My dad raised me to be self-sufficient. He said he didn't want any of his daughters dependent on anyone, let alone a man. Vice versa, my mom raised my brothers to be able to cook, clean,sew, etc. so if some heiffa decides she doesn't want to cook or clean, they could do that themselves. I'm grateful to both my parents for those life lessons.
Young and old. The elder women AND MEN in my family used to talk this ish. Used to tell me I had penis envy cause I was always self sufficient and ambitious..No, I just don’t want to end up like y’all miserable asses...Funny, the same family members contact me PRIVATELY and on time every month with their hands out for a handout.
My momma asked me "who is the governors wife?" Im like idk... She said exactly, if he decides to leave her, he's taking his money, his circle of friends, and his name with him. So always have your own.... I was probably 15 years old, I understood what she was saying but it wasn't until I was grown that I knew what she meant.
Amen! I learned the hard way, but my grandma 👵🏽 and aunts taught me that I was instilled with independence and yes I was! I got out on my own and became independent and proud!
My husband passed. And now i am lost without him. He really did nice things for me financial ly and a great provider. I did not continue to develop myself. Never thought he would pass. I was dependent on him in so many ways. And i wish i would have continue to grow. Now, i am starting all the way over.
As Christ said God bless the child who hears his words and keep his commandments. Which he commanded us who are blessed to sell everything we have and give to the poor and pick up our Cross and follow Christ
She's basically saying don't be a dependent bish like she was. She said when they broke up, bc her man provided for her, it bit her in the ass in the end.
“... during his tenure in your P. Ooo I’m sorry. Well that went left quickly.” lol I really think Tami should have her own show. She’s got that Oprah presence that doesn’t require others (The Real, The Talk, The View etc) to help carry the show. She’s always real, down to earth, straight from the heart. Just don’t piss her off lol. She was too good for that basketball mess.
If you're depending on the financial stability of a partner, that shows you lack the ability of progression individually. You're mentally lowering the value of yourself. NEVER depend on others to support your personal needs because you'll never know when it'll end...
I agree in the sense that you never know what will happen in life !! I was an equal breadwinner but then I got cancer and had to be on sabbatical for 3 years!! Yup he had to carry it all . But I got healed up and then went back to it . These scenarios happen in life wo notice so each partner of the partnership must be able to carry the financial weight if needed . Just don’t make yourself financially dependent or vulnerable to people with ulterior motives !
Married for 20yrs, and mom of 3... I'm hear to tell you, this is a whole word! My story is very similar to Tami's... Thank the Lord, I'm in transition and reclaiming myself as a whole. Many prayers and strength to my ladies going thru the struggle 💪🏾
I must admit, just by reading the title i though she was finna talk down to women who don't have the latest and greatest, but i watched the video before i commented and Tami is right about everything she said. I be hearing girls saying "A man gotta buy me this or that" and what they requiring from these men they can't even do for themselves.
I was that girl 25 years ago with three kids. My second husband knows my saying, I did it before and I can do it again. I’ll leave a man in a heartbeat because I value me and mine. We’re 20 years in and he never thought that I “need” him. All I NEED is JESUS‼️ It feels good to have your own.
Facts!!! Both my parents taught me and my sisters this same life lesson growing up. My Mama said her Mom told her the same thing growing up. Always have your own. Dont totally be dependent on a man.
Preach!! This is a message that a lot of women need to hear! We as women must be self-sufficient because nothing is absolutely permanent or constant with regard to relationships or marriages. This was on point!!!!👍👏👌❤😊
Same! Ain’t no need to combine that; it’s 2021 and we got online banking. He transfers money to my account, I keep my own money in my account, and that works out just fine. 😂
I grew up where this was my mom and when her & my dad divorced she ended up just like you said, she left the marriage with exactly what she came in with except with 2 kids she couldn’t provide for. Growing up broke taught me to NEVER depend on anyone but myself. Unfortunately it makes me not open myself up to men and make myself vulnerable, so men never have a spot in my life because I don’t make one for them.
I encourage you to seek therapy ! I was raised similarly and had to have a failed marriage to realize my inability to be emotionally vulnerable and allow myself to be loved. Therapy changed my life . I now have a healthy work life balance and partnership. You can too
I agree with you 100. I'm single and I take care of myself. Blessed to be able to do this.,but if a man wants to help.well then thank you for your help.
I’m not waiting for a man to give me anything.. like my granny used to say a man will promise you roses and bring you daisy. Some guys like to dictate those coins and I ain’t about that life. I’m very independent but I’m big on a couple helping each other.
My grandmother taught me to secure my own bags as a teenager. This is a lesson most women need to understand so thank you for sharing this message with young ladies on your platform.
My mom told me when I was younger "NEVER GET INTO ANYTHING YOU CAN'T AFFORD TO TAKE CARE OF ON YOUR OWN ie: house,car or anything/anyone that comes with a bill
Whew chile I know it all to well- I thought being a "HOMEMAKER" was a job in itself...(it is).....BUT when shit goes left- you'll be QUICKLY reminded what they did for YOU- SMH!! I told my daughter if you can't get it twice YOURSELF then wait until you can.....and that's on PERIODT!!!!!!!
Y’all have terrible attorneys! Because whenever he would remind you of what he did not comeback would be “yup-that’s what you were supposed to do” and carryon. 😩😂
I am a BLACK BUSINESS OWNER. "I "GO GET IT and COME BACK WIT IT. I NEED A MAN TO ADD TOO......AGAIN I SAY ADD TOO MY HAPPINESS 😊. SO IF HE WAKES UP AND DECIDES HE WANT TO TRY A NEW FLAVA......MY MORTGAGE CONTINUES TO BE PAID.
This is EXACTLY what I’m talking about. Be about your business and not a lazy, broke, uneducated, baby making machine. Who would respect someone like that .?
Agree.its fine to treat once in a while,but we are not banks. I cut a lot of old friends,and family off for this reason,and other reasons. I have quit jobs over coworkers talking ish.im 42 years old.i am NOT here for your raggedy b.s.
That same scenario was my life 11 years ago (on a lower pay scale) but, I had my own life prior to meeting him and it has taken me that long to rebuild my life after that divorce and I am now a college administrator and counselor. I teach young women the importance of keeping your independence and not losing your identity and yourself in him. Thank you Sis, Love You and your platform!
My husband takes 100% percent care of me financially, it wasn't about money for us it was about true love and compatibility, I do want i need to do around the house and balance the accounts, while he works, so when he comes home it's a peaceful atmosphere and can just chill. It's call a balance for your life
And you are blessed to have it like that, I’m tired of black women who hate on other women who are provided for by a good man and can focus on other things in life!!! White women and other nationalities do this all the time and it’s normal for the man to provide!!!! , 💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕
I TotallyAgree !!! That’s what I tell my daughters , It’s always bern s practice for me , Praise God !! Good advice for this up snd coming generation and some older ones too !! Experience brings knowledge and Wisdom 🙏🏿
I totally agree!!! I want my own, I have 3 degrees and my husband makes very good money, But I will never give up my own independence!! 💯💯💯 like you said a help mate 👍
Ms Tami i appreciate you having a conversation about a relationship and woman being independent and getting your own coins you are so right and don't let no one use you
First of all, I just want to say we need a Tami Roman Storytime SHOW. Second of all, every time Tami said "baubles", I was on the floor. Anyway, here's my perspective as a man. I do believe it is the job of a man to take care of his wife (stress on the word "wife") financially. If I ever do marry, I want my wife to work because she wants to and not because she has to. If she wants to focus on the home, that would be just fine with me. If she has a passion and/or career oriented, that's fine too. But our home shouldn't be dependent on her decision and thus on her financial contribution. That's on me. (The audacity of a man to ask his wife to stop working, I kind of feel is a red flag, at least in recent times.) However, I do believe that a woman should have the ability and the know how to support herself because the truth is no one knows how life will turn out. My grandmother and her generation were largely homemakers. The husband worked outside the home, the wife inside the home. What was his was hers. My grandfather worked and brought the money home to my grandmother. She paid the bills, she put the money in the bank, she purchased everything. In the end they were married 61 years. But there were other women of her generation who found themselves in a world of trouble when their husband left or when he died or when he became too ill to work outside the home. Now she has to support the family, and often it was a daunting task because the only skills she may have had were related to taking care of the family. Today, there's a lot of "I need your money, but not your committment". Folks would rather play house than build a kingdom together, and any woman today looking for a man to come in and take care of her, settling for any ole dude as long as he can do that, he aint even thinking about marrying her, but she cool enough to have his children...that chick is in trouble. At this point the man himself is reduced to what he can do for her as opposed to finding someone whose very existence has you over the moon. Sorry for the long response. Just thought I'd chime in.
So so on point sis! And even when he and you are on the same level always even in your comfort strive to be better. If you are a cna when you met him... be a whole nurse 5 years in and breaking up won’t be because somebody is lazy and unable to grow. Grow Queen Grow!!! Love you Tami! My sister from the bottom! South Florida for those who don’t know.
Tami you are my BFF in my head!! lol “Well that went left! Didn’t mean to say that”…You are speaking facts!!! Help mate! These new generation women are not aware about that. Always be able to take care of yourself!!
Girl!!!!!!!! I just had a flashback! My dryer went out and he was looking upside my head like “what you gonna do”! Such a turn off, I am pissed at my own self! I learned one hell of a lesson too late in life. I am slowly but surely getting my shit together
"My LAWD!!" (in Whitney voice) thank you so much for saying what I've been thinking, PERFECTLY!!! I'm thinking it's a generation thing for the most part. We come from a generation where you come equipped with your own ish and don't depend on no one but God.💯
Speak I've always held myself down and others to a certain calling but these last several months has been hard on me with this baby during this pandemic Im trying my hardest to surround myself with encouragements and motivation to get back on my ups Thanks I needed that. Auntie 💘
Baaaby, I've been asked to take time off and stop working for a while since I've had my little one recently and this right here is exactly why I refuse to stop working. Tami what you said was 1000! Self sufficient is the only way to be 💯❤❤
It's more attractive to see a woman doing it on her own anyway. So, when she do give you the time of day it's bc she really into YOU & not what you can do for her.
@LSM ... So True . We are bringing up our son in this same manner. When a man who is on the ball sees a woman who is not lazy and content to be a broke down lazy dependent - he should find that attractive and admirable!!!
🗣️🗣️TAMI....TAMI... Bish, I love you!!! You really told the ladies what they should already know, but we can't be responsible for what folks don't know... I will say, my husband and I enhance each other's life!!! If either one disappear tomorrow, we good. Currently, teaching both daughters this... Again, ❤️❤️ the content!!
My dad raised me to be self-sufficient. He said he didn't want any of his daughters dependent on anyone, let alone a man. Vice versa, my mom raised my brothers to be able to cook, clean,sew, etc. so if some heiffa decides she doesn't want to cook or clean, they could do that themselves. I'm grateful to both my parents for those life lessons.
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More moms should have taught they lazy ass sons to be more self sufficient, hygiene , cooking,cleaning, etc.. my son will have the upper hand for sure
Exact same upbringing. So grateful for it.
Ditto !!
The 'Golden Rule' is the one with the gold makes the rules. Don't be that person who is too broke to leave!
THIS!! 💯
Tami.. Say it LOUD SIS... Say it for the young Sisters IN THE BACK!!!
and the old ones that keep falling for the easy route
Young sisters AND the foolish more mature sisters. #PREACH
Old ones too I know somebody living like this right now and thinks it’s cute and bragging she spoiled and happy
Young and old. The elder women AND MEN in my family used to talk this ish. Used to tell me I had penis envy cause I was always self sufficient and ambitious..No, I just don’t want to end up like y’all miserable asses...Funny, the same family members contact me PRIVATELY and on time every month with their hands out for a handout.
And some of the old ones too smdh
My momma asked me "who is the governors wife?" Im like idk... She said exactly, if he decides to leave her, he's taking his money, his circle of friends, and his name with him. So always have your own.... I was probably 15 years old, I understood what she was saying but it wasn't until I was grown that I knew what she meant.
Moral of the story, don’t give up your independence for anybody.
Exactly
Amen...that’s one of the 1st things my mother taught me as a woman!
Exactly 💯
Amen! I learned the hard way, but my grandma 👵🏽 and aunts taught me that I was instilled with independence and yes I was! I got out on my own and became independent and proud!
And don’t let anyone crush you emotionally. No one is worth that much emotion.
My husband passed. And now i am lost without him. He really did nice things for me financial ly and a great provider. I did not continue to develop myself. Never thought he would pass. I was dependent on him in so many ways. And i wish i would have continue to grow. Now, i am starting all the way over.
Hang in there and keep trying
God bless you, love. My condolences. You can rebuild, I’m sure you are stronger than you realize. 🙏🏾
U got this ...!!!
He proud of u...!!!
I’m so sorry for your loss. This is the sort of unforeseen circumstance that even the most traditional and happy couple can’t argue against.
@@shrimpgeisha Absolutely 💯👏
My mother always said God bless the child that has its own and you can always share
I like that...
Great Comment. Your Mother is Right !!
That right there. God bless the child thats got its own.
Thank GOODNESS for our Mothers 💪🏽
As Christ said God bless the child who hears his words and keep his commandments. Which he commanded us who are blessed to sell everything we have and give to the poor and pick up our Cross and follow Christ
It’s not safe these days for a woman not to have something on her own. Relationship go left then what?
Tami I'm so happy to see you in better spirits. 🙂
🙏❤️
The “tenure in your 😺” had me just choke on my spit and die laughing 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Girrrrl the entire nail salon looked my way when I busted out laughing at that part 🤣🤣🤣🤣
I love Tami because she’s so real and very relatable, always tells the truth.
She's basically saying don't be a dependent bish like she was. She said when they broke up, bc her man provided for her, it bit her in the ass in the end.
I'm just here to pass the "offerings" plate around because that was a whole word. Thanks for blessings my soul ta-day Auntie Tami!💕
And I'll help pass it along 🤭
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Me too !!! So much in agreement with this!!!
Sis, I got my own so I'm putting extra in the plate!
@@ethiopianabesha , Can I get an Amen?!🙌🏽🗣
“... during his tenure in your P. Ooo I’m sorry. Well that went left quickly.” lol I really think Tami should have her own show. She’s got that Oprah presence that doesn’t require others (The Real, The Talk, The View etc) to help carry the show. She’s always real, down to earth, straight from the heart. Just don’t piss her off lol. She was too good for that basketball mess.
Tami, you had me like a kindergarten student sitting Indian style in a classroom. My entire attention focused on you, the teacher. 👏👏👏
HAHAHALOLOL
YUUUUUUP!!
FOR SURE!!
Love this❣️
For real yo!!🤣🤣
Yes!!! I swear she’s my BIG SIS in my head!! 💙
Love me some Tami! Loved her since her MTV days. She is speaking truth from her “Spearience!” These are some very good nuggets of wisdom.
“Spearience” 😂😂😂😂
If you're depending on the financial stability of a partner, that shows you lack the ability of progression individually. You're mentally lowering the value of yourself. NEVER depend on others to support your personal needs because you'll never know when it'll end...
@Jabari ur comment gets a thousand likes 👍🏾 from me💯
Jabari drop your snap LOL
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I agree in the sense that you never know what will happen in life !! I was an equal breadwinner but then I got cancer and had to be on sabbatical for 3 years!! Yup he had to carry it all . But I got healed up and then went back to it . These scenarios happen in life wo notice so each partner of the partnership must be able to carry the financial weight if needed . Just don’t make yourself financially dependent or vulnerable to people with ulterior motives !
So true and that is why I don’t
Married for 20yrs, and mom of 3... I'm hear to tell you, this is a whole word! My story is very similar to Tami's... Thank the Lord, I'm in transition and reclaiming myself as a whole. Many prayers and strength to my ladies going thru the struggle 💪🏾
For the girls in the back spending they last to be around a rapper praying to be "chosen" 😂🤣😂🤣
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Sad isn’t it. Po tink tinks.😭
Lol
when did she say that
I just want someone that can bring something to the table and then we build several other tables lol
Thank you for sharing Tammie this was real Af, & most got 2 much pride to share & help a Woman🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
Anyone who get offended by this is definitely a dependent and not independent. They say the truth hurts🤷
Exactly!
I must admit, just by reading the title i though she was finna talk down to women who don't have the latest and greatest, but i watched the video before i commented and Tami is right about everything she said. I be hearing girls saying "A man gotta buy me this or that" and what they requiring from these men they can't even do for themselves.
Truth is controversy
For real(peridot)
Hurts like a Mother Father!!😎
You preaching!!!!! 👏🏾👏🏾 This has ALWAYS been my mindset.. You’re here because I WANT you here, NOT because I need you here. Period
Tami...Tami..Sista Queen you spoke nothing but Facts!!!
Love her ! Always speaks the truth!
"Listen nih, listen nih! I'm speaking from "spurence". I'm on the floor!!!! Hilarious!
She's exactly right I need someone to match my hustle NOT ride off of my flow!!:)💕😇 If he leaves oh well the hustle DON'T STOP!!!:)
You already know💯👏👏👏
I need more friends like Tami. 😂😂😂♥️
I absolutely Love you Tam Bam.. The truth you tell. Your words speaks life.. Get your own coin, this way nobody can take anything from you. 💫💫💫
Thank you for sharing your journey/story. Definitely cautionary tale. Be careful ladies and gentlemen
I was that girl 25 years ago with three kids. My second husband knows my saying, I did it before and I can do it again. I’ll leave a man in a heartbeat because I value me and mine. We’re 20 years in and he never thought that I “need” him. All I NEED is JESUS‼️ It feels good to have your own.
Amen
I agree.... Amen. A child that have there own.... That what taught my children male and female....
Agree I am the samething
AMEN chile
Facts!!! Both my parents taught me and my sisters this same life lesson growing up. My Mama said her Mom told her the same thing growing up. Always have your own. Dont totally be dependent on a man.
Preach!! This is a message that a lot of women need to hear! We as women must be self-sufficient because nothing is absolutely permanent or constant with regard to relationships or marriages. This was on point!!!!👍👏👌❤😊
Thank u Tami for speaking on this its worth listing to on TH-cam
🙌🏾👏🏾👏🏾💯👏🏾👏🏾💯🙌🏾👏🏾 Auntie Thank you for your wisdom. Nothing but RAW FACTS IN huuurrrr!
I love how articulate Tami is.. very dwn to earth n get the point she makes EVERYTIME #Storytime #womenROCK #GETyallMONEY
My hubby and I have separate bank accounts. Enough said ✌🏼
Same! Ain’t no need to combine that; it’s 2021 and we got online banking. He transfers money to my account, I keep my own money in my account, and that works out just fine. 😂
@@DeniseRene407 Lmao. Love it 😂
I grew up where this was my mom and when her & my dad divorced she ended up just like you said, she left the marriage with exactly what she came in with except with 2 kids she couldn’t provide for. Growing up broke taught me to NEVER depend on anyone but myself. Unfortunately it makes me not open myself up to men and make myself vulnerable, so men never have a spot in my life because I don’t make one for them.
I encourage you to seek therapy ! I was raised similarly and had to have a failed marriage to realize my inability to be emotionally vulnerable and allow myself to be loved. Therapy changed my life . I now have a healthy work life balance and partnership. You can too
Yes, being self sufficiency is a real thing for strong women that observe dependency up close and personal. Therapy will definitely be helpful.
I agree with you 100. I'm single and I take care of myself. Blessed to be able to do this.,but if a man wants to help.well then thank you for your help.
I’m not waiting for a man to give me anything.. like my granny used to say a man will promise you roses and bring you daisy. Some guys like to dictate those coins and I ain’t about that life. I’m very independent but I’m big on a couple helping each other.
My grandmother taught me to secure my own bags as a teenager. This is a lesson most women need to understand so thank you for sharing this message with young ladies on your platform.
My mom told me when I was younger "NEVER GET INTO ANYTHING YOU CAN'T AFFORD TO TAKE CARE OF ON YOUR OWN ie: house,car or anything/anyone that comes with a bill
God Bless The Child That's Got His Own..
HALLELUJAH, AND AMEN!!!!!!
Amen, nothing but the truth. I was in the same situation after my divorce...always have your own ladies...
Ladies listen to the maturity and wisdom. You’ll regret it if you don’t, one day.
Whew chile I know it all to well- I thought being a "HOMEMAKER" was a job in itself...(it is).....BUT when shit goes left- you'll be QUICKLY reminded what they did for YOU- SMH!! I told my daughter if you can't get it twice YOURSELF then wait until you can.....and that's on PERIODT!!!!!!!
Y’all have terrible attorneys! Because whenever he would remind you of what he did not comeback would be “yup-that’s what you were supposed to do” and carryon. 😩😂
Amen
Facts
One of the most naturally funny humans on this earth today. But 4 real Ty Auntie 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾ty for letting God use ya👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
When she said "Hunters and Gathers" I went in. 😂😂 Yes Tami keep it all the way 💯.
I agree with you Tammi. I absolutely have lived and engaged talks with my daughters and granddaughters on self-worth and self-suffiency.
I am a BLACK BUSINESS OWNER.
"I "GO GET IT and COME BACK WIT IT.
I NEED A MAN TO ADD TOO......AGAIN I SAY ADD TOO MY HAPPINESS 😊.
SO IF HE WAKES UP AND DECIDES HE WANT TO TRY A NEW FLAVA......MY MORTGAGE CONTINUES TO BE PAID.
And that’s a word!
Yes preach i agree
Period 🎯💯✊🏾
This is EXACTLY what I’m talking about. Be about your business and not a lazy, broke, uneducated, baby making machine.
Who would respect someone like that .?
Exactly
“he should be able to claim you on his taxes” 💀💀💀💀
That hit me!
Tami...you NEED your own show!!! SOMEONE NEEDS to make this happen!!!
I love you to pieces. Thank you for educating women. More conversations like this need to be had.
I fkn love this channel. The ONLY bish on TH-cam that is gonna tell it to you STRAIGHT!!! 👏👏👏👏
❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️. Feelin the love YALL 🙏😇🥰
Amen
Amen Amen Amen 🙏
what I get from this is keep your independence in any relationship.
Being self accomplished and having employable skills will allow for independency. I hope all Instagram girls will watch this.
Agree.its fine to treat once in a while,but we are not banks.
I cut a lot of old friends,and family off for this reason,and other reasons.
I have quit jobs over coworkers talking ish.im 42 years old.i am NOT here for your raggedy b.s.
That same scenario was my life 11 years ago (on a lower pay scale) but, I had my own life prior to meeting him and it has taken me that long to rebuild my life after that divorce and I am now a college administrator and counselor. I teach young women the importance of keeping your independence and not losing your identity and yourself in him. Thank you Sis, Love You and your platform!
"Well that went left quickly"...😂😂😂😂 I love this woman!!! #FACTS
I swear I hollered at the self realization!!😂😂😂
Girl I’m dying 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Say that Tami👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 I totally agree with you
My husband takes 100% percent care of me financially, it wasn't about money for us it was about true love and compatibility, I do want i need to do around the house and balance the accounts, while he works, so when he comes home it's a peaceful atmosphere and can just chill. It's call a balance for your life
You're so blessed
@ Queen...I'm in the same boat as you & I love it!!
And you are blessed to have it like that, I’m tired of black women who hate on other women who are provided for by a good man and can focus on other things in life!!! White women and other nationalities do this all the time and it’s normal for the man to provide!!!! , 💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕
I totally agree with you. Stay blessed & Stay home, lol , I know I am😅💜
Hope you have a just in case plan. Good luck .
💯 FACTS! Important to have/make your own money. As the saying goes...”The way you go in is the way you’ll go out.”
😂😂🤣. It’s the “that went left quickly” for me!!
I just love Tami
I TotallyAgree !!! That’s what I tell my daughters , It’s always bern s practice for me , Praise God !! Good advice for this up snd coming generation and some older ones too !! Experience brings knowledge and Wisdom 🙏🏿
Tammy: Well that went left quickly” 😂!
OMG🤣🤣🤣🤣
Yes sis keep it 100 but you know some people just can't learn until they experience it for themselves but thanks for caring enough to share I ❤ u
"You Always SPEAK The TRUTH"!!!!
Thank you Tami for putting this out there. Our fellow Queens definitely needed this dose of truth this morning!
U HIT THE NAIL ON THE HEAD TAMI, LOVE YOU ALWAYS ❤. PEACE ✌ AND BLESSINGS 🙏.
I totally agree!!! I want my own, I have 3 degrees and my husband makes very good money, But I will never give up my own independence!! 💯💯💯 like you said a help mate 👍
Ms Tami i appreciate you having a conversation about a relationship and woman being independent and getting your own coins you are so right and don't let no one use you
First of all, I just want to say we need a Tami Roman Storytime SHOW. Second of all, every time Tami said "baubles", I was on the floor.
Anyway, here's my perspective as a man. I do believe it is the job of a man to take care of his wife (stress on the word "wife") financially. If I ever do marry, I want my wife to work because she wants to and not because she has to. If she wants to focus on the home, that would be just fine with me. If she has a passion and/or career oriented, that's fine too. But our home shouldn't be dependent on her decision and thus on her financial contribution. That's on me. (The audacity of a man to ask his wife to stop working, I kind of feel is a red flag, at least in recent times.) However, I do believe that a woman should have the ability and the know how to support herself because the truth is no one knows how life will turn out. My grandmother and her generation were largely homemakers. The husband worked outside the home, the wife inside the home. What was his was hers. My grandfather worked and brought the money home to my grandmother. She paid the bills, she put the money in the bank, she purchased everything. In the end they were married 61 years. But there were other women of her generation who found themselves in a world of trouble when their husband left or when he died or when he became too ill to work outside the home. Now she has to support the family, and often it was a daunting task because the only skills she may have had were related to taking care of the family. Today, there's a lot of "I need your money, but not your committment". Folks would rather play house than build a kingdom together, and any woman today looking for a man to come in and take care of her, settling for any ole dude as long as he can do that, he aint even thinking about marrying her, but she cool enough to have his children...that chick is in trouble. At this point the man himself is reduced to what he can do for her as opposed to finding someone whose very existence has you over the moon. Sorry for the long response. Just thought I'd chime in.
I agree!!!
Yes sir
Well said
Totally agree.
👀 are you single?
@@nepps6766 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Hallelujah amen my girl. Get your “OWN” You said it all.😘
Yes, sis. LMAO!
I love Tami! See her as a funny Big Sister! She was one of the first to have a reality show with her singing girl group. Soooo real!
So so on point sis! And even when he and you are on the same level always even in your comfort strive to be better. If you are a cna when you met him... be a whole nurse 5 years in and breaking up won’t be because somebody is lazy and unable to grow. Grow Queen Grow!!! Love you Tami! My sister from the bottom! South Florida for those who don’t know.
Thanks for dropping these gems Tami ✔
Tami you are my BFF in my head!! lol “Well that went left! Didn’t mean to say that”…You are speaking facts!!! Help mate! These new generation women are not aware about that. Always be able to take care of yourself!!
I was just looking at my dude side eyed because he couldn’t help with replacing my AC/HAC system! Like damn u can’t help at all! Time for a new dude
Girl!!!!!!!! I just had a flashback! My dryer went out and he was looking upside my head like “what you gonna do”! Such a turn off, I am pissed at my own self! I learned one hell of a lesson too late in life. I am slowly but surely getting my shit together
Bet yall both still with them same dudes
@@kendraseer5198 ahhh negative
Amen you want to have your own. This is a Blessing in it self.
Amen! Well said and much needed conversation. That's some serious wisdom.
Tammmmmi!!! NY here!
Today’s sermon is ON POINT! So accurate and real. Keep sharing those gems.
I love it...I think u should start ur own show. Ur naturally funny. The glasses nd the bonnet gives off authenticity but funny.
Glad to see you're better ...
You have love, health, and strength to get through everything that crosses your path!!! 👑
Yyyyyyeeeeesssss! Mother Auntie Sister Tammi give them coins of wisdom 👏🙌 you betta teach!!!!!!
"My LAWD!!" (in Whitney voice) thank you so much for saying what I've been thinking, PERFECTLY!!! I'm thinking it's a generation thing for the most part. We come from a generation where you come equipped with your own ish and don't depend on no one but God.💯
You are the big sis I needed 💕 Thank you for all the 💎 you drop... for Free!!
Well said my sista!!
Speak
I've always held myself down and others to a certain calling but these last several months has been hard on me with this baby during this pandemic
Im trying my hardest to surround myself with encouragements and motivation to get back on my ups
Thanks I needed that.
Auntie
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Baaaby, I've been asked to take time off and stop working for a while since I've had my little one recently and this right here is exactly why I refuse to stop working. Tami what you said was 1000! Self sufficient is the only way to be 💯❤❤
Very well said Great Facts thanks for being you ♥️🌹🤩
ANYTHING that a man does for you should be gravy! Periodt!!!
This is a whole WORD! 👏🏾💅🏾🥂
Yes you said a mouth full. In agreement over here!! STAY POSITIVE. BE BLESSED
Tell it like it is Tami
Hi Tami, This Bridget . I am the daughter of late boxer Bob Satterfield. How are you doing today?
I love you Tammy! For being so real. So honest. So open. Thanks for sharing your story.
Sounding like your regular self. Love to see it!
Thank you sister! This is very encouraging and allows women to accept self accountability in a very uncoiffed way- straight no chase
I just love Tami! She naturally funny and entertaining! But, don’t get it twisted, she’s quite wise😂👏🏾💕
This is a whole word! Always have your own! Many men use money as a way to control you. Be dependent on yourself always!
Girl yes, I agree wholeheartedly 💯🙂✨. Take care of yourself. A man can accentuate things. We should be self sufficient always👍🏾✨
I'm glad to see you happy and in a better spirit. Prayers were on deck. God bless.
It's more attractive to see a woman doing it on her own anyway. So, when she do give you the time of day it's bc she really into YOU & not what you can do for her.
I teach my young boys this very same thing.
Amén
@LSM ... So True .
We are bringing up our son in this same manner. When a man who is on the ball sees a woman who is not lazy and content to be a broke down lazy dependent - he should find that attractive and admirable!!!
@@MyHoney2222 I totally agree.
I love her stories, they are all relatable and educational. Im loving her!!!💯
NOT the hunter gatherers! I’m screaming 😁😁🤣🤣
🗣️🗣️TAMI....TAMI... Bish, I love you!!! You really told the ladies what they should already know, but we can't be responsible for what folks don't know... I will say, my husband and I enhance each other's life!!! If either one disappear tomorrow, we good.
Currently, teaching both daughters this...
Again, ❤️❤️ the content!!
Yes Auntie! 🎯 Preach this morning!
Thank you Tami. God bless you for this sister-to-sister golden wisdom.