I think, time is associated with too much pressure and stress, which results in broken relationships plus many people are too focused on themselves than thinking about, what they can give their partner; life has to be in balance of taking and giving; I appreciate being able to give more than I take.
Attention Appreciation Affection Acceptance I was starved for physical affection in my marriage Now, in the new relationship I am in my 5 senses like him 🥰
Currently in marriage counseling because we had plenty physical but never built a foundation of trust and respect. We have a very transactional marriage and after 10 years it is empty and depressing.
Tq Jonathon. I kept telling my person "I Like U, U Matter, We're Important & I Just Love You"... Ahh. Great feeling I got. Tqvm for these beautiful vibes., 💕💖😍
I feel the need to bring up a topic that I think is extremely important when it comes to relationships and commitment issues when compared to previous generations. I believe we are in a transition phase which would explain why so many people feel lost and not able to communicate and connect. Previous generations did not have it "easier" as we might like to think. For example my parents (I'm 43) and my grandparents never divorced but their relationships were not happy ones. They lived in a time where they were literally stuck with each other. A lot of women would tell you back in the day that they just couldn't leave their husbands because they were not able to make enough money or they were smothered by the expectations of their families. Relationships nowadays are in this major transition where financially we are able to choose our partners as opposed to take the first person who comes along and fingers crossed we stay together and the abuse doesn't happen or isn't "that bad". It wasn't that long ago that the dating scene was a completely different entity. I don't think it would take as much skill to navigate the old scene because the standards were much lower and the life stress was higher compared to now which created bonds not due to love but necessity. Because of our countries financial successes (I'm in canada, many countries are included in this category) we have a lot more choice but we have no idea how to look inside ourselves to determine what we really want, then to communicate that to others and develop enough empathy to make real connections. This is probably the first time in our human history that these skills are this important. Just an opinion, to chew on....
I agree. I know has my mother had other options and beliefs she most likely wouldve separated. My MIL divorced but was and has been made feel guilty by her own mother and sisters all her life because of it. Very true in those days women were stuck in a marriage. I refuse to be and have that.
Thank you Jonathon! You always nail it every time. This video resonates perfectly for me, and I believe your heart-centered, radical honesty is what the dating world needs now.
"I think I love you so what am I so afraid of I'm afraid that I'm not sure of a love there is no cure for..." 🎵🎶 Funny show, awesome music! I LIKE YOU, JONATHON! YOU'RE AUTHENTIC, INTELLIGENT, AND ENTERTAINING‼️ Thank you for all you do to show the real you and encourage us to do the same and continuously work on becoming our best selves in a leaning in, inclusive way. So, rather than say, "Have a blessed day!" I'm going to ask you what you (3 hours behind and still asleep) are planning to do after your workout? Stay safe and keep smilng, my friend! 🤗🙏🧡🇨🇦
I met the kindest most awesome man, about 8 years ago, but circumstances forced us apart, now we reconnected! He’s now invited me to take a trip with in a few weeks! Not only is he kind but he’s handsome and a hard worker. Hoping I can play it a little cool until I know exactly where I stand. Thank you for your informative Ideas.
Maybe you can give me some advice. What is the best way to handle my situation. I dated a guy for 6 months and over time realized he was just playing games. ( truth is I was going to break it off with him, but he ended up ending it with me) I feel like he really got over on me and I’m a little pissed about that. The problem is he’s my neighbor so it’s uncomfortable to see him now. ( coming and going and working out in his yard etc….) He got what he wanted and now he just ignores me. I’m doing academy award acting over here. I am living my best life. Going out with friends and keeping a smile on my face… but How do I lose the fantasy of just walking up to him and giving him a good slap in the face? Lol My brother has a name for these guys that look good, talk a good game but in the end there’s nothing of real substance. “An ice cream with no flavor” ( I think of this every time I see him… that’s part of what keeps the smile on my face)
I tell my significant other ,"Thank you for being you" I dont expect him to change .He is charmingly stubborn .He melts my "stubborn self " I am so greatful he is in my life.John ,stay the real,honest ,no holds barred ,informative on relationship advice .You resonate !
Great video! I am only on 1 dating app because I see the same guys all over place. I just feel like men are only looking for chemistry and sex! If I ask deep questions , or even give a man a compliment, they get defensive/mean/ghost . Why is that? Insecurity?
Yes, I like you very much too, think you give really super advice, thoughtful information , and would love to have you more accessible for good conversation …. You emphasize Reality ..not a fantasy or a dream .
I feel the connection with your content 😆 I’m in my early 50s Beautiful single F. Loving myself first and then if anything left, I may share it with the right Candidate
Another episode of excellence Jonathon. I really like your vision and have learned so much from your channel. Thank you for sharing your knowledge. I hope 2022 is great for you.
Hi Jonathan, I'm a big fan of your work. Here's something I'd like you to ponder and at some point address. You say the majority of people lack relationship skills, and that the high divorce rate (and misery levels for those who stay married) are proof of that. I tend to agree, for the most part. However, it's likely that there's something else at play here that is more destructive to relationships. Structural issues. By that I mean the way we *do* relationships-- namely we cohabit. Married or unmarried. Doesn't make a difference. I believe that this in and of itself sets up the conditions that then lead to so-called bad relationship skills. This is where the boredom and the taking each other for granted starts. This is where the mystery and desire end. Where the fighting and turning into roommates or siblings starts. Where the effort, romance, and communication die. For most couples. I know living together is what the world expects from couples, but I find it to be the graveyard of true love, and the genesis of subpar relationship skills. Isn't it funny how everyone's relationship skills are pretty good when they're still in the initial phases and living apart? Maybe it's because the distance and uncertainty brings out the best in us. Maybe it makes us FEEL like putting in effort, like doing romance. Just a thought. Would love your insight. Merry Christmas.
It'll be interesting to hear what his thoughts are on this. I agree with what you said and would never want to live with anyone again as I'm more than happy living on my own and having my own space.I have many friends who are not living with their partners- they have separate homes and it's working a treat for them 👌🏾.We can still have deeply loving,emotionally mature and committed relationships whether we live together or not 😊😇
Hence why I don’t believe in living together before marriage. It is silly when couples who have only been together for a few months move in together. It just seems like they’re doing it out of convenience in need of a roommate
Jonathon, this is a great video. I agree with the four A's you talk about in this video and also appreciate you being open and sharing your own experiences with us including your current relationship. I have learned a great deal from watching your videos and am very grateful I first discovered you here on TH-cam in the summer of this year. I know I still have a lot to learn and grow in my own life following the most tumultuous years that I have ever personally experienced. Thank you again for your wisdom, dating and life advice, book recommendations, and for always speaking and sharing freely from the deepest part of your heart. ❤ By the way, I also love your Partridge Family shirt and Finding Nemo mug! ❤😊 🐦 🐠❤ All The Best to You and Your Loved Ones in 2022! - Catherine
This was all the stuff we did the first few month . I always said really like you. I didn’t care if we drove in his “apocalyptic truck “ as he put it or the Benz. We can still say all this and build men up from a genuine place and he still said “ I can’t give you what you want “ he’s scared of getting close to people but still likes to see me once every few months 🙄
I head a sentence" I like You" a lot of times, and many other nice things, and was given attention, and i appreciated them also, I was sure we are building sth. I was following your advices.. and then than they just dissapeared because only wanted a sex ...i dont get polish men..
My Husband of 47 years passed away 5 months ago and I'm so lost and miss him so much,his hugs , his reassurance that everything will be OK. But now I have nothing and I don't know how to start over. I went out last Saturday by myself to a Bar an Grill and it was fun , only men just want sex Nothing else and I'm not ready for that. I got free drinks though. I'm not sure there is someone out there for me ,but I like to dance ,and for now that's OK Even if I'm dancing by myself.
Last effort and " I like you" to another guy was disappointment in nearly 24h..since then I become a lion not a lioness..that guy is in your scale of 20% of sick ones! After that I found your videos...I was just stuck in time( marriage) and I couldn't see a red flags..I was sweept away, live at first sight
@@JonathonAslay I am very sorry to hear this as it sounded so promising.Maybe the timing is not right for Minnie M but I think it's a big loss for her- I truly do.I have always thought that the beautiful,intelligent,kind and talented lady who made you that wonderful mug, would be a great match 😉
I’m sorry, but if there’s any consolation, this is why I believe you are the best coach. You are in the trenches with us and have empathy for many of our experiences 😔
You are losing me you're going on and on too long you need to just get to the point you got to shorten your conversation little bit because you going to lose a lot of people
Not sure why some women will like a man, say they respect him, etc. and yet then want him to change this or that about himself as the relationship progresses. In my current relationship he tells me he feels safe and accepted as if in near continual disbelief. Jonathon, when you used the term provider/protector it made me wonder if you are familiar with Alison Armstrong's work.
Thanks, Jonathan! This was such a needed-to-know post! I love your content and all you do.. You are an amazing soul. I feel your passion to share and help people. You unlike others move with love and light without being forceful and money-hungry. You are loved and God sent. ( I LIKE YoU JONATHAN)💛 🤗✌🏽 ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ love and light! ° ~ namaste ~ °
Recently dated a man with the qualities you listed blendable lifestyles, similar values, easy to spend time with, similar beliefs. I thought it was going somewhere as he was attentive for 3 months and I equally invested time with him. He talked about future things to do together, helping me with small repairs around my home - then boom he pulled back. I was okay at first thinking he was working through something. Reached out a couple of time and no return call or text. I am baffled. The time we spent together seemed so easy, fun. He did not make advances so I figured he was taking it slow and getting to know each other and I am good with that also. 🤷♀️ Last time I saw him we had a great evening. Then gone 👻. WT????
Same here. Ghosted 3 times in 6 months. When I reminded myself 'it's not me, it's him' and just gave him time to work it out in his head, kept living my life as I wanted... It became so much easier. Currently, he's 'friend zoned' me so that's all he gets in return. He's coming back in but it's on his time. I'll be ok either way. A big part of it is realizing your self worth.
@@tknwindsorful I am not sure would let him back in. I dated this guy once before and he did the same kind of behavior. This is the second time he has friend zoned me. Letting him back in is not an option for him. How are things on your end?
My situation is a unique one. I needed a place to live. I went on Craigslist looking for a room to rent. Also I was very vulnerable because I haven't dated in 22 years due to two failed marriages. I wasn't willing to take the chance that the third time would be the charm. On the second night of living in my new home the owner/roommate asked me if I would sleep with him. I told him no. He kept asking me the next two nights. I gave into him because I was so lonely and had been for 22 years. I was honest with him after that night we first got together like, you just mentioned. I told him it's been 22 years since I've been with a man. So, he knew I was vulnerable. He told me that I shouldn't have told him that because immediately following my honesty he took full advantage of delicate state and took advantage of me. So, this was, definitely a case where honesty was bad. Just thought id let you know that sometimes honesty up front is not always a good idea.
Thank you so much, Sir Jonathan. You help me a lot. Thank you for teaching us to have our own standard, your my inspiration to become someone who I am to be right now. Thank you for the self-love. And sharing the best of all to all of us. ❤️ Godbless, Sir.
I like this setting. Your voice is a nice volume. Some of your other videos I have to turn off because you’re kind of yelling. You’re passionate about your topics so I understand, but I prefer a lower voice volume. Love your shirt!!
Johnathon, I think You are a sweetheart. My fiance's tried so hard to get me to fall in love as deeply as he did, and now that I have, he has cut out foreplay, kissing and romance..and for 3 weeks now after 3 months it like we are back to square 1 and I know he's got intimacy issues about his freedom, being a retired Navy Sailor ect..but, I've seen him just go for broke with the pursuing me, the fabulous dates, he even bought me a gorgeous diamond engagement ring..now he wants to cool things off when everything was just almost perfect?? I am so frustrated..please advise because I'm madly in love with this wonderful man, just am afraid he never will marry me..please help...much love and thanks!
After 3 months now, we are back to square 1? What do you mean...was he like this before already...? What made him pursue you so madly? Could be sex was the main motive? Although if he gave you an engagement ring I'd think he's serious about you, looks like he's getting cold feet for some reason. Have you been getting on in other areas ..like having computable lifestyles etc. Sometimes the initial attraction can wear off and reality sets in...maybe he thinks it was all too fast and he needs to slow it down to make sure you are the "one".
Could your fiance possibly be a Narcissist?? Sorry to mention this but this is how they operate. Get you to really fall for them then withold sex/affection. For your sake I hope I'm wrong.
May be people what ppl do is they stop from learning People need to learn how to live beautifully and not just wait to die . Some people just want what they feel best for them . Some ppl just dont know what responsibilty is. Be well and stay happy JA . Don't be afraid to show your feelings to her your sweetheart, express. Touch has a healing power. I'm a touchy person 🤗
Hi, I told him that. Told him I appreciated him, I appreciated the encouragement he gave me. I did the same with him, I tried to give him positive thoughts and encouragement. He told me he cared for me deeply, I showed him I cared for him deeply. He told me I represented safety, security, stability, love and I was home. He cheated on me, with a friend.
My God you are so right Jonathon. It's true ,man & women ,are Emotional immature..but my problem ,is exactly this i find many man , Emotional immature, to my Standards, i just walk away, & allways make them fell good about themselves, & say I'm the one who is not ready for a relationship. Coz i have no time.,to educate an adult child..we all been true Challenges, Important learn & from grow,
Thinking this channel has great advice but still puts women in the position of being the responsible & emotionally intelligent adult. Possible you can do a real service for good women & relationships if you call out men to change too....not women to say the "right" thing to get them to think about us? Perhaps advice on being a real man who is emotionally intelligent worthy of a good relationship? For once...balance it out...otherwise you change little and create more of an imbalance between emotionally healthy women willing to do the relationship work and self reflection and childish men. Nobody calls for men to step up.
I do not look for a date in my invironment cause of one significant reason:Most of the people are stupid🙂🙂and there is no chance for me to fall into one,whom I know.It should be stranger,so at least me to fantasize that he is cool..and I even do not want to get to know him😆😆😆-that's little guarantee the connection will survive longer....👍👍
I been to a lot of dating advice sites. You are the first one that doesn’t give advice on how to play a stupid game. A person knows when advice is genuine and truthful. You ROCK!😊
Thank you for being you so REAL! You are refreshing and I have just starting meeting men online and I am already using your tips. I have ordered 8 dates and self love.
You make so much sense and I wish I had known about you and your videos before I started dating some years ago....and possibly saved getting hurt several times! Thank you so much for what you do! Btw, I loved the Partridge Family too...where can I get that shirt? LOL
OMG!! You rant on like a girl. Just start the topic, I click on a video based on the title, but then a few minutes into the video I forget why I even clicked on the video because you rant on. I loose interest and end up clicking away.
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I think, time is associated with too much pressure and stress, which results in broken relationships plus many people are too focused on themselves than thinking about, what they can give their partner; life has to be in balance of taking and giving; I appreciate being able to give more than I take.
Attention
Appreciation
Affection
Acceptance
I was starved for physical affection in my marriage
Now, in the new relationship I am in my 5 senses like him 🥰
Amen...
Currently in marriage counseling because we had plenty physical but never built a foundation of trust and respect. We have a very transactional marriage and after 10 years it is empty and depressing.
Me too. Was he an intj?
I’m starved too but feel responsible.
@@hedynoble7712 I would ask if he was a narcissist.
Tq Jonathon. I kept telling my person "I Like U, U Matter, We're Important & I Just Love You"... Ahh. Great feeling I got. Tqvm for these beautiful vibes., 💕💖😍
You are so welcome
The old adage now comes to my mind"guit looking for love and it comes to you"
💖
I feel the need to bring up a topic that I think is extremely important when it comes to relationships and commitment issues when compared to previous generations. I believe we are in a transition phase which would explain why so many people feel lost and not able to communicate and connect. Previous generations did not have it "easier" as we might like to think. For example my parents (I'm 43) and my grandparents never divorced but their relationships were not happy ones. They lived in a time where they were literally stuck with each other. A lot of women would tell you back in the day that they just couldn't leave their husbands because they were not able to make enough money or they were smothered by the expectations of their families. Relationships nowadays are in this major transition where financially we are able to choose our partners as opposed to take the first person who comes along and fingers crossed we stay together and the abuse doesn't happen or isn't "that bad". It wasn't that long ago that the dating scene was a completely different entity. I don't think it would take as much skill to navigate the old scene because the standards were much lower and the life stress was higher compared to now which created bonds not due to love but necessity. Because of our countries financial successes (I'm in canada, many countries are included in this category) we have a lot more choice but we have no idea how to look inside ourselves to determine what we really want, then to communicate that to others and develop enough empathy to make real connections. This is probably the first time in our human history that these skills are this important.
Just an opinion, to chew on....
I agree. I know has my mother had other options and beliefs she most likely wouldve separated. My MIL divorced but was and has been made feel guilty by her own mother and sisters all her life because of it. Very true in those days women were stuck in a marriage. I refuse to be and have that.
@@felicitygrace5113 I just watched a few more videos and December 21st he did a video and mentions just this LOL!
You bring up and important topic... the perception of the past (most people glorify it as being better than our current environment).
You hit the nail on the head.
Qa0
I kinda decided tonight I’m not going to look into dating right now. I’m just going to focus on God, me, family, work & volunteering.
💛
Thank you Jonathon! You always nail it every time. This video resonates perfectly for me, and I believe your heart-centered, radical honesty is what the dating world needs now.
I would never change me for anyone🤣 at least not yet. And at 59yrs of age, I don't see it happening anytime soon😂😂
I love watching you, you’re such a sweet, amazing person. Hope you enjoyed your Christmas!! ❤️🎄
"I think I love you so what am I so afraid of
I'm afraid that I'm not sure of a love there is no cure for..." 🎵🎶
Funny show, awesome music!
I LIKE YOU, JONATHON!
YOU'RE AUTHENTIC, INTELLIGENT, AND ENTERTAINING‼️
Thank you for all you do to show the real you and encourage us to do the same and continuously work on becoming our best selves in a leaning in, inclusive way.
So, rather than say, "Have a blessed day!" I'm going to ask you what you (3 hours behind and still asleep) are planning to do after your workout?
Stay safe and keep smilng, my friend! 🤗🙏🧡🇨🇦
Thank you for this my heart ❤
I learned this
1. Affection 2. Attention 3. Appreciation 4. Acceptance
Boundaries!
I should say I learned "how" to do this and this is my expectation for myself. When you practice it, you clearly know the difference.
@@oneheartmn like that’s your expectation of yourself for how to treat men?
@@oneheartmn The difference between what and what?
@@loganross4774 yes absolutely 💯
I'm a big partridge family person, too. Our generation had such wholesome shows.🤗💞
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I met the kindest most awesome man, about 8 years ago, but circumstances forced us apart, now we reconnected! He’s now invited me to take a trip with in a few weeks! Not only is he kind but he’s handsome and a hard worker. Hoping I can play it a little cool until I know exactly where I stand. Thank you for your informative Ideas.
So you must be thinking about that woman all the time now because she said she likes you? That’s so sweet and romantic 💕
In some ways... yes. 😁
Thank you so much Jonathon … you really do make me think about dating and relationships in a whole new way 😘
Maybe you can give me some advice.
What is the best way to handle my situation. I dated a guy for 6 months and over time realized he was just playing games. ( truth is I was going to break it off with him, but he ended up ending it with me) I feel like he really got over on me and I’m a little pissed about that. The problem is he’s my neighbor so it’s uncomfortable to see him now. ( coming and going and working out in his yard etc….)
He got what he wanted and now he just ignores me.
I’m doing academy award acting over here. I am living my best life. Going out with friends and keeping a smile on my face… but How do I lose the fantasy of just walking up to him and giving him a good slap in the face? Lol
My brother has a name for these guys that look good, talk a good game but in the end there’s nothing of real substance. “An ice cream with no flavor”
( I think of this every time I see him… that’s part of what keeps the smile on my face)
So…?
I tell my significant other ,"Thank you for being you" I dont expect him to change .He is charmingly stubborn .He melts my "stubborn self " I am so greatful he is in my life.John ,stay the real,honest ,no holds barred ,informative on relationship advice .You resonate !
What a nice balcony! You help a lot of people, Johnathon!
Great video! I am only on 1 dating app because I see the same guys all over place. I just feel like men are only looking for chemistry and sex! If I ask deep questions , or even give a man a compliment, they get defensive/mean/ghost . Why is that? Insecurity?
There are two men that I have told to their face that they were attractive, and they straight up accused me of lying . It was bizarre.
@@j-tenn226 Wow! I think it is insecurity sadly.
He can't be genuinely looking for a real long term relationship. And he's emotionally immature. Run from these types xxx
Hi Jonathan, I just started watching your videos a little over a week. I’m so thankful that I found you.❤️🙏🏼
He's the best and as mad as a box of frogs 🐸 🤣🤣🤣
Yes, I like you very much too, think you give really super advice, thoughtful information , and would love to have you more accessible for good conversation …. You emphasize Reality ..not a fantasy or a dream .
I feel the connection with your content 😆 I’m in my early 50s Beautiful single F. Loving myself first and then if anything left, I may share it with the right Candidate
How's your day going? I hope you have a good day!! Things I say when I'm bored. Dive deep! Interest me! Intrigue me!
Amen 🙏
You go off on tangents or book promoting
After the 15 mins of book recommendations you finally get to the point of the talk
Merry Christmas and Happy Healthy New Year!! Missed watching with the holidays!!
🌲🎅🎁🥳
Another episode of excellence Jonathon. I really like your vision and have learned so much from your channel. Thank you for sharing your knowledge. I hope 2022 is great for you.
Awe... thank you 🥳
Hi Jonathan, I'm a big fan of your work. Here's something I'd like you to ponder and at some point address. You say the majority of people lack relationship skills, and that the high divorce rate (and misery levels for those who stay married) are proof of that. I tend to agree, for the most part. However, it's likely that there's something else at play here that is more destructive to relationships. Structural issues. By that I mean the way we *do* relationships-- namely we cohabit. Married or unmarried. Doesn't make a difference. I believe that this in and of itself sets up the conditions that then lead to so-called bad relationship skills. This is where the boredom and the taking each other for granted starts. This is where the mystery and desire end. Where the fighting and turning into roommates or siblings starts. Where the effort, romance, and communication die. For most couples. I know living together is what the world expects from couples, but I find it to be the graveyard of true love, and the genesis of subpar relationship skills. Isn't it funny how everyone's relationship skills are pretty good when they're still in the initial phases and living apart? Maybe it's because the distance and uncertainty brings out the best in us. Maybe it makes us FEEL like putting in effort, like doing romance. Just a thought. Would love your insight. Merry Christmas.
It'll be interesting to hear what his thoughts are on this. I agree with what you said and would never want to live with anyone again as I'm more than happy living on my own and having my own space.I have many friends who are not living with their partners- they have separate homes and it's working a treat for them 👌🏾.We can still have deeply loving,emotionally mature and committed relationships whether we live together or not 😊😇
I have also thought about the same idea.
Yes, you bring up good points 👉
Hence why I don’t believe in living together before marriage. It is silly when couples who have only been together for a few months move in together. It just seems like they’re doing it out of convenience in need of a roommate
@@viviennev-thesassyone4248 I believe the term is Living Apart Together (LAT)
Jonathon, this is a great video. I agree with the four A's you talk about in this video and also appreciate you being open and sharing your own experiences with us including your current relationship.
I have learned a great deal from watching your videos and am very grateful I first discovered you here on TH-cam in the summer of this year. I know I still have a lot to learn and grow in my own life following the most tumultuous years that I have ever personally experienced. Thank you again for your wisdom, dating and life advice, book recommendations, and for always speaking and sharing freely from the deepest part of your heart. ❤
By the way, I also love your Partridge Family shirt and Finding Nemo mug!
❤😊 🐦 🐠❤
All The Best to You and Your Loved Ones in 2022! - Catherine
(: I Do Too ... 😚
(: Who doesn't like "The Partridge Family"????? ... ☺
Never try to change anyone!!!
This was all the stuff we did the first few month . I always said really like you. I didn’t care if we drove in his “apocalyptic truck “ as he put it or the Benz. We can still say all this and build men up from a genuine place and he still said “ I can’t give you what you want “ he’s scared of getting close to people but still likes to see me once every few months 🙄
Goodmorning Jonathan, I hope your date night went fabulously
HUGGS to you❤️
You are validating what I always thought! Never too old to learn!
Love that!
OK half way through. Heard about psychopath s. Yor book. When do u answer the question. Ok second book. Comercail. Staring to yawn
I head a sentence" I like You" a lot of times, and many other nice things, and was given attention, and i appreciated them also, I was sure we are building sth. I was following your advices.. and then than they just dissapeared because only wanted a sex ...i dont get polish men..
The partridge family t-shirt? What? There must be a story behind that? Always great content! Tnx!
Your so cute Johnathan. You just make me smile. I like that! Lifts me up. Thank you!
Jonathon Thank you for great mentoring..definately needed in this age! Awareness is power!
Love the shirt Jonathon...you are a gem!!
My Husband of 47 years passed away 5 months ago and I'm so lost and miss him so much,his hugs , his reassurance that everything will be OK. But now I have nothing and I don't know how to start over.
I went out last Saturday by myself to a Bar an Grill and it was fun , only men just want sex Nothing else and I'm not ready for that.
I got free drinks though.
I'm not sure there is someone out there for me ,but I like to dance ,and for now that's OK
Even if I'm dancing by myself.
All your advice is spot on!! But the “relationship” you speak about is not out there.. i wish it was!
Tell that to those who are deeply in love with healthy relationships...
Last effort and " I like you" to another guy was disappointment in nearly 24h..since then I become a lion not a lioness..that guy is in your scale of 20% of sick ones! After that I found your videos...I was just stuck in time( marriage) and I couldn't see a red flags..I was sweept away, live at first sight
Sorry to hear that
Boy, I'm a train wreck and a work in progress. I refuse to give up. 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
Amen 🙏
Love you Jonathan!😊
Have a Happy New Year! Blessings to you and yours.
How did your date with Minnie go today? We’re rooting for you. 😀
Ghosted 🥴
@@JonathonAslay OMG! Sorry! Can’t believe it after all the phone calls you two had.
@@JonathonAslay I am very sorry to hear this as it sounded so promising.Maybe the timing is not right for Minnie M but I think it's a big loss for her- I truly do.I have always thought that the beautiful,intelligent,kind and talented lady who made you that wonderful mug, would be a great match 😉
I’m sorry, but if there’s any consolation, this is why I believe you are the best coach. You are in the trenches with us and have empathy for many of our experiences 😔
@@reynaGG8 Agreed.
Ruv Roo, Jonathon! This year is ending fabulously, here! How was the new Matrix movie with Colin? Blessings to you, Coach!🙏🌲
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You are losing me you're going on and on too long you need to just get to the point you got to shorten your conversation little bit because you going to lose a lot of people
I am thankful for your advice, from Greenland
Not sure why some women will like a man, say they respect him, etc. and yet then want him to change this or that about himself as the relationship progresses. In my current relationship he tells me he feels safe and accepted as if in near continual disbelief. Jonathon, when you used the term provider/protector it made me wonder if you are familiar with Alison Armstrong's work.
I noticed people don’t know how to communicate anymore
I just love all your videos! Thank you!
Thanks, Jonathan!
This was such a needed-to-know post! I love your content and all you do.. You are an amazing soul. I feel your passion to share and help people. You unlike others move with love and light without being forceful and money-hungry. You are loved and God sent. ( I LIKE YoU JONATHAN)💛 🤗✌🏽 ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ love and light!
° ~ namaste ~ °
Married and violent men seem to be drawn to me and i don’t know why
Recently dated a man with the qualities you listed blendable lifestyles, similar values, easy to spend time with, similar beliefs. I thought it was going somewhere as he was attentive for 3 months and I equally invested time with him. He talked about future things to do together, helping me with small repairs around my home - then boom he pulled back. I was okay at first thinking he was working through something. Reached out a couple of time and no return call or text. I am baffled. The time we spent together seemed so easy, fun. He did not make advances so I figured he was taking it slow and getting to know each other and I am good with that also. 🤷♀️ Last time I saw him we had a great evening. Then gone 👻. WT????
Same here. Ghosted 3 times in 6 months. When I reminded myself 'it's not me, it's him' and just gave him time to work it out in his head, kept living my life as I wanted... It became so much easier. Currently, he's 'friend zoned' me so that's all he gets in return. He's coming back in but it's on his time. I'll be ok either way. A big part of it is realizing your self worth.
@@tknwindsorful Hugs, thank you for sharing. It makes me feel better.
@@tknwindsorful I am not sure would let him back in. I dated this guy once before and he did the same kind of behavior. This is the second time he has friend zoned me. Letting him back in is not an option for him. How are things on your end?
Very common trick these days. Just be glad he removed his cowardly self early on before you got in deeper. It's baffling and hurtful.
My situation is a unique one. I needed a place to live. I went on Craigslist looking for a room to rent. Also I was very vulnerable because I haven't dated in 22 years due to two failed marriages. I wasn't willing to take the chance that the third time would be the charm. On the second night of living in my new home the owner/roommate asked me if I would sleep with him. I told him no. He kept asking me the next two nights. I gave into him because I was so lonely and had been for 22 years. I was honest with him after that night we first got together like, you just mentioned. I told him it's been 22 years since I've been with a man. So, he knew I was vulnerable. He told me that I shouldn't have told him that because immediately following my honesty he took full advantage of delicate state and took advantage of me. So, this was, definitely a case where honesty was bad. Just thought id let you know that sometimes honesty up front is not always a good idea.
how did he took advantage of you?
Question what is the deal with ONLY texting and not calling?
I agree
Thank you so much, Sir Jonathan. You help me a lot. Thank you for teaching us to have our own standard, your my inspiration to become someone who I am to be right now. Thank you for the self-love. And sharing the best of all to all of us. ❤️ Godbless, Sir.
I like this setting. Your voice is a nice volume. Some of your other videos I have to turn off because you’re kind of yelling. You’re passionate about your topics so I understand, but I prefer a lower voice volume. Love your shirt!!
Thank you...
Thank you Jonathon. 🤗 Hope you had a wonderful Christmas.
Right back at ya 🌲 🎅 🎁 🕺 🎊 ✨
i told him i liked him ,he told me i was too intense
Thank you Jonathon! Love you video´s and your t-shirts
I love your videos, they are full of helpful information. Where did you get your Partridge family t-shirt?
Amazon
Thankyou, I'm learning so much 🙂
You are perfectly right. Have seen many videos. !!! 👏 👏
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1:13 what are men frustrated about?
What's with the teddy bear..??
Emotional maturity is what makes me think that I should go for a guy five to ten years older...
Dating older people does not guarantee emotional maturity
Johnathon, I think You are a sweetheart. My fiance's tried so hard to get me to fall in love as deeply as he did, and now that I have, he has cut out foreplay, kissing and romance..and for 3 weeks now after 3 months it like we are back to square 1 and I know he's got intimacy issues about his freedom, being a retired Navy Sailor ect..but, I've seen him just go for broke with the pursuing me, the fabulous dates, he even bought me a gorgeous diamond engagement ring..now he wants to cool things off when everything was just almost perfect?? I am so frustrated..please advise because I'm madly in love with this wonderful man, just am afraid he never will marry me..please help...much love and thanks!
After 3 months now, we are back to square 1? What do you mean...was he like this before already...? What made him pursue you so madly? Could be sex was the main motive? Although if he gave you an engagement ring I'd think he's serious about you, looks like he's getting cold feet for some reason. Have you been getting on in other areas ..like having computable lifestyles etc. Sometimes the initial attraction can wear off and reality sets in...maybe he thinks it was all too fast and he needs to slow it down to make sure you are the "one".
Could your fiance possibly be a Narcissist?? Sorry to mention this but this is how they operate. Get you to really fall for them then withold sex/affection. For your sake I hope I'm wrong.
May be people what ppl do is they stop from learning People need to learn how to live beautifully and not just wait to die . Some people just want what they feel best for them . Some ppl just dont know what responsibilty is.
Be well and stay happy JA . Don't be afraid to show your feelings to her your sweetheart, express.
Touch has a healing power. I'm a touchy person 🤗
Love 💕 the T-shirt
Thank you...
Partridge Family ❤
God blessed you my friend!! 💯🙏🏼 keep preaching!! Brother..
Hi, I told him that. Told him I appreciated him, I appreciated the encouragement he gave me. I did the same with him, I tried to give him positive thoughts and encouragement. He told me he cared for me deeply, I showed him I cared for him deeply. He told me I represented safety, security, stability, love and I was home. He cheated on me, with a friend.
Love your shirt! 🌷
Your ad oubd is too low. Can't hear anything.
My God you are so right Jonathon.
It's true ,man & women ,are
Emotional immature..but my problem ,is exactly this i find many man ,
Emotional immature, to my
Standards, i just walk away, & allways make them fell good about themselves, & say I'm the one who is not ready for a relationship.
Coz i have no time.,to educate an adult child..we all been true
Challenges,
Important learn & from grow,
Namasta. .. appreciate love your kindness..good luck on your personal journey to forever love 💕
I love that hug routine you do at the end, with you holding a teddy bear. Just love it! Thanks for this channel!
Thinking this channel has great advice but still puts women in the position of being the responsible & emotionally intelligent adult. Possible you can do a real service for good women & relationships if you call out men to change too....not women to say the "right" thing to get them to think about us?
Perhaps advice on being a real man who is emotionally intelligent worthy of a good relationship? For once...balance it out...otherwise you change little and create more of an imbalance between emotionally healthy women willing to do the relationship work and self reflection and childish men.
Nobody calls for men to step up.
I really Ike you ... you're so on target!
I do not look for a date in my invironment cause of one significant reason:Most of the people are stupid🙂🙂and there is no chance for me to fall into one,whom I know.It should be stranger,so at least me to fantasize that he is cool..and I even do not want to get to know him😆😆😆-that's little guarantee the connection will survive longer....👍👍
Nice short. lol
I been to a lot of dating advice sites. You are the first one that doesn’t give advice on how to play a stupid game. A person knows when advice is genuine and truthful. You ROCK!😊
You are so accurate with this topic! I'm just shaking my head in agreement. You are the best Jonathon!
You are wonderful, thank you!😘
You are so welcome!
Love the shirt; I remember watching them when I was younger; I’m enjoying your videos
Love that shirt
she a luck lady
Heart broken.
Loving your openness ..such a great approach ... real..
and valuable 👌💖
Love your apartment
Great video. Saving so I can play again or when I want to share it. Love you!
Thank you for being you so REAL! You are refreshing and I have just starting meeting men online and I am already using your tips. I have ordered 8 dates and self love.
You are going on and on and on and you losing people because you talkin too much just get to the point
Amen to mutuality ❤️
You make so much sense and I wish I had known about you and your videos before I started dating some years ago....and possibly saved getting hurt several times! Thank you so much for what you do! Btw, I loved the Partridge Family too...where can I get that shirt? LOL
Thank you Jonathan, the 4As so spot on! I like you
OMG!! You rant on like a girl. Just start the topic, I click on a video based on the title, but then a few minutes into the video I forget why I even clicked on the video because you rant on. I loose interest and end up clicking away.
Thanks for the feedback...
@@JonathonAslay You're doing a sterling job 👏🏾
TY FOR YOUR KIND HUG DEAR JONATHON SENDIN YOU A BIG HUG YOUR WAY AS WELL
Thanks for this John. !
Once again the majority of emotional work seems to fall on women
Ima get your books as they appear to be good research materials.
"You know nothing Jon Snow....."
❤ your 👕👕👕 & ☕☕☕
Watched it growing up too😊