How Long Should You Wait For Marriage After You Start Dating?
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Tamar is right. It doesn't take that long for a person 35 and up to know if they want to marry you. I was 33 when I started dating my husband. We started talking about marriage at four months and was engaged four months later (total of 8 months). Planned a big wedding so we didn't get married until a year later, but we've been married 22 years now. 😍
22 years is long time think about the women he had in those 22 years without you knowing 😂
@@ThePryorShow Sorry to disappoint you, but my husband has never cheated on me and that's a FACT.
@@twinsmom8 thank you for sharing 🙏🏽❤❤
Beautiful 🙌🏿💕
#SIMPLE!
I met my husband and married him in 6 weeks. That’s my boo for the last 18 years and counting. ❤ it all depends on the people, but a lot of folks just living in fear.
People are weird now lol
Bro what 6 weeks?!?
It wasn’t that strange to me, because my parents dated for 7 weeks, and have been married for 45 years and counting. You either want a married life, or you don’t.
You got that WAP
When you know you know. When they are the right one, that is it.
I met my husband when I was 40. We married and had a baby a year later. We both wanted to marry each other and have a family. Since we were older we were not trying to waste time. We have been together for 12 yrs. Marrying him was one of my best decisions in life. He is everything to me. I feel so Blessed to have a family with him.
We have to normalize having difficult, honest conversations. We grown! Being upfront should not be a deal breaker.
All of this! ❤
You said it many relationships skid around difficult conversations especially grown folks not all some.
She's a natural in this role. She has a good radio voice, engages, and has a lot of personality without being overbearing.
She's blessed, I wish I had a radio personality.
I been dating my girlfriend for over a year and I already know
She is the one I’m 34 no kids she has no kids and it’s time ;)
That’s so sweet, I wish y’all the best of luck!
😊❤Aww
Spanish....of course
Congratulations 💜
11 years together here still not married cause I don’t believe in marriage it’s just a piece of paper 📄
My husband was talking marriage 3 months in, we got engaged after 5 months and were married after 9 months. I was 37 turning 38 and he was close to 40, both with children from past relationships and clear on what we wanted from a relationship, partnership and a marriage.
My husband and I got engaged after 8 months and married 8 months later. And we were early 30s so I get this cause we wanted children too and knew we wanted each other so we made it happen!
Y'all got lucky.... 😂 I don't think that's the rule.
The older I get the less time I feel like I need to wait before getting marriage. Not because of time because as I get older I’ve become wiser, I know who I am and I am confident in my abilities to trust my gut and notice red flags early on
Is She AWARE of the WALL???? Wit Her OLD Goods!!!... good luck.... An I Love The One Song 🌹🌹🌹❤️
@@eddiedelarge it's funny you mention "the wall" because just the other day I saw a video on here of a 37-year-old Chad who doesn't want to be in the streets anymore and wants to start a family after having his dick in 200 women.
Shut up you just looking for a nine-figure dude
Yesss you better say it......
Yes Sir, I absolutely agree with you.
In my 20s, I'd wait for 2 years. 30+ - 6 Months.
I met my husband and was engaged in 6 months and married a year after that. My Mother who is a nurse said, don't let anyone run out your fertility clock.
I agree with Tamar. 6 to 12 months is good if you are over 30 years old. I think our society just is not as mature as we used to be which is sad. I got married when I was 24 and my wife was 25 (we are both 31 now). Would have gotten married sooner but I was still in school. Once you’re out of school and have a career, it shouldn’t take you too long to decide.
Envy: What does he do?
Charla: Nothing!
😂😂😂
The crazy part is that you can wait 10-12 yrs for someone, then y'all break up and then they go and with another person the 1st year or two of knowing them and do everything you wanted them to do... this happens a lot! I've seen this in my 45 yrs so many times in my life...
That's why I will never wait that long. At that point, a man doesn't want to marry you. You are a placeholder, and he's looking for something he perceives as better while wasting all of your youth.
@@destinymcgowan5328 That's a whole FACT!
This is why you shouldn't wait 10-12 years for someone if you want marriage.
@@destinymcgowan5328 it’s not about the wait it’s the person you’re waiting for
@@bantubrat343 If the person you are waiting for isn't worth it, then what are you waiting for?
I met my husband and 2 weeks later we KNEW KNEW that we were supposed to be each other's spouses. 6 months later we were married. Still together by the grace of God 13 years.
I like these 3! They should make her permanent…. The chemistry and vibration is just right 👌🏽
I am 54 husband is 52...it didn't take long for us to get married...met in 97, he proposed in 98 and we were married in 99...24 years of marriage and nothing takes long
Men KNOW what they want and they will only do what we, as women, allow. You ever wonder why a man can date a women for 5 or 10 years and never propose? She even has a few children for him. Yet, as soon as they break up, he’s married within a year to his new chick. He knew he didn’t want to marry woman #1. But SHE ALLOWED him to waste her time and he married who he really wanted.
My husband made it known very early on that he was in search of his wife. I respected that. We dated for 1 year. He proposed a few months into year 2. 💍 This year will be 9 years that we’ve been married, who years together.
At my big age, if we aren't talking marriage, we aren't really together🤷♀️
How old are you?I'm 34 I don't have time to waster either.
Tamar for the BREAKFAST CLUB PERMANENTLY !!!
Waiting at lest a year (4 seasons, all the holidays and maybe even a major life event) is a reasonable amount of time to decide if you’d like to marry someone. But then you’ll need at least another 4-6 months of runway until the wedding. See how they are as a Fiancé and not just a boyfriend/girlfriend. Hopefully, before the wedding day, you’ll have a fuller picture of the person, their life and their family.
I 100% agree.
Charlemagne and Envy dodged theeee fkkkk out that body count question 😂
😂
Two to three years after you start dating. Once engaged then one year until the wedding. No long drawn out engagements.
Sex before marriage is sin. Any relationship that starts with fornication, chances of that relationship ending in marriage is near zero and chances of the two remaining married if they do , is minimal. Any man or woman who wants to be sexually immoral is only confessing to you that they are under the influence of evil spirits. So RUN
Amen!! 💯💯
Folks don't wanna hear this unfortunately 😔
“Let’s talk about the financialssss” 😂💕 love Tamar
It doesn't matter if you're older or younger. It takes time to really get to know someone. I'd say about six months to judge their character another six months to know if you're fully compatible and then a year after to know if everything you've learned about that person remains consistent. So two years.
Relationships and Chemistry are confirmed in seasons. Physical ones and Emotional Ones. I'm not giving my blessing if you don't know how your partner deals with stress AND success.
@@KamikazeSP06 Love your answer❤🎉
@@KamikazeSP06 That part. Been there done that. Got married after a year and what a nightmare.
Never ask a divorced person this question 😂
As an adult, if you can't have an honest conversation about life, spirituality, sex (stds, safe sex, etc) then we should not be together in a relationship 🤷. One man was surprised/ offended when I asked go to the doctor for std tests, results because I just got my results negative. He was like what? 🤷...I enjoy it however I am not going to die for it because you can't be honest. No way....❌ Needless to say, let's be real. Plus my daddy said one year is fine for 4 seasons of life...winter, spring, summer and fall. My daddy said a man knows within 1 to 6 months if the "one".
You can have an honest conversation about sex but body count shouldn’t be apart of the count of the convo.
@@jdarden11 body count was not mentioned in my statement. Most are honest abt their true count while we as ladies need to be smart and ask abt sexual health and responsibility.
Idk if Tamar should brag on her discernment like that. Her history with her exes ain’t that great.
At all but most women NOT ALL don’t think they was the problem in the relationship so she don’t care
Tamar that's so wild
People grow. I believe discernment and wisdom grows with you (if you allow it). We don’t just come out the womb with it. And I think women are taught to doubt that little voice. It really takes growing older and praying for it to nurture intuition and discernment.
Somebody said it 😄
Haven't we only seen 2 exes?
Tamar is fire 🔥🔥🔥🔥 she deserves a spot with you guys she would make your ratings go through the roof she's a natural 🔥🔥🔥
My husband proposed to me after 6 months and we got married 6 months later and been together for close to 7yrs. I was 29 and my husband was 32. It was Odd to our friends and family but it felt right! We have a 2yr old and yes there's ups and downs because although we were married we still had to get to know each other which again is Odd to some people but it works out when yall both want the same thing. Past 30 we GROWN GROWN stop playing lol Men know right away.
Depends on the relationship. Some marriages ended years before the divorce happens. But if it was sudden, heal first so you don’t bleed all over other people you want to use as a rebound
Tamar is talking about once you’re engaged it’s a year until marriage…the guys keep saying it like you have a year of dating then marriage..that’s two different things and two different timelines but good convo.
I hope they keep Tamar on the show permanently. The energy was dope!
When you are 35 yo plus it can be as short as 6 months to know if you ask the right questions, have the similar values and are transparent!
There is no right or wrong answer to this question. It depends on the people involved, as does everything else in life 🤷🏾♀️
They hung up on the guy that want to save sex for marriage????
For some reason I really like Tamar. This is reminding me how much I enjoyed her on The Real
Everybody has a “timeframe”. But I’m not putting my all into someone who can’t wait if necessary. 6-12 months ain’t enough time to know everything about a person and be their forever. That’s just love without logic. Which is fine, but that’s not a risk everyone is willing to take. If you just “have to” be married, find someone with that same mindset. But you should want more than just the title of marriage imho.
This comment!!!
A year is definitely enough time to know what a person is about. Now I would never suggest walking down the isle with sad person as I believe you should do counseling or something before marriage. But if you don’t know someone well enough after a year of dating to even consider the possibility of marriage you’re just wasting that other persons time assuming they made it clear they were looking for commitment.
You can date someone for 10 years and still need more time to get to know them. There is never enough time. But there are a few key things that you will find out within 3 months that should guide whether that is your forever person or not
I think 6 - 12 months is more than enough time but I don’t think it’s about ‘timeframes’ like you said but it’s about if you want to be married or not or if you want to marry that person or not. It’s quite a straightforward thing that people complicated. If you want to marry that person you’re already committed to doing the work so whether I get married after 3 months or 3 years it’s whatever. The commitment is there
She’s an idiot. She’s talking to common non rich folk. Imagine people listening to her nonsense and letting go of a good man because he can’t afford a ring. Only to leave for a rich man that gives everything and cheats like hell. SMH.. a single woman giving advice is cute.
I need Tamar as a talk show host or radio host again I just love her !!!😭😫 I think we can all agree lol
Tamar is smart and HILARIOUS. SHE WILL call out nonsense but she's also compassionate. She would make a good addition to TBC for sure!!!!!
People have to be ready for marriage...it's not about a timeframe...it's simply is the person ready for the commitment, are they in right head space, are they financially stable etc. My husband and I dated for YEEEAAARRSSS...Bur we started young and finally got married in our 30s. We both had to grow up and we both needed to live. Break up to make ups. Once we were engaged we were married within 7 months. But if I had started dating him in my 30s I would have NEVA waited as long because by then you need to have your life together and know what you want and if not move on.
Then they shouldn't be dating if they not in the right head space. My opinion is that's toxic. Even if they're upfront and just wanna have sex...leaving your spirit in several people is wild. Not a right or wrong answer just my opinion 🤷
The fact that they said “damn” when she brought up finances. Why are black women expected to settle? Other races don’t! Being on the same page in a relationship is important.
I don't think personal finances should be fully disclosed until engagement. If they seem financially and independent that's a good sign
From meeting to proposal, I feel like a year is a good time, I see you in every season but the thing is have these intentional conversations and meaningful relationships over the year don't just be dating with no intention because you won't learn much about each other. And I wouldn't say "if we aren't married in a year then I'm leaving" but after that year I will need to evaluate to see if this is something I want to continue.
No
I think it should be 2 to three years.
Met my husband July 2005, married May 2006 and almost 19 years later we still in love and still getting to know each other because everyday we evolve into things and emotions and decision making based on circumstances in Life. Life has a way of showng you areas of your life you dudnt even knew existed. .We have 6 kids and none together. My stipulation was if you want kids, let's not waste each other's time because im not having anymore.. Say what you mean, mean what you say. Tamar makes very valid points. If a person gets mad with you based on your requirements then they are not the one and if you get mad based on their requirements, you are not the one and if no one is willing to compromise and come to new requirements based on what you both can agree on then don't waste each other's time.
My husband and I were together for 6 years before he proposed. But we met in college. If this was right now at 29 (we’ve been married 11 months) and I met someone, I’d want to be engaged within 1-2 years.
When I tell you I LOVE Tamar on this show. Please keep her.
Naw. She good
Tamar & Jess have been the best.
ME TOO!!!!
I'm not waiting on him as long as it takes. Lady bye! you say I'm not going to lose him is indication of fear not love because you've invested so much time you don't want to admit you wasted it. Like Tamar said, you got to love yourself enough to let it go 💕
Divorce lawyers loving this video 😂😂
So, u shut ppl down because they don’t share the same opinion. Wow … stand firm on wat u believe in ppl!
Take your time, finding long-term marriage.
I so appreciate the clips that we can view. A suggestion. Please make the whole show viewable. The facials, the nonverbal communications are what we totally miss by just hearing a podcast. Viewing takes this show to a whole different place of enjoyment. Thank you.
Agreed.
Insightful
My man is on the timeline right now. He has until June and if there's no proposal I'm out. We're coming up on 3 years!!!
I'm curious and would like to know if he knows this. Have you discussed a time table? I see how it could help but I also see how it could backfire because he could feel pressured.
This has to be a test run to add Tamar to the show, LOVE, LOVE ❤️her with you guys.
I’d say 3 years. By then pretenses are done, family has been met and you can see how they move in different spaces. Marriage should be entered into lightly.
WOWW hung up on a man because he's speaking truth and the word in the Bible THIS WORLD IS OVER !!!
Yea that industry is apart of the gay agenda
Fax they sellouts
Ive been with my bf 6 years, we are both in our 30s now. Marriage isn’t a priority for us right now. Everybody is different.
Do you want it? If so... and some kids, freeze the eggs.
@@janedough6410 yes im fortunate that my insurance pays for it but thats not the case for others
Never let your husband get in the way of finding your soulmate. ❤
Awww I asked for Tamar and y’all got her 😂❤
If you know you’re with the one you want to be with forever, I say it’s worth a wait. BUT, it depends on a couple factors. Eg, the following:
you were both married before. My now husband and I were together 8 years before we tied the knot but it was number 2 for both of us and we were cautious at first about getting remarried. I think it also depends if you want kids. That’s when I say the clock should really be ticking but don’t settle for someone else that isn’t who you really want because they’re willing to get married sooner 🤷♀️
She says people want to sit there but no one is sitting. Don't listen to her young women, she's gonna make you unhappy.
I enjoyed this interview. Tamar fits well with these two gentlemen. Her approach is well spoken. A sense of comfort which is attractive. like how she is stating Facts unafraid. Always liked her personality. Its what makes her uniquely her.
I would love her to be a permanent part. ❤
@@RoyalMasterpiece agreed!
Well she’s a permanent host on Dish nation now
Yea she’s coming off real confident & comfortable. She’s a vet. Been in the industry forever and was the Beyoncé of ‘The Real’
It depends on the couple and what works for them. My big sis met her now husband in 2006 through MySpace had their first kid 2010 their second kid 2013, got married 2016 and had their last kid 2017. They just bought they're second home and are still going strong.
That’s beautiful. A social media love story! Congratulations!!
This will not get a lot of likes because Main stream media is against it I SALUTE THE FAMILY FOR STAYING STRONG THRU THE TOUGH TIMES GOD BLESS AND KEEP GOING🙏🏼🙏🏼
She got lucky
This isn't a good story. Your big sis met someone and became a baby mama twice before getting married 10 years later?
@@elpadrinobaby1902 What is there to like about it?
Everyone timeline is different. I would never get engaged or married after a year. Hell after two years. I need to see you in multiple seasons of life first. I need to know how you act when you’re broke, have money, mad, sad, happy. What’s the rush?
Bingo
I agree with Tay Tay 100% and I’m 23 !!!! A man knows if he want to be with you it don’t take years !! If you young and not married that’s understandable but the guy knows if he would marrry you or not once y’all get a little older and mature. And being engaged for years is ridiculous I would never 👎🏾
There's so set timeline or rule. It all depends on the couple. It's also weird to give someone an ultimatum and rush them into something they didn't want to do on their own.
Right. Tamar sounds weird. It's giving she'll either marry for money or just be single for ever!!! IMO.
Wrong. You should know if you wanna marry within a year maybe even less
@@TBlevins2222 that’s how you end up divorced fast. You meet someone than within a year you’re married is crazy too me. Keep in mind we are in different time, you gotta get to know someone 100% before marrying and a year may not be enough time.
You just said it depends on the couple so if that couple feels like it’s right for them that’s their decision as a couple.
If either party feels “pressured” they should communicate that. If their partner does not receive that information well then MAYBE you should like Tamar said “continue to date” while you figure that out or revaluate the relationship. Do you really want to MARRY someone who doesn’t listen and reassure you when you communicate your feelings to them about a big life changing decision you two are making?
@Rob The Lion bruh a year is more than enough time to get to know someone. In that year you'll have your first fights and everything. Also you should have a strong connection off the rip
Why do people even have to get married? We’ve been together 17th, 2 kids and a house. I don’t care to be married.
If you’re reading this comment section feeling pressured then read this. This is the biggest decision you will ever make. And whilst it may take one person 6 months to know what they need to know, it doesn’t mean that it’ll take you that long too. Take as long as YOU need, don’t let someone else’s pressure drive you
Depends on age but no more than 4+ years. Big waste of time not being on the same page getting your financial together and planning out kids (if so).
How long should you wait? Until you’ve seen a person through all their seasons - when their mad, happy, sad, pressured - and if a person has money, they should wait even longer 🤷🏽♀️ until there is a proper meeting of the minds… timeframe wise it should be at least 2 years on the minimum before anything is legally permanent
Crazy how they hung up on dude for keeping it 100
Faxx
Exactly
People might want to SIT at the table; how many trying to KEEP the table tho is the question 🤷🏾♀️
She went from dating to engagement like which one is it?? How long do you wait to be proposed to from dating or how long do wait being engaged… like sis just tired of being rejected: that’s what it seems like to me. She just too anxious and demanding, there ain’t nothing attractive or complementing about that. Just go with the flow and if you don’t have time wait til GOD sends you his gift of UNCONDITIONAL LOVE
Cuz bby girl already got harsh conditions
Depends where you are in life, standards, expectations/religion, age and how long you're willing to wait. I think vested women with children tend to stay the long haul. Those older in age the shortest. Men who pursue needs: 6 mo. - 1 yr.
I’m a single mom of one and I will not wait long. Desperate women, childfree or not, stay for the long haul. It’s usually daddy issues, low self esteem, male worshipping or just too in love.
Ya’ll did good today ! Clips was up early AF go enjoy the weekend !!!
😆Yeah... because yesterday someone was sleeping, absent or ill. Wrong images with the segment.
Exactly there is no set timeline. And if people listen to others it makes them feel they need to stick to some timeline or something is wrong. That’s why so many people end good relationships prematurely or some even marry too early just so they can fit someone else’s timeline and requirements so they can feel normal. Just do you and don’t just conform to someone else’s opinions
It really depends on the couple because you could have a person who is ready and the other one might feel they still need to fine tune some things about themselves.So they may extend the dating process.But if the both parties have things in order some say they knew the person was the "one" in 2 weeks some say 4months.It really just depends.I think it also depends on the person's maturity level too.
The clock starts >> Tamar is perfect for this show 😂
She said 5-6 months lmaoooo okay
Tamar is nuts 🤣
Here's the thing our parents generation and grandparents they didnt have drawn out relationships and then got married. My parents dated for 6 months and married right after been together for over 40 years. Ive seen the good the bad and the ugly throughout those years. It obviously took not much for them to say in that short matter of time that they wanted to get married and to each other. To each is own the length of time because marriage is supposed to be forever but its not all the time people as they get older grow and sometime not together so what youre feeling at 22 you not feeling at 42 and thats why communication is important. People get comfortable and content and take advantage of what they have. Dont take anyone for granted cause they could be here today gone tomorrow whether by death or by divorce.
N the first caller zesty tryna act like he ain’t zesty 🔥🔥🔥😂😂😂
Great topic! On average, it's two years but it really depends how much you have experienced with your partner. A year is WAY TOO FAST...
Y'all soft asf. Hung up on ol boy cuz you don't like who he is.
Ong lgbt hate had them salty
@@vinnyfromthehill facts
Fax
I need Tamar as a regular host. Shes funny af
The new maturity of Tamar Braxton is BEAUTIFUL!!!!! I love it!!!!
I feel people forget; it’s up to the person itself. Either you down to wait or not. Ain’t no set rules on how long; just make sure you’re fully committed to that life altering change in not only yours but your husband/wife life too. As for Tamar, she will find that person when it happens but when that GENTLEMAN IS READY! Can’t pressure someone into the marriage just enjoy being with you and your child fr.
Yeah I agree on the no pressure thing but tbh that’s why women should leave after a year of no talking about marriage at all. Like if you aren’t even thinking about it what are we doing here? I think that’s fair to both parties.
Tameka is the missing piece for the breakfast club 🎉
Woman like tameka will stay single 🤣😂🤣 with her money she better go buy a man 😂🤣🤣
@@coraboswell3652 Who is Tameka?
Not to be rude but I think Tamar is giving selfish advice from only her perspective.
Also I don’t think people think the way she does.
Also in my little opinion I can see why she is no longer married
Her ex husband was literally abusive bro. Also it’s selfish to waste years of peoples time. No one has infinite life after all
There’s no real time limit on marriage because every couple is different..Either you wait out the time or move along
@@dinkyboss Every relationship is different, so I don't ever think a one size fit all rule should be applied to a timeframe. I think it's more of a personal thing of what your timeline is.
All that from a 16 minute clip? She got you pressed fr 🤣
Not surprising. She's a Classic Narcissist!!!!!
Ok at the end of the day, what was the question at hand here? How long do you date and wait for the proposal? Or how long do you wait to get married after the proposal? Cuz no one seemed to be on the same page🤔
Depends on the individual, standards, where you are in life... etc. What are your values, customs? That factors into your time line. People with religious values & cultural customs have expectations within a particular time frame; so one needs to analyze their life, beliefs and apply accordingly. If you don't have any, then most likely it's when you feel it's ready.
its funny how fast they moved off the first caller! hahahaha! all he was stating was doing it by the Book; the Word; the Biiiiiiible! hahaha!
16:23 Tamar is there thinking "wtf are these 2 clowns talking about?"
ya wanna have a conversation but will hang up on people with different options lol..
I love her on here !!❤️✨
5:52 Rriigghhtt!! I peeped that too 💯👀🥴😷
Don’t get why they would hang up on the first caller that’s just his opinion
LGBT community like what they like and straight people like what they like
I don’t get it
Depends on your age. I agree that after a certain age you should know pretty quick. If there's no proposal..... Well they don't want to marry you and they are just killing time until they find the one they will marry
Depends on the age and how you both view the world 💯 it is simple. There is no set number, people control the success of a marriage
Y’all don’t even value marriage tho
A year to propose. 2 years before exchanging vows. Gotta know what I'm getting myself into.
Thought it was Wendy in the thumbnail I was proud of charla for a second 😂😂😂😂
If over 30 within 1 year I would expect at least a verbal agreement that marriage was coming but by 2 years I would need a proposal. Not staying engaged more than 1 year.
EVERY DAY, they gotta tell ppl to take em off bluetooth. Why, if you listen regularly? 🙄
This is such an important conversation, but the fact that they cut the first guy off just because he has a different opinion from theirs is just off-setting.
Tamar WILL never find a man to wife her up
The last person ppl should be listening too is Tamar and clearly the callers agree. She is wrong about this. These situations vary