I never really cared about Brad Pitt till I saw Once Upon A Time in Hollywood. Then I was like... there's something so charismatic about this man. He wasn't even the lead... and hell even next to fucking LEO DICAPRIO, Brad was the entire movie. So I watched a few interviews and he just came off as very funny, always smiling, friendly but not to make anyone like him, emotionally strong... ugh.
Eye contact engagement, but also when the other person is relaxed resting in themselves, and not trying to seek aproval, be accepted but simply just observing being in the situation, not feeling like they need to give anything to be approved/reckoned by the one they are talking to.
Great eye contact, it's alway's warming... He is the epitome of class. He is the most handsome man alive!!!! What would you expect, he's from The Midwest!!!! He is a very gentle man..... He look's sooo good!!! Keep up whatever you are doing!!!!! ❤️❤️❤️... 🌹🌹🌹🌹.....
"To respect someone is to acknowledge them. And to acknowledge that person, you must be completely engaged with them at all times. Acting anxious, submissive, avoiding eye contact is the worst way of showing respect. You come off as avoidant" This makes so much sense now because I really really wanted to show respect for my dermatologist who has been helping me greatly with my health, but it didn't seem like she FELT respected and I know now it's because I was showing it by being extremely submissive and trying to lower myself in front of her as a way of showing how deeply I respect her. But that communicates the literal opposite.
We tend to hold back a lot when we are with people we enjoy or respect. We don’t blurt out an off colored joke or cut them off to interject something related to their comments, we give them lots of space to make them feel comfortable….all organic and safe….however rising to the next level is also respectful because it conjures up trust and being unpredictable means, you can see glimpses of a person that they usually keep guarded around others. That’s a form of respect too. Brad has a very pleasant and humble personality. He does not seem grandiose about the business or his image. He has good eye contact and listening skills. He is generous with complementing others. Lifts colleagues up. He never seems distracted or hurried. Very Present. Never heard him whine, complain, put down anyone or anything. If there’s a cause he believes in, he states the facts and presents his view very eloquently and respectfully. There’s a difference between a celebrity and a star and these attributes are star qualities that are cultivated over time and maturity. 👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼
@@adriamaral300 I envy Brad's ability to stay calm. When I'm on a date with someone I'm interested in, I can do everything else right, but my nervousness comes off as speaking too fast / too much.
SO TRUE, what you said about women being attracted to men that are engaged and focused in a situation. Women also find men that are 'strong' in a very basic sense of the word, attractive. Not physically strong (although it can manifest in that way) but mentally and emotionally strong. This ties in with what you are describing as being intensely focused and engaged, it is being strong in your direction and focus, not wavering/wishy-washy. Thank you so much for your invaluable knowledge and information that you put out on TH-cam. It is truly treasured by the smart ones that have subscribed.
@@AnthonyRecenello I know that, but the individual is born out of the group, and vice versa, so I am really interested in the group, and it's effect on itself. :)
Brad Pitt has that masculine and femenine perfect mixed energy, he's masculine and has no problem with his femenine side, he's sensitive, shy, vulnerably, soft, that's irresistible.
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Anthony Recenello thank you for spending hours watching interviews to help us succeed socially I feel like you are very underrated when Charisma in Command gets so many subscribers
@tropical candyland, Te equivocas a la hora de colocar las calificaciones. TÚ estarás ENCANTADO de ser un seguidor de él. ÉL, (youtuber) es el que debería estar AGRADECIDO, de que seas un suscriptor o seguidor de ÉL. Lo que te cuento igual está equivocado, debido a las traducciones de Google.
I'm autistic and I struggled with eye contact for a long time before realizing the same tip you shared, looking through someone and being engaged, not staring into their eyes and it has helped me SO MUCH!
I always thought Brad’s composture in interviews reminded me of Harry Styles , that’s because of the “presence”, the “eyes focused on the person”, now I get it.
Henry Cavill, Tom Hiddleston, and Jeff Goldblum are other great examples of men who stay engaged with the people they talk to! They tend to lead conversations and it makes for more interesting interviews!
Gifted with very expressive eyes!! What I love about Brad he is consistent honouring other people. He doesn't take credit himself. Humble, witty, humorous, friendly and gifted with so much charisma! He is the most versatile, generous actor that deserves 10x Oscar Best Actor. My fav is "The Legend of the Fall " and many more of his great story line cast movies !!!
Now I know why I like brad Pitt so much. Yeah he’s attractive but so is everyone else in Hollywood but it’s that I feel like he is really interested in what other people have to say.
It's really a rare thing. And you are right. He really displays this in all of his interviews. You can tell he is listening with the intent to understand not respond and his words I think are quality over quantity.
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@@AnthonyRecenello Oh, so you can see who subscribes? No privacy on the net.. I don't, out of fear they' might use it against me, and a need to be protected and anonymous. Maybe that is why you did not respond much, despite my activity. Quite ok of course. I thank you for this video, - my reserve against Pitt lessened. He played so macho and vulgar in movies I've seen , and I thought he must be like it irl too. Wrong.
It's only insulting if you thought somewhere in the near future you were gonna wake up looking as good as brad pitt lol So he technically didn't insult everyone, just everyone who was delusional.
I was a very distracted teenager but as i'm growing up i observed the power of now and i truly noticed it's true when i full engaged with anything it brings out the best in me i lost the track of time and it just flows and then i think oh my god that was really me so yeah being present is the only thing you have to do i think at anything live it
Additionally, the first interview he has not really sharpened his craft. Found that spot inside himself that lights his passion. The second video he feels that light of the passion inside him. Warming him enough to keep his soul quiet.
If you work in sales you need to learn all the tricks, but be aware that people are getting smarter and smarter, so you need to update your tricks every now and then.
@@savanaviolenta very very true! Good thing I keep getting smarter too...lol Always have to keep learning (in sales especially).. the average consumer gets wiser every day.. the day you think you know everything is the day you need to quit/retire..
1:12 omg he was ao anxious there. I've never seen him like that. This is great actually. Hopeful bc it tells you how much improvement person can make if he's willing to. He so confident now i can't believe. Thanks for this
I think this charm may be largely present in actors in general, as they tend to be more in tune and engaged in conversations with people because they are taught to listen to others so well. Very interesting points and insightful!
He is the most down to earth person ever. Even having it all, looks, talent, looks, oops did I already say that , money, charm the key word to describe him is Genuine
i heavily agree with what you're saying. my boyfriend drives me mad sometimes. on one hand in conversation he'll be engaging and focused on me and in the moment, like what you described. and other times he'll just say or do silly things or try and use physical contact. i just want a conversation where we're both focused on words and facial expressions. it's so attractive and i got annoyed when my boyfriend doesn't do this. but it's ok because i can't expect him to give 100% in every conversation every time
I love that bit about eye contact. I've always struggled with it but your advice on kind of losing yourself in the other person's face while thinking is really cool. I find that i concentrate too much on eye contact and then become really self conscious and look away. I'll definitely be trying out this trick.
Man, you are so believable! I watch these types of videos all the time but the presenters usually don't convince me that they actually practice these tips in their own lives. You even use your tips as you're giving them and I really appreciate that. Thanks for what you do!
I just found out about this channel and I've got to say, as a person who really loves observing people and realising how different and unique each person is, I love your vids! Also, I'm super happy you mentioned the "supervisual person" thing, because I could never find anyone who understood why I look up when talking and how it feels, and I really put a lot of effort in trying to control it.. I now realise it's pretty common!
I tried this a few days ago when I met a friend & it's so much different from looking around/casually looking them in the eye during the conversation! It's like the other person and you share a place in a bubble, the outside world doesn't matter as much, you're just focused on what they say, how they say it etc (and, in my case, also focused on not coming off as weird by staring at them endlessly since I'm not as experienced and haven't mastered it yet xD) Not sure if I can do it with strangers/acquaintances tho - it's quite easy to do when you're calm. I feel like it'll be much harder once I get anxious, cause if I look people on the eye I can't hide the anxiety & know they see it. With enough practice I might be able to do it tho💪 This video also made me realize why I find certain people fascinating/pick them as (communication-) role models. All of them use this technique. I could never pin it down & thought it was about their stance, humor etc and even tho these things probably play into it, the one thing they have in common is being engaged and present when taking to people👌 So, this helped a lot, thanks!!
I must say I feel the way Brad Pitt is confident and humble at the same time, that Adam Sandler was maybe even intimidated by how calm and composed and connected Brad pitt was. Just a thought.
First off it eye meeting is a small percentage of the connection. I got Brad beat. I look at people and be really interested and people find me very charming. I connect to spirit when I look, and people become very interested in me. I get so many blessings. There is no need to study someone while talking, just care about all life. Brad is a humble guy. I am a a humble person. You do not need to be an introvert to be humble and that is an old mistake. Brad ikes people all people and it is obvious. Acting humble is not enough, some people act humble but ain't. Humbleness is in the energy. Someone can speak highly of themselves and still be humble, humble is how you treat others in comparison to yourself. Someone can not say anything about themselves yet their body language can make them appear arrogant.
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Brad Pitt is my one and only most favorite of all time. Thelma and Louise when I was 9? That was what awoke womanhood for me… he’s pure perfection. Always.
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Interesting observation. Overall people, men and women enjoy people that are present, engaged, authentic, thoughtful and allow you to be yourself and feel heard or understood. Being playful or even confident enough to be silly, cheesy or nerdy is also endearing. Looks is not everything. Intelligence and good manners trumps “looks”. Looks are secondary.
I just found this TH-cam channel today and I can’t get enough of it. love your breakdowns of what makes these guys actually as successful as they are. Maybe you think differently but I’d love to see a video about Ryan Gosling!
I’ve always done this really well since I was very young. When I got older I ended up with bad friends. Ones that made me feel like a mistake. It broke my confidence and I have not regained the ability to make natural eye contact and connection. I can’t help but feel that they took my power
Another point I saw while watching his interviews is that he's genuinely enjoys the conversation and you can see that. Also there's the pressure of being stared at but in that adam interview I noticed Brad breaks eye contact when 1) at the same time as adam 2) after constant gazing he only breaks eye contact when Adam can see him do it (30% of the time, I think) 3) when he gestures or nods
I just love how you speak and analyze things,your energy really is something beautiful.And the fact about attractive men is completely true,you have brought up something we couldn't have completely understand and define by ourselves but is actually pretty accurate.💜
I looked up soul gazing because I read about it in Neil Strauss' book about pickup, The Game. Sustaining eye contact while being engaged is probably the most fundamental concept in connecting with another person.
I feel like eye contact is really so powerful. When I talk to guys I find myself not wanting to give too much eye contact because I don’t want them to think I’m too interested and it freaks me out to see how their eyes are telling their story.
This is all so true! I get so many compliments on how good I am at listening in conversations; I naturally use the same methods as you described here- attentive eye contact, engaging with the person. It is a required quality for my future husband :-D
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9:50. This is very true. I've found also by doing that you're becoming less self-conscious over time, because that creates the nervousness and the impression of not being engaged because you're worrying about what to say or how you're being perceived. There's no substitute for proper practice in conversation but meditation is a very helpful tool in this especially if you can look at nature, get absorbed into watching everything in your visual field. It's the same idea when watching and being engaged with another person. Now I'm no expert but this my personal experience that I try to apply more and more.
I agree entirely on the presence, engaging, grounded front. I, however, am not a “girl.” I have a practice of inviting people, especially men, to upgrade their presence to their language, too. It’s part of the same presence and intentionally you’re teaching here. We don’t call “men” “boys” when we mean “men.” It’s time we do the same for women as well.
@@AnthonyRecenello I love to hear you intentionality around it. I totally get it, too. It's taken work for me to elevate my language around it as well. Our words are powerful.
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Nice one) And oooone little thing about Adam. If you watch him on Round table with DeNiro, Hanks, Driver(btw what a man!!!!!) and others(I don’t remember title of the video, it’s recent one, about 1 hour long) so Adam! He is just a big fan of all our favorite actors, in my opinion. Or he has a really low self confidence. He almost every time try to tell everyone that he isn’t THAT GOOD(but we know how wrong he is!) Maybe he is just shy person who really respect Brad in that interview, when he is with his friends or by himself he is more confident. Probably Brad is just always steal the show) And I said it once and gonna do it again: YOU DESERVE SO MUCH MORE FOLLOWERS AND VIEWS!!!!!!!
I read a commentary about the few views you are having in your videos. And I think it is ok, not much people are trying to improve their minds, must of them are choosing a new haircut, new clothes and stuff… but when they have achieved the best look, and nothing have changed in the inside and the personality ...They, will need charm…and then will come to this place. You are doing a great great job!
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I know im kinda late but i would love to see a part 2 of Brad Pitt Classic Charm! Ive learned so much and i would love to learn more if that makes sense. I really love your videos!!
How do you do this in a way to where people don’t fall in love with you? (I am very much taken) I am a very shy awkward person, and I carried myself just like Adam whenever I was in conversation. I also tend to be more on the anxious side. I started making sure to be more engaged just like the tips in this video suggested, and my eye contact has improved tremendously and so has my confidence. I am also engaged to the point where I have no problem asking questions while in conversation. I also have better listening skills now too. I feel more connected. Now I have 2 men who I believe are crushing on me. They’re always somehow in my proximity (when they weren’t before), they’re acting strange now and are anxious whenever I talk to them, they have this face like they’re in a trance too and have their mouth kinda open, I noticed the way they dress and have their hair change (they’re dressed up now, and get haircuts often…a drastic change from before). I’ve also noticed other men getting shy around me now too, and blushing. I’m a woman by the way, and these skills don’t seem to have any effect on them in the same way whenever I engage with them. But I do believe I am coming off as more likable to the women too, since they’re a lot nicer than before.
Do you think his acting training influenced the change between the first 2 examples? Towards the end you said something like “get lost in the persons face/facial expressions”, do you think he’s good at engaging in that way because actors aspire to master expressions / personalities? Also I imagine it helps collaboration/creativity on set if fully engaged. Interested to hear your thoughts.
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Thank you for your explanation. I must say that it's rather difficult for shy people like me to manage this eye-engagement with confidence. I tend to avoid it generally but especially when truly interested in the person I'm talking to. My classic mistake is to stare into the eyes of my speaker and when nervous or embarrassed, I realize the background fades away. I literally can't see anything but his/her face. for example at work, during meetings when I have to stand up for my opinion, I go breathless, start sweating, and mumbling sometimes. I think this is my total inability in public speaking. When you say "soul gazing" I take it as "undress your speaker" because that is what I get when watching the second interview. I think he mastered the ability also thanks to a huge amount of confidence deriving from his great career. Anyway he reminds me a lot of Robert Redford's glance, plus extra tricks such as keep licking his lips, that is very attractive, no doubts, and playing with his eyebrows that intensifies communication. Tomorrow morning I'm going to order my cup of coffee, soul-watching the bartender, and I'll see what happens. ;) love from Italy
Great advice here, Anthony. Being in the moment ties back to being genuinely interested in people. I've been working on that for the past years. My 1st exercise was to remember the names of people who introduced themselves to me. Simple, but many of us don't actually do it. You could extend the lesson by teaching what to do in case of boring small talk; then it's hard to be present, huh? Well, our beloved Charisma on Command says you should gently switch the conversation towards a more exciting topic, something that will bring the best out of both you and the other person involved. Keep it up, man. I just got your audiobook btw, hope to learn a few more things.
I have found that many men cant handle eye contact and confidence in general. I've been told it's threatening in some way which upset me because I'm known by my friends for my generosity and down to earth, relatable character. I'm not sure how to fix this or if i even should...i can't fake anything but would hate to try to change my behavior around other people's insecurity.
I am a female and I am learning a lot from your videos, because I have difficulties engaging with people on conversations and on leaving a good impression, people find me a bit cold and detached.
Well, I never found him attractive.. :) Might be because I find a gaze constantly fixed on me slightly threatening. So I think, whether you find someone attractive or not also very much pre-determined by your own temperament. I am very reserved and find people with similar temperament attractive/non-threatening.
I was the same way. However, no ambitious person can get ahead in life with your attitude. Even introverted women hate a man with lacking social skills. By changing my original personality into a more social and engaging personality, I get more respect and people like me more
@@reanimatedjesus7239 I get ahead just fine, thank you (working in finances). I am able to separate how I feel and how I react to that. On the other hand, I think life is worth living only if you're true to yourself. If it means I'm less ambitious than others, then be it. I honestly don't feel pressurized to become someone I'm not. Being happy and content is what matters, not giving into peer pressure and societal norms.
Esther Choi i should say “molding” my personality. I’m still my true self but my vulgar talk sounds more loud. Since your name is a woman’s name, I just gonna assume you’re a woman.I tell you an two examples of a person. I met a cute girl who was weird and autistic. Despite the weird things she said and did, people but mostly guys ignored it and still hung out with her. On the other hand, I’ve seen guys who exhibited similar behavior and they are social outcasts.
Esther Choi In some ways, women and men are able to do somethings. Men can be charming and outgoing while women can’t cause it perceived as flirting. Women can be weird, reserved and “quirky” while men can’t cause they are perceived as threatening. Double standards suck :(
I completely agree. There is confidence, like young Brad Pitt, and there is deep confidence, like elder Brad Pitt. Deep confidence is a product of so many factors, from personal experience to environmental cues, and the person's relationship with all of those elements at the moment of being observed. Brad Pitt's ability to create a "communication bubble" with the person he is speaking to is an exercise in proxemics mastery. He can make a conversation seem intimate in a public space through his engagement. The Adam Sandler interview even shows how Brad Pitt troubleshoots an intimacy disconnect between himself and the person he is speaking with, as Brad changes his body language to draw Adam in by way of gently leaning forward, encouragement to share in greater detail, and overwhelmingly positive responses to salient points made by Adam.
LOVE LOVE LOVE this and Brad and you and the context of really appreciating the art of engagement. Wild bet (but I'll bet) those who have it, have it naturally and are those who've congregated here. LOVE. Thank you.
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Most actors and actresses master this skill.. What spacile in Brad is his freindly easy going characher you can see it feel it in all the roles he take.. Can performan every role you take and put your personal touch in every characher you present this is more than profasional..
I think the lead in the conversation is more base on who think they are Batter than they are talking to.. The eye thing is more about superiority of our self confidence👍
I noticed this quality for the first time in once upon a time on Hollywood! You kinda take it for granted in young and attractive men, but it's wild to see a 60 year old man smizing away 😂 he just has The Ability
Yes it is rather simple advice I have given to guys. Stop trying to perform when chatting to a woman. If you stop concentrating on yourself and just listen to and I mean listen to a woman and show interest in what she says you have engaged her and are on your way to success. It is so simple but it is amazing how many men do not get how simple it is. I have never really fancied Brad Pitt but I get what you mean about charming.
Oh...when I watch interviews of brad Pitt what I think is that maybe he has a hearing problem so that's why he needs to stare.. I guess people likes to be stare at...it makes me uncomfortable. But that's just me
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@anthonyrecenello Interesting tips, I have a question though: I manage to be fully engaged into conversations, and I rather have a (maybe too high) sensitivity towards micro expressions of the other person. It comes to a point where it does distract me, because while I am focused on telling a story (and I am also not an extravert, so it takes me quite some energy) the expressions of the other tend to interrupt me... (like why is he or she not smiling, are they bored? they dont like me?) and then I am not that confident when being in the spotlight. I become too selfconscious. How can I find a balance?
I believe Adam is charming in his own way. I think his charm is more from his "tongue In cheek" comedy style. Which calls for that kind in "eye darting" ect... excellent video.
There is a total mess here. First i see Frank Iero. Then he says: face it (you're never gonna make it) instead of Ray Toro. I can hear and see Gerard saying i dont wanna make it. I just wanna. But the music never comes. Whats going on?
First video I’ve seen of yours, I’m really behind your thoughts and I love the idea of your Kobe video. Those two are in my top five of people I admire and appreciate. For the very reasons you are describing. Enjoyable watch. Thank you. :)
A friend of mine on facebook was talking about charm being deceptive, as it's in the Bible anyway. Is it ALWAYS deceptive or can it be honest? Thoughts?
Well, I understand the theory. But whenever I meet new people I get super nervous and start to look around and stuff. Like what Adam Sandler did. Maybe a little more than he did though haha so how can I actually practice what I understand in theory?
If you want to be the best version of yourself, you need to care about people, period and stop expecting attention and people to be perfect and stop negative thinking of others.
I don't like it when a guy can notice everything about me, I can't be comfortable. I know I'm weird and I act my best to hide that, so a guy that can " notice " stuff isn't cool especially if he starts pointing out things or tics.
Women care about looks especially woman before the age of 26. Ugly guys get fewer swipes. And the first thing we ask another girl is “is he cute” it’s a misconception women don’t care about looks. We swoon over hot guys there’s just fewer to see
But Anthony, this is Brad Pitt. He has the gentlest eyes. If he's able to put a lot of people under his spell, it's mostly because he's gorgeous, and a little for the reasons you argued. That's what I think.
I never really cared about Brad Pitt till I saw Once Upon A Time in Hollywood. Then I was like... there's something so charismatic about this man. He wasn't even the lead... and hell even next to fucking LEO DICAPRIO, Brad was the entire movie. So I watched a few interviews and he just came off as very funny, always smiling, friendly but not to make anyone like him, emotionally strong... ugh.
YES EXACTLY 🙏🏻
Did you see Troy? Brad Pitt was a beast.
In my opinion he was the lead.
Agreed. He owned that Film and it made me a fan.
Ocean eleven too, beside George Clooney
Eye contact engagement, but also when the other person is relaxed resting in themselves, and not trying to seek aproval, be accepted but simply just observing being in the situation, not feeling like they need to give anything to be approved/reckoned by the one they are talking to.
Yup that’s exactly it!
High empathy value
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Great eye contact, it's alway's warming... He is the epitome of class. He is the most handsome man alive!!!! What would you expect, he's from The Midwest!!!! He is a very gentle man..... He look's sooo good!!! Keep up whatever you are doing!!!!! ❤️❤️❤️... 🌹🌹🌹🌹.....
"To respect someone is to acknowledge them. And to acknowledge that person, you must be completely engaged with them at all times. Acting anxious, submissive, avoiding eye contact is the worst way of showing respect. You come off as avoidant" This makes so much sense now because I really really wanted to show respect for my dermatologist who has been helping me greatly with my health, but it didn't seem like she FELT respected and I know now it's because I was showing it by being extremely submissive and trying to lower myself in front of her as a way of showing how deeply I respect her. But that communicates the literal opposite.
Just like being a target. If you don't want to be a target. Don't look like an easy target.
We tend to hold back a lot when we are with people we enjoy or respect. We don’t blurt out an off colored joke or cut them off to interject something related to their comments, we give them lots of space to make them feel comfortable….all organic and safe….however rising to the next level is also respectful because it conjures up trust and being unpredictable means, you can see glimpses of a person that they usually keep guarded around others. That’s a form of respect too.
Brad has a very pleasant and humble personality. He does not seem grandiose about the business or his image. He has good eye contact and listening skills. He is generous with complementing others. Lifts colleagues up. He never seems distracted or hurried. Very Present. Never heard him whine, complain, put down anyone or anything. If there’s a cause he believes in, he states the facts and presents his view very eloquently and respectfully.
There’s a difference between a celebrity and a star and these attributes are star qualities that are cultivated over time and maturity. 👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼
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Best takeaway from this video.
Also, I find it helps to meditate on the person as you're engaging with them
@@adriamaral300 I envy Brad's ability to stay calm. When I'm on a date with someone I'm interested in, I can do everything else right, but my nervousness comes off as speaking too fast / too much.
SO TRUE, what you said about women being attracted to men that are engaged and focused in a situation. Women also find men that are 'strong' in a very basic sense of the word, attractive. Not physically strong (although it can manifest in that way) but mentally and emotionally strong. This ties in with what you are describing as being intensely focused and engaged, it is being strong in your direction and focus, not wavering/wishy-washy. Thank you so much for your invaluable knowledge and information that you put out on TH-cam. It is truly treasured by the smart ones that have subscribed.
Beautiful words. I’m so glad you can clearly see what I’m trying to do. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
@@AnthonyRecenello I'm a fan now. Makes me want to think about studying somehting like sociology. I dunno, only 16 :)
Eliya Adler Sociology is the study of groups. Psychology is the study of individuals. Whatever you do just make sure it brings joy to someone.
@@AnthonyRecenello I know that, but the individual is born out of the group, and vice versa, so I am really interested in the group, and it's effect on itself. :)
Patient, attentive, engaged. Strong in spirit, in the moment with you. It doesn't get much better than that. Edit: and humour!
This is how many people who genuinly like Brad Pitt
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Me: *Downvotes.*
Sorry, couldn't help myself. XD
Brad Pitt has that masculine and femenine perfect mixed energy, he's masculine and has no problem with his femenine side, he's sensitive, shy, vulnerably, soft, that's irresistible.
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He’s not soft
He has no feminine side what 💀
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Awwwwww thank u so much you don’t know how much I need a comment like this. :-)
Anthony Recenello thank you for spending hours watching interviews to help us succeed socially I feel like you are very underrated when Charisma in Command gets so many subscribers
tropical candyland thank youuuuuuuu
@tropical candyland, Te equivocas a la hora de colocar las calificaciones.
TÚ estarás ENCANTADO de ser un seguidor de él.
ÉL, (youtuber) es el que debería estar AGRADECIDO, de que seas un suscriptor o seguidor de ÉL.
Lo que te cuento igual está equivocado, debido a las traducciones de Google.
I'm autistic and I struggled with eye contact for a long time before realizing the same tip you shared, looking through someone and being engaged, not staring into their eyes and it has helped me SO MUCH!
Funnily enough, this same tip has worked with my autistic private coaching clients. Glad it worked for you too!
I always thought Brad’s composture in interviews reminded me of Harry Styles , that’s because of the “presence”, the “eyes focused on the person”, now I get it.
Exactly Sofia. Smarty pants
the perfect word to describe it "presence"
Henry Cavill, Tom Hiddleston, and Jeff Goldblum are other great examples of men who stay engaged with the people they talk to! They tend to lead conversations and it makes for more interesting interviews!
very spot on
Gifted with very expressive eyes!! What I love about Brad he is consistent honouring other people. He doesn't take credit himself. Humble, witty, humorous, friendly and gifted with so much charisma! He is the most versatile, generous actor that deserves 10x Oscar Best Actor. My fav is "The Legend of the Fall " and many more of his great story line cast movies !!!
Now I know why I like brad Pitt so much. Yeah he’s attractive but so is everyone else in Hollywood but it’s that I feel like he is really interested in what other people have to say.
Yes exactly! He’s such a sweetheart
It's really a rare thing. And you are right. He really displays this in all of his interviews. You can tell he is listening with the intent to understand not respond and his words I think are quality over quantity.
I've heard this about George Clooney too; he makes you feel that you're the only person in the room, apparently.
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I don't think I've ever saw a guy wearing overalls, I like it! You look great
Thanks HP. Wait… you give me compliment but dont subscribe? What's the deal????!
@@AnthonyRecenello I do now!
You're obviously not from the south our midwest lol
J Knott hes from ny
@@AnthonyRecenello Oh, so you can see who subscribes? No privacy on the net.. I don't, out of fear they' might use it against me, and a need to be protected and anonymous. Maybe that is why you did not respond much, despite my activity. Quite ok of course.
I thank you for this video, - my reserve against Pitt lessened. He played so macho and vulgar in movies I've seen , and I thought he must be like it irl too. Wrong.
Wow just go ahead and insult everyone in the first sentence😂😭
Lol come on it’s true tho
It’s true 😂
It's only insulting if you thought somewhere in the near future you were gonna wake up looking as good as brad pitt lol So he technically didn't insult everyone, just everyone who was delusional.
Anthony Recenello idk what if some Scandinavian dude working on labor everyday was watching your videos you never know
@Zoya Hussain Course there's loads of guys better looking than Brad Pitt. He has flaws as does everyone.
I was a very distracted teenager but as i'm growing up i observed the power of now and i truly noticed it's true when i full engaged with anything it brings out the best in me i lost the track of time and it just flows and then i think oh my god that was really me so yeah being present is the only thing you have to do i think at anything live it
Did you get my audiobook?
Got it man
* Raven good!
Eye contact, yes. But I also felt him more relaxed and humble.
Additionally, the first interview he has not really sharpened his craft. Found that spot inside himself that lights his passion. The second video he feels that light of the passion inside him. Warming him enough to keep his soul quiet.
Very good advice... I'm in sales, been doing this naturally for a very long time, and I'm usually in the top 3 every month, it definitely works!!
Yes but all the pill boiz in the comments want to know if you’re good looking too.
If you work in sales you need to learn all the tricks, but be aware that people are getting smarter and smarter, so you need to update your tricks every now and then.
@@savanaviolenta very very true! Good thing I keep getting smarter too...lol
Always have to keep learning (in sales especially).. the average consumer gets wiser every day.. the day you think you know everything is the day you need to quit/retire..
Use your skills for something better brother
@@unionfilms1482 you think what your doing is better then sales? Sales is everything
1:12 omg he was ao anxious there. I've never seen him like that. This is great actually. Hopeful bc it tells you how much improvement person can make if he's willing to. He so confident now i can't believe. Thanks for this
I couldn't agree more. Engage, listen, be kind, support. It's incredibly attractive. It's also very rare.
I think this charm may be largely present in actors in general, as they tend to be more in tune and engaged in conversations with people because they are taught to listen to others so well. Very interesting points and insightful!
Yuppers
He is the most down to earth person ever. Even having it all, looks, talent, looks, oops did I already say that , money, charm the key word to describe him is
Genuine
Wow,good as an introvert I need a whole series..lol😂
This will be a good start.
@@AnthonyRecenello lol..thanks for the channel bdw..it's awesome 🙏♥️
i heavily agree with what you're saying. my boyfriend drives me mad sometimes. on one hand in conversation he'll be engaging and focused on me and in the moment, like what you described. and other times he'll just say or do silly things or try and use physical contact. i just want a conversation where we're both focused on words and facial expressions. it's so attractive and i got annoyed when my boyfriend doesn't do this. but it's ok because i can't expect him to give 100% in every conversation every time
Can you make a video on how women can be charming/engaging to men? I just found your videos and am enjoying them!
Hi Mia yes I’m going to put out those vids very soon!
Warm smiles with kind eyes and giggling at their jokes. That's pretty much it 😂
I'm also very introverted, but I crave meaningful relationships more than anything! Thanks for the tips.
I love that bit about eye contact. I've always struggled with it but your advice on kind of losing yourself in the other person's face while thinking is really cool. I find that i concentrate too much on eye contact and then become really self conscious and look away. I'll definitely be trying out this trick.
Man, you are so believable! I watch these types of videos all the time but the presenters usually don't convince me that they actually practice these tips in their own lives. You even use your tips as you're giving them and I really appreciate that.
Thanks for what you do!
Dude your actually charming AF too, you are giving Brad a run for his money! Great valuable content - subbed
I just found out about this channel and I've got to say, as a person who really loves observing people and realising how different and unique each person is, I love your vids! Also, I'm super happy you mentioned the "supervisual person" thing, because I could never find anyone who understood why I look up when talking and how it feels, and I really put a lot of effort in trying to control it.. I now realise it's pretty common!
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I fell in loveeee with brad Pitt when I watched once upon a time in Hollywood then I benched watched all of his movies
Binged***
I did the EXACT same thing. Had a whole phase
It's amazing cause what u were saying is realistic. . . Its not that something we could learn or memerize it's actually applicable man. Thanks!
Yup I wanted this vid to be more practical - like my paid programs are.
I tried this a few days ago when I met a friend & it's so much different from looking around/casually looking them in the eye during the conversation! It's like the other person and you share a place in a bubble, the outside world doesn't matter as much, you're just focused on what they say, how they say it etc (and, in my case, also focused on not coming off as weird by staring at them endlessly since I'm not as experienced and haven't mastered it yet xD)
Not sure if I can do it with strangers/acquaintances tho - it's quite easy to do when you're calm. I feel like it'll be much harder once I get anxious, cause if I look people on the eye I can't hide the anxiety & know they see it. With enough practice I might be able to do it tho💪
This video also made me realize why I find certain people fascinating/pick them as (communication-) role models. All of them use this technique. I could never pin it down & thought it was about their stance, humor etc and even tho these things probably play into it, the one thing they have in common is being engaged and present when taking to people👌
So, this helped a lot, thanks!!
The entire video can be summarised by one phrase = being an empath
Yes before people made it complicated. It was simply known as being empathetic
I must say I feel the way Brad Pitt is confident and humble at the same time, that Adam Sandler was maybe even intimidated by how calm and composed and connected Brad pitt was. Just a thought.
What worries me is that I’ll come off weird or creepy staring deeply into someone’s face. I’m so happy I found you on here! This is right up my alley.
Learn to smile with your eyes
First off it eye meeting is a small percentage of the connection. I got Brad beat. I look at people and be really interested and people find me very charming. I connect to spirit when I look, and people become very interested in me. I get so many blessings. There is no need to study someone while talking, just care about all life. Brad is a humble guy. I am a a humble person. You do not need to be an introvert to be humble and that is an old mistake. Brad ikes people all people and it is obvious. Acting humble is not enough, some people act humble but ain't. Humbleness is in the energy. Someone can speak highly of themselves and still be humble, humble is how you treat others in comparison to yourself. Someone can not say anything about themselves yet their body language can make them appear arrogant.
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Brad Pitt is my one and only most favorite of all time. Thelma and Louise when I was 9? That was what awoke womanhood for me… he’s pure perfection. Always.
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Interesting observation.
Overall people, men and women enjoy people that are present, engaged, authentic, thoughtful and allow you to be yourself and feel heard or understood. Being playful or even confident enough to be silly, cheesy or nerdy is also endearing.
Looks is not everything. Intelligence and good manners trumps “looks”.
Looks are secondary.
Bro, you need more followers
I know. But nobody watches these damn things!
@@AnthonyRecenello keep the consistency, they will soon!
Lil Nuch thanks lil nuch
Yep!
I just found this TH-cam channel today and I can’t get enough of it. love your breakdowns of what makes these guys actually as successful as they are. Maybe you think differently but I’d love to see a video about Ryan Gosling!
Thanks bud!
I’ve always done this really well since I was very young. When I got older I ended up with bad friends. Ones that made me feel like a mistake. It broke my confidence and I have not regained the ability to make natural eye contact and connection.
I can’t help but feel that they took my power
You should see a john cena inerview, I was amazed by his social skills
Another point I saw while watching his interviews is that he's genuinely enjoys the conversation and you can see that.
Also there's the pressure of being stared at but in that adam interview I noticed Brad breaks eye contact when
1) at the same time as adam
2) after constant gazing he only breaks eye contact when Adam can see him do it (30% of the time, I think)
3) when he gestures or nods
I just love how you speak and analyze things,your energy really is something beautiful.And the fact about attractive men is completely true,you have brought up something we couldn't have completely understand and define by ourselves but is actually pretty accurate.💜
Ana I love hearing this. Your comments keep me going. Please don’t stop 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
I looked up soul gazing because I read about it in Neil Strauss' book about pickup, The Game. Sustaining eye contact while being engaged is probably the most fundamental concept in connecting with another person.
I feel like eye contact is really so powerful. When I talk to guys I find myself not wanting to give too much eye contact because I don’t want them to think I’m too interested and it freaks me out to see how their eyes are telling their story.
This is all so true! I get so many compliments on how good I am at listening in conversations; I naturally use the same methods as you described here- attentive eye contact, engaging with the person. It is a required quality for my future husband :-D
I love it! :-)
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Brad Pitt is like a fine wine. getting better with time 🔥
Keeping eye contact with this guy would be near impossible with OverAlls like those, WTF !?!
9:50. This is very true. I've found also by doing that you're becoming less self-conscious over time, because that creates the nervousness and the impression of not being engaged because you're worrying about what to say or how you're being perceived. There's no substitute for proper practice in conversation but meditation is a very helpful tool in this especially if you can look at nature, get absorbed into watching everything in your visual field. It's the same idea when watching and being engaged with another person. Now I'm no expert but this my personal experience that I try to apply more and more.
I agree entirely on the presence, engaging, grounded front. I, however, am not a “girl.” I have a practice of inviting people, especially men, to upgrade their presence to their language, too. It’s part of the same presence and intentionally you’re teaching here. We don’t call “men” “boys” when we mean “men.” It’s time we do the same for women as well.
I didn’t even realize I said girl! I actually purposely say women 90% of the time but say girls for the high schoolers in the audience.
@@AnthonyRecenello I love to hear you intentionality around it. I totally get it, too. It's taken work for me to elevate my language around it as well. Our words are powerful.
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You should do one video on Benecio Del Toro, there’s something very mysterious yet charming about him.
Ooooo good one
Yes that he's a Brad Pitt look alike 🤣🤣
Nice one)
And oooone little thing about Adam. If you watch him on Round table with DeNiro, Hanks, Driver(btw what a man!!!!!) and others(I don’t remember title of the video, it’s recent one, about 1 hour long) so Adam! He is just a big fan of all our favorite actors, in my opinion. Or he has a really low self confidence. He almost every time try to tell everyone that he isn’t THAT GOOD(but we know how wrong he is!)
Maybe he is just shy person who really respect Brad in that interview, when he is with his friends or by himself he is more confident. Probably Brad is just always steal the show)
And I said it once and gonna do it again: YOU DESERVE SO MUCH MORE FOLLOWERS AND VIEWS!!!!!!!
Yes I plan on doing Adam soon. I've seen those interviews. He's isn't very expressive based on the interviews I've seen so far.
I read a commentary about the few views you are having in your videos. And I think it is ok, not much people are trying to improve their minds, must of them are choosing a new haircut, new clothes and stuff… but when they have achieved the best look, and nothing have changed in the inside and the personality ...They, will need charm…and then will come to this place. You are doing a great great job!
Thank you so much Carlos!!!
Dear Anthony, I just discovered u today. I am halfway your audiobook. As political scientist and philosophy amateur i can say that this audiobook u just produced is amazingly honest and useful, thank you. I am gonna keep following you with greate care and attention
Best,
Thank you so much Youssef!!!
I know im kinda late but i would love to see a part 2 of Brad Pitt Classic Charm! Ive learned so much and i would love to learn more if that makes sense. I really love your videos!!
Thanks jada. I’ve said everything I wanted to say. His biggest strength is his eye contact and his warmth.
How do you do this in a way to where people don’t fall in love with you? (I am very much taken) I am a very shy awkward person, and I carried myself just like Adam whenever I was in conversation. I also tend to be more on the anxious side.
I started making sure to be more engaged just like the tips in this video suggested, and my eye contact has improved tremendously and so has my confidence. I am also engaged to the point where I have no problem asking questions while in conversation. I also have better listening skills now too. I feel more connected.
Now I have 2 men who I believe are crushing on me. They’re always somehow in my proximity (when they weren’t before), they’re acting strange now and are anxious whenever I talk to them, they have this face like they’re in a trance too and have their mouth kinda open, I noticed the way they dress and have their hair change (they’re dressed up now, and get haircuts often…a drastic change from before). I’ve also noticed other men getting shy around me now too, and blushing.
I’m a woman by the way, and these skills don’t seem to have any effect on them in the same way whenever I engage with them. But I do believe I am coming off as more likable to the women too, since they’re a lot nicer than before.
I agree focusing on the other person would mean looking at them but kind of through them while listening and then responding to them. That works. 👍
Do you think his acting training influenced the change between the first 2 examples? Towards the end you said something like “get lost in the persons face/facial expressions”, do you think he’s good at engaging in that way because actors aspire to master expressions / personalities? Also I imagine it helps collaboration/creativity on set if fully engaged. Interested to hear your thoughts.
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Thank you for your explanation. I must say that it's rather difficult for shy people like me to manage this eye-engagement with confidence. I tend to avoid it generally but especially when truly interested in the person I'm talking to. My classic mistake is to stare into the eyes of my speaker and when nervous or embarrassed, I realize the background fades away. I literally can't see anything but his/her face. for example at work, during meetings when I have to stand up for my opinion, I go breathless, start sweating, and mumbling sometimes. I think this is my total inability in public speaking.
When you say "soul gazing" I take it as "undress your speaker" because that is what I get when watching the second interview. I think he mastered the ability also thanks to a huge amount of confidence deriving from his great career. Anyway he reminds me a lot of Robert Redford's glance, plus extra tricks such as keep licking his lips, that is very attractive, no doubts, and playing with his eyebrows that intensifies communication.
Tomorrow morning I'm going to order my cup of coffee, soul-watching the bartender, and I'll see what happens. ;) love from Italy
Great advice here, Anthony. Being in the moment ties back to being genuinely interested in people. I've been working on that for the past years. My 1st exercise was to remember the names of people who introduced themselves to me. Simple, but many of us don't actually do it.
You could extend the lesson by teaching what to do in case of boring small talk; then it's hard to be present, huh? Well, our beloved Charisma on Command says you should gently switch the conversation towards a more exciting topic, something that will bring the best out of both you and the other person involved.
Keep it up, man. I just got your audiobook btw, hope to learn a few more things.
I have found that many men cant handle eye contact and confidence in general. I've been told it's threatening in some way which upset me because I'm known by my friends for my generosity and down to earth, relatable character. I'm not sure how to fix this or if i even should...i can't fake anything but would hate to try to change my behavior around other people's insecurity.
I am a female and I am learning a lot from your videos, because I have difficulties engaging with people on conversations and on leaving a good impression, people find me a bit cold and detached.
Practice this first!
really really really enjoy your classic charm videos! By far my favourite series on youtube atm. Appreciate you and the work you put into making these
🙏🏻
Is the audiobook still available? I know this is 4 years later. Link takes me to your conversational mastery course
Honestly goto detachment.dating it’s a much better newer free content I’m teaching
This guy is legit, in just two videos I'm convinced. And I've been through many TH-cam channels that talk about the same topics.
Well, I never found him attractive.. :) Might be because I find a gaze constantly fixed on me slightly threatening. So I think, whether you find someone attractive or not also very much pre-determined by your own temperament. I am very reserved and find people with similar temperament attractive/non-threatening.
I was the same way. However, no ambitious person can get ahead in life with your attitude. Even introverted women hate a man with lacking social skills. By changing my original personality into a more social and engaging personality, I get more respect and people like me more
@@reanimatedjesus7239 I get ahead just fine, thank you (working in finances). I am able to separate how I feel and how I react to that. On the other hand, I think life is worth living only if you're true to yourself. If it means I'm less ambitious than others, then be it. I honestly don't feel pressurized to become someone I'm not. Being happy and content is what matters, not giving into peer pressure and societal norms.
@@reanimatedjesus7239 ew I don't want people to like me more :D They like me enough, more than I care to handle.
Esther Choi i should say “molding” my personality. I’m still my true self but my vulgar talk sounds more loud. Since your name is a woman’s name, I just gonna assume you’re a woman.I tell you an two examples of a person. I met a cute girl who was weird and autistic. Despite the weird things she said and did, people but mostly guys ignored it and still hung out with her. On the other hand, I’ve seen guys who exhibited similar behavior and they are social outcasts.
Esther Choi In some ways, women and men are able to do somethings. Men can be charming and outgoing while women can’t cause it perceived as flirting. Women can be weird, reserved and “quirky” while men can’t cause they are perceived as threatening. Double standards suck :(
I completely agree. There is confidence, like young Brad Pitt, and there is deep confidence, like elder Brad Pitt. Deep confidence is a product of so many factors, from personal experience to environmental cues, and the person's relationship with all of those elements at the moment of being observed. Brad Pitt's ability to create a "communication bubble" with the person he is speaking to is an exercise in proxemics mastery. He can make a conversation seem intimate in a public space through his engagement. The Adam Sandler interview even shows how Brad Pitt troubleshoots an intimacy disconnect between himself and the person he is speaking with, as Brad changes his body language to draw Adam in by way of gently leaning forward, encouragement to share in greater detail, and overwhelmingly positive responses to salient points made by Adam.
LOVE LOVE LOVE this and Brad and you and the context of really appreciating the art of engagement. Wild bet (but I'll bet) those who have it, have it naturally and are those who've congregated here. LOVE. Thank you.
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Most actors and actresses master this skill..
What spacile in Brad is his freindly easy going characher you can see it feel it in all the roles he take..
Can performan every role you take and put your personal touch in every characher you present this is more than profasional..
I think the lead in the conversation is more base on who think they are Batter than they are talking to..
The eye thing is more about superiority of our self confidence👍
IDK who you are but you're going to be huge sir your personalty+content is gold. Please just be consistent. love from UAE
I’m trying! I don’t have time to move slow 🤦🏻♂️🙏🏻
omggg thank you so much to let me know why I was obsessed with Brad that much. Brad is charming and so do you. I lost my mind in your gaze
I noticed this quality for the first time in once upon a time on Hollywood! You kinda take it for granted in young and attractive men, but it's wild to see a 60 year old man smizing away 😂 he just has The Ability
Yes it is rather simple advice I have given to guys. Stop trying to perform when chatting to a woman. If you stop concentrating on yourself and just listen to and I mean listen to a woman and show interest in what she says you have engaged her and are on your way to success. It is so simple but it is amazing how many men do not get how simple it is. I have never really fancied Brad Pitt but I get what you mean about charming.
Glad I found your channel I like learning about social skills.
Hey also recognized the interviewer as a person with a job to do
Quote 'Woman don't care about looks as much as you think.'. Total ball shit.
Oh...when I watch interviews of brad Pitt what I think is that maybe he has a hearing problem so that's why he needs to stare.. I guess people likes to be stare at...it makes me uncomfortable. But that's just me
I agree, this is definitely the most important trait in a man to me. If you feel like someone is geniuly listening engaged and interested it is gold!
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So right on. Brad also does this with the camera. Good eye contact is a technique also taught in therapy interviewing.
@anthonyrecenello
Interesting tips, I have a question though:
I manage to be fully engaged into conversations, and I rather have a (maybe too high) sensitivity towards micro expressions of the other person.
It comes to a point where it does distract me, because while I am focused on telling a story (and I am also not an extravert, so it takes me quite some energy) the expressions of the other tend to interrupt me... (like why is he or she not smiling, are they bored? they dont like me?) and then I am not that confident when being in the spotlight. I become too selfconscious.
How can I find a balance?
Its interesting: Some of this is natural, with Pitt, some definitely coached.
He knows precisely what he’s doing, though, for sure.
"To be present in the moment is the most attractive thing for a woman." Ehm yes! :D Nice video thx. :)
I believe Adam is charming in his own way. I think his charm is more from his "tongue In cheek" comedy style. Which calls for that kind in "eye darting" ect... excellent video.
There is a total mess here.
First i see Frank Iero.
Then he says: face it (you're never gonna make it) instead of Ray Toro.
I can hear and see Gerard saying i dont wanna make it. I just wanna.
But the music never comes. Whats going on?
I’m never gonna be as good looking as brad Pitt , That’s a bold statement
First video I’ve seen of yours, I’m really behind your thoughts and I love the idea of your Kobe video. Those two are in my top five of people I admire and appreciate. For the very reasons you are describing. Enjoyable watch. Thank you. :)
Yes, BP has come a very long way with his person to person. Early interviews almost painful to watch so awkward, so avoidant.
Your site is not working, I send my email to get my free ebook, but they didn't send.
Felipe Duda that’s weird let me check
Felipe, it said it was sent out to you. Please check your junk mail folder. Let me know if that works and I’ll figure something out.
What's the name of that music piece in the end?
A friend of mine on facebook was talking about charm being deceptive, as it's in the Bible anyway. Is it ALWAYS deceptive or can it be honest? Thoughts?
Real charm is not deceptive. Charming people naturally love people and life.
Well, I understand the theory. But whenever I meet new people I get super nervous and start to look around and stuff. Like what Adam Sandler did. Maybe a little more than he did though haha so how can I actually practice what I understand in theory?
Awesome overalls and even better content 🔥
If you want to be the best version of yourself, you need to care about people, period and stop expecting attention and people to be perfect and stop negative thinking of others.
I don't like it when a guy can notice everything about me, I can't be comfortable. I know I'm weird and I act my best to hide that, so a guy that can " notice " stuff isn't cool especially if he starts pointing out things or tics.
*Instinctively raises hand at when Anthony asks for girls (however, I think anyone could apply to this) to tell him in the comments.
Women care about looks especially woman before the age of 26. Ugly guys get fewer swipes. And the first thing we ask another girl is “is he cute” it’s a misconception women don’t care about looks. We swoon over hot guys there’s just fewer to see
But Anthony, this is Brad Pitt. He has the gentlest eyes.
If he's able to put a lot of people under his spell, it's mostly because he's gorgeous, and a little for the reasons you argued.
That's what I think.