Also you can stick to one man and be abused and mistreated.It's all what she said in the video.Your personal moral values have to be apart of how you date and move through life.
"Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. What! know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's." (1 Corinthians 6:18-20 KJV)
Why does everybody Wendy Williams included think no sex right. She moved in with future, stayed in my with puffy. Stop saying no sex. She hanging out. And having sex. She cute and people think little girl. You would call any other call a trot, ho or whatever. She ain’t going to stay micheal.
Meagan Good was Never being ran through in the industry like this young girl is ijs!💯 This girl has Already been from Diddy Son, to Diddy, to Trey Songs, to Future, and now to Michael B Jordan! Like OMG girl who's Next?? She's Definitely moving way too fast and Definitely being with with Too Many Men in my opinion! She's not even 25 years old yet!!😩🤦 And also, ANY WOMAN that has dated a Son AND a Father is DEFINITELY labeled a THOT in my book ijs!!🤣🤣🤣 Women should carry themselves with higher regards and respect!!!💯💯
@@MSmith-jy7yz don’t forget Meek mills lol ijs... I hate bashing other women but Lori need to get it together! She just out here hunchin WHO TF EVER! like have more self respect sis!
You’re correct. Meagan was discreet and social media was popping yet but she did the exact same thing. Women need to cut it out and stop commenting on unmarried women like they’re married. Lori is an unmarried woman exploring options as she should. I think most women are hating cuz they could NEVER! Lori’s pretty and wealth privilege affords her opportunities most women will never see and too many women hate that.
Not true. You do get something out of it....it's called "an experience". Now, whether that experience is good or bad depends on the people she selects.
As a fellow mother of two 20-something daughters, I know one thing for sure: no matter how you raise your children, the choices are ultimately theirs to make, and your daughters CHOSE to heed your advice, period. So, it's really not all on you, bc as parents, we do our best, and as fallible humans, we typically question some of the choices we've made. What you're going through is 100% normal, but the answer lies with your daughters: are they healthy? Happy? Do THEY feel somehow slighted? The answers to those questions will tell you what you need to know.
Shanti...well said👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾. I have a teenager daughter & its hard 😬. I pray for her safety & well-being. I hope 🤞🏽 our talks (me & her dad’s) are voices she heard if that moment arises. These kids don’t understand the danger ⚠️ learkin in these streets. Besides being cheated on & possibly getting pregnant 🤰🏾 there are serious infections & diseases out here that can take u out!!! I understand Lori is livin her life (& a fabulous one @ that 😉) I just hope she’s being safe.
I have a 25 year old daughter and we had the same conversations. I’ve told her about my experiences and the reason why I shared was to tell her that I was her 26 years ago. The difference was I was married and had 2 kids by 26 and I don’t have any regrets. I told her in your 20’s is the time to figure out what it is you want but also live your best life and to learn from my mistakes. In my 20’s I didn’t know who I was because I was being a wife and mother. I didn’t realize who I was until I was in my early 30’s. You always want better for your kids PERIODT!!! So I cherish that my daughter comes to me with the BS from guys that think he had game! But because of my teachings and her own experiences, I know she is listening and doing the damn thang and I’m so proud!!!’
Exactly!!! Sleeping around leads to Soul Ties, diseases, emotional trauma if it is not with the right one. It’s not hard to find the right one, you just have to wait on God, but that’s the issue! No one wants to wait on the Lord, every one is in a Rush. Wisdom is the Principle thing.
It looks like your daughters listened and decided to embrace the principles you shared . That probably saved them from a lot of heartache and regret. Pat yourself on the back mom!🌷
I love how you shared and educated your daughters about sex, men and life. You keeping it real and at least they had the best information. At least save their bodies from unnecessary exposure. They have choices but marriage shouldn't be the nexus because everyone is not going to get married especially black women it seems. It's really hard with slim pickings in that department. But sleeping around definitely doesn't have to be the way.
I'm 26 and I wish I dated around and just got to experience more. I was sheltered and when I got grown and finally had a boyfriend, I made alot of poor decisions that still effects me till this day, simply because I didn't have the experience and didn't know any better.
Yep this is the same thing that happened to me when I reached adulthood and finally started dating. My decisions regarding that relationship was very poor and not fully thought out thoroughly
@kayla vibess you don't have to fuck everybody you are in a relationship with or talking to,so with that being said nobody is talking about sex. I believe she is talking about dating experiences you get as a teen she had to experience them as an adult like myself due to not being able to have a boyfriend. So instead of making some mistakes while experiencing dating as a teen she is now making foolish mistakes as an adult because like me that's when her experiences started versus others her age.
Young is not an excuse. We need to train our sons AND daughters as early as possible to value themselves enough to take their time with something as serious as sex.
@@pinkishdiamondz don't even respond to Jillian, it's just sad that at 24 like Lori, people think it's okay for her like any girl of that age to go down this road. Like the women on video saying there is no way she is dating these men, P Diddy included 50 yrs old men, down to future, trey song, I mean list goes on jazz the girl is just 24 now so how early did she start when she dated on these first guys? it's not ok. one thing I see in this celebrity circle is women wants fame, it isn't just about love, fame just like Kim kadarshian walk her way up. Its not okay people. Because lets put it out there how many young girls because of lori move being in the spot light will think it's okay to just go with so many men when still under 25? I'm a father and I can tell you not on my watch. at age 30 how many men will be on her list of men she dated?
@@Glad2BGolden Yep I bet that's what your daughter will tell you. Mom I'm not asking for your permission iam doing my thing. what a shame!! welcome to the modern world where moral is gone through the window.
What it boils down to is that PEOPLE need to mind their own business. She is a grown woman and can clearly make her own decisions! Like Tami said if she were a male this conversation wouldn't be happening 🙄
📠📠📠📠 people are too invested in business that ain't theirs. They also act like people have to conduct their life and affairs according to the opinions of others
Just because a female is rich doesn't make her a decent lady. Character and reputation does not equate to money and just because Tammy was a loose thotty doesn't change the definition of a promiscuous female. Newsflash , men and women aren't the same and will never be!!! Men are turned off by females who's been ran through.
@@leondraenance4271 I feel people are people no matter what the sex,at the end of the day we ALL need to respect our Temples,I dont think anyone who respects their self and loves themselves would want ANYONE Male or Female who has been ran through. I don't like men who sleep with everything walking either it's a turn off,so we saying practically the same thing,but only it's for both sexes to respect the only body that was given to you at some point in life.
@@leondraenance4271 just because she's been linked to these men doesn't mean she's been ran through. And I think that's the number one issue. Nobody has confirmed if she has had sex with either one of the man that she's been linked to. people just assume because she's been seen with a few hot boys that she's been giving it up to all of them. And truth be told those relationships could have ended quickly because she wasn't giving it up. It's really upsetting that people are willing to judge this woman without knowing all the facts and saying that 'men are going to be men'. That is sexist and egregious and honestly a bad way to look at women. Even if she was being sexually promiscuous she is allowed to live her life the way she wants to live her life and these same people that's running their mouth talking bad about her need to check their own numbers
@@melaniewatson3124 You're speaking emotions , not logic , facts and truth. We both know and have witnessed playa's in our communities who sleeps with multiple females , impregnating multiple females and they argue and fight over these dudes. Most females are highly attracted to men who has a lot of experience with many women. On the flipside , men are turned off by females who's been pumped , dumped and ran through. Most guy's will sleep with a loose , easy , promiscuous female , because he's horny and he knows she's easy. However men aren't trying to committ to the city thot , which every man has had and talks about her badly. We stand on pride , and logic , not emotions and feelings.
Ppl assume that the guys they've seen Lori with are guys that she's been intimate with. I've had a lot of dates & ex-boyfriends & did not have sex with them. There's a lot of accusations & presumptions being made about someone they never met.
Tami Roman I’m in love with your honesty!!! It’s so many of women has experienced the same thing! But will not admit it! It’s really great!!!! Thank you Tami
I feel like she's having fun but your in the spot light so your dating life is always being seen I do think she should slow down and give herself time to figure out who she is
Polores Anderson Whatever sex u consider yourself, EVERYONE has shown their real self to the opposite sex and has been used, DON’T ACT LIKE SHE’S THE ONLY ONE! She’s just HONEST about hers!!!! TRY IT SOMETIMES
Actress Yvonne Orji is a virgin and she's 37. I saw an interview with her on The Breakfast Club and it was an outstanding testament to her upbringing and her values. You're doing great!!!
Not to throw shade on her if at 37 she is still single it means that she’s got a problem w her attitude. So many women who were virgin ended up marrying and settling low value men.
I think a lot of the interest in Lori Harvey’s dating life has to do with being Steve Harvey’s daughter. Steve Harvey made millions on giving dating advice to other women and encouraging us to “Think Like a Man; Act Like a Lady”. 🤷🏽♀️ Steve & Marjorie Harvey said don’t use the term “STEPCHILDREN” in their family. Steve says daughter and I’ll respect that🌺
I'm an old lady now, but I two was taught to think like a man, look like a girl, act like a lady and work like a dog. WTBS... Your 20's time for your learning. If you don't experience things now, then "when"?
@@maryjohnson1144 Good point. And all I’m saying is that I don’t think the media attention and interest would be the same if her last name wasn’t “Harvey” and Steve wasn’t famou$$ for giving dating AND parenting advice.
As a woman who taught “for me and my house we will serve the lord” you did the right thing. Do not allow the enemy to make you feel any kind of ways. Just because the world feel like you have to be with a bunch of people to enjoy life, that is not so. I only wished I listened to my godly mother. I taught my daughter exactly how you did yours. She is now married to a wonderful man that she deeply loves. Three beautiful children. A family that truly loves God. My daughter called me one day to thank me on how I raised her. The fact that she escaped being used and abused. I feel that those that lives that kind of lives are not truly happy. At the end of the day they find themselves very lonely. You did the right thing.
I have a 17 year old and she’s a good girl. I’m hoping she stays that way. You did a great job raising your girls into beautiful, independent young women. You’re blessed.
Most women have dated men like Lori. Her story is just on the internet and her step father's famous ( Steve Harvey) and the men she's dating is famous as well 🤷🏾♀️
😌MY "TWIN COUSINS" WERE "VIRGINS" UP UNTIL THEIR LATE 30's, THEY BOTH GOT MARRIED, ONE HAD A CHILD AND THEY BOTH ARE "STILL MARRIED" TO THEIR "SAME" HUSBANDS "20 YEARS LATER!💝
They are not the only ones my friends ppl who mess around just make themselves the superstar this days. Ppl who are keeping themselves for right folks are still doing their thing and it's nobody's business still cause it's a private thing and a private decision.. Ppl who mess around don't have privacy or power to decide over their sexuality they are under public influence.. but virgins are still many in numbers cause not everyone wants to give themselves to random who are undeserving...thats how special some ppl see themselves but ppl are tripping and getting angry over someone else sexuality and decisions cause they lost theirs.. Oops
You are great to be honest. I'm the same way with my daughter, very honest. You did great and they have lived but through your experiences. I always have told my daughter I have dealt with enough pain for her and myself. Lori is young and she has not hurt no-one. I hope it works this time for her...
This was one of the most honest conversations I have heard in quite awhile. In my opinion, your platform just took a pivot turn in not just being entertaining but using it for deeper discussions that are often faced by our community. There are many young girls out there who do not have the tools to help them navigate relationships and other social issues. Kudos to you on how you have raised your daughters. Never doubt that every single thing you have taught them by both your mistakes and successes will greatly benefit them in every single decision they make in their lives.
I'm 22 and I'm just like your daughters. I made a conscious effort to live a disciplined life since childhood, my mom used to talk to me about how she lived and wouldn't want me to go through. There're times that I feel like I missed out on life or maybe I'm being too hard on myself but it's still not late, I can still get myself out there. Now I know I have a balance, I'm out there but I'm disciplined and set boundaries.
Congratulations, for your discipline- God will reward you for it. You can date and have fun experiences without sexual encounters. That's the best part you get to learn their character and develop yours. Trust me there are blessingsin your sacrifice that will pay out to even generations to come. God bless and keep you always. May you meet and marry whom God created you for. Amen
She does nothing maybe model here and there, Steve isn't even her father, he married her mother and I believe he adopted her so she could have his last name. He talked out it when he had a show.
Dats thy tings she dont do notting she dont sing act dance she does notting I never even heard her speak. No talent she's only famous for having Steve Harvey's Last name. I'm ready tired of hearing about her.
Well I’m 38 and did not do this so please don’t try to normalize this behavior. Young girls are reading this let’s try to promote holding one self to the highest level which is don’t give yourself away to everyone bc you are in your 20s
@@kittykatsboudoir Lori is dating which is what she should be doing. Learning what she likes and dislikes in men. Women normalize men doing it all the time. Such a double standard.
Sis, continue to be proud! You did not hinder their growth in any way. They will be extremely careful who they give themselves to (hopefully to the man they wed). Too much going on out here- not just disease but heartache and brokenness. We are at our most vulnerable point when we open ourselves up to let a man enter in. Once we open up, there are no more “secrets” and we can’t take that precious part of us, that gift back. I absolutely applaud them! As a fellow mother I am proud of them as well!
This is the most mature comment. I'm happy that emotionally and spiritually intelligent people with compassion, understanding, and empathy for humanity still exist 😊.
I hate tami feels she possibly hindered her girls by teaching them the right thing. That song "girl like me" by jasmine sullivan is the true inner thoughts of a good girl. We tired of coming last to the more promiscuous chicks, bcuz in the end like tami said, it doesn't guarantee anything. But never regret keeping the box to urself, preserves are a delicacy 😝💪🙏💕💕 Good job Tami ✊
She definitely didn't hinder them she did the right thing for sure. I'm 26 years old & a single mother. I wish that my mom would've done the same for me that she did for her girls. I started having sex young & I've struggled and still sometimes struggle with lust and fornication. God is working on me though. Had i known or been taught better certain spirits would not have attached to me. I have a 6 year old daughter and will definitely be going the route Tami did with her daughters 💕
@@yasminegooden9834 iktr ma! The whole goal of parenting should most definitely be to give them what u didnt have and teach them what u didnt know💪💪. It doesnt guarantee that they wont encounter the same heartbreaks and disappointments but as long as u do ur part ur good n God will honor that🤞❣ Best wishes to u and ur babies ma, God got yall🙏💕💕💕
You are an amazing mother, your daughters are so blessed to have you. Tia and Tamera were virgins in their twenties and have been with only their husbands. Your girls are blessed!
You absolutely did the right thing teaching them to protect their hearts and privates. I wish more young girls would save it for marriage good job Mom!!! I love you Tammy!!
Ok but what about the ones that save it and the man still treat them like trash instead of the treasure they are? At the end of the day all they gonna have to say is, “but I saved it for my husband.” Ok and then women AND men turn a blind eye to what their sons are doing. There’s no win for the woman accept pity by other people that say, she was good to him and he did her wrong. They say that about women who were good wives and got hurt but weren’t virgins before marriage. So what is it we gain by shaming women for their sexuality
@@Chazcott firstly she has girls so I spoke on girls. I wish both actually would save it for marriage in my life experience many of my friends that waited for marriage have healthy loving marriages! Then there are those who had plenty of parters and marriages if they got married failed. I say be what you want to attract! I will remain celebrate until I remarry period and I can say from experience that it’s better that way, so Good Job Tammy on instilling self worth into your girls
Unless you're in an abusive marriage, you did the right thing by settingdown. Lori's lifestyle looks all glamorous right now but in the end it all leads to a lot of deep regret. Your reputation is all you have. Ain't anything cute about racking up body counts. She will regret it I promise you.
I know of someone who who went out there and got infected with HIV and is regretting till date. weather early or late, she will still end up in marriage
@@favour3319 You nor am I to say if she did the right thing or if Lori is doing the wrong thing. She is allowed to regret not casually dating and Lori is fine to casually date but it’s not up to you to say if Lori will later regret, that is something we both do not know and it’s not very good to assume.
@@inaripumaleeks2312 but how do you know this though? Were you there? I've actually seen with my own eyes when big celebrities getting turned down by regular people. Not everyone wants to sleep with these ninjas.
I have followed you in the media for a few years and you've always kept it real and transparent. I appreciate that you haven't allowed your artistry and fame to cause you to be fake. Thanks for keeping it 100 in a world that often is shrodded in lies!
Tami, I appreciate you for keeping it 100% real! You are right - there is definitely a double standard where women are concerned. When men spread their wings they are the shiznit but when women do it they are garden tools and that's bullshish. I don't believe you deprived your daughters in any way. Those are YOUR daughters and you raised them how you saw fit. It's awesome that they followed the teaching laid out before them. I was taught to keep my legs closed too but unfortunately due to unkind circumstances I didn't. If I could go back, I would have stuck to what I knew was right. I applaud you for what you instilled in them. They didn't miss out on a darn thing, trust and believe! Who God has for them will wait for them - period! Those things they are to experience in life, they will - period! I will say however that "living your best life" does not mean that you have to be out there being a garden tool and that goes for women AND men! You can experience the best life has to offer without busting it open or sticking it deep! Don't sell yourself and don't settle! Thank you again Tami for always keeping it 💯! Keep on doing it - your voice and view is appreciated. You have come a long way from the early BBW days - hallelujah, amen and praise the Lord! 😂😅🤣. Keep growing, keep thriving!
The realness in this is appreciated. We are so quick to judge when its someone else's child or life. Truth be told, a lot of us have young lives that we aren't so proud of. We forget that we were once young. Hopefully we took those times as learning experiences. Thanks Tami for your honesty.😊
No a women will never be a man... your reputation will go farther than you will ever go in life jumping from one man to the next make you a whoe rich or poor... she need to go sit down somewhere and work on her
Go back to the video with Lori and her mother, with her mother telling her back then not to date any low lives, she wanted her to pursue rich men with money. She stated rappers etc. There is a old video out there I caught it some time back
Sadly, the world is so sexualized, people believe that "everyone" you meet you have to have sex with them. That's not true. I've dated plenty of men who don't know what I have in my pants.
She's young and living her life. I did not date a lot as a young woman and I now wish I did. Watching three people that I loved dearly die of AIDS deterred me and made me nervous as a young woman.
Y'all know society loves to track a woman's vaginal miles to determine her value. DO NOT LET THIS GROUP THINK MENTALITY to continue to scoop you. She is grown, and she is doing her. We as women, younger and mature, need to heal. And the statement of "going through to get to" is real talk!!! We don't need to cut our Sistas down who go through things and process those experiences outside the scope some of us approve of. Tami you always keep it a 1000% and that's why we love you Sis. Chef's Kiss on this video.
@@PepperMtAiry Yes, be honest and share the info that's needed to be safe and how the world is. But I'm not interested in tearing sisters down, even if their choices aren't palatable to me at the time.
@@dr.100purrscent5 I'm with you, we don't have to tare them down to be honest. But we do need to let them know, that there are other ways to get the lifestyle you want without using your body. Introduce them to some real professional women doing their thing, making them dollars, but not using their bodies to get there
@@PepperMtAiry It's a complicated topic. I want all women to have agency of their bodies, yet the wisdom to use their personal power responsibly. We are still in a transitional time before coming into a balance with that as a collective. I pray that women have the freedom they need to discover themselves to the fullest extent. I also pray that they have the guidance and protection the need to navigate through those discoveries. My hope is that as Sisters & Mothers we give more understanding, truth, and compassion to each other and the younger ones coming up. We have so much fight against, especially as Black Women...I don't want to throw daggers at my babies, my sisters, my cousins, my friends, my aunts, my mother, my grandmothers, nor my ancestors. I want to understand and I want to heal. I have my opinions, some of them are strong. But I want to reduce my judgment as much as possible. It's the the least I can do even for myself. It took a minute for me to get in this space of peace and the road was bumpy. And to think with all the hardship I survived, my road wasn't even the hardest terrain out there. So I am grateful, and just want to give room from Grace where Grace was given to me. That's all 💗
Often times, people don’t give up on love even after being hurt and get talked down on for moving on as if staying where you’re not happy for appearances is better.
Somewhere along the way we convinced ourselves that "living life" is about doing regrettable things. You know, that whole YOLO movement, but I think that YOLO is all the more reason to be intentional and careful. I am all ears to hear the experiences of my parents and aunts and uncles and whoever came before me because their experiences are like checkpoints. You know when you're playing a game and you reach a checkpoint you don't have to start from the beginning when you fall. Why would I want to go back and have the same poor experiences my parents had when I could stand on their shoulders, learn from them, and get ahead? Yes, they may have turned out fine by God's grace, but I could turn out even better by His wisdom. Never feel bad about wanting better for your children. You made your decision based on your personal experiences and are only second-guessing yourself because you see the lives of others. Doing what everyone else is doing when you WANT to do it is one thing, but doing it solely because everyone else is even when you know it ain't what you want for you is never a good idea in my opinion.
@@doresabk6575 why won't it.. Your attachment to a man will not get you a good man, neither your age. When you find a good man you find one regardless of the two.
No one wants to feel like a disposable cup... Used and thrown away!!! Virginity is priceless!!! I teach my sons and daughters that!! Forget what others think. "Protect your family jewels!"
That's only if you allow yourself to be treated like a disposable cup. Why is it just automatically assumed that the men disposed of her? Maybe she disposed of them? Ever thought about that? She had her experience with them, it didn't work out, so then she moved on.
I understand how you feel.... but know this Tammy there's no book on how to raise kids and so far from what I see. You're doing an amazing job... they are smart and respectable, and you should be proud!!! We don't want our kids to learn everything the hard way like we may have and you've accomplished that!!!
So true and on top of that, who’s to say she’s sleeping with all the men she has been photographed with. She’s pretty and young with no kids, let her live her life unapologetically. At least her men is of a certain level. Tre songs, future and Michael B I believe she was actually with all the others I think they’re just friends who run in the same circle
I dont mind her living it up, I just don't want her getting pregnant by some random rapper then becoming a single mother. I get so annoyed at these young girls that think they are supposed to get pregnant within 2/4 months of dating these guys then fighting on the grams over him being a shitty father. I always tell 20 somethings to live their lives, travel, be free.
Thank You ! Lori is a young woman living her life. People act as if they forgot what its like to be young as well as what they were doing when they were young.
I did/do the same with my two boys and my oldest is 18. I feel what you did was right and how you spoke with them and talked to them about your past was also a good idea. Again I did the same, the mom did not talk to me about any of this and I figured if we don’t someone else will. These females are after my son, and he is flattered they have sent him pics and everything, I talk to him until I am blue in the face; he is about to go to college and I won’t be there. He knows what’s right and wrong. I told him about marriage and waiting; but I have to put it in the Lord hands. I told him about STD’s showed him pics of the different stages, talked to him about odors and the smell test. Told him not to use anyone else’s protection but his own if he does decide to do anything, because I will not always be there. Tammy you are one of a kind and very unique. You are one of the most honest individuals I have come across especially coming from a reality show. #respect
I'm not buying her relationship with MBJ. He is so private and now all of the sudden he wants to be all open with... just feels a little stuntish... especially with those videos. And she is somewhat private too. So why all of this... But she is loving her life and exploring her 20s. As long as she is safe. More power to her.
So im not the only one? I mean 20 Hollywood years and ive seen him in ONE pic with a blonde yearzzzz ago. Weird for an actor of his caliber not to be in more photos with women. Then again i don't follow his every move.
Finally someone is thinking the same thing as me! All of this is for publicity. Next we will hear MBJ coming out with a movie or something. After that they will "break up"
It's crazy that I was thinking about this yesterday. My daughter is a little younger, but I also feel like I have stunted her social growth. Now I'm like I want her to have those life experiences, but she is not interested, she's focused on her goals. Nothing is wrong with waiting, but I definitely let my own life experiences be the model for what I didn't want for her or my son.
Your words are words of my heart. You spoke this Truth beautifully. I feel like I raised my children in such protective mode,because I was not protected. I wish I did get therapy before even having children,it would have been great. I feel any woman who has been through any type of trauma, should get therapy before conceiving. My kids always say I was so over protective, and I truthfully was because of my own childhood. 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
You were open and honest and mother's of daughters have to be careful to share and not scare, to teach and not preach!! They are living it and experiencing it like they are supposed too. Lori is just living out loud and very publicly and everybody knows her name and stays in her business.....dont nobody know Keishia down the street.... and because everything is done in public and in front of everybody because you find out early on that it ain't working with that person so you move on to the next it just seemed like you just out and about just kicking it but you ain't doing nothing more than any of the rest of these young folks of dawn supposed to stay with somebody for everyone's you realize after the first couple of months that it ain't going to work out between y'all nope you supposed to keep it moving on to the next one and it's just too bad it's such a double standard for boys and girls and also for black girls versus white girls Ariana Grande and I love her too then have just as many boyfriends engagement and I are kind of crap just like Lori Harvey has and nobody dragging her she didn't have three damn engagements got to do tattooed on her arm Within 18 months to years maybe was dating the one dude who tried to commit suicide or something and then went on to another boyfriend and all kind of crap so she done had just as many but I don't see nobody dragging her
Tami you did right by your girls! Raising your girls to wait until marriage is a very noble thing to do. Especially in a society where being a virgin and waiting until marriage is shunned! Although yes Lori is out here living her best life, we not gone pretend that there are no consequences for doing so. Bless the Lord that you turned out just fine, but that's not the case with everyone. Please dont ever feel like you failed your girls because of the way you raised them. If more women raised their children like that, I believe that we wouldn't see most of the foolishness we see with young girls today. Be blessed sis. ❤
This was deep. Thank you for sharing. I really felt when you talked about the part that said am I hindering their social growth. It’s so hard as parents to let go but I do think that a normal emotional/social development includes experiencing things around the same times your peers do. It’s hard to know what the right thing is, your girls will find their way ❤️❤️❤️
Ms. Tami, thank you for keeping it clear&real.I have a teenage daughter and can’t even with this convo, I should be but I’m just so uncomfortable. Bless you for being able to.
When George Clooney was bachelor of the year... EVERY YEAR, the world thought it was cute. ‘Who’s next?!’ But when a woman does it it’s judged. Now...Lori gets flack... and other women, because it is understood that women have more risks when it comes to the repercussions of sex... yes. That’s a truth. That’s why Lori gets the side eye for her public dating life. I side eye men and women who do the most..... being promiscuous and what not.... Like you said Tammy..’IT CAN GO LEFT.’
Dating does not translate to sex with each person you date. Collecting data is what most women should do instead of thinking that each guy you're with is relationship material. Nothing wrong with taking time to get to know folks. I think women are projecting. Just because in YOUR head you think each guy you date expects sex, expecting is not the same as getting it. Her business.
@@MrsMoore1 most women complaining about Lori dont have men themselves. Her life is not an ordinary one. It's full of adventure and folly. "THEY" didn't do anything that she wasn't willing to do. Bottom line: She can have and do what she wants, when she wants. Most people bit*hing about it haven't stepped out of their own cities to travel. So anyone with that mentality can miss me with their narrow opinions. Again, dating isn't sleeping with each person you date. If folks want to think that, enjoy
Tammi, I think you done an excellent job bringing up your girls. I can totally relate to you, I am single parent with a 22 year old daughter about to finish up college and I feel the same way, did I stunt her growth? She too was brought up in a Christian home. She doesn't behave like your typical young woman her age. What's sad, is this, because our society glorifies power/money/fame and sex and make folks idols and we don't. It then makes us question who we are and our values when it should be the other way around. Sounds like your girls are doing great in life and that's all that matters. Like you said, going out her and getting vitamin D don't mean a thing and don't get you no where. Having a man respect you, love you,cherishing you, putting a ring on you and walking you down the aisle is where it's at; not screwing you and going on to the next warm body. Listen up young women and old and in between, hopefully you reading this, KEEP YOUR LEGS CLOSED!!! Close the CANDY STORE!!! These men ain't gonna respect you laying on your back!! Now that's GIRL POWER!! WE CAN CHANGE MEN, ONE AT A TIME by staying off our backs which will result in them having to change their point of view.
I like how you laid that out and explained for some of the more judgemental ppl in the world. We all have a past and everyone has their own story to tell or not tell.
@@martinacarter3050 That's something wrong with American parents tho. They treat their spawns like their friends. You won't see African or Asian parents on that BS. Never!
This video and reading the comments help me feel a bit better about myself. I'm 36 and i was raised to wait until marriage as well before sex. But being the age i am and being a virgin in today's society.....i feel like something is wrong with me or if i tell a guy I'm a virgin it would scare him off or he would think what's wrong with me. It's like being a virgin is uncommon now. There are so many emotions going on with me as i write this....i hope everyone understand what i mean. Thank u for providing this platform.
There is nothing wrong with being a virgin in today’s society...you still have value in world where promiscuity and whoredoms is highly praised! KEEP YOURSELF!
There is nothing wrong with holding on to your values and virtues. I will tell more women to hold on to their virginity until marriage. When I was in my 20s, I dated for vain reasons and like Tami said, it did not gain me anything but heartache and other things. Like my high school teacher told me, keep your "cards" in your pocket.
The devil is a liar. You are waiting on God’s promise & He will NOT let you down. You are reserved for God’s very best. Work on you, walk in God’s purpose, & stay plugged into God thru reading God’s Word, fellowshipping at church, & prayer. Devon Franklins book The Wait is also inspirational. Blessings to you.
I feel you taught your girls well. Men will sleep with a woman and walk away, then the woman ends up feeling bad because she shared her body with someone who is a user. It’s good to have high standards and I believe God will reward them with a good deserving partner when they’re ready.
Why do women look at it that way tho? Are you not also using that man for a good time? Be a hunter and you can't be hunted. I think it's important to be careful, but I also think it is important to experience and explore sexuality. How else will you grow to have a healthy open sex life with your forever partner? How do you even know if you love someone to marry if you never explore them in a physical and spiritual sense? Do you want a sexually unfulfilling relationship because you were too scared to ever explore yourself or a partner that way? Women are brainwashed to chase love and romantics, every relationship is not that, but that doesn't mean it has no value or lesson for her to walk away with. Bottom line, sexuality is for all of us to enjoy, not just men. You won't feel bad if you approach things differently 🤷♀️ just my opinion.
Thank you sis for sharing. I I have followed you since the Real World. I appreciate you keeping it all the way real. And making very valid points in both perspectives. Its Lori's life to learn and grow from love
Guard your hearts ladies. If giving it up to men that don’t intend to honor and cherish you doesn’t give you something you need to cure, it surely can destroy your self esteem and make you very vulnerable. It might be fun while you’re having it, but this your temple and when you respect it you show others how to respect you.
That was one of the realist conversations I have heard in a long time Tammy. Thank you. Because as a mother, I often battle with wondering if I taught my sons the right things AND if they are even listening. It's so much.... lol
She's young as she needs time to find herself, I just wish she would have passed on p. Diddy, trey songz, and future. She can do so much better, sheesh🤔. They just run through women.
You live you learn, she has to learn life lesson with these men, they will teach you what you don’t want in a man and how to be treated, she’s young she’s living her life, leave her alone, if the one you’re with ain’t doing right by you, you move on to the next one, sometimes you got to kiss a lot of frogs 🐸 to get to your king 👑
I have to agree with you. I get that the media can give a certain perception of a person. But Future and Diddy........it's all right there in your face. Unfortunately, being young, beautiful, and having money.....the media will be looking for you. But every relationship doesn't have to be publicized. IJS
Let's be clear...she was "linked to" those men in the media, but that does NOT necessarily mean that she was actually dating all (or any) of them. What's more, a date doesn't translate to datING; dating doesn't always include sex, and none of that is an actual relationship. Have you ever gone out with somebody a few (or more) times, and then after a few weeks or a couple of months, you moved on because it wasn't what you were looking for? She really isn't any different than any other woman her age; she just gets speculated about and discussed by millions of people who don't actually know a damn thing about what she's really doing.
I was raped at 12 yrs old and did not get to choose when to give up my virginity. I really wish I had a chance to save myself till marriage because that is what I was taught and like you said having sex after that got me nothing. I plan to tell my daughter all the same things you Was talking about with the hopes that she will save herself and wait. it's cool to date but everyone is not worthy of our precious body ❤
I am so very sorry that happened to you. Just know that when you voluntarily gave yourself to someone else was the real “loss” of your virginity. The violation you faced at 12 years old was an involuntary, violent assault.
Tami, you’ve protected your girls from having many soul ties and that alone is commendable. A real man will never complain about being the only one that his wife has ever known and truth is both partners should be able to offer that to one another so if any guys reject your daughters because they’re not given it up then they’re only doing them a favor, by getting out of the way because it takes a MAN to find a GOOD THING! Truthfully, sex outside of marriage is a selfish act and that’s why most people that do it lack the ability to stay married! Plus marriage was not created by man, hence, when you enter a marriage you say your vowels to GOD so you might wanna prepare and in basketball terminology - you should practice like you’re gonna play! In other words, you can’t start off selfish and think that when you get into the marriage you’re gonna be unselfish and it’s Satans job to attack marriages because of what it represents so don’t give him a head start.
I so appreciate your approach to this topic. Way too often, we drag our ladies through the mud for having sex and try to shame them about it. I have an 18yo daughter as well and she is still a virgin. My past is somewhat similar to yours and this is why I have been an "adamant realist" with her, as well. But I've often struggled with the thought of have I stiffled her life experiences by bringing her up this way. Raising daughters is hard and trying to prevent them from making the same mistakes we did is even harder. At the end of it all as parents we try to do the best we can by them. This has been my best.
I'm 62. Looking back what I'd like women to know is.......until you know YOU and understand your value, DON'T even date!!!!!
Exactly.... know your worth
The best and realest comment on this thread!..
♥️💪✊
@@cyncyn3775 Thank you so much Queen!!💙
Had I known this truth back in my youth it would have saved me lots of time and unnecessary heartache!!
I totally agree! The girl is lost to me
I totally agree!!
A lot of young ladies are doing the same thing as Lori but end up having multiple children with multiple Fathers and still single.
Also you can stick to one man and be abused and mistreated.It's all what she said in the video.Your personal moral values have to be apart of how you date and move through life.
Right she is not a thot.
Right
"Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge."
(Hebrews 13:4 KJV)
"Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. What! know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's."
(1 Corinthians 6:18-20 KJV)
Another point: Dating does not have to include sex
Why does everybody Wendy Williams included think no sex right. She moved in with future, stayed in my with puffy. Stop saying no sex. She hanging out. And having sex. She cute and people think little girl. You would call any other call a trot, ho or whatever. She ain’t going to stay micheal.
Big Facts!!!
Dating does not mean sleeping with everyone... Sometimes you kiss many frogs to get to the king.
Yes, dating has really become a synonym for sex. But, I will say that these are high profile men so...
I dont think she fucks all these men which is why they claimed her
Thank you ma’am you the most logical person I seen in a minute
In today's world these days these youngs kids are sleeping with everything
And wake up one day with a big ol cold sore on ya mouth. No thank you. Keep them kisses to ya self bro!!!
People did the same thing to Meagan Good, now she's married to a minister
They shamed her because the way she dressed married to a minister, not because the men she dated.
Meagan Good was Never being ran through in the industry like this young girl is ijs!💯
This girl has Already been from Diddy Son, to Diddy, to Trey Songs, to Future, and now to Michael B Jordan! Like OMG girl who's Next?? She's Definitely moving way too fast and Definitely being with with Too Many Men in my opinion! She's not even 25 years old yet!!😩🤦
And also, ANY WOMAN that has dated a Son AND a Father is DEFINITELY labeled a THOT in my book ijs!!🤣🤣🤣
Women should carry themselves with higher regards and respect!!!💯💯
@@MSmith-jy7yz don’t forget Meek mills lol ijs... I hate bashing other women but Lori need to get it together! She just out here hunchin WHO TF EVER! like have more self respect sis!
@@janaydaniel3725 Dang I didnt even know Meek too!!!😲😩🤣 SMH!!! ABSOLUTELY RIDICULOUS!!!🤦
You’re correct. Meagan was discreet and social media was popping yet but she did the exact same thing. Women need to cut it out and stop commenting on unmarried women like they’re married. Lori is an unmarried woman exploring options as she should. I think most women are hating cuz they could NEVER! Lori’s pretty and wealth privilege affords her opportunities most women will never see and too many women hate that.
"You ain't gone get nothing out of it, you really ain't" - realest thing ever said.
Facts
Not true. You do get something out of it....it's called "an experience". Now, whether that experience is good or bad depends on the people she selects.
Yep! Nothing at allll
Absolutely nothing
BIG FACTS!
Tammy needs a damn talk show! I will watch every time it comes on...I JUST LOVE HER RAW HONESTY!
Tami has staying power and she should have a talk show cause she's not obnoxious while telling it like it is. She's always stuck in my mind since TRW.
The times I've seen her host reunion shows, she does a phenomenal job. Tami is pretty darn good at that.
Agreed this is real and true talk
Ive Always said this, exact thing!
She must not be interested in one.
As a fellow mother of two 20-something daughters, I know one thing for sure: no matter how you raise your children, the choices are ultimately theirs to make, and your daughters CHOSE to heed your advice, period. So, it's really not all on you, bc as parents, we do our best, and as fallible humans, we typically question some of the choices we've made. What you're going through is 100% normal, but the answer lies with your daughters: are they healthy? Happy? Do THEY feel somehow slighted? The answers to those questions will tell you what you need to know.
Sis. All the above! Two twenty somethin daughters also ♥️
I 100% agree with you...that's how I raised my daughter. Do not feel bad!
Shanti...well said👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾. I have a teenager daughter & its hard 😬. I pray for her safety & well-being. I hope 🤞🏽 our talks (me & her dad’s) are voices she heard if that moment arises. These kids don’t understand the danger ⚠️ learkin in these streets. Besides being cheated on & possibly getting pregnant 🤰🏾 there are serious infections & diseases out here that can take u out!!! I understand Lori is livin her life (& a fabulous one @ that 😉) I just hope she’s being safe.
🗣SAY IT AGAIN SIS!!
I have a 25 year old daughter and we had the same conversations. I’ve told her about my experiences and the reason why I shared was to tell her that I was her 26 years ago. The difference was I was married and had 2 kids by 26 and I don’t have any regrets. I told her in your 20’s is the time to figure out what it is you want but also live your best life and to learn from my mistakes. In my 20’s I didn’t know who I was because I was being a wife and mother. I didn’t realize who I was until I was in my early 30’s. You always want better for your kids PERIODT!!! So I cherish that my daughter comes to me with the BS from guys that think he had game! But because of my teachings and her own experiences, I know she is listening and doing the damn thang and I’m so proud!!!’
Exactly!!! Sleeping around leads to Soul Ties, diseases, emotional trauma if it is not with the right one. It’s not hard to find the right one, you just have to wait on God, but that’s the issue! No one wants to wait on the Lord, every one is in a Rush. Wisdom is the Principle thing.
Beautifully put.🕊🌸
Thank you for sharing this. Very inspiring.
A lot wait on God and still step out sweetie. We all fall short of grace and God knows. Amen
Agreed. Allowing multiple men inside you is just not the best....and it's more than just a physical act. Same for men entering multiple women....
Yes, speak the truth.
It looks like your daughters listened and decided to embrace the principles you shared . That probably saved them from a lot of heartache and regret. Pat yourself on the back mom!🌷
Amen!
Amen
I agree mother mercy. O am glad her daughter listen mine sure didn't they have to come back later and say mom you were right.
I know right? I've been living an independent principled life, thanks to my Great Mama. 👸🏿
I love how you shared and educated your daughters about sex, men and life. You keeping it real and at least they had the best information. At least save their bodies from unnecessary exposure. They have choices but marriage shouldn't be the nexus because everyone is not going to get married especially black women it seems. It's really hard with slim pickings in that department. But sleeping around definitely doesn't have to be the way.
I'm 26 and I wish I dated around and just got to experience more. I was sheltered and when I got grown and finally had a boyfriend, I made alot of poor decisions that still effects me till this day, simply because I didn't have the experience and didn't know any better.
Yep this is the same thing that happened to me when I reached adulthood and finally started dating. My decisions regarding that relationship was very poor and not fully thought out thoroughly
@kayla vibess you don't have to fuck everybody you are in a relationship with or talking to,so with that being said nobody is talking about sex. I believe she is talking about dating experiences you get as a teen she had to experience them as an adult like myself due to not being able to have a boyfriend. So instead of making some mistakes while experiencing dating as a teen she is now making foolish mistakes as an adult because like me that's when her experiences started versus others her age.
@@livinwithlotus you don't but most do.
@kayla vibess yes
Fellow Gemini here. June 1st
She is young. She is dating. Let her date who she wants.
Young is not an excuse. We need to train our sons AND daughters as early as possible to value themselves enough to take their time with something as serious as sex.
@@pinkishdiamondz don't even respond to Jillian, it's just sad that at 24 like Lori, people think it's okay for her like any girl of that age to go down this road. Like the women on video saying there is no way she is dating these men, P Diddy included 50 yrs old men, down to future, trey song, I mean list goes on jazz the girl is just 24 now so how early did she start when she dated on these first guys? it's not ok. one thing I see in this celebrity circle is women wants fame, it isn't just about love, fame just like Kim kadarshian walk her way up. Its not okay people. Because lets put it out there how many young girls because of lori move being in the spot light will think it's okay to just go with so many men when still under 25? I'm a father and I can tell you not on my watch. at age 30 how many men will be on her list of men she dated?
Yes! She isn’t asking for permission anyway. Doing her thing. lol 😝
@@Glad2BGolden Yep I bet that's what your daughter will tell you. Mom I'm not asking for your permission iam doing my thing. what a shame!! welcome to the modern world where moral is gone through the window.
Just don't be 35 and still dating rich men
What it boils down to is that PEOPLE need to mind their own business. She is a grown woman and can clearly make her own decisions! Like Tami said if she were a male this conversation wouldn't be happening 🙄
Grown Woman? She’s only 24 she still trying to figure out life, Ma’am.
Her business is out there
📠📠📠📠 people are too invested in business that ain't theirs. They also act like people have to conduct their life and affairs according to the opinions of others
Good luck with that!
Yes because he knew they would come for him but if their happy.
I'm happy.
You live and learn.
Live and let live.
I appreciate tami’s point of view. Meanwhile, women are bashing her when they don’t even have their own households in order.
Just because a female is rich doesn't make her a decent lady. Character and reputation does not equate to money and just because Tammy was a loose thotty doesn't change the definition of a promiscuous female. Newsflash , men and women aren't the same and will never be!!! Men are turned off by females who's been ran through.
@@leondraenance4271 I feel people are people no matter what the sex,at the end of the day we ALL need to respect our Temples,I dont think anyone who respects their self and loves themselves would want ANYONE Male or Female who has been ran through. I don't like men who sleep with everything walking either it's a turn off,so we saying practically the same thing,but only it's for both sexes to respect the only body that was given to you at some point in life.
@grits Absolute facts Sis
@@leondraenance4271 just because she's been linked to these men doesn't mean she's been ran through. And I think that's the number one issue. Nobody has confirmed if she has had sex with either one of the man that she's been linked to. people just assume because she's been seen with a few hot boys that she's been giving it up to all of them. And truth be told those relationships could have ended quickly because she wasn't giving it up. It's really upsetting that people are willing to judge this woman without knowing all the facts and saying that 'men are going to be men'. That is sexist and egregious and honestly a bad way to look at women. Even if she was being sexually promiscuous she is allowed to live her life the way she wants to live her life and these same people that's running their mouth talking bad about her need to check their own numbers
@@melaniewatson3124 You're speaking emotions , not logic , facts and truth. We both know and have witnessed playa's in our communities who sleeps with multiple females , impregnating multiple females and they argue and fight over these dudes. Most females are highly attracted to men who has a lot of experience with many women. On the flipside , men are turned off by females who's been pumped , dumped and ran through. Most guy's will sleep with a loose , easy , promiscuous female , because he's horny and he knows she's easy. However men aren't trying to committ to the city thot , which every man has had and talks about her badly. We stand on pride , and logic , not emotions and feelings.
Ppl assume that the guys they've seen Lori with are guys that she's been intimate with. I've had a lot of dates & ex-boyfriends & did not have sex with them. There's a lot of accusations & presumptions being made about someone they never met.
Exactly....I do not have sex with every man that I date.
I really like Tami and her transparency.
Naomi Porter, TAMI has always been like this, this is the part I like about her.
Right!
Tami Roman I’m in love with your honesty!!! It’s so many of women has experienced the same thing! But will not admit it! It’s really great!!!! Thank you Tami
I feel like she's having fun but your in the spot light so your dating life is always being seen I do think she should slow down and give herself time to figure out who she is
Thank her for what..men and women need to control these behavior
Polores Anderson Whatever sex u consider yourself, EVERYONE has shown their real self to the opposite sex and has been used, DON’T ACT LIKE SHE’S THE ONLY ONE! She’s just HONEST about hers!!!! TRY IT SOMETIMES
Kelly Silva She said when she was YOUNGER
Actress Yvonne Orji is a virgin and she's 37. I saw an interview with her on The Breakfast Club and it was an outstanding testament to her upbringing and her values. You're doing great!!!
Not to throw shade on her if at 37 she is still single it means that she’s got a problem w her attitude. So many women who were virgin ended up marrying and settling low value men.
37 is a bit up there, but I respect her religious views.
@@hangingoutwithsbu6842 ok?
When you know better, do better. You taught them right. They not missing out on nothing!
As simple as that.
Facts
I think a lot of the interest in Lori Harvey’s dating life has to do with being Steve Harvey’s daughter. Steve Harvey made millions on giving dating advice to other women and encouraging us to “Think Like a Man; Act Like a Lady”. 🤷🏽♀️
Steve & Marjorie Harvey said don’t use the term “STEPCHILDREN” in their family. Steve says daughter and I’ll respect that🌺
Well she’s definitely thinking like a man👸🏽👑
I'm an old lady now, but I two was taught to think like a man, look like a girl, act like a lady and work like a dog. WTBS... Your 20's time for your learning. If you don't experience things now, then "when"?
She is definitely acting like a man🤷🏿♀️
You hit the nail on the head
@@maryjohnson1144 Good point. And all I’m saying is that I don’t think the media attention and interest would be the same if her last name wasn’t “Harvey” and Steve wasn’t famou$$ for giving dating AND parenting advice.
You’ve raised daughters who are women of substance and are virtuous - be proud.
As a woman who taught “for me and my house we will serve the lord” you did the right thing. Do not allow the enemy to make you feel any kind of ways. Just because the world feel like you have to be with a bunch of people to enjoy life, that is not so. I only wished I listened to my godly mother. I taught my daughter exactly how you did yours. She is now married to a wonderful man that she deeply loves. Three beautiful children. A family that truly loves God. My daughter called me one day to thank me on how I raised her. The fact that she escaped being used and abused. I feel that those that lives that kind of lives are not truly happy. At the end of the day they find themselves very lonely. You did the right thing.
It sounds like u too did the right thing. Take a bow momma!
I agree 💯💯🙌🏽
Yesss so grateful my mom raise me the same way!! Who can find a virtuous women!!
Amen!
I have a 17 year old and she’s a good girl. I’m hoping she stays that way. You did a great job raising your girls into beautiful, independent young women. You’re blessed.
I was married at 21 first kid at 23. While I don't regret it, Lori girl, LIVE YOUR LIFE!
Most women have dated men like Lori. Her story is just on the internet and her step father's famous ( Steve Harvey) and the men she's dating is famous as well 🤷🏾♀️
But who dates the father and then dates the son? SMH But wait, like mother like daughter. Her mother dated two first cousins.
Drucella More people than you know.
If her stepdad wasn't Steve Harvey, we wouldn't even know none of this. Plus, I don't believe she dated Diddy like they reported.
He adopted her... So that makes her simply his DAUGHTER.
@@drucella5581 where you hear that at
😌MY "TWIN COUSINS" WERE "VIRGINS" UP UNTIL THEIR LATE 30's, THEY BOTH GOT MARRIED, ONE HAD A CHILD AND THEY BOTH ARE "STILL MARRIED" TO THEIR "SAME" HUSBANDS "20 YEARS LATER!💝
Respect ✊🏾...
Amen! I’m 33 and still a virgin. My first and only will be my fiancé. Glad I waited and just dated around.
They are not the only ones my friends ppl who mess around just make themselves the superstar this days. Ppl who are keeping themselves for right folks are still doing their thing and it's nobody's business still cause it's a private thing and a private decision.. Ppl who mess around don't have privacy or power to decide over their sexuality they are under public influence.. but virgins are still many in numbers cause not everyone wants to give themselves to random who are undeserving...thats how special some ppl see themselves but ppl are tripping and getting angry over someone else sexuality and decisions cause they lost theirs.. Oops
I married the man that took my virginity. I stayed faithful the entire marriage and I regret that. We were together a little over 20 years.
Wait...you have regrets?
Lori Harvey is grown and single. People should mind their own business.
Exactly she isn’t out here have baby daddies
Tami if your girls aren’t complaining, about how you raised them, then you did a mighty fine job. Don’t doubt that you did the right thing. ❤️
F a c t s!!!
Amen, amen
You are great to be honest. I'm the same way with my daughter, very honest. You did great and they have lived but through your experiences. I always have told my daughter I have dealt with enough pain for her and myself. Lori is young and she has not hurt no-one. I hope it works this time for her...
Women do it all the time... the difference is, she’s doing it publicly! So everyone gets to have an opinion! By the time I was 24...
Girl! I'm just glad social media wasn't a thing for real when I was younger.
@@shayanadavis4554 lmfaaooo
exactly 🤣
@@shayanadavis4554 🎯
Honayyyy...... say less!!! 24 baby I was something Viscous 🤣🤣🤣
This was one of the most honest conversations I have heard in quite awhile. In my opinion, your platform just took a pivot turn in not just being entertaining but using it for deeper discussions that are often faced by our community. There are many young girls out there who do not have the tools to help them navigate relationships and other social issues. Kudos to you on how you have raised your daughters. Never doubt that every single thing you have taught them by both your mistakes and successes will greatly benefit them in every single decision they make in their lives.
Don't ever look to celebrities for answers!!
Awesome.. a mazing ly well said. In like with the truth of life shared. 😊 Thanks.
So true!
I'm 22 and I'm just like your daughters. I made a conscious effort to live a disciplined life since childhood, my mom used to talk to me about how she lived and wouldn't want me to go through. There're times that I feel like I missed out on life or maybe I'm being too hard on myself but it's still not late, I can still get myself out there. Now I know I have a balance, I'm out there but I'm disciplined and set boundaries.
Congratulations, for your discipline- God will reward you for it. You can date and have fun experiences without sexual encounters. That's the best part you get to learn their character and develop yours. Trust me there are blessingsin your sacrifice that will pay out to even generations to come. God bless and keep you always. May you meet and marry whom God created you for. Amen
Amen Love ❤❤❤❤. Thank you and God bless you.
She dating, ain't that what she supposed to do. She ain't married. So I say have fun.
It’s weird how ppl are obsessed with her. I don’t get it. What does she even do?
I never heard of her till today🤣🤣🤣. This popped up so I'm watching it
She does nothing maybe model here and there, Steve isn't even her father, he married her mother and I believe he adopted her so she could have his last name. He talked out it when he had a show.
She’s doing enough to keep people wondering about her.
Dats thy tings she dont do notting she dont sing act dance she does notting I never even heard her speak. No talent she's only famous for having Steve Harvey's Last name. I'm ready tired of hearing about her.
She doesn't model here in the United States. Her, the brother and his wife all model for shows overseas. (Italy and Spain most of the time)
Lori is doing nothing different from what everyone else has done in their 20s. The only difference is she had to live her life in the public
I didn’t do this in my 20’s
@@2121love do what? Date?? That sucks
Not everyone else. Not me at that age and not my daughter who's two years younger than her. I say do you but that everyone's doing it is a lie.
Well I’m 38 and did not do this so please don’t try to normalize this behavior. Young girls are reading this let’s try to promote holding one self to the highest level which is don’t give yourself away to everyone bc you are in your 20s
@@kittykatsboudoir Lori is dating which is what she should be doing. Learning what she likes and dislikes in men. Women normalize men doing it all the time. Such a double standard.
Sis, continue to be proud! You did not hinder their growth in any way. They will be extremely careful who they give themselves to (hopefully to the man they wed). Too much going on out here- not just disease but heartache and brokenness. We are at our most vulnerable point when we open ourselves up to let a man enter in. Once we open up, there are no more “secrets” and we can’t take that precious part of us, that gift back. I absolutely applaud them! As a fellow mother I am proud of them as well!
We,as people are to invested in other people lives. Let’s start focusing on ourselves and leave the judging to God.🤷🏽♀️
This is the most mature comment. I'm happy that emotionally and spiritually intelligent people with compassion, understanding, and empathy for humanity still exist 😊.
Amen
I hate tami feels she possibly hindered her girls by teaching them the right thing. That song "girl like me" by jasmine sullivan is the true inner thoughts of a good girl. We tired of coming last to the more promiscuous chicks, bcuz in the end like tami said, it doesn't guarantee anything. But never regret keeping the box to urself, preserves are a delicacy 😝💪🙏💕💕 Good job Tami ✊
Exactly!!!
She definitely didn't hinder them she did the right thing for sure. I'm 26 years old & a single mother. I wish that my mom would've done the same for me that she did for her girls. I started having sex young & I've struggled and still sometimes struggle with lust and fornication. God is working on me though. Had i known or been taught better certain spirits would not have attached to me. I have a 6 year old daughter and will definitely be going the route Tami did with her daughters 💕
@@yasminegooden9834 iktr ma! The whole goal of parenting should most definitely be to give them what u didnt have and teach them what u didnt know💪💪. It doesnt guarantee that they wont encounter the same heartbreaks and disappointments but as long as u do ur part ur good n God will honor that🤞❣ Best wishes to u and ur babies ma, God got yall🙏💕💕💕
@@theheaddhunter9072 amen amen blessings to you as well 💕🙌🙏
Yes yes yes
You got lucky that they listened, many of us taught them right and they still do wrong.
You are an amazing mother, your daughters are so blessed to have you. Tia and Tamera were virgins in their twenties and have been with only their husbands. Your girls are blessed!
Tammy, you raised your daughters right, when the right man come their way, they will know.
Amen
That’s a fallacy and a dream. That’s why 50% of marriages end in divorce.
You don’t know how she raised her kids, you know what you’ve been told or what she puts out there!
@@boogee8134 true one of them will not find a man .. she like young ladies so we don’t know
"You got fu#ked, and stuck, now you in a rut" -Tami Roman 😂😂🤣💀
You absolutely did the right thing teaching them to protect their hearts and privates. I wish more young girls would save it for marriage good job Mom!!! I love you Tammy!!
Ok but what about the ones that save it and the man still treat them like trash instead of the treasure they are? At the end of the day all they gonna have to say is, “but I saved it for my husband.” Ok and then women AND men turn a blind eye to what their sons are doing. There’s no win for the woman accept pity by other people that say, she was good to him and he did her wrong. They say that about women who were good wives and got hurt but weren’t virgins before marriage. So what is it we gain by shaming women for their sexuality
Do you also wish more boys would save it for marriage?
Chad Scott thank u👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾Well said
@@Chazcott firstly she has girls so I spoke on girls. I wish both actually would save it for marriage in my life experience many of my friends that waited for marriage have healthy loving marriages! Then there are those who had plenty of parters and marriages if they got married failed. I say be what you want to attract! I will remain celebrate until I remarry period and I can say from experience that it’s better that way, so Good Job Tammy on instilling self worth into your girls
@@KiraBKADestroyerOfWorlds absolutely wish men and women alike would
I was married at 23😭😭😭 I wish I didn't and lived a Lorry Harvey life 😂
Unless you're in an abusive marriage, you did the right thing by settingdown. Lori's lifestyle looks all glamorous right now but in the end it all leads to a lot of deep regret. Your reputation is all you have. Ain't anything cute about racking up body counts. She will regret it I promise you.
I know of someone who who went out there and got infected with HIV and is regretting till date. weather early or late, she will still end up in marriage
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@@favour3319 You nor am I to say if she did the right thing or if Lori is doing the wrong thing. She is allowed to regret not casually dating and Lori is fine to casually date but it’s not up to you to say if Lori will later regret, that is something we both do not know and it’s not very good to assume.
This was heavy it hits harddd God bless yall
Now this is real and anyone who says different are in denial periodttt
Been rocking w you since the 90s. Lori is single and living her life. I didn’t sleep w every man I dated
Exactly...
Thats you love , but the men she is dating are men that are known for fucking every girl they are with so trust shes fucking and it makes her look bad
@@inaripumaleeks2312 but how do you know this though? Were you there? I've actually seen with my own eyes when big celebrities getting turned down by regular people. Not everyone wants to sleep with these ninjas.
@Sappstress Love lol 😂 right
I have followed you in the media for a few years and you've always kept it real and transparent. I appreciate that you haven't allowed your artistry and fame to cause you to be fake. Thanks for keeping it 100 in a world that often is shrodded in lies!
I love how you are. You’re not judgmental and you’re honest!!!! Continue to Be You.
Tami, I appreciate you for keeping it 100% real! You are right - there is definitely a double standard where women are concerned. When men spread their wings they are the shiznit but when women do it they are garden tools and that's bullshish. I don't believe you deprived your daughters in any way. Those are YOUR daughters and you raised them how you saw fit. It's awesome that they followed the teaching laid out before them. I was taught to keep my legs closed too but unfortunately due to unkind circumstances I didn't. If I could go back, I would have stuck to what I knew was right. I applaud you for what you instilled in them. They didn't miss out on a darn thing, trust and believe! Who God has for them will wait for them - period! Those things they are to experience in life, they will - period! I will say however that "living your best life" does not mean that you have to be out there being a garden tool and that goes for women AND men! You can experience the best life has to offer without busting it open or sticking it deep! Don't sell yourself and don't settle! Thank you again Tami for always keeping it 💯! Keep on doing it - your voice and view is appreciated. You have come a long way from the early BBW days - hallelujah, amen and praise the Lord! 😂😅🤣. Keep growing, keep thriving!
The realness in this is appreciated.
We are so quick to judge when its someone else's child or life.
Truth be told, a lot of us have young lives that we aren't so proud of.
We forget that we were once young. Hopefully we took those times as learning experiences.
Thanks Tami for your honesty.😊
No a women will never be a man... your reputation will go farther than you will ever go in life jumping from one man to the next make you a whoe rich or poor... she need to go sit down somewhere and work on her
You did the right thing, the girls are not missing anything.. good job mom
I believe women are jealous of Lori, to take time out to constantly write negative opinions and assumptions when they can learn a thing or 2.
💯. She’s not hurting anyone, let her live for life.
Tbh I think the thing people are bashing her over are the rumors she dated a father and son.
At least she ain't out here looking foolish being a baby mama.
@@2feetofhair so what if she would’ve gotten pregnant around that time and didn’t know who the father was
@@keiondriapemberton8029 It didn't happen sooo....?
Go back to the video with Lori and her mother, with her mother telling her back then not to date any low lives, she wanted her to pursue rich men with money. She stated rappers etc. There is a old video out there I caught it some time back
Just because she is dating them doesn't mean she is sleeping with them..
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Yeah...OKAY🤦🏽♀️😂😂😂😬🤪🤷🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
Sadly, the world is so sexualized, people believe that "everyone" you meet you have to have sex with them. That's not true. I've dated plenty of men who don't know what I have in my pants.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 They definitely smaching and it's Lori. Oh they gon brag
She's on her hustle! Kim did it! Why can't she??
So if Kim jumps off a bridge would you? Too many followers not enough leaders!👌🏽
Right
@@jaykay6982 weak
This went over their heads.....
Hustle? Why when women date men of means it has to be a hustle? The men she's dating obviously dont see it that way
She's young and living her life. I did not date a lot as a young woman and I now wish I did. Watching three people that I loved dearly die of AIDS deterred me and made me nervous as a young woman.
Y'all know society loves to track a woman's vaginal miles to determine her value. DO NOT LET THIS GROUP THINK MENTALITY to continue to scoop you. She is grown, and she is doing her.
We as women, younger and mature, need to heal. And the statement of "going through to get to" is real talk!!! We don't need to cut our Sistas down who go through things and process those experiences outside the scope some of us approve of.
Tami you always keep it a 1000% and that's why we love you Sis. Chef's Kiss on this video.
What about all the secretions from a man going into that woman's body. We have to be honest with ourselves and our daughters
@@PepperMtAiry
Yes, be honest and share the info that's needed to be safe and how the world is. But I'm not interested in tearing sisters down, even if their choices aren't palatable to me at the time.
@@dr.100purrscent5 I'm with you, we don't have to tare them down to be honest. But we do need to let them know, that there are other ways to get the lifestyle you want without using your body. Introduce them to some real professional women doing their thing, making them dollars, but not using their bodies to get there
@@PepperMtAiry
It's a complicated topic. I want all women to have agency of their bodies, yet the wisdom to use their personal power responsibly. We are still in a transitional time before coming into a balance with that as a collective.
I pray that women have the freedom they need to discover themselves to the fullest extent. I also pray that they have the guidance and protection the need to navigate through those discoveries.
My hope is that as Sisters & Mothers we give more understanding, truth, and compassion to each other and the younger ones coming up. We have so much fight against, especially as Black Women...I don't want to throw daggers at my babies, my sisters, my cousins, my friends, my aunts, my mother, my grandmothers, nor my ancestors. I want to understand and I want to heal. I have my opinions, some of them are strong. But I want to reduce my judgment as much as possible. It's the the least I can do even for myself.
It took a minute for me to get in this space of peace and the road was bumpy. And to think with all the hardship I survived, my road wasn't even the hardest terrain out there. So I am grateful, and just want to give room from Grace where Grace was given to me. That's all 💗
Often times, people don’t give up on love even after being hurt and get talked down on for moving on as if staying where you’re not happy for appearances is better.
As the old ladies say, "Give it time. Time will tell." Fastforward today, one year later...SPLITSVILLE!
Somewhere along the way we convinced ourselves that "living life" is about doing regrettable things. You know, that whole YOLO movement, but I think that YOLO is all the more reason to be intentional and careful. I am all ears to hear the experiences of my parents and aunts and uncles and whoever came before me because their experiences are like checkpoints. You know when you're playing a game and you reach a checkpoint you don't have to start from the beginning when you fall. Why would I want to go back and have the same poor experiences my parents had when I could stand on their shoulders, learn from them, and get ahead? Yes, they may have turned out fine by God's grace, but I could turn out even better by His wisdom. Never feel bad about wanting better for your children. You made your decision based on your personal experiences and are only second-guessing yourself because you see the lives of others. Doing what everyone else is doing when you WANT to do it is one thing, but doing it solely because everyone else is even when you know it ain't what you want for you is never a good idea in my opinion.
Well said..
Amen!
Exactly!!!!
This is th e Best Comment!!
Facts!
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I’m 38 with no kids and because she tried so hard to prevent me from having kids at a early age 😅 NOW she’s mad with me for stopping me 🥴🥴
You better off! Keep living your life and enjoying yourself. 🙃
Mine too 😂😂
Same here , I'm 38 with no kids too. My family kept preaching to me as well, about to be 39 in August.
wow i hope it works out for you
@@doresabk6575 why won't it.. Your attachment to a man will not get you a good man, neither your age. When you find a good man you find one regardless of the two.
No one wants to feel like a disposable cup... Used and thrown away!!! Virginity is priceless!!! I teach my sons and daughters that!! Forget what others think. "Protect your family jewels!"
That's only if you allow yourself to be treated like a disposable cup. Why is it just automatically assumed that the men disposed of her? Maybe she disposed of them? Ever thought about that? She had her experience with them, it didn't work out, so then she moved on.
She is living her best life. She is doing what most girls, me including. Only difference is that it’s not made public
I concur 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Right
I understand how you feel.... but know this Tammy there's no book on how to raise kids and so far from what I see. You're doing an amazing job... they are smart and respectable, and you should be proud!!! We don't want our kids to learn everything the hard way like we may have and you've accomplished that!!!
So true and on top of that, who’s to say she’s sleeping with all the men she has been photographed with. She’s pretty and young with no kids, let her live her life unapologetically. At least her men is of a certain level. Tre songs, future and Michael B I believe she was actually with all the others I think they’re just friends who run in the same circle
I dont mind her living it up, I just don't want her getting pregnant by some random rapper then becoming a single mother. I get so annoyed at these young girls that think they are supposed to get pregnant within 2/4 months of dating these guys then fighting on the grams over him being a shitty father. I always tell 20 somethings to live their lives, travel, be free.
Thank You ! Lori is a young woman living her life. People act as if they forgot what its like to be young as well as what they were doing when they were young.
I did/do the same with my two boys and my oldest is 18. I feel what you did was right and how you spoke with them and talked to them about your past was also a good idea. Again I did the same, the mom did not talk to me about any of this and I figured if we don’t someone else will. These females are after my son, and he is flattered they have sent him pics and everything, I talk to him until I am blue in the face; he is about to go to college and I won’t be there. He knows what’s right and wrong. I told him about marriage and waiting; but I have to put it in the Lord hands. I told him about STD’s showed him pics of the different stages, talked to him about odors and the smell test. Told him not to use anyone else’s protection but his own if he does decide to do anything, because I will not always be there. Tammy you are one of a kind and very unique. You are one of the most honest individuals I have come across especially coming from a reality show. #respect
I'm not buying her relationship with MBJ. He is so private and now all of the sudden he wants to be all open with... just feels a little stuntish... especially with those videos. And she is somewhat private too. So why all of this...
But she is loving her life and exploring her 20s. As long as she is safe. More power to her.
So im not the only one? I mean 20 Hollywood years and ive seen him in ONE pic with a blonde yearzzzz ago. Weird for an actor of his caliber not to be in more photos with women. Then again i don't follow his every move.
Definitely a stunt
I thought I was the only one. Definitely fake
I thought I heard something about him being a fluid individual.
Finally someone is thinking the same thing as me! All of this is for publicity. Next we will hear MBJ coming out with a movie or something. After that they will "break up"
It's crazy that I was thinking about this yesterday. My daughter is a little younger, but I also feel like I have stunted her social growth. Now I'm like I want her to have those life experiences, but she is not interested, she's focused on her goals. Nothing is wrong with waiting, but I definitely let my own life experiences be the model for what I didn't want for her or my son.
Your words are words of my heart.
You spoke this Truth beautifully.
I feel like I raised my children in such protective mode,because I was not protected.
I wish I did get therapy before even having children,it would have been great.
I feel any woman who has been through any type of trauma, should get therapy before conceiving.
My kids always say I was so over protective, and I truthfully was because of my own childhood.
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You were open and honest and mother's of daughters have to be careful to share and not scare, to teach and not preach!! They are living it and experiencing it like they are supposed too. Lori is just living out loud and very publicly and everybody knows her name and stays in her business.....dont nobody know Keishia down the street.... and because everything is done in public and in front of everybody because you find out early on that it ain't working with that person so you move on to the next it just seemed like you just out and about just kicking it but you ain't doing nothing more than any of the rest of these young folks of dawn supposed to stay with somebody for everyone's you realize after the first couple of months that it ain't going to work out between y'all nope you supposed to keep it moving on to the next one and it's just too bad it's such a double standard for boys and girls and also for black girls versus white girls Ariana Grande and I love her too then have just as many boyfriends engagement and I are kind of crap just like Lori Harvey has and nobody dragging her she didn't have three damn engagements got to do tattooed on her arm Within 18 months to years maybe was dating the one dude who tried to commit suicide or something and then went on to another boyfriend and all kind of crap so she done had just as many but I don't see nobody dragging her
Tami you did right by your girls! Raising your girls to wait until marriage is a very noble thing to do. Especially in a society where being a virgin and waiting until marriage is shunned! Although yes Lori is out here living her best life, we not gone pretend that there are no consequences for doing so. Bless the Lord that you turned out just fine, but that's not the case with everyone. Please dont ever feel like you failed your girls because of the way you raised them. If more women raised their children like that, I believe that we wouldn't see most of the foolishness we see with young girls today. Be blessed sis. ❤
Is it how many men she been with or is it because she black Taylor Swift have had how many men and who ever mentions it NO ONE.
Now you done said a word. But also how much of that goes back to how hard we are on each other? Cuz black folks talk much sh*t abt each other.
Wait ✋ Taylor Swift had a lot of men?????😱😲 not miss goody girl
@@ladyluc26 Taylor has been with Jon Mayer, so that's atleast the equivalent of 5 men. But she does keep a man.
white folks aint talking about Lori either...
@@shaunabuck10 Right!
This was deep. Thank you for sharing. I really felt when you talked about the part that said am I hindering their social growth. It’s so hard as parents to let go but I do think that a normal emotional/social development includes experiencing things around the same times your peers do. It’s hard to know what the right thing is, your girls will find their way ❤️❤️❤️
i think she is positioning herself for a long run in the public eye
This is a refreshing perspective, good job Tammy.
No stop it
And that is why black women are the bottom of everybody list or not even on it sad
Ms. Tami, thank you for keeping it clear&real.I have a teenage daughter and can’t even with this convo, I should be but I’m just so uncomfortable. Bless you for being able to.
When George Clooney was bachelor of the year... EVERY YEAR, the world thought it was cute. ‘Who’s next?!’ But when a woman does it it’s judged. Now...Lori gets flack... and other women, because it is understood that women have more risks when it comes to the repercussions of sex... yes. That’s a truth. That’s why Lori gets the side eye for her public dating life.
I side eye men and women who do the most..... being promiscuous and what not.... Like you said Tammy..’IT CAN GO LEFT.’
First of all you guys don’t know who Lori is sleeping with.
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We know !
Right!!!!
I said the same thing.. going off assumptions
This was an honest, raw, in depth talk. That only made me become more of a fan of yours.
I love when you said that you were a realist with your girls. Because I raise my son the same. I don’t sugar coat anything because I want him to know.
Dating does not translate to sex with each person you date. Collecting data is what most women should do instead of thinking that each guy you're with is relationship material.
Nothing wrong with taking time to get to know folks. I think women are projecting. Just because in YOUR head you think each guy you date expects sex, expecting is not the same as getting it.
Her business.
They smashed her.....trust. Ain't none of those celeb men gonna date her without that benefit...Sad truth.
@@MrsMoore1 most women complaining about Lori dont have men themselves. Her life is not an ordinary one. It's full of adventure and folly. "THEY" didn't do anything that she wasn't willing to do.
Bottom line: She can have and do what she wants, when she wants. Most people bit*hing about it haven't stepped out of their own cities to travel.
So anyone with that mentality can miss me with their narrow opinions.
Again, dating isn't sleeping with each person you date. If folks want to think that, enjoy
Tammi, I think you done an excellent job bringing up your girls. I can totally relate to you, I am single parent with a 22 year old daughter about to finish up college and I feel the same way, did I stunt her growth? She too was brought up in a Christian home. She doesn't behave like your typical young woman her age. What's sad, is this, because our society glorifies power/money/fame and sex and make folks idols and we don't. It then makes us question who we are and our values when it should be the other way around. Sounds like your girls are doing great in life and that's all that matters. Like you said, going out her and getting vitamin D don't mean a thing and don't get you no where. Having a man respect you, love you,cherishing you, putting a ring on you and walking you down the aisle is where it's at; not screwing you and going on to the next warm body. Listen up young women and old and in between, hopefully you reading this, KEEP YOUR LEGS CLOSED!!!
Close the CANDY STORE!!! These men ain't gonna respect you laying on your back!! Now that's GIRL POWER!! WE CAN CHANGE MEN, ONE AT A TIME by staying off our backs which will result in them having to change their point of view.
I like how you laid that out and explained for some of the more judgemental ppl in the world. We all have a past and everyone has their own story to tell or not tell.
No BODY IS RAISING HER. SHE PAST 18.
SHE'S BEEN RAISED.
LOVE THE VOICE UP.
U arent really grown at 18, do u agree?
@@martinacarter3050 I agree. That is why we have kids in college wilding because parents think their jobs is "done". Sad!
@@blacclivesmatter4637 u better say that!😁
@@martinacarter3050 That's something wrong with American parents tho. They treat their spawns like their friends. You won't see African or Asian parents on that BS. Never!
Luv your comment
This video and reading the comments help me feel a bit better about myself. I'm 36 and i was raised to wait until marriage as well before sex. But being the age i am and being a virgin in today's society.....i feel like something is wrong with me or if i tell a guy I'm a virgin it would scare him off or he would think what's wrong with me. It's like being a virgin is uncommon now. There are so many emotions going on with me as i write this....i hope everyone understand what i mean. Thank u for providing this platform.
There is nothing wrong with being a virgin in today’s society...you still have value in world where promiscuity and whoredoms is highly praised! KEEP YOURSELF!
There is nothing wrong with holding on to your values and virtues. I will tell more women to hold on to their virginity until marriage. When I was in my 20s, I dated for vain reasons and like Tami said, it did not gain me anything but heartache and other things. Like my high school teacher told me, keep your "cards" in your pocket.
Thank you both Isha_V and K. I really do appreciate your support and encouragement...😊
The devil is a liar. You are waiting on God’s promise & He will NOT let you down. You are reserved for God’s very best. Work on you, walk in God’s purpose, & stay plugged into God thru reading God’s Word, fellowshipping at church, & prayer. Devon Franklins book The Wait is also inspirational. Blessings to you.
@@ericaseymour3732 thank you so much! ❤
I think you did really well with your daughters.
I feel you taught your girls well. Men will sleep with a woman and walk away, then the woman ends up feeling bad because she shared her body with someone who is a user. It’s good to have high standards and I believe God will reward them with a good deserving partner when they’re ready.
Why do women look at it that way tho? Are you not also using that man for a good time? Be a hunter and you can't be hunted. I think it's important to be careful, but I also think it is important to experience and explore sexuality. How else will you grow to have a healthy open sex life with your forever partner? How do you even know if you love someone to marry if you never explore them in a physical and spiritual sense? Do you want a sexually unfulfilling relationship because you were too scared to ever explore yourself or a partner that way? Women are brainwashed to chase love and romantics, every relationship is not that, but that doesn't mean it has no value or lesson for her to walk away with. Bottom line, sexuality is for all of us to enjoy, not just men. You won't feel bad if you approach things differently 🤷♀️ just my opinion.
Thank you sis for sharing. I I have followed you since the Real World. I appreciate you keeping it all the way real. And making very valid points in both perspectives. Its Lori's life to learn and grow from love
TAMI WHEN YOU SAID " FUCKED AND STUCK " I WAS DONE.🤣🤣. THAT WAS EPIC AND SO TRUE!!
Guard your hearts ladies. If giving it up to men that don’t intend to honor and cherish you doesn’t give you something you need to cure, it surely can destroy your self esteem and make you very vulnerable. It might be fun while you’re having it, but this your temple and when you respect it you show others how to respect you.
That was one of the realist conversations I have heard in a long time Tammy. Thank you. Because as a mother, I often battle with wondering if I taught my sons the right things AND if they are even listening. It's so much.... lol
She's young as she needs time to find herself, I just wish she would have passed on p. Diddy, trey songz, and future. She can do so much better, sheesh🤔. They just run through women.
You live you learn, she has to learn life lesson with these men, they will teach you what you don’t want in a man and how to be treated, she’s young she’s living her life, leave her alone, if the one you’re with ain’t doing right by you, you move on to the next one, sometimes you got to kiss a lot of frogs 🐸 to get to your king 👑
I have to agree with you. I get that the media can give a certain perception of a person. But Future and Diddy........it's all right there in your face. Unfortunately, being young, beautiful, and having money.....the media will be looking for you. But every relationship doesn't have to be publicized. IJS
LoL! - those were the frogs she kissed to get to her prince :-0
Let's be clear...she was "linked to" those men in the media, but that does NOT necessarily mean that she was actually dating all (or any) of them. What's more, a date doesn't translate to datING; dating doesn't always include sex, and none of that is an actual relationship. Have you ever gone out with somebody a few (or more) times, and then after a few weeks or a couple of months, you moved on because it wasn't what you were looking for? She really isn't any different than any other woman her age; she just gets speculated about and discussed by millions of people who don't actually know a damn thing about what she's really doing.
I think it was for publicity.. never saw her even kiss these men
The twenties are for dating and experiencing new things. "Go Lori"!
Damn right👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 I apologize for the bad language
Exactly! How is she gonna find her future husband if she doesn't 'date' often. Not everyone will find THE ONE from the get go.
Tami has really beautiful eyes. When she slightly squints, absolutely gorgeous.
I was raped at 12 yrs old and did not get to choose when to give up my virginity. I really wish I had a chance to save myself till marriage because that is what I was taught and like you said having sex after that got me nothing. I plan to tell my daughter all the same things you Was talking about with the hopes that she will save herself and wait. it's cool to date but everyone is not worthy of our precious body ❤
I am so very sorry you had to experience that. I am sending you some love and and healing ✨💖
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I am truly sorry about that happening to you. I'm sending you lot of love and healing.
I am so very sorry that happened to you. Just know that when you voluntarily gave yourself to someone else was the real “loss” of your virginity. The violation you faced at 12 years old was an involuntary, violent assault.
Me too, now that I’m 50, been there done that, but when I was that age, oh my goodness, I can relate...
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Tami, you’ve protected your girls from having many soul ties and that alone is commendable. A real man will never complain about being the only one that his wife has ever known and truth is both partners should be able to offer that to one another so if any guys reject your daughters because they’re not given it up then they’re only doing them a favor, by getting out of the way because it takes a MAN to find a GOOD THING!
Truthfully, sex outside of marriage is a selfish act and that’s why most people that do it lack the ability to stay married! Plus marriage was not created by man, hence, when you enter a marriage you say your vowels to GOD so you might wanna prepare and in basketball terminology - you should practice like you’re gonna play! In other words, you can’t start off selfish and think that when you get into the marriage you’re gonna be unselfish and it’s Satans job to attack marriages because of what it represents so don’t give him a head start.
Respect - teach them right and hopefully they'll make quality decisions.
Well Jesus said “he who is without sin, cast the first stone”. Live your life and mind your business.
I so appreciate your approach to this topic. Way too often, we drag our ladies through the mud for having sex and try to shame them about it. I have an 18yo daughter as well and she is still a virgin. My past is somewhat similar to yours and this is why I have been an "adamant realist" with her, as well. But I've often struggled with the thought of have I stiffled her life experiences by bringing her up this way. Raising daughters is hard and trying to prevent them from making the same mistakes we did is even harder. At the end of it all as parents we try to do the best we can by them. This has been my best.
U tha realist and everytime they talk about her she never say shit she just keep doing her...
Because their opinions don't pay her bills. Nor are they affording her those lavish trips, jewellery, etc. Lol
And them