You should strive to be a calvinist anyway because being an arminian means you dont have a high view of Gods sovereignty. If youre stuck up on a word/classification then youve got bigger problems in life.
Jim: Don't have to be, but if you want to glorify God and not fabricate your own ideas about the clear teaching of the Bible, then thorough going Calvinism is the only way. Of course Calvinism is not only your hatred for God's Sovereignty, but a complete system derived from the Scripture alone.
This series has been really excellent. And I say that as someone that’s been married over 10 years now. I hope the younger folks are really listening closely to you Uncle Doug!
I have saved all of his videos in this series as well as a couple of supplemental ones from elsewhere into a playlist that I have passed along to a couple of young men in my life. This is so critical before all the play acting begins to understand
If only all pastors spoke so clearly and frankly...especially the ones I knew 30 years ago...oh, wait a minute...that should have been 50 years ago...for me...but then it should have been all along...since GOD put this whole thing in motion. Thank you, Pastor Wilson! Maranatha!
I, a teen, have been considering for a while whether it would be wise to try and enter a relationship with a girl that we would ideally hold until marriage age. This video has shown me that it would be extremely risky to do so, and for that, I thank you. If it weren't for this video, I could have ended up a burnt-out wanderer from the zone of vulnerability.
A perfectly logical and Biblically sound overview of how a relationship leading to a covenantal marriage should progress. But here's the tough part. We live in a world of people that have strayed so far from and been so polluted by this world's relationship poison and chaos it is going to take decades to correct.
The time spent courting and getting to *really* know a person deeply would necessitate a length of time in that zone of vulnerability. For example, I dated my wife for 5 1/2 years.... mostly out of necessity because we were too young to get married... but it is (IMHO) absolutely necessary to spend a good bit of time there before you get married.
@A P that's far from the only necessary components though. Getting to truly know your significant other takes dedication to studying them, and testing how their callings, spiritual goals, life visions, expectations, etc, match up with yours. Even the secularist researchers recommend a minimum of a year and that's not even taking into account the spiritual quests we believers need to embark on during dating. But I do believe once you start getting further after that year mark that temptation and bad habits grow for most people.
Lord have mercy. I would HATE to leave my kids to go to work. 😰🥺🥺🥺 My only friends who do is because their deadbeat husbands left or made them do it but they divulge to friends that it breaks their heart.
It's the worst! It's like having your soul ripped out of your body. I feel so bad that so many young woman fall for the lie that a career is more important than family.
@@davidfayfield6594 I'm not in the business of making hard rules to reign over other people, but it's easy to say that it's unnaural for a woman to leave her newborn baby. In our society we pressure women to do it as "normal" when in reality, for all of human history it isn't normal. It shouldn't be considered the standard.
@@rebekahguilder602 so do you think a woman who desires a career more than children is wrong ? And if she does should we allow it or prevent it so as to follow the Bible .
@@davidfayfield6594 I know in my walk that there were things I desired that weren't of God and God was more than capable of correcting and growing me. I trust God to do the same for others. Marriage is meant to make families. If a christisn women(or man for that matter) has the gift of celibacy and chooses for remain single so they can better serve the church, that's honorable. If christian couples are getting married and choosing to remain childless, I think that it's obvious that's against scripture. No, I don't think that "we" should force people to have children, but I do think honest preaching of God's word is necessary.
I believe that the whole concept of courtship is detrimental to our community. Having "try-outs" among God's family is a circumvent around real relationships that are god inspired. This presupposition is discounting the fact that our God does not work on our timetable, nor does he have to acquiesce our desires. So the fact that 20 guys are dry humping the air for one woman is a pretty clear demonstration that we as men of God are disoriented in our placement of purpose. It's about the Kingdom of God first and foremost on an individual level. From there it impacts community and thereon out.
I've done both, Mr Mom-ing AND stirring my coffee with a screwdriver (it was handy), much like being a Mr Mom. My wife had a career, as did I (and hobbies), while she was a youth group leader, coached them for years at the "Y" in basketball and soccer, etc. With two boys four years apart the schedule was mind numbing, talk about needing the employ of a maid and Uber driver ... It's an Uber task indeed daunting but rewarding, but integral in the equation without saying is your choice of spouse. Persevere you can have it all, it's just not easy...
That’s what it sounds like. At the very least, you shouldn’t allow yourself to become emotionally vulnerable to those you don’t intend to marry. Modern relationships are the opposite.
It means you shouldn't get in the zone unless it's clear you're going to get married, barring some exceptional deal breaking revelation, and you then never leave the zone, because you get married.
I've enjoyed these videos on relationships however. it keeps irking me that Doug keeps bringing up height in them. I don't appreciate it at face value. Is he implying that I can't be true godly man or have a God honouring relationship with a woman unless I am tall or at least taller than her? I'm 5 feet tall and I've been rebuilding my confidence after being dumped and rejected for that one reason but when Doug brings up height it feels like he is saying I'm a lost cause.
I don't think he means that at all. My brother in law is short too and struggled with it too , but nonetheless he married really well . He has the best wife of all his brothers( my husband being one of them ) a great career making tones of money and a genius of a son . He himself matured and grew a lot through the years and even tho as a young man didn't promised much he turned to be quite an impressive intellectual . Took him a while , but he did it.
Male and female relationships were originally meant to be a friendship of equality. Man was not created to rule over woman. But due to our fallen state a woman's "desire" and longing has been to her husband. We have the same relationship with God. Mankind and God were supposed to be friends but due to the fall he has to be our spritual husband. But... sometimes that friendship between man and woman still manifests. He does not rule over her neither does she rule over him. A relationship like that is a (for me) a little peek into the Garden. Anyways. Just a thought.
@@FoundSheep-AN Is that how it was or is just how you want it to have been between them? “The woman was made of a rib out of the side of Adam; not made out of his head to rule over him, nor out of his feet to be trampled upon by him, but out of his side to be equal with him, under his arm to be protected, and near his heart to be beloved.” - Matthew Henry.
First video is Life in Girl World and establishes that it's a screwtape letter inspired series of letters to an imaginary younger man by a male relative offering advice on women
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You don’t have to be a Calvinist to really appreciate the wisdom in these lectures
That's what we call Common Grace 👍
You should strive to be a calvinist anyway because being an arminian means you dont have a high view of Gods sovereignty. If youre stuck up on a word/classification then youve got bigger problems in life.
Jim: Don't have to be, but if you want to glorify God and not fabricate your own ideas about the clear teaching of the Bible, then thorough going Calvinism is the only way. Of course Calvinism is not only your hatred for God's Sovereignty, but a complete system derived from the Scripture alone.
@Fisher Man if you're neither Calvinist or arminian then you're Pelagian, and damned
@Fisher Man you're the one who won't be honest and say what you believe, only condemn others. The Bible calls that a divisive man
This series has been really excellent. And I say that as someone that’s been married over 10 years now. I hope the younger folks are really listening closely to you Uncle Doug!
I have saved all of his videos in this series as well as a couple of supplemental ones from elsewhere into a playlist that I have passed along to a couple of young men in my life. This is so critical before all the play acting begins to understand
If only all pastors spoke so clearly and frankly...especially the ones I knew 30 years ago...oh, wait a minute...that should have been 50 years ago...for me...but then it should have been all along...since GOD put this whole thing in motion. Thank you, Pastor Wilson! Maranatha!
I know…. Literally thinking the same hearing this series.
I, a teen, have been considering for a while whether it would be wise to try and enter a relationship with a girl that we would ideally hold until marriage age. This video has shown me that it would be extremely risky to do so, and for that, I thank you. If it weren't for this video, I could have ended up a burnt-out wanderer from the zone of vulnerability.
Looks like you have yourself a son now! Look at that!
A perfectly logical and Biblically sound overview of how a relationship leading to a covenantal marriage should progress. But here's the tough part. We live in a world of people that have strayed so far from and been so polluted by this world's relationship poison and chaos it is going to take decades to correct.
You're a Wise Man Douglas! May The Lord bless You and yours, AND Blog, and Mablog! :D ~ Vancouver Chinada.
Chinada ...sounds funny ...but I don't dare laugh...
I'm so glad Pastor Wilson addressed that there is a truth in the middle of that lie.
“Egalitarianism is just a fancy word for envy.”
This is true.
The time spent courting and getting to *really* know a person deeply would necessitate a length of time in that zone of vulnerability. For example, I dated my wife for 5 1/2 years.... mostly out of necessity because we were too young to get married... but it is (IMHO) absolutely necessary to spend a good bit of time there before you get married.
@A P that's far from the only necessary components though. Getting to truly know your significant other takes dedication to studying them, and testing how their callings, spiritual goals, life visions, expectations, etc, match up with yours. Even the secularist researchers recommend a minimum of a year and that's not even taking into account the spiritual quests we believers need to embark on during dating. But I do believe once you start getting further after that year mark that temptation and bad habits grow for most people.
I love these.
I don’t know if anyones ever commented this but your page name, ‘Blog and Mablog’ is layered and absolutely hilarious. Good show.
Love and appreciate ur wise, practical and biblical counsel! Wish I had heard it 3 months ago 😫. God is Sovereign!
Thank you Doug. Love your content your analogies God bless you
Thanks uncle !
That, that right there - that's prophetic speaking.
Lord have mercy. I would HATE to leave my kids to go to work. 😰🥺🥺🥺 My only friends who do is because their deadbeat husbands left or made them do it but they divulge to friends that it breaks their heart.
It's the worst! It's like having your soul ripped out of your body. I feel so bad that so many young woman fall for the lie that a career is more important than family.
So a woman shouldn’t go to work, or are you saying you just prefer not to?
@@davidfayfield6594 I'm not in the business of making hard rules to reign over other people, but it's easy to say that it's unnaural for a woman to leave her newborn baby. In our society we pressure women to do it as "normal" when in reality, for all of human history it isn't normal. It shouldn't be considered the standard.
@@rebekahguilder602 so do you think a woman who desires a career more than children is wrong ? And if she does should we allow it or prevent it so as to follow the Bible .
@@davidfayfield6594 I know in my walk that there were things I desired that weren't of God and God was more than capable of correcting and growing me. I trust God to do the same for others. Marriage is meant to make families. If a christisn women(or man for that matter) has the gift of celibacy and chooses for remain single so they can better serve the church, that's honorable. If christian couples are getting married and choosing to remain childless, I think that it's obvious that's against scripture. No, I don't think that "we" should force people to have children, but I do think honest preaching of God's word is necessary.
I believe that the whole concept of courtship is detrimental to our community. Having "try-outs" among God's family is a circumvent around real relationships that are god inspired. This presupposition is discounting the fact that our God does not work on our timetable, nor does he have to acquiesce our desires. So the fact that 20 guys are dry humping the air for one woman is a pretty clear demonstration that we as men of God are disoriented in our placement of purpose. It's about the Kingdom of God first and foremost on an individual level. From there it impacts community and thereon out.
Man, this is a smoker! Well done Pastor
Uncle Doug, the Rollo Tomassi for the regenerate. Right on.
This is so good!
I've done both, Mr Mom-ing AND stirring my coffee with a screwdriver (it was handy), much like being a Mr Mom. My wife had a career, as did I (and hobbies), while she was a youth group leader, coached them for years at the "Y" in basketball and soccer, etc. With two boys four years apart the schedule was mind numbing, talk about needing the employ of a maid and Uber driver ... It's an Uber task indeed daunting but rewarding, but integral in the equation without saying is your choice of spouse. Persevere you can have it all, it's just not easy...
One thing to clarify: once she puts that crown on his head, she doesn't retain the right to rescind it and put it on someone else's, including her own
"Uneasy is the head that wears the crown." -- Shakespeare, "Henry IV Part 2"
I've never heard this taught well.
Does the zone of vulnerability concept mean that as soon as you would be hurt if you broke up you should be married?
I had the same thought
That’s what it sounds like. At the very least, you shouldn’t allow yourself to become emotionally vulnerable to those you don’t intend to marry.
Modern relationships are the opposite.
It means you shouldn't get in the zone unless it's clear you're going to get married, barring some exceptional deal breaking revelation, and you then never leave the zone, because you get married.
I've enjoyed these videos on relationships however. it keeps irking me that Doug keeps bringing up height in them. I don't appreciate it at face value. Is he implying that I can't be true godly man or have a God honouring relationship with a woman unless I am tall or at least taller than her? I'm 5 feet tall and I've been rebuilding my confidence after being dumped and rejected for that one reason but when Doug brings up height it feels like he is saying I'm a lost cause.
I don't think he means that at all. My brother in law is short too and struggled with it too , but nonetheless he married really well . He has the best wife of all his brothers( my husband being one of them ) a great career making tones of money and a genius of a son . He himself matured and grew a lot through the years and even tho as a young man didn't promised much he turned to be quite an impressive intellectual . Took him a while , but he did it.
He's only saying it helps. Why? The whole protector thing. If you've gotta be short, be extra strong and physically competent
Is there something like this but for women
Male and female relationships were originally meant to be a friendship of equality. Man was not created to rule over woman. But due to our fallen state a woman's "desire" and longing has been to her husband. We have the same relationship with God. Mankind and God were supposed to be friends but due to the fall he has to be our spritual husband. But... sometimes that friendship between man and woman still manifests. He does not rule over her neither does she rule over him. A relationship like that is a (for me) a little peek into the Garden. Anyways. Just a thought.
Eve was created from a bone of Adam and the first human being is Adam the man
So it was no egalitarian friendship
@@FoundSheep-AN Is that how it was or is just how you want it to have been between them?
“The woman was made of a rib out of the side of Adam; not made out of his head to rule over him, nor out of his feet to be trampled upon by him, but out of his side to be equal with him, under his arm to be protected, and near his heart to be beloved.” - Matthew Henry.
Does anyone know is Dawson a real dude? I never caught the origin of that. Love the videos
First video is Life in Girl World and establishes that it's a screwtape letter inspired series of letters to an imaginary younger man by a male relative offering advice on women
It's possible that the name
D a W son
is derived from the name
D oug W ilson
@@horrificpleasantry9474 Thank you 👍
Amen
I tried the egalitarian road. It leads to ruin. Avoid it at all costs.
Wilson seems like a “husband stitch” kind of man.
In so much as this is possible, use stevia or honey 🍯 to sweeten the ☕ 💯
This is bs :)
sadly, authority is lost in the w e s t. not by men. so no responsibility is needeed and this video is not needed