53 and no kids. Not one second of regret (evil laugh). Writing this as I lay on a Saturday morning in my RH bed with 400 thread count sheets in my peaceful condo drinking an espresso after sleeping in as long as I felt like. I don’t understand why all these women even feel the need to justify or explain why they don’t want kids. Ladies, you don’t have to justify a damn thing. This is YOUR life. PERIOD.
Sounds glorious! And to see women still on social media begging to get married and have kids is crazy to me. Even with proof in their families, statistics and all over social media….they still think their outcome will be different.🥴
@@zerotolerance2026Right!? Im married, mom, grandma. Very happy, but I think I got the unicorn? But I dont recommend it as neither church nor state support women, babies or families. What they do support is patriarchy and every pays dearly for that. My daughter against my warnings, got with a guy. So many red flags! Had a kid. She is now separated from him and got her tubes tied!
In a world that that does everything to set you up for failure, being a childfree black woman is a major flex. One of the best decisions of my life. I love seeing more black women openly rejecting single motherhood. My life is so peaceful and enriching at 33. Getting sterilized soon as well. People are particularly uncomfortable seeing black women rest, be carefree, and defy all the negative stereotypes.
@missam3404 Oh it's indeed a flex lol Have you spent any time around people with school aged kids under 10? Tired, out of shape and aged by 5-10 years on average. Those are just the couples I know who are in good marriages as well as being financially stable. Big Flex! Wouldn't trade it for the world LMFAOOOO On a serious note though, having a choice IS privilege. A HUGE one at that. Having enough resources to live the way you desire isn't an option everyone has. Unfortunately there are some places in the world where some women are so oppressed and vulnerable due to limited rights that they don't. Hell, look at how they're trying to suppress women's rights in the US to try and force women to birth more children. The numbers are declining globally. Many women view motherhood as overrated and are opting out. At any rate, all choices are valid. May everyone have the ability to say they chose their life
I know what you mean both my parents been married for over 40 years. My dad won't even go on a 10 day cruise with my mom that both my siblings already paid for. Yet, my mom is cooking a weekly feast while she is gone to make sure he doesn't starve!
@@dose_ofsha Couldn't be me. I hate to say it, but if something happens to your Mom, he's going to be counting on one of you all to pick up where your mother left off. 👀
One of the federal inmates where I work said I was selfish for not having children...meanwhile he's in prison while his 4 baby mother's are raising his children.... in poverty and alone.
He should shut up.Is he thinking about how he going to support his kids when he get out.He is going have hard time getting a job as a Black man with a record.He needs to think about his kids.
@@saramatthews7159exactly! And with all of that, men and some women are still to stupid to understand the irony in all of that. Why should my unborn child suffer?
But mostly in the sense that if someone is poor they shouldn't have kids and if they have kids they could hustle and try to be a good parent but mostly the kid will be the punching bag for the bad reactions of the bad parent, low income parents get angry they are poor and decide to punish their kids. So always the parents to blame.
@lealmelisa Truth and this is by someone with these types of parents. It honestly boggles my mind how they fuck their own lives up, then get mad when we get upset at how shit life was living under them as a result.
Don't do hair n nails, don't go to nursing school. Do something the men do and get the same big bag they do. Electrical engineering. If you want to be an artist, graphic design. If you need to be around kids, go volunteer to eat lunch with em at school once a week.
This comment tickles me because I am a medical laboratory scientist and an esthetician. I'm having trouble breaking into the ‘beauty industry’ because I am used to my 9-5 pay
Yes, darling. I chose to pursue a career path in Cloud engineering. I used pay IT technicians to fix my computer. Now, I build my own. Don't be afraid to compete with men.
The last part about spending time with kids. There are so many(already-born lol) kids who want an adult to spend time with them and talk to them about their own little lives. You don’t have to have your own to be in community with children and make a positive impact on their lives.
@@OhHeyyyTherethank you !!!!! I’ve always said I don’t want children but I know I’m going to be a mother figure. I don’t have to give birth to be a mother figure to our community.
Bw are taking accountability, by being child free. Which means less fatherless homes in the bc. Now bm are calling us selfish for not having children. Im convinced bm just want bw to be miserable and overwhelmed.
They want you to be miserable and use the kids to keep you attached to them and their degeneracy. I’m sitting here, in my peaceful clean home, bills paid, drinking a cup of coffee…..contemplating my day. So yeah…. I’m selfish and loving every minute of it!🤸🏽♂️
I cant speak for the Black Community, but men everywhere need to deconstruct patriarchy bx its screwed them too! This idea that you can be the king of your little kingdom is bunk. The church nor state truly supoorts the family. They certainly dont support women nor children.
I got married. Met him at church. Waited till marriage to be intimate. Had a child, ended up a single married mother. Divorced. Now a single mother. It doesn’t matter how perfect you choose you will still be a single mother.
@@Ladymagentabennett I love when you do everything right and there are people out here like yourself who say “vet better.” For the most part women are not the problem. I am about empowering women. Telling women to “vet better,” is about making women feel bad when truth is men lie, men cheat, men bring their representative to the relationship for years. It’s their culture.
@@lilpinkbubbles6592 I was sympathizing with the original author. I just had a bunch of typos I meant to say "Like men say "vet better", there is NO such thing". I agree it is a statement to undermine the experiences of women with men.
Seems like it for some anyway!😂😢😅 THE Jokes on the Women struggling to deal with it and the poor kids who are left damaged by those irresponsible behaviors and acts!
Unmarried 38 year old and childfree career woman from South Africa. The insults from African people are horrible. they call me a barren witch with issues, and no one can love me. I don't am care. I can afford my life, I am well traveled and very happy.
Here to support you sis, from the US. They try it over here too, but we're not hearing any of that noise. Do you boo. We're learning in the age of Diddy's, R Kelly's, Harvey Weinstein's and other abusers that have been getting away with being predators and still maintaining public support that the majority absolutely can be wrong. I say all that long-windedly to say, you're doing the right thing and don't let anyone try to pull you into their misery and negative energy 💜 edit: *spelling
The average person can't even afford to take care of themselves these days. So how y'all having kids when you already struggling just to keep a roof over your head?
This is how: They EXPECT FAMILY to step up and fund them AS IF THEY LAID DOWN & SPREAD'em for the phukkboys!!!! -- Nah, B: I LIVE *WITHIN MY MEANS*. When YOU had the kid, that is NOT an indication for Me to need to ADJUST MY means to take care of a child when you told alllll yo wise Elders to mind their business.... So guess what? I'mma mind My business AND MY FUNDS. Congrats to you & dude though. 😅🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂🤣 I had one niece try to use the same lie THREE WEEKENDS IN A ROW to juice Me for instant cash, lol. AND THEN tried to set up the AuntieATM after getting knocked up, smhlol: I wonder if she STILLLL doesn't realize yet that *you can't slick a can of oil* ... ROFLMBAOLOLOL
Sorry but some men have made it difficult for women to want to have children with them. Who would openly opt for struggle, disrespect and poverty? Limiting her opportunities and experiences in life? Parenthood is a wonderful thing for parents who are committed to each other and the children in a positive and financially stable situation. Too many men begrudge taking a woman out for a meal. Why would she want to have a relationship with him or children with them? Struggle love is over.
I’m not miserable I live my child and my life. But I don’t blame people who are child free. I e wanted a child all my life and some women didn’t but that’s ok too!
I just turned 43 and the older I get the more I see that I am incredibly blessed to have stayed single and childfree. I thank my guardian angels for protecting me from that evil life that almost all my female family suffer from.
Divorced single mother of 1. He sent his little chump change each month and thought he was doing wonders. Out of 15yrs, i was able to count that he saw his son like 5 times. We were taught that it's mommy's baby, daddy's maybe.
I'm so happy for her & proud of you as her mother! And it looks like I don't need to tell YOU this, but the type of females who can be found trying to po'leece others' wombs GENERALLY choose trashppl in their own lives (friends AND partners), and they are likely NOT mature enough to raise children, so I don't suggest following the recommendation of someone just randomly insisting that you should have children - ESPECIALLY AFTER YOU'VE EXPRESSED THAT YOU DON'T WANT CHILDREN. Steer clear of those females -- LIKE THE GENTLEMEN DO who don't wanna be bothered with them. 😅🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂🤣
50 year old black woman and i decided to never have children this was the best decision i have ever made. All i do is me and i love being responsible for only me
@@lisamccray9079 Good for you! I bet you look great for a woman that’s almost 59. Not having kids keep you looking young. Happy early birthday to you!🎉
I like how one of the ladies pointed out that even being married doesn't save you from being a single mother. Way too many women are waiting for the ring to have kids, I feel sorry for them when they find out they were living in fairyland.
And they will find out….what most of us already know. Thank God for social media….to help get the word out. Marriage for women is a scam. Hopefully generation Alpha women will be saved.
50s and happy Im married, kids and grandkids BUT it is true, neither the govt nor the church supports women, babies and families. And 95% of the males out there do not need to be husbands and dads.
@@Marcothecasegod911 Yes! It takes a lot of maturity and fortitude, to maintain a relationship and a ton of work to shepherd a childs mind and heart. I agree with you: most people should not parent.
@@deirdremorris9234 what u mean by maturity i seen childish couples in a good way raise kids then i see strict couples raise kids n they end up awful, it’s really just hope and prayer they end up what you persecute as good or what u think that’s contributed to society
@@originaleverythingelseisca5977 She didn't say she didn't talk to her husband. She said the hospital wouldn't do it without her husband's permission. Also, it's her body, when did she become her husband's slave. She should be able to get it done without his "permission." What the fcuk is he, her master or her daddy??
Aged 47 with no kids and lots of wealth. I have always wanted kids but never wanted to be a single mother nor a single married mother. Always had make attention and dates. Trust, when you are dating folks, you can tell who will be a present and involved husband and father. I’ve passed on men who don’t meet the qualifications for present and involved husband and father. While I don’t agree with telling ppl not to have kids and everyone should do what they want, I do encourage everyone to have financial stability for themselves before marriage and children.
I agree with the nurse lady with the bandanna.Once on have kids one cannot reverse the decision.Tgere are to many single mothers.Kids cist money.There are too many people who do not want kids.It is always tge women taking on tge childcare when they have kids.I would encourage women not to have kids or at least have their lives together financially before having kids.No more than two kids.
I think the reason people call black childfree women "selfish " because we are the mule of the community. How dare we break the stereotype of the welfare queen. How dare we not be a single baby mama struggling. How dare we put ourselves first?
Sorry but with bw, it is our fault if we're having kids by men who don't want them or who haven't married us. Honestly I think any woman who has a black or mixed black child is a bad mother, because you know how terribly abusive this country is to us and you bring children into this terrible life voluntarily.
Not having a baby when you don't WANT a baby, or are incapable of giving that baby what it deserves is selfish? But HAVING a baby because you WANT one, but are single and financially not ready is NOT SELFISH? Make it make sense.
Ironic that the last song is Hard knock life by Orphan Annie. Unwanted and parentless children is so unnecessary and women have the power to stop these things happening to children.
“Orphan Annie,” my grandmother was an orphan because her parents conceived too many children and they couldn’t afford her, so they abandoned her. She was their 5th child. She grew up in an orphanage and never was adopted, so she never had parents. I cannot even fathom growing up in this world and never having any parents to support you or mentor you through this life. Mind you this was before birth control during 1920s, The Depression. In regard to the abortion topic, people like to argue “adoption” is always the answer, but in all harsh reality not every child gets adopted. Not every adult can financially afford a child. Also, the children in the foster care system barely get any money from the government to live off of, roughly $1000 per month - that’s not livable income in today’s standards. Many children in the foster care system who never get adopted age out of the system and have to fend for themselves once they turn 18 years old. Those children have a high incarceration rate and become victims of human trafficking.
@@camidonahue8882This. The church nor state "truly" support family. If it were true, there would be no fee adoptions! Diapers, formula and daycare would be free. One year maternity and paternity leave.
There was a reel of me at 6yrs having a fit that I wanted no husband and no kids. I’m 50yrs now and I still don’t have a husband or kids. I have no regrets. It is the best decision I’ve ever made 😊
I was married 16 years too. Luckily I saw through the mask in time and ran like a runaway slave. When I realized his new plan was to impregnate me at the end so I wouldn’t leave I simply refused to lay with him. In the same house. For more than a year. Saved my money then chucked up the deuces. He’s still butthurt.
Men do change also ladies if don't want kids don't have them I am 58yrs old with no kids and don't regret either I like to travel and don't have to worry about a babysitter.
My own mother was a single mother and I still blame her for our crappy childhood. I as a woman won’t accept getting impregnated by an abusive loser nor will I choose to be pregnant and live in poverty.
I encounter more happier childless women of ALL ages than mothers (married or single) and that alone confirms that I'm making the right decision to protect my womb. No one is shaming me away from that decision.
I tell my daughter all the time never have any kids and never get married. And we encourage her to go into Information Technology or Project Management. She is a great speaker and has command presence, so she has that going for her as well.
@missam3404 I can tell her whatever I want. It’s called parenting, not weird. It will obviously be her choice to make, otherwise I would have said, “my daughter isn’t allowed to get married and have kids and has to become a project manager.” Did I say I imprisoned her on an isolated island? No i didn’t. So it’s incredibly stupid for you to say she can’t make her choice. You obviously don’t know anything about parenting. So you shouldn’t be talking to me about parenting. We’re supposed to guide OUR children in the direction WE think is best for them. She’s my child, not yours.
I had my first and last child at 43. She’s now 23. I’m agreeing with this young ladies comment. If you really wanna have a child one option just an option is to have the child closer to the end of your fertility cycle. For me, it worked it wasn’t planned, but it worked because by then I had a bachelors degree and a masters degree was getting ready to work on license for clinical therapy I mean so the money was there to provide stability and security for my daughter as her father was not in the picture by the time my daughter was 12 he passed away so I think that if you want to do this for you and have a kid then you wait until you are closer to the end of your giving birth cycle and let me tell you you’re still might be climbing the ladder for business but it’s a joy when you have enough money and you have stability that you can share with your daughter is gravy for your daughter cause you’ve done well for yourself . to watch them grow up happy loving and worry Free no worries at all i s a beautiful thing.
Thank you for this. I’m 45 and have a one year old. I’m married and we’re enjoying our daughter. I didn’t settle when I was single. I waited for what I wanted. It isn’t perfect but it is NOT hell like some people I hear about. I pray it always stays that’s way. Sorry for the loss of your partner.
Agreed. You are financially stable and set. My life is very suitable for a child now. I am healed, healthy, and mentally sound! If I would have done it in my 20s, I would have just created the same generational trauma cycle. I was a whole hot damn emotional mess.
Of course, but they'll be the ones left behind in dysfunction. We are not going to be able to take everyone with us to the Promised Land. And I don't have any extra tickets and no I'm not paying their way.
@missam3404 It is when you are unaware of what they have to deal with and go through in school, work, college or literally anything else in their lives.
I'm in my 50's and childfree with no regrets. I also believe that motherhood is a beautiful life for those who desire AND prepare for it. Either way you decide, make sure that your decision isn't based on unresolved trauma. Take account of your decisions, weigh your desires along with the pros and cons. Whether BW choose to be childfree or mothers, I want you to soar and enjoy life! ❤
First married to addicted husband then moved out with 1 year old daughter, I went to college and got a career. Second husband left when my daughter became addicted and had a daughter. I was married almost 20 years when I needed to raise my precious granddaughter but the man that said he loved me didn’t want to raise a child so he divorced me. Now I’m 66 and my granddaughter is doing great and this will be the first time that I can start putting myself first! I will never be with a man again. I paid off my house, no other debt and my retirement is fully funded. I’m starting to feel happy! It’s been a long road
I'm a mother and I encourage my daughter not to have kids. And I was very honest with her. I told her that I love her to death but chose to have kids for the wrong reasons. I constantly remind her to choose herself first and to never forget that men are fundamentally selfish. It's almost becoming a song for us 😂 I'm not gonna lie, our lives for better since her dad left, we travel at least 3 times a year, we get our nails done together, eat in good restaurants, we be livin😌 I'm not expecting grandkids and that's more than fine by me 🤷🏿♀️
you do realize you couldn't do anything of those activities with your own daughter if you didn't chose to sacrafice and have one. SO i'm like who you sacaficied your body and life and you what sounds like a delightful friend, but you don't want that life.
Now, she'll never know what it feels like to say about her own child/children "we travel at least 3 times a year, we get our nails done together and we eat in good restaurants". I would wonder if she has close friends since she does these things with mom and not close friends and if she doesn't have close friends, who will be her support and companions when mom gets older and passes, since death is inevitable. If I was in the same position, I would rather ask her what she wants, instead of projecting my fears from negative experiences on her and support her in whatever she wants to do with her life.
@@KimberWaul 😂😂😂😂 girl is you ok?!? Because I spend time with my underage daughter and do things for us to bond she won't be able to experience those things?!? I know you're not serious 😂😂😂 The way I can't wait to be an empty nester so I can travel the world. Don't worry about my daughter hun, she'll live HER life and have a great relationship with me. We can have both you know. I'm sorry you didn't have that kind of relationship with your mom so you're trying to project wtv lack of yours on my relationship with my daughter. Love, Light and Prayers to you 💖💖
@@kennyav25 ARE you okay? It is petty and pointless to try to insult someone based on an assumption, my dear. You clearly don't know me or my mother (with whom I am very close, by the way). I work with the youth and among those who have issues of resentment toward parents, fear, doubt and regret, one of the most common reasons I hear regarding these, is that their parents projected their brokenness, failures and bad experiences unto them. This often creates inner conflict, when one has been taught one thing, but feels drawn to the immediate opposite. They often say that they wish that they were allowed to form their own opinions, which is why I said that I would rather "ask what she wants", instead of "encouraging" my child towards a certain belief that's based on my own bad experiences or perhaps projecting my fears and failures unto my child. Anyway, grace and peace to you.
What I always notice about this video is that alot of the women are really good looking. Its usually the intelligent and beautiful ones the men try to mess up first.
Not everyone is meant to be a pilot of a plane, not everyone is meant to be a captain of a ship, not everyone is meant to be a soldier, not everyone is meant to be a doctor, and not everyone is meant to be a PARENT! Just because you can make a baby doesn't mean that you should have one.
Married 53 glorious, childfree by choice yrs. Got preg in ' 71, while using bc. Was horrified, as I never wanted kids, went out of country, for abortion, and tubal. Next yr, hubby had vasectomy. Former nurse, ret psychiatrist, hubby retired lawyer. Never one minute of regret with our choice. Meanwhile, our friends have boomerang kids, can't ret cuz helping babysit grandkids, or grandkids need lawyers/bail money, money for food clothing, shelter. I have four nieces, all in their late 40's, all childfree, and fixed. One nephew, 44, has vasectomy. Never let anyone force u into having kids, if that is not what u want. Happy expats, living in Panama, and traveling the world. Happy life to everyone
Looove this!!!! I am so inspired and happy to see this movement. I am a black woman. 39. Never married. No kids. Don't care to change that. I was on vacation in Jamaica when a staff member asked me while I was enjoying my dinner, where my kids were.....so intrusive and assuming. I said, "I don't have any. I'm here by myself enjoying my vacation." She was so shocked! But then, she said " Wow, enjoying life" 😂
I pray this video goes VIRAL! Everything I believe about being child-free was well articulated. There are some people, especially as a BW who WANT to see you struggle, broken, and desperate and they don't care how they achieve this goal. If the problem in the BC is single mothers then the quick cure for that is to go CHILD-FREE! I hope and pray more young BWs watch and adhere to the golden advice being given today. I am child-free and EVERY DAY is a blessing. BM act like they are re-populating the planet and no one says sh*t about it, this sick denigrate psychotic behavior is praised not even the church will take them to task. Child rearing has become a dangerous trap and BW are the victims. Please post this video, share it memorize it, and let it be your new bible. NO KIDS FOR ME THANK YOU!
I know a man who willingly slept with a woman unprotrcted and then blamed her for getting pregnant. I straight up told him that preventing children is his responsibilty as well znd i didnt want to hear it anymow
I got rid off my ex for abandoning me while being pregnant and after I had my daughter he thought he would be in and out of my life just cos we have a child together but I went cold turkey on him by going the no contact way. Him leaving me pregnant told me everything that I needed to know about this guy, yes I was married to this man if the ring changes anything for those who think it makes any difference to these men. He punished our daughter for not being in her life but it’s better this way than to have him be inconsistent.
That woman who typed in "When does menopause start? :)" into Google is so me bahaha. All of these women my age are talking about "fertility this" and "fertility that" but I just want to know when Ms. Menses will pack her bags and go away for good.
I got an IUD and hate it so Im going to get a copper non hormonal one in the New Year because the serious weight gain from this is ridiculous. The next step when I get better insurance is to get my tubes tied. Pregnancy is literally one foot in the grave and im not doing that for NO MAN. I DONT trust any man enough to give him my womb.
So many men live there lives without having kids or needing to have kids to be fufilled with life, no one bats an eye at them. it's always the woman that gets bad mouthed for not having kids and called 'selfish'. But no one calls folks who hate that they even had children, hate their own children for 'ruining their life' 'selfish' it makes no sense. It's one of the most resposible things someone can do to realizing they don't want to put a child into a traumatic enviroment.
🥳🥳🥳 100% don't have kids. Don't do it. Along with how the outside world treats you (you're never good enough), your family will treat you like crap and not actually help, you're never a good enough parent to your kids (the kids let you know eventually), and you're passing down all your family genetics that might mess your and your child's whole life up (disabilities, mental health issues, etc.). Don't have kids. Don't waste your time and energy.
9:45 She is absolutely correct. My mother was a twice divorced SM and neither my father or my brothers father paid child support. My mother went back to school and got her degree and had an amazing career. We lived well as she was a great provider. I’m childfree by choice. My brother has 5 from 3 different women. I figure he had enough for me too.
15:42👀 When I was in the 10th grade my Biology Teacher (Mr. Lemons) showed the class a film of a REAL BIRTH😮 THE PREP, THE SCREAMING, THE HUSBAND PASSING OUT THE WIFE CUSSING HIM AND THE NURSES OUT 😮 THEN THE HEAD WAS COMING 🤦🏾♀️. Yep that's all I saw. Took the rest of the week off and told Both of my parents. No kids coming from me🤷🏾♀️. At 53 I have no regrets. At least I don't have to worry about protecting my child(ren) from this this Woke, Demonetized World WE ARE living in today 🙏🏾😟
Im so happy to see this movement because carrying trauma or animosity for different sexes will be a critical risk factor for whatever children these women have. Relationship require so much empathy and humility they literally would be single parents in the making.
I knew since i was 13 i did not want children just watching what my mother went through raising us. I even felt she hated us most of the times. She was a single mother because my Father actually died when he was in the military back in the 90s. Im 34 now and still do not want kids and i definitely dont feel like making my kids feel like i hate them because of how stressful, and taxing it is financially, mentally, spiritually, emotionally and physically it is on our bodies. No thank you.
The nurse in the video that says poverty is a problem that is very true and that was one of the reason why marriage was a solution back in the days because marriage brought on financial stability and tax benefits to help with the poverty line as you raise a child. now that we need Financial benefit the most. When Economy going bad is when people decide opt out of one off the old way to get tax benefit ie marriage. it’s still a solution to poverty, not the whole solution, but it still help especially if you and your spouse are college educated and make decent of money. It’s ironic now when the economy is bad, we have men that are at the highest rate of high school dropout because they wanted some type of entertainment rap career, barely getting their GED and getting $15 managerial position at Walmart, are making threats on your life to have their kids to make you their next baby mama and using shaming tactics that they’re repeating from podcast bros. The climate for women having kids is unfixable
👍👍Women should never partner with or have kids with a male who can barely provide for himself; marriage won't solve anything for women with these males. Financially unstable or poor males still marry (then & now). The women who marry these males don't improve their lives by marrying & having kids. Women shouldn't marry males or have their children in a hostile environment (that males created).
Is it me or has anyone else noticed that the ones that try and spew hate towards women that don't have kids are always the men struggling, broke, hideous, or just have nothing going for them? Like I have never heard or seen successful, SECURE men spew this nonsense. I believe that the strugglies know that they will never reach the standard to attract and procreate with women so they instead try to humble woman, make her feel worthless, so she thinks that a brokie is the best she can do? Like this is my hypothesis and the evidence is compelling.
I am about as white as a sheet of paper, and I absolutely love your channel, Noire - I hope that's okay! These childfree videos and arguments are so valid - I am currently writing a list so I can print it and give it to everyone asking me because I am nearing 30 - and I am SO happy I found your videos
I whole heartedly agree with the young lady saying it’s self less to not have kids if you’re not ready emotionally, financially, etc . If you’re not really ready or you don’t want kids then don’t. No one has to live your life but you ❤
If a woman knows she does not want children and all that comes with it WHAT IS THE PROBLEM? People need to learn how to truly mind their business. Mind the business that is in front of you, under your roof, you are responsible for... Always going for the throats of women who are taking care of themselves and minding their own business.
2:33 If she is selfish for not having kids because she doesn’t want to end up being a single mother, aren’t men also selfish for not getting married because they don’t want to end up paying child support?
Single mothers are not the issue. Single parent households are the problem. Male children raised without a present, loving, protective, PROVIDING father become problems in society later on as they have no one positive to emulate. Stay child free.
This mindset actually glorifies the involvement and importance of men in a way. Honestly, a lot of kids are better off without their father. The best thing my kid's dad ever did for us was stay away. Life has been so much better for everyone ever since.
This is absolutely not true. Single mothers with financial means and a supportive community can raise children successfully as they have the resources to address all of the child’s needs. It is poverty and single mothers that is the core issue.
53 and no kids. Not one second of regret (evil laugh). Writing this as I lay on a Saturday morning in my RH bed with 400 thread count sheets in my peaceful condo drinking an espresso after sleeping in as long as I felt like. I don’t understand why all these women even feel the need to justify or explain why they don’t want kids. Ladies, you don’t have to justify a damn thing. This is YOUR life. PERIOD.
Sounds glorious! And to see women still on social media begging to get married and have kids is crazy to me.
Even with proof in their families, statistics and all over social media….they still think their outcome will be different.🥴
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@@zerotolerance2026Right!? Im married, mom, grandma. Very happy, but I think I got the unicorn? But I dont recommend it as neither church nor state support women, babies or families. What they do support is patriarchy and every pays dearly for that. My daughter against my warnings, got with a guy. So many red flags! Had a kid. She is now separated from him and got her tubes tied!
😂😂😂😂 you go girl. ❤❤❤
💯💯💯💯💯💯 Same. I'm 51 and also have not had a single moment of thinking, "it would be nice to have kids." NEVER crossed my mind. My dog is enough, lol.
They hate it even more when you're gorgeous and inaccessible
Facts! 💯😂 They want to trap beautiful women so bad.
YES!!!
This the one 😮💨😮💨 they be so upset 😭 😂
Yikes!
oh really...
In a world that that does everything to set you up for failure, being a childfree black woman is a major flex. One of the best decisions of my life. I love seeing more black women openly rejecting single motherhood. My life is so peaceful and enriching at 33. Getting sterilized soon as well. People are particularly uncomfortable seeing black women rest, be carefree, and defy all the negative stereotypes.
Don’t sterilize yourself. Just require the man to have a vasectomy before touching you.
Didn't Korean women go on strike ?😂 they're not having kids and marrying 😂
@missam3404flex meaning control n discipline
@missam3404 Oh it's indeed a flex lol Have you spent any time around people with school aged kids under 10? Tired, out of shape and aged by 5-10 years on average. Those are just the couples I know who are in good marriages as well as being financially stable. Big Flex! Wouldn't trade it for the world LMFAOOOO
On a serious note though, having a choice IS privilege. A HUGE one at that. Having enough resources to live the way you desire isn't an option everyone has. Unfortunately there are some places in the world where some women are so oppressed and vulnerable due to limited rights that they don't.
Hell, look at how they're trying to suppress women's rights in the US to try and force women to birth more children. The numbers are declining globally. Many women view motherhood as overrated and are opting out. At any rate, all choices are valid. May everyone have the ability to say they chose their life
I want to COMPLETELY remove my tubes if possible because they can UNTIE. 2025 GOALS!
When men talk about accountability and consequences for women, they mean women should have to suffer.
Many of them dont really like women. They resent us. I think they want to be us so bad.
And be their concubines…
@@cb4664I SAY THIS TO THEM...🖕🏾
And women dont suffer enough by birthing YOUR "LEGACY". Its all nonsense.
They want us to suffer! Me and my friend were just talking on the phone for that! 😭😭😭😭😭
When women are telling you that it's easier to be a divorced single mom than a married single mom, that tells you all you need to know!
I was a married single mother. Now I am divorced single mother. It is much easier and I love it here!
I know what you mean both my parents been married for over 40 years.
My dad won't even go on a 10 day cruise with my mom that both my siblings already paid for.
Yet, my mom is cooking a weekly feast while she is gone to make sure he doesn't starve!
@@dose_ofsha
Couldn't be me. I hate to say it, but if something happens to your Mom, he's going to be counting on one of you all to pick up where your mother left off. 👀
I was a much happier kid when my mum finally left my step dad. And motherhood in my experience is much easier without the man.
I agree. It’s much easier and cheaper without a worrisome husband.
@@gereinhart4155 she never said she wasn't responsible for anything or blamed anyone. She just stated facts that she's happier now single.
One of the federal inmates where I work said I was selfish for not having children...meanwhile he's in prison while his 4 baby mother's are raising his children.... in poverty and alone.
😂 the irony of it all!
His mammy should've been selfish then.
He should shut up.Is he thinking about how he going to support his kids when he get out.He is going have hard time getting a job as a Black man with a record.He needs to think about his kids.
@@saramatthews7159exactly! And with all of that, men and some women are still to stupid to understand the irony in all of that. Why should my unborn child suffer?
He is locked up for some selfish decision that he made!
Poverty causes trauma.
It does! 😭😭😭😭
Its true. And 'poverty' stems from how society has been structured.
But mostly in the sense that if someone is poor they shouldn't have kids and if they have kids they could hustle and try to be a good parent but mostly the kid will be the punching bag for the bad reactions of the bad parent, low income parents get angry they are poor and decide to punish their kids. So always the parents to blame.
Being poor and single is middle class these days
@lealmelisa Truth and this is by someone with these types of parents. It honestly boggles my mind how they fuck their own lives up, then get mad when we get upset at how shit life was living under them as a result.
Don't do hair n nails, don't go to nursing school. Do something the men do and get the same big bag they do. Electrical engineering. If you want to be an artist, graphic design. If you need to be around kids, go volunteer to eat lunch with em at school once a week.
💯 I made a STEM video, making a trade school video tomorrow
This comment tickles me because I am a medical laboratory scientist and an esthetician. I'm having trouble breaking into the ‘beauty industry’ because I am used to my 9-5 pay
Yes, darling. I chose to pursue a career path in Cloud engineering.
I used pay IT technicians to fix my computer. Now, I build my own.
Don't be afraid to compete with men.
The last part about spending time with kids. There are so many(already-born lol) kids who want an adult to spend time with them and talk to them about their own little lives. You don’t have to have your own to be in community with children and make a positive impact on their lives.
@@OhHeyyyTherethank you !!!!! I’ve always said I don’t want children but I know I’m going to be a mother figure. I don’t have to give birth to be a mother figure to our community.
Bw are taking accountability, by being child free. Which means less fatherless homes in the bc. Now bm are calling us selfish for not having children. Im convinced bm just want bw to be miserable and overwhelmed.
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They want you to be miserable and use the kids to keep you attached to them and their degeneracy.
I’m sitting here, in my peaceful clean home, bills paid, drinking a cup of coffee…..contemplating my day.
So yeah…. I’m selfish and loving every minute of it!🤸🏽♂️
I cant speak for the Black Community, but men everywhere need to deconstruct patriarchy bx its screwed them too! This idea that you can be the king of your little kingdom is bunk. The church nor state truly supoorts the family. They certainly dont support women nor children.
Yep
Bingo
I really like that comment "The longer you willingly go without having a child, the less you want one". That is where I am in life right now. 💁♀️
I got married. Met him at church. Waited till marriage to be intimate. Had a child, ended up a single married mother. Divorced. Now a single mother. It doesn’t matter how perfect you choose you will still be a single mother.
Yeah I hate the belief that the woman always did something wrong. Like me say "vet better" there is so such thing.
@@Ladymagentabennett I love when you do everything right and there are people out here like yourself who say “vet better.” For the most part women are not the problem.
I am about empowering women. Telling women to “vet better,” is about making women feel bad when truth is men lie, men cheat, men bring their representative to the relationship for years. It’s their culture.
@@lilpinkbubbles6592 I was sympathizing with the original author. I just had a bunch of typos I meant to say "Like men say "vet better", there is NO such thing". I agree it is a statement to undermine the experiences of women with men.
what happened??
I keeps telling ppl you can do everything by the book, it don't matter.
1:00 she hit the nail on the head. Stop having kids. Then they can stop blaming single mothers.
True, but yeah, they're still gonna blame us for something! That's just how they are! MEN!!! Geesh!
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its the black men thats complaining about birthing them, so that statement should be to cut down on the birth of black males
@@camiblutube7116God never should’ve made Adam eve n lily be just fine!!
@Sky-yh3ml what was God's reason to create humans tho? 😢
They don’t want our kids anyway. They need to stop stressing us. Focus on who they choosing these days
Seems like it for some anyway!😂😢😅 THE Jokes on the Women struggling to deal with it and the poor kids who are left damaged by those irresponsible behaviors and acts!
Yes, let the exoticals & preferences put up with that crap.
Let’s reframe and state that we don’t want their children. Why give birth to the children of mentally defective males. Self-hatred is an illness.
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@@Tigerlily_Fresh
Exactly!
Childfree, spayed/neutered, 45. I promise life only gets better, women (and men.)
53. Facts.
Spayed/neutered 🤣🤣🤣
Unmarried 38 year old and childfree career woman from South Africa. The insults from African people are horrible. they call me a barren witch with issues, and no one can love me. I don't am care. I can afford my life, I am well traveled and very happy.
They're jealous. Please watch your back and protect yourself. That kind of aggression sounds dangerous.
I feel you 😢
Here to support you sis, from the US. They try it over here too, but we're not hearing any of that noise. Do you boo. We're learning in the age of Diddy's, R Kelly's, Harvey Weinstein's and other abusers that have been getting away with being predators and still maintaining public support that the majority absolutely can be wrong. I say all that long-windedly to say, you're doing the right thing and don't let anyone try to pull you into their misery and negative energy 💜 edit: *spelling
Weirdness is all around the world.
I'm over 40 and Child-FREE so they'll probably accuse me of being Sat@n himself 😆🤣 Oh well. I'm loving MY life... Be encouraged, boo 💗
The average person can't even afford to take care of themselves these days. So how y'all having kids when you already struggling just to keep a roof over your head?
This is how: They EXPECT FAMILY to step up and fund them AS IF THEY LAID DOWN & SPREAD'em for the phukkboys!!!!
-- Nah, B: I LIVE *WITHIN MY MEANS*. When YOU had the kid, that is NOT an indication for Me to need to ADJUST MY means to take care of a child when you told alllll yo wise Elders to mind their business.... So guess what? I'mma mind My business AND MY FUNDS.
Congrats to you & dude though. 😅🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂🤣
I had one niece try to use the same lie THREE WEEKENDS IN A ROW to juice Me for instant cash, lol. AND THEN tried to set up the AuntieATM after getting knocked up, smhlol: I wonder if she STILLLL doesn't realize yet that *you can't slick a can of oil* ... ROFLMBAOLOLOL
This is what I wanna know
Sorry but some men have made it difficult for women to want to have children with them. Who would openly opt for struggle, disrespect and poverty? Limiting her opportunities and experiences in life?
Parenthood is a wonderful thing for parents who are committed to each other and the children in a positive and financially stable situation.
Too many men begrudge taking a woman out for a meal. Why would she want to have a relationship with him or children with them?
Struggle love is over.
Facts I'm Childfree and just turned 30! Loving it these other folks be miserable these men baby trap 🪤 all day
53. Not one second of regret. So glad I chose ME.
I’m not miserable I live my child and my life. But I don’t blame people who are child free. I e wanted a child all my life and some women didn’t but that’s ok too!
Turning 30 this year and child free. 🥂
I just turned 43 and the older I get the more I see that I am incredibly blessed to have stayed single and childfree. I thank my guardian angels for protecting me from that evil life that almost all my female family suffer from.
Divorced single mother of 1. He sent his little chump change each month and thought he was doing wonders. Out of 15yrs, i was able to count that he saw his son like 5 times. We were taught that it's mommy's baby, daddy's maybe.
Yeah men gotta be locked up for this shit.
I have three children and married. My oldest daughter wants to be child free and I support her 💯. Apply that pressure ladies
Telll her to be sex free, not child free. Just by two cents!
I'm so happy for her & proud of you as her mother!
And it looks like I don't need to tell YOU this, but the type of females who can be found trying to po'leece others' wombs GENERALLY choose trashppl in their own lives (friends AND partners), and they are likely NOT mature enough to raise children, so I don't suggest following the recommendation of someone just randomly insisting that you should have children - ESPECIALLY AFTER YOU'VE EXPRESSED THAT YOU DON'T WANT CHILDREN.
Steer clear of those females -- LIKE THE GENTLEMEN DO who don't wanna be bothered with them. 😅🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂🤣
@@LadymagentabennettTBH. Toys do good enough if not better. Females out here think being ran through is cute but not 1 orgasm or even payment smfh.
I hop my daughter is like this
50 year old black woman and i decided to never have children this was the best decision i have ever made. All i do is me and i love being responsible for only me
Say it again for the people in the back!!!!
53. SAME. Bank accounts on fleek.
I am a 58y old black woman with no kids and I love ❤️ it. Getting ready to turn 59 Jan 1st.
@@lisamccray9079 Good for you! I bet you look great for a woman that’s almost 59.
Not having kids keep you looking young.
Happy early birthday to you!🎉
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There's plenty of orphans out there that need a good home. They are completely forgotten.
I like how one of the ladies pointed out that even being married doesn't save you from being a single mother. Way too many women are waiting for the ring to have kids, I feel sorry for them when they find out they were living in fairyland.
And they will find out….what most of us already know. Thank God for social media….to help get the word out. Marriage for women is a scam.
Hopefully generation Alpha women will be saved.
They really are. It’s so sad 😭
That's your own opinion
Also in this day and age the men don't even want to get married 🙄 or work can't win for losing 🙃
@@elongaabigail8636that’s not her opinion..that’s a FACT!!!
29% of single mothers are divorced and 15.6% are separated.
childfree and chillin'
Need a t-shirt for this ❤❤❤❤
I know you heard this a thousand times but your eyes are so mesmerizing. 60 yr single childfree bw......yall won't regret it....I promise you.
50+ childfree bw. No regrets at all!
53 here… same. I’m convinced the song “Don’t believe the hype” was made about having kids lololol
50s and happy Im married, kids and grandkids BUT it is true, neither the govt nor the church supports women, babies and families. And 95% of the males out there do not need to be husbands and dads.
@@Marcothecasegod911 Yes! It takes a lot of maturity and fortitude, to maintain a relationship and a ton of work to shepherd a childs mind and heart. I agree with you: most people should not parent.
@@deirdremorris9234 what u mean by maturity i seen childish couples in a good way raise kids then i see strict couples raise kids n they end up awful, it’s really just hope and prayer they end up what you persecute as good or what u think that’s contributed to society
I tried to get my tubes tied. I was told I had to wait until I was 27 and/or permission from my husband. We have to protect our girls.
U are so wrong for doing without talking to ur husband. Why even get married. Girl bye
@@originaleverythingelseisca5977I wasn't married. Turns out, he was. He didn't tell me.
@@originaleverythingelseisca5977your assuming way to much... and are triggered asf
@@originaleverythingelseisca5977 She didn't say she didn't talk to her husband. She said the hospital wouldn't do it without her husband's permission. Also, it's her body, when did she become her husband's slave. She should be able to get it done without his "permission." What the fcuk is he, her master or her daddy??
I wish the HELL I WOULD ask a DAMN MAN for PERMISSION TO CHANGE MY BODY!!!!
Aged 47 with no kids and lots of wealth. I have always wanted kids but never wanted to be a single mother nor a single married mother. Always had make attention and dates. Trust, when you are dating folks, you can tell who will be a present and involved husband and father. I’ve passed on men who don’t meet the qualifications for present and involved husband and father.
While I don’t agree with telling ppl not to have kids and everyone should do what they want, I do encourage everyone to have financial stability for themselves before marriage and children.
I agree with the nurse lady with the bandanna.Once on have kids one cannot reverse the decision.Tgere are to many single mothers.Kids cist money.There are too many people who do not want kids.It is always tge women taking on tge childcare when they have kids.I would encourage women not to have kids or at least have their lives together financially before having kids.No more than two kids.
I think the reason people call black childfree women "selfish " because we are the mule of the community. How dare we break the stereotype of the welfare queen. How dare we not be a single baby mama struggling. How dare we put ourselves first?
Sorry but with bw, it is our fault if we're having kids by men who don't want them or who haven't married us. Honestly I think any woman who has a black or mixed black child is a bad mother, because you know how terribly abusive this country is to us and you bring children into this terrible life voluntarily.
Well said👏👏👏
100% TRUTH!!!
good point
Hit my spirit hard ! We are expected to endure! Choosing to not engage in this foolery proves we have worth !!!!!! Self worth ❤
I love this for blk women
Not having a baby when you don't WANT a baby, or are incapable of giving that baby what it deserves is selfish?
But HAVING a baby because you WANT one, but are single and financially not ready is NOT SELFISH?
Make it make sense.
Forget financially, how about MENTALLY AND EMOTIONALLY?? Just out here creating more damaged individuals in the world…cmon now.
@@cb4664 Agreed!
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@@cb4664Spot on!
Protect your wombs sisters! its a spiritual thing. Im so happy seeing this ugh🥰
It is because we keep birthing men that hate us 😪🫡✌🏾
Ironic that the last song is Hard knock life by Orphan Annie. Unwanted and parentless children is so unnecessary and women have the power to stop these things happening to children.
Exactly
“Orphan Annie,” my grandmother was an orphan because her parents conceived too many children and they couldn’t afford her, so they abandoned her. She was their 5th child. She grew up in an orphanage and never was adopted, so she never had parents. I cannot even fathom growing up in this world and never having any parents to support you or mentor you through this life. Mind you this was before birth control during 1920s, The Depression.
In regard to the abortion topic, people like to argue “adoption” is always the answer, but in all harsh reality not every child gets adopted. Not every adult can financially afford a child. Also, the children in the foster care system barely get any money from the government to live off of, roughly $1000 per month - that’s not livable income in today’s standards. Many children in the foster care system who never get adopted age out of the system and have to fend for themselves once they turn 18 years old. Those children have a high incarceration rate and become victims of human trafficking.
@@camidonahue8882💔💔💔💔💔💔
@@camidonahue8882This. The church nor state "truly" support family. If it were true, there would be no fee adoptions! Diapers, formula and daycare would be free. One year maternity and paternity leave.
They also don't realise that choosing better means not choosing black men. By majority.
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Oh shit 😂😂
It is absolutely selfish to birth kids into poverty and dysfunction. There is no shame in waiting to have kids or choosing not to have them at all.
Just means no ring
There was a reel of me at 6yrs having a fit that I wanted no husband and no kids. I’m 50yrs now and I still don’t have a husband or kids. I have no regrets. It is the best decision I’ve ever made 😊
Yessss stay childfree..was married 16yrs and he had a mask on..now single mom of 3
I was married 16 years too. Luckily I saw through the mask in time and ran like a runaway slave. When I realized his new plan was to impregnate me at the end so I wouldn’t leave I simply refused to lay with him. In the same house. For more than a year. Saved my money then chucked up the deuces. He’s still butthurt.
Men do change also ladies if don't want kids don't have them I am 58yrs old with no kids and don't regret either I like to travel and don't have to worry about a babysitter.
Sorry this happened to you.
This is BEAUTIFUL. So proud of women choosing this and thriving.
My own mother was a single mother and I still blame her for our crappy childhood. I as a woman won’t accept getting impregnated by an abusive loser nor will I choose to be pregnant and live in poverty.
I encounter more happier childless women of ALL ages than mothers (married or single) and that alone confirms that I'm making the right decision to protect my womb. No one is shaming me away from that decision.
I tell my daughter all the time never have any kids and never get married. And we encourage her to go into Information Technology or Project Management. She is a great speaker and has command presence, so she has that going for her as well.
@missam3404 I can tell her whatever I want. It’s called parenting, not weird. It will obviously be her choice to make, otherwise I would have said, “my daughter isn’t allowed to get married and have kids and has to become a project manager.”
Did I say I imprisoned her on an isolated island? No i didn’t.
So it’s incredibly stupid for you to say she can’t make her choice. You obviously don’t know anything about parenting. So you shouldn’t be talking to me about parenting. We’re supposed to guide OUR children in the direction WE think is best for them.
She’s my child, not yours.
@@TextureTalk1PERIOD !
I'm telling my sons to avoid women like u and their daughters
I had my first and last child at 43. She’s now 23. I’m agreeing with this young ladies comment. If you really wanna have a child one option just an option is to have the child closer to the end of your fertility cycle. For me, it worked it wasn’t planned, but it worked because by then I had a bachelors degree and a masters degree was getting ready to work on license for clinical therapy I mean so the money was there to provide stability and security for my daughter as her father was not in the picture by the time my daughter was 12 he passed away so I think that if you want to do this for you and have a kid then you wait until you are closer to the end of your giving birth cycle and let me tell you you’re still might be climbing the ladder for business but it’s a joy when you have enough money and you have stability that you can share with your daughter is gravy for your daughter cause you’ve done well for yourself . to watch them grow up happy loving and worry Free no worries at all i s a beautiful thing.
Thank you for this. I’m 45 and have a one year old. I’m married and we’re enjoying our daughter. I didn’t settle when I was single. I waited for what I wanted. It isn’t perfect but it is NOT hell like some people I hear about. I pray it always stays that’s way. Sorry for the loss of your partner.
Agreed. You are financially stable and set. My life is very suitable for a child now. I am healed, healthy, and mentally sound! If I would have done it in my 20s, I would have just created the same generational trauma cycle. I was a whole hot damn emotional mess.
.....love this.... all black women aint a baby momma
These women not going to listen. A lot of them will still, birth children to this environment. That's selfish.
Of course, but they'll be the ones left behind in dysfunction. We are not going to be able to take everyone with us to the Promised Land. And I don't have any extra tickets and no I'm not paying their way.
PERIOD! @@Tigerlily_Fresh
@missam3404 It is when you are unaware of what they have to deal with and go through in school, work, college or literally anything else in their lives.
@missam3404 then provide 1 selfless reason to procreate
I'm in my 50's and childfree with no regrets. I also believe that motherhood is a beautiful life for those who desire AND prepare for it. Either way you decide, make sure that your decision isn't based on unresolved trauma. Take account of your decisions, weigh your desires along with the pros and cons. Whether BW choose to be childfree or mothers, I want you to soar and enjoy life! ❤
SAME!
Resting is one of the biggest things on the list that I miss most about being child free.
61 divorced after 3 years of male control and abuse, no kids (I knew better). No regrets.
First married to addicted husband then moved out with 1 year old daughter, I went to college and got a career. Second husband left when my daughter became addicted and had a daughter. I was married almost 20 years when I needed to raise my precious granddaughter but the man that said he loved me didn’t want to raise a child so he divorced me. Now I’m 66 and my granddaughter is doing great and this will be the first time that I can start putting myself first! I will never be with a man again. I paid off my house, no other debt and my retirement is fully funded. I’m starting to feel happy! It’s been a long road
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I'm a mother and I encourage my daughter not to have kids. And I was very honest with her. I told her that I love her to death but chose to have kids for the wrong reasons. I constantly remind her to choose herself first and to never forget that men are fundamentally selfish. It's almost becoming a song for us 😂 I'm not gonna lie, our lives for better since her dad left, we travel at least 3 times a year, we get our nails done together, eat in good restaurants, we be livin😌 I'm not expecting grandkids and that's more than fine by me 🤷🏿♀️
you do realize you couldn't do anything of those activities with your own daughter if you didn't chose to sacrafice and have one. SO i'm like who you sacaficied your body and life and you what sounds like a delightful friend, but you don't want that life.
You are demonstrating the elements of AN AMAZINGLY ENCOURAGING MOTHER & GUIDE, and you both are Blessed to have one another.
Now, she'll never know what it feels like to say about her own child/children "we travel at least 3 times a year, we get our nails done together and we eat in good restaurants". I would wonder if she has close friends since she does these things with mom and not close friends and if she doesn't have close friends, who will be her support and companions when mom gets older and passes, since death is inevitable. If I was in the same position, I would rather ask her what she wants, instead of projecting my fears from negative experiences on her and support her in whatever she wants to do with her life.
@@KimberWaul 😂😂😂😂 girl is you ok?!? Because I spend time with my underage daughter and do things for us to bond she won't be able to experience those things?!? I know you're not serious 😂😂😂 The way I can't wait to be an empty nester so I can travel the world. Don't worry about my daughter hun, she'll live HER life and have a great relationship with me. We can have both you know. I'm sorry you didn't have that kind of relationship with your mom so you're trying to project wtv lack of yours on my relationship with my daughter. Love, Light and Prayers to you 💖💖
@@kennyav25 ARE you okay? It is petty and pointless to try to insult someone based on an assumption, my dear. You clearly don't know me or my mother (with whom I am very close, by the way). I work with the youth and among those who have issues of resentment toward parents, fear, doubt and regret, one of the most common reasons I hear regarding these, is that their parents projected their brokenness, failures and bad experiences unto them. This often creates inner conflict, when one has been taught one thing, but feels drawn to the immediate opposite. They often say that they wish that they were allowed to form their own opinions, which is why I said that I would rather "ask what she wants", instead of "encouraging" my child towards a certain belief that's based on my own bad experiences or perhaps projecting my fears and failures unto my child. Anyway, grace and peace to you.
No more, being miserable beast of burdens most of our babies are never valued anyways!
What I always notice about this video is that alot of the women are really good looking. Its usually the intelligent and beautiful ones the men try to mess up first.
They're ugly and bow average
Not everyone is meant to be a pilot of a plane, not everyone is meant to be a captain of a ship, not everyone is meant to be a soldier, not everyone is meant to be a doctor, and not everyone is meant to be a PARENT! Just because you can make a baby doesn't mean that you should have one.
Married 53 glorious, childfree by choice yrs. Got preg in ' 71, while using bc. Was horrified, as I never wanted kids, went out of country, for abortion, and tubal. Next yr, hubby had vasectomy. Former nurse, ret psychiatrist, hubby retired lawyer. Never one minute of regret with our choice. Meanwhile, our friends have boomerang kids, can't ret cuz helping babysit grandkids, or grandkids need lawyers/bail money, money for food clothing, shelter. I have four nieces, all in their late 40's, all childfree, and fixed. One nephew, 44, has vasectomy. Never let anyone force u into having kids, if that is not what u want. Happy expats, living in Panama, and traveling the world. Happy life to everyone
Do not give access to your body it works wonders.
A ring means security 😂😂😂😂😂 delusional she is delusional if she really believes a rings 💍 means security 😂🤦🏿♀️
👏👏👏👏 Yesssssss ladies!!! Put yourselves first. Child free and loving it.
👏👏👏👏👏👏👏 I applaud all single, childfree women, but especially BW. You all need to be treated like QUEENS!
Just let women enjoy child freedom! 😊
The lady in the scrubs got my attention… I’m listening to you 💯.
So proud of y’all… all of you.
Looove this!!!! I am so inspired and happy to see this movement. I am a black woman. 39. Never married. No kids. Don't care to change that. I was on vacation in Jamaica when a staff member asked me while I was enjoying my dinner, where my kids were.....so intrusive and assuming. I said, "I don't have any. I'm here by myself enjoying my vacation." She was so shocked! But then, she said " Wow, enjoying life" 😂
I'm happy for women who choose to stay childless and even happier for women who are privileged to have kids.
Both women are winning ❤❤
I pray this video goes VIRAL! Everything I believe about being child-free was well articulated. There are some people, especially as a BW who WANT to see you struggle, broken, and desperate and they don't care how they achieve this goal. If the problem in the BC is single mothers then the quick cure for that is to go CHILD-FREE! I hope and pray more young BWs watch and adhere to the golden advice being given today. I am child-free and EVERY DAY is a blessing. BM act like they are re-populating the planet and no one says sh*t about it, this sick denigrate psychotic behavior is praised not even the church will take them to task. Child rearing has become a dangerous trap and BW are the victims. Please post this video, share it memorize it, and let it be your new bible. NO KIDS FOR ME THANK YOU!
God bless the child free women. You are making history. You are making a powerful change to this earth and have my utmost respect. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
I know a man who willingly slept with a woman unprotrcted and then blamed her for getting pregnant.
I straight up told him that preventing children is his responsibilty as well znd i didnt want to hear it anymow
As a single mother of 3 who just got fixed this past friday. I love this for themmmm.
I’m waiting for our government to penalize fatherhood like they do motherhood.
I am so glad for my decision to never want kids , my life is so happy without that stress
I got rid off my ex for abandoning me while being pregnant and after I had my daughter he thought he would be in and out of my life just cos we have a child together but I went cold turkey on him by going the no contact way. Him leaving me pregnant told me everything that I needed to know about this guy, yes I was married to this man if the ring changes anything for those who think it makes any difference to these men. He punished our daughter for not being in her life but it’s better this way than to have him be inconsistent.
Good for u..that man is not worth it.❤
That woman who typed in "When does menopause start? :)" into Google is so me bahaha. All of these women my age are talking about "fertility this" and "fertility that" but I just want to know when Ms. Menses will pack her bags and go away for good.
I got an IUD and hate it so Im going to get a copper non hormonal one in the New Year because the serious weight gain from this is ridiculous. The next step when I get better insurance is to get my tubes tied. Pregnancy is literally one foot in the grave and im not doing that for NO MAN. I DONT trust any man enough to give him my womb.
I am so happy for child free women 👏🏿🎉
So many men live there lives without having kids or needing to have kids to be fufilled with life, no one bats an eye at them. it's always the woman that gets bad mouthed for not having kids and called 'selfish'. But no one calls folks who hate that they even had children, hate their own children for 'ruining their life' 'selfish' it makes no sense. It's one of the most resposible things someone can do to realizing they don't want to put a child into a traumatic enviroment.
A child you have to raise alone 😔 for life and the men is gone.
🥳🥳🥳 100% don't have kids. Don't do it. Along with how the outside world treats you (you're never good enough), your family will treat you like crap and not actually help, you're never a good enough parent to your kids (the kids let you know eventually), and you're passing down all your family genetics that might mess your and your child's whole life up (disabilities, mental health issues, etc.).
Don't have kids. Don't waste your time and energy.
9:45 She is absolutely correct. My mother was a twice divorced SM and neither my father or my brothers father paid child support. My mother went back to school and got her degree and had an amazing career. We lived well as she was a great provider. I’m childfree by choice. My brother has 5 from 3 different women. I figure he had enough for me too.
15:42👀 When I was in the 10th grade my Biology Teacher (Mr. Lemons) showed the class a film of a REAL BIRTH😮 THE PREP, THE SCREAMING, THE HUSBAND PASSING OUT THE WIFE CUSSING HIM AND THE NURSES OUT 😮 THEN THE HEAD WAS COMING 🤦🏾♀️. Yep that's all I saw. Took the rest of the week off and told Both of my parents. No kids coming from me🤷🏾♀️. At 53 I have no regrets. At least I don't have to worry about protecting my child(ren) from this this Woke, Demonetized World WE ARE living in today 🙏🏾😟
I had an emergency C-section, never again 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
So true 👍
Yes your children are safe & sound
These women are so smart. I’m proud
Look at Jennie mai she married Yeezy after 2years she is already a single mom
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It takes two make a baby 👶 but the lady does do all the work that is why I didn't have kids the lady gets blamed
Im so happy to see this movement because carrying trauma or animosity for different sexes will be a critical risk factor for whatever children these women have. Relationship require so much empathy and humility they literally would be single parents in the making.
The childfree life is more appealing to me, especially as a bw
5:13 girl! This me WITH my son.. his dad thought I was gonna be trapped 😂… me and my son be out! He’s my rider til the wheels fall off!
Same
I knew since i was 13 i did not want children just watching what my mother went through raising us. I even felt she hated us most of the times. She was a single mother because my Father actually died when he was in the military back in the 90s.
Im 34 now and still do not want kids and i definitely dont feel like making my kids feel like i hate them because of how stressful, and taxing it is financially, mentally, spiritually, emotionally and physically it is on our bodies. No thank you.
Bout to go take a childfree walk right now😂
The nurse in the video that says poverty is a problem that is very true and that was one of the reason why marriage was a solution back in the days because marriage brought on financial stability and tax benefits to help with the poverty line as you raise a child. now that we need Financial benefit the most. When Economy going bad is when people decide opt out of one off the old way to get tax benefit ie marriage. it’s still a solution to poverty, not the whole solution, but it still help especially if you and your spouse are college educated and make decent of money.
It’s ironic now when the economy is bad, we have men that are at the highest rate of high school dropout because they wanted some type of entertainment rap career, barely getting their GED and getting $15 managerial position at Walmart, are making threats on your life to have their kids to make you their next baby mama and using shaming tactics that they’re repeating from podcast bros. The climate for women having kids is unfixable
👍👍Women should never partner with or have kids with a male who can barely provide for himself; marriage won't solve anything for women with these males. Financially unstable or poor males still marry (then & now). The women who marry these males don't improve their lives by marrying & having kids. Women shouldn't marry males or have their children in a hostile environment (that males created).
Child free women have lots of value. Dating a single parent comes with too many risks. My issue is "don't tell my child how to behave."
Is it me or has anyone else noticed that the ones that try and spew hate towards women that don't have kids are always the men struggling, broke, hideous, or just have nothing going for them? Like I have never heard or seen successful, SECURE men spew this nonsense.
I believe that the strugglies know that they will never reach the standard to attract and procreate with women so they instead try to humble woman, make her feel worthless, so she thinks that a brokie is the best she can do? Like this is my hypothesis and the evidence is compelling.
This what I be telling my 14 year… sending this video to her
These queens 👑 are glowing. ✨
They better be working too...cuz they have to pay their way for life
@@sdothoward2743they’d have to work a hell of a lot harder if they had kids
17:53 A ring does not equate financial stability. It's just a status symbol.
I am about as white as a sheet of paper, and I absolutely love your channel, Noire - I hope that's okay! These childfree videos and arguments are so valid - I am currently writing a list so I can print it and give it to everyone asking me because I am nearing 30 - and I am SO happy I found your videos
Husbandonment. Married single mother. New terms I've learnt this year.
I whole heartedly agree with the young lady saying it’s self less to not have kids if you’re not ready emotionally, financially, etc . If you’re not really ready or you don’t want kids then don’t. No one has to live your life but you ❤
Yeah my husbands dad had 2 kids before his current wife and he was barely in the kids lives and he was married to one of the women. It’s crazy
If a woman knows she does not want children and all that comes with it WHAT IS THE PROBLEM? People need to learn how to truly mind their business. Mind the business that is in front of you, under your roof, you are responsible for... Always going for the throats of women who are taking care of themselves and minding their own business.
2:33 If she is selfish for not having kids because she doesn’t want to end up being a single mother, aren’t men also selfish for not getting married because they don’t want to end up paying child support?
Single mothers are not the issue. Single parent households are the problem. Male children raised without a present, loving, protective, PROVIDING father become problems in society later on as they have no one positive to emulate.
Stay child free.
This mindset actually glorifies the involvement and importance of men in a way. Honestly, a lot of kids are better off without their father. The best thing my kid's dad ever did for us was stay away. Life has been so much better for everyone ever since.
This is absolutely not true. Single mothers with financial means and a supportive community can raise children successfully as they have the resources to address all of the child’s needs. It is poverty and single mothers that is the core issue.
@@FreeBirdee I know a lot of absolutely beautiful people who were raised by single mothers. Their mothers obviously did an amazing job.
I STRONGLY agree with this message. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾