Witnessing a Patients Final Moments
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 1 ต.ค. 2024
- This is one of my most sacred stories where a patient ended their life by taking Medication provided through the End of Life Option Act. This is a story from the full video where I explore the topic of Death with Dignity.
In this video, we'll explore what death with dignity is and why it is so controversial. Death with Dignity is a controversial topic, but it's one that deserves to be talked about. In this video, we'll explore what death with dignity means and why it is such an important issue. California’s End of Life Option Act passed in 2015. The law took effect on June 9, 2016.
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End of life act should be global for terminally ill and elderly. No one should be forced to suffer in their last days. ❤
Exactly.We put our pets to sleep rather then let them suffer..shouldn't human beings have the same choice?
I thought that if Hospice was done right, there would be little physical pain.
Should be legal, available, and it is a personal choice. Absolutely. Why suffer when u are terminal….it
Is archaic.
Agreed 100%
The final hour for dad had some awful choking and it was awful for us to see. I told the dr to get extra meds to help him be comfortable. Within 5 minutes of that needle he passed…. Exactly what we wanted his final moment to be like…. Enveloped by his daughters telling him we love him…. It was beautiful but I wish there was control over when because I’d never let my dog suffer for 7 years but we had no choice for a human with dementia. He would have wanted ti go before his memories died 2 years ago
Ive found your channel to be more helpful than all the "therapist" channels combined - when it comes to dealing with death!!!! You're so special!!!!
I'm sure it's because Nurse Julie is straightforward, unafraid, free of jargon and oh so empathetic and human. I've learned so much from her accounts of death, including this one of a self chosen death.
My Dad's death, from ALZ, was a beautiful death. We had put his hospital bed by the picture window of my childhood home. I grew up on the beach, overlooking the water and dunes (my front yard!) in Southern Maine. My parents were quite fortunate in that they had the funds to remain in their home with 24/7 care. Hospice came on about 4 months before my Dad passed. He had been non verbal for almost a year. At the dining room table one morning, he loudly & clearly said "OK, Let's Do This!" He went over to the hospital bed for the first time and crawled in...never to leave. My sister in Oregon and I (the Guardian/Conservator) flew home immediately. By the time I got there he was actively dying... My sister, who beat me home, went over to him and said, "Hi Dad!" He opened his eyes and called her by her childhood pet name and closed his eyes. It was the last words he spoke. It made her so happy.
I know this is a long story, but 1) People who die at home I believe are less agitated (not a med opinion). 2) Somewhere in that mind that seems broken...they are still there! Please do not stop talking to them. My Dad was taken by one of the care givers Christmas Shopping. The caregiver asked "What should we get Carol for Christmas?" He walked over to a display and handed her a stuffed penguin as I had quite a penguin collection growing up. When I opened it in front of him, we both burst into tears. Life is beautiful and death and dying can be beautiful too.❤
Not a long piece at all. Gave us insight into your dad and what made him tick..
I'm in Maine and dealing with this right now. I have a nextdoor neighbor that I take care of and he is family now. he lost his leg due to diabetes and shortly after his kidneys failed and had three heart attacks one fixed with full bypass surgery and the other two was fixed with stints and he's now on dialysis daily he's in pretty good spirit for the situation but just last week his heart was hurting again and had to go to the hospital thinking one of the stints failed and the doctor could just quickly fix it. Well it turned out the bottom half or quarter of his heart is just dead or dying so he doesn't have long Left. So the conversation of ending life on his terms came up but I didn't know if it was legal or possible in the state of Maine I'll look into it harder. Thanks very much for posting this sorry for the loss.
I’m in Maine as well and I don’t believe physician assisted death is legal even if the patient asks for it. Which I believe is ridiculous because it would greatly reduce someone’s suffering, as long as the patient wants it.
Thank you for sharing about your dad's passing. It does sound beautiful ❤️. I am hoping we have Act in my state. God bless you & your family
Thank you all for sharing your stories. Both of my folks were part of "The Greatest Generation" and they proved that daily in their actions and words. They were both in the Navy (WW2) and met and fell in love. My Dad was at Normandy. My Mom was a "Rosie the Riveter" before joining the Navy.
I told Nurse Julie about my own Hospice experience. I have a genetic condition (Life Limiting Disease) Had to fire first group. 2 other agencies didn't understand my disease, and would not take me on. I am now with a care giver (free!) and theoretically can get 24/7 care.
I have incurable cancer and I am beyond grateful that I live in a country that lets me decide when enough is enough. Thank you for your part in making this inevitable journey less frightening.
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I will keep you in my prayers! ❤
Just hope you are ok msg reply if U want would love U to.
Just close your eyes and wallah.
I lost my aunt tonight from lung cancer in a beautiful hospice. As she was dying, we saw a Robin outside the window. It had visited the day before, too. I held her hand as she passed, and at the moment she departed, I felt a warm feeling wash over me. It was such a tranquil and beautiful
experience. I felt honoured to be with her as she took her last breath ❤ ps Julie I watched your channel to prepare for her death, thank you it helped me so much.
Beautiful, for both you and your aunt.
My condolences to you!! Cherish the beautiful moments you had with your aunt!!
Before my mum got unwell a Robin used to come into her house everyday she fed it and it stayed around her garden until she died a few months later and we keep seeing robins everywhere now
@LouiseGroenewald-hj2vo Yes, I have a daily visitor in my garden now. 🥰
My dad had Lou Gerhigs disease, ALS. It affected his throat, speaking, eating and swallowing, a very critical location. In the day there was no other option but to suffer daily. As it became worse, unbeknownst to us he was researching suicide via car exhaust in the garage (unattached from house). On Valentines day he gave me this long stare as i came by parents house after work frequently. So he did commit suicide rather than on going suffering. It was gruesome to think he could swallow his tongue and choke due to lack of muscle deterioration. Assisted suicide should be available, my dad was a Catholic.
RIP dad 🕊🌹💖
My heart and prayers go out to you and your dad. This should be an option for anyone who chooses it. God bless you, RIP for your dad.
@WalturdTheCat thank you, it was years ago but still in my memory.
I'm so sorry he felt so desperate. It's awful to feel that way. ALS is a nasty disease. ❤
That good man is in a better place now
I understand your pain. My 21 year old boy shot himself in October of last year. Grief is NOTHING like suicide bereavement. They're two totally different things. 🥺
I helped with caring for my sister-in-law in her last days. I truly believe that end-of-life medications should always be available to anyone on hospice.
That's exactly how I want to go. Laughing and joking. Not sad and depressed. I hope I get to leave the way I want to leave.
Same 🥰❤️
Me too
It's probably a lot easier to think that right now when you're far off from having to make the decision to commit suicide when you're still laughing and feeling good. I don't know how someone can take committing suicide so lightly. I'm not judging just thinking differently. Life is a gift. God bless, my friends!
@@LPH-11 I feel very similar to you. I’ve always thought, God brings us in this world, He decides when to take us out. I do not judge however, that is also Gods job, so please don’t come at me, just giving my opinion that’s all….Blessings and love ❤️ from above. 🙏🏼🕊️
@@Shannon71172 👍
I was at a patient's death within 2 months of working for Hospice. The wife said, he must have been waiting for you to be here so we weren't alone. It's such an honor to be at their bedside at that last breath.
It's legal here, but I can't do it because of my religious beliefs. So, I wait.
I’m a Catholic Christian I understand that some may wish to take charge of their end but I believe that God is the author of our lives and he will take us in his time. I believe Hospice could keep me comfortable if I was in that state but it’s not for me to take a cocktail and go to sleep on my own. That is a mortal sin it’s suicide. Let me go when the Lord says “come home.”
You are Soo right. Hospice is legal euthanasia. God does not approve it.
God and Jesus gave you Free Will, right? God has a plan for you, right? So when your inner Faith gives you the idea to go ahead to die, without sin, without suffering with a terminal disease for the rest of your life why not? God gave you the gift to decide... It's not suicide if you are terminal, you'd die the same way, on pain meds, either way.
Personally I could never make that call to end my own life but I don't judge others and I find it kind of endearing what she chose for herself. All the love and support that was there is actually nice. May she rest in peace. ❤
It would be hard for me too. Not sure if I would do it. But no judgment to those who want to use it
I think it’s scarier not knowing when and having to deal with the pain associated with terminal illnesses.
My heart aches for these people in the comments who are suffering and wish to take control and to end their pain!
I also see the potential for the abuse of this as well and it causes me to pause.
Yet if it was myself I Know that I would want the option to stop the suffering!!
This is only a tough one because the potential for it’s abuse is permanent!
Honestly, after Covid the struggle is worse for me mentally as I have absolutely Zero trust in our government!
I don’t want to see Death with Dignity turned into Euthanasia “mandates” down the not too distant road!!
The Fact that I almost lost my ability to earn a living due to illegal health “mandates” is also all.too.real for me and I will NeveR forget the gaslighting I suffered at the hands of our very own government and my airline!
I guess that I ultimately come down to personally we should have the choice to manage our own death if we are able of death is inevitable anyway!
That our government will not ultimately abuse this process “for our own good,” or “for our health” I have very little faith that it won’t go in that direction!!
I agree, we should have the right on how we would like to die, and when.
I'm very torn about this. Being a Christian I know it's against Gods law to take your own life. What has me torn is, would God really want me to suffer like that and let the cancer completely eat me up and cause me excruciating pain? I don't have that answer. I know personally I'd have to spend plenty of time in prayer about it. Do I judge others for doing it? Absolutely not. That's not my job thankfully to judge others. My uncle had lung cancer and no insurance. The pain got to be too much for him and he took his own life. In the end he asked God to forgive him. (He left a note) this really changed me being "against" assisted you know. Best we can do is hold each other's hands love them and pray for them and let the rest go to them and God
I have so many mixed emotions on this topic. But to know this young lady passed surrounded by the loves of her life makes my heart so happy.
You seem to be the self-righteous one. It is not your job to judge other people's actions. That is their Lord's job. If you have nothing nice to say, then keep it to yourself. @@7Sheepinwolvesclothing7 There is nothing more sinful than a false preacher.
I always wander what was your position about this matter. I totally agree. It should be available in all states.
There are other videos from Julie about it, just lately she posted one, maybe look for it. Reading the comments is always interesting ( hearing the discussion ).
May we never know fear again.
Some people have the meds to end their life, it is THEIR DECISION. Anyone else who talks about 'your god', please go. I have no use for the narrow minded bull-oney.
This woman was LOVED TO THE END, i want to have a death like this.
I am star dust, and to the universal, i will return.
I agree 100%
I wish they had this in the UK where I am. I have stage four cancer and just months to live now. But my life is so difficult and painful. Most of my life is just suffering and exhaustion and pain. Even with all my meds. I just wish I had the choice to take this. Thankyou for your very helpful videos xxx
I'm also in the UK & wish it was legal here. I have chronic illness Which I've had for over 40 years & everyday I lose a bit more of me as things get worst. I was a nurse so know how things work, but it would be nice for things to be legal.
@@lindabenny4454 I'm so sorry what you are going through. All the love in the world to you and praying for you 💛💛💛
May you both find peace and comfort soon.
It should just be commonplace. This should be available and easy to access everywhere but unfortunately people just aren't interested in the really important topics at this point.
@@omavicmcmurray2893 thankyou so much. Sending you much love light and blessings 💛💛💛
I was there right through looking after my mum who wanted to remain at home. Gave up my job as a teacher to be her main carer. I was there for her last breath. It's the most sacred thing I've experienced. Very profound, spiritual and wouldn't of got through it all, doing all that I had to do n sacrifice if I hadn't if found you and your videos Julie x
Janice- thank you so much for caring for your mum 💗💗💗- the greatest act of love
Your mom was there when you took your first breath and you were there when she took her last breath. So beautiful. Thx for sharing.
Thank you Julie. Your presentations are always rational, cogent, reasonable and eminently valuable as an educational resource. Keep up the good work.
EVERYONE should have this choice. What is the medication they give? I worked in pharmacy for 30 yrs and I have a few guesses but I don't want to guess wrong.
Morphine
@@badeugenecops4741 not
It's not morphine
It's a mixture of 4 lethal doses of medications- a couple to sedate, a couple to stop the heart
@@hospicenursejuliethanks😊
Thank you for sharing…living in Canada MAID (medical aid in dying) is legal and is used actively. I know of a number of people who have used it to die with dignity on their terms surrounded by people and love. A beautiful death in my opinion.
How beautiful. She was dying no matter what but it was on her terms.
Yes- exactly
@@hospicenursejulie I watched my mom, dad and 1 brother suffer and it is traumatizing for everyone including them!!
Your a very beautiful and brave lady.Thank you so much for your video"s.
Pain meds did not relieve my dying mother’s pain. She had a huge, black bed sore that was not going to get better and every time hospice came to change her dressing, she cried in pain. It was so hard on her and I had to watch her suffer too many times until her death. I support death with dignity now.
The beauty of MAID is that people do not have to die alone if they choose to end their lives on their own terms. If MAID is not in place then loved ones there to witness and comfort can potentially find themselves criminally implicated in the death. This is a horrible situation, I really couldn't imagine. No one should have to die alone if they don't want to, and no one should be punished for being there.
Thank you for bringing this to my attention. I'm looking forward to learning more.
You're describing something beautiful, and meaningful. I'm glad she had you there.
Thank you so much!
Interesting how religious individuals are quick to respond with judgement and threats of judgment. There are so very few, if any, non-religious people barging into a religious post or videos to pass judgement or threats for the religious posting their thoughts and feelings.
Look right here at all of these posts.
You will find far more people in support of this video than not.
If you don't like a choice being made, then don't make that choice.
Stop abusing people with religious beliefs. They are feeling enough pain already.
Same abuse happened to me when my wife passed. I asked for no religion please. The abuse We got from the religious was disgusting.
Julie you are the best. Your help was huge for my wife and I when she passed 5 months ago. You Penny, and Careblazers Dr. Natali. 💖
I love you voice is so relaxing
Thank you James 🥰
This made me cry. I know we wake up to a better place but saying good bye always was hard for me 😢
I have to agree, should be left to the individual if they choose to self delete, should be nationally legal, my elderly neighbor many years ago should have had this choice, he had terminal cancer, asked his wife to go get him something from the store , she came back home to find that he shot himself in the head devastated her they were married over 40 years together
Oh wow 💗
That's why this should be legal.
@@claudialupper I personally never said suicide is beautiful in any way, and judge not, yest ye be judged in equal measure
She poisoned herself, went from happy to actively dying for 45 minutes. Her last act was to usurp God's right to determine when life ends. Sad.
Not legal in the state of Maryland cuz the legislation never takes it up and pushes it aside that's where my daughter is dying terminally in hospice
I would just take 20 Xanax 2mg bars and listen to The Dark Side Of The Moon album
I took 20 10mg Valium tablets and woke up in ER. All I heard was the screams of those on the mental ward afterwards.😢
I am a strong Christian, and I absolutely believe in a persons right to die with dignity. If we can do that for animals, we should do it for people. There is no reason for someone to suffer, not knowing anything, where they are etc. for years. That is just cruel.
Thank you for being here 💖💖💖💖
I respectfully don’t think anyone should take their own life. Our bodies belong to God.
We're allowed to let our pets go peacefully if they're suffering at the end of their life. I believe we as humans should have the same option, especially with terminal illnesses. I would rather watch my loved one go on their own terms free of pain and suffering than watch them be forced to live out every day up until their illness finally takes them and watch them suffer in the process.
I love these videos! My mom did not want hospice and it was so hard to drag her around and watch her slowly suffer for months. I respected her wishes. I fought to get her home for Christmas knowing it would be the last. That night she went downhill and she had suffered long enough. I had to fight so hard to get her back home for home hospice. I was quite shocked when hospice was not there when we got home. They eventually dropped off the meds and left. thank goodness I work in healthcare but I can’t imagine what it would have been like if I wasn’t. She lasted 12 hours. I wish the drs would have pushed hospice before this so I could have been more prepared but given the situation I’m so happy we got to go home like she wanted even though she wasn’t fully aware. It was so sad but beautiful knowing she wasn’t going to suffer any longer and we were right by her side 😊
Thank you for being here and THERE 💗💗. Sending hugs
Iet god s will be done if people meed pills talk to the doctors to find out what the patient needs to so that they are not in pain no one should be allowed to suffer before they die
Don't even know this person that died - and yet I still cried!
Right?! Thank you for being here Perez 💖
Hi, I’m just now seeing your videos and I’m finding much comfort in watching and understanding them! I’m in Ontario Canada 🇨🇦! I do wish I had seen your videos about 1 and a half years ago! My husband left he wanted to be home so I kept my promise to him, he also had been on Hospice for the last years! The nurses were a Treasure for me they were always available for any of my crazy person calls lol I call them that! Bless you all for being there for us at the worst time of our lives!! Thank you all 🇨🇦💜💕
I was at my Aunt's bedside when she died. She was in a coma and the only difference was she just stopped breathing and then she was gone. I felt honored to be there at her passing. My brother in law died a couple of weeks ago at home. He was surrounded by his wife, eldest sister and son. I thought that's as good as it gets - at home with your loved ones.
My experience with my father dying of cancer- the nurses told me 'he is not in pain but we can give him more morphine if you want but there is a chance it will stop his breathing' my mother had no idea what they were telling us, but i did, she said 'if he is not in pain he does not need more morphine' i overrode her and killed my father by okaying the drugs. People tell me i did not kill him, and i know there was no coming back from the point he was 'actively dying' but i know i made it come sooner and i am glad i could do that for him
Bless your compassion.❤
I did the same for my Dad, I did fight the guilt for a long while,but have come to terms with it knowing it was his wish and his request to me.
That’s was very interesting information. Thank you for sharing it with us. I had no idea the patient would fall asleep so quickly after taking the medication.
Yes- they fall asleep very quickly
Having the right to choose when and how you pass should be allowed everywhere. Why does someone else get to determine that I have not suffered enough; that my life should be prolonged even though I am suffering and have no chance of recovering; that food and/or water should be forced into me by tube; that the pain medication I am on must be carefully doled out so I don’t accidentally take too much and (gasp) die; that I have now endured every violation of my body and every humiliation possible; that “It is time!” Who knows better if it is time than the patient?
@@claudialupper not everyone believes in god and so this isn’t relevant a lot of the time
@@claudialupper 👍
This was so interesting to hear! Thank you for sharing your experience! Yes indeed I agreed this should be a federal law to allow terminally ill end stage patients to go as they choose to go and when they are ready for this step. I’m living in Nevada and unfortunately this proposal was rejected this time by our Governor Joe Lombardo recently. I hope as times goes by this choice will be available eventually. Wishing that change after 20 years of hospice work. I want this option be available for my patients and also when my time is coming for myself.
Yes, everyone should have that choice. nightfangs said her neighbor sent his wife to the store and shot himself while she was gone. She didn't get to say goodbye. I will absolutely do the same thing if I get a terminal disease and no choice.. It shouldn't be that way.
wait so you're saying anyone with a terminal illness should commit suicide?? And that's what you would do? Yikes.
@@claudialupper Choosing to go painlessly when faced with terminal diagnosis isn't the same as suicide. The outcome will be the same - that is what terminal means. We should be able to choose how we go. If you truly care for someone you'd want them to pass peacefully, np?
@@claudialupper No body should have to suffer with a terminal disease, to choose is a wonderful thing, has nothing whatever to do with evil, were would you come up with thinking like this?
Hello hospice nurse. your videos have given me much peace about end of life's issues.. you are a wonderful angel of mercy.. thank you so much for your valuable information!!
What is this EoLmedication?
Is this "doctor- assisted suicide"? I understand end of life and have experienced cherished hospice care for several people including my parents. I am on the side of allowing a natural, pain- and anxiety- free death. But am certainly curious as to what that medication actually is.
Sounds like some kind of euthanasia drug but I’m not sure 🤔
My dad is in hospice , these videos have educated me. Thank you so much
You scare me
Oops! The opposite is suppose to happen 🥰
❤thank you ❤
Why Don’t They Use This Same Medication For Executions??
Julie - Thanks for your care and compassion, and talking about the hard stuff so transparently. My husband is currently within days of dying with pancreatic cancer. We understand why someone would take their own life but believe God has given us life as a gift and God knows when it's the time to die. This waiting time has been hard, don't get me wrong,- but sweet as he's been able to love and be loved. It gives us peace to know God's in charge. Thanks Julie.
You are a wealth of knowledge! I love your videos and personality! Thank you for everything you share. I only wish I'd found you when my Dad was at last stages of dementia , other issues and dying. Keep up your great work❤
Thank you so much Julie- I'm glad you're here
I can’t thank you (and Penny!) enough for your videos. My dad is on at home hospice, and I’m so scared. My sisters are having a hard time. Your videos make things a little easier, and help us learn what to expect. We do not live in a state that allows death with dignity, but my dad wishes we did. It’s a right everyone should be afforded.
So sorry about your dad, I just lost my mother and am so thankful I documented her journey through dementia with video, audio and writing in a journal. I’m not ready to watch or listen to all of videos, but knowing I have them is comforting. I have a video of my mom reaching the active dying process, two days before she died that I will cherish forever. My mom was staring at the sky, not making any eye contact and not responding to me. When I said the names of my four adult children, my mom didn’t miss a beat, as soon as I said a name, my mom sat up and spelled each one. She spelled a lot in her last year of life, be it street signs and businesses when we were out and then names as her illness progressed. I’m happy to share a video of my mom with the hope that it encourages others to document the lives of their loved ones. @lynnieshaw621 my thoughts and prayers are with your family as your dad continues through his journey 😇
@@justjacki I’m sorry to hear of your loss as well. Thank you for the kind words. I’d like to keep some photos at least, but I’m not sure if I am ready yet. I truly Hope my dad can go with minimal stress and suffering.
My dad was on home hospice in 2017 before he died at age 93. We were so thankful that Dad was able to die at home with family around, on his own terms.
I remember feeling scared, too, but the hospice nurses were wonderful. Don’t hesitate to ask questions. If I could offer any advice, it would be to sit with your dad when the time comes, don’t rush to call anyone, ask the nurses if they’re there to give you all a bit of quiet time. You won’t regret it.
@@smilinmoo thank you so much. I feel confused most days, and I have no idea what the right thing to do is. I just do what I can every day to make sure he’s not in pain.
I LOVE Penny and am extremely grateful for Julie.
While I understand the desire for terminally ill patients to end their lives on their own terms, or just to avoid the certain awfulness, that they might experience at the end, or to spare their families and friends, and loved ones, the pain that they may experience at the end… I don’t personally believe suicide is appropriate. I believe God put us here on this earth in His time, and that we are only supposed to leave on His time, and in His fashion, I don’t judge anyone who chooses this way of passing I feel like we need to pray for them. Pray that they will find their way to the Lord and be able to experience His Paradise. Bless you all..
In an odd way, it is an honor to be at someone's side as they pass. Thank you for sharing your story.
Thank you very much.
Thank you for helping me understand my clients dying process..I’m volunteering my time to be with him & your videos are educating & comforting to watch. It’s helping me be a better caregiver & to be better for him. ❤
That's technically Suicide. Jesus/God holds the keys to life and death. He determines when we die. I hope she was right with the Lord ( hope she was a believer) and asked for forgiveness. Jesus loves every single one of us.
This is just your personal belief- which you have a right to have- But please understand that other people don't necessarily believe this- so it doesn't pertain to them
Perhaps you believe that suicide is a sin, but that’s not what I believe. To each their own. I would never try to regulate what you do with your health/life.
@@christinabeck9316 I understand you but there's no other way to put it. She killed herself before it was supposed to happen. The Bible looks at it as self murder because she took her own life when its not her decision to do so. Period. If you take your life, no matter how or why then it's Suicide. There's no debating. She has taken God's gift of life.
None of us ever asked to be born but we are forced to live. If someone wants a way out they should be able to have it. Ijs.
@@rictaylor1746 yeah and King Saul fell on his own sword in battle to prevent abuse by the Philistines.
He was referred to as the Lord's anointed.
Thank you so much for all this information you share, and the loving compassionate way that you share it. You are a wonderful service to so many. Bless you!
Thank you Linda! Glad you're here
I really don't know if i agree with this medication but I do love your content.
When you see someone die of ALS or something similar your view may change.
@bassethound1 well that's an odd reply but yes I get what you're saying. I just wonder what happens if they take it and then regret it etc or someone else in the home gets ahold of it and takes it
Thankfully, it works too fast for regrets. When death is any time, not much to regret over the decision. And, lock boxes.
Thank you for sharing this.
Thank you so much Julie for sharing all these information. I'm very much glad that I have found your channel who speaks openly on death and dieing process. Thank you so much again ☺️
Dying as you described is so much more civilized than other videos I have recently watched of the very elderly dying, death rattle, slack jaw and generally looking grotesque. I don’t want to look like those people. I am 74 and will probably die in the near future. I don’t want my children to see me as a grotesque version of their mother. I want to die on my own terms.
Just found your channel love it! Very comforting!
I was very sick when I was young, I had chronic bronchitis and mostly slept pm the couch so I could sleep with the arm of the couch to lift my head up. My mom would get a kitchen chair and hold my hand all night. When her time came I was alone with her. I had held her hand for about an hour. Her death was so peaceful, and it seemed fitting that I got to hold her hand when she passed. It's a memory I'll always cherish.
I had to think about that for about 10 seconds! Ok if I was terminally ill n having to be on painkillers n dialysis is not an option anymore (if it’s cancer) I wouldn’t want to be put on machines, respirators n dying in a cold hospital bed! Hell no! I think this medicine is a great idea n it SHOULD be available in all 50 states! Seriously, why go through all that pain n suffering, n Bankrupting the family n watching their loved one slowly n painfully die? That’s crazy.. of course I would take it.
Lately I’ve been watching your videos and I’ve just finished a book called Everyone In This Room Will Someday Be Dead and it’s been helping with my death anxiety. In the end of the book there is talks of end of life act
They don't have that here in NY. I watched my husband die very quickly when I signed for him to have comfort care only. He had cancer and was suffering terribly. They were able to stop his medicine to keep his heart rate down, and the medicine to keep his BP up. They had given him Morphine to keep him comfortable. After that I whispered to him that I would be ok and if he needed to go, not to hang on for me. I kissed him and 30 minutes later, he was gone. This was October 2023. two months ago. I am grieving so much.
Hi my dad passed away a few weeks ago. He died in hospital from pneumonia. He also had dementia. He was 84 years old. However before admission to hospital two weeks before he was very well. I don't understand how he deteriorated so quickly. After a few days in the hospital he was ok again but after that had two more infections. Last few days he wasn't moving at all. The doctor sed he may not last the night. However my mum can't accept the fact that he's gone and the doctors should have intervened more. I've done my own research on last days of a dementia patient I do feel all the signs were there. I believe I did hear the death rattle and other similar things. He died peacefully with all his family surrounded by him. He took a few breaths which were spaced out.we can't really come to terms with it because we are thinking should doctors have done more. Or was it his time to die. Should we go back to ask or leave it. The oxygen mask was on all the time but I could see oxygen levels going down to 65% in the last half hour on the reader. It's all very sad and shocking. If you have any words or re assurance please that would be most helpful. As you have been in this environment for a long time. Thank you. ( from England UK)
Hi I’m in Baltimore I think in a video you moved from the area. I believe they passed that law death with dignity a few years back and just curious if I’m wrong because my
Mother was never given the option and I know another person who’s terminal and never offered it as well just curious
We all have the choice to end whenever, but some how it (suicide) was never looked at as another Choice that we make for ourselves in our life. We should be able to do that at anytime. We could make full, responsible decisions if things weren’t seen as bad-but blessed to make smart decisions. Like hospice-know better do better. Better education makes better decisions. No, I don’t want to end my life, but when I do-i should not feel guilty to do so. I’ve made all my choices in life and I have an awesome life. I trust me. The law is just a deterrent-that’s good, but we should have a choice.
I am 62 and have severe end stage copd...just in the past two years I have lost the ability to do anything at all...I'm not sure how my death will come about...I'm sure it will be very hard for me...and I am scared...not the dying part so much...but the fact of my loved ones seeing this... don't want their last memory of me to be them watching it come...any advice from you or anyone will be greatly thought about...
I do not believe in end of life medication, it is a personal choice. I think it is committing suicide, with the ramifications that comes from that. However, it is a personal choice and I do believe all states should have this as law. For the ones whom wish to do this type of plan. I really like your channel, and thank you for always keeping it real. Death can be beautiful.
I think my cousins wife did this. I think it's a great idea, because you can pick the day, that it isn't on someone's birthday.
Just not sure what God would think of it!!!!
Old hospice nurse here… yes, a good death is truly intimate, sacred and beautiful, I’m with you on that. What I am ambivalent about, is medicating when the patient says no…. and watch them suffer, such as your brain ca patient. I understand we are advocates first and foremost… yet so many DNRs are not honored… I’d much rather relieve pain and suffering unauthorized, than invoke more pain and suffering unauthorized. That’s a hard one. Thank goodness for the beautiful deaths.🙏🏻💜💜💜
I get what people are trying to support. But you know this would also be welcomed for nefarious acts if the doors are open wide on the use of this medication. You just cant trust everyone in leadership. Its just the truth.
I'm glad she was surrounded by family and they had lovely last moments together.
I believe everyone should be able to have that choice. Dying with dignity on your terms would be the best way instead of everyone suffering, the person dying and their family.
I agree with you but I'm sure alot of people feel like it's committing suicide. I don't. I'd rather go that way than to suffer through a terminal illness 😢
This is the best way to go anyone can hope for. Why would some ppl want to make it controversial?
This should be available in every state. It’s a choice. Why make someone suffer?
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Hi, my name is Jane, my twin sister Jean had terminal brain cancer, she had the surgery for it, but it didn't work, so the doctors kept telling her she only had 3 months to live, so me and her family was always be there for her, we came from a family of 10, so me and her family were there when she passed away, but the doctor kept telling her that she had 3 months to live, but she didn't even last 3 months, she was gone in 2 months, we were all there when she passed, l stayed with her for the whole day and night, why would the doctors tell her she would live for 3 months but passed at 2 months?
Watching someone transition from this life can be exhausting, but a huge honor.
Sounded like she still had a lot of energy. So what happens if they find she was not that terminally sick. My Doctor will not tell me how much time I have left with my cancer.
The meds he has for me mske life not living though.
My ex husband is dying his sugars are in 50s and his end stage liver kidney and canary heart problems and stop draining tummy . His blood is low and he os play tired sleeping alot confused alot . He dnt want hospice he said the kill. I dnt agree he needs support .
So this is not against the law in your state . I am from England and really Ill people have been campaigning for this over here they want to change the law . Unfortunately the law lords will not pass a bill to allow this to happen . All people want to do is die in peace and take them out of their pain .. ❤
I don’t know what to think about this because it feels ok to me but most everything else I encounter says it’s equivalent to suicide and is heavily evil so I don’t know what to think. I’m not sure if this is enduring to the end though
I strongly believe that your life is yours. If you want to go your way, go for it. If I was terminally ill, I would want to spare my family of seeing me fade to nothing. I’d rather they remembered me as I was, not what I become.
So this medicine is basically a type of suicide medicine, but a good suicide medicine?, which is strange to say..
I agree that it should be a choice for everyone who is terminally ill. Your story was beautiful and I hope that it helps some of those who may be on the fence about it realize the value.
It should be an available choice when to die. All you living life people tell you " It's you life so live it your way" End of life should be the same way if your able have that choice
So, am I understanding this correctly? Is this suicide medication? We all have that choice to take our life so why is it an issue when someone is ready to die and takes their life in another way on their terms? Is it because the state says its ok to do it this way or is it something else? This lady she speaks of doesn't seem to be in horrible pain as she was laughing and making light of taking her life. This seems a little morbid to me. At the end of the day it's still suicide and that's sad that someone chooses to take their life before it's over.
I had no idea there was end of life medication. What a beautiful story this is. With the love surrounding this person sounds like an amazing way to pass.
It should be a choice for everyone. Not just for a trrminally ill person.
Thank you so much, this video is very helpful 👩🏼👍🏼🍁🌹
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