My mom TOLD me all these things. I am just learning now how to actually be these things. It was never properly taught to me. Boy, I have a lot of work to do. Thank the Lord I have a patient and understanding husband.
As a women who was not taught, I can say it’s been rough. I’m 37 and educating myself, mainly how to be a diligent mother to our five kids. God’s been good.
Yes Or no ~ Hi! lm an ''older'' woman that wasn't taught, and am _still_ struggling. However, l am a new Christian, and Jesus has been AMAZING! l _should not_ even be here! Keep trusting, AND walking with HIM FOREVER! :D
Do you have any opinions on the many women who have been forced into marriage when they were children and raped...all because of God's will? At least they they were compliant, right?!
My dear, get out this is not what God wants for you .. these are abusive men... and brainwashing.. get out of this, this is not truth.. there is help out there ..
Ouch. I must confess I'm more than a little convicted as I sit and listen to this podcast---which could very much be me eating the bread of idleness 😬😳🤦🏼♀️ Go to the ant, you sluggard!! All I can hear is Rachel's voice urging me as I fuss at my kids for the state of their rooms to go look at mine. Ok, I gotta go do a thing.
"Many women have not been taught how to be home makers." So true Pastor Wilson. I was just talking to my husband about this. I told him that had I been raised to be a homemaker and prepared to be a wife, I could've saved my marriage a lot of heartache. I was that odious woman at one point, thankfully my husband saw fit to be patient with me. I've grown a lot since but man do I wish these principles were in my upbringing. Another awesome video!
I think a lot of women have had this experience. My mum was always at work or always tired/distracted by the computer or tv. I was raised on packet pasta and frozen convenience food so it was a big learning curve for me to become a homemaker. Even things like decorating, organising and furnishing a home I had no real concept of because I grew up in disorder and clutter. I am learning though and thankful to have a mother-in-law who has taught me much in this area.
Yes! Was never taught so it took me a good ten YEARS to get to the point where I was disciplined enough to truly run my home well. I have four kids and two are daughters. I will be damned if they don’t learn how to run a household.
I usually cringe whenever pastors try to explain how women should be. I actually like this! It's a miracle! Praise the Lord. LOL I appreciate that this actually shows us that we are strong, useful, and important in our roles and that our roles are important! I am sincerely thankful that I get to do mine and that I choose to take it on 100% :D
I am a blessed man. I married a woman from the country where I was serving as a missionary. We have been married 17 years and have 6 children. She homeschools all of them and takes great care of all of us. All our children play violin and speak Russian. I am grateful for how God gave me a wife who fears Him and supports me. In my opinion, she is the example the Bible gives as she supports me to serve as a pastor.
@@nemoliberestquicorpo The Republic of Moldova. Her mother is still working as a pharmacist. Much of her training came from her grandmother and the Christian Baptist culture she grew up in.
Wow. Thank you for this. I continuing learning more and more from your channel. Thank you for your powerful wisdoms and continual discussions of God's word. I am in my early 20s and will have been married for 4 years in September. I have a lot to learn, and even more to Grow in my walk with God. This CALLED ME OUT! (Ouch. haha) But that's what I love about it. I will never continue to grow un less I hear these things. Spare the rod spoil the child doesn't stop when you're 18... Sometimes things need to hurt in order to understand the weight they hold! Thank you for this, and I hope to work on the things I feel that are holding me back from being the best wife and future mother I can be. God Bless you!
Lord bless my husband. I was not raised a Christian or to be a homemaker. But when we married I put myself to the task as best as I could. Early on in our married I couldn’t even fry and egg. One day I was cleaning out my husband’s car and I found all the lunches I had loving made that week untouched and rotting. He hadn’t wanted to discourage my efforts but also couldn’t stomach my food. I now cook to his liking and we always laugh at that story. I am glad he was patient with my early efforts.
So am I in trouble? I married a wonderful, godly woman. We don’t have any “assigned gender roles” (or whatever the woke are calling them this week) vis a vis housekeeping and such. She hates cleaning the house - I have no issues with doing that. I hate phonecalls and making appointments - she takes that chore. I mow the lawn, she does the holiday stuff (I hate holidays). We both do laundry. Whatever. They’re just chores. I figure I help make the mess, I can help clean it up.
I’ll throw my 2 cents your direction, if you want it? Early in the marriage, and before kids, it’s wonderful and fine to split most things down the middle, simply because the bulk of her role as a woman has not come yet. Aka the kids. And I think it’s a great time for younger couples to sort out life together. Figure out what you don’t know about the home, and learn it together. Because both spouses should be able to do anything and know how. Because sometimes things come up, and we need to help the other. Like getting sick, breaking a leg, the death of a loved one, etc. All are life things that will come up, and you’ll want to be fluent so you can help her as you are able to later on. But…. And a big big butttt it is. You will find that a point will come, when you both will need to assume your adult, God ordained roles as man and woman. This usually happens when the first kid comes. If she wants to obey God above all else… she needs to stay home with the child, she needs to leave work, she needs to not put parenting off on other people, or groups, or the government systems. She needs to cook legitimate food, she needs to clean basically everything in the home herself. She needs to be the major education source for the kids for schooling. All of this is a lot to take on, and I would urge her to not wait until the baby is here to begin. There’s a lot of growing pains in adjusting to doing it all, and there’s huge growing pains with having a new baby… and than a toddler… and then a real life kid!!! It would be so much easier for her, if she could get the hone situation on lock, before she finds herself with child. And I speak from experience brother. It’s hard! As the man, God commands you many many things too, which I’m sure you know. And if you want to obey God above all else, you will have some growing pains really stepping into your full role for the first time too. And you shouldn’t wait for that baby to realize it’s need either. Because it will be harder on you at that point too. To name a few things off memory, you are to provide financially for the family entirely. You are to be the spiritual leader, and home theology educator. You are to wash your bride in God’s Word. You are to protect and cover her from any and all things. You are to strive to present her blameless to the Lord. You are accountable for the wife you lead, or dont lead. With all that said, this doesn’t mean that you don’t help at all with the home or kids, because you absolutely do!! But it’s her job, it’s her role. You want a happy wife, you want a wife that feels supported, and protected, so she can relax and joyfully concentrate on her role. Because she knows you’re there and you have her back in all things! You are to be kind, gentle, loving, patient with your bride. But, you don’t support sin. You don’t support one another ignoring Gods commands for your marriage, because that is sin. God designed us and this entire system. Then He tells us the instruction manual for it. If you ignore that, and ignore Him…. You will have a very very hard fall into reality once it catches up to you guys, which is pretty much always after kids come. I would highly highly encourage both of you to start learning about Gods commands for marriage now, and don’t wait for the fighting to begin. God wrote us a beautiful instructional manual, love letter, and history book that entails everything we need to know, to live a joyful and fulfilling life. My husband and I have been together for almost 14 years, we learned things the hard way. We took the road of waiting for everything to hit the fan before we realized how messed up we were. As brothers and sisters in Christ I hope to compel you to start sorting it out now, don’t wait. Go to the Word, and submit to that. That’s the best way to have a good marriage. Everything Doug said here is spot on. Look up a couple books on Amazon, and just buy them. Our discipling mentors had us get them and read them too, with them. It’s The Excellent Wife by Martha Peace And The Exemplary Husband by Stuart Scott You’ll want elder mentors to go through them with you… frankly, because you’re likely to be upset by something, and need it explained scripturally more. None of this is legalism or anything, it’s just explaining Gods commands for us within the marriage. But it can be hard to hear if you have never heard it before. The books were recommended by John MacArthors ministry, which our mentors use mostly their book recommendations because they are all great!! I said a lot, but I hope this was fruitful for you. You’ll be just fine if you just start the correct road now. I wish you two a very happy and growing marriage. God definitely uses our spouses to sanctify us, it’s hard… but God knows what He’s doing. ♥️🙏🏽
@@DarkArwen929 I don’t think he’s seeking validation, it seems to me that he’s asking a very vulnerable and difficult question. And that deserves respect and kindness in responding to. Lots of people are “happy” in their relationships. And a lot of them are living in chronic sin. What the flesh desires and enjoys, is not what God commands us to live. We should live as God commands, if we profess to be Christians. And if we want to rebel against God’s order to life…. We should stop professing to be Christian, as to not tarnish the Name of God.
Sounds like a great marriage to me. Same situation with my husband and I. We each do what we're good at and split the unpleasant stuff as it makes sense. When he's got a lot going on, I take over most of the home stuff. When I'm working late, he makes dinner or washes up. It's pointless to impose cultural norms on people and pretend they're biblical.
@@tayh.6235 If you are completely rejecting the fact that God has identified gender roles for husband and wife, you are denying God’s commands. If you want to live differently that’s fine, but don’t pretend that God has not spoken on this. I encourage you to read proverbs 31, and Titus 2… and probably the entire Bible next. In order. Or don’t, but then maybe don’t speak about it. Because you are incorrect, and bringing reproach on God’s Word.
I wasn't able to read over all the comments below, but what I realized (before watching this video) is that this is so very true in my life and on those around me that I feel like I'm an alien in this world. Not that I've been a perfect diligent wife and mom, nor that I've been perfectly taught in this area, but I see nowadays that many girls are so used to having someone to carry their burden that they can't even pick up a toy on the floor nor a trash she steps on while walking, nor even teach their kids to respect the environment thei live in or other people's houses. I feel sad! I'm not used to having people doing my chores for me. When I was a kid, mom had to work outside the house full day and we had a maid that lived in our house. But my mother always reminded me that I had to help taking care of my own room and help with the house chores, for the maid already had plenty of work to do. What I learned from it was that I have no right to make someone's burden even harder, and now I feel responsible for my own home. I fail sometimes, I fail as a wife and mom for expecting my husband and my daughter to get into that, but after this video, I don't feel like an alien anymore. Thank you, Pastor, for bringing up this point! May God bless you and keep you faithful to His Word always! I wish we had this talk in Portuguese too.
Thank you for sharing. Very convicting and praying the Lord guides me and teaches me to be a godly woman and wife. I am older in age yet a young Christian.
Eve was Adam's helper. Eve being a 'helper' pre-assumes Adam was physically busy enough he needed extra help, had spiritual blind spots she could see better and needed her to complete him as a whole person. Two becoming one flesh and all that. Notice neither Eve nor Adam were complete in and of themselves. They NEEDED each other in order to become one complete whole. Ladies, look at the world around you today. What is the most singular message the world is relentlessly hammering into girls daily for the last 40 years? "don't need no man" While I have no dispute with Doug's commentary he didn't address the 500 pound gorilla in the corner. If women are going to have successful marriages today they are going to have to intentionally and purposefully reject the lies of the world bombarding them from every direction on tv, radio and social media.
Speaking as an older woman who, while falling a bit short of Proverbs 31, has learned to be more "godly", and thus blessedly more happily wed, God's way is much better. I don't care what modern western culture says. They are wrong.
I agree absolutely about working from home and I can definitely see the benefit of this (This is very clear in Titus 2). Also the scripture that you have used from Thessalonians 2 'for we hear that some have which walk among you disorderly , working not at all, but are busybodies'...... this is not discussing 'disorderly wives' but if you read the chapter before was in relation to the coming of Christ and the man of lawlessness. People were being idle instead of working and Paul is saying... 'That's not what we we taught you, we worked, we didn't take from other people and neither should you'. Don't take my word for it... please read the whole letter of Thessalonians and its seems to be much clearer. There is a very good John piper message which goes through this also called The second coming: Not before the man of lawlessness'. I found this quite troubling when I first watched it because I thought... How am I supposed to Have a new-born, home-school 3 other children using the Government curriculum, clean, do the shopping, cook for everyone and then receive only some help but 'carry my own burden'? (that verse is referring to burden as sin not jobs btw) I don't think you can just transfer the passage of Titus to now either.... Boys were going to the synagogue and could recite it off by heart at 12 years old. Schooling was not what it is was today. I'm sure that men supplied food through work and farming ect. I think it is very clear about not being idle but I think some of these ideas about gender roles have come about through society and are not biblical.
Disorderly wives was never a problem until modern times. The reason this is a problem now is because men don't have the legal authority to make their wives orderly. This is the only way modern relationship problems can actually be solved.
My wife definitely falls to the idleness thing. I have no idea how to show her this without being an angry tyrant. But I am patient with her cause I know what her mom and dad were like and well, she never saw a good example. Not even close.
I’d like to give you hope, if a woman is involved in church and has relationships with older women, she will grow up one day. Pray for her, your compassion is doing more than you know. I’ve fallen into idleness at times when my babies were small or I struggled with severe health issues, I’m thankful my husband has stuck with me.
@@MrsSecor Why are you beating yourself up over "idleness" when it's actually exhaustion or severe ill health? And I would think that your husband "sticking" with you under those circumstances would be a given. God bless you!
@@chickenheart896 I like this comment, you seem to understand. I guess I was trying to respond to the commenter above in a way that might encourage compassion and patience for his wife. From experience, I know that compassion and understanding motivates one much more than anger and fear.
@@MrsSecor I'm thankful that Christ is compassionate to me! Sometimes in their zeal for "orderliness", those in leadership positions break the bruised reed and quench the smoking flax.
@@chickenheart896 great word picture, balm for my soul and I’m sure for others as well. Christ is so compassionate. Being a shepherd in my work life has taught me so much about how God deals with us as sheep and exactly what the word means with that comparison. You can’t beat sheep into submission, it’s actually impossible.
It depends if the woman is a stay-at-home mom or does she work 12 hours a day,? I agree there should not be laziness however if both parents are working the man needs to pick up his share of the household duties and chores
Agreed! My husband wants me to work so we can pay off debt (we just got married and don’t have kids yet). I’d rather stay home full time but I’m submitting to him by working because he wants me to. It’s hard for me because I want to do the cooking/cleaning but I’m physically unable due to exhaustion. He ends up cooking a few nights a week, which is also submitting to him because he really enjoys cooking as a hobby even though I’d prefer to do it. 😅😅 At this point we earn more money to pay off debt so I can stay at home later in life and it’s cheaper to pay someone to clean the house.
@@EmilyPetersenHomemaking Hello Amelia its says on my youtube that this comment is 1 year old (not sure how accurate that is) but i am wondering how things are going for you?
The struggle in my household is that my husband does not discipline our children. There are no norms or house rules. I tried to make them but he will not uphold them without me reminding. So the house stays very messy although the meals are great and generally things are done well. His rebellious nature sets the tone and he’s an elder in our church.
They are basically the same thing. She is under his authority and obeys him. She should make it her goal to help and serve him. The word subservient does not even appear in the KJV, while submit does, so you must be taking its meaning from elsewhere.
The noble woman in Proverbs worked outside her home and owned her own business. So many people miss that. She puts family first but really we all should do that. God made things beautiful we screwed it up. I always tell young women look at the man you are going to marry with a microscope. If he isn't someone worth or that your willing to submit to move on. If they feel too threatened to submit to him he is probably weak, immature or abusive. So move on. Women never give a man the time of day if he is not someone you are comfortable to submit to. Men if a woman thinks do low of you you are not trustworthy to them to submit too examine yourself see if you are immature weak or abusive in ways. If not she is not the one because she does not trust you. Or ask her why she doesn't trust you. And move on or wait you are not ready for marriage. Submission is a matter of trust. Most men are not trustworthy but more accurately most people aren't.
I think this schism between home and business is unnecessary and a very recent, post modern thing. We should be careful not to project our modern idea of labor into the days of King Solomon. Unlike in the modern world where we fight high speed traffic to get to work and pursue careers while we deposit our own children into sterile, Godless, Pedagogical government mental laboratories, the ancient and medieval families included their own children in serious family labor, and if the person was a blacksmith, a shoe maker, a tailor, a mason or a gold smith, for example, the husband, the wife and the children, as well as any members of the extended village family, would help each other do their business and pass down their skills to son and daughter to transmit vital survival knowledge. I also don't think there was alot of unsupervised, coed, androgynous male & female campus mingling which leads to fornication, like there is today. Boys were toughened by the world of men, and girls were disciplined into the world of women, and remaining a virgin until marriage was common sense. There was not yet this concept of the isolated, media generated corporate consumer "individual" cut off from family, community and reality, like the Satanic cesspool we live in today. I do agree with you on the trust part though, women should seek strong, Godly and responsible men who have their stuff together for sure, but it goes the other way too; men should find trustworthy, Godly wives who use their reason and common sense instead of their hormones or University Feminist training as yardsticks to judge every male they come across.
@@mr.r2362 I agrer mostly. I know many working moms and dads that homeschool. I agree to keep kids out the the cesspool in society. But that same cesspool existed in that era - Solomon's own home even. Working from home or owning your own business can make it possible to keep kids out of PS or daycare.
So, here's my question: what do you say to teach a person to think "more about the steak and less about the sizzle?" And do you at some point flat out tell a person they're not ready for marriage?
start by asking what they want in 10 years. ask if the people around them will help or hurt that. let the conversation go where it goes; and remember this doesnt all have to be in one night
The Reforming Marriage book is outstanding...from what my lovely stay-at-home, joyfully submissive and godly wife tells me. I'll read it this month, Lord-willing. It's a shame that feminists think that to be a happy woman is to work outside the home and submit to some other man in the corporate world in some pathetic cage they call a "cubicle." Instead of to your husband. Silly me. I must be an evil patriarchal, sexist. Keep up the great posts, Pastor Doug. Hopefully it'll encourage more men to be men. And women to be women.
A working woman does not "submit" to another man (or woman) in the corporate world. She obeys his professional authority only for 8 hours, and is free to resign. That is different. The traditional Christian wife is 100% controlled by her husband (in body, mind, soul, bank account). That is primitive and inherently unjust. I would never do a thing like that to my wife.
Convicting, I certainly let myself get too comfortable sometimes. Out of pure curiosity, what should be required of a wife, home-making wise, who has been physically disabled for the foreseeable future? Not my situation, just curious.
Wow surprised with lots womens listening that topic.. wish my wife read those comments, she distorbing our house with angry for simply things. God has mercy..
I just saw a sign that said “Trump is still my president,” while there may technically be some rational and even technically irrational preferability to this kind of statement in terms of hopefully receiving the favor of God in this country for survival purposes if this man was still the president, the favor of God, at least in the capacity mentioned previously, is not inherently easier or better for him than the current president to gain while there certainly may be technical needed differences in behavior change and company that would be surrounding them.
As you may know, there are many secular Vlogs on TH-cam run by MGTOW (men going their own way) that "straight-up" make the case (using stats) that most 21st century Western women cannot cook, clean or manage a home. In fact, a sizable majority of Postmodern women positively refuse to do housework, cook or clean. Yet, they expect the husband (or lover) to pay the bills and take care of the traditional manly tasks. They do admit the situation is a little better amongst "Trad" (traditional) and Christian women, but not by much. My experience is that Fourth Wave Feminism has profoundly influenced Christian women.
In my country the woman is expected to do all womanly roles, and the man's! Our women have gone WGTOW. The way we bring up our children this parts is pathetic. We're about to see the fruit of our labour!
@@lilanwanboi3661 Fatherlessness, we know from generations of research, is a social disaster. Women raising children without the biological father in the home is a prescription for skyrocketing crime and poverty. You reap what you sow.
@Charles McKinley Actually, there are some very thoughtful and informed Vlogs that are within the tent of MGTOW. But, again, my point was not to validate MGTOW but to note that research indicates that modern women very often do not know how to cook, clean or manage a home. Generally, high schools do not carry Home Economic classes any more. It is considered demeaning for girls to learn how to manage a well ordered home. Hence, MGTOW Vloggers ask the question, what exactly do women bring to a modern marriage since, as a rule, the husband pays most if not all the bills and continues doing the expected functions of a husband?
@@ThePrairieChronicles I, of course, cannot dispute your personal experience. My experience, though, is radically different. I have never known a husband that does not provide 80-100% percent of the income for the purpose of paying the bills (this is substantiated by research--but notice below two exceptions) and do the usual lawn, house and car maintenance. I only have one woman amongst all my large extended family (a niece) who can do any work on a car whatsoever (she was trained by her husband). I have known two husbands that are stay-at-home dads (because their wives made a high income). However, both of them homeschool their children, do all the housework, all the yardwork, all the car maintenance and the cooking. The key is to look at national trends. What this indicates is that fewer and fewer women know how to cook or manage a good house. Yet, married men continue to--on average--to pay around 80% of the household expenses while continuing to do the traditional masculine duties of home, yard and auto maintenance. This has led to a growing percentage of men deciding to avoid marriage.
lol even half wahmen were against the first wave of feminism in the first place. they were smart enough to see where the things were going; but the men were too soft and taken advantage of by the neoeconomic masters
Ouch...I don't think all the women i know including my wife would find this pill easy to swallow. Many of the Christian women I know do not like my theology and continually challenge each and every position I hold. Holding the line has been brutal! I'm learning not to jump in the shark tank! I'm learning that arguing with stupid doesn't bring me peace. Pray for my marriage it is on the ropes. Thanks again always love the medicine you dispense. Shalom
I'm with you, brother. My wife is full fledge SJW liberal who thinks it's sexist to say that women cannot be preachers. Our marriage is basically hanging on a thread.
@Charles McKinley Trust me, I am not obsessed with where they stand on reformed theology (heck, I have been recommending Mike Winger to everyone and he has videos against calvinism). We are going to meet with my pastor in the future for help but who knows how that shall go.
@@Ironica82 When your marriage is hanging by a thread you know you are in a dark place...I think there are many reasons why marriages fail but one of the main reasons is communication...when everything goes silent. When we are unable to talk about anything without getting into some kind of conflict is the beginning...I too need help. Lord help this man and myself to a serious talk with our wives.
Most churches do not teach what is necessary for both men and women to know to walk the path of salvation together and to handle the many challenges that come with life that try to push us off the path of salvation. The battle for our souls is continuous until we draw our last breath. Most churches do not accept this responsibility and that’s why many men are disheartened with church. Men are practicable, women are emotional and only a skilled pastor can teach at this level. Perhaps this is why Christ used so many parables.
Your children -- boys and girls -- should be learning NOW what and how to do the things they are going to need to know as adults. Thus, they should be engaged on Saturdays with household chores and maintenance right along with mom and dad.
You work and pay the bills. You are the spiritual head of the family and lead both in spiritual and family matters. The woman takes care of the house, looks after the children, feeds, nurtures, and nurses everyone and assists her husband.
@@julieannedous2799 What is a spiritual head? Suppose husband and wife have different religions? He's Christian, she is atheist, etc. Or suppose he gives incorrect info or leadership?
@@steveshapiro326 Sorry, but you just described isn’t Biblical. Interfaith marriages are considered a sin. Just because many Christians don’t take the Bible seriously these days doesn’t make it less true.
@@steveshapiro326 I will never marry a non-Christian. In fact, I grew-up in a household similar to what you described except my dad is the agnostic. I’m not going to get into the details of it but it was messed-up. I wish I had had true Biblical headship growing-up, as Pastor Wilson advocates for.
@@mattdillon4398 Writibg a commentary on the entire Bible, is just a massive massive task! And so very impressive! He said you can’t make this stuff up, because it’s so crazy but it’s true in his family!! There’s a lot of impressive stories with their family.
Are you kidding? Many women fail at being good wives these days even before marriage by not remaining chaste; and lest I get accused of sexism - same goes for the men!
HUGE mistake right at the start. If we are self-motivated we WILL fail. Our motivation must be the Holy Spirit which dwells in us; this is what it is to worship in Spirit and in Truth. I'm absolutely confident that Doug agrees with me, and that he simply missed that detail and misspoke. However, it's an extremely important point, absolutely of paramount importance.
@@billybob-wx2re Can you cite a passage which speaks in such a way? Self-motivation is of spiritual pride, and honest motivation is of the Spirit Of Truth. I understand being productive is in the Bible, but does it say to source the motivation of that productivity from the self? I'm very skeptical yet very open to being corrected.
@@NicholasproclaimerofMessiah so when you get married, you shouldn’t have individual motivations to serve and glorify God in your life? You have to have the exact same ministry, and exact same prayer life? I think you are misunderstanding what he said. If you aren’t self motivated to serve the Lord prior to marriage, you shouldn’t get married. You have to have your own personal pursuit of Christ or else you’ll get dependent on a spouse who is mutable and will eventually not be there to help
@@sovereigngrace9723 I understood what he meant. I just think what he stated is incorrect; hence why I said he misspoke. I would not love my wife based on self-motivation, because that would be horrible; rather the cross of Christ is my motivation to love, because God forgave me and showed me what love is, and He compels me to do better than I would do. I don't care what I think though, nor do I care what you think. You either have Scripture to support your claim or you don't. If the Bible has correction for me, then I will gladly receive it.
@@sovereigngrace9723 Sorry for being rude; you're logo is about the same color as Billy Bob's, and I thought you were him. What I said is still true, but I would have said it differently (more politely) if I knew I had not already asked you for Scripture.
@Charles McKinley Hey Charles. You mean rather than a pick of virgins after graduating H.S. in the 40's and 50's the odds are you can find happiness with a modern day THOT! Great odds I would say
I knew a man who would continually excuse his wife not going to church and performance of other duties because of the chronic pain de jour... whatever she didn't feel like doing he delegated to the kids.
Well, maybe she did have a chronic condition that left her pretty much incapacitated. Not for you to judge. Not your problem, not any of your business.
The wife is a helper. What is she helping the man to do is the most important question. Genesis 2:18 The wife is a multiplier. Genesis 3:16 Her Godly given duty is to benefit the children (next generation) Notice: Adam is NOT the FATHER of ALL living( Genesis 3:20) Second notice: The woman was NOT sent forth to till the ground (Genesis 3:23) Third notice: In Genesis 3:23 the wording " sent HIM" indicates SINGULAIR MASCULINE SUBJECT. Fourth notice: Only Adam got the command in Genesis 2:17 Eve was not made until Genesis 2:22 Eve didn't receive extra spirit when she was made, neither can she give away anything that she got when she was made. You'll understand what I am saying when you will understand the 2 Adams ( 1Corinthians 15:45) You want to understand Revelation you have to understand Genesis (Isaiah 46:10) You can have an earthly Godly woman or you can have a HEAVENLY GODLY woman, they are BOTH obedient to the man. The difference is the treasure that is inside her, and that belongs to God. It's all about that PEARL (Matthew 13:46, Revelation 21:21) ALL glory belongs to God and Jesus Christ our savior.
Doug, you have the ability to see many right things on paper, but you frankly couldn’t spot a disorderly woman if she was crying in your office. I believe this is in part because of an “I’m smarter than you” attitude which seems to pervade all you do, combined with what appears to be a pugilistic accusatory approach toward Christians who are not like you, and toward much of the outside world in general. I think this is a log of disorder in your eye which you need to remove, then you will be able to see clearly the disorder in others and remove it. Right now you can’t, and it is harmful.
Where are these traditionalist men? Here in the Northeast, I have yet to meet one who isn’t a Boomer (my dad to be exact). My mom was a homemaker and even then, it was kinda rare. Now, no one cares if you have homemaking skills (which I do. My mom and grandmother taught me). If you don’t go out and earn a paycheck, you starve and are out on the street, so it goes both ways. I’ve never met or dated a traditionalist man who was willing to be the sole provider ever. It would have taken a load off of my shoulders.
i feel your pain, but most guys haven't been taught well. both my, and my wife's parents, were divorced, so our upbringing was lacking, especially toward the end. once i realized how dumb it was to send my wife off to work, i told her to quit her job and stay home with the babies. that was years ago, but not a single person in our lives even suggested it. we had to figure it out on our own. sad
@@billybob-wx2re At least you figured it out eventually. I’m just saying, it’s easy for ppl in red states to judge Christians who live in more liberal areas over certain things in which we really have no control. A woman cannot submit if she has no one to submit to. I’d actually be much more comfortable in that role.
@Charles McKinley Yes I see your point of view. It follows the Bible on you shall only serve one master. But my point of view is that the modern-day church has water downed scripture so much. That not only are the young men acting foolish so are the young women. I can't count how many christian women get mad when you warn them about sin or being left astray same with the christian men. Our egos are so inflated. But yes your right their is a lack of godly young men within the church and a abundance of women.
@Michelle Staunton yes it does I wonder about this topic all the time a thought that pops in my mind is does the devil attack the young men of the church or the young women more. whicth one is playing right into Satan's trap?
@@jakenokken7245 You don't really mean "an abundance of women". You mean an abundance of THOTs. Send your daughters to a university and it is like putting them in a rabbit hutch with couple breeding bucks.
Disorderly wife ? Never had a filthy girlfriend- let me tell you why cuz I switch into Patton mode aka not so nice 😂⛔️and i am not your best friend either 🤠 - Show me a larger group of women teaching young girls with wisdom - this is like finding a gold nugget in your washing machine - all rough and rugged aside - I am sorry for your loss of a loved one.
My wife was doing so good until she became a partner in an feminist lesbian firm.... I can’t begin to tell you the amount of heartbroken suffering and disfunction in our marriage and family since. The bible is so clear on that, we should have listened. Now she can’t see or hear a thing. Be careful who you yoke up with in life.
I sympathize with you. However, that is one of the dangers of work outside the home for a woman. There are many influences and greater temptations for her in that role. She needs to be well established in her submission, as well as in her role at home, through your own clear guidance. Even a workplace not as feminist as you describe can be a barrier to her godly womanhood, and present a problem in your marriage. Build marriage entirely on what God teaches. If you have lost that, start reestablishing it now.
I am a conservative Christian (opc). It's two 2yrs later than this video's publication...2 more yrs of the CREC/canon press stepping on rakes with everything they say. Plus bonuses like his wife saying how righteous she was for smacking their 3yr old for expressing sadness about a playdate having to end, and his daughters shaming housewives for basically being poor (aka they have to decorate a certain way to be godly). Nothing ages well when it wasnt good to begin with. Like my comment for solidarity. If you know you know.
Scripture teaches that the head of EVERY man is Christ, and the head of the woman is the man. Sadly, modern Christianity teaches the lie that a 'pastor' is the head of man, and further propagates lies by teaching that a man and woman, husband and wife, are equal in leadership in the home.
@@steveshapiro326 That is a Bible Scripture, it did not originate with me. I just happen to believe holy Scripture above modern traditions and doctrine that runs contrary to holy Scripture. While NOT every man on the planet is a woman's head, her husband is her head. Also, woman do NOT have spiritual authority over a man. Women are NOT to teach or preach to men during the gathering called congregation or assembly. However, women can evangelize both men or women. And women can prophecy outside of the congregation/assembly meeting. Grace and peace to you as you seek the Lord's wisdom by holy Scripture and being filled, led and taught by the Holy Spirit, without which no one can fully understand God's word, ways and instruction for life. see John 3, verses 3-8
@@ksr622002 As Christ is the head, the Lord of His true followers, so the husband is the head of His wife. Jesus gives the commands and leads His followers and He also laid His life down to save us. Likewise, a godly husband is lord or lesder of his home and wife, and lay his life down for her. Scripture says the husband is to go out into the field and work while the wife is to stay home, be domestic and raise children. And the husband is to be the priest in his home, washing his wife in the water of the word. As you can see, few follow Jesus according to Scripture and leading of the holy Spirit.
Like seriously whoever comes up with these statements trump is still my president I mean they may need to live in reality similarly to people who have said trump was not their president before both of these statements are objectively dumb in my opinion just trying to make one or another large group of people mad
I like to watch these videos to try to understand the Evangelical perspective of which I find difficult to agree with lots of the time. The amount of testosterone ridden bias within this analyzation is plenty... I suppose that is no surprise considering a male written bible, male dominated history, and male taught Christianity. For every thing suggested and taught about females in this video can be said about males. If it can be said about both sexes, why single out woman? I suppose the response is that the scripture teaches that woman and man are not equal in familial duty. Which then makes me wonder... If a woman is not carrying out what the fundamental Christian sees fit, is that not likely a systemic implication from the environment/male? In which case would it not be more helpful for the male to simply help in "putting away the dishes" or "house build" than to preach/talk about their failed opportunities to glorify God and prevent blasphemy? Thanks for the video Pastor Wilson. I greatly appreciate your perspective.
@@sayloltothetroll6806 If that is so then men are also responsible for everything that goes wrong so if the woman is not doing her job it's the mans fault. Talk to him about it.
It's not like we really have much of a choice do we? There are only so many Godly women, and they are just as picky as the ungodly ones. There is no possible hope for marriage or companionship, unless you are willing to settle.
It's not like we really have much of a choice do we? "There are only so many Godly men, and they are just as picky as the ungodly ones. There is no possible hope for marriage or companionship, unless you are willing to settle." Notice how silly this comment becomes when "women' is changed to "men."
Not to be rude but a women who knows her role doesn’t need to be controlled. You not there to control your wife your meant to love her as Christ love the church and gave his life for it. A women is meant to be submissive to her husband and if your are a Godly women you will because you have learnt to be submissive and obedient to Christ. And you will respect him. If your husband has to correct you in public and control you something is not working right. The wife is the weaker vessels and Paul mentions you must bare with them as such. If you a looking for wife check out what she is like when she around her parents and she if she respects and honours them if she doesn’t she might not be the girl for you as this reflects how she has been brought up.
@@greenghost6416 How are you going to control her? Scripture nowhere tells the man to control his wife. Submission is voluntary on the part of the woman, it cannot be forced.
Yes it does. Scripture teaches that the man is head of the wife. That by definition is authority, and it will include telling her what she needs to do. It's the same with any other authority, be it God, government, parents, or masters. It also commands a wife to submit to and obey her husband. She voluntarily decided to submit when she said "I do" at the wedding. It then became her job, and she needs to do it.
@@grantarmbruster6591 don’t be a manipulator. Plenty of men leave a loving wife. Shall this be reversed? Why would a women ever leave a loving husband who provides and takes care of husband duties.
(EDIT: this comment is in error, please see replies for clarification) Even Doug Wilson is swapping the word "sex" in for "gender"!!?? If not for Jesus, I would be tempted to think we're doomed. Sex is a reproductive process; gender is that which is inborn, usually referring to matters of generation/reproduction.
Interesting! Not long ago I saw/read/heard a learned person assert that "gender" has to do with language (grammar, linguistics, or some-such). For example, in Spanish "house" is feminine -- la casa; "body" is masculine -- el cuerpo. (I hope I got those right -- lol!) As for "sex" it is used correctly in reference to human beings, their biology as well as their reproductive activities. Wish I could remember where I got that information!
@@josiew3120 (EDIT: this comment contains errors, please refer to the next reply which is carefully factual and which also apologizes for the sin of speaking without having done due diligence) Yeah, I hear what people say, but God is the one who says the Truth. The word "gender" refers first to that which is inborn/engendered. It comes from "generate" which is from Greek "egeneto" which means: generate, often with a connotation of making. From first meaning "that which is inborn", "gender" is then applied specifically as male and female. Only after specifically meaning male and female in biology, does "gender" eventually get applied to things such as grammar. It is in no way first about grammar and then eventually applied to inborn traits, that is exactly backwards of how the word is defined and applied. The entire point of masculine and feminine words is that they reference the real world facts of human gender-roles. If we call gender-roles "sex-roles" then we would need to start referring to grammar as having sex instead of gender, lest we be reduced to nonsense as the world are reduced to nonsense. Originally "sex" meant sex and "gender" meant gender, but when they wanted to redefine "gender" they started using the word "sex" as if it means gender. This happened well before either of us were born; spiritually it goes hand in hand with Marxism. If you want to join them in redefining words, then you are welcome to it, but I'm not going to let liars pressure me to speak deceptively. When people discuss the word "gender" by emphasizing grammar etc, they are simply spreading deception, which is why I speak against it. In semantics, correct and incorrect is a matter of perspective, and I am careful to base what I say on God's perspective rather than on any human perspective. Specifically: God haters want to redefine "gender" in order to deny reality, because reality is Truth is Jesus Christ whom they hate. If people stand firm that the word "gender" means gender, then people cannot pretend to change their gender. They want to lie about their gender, and this is the sole reason they propagate the deception that "gender" does not mean gender. Doug was trying to be properly understood. But, sex-roles have to do with what goes on under the sheets, and "gender-roles" is the proper name for the differentiation of roles between males and females. Doug is one man who should know better, and he should know why it matters. In fact, every Christian leader should be with God on this one.
@@josiew3120 Sorry Eden, while I was correct about the word "gender" I was incorrect about the word "sex". I have done the due diligence of research now, and it was sin for me to speak before doing so. Please let me correct myself, and I'll clearly prove these details for you. Originally "sex" and "gender" were synonymous: "sex" from "sect" as in to separate into categories, and "gender" simply means "heredity" as in that which is inherited biologically. "Gender" as a term of grammar, has no meaning without it's original meaning. Cultural Marxists have vast influence, and originally they deliberately lied about this, but now many of them are simply unlearned (such as the "learned" man you quoted, who just parroted propaganda without bothering to learn first). Here is what that man thinks (I found a quote from someone who was deceived in the exact same way): QUOTE Gender literally means "kind" (from the Latin "genus"), and it was originally a linguistic term. Its use as an alternative to "sex" dates from 1955, and is contemporaneous with the academic distinction between "gender" as the societal roles of males and females vs. "sex" as the biological distinction between males and females. Before then it was barely used outside of linguistics. en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gender#Etymology_and_usage en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Grammatical_gender books.google.com/ngrams/graph?content=gender%2Csex&case_insensitive=on&year_start=1800&year_end=2000&corpus=15&smoothing=3&direct_url=t4%3B%2Cgender%3B%2Cc0%3B%2Cs0%3B%3Bgender%3B%2Cc0%3B%3BGender%3B%2Cc0%3B%3BGENDER%3B%2Cc0%3B.t4%3B%2Csex%3B%2Cc0%3B%2Cs0%3B%3Bsex%3B%2Cc0%3B%3BSex%3B%2Cc0%3B%3BSEX%3B%2Cc0 END QUOTE That is a very deceptive quote. Wikipedia are deliberately dishonest about Cultural Marxism, but I will spare you a full explanation of this point. The Google graph does show that the word "sex" was used for gender far more often than "gender" was, but it also shows "gender" was used that way as far back as the graph shows, which is far further back than 1955. I will show you a citation that the word "gender" was synonymous with "sex" in English at least as far back as the early 1400s (which, due to the printing press, is the earliest time when English can be truly said to be a single language); early 1400s is also long before 1955. Note: PIE means "proto Indo-European", so when you get to the part about "PIE" you get to the shared origin of all the other words mentioned. 14c means 1300s and 15c means 1400s. Late 14c is immediately previous to early 15c, and this time is before the printing press, so our sample sizes of texts from back then is rather limited; therefor, as a matter of scientific assessment, we cannot be exact enough to claim proof of chronological order, but rather we should consider both to be about the same time. From etymonline.com QUOTE "gender (n.) c. 1300, "kind, sort, class, a class or kind of persons or things sharing certain traits," from Old French gendre, genre "kind, species; character; gender" (12c., Modern French genre), from stem of Latin genus (genitive generis) "race, stock, family; kind, rank, order; species," also "(male or female) sex," from PIE root *gene- "give birth, beget," with derivatives referring to procreation and familial and tribal groups. Also used in Latin to translate Aristotle's Greek grammatical term genos. The grammatical sense is attested in English from late 14c. The unetymological -d- is a phonetic accretion in Old French (compare sound (n.1)). The "male-or-female sex" sense is attested in English from early 15c. As sex (n.) took on erotic qualities in 20c., gender came to be the usual English word for "sex of a human being," in which use it was at first regarded as colloquial or humorous. Later often in feminist writing with reference to social attributes as much as biological qualities; this sense first attested 1963. Gender-bender is from 1977, popularized from 1980, with reference to pop star David Bowie. END QUOTE The fact is that, in English, we can specifically cite "gender" as a grammatic term and biological term at about the same time. The fact is also that the grammatic use was invented by Aristotle when he applied reference from the biological fact to express his opinions about language; and that distinction today is equally a reference to biological fact. Without biological reference, there is no meaning to "gender" in context of grammar. The first attempt, in English, to refer to human gender as a social matter is about 450 years later than it's use as biological sex (did the "learned" man mention this fact?). Those who try to downplay the biological reference, are those who want children to be manipulated into taking hormones which will mutilate their bodies. Sorry for wasting your time with my first response. I hope you appreciate the careful factual approach I took this time, and I hope you appreciate that children need us to refute those who want to mutilate their bodies.
@@josiew3120 One quick thing I forgot: QUOTE gender (v.) "to bring forth," late 14c., from Old French gendrer, genrer "engender, beget, give birth to," from Latin generare "to engender, beget, produce" (see generation). Related: Gendered; gendering. END QUOTE (I tried to link the exact page, which has simple useful diagrams, but it won't let me. If it's awaiting approval, then maybe this reply will become redundant. Anyway, the previous comment links the site and you can search for "gender" to see the diagrams)
Sex is assigned at birth, and is not, in fact, just the act of copulating. Gender is a spectrum used to define how one views themselves, and how society views them based on the binary scale we typically follow.
So have nothing to do with a woman who is not doing "her" work. And if she is your wife then that is most definitely a one way ticket to divorce. Good talk, but you left out a lot a lot of scripture in regards to marriage.
@@marysheilds9966 Taking one scripture totally out of context is not good for scriptural understanding, especially if you know why Paul wrote these letters to the Corinthians. Blob & Mablog is obviously far from being someone who could ever pastor a Bible believing church. Blob and Mablog would do a lot better to cover the college agenda and also the hollywood and medai agenda that teaches women the opposite of what the Bible teaches to both men and women. I don't think his videos are very good.
@@marysheilds9966 Disagree! Even God allowed for slave wives in the old testament to divorce their husbands if they were abusive or did not care for their needs or failed to give them their conjugal rights. If God gave those rights to a slave wife then how much more a free wife? There is nothing in scripture that says that a widow or a divorced woman has to go back to her father either. That's just plain stupidity. She's an adult woman not a child.She has rights in the marriage and a violation of those rights gives her permission to divorce in sripture. Also, A man cannot divorce his wife is she is lazy. That is not grounds for divorce. You pharisees make up your own laws and you replace God's law with your own traditions. Woe to you!
Coming from a man who has married pedophiles, told wives who’ve been raped and abused to stay, and led abortion and mask protests leading to deaths of those in my hometown community, you should truly keep your archaic values to yourself. Also, I Am the Breadwinner, I Am Overweight, I Decide what is done with my Body, and we share in household tasks. We Both are Responsible, because we live in the 21st century. I am more than a wife or mother, I am a human. Your propaganda is synonymous with The Handmaid’s Tale and I find it so embarrassing that your group lives in the place I was raised. Also, crazy cat lady? Bread of idleness? You are such a close minded misogynist. Also, while you’re trying to appeal with memes, “crazy cat lady? You got it wrong. A woman did the math and decided a companion who couldn’t talk and craps in a box is better than a man.”
Dear holy spirit, please show these women that this is not truth, this is abusive, give them the strength to get out of this.. bring this horrible sinful man's actions into the light.. Amen
I feel so sorry for his wife, if she can see this.. this is not biblical or what God wants. you can get out ... this guy is twisted and more than likely was bullied or abused as a kid , found the bible and used it as a weapon... get out
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My mom TOLD me all these things. I am just learning now how to actually be these things. It was never properly taught to me. Boy, I have a lot of work to do. Thank the Lord I have a patient and understanding husband.
As a women who was not taught, I can say it’s been rough. I’m 37 and educating myself, mainly how to be a diligent mother to our five kids. God’s been good.
I learned later in life
Yes Or no ~ Hi! lm an ''older'' woman that wasn't taught, and am _still_ struggling. However, l am a new Christian, and Jesus has been AMAZING! l _should not_ even be here! Keep trusting, AND walking with HIM FOREVER! :D
Do you have any opinions on the many women who have been forced into marriage when they were children and raped...all because of God's will? At least they they were compliant, right?!
My dear, get out this is not what God wants for you .. these are abusive men... and brainwashing.. get out of this, this is not truth.. there is help out there ..
Enjoy your slave non human status fools.
Ouch. I must confess I'm more than a little convicted as I sit and listen to this podcast---which could very much be me eating the bread of idleness 😬😳🤦🏼♀️ Go to the ant, you sluggard!! All I can hear is Rachel's voice urging me as I fuss at my kids for the state of their rooms to go look at mine. Ok, I gotta go do a thing.
"Many women have not been taught how to be home makers." So true Pastor Wilson. I was just talking to my husband about this. I told him that had I been raised to be a homemaker and prepared to be a wife, I could've saved my marriage a lot of heartache. I was that odious woman at one point, thankfully my husband saw fit to be patient with me. I've grown a lot since but man do I wish these principles were in my upbringing. Another awesome video!
I agree, same here. But i long for correction and God is providing these kind of women
I think a lot of women have had this experience. My mum was always at work or always tired/distracted by the computer or tv. I was raised on packet pasta and frozen convenience food so it was a big learning curve for me to become a homemaker. Even things like decorating, organising and furnishing a home I had no real concept of because I grew up in disorder and clutter. I am learning though and thankful to have a mother-in-law who has taught me much in this area.
Yes! Was never taught so it took me a good ten YEARS to get to the point where I was disciplined enough to truly run my home well. I have four kids and two are daughters. I will be damned if they don’t learn how to run a household.
Meeee toooo! Praise God for good husbands and the work of the Holy Spirit.
@@ChristelleJohnson that’s awesome that you have her to mentor you in this area ❤️
As a wife and mother, this was a cool refreshing cup of water in the midst of a marathon. Thank you!
I usually cringe whenever pastors try to explain how women should be. I actually like this! It's a miracle! Praise the Lord. LOL I appreciate that this actually shows us that we are strong, useful, and important in our roles and that our roles are important! I am sincerely thankful that I get to do mine and that I choose to take it on 100% :D
@@JW-tg1nn why is that?
You cringe because you hate truth
@@JW-tg1nn this shows you lack of understanding
@@repentorperish1386 because J W is crazy
I am a blessed man. I married a woman from the country where I was serving as a missionary. We have been married 17 years and have 6 children. She homeschools all of them and takes great care of all of us. All our children play violin and speak Russian. I am grateful for how God gave me a wife who fears Him and supports me. In my opinion, she is the example the Bible gives as she supports me to serve as a pastor.
Thanks for sharing David. May I ask what country that was? Was her mother a homemaker - did she learn from her?
@@nemoliberestquicorpo The Republic of Moldova. Her mother is still working as a pharmacist. Much of her training came from her grandmother and the Christian Baptist culture she grew up in.
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Wow. Thank you for this. I continuing learning more and more from your channel. Thank you for your powerful wisdoms and continual discussions of God's word. I am in my early 20s and will have been married for 4 years in September. I have a lot to learn, and even more to Grow in my walk with God. This CALLED ME OUT! (Ouch. haha) But that's what I love about it. I will never continue to grow un less I hear these things.
Spare the rod spoil the child doesn't stop when you're 18... Sometimes things need to hurt in order to understand the weight they hold! Thank you for this, and I hope to work on the things I feel that are holding me back from being the best wife and future mother I can be. God Bless you!
"A man's work is from sun to sun -- a woman's work is NEVER done."
Give me a break.
I am a woman and I approve this message. Titus 1 is crystal clear.
Lord bless my husband. I was not raised a Christian or to be a homemaker. But when we married I put myself to the task as best as I could. Early on in our married I couldn’t even fry and egg. One day I was cleaning out my husband’s car and I found all the lunches I had loving made that week untouched and rotting. He hadn’t wanted to discourage my efforts but also couldn’t stomach my food. I now cook to his liking and we always laugh at that story. I am glad he was patient with my early efforts.
I'm all about Galatians 6:5! I'm the friend/family memeber that helps too much and God has given me this verse to keep close to my heart.
So am I in trouble? I married a wonderful, godly woman. We don’t have any “assigned gender roles” (or whatever the woke are calling them this week) vis a vis housekeeping and such. She hates cleaning the house - I have no issues with doing that. I hate phonecalls and making appointments - she takes that chore. I mow the lawn, she does the holiday stuff (I hate holidays). We both do laundry. Whatever. They’re just chores. I figure I help make the mess, I can help clean it up.
I’ll throw my 2 cents your direction, if you want it?
Early in the marriage, and before kids, it’s wonderful and fine to split most things down the middle, simply because the bulk of her role as a woman has not come yet. Aka the kids. And I think it’s a great time for younger couples to sort out life together. Figure out what you don’t know about the home, and learn it together. Because both spouses should be able to do anything and know how. Because sometimes things come up, and we need to help the other.
Like getting sick, breaking a leg, the death of a loved one, etc. All are life things that will come up, and you’ll want to be fluent so you can help her as you are able to later on.
But…. And a big big butttt it is. You will find that a point will come, when you both will need to assume your adult, God ordained roles as man and woman. This usually happens when the first kid comes. If she wants to obey God above all else… she needs to stay home with the child, she needs to leave work, she needs to not put parenting off on other people, or groups, or the government systems. She needs to cook legitimate food, she needs to clean basically everything in the home herself. She needs to be the major education source for the kids for schooling.
All of this is a lot to take on, and I would urge her to not wait until the baby is here to begin. There’s a lot of growing pains in adjusting to doing it all, and there’s huge growing pains with having a new baby… and than a toddler… and then a real life kid!!! It would be so much easier for her, if she could get the hone situation on lock, before she finds herself with child. And I speak from experience brother. It’s hard!
As the man, God commands you many many things too, which I’m sure you know. And if you want to obey God above all else, you will have some growing pains really stepping into your full role for the first time too. And you shouldn’t wait for that baby to realize it’s need either. Because it will be harder on you at that point too. To name a few things off memory, you are to provide financially for the family entirely. You are to be the spiritual leader, and home theology educator. You are to wash your bride in God’s Word. You are to protect and cover her from any and all things. You are to strive to present her blameless to the Lord. You are accountable for the wife you lead, or dont lead.
With all that said, this doesn’t mean that you don’t help at all with the home or kids, because you absolutely do!! But it’s her job, it’s her role. You want a happy wife, you want a wife that feels supported, and protected, so she can relax and joyfully concentrate on her role. Because she knows you’re there and you have her back in all things! You are to be kind, gentle, loving, patient with your bride.
But, you don’t support sin. You don’t support one another ignoring Gods commands for your marriage, because that is sin. God designed us and this entire system. Then He tells us the instruction manual for it. If you ignore that, and ignore Him…. You will have a very very hard fall into reality once it catches up to you guys, which is pretty much always after kids come. I would highly highly encourage both of you to start learning about Gods commands for marriage now, and don’t wait for the fighting to begin. God wrote us a beautiful instructional manual, love letter, and history book that entails everything we need to know, to live a joyful and fulfilling life. My husband and I have been together for almost 14 years, we learned things the hard way. We took the road of waiting for everything to hit the fan before we realized how messed up we were. As brothers and sisters in Christ I hope to compel you to start sorting it out now, don’t wait. Go to the Word, and submit to that. That’s the best way to have a good marriage. Everything Doug said here is spot on.
Look up a couple books on Amazon, and just buy them. Our discipling mentors had us get them and read them too, with them. It’s
The Excellent Wife by Martha Peace
And
The Exemplary Husband by Stuart Scott
You’ll want elder mentors to go through them with you… frankly, because you’re likely to be upset by something, and need it explained scripturally more. None of this is legalism or anything, it’s just explaining Gods commands for us within the marriage. But it can be hard to hear if you have never heard it before. The books were recommended by John MacArthors ministry, which our mentors use mostly their book recommendations because they are all great!!
I said a lot, but I hope this was fruitful for you. You’ll be just fine if you just start the correct road now. I wish you two a very happy and growing marriage. God definitely uses our spouses to sanctify us, it’s hard… but God knows what He’s doing. ♥️🙏🏽
If you are happy in your marriage, don't come to the internet seeking validation. Enjoy your union. May God bless and keep you both.
@@DarkArwen929 I don’t think he’s seeking validation, it seems to me that he’s asking a very vulnerable and difficult question. And that deserves respect and kindness in responding to.
Lots of people are “happy” in their relationships. And a lot of them are living in chronic sin. What the flesh desires and enjoys, is not what God commands us to live. We should live as God commands, if we profess to be Christians. And if we want to rebel against God’s order to life…. We should stop professing to be Christian, as to not tarnish the Name of God.
Sounds like a great marriage to me. Same situation with my husband and I. We each do what we're good at and split the unpleasant stuff as it makes sense.
When he's got a lot going on, I take over most of the home stuff. When I'm working late, he makes dinner or washes up.
It's pointless to impose cultural norms on people and pretend they're biblical.
@@tayh.6235 If you are completely rejecting the fact that God has identified gender roles for husband and wife, you are denying God’s commands. If you want to live differently that’s fine, but don’t pretend that God has not spoken on this. I encourage you to read proverbs 31, and Titus 2… and probably the entire Bible next. In order. Or don’t, but then maybe don’t speak about it. Because you are incorrect, and bringing reproach on God’s Word.
Thank you Pastor Doug for sharing this truth!!!
I wasn't able to read over all the comments below, but what I realized (before watching this video) is that this is so very true in my life and on those around me that I feel like I'm an alien in this world. Not that I've been a perfect diligent wife and mom, nor that I've been perfectly taught in this area, but I see nowadays that many girls are so used to having someone to carry their burden that they can't even pick up a toy on the floor nor a trash she steps on while walking, nor even teach their kids to respect the environment thei live in or other people's houses. I feel sad! I'm not used to having people doing my chores for me. When I was a kid, mom had to work outside the house full day and we had a maid that lived in our house. But my mother always reminded me that I had to help taking care of my own room and help with the house chores, for the maid already had plenty of work to do. What I learned from it was that I have no right to make someone's burden even harder, and now I feel responsible for my own home. I fail sometimes, I fail as a wife and mom for expecting my husband and my daughter to get into that, but after this video, I don't feel like an alien anymore. Thank you, Pastor, for bringing up this point! May God bless you and keep you faithful to His Word always! I wish we had this talk in Portuguese too.
So sorry to hear about your sister Pastor Doug. I unexpectedly lost an aunt and expectedly lost a grandfather. They both loved Jesus thankfully.
Thank you for sharing. Very convicting and praying the Lord guides me and teaches me to be a godly woman and wife. I am older in age yet a young Christian.
If I had magic, or a zillion bucks, I'd pay maximo dinero to see Doug debate AOC on, "what worldview presents the healthiest sex roles."
@Charles McKinley Wow you got me.
I don't want to watch Doug kick puppies, or stomp in kittens, what depraved creature would pay to see that? Repent brother. =)
Always grateful for the wise counsel!
My gurl is an excellent homemaker
That's nice. My ex was a contentious harpy.
@@ds29912 I’m sorry dude, but I laughed WAY too hard at how you worded that. I hope y you are doing well now.
@@travis6694 oh yeah. Much better.
Eve was Adam's helper. Eve being a 'helper' pre-assumes Adam was physically busy enough he needed extra help, had spiritual blind spots she could see better and needed her to complete him as a whole person. Two becoming one flesh and all that. Notice neither Eve nor Adam were complete in and of themselves. They NEEDED each other in order to become one complete whole. Ladies, look at the world around you today. What is the most singular message the world is relentlessly hammering into girls daily for the last 40 years? "don't need no man" While I have no dispute with Doug's commentary he didn't address the 500 pound gorilla in the corner. If women are going to have successful marriages today they are going to have to intentionally and purposefully reject the lies of the world bombarding them from every direction on tv, radio and social media.
Speaking as an older woman who, while falling a bit short of Proverbs 31, has learned to be more "godly", and thus blessedly more happily wed, God's way is much better. I don't care what modern western culture says. They are wrong.
So glad I found this app!!!
Thank you for having the courage to speak truth, I needed to hear it.
I agree absolutely about working from home and I can definitely see the benefit of this (This is very clear in Titus 2). Also the scripture that you have used from Thessalonians 2 'for we hear that some have which walk among you disorderly , working not at all, but are busybodies'...... this is not discussing 'disorderly wives' but if you read the chapter before was in relation to the coming of Christ and the man of lawlessness. People were being idle instead of working and Paul is saying... 'That's not what we we taught you, we worked, we didn't take from other people and neither should you'. Don't take my word for it... please read the whole letter of Thessalonians and its seems to be much clearer. There is a very good John piper message which goes through this also called The second coming: Not before the man of lawlessness'.
I found this quite troubling when I first watched it because I thought... How am I supposed to Have a new-born, home-school 3 other children using the Government curriculum, clean, do the shopping, cook for everyone and then receive only some help but 'carry my own burden'? (that verse is referring to burden as sin not jobs btw) I don't think you can just transfer the passage of Titus to now either.... Boys were going to the synagogue and could recite it off by heart at 12 years old. Schooling was not what it is was today. I'm sure that men supplied food through work and farming ect. I think it is very clear about not being idle but I think some of these ideas about gender roles have come about through society and are not biblical.
Praise God for his great mercy in your life. That he gave you godly loving parents and family. Not anything you did bur his mercy
Disorderly wives was never a problem until modern times. The reason this is a problem now is because men don't have the legal authority to make their wives orderly. This is the only way modern relationship problems can actually be solved.
Yes, that absolutely would help. The authority of the man is real and given by God, whether it is recognized by the state or not.
My wife definitely falls to the idleness thing. I have no idea how to show her this without being an angry tyrant. But I am patient with her cause I know what her mom and dad were like and well, she never saw a good example. Not even close.
I’d like to give you hope, if a woman is involved in church and has relationships with older women, she will grow up one day. Pray for her, your compassion is doing more than you know. I’ve fallen into idleness at times when my babies were small or I struggled with severe health issues, I’m thankful my husband has stuck with me.
@@MrsSecor Why are you beating yourself up over "idleness" when it's actually exhaustion or severe ill health? And I would think that your husband "sticking" with you under those circumstances would be a given. God bless you!
@@chickenheart896 I like this comment, you seem to understand. I guess I was trying to respond to the commenter above in a way that might encourage compassion and patience for his wife. From experience, I know that compassion and understanding motivates one much more than anger and fear.
@@MrsSecor I'm thankful that Christ is compassionate to me! Sometimes in their zeal for "orderliness", those in leadership positions break the bruised reed and quench the smoking flax.
@@chickenheart896 great word picture, balm for my soul and I’m sure for others as well. Christ is so compassionate. Being a shepherd in my work life has taught me so much about how God deals with us as sheep and exactly what the word means with that comparison. You can’t beat sheep into submission, it’s actually impossible.
It depends if the woman is a stay-at-home mom or does she work 12 hours a day,? I agree there should not be laziness however if both parents are working the man needs to pick up his share of the household duties and chores
You've missed the point....
Agreed! My husband wants me to work so we can pay off debt (we just got married and don’t have kids yet). I’d rather stay home full time but I’m submitting to him by working because he wants me to. It’s hard for me because I want to do the cooking/cleaning but I’m physically unable due to exhaustion. He ends up cooking a few nights a week, which is also submitting to him because he really enjoys cooking as a hobby even though I’d prefer to do it. 😅😅 At this point we earn more money to pay off debt so I can stay at home later in life and it’s cheaper to pay someone to clean the house.
I agree 100%. If the woman is helping the man with his job then he needs to help her with hers.
@@EmilyPetersenHomemaking Hello Amelia its says on my youtube that this comment is 1 year old (not sure how accurate that is) but i am wondering how things are going for you?
@@greenghost6416 wonderful. SAHM now.
You still have the previous Blog and Mablog's title card on this video.
Oops! Good eye!
@@blogmablog4870 Thanks. Let me know if you are ever in need of an editor. ;-)
The struggle in my household is that my husband does not discipline our children. There are no norms or house rules. I tried to make them but he will not uphold them without me reminding. So the house stays very messy although the meals are great and generally things are done well. His rebellious nature sets the tone and he’s an elder in our church.
I'm sorry. He should do a better job at leading. Continue to do your best in caring for the home, and submitting to him, despite his weaknesses.
Go to the church leadership and ask for him to be held accountable.
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He just said that a woman should be subservient. Nah, that's not what my Bible says. There is a difference between subservient and submissive.
Which translation of the bible are you reading?
@@princekermit0 KJV. Submission and subservient are not the same thing.
They are basically the same thing. She is under his authority and obeys him. She should make it her goal to help and serve him. The word subservient does not even appear in the KJV, while submit does, so you must be taking its meaning from elsewhere.
When men think they are women now, and women think they are men, you tell me.....
Thank you for being a Pastor to women!! Our churches need this
Why is it worse for a wife to become lazy than a husband. How about a man who never gets off the couch and drinks all day. Would that qualify?
Amen!!!!
This topic is about women. Take it on it's own merit.
@@JW-tg1nn Definitely does not look like he's missed a meal, EVER.
The noble woman in Proverbs worked outside her home and owned her own business. So many people miss that. She puts family first but really we all should do that. God made things beautiful we screwed it up. I always tell young women look at the man you are going to marry with a microscope. If he isn't someone worth or that your willing to submit to move on. If they feel too threatened to submit to him he is probably weak, immature or abusive. So move on. Women never give a man the time of day if he is not someone you are comfortable to submit to. Men if a woman thinks do low of you you are not trustworthy to them to submit too examine yourself see if you are immature weak or abusive in ways. If not she is not the one because she does not trust you. Or ask her why she doesn't trust you. And move on or wait you are not ready for marriage. Submission is a matter of trust. Most men are not trustworthy but more accurately most people aren't.
I think this schism between home and business is unnecessary and a very recent, post modern thing. We should be careful not to project our modern idea of labor into the days of King Solomon. Unlike in the modern world where we fight high speed traffic to get to work and pursue careers while we deposit our own children into sterile, Godless, Pedagogical government mental laboratories, the ancient and medieval families included their own children in serious family labor, and if the person was a blacksmith, a shoe maker, a tailor, a mason or a gold smith, for example, the husband, the wife and the children, as well as any members of the extended village family, would help each other do their business and pass down their skills to son and daughter to transmit vital survival knowledge. I also don't think there was alot of unsupervised, coed, androgynous male & female campus mingling which leads to fornication, like there is today. Boys were toughened by the world of men, and girls were disciplined into the world of women, and remaining a virgin until marriage was common sense. There was not yet this concept of the isolated, media generated corporate consumer "individual" cut off from family, community and reality, like the Satanic cesspool we live in today. I do agree with you on the trust part though, women should seek strong, Godly and responsible men who have their stuff together for sure, but it goes the other way too; men should find trustworthy, Godly wives who use their reason and common sense instead of their hormones or University Feminist training as yardsticks to judge every male they come across.
@@mr.r2362 I agrer mostly. I know many working moms and dads that homeschool. I agree to keep kids out the the cesspool in society. But that same cesspool existed in that era - Solomon's own home even. Working from home or owning your own business can make it possible to keep kids out of PS or daycare.
B-b-but mommy has to get her nails did every week and daddy has to buy video games therefore we can't afford children
So, here's my question: what do you say to teach a person to think "more about the steak and less about the sizzle?" And do you at some point flat out tell a person they're not ready for marriage?
start by asking what they want in 10 years. ask if the people around them will help or hurt that. let the conversation go where it goes; and remember this doesnt all have to be in one night
Yes, Nancy Wilson has been such a blessing to me and urging me to be more Christlike, live her podcast and Canon press!
Run away from Canon Press and Doug Wilson. Run to Christ.
I am running to Christ, thanks 🙄
Amen. Proverbs 14: 1
Does gluttony count as lapsing?
is there a video about lazy and disordered husbands who drink and don't work, or worse beat their wives
I think it was Nancy Landon Kassebaum who said, "A woman's place is in the House, or the Senate."
The Reforming Marriage book is outstanding...from what my lovely stay-at-home, joyfully submissive and godly wife tells me.
I'll read it this month, Lord-willing.
It's a shame that feminists think that to be a happy woman is to work outside the home and submit to some other man in the corporate world in some pathetic cage they call a "cubicle." Instead of to your husband.
Silly me. I must be an evil patriarchal, sexist.
Keep up the great posts, Pastor Doug. Hopefully it'll encourage more men to be men. And women to be women.
A working woman does not "submit" to another man (or woman) in the corporate world. She obeys his professional authority only for 8 hours, and is free to resign. That is different. The traditional Christian wife is 100% controlled by her husband (in body, mind, soul, bank account). That is primitive and inherently unjust. I would never do a thing like that to my wife.
Convicting, I certainly let myself get too comfortable sometimes.
Out of pure curiosity, what should be required of a wife, home-making wise, who has been physically disabled for the foreseeable future? Not my situation, just curious.
Common sense says you respect the handicapped. Let them do what they are capable -- concentrate on their safety first.
@@steveshapiro326 AMEN
The title at 0:19 is wrong
Oops! Good eye!
Wow surprised with lots womens listening that topic.. wish my wife read those comments, she distorbing our house with angry for simply things. God has mercy..
I just saw a sign that said “Trump is still my president,” while there may technically be some rational and even technically irrational preferability to this kind of statement in terms of hopefully receiving the favor of God in this country for survival purposes if this man was still the president, the favor of God, at least in the capacity mentioned previously, is not inherently easier or better for him than the current president to gain while there certainly may be technical needed differences in behavior change and company that would be surrounding them.
Wonder what Pastor Doug means by “putting your end down.”
@Charles McKinley Tks :)
As you may know, there are many secular Vlogs on TH-cam run by MGTOW (men going their own way) that "straight-up" make the case (using stats) that most 21st century Western women cannot cook, clean or manage a home. In fact, a sizable majority of Postmodern women positively refuse to do housework, cook or clean. Yet, they expect the husband (or lover) to pay the bills and take care of the traditional manly tasks. They do admit the situation is a little better amongst "Trad" (traditional) and Christian women, but not by much. My experience is that Fourth Wave Feminism has profoundly influenced Christian women.
In my country the woman is expected to do all womanly roles, and the man's! Our women have gone WGTOW. The way we bring up our children this parts is pathetic. We're about to see the fruit of our labour!
@@lilanwanboi3661 Fatherlessness, we know from generations of research, is a social disaster. Women raising children without the biological father in the home is a prescription for skyrocketing crime and poverty. You reap what you sow.
@Charles McKinley Actually, there are some very thoughtful and informed Vlogs that are within the tent of MGTOW. But, again, my point was not to validate MGTOW but to note that research indicates that modern women very often do not know how to cook, clean or manage a home. Generally, high schools do not carry Home Economic classes any more. It is considered demeaning for girls to learn how to manage a well ordered home. Hence, MGTOW Vloggers ask the question, what exactly do women bring to a modern marriage since, as a rule, the husband pays most if not all the bills and continues doing the expected functions of a husband?
@@ThePrairieChronicles I, of course, cannot dispute your personal experience. My experience, though, is radically different. I have never known a husband that does not provide 80-100% percent of the income for the purpose of paying the bills (this is substantiated by research--but notice below two exceptions) and do the usual lawn, house and car maintenance. I only have one woman amongst all my large extended family (a niece) who can do any work on a car whatsoever (she was trained by her husband). I have known two husbands that are stay-at-home dads (because their wives made a high income). However, both of them homeschool their children, do all the housework, all the yardwork, all the car maintenance and the cooking.
The key is to look at national trends. What this indicates is that fewer and fewer women know how to cook or manage a good house. Yet, married men continue to--on average--to pay around 80% of the household expenses while continuing to do the traditional masculine duties of home, yard and auto maintenance. This has led to a growing percentage of men deciding to avoid marriage.
My wife is both a professional woman, and a talented cook and house keeper. We both life there, we help each other, why not?
Lol I married a puritan that can't stand women drivers and thinks women should stay out of politics. Plus, she's a fantastic cook. 😉
Lol
lol even half wahmen were against the first wave of feminism in the first place. they were smart enough to see where the things were going; but the men were too soft and taken advantage of by the neoeconomic masters
Women have a right to choose who will rule over them. They should vote.
@@ksr622002take a look at the voting stats. The vast majority of women vote Left.
I say repeal universal suffrage!
Ouch...I don't think all the women i know including my wife would find this pill easy to swallow. Many of the Christian women I know do not like my theology and continually challenge each and every position I hold. Holding the line has been brutal! I'm learning not to jump in the shark tank! I'm learning that arguing with stupid doesn't bring me peace. Pray for my marriage it is on the ropes. Thanks again always love the medicine you dispense. Shalom
I'm with you, brother. My wife is full fledge SJW liberal who thinks it's sexist to say that women cannot be preachers. Our marriage is basically hanging on a thread.
Never argue with a stupid person. They’ll drag you down to their level and beat you with experience.
@Charles McKinley Trust me, I am not obsessed with where they stand on reformed theology (heck, I have been recommending Mike Winger to everyone and he has videos against calvinism). We are going to meet with my pastor in the future for help but who knows how that shall go.
@Charles McKinley Thanks brother Charles...I do appreciate your input. The program you are talking about do they happen in Canada?
@@Ironica82 When your marriage is hanging by a thread you know you are in a dark place...I think there are many reasons why marriages fail but one of the main reasons is communication...when everything goes silent. When we are unable to talk about anything without getting into some kind of conflict is the beginning...I too need help. Lord help this man and myself to a serious talk with our wives.
Most churches do not teach what is necessary for both men and women to know to walk the path of salvation together and to handle the many challenges that come with life that try to push us off the path of salvation. The battle for our souls is continuous until we draw our last breath. Most churches do not accept this responsibility and that’s why many men are disheartened with church.
Men are practicable, women are emotional and only a skilled pastor can teach at this level. Perhaps this is why Christ used so many parables.
What does a home-maker require? Should I be watching the kids on saturday while my wife works and clean the house?
Your children -- boys and girls -- should be learning NOW what and how to do the things they are going to need to know as adults. Thus, they should be engaged on Saturdays with household chores and maintenance right along with mom and dad.
You work and pay the bills. You are the spiritual head of the family and lead both in spiritual and family matters. The woman takes care of the house, looks after the children, feeds, nurtures, and nurses everyone and assists her husband.
@@julieannedous2799 What is a spiritual head? Suppose husband and wife have different religions? He's Christian, she is atheist, etc. Or suppose he gives incorrect info or leadership?
@@steveshapiro326 Sorry, but you just described isn’t Biblical. Interfaith marriages are considered a sin. Just because many Christians don’t take the Bible seriously these days doesn’t make it less true.
@@steveshapiro326 I will never marry a non-Christian. In fact, I grew-up in a household similar to what you described except my dad is the agnostic. I’m not going to get into the details of it but it was messed-up. I wish I had had true Biblical headship growing-up, as Pastor Wilson advocates for.
His sister wrote a commentary on the entire Bible 😂😂😂😂 you can’t make this stuff up
Right?!! And totally under the radar too!! 😂😱
So what does that mean? Can you explain why you feel that is a reason to say, "you can’t make this stuff up"?
@@mattdillon4398 Writibg a commentary on the entire Bible, is just a massive massive task! And so very impressive! He said you can’t make this stuff up, because it’s so crazy but it’s true in his family!! There’s a lot of impressive stories with their family.
@@jaquirox6579 Thanks
@@mattdillon4398 You’re welcome brother.
Are you kidding? Many women fail at being good wives these days even before marriage by not remaining chaste; and lest I get accused of sexism - same goes for the men!
HUGE mistake right at the start. If we are self-motivated we WILL fail. Our motivation must be the Holy Spirit which dwells in us; this is what it is to worship in Spirit and in Truth.
I'm absolutely confident that Doug agrees with me, and that he simply missed that detail and misspoke. However, it's an extremely important point, absolutely of paramount importance.
he would agree with u, but he also wouldn't agree that he misspoke. the Scriptures talk both ways
@@billybob-wx2re Can you cite a passage which speaks in such a way? Self-motivation is of spiritual pride, and honest motivation is of the Spirit Of Truth. I understand being productive is in the Bible, but does it say to source the motivation of that productivity from the self? I'm very skeptical yet very open to being corrected.
@@NicholasproclaimerofMessiah so when you get married, you shouldn’t have individual motivations to serve and glorify God in your life? You have to have the exact same ministry, and exact same prayer life?
I think you are misunderstanding what he said. If you aren’t self motivated to serve the Lord prior to marriage, you shouldn’t get married. You have to have your own personal pursuit of Christ or else you’ll get dependent on a spouse who is mutable and will eventually not be there to help
@@sovereigngrace9723 I understood what he meant. I just think what he stated is incorrect; hence why I said he misspoke.
I would not love my wife based on self-motivation, because that would be horrible; rather the cross of Christ is my motivation to love, because God forgave me and showed me what love is, and He compels me to do better than I would do. I don't care what I think though, nor do I care what you think. You either have Scripture to support your claim or you don't. If the Bible has correction for me, then I will gladly receive it.
@@sovereigngrace9723 Sorry for being rude; you're logo is about the same color as Billy Bob's, and I thought you were him. What I said is still true, but I would have said it differently (more politely) if I knew I had not already asked you for Scripture.
Amen.
You would have to be OUT OF YOUR MIND to get married today.
@Charles McKinley not at all actually. You like to accuse people of being Godless who actually aren’t. No point in talking to you.
@@AllSven the better question to ask is why is that could it be that we don’t understand our roles properly
@Charles McKinley Hey Charles. You mean rather than a pick of virgins after graduating H.S. in the 40's and 50's the odds are you can find happiness with a modern day THOT! Great odds I would say
There are still good women out there, and the family is a great force for good. We need more of them.
I knew a man who would continually excuse his wife not going to church and performance of other duties because of the chronic pain de jour... whatever she didn't feel like doing he delegated to the kids.
Why should she go to church if she is not a believer? That is like ordering a Black man to attend a Klan rally.
@@steveshapiro326 that's... a poor analogy, but in any case I never said she wasn't a believer. Both she and her husband are Christians.
@@CyberCommander1990 They need to adopt a better worldview. The happiest homes are not religious.
@@steveshapiro326 everyone is religious.
Well, maybe she did have a chronic condition that left her pretty much incapacitated. Not for you to judge. Not your problem, not any of your business.
The wife is a helper.
What is she helping the man to do is the most important question.
Genesis 2:18
The wife is a multiplier.
Genesis 3:16
Her Godly given duty is to benefit the children (next generation)
Notice: Adam is NOT the FATHER of ALL living( Genesis 3:20)
Second notice: The woman was NOT sent forth to till the ground (Genesis 3:23)
Third notice: In Genesis 3:23 the wording " sent HIM" indicates SINGULAIR MASCULINE SUBJECT.
Fourth notice: Only Adam got the command in Genesis 2:17
Eve was not made until Genesis 2:22
Eve didn't receive extra spirit when she was made, neither can she give away anything that she got when she was made.
You'll understand what I am saying when you will understand the 2 Adams ( 1Corinthians 15:45)
You want to understand Revelation you have to understand Genesis (Isaiah 46:10)
You can have an earthly Godly woman or you can have a HEAVENLY GODLY woman, they are BOTH obedient to the man. The difference is the treasure that is inside her, and that belongs to God. It's all about that PEARL (Matthew 13:46, Revelation 21:21)
ALL glory belongs to God and Jesus Christ our savior.
Doug, you have the ability to see many right things on paper, but you frankly couldn’t spot a disorderly woman if she was crying in your office. I believe this is in part because of an “I’m smarter than you” attitude which seems to pervade all you do, combined with what appears to be a pugilistic accusatory approach toward Christians who are not like you, and toward much of the outside world in general. I think this is a log of disorder in your eye which you need to remove, then you will be able to see clearly the disorder in others and remove it. Right now you can’t, and it is harmful.
Not enjoying his bullshit!
Where are these traditionalist men? Here in the Northeast, I have yet to meet one who isn’t a Boomer (my dad to be exact). My mom was a homemaker and even then, it was kinda rare. Now, no one cares if you have homemaking skills (which I do. My mom and grandmother taught me). If you don’t go out and earn a paycheck, you starve and are out on the street, so it goes both ways. I’ve never met or dated a traditionalist man who was willing to be the sole provider ever. It would have taken a load off of my shoulders.
If it helps, I've met them mostly in conservative Reformed churches
@@nemoliberestquicorpo I’ve been attending one for several years now. We don’t even have a singles ministry.
@@nemoliberestquicorpo Quite frankly, I wish we did.
i feel your pain, but most guys haven't been taught well. both my, and my wife's parents, were divorced, so our upbringing was lacking, especially toward the end. once i realized how dumb it was to send my wife off to work, i told her to quit her job and stay home with the babies. that was years ago, but not a single person in our lives even suggested it. we had to figure it out on our own. sad
@@billybob-wx2re At least you figured it out eventually. I’m just saying, it’s easy for ppl in red states to judge Christians who live in more liberal areas over certain things in which we really have no control. A woman cannot submit if she has no one to submit to. I’d actually be much more comfortable in that role.
I'M a 18 year old man of God If I was to marry my wife would have to be older then me because my generation is pagen at its roots.
@Charles McKinley Yes I see your point of view. It follows the Bible on you shall only serve one master. But my point of view is that the modern-day church has water downed scripture so much. That not only are the young men acting foolish so are the young women. I can't count how many christian women get mad when you warn them about sin or being left astray same with the christian men. Our egos are so inflated. But yes your right their is a lack of godly young men within the church and a abundance of women.
@Michelle Staunton yes it does I wonder about this topic all the time a thought that pops in my mind is does the devil attack the young men of the church or the young women more. whicth one is playing right into Satan's trap?
@@jakenokken7245 You don't really mean "an abundance of women". You mean an abundance of THOTs. Send your daughters to a university and it is like putting them in a rabbit hutch with couple breeding bucks.
Disorderly wife ? Never had a filthy girlfriend- let me tell you why cuz I switch into Patton mode aka not so nice 😂⛔️and i am not your best friend either 🤠 - Show me a larger group of women teaching young girls with wisdom - this is like finding a gold nugget in your washing machine - all rough and rugged aside - I am sorry for your loss of a loved one.
Truth is that "most" wives are disorderly, not some. Modern women are impossible. Thank you Sir for addressing this issue.
Try living with Coach Bobby Knight, who chokes people when his irrational rages explode.
Yes, and a lot of that comes from being taught poorly, in their homes, the schools, and the churches. We can change this.
My wife was doing so good until she became a partner in an feminist lesbian firm.... I can’t begin to tell you the amount of heartbroken suffering and disfunction in our marriage and family since. The bible is so clear on that, we should have listened. Now she can’t see or hear a thing. Be careful who you yoke up with in life.
The only problems is that the feminist colleagues were telling the Truth, and that is hard for you to accept.
I sympathize with you. However, that is one of the dangers of work outside the home for a woman. There are many influences and greater temptations for her in that role. She needs to be well established in her submission, as well as in her role at home, through your own clear guidance. Even a workplace not as feminist as you describe can be a barrier to her godly womanhood, and present a problem in your marriage. Build marriage entirely on what God teaches. If you have lost that, start reestablishing it now.
I am a conservative Christian (opc). It's two 2yrs later than this video's publication...2 more yrs of the CREC/canon press stepping on rakes with everything they say. Plus bonuses like his wife saying how righteous she was for smacking their 3yr old for expressing sadness about a playdate having to end, and his daughters shaming housewives for basically being poor (aka they have to decorate a certain way to be godly). Nothing ages well when it wasnt good to begin with. Like my comment for solidarity. If you know you know.
Scripture teaches that the head of EVERY man is Christ, and the head of the woman is the man. Sadly, modern Christianity teaches the lie that a 'pastor' is the head of man, and further propagates lies by teaching that a man and woman, husband and wife, are equal in leadership in the home.
Confusing, this Christian teaching. Do you mean a wife is not only "headed" by her husband, but theoretically by every male on the planet?
@@steveshapiro326 That is a Bible Scripture, it did not originate with me. I just happen to believe holy Scripture above modern traditions and doctrine that runs contrary to holy Scripture.
While NOT every man on the planet is a woman's head, her husband is her head.
Also, woman do NOT have spiritual authority over a man. Women are NOT to teach or preach to men during the gathering called congregation or assembly.
However, women can evangelize both men or women. And women can prophecy outside of the congregation/assembly meeting.
Grace and peace to you as you seek the Lord's wisdom by holy Scripture and being filled, led and taught by the Holy Spirit, without which no one can fully understand God's word, ways and instruction for life.
see John 3, verses 3-8
But the big question is, 'what is headship'? This is where many men in the church err.
@@ksr622002 As Christ is the head, the Lord of His true followers, so the husband is the head of His wife.
Jesus gives the commands and leads His followers and He also laid His life down to save us.
Likewise, a godly husband is lord or lesder of his home and wife, and lay his life down for her.
Scripture says the husband is to go out into the field and work while the wife is to stay home, be domestic and raise children. And the husband is to be the priest in his home, washing his wife in the water of the word.
As you can see, few follow Jesus according to Scripture and leading of the holy Spirit.
I'll take Misogynist for 500.
Like seriously whoever comes up with these statements trump is still my president I mean they may need to live in reality similarly to people who have said trump was not their president before both of these statements are objectively dumb in my opinion just trying to make one or another large group of people mad
The devil’s in the details, Doug 🧐
I like to watch these videos to try to understand the Evangelical perspective of which I find difficult to agree with lots of the time. The amount of testosterone ridden bias within this analyzation is plenty... I suppose that is no surprise considering a male written bible, male dominated history, and male taught Christianity. For every thing suggested and taught about females in this video can be said about males. If it can be said about both sexes, why single out woman? I suppose the response is that the scripture teaches that woman and man are not equal in familial duty. Which then makes me wonder... If a woman is not carrying out what the fundamental Christian sees fit, is that not likely a systemic implication from the environment/male? In which case would it not be more helpful for the male to simply help in "putting away the dishes" or "house build" than to preach/talk about their failed opportunities to glorify God and prevent blasphemy? Thanks for the video Pastor Wilson. I greatly appreciate your perspective.
The family is held together by testosterone. Of course men are the leader of home.
@@sayloltothetroll6806 lol
@@sayloltothetroll6806 If that is so then men are also responsible for everything that goes wrong so if the woman is not doing her job it's the mans fault. Talk to him about it.
It's not like we really have much of a choice do we?
There are only so many Godly women, and they are just as picky as the ungodly ones.
There is no possible hope for marriage or companionship, unless you are willing to settle.
You are a complete realist. Thanks
It's not like we really have much of a choice do we?
"There are only so many Godly men, and they are just as picky as the ungodly ones. There is no possible hope for marriage or companionship, unless you are willing to settle." Notice how silly this comment becomes when "women' is changed to "men."
@@chickenheart896 Well yea because it is silly when you changed it.
@@greenghost6416 The original Mavlok remark was the silly billy. My riposte merely pointed that out.
I’ll take narcissistic control freak for 500 Alex.
Gross
I don't respect any man that can't control his woman. (I don't have that problem because I don't have a woman. See how that works?)
Its true. Though if you have a woman its illegal to control her. So there's that too.
Not to be rude but a women who knows her role doesn’t need to be controlled. You not there to control your wife your meant to love her as Christ love the church and gave his life for it. A women is meant to be submissive to her husband and if your are a Godly women you will because you have learnt to be submissive and obedient to Christ. And you will respect him. If your husband has to correct you in public and control you something is not working right. The wife is the weaker vessels and Paul mentions you must bare with them as such. If you a looking for wife check out what she is like when she around her parents and she if she respects and honours them if she doesn’t she might not be the girl for you as this reflects how she has been brought up.
If a man can control himself, he doesn't need to control other people.
@@greenghost6416 How are you going to control her? Scripture nowhere tells the man to control his wife. Submission is voluntary on the part of the woman, it cannot be forced.
Yes it does. Scripture teaches that the man is head of the wife. That by definition is authority, and it will include telling her what she needs to do. It's the same with any other authority, be it God, government, parents, or masters. It also commands a wife to submit to and obey her husband. She voluntarily decided to submit when she said "I do" at the wedding. It then became her job, and she needs to do it.
Particularly hard? Oops. Think about a husband who abandons his responsibility and leaves wife and children to fend for themselves. Trust me, 50/50.
Why would he leave a loving home?
Among college educated 90% of divorces are initiated by women.
@@grantarmbruster6591 don’t be a manipulator. Plenty of men leave a loving wife.
Shall this be reversed? Why would a women ever leave a loving husband who provides and takes care of husband duties.
Yes these things do happens but that isn’t the topic being discussed.
@@grantarmbruster6591 lol
(EDIT: this comment is in error, please see replies for clarification)
Even Doug Wilson is swapping the word "sex" in for "gender"!!??
If not for Jesus, I would be tempted to think we're doomed.
Sex is a reproductive process; gender is that which is inborn, usually referring to matters of generation/reproduction.
Interesting! Not long ago I saw/read/heard a learned person assert that "gender" has to do with language (grammar, linguistics, or some-such). For example, in Spanish "house" is feminine -- la casa; "body" is masculine -- el cuerpo. (I hope I got those right -- lol!) As for "sex" it is used correctly in reference to human beings, their biology as well as their reproductive activities. Wish I could remember where I got that information!
@@josiew3120 (EDIT: this comment contains errors, please refer to the next reply which is carefully factual and which also apologizes for the sin of speaking without having done due diligence)
Yeah, I hear what people say, but God is the one who says the Truth.
The word "gender" refers first to that which is inborn/engendered. It comes from "generate" which is from Greek "egeneto" which means: generate, often with a connotation of making.
From first meaning "that which is inborn", "gender" is then applied specifically as male and female. Only after specifically meaning male and female in biology, does "gender" eventually get applied to things such as grammar. It is in no way first about grammar and then eventually applied to inborn traits, that is exactly backwards of how the word is defined and applied. The entire point of masculine and feminine words is that they reference the real world facts of human gender-roles. If we call gender-roles "sex-roles" then we would need to start referring to grammar as having sex instead of gender, lest we be reduced to nonsense as the world are reduced to nonsense.
Originally "sex" meant sex and "gender" meant gender, but when they wanted to redefine "gender" they started using the word "sex" as if it means gender. This happened well before either of us were born; spiritually it goes hand in hand with Marxism. If you want to join them in redefining words, then you are welcome to it, but I'm not going to let liars pressure me to speak deceptively.
When people discuss the word "gender" by emphasizing grammar etc, they are simply spreading deception, which is why I speak against it. In semantics, correct and incorrect is a matter of perspective, and I am careful to base what I say on God's perspective rather than on any human perspective. Specifically: God haters want to redefine "gender" in order to deny reality, because reality is Truth is Jesus Christ whom they hate. If people stand firm that the word "gender" means gender, then people cannot pretend to change their gender. They want to lie about their gender, and this is the sole reason they propagate the deception that "gender" does not mean gender.
Doug was trying to be properly understood. But, sex-roles have to do with what goes on under the sheets, and "gender-roles" is the proper name for the differentiation of roles between males and females. Doug is one man who should know better, and he should know why it matters. In fact, every Christian leader should be with God on this one.
@@josiew3120 Sorry Eden, while I was correct about the word "gender" I was incorrect about the word "sex". I have done the due diligence of research now, and it was sin for me to speak before doing so. Please let me correct myself, and I'll clearly prove these details for you.
Originally "sex" and "gender" were synonymous: "sex" from "sect" as in to separate into categories, and "gender" simply means "heredity" as in that which is inherited biologically. "Gender" as a term of grammar, has no meaning without it's original meaning.
Cultural Marxists have vast influence, and originally they deliberately lied about this, but now many of them are simply unlearned (such as the "learned" man you quoted, who just parroted propaganda without bothering to learn first).
Here is what that man thinks (I found a quote from someone who was deceived in the exact same way):
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Gender literally means "kind" (from the Latin "genus"), and it was originally a linguistic term. Its use as an alternative to "sex" dates from 1955, and is contemporaneous with the academic distinction between "gender" as the societal roles of males and females vs. "sex" as the biological distinction between males and females. Before then it was barely used outside of linguistics.
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gender#Etymology_and_usage
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Grammatical_gender
books.google.com/ngrams/graph?content=gender%2Csex&case_insensitive=on&year_start=1800&year_end=2000&corpus=15&smoothing=3&direct_url=t4%3B%2Cgender%3B%2Cc0%3B%2Cs0%3B%3Bgender%3B%2Cc0%3B%3BGender%3B%2Cc0%3B%3BGENDER%3B%2Cc0%3B.t4%3B%2Csex%3B%2Cc0%3B%2Cs0%3B%3Bsex%3B%2Cc0%3B%3BSex%3B%2Cc0%3B%3BSEX%3B%2Cc0
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That is a very deceptive quote.
Wikipedia are deliberately dishonest about Cultural Marxism, but I will spare you a full explanation of this point.
The Google graph does show that the word "sex" was used for gender far more often than "gender" was, but it also shows "gender" was used that way as far back as the graph shows, which is far further back than 1955. I will show you a citation that the word "gender" was synonymous with "sex" in English at least as far back as the early 1400s (which, due to the printing press, is the earliest time when English can be truly said to be a single language); early 1400s is also long before 1955.
Note: PIE means "proto Indo-European", so when you get to the part about "PIE" you get to the shared origin of all the other words mentioned. 14c means 1300s and 15c means 1400s. Late 14c is immediately previous to early 15c, and this time is before the printing press, so our sample sizes of texts from back then is rather limited; therefor, as a matter of scientific assessment, we cannot be exact enough to claim proof of chronological order, but rather we should consider both to be about the same time.
From etymonline.com
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"gender (n.)
c. 1300, "kind, sort, class, a class or kind of persons or things sharing certain traits,"
from Old French gendre, genre "kind, species; character; gender" (12c., Modern French genre),
from stem of Latin genus (genitive generis) "race, stock, family; kind, rank, order; species," also "(male or female) sex,"
from PIE root *gene- "give birth, beget," with derivatives referring to procreation and familial and tribal groups.
Also used in Latin to translate Aristotle's Greek grammatical term genos. The grammatical sense is attested in English from late 14c. The unetymological -d- is a phonetic accretion in Old French (compare sound (n.1)).
The "male-or-female sex" sense is attested in English from early 15c. As sex (n.) took on erotic qualities in 20c., gender came to be the usual English word for "sex of a human being," in which use it was at first regarded as colloquial or humorous. Later often in feminist writing with reference to social attributes as much as biological qualities; this sense first attested 1963. Gender-bender is from 1977, popularized from 1980, with reference to pop star David Bowie.
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The fact is that, in English, we can specifically cite "gender" as a grammatic term and biological term at about the same time. The fact is also that the grammatic use was invented by Aristotle when he applied reference from the biological fact to express his opinions about language; and that distinction today is equally a reference to biological fact. Without biological reference, there is no meaning to "gender" in context of grammar. The first attempt, in English, to refer to human gender as a social matter is about 450 years later than it's use as biological sex (did the "learned" man mention this fact?).
Those who try to downplay the biological reference, are those who want children to be manipulated into taking hormones which will mutilate their bodies.
Sorry for wasting your time with my first response. I hope you appreciate the careful factual approach I took this time, and I hope you appreciate that children need us to refute those who want to mutilate their bodies.
@@josiew3120 One quick thing I forgot:
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gender (v.)
"to bring forth," late 14c., from Old French gendrer, genrer "engender, beget, give birth to," from Latin generare "to engender, beget, produce" (see generation). Related: Gendered; gendering.
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(I tried to link the exact page, which has simple useful diagrams, but it won't let me. If it's awaiting approval, then maybe this reply will become redundant. Anyway, the previous comment links the site and you can search for "gender" to see the diagrams)
Sex is assigned at birth, and is not, in fact, just the act of copulating. Gender is a spectrum used to define how one views themselves, and how society views them based on the binary scale we typically follow.
So have nothing to do with a woman who is not doing "her" work. And if she is your wife then that is most definitely a one way ticket to divorce. Good talk, but you left out a lot a lot of scripture in regards to marriage.
Yup. You have it figured out. In the post industrial age with women working there is not going to much harmony. I Cor. 11:7
@@marysheilds9966 Taking one scripture totally out of context is not good for scriptural understanding, especially if you know why Paul wrote these letters to the Corinthians. Blob & Mablog is obviously far from being someone who could ever pastor a Bible believing church. Blob and Mablog would do a lot better to cover the college agenda and also the hollywood and medai agenda that teaches women the opposite of what the Bible teaches to both men and women. I don't think his videos are very good.
@@marysheilds9966 Since when is that grounds for divorce though? It's not grounds for divorce if the wife is lazy. Not grounds.
@@ksr622002 Women can NOT divorce. They my be taken back by their father.
@@marysheilds9966 Disagree! Even God allowed for slave wives in the old testament to divorce their husbands if they were abusive or did not care for their needs or failed to give them their conjugal rights. If God gave those rights to a slave wife then how much more a free wife? There is nothing in scripture that says that a widow or a divorced woman has to go back to her father either. That's just plain stupidity. She's an adult woman not a child.She has rights in the marriage and a violation of those rights gives her permission to divorce in sripture.
Also, A man cannot divorce his wife is she is lazy. That is not grounds for divorce. You pharisees make up your own laws and you replace God's law with your own traditions. Woe to you!
Coming from a man who has married pedophiles, told wives who’ve been raped and abused to stay, and led abortion and mask protests leading to deaths of those in my hometown community, you should truly keep your archaic values to yourself. Also, I Am the Breadwinner, I Am Overweight, I Decide what is done with my Body, and we share in household tasks. We Both are Responsible, because we live in the 21st century. I am more than a wife or mother, I am a human. Your propaganda is synonymous with The Handmaid’s Tale and I find it so embarrassing that your group lives in the place I was raised. Also, crazy cat lady? Bread of idleness? You are such a close minded misogynist. Also, while you’re trying to appeal with memes, “crazy cat lady? You got it wrong. A woman did the math and decided a companion who couldn’t talk and craps in a box is better than a man.”
What? Please explain?
Reading this drivel is like listening to the sound of one hand clapping
Dear holy spirit, please show these women that this is not truth, this is abusive, give them the strength to get out of this.. bring this horrible sinful man's actions into the light.. Amen
You’re what this video is about, men stay clear
Feminism began in Genesis 3:16.
I think what you mean is sin, both in men and women, began in Genesis.
@@geauxthrift1908 No, when God said that "he shall rule over thee", is when it began.
Do you agree that sin is equal in both men and women?
@@geauxthrift1908 Yes.
@@geauxthrift1908 Ya that too but mainly Feminism
I feel so sorry for his wife, if she can see this.. this is not biblical or what God wants. you can get out ... this guy is twisted and more than likely was bullied or abused as a kid , found the bible and used it as a weapon... get out