The purpose of life is what you are doing right now. You stand, you sit down. Already. You have fulfilled your life's purpose. This is incredibly true and simple and incredibly difficult to comprehend.I love that old films Katie Byron.
So brave and courageous people to speak from such a genuine vulnerability, that makes our heart feel so close to them, total strangers who in some minutes become total brothers .And Katie is a real fairy.
Byron Katie is so good. When I almost died from trying to help Everyone and I went into a psychotic state because I was so worried. I’m an only child and may have no one to take care of me so if I don’t take care of myself first, who will?
This is a complete video, but there are other Byron Katie videos on my channel. The 'Part 4' refers to the parts of the series on self-inquiry I posted which included some of Katie's videos.
..freedom from what you believe..that small statement set me free. I didnt know i could be free just from learning one simple truth. The person that doesnt know is like the blind who cant see.
Powerful work, especially that last one. Wow! Byron Katie has helped me change my life. I will be at her workshop in Amsterdam in July and I can't wait!
29:41-30:56 - " *Who would you be at your husband's funeral without these thoughts; when he did this inappropriate thing?. . . I wouldn't have been mad at him. Maybe I could have even had compassion for him. . . .He shouldn't have done that. Turn it around. . . .He should have done that? Yes. Because he did. . . .It doesn't condone it. It doesn't excuse it. But, that's the way of it. That's the way of the world. We can do war with it or we can understand it from here(Katie points to her head). And, I hear you say you would be more compassionate and I don't know a higher teacher.* " Thank you for uploading Brian Cormack Carr.
“ Until I meet my thoughts with unconditional love I can’t meet you with unconditional love ...so you are going to say what I haven’t yet dealt with”. I can question my thoughts. Once you question your thoughts .....absolutely brilliant ✨✨✨
Hello, im new to the work and i would like to ask is it necessary to always judge other people? Lets say my issue is that i feel very uncomfortable in front of other people i dont have friends even though i would like to have and there is resistance to me to be open and talk to people. I also have trust issues and often i feel attack from others but i think its just my thinking..how could i do the work on these things ? Greetings from Greece and thank you!
Hi Georgia - Katie advises to start by doing The Work on other people and situations first, because this is the way we learn about ourselves. However, we CAN do The Work on our own issues. This takes a bit more skill and attention, but it can be done. You mind find this video on the subject helpful: th-cam.com/video/KZFU9m2caYk/w-d-xo.html
And our blind belief in our thoughts without questioning and our resistance to even look at them and "for there". In a way they aren't even our thoughts, they are the collective thoughts of humanity. They just arise spontaneously and we believe them and make them personal.
Yes, she's pointing out that when we're believing our stressful thoughts, this can be when our addictions kick in (like going to the refrigerator to eat more food than we need). The addictive behaviour covers up our uncomfortable feelings; if we deal with the thoughts prior to the feelings, the addictions are more likely to let go of us.
The guy who is lying and grabbing the lady was a hard one to get. I understand that it's not appropriate to judge others by our own standards but where is the line? Some people will totally take advantage and he needs to respect personal space?
Truly nice. I really appreciate Byron Katie. 🙏 With my spiritual journey I've also been liking lots of Sri Avinash recently. #SriAvinash ❤️ Sri Avinash's meditation talks make me feel more loving.
10:40 Someone says smth to us and we believe it cuz it BRINGS smth to us. We think some kind of security (in belief) No one can IMPOSE their belief on us. Only share their thoughts on us 11:40 She says she's like you You're actually just like the her YOU THINK she is 12:13 Can you find truth in what someone says? If yes, and they tell you say: awesome! Now THEY know what you know
A question for Brian or some viewer who does the work. When I work with the question that asks what I want, my answer will be something like "I want them to be nicer to me." Well, this is true. I DO want them to be nicer to me. Or, should I work only with the second half of my answer, they should be nicer to me. Then my answer to the first question can be yes or no.
This is a great question, and it touches on an area where The Work can become quite nuanced. So, let’s say you’re working with “I want them to be nicer to me”. First of all, it’s perfectly acceptable to answer “YES!” to the first question, “Is it true?” Then, when you get to the turnaround, you might have “I don’t want them to be nicer to me”, and the task is to find genuine examples of why this turned-around thought might be as true or truer than the original. In other words, why might you NOT want this person to be nicer to you? Here’s what springs to my mind: - Maybe they’re not able to be nicer in this moment. Maybe - given everything they’re dealing with - they’re being as nice as they can manage. As a compassionate human being, I don’t want someone to be forced beyond their own capabilities. - I don’t want a ‘not nice’ person to be nice to me; after all, if they were, what would that get me? Maybe I wouldn’t believe or trust them... - I can’t know for sure that their being nice to me would be for my highest good. Maybe I ‘need’ them to be harsh with me to prompt me to see something I’ve missed. Those are just examples. The Work is about sitting with the questions and contemplating. There isn’t a “right” answer.
Brian Cormack Carr Wow, Brian. What a wonderful answer! It includes most everything in the book, but I guess that I needed clarification. I needed you to point to the book and say see, it was here all along! Thank you again. 👽
Brian Cormack Carr I have a new question, Brian. Well, in reading her book, I have had the impression that no is the only right answer. You cannot say yes. It is always wrong. That is why I asked this question of you initially, I was thinking boy, is it really wrong? Is that what I need to learn when I do the work? That all questions, they are always no. The first answer should always always be no and under no circumstances is it ever yes. Or, is it OK for it to be right as you say, and I don’t need to try to push and force myself to recognize and understand that it is wrong.
I love your thoughtful questions! What Katie has often said is “the answer to the first question is one syllable: Yes or No”. She’s also said that, for her, “no thought is true”. If no thought is true, the answer to the first question must always be “no”, right? Well, Katie often reminds us that the answer we are seeking is always the answer that’s authentic for us, and sometimes that means that the answer to the first question will be a resounding “YES!” That’s the beauty of The Work. We just have to answer each question authentically from where we are in the moment, and just keep working through the process. Even if the answer to the first question, “Is it true?” is “Yes”, we have an opportunity to look at it again with the second question, “Can you absolutely know that it’s true?” I’ve seen (and felt) many certainties fall before that second question; but I’ve also seen (and felt) many authentic answers which were *still* “Yes!” That’s fine; we just keep going. We consider what happens when we believe the thought (Question 3). We consider who or what we’d be without it (Question 4) - and notice, we can do this even if we still believe the thought! Then we turn it around and find genuine examples - and we can still do that even if our answers to Questions 1 & 2 were “YES, YES, YEEEESSSS!” In other words, don’t get stuck on the first two questions. If your answer is yes, keep moving. Once you’ve been through the rest of the process, you may find that The Work has still been working you. 💗
Maybe some ppl want to stay away from the bullying. Nothing wrong with that. Unless bullies help you to know yourself better and all the rest ...... . Understanding all from the mind vs going to war with the world - sounds great. We see ppl going to the war against the world every day on the news. They should try this work sometimes 👍
5:09 ...sth dawned on me here about the story of hurting s.b.: the truth here is that your afraid of losing his approval and his support etc... I'm in a similar situation where I promised to be sexually faithful to s.o. and not "betray" him, but the real thing is that I'm afraid of losing his approval... I did tell him to let it up to me to decide, but he insisted... I'm still in for having this conversation... because if not, I'm betraying myself... big wake up call, thank you...
Not sure about this one, especially the last conversation. I usually love BK, but so many working parts just being squeezed into the formula....didn't do it justice. Lovely, vulnerable, brave people.
Honestly that part made me verrry uncomfortable...yes I agree that the work is powerful but you must draw the line somewhere. It was sexual assault come on.
Hello dear Carolle, I can totally see how it could be understood that way! Yet, I see it somewhat differently. Are you open to hear another view? :-) As I understand the Work, it's not about making violence a joke or acceptable; it's not about becoming passive and smiling at everything. The Work is rather about freeing ourselves from any thought patterns that block or weaken us - so that we can freely choose how to deal with any situation in the best possible way. With some practice, I believe we can even free ourselves from thoughts about people that did (or do) violence... thoughts which continue the war and violence instead of stopping it: "Those people are evil; they are unfit to live; they should be punished..." etc etc. Letting go of those thoughts doesn't justify or excuse the violent acts. But using the Work, we can free ourselves - so that we are free to act consciously and powerfully and with compassion for ourselves and others. Does that make sense? What do you think? Best wishes!
The purpose of life is what you are doing right now. You stand, you sit down. Already. You have fulfilled your life's purpose.
This is incredibly true and simple and incredibly difficult to comprehend.I love that old films Katie Byron.
I can't get over how powerful and freeing this WORK is!!! Thank you Byron Katie. ❤❤❤
I can watch and listen to Byron Katie all day long
me too!!
Me too
When I listen too much I start thinking how pointless it is like a word that's repeated until it means nothing
True
Wisdom is pouring from her endlessly. Her talking is like waves of enlightenment. Thak you Katie for your work on this planet. It is priceless ❤
I have been doing the Work and listen to Katie daily brings me so much peace.
Same here
It’s interesting to see how perfect strangers become so lovable when they’re willing to be vulnerable ❤️
Beautifully said ✨✨✨
Byron Katie is genius ....wise, clever, funny and compassionate.
So brave and courageous people to speak from such a genuine vulnerability, that makes our heart feel so close to them, total strangers who in some minutes become total brothers .And Katie is a real fairy.
She's great, very powrrful. That man in the end made me cry. Thanks Brian for introducing her.
Me too
Byron Katie is so good. When I almost died from trying to help
Everyone and I went into a psychotic state because I was so worried. I’m an only child and may have no one to take care of me so if I don’t take care of myself first, who will?
Can’t thank you enough. Where can I find more of this? Other parts
This is a complete video, but there are other Byron Katie videos on my channel. The 'Part 4' refers to the parts of the series on self-inquiry I posted which included some of Katie's videos.
..freedom from what you believe..that small statement set me free. I didnt know i could be free just from learning one simple truth. The person that doesnt know is like the blind who cant see.
Powerful work, especially that last one. Wow! Byron Katie has helped me change my life. I will be at her workshop in Amsterdam in July and I can't wait!
How amazing was it? :)
the last man in this video who is crying about his son....heartbreaking and Katie is an angel right from heaven
29:41-30:56 - " *Who would you be at your husband's funeral without these thoughts; when he did this inappropriate thing?. . . I wouldn't have been mad at him. Maybe I could have even had compassion for him. . . .He shouldn't have done that. Turn it around. . . .He should have done that? Yes. Because he did. . . .It doesn't condone it. It doesn't excuse it. But, that's the way of it. That's the way of the world. We can do war with it or we can understand it from here(Katie points to her head). And, I hear you say you would be more compassionate and I don't know a higher teacher.* " Thank you for uploading Brian Cormack Carr.
Brilliant and beautiful session! Thank you for posting 🙏🏻❤️
“ Until I meet my thoughts with unconditional love I can’t meet you with unconditional love ...so you are going to say what I haven’t yet dealt with”. I can question my thoughts. Once you question your thoughts .....absolutely brilliant ✨✨✨
“ the mind wants to be right....so that It doesnt have to continue the questioning”.
Thank you so much for putting this up, so grateful for this woman and the Work, in my life. Sanest human I know.
Blessings.
Muchas gracias bendiciones
Thanks Brian x
I love that meditate my thoughts down, I tried that so often!Sitting for hours and months but nothing I expected from it happend!
Thanks for posting this!
3:46 this guy laughing omg 😂😂
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My all time favorite segment. Ty!! Posted it to my FB. Really good.
Thank you so much for sharing!💗
This is sooooo radically awesome!!!! FREEEEEEDOM
Hello, im new to the work and i would like to ask is it necessary to always judge other people? Lets say my issue is that i feel very uncomfortable in front of other people i dont have friends even though i would like to have and there is resistance
to me to be open and talk to people. I also have trust issues and often i feel attack from others but i think its just my thinking..how could i do the work on these things ?
Greetings from Greece and thank you!
Hi Georgia - Katie advises to start by doing The Work on other people and situations first, because this is the way we learn about ourselves. However, we CAN do The Work on our own issues. This takes a bit more skill and attention, but it can be done.
You mind find this video on the subject helpful:
th-cam.com/video/KZFU9m2caYk/w-d-xo.html
@@BrianCormackCarr Thank you!
Hey Brian, i'm loving your channel!! and, you are super cute too!!
Thank you Donovon! 😊 Thanks for being here, it's good to have you on board. I'm listening to the music on your channel now. You're very talented!
I sure hope that man plays with his son.🙏❤
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There are some lies that dont hurt..but when they hurt you can question it.
It's not our thought that's the source of our unhappiness, it's our resistance to the thought.
And our blind belief in our thoughts without questioning and our resistance to even look at them and "for there".
In a way they aren't even our thoughts, they are the collective thoughts of humanity. They just arise spontaneously and we believe them and make them personal.
love ❤🙏🏼
The same thing happened to me, it would make me feel so insecure and I was a beautiful young women.
I didn't get the refrigerator part. Could you please explain to me, Brian?
Yes, she's pointing out that when we're believing our stressful thoughts, this can be when our addictions kick in (like going to the refrigerator to eat more food than we need). The addictive behaviour covers up our uncomfortable feelings; if we deal with the thoughts prior to the feelings, the addictions are more likely to let go of us.
Thank you, Brian.
Katie is so based
The guy who is lying and grabbing the lady was a hard one to get. I understand that it's not appropriate to judge others by our own standards but where is the line?
Some people will totally take advantage and he needs to respect personal space?
Truly nice. I really appreciate Byron Katie. 🙏
With my spiritual journey I've also been liking lots of Sri Avinash recently. #SriAvinash ❤️
Sri Avinash's meditation talks make me feel more loving.
Elizabeth Farrell is it Sri or is it you?
10:40 Someone says smth to us and we believe it cuz it BRINGS smth to us. We think some kind of security (in belief)
No one can IMPOSE their belief on us. Only share their thoughts on us
11:40 She says she's like you
You're actually just like the her YOU THINK she is
12:13 Can you find truth in what someone says? If yes, and they tell you say: awesome! Now THEY know what you know
A question for Brian or some viewer who does the work. When I work with the question that asks what I want, my answer will be something like "I want them to be nicer to me." Well, this is true. I DO want them to be nicer to me. Or, should I work only with the second half of my answer, they should be nicer to me. Then my answer to the first question can be yes or no.
This is a great question, and it touches on an area where The Work can become quite nuanced. So, let’s say you’re working with “I want them to be nicer to me”. First of all, it’s perfectly acceptable to answer “YES!” to the first question, “Is it true?”
Then, when you get to the turnaround, you might have “I don’t want them to be nicer to me”, and the task is to find genuine examples of why this turned-around thought might be as true or truer than the original. In other words, why might you NOT want this person to be nicer to you? Here’s what springs to my mind:
- Maybe they’re not able to be nicer in this moment. Maybe - given everything they’re dealing with - they’re being as nice as they can manage. As a compassionate human being, I don’t want someone to be forced beyond their own capabilities.
- I don’t want a ‘not nice’ person to be nice to me; after all, if they were, what would that get me? Maybe I wouldn’t believe or trust them...
- I can’t know for sure that their being nice to me would be for my highest good. Maybe I ‘need’ them to be harsh with me to prompt me to see something I’ve missed.
Those are just examples. The Work is about sitting with the questions and contemplating. There isn’t a “right” answer.
Brian Cormack Carr Wow, Brian. What a wonderful answer! It includes most everything in the book, but I guess that I needed clarification. I needed you to point to the book and say see, it was here all along! Thank you again. 👽
You're very welcome! The Work is a process, and it isn't always easy to 'get' it all at once. It takes time. I'm still making discoveries!
Brian Cormack Carr I have a new question, Brian. Well, in reading her book, I have had the impression that no is the only right answer. You cannot say yes. It is always wrong. That is why I asked this question of you initially, I was thinking boy, is it really wrong? Is that what I need to learn when I do the work? That all questions, they are always no. The first answer should always always be no and under no circumstances is it ever yes. Or, is it OK for it to be right as you say, and I don’t need to try to push and force myself to recognize and understand that it is wrong.
I love your thoughtful questions!
What Katie has often said is “the answer to the first question is one syllable: Yes or No”. She’s also said that, for her, “no thought is true”.
If no thought is true, the answer to the first question must always be “no”, right?
Well, Katie often reminds us that the answer we are seeking is always the answer that’s authentic for us, and sometimes that means that the answer to the first question will be a resounding “YES!”
That’s the beauty of The Work. We just have to answer each question authentically from where we are in the moment, and just keep working through the process. Even if the answer to the first question, “Is it true?” is “Yes”, we have an opportunity to look at it again with the second question, “Can you absolutely know that it’s true?” I’ve seen (and felt) many certainties fall before that second question; but I’ve also seen (and felt) many authentic answers which were *still* “Yes!”
That’s fine; we just keep going. We consider what happens when we believe the thought (Question 3). We consider who or what we’d be without it (Question 4) - and notice, we can do this even if we still believe the thought! Then we turn it around and find genuine examples - and we can still do that even if our answers to Questions 1 & 2 were “YES, YES, YEEEESSSS!”
In other words, don’t get stuck on the first two questions. If your answer is yes, keep moving. Once you’ve been through the rest of the process, you may find that The Work has still been working you. 💗
21:37 Glitch in the matrix
Maybe some ppl want to stay away from the bullying. Nothing wrong with that. Unless bullies help you to know yourself better and all the rest ...... . Understanding all from the mind vs going to war with the world - sounds great. We see ppl going to the war against the world every day on the news. They should try this work sometimes 👍
5:09 ...sth dawned on me here about the story of hurting s.b.: the truth here is that your afraid of losing his approval and his support etc... I'm in a similar situation where I promised to be sexually faithful to s.o. and not "betray" him, but the real thing is that I'm afraid of losing his approval... I did tell him to let it up to me to decide, but he insisted... I'm still in for having this conversation... because if not, I'm betraying myself... big wake up call, thank you...
34:06
👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏wow 😮😮😮😮😮😮😢😢😢😢
Not sure about this one, especially the last conversation. I usually love BK, but so many working parts just being squeezed into the formula....didn't do it justice. Lovely, vulnerable, brave people.
❤️
Lost my shit at 46:50 🤧😥😩😭
Are you going to turn every sort of sexual abuse into a joke and make it acceptable? Even rape resulting in murder?. So that is your purpose in life?
Honestly that part made me verrry uncomfortable...yes I agree that the work is powerful but you must draw the line somewhere. It was sexual assault come on.
Hello dear Carolle, I can totally see how it could be understood that way!
Yet, I see it somewhat differently. Are you open to hear another view? :-)
As I understand the Work, it's not about making violence a joke or acceptable; it's not about becoming passive and smiling at everything. The Work is rather about freeing ourselves from any thought patterns that block or weaken us - so that we can freely choose how to deal with any situation in the best possible way.
With some practice, I believe we can even free ourselves from thoughts about people that did (or do) violence... thoughts which continue the war and violence instead of stopping it: "Those people are evil; they are unfit to live; they should be punished..." etc etc.
Letting go of those thoughts doesn't justify or excuse the violent acts.
But using the Work, we can free ourselves - so that we are free to act consciously and powerfully and with compassion for ourselves and others.
Does that make sense? What do you think?
Best wishes!
♥️