My father would say “you are two good people but not good for each other” compatibility is deeper than love ❤️ that’s where liking someone is important
When my parents got divorced a lot of people in our community were shocked. Whenever it came up I would tell them "They're good people, just not good together."
I found you through following Brandon. I knew he was in love with you before y'all started dating. I just want to say how genuinely happy I am for the both of you! BBG you and Brandon deserve so much!
I can’t stop crying because I know exactly what you mean. I’ve known my kids dad isn’t my soulmate but I can’t find the strength to leave. 7 years together and with 2 kids. This video literally broke me down. I’m so happy you found your happiness and I wish I could do the same one day.
Same girl I got with mine when I was 18 I left with him cuz he was my way out of my horrible situation at home and now we have 3 8 years together and I feel like things have changed or I have changed so much but one day I know we will get our true partner
Same, especially since my bd and i have been together for 15 yrs and 2 kids. I wanna be happy but at the same time dont wanna take my kids away from their father. Id be moving out of state if i left. There would be no reason for me to stay, i technically moved from texas to nyc so we could be together.
Ladies please don’t settle. Know your worth. It took me decades and 2 abusive marriages and bad relationships to finally come to and realize not all men are like my ex for my situation that is. I had 3 kids and was so young and scared. But had to remember my kids needed their mom to be happy not be scared or sad etc and they deserved a happy mom. Even if you have to move out of state. You ladies can figure it out and co parent. It was so hard but I wish I had done it sooner. I was 16 when I met their dad. I’m 41 now my kids are grown and I just got married for my 3rd but last time August 2020 to my best friend and I had no idea my worth and to be honest I’m still learning my worth and I’m finally in therapy for the first time in my life. As I deal with depression ptsd anxiety etc. i haven’t learned how to love myself and I can’t wait and hope I can learn to. Many times I don’t feel worthy of my husband and his kindness. My heart knows but my brain messes with me bc of the decades of abuse by a narcissist really messed me up. So please know you’re not alone and there are ways just have to do what’s best for you and your kids and choose happiness and a healthy relationship with yourself. Please don’t settle. I wish I had help 20 yrs ago to help me and tell me and had TH-cam to listen to amazing an amazing women say what she has said here. To show you ladies. You can do this. Don’t waste your time. Choose you. The rest will work themselves out. I promise and also seek therapy to help you. It can really help. Keeping you ladies in my thoughts. Sorry for the novel 💜
I was married to my high school sweetheart who cheated on me the entire year after we got married. (11 years together) Our divorce wrecked me. January 2020 I was free and alone. And now, I’m SO happy! Who would’ve thought divorce at 29 would end up being such a beautiful gift.
That’s beautiful how you and your ex don’t bash each other, the only ones that get hurt are the kids. Seeing their parents friendly will help a lot. You’re very brave
I am going through a breakup right now and it ended because of this exact thing. I knew I deserved more but I loved him and didn’t want to go through the pain of loosing him. I know now that it was the right thing and I’m working on myself. This vid was exactly what I needed to hear ❤️😭❤️
I am so happy for you and Brandon! I know the feeling of being happy with the man you are suppose to grow old with. I have been married for 15 years. We have been through a lot together and it just brings us closer. Your children are lucky to have parents like you all.
Listening to this on my way home and couldn't help but cry.. I got married at 22 for the same reason "wanting to leave my parents house". Young and naive. Now working on myself, for myself and for my son. One day I will find my soulmate. Thank you for this video ❤ and I am really happy for you.
You deserve every happiness love. Honestly. I'm a domestic survivor. The things that were done, even though its been 17 years, still haunt and torture me. And when I finally got out, I swore I was done with dating. I wanted to be alone. Two months later, I met my best friend. At a tattoo shop. He was the artist. I went back every weekend for tattoos just to hang out with him. The age difference kind of made us stand offish at first, he's 25 years older than me. I was 20 at the time. But it decided to take the leap. He had been hurt too, and had been through a bad marriage, so it was a hard road for the both of us. Our lives have been so full of road blocks, and the craziest scenarios that would have crushed either of us alone, but together, we've made it through. We have 2 beautiful kids, and I couldn't imagine living one day without him. When you know they're the one, there's no denying it. And the love that you and Brandon have for one another is eternal. I've watched him since he was living in his car, and I've seen the changes in the both of you, and you can tell how happy you both truly are. And I couldn't be happier for you, cause you both deserve it. And you can weather any storm if you have each other to lean on. 🖤
I love how vulnerable you allow yourself to be for thousands, maybe millions of people. Mrs. Maria, you are such a light in the darkness that surrounds subjects such as divorce. May God stay with you and please keep doing what you do!
Hun, you touched me. I was married at 18. Was married for 15 years. Went through abuse and emotional pain. I had three beautiful children with him and thought you just work it out. It took me years to love myself and now I'm engaged to my best friend. Your story hit all those feels. I tell every woman now they are queeens. Thank you hun. You and Brandon's video's got me through some super hard times. Thank you, thank you, thank you.....
It's so important to like the person you're with. I truly believe that the reason my husband and I have been together for as long as we have is because we're best friends. I like him as a person, I want to share my day with him, when we get excited about something we call or text each other. It's the little things that make all the difference in the world. I'm glad you found that soul deep kind of happiness 🖤
I love you so much and how much of a light you are in this world.✨💛 You deserve everything single amazing thing that comes into your life, as do I. I’ve always kept the opinions of others in the back of mind, even tho I don’t care 95% of the time, that remaining 5% has its claws in me. I want to truly let go and do what I want and just be happy. You’ve made me realize even more that that’s what I need to do. You’re truly an inspiration. 💛💛
THANK YOU! From the bottom of my heart, thank you for this video. I left an 8 1/2 relationship that I was staying in for reasons that weren't for myself and I finally was also selfish for once and it led me to the most amazing man and I'm finally happy. This video sounded like you were speaking for me, my story, and it's so amazing to know other people have gone through the same journey, and feelings as me. This made me realize how truly co tent and happy I am with my decision. So thank you! Soooo much love from AZ! 💜💜
Thank you 😭😭😭 I'm going through something that's ripping me apart from the inside and most days all I see is darkness. I know I'm sitting here bawling my eyes out but you've given me the hope that things will turn out okay. I need to work on my self worth. I hope one day I can find a sliver of the love you have for yourself, for myself. Thank you for being so raw and open, it means the world to so many people, me being one of them. 💜💙💜💙
I'm new to your channel and much older than you. There are so many women that needed to hear this. I made my choice many years ago, it wasn't easy☹️ But I raised my 2 boys on my own and I was HAPPY!!!!!! Things weren't always perfect but everything worked out in the end. I would say the worst mistake women make is thinking they can "change" someone. You have a beautiful soul, so glad you found the happiness you deserve. Never let someone dull your shine❤️
I spent 3 years with someone who didn't treat me right, we were engaged and i was in the same place. I loved the idea, but I didn't like him. He broke it off and then tried coming back (literally the next day) and I said no. I'm with my best friend now and this is the happiest I have ever been. We are coming up on our one year on the 28th this month and this video was sooo relatable. I've finally found my person 💙
THIS is the same exact thing i went through believed the whole love and birds and kisses until he went to war and everything went to crap 😒 lost myself believed i deserved the bad we went through turned into me having bouts of depression and anxiety. Dont hate him but if we were a married couple he shouldve seen that.. with my true soulmate and my boyfriend before my exhusband and its just a true breath of fresh air~ because if he didnt want to make it work for my daughter who was so young i needed to be out. Love youuuu for the strong inspiring woman you are MG❣️♥️♥️ TQMM ♑️♑️
you are so incredibly strong beautiful for being able to for 1 make this video and for 2 for going through the situation you did, you turned out to be the most powerful woman I’ve ever encountered you are an amazing mother to both your children and just all around an incredible human being you and brandon are such and inspirations to me and have been for as long as I can remember and you and Brandon have without a doubt saved me by helping through by far the hardest times in my life… thank you so much for doing what your doing keep it up your so strong and deserve the world, I love you and will never be able to thank you enough!!
Thankyou for those words ! I needed to hear that , today I was about to leave , as I’m not happy with my kids dad but I couldn’t cause I can’t do that to my babies :( I just hope I find the strength to leave cause he’s not my soulmate and he’s never gunna change
Thank you so much for being this strong positive roll model for the world thank you for sharing your story and I hope this helps so many people get out of difficult situations
Yes girl💞 we have to hit rock bottom sometimes to be able to find our true soul mates. I know that's what happen to me my story was I was with a man for 6 years and I was in hell at first it was great and then on a dime it all changed. I had the strength to finally leave him and then I found my my best friend my soul mate and ive been married to him now for 15 yrs years we have been through everything i got diagnosed with cancer last year and I beat it and he has been my rock through it all. I wouldn't know what I would have done without him. So I know how you feel when you say that ur with ur best friend now. Girl I'm so proud of you thank you for telling us your story I know how hard it was 💞💖💞💖
You are so elegant and graceful in the way you speak about this chapter of your life. You’ve allowed yourself so much humility and grace while allowing yourself to grow and heal and become an incredible woman
I'm going through the same thing. I think my husband and I are so different that it has taken a toll on our marriage. 14 years together, 2 kids, and a house makes it so hard to walk away! I'm glad you found your happiness.
I'm watching this 2/10/2022, which is also my 10 year wedding anniversary to my best friend!! My story is so very similar to yours... I've known my husband since high school, he was one of my best friends, but we went our separate ways. After that, I rushed out of my parent's home through marriage and it ended disastrously, 12 years ago! During that awful time in my life my best friend, now husband, came out of the wood work and was there for me and my 3 children through it all!! We have been married for 10 years today and I can say that I'm glad I was selfish!! It was the best decision I ever made!!! Here we are 10 years later and as madly in love as we were at day 1!! I hope and pray the same for you!! You won't believe how amazingly it'll still feel 10 years from now!!!!
I will be 59 in a few weeks and I completely agree with everything you said. I feel like we could be twins because I went through something similar. I have never had kids but still a similar situation. I had to let a lot of preconceptions go also to be with the man I’m with now. He is definitely my person and once you find them and recognize them, your life really does become incredible. We have been together for over 13 years now and we are living life in our terms. I’m beyond happy. Thank you for sharing your life with us. You and Brandon and your family are beautiful and inspiring. 🖤💜
Thank you. I hear you give this message in every video, but this time, it hit, and it hit hard. I've been divorced twice, suffered a lot of heartbreak, but I've stayed true to myself and my family, I've raised my standards of what is good for me, and I'm not settling for anyone who doesn't make me feel special and appreciated ever again. I'm putting myself first for the first time in my life and I have found so much peace and calm. You are much younger than me, but you inspire me all the time. Thank you for sharing this with us. I'm so happy for you and your amazing family. You deserve everything you've worked so hard for, and so do I. So do we all.
I didn’t realize I wasn’t happy and that we were done till I found a letter hidden under his mat in our car from the woman he cheated on me with… and this was just before he actually asked me for a divorce. I realized a lot of things weren’t right and okay… but I am so happy we are no longer together and that is a blessing. I’ll be able to show my kids what love looks like, what someone loving their mom who be and what my daughter deserves when it’s her time to love and find someone
Its so hard to let go of the person who is so wrong for you especially when you have a kid with them. I wasn't married to my daughters dad but deciding I deserved better was the best decision I made for myself (and my daughter) and now Im married to my best friend, he's my forever person (7 years married almost 10 together) with two boys, he treats my daughter like she's his. Everything you said is perfect. I'm glad you chose you Maria and found your person. I'm introverted too, I need my space but having him around is energizing so I totally understand what you're saying.
Beautifully honest and respectful. It’s wonderful that you’ve found your happiness. So so happy for you. Wanted to thank you for your content. It helps me, with my depression and reminds me that I gotta keep working for my happiness. Most of all it’s ok for me to struggle and I do deserve the things I want for my life. Thank you and again, wonderful video.
Thank you for opening up about your divorce, I understand how difficult it is to do 💖 I was in a toxic relationship for 5 years, emotionally abusive and narcissistic but I didn't know any better and thought that is what love was supposed to be. I got up the courage to leave, and left my beloved dogs and EVERYTHING behind. I had to start completely over and find myself again. Now I am in love with who I am, how I've changed, and I am engaged to the most understanding and compassionate man I am lucky to call my best friend 💖 You really can't fully appreciate the light without having experienced the dark 💪
I am so proud of the women you have become baby girl!!!!! I’ve watched you grow up into a beautiful strong woman and mother…. I don’t comment but this deserves a comment .
I preach it all. Not being happy and still loving a person and wanting to leave them is OKAY. Also that we expect someone to change when you know they are the people they are. I think a lot of people perceive happiness as selfish especially when it’s a relationship of two but primeramente la felicidad de uno mismo para poder dar felicidad a los demás.
I'm watching this for the 2nd time because I couldn't get myself together the 1st time and well I probably felt it more this 2nd time around. Seeing your growth and how much you love yourself, life, partner, gives me chills because I see how its possible to get there and I can't wait to say those words. Im so proud and happy for you.
Thank you so much for sharing your story! I think being raised in a Hispanic household YES we are taught being unhappy is just not enough for divorce. I also stayed in my 1st marriage for way to long thinking (like you) that he would change BUT instead I changed… I lost myself in the mist of all that. Finally one day u just wake up & say.. ENOUGH is enough, I DESERVE to be HAPPY! I think divorcing him was one of the best things I have ever done! Thanks again for your story!!! 🥰🥰🥰
Girl this is a beautiful ass video. I’m bawling my eyes out 🥺! It hit me so hard when you started talking bout Brandon and all the memories with him omg 😭❤️!!!!
You are so amazing for sharing your story! I married young as well, and had my daughter. I tried to fight for my marriage but realized it was not worth it. I now live with the LOML named Brandon, in a home full of women. Including one of our own also named Autumn 💕 love your channel!!
i'm in literal tears omg i'm an introvert too, and i also love my alone time but what you were saying about always wanting to be around Brandon, i feel the same way my man is my person, he is my best friend and even if i wanna be alone the second i see him i wat to sped every moment with him... so what i'm saying is thank you for this video
I really needed this 🥺 it’s so hard when you have a child and wanted a perfect little family always together .. truly appreciate your words me as a daughter and mom I needed this
BBGorl thank for sharing this… I am still new to your channel and this is deep. I can so much relate to everything you said here… I went through a divorce myself also, this is the best advice that is needed to be said about moving on from a heartbreak. Thank you for creating your channel, I love your content/energy but your intros and outros!! They are the best things anyone could say and would love to hear. Lots of love and good vibes to you and Brandon along with the kiddos. BBGorl thank you for being you 💕
Wow! Thank you for the vulnerability that you put out there for us. I appreciate you so much for sharing this part of your life with us. I’m so happy that you found your person and you are truly happy ❤️
I'm not crying, you're crying! God I freaking love you so much! I've loved watching y'all grow together. ❤ 🥰 You are such an amazing person inside and out! Thank you for sharing your life with us.
I am literally sobbing with you baby girl. I've found my best friend and my forever & I'm glad you did too! It's so suffocating, draining, depressing being with someone you're not meant to be with. YOU deserve happiness
You are truly a beautiful soul. I lived through the same thing but mine was sprinkled with verbal abuse... I married at 17 wanting to be me only to realize I didn't know who me was... after many years i found my person and 23 years later he is still the love of my life . Ty for sharing ..
I've been divorced since 2017, to a 18 year relationship. My divorce was so stressful. I'm still single. But I feel like I need this time for me. For so long I took the backburner to him for half my life. Now that I'm where I am, I'm so happy. I completely understand how you feel. Girl, you got me crying.🤗
I found my somebody, my husband, when we were both 15. We had our son at 17, our oldest daughter at 20, got married at 21 and had our youngest daughter at 25. This is our 27th year together and we have a granddaughter now....who is a huge fan of Brandon, btw, and loves when Autumn is in his videos❤ I am so glad and lucky that I found my person so early in life❤ You made me cry when you started talking about your "best friend" being there and not being able to let yourself be with him🥰❤
Omg I love you girl! I needed this I been going through something similar to you I got married at 21 and I was thought the same way about divorce. I have been married for 17 years and I cannot believe I might going through a divorce as well. I want to be someone priority not option. To walk in and feel the love 💕 this actually hitting home. Thank you for sharing! I wish you all the best.
Ugh, I know no 2 people can live the same life, but bbgrl I get it, I soooo fucking get it. I committed to my happiness and my soul mate came to me, the unexpected person became my other half, and he loves my kiddo like he's his, and now we spend everyday laughing. ❤️ thank you, for being you.
Although I found "my one" when I was 16 and been with him for 35yrs. I totally understand everything you said about how important to know who you are and what you want out of life.. I am a huge fan of you and Brandon... can't wait to see what the future holds for both of you!!
I wish I could heart react this and react a million times :,) I was in tears. I am with my best friend as well. I went through heart break. A few times. It broke me. But, I did not let myself give up. I met my best friend and him and I have a Son now (He is 16 months old, my Son). We are married and so in love. I love him. I like him. I adore him. % and a half years with the love of my life and best friend. We will chose each other every time and in every life time. I am so happy I did not give up all those years ago... I am so happy you have that kind of love, and like lol :)
Trying to get out of a 14 year relationship currently. Just over the last few years he's turned into somebody I don't know... but I always hope he'll go back to being who I fell in love with. He's now gotten to the point that he fully expresses he won't change and feels like he's doing nothing wrong. It's not fair to me, and not fair to the kids either. It's all too much...😞😞
I AM SOBBING! 😭❤️ Wow!! Your story is so incredibly inspiring!! Made me think really hard about my current relationship & wonder if I am in the same situation or not! I have a lot to process & this opened my eyes to so much! Thank you!!!
Man this hit hard. I was in a physically abusive relationship for 8 years and we had a son who is now 13. I finally walked away after one too many beatings, one too many cheating. Its been 3 years and although I’ve been single ever since I’m so glad I have peace now. Through all that pain came the most beautiful healing. I found me again. It’s so true the hurt helps us grow and makes us look within, teaching us never to settle ever again. Thank god for growth and finally knowing our worth. Love you girl ♥️♥️♥️
Ugh I wish I could just heart the shit out of this video 😭❤️❤️❤️ girl you speak all the truth here! I left a 5 year long relationship after having a kid together as well it was very hard but it needed to happen and I'm way happier now 6 years later and 2 more kids with "my person" ❤️ who I'm currently engaged to 🤗
I went through this exact thing! Left a toxic relationship and ended up back at my parents, I felt like a complete failure. But after a long time I finally realized I deserve better and I am not a failure for wanting more!
That is what I told my Grandmama and other people. I want to find out who I am (my opinion, my feelings, my thoughts, what I believe and stand for) before I start to figure someone else out. I finally feel like I have gotten to that point. Which I am so proud of. None of that would have happened if I had not gone through the things I did. I don’t have any regrets either for all that happened. I know first hand how bad a divorce can be. It took 5 years to be completely done with it. I could go on and on about things, but anywho.
Oh honey, I'm 57 and I stayed because I for the same reason. I thought physical abuse was a justification for divorce yet it never dawned on me that the verbal and emotional abuse was just as bad. I did finally leave when it started affecting my kids. I'm so happy how things are going for you now! I still believe that I will find my other half. Love to you, Brandon and the kids! 💕
Shew, so many emotions while watching this. I'm sorry you had to go through a very hard time but I'm so glad you found your happiness, your best friend, your perfect partner, your love. ❤ Yall are so cute together & he's always went on about how much he loves you & Autumn (and now Jameson too, of course). He's definitely a keeper lol. 💜🖤💛🤍
Waw. I so needed this. Thank you 💕 you are such a beautiful soul. This just really talks to me right now I'm in the middle of some realisations and well this gave me the clarity I needed. Thank you. I love you guys 😘 xxx
I dated my husband from 9th to 12th grade, we got married 5 months after we finished high school. We celebrate 15 yrs married this year. 🍾 Sometimes we do find our love early and sometimes we don't. I feel like your 1st led you to Autum, B and now Jameson. It was a different 'meant to be'. 💗
I wish you talked about this in Spanish 😭😭 I would show this to my husband now maybe he would appreciate me more and understand so many things we’ve been going through
Hey girl, I loved this video,Thank you for being vulnerable with us. I needed this. Made me emotional for two reasons, First I'm so happy for you because through the hardships you were able to find the light and have the life that you dreamed of now, Second I'm going through a tough time myself with most likely getting a divorce very young and I've had to come to terms about that it wasn't meant to be and there are good things ahead. Thank you so much for this video. Love you! Take care Always. ❤️
wow, thank you so much for this. i really needed this. im currently going through something VERY similar, this has given me so much hope that i had kinda lost. im currently going through a divorce as well, i was with him for 4 years, married for 2 and i ended up so miserable, i stayed w him for as long as i did with the hopes that he would eventually relearn to appreciate me the way he did in the beginning of our relationship, but we both ended up so miserable and as a result of that we both ended up treating each other like compete shit, we both verbally and physically abused each other and it got so bad that i ended up in jail because of it. i still tried to fix it afterwards because i really did love him and i wanted my family to be together so bad but no matter what we did, we were both just so miserable. till this day i still love him but i can't say i'm IN LOVE w him anymore and it sucks to say. now i'm also in a happy relationship with who has been my best friend as well for the past 10 years. he tells me almost everyday that he's been in love w me since he was 16 (he's now 26) and i believe him. it's crazy to say but he does everything that i wish my ex would have done. he's currently enlisted into the military as a Marine but we talk all day everyday through facetime and i'm just so happy now, my whole family sees a difference in me, everyone tells me that i look so much happier and i'm just so grateful now. i'm able to talk about all of this with my boyfriend and he's there for me, i no longer feel alone. again, thank you so much for this video and for sharing your story with us, i know this couldn't have been easy to talk about no matter how long it's been since it's happened, i found myself in tears while watching this because i relate to so much of what you spoke about. thank you so much again for sharing your strength with us, especially me.
I married at 18. I LOVED this man. We had 4 kids together. Married for 17 yrs but I knew it was over at the 15 yr mark. The hardest thing I ever had to do was to let him go but I knew he wanted something else. I had to force myself to finally end it. But I always said you have to see the dark and stormy days in order to really appreciate the brighter days. And, it could be worse/someone, somewhere is going thru something worse and you have to appreciate what you DO have. I told myself I'd just be alone and wait will my kids are grown to worry about any man every again but unexpectedly, the most amazing man walked into my life not even a year later. He loves me and actually likes me too lol and he loves each one of my kids like they are his own. I don't think I ever want to marry again cause I don't ever want to hate him like so many ppl struggle with during a divorce. But I know that this man is the one I'm going to grow old with four the rest of my life. Have faith and never give up because your sunshine is coming, you just have to be patient. 💙 My ex passed last year suddenly due to covid and I still struggle with it. My bf has been an amazing support and my ex's new wife is the sweetest person. She's my new best friend and I'm blessed we can all come together for our kids cause they need each other (his new baby was only 2 and I want him to know he has his brothers always 😢)💙 {Just be kind. We need more of that in this world!}
My father would say “you are two good people but not good for each other” compatibility is deeper than love ❤️ that’s where liking someone is important
When my parents got divorced a lot of people in our community were shocked. Whenever it came up I would tell them "They're good people, just not good together."
This is absolutely right.
Not grounds for divorce
I found you through following Brandon. I knew he was in love with you before y'all started dating. I just want to say how genuinely happy I am for the both of you! BBG you and Brandon deserve so much!
I can’t stop crying because I know exactly what you mean. I’ve known my kids dad isn’t my soulmate but I can’t find the strength to leave. 7 years together and with 2 kids. This video literally broke me down. I’m so happy you found your happiness and I wish I could do the same one day.
ITS CRAZY WHAT YOU DESERVE. Just remember that babygirl 🖤
I feel this same girl 😭 2 kids and I get treated like shit
Same girl I got with mine when I was 18 I left with him cuz he was my way out of my horrible situation at home and now we have 3 8 years together and I feel like things have changed or I have changed so much but one day I know we will get our true partner
Same, especially since my bd and i have been together for 15 yrs and 2 kids. I wanna be happy but at the same time dont wanna take my kids away from their father. Id be moving out of state if i left. There would be no reason for me to stay, i technically moved from texas to nyc so we could be together.
Ladies please don’t settle. Know your worth. It took me decades and 2 abusive marriages and bad relationships to finally come to and realize not all men are like my ex for my situation that is. I had 3 kids and was so young and scared. But had to remember my kids needed their mom to be happy not be scared or sad etc and they deserved a happy mom. Even if you have to move out of state. You ladies can figure it out and co parent. It was so hard but I wish I had done it sooner. I was 16 when I met their dad. I’m 41 now my kids are grown and I just got married for my 3rd but last time August 2020 to my best friend and I had no idea my worth and to be honest I’m still learning my worth and I’m finally in therapy for the first time in my life. As I deal with depression ptsd anxiety etc. i haven’t learned how to love myself and I can’t wait and hope I can learn to. Many times I don’t feel worthy of my husband and his kindness. My heart knows but my brain messes with me bc of the decades of abuse by a narcissist really messed me up. So please know you’re not alone and there are ways just have to do what’s best for you and your kids and choose happiness and a healthy relationship with yourself. Please don’t settle. I wish I had help 20 yrs ago to help me and tell me and had TH-cam to listen to amazing an amazing women say what she has said here. To show you ladies. You can do this. Don’t waste your time. Choose you. The rest will work themselves out. I promise and also seek therapy to help you. It can really help. Keeping you ladies in my thoughts. Sorry for the novel 💜
I was married to my high school sweetheart who cheated on me the entire year after we got married. (11 years together) Our divorce wrecked me. January 2020 I was free and alone. And now, I’m SO happy! Who would’ve thought divorce at 29 would end up being such a beautiful gift.
Im getting divorced and im 29 . This gives me hope that it will work out even if it doesn’t look like it now
The tears are flowing right now. Thank you so much for being a voice for so many women❤️
It’s what I’m here for bbg, let’s get you yours now ✨🖤
When I tell you I haven't clicked on a video faster in my life. I needed this right now. Thank you for sharing💕
That’s beautiful how you and your ex don’t bash each other, the only ones that get hurt are the kids. Seeing their parents friendly will help a lot. You’re very brave
MariaaGloriaa always popping up when I need her most! Dinnertime here, and I always watch youtube. Thank you, MariaaGloriaa! I really appreciate it!
After 15 years I started thinking and believing that I deserve BETTER! Thank you Mariaa ❤️
Better late than never bbg 🖤🖤
It was 13 for me, haha! Can't believe how long I stayed!
I am going through a breakup right now and it ended because of this exact thing. I knew I deserved more but I loved him and didn’t want to go through the pain of loosing him. I know now that it was the right thing and I’m working on myself. This vid was exactly what I needed to hear ❤️😭❤️
I am so happy for you and Brandon! I know the feeling of being happy with the man you are suppose to grow old with. I have been married for 15 years. We have been through a lot together and it just brings us closer. Your children are lucky to have parents like you all.
Listening to this on my way home and couldn't help but cry.. I got married at 22 for the same reason "wanting to leave my parents house". Young and naive.
Now working on myself, for myself and for my son. One day I will find my soulmate. Thank you for this video ❤ and I am really happy for you.
You deserve every happiness love. Honestly. I'm a domestic survivor. The things that were done, even though its been 17 years, still haunt and torture me. And when I finally got out, I swore I was done with dating. I wanted to be alone. Two months later, I met my best friend. At a tattoo shop. He was the artist. I went back every weekend for tattoos just to hang out with him. The age difference kind of made us stand offish at first, he's 25 years older than me. I was 20 at the time. But it decided to take the leap. He had been hurt too, and had been through a bad marriage, so it was a hard road for the both of us. Our lives have been so full of road blocks, and the craziest scenarios that would have crushed either of us alone, but together, we've made it through. We have 2 beautiful kids, and I couldn't imagine living one day without him. When you know they're the one, there's no denying it. And the love that you and Brandon have for one another is eternal. I've watched him since he was living in his car, and I've seen the changes in the both of you, and you can tell how happy you both truly are. And I couldn't be happier for you, cause you both deserve it. And you can weather any storm if you have each other to lean on. 🖤
I love how vulnerable you allow yourself to be for thousands, maybe millions of people. Mrs. Maria, you are such a light in the darkness that surrounds subjects such as divorce. May God stay with you and please keep doing what you do!
Hun, you touched me. I was married at 18. Was married for 15 years. Went through abuse and emotional pain. I had three beautiful children with him and thought you just work it out. It took me years to love myself and now I'm engaged to my best friend. Your story hit all those feels. I tell every woman now they are queeens. Thank you hun. You and Brandon's video's got me through some super hard times. Thank you, thank you, thank you.....
I love you! I needed to hear this. You need a podcast about self love and self care. Keep being you.
We are so happy for you and your journey and so blessed you have Brandon. You two are amazing 🥺
It's so important to like the person you're with. I truly believe that the reason my husband and I have been together for as long as we have is because we're best friends. I like him as a person, I want to share my day with him, when we get excited about something we call or text each other. It's the little things that make all the difference in the world. I'm glad you found that soul deep kind of happiness 🖤
I feel like you took the words out of my mouth!! ❤️ just like you, I went through the same. Everyone deserves happiness and to feel loved.
Yes ma’am, 100% 🥰
I love you so much and how much of a light you are in this world.✨💛 You deserve everything single amazing thing that comes into your life, as do I. I’ve always kept the opinions of others in the back of mind, even tho I don’t care 95% of the time, that remaining 5% has its claws in me. I want to truly let go and do what I want and just be happy. You’ve made me realize even more that that’s what I need to do.
You’re truly an inspiration. 💛💛
THANK YOU! From the bottom of my heart, thank you for this video. I left an 8 1/2 relationship that I was staying in for reasons that weren't for myself and I finally was also selfish for once and it led me to the most amazing man and I'm finally happy. This video sounded like you were speaking for me, my story, and it's so amazing to know other people have gone through the same journey, and feelings as me. This made me realize how truly co tent and happy I am with my decision. So thank you! Soooo much love from AZ! 💜💜
You are a beautiful person! May you continue to grow and flourish through all you do❤
Thank you 😭😭😭 I'm going through something that's ripping me apart from the inside and most days all I see is darkness. I know I'm sitting here bawling my eyes out but you've given me the hope that things will turn out okay. I need to work on my self worth. I hope one day I can find a sliver of the love you have for yourself, for myself. Thank you for being so raw and open, it means the world to so many people, me being one of them. 💜💙💜💙
I'm new to your channel and much older than you. There are so many women that needed to hear this. I made my choice many years ago, it wasn't easy☹️ But I raised my 2 boys on my own and I was HAPPY!!!!!! Things weren't always perfect but everything worked out in the end. I would say the worst mistake women make is thinking they can "change" someone. You have a beautiful soul, so glad you found the happiness you deserve. Never let someone dull your shine❤️
I spent 3 years with someone who didn't treat me right, we were engaged and i was in the same place. I loved the idea, but I didn't like him. He broke it off and then tried coming back (literally the next day) and I said no. I'm with my best friend now and this is the happiest I have ever been. We are coming up on our one year on the 28th this month and this video was sooo relatable. I've finally found my person 💙
I love you and your light so much you shine through your videos and are an incredible inspiration.
THIS is the same exact thing i went through believed the whole love and birds and kisses until he went to war and everything went to crap 😒 lost myself believed i deserved the bad we went through turned into me having bouts of depression and anxiety. Dont hate him but if we were a married couple he shouldve seen that.. with my true soulmate and my boyfriend before my exhusband and its just a true breath of fresh air~ because if he didnt want to make it work for my daughter who was so young i needed to be out. Love youuuu for the strong inspiring woman you are MG❣️♥️♥️ TQMM ♑️♑️
Wow I have been watching you forever and I must say you look so stunning. You are glowing you genuinely look so happy and beautiful. :)
you are so incredibly strong beautiful for being able to for 1 make this video and for 2 for going through the situation you did, you turned out to be the most powerful woman I’ve ever encountered you are an amazing mother to both your children and just all around an incredible human being you and brandon are such and inspirations to me and have been for as long as I can remember and you and Brandon have without a doubt saved me by helping through by far the hardest times in my life… thank you so much for doing what your doing keep it up your so strong and deserve the world, I love you and will never be able to thank you enough!!
Thankyou for those words ! I needed to hear that , today I was about to leave , as I’m not happy with my kids dad but I couldn’t cause I can’t do that to my babies :( I just hope I find the strength to leave cause he’s not my soulmate and he’s never gunna change
this is so beautiful maria, theres so much inspiration in your vids, you deserve all of the happiness you have.
Thank you so much for being this strong positive roll model for the world thank you for sharing your story and I hope this helps so many people get out of difficult situations
That’s my wish too 🥺
@@mariaagloriaa your the roll model I want my daughters to grow up watching thank you for being you
Yes girl💞 we have to hit rock bottom sometimes to be able to find our true soul mates. I know that's what happen to me my story was I was with a man for 6 years and I was in hell at first it was great and then on a dime it all changed. I had the strength to finally leave him and then I found my my best friend my soul mate and ive been married to him now for 15 yrs years we have been through everything i got diagnosed with cancer last year and I beat it and he has been my rock through it all. I wouldn't know what I would have done without him. So I know how you feel when you say that ur with ur best friend now. Girl I'm so proud of you thank you for telling us your story I know how hard it was 💞💖💞💖
I agree life is too short to not be happy. Do what makes you happy when you can. Wonderful story so beautiful
You are so elegant and graceful in the way you speak about this chapter of your life. You’ve allowed yourself so much humility and grace while allowing yourself to grow and heal and become an incredible woman
I'm going through the same thing. I think my husband and I are so different that it has taken a toll on our marriage. 14 years together, 2 kids, and a house makes it so hard to walk away! I'm glad you found your happiness.
I'm watching this 2/10/2022, which is also my 10 year wedding anniversary to my best friend!! My story is so very similar to yours... I've known my husband since high school, he was one of my best friends, but we went our separate ways. After that, I rushed out of my parent's home through marriage and it ended disastrously, 12 years ago! During that awful time in my life my best friend, now husband, came out of the wood work and was there for me and my 3 children through it all!! We have been married for 10 years today and I can say that I'm glad I was selfish!! It was the best decision I ever made!!! Here we are 10 years later and as madly in love as we were at day 1!! I hope and pray the same for you!! You won't believe how amazingly it'll still feel 10 years from now!!!!
I will be 59 in a few weeks and I completely agree with everything you said. I feel like we could be twins because I went through something similar. I have never had kids but still a similar situation. I had to let a lot of preconceptions go also to be with the man I’m with now. He is definitely my person and once you find them and recognize them, your life really does become incredible. We have been together for over 13 years now and we are living life in our terms. I’m beyond happy. Thank you for sharing your life with us. You and Brandon and your family are beautiful and inspiring. 🖤💜
Thank you. I hear you give this message in every video, but this time, it hit, and it hit hard. I've been divorced twice, suffered a lot of heartbreak, but I've stayed true to myself and my family, I've raised my standards of what is good for me, and I'm not settling for anyone who doesn't make me feel special and appreciated ever again. I'm putting myself first for the first time in my life and I have found so much peace and calm. You are much younger than me, but you inspire me all the time. Thank you for sharing this with us. I'm so happy for you and your amazing family. You deserve everything you've worked so hard for, and so do I. So do we all.
I didn’t realize I wasn’t happy and that we were done till I found a letter hidden under his mat in our car from the woman he cheated on me with… and this was just before he actually asked me for a divorce. I realized a lot of things weren’t right and okay… but I am so happy we are no longer together and that is a blessing. I’ll be able to show my kids what love looks like, what someone loving their mom who be and what my daughter deserves when it’s her time to love and find someone
Its so hard to let go of the person who is so wrong for you especially when you have a kid with them. I wasn't married to my daughters dad but deciding I deserved better was the best decision I made for myself (and my daughter) and now Im married to my best friend, he's my forever person (7 years married almost 10 together) with two boys, he treats my daughter like she's his. Everything you said is perfect. I'm glad you chose you Maria and found your person. I'm introverted too, I need my space but having him around is energizing so I totally understand what you're saying.
Beautifully honest and respectful. It’s wonderful that you’ve found your happiness. So so happy for you. Wanted to thank you for your content. It helps me, with my depression and reminds me that I gotta keep working for my happiness. Most of all it’s ok for me to struggle and I do deserve the things I want for my life. Thank you and again, wonderful video.
Thank you for opening up about your divorce, I understand how difficult it is to do 💖
I was in a toxic relationship for 5 years, emotionally abusive and narcissistic but I didn't know any better and thought that is what love was supposed to be.
I got up the courage to leave, and left my beloved dogs and EVERYTHING behind. I had to start completely over and find myself again.
Now I am in love with who I am, how I've changed, and I am engaged to the most understanding and compassionate man I am lucky to call my best friend 💖
You really can't fully appreciate the light without having experienced the dark 💪
I am so proud of the women you have become baby girl!!!!! I’ve watched you grow up into a beautiful strong woman and mother…. I don’t comment but this deserves a comment .
I preach it all.
Not being happy and still loving a person and wanting to leave them is OKAY. Also that we expect someone to change when you know they are the people they are. I think a lot of people perceive happiness as selfish especially when it’s a relationship of two but primeramente la felicidad de uno mismo para poder dar felicidad a los demás.
I'm watching this for the 2nd time because I couldn't get myself together the 1st time and well I probably felt it more this 2nd time around. Seeing your growth and how much you love yourself, life, partner, gives me chills because I see how its possible to get there and I can't wait to say those words. Im so proud and happy for you.
Thank you so much for sharing your story! I think being raised in a Hispanic household YES we are taught being unhappy is just not enough for divorce. I also stayed in my 1st marriage for way to long thinking (like you) that he would change BUT instead I changed… I lost myself in the mist of all that. Finally one day u just wake up & say.. ENOUGH is enough, I DESERVE to be HAPPY! I think divorcing him was one of the best things I have ever done!
Thanks again for your story!!! 🥰🥰🥰
Girl this is a beautiful ass video. I’m bawling my eyes out 🥺! It hit me so hard when you started talking bout Brandon and all the memories with him omg 😭❤️!!!!
You are so amazing for sharing your story! I married young as well, and had my daughter. I tried to fight for my marriage but realized it was not worth it. I now live with the LOML named Brandon, in a home full of women. Including one of our own also named Autumn 💕 love your channel!!
Choo, choooooo! All aboard the hot mess cry express! 😭😭😭😭 bbg, I wasn't ready!!! My heart! LYSM
i'm in literal tears omg i'm an introvert too, and i also love my alone time but what you were saying about always wanting to be around Brandon, i feel the same way my man is my person, he is my best friend and even if i wanna be alone the second i see him i wat to sped every moment with him... so what i'm saying is thank you for this video
I really needed this 🥺 it’s so hard when you have a child and wanted a perfect little family always together .. truly appreciate your words me as a daughter and mom I needed this
BBGorl thank for sharing this… I am still new to your channel and this is deep. I can so much relate to everything you said here… I went through a divorce myself also, this is the best advice that is needed to be said about moving on from a heartbreak. Thank you for creating your channel, I love your content/energy but your intros and outros!! They are the best things anyone could say and would love to hear. Lots of love and good vibes to you and Brandon along with the kiddos. BBGorl thank you for being you 💕
Oof girl I was not ready to cry tonight. Mad respect to you. You really are such a great person to watch on this platform. Love to see this.
Wow! Thank you for the vulnerability that you put out there for us. I appreciate you so much for sharing this part of your life with us. I’m so happy that you found your person and you are truly happy ❤️
I'm not crying, you're crying! God I freaking love you so much! I've loved watching y'all grow together. ❤ 🥰 You are such an amazing person inside and out! Thank you for sharing your life with us.
I am literally sobbing with you baby girl. I've found my best friend and my forever & I'm glad you did too! It's so suffocating, draining, depressing being with someone you're not meant to be with. YOU deserve happiness
You are truly a beautiful soul. I lived through the same thing but mine was sprinkled with verbal abuse... I married at 17 wanting to be me only to realize I didn't know who me was... after many years i found my person and 23 years later he is still the love of my life . Ty for sharing ..
I've been divorced since 2017, to a 18 year relationship. My divorce was so stressful. I'm still single. But I feel like I need this time for me. For so long I took the backburner to him for half my life. Now that I'm where I am, I'm so happy. I completely understand how you feel. Girl, you got me crying.🤗
I found my somebody, my husband, when we were both 15. We had our son at 17, our oldest daughter at 20, got married at 21 and had our youngest daughter at 25. This is our 27th year together and we have a granddaughter now....who is a huge fan of Brandon, btw, and loves when Autumn is in his videos❤ I am so glad and lucky that I found my person so early in life❤
You made me cry when you started talking about your "best friend" being there and not being able to let yourself be with him🥰❤
Omg I love you girl! I needed this I been going through something similar to you I got married at 21 and I was thought the same way about divorce. I have been married for 17 years and I cannot believe I might going through a divorce as well. I want to be someone priority not option. To walk in and feel the love 💕 this actually hitting home. Thank you for sharing! I wish you all the best.
Wow I’ve needed this video more than any other.
Ugh, I know no 2 people can live the same life, but bbgrl I get it, I soooo fucking get it. I committed to my happiness and my soul mate came to me, the unexpected person became my other half, and he loves my kiddo like he's his, and now we spend everyday laughing. ❤️ thank you, for being you.
Although I found "my one" when I was 16 and been with him for 35yrs. I totally understand everything you said about how important to know who you are and what you want out of life.. I am a huge fan of you and Brandon... can't wait to see what the future holds for both of you!!
This is my queue. Thank you Maria 💜
I wish I could heart react this and react a million times :,) I was in tears. I am with my best friend as well. I went through heart break. A few times. It broke me. But, I did not let myself give up. I met my best friend and him and I have a Son now (He is 16 months old, my Son). We are married and so in love. I love him. I like him. I adore him. % and a half years with the love of my life and best friend. We will chose each other every time and in every life time. I am so happy I did not give up all those years ago... I am so happy you have that kind of love, and like lol :)
So much emotion and empowerment in this. Thank you for sharing this with us! 💚❤️
God bless you baby girl. Thank you for sharing. This is exactly what I needed.
I needed that chat with my gal pal more than you know. Thank you ❤️
Trying to get out of a 14 year relationship currently. Just over the last few years he's turned into somebody I don't know... but I always hope he'll go back to being who I fell in love with. He's now gotten to the point that he fully expresses he won't change and feels like he's doing nothing wrong. It's not fair to me, and not fair to the kids either. It's all too much...😞😞
tell me brandon edited this video without telling me brandon edited this video
omg i love this and you two together im so glad youre finally happy
I AM SOBBING! 😭❤️ Wow!! Your story is so incredibly inspiring!! Made me think really hard about my current relationship & wonder if I am in the same situation or not! I have a lot to process & this opened my eyes to so much! Thank you!!!
Man this hit hard. I was in a physically abusive relationship for 8 years and we had a son who is now 13. I finally walked away after one too many beatings, one too many cheating. Its been 3 years and although I’ve been single ever since I’m so glad I have peace now. Through all that pain came the most beautiful healing. I found me again. It’s so true the hurt helps us grow and makes us look within, teaching us never to settle ever again. Thank god for growth and finally knowing our worth. Love you girl ♥️♥️♥️
You are an incredible soul bbg🖤 please remind yourself of your greatness daily because what you survived was no small thing♥︎♥︎👏🏽👏🏽
my niece is turning 18 and for 4 years she’s been saying “I want out of my parents house and to get married” - thank you for this video ❤️😘🇨🇦
Ugh I wish I could just heart the shit out of this video 😭❤️❤️❤️ girl you speak all the truth here! I left a 5 year long relationship after having a kid together as well it was very hard but it needed to happen and I'm way happier now 6 years later and 2 more kids with "my person" ❤️ who I'm currently engaged to 🤗
Thank you so much for sharing ❤️ your message for this video is something I really needed to hear.
I went through this exact thing! Left a toxic relationship and ended up back at my parents, I felt like a complete failure. But after a long time I finally realized I deserve better and I am not a failure for wanting more!
The mourning of people that are still alive can be harder than mourning death sometimes 😔 but time heals that as well
Your amazing I’m crying rn because your giving me hope
I love you and this video so much thank you for sharing for anyone who is going through this in a similar situation 💗
That is what I told my Grandmama and other people. I want to find out who I am (my opinion, my feelings, my thoughts, what I believe and stand for) before I start to figure someone else out. I finally feel like I have gotten to that point. Which I am so proud of. None of that would have happened if I had not gone through the things I did. I don’t have any regrets either for all that happened. I know first hand how bad a divorce can be. It took 5 years to be completely done with it. I could go on and on about things, but anywho.
Oh honey, I'm 57 and I stayed because I for the same reason. I thought physical abuse was a justification for divorce yet it never dawned on me that the verbal and emotional abuse was just as bad. I did finally leave when it started affecting my kids. I'm so happy how things are going for you now! I still believe that I will find my other half. Love to you, Brandon and the kids! 💕
Really needed this, words I’ve been telling myself needed to always hear it
Shew, so many emotions while watching this. I'm sorry you had to go through a very hard time but I'm so glad you found your happiness, your best friend, your perfect partner, your love. ❤ Yall are so cute together & he's always went on about how much he loves you & Autumn (and now Jameson too, of course). He's definitely a keeper lol. 💜🖤💛🤍
I love the way you talk about him 🥰 glad you found your love & your best friend wrapped in one😍 love this for you!
tears. love you. keep being you.
Side note: you are glowing! Your skin. Your hair! Everything 🥰🥰🥰🥰 make up is on point. & that shirt!!!
I understand this so much omg I’ve never cried so much over a video this is so true :(((((( I’m living this now…..
Waw. I so needed this. Thank you 💕 you are such a beautiful soul. This just really talks to me right now I'm in the middle of some realisations and well this gave me the clarity I needed. Thank you. I love you guys 😘 xxx
I dated my husband from 9th to 12th grade, we got married 5 months after we finished high school. We celebrate 15 yrs married this year. 🍾 Sometimes we do find our love early and sometimes we don't. I feel like your 1st led you to Autum, B and now Jameson. It was a different 'meant to be'. 💗
I wish you talked about this in Spanish 😭😭 I would show this to my husband now maybe he would appreciate me more and understand so many things we’ve been going through
I needed this. Thank you so much for sharing. 💜
Hey girl, I loved this video,Thank you for being vulnerable with us. I needed this. Made me emotional for two reasons, First I'm so happy for you because through the hardships you were able to find the light and have the life that you dreamed of now, Second I'm going through a tough time myself with most likely getting a divorce very young and I've had to come to terms about that it wasn't meant to be and there are good things ahead. Thank you so much for this video. Love you! Take care Always. ❤️
I really needed to hear this. Thank you 💜
Positive Vibes your way BBG you’re the best and thank you for sharing such private information about you
It’s great that you are happy, and it’s even greater that you realize how lucky you are to have found YOUR person… not everyone gets that. ❤️
I am so proud of you for sharing this part of your life ❤️
wow, thank you so much for this. i really needed this. im currently going through something VERY similar, this has given me so much hope that i had kinda lost. im currently going through a divorce as well, i was with him for 4 years, married for 2 and i ended up so miserable, i stayed w him for as long as i did with the hopes that he would eventually relearn to appreciate me the way he did in the beginning of our relationship, but we both ended up so miserable and as a result of that we both ended up treating each other like compete shit, we both verbally and physically abused each other and it got so bad that i ended up in jail because of it. i still tried to fix it afterwards because i really did love him and i wanted my family to be together so bad but no matter what we did, we were both just so miserable. till this day i still love him but i can't say i'm IN LOVE w him anymore and it sucks to say. now i'm also in a happy relationship with who has been my best friend as well for the past 10 years. he tells me almost everyday that he's been in love w me since he was 16 (he's now 26) and i believe him. it's crazy to say but he does everything that i wish my ex would have done. he's currently enlisted into the military as a Marine but we talk all day everyday through facetime and i'm just so happy now, my whole family sees a difference in me, everyone tells me that i look so much happier and i'm just so grateful now. i'm able to talk about all of this with my boyfriend and he's there for me, i no longer feel alone. again, thank you so much for this video and for sharing your story with us, i know this couldn't have been easy to talk about no matter how long it's been since it's happened, i found myself in tears while watching this because i relate to so much of what you spoke about. thank you so much again for sharing your strength with us, especially me.
You’re such a wise, beautiful woman and Brandon is amazing. So happy for you 🥲
I married at 18. I LOVED this man. We had 4 kids together. Married for 17 yrs but I knew it was over at the 15 yr mark. The hardest thing I ever had to do was to let him go but I knew he wanted something else. I had to force myself to finally end it. But I always said you have to see the dark and stormy days in order to really appreciate the brighter days. And, it could be worse/someone, somewhere is going thru something worse and you have to appreciate what you DO have. I told myself I'd just be alone and wait will my kids are grown to worry about any man every again but unexpectedly, the most amazing man walked into my life not even a year later. He loves me and actually likes me too lol and he loves each one of my kids like they are his own. I don't think I ever want to marry again cause I don't ever want to hate him like so many ppl struggle with during a divorce. But I know that this man is the one I'm going to grow old with four the rest of my life.
Have faith and never give up because your sunshine is coming, you just have to be patient. 💙
My ex passed last year suddenly due to covid and I still struggle with it. My bf has been an amazing support and my ex's new wife is the sweetest person. She's my new best friend and I'm blessed we can all come together for our kids cause they need each other (his new baby was only 2 and I want him to know he has his brothers always 😢)💙 {Just be kind. We need more of that in this world!}