny, but that's a facade; a coping mechanism she's learned to put out there to hide how much pain she's in. Keep going to therapy, Cat. You got this. Do the work - it will be hard, but you are strong and can put the awful shit your parents did to you in the past...in the past.
Oh sweetheart, as the mother of six adult daughters, I just want to hug you and hold you. You are extremely beautiful and I hope you know that. Beautiful inside, and outside. There's so much in my heart, but the words will not come. Just know that I will pray for you, and pray that God gives you a wonderful life ahead. God bless you my beautiful girl
Lovely girl. Don't ever give up on yourself & the love that your mom had for you. She would want you to live your best life.
Cat is so FULL of Heart and Soul...
Such an Angelic Beauty...
She would make a very loving Mom💕
Mark, thank you so much for letting Cat ramble. Your a wonderful person for people to talk to, what ever it is in you, people are able to let stuff go. Thank you
I saw my "dad" point a gun at my mom and tell her to start praying because she tried to stop my dad from stomping on my 13yr old brother... I had to stay at my neighbors that night, they had to take my brother to the hospital because he had broken his neck "falling down the stairs"...
I still feel horrible about it to this day, it was my fault my brother almost died....
God bless her. We aren’t naturally strong; we become strong from our circumstances. I wish her a beautiful and peaceful life.
No. People are born with soul traits and bloodline traits. Circumstances provide certain modifiers, better or worse.
I know this is a odd thing to post here, but I just wanted to remember Aaron Carter today. It really was a kick in the heart to hear that he actually is gone.
I feel like he is so many of the stories in here. Money doesn't matter when it comes to these overshadowing struggles people go through.
He was thrown into the entertainment business at the age of nine or ten, I remember he was so little.
He became insanely popular, like Justin Bieber popular. It was crazy. He earned loads of money which he should get when he became 18 years old. By then the money was gone. His parents had blown his money.
That right there. What a horrible stab in the back. By your own parents! How can you ever trust anyone after such a betrayal?
Aaron came from a lot of mental illness in his family. One sister died of drugs. She was schizophrenic and bipolar I believe.
I believe there's more substance abuse within the family.
Aaron was blessed with both issues. Lucky little Aaron became addicted to loads of chemicals and struggled with lots of mental issues.
All he ever wanted was to be loved. And he was constantly searching for a girlfriend. His dream was to find the one, marry her and start a family.
I believe he was searching for and wanting stability more than anything in life.
When you've lived a life like his where there's absolutely no stability whatsoever, people tent to want to settle down and create their own family because that can give stability.
Aaron met a girl a couple of years ago and she became pregnant very early in the relationship. Unfortunately the stability he was desperately trying to find wasn't there. There were accusations of abuse from both him and her. A lot of chaos and drama. But in November last year, one of Aaron's biggest dreams came through.
He became a Daddy to a little boy.
Sadly this wasn't enough to fix what was wrong.
First Aaron lost custody and a short time after his girlfriend lost custody too. I believe she got it back soon and Aaron went to treatment. This was in September this year.
It just made me so incredible sad that he lost the lifelong battle. Thst he never found stability. I so wanted for him to find a grounded girl from a big wholesome family so he could feel like he belonged. Unfortunately he didn't.
The fairytale never had a chance to become anything but the grim reality.
Rest in peace, you extremely talented, beautiful, sweet, quirky, naive, and very tender soul.
Rest easy, Aaron, I'm so sorry that you never found the stability and love down here.
Miss Cat, you are missing your calling dear....I see you as a phenomenal motivational speaker...you have everything it takes....♥️
Such a brave and lovely woman. Intelligent, compassionate. May God Bless Cat with real love, with happiness and with healing of memories so that she can overcome her deep pain and live a better, fulfilling life. Everyone, please pray for her.
So many similarities in my own story. Addiction, Domestic Violence, Illness and Poverty. You have your whole life ahead of you. I wish you nothing but the best in life. God Bless you 💙
I hope things get better in your life, just keep pushing forward.
I have a very very similar story to hers, so thank you for sharing. You’re not alone dear, even if it feels that way all the time.
Indeed! A beautifully told story! Thank you Cat and Mark!
What a profound young woman! As with the other videos I have watched, this one hurt badly, listening to all the endured trauma. I do hope, a year later, seeing this, that she has continued her postive, onwards journey. Can you do an update on her, please?
She has a beautiful nature about her! ❤ Her innocence is transparent 💛
My husband is dying of cancer right now and my daughter is only eight. She knows he’s sick but doesn’t know how bad it is. I wanted to wait until after the holidays to tell her but now I’m scared that he won’t survive that long. After listening to this woman tell her story I think I should tell her. I just don’t know. What do you guys think?
I absolutely think you should tell her. Kids are alot more in tune then we think. I personally would be really mad if no one told me and then he's just gone one day. I'm so sorry for what ur going through and you are in my prayers. ❤
She's old enough to know the truth. Don't keep her from the human experience. We are all going to died. My husband died in 2020 from cancer. Our young grandkids lived with us. They asked questions and we were honest with them. If they need to take them to a therapist. Prayers for you and your family ✨🙏🏽✨💔❤️🩹♥️
Yes, I agree, you should tell her now. Take away the "oh my God I can't believe he's dead" aspect. This way she'll know what's going to happen. 8 is young but not too young to understand. My heart goes out to you! Sending my prayers as well!
@@jessicalawton1 You’re not alone in advising me to tell her. I guess I need to face it head on. Thank you for your kindness.
@@ivaloowilson3524 So you understand exactly where I’m coming from. If you don’t mind - what we’re some of the harder questions your grandkids asked and how did you respond?
She is strong, a survivor.
Your a gift to this world cat❤️thank you for being you and sharing your story
A massive hug. You are brillant Cat. 💜
i hope she finds peace and wish her every success
SHES SO SWEEEEEEET ♥️🥺 i wish her nothing but the best of luck and all the happiness she deserves for the rest of her life. 💕
I'm so sorry about your mom. That's heartbreaking you had to watch her have cancer so young especially. God this was tough.
A person showcased on this platform usually presents themselves in a very different way. I was struck by laughter. How often do we hear laughter on this channel that's not simple chuckling due to polysubstance misuse? Hardly ever. Refreshing. She has endured a lot, Her strength will likely create a great place for her to shine despite her circumstance thus far. Well done.
Cat your story made me a grown man cry but your also very funny beautiful woman. Thank you for sharing your story.
You are so beautiful Cat. Believe in yourself and know that you are so worth it. God Bless you.
Lost my mom this year. Many blessings 🙌🏽
Cat is a beautiful and absolutely charming woman. Her outlook and attitude is so uplifting. You're amazing Cat, thank you for being strong and a wonderful person no matter what hardships you've been through.