Hi Blanca and Jonathan!!! Nurse here 🙋🏻♀️ and I encourage you both to please contact compliance office at hospital and submit a grievance, you will make a difference for others to come! Providers and HC workers are responsible for their role in their job & must be provided dignity respect compassion! Please please do it!!!!
Blanca. Please contact your hospitals Patient Relations department and tell them about this. You most likely are not the only one to feel this way. And hopefully you can stop someone else from having to go through this as well.
Yes! 100% agree! All medical providers need to lead with patience, empathy, and cultural humility. Especially an OBGYN provider!! Shame on her. She should have explained what she was doing.. don’t be afraid to speak up and advocate for yourself. You’re the patient. It doesn’t matter if they are the “doctor.” You are human and everything you feel/ experience is valid. Shoutout to the nurses for advocating and protecting you from experiencing more trauma/harm. Please report her. If she wasn’t in the right headspace, she shouldn’t have delivered your baby. She should have leaned on another doctor on the team to step in.
@jocelynmartinez692 I agree with you because I had something happened to me like that and I didn't end up saying anything but my sister did and on my survey of the hospital and I did definitely told them what happened
Mine situation was probably not the same (still watching the video) but I had a nurse who was so so rude, she made me cry bc I was already in a bad headspace and birthing alone) which she knew. I always regret it not reporting her :(
Girlllll as a nurse hearing your experience with that doctor literally infuriates me. Specially when she said to bring in the Fentanyl. Jonathan is 100% right, if you plan on being in the healthcare field, you can’t just do it for the money. You have to genuinely care for your patients.
10000% agree as a health care worker myself I see a lot of people joining the field for the money which is so sad. If you lack compassion, empathy and patience the medical field is NOT for you!
Yes omg that’s crazy she should’ve asked you first they asked me first and I guess I couldn’t get epidural until I was 6cm it was a bit crazy too but omg Blanca hope you can get pass this
As a nurse at a hospital, we tend to ask All patients about there experience. But especially if we noticed some kind of mistreatment against the patient because I can speak for myself I love what I do. And if someone is only there for a paycheck and isn’t treating you with respect we want them gone or at least spoken too. As a nurse our goal is to make you feel safe and respected the whole time there.
Please open an IR report (incident report) with the hospital. I also had a really really bad labor and delivery experience and almost lost not only my daughter life but mine as well. Although, we are blessed and okay it could have been preventable. I agree with Jonathan sometimes they do need a slap on the wrist so that they don’t rob another mom of her experience in the future. I’m glad you have a very very supportive family & friend surrounding you Blanca. 🤍 congratulations mama!
Yes!! Bc what if she’s been doing it to others too! Especially POC! Plz report her that’s not ok. Ik you wouldn’t want this to happen to another new mom!
I got an epidural with all my 4 kids and recovery was EASY and I haven’t had zero pains. I feel people take alot of pride having a natural birth and don’t get me wrong respect to you but I for sure ain’t going through that awful pain! No wayyyy
I agree! In a medical setting it’s okay to take fentanyl and have an epidural. People get epidurals for neck pain best believe I’m gonna get one while giving birth. I had a 36 hour traumatic labor and I wish they would have given me drugs sooner!
Right this is the 21st century lol that’s why they have these options. But if they wanna suffer then you go girl lol. Not me 😅 tho. Birth is already uncomfortable , why not make it a bit easier . Just my 2 cents
I had a super fast labor I went in at 7cm and in an hour gave birth. I couldn’t get the epidural and girl I don’t know how other women do it it was sooooo painful! I couldn’t help but scream my lungs out! My ob was not happy lol
Same, I went in there saying if I need to get an epidural I'm going to get an epidural. And I'm glad I did because I was induced and 3hrs in they had to pause the medication because baby's heartbeat was low and they didn't start me on it until 4hrs later so all those hours I would've been suffering while making literally no progress 😩
I lasted 30 plus hour and this baby wouldn’t come out. My body was shutting down and I couldn’t stay awake yet I was 9cm I ask for that damn epidural after they broke my water bc there was no way I was able to handle the pain plus I was throwing up, what a mess. Delivery went well afterwards.
Working in the medical field for many years this doctor had horrible bedside manners and needs to be reported. Blanca and Jonathan you guys need to file a complaint against her, it’s not fair the way she treated you and who knows if she was being racist or discriminative against you guys. Whatever it was she needs to be reported so that she’s held accountable for her actions. I’ve worked with many doctors and you see so many things. Some doctors can be the best and others make you question why they’re in the medical field if they act a certain way. Even if she did apologize to you guys she does need to be reported and have a complaint filed against her. Trust me, this will let her know that she can’t be acting this way. I really hope you guys do. If you need assistance with filing a complaint I can help you guys too. It seems that even the nurses and other medical staff noticed this about her too. Please file a complaint, it will help many women in the future so that they don’t go through a similar experience or even worse. Doctors are people just like you and I and as that there’s going to be good and bad ones but as a doctor they need to have a good reputation. They should never make you feel bad and should never make you feel like they’re better than you or anyone. I’m sorry you had to deal with a doctor like this but Congratulations on your beautiful baby girl Belen 🩷 she is perfect and so adorable! Dios los bendiga a todos siempre 🙏🏽🫶🏽
I was just going to comment this. L&D nurse here and it sounds like the doctor might have already had a reputation and the nurses tried their best to advocate for her. She should report her experience with that doctor to the department manager.
I highly encourage you to voice your experience to the hospital. There is research that shows provider racial bias in pain assessment and treatment recommendations. In other words, research shows that providers assume women of color have a “higher pain tolerance” and typically get bare minimum treatment. So sorry you experienced this.
Omg Blanca, you really need to report that doctor. Most likely she does it all the time, and the nurses know but cannot say anything because of work etiquette. I know cause I'm a nurse. We know good and bad doctors and wish I could tell my patients about the bad ones. Here in TX they send a survey after hospital stay, idk if it's like that in all states, but definitely say it in the survey if you get one. But I am happy for you guys. Congratulations on the new edition to the family. Report her!
that’s crazy! my husband & I watched your labor video & we even thought the vibe was off & something wasn’t sitting right we just sensed it so hearing this I can’t even imagine how you felt in that room! thank god you’re okay and baby is too! 🤍🫶
Bed side manners are sooo important from doctors and ESPECIALLY for labor and delivery. It’s already so vulnerable and painful. Also, please don’t let the comments of “just get the epidural, we’re in the 21st century” get to you. I’ve had both and my natural delivery was so much more intuitive and the healing was 100% better.
I had an epidural due to having an emergency C-section and I agreee with you. If I could do it all over again I’d do anything not to get an epidural. epidurals shouldn’t be pushed as hard as they are
Felt this 10000% once you tell yourself “ I can’t do this anymore” it’s over ! Your mind/brain is SO POWERFUL. So actually I told myself myself those words the last 2/3 hours of my labor & delivery and I’ve never felt so negative & tired in my life !!
A Karen is someone who complains over ridiculous things! You are not being a Karen for sticking up for yourself for, like you said, your birth experience! You can’t have a bad day when you are a doctor and peoples lives are on the line! Stick up for yourselves so nobody else goes through this. PS. Congratulations on baby Belen, she’s beautiful and reminds me so much of my baby.
Hijo de la chingaaaaaa!! It sounds like she didn’t want to be on camera because she doesn’t know what she’s doing. Makes me so mad. You guys are troopers for getting through that. So happy baby girl is safe and sound. God bless.
She only apologized cause she was scared of you guys reporting her and you guys should most definitely report it because nobody else deserves to experience the same situation 💔
I am so sorry you guys went through that. I am currently in medical school to become a doctor and my biggest motivation was to serve the Latino community. My mother, being from Ecuador was always treated less than during her medical visits. Just know there is a generation of Latino/a doctors wanting to make a change
My delivery doctor was so gentle. When she first came in the room to introduce herself she kneeled down to be at my eye level 😭 so thankful for her and all the very sweet nurses that were there that day 🫶
I think all of us who have had unmedicated births can completely understand your pain. I’ve had 2 unmediated births and they were HARD those contractions are no joke 😢 and when you were explaining how you kept moving your head from side to side I was laughing but I felt your pain!! You weren’t being dramatic or “doing too much”. You’re literally giving birth it’s a pain like no other. Im so sorry your doctor was awful and insensitive but gracias a Dios que Belen nació bien and she’s so beautiful!!! Congratulations!! ❤
Yes girl I did it 3 times and the pain is no joke you literally bear that pain head on it’s excruciating yes but worth it bc it doesn’t last forever but still each birth & woman is different but kuddos to both of yall 2 for being so so strong ❤️
Ive never heard anyone say they had a rough recovery after getting the epidural i dont think its the epidural but who knows i had my daughter without it and my 2 sons with the epidural and recovery was the same with the epidural i actually got to enjoy seeing my sons being born without having to worry about the pain
Recovery after having 2 epidurals from my experience wasn’t hard or bad. The first the epidural did take a bit to wear off and I tore inside and out second degree tears but that had nothing to do with the epidural. The second I was up and recovered so quick and meeting all the requirements early and I didn’t tear so ig it depends on if you tear or not honestly. But epidural had no impact on my recovery really
It’s not about being a “Karen” it’s about standing up for yourself. This is your health care, it’s super important! And not only standing up for yourself but other that can be prevented from having this exact experience. There is a time and a place for everything, this is the time to BE A KAREN!
Blanca, you’re a bad ass for giving birth unmedicated! I’ve had 2 epidurals and both of my recoveries have been smooth. I don’t have any back pain and my kids are 4 and 14 months now. I honestly think we have genetics to thank for our experiences with birth and different medications. Every body is different, literally.
I so admire you guys. Jonathan you knew not to start a confrontation in middle of labor because your wife did not need an extra burden & Blanca you are truly a fighter and have such a good heart. But please, if you can, file a report. Nobody deserves to go through a similar scenario. I couldn’t help but cry hearing your experience, especially knowing the facts Jonathan shared about labor mortality.
I had a doctor check my cervix so rough, I cried! And she snatched her gloves all aggressively, and was like “I’m not doing this!” And walked out. And it did not hurt as much when someone else checked! I don’t understand when they come in with bad energy
So sorry you went through that. This was literally one of my biggest fears with going unmedicated. But I never hear anyone talk about the aftermath of stitching after birth.
As a Hispanic working in the medical field this was NOTHING shocking to me sadly😢 I’m so sorry that Dr took your spark away during your most vulnerable time! WHEN YOU KNOW YOU KNOW that the vibes are off, never be scared to ask for what is right! (Of course it was hard durning that time) but for future reference 😊🫶🏼💕💕
Belen may be catfishing you lol my second boy was so calm as a baby always smiling so chill in general pero ahora he’s a tornado! But he brings so much joy to our family we always joke how boring our lives would be without him!
100000% agree jajaja my second WAS perfectly calm Now he Is perfectly tremendo. 🤦🏽♀️ But well said, the joy obthe family but our hands aré full with him he Is WILD
OH MEEE WITH MY SECOND BABY LMFAO chill baby she was so independent but now that she is about to be two BRO she is my little wild child, tremenda affff, loud, silly
The situation you talked about is what I live, im by myself with my 2 under 2 and my husband always at work . I appreciate his help so much when he’s home but it’s so hard I wish I had a village I only have one friend 😕 you guys are so blessed 🫶🏽
Blanca, I am so sorry for your experience. This is why it is so important for us to encourage and support our raza in getting their education so we can make a difference in the medical field & provide services to our gente. WE have to break barriers and be in these spaces to provide a better experience to our community. 👊🏽
What? Lol, I don't see how racism played a role in this delivery. Seems like the doctor was just overall shitty. She was not just rude to them, but the entire staff time as well.
I’m so sorry for your experience Blanca. Thank you for sharing! I would 100% encourage you to file a grievance. The reality is that things won’t change until there’s a record of this doctors mistreatment to patients. I don’t want to imagine any new moms having to experience exactly what you did. Sending you and your newborn a big hug ❤
Blanca I’m so sorry you went through that! Please be the voice for other mothers. Especially the ones that are afraid to speak please open a report. Que diosito te bendiga siempre 🙏🏼❤️
I truly believe babies can sense everything when their in the womb. If the mom is relaxed,happy, and loved, the baby will be calm. Belén is precious and the way you two look at her is so cute 🥰 she definitely will have Jonathan wrapped around her little finger. I have had 2 un medicated births and it’s no joke. I also went full exorcist mode but I could care less what people thought. The entire l&d department could hear my screams 😅I feel like doctors are used to most moms getting epidurals that they forget to be gentle when you don’t and that’s why she was so rough
Your baby is beautiful and I'm sorry. You went through all that bit poor animals have feelings too. They don't deserve a doctors like that either. She just needs to get a desk job. Love you guys.❤
That sounds very traumatizing, I would have been reporting her before even leaving the hospital and i hope you do so. I would not want another expecting momma to go through that or possibly even worse, Please think about other women that will have her as a DR for their labor. I encourage you to report it. Thanks for sharing! wishing you a fast recovery
I understand not wanting to be a Karen but coming from a mom who lost her baby I did not sleep until I sent a letter to the head quarters of the hospital. Some nurses/doctors have no consideration. My baby was sick but I feel like she caused her death sooner. The last day she was her charge nurse and she did not let me touch her get near her do nothing with my baby she was doing all her cares for her. My baby passed on her care. I came home with memory box rather than my child she still tried hugging me and I pushed her away and told her you didn’t even let me spend time with her I dreamt of it everyday until I sent out a letter about my traumatic experience it didn’t bring my daughter back but I was able to speak for her speak about having more compassion for mothers who want nothing but to be near their child knowing they might loose them.
I am so sorry for your loss. I can’t even imagine the pain you were in and that never really goes away. I pray God continues to give you strength and healing. Hopefully with the letter you sent, they made a change because this should be such an enjoyable moment and many doctors/nurses rob that from mothers. May God continue to heal you, bless you, love you where you can feel his presence, rest and peace that surpasses all understanding. 🤍
@@mariaygonzalez83 thank you so much for your message ❤️ I hope my letter made her change, hopefully gives other NICU moms a better experience than mine. January hit 1 year it still feels as if it was yesterday but thank you for your message I really appreciate it.
i had an epidural for both my pregnancies & i didn’t feel when they put in the epidural & my recovery was so smooth i was walking after an 1hr when the numbing went down, & i didn’t experience no pain after whatsoever! 😊
Jonathan biting his lips, asking to himself ," do I go get the doctor or the priest, is this labor or exorcist.. yeah now it's funny but at the moment pain are really something.. congrats for babygirl and muchos muchos blessing. Never had an epi and yes I think is better recovery, mom is right .👍🙏🥰💐
You should take legal action love… this is so saddening to hear and unfortunately this is way too common, especially because folks think they don’t have options/go in uninformed about their birthing rights. I am a traditional birth keeper and student home birth midwife and this is literally why… the system is so fucked and to know that this was your experience truly saddens me. I wish you deep and your family deep healing and know that in the future you have the right to request another doctor AND listen to your body 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 much much love to you.
💯!!!! These drs need to be held accountable. I had a bad experience at a smaller ER in December of 2022 and I definitely looked into legal action because I have long term side effects.
Thank you for sharing this!! I have 3 girls and i can say my second daughter was the easiest to take care of. She was so calm hardly cried, and 12 years later continues to be chill. Good luck and God Bless! Also you co sleep! Most of the world, mother cosleep. The USA is the greatest promoter of babies sleeping on their own and yet have the hightest mortality infant deaths compared to co sleeping countries!
Im so sorry you went thru that.. I had a similar experience… for my birth I only had one nurse and she was so rude, and the doctor did not come in and check on me at all, she wasn’t even at the hospital.. so the nurse was the only one checking me and was so rude about it like your experience & I didn’t have supportive people with me that it led me to just giving up because of my negative mindset and having a c-section. To this day I regret it so much because I know I could’ve went natural but the nurse was putting me in such a bad headspace that I gave up… we deserve better experiences because this is the most important/vulnerable times of our life’s.. I’m glad you are healing very good and that baby girl is here and healthy! Congratulations to you and Jonathon! 🥺🥰 Franco is such an amazing big brother already! Love you guys🫶🏽🫶🏽🫶🏽
All your feelings are completely valid I sometimes feel like doctors can try to degrade you just because you’re in their eyes considered a “young mom”. Similar situation happened with me and I felt because I was young the doctor thought she could do what she wanted with me but once you start advocating for yourself then it shocks them! I would definitely voice the experience this could potentially help future mommas. Congratulations to you both she’s beautiful 💕💕
I’m very blessed that both of my medicated births were so smooth and no complications afterwards my recovery was smooth and easy it really all depends on our body’s not all of us are built the same. Don’t be discouraged about getting epidurals.
It’s crazy you go treated like that. I heard a myth that men doctors are better than woman doctors when in come to deliveries. I had a guy doctor for my second delivery vbac and he did amazing! Talk thru pushing and even gave me props for my delivery since it was my first vaginal. So sorry! Congratulations to your little family for the new baby! ❤
I’ve always heard male OBGYN doctors treat you more gently than female doctors. They are more empathetic with the pain and discomfort you’re experiencing.
As a person of color, YOU NEED TO REPORT!! She was a freaking doctor!! They go to school for yearssss for their career! She knew everything she was doing and knew what she was SUPPOSED to do! Please report girl!!
God bless your beautiful family Currently on almost two months with a 1 and half month old and a 2 year old With no village 💔 just my partner who works 3am -2pm Feels so lonely but thinking positive and cherishing all this moment with my babies👦🏽👦🏽 Mom guilt is real never knew what it would be like until the moment I came home First month was rough but getting back into routine helps a lot I admire you guys so much ❤️❤️ Wishing you guys a healthy postpartum 🫶🏼
i feel you! my contraction’s took over my soul, i was possessed 😂 i was screaming and moving my head like you lol! you’re feelings are so valid! i had second had embarrassment on myself and still do years later 😂😭😅
Blanca!!🥺 The same happened to me! It is very traumatizing! Your doctor apologized but my doctor didn’t🥺 These were her words because I was crying when she was sowing up my 3rd degree tear… “This is why you get the epidural, to not feel pain after birth”😭 My heart literally shattered to hear that🥺
No ma’am my labor and delivery nurses were so nice and helpful. She always made sure to reassure me when it came to the epidural they let me know if I needed it to get it I didn’t have to. I think there’s doctors that take advantage of their title and are just mean and want to make you feel bad. Epidural has side effects to it you’re not obligated to get it!
Even with the epidural I had the worse contractions.. also FYI Jonathon, no woman during birth is worried about anyone judging them 😂 we don’t care about anything but the pain and the baby during that time.
One thing my professor taught me when i was doing medical assisting is when doctor's dont allow filming its because they dont want to be caught being liable if something goes wrong. And she said the pattern she saw the most is doctor's who dont allow it were ones who either had issues in the past like they way the handle the medical part for a patient or they have shitty attitudes with their patients and staff.
Omg Blanca you got lucky to with your new born not crying my baby boy was the same when he was a new born I had to wake him up every 3 hours to feed him you get that rest mommas congratulations on your baby girl 🥰💖
Giiiiirl I also gave birth at the same place you did of my son and when you started talking about the Dr. I have a feeling I know what doctor it was! I had a similar experience with a Dr at that same hospital! At my checkups I had my Dr set and she was great but unfortunately when I gave birth she wasn’t the scheduled Dr for the labor ☹️ Same thing happened to me during labor my nurse delivered my baby and Dr. just came to stitch me up and it was absolutely horrible I felt every needle poke 😭 and don’t get me started on my postpartum appointment she did not check my stitches or anything 😭 such a careless Dr and to this day I regret not have filed a complaint ☹️
I’ve never had kids but I cry when I get horrible cramps. Everyone’s experience is different every delivery is different. You only know your pain tolerance and how you deal with it. Don’t be embarrassed of how you handled your pain girl. You did the damm thing. Congratulations on your new blessings 🤍
I had an epidural... Best decison ever for during labor and postartum recovery was great. But i will not lie! I 100% have back pain.. has some during pregnancy since i am super tiny but damn. These back pains now will shoot randomly thru my back and leg and they definitely have made me cry. Will i gwt another epidural if i EVER have another baby. Yes yes i definitely will lol
Girl!!! I find it so different how they let you get up and be active in your labor even though your water broke 😅 My water broke and they told me to not even sit up because I was prone to infection since my water broke.
100% you guys should speak up about this. Something could’ve happened to your baby by saying ok I won’t let you push if you don’t let me check you. You guys are blessed with a platform and have a voice. I can’t imagine how she’s treated people that don’t speak up and don’t have a voice 😞
My husband actually delivered three of my kids, my doctors have always been so lovely and caring they always allow my husband to pull the baby out. It’s an amazing experience.💗
I watch you guys all the time and never comment, but I want to say that please advocate for us. You both have the platforms to get these issues known and for other parents to know it's okay to speak up.❤
That is so scary and after this story I would still record secretly even if told not to for my safety and my baby safety. Some doctors really don’t have bedside manners and it’s so sad
Hi! My first labor was a lot like this , the resident dr almost pulled out my uterus 💔 same way they made you deliver placenta was the same way they did to me & the dr started tugging on my placenta 😭.. From experience for all of the mommies who didn’t speak up, you have the platform pls pls speak up! wishing you & your little family blessings! you’re a very strong mommy🫶🏻
Blanca, I had my 9lb 14oz babygirl the day after you 3/11. I had epidural and suffered in sooo much pain still. Epidural does not mean you don't feel anything. If i wasn't sleeping I was crying girl.
Hi guys !!! 😁 Girl you talking about the whole doctor situation got me so mad because I also experienced the same with my birth. You literary want to cuss them out or fight them 😂I feel like doctors should be more understanding and be a little more gentle, we already are going thru a traumatic experience we don't need to be arguing with them. Hopefully you guys can report that because that is not ok. But I'm glad baby girl is here healthy and that you got thru it, muchas felicidades a los dos ! your baby girl is so beautiful ! 💕💕
Girl i’ve had my 2 babys at university hospital and thank god i didn’t have to experience that with that doctor but thankfully you and baby are doing well🥺
I added my husbands last name while I was going through AOS and everything went well! So all my kids and I have the same name. But on the second thing… I think you should definitely open an incident report !
I’m sorry you guys had to go through this! This makes anyone feel more discouraged to go through pregnancy because you’re stuck thinking what if we get stuck with a bad doctor 💔 Baby Belen is so adorable 🥹🥹🥹 I love you guys always
Btw the girl who asked about your experience is probably a patient coordinator and their role is to collect patient experience data to submit/inform to corporate!
Blanca I was so furious hearing that the doctor ruined your delivery. Please take that apology lightly and send a letter or an email or the audio you have into the board or who ever is in charge of her. Imagine if this was your first experience you would be so traumatized report her to be a voice for other girls who can be their first experience
I hope Blanca pushes the people pleaser in her character aside and allow the mama bear to roar and file a complaint against this dr. For her to be so cold, rough and callous took away from such a beautiful experience. Belen is absolutely adorable 😍 ❤️
My husband describes my labor as an exorcism jajaja. No shame girl, you gotta do what you gotta do and WE DID THAT! ❤ I definitely laugh about it now though. 😂 I'm so sorry you had that experience with your doctor, nurses are truly saints.
I’m sorry you went through all of that 😢 labor is painful and to top it off tearing is too. And with a bad doctor I couldn’t imagine how you were feeling. I hope you reach out to the hospital and let them know. That way other women have good labors with that doctor. 💕 ps baby Belen is gorgeous, she is Franco’s twin.
I remember my experience with my daughter who is 2 and it was terrible. The dr forced the placenta out and exactly what you were explaining with her stitching you up and being forceful happened with my first birth. I had an epidural and felt everything after baby came out. I just remember staring at my daughter while they were weighing her and cleaning her up and I was screaming in pain bc she stuck her whole forearm up me and grabbed the placenta all while pushing down on my stomach so hard and then being rough stitching me up. I hated it. With my second birth with my 1 yr old it was easy I pushed the placenta myself and didn’t tear. The only thing that sucked was my bad reaction to the epidural when my blood pressure dropped dangerously low.
The saying about epidural is definitely true. My back is always hurting now. But I also had a bad experience with my 2nd baby I had 5 months ago. The anesthesiologist came in to administer. I still remember to this day she just had this cocky confident attitude and she said "oh I've made the other girls feel good in 20 minutes you'll be feeling great here too". As soon as she said it I knew deep down something was going to come out of her cockiness. After like 30-40 minutes I was still in soo much pain because it didn't work. And so I had to wait on a second try because the charge anesthesiologist had to correct the girl in the other rooms epidural too. I waited forever and I wasn't having that long of breaks in between contractions so the pain sucked. He came in and I'm screaming and crying and through it I remember him saying "this is the third time in my career I've seen a spine like this". To this day Idk what he meant. His worked for maybe 20 minutes. After that it stopped working and shortly after that it was go time so I got to feel everything! So I'm just a little mad that I got that epidural for no reason and now I just have to deal with back pain
Thank you for sharing your story girl 🫶🏽 this is super powerful, and eye opening. I am not a mother yet, but I can relate with how you felt especially with the poor treatment you received from the doctor. As Jonathan mentioned, it is important to keep doctors and anyone in power accountable for their mistakes, and for any negligence they perpetuate against others. I do think we need to bring more awareness of this issue because historically women of Color are the ones being affected the most by negligent and racist doctors. I love y’all, and thank you once again for sharing your story. ✨💕
So sorry that you had to experience with this doctor. I've always said that women doctors have less compassion than men doctors. Men doctors don't know the extent of pain and discomfort women go through, that just makes them so compassionate. On another note, i applaud your strength Blanca for going through natural birth. Protecting your body and baby from all medications. Tienes una niña tan hermosa 💕
girl I am so sorry this happened to you, I experienced the same thing with my first born my doctor broke my water without even telling me he just came in and went in there and popped it didn’t guide me through it or nothing, my nurse was so nice that she told him that I did not want him close to me other than when he’s going to deliver my baby I feel you 100% ❤️ you’re so strong! Till this day I am so thankful for my nurse that was with me through everything!
Now I know why I cried when I saw your delivery video and genuinely cried for you and brought back bad memories of my first delivery. I agree and maybe you should write a letter to her directly and tell her how you feel. If anything she can feel remorse for how she behaved and perhaps reflect on herself as a human being and being more tactful with future patients. She is human too and probably had a bad day and probably had personal issues herself, of course it does not excuses her but happens. I honestly feel that with her coming to Jonathan; she felt remorseful but you also need closure. It won’t bring back what you she stole from you but at least it will help you move on from this experience and not hold off on having babies in the future and because you endure so much, GOD is giving you the perfect baby so that you can have future babies. Keep up the GREAT work and hang in there! Belen is such a beautiful name! 😊
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Hi Blanca and Jonathan!!! Nurse here 🙋🏻♀️ and I encourage you both to please contact compliance office at hospital and submit a grievance, you will make a difference for others to come! Providers and HC workers are responsible for their role in their job & must be provided dignity respect compassion! Please please do it!!!!
Thank you for providing the correct terminology and process for all of us that don't know we have the right to do this.
Blanca. Please contact your hospitals Patient Relations department and tell them about this. You most likely are not the only one to feel this way. And hopefully you can stop someone else from having to go through this as well.
Yes! 100% agree!
All medical providers need to lead with patience, empathy, and cultural humility.
Especially an OBGYN provider!! Shame on her. She should have explained what she was doing.. don’t be afraid to speak up and advocate for yourself. You’re the patient. It doesn’t matter if they are the “doctor.” You are human and everything you feel/ experience is valid. Shoutout to the nurses for advocating and protecting you from experiencing more trauma/harm.
Please report her. If she wasn’t in the right headspace, she shouldn’t have delivered your baby. She should have leaned on another doctor on the team to step in.
@jocelynmartinez692 I agree with you because I had something happened to me like that and I didn't end up saying anything but my sister did and on my survey of the hospital and I did definitely told them what happened
Mine situation was probably not the same (still watching the video) but I had a nurse who was so so rude, she made me cry bc I was already in a bad headspace and birthing alone) which she knew. I always regret it not reporting her :(
She only apologized because she got scared yall would report her. REPORT her, what she did is not ok!
This I feel like she does this to everyone
I was thinking the same thing or I wonder if she realized they are influencers and have a platform
Girlllll as a nurse hearing your experience with that doctor literally infuriates me. Specially when she said to bring in the Fentanyl. Jonathan is 100% right, if you plan on being in the healthcare field, you can’t just do it for the money. You have to genuinely care for your patients.
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I agree!!!
10000% agree as a health care worker myself I see a lot of people joining the field for the money which is so sad. If you lack compassion, empathy and patience the medical field is NOT for you!
Yes omg that’s crazy she should’ve asked you first they asked me first and I guess I couldn’t get epidural until I was 6cm it was a bit crazy too but omg Blanca hope you can get pass this
I was given 3 doses of fentyal while in labor😢
As a nurse at a hospital, we tend to ask All patients about there experience. But especially if we noticed some kind of mistreatment against the patient because I can speak for myself I love what I do. And if someone is only there for a paycheck and isn’t treating you with respect we want them gone or at least spoken too. As a nurse our goal is to make you feel safe and respected the whole time there.
Please open an IR report (incident report) with the hospital. I also had a really really bad labor and delivery experience and almost lost not only my daughter life but mine as well. Although, we are blessed and okay it could have been preventable. I agree with Jonathan sometimes they do need a slap on the wrist so that they don’t rob another mom of her experience in the future.
I’m glad you have a very very supportive family & friend surrounding you Blanca. 🤍 congratulations mama!
Yes!! Bc what if she’s been doing it to others too! Especially POC! Plz report her that’s not ok. Ik you wouldn’t want this to happen to another new mom!
I totally agree blanca needs to open a report and not just let this go.
Blanca, I appreciate you for sharing the good and the bad especially for those who haven’t had kids yet. You did amazing girl! Belen is BEAUTIFUL
I got an epidural with all my 4 kids and recovery was EASY and I haven’t had zero pains. I feel people take alot of pride having a natural birth and don’t get me wrong respect to you but I for sure ain’t going through that awful pain! No wayyyy
I agree! In a medical setting it’s okay to take fentanyl and have an epidural. People get epidurals for neck pain best believe I’m gonna get one while giving birth. I had a 36 hour traumatic labor and I wish they would have given me drugs sooner!
Right this is the 21st century lol that’s why they have these options. But if they wanna suffer then you go girl lol. Not me 😅 tho. Birth is already uncomfortable , why not make it a bit easier . Just my 2 cents
I had a super fast labor I went in at 7cm and in an hour gave birth. I couldn’t get the epidural and girl I don’t know how other women do it it was sooooo painful! I couldn’t help but scream my lungs out! My ob was not happy lol
Same, I went in there saying if I need to get an epidural I'm going to get an epidural. And I'm glad I did because I was induced and 3hrs in they had to pause the medication because baby's heartbeat was low and they didn't start me on it until 4hrs later so all those hours I would've been suffering while making literally no progress 😩
I lasted 30 plus hour and this baby wouldn’t come out. My body was shutting down and I couldn’t stay awake yet I was 9cm I ask for that damn epidural after they broke my water bc there was no way I was able to handle the pain plus I was throwing up, what a mess. Delivery went well afterwards.
The way Blanca just makes motherhood and influencing look so graceful 🥹😭💖
Working in the medical field for many years this doctor had horrible bedside manners and needs to be reported. Blanca and Jonathan you guys need to file a complaint against her, it’s not fair the way she treated you and who knows if she was being racist or discriminative against you guys. Whatever it was she needs to be reported so that she’s held accountable for her actions. I’ve worked with many doctors and you see so many things. Some doctors can be the best and others make you question why they’re in the medical field if they act a certain way. Even if she did apologize to you guys she does need to be reported and have a complaint filed against her. Trust me, this will let her know that she can’t be acting this way. I really hope you guys do. If you need assistance with filing a complaint I can help you guys too. It seems that even the nurses and other medical staff noticed this about her too. Please file a complaint, it will help many women in the future so that they don’t go through a similar experience or even worse. Doctors are people just like you and I and as that there’s going to be good and bad ones but as a doctor they need to have a good reputation. They should never make you feel bad and should never make you feel like they’re better than you or anyone.
I’m sorry you had to deal with a doctor like this but Congratulations on your beautiful baby girl Belen 🩷 she is perfect and so adorable! Dios los bendiga a todos siempre 🙏🏽🫶🏽
As a Mexican woman I was not taught to advocate for myself. No molestes a la gente they always say. We need to overcome that
“Calladita te ves más bonita” always heard that too. Very true
As a labor and delivery nurse I’m so sorry this happened to you 🥲
Wishing a speedy recovery ❤️🩹
I was just going to comment this. L&D nurse here and it sounds like the doctor might have already had a reputation and the nurses tried their best to advocate for her. She should report her experience with that doctor to the department manager.
I highly encourage you to voice your experience to the hospital. There is research that shows provider racial bias in pain assessment and treatment recommendations. In other words, research shows that providers assume women of color have a “higher pain tolerance” and typically get bare minimum treatment. So sorry you experienced this.
Omg Blanca, you really need to report that doctor. Most likely she does it all the time, and the nurses know but cannot say anything because of work etiquette. I know cause I'm a nurse. We know good and bad doctors and wish I could tell my patients about the bad ones. Here in TX they send a survey after hospital stay, idk if it's like that in all states, but definitely say it in the survey if you get one. But I am happy for you guys. Congratulations on the new edition to the family. Report her!
that’s crazy! my husband & I watched your labor video & we even thought the vibe was off & something wasn’t sitting right we just sensed it so hearing this I can’t even imagine how you felt in that room! thank god you’re okay and baby is too! 🤍🫶
Bed side manners are sooo important from doctors and ESPECIALLY for labor and delivery. It’s already so vulnerable and painful.
Also, please don’t let the comments of “just get the epidural, we’re in the 21st century” get to you. I’ve had both and my natural delivery was so much more intuitive and the healing was 100% better.
I had an epidural due to having an emergency C-section and I agreee with you. If I could do it all over again I’d do anything not to get an epidural. epidurals shouldn’t be pushed as hard as they are
Felt this 10000% once you tell yourself “ I can’t do this anymore” it’s over ! Your mind/brain is SO POWERFUL. So actually I told myself myself those words the last 2/3 hours of my labor & delivery and I’ve never felt so negative & tired in my life !!
AND having a bad team/staff around makes It worst
💯 accurate I felt the same way💪
A Karen is someone who complains over ridiculous things! You are not being a Karen for sticking up for yourself for, like you said, your birth experience! You can’t have a bad day when you are a doctor and peoples lives are on the line! Stick up for yourselves so nobody else goes through this.
PS. Congratulations on baby Belen, she’s beautiful and reminds me so much of my baby.
But they didn't say anything wish they would had spoken up
Hijo de la chingaaaaaa!! It sounds like she didn’t want to be on camera because she doesn’t know what she’s doing. Makes me so mad. You guys are troopers for getting through that. So happy baby girl is safe and sound. God bless.
I hope you put in a complaint so no one else has to go thru this with that Dr. what a horrible Dr. ! Sorry you had to go thru that 😢🤬
She only apologized cause she was scared of you guys reporting her and you guys should most definitely report it because nobody else deserves to experience the same situation 💔
I am so sorry you guys went through that. I am currently in medical school to become a doctor and my biggest motivation was to serve the Latino community. My mother, being from Ecuador was always treated less than during her medical visits. Just know there is a generation of Latino/a doctors wanting to make a change
My delivery doctor was so gentle. When she first came in the room to introduce herself she kneeled down to be at my eye level 😭 so thankful for her and all the very sweet nurses that were there that day 🫶
Okay ? …No need to rub it in
I think all of us who have had unmedicated births can completely understand your pain. I’ve had 2 unmediated births and they were HARD those contractions are no joke 😢 and when you were explaining how you kept moving your head from side to side I was laughing but I felt your pain!! You weren’t being dramatic or “doing too much”. You’re literally giving birth it’s a pain like no other. Im so sorry your doctor was awful and insensitive but gracias a Dios que Belen nació bien and she’s so beautiful!!! Congratulations!! ❤
Yes girl I did it 3 times and the pain is no joke you literally bear that pain head on it’s excruciating yes but worth it bc it doesn’t last forever but still each birth & woman is different but kuddos to both of yall 2 for being so so strong ❤️
Ive never heard anyone say they had a rough recovery after getting the epidural i dont think its the epidural but who knows i had my daughter without it and my 2 sons with the epidural and recovery was the same with the epidural i actually got to enjoy seeing my sons being born without having to worry about the pain
Recovery after having 2 epidurals from my experience wasn’t hard or bad. The first the epidural did take a bit to wear off and I tore inside and out second degree tears but that had nothing to do with the epidural. The second I was up and recovered so quick and meeting all the requirements early and I didn’t tear so ig it depends on if you tear or not honestly. But epidural had no impact on my recovery really
I had the epidural and I had a great recovery
It’s not about being a “Karen” it’s about standing up for yourself. This is your health care, it’s super important! And not only standing up for yourself but other that can be prevented from having this exact experience. There is a time and a place for everything, this is the time to BE A KAREN!
I’m so sorry you went through this, thats literally a person who hates her job. I’m glad you are doing so much better ❤️
Blanca, you’re a bad ass for giving birth unmedicated! I’ve had 2 epidurals and both of my recoveries have been smooth. I don’t have any back pain and my kids are 4 and 14 months now. I honestly think we have genetics to thank for our experiences with birth and different medications. Every body is different, literally.
I so admire you guys. Jonathan you knew not to start a confrontation in middle of labor because your wife did not need an extra burden & Blanca you are truly a fighter and have such a good heart.
But please, if you can, file a report. Nobody deserves to go through a similar scenario.
I couldn’t help but cry hearing your experience, especially knowing the facts Jonathan shared about labor mortality.
Yes! the pain puts you in a negative mindset! No one knows how to describe them unless they go through unmediated births ! Love you 🤍✨
I had a doctor check my cervix so rough, I cried! And she snatched her gloves all aggressively, and was like “I’m not doing this!” And walked out. And it did not hurt as much when someone else checked! I don’t understand when they come in with bad energy
So sorry you went through that. This was literally one of my biggest fears with going unmedicated. But I never hear anyone talk about the aftermath of stitching after birth.
You guys have to put a complaint on that Dr. Save future mommy's from going under her care! She only apologized to keep you from speaking up!
As a Hispanic working in the medical field this was NOTHING shocking to me sadly😢 I’m so sorry that Dr took your spark away during your most vulnerable time! WHEN YOU KNOW YOU KNOW that the vibes are off, never be scared to ask for what is right! (Of course it was hard durning that time) but for future reference 😊🫶🏼💕💕
Belen may be catfishing you lol my second boy was so calm as a baby always smiling so chill in general pero ahora he’s a tornado! But he brings so much joy to our family we always joke how boring our lives would be without him!
100000% agree jajaja my second WAS perfectly calm Now he Is perfectly tremendo. 🤦🏽♀️ But well said, the joy obthe family but our hands aré full with him he Is WILD
Mine is the same!!! 😂😂 he hit me like a damn brick! He was a perfect baby I had no complaints! When he turned 1 years old he went buck wild!!!! 😝
OH MEEE WITH MY SECOND BABY LMFAO chill baby she was so independent but now that she is about to be two BRO she is my little wild child, tremenda affff, loud, silly
The situation you talked about is what I live, im by myself with my 2 under 2 and my husband always at work . I appreciate his help so much when he’s home but it’s so hard I wish I had a village I only have one friend 😕 you guys are so blessed 🫶🏽
Blanca, I am so sorry for your experience. This is why it is so important for us to encourage and support our raza in getting their education so we can make a difference in the medical field & provide services to our gente. WE have to break barriers and be in these spaces to provide a better experience to our community. 👊🏽
What? Lol, I don't see how racism played a role in this delivery. Seems like the doctor was just overall shitty. She was not just rude to them, but the entire staff time as well.
@@allielopez567 listen to the stats that Jonathan shared.
@@allielopez567 listen to the stats Jonathan shared.
listen to the stats Jonathan shares or google maternal disparities specifically for colored women
I’m so sorry for your experience Blanca. Thank you for sharing! I would 100% encourage you to file a grievance. The reality is that things won’t change until there’s a record of this doctors mistreatment to patients. I don’t want to imagine any new moms having to experience exactly what you did. Sending you and your newborn a big hug ❤
Blanca I’m so sorry you went through that! Please be the voice for other mothers. Especially the ones that are afraid to speak please open a report. Que diosito te bendiga siempre 🙏🏼❤️
I truly believe babies can sense everything when their in the womb. If the mom is relaxed,happy, and loved, the baby will be calm. Belén is precious and the way you two look at her is so cute 🥰 she definitely will have Jonathan wrapped around her little finger. I have had 2 un medicated births and it’s no joke. I also went full exorcist mode but I could care less what people thought. The entire l&d department could hear my screams 😅I feel like doctors are used to most moms getting epidurals that they forget to be gentle when you don’t and that’s why she was so rough
Your baby is beautiful and I'm sorry. You went through all that bit poor animals have feelings too. They don't deserve a doctors like that either. She just needs to get a desk job. Love you guys.❤
That sounds very traumatizing, I would have been reporting her before even leaving the hospital and i hope you do so. I would not want another expecting momma to go through that or possibly even worse, Please think about other women that will have her as a DR for their labor. I encourage you to report it.
Thanks for sharing! wishing you a fast recovery
the nurses probably knew how this doctor/provider is & wanted to follow up & make sure your experience was great.
I understand not wanting to be a Karen but coming from a mom who lost her baby I did not sleep until I sent a letter to the head quarters of the hospital. Some nurses/doctors have no consideration. My baby was sick but I feel like she caused her death sooner. The last day she was her charge nurse and she did not let me touch her get near her do nothing with my baby she was doing all her cares for her. My baby passed on her care. I came home with memory box rather than my child she still tried hugging me and I pushed her away and told her you didn’t even let me spend time with her I dreamt of it everyday until I sent out a letter about my traumatic experience it didn’t bring my daughter back but I was able to speak for her speak about having more compassion for mothers who want nothing but to be near their child knowing they might loose them.
I am so sorry for your loss. I can’t even imagine the pain you were in and that never really goes away. I pray God continues to give you strength and healing. Hopefully with the letter you sent, they made a change because this should be such an enjoyable moment and many doctors/nurses rob that from mothers. May God continue to heal you, bless you, love you where you can feel his presence, rest and peace that surpasses all understanding. 🤍
@@mariaygonzalez83 thank you so much for your message ❤️ I hope my letter made her change, hopefully gives other NICU moms a better experience than mine. January hit 1 year it still feels as if it was yesterday but thank you for your message I really appreciate it.
i had an epidural for both my pregnancies & i didn’t feel when they put in the epidural & my recovery was so smooth i was walking after an 1hr when the numbing went down, & i didn’t experience no pain after whatsoever! 😊
Jonathan biting his lips, asking to himself ," do I go get the doctor or the priest, is this labor or exorcist.. yeah now it's funny but at the moment pain are really something.. congrats for babygirl and muchos muchos blessing. Never had an epi and yes I think is better recovery, mom is right .👍🙏🥰💐
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You should take legal action love… this is so saddening to hear and unfortunately this is way too common, especially because folks think they don’t have options/go in uninformed about their birthing rights. I am a traditional birth keeper and student home birth midwife and this is literally why… the system is so fucked and to know that this was your experience truly saddens me. I wish you deep and your family deep healing and know that in the future you have the right to request another doctor AND listen to your body 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 much much love to you.
💯!!!! These drs need to be held accountable. I had a bad experience at a smaller ER in December of 2022 and I definitely looked into legal action because I have long term side effects.
Some people do not deserve to be doctors at all being smart isn’t enough
Thank you for sharing this!! I have 3 girls and i can say my second daughter was the easiest to take care of. She was so calm hardly cried, and 12 years later continues to be chill. Good luck and God Bless! Also you co sleep! Most of the world, mother cosleep. The USA is the greatest promoter of babies sleeping on their own and yet have the hightest mortality infant deaths compared to co sleeping countries!
Im so sorry you went thru that.. I had a similar experience… for my birth I only had one nurse and she was so rude, and the doctor did not come in and check on me at all, she wasn’t even at the hospital.. so the nurse was the only one checking me and was so rude about it like your experience & I didn’t have supportive people with me that it led me to just giving up because of my negative mindset and having a c-section. To this day I regret it so much because I know I could’ve went natural but the nurse was putting me in such a bad headspace that I gave up… we deserve better experiences because this is the most important/vulnerable times of our life’s.. I’m glad you are healing very good and that baby girl is here and healthy! Congratulations to you and Jonathon! 🥺🥰 Franco is such an amazing big brother already! Love you guys🫶🏽🫶🏽🫶🏽
This is why it’s so important to advocate for yourself !!
All your feelings are completely valid I sometimes feel like doctors can try to degrade you just because you’re in their eyes considered a “young mom”. Similar situation happened with me and I felt because I was young the doctor thought she could do what she wanted with me but once you start advocating for yourself then it shocks them! I would definitely voice the experience this could potentially help future mommas.
Congratulations to you both she’s beautiful 💕💕
I’m very blessed that both of my medicated births were so smooth and no complications afterwards my recovery was smooth and easy it really all depends on our body’s not all of us are built the same. Don’t be discouraged about getting epidurals.
It’s crazy you go treated like that. I heard a myth that men doctors are better than woman doctors when in come to deliveries. I had a guy doctor for my second delivery vbac and he did amazing! Talk thru pushing and even gave me props for my delivery since it was my first vaginal. So sorry! Congratulations to your little family for the new baby! ❤
I’ve always heard male OBGYN doctors treat you more gently than female doctors. They are more empathetic with the pain and discomfort you’re experiencing.
As a person of color, YOU NEED TO REPORT!! She was a freaking doctor!! They go to school for yearssss for their career! She knew everything she was doing and knew what she was SUPPOSED to do! Please report girl!!
God bless your beautiful family
Currently on almost two months with a 1 and half month old and a 2 year old
With no village 💔 just my partner who works 3am -2pm
Feels so lonely but thinking positive and cherishing all this moment with my babies👦🏽👦🏽
Mom guilt is real never knew what it would be like until the moment I came home
First month was rough but getting back into routine helps a lot
I admire you guys so much ❤️❤️
Wishing you guys a healthy postpartum 🫶🏼
i feel you! my contraction’s took over my soul, i was possessed 😂 i was screaming and moving my head like you lol! you’re feelings are so valid! i had second had embarrassment on myself and still do years later 😂😭😅
Blanca!!🥺 The same happened to me! It is very traumatizing! Your doctor apologized but my doctor didn’t🥺 These were her words because I was crying when she was sowing up my 3rd degree tear… “This is why you get the epidural, to not feel pain after birth”😭 My heart literally shattered to hear that🥺
What an awful thing to say! Ugh I’m so sorry. It was your decision and it was not your job to make theirs easier!
No ma’am my labor and delivery nurses were so nice and helpful. She always made sure to reassure me when it came to the epidural they let me know if I needed it to get it I didn’t have to. I think there’s doctors that take advantage of their title and are just mean and want to make you feel bad. Epidural has side effects to it you’re not obligated to get it!
Even with the epidural I had the worse contractions.. also FYI Jonathon, no woman during birth is worried about anyone judging them 😂 we don’t care about anything but the pain and the baby during that time.
Yes strongly agree on this! U just want that baby out!
One thing my professor taught me when i was doing medical assisting is when doctor's dont allow filming its because they dont want to be caught being liable if something goes wrong. And she said the pattern she saw the most is doctor's who dont allow it were ones who either had issues in the past like they way the handle the medical part for a patient or they have shitty attitudes with their patients and staff.
Omg Blanca you got lucky to with your new born not crying my baby boy was the same when he was a new born I had to wake him up every 3 hours to feed him you get that rest mommas congratulations on your baby girl 🥰💖
Giiiiirl I also gave birth at the same place you did of my son and when you started talking about the Dr. I have a feeling I know what doctor it was! I had a similar experience with a Dr at that same hospital! At my checkups I had my Dr set and she was great but unfortunately when I gave birth she wasn’t the scheduled Dr for the labor ☹️ Same thing happened to me during labor my nurse delivered my baby and Dr. just came to stitch me up and it was absolutely horrible I felt every needle poke 😭 and don’t get me started on my postpartum appointment she did not check my stitches or anything 😭 such a careless Dr and to this day I regret not have filed a complaint ☹️
I’m sorry you went through this trauma Blanca!!! You are a very strong woman ❤ enjoy your princess 🎀 and being a mother of two ❤
I’ve never had kids but I cry when I get horrible cramps. Everyone’s experience is different every delivery is different. You only know your pain tolerance and how you deal with it. Don’t be embarrassed of how you handled your pain girl. You did the damm thing. Congratulations on your new blessings 🤍
I had an epidural... Best decison ever for during labor and postartum recovery was great.
But i will not lie! I 100% have back pain.. has some during pregnancy since i am super tiny but damn. These back pains now will shoot randomly thru my back and leg and they definitely have made me cry.
Will i gwt another epidural if i EVER have another baby. Yes yes i definitely will lol
Girl!!! I find it so different how they let you get up and be active in your labor even though your water broke 😅 My water broke and they told me to not even sit up because I was prone to infection since my water broke.
I’m sorry you had to go through this Blanca , I went through something similar with one of the nurses I had during labor
Thank you for sharing. Belen is so beautiful. She is literally Franco’s twin. Franco is the best big brother 🥹🤍
You did amazing Blanca !!! Proud of you!! Praying for a smooth recovery and for your beautiful family 🩷🥰
100% you guys should speak up about this. Something could’ve happened to your baby by saying ok I won’t let you push if you don’t let me check you. You guys are blessed with a platform and have a voice. I can’t imagine how she’s treated people that don’t speak up and don’t have a voice 😞
My husband actually delivered three of my kids, my doctors have always been so lovely and caring they always allow my husband to pull the baby out. It’s an amazing experience.💗
Blanca, you are truly an inspiration 🩷💞
Thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing your story with us.
Loved this podcast. ❤
I watch you guys all the time and never comment, but I want to say that please advocate for us. You both have the platforms to get these issues known and for other parents to know it's okay to speak up.❤
That is so scary and after this story I would still record secretly even if told not to for my safety and my baby safety. Some doctors really don’t have bedside manners and it’s so sad
Girl yes I feel you I had more pain with my daughter than I did with my son and I had no epidural as well😩
Omg I did too 😢
Hi! My first labor was a lot like this , the resident dr almost pulled out my uterus 💔 same way they made you deliver placenta was the same way they did to me & the dr started tugging on my placenta 😭.. From experience for all of the mommies who didn’t speak up, you have the platform pls pls speak up! wishing you & your little family blessings! you’re a very strong mommy🫶🏻
Blanca, I had my 9lb 14oz babygirl the day after you 3/11. I had epidural and suffered in sooo much pain still. Epidural does not mean you don't feel anything. If i wasn't sleeping I was crying girl.
Hi guys !!! 😁 Girl you talking about the whole doctor situation got me so mad because I also experienced the same with my birth. You literary want to cuss them out or fight them 😂I feel like doctors should be more understanding and be a little more gentle, we already are going thru a traumatic experience we don't need to be arguing with them. Hopefully you guys can report that because that is not ok. But I'm glad baby girl is here healthy and that you got thru it, muchas felicidades a los dos ! your baby girl is so beautiful ! 💕💕
Girl i’ve had my 2 babys at university hospital and thank god i didn’t have to experience that with that doctor but thankfully you and baby are doing well🥺
The Dr knew she fucked up!
sure did & Blanca can’t have a re-do.
As a patient you have rights and there is always someone there that can advocate for you. This is something you should always know.
As a Nurse I have worked with some amazing doctors y otros que literal les vale madre😒 and its so sad!
"This is not necessary. Let's get back to work. " hahaha ahh I'm dead 💀
Made me laugh so hard 😂😂
I added my husbands last name while I was going through AOS and everything went well! So all my kids and I have the same name. But on the second thing… I think you should definitely open an incident report !
I’m sorry you guys had to go through this! This makes anyone feel more discouraged to go through pregnancy because you’re stuck thinking what if we get stuck with a bad doctor 💔 Baby Belen is so adorable 🥹🥹🥹 I love you guys always
Btw the girl who asked about your experience is probably a patient coordinator and their role is to collect patient experience data to submit/inform to corporate!
If you don’t feel comfortable you can get those bed travel bassinets and set in the middle of your bed you can sleep more comfortable
I had epidural, and you STILL feel the pain.. it might not be as bad as natural pain, but it STILL hurts 😭
Blanca I was so furious hearing that the doctor ruined your delivery. Please take that apology lightly and send a letter or an email or the audio you have into the board or who ever is in charge of her. Imagine if this was your first experience you would be so traumatized report her to be a voice for other girls who can be their first experience
I hope Blanca pushes the people pleaser in her character aside and allow the mama bear to roar and file a complaint against this dr. For her to be so cold, rough and callous took away from such a beautiful experience. Belen is absolutely adorable 😍 ❤️
My husband describes my labor as an exorcism jajaja. No shame girl, you gotta do what you gotta do and WE DID THAT! ❤ I definitely laugh about it now though. 😂
I'm so sorry you had that experience with your doctor, nurses are truly saints.
I’m sorry you went through all of that 😢 labor is painful and to top it off tearing is too. And with a bad doctor I couldn’t imagine how you were feeling. I hope you reach out to the hospital and let them know. That way other women have good labors with that doctor. 💕 ps baby Belen is gorgeous, she is Franco’s twin.
I remember my experience with my daughter who is 2 and it was terrible. The dr forced the placenta out and exactly what you were explaining with her stitching you up and being forceful happened with my first birth. I had an epidural and felt everything after baby came out. I just remember staring at my daughter while they were weighing her and cleaning her up and I was screaming in pain bc she stuck her whole forearm up me and grabbed the placenta all while pushing down on my stomach so hard and then being rough stitching me up. I hated it. With my second birth with my 1 yr old it was easy I pushed the placenta myself and didn’t tear. The only thing that sucked was my bad reaction to the epidural when my blood pressure dropped dangerously low.
The saying about epidural is definitely true. My back is always hurting now. But I also had a bad experience with my 2nd baby I had 5 months ago. The anesthesiologist came in to administer. I still remember to this day she just had this cocky confident attitude and she said "oh I've made the other girls feel good in 20 minutes you'll be feeling great here too". As soon as she said it I knew deep down something was going to come out of her cockiness. After like 30-40 minutes I was still in soo much pain because it didn't work. And so I had to wait on a second try because the charge anesthesiologist had to correct the girl in the other rooms epidural too. I waited forever and I wasn't having that long of breaks in between contractions so the pain sucked. He came in and I'm screaming and crying and through it I remember him saying "this is the third time in my career I've seen a spine like this". To this day Idk what he meant. His worked for maybe 20 minutes. After that it stopped working and shortly after that it was go time so I got to feel everything! So I'm just a little mad that I got that epidural for no reason and now I just have to deal with back pain
Thank you for sharing your story girl 🫶🏽 this is super powerful, and eye opening. I am not a mother yet, but I can relate with how you felt especially with the poor treatment you received from the doctor. As Jonathan mentioned, it is important to keep doctors and anyone in power accountable for their mistakes, and for any negligence they perpetuate against others. I do think we need to bring more awareness of this issue because historically women of Color are the ones being affected the most by negligent and racist doctors. I love y’all, and thank you once again for sharing your story. ✨💕
So sorry that you had to experience with this doctor. I've always said that women doctors have less compassion than men doctors. Men doctors don't know the extent of pain and discomfort women go through, that just makes them so compassionate. On another note, i applaud your strength Blanca for going through natural birth. Protecting your body and baby from all medications.
Tienes una niña tan hermosa 💕
girl I am so sorry this happened to you, I experienced the same thing with my first born my doctor broke my water without even telling me he just came in and went in there and popped it didn’t guide me through it or nothing, my nurse was so nice that she told him that I did not want him close to me other than when he’s going to deliver my baby I feel you 100% ❤️ you’re so strong! Till this day I am so thankful for my nurse that was with me through everything!
You are right how many women pass away giving birth because of negligence. Please speak out report this Doctor !!
Now I know why I cried when I saw your delivery video and genuinely cried for you and brought back bad memories of my first delivery. I agree and maybe you should write a letter to her directly and tell her how you feel. If anything she can feel remorse for how she behaved and perhaps reflect on herself as a human being and being more tactful with future patients. She is human too and probably had a bad day and probably had personal issues herself, of course it does not excuses her but happens.
I honestly feel that with her coming to Jonathan; she felt remorseful but you also need closure. It won’t bring back what you she stole from you but at least it will help you move on from this experience and not hold off on having babies in the future and because you endure so much, GOD is giving you the perfect baby so that you can have future babies. Keep up the GREAT work and hang in there!
Belen is such a beautiful name! 😊