No effective mental defence against that first drink. I drank again after 3 years dry. It quickly escalated. Took me nearly 8 years after that to quit for good. Pride had kept me from drinking originally and it was pride that kept me drunk. Thanks for sharing.❤ 11 years 9 months sober.
@@markhmcleod64 Great message Mark…Appreciate it, 11 years pls ..fantastic that what an achievement Please subscribe to the channel and keep watching 👍
Thanks again for your story Steve, it has helped me a lot. I faced my biggest challenge last night, attending a large birthday party for my brother surrounded by lots of friends and faces from the past. Lots of booze, all paid for. I was terrified that the lovely young man who was delivering the drinks would mistakenly give me an alcoholic drink meant for somebody else, when I had asked for a 0% beer. No pressure of "why aren't you drinking" from anybody around me. I had a glass in my hand and I felt "normal". Another challenge faced and conquered. Onwards and upwards.
Was landed in hospital with severe acute pancreatitis and perforated bowel for nine months, haven’t touched it in six years all because I felt left out of the party and took a drink. Not worth the absolute torture of it and even losing your life over. Thank you for your honest story.
I spent my childhood watching my father destroy himself and it started with drink... He would drink at home with those 2 litre bottles of cheap Frosty Jack cider throughout the day, and then sneak out the house and leave my mother for the pub each night. I used to sit in bed terrified of him stumbling back home in the early hours and listening to my parents shouting and being violent to each other. I slowly saw him lose absolutely everything and he went from my hero to zero... Unfortunately, he then moved on to drugs and I haven't seen him in years and he likely hasn't got long left to live. I now work in a high stress profession known to have a lot of alcohol dependents! Recently, I just feel like I NEED a drink after work, but I keep telling myself I won't be a repeat of my father!
Growing up with an alcholic in the house is incredibly stressful on a young mind, in my case it was my brother, perversely that had a part in my drinking problems I think but we move on in life and have to let the past and all it's baggage behind..Good luck
Thank you Steven for your story , it Will never work for a real alcoholic to pick up again , the old saying is you can't unpickle a gerkin ! we just can't drink as others do , we are not special or different, but alcohol is something we simply cannot do , you learn it the easy way through others experience or you learn it the hard way through your own .By staying clean and sober life becomes at last manageable.
@@timosullivan292 Thanks Tim that’s a great message “ you can’t unpickle a Gerkin “ good analogy…we cannot drink end of Please subscribe and share to help others 👍
Yes-that makes sense. I used to love the pubs, but now I find the pubs boring. Also over priced. It takes time to develop new interests. I play a lot of snooker (very badly). I go to gym classes. I have new friends. There are many fun things to do. Cinema, swimming, walking, charity work. Open your mind.
My mother had a problem for around 15 years or so. I understand everything you’re saying here, it’s absolutely heartbreaking. Physically, mentally and addictively ill, she nearly lost her life at 67 years old. Laying in the hospital bed after having her stomach seen to due to her stomach lining rupturing, she realised how much she had to live for and stopped. Just like that. She’s still an addict but has successfully abstained for 10 years and has returned to a normal family life, it IS possible for anyone reading this who needs to hear it. Keep going brother 🙏🏻
I can really relate to this, the thing about going back to it. I stopped drinking in 2019 after I had a really awful hangover and terrible anxiety after a night out. It haunted me for weeks and I decided I never wanted to feel like that again. I was then completely sober for 2 years until November 2021 when I hit a difficult patch in my personal life and somehow ended up getting caught up with self medicating again. I’ve had sober periods of weeks or maybe months in the interim, but not been able to break free from it completely like i did in 2019. I’m lucky in that I don’t think I’m clinically dependent (yet) but the psychological urge to drink is incredibly powerful. The pressure to drink from others, even though well intentioned, can also be difficult to deal with. And it is hard cos it feels like you’re missing out when others seem to be able to get drunk on a night out but it doesn’t get a hold of them. I’ve thought about treating it as though it’s an allergy - alcohol and me just do not get on. Just as peanuts are lethal for some people, alcohol is dangerous for me.
@@tjfSIM That is an excellent message re treating Alcohol as an allergy etc it’s the best way of treating it I’ve heard tbh Well done what a great video I will produce from that title 👍
@@stevencurry215 really glad the allergy thing resonates mate - thinking of it like that helps I think because it reminds us it’s not a weakness or a fault to beat ourselves up with, just something about our physiology means we can’t get on with it. Looking forward to seeing the video :)
@@stevencurry215 Exactly yeh. I do find it’s a good tree stump to come back to when I find myself thinking ‘I could just have one, everyone else is drinking so it’s not that bad’ - end of the day that’s them and they have their own relationship with alcohol, and I have mine.
Seventeen years next Monday, and one drink and it would be as if the seventeen years never happened, you can " NEVER" go back to social drinking, good luck stay strong 🏴 happy healthy peace ✌️
@@JamesDickson-vs5of Hi James !! 100% Never again ..as you say1 drink you are back to Sq1 I was sober 8 years took a drink in 2014 almost died 2019 17 years amazing Please subscribe and keep commenting its appreciated especially from a man with your experience & wisdom sir 👍
A wise man said to me it doesnt matter if your 15 years sober or 15 weeks ONE drink will put you back into that horrible place... Well Done mate and the gym will save you indeed ....!!
How to avoid the first drink, it's the million-dollar question. I keep reminding myself over and over again: a few hours of pleasure, a week of misery. I didn't realise this at the time, but when I was in social situations thinking "I wish I could have one, it's unfair that I can't" I hadn't yet made the mental transition that was needed. It was only once I saw alcohol as the enemy that it became easier. Alcohol itself makes that process easier because after a while if you allow it to go too far it will become like an abusive partner; it'll give you a little bit of pleasure, but then it will shatter you to pieces.
Brilliant post this well said ..the analogy of an abusive partner is spot on..thank you for subscribing… please share the channel to help spread the word 👍
Hi Steven, I’ve watched most of your videos but don’t recall if have said anything about your liver health now, if you don’t mind letting people know, have you got cirrhosis? Do you think your drink problems has shortened your life? Tbh I see yourself and other TH-camrs that have drunk way more than me and have suffered more damage than me, I’ve got fatty liver disease, alcohol related of course, but you all seem fine. I’ve been drink free for 7 weeks now and think about having a few beers every day. My question really is that you look fine but have you got any long term medical problems? Please don’t think I’m being nosey but I would like to know how far you can push it and still be ok.
Hi I have some liver scarring however good liver function and been informed by my consultant that if I abstain from alcohol exercise and eat well I will live a normal life span, so no more booze and all should be reasonably good, I have no stress as I retired very young and am financially independent. Stress free helps in overall health. Please subscribe and keep watching 👍
@@stevencurry215 your videos are brilliant, I had a bit of a drug problem in my late teens but never really had a big drink problem, funny thing is I’ve been going off it and getting bored with even a couple at the weekend slowly for the last two years, and now it’s been nearly two months and I’ve completely lost the desire for even one… must be an age thing 🤷♂️
I know this might not sound a lot to some, but on Sat I drank 4 pints of Cobra quick (I had not slept or eaten either) and then at home 5 bottles of Corona. That was enough for me to be absolute on my arse and in bed feeling tired on Sunday for the whole day. Is this normal? As in the past and in my 20s, I could drink and not feel as bad. I just feel drinking is not worth it anymore as it the affects are just to tiring and negative.
No effective mental defence against that first drink. I drank again after 3 years dry. It quickly escalated. Took me nearly 8 years after that to quit for good. Pride had kept me from drinking originally and it was pride that kept me drunk. Thanks for sharing.❤ 11 years 9 months sober.
@@markhmcleod64 Great message Mark…Appreciate it, 11 years pls ..fantastic that what an achievement
Please subscribe to the channel and keep watching 👍
Thanks again for your story Steve, it has helped me a lot. I faced my biggest challenge last night, attending a large birthday party for my brother surrounded by lots of friends and faces from the past. Lots of booze, all paid for. I was terrified that the lovely young man who was delivering the drinks would mistakenly give me an alcoholic drink meant for somebody else, when I had asked for a 0% beer. No pressure of "why aren't you drinking" from anybody around me. I had a glass in my hand and I felt "normal". Another challenge faced and conquered. Onwards and upwards.
That’s fabulous news, you will become more “ Sober confident “ in time and it will feel normal to tell people you just don’t drink 👍
6 nearly 7 months sober for me and feel so so good.
Amazing so good, sober life is the best. Thank you for subscribing & watching 👍
17 months sober for me now👍🏻
@@BenWharfe-vr1pn Well done Ben … keep at it you’re doing amazing 👍
Never, EVER care what others think about you. You do what is right for YOU. If they don't like it....eff 'em!
Amazing Message, thanks for subscribing and watching 👍
Was landed in hospital with severe acute pancreatitis and perforated bowel for nine months, haven’t touched it in six years all because I felt left out of the party and took a drink. Not worth the absolute torture of it and even losing your life over. Thank you for your honest story.
@@davidsheridan1314 Thank you for sharing this, congratulations on 6 years sober, amazing, please subscribe and keep watching 👍
Fair play Steven… I’ve seen alcoholism close up in family and your strength shows me how real and hard it is and helps me forgive… height of respect
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I hope you are keeping well sir 👍
I spent my childhood watching my father destroy himself and it started with drink... He would drink at home with those 2 litre bottles of cheap Frosty Jack cider throughout the day, and then sneak out the house and leave my mother for the pub each night. I used to sit in bed terrified of him stumbling back home in the early hours and listening to my parents shouting and being violent to each other. I slowly saw him lose absolutely everything and he went from my hero to zero... Unfortunately, he then moved on to drugs and I haven't seen him in years and he likely hasn't got long left to live.
I now work in a high stress profession known to have a lot of alcohol dependents! Recently, I just feel like I NEED a drink after work, but I keep telling myself I won't be a repeat of my father!
Growing up with an alcholic in the house is incredibly stressful on a young mind, in my case it was my brother, perversely that had a part in my drinking problems I think but we move on in life and have to let the past and all it's baggage behind..Good luck
What a story, it highlights how evil Alcohol can be, please subscribe to the channel and keep in touch 👍
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I went through that same alcohol inflicted family truma .❤al anon talk to someone about your fears .
FairPlay to Steven, you’re a great guy. Very much appreciate your wisdom. God bless you & protect you. Bosco, Toronto ❤️
@@boscocosgrave Thanks so much and welcome from Canada, Please subscribe and keep watching. Please share the videos to anyone who may be struggling 👍
courageous of you to open up and explain... one day at a time.
@@dazza0670 Thanks so much my friend I hope you are keeping well, please share the videos to anyone who may be struggling 👍
Thanks Steven for this powerful message. Messages like this make your channel my favorite ❤
@@honestmicky You are very welcome 🙏 thank you for your loyal support 👍
Great story Steven....if ya got a drink problem ya got three choices: 1) Sober up
2) Locked up
3) Covered up
Thanks John, well done 2 years sober I like the 123 ..spot on, please subscribe and keep watching 👍
I take my hat of to you for talking about your addiction with alcohol good luck and well done👍👍👍👍👍👍
@@stirlingmotors Thanks Ken, really appreciate your support 👍
Thank you Steven for your story , it Will never work for a real alcoholic to pick up again , the old saying is you can't unpickle a gerkin ! we just can't drink as others do , we are not special or different, but alcohol is something we simply cannot do , you learn it the easy way through others experience or you learn it the hard way through your own .By staying clean and sober life becomes at last manageable.
@@timosullivan292 Thanks Tim that’s a great message “ you can’t unpickle a Gerkin “ good analogy…we cannot drink end of
Please subscribe and share to help others 👍
Now....its 56 days for me...boredom is the problem always need to listen to you to make me focus ✌️✌️✌️✌️
Well done Colin …Keep focused …relapse was my major issue, you really have to dig deep to keep on the right path… I know you can do it 👍
wym boredom?
I mean all my social life and working life was in and around pubs ......replacing drinking is hard to do.....😢
Yes-that makes sense. I used to love the pubs, but now I find the pubs boring. Also over priced. It takes time to develop new interests.
I play a lot of snooker (very badly). I go to gym classes. I have new friends.
There are many fun things to do. Cinema, swimming, walking, charity work. Open your mind.
My mother had a problem for around 15 years or so. I understand everything you’re saying here, it’s absolutely heartbreaking. Physically, mentally and addictively ill, she nearly lost her life at 67 years old.
Laying in the hospital bed after having her stomach seen to due to her stomach lining rupturing, she realised how much she had to live for and stopped. Just like that. She’s still an addict but has successfully abstained for 10 years and has returned to a normal family life, it IS possible for anyone reading this who needs to hear it.
Keep going brother 🙏🏻
@@hcafc1904 God bless your mum…she sounds like a fighter, send her my regards, please subscribe & share these videos to help others 👍
What a great channel you have. Honestly thank you for all the advice and stories you share!
@@johng94x Thank you John, thanks for supporting the community 👍
Recovering alcoholics sometimes forget just how bad things became and that is very dangerous . . . NEVER forget the lowest moment of your drinking.
did you suck d for drinks or something?? 😳💀
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Exercise and food, so true, so important for our health. Also I’ll add to that with sleep.
You are what you eat and you are how you sleep.
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I can really relate to this, the thing about going back to it. I stopped drinking in 2019 after I had a really awful hangover and terrible anxiety after a night out. It haunted me for weeks and I decided I never wanted to feel like that again. I was then completely sober for 2 years until November 2021 when I hit a difficult patch in my personal life and somehow ended up getting caught up with self medicating again. I’ve had sober periods of weeks or maybe months in the interim, but not been able to break free from it completely like i did in 2019. I’m lucky in that I don’t think I’m clinically dependent (yet) but the psychological urge to drink is incredibly powerful. The pressure to drink from others, even though well intentioned, can also be difficult to deal with. And it is hard cos it feels like you’re missing out when others seem to be able to get drunk on a night out but it doesn’t get a hold of them. I’ve thought about treating it as though it’s an allergy - alcohol and me just do not get on. Just as peanuts are lethal for some people, alcohol is dangerous for me.
@@tjfSIM That is an excellent message re treating Alcohol as an allergy etc it’s the best way of treating it I’ve heard tbh
Well done what a great video I will produce from that title 👍
@@stevencurry215 really glad the allergy thing resonates mate - thinking of it like that helps I think because it reminds us it’s not a weakness or a fault to beat ourselves up with, just something about our physiology means we can’t get on with it. Looking forward to seeing the video :)
@@tjfSIM Yeah it’s a really good way of Looking at it… “ I am allergic to Alcohol “…. No more explanation 👍
@@stevencurry215 Exactly yeh. I do find it’s a good tree stump to come back to when I find myself thinking ‘I could just have one, everyone else is drinking so it’s not that bad’ - end of the day that’s them and they have their own relationship with alcohol, and I have mine.
@@tjfSIM Exactly we can’t do what they do like a diabetic can’t have too much sugar !,,,
It’s the first drink that gets you drunk as there is no stopping after that, thank you for your advice.
Always the first one…please share and subscribe 👍
Thank you Steven
@@sarahlaver-holland9931 Very welcome 🙏
Seventeen years next Monday, and one drink and it would be as if the seventeen years never happened, you can " NEVER" go back to social drinking, good luck stay strong 🏴 happy healthy peace ✌️
@@JamesDickson-vs5of Hi James !! 100% Never again ..as you say1 drink you are back to Sq1
I was sober 8 years took a drink in 2014 almost died 2019
17 years amazing
Please subscribe and keep commenting its appreciated especially from a man with your experience & wisdom sir 👍
Hi Steve, you're an inspiration. Great story!. You've definitely come a long day. Well done, you!. I hope you're well
@@ChristopherHughes-u5j Thanks Chris, I’m good thanks…cheers for your ongoing support 👍
Inspirational Steven well done on your journey you are doing amazing .
Thanks so much! Thanks for subscribing and supporting the channel 👍
A wise man said to me it doesnt matter if your 15 years sober or 15 weeks ONE drink will put you back into that horrible place... Well Done mate and the gym will save you indeed ....!!
@@regsnelling9904 Thanks Reg, please subscribe & keep watching, you’re a very positive man 👍
How to avoid the first drink, it's the million-dollar question. I keep reminding myself over and over again: a few hours of pleasure, a week of misery.
I didn't realise this at the time, but when I was in social situations thinking "I wish I could have one, it's unfair that I can't" I hadn't yet made the mental transition that was needed. It was only once I saw alcohol as the enemy that it became easier. Alcohol itself makes that process easier because after a while if you allow it to go too far it will become like an abusive partner; it'll give you a little bit of pleasure, but then it will shatter you to pieces.
Brilliant post this well said ..the analogy of an abusive partner is spot on..thank you for subscribing… please share the channel to help spread the word 👍
One drink is too many and a thousand are not enough.
@@stanleycostello9610 Well said Sit, please subscribe & share to help others 👍
It’s too hard to just stop because I enjoy it too much
Good point Mick…I liked it a lot ..please subscribe and share to help others 🙏
Hi Steven, I’ve watched most of your videos but don’t recall if have said anything about your liver health now, if you don’t mind letting people know, have you got cirrhosis? Do you think your drink problems has shortened your life? Tbh I see yourself and other TH-camrs that have drunk way more than me and have suffered more damage than me, I’ve got fatty liver disease, alcohol related of course, but you all seem fine. I’ve been drink free for 7 weeks now and think about having a few beers every day. My question really is that you look fine but have you got any long term medical problems? Please don’t think I’m being nosey but I would like to know how far you can push it and still be ok.
Hi I have some liver scarring however good liver function and been informed by my consultant that if I abstain from alcohol exercise and eat well I will live a normal life span, so no more booze and all should be reasonably good, I have no stress as I retired very young and am financially independent. Stress free helps in overall health.
Please subscribe and keep watching 👍
One drink is too many as they say. The road can get narrower
100 % 👍
I can’t remember the term but I know now if I drink the receptors in my brain light up like a Christmas tree and I’m back on it….
@@markhauxwell1230 GABA receptors & Dopamine… thanks so much for supporting the channel 👍
Shame on who convinced you
Not good … got to move on …👍
Why does he pull that face putting lips together
@@MarkPye-z3r I don’t even know the answer to that question myself 😝. Please subscribe and keep watching 👍
Where the fuck was all the money coming from???!!
@@Thepalpatineboys77 Hi I’m addressing Alcohol issues not financial..keep watching you might find out 👍
@@stevencurry215 your videos are brilliant, I had a bit of a drug problem in my late teens but never really had a big drink problem, funny thing is I’ve been going off it and getting bored with even a couple at the weekend slowly for the last two years, and now it’s been nearly two months and I’ve completely lost the desire for even one… must be an age thing 🤷♂️
Police pension or payout for PI.
What’s up with your breathing?
@@Benjamin-xh5hj Nothing tbh it’s a speaking technique I’m experimenting with 👍
I know this might not sound a lot to some, but on Sat I drank 4 pints of Cobra quick (I had not slept or eaten either) and then at home 5 bottles of Corona. That was enough for me to be absolute on my arse and in bed feeling tired on Sunday for the whole day. Is this normal? As in the past and in my 20s, I could drink and not feel as bad. I just feel drinking is not worth it anymore as it the affects are just to tiring and negative.