Raising Men | the Making of Warrior Poets

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  • Being a good father takes work. And it's a journey John has been on for years now. This video focuses on being a father in the midst of a world that is daily stripping the title of its meaning.
    Lots of you Warrior Poets had great fathers and parenting, but we also know many of you didn't and as some of you begin your journey into parenting, and some of you rebuild your relationships with your children, having some practical attitudes and areas to develop within yourself can really make the process less daunting. From just providing the basic needs of your family to really challenging yourself to consider the spiritual and emotional development of your children and yourself, this short video will provide some of you a starting point and others of you a place to recenter and recover.
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  • @nopenotnever
    @nopenotnever 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1952

    I choose to raise my son the Spartan way, he is currently on his own in the wilderness validating his manliness by slaying a beast with his mighty sword. Reality* he's in the backyard with a pvc pipe running around smacking tree branches.

    • @16ft2in
      @16ft2in 4 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      Diggy Diggy Boy... Digging a hole!

    • @williammccaslin8527
      @williammccaslin8527 4 ปีที่แล้ว +90

      Hey way to funny bro, but boys will be boys, at least he's outside an not on his Xbox or computer.

    • @nopenotnever
      @nopenotnever 4 ปีที่แล้ว +46

      @@williammccaslin8527 Oh I'm not complaining in fact after seeing that pvc pipe I started thinking about the spud guns I made as a kid. Looks like we have a fun little project to do this weekend now.

    • @bobbie4862
      @bobbie4862 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Lolol

    • @chiefro7
      @chiefro7 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      You sir, are a badass

  • @jasonhallman2042
    @jasonhallman2042 4 ปีที่แล้ว +616

    “It is better to be a warrior in a garden than to be a gardener in a war.” -borrowed

    • @daizydgmailcom
      @daizydgmailcom 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Jason Hallman ❤️

    • @ForeverOfMusic
      @ForeverOfMusic 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Tell that to Samwise Gamgee 😉

    • @youronlinegirlfriend5508
      @youronlinegirlfriend5508 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      How else are you gonna feed the troops?

    • @HuntingTarg
      @HuntingTarg 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Without searching, I believe that was in the [ *original* ] Karate Kid script, when Daniel asked Mr Miyagi why he bothered with gardening.

    • @johnnyflorence219
      @johnnyflorence219 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Ever read Iron John? Because the gardener goes to war and kills everyone. Hahaha. He was given a damn army and a war horse. Seriously the most badass book on masculinity.

  • @ncshpfox
    @ncshpfox 4 ปีที่แล้ว +171

    Was shopping with the family last night. A stock guy dropped some boxes on the floor in front of us. My 5 year old runs up. Picks up one of the boxes and hands it back to the guy. Looks back at me and says dad did I do good? My heart filled with pride!!

  • @Amishparadise69
    @Amishparadise69 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1559

    “Only a man can raise a man”
    Feminist heads just exploded.

    • @joecola6487
      @joecola6487 4 ปีที่แล้ว +106

      A woman is not capable of raising a man alone. Just as a man cannot substitute a mother's love as a child...

    • @andym1594
      @andym1594 4 ปีที่แล้ว +48

      raised by a widow. It can be done, but not easy and not a picnic.

    • @joecola6487
      @joecola6487 4 ปีที่แล้ว +31

      @@andym1594 it can be done however it is not what was intended for all of us ... we do what we can with what we have ..

    • @jaredhammel4587
      @jaredhammel4587 4 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      @@andym1594 I think it's different when the father didn't leave. I know men who were raised by mothers only. Some fathers were shit and some passed away. The ones who father left had a much harder time developing the protective nature that come with being a real man.

    • @dustybrown1263
      @dustybrown1263 4 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      I somewhat agree with Andy, My Dad is a Good Dude, just was never around... So I tried to take the Best of Him and the Best of Every Other Good Man in My Life to Forge Myself into the Man I would like to Be; But More so as the Man that will be Fondly Remembered.
      But a Good and Present Dad is Definitely the Optimal Option

  • @mrgauges9065
    @mrgauges9065 4 ปีที่แล้ว +561

    I’m a man raising a 5yr old boy and 9yr old girl alone. Takes everything I’ve got and never perfect. Some good helpful advice here.

    • @chiefro7
      @chiefro7 4 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      Mr Gauges God Bless you sir!

    • @peterk8909
      @peterk8909 4 ปีที่แล้ว +32

      Mr Gauges Sincerest respect, Sir. I know a couple guys raising their kids alone. You guys don't get the respect you truly deserve. It will sometimes be difficult but the effort will be worth it.

    • @matthewcrawford4216
      @matthewcrawford4216 4 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      I’m in the same boat since my wife walked out of the marriage. Hang in there it’s not easy, but showing up is the first hurdle. Surround yourself with friends and family to help. Don’t try to go it alone.

    • @ulflyng
      @ulflyng 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      It will never be perfect. Else nothing would open our eyes to our need for God. Do your best and the kids will see it. Maybe first at grown age, but they'll see it.
      Find good network, they need to see you part of something.

    • @RodCornholio
      @RodCornholio 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      You gotta raise your daughter ASAP (as in NOW) to value her inner self above outer. Because right now, ON TOP OF genetic predispositions of females, she has received millions of signals from peers,adults, media (tv internet adverts) - society - that her physical appearance is her #1 value and if she believes it, she'll be on a risky, dependent, short term, unhappy path. We are no longer in a gentlmanly society where the best (most resources/potential) man marries the best (most attractive) girl. (RedPill Warning) We are in a society where girls exploit MANY mens' resources, using their attractiveness. Afterall, what they value of themselves is what they will use as a currency...makes sense, right?
      So, the solution is to hammer good ole American ideas: 1.) value having and keeping high moral/ethical standards 2.) value achieving skills and knowledge 3.) value producing high quality products/services/labor (work ethic) When those inner qualities are valued by her, all else follows; she'll recognize she can be independent and that she's worth more than her looks. This will keep her from exploiting others and being exploited by those who do not have her best interest in mind.
      This is the blueprint for the time being.

  • @zacharymartin7033
    @zacharymartin7033 4 ปีที่แล้ว +501

    My wife just gave birth to my 3rd child and my first son yesterday. This video is very timely. I opened my phone after putting him down to sleep and the notification for this video popped up. God works in mysterious ways.

    • @claytonatkinson865
      @claytonatkinson865 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      When you read enough and start to understand the Bible, God’s work isn’t quite so mysterious. Still some things we aren’t meant to know however. Not trying to criticize brother! Have a blessed day!

    • @zacharymartin7033
      @zacharymartin7033 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I understand where you're coming from Clayton. I mean to say that it's odd that something like that would one from a TH-cam notification. Lol. Although, I must say, WPS has been a blessing to me and very good resource of information.

    • @TheRosemouth
      @TheRosemouth 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      He is always speaking to you if you listen.

    • @ezimens
      @ezimens 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      My third child and only son turned 6 months yesterday. He was quite the surprise. God had a hand in it for sure considering the circumstances. Congrats to you and your wife.

    • @GuderII
      @GuderII 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thanks god you believe in god, not in youtube stupid algorithm

  • @PastorChris44
    @PastorChris44 4 ปีที่แล้ว +74

    My dad taught me to love Jesus, work hard, be honest, and to stand up for what I believe in. I’m trying to instill that and more into my son.

    • @adamburge5988
      @adamburge5988 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Love the screen name!

    • @russmode
      @russmode 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Injecting faith properly so our children are receptive and embracing of it, is the often missing piece, that makes great children, achieve elite levels of greatness.

  • @hshs5756
    @hshs5756 4 ปีที่แล้ว +49

    When I was 8 y.o. my father took me to little league try-outs and while waiting to get out on the field I had my first and only (70 y.o. now) episode of out-of-the-blue explosive diarrhea. My father quietly took me home, without anger or derision, but I can mark that moment as the end of his interest in introducing me to "manly" stuff. I've always wondered if he thought the moment was caused by fear, not an unfortunately-timed onset of a nasty gut invader. Perhaps he WWII experience where he may have seen this response to danger in soldiers near him or even in himself -- it happens. I tell this story as a cautionary tale to current fathers: don't give up on your kid because of one moment in his life that may have nothing to do with what you think it does. Keep working with him, be patient, and give him as many tries as he needs.

  • @Jolly123123123
    @Jolly123123123 4 ปีที่แล้ว +193

    "Only a man can make a man."
    Warrior Poet indeed.
    My dad was never around and taught me very little, but when I turned 24 I met a man that was willing to teach me how to be a man. The result has been extraordinary and I will be eternally grateful to this man. I love him deeply for what he has given me.

    • @tadiqshahid4625
      @tadiqshahid4625 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Father Figures are priceless

    • @fbnflaviusbroadcastingnetw6786
      @fbnflaviusbroadcastingnetw6786 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Jolly123123123 consider yourself lucky

    • @Jolly123123123
      @Jolly123123123 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @@fbnflaviusbroadcastingnetw6786 I do. I'm deeply grateful. My ass would be in jail now if not for him and my future would not be this bright I can tell you that.

    • @brandonarseneau3148
      @brandonarseneau3148 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I’m in the same boat. It takes great men to jump in with both feet and change a boy/young mans direction before it’s too late. We need to remember this and step up for our sons and our neighbors sons.

    • @jakefarber9287
      @jakefarber9287 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Kudos to you for realizing the difference at the proverbial fork in the road.

  • @garciajon117
    @garciajon117 4 ปีที่แล้ว +183

    It's good to see good men wanting to create more good men in a time when it seems to be discouraged and the definition of "good men" has been so skewed.
    Thanks, John. Hopefully all of us can bring up warrior poets and the next generation won't be so sad and sappy.

    • @1991USsoldier
      @1991USsoldier 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Since I am technically a millennial, does my need to incessantly troll snowflakes make me a turncoat?

    • @1991USsoldier
      @1991USsoldier 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I also share 99% of John's values. That's why I'm here.

    • @lauriestlyon8773
      @lauriestlyon8773 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@1991USsoldier That's known as having "waaay too much fun!" But I say "Yay that! "

    • @christianmetzger7074
      @christianmetzger7074 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      They can't stop us.

  • @NotAHobbit
    @NotAHobbit 4 ปีที่แล้ว +46

    “Only a man can make a man.” A truth SO needed today. I’m a youth pastor and the effects I see from fatherless homes or neglectful fathers are detrimental. I am determined to make a mighty man of God out of my son.

  • @chiefro7
    @chiefro7 4 ปีที่แล้ว +355

    I may not have kids, but dammit I’m being the best Uncle Argyle I can to my nephew!

    • @Adam.Rushing
      @Adam.Rushing 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Same here! Mine is coming to live w me in Alaska this summer so he can focus on becoming a marine.
      Good name btw! 😂

    • @chiefro7
      @chiefro7 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      adam rushing lmao hell yeah!

    • @yt_censorship_sucks
      @yt_censorship_sucks 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      I think that means more than a lot of people realize. My dad left when I was 12 and I became very close to my uncle. He was and (26 years later) still is like a father figure to me. I've always looked up to him and he's definitely my best friend. I still go to him for his opinion and guidance on some things. Something I think is really awesome is that over the last several years he started coming to me asking my opinion on some important matters in life. Being "the best uncle Argyle" may just end up being more important than you realize too.

    • @chiefro7
      @chiefro7 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      A Pulley AMEN to that! Heres to hoping I can impact my nephew as much as your uncle seems to have impacted you, sir! It’s truly an effort I’m blessed everyday to be able to spend!

    • @btnlstrsort200
      @btnlstrsort200 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Same here

  • @LARPeratorsAnonymous
    @LARPeratorsAnonymous 4 ปีที่แล้ว +144

    Wife and I are due Feb 16th with our first child. A BOY! Add another Warrior Poet to the Society!

  • @miketaylorID1
    @miketaylorID1 4 ปีที่แล้ว +45

    As an elder poet I’ve found The great irony in raising solid lad is that they have a say and the path may not be the one you envisioned.
    Instill honor. Logic and resolve. The rest will find purchase in the spaces between.

    • @wilfdarr
      @wilfdarr 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I like that. Hope to use it one day!

  • @Tactical-Granola
    @Tactical-Granola 4 ปีที่แล้ว +208

    I’m a mom who raising sons to be warrior poets. My 12 year old calls me Mom-Wick. My sword is a Michonne Katana.
    Love the WPS take on the four pillars. Thanks!
    -Jessica

    • @MarkFurukawa
      @MarkFurukawa 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Good, subtle way to show John he may not be right that only men can make good men.

    • @joeb2526
      @joeb2526 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      My brother and I were raised by a single mom, we are both successful (lawyer and military officer). You will have great success I’m sure!

    • @Jak_Nobody
      @Jak_Nobody 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @Brad Roberts Bull. It is entirely possible for a woman to raise a man/men. It's just more difficult. Doesn't mean that it is impossible.

    • @RootDir_ls
      @RootDir_ls 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Respect from a single dad.

    • @Jak_Nobody
      @Jak_Nobody 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @Charles Lee Ray oh, look, you're just a lowly troll. Be gone, little troll. No one is going to pay you any attention.

  • @parabellum3205
    @parabellum3205 4 ปีที่แล้ว +48

    If only every father were committed to being this kind of dad ❤❤❤

    • @charlesmckinley29
      @charlesmckinley29 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      parabellum 320 the world wouldn't be the hole it is today!

    • @garybower1824
      @garybower1824 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      We would definitely have less prison overcrowding.

  • @Axiomaticness
    @Axiomaticness 4 ปีที่แล้ว +74

    I had my first Son night before last; watching this vid while he sleeps in my arm in hospital. Thanks for all you do Lovell.

    • @mikef5694
      @mikef5694 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Axiomaticness good luck man. The challenging times make the good times that much sweeter.

    • @bic94
      @bic94 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Congrats my friend. Its a rewarding but challenging time in your life. Make sure to not only be a good father but a better husband if you're married. I let other things cloud my mind and ignored the wife's needs for a long time, things came to a head and we are currently fighting to make it work. Give her the attention she needs in this challenging time. Just some words of wisdom from one father to another. Good luck buddy!

    • @Axiomaticness
      @Axiomaticness 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      lscott 94 Thank you for the advice and sharing your experience with me. I am trying to be a better husband and although many times I fail I will keep striving to improve.

    • @Axiomaticness
      @Axiomaticness 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Michael Frazier Thank you for your well wishes brother.

    • @ransuru
      @ransuru 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Congratulations man. Enjoy it and keep developing and planning ahead.

  • @zakzac1
    @zakzac1 4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    The thing I remember most is my dad saying "the toughest man in a fight is the one who walks away." growing up that made zero sense to me, I've taken martial arts for almost 30 years. And now I see exactly what he meant. Mental warfare.

  • @GXOUT
    @GXOUT 4 ปีที่แล้ว +89

    Been struggling with being a good father. Had repented and relented my anger and frustration. This video was timely brother. Gotta remember that providing the physical needs is the basics. God bless you John.

    • @johanvandijkh5042
      @johanvandijkh5042 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Check out "Wild at heart" - John Eldredge

    • @teninchrichard4016
      @teninchrichard4016 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I was raised by an Alpha father man, more ass whipping and black eyes from 7-17 than ive had in 30 yrs. Since I feared my father, and I fear no man to this day, He seams to forget the things he did to my mother and I, but I can't. I try to have a relationship with him but its a struggle. I'm not saying this you, but I have no respect for men who put their hands on children unnecessarily, or put their hands on woman. If you want any respect or relationship with your family later on in life take anger management classes, seek the Lord, read, anything you can do. Respect them the way you want to be respected.

    • @MrIdasam
      @MrIdasam 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@teninchrichard4016 Your story sounds very similar to mine, minus the black eyes. But I did take a lot of whippings and beatings, and not just from my father.

    • @teninchrichard4016
      @teninchrichard4016 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@MrIdasam I hope you're well man.

    • @MrIdasam
      @MrIdasam 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@teninchrichard4016 For the most part I am. I'm 44 now, but I still deal with what I had to go through every day, a lot of anxiety and bouts of depression amongst other things. It's not something that you ever completely recover from. I hope you're well too.

  • @marktisdale7935
    @marktisdale7935 4 ปีที่แล้ว +50

    Do it for the puppies. This is some serious vet humor.

  • @EngNerdGMN
    @EngNerdGMN 4 ปีที่แล้ว +82

    I'm looking forward to my son being old enough that I can teach him all the dad jokes.
    I think he'll be a star.

    • @joshualawson7604
      @joshualawson7604 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Why did the superhero flush the toilet? Because it was his doody...

    • @mikealbert3516
      @mikealbert3516 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Ironically, even if you do everything right, there will come a time when he prays that you keep your dad jokes to yourself! You only get to advance to the level you're talking about when you finish all the Dad levels and advance to Grandpa status...

  • @KendallBF5
    @KendallBF5 4 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    My little dude is coming in June. Thank you John for always keeping the raising/leading of men on the forefront of our minds.

  • @0709cop
    @0709cop 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Really first time that, as a Hellenic citizen , i find an American channel and a man in it , that is so close to my way of thinking and living....this guy could be a brother of mine....last men standing all across the earth safekeeping Honor and Courage in every aspect of life...Good luck lad!!maybe God be with you when it comes.
    Kind regards,
    A father

  • @danwonders9403
    @danwonders9403 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    My kids are now 21 and 23, successful and happy, so I feel I can say this comfortably; the simple fact you are THINKING through all the aspects of raising your kids and not just walking through life on auto pilot tells me your kids will be great as adults regardless of the small mistakes made along the way. We had simple rules; talk with our kids about everything in life as it came up (in 18 years everything imaginable will come up), always say yes to a request unless there is a good reason not to (“I don’t feel like it” is not a good reason), think through everything and never have a reason be “because I said so”. Your kids will be leaders of men... no worries.

  • @peterk8909
    @peterk8909 4 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    John Lovell, a fine example of a Warrior Poet.

  • @RFComms
    @RFComms 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Amen brother, spot on. My oldest son just graduated from college this December and my youngest will in May. My wife and I homeschooled them K through 12 and we strove for the goals and values you just outlined.
    "Raise a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it."
    Respectfully, your brother in Christ Jesus.

  • @michellelalonde5725
    @michellelalonde5725 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Single mom here... thanks for the effort and passion you and your wife put into this channel. I have no make family close by, and would really like to see a network of sorts for those special warriors willing to mentor a teen who has a great heart and strong spirit, but no model. I’d be willing to contribute to the coordination.
    It’s so needed.

  • @25alphatv71
    @25alphatv71 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You are part of my homeschooling curriculum. My son is starting his handwriting improvement (cursive) lessons.
    He will copy the book of Proberbs in cursive. Then will recopy it in calligraphy for art.
    God's wisdom always trumps man's.
    God bless you and keep you John.

  • @lonewolfsurvival3453
    @lonewolfsurvival3453 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Like so many other men out there, I grew up with only my mom and little brother, no stable male influence to give a crap or teach much of use. That means a ton of hard work has to go into teaching yourself along the way, figuring out what exactly the essential lessons are, what it means to be a man and finding the right resources to teach you those lessons. It's definitely a challenge keeping up with the men that did grow up with fathers and were taught those pivotal lessons on life while growing up early on. That said, I would have been blessed to have a man like you around the house John!

  • @MidnightMaker
    @MidnightMaker 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Dude, I'm an Agnostic Dad and this video really spoke to me. I'm trying to raise my son to be an even better man than I am. Thanks for distilling it so clearly. I'm even factoring in your Most Dangerous Man = Hero stuff, trying to build up his tolerance for unpleasantness (much to his Mom's chagrin), teaching him martial arts, and building his problem solving skills, developing situational awareness, etc. Soon, we'll be reading Sun Tzu, Musashi and Machiavelli as bedtime stories. And yes, striving to be a good Dad, definitely makes you a better Man. Now I'm going to do a shot of Hoppe's No. 9 and hit the sack.

  • @guywpacot754
    @guywpacot754 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I've had the privilege to spend the last three years of my life mentoring a young man who's father left them 10 years ago. In that short period of time God has used this to heal many things within this young man and today he's an Army medic with a bright future. Our first mission (fellowship with a purpose), we built an AR pistol and when we finished he got to shoot it first.

  • @MyOnlyTasks
    @MyOnlyTasks 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Your little videos like this have helped my family and I tremendously, I'm raising my own 2 little warrior poets, and I thank you for everything you've done for our country and our people both on and off screen

  • @salal-abdullah3571
    @salal-abdullah3571 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I had my first baby 26 days ago. I've heard a lot of advice on how to be a father and how not to be a father but this one really rung the bell for me. Thank you

  • @clarkrp1960
    @clarkrp1960 4 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    My story is interesting. I had no men in my life growing up; lived in a 1-bedroom house with my mother, grandmother, and sister. I lived in the basement. We didn't have money. My mother had 2 sisters and her sisters had 2 daughters each. Some how, some way, I was determined to be a good "man" at an early age. The few men I did come across in school helped as examples. However, I joined the Air Force and spent a career there and that gave me the life skills I needed. I ended up with 2 sons of my own and I believe I did well by them. Oldest is working, living his life well and my younger one is a Marine.
    My point is that there are ways to learn manliness in absence of men. As I look back on it, one of my models of right men came from TV and books. Star Trek had a dramatic affect on me in that capacity. (Born in 1960) Today's TV men may not be the best examples, but they are there. Stories of men in history, especially our founding fathers, did a lot for me understanding what made responsible and courageous men. So, if you are a single mom, shower you sons with the history of good men. Direct them to idolize good men and avoid the bad examples we see all around us. It can be done.

  • @philtaylor2918
    @philtaylor2918 4 ปีที่แล้ว +60

    “Cover down” my father raised me and my brothers with the definition of a man.
    A man; accepts responsibility, rejects passivity, leads courageously, and looks for the reward to come.

    • @coreylee9342
      @coreylee9342 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @AV BulletCatcher Dont be lazy in the simplest terms

    • @philtaylor2918
      @philtaylor2918 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      AV BulletCatcher in the garden of Eden Adam was passive and inactive when Eve offered him the fruit.
      Rejecting passivity is a rejection of inactivity. It’s being proactive and being aggressive in dealing with the difficult things that you don’t want to do.

    • @travlo9139
      @travlo9139 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Just got done with that bible study! Good stuff.

    • @quads4life1
      @quads4life1 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      my dad simply beat the shit out of me. It taught me, if I could survive that, I could survive anything. I thanked him for those beatings.

    • @kill.z0n3
      @kill.z0n3 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@quads4life1 Wow, you’re so cool.

  • @beeamerica5024
    @beeamerica5024 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I have always said if you want to carry a weapon first you need to master love mercy and peace then you can carry a weapon

  • @michaelblacktree
    @michaelblacktree 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Children need a father figure. Even if the actual father isn't around, somebody needs to fill that role. It's vital to their psychological development.
    Also, there is no such thing as a perfect parent. We all have flaws. We all make mistakes. But if you teach critical thinking skills to your kids, they can fill in the blanks.

  • @anthonymolinaro9494
    @anthonymolinaro9494 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Father of 3 daughters and loving husband for 12 years. I’m 31. A lot of people don’t understand how hard it is to balance these things. What you are saying is spot on and followed it for years. Representing it as table legs is genius. Keep spreading the good word.
    I know he’s talking about raising men but a lot of the principles are the same and we set the example and standards of who and how our daughters should be treated by other men

  • @zafinaseldom3127
    @zafinaseldom3127 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Well said," only men can raise men ". Exactly. Thank you for being you!

  • @Rommel296
    @Rommel296 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Thanks. I'm in my late sixties with three sons and two daughters. Looking at the freaks and perverts in the media, I thought that the concept of fathering was considered antiprogressive and belonged in the "dustbin of history". My own sons waiver between what I taught them and the latest greatest psychobabble. I wish all young fathers the power, strength, and wisdom to raise their children to become honest responsible adults capable of critical thinking, logic, and reason. Teach the boys to become men and the girls to become women. Be blessed.

  • @scottwallace7617
    @scottwallace7617 4 ปีที่แล้ว +55

    JOHN: It's called a CLAYMORE...not a "William Wallace Sword".

    • @wilfdarr
      @wilfdarr 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      I think to him a claymore is something different.

    • @FA_363
      @FA_363 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @@wilfdarr "Front toward enemy!"

    • @mikealbert3516
      @mikealbert3516 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@FA_363 I didn't see the inscription...He must be holding it backwards!

    • @mikealbert3516
      @mikealbert3516 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@mikehill6538 Interesting. Thanks!

    • @hairyviking6047
      @hairyviking6047 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Does he know how to use it?
      Just like a gun, a sword is useless unless you know how to use it.

  • @woolengrappler
    @woolengrappler 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Completely agree. My wife and I just had our first baby boy, he’s 6 weeks old. While he needs his mother more than me right now, I do my outmost to support my wife and help where I can. I change diapers, do laundry, feed him a bottle, hug him and love on him. I once heard that the best thing you can do for your kids is to love and honor their mother so I try to apply that daily. It’s been awesome to watch him grow so much in only a few short weeks.

  • @bee030888
    @bee030888 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks for talking about this. I've been a youth leader at church for years. I remember talking to this kid years ago at a conference who had just been given a BMW for his 16th birthday and he was in tears talking about his relationship with his father. He had everything he could 'want' but he didn't even know his dad's favorite color. Being a dad, being a father means more than providing, yes it means providing, but so much more.

  • @donwilson9939
    @donwilson9939 4 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    Just wait until your a grandfather. That's when it gets real fun. Teach and spoil.

  • @chriswood5510
    @chriswood5510 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    The fact that you as a parent are thinking about how to raise your child properly shows that you will be successful.
    I also hope to raise mine to be a good man.

  • @bassplayerpapabear
    @bassplayerpapabear 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Being a dad is the best gift I've been given. With great power comes great responsibility

  • @EthicalPreparedness
    @EthicalPreparedness 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you posting this video. I have a 4-year old son; so I take this to heart.
    In my job, I see kids who have horrible parents. And I feel sorry for these kids because I know their horrible upbringing is more-than-likely going to send them to prison.

  • @pattimarshall7270
    @pattimarshall7270 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    In the 1950's in a small neighborhood on the edge of the Everglades the neighbor men were those men to my brother and me after our dad died, raising us from toddlers hunting, fishing, trapping and playing while learning core values reinforced by each one.

  • @jasonadams1242
    @jasonadams1242 4 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    John "why aren't you watching bro?"
    Preacher:: "Dido"
    LoL

  • @iloveNgany
    @iloveNgany 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Great video. I'm also a Christian and as much as I understand the hierarchy of needs...for me it starts right at the top. Self actualization. Every morning I read and believe Roman's chapter 6. Usually before my feet hit the floor. Once I establish within myself the truth about who and what I am, I can now operate throughout my day as someone who has had his sin buried with Christ, and the life I live, I live to God. Having been freed from sin i can now love my family and my neighbors unhindered. My self has been actualized through Christ Jesus! I love the gospel!

  • @mattinthehat22
    @mattinthehat22 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    “A force for good in the world.” *This* is why I’m subbed to this channel. More than just blasters & jokes.
    Long before I had kids (1st at 36yrs old) I watched some Dr Charles Stanley. Luckily I’ve remembered some of it. John, you help me remember those things. Thank you. The table analogy is perfect. I’m a wobbly table. I don’t want my sons wobbling thru life. All we really ever give them is a foundation. I’m giving them granite whenever possible / or capable. Thanks, again!!

  • @itstime5390
    @itstime5390 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Saw this video in my feed to watch.
    I saved it for the proper time to watch it during the day.
    You sir are so uplifting on what you bring to your community.
    What you brought to me today is wanting to be a better person.
    Well done.

  • @Weezie556
    @Weezie556 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Great video. I think about these things daily and really try to model a great example for my kids, but outside reminders to keep it at the forefront of my mind is good! It's so important for our generation to mold strong warrior poets for the next generation.

  • @philliphardy8706
    @philliphardy8706 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Wonderfully said John. Children need God fearing father figures in their lives.

  • @BBslider001
    @BBslider001 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Who in the ENTIRE world gives this a thumbs down??? Unless it made them feel like failures? I always feel the failure as a dad, but you keep getting up, keep taking steps, keep fighting!!! They need us.

  • @locksmithdb5987
    @locksmithdb5987 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I love your philosophy! The whole Warrior Poet thing is amazing! I'm a proud Christian just like you, I strive to be better EVERY DAY....I pray to be a better husband,friend,father..etc.

  • @ericbarros4984
    @ericbarros4984 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    A great video from a great man created by a great team ✊🏽🇺🇸

  • @jayg4mrusmc
    @jayg4mrusmc 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    You're basically speaking of integrity in the classic sense; Being a strong well rounded person. There are things in life that will challenge us as men and attempt to eroded us. The more we have to draw on the better we can withstand, heal and become whole again, for one bad action or miss step does not define a man (usually) it's what a man does after he falls or miss steps that defines him. Good work John!

  • @zr1vetteman09
    @zr1vetteman09 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I'm on a similar journey raising my 5yr old son and 3yr old daughter and daily I'm reminded of where I'm falling short and inadequate. Daily I strive to grow and mature and grow in my walk with the Lord to raise them up to love him and follow him so that one day it becomes their own. Great Vid, keep em coming!

  • @pmular
    @pmular 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    John, good stuff, brother. As a christian father this helps narrow my focus. 4 pillars, one focus!

  • @dberk44
    @dberk44 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I highly recommend the books:
    "Future Men" by Douglas Wilson
    "Why Children Matter" by Douglas Wilson
    "Man of the House" by C.R. Wiley

    • @khakimzhanmiras
      @khakimzhanmiras 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Dan Berkholder the human predicament by David Benatar

  • @tjoe1980
    @tjoe1980 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I just recently found this channel and I have to say I am truly blessed to have found it. My father who lost his battle with cancer not to long ago always said to me, "Surround yourself with people that will make you want to be a better person in all aspects of life so choose your friends wisely." Those words always stuck with me and help me with being a good dad to my sons. As a father of two young boys this video definitely resonates with me about being a good father and husband. I can't say thank you enough for the work you put into the channel,God bless you brother!

  • @cwshellhamer342
    @cwshellhamer342 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    You'd also be surprised how us vets can apply our MANY years of "mission accomplishment" training can be applied to raising kids. As a single father to a wonderful 5yr old falling back on said training has GREATLY helped preserved my sanity and given me a frame work for everything you have mentioned here!
    B-A-M-C-I-S really can be applied universally!!

  • @stuckmannen3876
    @stuckmannen3876 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    God bless!! ✝️ Support from Norway! 🇳🇴

    • @miketaylorID1
      @miketaylorID1 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      stuckmannen 👍🏼👍🏼🇳🇴
      I’m just back from Tromsø!!
      Skål!!!

  • @aquienpuedainteresar4188
    @aquienpuedainteresar4188 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    This video made me a sub. I would love for you to do a series on your 4 pillars. It's a great concept that I have, need and want to implement this on my life to raise Warrior Poets.

  • @brianmills4891
    @brianmills4891 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Not many badasses have a strong philosophical side to them. You’re one of a kind.

  • @KC-jq9kw
    @KC-jq9kw 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    The biggest accomplishment in my life is my 3 sons. I wasn't as big on the spiritual pillar. My sons have very good values, manors, have had taking care of the family drilled into them, independent decision making, survival and outdoor activities, ect. People need to guide, and let your kids fail. The most important part of being strong, is getting back up when you fall.

  • @SeattleSteelLLC
    @SeattleSteelLLC 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Move videos like this John!! Awesome stuff!!

  • @evantemple4341
    @evantemple4341 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Mispronouncing inadequacies was so perfect.

    • @matthewellisor5835
      @matthewellisor5835 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      And not cutting it out. It was better even than the intro.

  • @adamburge5988
    @adamburge5988 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Great thoughts. "Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it." Proverbs is a great book on parenting.

  • @Stephanie-uc5ed
    @Stephanie-uc5ed 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Do it for the PUPPIES!
    Love it!
    Keep it up Great Patriots!

  • @18ipmg
    @18ipmg 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    "Just paying the bills is the lowest form of fatherhood."

  • @bootgrip6
    @bootgrip6 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I have two legs. Spouse has two legs. Got the four legs on lock-down. “Nailed it!”

  • @blackbeard1988
    @blackbeard1988 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    My father taught me how to take the easy way out - to take your spouse for granted.
    My grandpa taught me patience, respect, to stand your ground, and to always put others first.

  • @freesoulsoldierdavid9883
    @freesoulsoldierdavid9883 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    I also have a recent nephew who graduated boot. Army infantry. Good young man. Warrior. Has his 1st deployment coming down the pipe. Will say no more. OPSEC. Pray for the safety of our troops. I love the channel John. Top tier content.

  • @swamprat9018
    @swamprat9018 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Ok I watched the first 43 seconds Twice, Best intro.

  • @RodCornholio
    @RodCornholio 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Braveheart is my all time favorite movie.

  • @shawnchildress1484
    @shawnchildress1484 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Just one line has always stuck out from my father's wisdom "Get it done". Through challenges, changes and obstacles. That one line has always pushed me through. Now more than ever its pushing being a husband and a father to a 3 year old son and just moved from California to Texas. And starting over. Get it done.

  • @erinfreeborn845
    @erinfreeborn845 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Tell your kids your failures. My dad and mom have hit every point on this video. Letting your kids know that you were human before being a parent is huge. It changed with how I aged and grasped more complex relationships but it was consistent.

  • @theownersmanual8078
    @theownersmanual8078 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    "It takes a man to make a man." That's an amazing quote John. You're an awesome example and advocate for genuine manhood.
    I would make it more specific: it takes a Godly man to make a Godly man. It's dangerous to tak the full credit for raising men. We must emphasize that it is God in us that makes us REAL MEN.
    The perfect example of a provider and protector is Jesus Christ. His life shows us power under restraint, unlimited unconditional love, self sacrifice for the well being of others. I'm so thankful you're not afraid to share your faith.
    I'm encouraged by your video. Please keep them coming !!

  • @dilo777
    @dilo777 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    "COVER DOWN" my dad taught me how to learn, how to teach myself and figure things out on my own...we spent a lot of times working on cars, motorcycles, and houses. More often than not he would ask me what was wrong, and how to fix it, and why. If I didn't know the answer he would ask me other questions about what we were fixing to try and get me in the right direction. He spent a lot of extra time going over things again again to try and get me to the point where I can figure out problems on my own. I will always be forever grateful to him for that.

    • @Thebearfamily-bd3dw
      @Thebearfamily-bd3dw 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      I wish my dad would've done this. I do this to my son because it's a very important lesson to be able to fix stuff yourself. Dad isn't always going to be around.

  • @benjaminpierce911
    @benjaminpierce911 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    One of the best ways I can think of teaching youth the basics of understanding hard work and the purpose behind it: burn wood, and teach them to go out, take the time out of their life, and split wood and rank it. It can teach discipline, make them understand the necessity of work (even outside of the 9-5 workplace), and it will bring them up in strength, along with the understanding of doing things the right way. Though I do understand not everyone has the climate of the northern U.S. but things that teach children the concept of working to make something to provide for the family.
    Fellow Warrior Poets, Godbless

  • @psivast8007
    @psivast8007 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    I am an uncle, not quite Argyle, but the best times I have with the little ones is when I get to tell them stories. It can be hard, especially when I am not feeling up to it, but if I push through it..those moments when I get to see them laugh or when they help me tell the story, are some of my proudest moments as an uncle. For some reason it's the little things that make little people the happiest.

  • @preeceeric
    @preeceeric 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    There's some Steven Aarnio quotes in there, Hard times create good men, etc. It's a book he wrote, one I recommend!

  • @RC-bw8wk
    @RC-bw8wk 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    One of the pastors wishing our church a happy 20th anniversary had what I thought was a WPS bomber jacket😄👍🏽.

  • @mort6913
    @mort6913 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Emotional intelligence is not often talked about. Glad to hear it mentioned here. So critical and so underrated.

  • @melizarainstormz2588
    @melizarainstormz2588 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Becoming a better person every day thanks to you John.

  • @matthewellisor5835
    @matthewellisor5835 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    9:13 ish
    A man of greater wisdom than the stock within my arsenal told me:
    "Man up. You have a duty to teach your children the one thing that Christ could not. That is, how to say 'I'm sorry, I was wrong. Here's how we move forward.' "

    • @chrisdelzell8467
      @chrisdelzell8467 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @Q Continuum Christ taught by example. He never gave an example of how to apologize, because he never needed to.

  • @firstlineofsurvival5318
    @firstlineofsurvival5318 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thanks for the video.
    Fight forward. 😏😉🤔🤠💒🙏👍🔫⚔

  •  4 ปีที่แล้ว

    The man is on point. Spend your childhood without a father (like me & many others) & you will understand that mothers can only do so much.
    A Father is so important. I try to remember this when i teach my children & grandchildren .

  • @scotttaber6824
    @scotttaber6824 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    I’ve watched a few of your videos now and they’re top notch but this one definitely takes the cake. I’m a dad of 4 trying to raise my kids with faith in Christ and this could not ring more true to me. I have 2 sons 17 & 3 and while they are at vastly different stages in life both can still be impacted by this advice. Thank you so much for posting this.

  • @matthewriggle7946
    @matthewriggle7946 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Do it for the puppies...yesssss🇺🇸💪🏻!

  • @locksmithdb5987
    @locksmithdb5987 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I have 2 daughters 15 and 13 and they like my dad jokes sometimes...my wife thinks my jokes are funnier than my daughters.

    • @matthewellisor5835
      @matthewellisor5835 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      I don't know how funny your daughters are but can they help me with this M3?

  • @lamar2143
    @lamar2143 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    I have raised a daughter and two sons and am just a couple of years from sending my youngest son out into the world. I now have a grandson. I will show this video to my children and I will use it to help raise my grandchildren.

  • @christopherroberts4856
    @christopherroberts4856 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hey John, this couldn’t have been a better timed message for me personally. I’m a father of 4 boys and my Father is my hero. I realized just now that my focus has been ensuring that my boys are provided for physically and want for nothing, but as you said...that is the lowest form of fatherhood. I’ll definitely be trying to do better. Thank you. Awesome message.

  • @gogogomes7025
    @gogogomes7025 4 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    "imagining your kid as a table" so i put my beer on top of them?

    • @janhammer4852
      @janhammer4852 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      😁😁😁

    • @davidboyd7773
      @davidboyd7773 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Absolutely not only bourbon.😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣

  • @scottmiller8063
    @scottmiller8063 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Wow a down vote? What in this could possibly be bad? Loved this whole thing.

  • @GeezerWheels
    @GeezerWheels 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks, John... great vid! My wife and I had another good idea for ourselves and our kids: read ONE chapter of Proverbs each day, corresponding to the day of the month (31 chapters in Proverbs). My son, who has a degree in Biblical Studies, told me the very best thing we did was to teach our kids to read one chapter of Proverbs every single day - and keep doing it through life! It is the BEST then to teach the human mind proper "cause and effect" thinking. Today, in his early 50s, he is very successful in his personal and family life. Our daughter, now 50 is also very successful in her married life and her profession. Please keep up your good work
    on this channel!!!

  • @ryanlake3555
    @ryanlake3555 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    My wife will be induced tomorrow and we will begin the journey of parenthood! I pray I will have the wisdom and patients to raise him to fight for truth and right in this ever changing world we live in. Thanks for the advice brother!

  • @WhatClutch713
    @WhatClutch713 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Yay4that