Allah bless you! This podcast has answered many things I've been confused about and couldn't get the answers to elsewhere. Honestly it feels like you were speaking to me directly. I was reverse discarded, didn't receive a hoover but did receive what felt like a heartfelt apology on a few occasions. The woman he moved on to was an old supply and definitely a shocking downgrade! I do make sincere dua for them both and listening to this has helped me make sense of many things. I remember being confused for so long during our marriage and even now during the healing stage i would think Oh Allah if he only he got rid of all the external nonsense deep down he was a good person and i saw those parts of him, how you've explained about the Qareen and the human side of the Narc all of that resonated. Allah bless you immensely for your explanation. Ameen
My story the past 9 years but is going to end this year inshaallah. Thank you so much Dr Mona. You are god sent. May Ya Allah reward you in this life and the next.
@Mamaofthree-u4m I was made to get through nonsense like this, plus I did my research and have been saving and documenting things that will back up my life with a narsisist and I'm 💯 percent confident in having my justice, I'm sorry but nobody deserves this kind of treatment or kids and trust me I'm not that weak women they thought I was when they first met me.plus I just got started so nothing is ending for me this year and my lil narsist and his bandwagon can go have a seat with p.diddy. no diddy no diddy no diddy lol thank you
Can you please do a podcast about raising children with the narc after the discharge as I am waiting for that one . When you have children with the narc.
Masya Allah. I used to hate my covert narc ex-spouse a lot. I have begun to understand how he transformed from a loving man to one who was full of evil as years went by our 20+ yr marriage. I used to ask him to give me back the man I fell in love with. Thank you for making me understand. Yes, he has found a new supply within 1 yr of our divorce.
Can you please talk about the women that have no way out due to financial reasons but are not having wife /husband relationship even though they live with the narcisst
What happens when b the narcissist dies does his qareen die or continue attacking the codependent through other family members like for example through the children. Thank you
What do you mean by discard there are a lot of women living with the narcisst but not having wife husband relation even though they are living in the same house thank you
They do yes, and they smear other narcs too. I'm saying that the smear campaign is the primary tool used to hurt the empath they struggle to walk away from.
Where do you get this information from? Is it authentic? To me this seems like a trustful information, but wanted to know whether or not you know the source of it? Thank you.
Salaam alaykum rahmatullah, Jummah mubarak. Jazak'Allah khayr for your continuing good work. I am rather hoping you can eventually give a more balanced prespective to the usual "Run away fast, run far away" tactic to dealing with a spouse who (probably) has NPD, and really go to town on the business of healing. I hope i am not alone in accepting that of all the actions open to a muslim that are halal the one which is the most detestable to Allah is divorce. If in the Akd the husband is obliged to show "kindness" how is it a kindness for him to discard his wife? Where then would be the trust in Allah who allowed the marriage? The Holy Quran guides us that for every illness Allah sends a cure. It matters not if a muslim is described as having a "disease of the heart" , poor control of their Nafs el Ammarah, or is tortured by their Qureen, or is diagnosed clinically within the Western system, if we trust Allah we should work with Him towards healing, insha'Allah, imho.
Healing is for one to engage in Jihad Al Nafs, we cannot fight someone else’s internal battle, guidance comes from Allah Subhanu Wa Ta Allah and only for those deserving which are those who put in the effort and fight their demons including the one that is assigned since birth. We attract what is familiar to us and we attract energies we have within. This is what I have learned in my own personal experience and what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger if you choose that pathway and what doesn’t kill you can also destroy you slowly but surely. May Allah Azzawajal guide us to the siratul Mustaqeem Ameen
Wsalaam Br. Zoubir, thank you for your comment. If you look at other podcasts you will see I've done a lot of work on healing processes for both narcissists and their victims etc. I don't encourage divorce before mediation, as this is what Allah swt prescribed. Sometimes a narcissist refuses mediation and prefers to continue being an abuser. In these cases, even according to Allah swt, a separation is better before he/she destroys their partner spiritually, emotionally and sometimes physically. There are many people out there who simply don't want to work on themselves and take accountability for their marital issues.
so Allah recommends 100 lashes for Zina and 80 lashes for smearing a good woman and He says don’t let your religion or sympathy prevent you. So what happens when you take this 30 or 90% possessed human Jinn/ shayateen whatever it is, to an undisclosed location with plastic covering the walls, floors, ceiling to prevent the blood splatter from staining the walls. ( I come from centuries of top rank muslim military generals) Some accidentally die of course, afterall it’s some 100+80 lashes. Even in the hands of a professional doing it for no personal gain, just following the command of Allah. strictly business nothing personal. If he or she survives or not, what happens to the demonic entity. I bet he be fighting them inner demons and they be flying out of him like a bat out of hell. I bet you anything he be right as dust and good as gold straight citizen after that. he might be walking funny for the rest of his life though.
It’s Allah who places people in our lives not qareens. Sorry sister but there’s certain things you mention in your podcast that I feel is your opinion and not a Islamic perspective. My husband is a classic narc and he chooses when to have empathy. He has empathy towards his own family. When he is in wrong he will never admit and gaslight me but when his family are caught in something evil he takes the blame on himself. So you see he knows exactly what he is doing.
You don't believe that Satan sends his soldiers to people? Because that's what he promised Allah that he will do and Allah permits him and told him that only His devout followers will not fall for their deceptions. Allah tells us that there are jinn devils and human devils and we will be approached by them all and we will be tested with them. The mission of our Qareen is to make us deviate from Allah, and seeing as we all have one it makes sense that the Qareen controls the nafs of the narcissist. These people don't "choose" to have empathy. They fake it so they can appear to be good people so when they play victim later, people believe them. "Will you, then, take him (Satan) and his offspring for guardians (to rely on and refer your affairs to) rather than Me, when they are an enemy to you? How evil an exchange for the wrongdoers!" (Al-Kahf 18:50) Many prominent scholars have said that it is possible to take the term “Satan’s offspring” both literally and metaphorically. Certain other expressions of the Qur’ān such as “satans of humankind and jinn” (Al-An‘ām 6:112) and “brothers/sisters of satans” (Al-Isrā’ 17:27) refer to satanic people among human-kind too, the same way we are all brothers and sisters to one another, even if we aren't literal mahrams. All these people and jinns communicate with each other and send their soldiers to attack good people.
The Narcissists know what they are doing. Your husband can switch like this for his own gain. At times he maybe listening to his brain and at other times he would be listening to his Qareen. Allah(SWT) would ask him on the Day of Judgement why he did not use the brain at all times. We Empaths use our brain all the time and we know when it is the Qareen whispering who we can put back into the box. And we don't carry an Ego too which is why Narcissists allow themselves to be controlled by their Qareen. Both my malignant Narcissistic parents have always shown so much empathy towards my 4 siblings. But I was the black sheep and targeted horribly only because of my abilities and qualities. Also, for my spiritual link with Allah(SWT) after I was made a Hafiz of the Quran and the only Empath too from the children. The 4 siblings wanted to do the role of Flying Monkey's as per Devil ways so then they became Narcissists too.
Allah bless you! This podcast has answered many things I've been confused about and couldn't get the answers to elsewhere. Honestly it feels like you were speaking to me directly. I was reverse discarded, didn't receive a hoover but did receive what felt like a heartfelt apology on a few occasions. The woman he moved on to was an old supply and definitely a shocking downgrade!
I do make sincere dua for them both and listening to this has helped me make sense of many things. I remember being confused for so long during our marriage and even now during the healing stage i would think Oh Allah if he only he got rid of all the external nonsense deep down he was a good person and i saw those parts of him, how you've explained about the Qareen and the human side of the Narc all of that resonated.
Allah bless you immensely for your explanation.
Ameen
My story the past 9 years but is going to end this year inshaallah. Thank you so much Dr Mona. You are god sent. May Ya Allah reward you in this life and the next.
@Mamaofthree-u4m I was made to get through nonsense like this, plus I did my research and have been saving and documenting things that will back up my life with a narsisist and I'm 💯 percent confident in having my justice, I'm sorry but nobody deserves this kind of treatment or kids and trust me I'm not that weak women they thought I was when they first met me.plus I just got started so nothing is ending for me this year and my lil narsist and his bandwagon can go have a seat with p.diddy. no diddy no diddy no diddy lol thank you
Can you please do a podcast about raising children with the narc after the discharge as I am waiting for that one . When you have children with the narc.
Later this month inshallah
Jzk
Very enlightening. Thank you.
Sister you’re doing an amazing job!
Subhana Allah the accuracy here 🙂
this was deep subhan Allah
Hey sister im a revert empath and you saved my life and confirmed everything i knew, i hope Allah rewards you 🫶🏾
♥️♥️♥️ alhamdulilah x
Masya Allah. I used to hate my covert narc ex-spouse a lot. I have begun to understand how he transformed from a loving man to one who was full of evil as years went by our 20+ yr marriage. I used to ask him to give me back the man I fell in love with. Thank you for making me understand. Yes, he has found a new supply within 1 yr of our divorce.
Can you please talk about the women that have no way out due to financial reasons but are not having wife /husband relationship even though they live with the narcisst
What happens when b the narcissist dies does his qareen die or continue attacking the codependent through other family members like for example through the children. Thank you
What do you mean by discard there are a lot of women living with the narcisst but not having wife husband relation even though they are living in the same house thank you
You said narc smear only an empath. But they smear codependent as well.
They do yes, and they smear other narcs too. I'm saying that the smear campaign is the primary tool used to hurt the empath they struggle to walk away from.
Can you go from being an empath to being a codependent through out the years living with the narcissist
Yes you can, empaths can also turn into narcissists after living with them (see podcast 49).
What happens to the narc between the moment of being alone and no new supply cant be found? What does his qareen do if it takes too long?
The narc completely destabilizes. I’ve got a podcast coming about this.
100% true
Where do you get this information from? Is it authentic? To me this seems like a trustful information, but wanted to know whether or not you know the source of it? Thank you.
I get it from The Quran and Sunnah, the research of prominent scholars, many authentic psychologist books, personal experiences and client cases.
MashAllah...SubhanAllah
Will Allah help a person win over a narcissist if they depend on the narcissist financially
Yes, Allah wants that person to have more tawakul ❤. Dua is the weapon of the believer, may Allah provide for you 🌸
Alhamedallah thank you may Allah bless you
Salaam alaykum rahmatullah, Jummah mubarak. Jazak'Allah khayr for your continuing good work. I am rather hoping you can eventually give a more balanced prespective to the usual "Run away fast, run far away" tactic to dealing with a spouse who (probably) has NPD, and really go to town on the business of healing. I hope i am not alone in accepting that of all the actions open to a muslim that are halal the one which is the most detestable to Allah is divorce. If in the Akd the husband is obliged to show "kindness" how is it a kindness for him to discard his wife? Where then would be the trust in Allah who allowed the marriage? The Holy Quran guides us that for every illness Allah sends a cure. It matters not if a muslim is described as having a "disease of the heart" , poor control of their Nafs el Ammarah, or is tortured by their Qureen, or is diagnosed clinically within the Western system, if we trust Allah we should work with Him towards healing, insha'Allah, imho.
Healing is for one to engage in Jihad Al Nafs, we cannot fight someone else’s internal battle, guidance comes from Allah Subhanu Wa Ta Allah and only for those deserving which are those who put in the effort and fight their demons including the one that is assigned since birth. We attract what is familiar to us and we attract energies we have within. This is what I have learned in my own personal experience and what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger if you choose that pathway and what doesn’t kill you can also destroy you slowly but surely. May Allah Azzawajal guide us to the siratul Mustaqeem Ameen
Wsalaam Br. Zoubir, thank you for your comment. If you look at other podcasts you will see I've done a lot of work on healing processes for both narcissists and their victims etc. I don't encourage divorce before mediation, as this is what Allah swt prescribed. Sometimes a narcissist refuses mediation and prefers to continue being an abuser. In these cases, even according to Allah swt, a separation is better before he/she destroys their partner spiritually, emotionally and sometimes physically. There are many people out there who simply don't want to work on themselves and take accountability for their marital issues.
so Allah recommends 100 lashes for Zina and 80 lashes for smearing a good woman and He says don’t let your religion or sympathy prevent you. So what happens when you take this 30 or 90% possessed human Jinn/ shayateen whatever it is, to an undisclosed location with plastic covering the walls, floors, ceiling to prevent the blood splatter from staining the walls. ( I come from centuries of top rank muslim military generals) Some accidentally die of course, afterall it’s some 100+80 lashes. Even in the hands of a professional doing it for no personal gain, just following the command of Allah. strictly business nothing personal. If he or she survives or not, what happens to the demonic entity. I bet he be fighting them inner demons and they be flying out of him like a bat out of hell. I bet you anything he be right as dust and good as gold straight citizen after that. he might be walking funny for the rest of his life though.
What on earth did I just read? 😶🫥
It’s Allah who places people in our lives not qareens. Sorry sister but there’s certain things you mention in your podcast that I feel is your opinion and not a Islamic perspective. My husband is a classic narc and he chooses when to have empathy. He has empathy towards his own family. When he is in wrong he will never admit and gaslight me but when his family are caught in something evil he takes the blame on himself. So you see he knows exactly what he is doing.
You don't believe that Satan sends his soldiers to people? Because that's what he promised Allah that he will do and Allah permits him and told him that only His devout followers will not fall for their deceptions. Allah tells us that there are jinn devils and human devils and we will be approached by them all and we will be tested with them. The mission of our Qareen is to make us deviate from Allah, and seeing as we all have one it makes sense that the Qareen controls the nafs of the narcissist. These people don't "choose" to have empathy. They fake it so they can appear to be good people so when they play victim later, people believe them.
"Will you, then, take him (Satan) and his offspring for guardians (to rely on and refer your affairs to) rather than Me, when they are an enemy to you? How evil an exchange for the wrongdoers!" (Al-Kahf 18:50)
Many prominent scholars have said that it is possible to take the term “Satan’s offspring” both literally and metaphorically. Certain other expressions of the Qur’ān such as “satans of humankind and jinn” (Al-An‘ām 6:112) and “brothers/sisters of satans” (Al-Isrā’ 17:27) refer to satanic people among human-kind too, the same way we are all brothers and sisters to one another, even if we aren't literal mahrams. All these people and jinns communicate with each other and send their soldiers to attack good people.
The Narcissists know what they are doing. Your husband can switch like this for his own gain. At times he maybe listening to his brain and at other times he would be listening to his Qareen. Allah(SWT) would ask him on the Day of Judgement why he did not use the brain at all times. We Empaths use our brain all the time and we know when it is the Qareen whispering who we can put back into the box. And we don't carry an Ego too which is why Narcissists allow themselves to be controlled by their Qareen. Both my malignant Narcissistic parents have always shown so much empathy towards my 4 siblings. But I was the black sheep and targeted horribly only because of my abilities and qualities. Also, for my spiritual link with Allah(SWT) after I was made a Hafiz of the Quran and the only Empath too from the children. The 4 siblings wanted to do the role of Flying Monkey's as per Devil ways so then they became Narcissists too.
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