ADHD in Women and Girls
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0:12 Introduction
0:38 Why is ADHD different in women?
2:34 ADHD symptoms in women
4:31 Tips and advice
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For many years, ADHD was simply assumed to be a condition that only affected young boys, who were typically hyperactive, disruptive, and disobedient.
Now though, we know that this simply isn’t the case.
ADHD affects both boys and girls, as well as men and women of all ages. However, it generally presents quite differently in women, for a few different reasons.
Why is ADHD in women different from ADHD in men?
According to the CDC, 12.9 percent of boys are diagnosed with ADHD, while that number is 5.6 percent for girls.
That’s a pretty big disparity, but the jury is still out about whether ADHD is actually less common in girls, or it’s simply a case of underreporting.
Over the years, virtually all of the research about ADHD has been based on the experience of boys and men and therefore, the criteria that were developed through that research don’t really fit the experience of most women or gender diverse people.
Because ADHD in women, trans and non-binary folks present differently, some people assume it’s a different condition altogether. Or just ‘a personality trait’. But the way ADHD affects the brain is the same in all genders and it’s only the way that it appears to impact someone’s behavior, that is often different.
Generally, women are more likely to have inattentive ADHD, while boys and men more frequently have hyperactive ADHD.
Inattentive ADHD presents with symptoms like being forgetful, disengaging from activities around you, and being more easily distracted. Sometimes, inattentive ADHD is assumed to be anxiety or even a mood disorder.
In many cases, the symptoms of ADHD in women have been explained away as something else; ‘she’s just spacey’ or, ‘she’s off with the fairies’, or even, ‘she’s just a chaotic person’. This is especially the case in younger girls, which is why many women don’t receive the right diagnosis until later in life.
Societal pressures and traditional gender roles have impacted ADHD diagnoses in women and set the field back many years
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I have ADHD and it’s hard when people tell me to “just focus” Like ok I’ll just do something that’s almost impossible for me to do. Like telling someone who’s depressed to “just be happy”
its like telling someone with tourretes to “just control it” THEY CANT
That's literally what I have to tell people. I don't GAF. I understand if people can't get it, but if you just refuse, I'll be harsh and show YOU how dumb you look.
Oh no people say both of those and don't see a problem with it
It’s infuriating how unknowledgeable people are when it comes to mental health. Like why is it so looked over when it’s literally what causes us to function in the ways we do?
It's really hard for me to do work and when I try to do my best I cant. Do i have adhd or dyslexia or none?
The hardest thing about being diagnosed with ADHD is explaining that you get distracted easily and having your loved ones say: "That's not ADHD that happened to everyone!"
my mom. she doesn't accept....
For real!
Yep my mum doesn’t believe I have ADHD when I literally show all the inattentive symptoms and a large chunk of the impulsive symptoms
@@IzzyandShadow same for my mom. I literally said that I have inattentive ADHD and her and my big brother (who also has ADHD) said that I don't have ADHD
Wanna know what I do?
Okay I'll tell ya; when it happens, which is rare thankfully, that I'm told ADHD doesn't exist or blah blah blah, I put my medication in my purse and go to work. Then I have out with those who don't like to believe it is real. Works every time 😂
Without fail I'll be asked, what is with you today?! I say nothing I didn't take my medication. After some time I'll be told, do you have it? Please take it!
Mmmkay. 🤭
Luckily I'm surrounded by good and understanding people who are aware. Though it presents differently in adult women, some have even recognized the behavior in their kids, after seeing the vet similar behaviors in me. I've been thanked for opening their eyes, and they are getting their kid the help they deserve. Only one I know refuses to Medicate their kid, and are trying behavioral therapy. I feel bad for the kid, but they're at least doing something, and if it doesn't work hopefully they'll get medicine and do the behavior therapy too.
I suspect I may have adhd. I was never hyperactive as a kid, I was the very well-behaved girl who did her homework on her own and was obedient to parents and teachers... if you contrast that to my "naughty and hyper active" brother, I was totally normal. He was diagnosed with ADHD when he was 6 years old, and he received the therapy he needed. They never even suspected about me.
But with time, I've come to the realization that I struggle with lots of things in my daily life. I look put together from the outside because I was taught that way, but in reality, I feel my brain is so SCATTERED. I'm so forgetful I have to put on alarms for EVERYTHING (take a shower, do the dishes, feed the cats, time to eat, get out of the house, study, send a project) because If I don't put on an alarm I will forget about those things. Time passes me by so quickly when I'm distracted on things of my interest. I'm also inattentive of my my surroundings, I've walked out of the house with my clothes inside out so many times, I leave the fire on when I finish cooking, I lose everything constantly... I want to be on the moment and pay attention to the things that are happening around me, but either my head is in the clouds or I'm hyper focused on a certain thing that has all my attention. People will be talking to me, and I'm not aware, or I find it physically hard to concentrate. It is like a camera lense in automatic that is trying to focus on many things. Even when my brother is the one with the official diagnosis I'm the one that is known as the clueless of the family, they say I don't loose my head because it's attached to my body.
And now that I've started to work, I find it so hard to start and finish my projects. I feel lazy, unproductive and unmotivated... but then I look around and so many people seem to achieve things so easily and I don't work like that. Ivetold my mom about this but she dismissed it saying I can't have adhd because I'm not hyperactive and I did well in school when I was a kid.
I feel this honestly. I'm still a teenager and my mom is just dismissing all of it.
I had been diagnosed with tics because I mentioned it when I was at the doctor's for a completely different reason. The only reason I mentioned it was because a day or two pior I had been at a friend's and I had multiple tics at once. My friend was doing my hair for fun, so she was right behind me when this happened. Two weeks after I was diagnosed. My dad saw me have two or three in a row and asked about it.
I just wish that some parents would think about what their kid is saying. And get it checked out or watch for awhile to see if they can spot it.
I can relate to what you wrote too well, even with 32 years.
Maybe you should show this video to your mom.
maybe you should get tested
I've just gotten a lot of these videos back to back to back and this comment just resonated so much with me 😢😢😢
the way this is so relatableee😭😭
I don't think people fully understand how horribly difficult it is for some of us to establish and maintain habits and routines. It can be really discouraging
I never knew struggling to talk was an adhd thing! I get really paranoid that the people I work with think I'm dumb because I can't think of what to say straight away. It's almost like I have to translate what people are saying to me even though we are both speaking the same language?
I just say to ppl straightaway but there's no effect of saying them,I don't get validation or exact response Im looking for. Like If I ask a question,they answer them but not the way I'm expecting to be it us rather in an indirect way. And I often struggle with boredom my mom says me, "wake up,dont live in a dreamworld ,what you're doing with your life?". I'm literally just going with the flow,leaving shit casually aside and escaping the problems.
Me..
@@shivigarg4158 Please don’t ever think your dumb, and don’t let other people pull you down. Maybe take your time to process what is being said to you, stop think before you answer, if it takes you longer to process, so what ? Exercise is the key 🔐 and maybe meditation, all the things you’ve most likely heard in these fantastic videos, good luck. 👍
Sorry that was for Kate Palmer, no glasses.
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What does it feels like??
I mean for me it's like I had many thoughts scattered & when I listened& was tginking to reply ,so many stuff I wan't to express & they overloaded me ,I feel like scrapping & gathering all my scattered-random-unorganized thoughts I also checked the symptomps of being forgetful, I need to keep repeating important stuff in mediocre, too much repeating then my brain shut that down to keep me from overload, not repeating, I prompt to forget especially when I change room / change activity bc I noticed my brain often "clear off" after each change of room/activity/every closure of something but problem is , it don't seperate the organize of which should be clear with closure and which aren't, my brain just lump them up and clear them altogether.
Being hyperactive when I was a child
I was diagnosed with ADHD because I was "spacey", "forgetful" and "inattentive". My brain never shut off. I would hear multiple full conversations in my head. ADHD diagnosis never sat right with me, even as a child. I was put on ADHD medication and had a horrible reaction. Fast forward 20+ YEARS and I was officially diagnosed with Dissociative Identity Disorder. Turns out my ADHD symptoms were actually dissociating. Because my childhood was very traumatic and rough I was constantly dissociating. I read online that childhood DID is very often misdiagnosed as ADHD.
Edit: Thank you guy for all the upvotes~!
Can you pls give me more on ur symptoms? i feel like this might be me as well..
@@moonlit5693 missing time, childhood seizures, childhood night terrors, amnesia, the presence of two distinct identities, staring/zoning out for long periods of time, physically feeling the presence of someone else in my body with me, physically feeling like I was being pushed out of my own body, hearing someone say my name right next to my ear but no one was there
When you have BOTH 😅. Being born neurodivergent and then traumatized constantly starting at birth makes DID way easy for one to end up with.
@@shannonparis3385 There is no psychological evidence that states that neurodivergency is a contributing factor to developing DID. So that statement that a traumatized neurtodivergent person is prone to getting DID is misinformation. This is what my psychologist states in my diagnostic letter on what causes DID:
"The origin of these symptoms is most commonly found in trauma and/or abuse experienced in
childhood. These identities function to help the individual cope with difficult events by
separating out aspects of the self to deal with differing situations."
DID is solely a trauma based disorder not a neurological disorder. There have been many neurodivergent traumatized individuals that do not have DID.
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"If you said yes to atleast 2 of them, it is possible you have ADHD"
*I said yes to all of them..*
I relate to all of these in a very personal way.
Me too ... But no one believes me...they say it happens to all of us..
@@chrizstele5922same it sucks
That’s because like 80% of the population has it either one way or another.
@@EverestTheNobody 80%? did you pull those statistics out of thin air? if that were true treatment would be INSANELY easy to recieve. Do not speak without proper education it's just rude
"Don't be to hard on yourself."
I kinda needed to hear that.
I suspect that I might have ADHD, but it's hard to get an evaluation. Psychiatrists don't have the capacity for more patients, and the waiting lists where those are offered are long (like... one year long. I hope, that even if it isn't ADHD, the psychiatrists can give me an answer to what I know since I was a teenager: Something is off with me.
hey sorry can i talk to you i know you just suspect but i just want you to help me figure out if my friend has one or not
@@Okaycooll I am not sure if I'm be able to help. Your friend should seek out a professional.
If your friend doesn't want to know and therefore doesn't want to seek out help, you shouldn't push them. I know, that wanting to help but not being able to is hard, but sometimes you can make things worth by forcing your help onto them.
Maybe show them this or a similar video? At least, that's how I found out I might have it. (Still didn't found a professional myself though, because that's the hardest part of it all)
@@Leshantra sorry I just saw your comment, my friend neglects many things, I do not expect him to take care of his health even, and his academic average is very low and he is still a teenager, he has a lot to study. If he stays like this, he may fail ,he has zero concentration and sometimes he is hyperactive, but sometimes he also has no energy at all, It is difficult for me to find professional, but I thought that people who had experience might be similar to his experience? Then I will know exactly what his problem is (also my english is bad ,sorry for any mistakes)
@@Okaycoollwell, if you're willing to put in the time, call them for learning/doing homework.just knowing a friend is with me while performing tasks I couldn't make myself start helped me a lot back in school. :-)
Same I need to get checked
When I was diagnosed with adhd, I was pretty confused because I wasn’t really hyper active. I actually have been called lazy multiple times, and it really messed me up mentally. This helped me understand my diagnosis a lot. Thanks.
unrelated but W KANADE PFP‼️‼️‼️ (also im glad that youre feeling better now)
@@ewakyzka56🔥
I just got diagnosed with ADHD at 29, and my guy friend said that I dont need medication because it's all in my head...no freaking duh.
Girls, it's important to refrain from self-diagnosing based solely on a six-minute video. Many of those symptoms can be caused by other mental disorders or general distress. Merely relating to a video doesn't mean you have ADHD. If you experience difficulties with certain symptoms, it's advisable to seek professional help from a psychiatrist or psychotherapist. Only they can provide a valid diagnosis.
Duh. It says so in the beginning of the vid
@@BabyMonkeyDefender just an extra reminder, some people may forget
Find mor sources and do your own research. Psychiatry often sucks ass at diagnosing people with this type of neurodiversity
my mom said "you're not hyperactive you don't have adhd" too many times. every time i bring up this topic she just says 'Instead of caring about if you have adhd or not, go check what your body is missing' (I have an eating disorder and probably lack a lot of vitamins. I also have low iron). I just want to do something against this skull crushing feeling I get when trying to concentrate on a topic I don't like. I hate it
it’s really hard to accept that I have adhd… at first I don’t mind being spacey and being forgetfulness but it’s getting worse every time… what hard is that people around you seen it as part of my traits… that I was born being that way and don’t consider it as adhd. I thought I was just unfortunate because I was born spacey and clumsy and I keep searching why I’m like this and keeps ending up finding an answer which is ADHD
I got called more of a Daydreamer or told I had absent-minded professor syndrome.😂
The fun part was when I told people that caffeine made me tired. No one believed me, but guess what a sign of ADHD can be?
I have adhd, but my parent just say that it's the affect of watching too much phone or it's just a stereotype of mime, and they don't even bother to speak to me because they think I lie.
I’m so sorry. You deserve to be listened to, heard, helped and trusted. Maybe try talking to one of your teachers or your counselor? They can help you find resources or maybe act as a middleman between you and your parents? Or, just act as a kind listener. Big hugs from this mama and high school teacher!
Try copying what they do and u will see that they will start to listen to u
@@rrmother3748 thankyou for your concern, but I am a very big introvert and whenever I want to talk to people for my condition face to face, my anxiety just hits me, I have anthropophobia, because of it I can't even live normally, even my mom tried to choke me twice because I was so scared of everything..
I don’t recommend self diagnosing a NEUROLOGICAL DISORDER those are serious and complex and hard to diagnose so…
Like when did these symptoms start? A year ago? 6 months ago? Or more?
Does a family member display signs of it as well ?
Because if the symptoms only just recently appeared then it’s unlikely u have adhd
Adhd symptoms start very young i mean VERY young adhd is genetic and born with
(my parents first memory of my adhd is when I was 3 years old 😅soo ya.. young I went to therapy at 4 cause I wouldn’t sleep and because I had extreme mood swings 💀which is common for adhd) my poor parents LOL ok let me continue loll
If no family member displays symptoms then it’s also unlikely u have it
so try asking ur parents if they noticed certain adhd symptoms when u were younger or if they have any symptoms too.
Also lack of sleep, high screen time and other disorders EASILY mimic adhd symptoms 😇🙏
Do you have a learning disability? Anxiety or depression that came out of the blue? Those are common for people with adhd
Also make sure it’s not the placebo affect like for example
U google symptoms of a disease and the symptoms are( nausea, headache, fatigue ) then SUDDENLY 😱 u start getting nauseous a headache and fatigue you know that affect, make sure ur answering truthfully and not because u want to manipulate a certain result .
Hope this helped ✌✌
@@sopfhie748I can relate to these incidents. It all began to notice this when I was around 10 or 9 years old (I think, and I am currently 18 and a half years old). It wasn't that bad back then, but it got even worse as I grew up due to my careless daily life routine. Even now, I stutter in nearly every sentence, no matter who I'm speaking to, and I struggle to pay attention in class and while reading, which results in poor grades. No matter where I am or what time it is, I'm always cracking my knuckles and tapping them. My family is quite toxic and busy so when I asked them about my adhd Symptoms they just said IT IS THE DAMN PHONE..I asked my boy best friend and he just said that i'm showing lesbian panic attacks because I'm lesbian and I get SUPER DUPER FLUSTERED around girls (I think he ment it as a joke).
read an article about ADHD a while back and found it to be 99% accurate.
I appreciate that you are concerned about me and that makes me happy but I ensure you that once I leave my house, i will get a proper treatment.❤️
I'm 35 and I just discovered that I have ADHD, and I've struggling a lot to try to get my life in order. Those words, don't be too hard on yourself, almost made me cry.
Dang! I was recently diagnosed, and still have lots to learn. I didn't realize, half the things I think, feel, and do are adhd related. Luckily, my dad who also has it took me to pychotrist to see if I had it, just like he does. (It was obvious I had it prior) Now I have the help I need. Its unfortunate so many people don't have the tools they need.
It comes with a lot of perks too and I feel like we are more sensitive and able to understand really complex ideas. Our brains are different but still so smart and beautiful ☺️
Growing up my dad has always accused me for spacing out instead of focusing on simple tasks. He also has ADHD, so I thought the other stuff I struggled with that didn’t relate to him wren’s part of my ADHD, I had often felt bad for the stuff I did once he yelled at me or raised his voice for doing them. Watching this video, I was able to connect to everything that had been said in here. I do struggle with focusing, and I just can’t seem to get any type of control over it. Thank you for this vid, it probably still won’t help me with my life, but it does make me feel better, and to be honest? I sorta wish my dad would see this so he could understand better. Once again thank you so very much, I appreciate for all of this ^w^
Ive been tryong to get tested for ADHD and autism for years and every time my therapist is like "its probably just your trauma"
I don't think that trauma allows me to literally multitask, listen to music sew and read all at the same time
Same here it’s so hard fuck medical sexism
Sounds like you might need a new therapist honestly. If they’re just blowing you off each time you try to raise the possibility, that’s not helpful. Stick to your guns and keep trying to find someone who can help you! Hugs -
your therapist definitely sucks for not taking you seriously, but i have autism and adhd and multitasking is not really a symptom of either condition and if that is the only reason you think you may have autism or adhd, that might be why your therapist doesnt listen to u. if you experience any other symptoms you should tell her about that and about how it makes you feel, and if you dont have any other symptoms you might just be really good at multi-tasking lol
Multitasking isn't a direct symptom to ADHD and autism. Consult multiple professionals or anyone that can give a clear, unbiased verdict on your condition. If the other people also arrive at the conclussion that you have none of those conditions, then it's likely that the multitasking is indeed unrelated to those mental conditions.
@@diabloakland It's not about medical sexism. If the only information presented was the multitasking, the medical professional cannot arrive at a clear conclusion. It can be dangerous to give an incorrect diagnosis for multiple reasons: it can affect the patient's state of mind negatively, medicine that can help with those mental conditions may have side effects which will cause even greater problems in the future and would negatively impact the reputation of the medical professional (if the word got out that the diagnosis was inaccurate) which could also pose legal issues later. So, when the outcome is not clear, always look for more information and the perspectives of other trained individuals to arrive at a valid conclussion.
I have to set alarms on my phone for everything. My memory is so bad, my grandmother has to pay my bills and I pay her. 😮💨 I worry about my memory a lot. I also have CPTSD. So my brain has a defense mechanism that already tries to erase everything. I feel like it's a losing battle. It's just exhausting... All of it.
Thank you so much for this video! I'm 26, and just got diagnosed at 25 for things that I've been living with my whole life. My family struggles to "see" it as ADHD, so I like to send them videos. I especially love this one because it's so cute!!
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I think my mom has ADHD, it really sounds like her. She has a lot of trouble reading because she loses focus quite easily and she tends to start five tasks and complete just one or none of them.
I have inattentive with hyper focus ADHD and was diagnosed as an adult. I’ve likely had it my whole life. Can’t seem to get out the door on time, procrastinating , loss of time, daydreaming, interruptions in conversations. This is just a few but the exhaustion is real.
Having grown up with this (though back in the day the inattentive one was called ADD, but whatever), I related to everything that was said in this video. Especially the feeling overwhelmed part and needing a moment to get my thoughts together before I speak, which gets counter acted by the fact that I can't remember what it was I was suppose to speak about. The forgetfulness thing is horrible and many say that it's just being lazy. That's not it. The information just doesn't register. I have (and still do) felt that this has severely disrupted my life. The reminders help, IF I can remember to make them. What I have found that works fairly well, is a routine. However remembering to keep to the planned routine, so that it becomes a routine is a different story. I have found that once I start to laser focus on something, then getting on with it isn't too bad, it's when said task takes a long time to finish then boredom sets in and my mind starts to wander away from the task, and the task takes longer or just remains unfinished. I do come around later to finish the task, though this period may differ depending on the task.
@Blackfrost593 I am not a mental health professional but I do suffer from pretty much the same things as you do. I'm also intuitive to a limited extent.
Anyway imho, the differences between "being spaced (out)", "thoughts racing" and "being hyper focused" are just those. In other words (iow), "being spaced (out)" means that your mind really is not focused on anything at all whatsoever because it's blank. "Thoughts racing" means that multiple thoughts are racing through your mind seemingly all at the same time and because of that racing, we are typically not able to focus on any one of them much less a small number of them at the same time. "Being hyper focused" means you are focused so intensely on one thought that it becomes (almost) unbearable to focus on it for too long of a time.
In my opinion, you either were "spacing it" (mind gone blank) or your thoughts were "racing" (going very quickly through your mind).
I hope this helps. But, again, disclaimer: I am not a mental health professional.
P.S. I encourage you to seek professional help if you have not already. And if you have and it didn't help or it's been a while since you have had it, please seek it again. Thanks.
P.S.2. God bless you and yours and take care.😊
That's funny because I was reading up about add in my adult life because as a child I was diagnosed with ADHD but my sister was diagnosed with ADD so we always thought we had completely different diagnosis and an illness but in actuality they're the same thing
Hey, yeah so in the new diagnostic books they combined ADD and ADHD because they realized they’re the same thing with slightly different ways it’s presented so they combined them. They are the same disorder. They also realized some people show both hyperactivity and inattentiveness because it’s situation dependent for some.
And this is why school was so traumatizing and I never want to go back.
Ngl when she said “it’s okay, it’s okay” my heart was out at ease. I have adhd and I was telling my psychiatrist that I feel overwhelmed and she said “we’ll get some stuff done today and some stuff done tomorrow”. Like- obviously I know that but I get too overwhelmed by just thinking about it. This just kinda helped in knowing I need to find someone else
I'm a 33 year old teacher and currently also student of psychotherapy today. I went to many therapists so far.. often old farts and Karens who are living in their own ignorant and arrogant bubble. Only one was good, he listened effectively and diagnosed me with PTSD and hypersensitivity. I had to move away from that town unfortunately. I am pretty sure I have ADHD too. When I was 18 I googled it and when my covert narcissist and abusive father saw it he looked disgusted and scoffed. Today I'm very grateful that I cut all contact since the age of 20 to those dipshit people of my past. And that I never gave up, no matter how lonely and defeated I felt..
It's great seeing people in the comments who are the opposite of the traditionally outward obvious symptoms and have similar patterns on their 'well-behaved' side. ❤
virtual hugs guys 💗
I've been trying to get an ADHD diagnosis for a while. Recently my psychiatrist had me give my teacher some forms. However, I do pretty well academically, (I always end up procrastinating, and doing everything at the last moment, but I'm a fast learner, so it usually ends up okay.) I'm not as disruptive as other kids in my year, and I don't seem to have behavioural issues asides from being "chatty". And most forms used still follow ADHD symptoms typically seen in guys. So in the end, I couldn't get a diagnosis yet.
Which sucks, because my teachers don't pay attention to me, so I can't get the exact treatment I need. It's stupid, because I know I have ADHD - I literally fit almost ALL the symptoms, and it happens basically everywhere. And it makes me feel insane, and it's so annoying. I hate that ADHD is so under-diagnosed and under-researched in women/girls. We all deserve better.
I was tested at a young age but i was a shy kid because of my parents constantly telling me to behave or be spanked x.x so i was told i was "normal"
holy shit, we are in the exact same situation. i was a really REALLY good student as a kid to my teachers but what they dont know is that i did everything last minute and that i never studied for anything. my parents fail to recognize/remember that last part because in the end it got me through elementary and highschool so for them its not important anymore. i also feel like i can relate to almost every symptom so to hear that i apparently dont fit the standards for ADHD made me cry in therapy LMAO. its very ironic considering no one would EVER want ADHD, but not "knowing" whats really wrong with me (when im 90% sure its this) is driving me insane.
im now struggling badly in college, failing a couple classes and barely passing in the rest, have the shittiest sleep schedule (sleeping at lunchtime and waking up at midnight), cant do basic tasks like eating or showering regularly, and cant start routines. im quite literally hopeless because i feel like any diagnosis will ALWAYS rely on the responses of people who have "observed" my behaviors (yet barely know me because they only notice what i want people to see, because who really wants to show their bad sides to people?), and it feels like im just... running out of time :')
I mean adhd is so much more than what people see on the outside
For example
-do you struggle with sleep?
-do u forget to do homework ? Or forget books for school and even forget to study?
-do ur emotions seem intense?(extreme jelousy, anger, excitement)
-were u considered “weird” ? Did u have “weird” habits ?
-do u daydream for hours or talk to urself for hours? not being dramatic I mean hours..
-is ur mind on 24/24 so much that u can't sleep
-do u have a learning disability?
-do u have any other disorders?
-do u have physical balance issues ?
-do u lose stuff all the time even when it’s in front of u?
-are u creative ?
-does another family member have adhd or show signs?
Etc etc.. u get the idea 😇
If yes when did it start? Like reflect on ur entire existence 😂🙏 if they only recently started then .. u probably don’t got it .. if it started VERY YOUNG like since u started ur first day of school young , then it’s possible you have it .
Because reminder -
Adhd is BORN with u don’t just wake up with it one day that means symptoms start YOUNG so ask ur parents if they noticed things when u were younger.
Maybe ur therapist is right maybe u don’t have adhd or maybe they’re wrong
Who knows 🤷♀
Andddd adhd is genetic so if no one shows signs in ur family it’s probably something else
Also lack of sleep, high screen time and other disorders easily mimic ADHD
@@sopfhie748 I mostly think of a 'yes' in every question in ur comment. I probably have adhd! 🤩
I got diagnosed with ADD (before it was combined with ADHD) at the age of 15. When I got diagnosed I had already known but now I can say I have it without feeling like I’m lying. I have had every single one of the symptoms mentioned in the video ever since I was a little kid. Hearing the “she’s with the fairies” really hit home. Teachers didn’t understand what was going on with me, and that is what makes having ADHD so difficult for me is educators. They don’t always understand and were quite mean to me as a kid. Snapping at me, yelling at me to FOCUS! Telling my parents that I need to go to summer school and Saturday school. Having me taken away from my friends and class time to be tested for hours! This was devastating as a kid to be treated so differently in ways that did not benefit me.
That’s why I want to be a teacher and speak for the students that have ADHD, especially girls.
I dont have any of these. But im trying to learn more about it for the people around me and to become more understanding of this. Thank you for the great video! 💘 And for those who trying to see whether you have adhd or not, I love you & things will get easier.
I'm 34, and about 2 years ago I consulted a psychiatrists because of symptoms of depression. While listening to the description of my daily life and daily struggles with regular adult task management, he suggested that I check myself for ADHD. I have not, yet.. But I think it might be a good idea.
The symptoms for ADHD is really similar to people have in common that's why I feel a little hard to notice if people really have ADHD or no. I can literally relate to all of the symptoms, I think my way to know that is ADHD or no is from how long these symptoms last. I think that's one of the reason people didn't notice they actually have ADHD and that's why we need the professional in this to check for us
I really think this is a clear and concise explanation of ADHD in females.
And others. It's just TYPICALLY that MANY men and boys present more rowdy.
this is off topic but your voice is so soothing to listen to AAA, i was diagnosed with ADHD at age 17 and your videos and instagram posts have helped me process it so much! much love!
Tbh this is about as true as it can get. you can’t just say to a girl with ADHD “Do extra math hw” but what if they don’t like math? You might say it’s not a big deal that she doesn’t like math but it really is bc if she doesn’t like math she will struggle A LOT to do this task and most likely won’t get it done. And yes I have ADHD so this is just my opinion 😅
Diagnosed with an ADHD in my childhood but i was told its a god's wonderful gift as when they take away focus they bless with an unstoppable talent and charisma. Most of the people who suffered an ADHD in childhood grew up to be an artist, musician etc.
Dont just be ashamed of having it also be proud of being one such person.
I haven’t been diagnosed yet but a lot of my friends and family said I have major problems with the symptoms listed in the video and I never been much worried about it until now
Advising people with ADHD to "manage their time better" is honestly just insulting lmao
Great video apart from that :D
This is funny, I am diagnosed with adhd and I’m a 14 year old girl, and everything you said made me feel so much more understood, I’ve felt that whenever I’m distracted and forgetful that I’m just being lazy and I need to try harder, but I never ever take in the fact that I have adhd. I feel like everyone around me just doesn’t understand how my brain works and it makes me feel distant from the rest of the world, but hearing this made me feel so much more belonging, thank you
You're doing your best and that's what matters! It's not your fault that your brain is different from typical people's brains
I got diagnosed at age 32 and now im on conserta my life is so great. I never ever wanna stop my adhd meds it has changed my whole life
It's so crazy, I've been searching for the answer to what is wrong with me and when I started to see ADHD tiktoks, I almost cried. I actually did cry to my partner later when he didn't understand. I've never been more sure of anything in my life than this.
When I had a psych evaluation at 14 they decided my significant problems with attention span, working memory, and executive functioning skills were better explained by anxiety than ADHD. then later I saw my first psychiatrist who was basically like “I can smell ADHD and you reek.”
This was described perfectly. I struggled with school for as long as I can remember. I didn't get diagnosed with ADHD till I was 11, then got diagnosed at 12 with autism. ADHD really does make girls like me get easily exhausted , and on top of it I have to deal with having autism too. It's harder to do regular human things without struggling. Such as doing laundry, remembering appointments, or as simple as missplacing my phone and not being able to recall where it could have been or where I have been to back track.
I really needed to hear someone (that's not a family member) this, thank you so much (I do have ADHD and depression, anxiety, so is true) and now for my message: Love your effort, keep it up and don't let other people tell you what you can't and can do ( unless it's important) have a good day/night:3!!!
I have the same exact things. We are in this together! ❤
I literally just got done talking to my therapist about my concentration issues and then this video showed up on my home page. Big brother is totally watching me lol! But yeah I'll use those tips at the end along with what my therapist told me. ❤
I'm literally just crying right now... I am 18 and no one (including me) never suspected me to have adhd. I am not diagnosed, but as I relate to the symptoms a lot, I think I may want to speak to a professional as soon as possible.
The reason I am crying though is because I am doing my drivers license right now, and feel the problem of having a hard time focusing very deeply. My teacher even told me today, that I just don't see anything. And as harsh as that sounds, it's kinda true unfortunately. I feel all this pressure upon me, because I am supposed to take the test in two days, but don't feel like I will make it successfully. But it's the only chance I get this year, because after that I will leave the country for a year. If I don't get it right I will have to try again next year, which will cost a lot of money.
It's not that I am not trying hard enough, because believe me- I WANT to focus well so badly!! I just really have a tough time noticing all the hundered things that are happening all around me at the same time..
Wish me luck please...😟
Thanks for the video!❤ It makes me feel a bit better to at least have this clue on why I might struggle the way I do. It is much better to feel that it all has a reason, than just thinking I am a failure...
Cheering for you. Hang in there. ❤
this was so great to understand more about my condition, and for my mental health with my limits tysm
I didn’t get diagnosed until I was 35 and my son was going through testing. I have depression and anxiety and going ADHD was the cause of it all.
Excellent synopsis. Succinct and easy to follow for those of us who have adhd.
Innattentive ADHD (or ADD) is what i have and everything said is so true and very real........i was not diagnosed until about 6th grade but i believed i had it when i started kindergarden.........i got in trouble for digging around in my desk and figeting in class ect.............this would have been a lot eaiser to control if i would have known sooner
I have all those symptoms, I never felt this related to a video. I have a Termin in school today which my teacher made for me in her lesson, I go to a school helper so we can talk about my problems. They also can diagnose someone so I’ll ask them, I’m quite happy that my teacher tries to help me. My grade are often E to F’s because I just can’t concentrate in school and miss the work stuff we have to do, I don’t get the theme and when I try to learn it I give up because I don’t understand anything
My younger sister is diagnosed with ADHD and I’m diagnosed with anxiety disorder so we have two really differently functioning brains. Thank you for making this video it really helped me understand her more :)
One of my big struggles is with being overestimated. My husband likes "background noise". He can have two t.v s going, the radio in another room and be on his phone. And I hear all of them while he can tune into one and out of others. It's madness. Multiple conversations going on at work is absolute chaos. Then the other side of it is I can be so intently hyperdocused on anything, a bug, a t.v
Commercial, my grocery list that nothing else around me exists. He has learned that I'm not ignoring him, I'm just buffering.
Wow, watching this video made me realize I may have ADHD. I’m hoping I can get an accurate diagnosis for all my mental health soon and find out what I have and am going through mentally.
As somebody who almost certainly has ADHD ( runs in my family , show almost all symptoms and previously diagnosed with anxiety) when I’m hyperactive people assume she’s weird or she’s annoying I naturally try to control that but what people don’t understand is that when I “ contain it “ “ try to hold my hyper mess in” it a. Leads to racing thoughts and b. Triggers panic attacks
I also cannot get a diagnosis or medication because of my parents :(
Any tips from anyone who has been in a similar situation
It’s often mistaken as anxiety and it runs in families, I hope you get the diagnosed it can be life changing knowing what your dealing with. You will learn to except your self, good luck.
Yes same here I’m forced to mask it Bc when I’m hyper active my family is abusive to me
I’m forced to mask because my parents think that mental health and issues like that aren’t real and I don’t think it’s anxiety bc I’ve been diagnosed with anxiety and my parents refuse to believe the diagnosis
This comment and the replies make me so incredibly sad. All of you deserve to be heard and helped!!! Anniston, you could try talking to a teacher, your counselor, or an adult you trust. Keep reading and researching to educate yourself and so that you understand yourself a bit better. Hugs from this mom and high school teacher!
1. change your diet. its gonna be really hard for some but sugar and caffeine are horrible with adhd. you can still have it, just not frequently. like once for sweets every 2 days or less and for caffeine... just dont have caffeine.
2. with studying, literally clear everything in your surroundings. go to a different room with barely anything in it. background noise will not help you.
3. set yourself screen time. delete tiktok, it makes it worse, im not joking.
4. limit yourself and set tiny goals. "if i do ten minutes of this now, i can do this for ten minutes" etc. make sure you have something to look forward to, even if its something as simple as walking up the stairs.
5. for right sided brain people with adhd, what helped me is to draw and write if u ever feel inspired. doesnt matter how shitty the quality is, let your inspiration flow, dont block it- blocking it is the LAST thing you want to do.
ive been diagnosed with inattentive adhd and im prescribed daily medication and its changed my life. side effects do suck but theyre rare.
please take the opportunity to get diagnosed! it might be awkward or embarrassing but do it.
I said yes to all of your examples. I want to pursue a diagnosis soon because the waiting times are very long…. It’s scary to take the first step.
I have a friend who was diagnosed with adhd aa an adult and I thought what she was telling us sounded normal to me so I began lookimg at myself because I struggle a lot with these things
I was just recently diagnosed with adult onset ADHD. ( I am 52 years old). Brutal stuff 😥
But I have a great dr. So I'm positive when can get this under control.
So true and helpful! Thank you for educating people
See I DON'T THINK before I talk, but everything else definitely pointing towards attentive , WOW 🤯🤯
I’ve learned more off the internet on ADHD then with any therapist I’ve ever had. Was diagnosed as a child. Hit middle school they took me off my medication and said you will out grow this. ( haven’t yet ) My friends get my ping pong ball conversations but my husband can not follow my bouncing ball. Lol It is definitely challenging and a struggle a lot of the times.
I've been diagnosed as bipolar 1 for years but I just told my therapist I believe I have ADHD as well. Hopefully they can properly diagnose me and I'll get a better combo of meds for my symptoms.
Thanks for such an informative video :) I have my diagnosis appointment this month and hoping to get some clarity, but in the mean time I’ve found all of your resources so helpful.
How did it go? 🙂
@@kim.mie. good, thank you! Got my diagnosis and now just experimenting with the available meds. First ones didn’t treat me too well but about to start an alternative this week. :)
@Sofi Rogers- I hope you find the right combo of meds! Sending you best wishes!
@@sofirogers8702 Awesome i am so happy for you 😁
I love how all these videos say help is available for you. But In all reality the ones that really need it can’t afford that help… ya know something as simple as having someone to talk to
One of the main reasons why people even suspect a kid to have ADHD (at least in my country) is the grades drastically dropping. There is no issue with an active kid, but you need to intervene if the grades suffer, right? My grades never dropped to a point where someone thought there might be an "issue" with me. My teachers and parents thought I was a good student but lazy and didn't care much about school. "If you only would start doing your homework in time...If you would only start practicing earlier..." At one point, a teacher yelled at me in 6 grade and gave me the lower grade because she thought I could be much better if I stopped doodling in class. She proudly confessed at my graduation that it was all my mother's plan to "motivate" me. Little did they know that I was genuinely intimidated by her from that moment on, even though she used to be one of my favorite teachers. I put a lot of pressure on myself to be a better student, and I hated myself whenever I couldn't pay as much attention as I wanted in class. I later learned that being a good student who starts learning minutes before the test is typical for girls and women with ADHD. But some people refuse to consider it an issue worth treatment because they are still "functional". They don't see that not having reliable strategies to deal with this could cause severe mental health problems (and every other problem that got mentioned in this video). I am in the middle of finding out if I have ADHD or not (and right now, every sign says "YES!") but I want to point out that there is nothing wrong with ADHD in general. I like my chaotic but very creative mind. I like the fact that there are times it is so fascinated by something that I manage to learn complicated things very quickly and that I can work on a fun project for 36 hours straight (or until it is done). I wouldn't want to change that, BUT I need strategies to deal with my mind when I and my head disagree. Like ME: "Hey, we really need to finish this assignment, the deadline is tomorrow, but we haven't done a thing...." Brain: "Let's start AFTER you learn this fun new violin piece...". It is exhausting to pull this restive mule called my mind away from all the fun and exciting things in life (and it is a good thing when my mind fixates on something fun. It is not so good when my mind fixates on scary thoughts or bullies me into thinking I am worthless because the house is still a mess) and back to the task I originally planned to do.
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I was blessed with an amazing tutor and an amazing doctor who caught my diagnosis in second grade. I was thought to be a very disobedient contrary girl who would do the opposite of what I was told just to be annoying but in reality I also didn’t know what I was doing what I was doing. Once I was diagnosed with ADD (they don’t call it that anymore) it really changed everything for the better.
my therapist is very positive i have adhd and now im looking around to understand myself more
I feel like I have ADHD and have been told by my friends that I probably have it, but my family think I’m being stupid and that I shouldn’t get tested but I have many problems which effect me and find that it would be better to understand if I have ADHD or not
I find having a calender in my phone helps because it goes off at a certain time with a sound and the task written with the alarm so you have a visual and auditory reminder that you can take everywhere with you.
I don't have adhd but this video was so incredibly relatable that it's almost scary
Your voice helped the most❤
Thank you soooo much, I feel helped by you. I feel able to recognize my ability and more info about me.🎉❤😢😊
I have ADD another way to say I have inattentive ADHD. I've struggled all my life with chores, homework, remebering things, family and friends mostly. Biggest thing for me is to think before I do things, is just hard. Its not as bad as it use to be since I got thrown around a lot. However, people seem to forget im ADD they say "thats not your problem," or "your normal, perfectly fine," but I know its my ADD, they just dont know the whole picture of what ADD is. This video is the reassurance that im not just dumb, its just hard for me. It presented me with something to explain my problems with people, work, and so on.
this feels so close to home, but bc of H - hyperactivity symptom i've never considered it and neither have my therapist and psych-
they still might dismiss it 💔
My mom just told me that when I was younger my teachers wanted me tested for ADD but she just decided not too and just now told me
Omg i just watched a couple of these type of videos and i just recognize myself in all of these,i should need a diagnosis!!
Mine is well treated at 51 after 16 years struggling with breast cancer. Wonderful that it gets better once my ADHD gets better
I'm a woman with the hyperactive version of adhd and got my impulsivity misdiagnosed as a narcissism before 🥴
Glad it got corrected and I am actually getting correct treatment now so that I can properly study. I mean, the way how the brain works biochemically is just a very certain thing that you cannot make up.
People without adhd will for example get into adhd mode when taking speed, while adhd brains instead actually focus and calm down with speed.
Things like that make it very easy to be certain about the diagnosis
Hello:) Does anybody know whether adhd actually presents itself differently in women and girls than in men and boys? Or is it simply that the hyperactive type is more common in males and the inattentive type in females? Because in my knowledge, the symptoms in the video were merely the symptoms of inattentive type adhd rather than female adhd. I personally am male and have inattentive type adhd (I´m hopefully starting treatment soon) and almost all the symptoms of the video discribed me very acurately. Until recently, people also thought that that´s just my personality, because inattentive type adhd often flies under the radar in general, I think, not just in women and girls. However, it probably comforms better with the female stereotype / role model, which could be why it is even more overlooked in girls and women.
I wish you all luck in finding out what causes your problems (in case that´s the reason you clicked on this video) and getting the help you need and deserve!
Think it is more of a proponderance of hyperactive / inattentive symptoms. Whether the levels of those symptoms is related to how people are socialised is possible
“Just focus”
Alright, than we don’t you just not be ugly 😌
Yes to all of those questions.
After this video I think I might have ADHD. I said yes to all of the questions apart from one.
I noticed something about me is different from other people. I am either really shy or really REALLY energetic. I have trouble remembering things and getting things done especially when I am fine with it (for example I don't clean my room until it bothers me but I still have to).
I zone out A LOT and I am told I am very scatterbrained but I have to wait for me to be properly examined through and I might get a therapist soon❤
These are all things that I think might be symptoms
So ADHD is very specific to biology. Wow, that's amazing. Great to know. THX!
thanks for helping me figure out what is actually wrong with me. 🤗🌹
I thought Not to self diagnosis, but life itself is proving again and again that I most probably have adhd. I live in a community where people think mental health and disorders are a scam. There are no good doctors easily available either. So i will have to heal & deal with this myself while battling regular criticism and agression from my family and the people i know.
I’ve had a suspicion for a while that I might have ADHD, I’m hoping to actually get diagnosed sometime this year. My mom tells me that I’m just being delusional and that I don’t have it. It really hurts to hear her say that knowing that she won’t even get me diagnosed and that she’s just doubting me.
I have not been diagnosed with ADHD but I hope to get a screening. This video popped up on my fyp and it sounds so much like me.
I never want to be rude really but sometimes, I just can't focus. I say that I have the worst memory. Sometimes I go on rants for no reason. One times I was with my mom in the grocery store and every time we were in a new section, I went on a tangent about something. Sometimes I physically cannot focus. I can look at something but I won't learn it.
I basically just began to feel rage towards those people who keep telling me to study or work when I REALLY CANNOT. I don’t think it is excessively difficult to understand that my brain is not functioning as theirs do. I hate my situation,all these things I have to go through due to ADHD such as regulating or feeling emotions extremely intense, object blindness ,executive dysfunction and socially weak skills (that causes loneliness ,discrimination and depression) however people still keep telling me to do my best. Like HOW?
i've never heard of object blindness before. is that like for example, if my mom bought a new couch without me knowing about it, and i come home, walk into the living room and see the couch. but even if i technically see it, i don't process the fact that anything changed about it, until like a day later when she asks me what i think about the new couch and i realize the couch changed colors?
@@nony690 it’s actually not like that , for example let’s consider your example . In your example of course I do realize what’s new in our living room . Object blindness is more like for example , after I brush my hair if I won’t put my brush back to place where I can see it the next time I enter the bathroom, I won’t remember that I had a brush. It sounds very awkward I know but this is most likely to happen with the objects that I don’t use necessarily. Like a picture that my friend gave me and I put it into my drawer (as long as I won’t open my drawer I won’t see it so I will forget that I even had a picture like that in very short time). Another example could be there’s a pen in front of you but you just can’t see it because your brain is too busy with trying to manage the other stuff. Basically it’s like you’re almost blind so yeah.
Bro i relate to this so much. doing the same thing over and over expecting to get a different result is insanity. Nobody can make me get something done on my own because it’s barely ever happened. this is why we fail in school and in relationships. at this point medication is the only way for me
@@Blastoffxspace I dont really understand what you mean. If you place your hairbrush in a spot you cant see it but you walk into the bathroom with the intend to brush your hair, you will still remember you own a hairbrush right? You mightve forgot where you put it exactly but how could you forget you own it? Maybe I misunderstood and you mean that you just forget about it if you place it somewhere you cant see it. But that's with everything right? If you don't need to use it and you dont have any reason to think about your hairbrush then yeah obviously you're not thinking about your hairbrush and you just forget about it. People who dont have object blindness aren't thinking about their hairbrushes and all of the other objects they own all day long either. I'm really confused I'm sorry if I misunderstood what you meant
@@Blastoffxspace Wait I just googled it and I think I get it but I either misinterpreted your comment or you maybe meant something else or have a different definition for object blindness. But what I found was that you are aware of the fact that objects keep existing once theyre out of your vision, but you simply forget about them unless you see it again or hear a sound related to it or sth like that. So if you're boiling water to make pasta but you walk out of the kitchen for a minute, you might forget about it until you hear the water boil or see it when you walk into the kitchen for something else. so you're not really object blind but it's more just a type of forgetfulness
This is such a well done video! Thank you so much.
This is a nice video and it’s good at explaining the adhd in women but I forget if you specified that it’s some women who internalize it because my adhd is externalized with 99 presentile for hyperactivity and 88 percent inattentive
I have both symptoms for girls and boys even though I am a middle-aged women. Of course severity of the symptoms are much less as getting old but I still have tics sometimes when stressed.
I am female and I was diagnosed maybe around 11 years old maybe sooner. I don't remember getting diagnosed. I wasn't told about my diagnosis of adhd, I only knew of my dyslexia and dysgraphia. I found out 5 years ago when I was 20 when I suffered from depression and burn out. My mom found my old papers from my therapist.
I'm a woman, and I never went to find out if I actually have ADHD, I only had a couple of my psycholigists tell me I may have (low) ADHD but never stayed enough to be sure. Anyways, I did find some difficulties to focus (I also forget about stuff quite often) and manage my time, and I found myself having overwhelming racing thoughts and trouble to be friendly/sociable while feeling down. After having a long time of fighting with these things I came to the same exact conclusions as in the end of the video. Doing schedules, visual diagrams/ having visible notes is something I do everyday in order to keep up to date with my assignments and homework. And I always work a lot more focused after a good routine of exercise, it also helped me to keep away those overwhelming thoughts. Just so you know, if you take care of yourself and pay enough attention to your moods/frame of mind, you'll find what's more suitable for you to keep in the right track, and live a healthier and happier life all together. Howevery, if it only gets worse, don't be afraid to ask for help (a proffecional will always know what's best if you can't figure it out yourself)
Thank you very much really appreciated ❤❤❤❤
litterly how my homeroom teacher described me to my mom at a meeting :
she's zoning out and not paying atention (off in the clouds)
and always makes the same mistakes at details and basic stuff
also a few more times by other teachers
Okay, I really feel like I have ADHD, the thing is, I'm only 16, I live with my parents and sister, I don't know how to actually get an official diagnoses, and telling my parents that I might have ADHD, they would probably say something like, "You're overthinking it" "That happens to everybody" and "You're fine"
I’m a guy but all of these fit me pretty closely. Especially the hard to manage, racing thoughts. I feel like adhd in media is always portrayed as hyperactivity and the inability to sit still which while yes is in some people but for others it isn’t the case at all. I’ve always been a mellow person but mentally my minds always racing and I’m forgetful towards tasks and other things since my mind is always thinking about something. It’s like hyperactivity but on the inside haha. I’m not super surprised that hyperactive adhd is more common in guys though.
I got diagnosed at 29. I am still trying to understand myself three years later. I think it would have been so beneficial to have had this diagnosis as a teenager. I hope the medical field will understand that researching just men is not proper research.
Your thumbnail described my daily school day