I’m an intense snacker so I make a nibble plate. It’s a small plate where I place blueberries, strawberries, cherry tomatoes, cucumbers slices, banana slices, and then sometimes some light weight crackers with cream cheese or goat cheese that I have to spread on to the cracker each time I wanna take a bite of one. This allows me to snack on a combo of different nutritious things and is aesthetically pleasing to look at. Currently making one now to eat while I play video games with my friends. It’s better to mindlessly munch on something nutrient dense rather than potato chips.
@@xxaavviieerrrrr I 100% feel you there. Bored eating is tragic. 🤣 I try to cancel out food noise by playing TH-cam videos or a rerun of a show or music in the background while I do stuff. Ik it probably isn’t the best to always be absorbing media but I’ve noticed less food thoughts recently since I’ve been doing that. That and fidget toys distract my hands sometimes.
Another thing that I only recently learned that ALWAYS made me feel so awful is the fact that for women, weight changes throughout your cycle. You will be heavier towards your period and then lose the weight for many reasons after. But because that isn't taught as common knowledge, I thought I was failing. Don't be afraid to let yourself rest during this time!
I recently learned this too 😣 So I take my monthly measurements during ovulation when I'm the least bloated, that way I'm getting an accurate assessment of progress each month.
I always go through a “I need to be extra strict now” after dealing with my period bloat and cravings. 😩 I try to be forgiving bc I know what it is but I do it every month lol.
@@Unkown_Meli It's nearly impossible, so nearly impossible, it is impossible. Impossible in all the ways that matter. If you're eating unhealthily, your diet is barely even providing the nutrients necessary to do base-level exercise let alone the exercise that can burn of thousands of calories, and, most importantly, will your mind let you? Some maybe, but for the VAST majority, no.
Tbh while this is true, statements like these shouldn't be promoted. There is a difference being overweight due to an unhealthy diet and no exercise and weight gain due to other factors like diseases, medication and genetics. For example, my father's side of family is on the overweight scale, while my mom's family is more lean and active and as a mixup I gain weight quite easily and my metabolism is relatively slow. While it is important to look at general trends in the society, it is also important to take into account the "outliers".
I love how you mentioned the pressure to "clear a plate". I recently realized that trauma was holding me back and making me stuff myself. My dad also told me "don't waste food." Because he grew poor. And my grandmother used to always say, "eat til you get full". Now I'm working on eating until not hungry/satisfied.
Heavy training leads to a cortisol spike the new day(s). A cortisol leads to water retention. So it's normal to feel puffier after a particularly tough day of exercise.
There's also the concept of adapting your training regimen to your menstrual cycle. For instance, during your period you might crave sugar, but along with that your body gets better metabolizing carbohydrates, so carb loading before a workout should provide you with more energy than usual. And during that phase, training in general, but particularly aerobic exercise during your period can also help against cramps and back pain due to the endorphin release. Conversely, when you are ovulating, there is more testosterone in your system, so that period is the best for building muscle.
Honestly thank you so much for mentioning this - I started lifting heavy again last week and was freaking out about gaining 2/3 pounds back and had no idea it spiked cortisol 😅
@@kelseychapman1174 Also remember weight doesn't equate to fat. Muscle actually weighs more than fat so your body could just be building muscle, especially if you're lifting.
@@auriniumuscle does not weigh more than fat. A pound is a pound. Muscle is just more dense and takes up less space; which is why you can look smaller, even though the scale did not go down.
i've been moderately exercising for about a month now, and earlier on my last week, we had to run to catch up the bus. and when we got in, it caught me by surprise that i was not out of breath or wheezing! so happy about this kinda mini non-scale victories. ❤
This week, I watched an interview with a glucose expert who talked about ozempic in a very interesting way. She basically said like "okay, people are having trouble with food, so they made a medication to make them not hungry. It's the same as if we discovered there's a substance in water that's causing health problems, and we develop a medication to make people not feel thirst." Ozempic is treating the whole thing in the wrong way. I understand it can be a good short term solution for some people, but they usually experience a rebound in weight gain and glucose spikes once they stop taking it, so what's the point? What we really need is to start having a healthier relationship with food and with our bodies, in order to take control of the situation.
yeah. my grandma’s diabetic. she was on ozempic & it was working for her. then everyone else found out about it & now there’s a shortage where people who already have 8 meds to survive (like literally keep breathing) can’t wait around for their insulin aid. that really pisses me off bc I noticed her mood & feeling better, but now she’s back to being normal sick bc she had to change the medicine in order to still be in something consistently. also, i have different meds & totally understand the shortage thing, so I was extra mad for that.
@@MRorizs2 i do want to say tho, there are people who have a separate mental problem where they literally never feel full, which obviously causes overeating. my dad has this & is probably from a bigger problem of stress. i do want to say that these people usually have some mental/ trauma things going on that cause it, but once you develop this never ending hunger it’s almost always there, even if you become disciplined. like i know i’m talking about a small group of people, but i literally know one, so i had to say something.
"Because the way I felt about the way I looked prevented me from enjoying my life as a child" THIS IS TOO REAL. like people often just tell you to not just care about how you look. but looks play a huge role in your life and if you look good, YOU FEEL GOOD. being ugly does not "build character" it just makes you even more miserable which destroys your character. Becoming good looking actually helps you build your character.
No. Becoming comfortable in your body builds character. Being able to creatively express through your body builds character. Good looking is external validation seeking, not really based in true self esteem and self connection. It's completely fine to want to look good amd to look, however, it doest lead to self steem in itself. Looking good cN be taken away by accidents, by changing the environment, by a change of the beauty standards..."Looking good" is controlled by the external and it doesn't build anything
@@Pieza_De_QuesoYou can dress up an ugly person all you want, but they’re still ugly. Character might be there, but ugliness overshadows everything. When you’re beautiful, your character shines more naturally because everything’s more harmonious. Trying to be 'creative' with someone unattractive often feels off. so it is impossible to be fully comfortable if you don’t like what you see. Wanting to look good isn’t always about seeking validation. Some of us just want to feel good about ourselves, and that’s not a mental disorder like some mfs like to say. We want to wake up confident, knowing we look damn good. That’s self-esteem. Self esteem not some forced 'self-acceptance' bullshit where you pretend you are okay with what you hate. Not everything is tied to beauty standards, we have personal preferences on how we want to look. Self-esteem and appearance are deeply connected, and confidence alone doesn’t fix a lack of good looks. Yes, looks change, but so do personalities. Everything fucking changes over time. It’s true that beauty can be taken away by environmental circumstances, but honestly, if being ugly was my starting point, I’d rather have acid thrown on my face than be ugly for the rest of my life.
Two things that I would personally add; I’m personally a big fan of intermittent fasting because it pointed out to me how much I was snacking in the evenings because I was bored or just for the sake of it, but having an eating window really helped me be more mindful of when/why/how I’m eating! Obviously if out with friends or a one off it’s not a big deal to eat outside your window, but on a general day to day routine I’ve found it really helpful! Another thing I’d say is to always keep body types in mind when focusing on weight loss and to stay realistic. A good phrase I heard for it recently was to remember that a Labrador isn’t supposed to look like a Greyhound; ideal fitness and health looks different on everyone depending on your body’s structure and it’s important to hold yourself to your own standard rather than someone’s else’s definition of beauty!
@@alexterieur8813 but just because you prefer the look of beautifully ripped guys doesn't mean everyone does. I can guarantee there are plenty of people who like your body type the way it is right now.
Fasting made me realize how much I eat and snack for no reason like when I’m not fasting I crave food even though I’m not hungry at all and full. Fasting helped a lit
im so glad i found your channel cause personally as a 13 year old i get made fun of my weight now and even before when i was 7 by classmates, they always say like 'oh the floor is creaking' or in PE when we'd jog or run they'd say 'oh my god an earth quake' which has led me to mental breakdowns in the middle of the lesson multiple times before. recently ive watched multiple videos from you and they made me honestly feel a little more confident after i followed your advices to certain eating habits, etc. now always when i watch your videos i eat because it makes me more aware of the way how i eat, how fast i eat, and so on. in other words: tysm ur an inspiration
Loved that you mentioned how people treat you. I was lean for a long time (thought I was fat then) and it wasn’t until I gained a LOT of weight 2 years ago that I noticed how well I was treated before. The difference is huge. As I lose the weight, I’ve noticed I’m regarded more again and people hold open doors for me. I also think it’s a vibe thing, bc I stayed bubbly and friendly even overweight, but it was hard to see people initially treat me like I was less and then to act as if I didn’t even notice it
Watching this as a 13 year old, thank you this helped me so much more than the people saying "ur perfect the way you are" i currently have an ed but u really helped me thank u!! New subscriber
I'm 29 years old and went through major recovery a few years ago. It is definitely possible! Just be careful of who you listen to on the internet; not everyone is as great as Mae! Keep going!
i have a tip. I watched similar videos at a young young age but in time forgot about the tips and facts like this so make sure to make specific thoughts that help u and only u a routine
i love how much you approached this. people who are seeking to feel good and look good definitely aren't looking forward to be met with words of encouragement regarding the thing they're trying to run away from. i went from 92kg to 56kg thanks to my already existing love for vegetables. it's not a one way process and people seem to not understand that. you explained it well and you look absolutely gorgeous. i hope you continue to reach people who needs your help.
The cleaning my plate really clicked to me. My dad (bless his Korean boomer heart) would force my siblings and me to clean our plates and to not even leave a gain of rice behind. He even forced us to eat food that we dropped on the floor. Getting out of that influence is so difficult. In addition my mom is habitually midnight eater/ snacks so I find myself mindlessly joining her.
On the floor??? My dad used to force me and my sister to clean our plates but it has stopped now. However my 7 year old brother gets forced to clear his plate and I find it really sad because he always says he’s full and it’s not like I can do anything. But it’s definitely a generational thing especially with the culture he grew up with in Ghana (Africa) where there was food scarcity.
For me, clothes are getting smaller because I'm building muscle. The feeling of loosing your clothes is horrible, so I will start a cutting phase, your tips are amazing. A hug from Brazil!
Hmm maybe a weird question but I have a lot of arm fat despite being fairly thin. If I lose more weight whilst working out can I target that specific area of my body or is it impossible?
@@nancyvandermeer4480 the fat targeting thing is a lode of shit unfortunately. You can't target ares for fat loss only muscle gain 💪🏻 but the more muscle you have on your body, the more fat you will lose as it takes more energy for your body to maintain muscle 😊 you won't get bulky by lifting either, it takes a lot of training to get super bulky. Hope this helps 💚
@@nancyvandermeer4480 I used to have a similar question, for most of my life I've been rather thin/small, but the only time I ever really lost weight despite working out often was when I was taking medications with weight loss side effects. I suddenly lost weight in my fingers and forearms, and although I've gained back the good weight (because it wasn't my intention to lose any), it doesn't seem like the fat is getting stored in my arms anymore. The human body is just weird sometimes, it does what it does. (That's not a suggestion to take meds for weight loss, just giving my experience)
This is one of the more real and transparent videos on weight loss that I've seen in a long time. You are so comfortable to listen to. I feel like we are face-to-face and you are talking to me about your life. Thank you for that. I am also so glad that you touched on the mental aspect of the process and how your feelings about yourself and the actual weight loss affects those around you. Gut health is SO IMPORTANT, and most people never touch on that. Everyone in our society pushes exercise so much, and like you said, while it is important, exercise and diet are nowhere near the same. I have struggled with my weight for about 5 years now. I recently realized that most of my issue was my mental health and my guy health. I never saw results when I was exercising consistently. Just this year, I have focused more on how I feel and what I eat, and NOW I am seeing lasting results. SO thankful for this video and love your channel!
My step mom used to guilt trip us when we didn’t finish our food. I had to find creative ways to dispose of my food or wait for her to leave before I got up and put my plate away. She took it as she wasted her time cooking for us and we were ungrateful. It was hardly ever because I thought it was gross, I was just genuinely full or not hungry. Forcing people to feel like they need to eat is never a good thing
For me personally, brushing my teeth before I sit down for the night helps me not eat. Once my teeth are clean I usually don’t want to eat anything. Also, since I love binge watching shows, i’ll do chores/organizing while I watch tv. It helps to move around more so when I do get to finally sit for the night, I appreciate it a lot more and don’t look for snacks because i’m enjoying the relaxing.
So, a tip for me is: Eating in smaller portions makes you eat naturally smaller portions as it goes. i went from two packets for a week to one packet of crisps to none and just 2 biscuits in 2 weeks. Even watching your diet is such hard effort but so worth it, don’t give up!
I have suffered from bulimia and anorexia in my teen years. Starting at 19/20 years I was still very skinny then gained a lot of weight going through therapy I felt like I had finally overcome the ED however I gained a lot of weight. This year on my 25th birthday I weighed at 75kg since April I had changed my habits completely. I have walked 10k steps a day, eat clean and in a deficit, stretched and even get back into running. However I think the most important thing was finally letting go of fears and deepression. I literally felt once letting myself loose the weight there was no issue. I am now stuck at a platoe on 64kg so thank you for the reminder. My goal is to reach 56kg before my 26th birthday. I love your videos they remind me to stay consistent even in harder times. Please keep going you are amazing ❤
I used to be obsessed with corn chips and chocolate chips. I had a really badly inflamed gut, was constantly craving sugar and didn’t understand how to not want these foods. My whole life when I was hungry I grew up eating snacks like this. Also this stemmed from being a vegetarian when I was younger as that is how our family ate. As I got older when I started eating meat I began to do different research on diets. Fast forward years later, I have literally figured out how to finally Lose all the excess weight, not punish myself, eat freely- and that is because I’ve adopted a keto lifestyle. I make all my food at home. They also have keto bread now so I can even eat sandwiches that fill me up because they are full of fiber. I started focusing on my protein and fiber intake and carbs last. If I go out somewhere and want to eat something with carbs I no longer punish myself for it, but between eating this way, taking supplements to balance my hormones and healing my gut with colostrum I am no longer bloated, use the restroom every day, and am continuing to see the scale drop. I have lost 15 pounds in just a few months.
@@beamerboy420 I take DIM to estrogen balance but this is because I did my own research about stuff I was experiencing, such as chin hair growth and stuff like that those are PCOS symptoms. I wouldn’t necessarily mess with your hormones unless you know for sure what that could be. But- I take colostrum, Di hydro berberine (natures ozempic), rhodiola for stress along with a multi, magnesium, and ashwaganda.
I wanna hop on this comment and say that keto is not for everyone BUT a lot of people will experience the same benefits on a high protein diet without going full keto! I eat high protein and try minimise the amount of sugary or quick-carbs I eat (unless I'm having a diverticulitis flare up, then I will eat chicken and mash potatoes while my body settles, I think quick carbs are great for illness as long as you aren't stressing your body out with too much sugar :) ). This has completely stopped my hypoglycemic episodes, I don't crave sugar anymore and I can eat it in moderation. I personally have a higher-fibre diet because of my digestive issues. Chia seeds, nuts, lots of veggies (raw, when I'm having a good time with my tum!) and lots and lots of fruits with skin on. I have kept off 80lbs, however this was not the diet I lost it with, this is just the diet I've felt has made me feel more energised and less inflamed + maintained my weight really well. I still eat honey daily, I still have potatoes with dinner, I still will eat a slice of toast in the day if I'm using it as my carb for lunch. I just make sure all of my meals have 20g~ protein give or take, with a protein-y snack alongside fruit in the day. It can go a long way :) My protein sources are: protein powder, cottage cheese, milk, protein snacks, nuts and seeds, lean or fatty fish, chicken. :)) I personally avoid red meat as much as I can as whilst I'm not lactose intolerant, somehow red meat is my biggest issue when it comes to digestion. The other thing I'd say is don't fear fat!! It's so good for you in moderation when you're eating it from the right sources. :)
Please do a part 2, I just discovered your channel and really love how real you are on this topic compared to most other people online. Everything you said is true.
This video came at the right time again 🩷 when the scale is not budging for days it’s tough to not be too harsh on myself even if I’m on a calorie deficit 🥺
Low impact/Pilates/strength/weights rotation and walking 10-15k steps is the best workout for PCOS girlies and girls who suffer from fat retention due to stress! Good luck!
During the 3 minutes 15 seconds of this video, I feel like you are talking about my life, I think "there are people who have lived exactly like me!" and I am 21 years old, and I really want to have good habits with food and my body. I still make a lot of mistakes, but I try every day to do better, and not to feel guilty about my habits that I am trying to unlearn. Thank you so much for making this video
i love that you are so honest and raw. it's very true about people being treated nicer after they lose weight. it's a sad reality but it's true.. i'm so glad you're at a much happier place with yourself now. i'm getting back into my fitness journey and it's the hardest thing.. but i'm determined to change my life around. and im so excited to meet the future me :) thank you for the video!
I also started dieting around 11/12 years old. I wasn't overweight, just a bit chubby, but I was always a perfectionist and started comparing myself to other kids around me, as well as online. I quickly got obsessive about dieting and developed anorexia because I finally found something I was completely in control of myself: my body. After then being forced into recovery around the age of 16, since I became deadly underweight, I developed binge eating as a way to escape the potential hospitalisation that was used as a threat against me by my psychologist. Because of both of these extremes of eating, I complete lost touch with my body and hunger clues. Now, at 19, I started a new weight loss chapter by mainly focusing on working out more to repair the damage I've done to my heart and metabolism over the years, as well as focusing on eating healthier and according to my bodies needs - not cutting out sweets and chocolate completely, but rather seeing it as a last resort. I'm finally starting to see my body as a part of me that does its best to carry me through life, rather than an enemy that is working against me. And so our communication is getting better day by day.
I could never thank you enough for this video, you explained everything so perfectly and just when i felt so fed up with information you made everything so clear and easy. Literally one of my fav youtubers rn love ya 🫶🏽🫶🏽
Thank you for making videos on this, and even including photos considering it's pretty hard to even show yourself at your worst. I've been in a binge cycle for almost 1/4 of the month now, and your videos have been helping me so much in working towards breaking out. You included everything that most people don't include in their videos.
I love your videos so much- all of the stuff you mentioned took me 29 years to learn. I love that there are people like you who are willing to spread this information for FREE because it truly does make a difference. Keep on keeping on!🎉
1:57 i can relate so much. Like they'd just say "oh you're overweight and need to lose weight" In retrospect i always think "why didn’t they offer me any help or solution" ?? Sheesh.
i've literally been struggling with eating disorders ever since i was 10 and bad self image due to toxic parents but you literally gave me a new perspective on ho to change myself thank you so much
I'm not overweight, but I'm 4'11 and have been teetering on that line my whole life. I'm trying to teach myself healthy eating habits and lifestyle habits now, at 15, so I don't have to stress over it later in life. Good luck everyone!
Omg I agree with this so much! We are taught never to even discuss body with young girls, lest they develop an eating disorder, but isn't over eating junk food also a form of eating disorder? Isn't it going to lead to unhappiness and then having a massive problem to solve, that they aren't equipped to solve, which is, losing weight? Thank you for finally saying this. More people need to learn the right way to talk to young people about this.
Thank you so much because my parents are always telling me "ur just fine the way u r" and telling me not to feel depressed over it but they don't know how if feel but i started my weight loss journey and I'm seeing change and also changing my eating habits idk how much weight I've lost but I'm seeing physical change which is hyping me up even more, videos like these also motivate me more to keep going!
This is the most realistic video i've seen of this topic, thank you very much for being honest with your experiences. I relate to a lot of things- especially being the overweight kid, adults in your life being enablers and the social stigma it comes within. I don't have access to professional help for now but I at least have the internet (which can be either very helpful or destructive) so hopefully I'll at least gain healthier habits in this journey
7:54 My personal experience with portion control is basically calorie counting. I spent a few years being very precise with my tracking and this helped me to learn to estimate how many calories certain foods have. While this method can be disordered for some, for me it helped to give some peace of mind that my meals are sufficient and eventually I learned the approximate amount of calories that I should eat at a time. So even if I'm not tracking these days, I no longer outrageously overeat.
Same for me! Only difference is that calorie counting was disordered for me since I did it while having anorexia, but now that I'm trying to lose weight healthier (without counting) I can still use this learned knowledge to decide between foods and know what the calories of foods mean considering the overall picture of my daily intake.
Very well said Mae. I’ve struggled with my weight for years and have always yoyo’d at the gym. Motivation only lasts so long, the key to it was discipline
this is one of the only videos about weight loss that i’ve watched completely without getting bored or hearing some stupid things. thank you so much for inspiring me and sharing your story! ❤ i will update you if i get to my goal weight eventually :)
The American food culture intelligence you have I never see a lot in weight loss and health videos it’s very refreshing and nice to know I’m not the only one who’s suffered trying to overcome the diet culture and overeating culture. Great video ❤
This is so true Mae I found you a few weeks ago and I already FEEL different which is really new for me. I feel more focused on myself than others And I like that. Mae is like the big sister I couldn't have. Thank you so much Mae💗
Thank you so much for all the resources. We need to remind ourselves those factors when we try to find the magic ways to lose weight quickly using the wrong techniques.
loved this! I can totally resonate because I've been trying to lose weight for YEARS and have gone through trial and error to realize these things too. everyone for sure goes through their own journey at their own pace, and it's people and sources like youtube that help connect people who are going through it to provide them a better path forward
I never comment on a video but the way you talked about our relationship with the food, really touched me. Its so important to have a healthy relationship with food. Its all about balancing your diet because as you said, restricted diet cannot be forever. You need to have it balance it out as I have also come to know that once you start doing a routine with your body, you body will adapt to that habit. So for example if you are eating way less calories then your body will only burn that much fat as it will start to store energy for the low level of calorie you have. So its good to have a balance in your diet so that your body can adapt and burn fat that way. Thank you so much this amazing tip
It all makes sense now. Today I was absolutely disgusted by my body because I ate something other than my restrictive diet. It was literally 1 and a half bowls of potato bake that I mushed/ drained the oil out of until frustration. It feels good to have an explanation of how your body bloats when on a restrictive diet because it signifies the importance of dietary balance. This means a lot, thank you
My ‘skinny’ friends left me when I was fat, but I have one friend who is also in a fitness journey with me and then when I finally lose weight, she didn’t. I felt sad for her, but I still motivated her and stayed friends with her, until one day she unfriend me on social media. 😢
I’m 13 and just found out I lost 19lbs! From 183-164. Following you and Coach Viva really helped. Now I just need to get to 140 and I’ll be good. Thank you ❤
luv remember that you’re still growing ! It’s good if you’re on a healthier path now but pls remember to prioritise the fact that your body needs so many nutrients and energy to build and develop properly
@@Dustynbroke Well, I got like the exercise apps. And play sports also jump rope. Don’t eat too much for breakfast but like not too little too. Toast and eggs was my go to
this year i’ve stopped eating many ultra processed junk foods and found that the longer i went without it, the less i crave it. now when i eat it, it doesn’t taste as good as i remember it tasting. it tastes too sweet, too salty, too oily. i used to love snack cakes but now they taste like pure sugar and oil and make my teeth hurt. ultra processed sweet treats also taste weirdly bitter/sour to me now. candies like hersheys tastes weirdly sour yet overwhelmingly sweet at the same time, disgusting. now my diet is mainly vegetables because i love how they taste.
As an adult, I finally recovered from my >10 year eating disorder of binge restrict and purge (at less regular very low points in my life) cycle by deciding i would just allow myself to eat what i wanted. There was a switch in my brain that went off and realised that after all this time i was never able to maintain thinness anyway and that food was taking too much of my mental space and limiting my life success. After a alot of experience and self reflection I suspected that if i stopped guiting/shaming myself things would get better. & when i was truly genuinely accepting this for myself, allowing myself to eat whatever i desired and then observing the shame that would start to creep in and denying it to have a hold over me, i found that i no longer wanted to eat the emotional crutch foods anyore. I also looked at photos of plus size models who really looked great to change my mindset. It turned out that truly the whole cycle was driven by shame. Without the shame whilst bingeing, i could actually experience what was going on while i was eating the food. & i found it was too much too sweet not actually enjoyable at all. Of course i initially gained weight while doing this but once i no longer wanted to binge it balanced out and i have been a healthy weight since. I know this sounds absurd and unreal, i remember my best friend who has a healthy relationship with food worrying that i might be making myself sick and saying "are you sure this is a good idea" and i had to give her an extensive talk about how important my mindset was in that moment and to not contribute in any way to creeping shame. I'm not telling anyone to do this, the point of my story is that eating disorders are very individual and the cause can be v differentn from person to person. Mine was psychological, which is the hardest to know how to resolve, and psychological issues that are at the root of an eating disorder can differ in themselves. Maybe some people just need to learn portion sizes and the importance of vegetables. Maybe it takes years of failing to diet to develop this deep nuanced understanding of self. But I hope someone will read this and think carefully about their personal situation, which might be very different to mine. At least realise it is so important to know yourself, and not to be too influenced by others explanation of how to lose weight etc.
Ughh it’s so real the adults in my family tell me I don’t need to lose weight, but I’m OVERWEIGHT and hate myself, I hate being big and jiggly. I just want to feel free of this, I don’t think I’m too young to be worried about my overweightness, and I’m sick of being told that is baby fat because the truth is with how much height I’ve gained if it was just baby fat you wouldn’t see it anymore. 155 pounds, 5’5 is more than just a tiny bit of baby fat.
I looove that balanced approach! ❤️ I think that it could be great to also talk about shame and how to release it through somatic work. I have been feeling also powerless sometimes around my weight because i am trying to heal also from a chronic illness making it extra tiring to cook or workout. So I would love to see any small daily tips to keep it simple and balanced. It helped me to also not feel like if am currently unable to workout very much, it doesn’t mean I cannot lose the weight. ❤💪🏻
This was my first time watching you and I felt so much connected to you , thank you so much for this , so many people needed this . waiting for the part two :)
thank you so much, this video was everything i needed to hear and know to truly motivate myself to keep going on my journey. hearing you overcome your challenges and succeed in permanent weight loss has inspired me so much to keep going, im almost 18 and ready for a big change for myself so thank you!! subscribed
This video is honestly so refreshing. I'm so sick of hearing the same garbage over an over again. I want people to just be real with me so I can help myself.
i havent used these tips yet but hey will be and were VERY helpful! i originally thought it was just abt eating less and excercising a lot. this has really changed my perspective, so thank you!
I have been struggling since I was 10/11 years old with my weight. When I was even younger I was very overweight and my mom used to say things like ''U shouldn't eat this much give it to ur sister'' and she kept making me feel bad about my weight. At that time I didn't care but when I was 10 I started getting upset when my mom said those things, she also kept track of our weight and she used to put the notes with our weight on the fridge so every time I went in the kitchen I felt more and more insecure. I tried many team sports but I didn't like any because of my social anxiety, it made it hard to make friends, so I always felt left out. When I was 11 I started to grow fast making it seem like I had lost weight but I still felt fat. Now I'm 12 and I'm not overweight but I feel ugly and fat because I keep comparing my weight to my sister who is much shorter and thinner than me. Also, the girls in my class are chubbier than me and get bullied and sometimes I feel like I am the same as them (no hate to them, they are very beautiful girls). Now I am exercising at home and trying to eat less.
I'm really sorry. You are just a baby and you are at an age where eating well is important. Some parents don't know how much their words hurt their kids. I'm sure you are beautiful, honestly adults need to remember that everyone develops differently and 99% of teenagers and kids go through awkward developmental stages so we can NOT say there is a certain way we can expect kids to look. Kids all look different. Also, keep in mind that teenagers get very hungry because they are growing fast all the time. Make sure you eat vegetables and eat well, get exercise, and don't start obsessing over food. The only thing that will make kids overweight is eating fast food regularly and eating junk food like sweets every day. Make sure you eat well - that way you will be able to develop properly hormonally so your adulthood will be much healthier.
I'm spending a life like you did when were a teenager. I'm so tired of being fat and I will change my life today this moment onwards. Thank you so much for sharing your experiences
Finishing the food after I’m full is def my worst habit. It’s so weird, I feel guilty if I don’t finish it while it’s warm/fresh. But then I still feel guilty that I ignored my hunger ques. Honestly just a frustrating feeling that’s taken long and hard to work through.
this is a very helpful video, i grabbed a pen and a paper to take notes, because you can easily forget the things you learned if you're not writing them down and documenting them and i hope everyone start doing that too because its really helpful if you're looking to make a change in your life for the long-term , its so great seeing people sharing their experience on their journey, thank u so so much, I'm looking forward for a part 2 !!!!!
this summer i found out that i am prediabetic and so i started my weight loss journey. i've lost about 15 lbs so far, which is pretty good, but i've also noticed that i just feel better. i don't feel bloated all the time, i don't feel lethargic. it's so great. and focusing on these indicators of health has been better for me tbh than the number on the scale, because i know that weight can fluctuate and is more of a way to gauge health rather than a definitive factor. it's been such a journey and i can't wait to feel 100% again! 😇
I love everything that you said in your intro. Flowery words don't do a bullied kid any good. It's not like we can just escape our bodies, we're carrying these damned things around. It's like telling teenage girls not to worry about porn or sex either because they're too young, sorry but porn is everywhere and adults need to give kids the tool kit on how to deal with a lack of self confidence by giving them real ways to deal with it.
I learned about apps and calories counting ... It really helped me. That and the exercise in the gym, with little cardio but more weight, helped me lose weight and also get my body in shape. I love my new style of life. I feel good at the gym and also know how to eat well. When I was younger my diet plans were really toxic. So don't do it like that, you don't have to say NO to your favorite food, you just have to know when and what you are going to eat the rest of the day.
In the first 3 minutes when you talked about adults enabling you with “you’re fine just the way you are” … wow. That really blew my mind and is so important. Had to subscribe right away.
No one gonna see this but I felt the need to but in with a couple observations about eating healthier: I've found that giving myself permission to have "junk" when I'm out and about makes it easier to keep it out of the house so I stay on track with my food plan and sometimes the permission keeps me from even wanting to eat something not on plan. Staying hydrated and with water nearby helps too. Usually my munchies is just me being thirsty. I've also found that the hardest part of keeping on track is the out right sabatoge people around me seem to be trying. Either consciously or not, especially family seems determined to keep me eating "normal". Even when I explain how horrible eating "normal" makes me feel. I come from southern USA btw. Processed food, fast food, and copious amounts of sugar are normal here and anyone trying to eat in moderation is labled as "sick". I was asked if I had cancer for a few months before my muscles started filling in even though I looked completely normal and no longer bloated. Also, old farmers will occasionally try to set me up with their sons or grandsons now. Which is weird but thats old southern men for ya. They mean well.
In addition to putting plateaus/slight gains into a greater perspective, I really shifted my thoughts about a plateau. Rather than a failure, I started to take pride that I was still sticking in the same range for so long. It shows that weight is sustainable and lets my body get used to that weight before trying to lose anything more
One of the main things that I have learned to focus on is how I eat and what I eat. Losing weight isn’t about only losing weight. It’s about choosing a better life for yourself that you love and are comfortable with. It’s not only about being skinny and pretty, it’s also about making sure you feel good about who you are and comfortable in your skin. What needs to be done is creating a food plan. Not something that’s restricts everything you eat, but one that allows you to live and eat comfortably. Learn to eat in moderation. Be active. Go on walks and move your body. Everyone’s body is different. You need to do research for yourself. What works for you and discipline yourself and make that your lifestyle. Don’t feel like you have to cut everything out of your life just to lose weight. Even though I’m 15, I have managed to learn this and I am feeling much more confident for the long run of my life. ( as well as I’m going to the national guard or military to teach myself discipline and to better who I am. )
i guess people who eat healthy or exercise focusing on losing weight or to be pretty are fated to fail because the frustration is bigger, the changes are slow and its hard to be motivated when you dont see fast results, when i started to exercise and eat better foods to "be a happier person" seeing those things as self care and not obligation or "work" to do, then i started to see its easier than i thought. I exercise to prevent myself to feel pain in my bones since i have arthritis, i exercise and eat better to sleep better and to feel less stressed in my everyday life, and i dont go to the gym, i practised martial arts so it was fun! Now im doing pole dance and dance classes, its really enjoyable and it keeps me motivated, prevent depressive episodes and i interact with people who inspire me. I think even if you dont have access to classes, people could at least try dancing with videos they see on internet, 10 mins two days per week is where i started and i dont regret
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I’m an intense snacker so I make a nibble plate. It’s a small plate where I place blueberries, strawberries, cherry tomatoes, cucumbers slices, banana slices, and then sometimes some light weight crackers with cream cheese or goat cheese that I have to spread on to the cracker each time I wanna take a bite of one. This allows me to snack on a combo of different nutritious things and is aesthetically pleasing to look at. Currently making one now to eat while I play video games with my friends. It’s better to mindlessly munch on something nutrient dense rather than potato chips.
Stealing this idea
good idea! i'm also a snacker because ig when im bored i get a fixation on food
@@xxaavviieerrrrr I 100% feel you there. Bored eating is tragic. 🤣
I try to cancel out food noise by playing TH-cam videos or a rerun of a show or music in the background while I do stuff. Ik it probably isn’t the best to always be absorbing media but I’ve noticed less food thoughts recently since I’ve been doing that. That and fidget toys distract my hands sometimes.
OH MY DAYS thank you this is such a great idea!!!!!!!!!!
This is a great idea
Another thing that I only recently learned that ALWAYS made me feel so awful is the fact that for women, weight changes throughout your cycle. You will be heavier towards your period and then lose the weight for many reasons after. But because that isn't taught as common knowledge, I thought I was failing. Don't be afraid to let yourself rest during this time!
It also varies by woman. I drop in weight right before my period but I go up in weight in the middle of my cycle (approx when ovulation would happen.)
I recently learned this too 😣 So I take my monthly measurements during ovulation when I'm the least bloated, that way I'm getting an accurate assessment of progress each month.
also women burn fat differently then men, watch ted talk of dr. Stacy Sims
I always go through a “I need to be extra strict now” after dealing with my period bloat and cravings. 😩 I try to be forgiving bc I know what it is but I do it every month lol.
@@jennie1276LITERALLY same, ur not alone
19:48 “you can never outrun a poor diet” this is something that i needed to hear for sure
You can if you try
@@Unkown_Meli It's nearly impossible, so nearly impossible, it is impossible. Impossible in all the ways that matter. If you're eating unhealthily, your diet is barely even providing the nutrients necessary to do base-level exercise let alone the exercise that can burn of thousands of calories, and, most importantly, will your mind let you? Some maybe, but for the VAST majority, no.
@@auriniu You can eat unhealthy and still be in a calorie deficit 🤷♀️
@@Tkwaltzbut the body probs won’t be what u want
@@summero-my5in a lot of times the bodies look like the goal since most goals are just losing fat/getting leaner
"The world is just simply not designed for overweight people" made me cry because it's true 2:25
And that's a good thing.
Ever watch WALL-E?
Literally. Like why can’t more restaurant be more health focused. Make lower calorie meals that still taste super yummy and filling 😭
@@k.5425nobody said it was a bad thing.
yeah this i sso real
Tbh while this is true, statements like these shouldn't be promoted. There is a difference being overweight due to an unhealthy diet and no exercise and weight gain due to other factors like diseases, medication and genetics. For example, my father's side of family is on the overweight scale, while my mom's family is more lean and active and as a mixup I gain weight quite easily and my metabolism is relatively slow. While it is important to look at general trends in the society, it is also important to take into account the "outliers".
I love how you mentioned the pressure to "clear a plate". I recently realized that trauma was holding me back and making me stuff myself. My dad also told me "don't waste food." Because he grew poor. And my grandmother used to always say, "eat til you get full". Now I'm working on eating until not hungry/satisfied.
It’s so true about the gut thing and the more i eat sugary foods the more i crave it
Water bby!
And see that u get enough sodium too
That's the candida mind control! Coconut cream (from the can with no sugar added) and kimchi/sour kraut should nip it in the bud 😂
Hard cheese is good for your microbiote. Low lactose intake and high in protein. Keep eating hard cheese if you do guys
Me too! I eat one piece of candy… then I go down a rabbit hole for the rest of the day. I can't win.
Heavy training leads to a cortisol spike the new day(s). A cortisol leads to water retention. So it's normal to feel puffier after a particularly tough day of exercise.
There's also the concept of adapting your training regimen to your menstrual cycle.
For instance, during your period you might crave sugar, but along with that your body gets better metabolizing carbohydrates, so carb loading before a workout should provide you with more energy than usual.
And during that phase, training in general, but particularly aerobic exercise during your period can also help against cramps and back pain due to the endorphin release.
Conversely, when you are ovulating, there is more testosterone in your system, so that period is the best for building muscle.
Honestly thank you so much for mentioning this - I started lifting heavy again last week and was freaking out about gaining 2/3 pounds back and had no idea it spiked cortisol 😅
@@kelseychapman1174 Alright, I also had the same problem along with truing creatine, and I quit creatine so fast 😂😂😂😂
@@kelseychapman1174 Also remember weight doesn't equate to fat. Muscle actually weighs more than fat so your body could just be building muscle, especially if you're lifting.
@@auriniumuscle does not weigh more than fat. A pound is a pound. Muscle is just more dense and takes up less space; which is why you can look smaller, even though the scale did not go down.
i've been moderately exercising for about a month now, and earlier on my last week, we had to run to catch up the bus. and when we got in, it caught me by surprise that i was not out of breath or wheezing! so happy about this kinda mini non-scale victories. ❤
I got more excited from doing a pull up than losing weight
Love these kind of victories. 🎉
"We don't have to feel physically full every meal" GIRL
thank you T-T
Thank you i’m lowkey sick of people talking about ozempic plus its originally made for diabetes
A lot of medicines were originally made for something else. That's irrelevant.
It also helps you no longer be pre diabetic, and also helps to lower cholesterol
This week, I watched an interview with a glucose expert who talked about ozempic in a very interesting way. She basically said like "okay, people are having trouble with food, so they made a medication to make them not hungry. It's the same as if we discovered there's a substance in water that's causing health problems, and we develop a medication to make people not feel thirst." Ozempic is treating the whole thing in the wrong way. I understand it can be a good short term solution for some people, but they usually experience a rebound in weight gain and glucose spikes once they stop taking it, so what's the point? What we really need is to start having a healthier relationship with food and with our bodies, in order to take control of the situation.
yeah. my grandma’s diabetic. she was on ozempic & it was working for her. then everyone else found out about it & now there’s a shortage where people who already have 8 meds to survive (like literally keep breathing) can’t wait around for their insulin aid. that really pisses me off bc I noticed her mood & feeling better, but now she’s back to being normal sick bc she had to change the medicine in order to still be in something consistently. also, i have different meds & totally understand the shortage thing, so I was extra mad for that.
@@MRorizs2 i do want to say tho, there are people who have a separate mental problem where they literally never feel full, which obviously causes overeating. my dad has this & is probably from a bigger problem of stress. i do want to say that these people usually have some mental/ trauma things going on that cause it, but once you develop this never ending hunger it’s almost always there, even if you become disciplined. like i know i’m talking about a small group of people, but i literally know one, so i had to say something.
"Because the way I felt about the way I looked prevented me from enjoying my life as a child" THIS IS TOO REAL. like people often just tell you to not just care about how you look. but looks play a huge role in your life and if you look good, YOU FEEL GOOD. being ugly does not "build character" it just makes you even more miserable which destroys your character. Becoming good looking actually helps you build your character.
No. Becoming comfortable in your body builds character. Being able to creatively express through your body builds character.
Good looking is external validation seeking, not really based in true self esteem and self connection.
It's completely fine to want to look good amd to look, however, it doest lead to self steem in itself. Looking good cN be taken away by accidents, by changing the environment, by a change of the beauty standards..."Looking good" is controlled by the external and it doesn't build anything
OMG THIS IS WHAT I HAVE BEEN SAYING .
@@Pieza_De_QuesoYou can dress up an ugly person all you want, but they’re still ugly. Character might be there, but ugliness overshadows everything. When you’re beautiful, your character shines more naturally because everything’s more harmonious. Trying to be 'creative' with someone unattractive often feels off. so it is impossible to be fully comfortable if you don’t like what you see.
Wanting to look good isn’t always about seeking validation. Some of us just want to feel good about ourselves, and that’s not a mental disorder like some mfs like to say. We want to wake up confident, knowing we look damn good. That’s self-esteem. Self esteem not some forced 'self-acceptance' bullshit where you pretend you are okay with what you hate. Not everything is tied to beauty standards, we have personal preferences on how we want to look.
Self-esteem and appearance are deeply connected, and confidence alone doesn’t fix a lack of good looks. Yes, looks change, but so do personalities. Everything fucking changes over time. It’s true that beauty can be taken away by environmental circumstances, but honestly, if being ugly was my starting point, I’d rather have acid thrown on my face than be ugly for the rest of my life.
@@kris8772 glad u agree.
@@vivwest I'm glad I finally found someone who understands this
Probably one of my favorite youtubers right now, I can listen to you talk all day
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Two things that I would personally add;
I’m personally a big fan of intermittent fasting because it pointed out to me how much I was snacking in the evenings because I was bored or just for the sake of it, but having an eating window really helped me be more mindful of when/why/how I’m eating! Obviously if out with friends or a one off it’s not a big deal to eat outside your window, but on a general day to day routine I’ve found it really helpful!
Another thing I’d say is to always keep body types in mind when focusing on weight loss and to stay realistic. A good phrase I heard for it recently was to remember that a Labrador isn’t supposed to look like a Greyhound; ideal fitness and health looks different on everyone depending on your body’s structure and it’s important to hold yourself to your own standard rather than someone’s else’s definition of beauty!
I love this comment sm ❤
so hard to do when i see all those beautifully ripped guys at the gym 😢
@@alexterieur8813 but just because you prefer the look of beautifully ripped guys doesn't mean everyone does. I can guarantee there are plenty of people who like your body type the way it is right now.
@@once.upon.a.time. i wouldnt say plenty but there is definitely a niche that likes my body for sure
Fasting made me realize how much I eat and snack for no reason like when I’m not fasting I crave food even though I’m not hungry at all and full. Fasting helped a lit
im so glad i found your channel cause personally as a 13 year old i get made fun of my weight now and even before when i was 7 by classmates, they always say like 'oh the floor is creaking' or in PE when we'd jog or run they'd say 'oh my god an earth quake' which has led me to mental breakdowns in the middle of the lesson multiple times before. recently ive watched multiple videos from you and they made me honestly feel a little more confident after i followed your advices to certain eating habits, etc. now always when i watch your videos i eat because it makes me more aware of the way how i eat, how fast i eat, and so on. in other words: tysm ur an inspiration
Loved that you mentioned how people treat you. I was lean for a long time (thought I was fat then) and it wasn’t until I gained a LOT of weight 2 years ago that I noticed how well I was treated before. The difference is huge. As I lose the weight, I’ve noticed I’m regarded more again and people hold open doors for me. I also think it’s a vibe thing, bc I stayed bubbly and friendly even overweight, but it was hard to see people initially treat me like I was less and then to act as if I didn’t even notice it
Watching this as a 13 year old, thank you this helped me so much more than the people saying "ur perfect the way you are" i currently have an ed but u really helped me thank u!! New subscriber
I’m 20 years old in recovery from an ed, and I just want to say, that recovery is so possible and so worth it 🫶 I’m proud of you, keep going
I'm 29 years old and went through major recovery a few years ago. It is definitely possible! Just be careful of who you listen to on the internet; not everyone is as great as Mae! Keep going!
I'm so happy that you're acknowledging your ed and watching helpful videos! I really hope you overcome it and I'm really proud of you for trying 🤍
@@Rakhi_the_sloth thank you so much I wish I could hug you
i have a tip. I watched similar videos at a young young age but in time forgot about the tips and facts like this so make sure to make specific thoughts that help u and only u a routine
The "having a good gut health" thing is so important! And many people kill their gut bacteria on unhealthy diets because they don't know
i love how much you approached this. people who are seeking to feel good and look good definitely aren't looking forward to be met with words of encouragement regarding the thing they're trying to run away from. i went from 92kg to 56kg thanks to my already existing love for vegetables. it's not a one way process and people seem to not understand that. you explained it well and you look absolutely gorgeous. i hope you continue to reach people who needs your help.
The cleaning my plate really clicked to me. My dad (bless his Korean boomer heart) would force my siblings and me to clean our plates and to not even leave a gain of rice behind. He even forced us to eat food that we dropped on the floor. Getting out of that influence is so difficult. In addition my mom is habitually midnight eater/ snacks so I find myself mindlessly joining her.
On the floor??? My dad used to force me and my sister to clean our plates but it has stopped now. However my 7 year old brother gets forced to clear his plate and I find it really sad because he always says he’s full and it’s not like I can do anything. But it’s definitely a generational thing especially with the culture he grew up with in Ghana (Africa) where there was food scarcity.
@@SegmentOfSam as a Nigerian I totally relate
For me, clothes are getting smaller because I'm building muscle. The feeling of loosing your clothes is horrible, so I will start a cutting phase, your tips are amazing. A hug from Brazil!
That should be an accomplishment
Wait! Building muscle is so hard and the fact that you’re achieving this is amazing!
Hmm maybe a weird question but I have a lot of arm fat despite being fairly thin. If I lose more weight whilst working out can I target that specific area of my body or is it impossible?
@@nancyvandermeer4480 the fat targeting thing is a lode of shit unfortunately. You can't target ares for fat loss only muscle gain 💪🏻 but the more muscle you have on your body, the more fat you will lose as it takes more energy for your body to maintain muscle 😊 you won't get bulky by lifting either, it takes a lot of training to get super bulky. Hope this helps 💚
@@nancyvandermeer4480 I used to have a similar question, for most of my life I've been rather thin/small, but the only time I ever really lost weight despite working out often was when I was taking medications with weight loss side effects. I suddenly lost weight in my fingers and forearms, and although I've gained back the good weight (because it wasn't my intention to lose any), it doesn't seem like the fat is getting stored in my arms anymore. The human body is just weird sometimes, it does what it does. (That's not a suggestion to take meds for weight loss, just giving my experience)
This is one of the more real and transparent videos on weight loss that I've seen in a long time. You are so comfortable to listen to. I feel like we are face-to-face and you are talking to me about your life. Thank you for that. I am also so glad that you touched on the mental aspect of the process and how your feelings about yourself and the actual weight loss affects those around you. Gut health is SO IMPORTANT, and most people never touch on that. Everyone in our society pushes exercise so much, and like you said, while it is important, exercise and diet are nowhere near the same. I have struggled with my weight for about 5 years now. I recently realized that most of my issue was my mental health and my guy health. I never saw results when I was exercising consistently. Just this year, I have focused more on how I feel and what I eat, and NOW I am seeing lasting results. SO thankful for this video and love your channel!
I started at 95kg and now im in 60 kg im turning 15 this year so i gotta lock in
What did you do?
That's huge! Keep it up
Whst did you do
Keep going girl that's amazing !!
How did you do it wei wuxian
I love how she’s completely honest about things because it helps boost peoples confidence
My step mom used to guilt trip us when we didn’t finish our food. I had to find creative ways to dispose of my food or wait for her to leave before I got up and put my plate away. She took it as she wasted her time cooking for us and we were ungrateful. It was hardly ever because I thought it was gross, I was just genuinely full or not hungry. Forcing people to feel like they need to eat is never a good thing
Yeah, my mom does the same thing, quick question , sorry if I am wrong or if this is offensive, but are you Asian???
I have too because im asian but it isnt necessarily just an asian thing.
For me personally, brushing my teeth before I sit down for the night helps me not eat. Once my teeth are clean I usually don’t want to eat anything. Also, since I love binge watching shows, i’ll do chores/organizing while I watch tv. It helps to move around more so when I do get to finally sit for the night, I appreciate it a lot more and don’t look for snacks because i’m enjoying the relaxing.
Meee tooo
So, a tip for me is: Eating in smaller portions makes you eat naturally smaller portions as it goes. i went from two packets for a week to one packet of crisps to none and just 2 biscuits in 2 weeks. Even watching your diet is such hard effort but so worth it, don’t give up!
I have suffered from bulimia and anorexia in my teen years. Starting at 19/20 years I was still very skinny then gained a lot of weight going through therapy I felt like I had finally overcome the ED however I gained a lot of weight. This year on my 25th birthday I weighed at 75kg since April I had changed my habits completely.
I have walked 10k steps a day, eat clean and in a deficit, stretched and even get back into running.
However I think the most important thing was finally letting go of fears and deepression. I literally felt once letting myself loose the weight there was no issue. I am now stuck at a platoe on 64kg so thank you for the reminder.
My goal is to reach 56kg before my 26th birthday.
I love your videos they remind me to stay consistent even in harder times. Please keep going you are amazing ❤
Congrats on your journey so far. I’m at the same place. What’s your height?
I used to be obsessed with corn chips and chocolate chips. I had a really badly inflamed gut, was constantly craving sugar and didn’t understand how to not want these foods. My whole life when I was hungry I grew up eating snacks like this. Also this stemmed from being a vegetarian when I was younger as that is how our family ate.
As I got older when I started eating meat I began to do different research on diets.
Fast forward years later, I have literally figured out how to finally Lose all the excess weight, not punish myself, eat freely- and that is because I’ve adopted a keto lifestyle. I make all my food at home. They also have keto bread now so I can even eat sandwiches that fill me up because they are full of fiber.
I started focusing on my protein and fiber intake and carbs last. If I go out somewhere and want to eat something with carbs I no longer punish myself for it, but between eating this way, taking supplements to balance my hormones and healing my gut with colostrum I am no longer bloated, use the restroom every day, and am continuing to see the scale drop. I have lost 15 pounds in just a few months.
Which supplements do you take?
@@beamerboy420 I take DIM to estrogen balance but this is because I did my own research about stuff I was experiencing, such as chin hair growth and stuff like that those are PCOS symptoms. I wouldn’t necessarily mess with your hormones unless you know for sure what that could be. But- I take colostrum, Di hydro berberine (natures ozempic), rhodiola for stress along with a multi, magnesium, and ashwaganda.
@@NajlaNouveauthanks for sharing your experience
fiber is so important though..
I wanna hop on this comment and say that keto is not for everyone BUT a lot of people will experience the same benefits on a high protein diet without going full keto! I eat high protein and try minimise the amount of sugary or quick-carbs I eat (unless I'm having a diverticulitis flare up, then I will eat chicken and mash potatoes while my body settles, I think quick carbs are great for illness as long as you aren't stressing your body out with too much sugar :) ). This has completely stopped my hypoglycemic episodes, I don't crave sugar anymore and I can eat it in moderation. I personally have a higher-fibre diet because of my digestive issues. Chia seeds, nuts, lots of veggies (raw, when I'm having a good time with my tum!) and lots and lots of fruits with skin on. I have kept off 80lbs, however this was not the diet I lost it with, this is just the diet I've felt has made me feel more energised and less inflamed + maintained my weight really well.
I still eat honey daily, I still have potatoes with dinner, I still will eat a slice of toast in the day if I'm using it as my carb for lunch. I just make sure all of my meals have 20g~ protein give or take, with a protein-y snack alongside fruit in the day. It can go a long way :) My protein sources are: protein powder, cottage cheese, milk, protein snacks, nuts and seeds, lean or fatty fish, chicken. :)) I personally avoid red meat as much as I can as whilst I'm not lactose intolerant, somehow red meat is my biggest issue when it comes to digestion. The other thing I'd say is don't fear fat!! It's so good for you in moderation when you're eating it from the right sources. :)
Please do a part 2, I just discovered your channel and really love how real you are on this topic compared to most other people online. Everything you said is true.
This video came at the right time again 🩷 when the scale is not budging for days it’s tough to not be too harsh on myself even if I’m on a calorie deficit 🥺
the plateau bit genuinely helped me, seriously thank you so much for making this video
I’m going through a weight loss journey right now for the first time. Thank you so much for making this video.
Low impact/Pilates/strength/weights rotation and walking 10-15k steps is the best workout for PCOS girlies and girls who suffer from fat retention due to stress! Good luck!
I love the honesty on this video and how real it was, thank you so much!
maeeeeeeeeee, im a dietitian and you nailed in this video, so happy to see an content creator that actually study the things they will bring up
I've been overweight since I was 7, currently 14 and trying to loose 100 or so pounds, I've lost a little so far and this video is really helpful ^_^
i’m the same age! good luck girly!
WOAH ME TOO
workout routine plz?
good luck !! u can do it
i believe in you!! 💗
During the 3 minutes 15 seconds of this video, I feel like you are talking about my life, I think "there are people who have lived exactly like me!" and I am 21 years old, and I really want to have good habits with food and my body. I still make a lot of mistakes, but I try every day to do better, and not to feel guilty about my habits that I am trying to unlearn. Thank you so much for making this video
i love that you are so honest and raw. it's very true about people being treated nicer after they lose weight. it's a sad reality but it's true.. i'm so glad you're at a much happier place with yourself now. i'm getting back into my fitness journey and it's the hardest thing.. but i'm determined to change my life around. and im so excited to meet the future me :) thank you for the video!
I also started dieting around 11/12 years old. I wasn't overweight, just a bit chubby, but I was always a perfectionist and started comparing myself to other kids around me, as well as online. I quickly got obsessive about dieting and developed anorexia because I finally found something I was completely in control of myself: my body.
After then being forced into recovery around the age of 16, since I became deadly underweight, I developed binge eating as a way to escape the potential hospitalisation that was used as a threat against me by my psychologist. Because of both of these extremes of eating, I complete lost touch with my body and hunger clues.
Now, at 19, I started a new weight loss chapter by mainly focusing on working out more to repair the damage I've done to my heart and metabolism over the years, as well as focusing on eating healthier and according to my bodies needs - not cutting out sweets and chocolate completely, but rather seeing it as a last resort.
I'm finally starting to see my body as a part of me that does its best to carry me through life, rather than an enemy that is working against me. And so our communication is getting better day by day.
This lady just spitting straight up facts!!!
Best overall weight loss video I’ve seen
I could never thank you enough for this video, you explained everything so perfectly and just when i felt so fed up with information you made everything so clear and easy. Literally one of my fav youtubers rn love ya 🫶🏽🫶🏽
Thank you for making videos on this, and even including photos considering it's pretty hard to even show yourself at your worst. I've been in a binge cycle for almost 1/4 of the month now, and your videos have been helping me so much in working towards breaking out.
You included everything that most people don't include in their videos.
facts
I found myself crying so much of how I can see myself in what you were saying! amazing video
I love your videos so much- all of the stuff you mentioned took me 29 years to learn. I love that there are people like you who are willing to spread this information for FREE because it truly does make a difference. Keep on keeping on!🎉
1:57 i can relate so much. Like they'd just say "oh you're overweight and need to lose weight"
In retrospect i always think "why didn’t they offer me any help or solution" ?? Sheesh.
i've literally been struggling with eating disorders ever since i was 10 and bad self image due to toxic parents but you literally gave me a new perspective on ho to change myself thank you so much
I'm not overweight, but I'm 4'11 and have been teetering on that line my whole life. I'm trying to teach myself healthy eating habits and lifestyle habits now, at 15, so I don't have to stress over it later in life. Good luck everyone!
i'm also 4'11" but 64kg 😔 pcos ruined me
im 5‘1 and 48 kg
Omg I agree with this so much! We are taught never to even discuss body with young girls, lest they develop an eating disorder, but isn't over eating junk food also a form of eating disorder? Isn't it going to lead to unhappiness and then having a massive problem to solve, that they aren't equipped to solve, which is, losing weight? Thank you for finally saying this. More people need to learn the right way to talk to young people about this.
Thank you so much because my parents are always telling me "ur just fine the way u r" and telling me not to feel depressed over it but they don't know how if feel but i started my weight loss journey and I'm seeing change and also changing my eating habits idk how much weight I've lost but I'm seeing physical change which is hyping me up even more, videos like these also motivate me more to keep going!
New subscriber here and I just want to say thank you for speaking. It has really helped me.
This is the most realistic video i've seen of this topic, thank you very much for being honest with your experiences. I relate to a lot of things- especially being the overweight kid, adults in your life being enablers and the social stigma it comes within. I don't have access to professional help for now but I at least have the internet (which can be either very helpful or destructive) so hopefully I'll at least gain healthier habits in this journey
7:54 My personal experience with portion control is basically calorie counting. I spent a few years being very precise with my tracking and this helped me to learn to estimate how many calories certain foods have. While this method can be disordered for some, for me it helped to give some peace of mind that my meals are sufficient and eventually I learned the approximate amount of calories that I should eat at a time. So even if I'm not tracking these days, I no longer outrageously overeat.
Same for me! Only difference is that calorie counting was disordered for me since I did it while having anorexia, but now that I'm trying to lose weight healthier (without counting) I can still use this learned knowledge to decide between foods and know what the calories of foods mean considering the overall picture of my daily intake.
Very well said Mae. I’ve struggled with my weight for years and have always yoyo’d at the gym. Motivation only lasts so long, the key to it was discipline
this is one of the only videos about weight loss that i’ve watched completely without getting bored or hearing some stupid things. thank you so much for inspiring me and sharing your story! ❤ i will update you if i get to my goal weight eventually :)
The American food culture intelligence you have I never see a lot in weight loss and health videos it’s very refreshing and nice to know I’m not the only one who’s suffered trying to overcome the diet culture and overeating culture. Great video ❤
This is so true Mae I found you a few weeks ago and I already FEEL different which is really new for me. I feel more focused on myself than others And I like that. Mae is like the big sister I couldn't have. Thank you so much Mae💗
Immediately subbed.. i love how ur honest and i want to change im not happy with how i look so i think ur channel is perfect
I'm 24 and I've lost 120lbs in the past couple years and what you said about people treating you different is sooo real
Thank you so much for all the resources. We need to remind ourselves those factors when we try to find the magic ways to lose weight quickly using the wrong techniques.
loved this! I can totally resonate because I've been trying to lose weight for YEARS and have gone through trial and error to realize these things too. everyone for sure goes through their own journey at their own pace, and it's people and sources like youtube that help connect people who are going through it to provide them a better path forward
This video found me right when I needed it
I never comment on a video but the way you talked about our relationship with the food, really touched me. Its so important to have a healthy relationship with food. Its all about balancing your diet because as you said, restricted diet cannot be forever.
You need to have it balance it out as I have also come to know that once you start doing a routine with your body, you body will adapt to that habit. So for example if you are eating way less calories then your body will only burn that much fat as it will start to store energy for the low level of calorie you have.
So its good to have a balance in your diet so that your body can adapt and burn fat that way.
Thank you so much this amazing tip
It all makes sense now. Today I was absolutely disgusted by my body because I ate something other than my restrictive diet. It was literally 1 and a half bowls of potato bake that I mushed/ drained the oil out of until frustration. It feels good to have an explanation of how your body bloats when on a restrictive diet because it signifies the importance of dietary balance. This means a lot, thank you
My ‘skinny’ friends left me when I was fat, but I have one friend who is also in a fitness journey with me and then when I finally lose weight, she didn’t. I felt sad for her, but I still motivated her and stayed friends with her, until one day she unfriend me on social media. 😢
Thank you for sharing your experience honestly and bluntly, but still from a caring POV! ❤
I’m 13 and just found out I lost 19lbs! From 183-164. Following you and Coach Viva really helped. Now I just need to get to 140 and I’ll be good. Thank you ❤
luv remember that you’re still growing ! It’s good if you’re on a healthier path now but pls remember to prioritise the fact that your body needs so many nutrients and energy to build and develop properly
@@elsieyeet5272don’t ruin her vibe “luv”
I’m 12 and I’m 150 to 149 pounds I’m trying to lose 10-20 pounds any tips?
@@Dustynbroke Well, I got like the exercise apps. And play sports also jump rope. Don’t eat too much for breakfast but like not too little too. Toast and eggs was my go to
this year i’ve stopped eating many ultra processed junk foods and found that the longer i went without it, the less i crave it. now when i eat it, it doesn’t taste as good as i remember it tasting. it tastes too sweet, too salty, too oily. i used to love snack cakes but now they taste like pure sugar and oil and make my teeth hurt. ultra processed sweet treats also taste weirdly bitter/sour to me now. candies like hersheys tastes weirdly sour yet overwhelmingly sweet at the same time, disgusting. now my diet is mainly vegetables because i love how they taste.
As an adult, I finally recovered from my >10 year eating disorder of binge restrict and purge (at less regular very low points in my life) cycle by deciding i would just allow myself to eat what i wanted. There was a switch in my brain that went off and realised that after all this time i was never able to maintain thinness anyway and that food was taking too much of my mental space and limiting my life success. After a alot of experience and self reflection I suspected that if i stopped guiting/shaming myself things would get better. & when i was truly genuinely accepting this for myself, allowing myself to eat whatever i desired and then observing the shame that would start to creep in and denying it to have a hold over me, i found that i no longer wanted to eat the emotional crutch foods anyore. I also looked at photos of plus size models who really looked great to change my mindset. It turned out that truly the whole cycle was driven by shame. Without the shame whilst bingeing, i could actually experience what was going on while i was eating the food. & i found it was too much too sweet not actually enjoyable at all. Of course i initially gained weight while doing this but once i no longer wanted to binge it balanced out and i have been a healthy weight since. I know this sounds absurd and unreal, i remember my best friend who has a healthy relationship with food worrying that i might be making myself sick and saying "are you sure this is a good idea" and i had to give her an extensive talk about how important my mindset was in that moment and to not contribute in any way to creeping shame. I'm not telling anyone to do this, the point of my story is that eating disorders are very individual and the cause can be v differentn from person to person. Mine was psychological, which is the hardest to know how to resolve, and psychological issues that are at the root of an eating disorder can differ in themselves. Maybe some people just need to learn portion sizes and the importance of vegetables. Maybe it takes years of failing to diet to develop this deep nuanced understanding of self. But I hope someone will read this and think carefully about their personal situation, which might be very different to mine. At least realise it is so important to know yourself, and not to be too influenced by others explanation of how to lose weight etc.
Ughh it’s so real the adults in my family tell me I don’t need to lose weight, but I’m OVERWEIGHT and hate myself, I hate being big and jiggly. I just want to feel free of this, I don’t think I’m too young to be worried about my overweightness, and I’m sick of being told that is baby fat because the truth is with how much height I’ve gained if it was just baby fat you wouldn’t see it anymore. 155 pounds, 5’5 is more than just a tiny bit of baby fat.
It's been less than 3 minutes and I already hit the like button ❤🎉
ur the only person who is genuinely helpful omg thank u sm
"I'm not gonna tell you that you are fine the way you are" was when I hit the subscribe button.
I looove that balanced approach! ❤️
I think that it could be great to also talk about shame and how to release it through somatic work.
I have been feeling also powerless sometimes around my weight because i am trying to heal also from a chronic illness making it extra tiring to cook or workout. So I would love to see any small daily tips to keep it simple and balanced. It helped me to also not feel like if am currently unable to workout very much, it doesn’t mean I cannot lose the weight. ❤💪🏻
This was my first time watching you and I felt so much connected to you , thank you so much for this , so many people needed this . waiting for the part two :)
thank you so much, this video was everything i needed to hear and know to truly motivate myself to keep going on my journey. hearing you overcome your challenges and succeed in permanent weight loss has inspired me so much to keep going, im almost 18 and ready for a big change for myself so thank you!! subscribed
This video is honestly so refreshing. I'm so sick of hearing the same garbage over an over again. I want people to just be real with me so I can help myself.
This story is so relatable to me. I lost 10 pounds permanently two years ago but I'm still another 10 overweight. I always bounce back.
i havent used these tips yet but hey will be and were VERY helpful! i originally thought it was just abt eating less and excercising a lot. this has really changed my perspective, so thank you!
I have been struggling since I was 10/11 years old with my weight. When I was even younger I was very overweight and my mom used to say things like ''U shouldn't eat this much give it to ur sister'' and she kept making me feel bad about my weight. At that time I didn't care but when I was 10 I started getting upset when my mom said those things, she also kept track of our weight and she used to put the notes with our weight on the fridge so every time I went in the kitchen I felt more and more insecure. I tried many team sports but I didn't like any because of my social anxiety, it made it hard to make friends, so I always felt left out. When I was 11 I started to grow fast making it seem like I had lost weight but I still felt fat. Now I'm 12 and I'm not overweight but I feel ugly and fat because I keep comparing my weight to my sister who is much shorter and thinner than me. Also, the girls in my class are chubbier than me and get bullied and sometimes I feel like I am the same as them (no hate to them, they are very beautiful girls). Now I am exercising at home and trying to eat less.
I'm really sorry. You are just a baby and you are at an age where eating well is important. Some parents don't know how much their words hurt their kids. I'm sure you are beautiful, honestly adults need to remember that everyone develops differently and 99% of teenagers and kids go through awkward developmental stages so we can NOT say there is a certain way we can expect kids to look. Kids all look different. Also, keep in mind that teenagers get very hungry because they are growing fast all the time. Make sure you eat vegetables and eat well, get exercise, and don't start obsessing over food. The only thing that will make kids overweight is eating fast food regularly and eating junk food like sweets every day. Make sure you eat well - that way you will be able to develop properly hormonally so your adulthood will be much healthier.
Honestly, ive been at a plateau since agust n this realky helped me from giving up!
I'm spending a life like you did when were a teenager. I'm so tired of being fat and I will change my life today this moment onwards. Thank you so much for sharing your experiences
im really motivated now thank you.
This video was so honest.
Finishing the food after I’m full is def my worst habit. It’s so weird, I feel guilty if I don’t finish it while it’s warm/fresh. But then I still feel guilty that I ignored my hunger ques. Honestly just a frustrating feeling that’s taken long and hard to work through.
this is a very helpful video, i grabbed a pen and a paper to take notes, because you can easily forget the things you learned if you're not writing them down and documenting them and i hope everyone start doing that too because its really helpful if you're looking to make a change in your life for the long-term , its so great seeing people sharing their experience on their journey, thank u so so much, I'm looking forward for a part 2 !!!!!
this summer i found out that i am prediabetic and so i started my weight loss journey. i've lost about 15 lbs so far, which is pretty good, but i've also noticed that i just feel better. i don't feel bloated all the time, i don't feel lethargic. it's so great. and focusing on these indicators of health has been better for me tbh than the number on the scale, because i know that weight can fluctuate and is more of a way to gauge health rather than a definitive factor. it's been such a journey and i can't wait to feel 100% again! 😇
When you said “whoever made this cookie; jail, off to jail”, that’s when I had to subscribe. Can’t wait to watch more videos.
I love everything that you said in your intro. Flowery words don't do a bullied kid any good. It's not like we can just escape our bodies, we're carrying these damned things around.
It's like telling teenage girls not to worry about porn or sex either because they're too young, sorry but porn is everywhere and adults need to give kids the tool kit on how to deal with a lack of self confidence by giving them real ways to deal with it.
I learned about apps and calories counting ... It really helped me. That and the exercise in the gym, with little cardio but more weight, helped me lose weight and also get my body in shape. I love my new style of life. I feel good at the gym and also know how to eat well.
When I was younger my diet plans were really toxic. So don't do it like that, you don't have to say NO to your favorite food, you just have to know when and what you are going to eat the rest of the day.
Such a good video, thank you for sharing. There were a lot of things that I needed to hear.
In the first 3 minutes when you talked about adults enabling you with “you’re fine just the way you are” … wow. That really blew my mind and is so important. Had to subscribe right away.
No one gonna see this but I felt the need to but in with a couple observations about eating healthier:
I've found that giving myself permission to have "junk" when I'm out and about makes it easier to keep it out of the house so I stay on track with my food plan and sometimes the permission keeps me from even wanting to eat something not on plan.
Staying hydrated and with water nearby helps too. Usually my munchies is just me being thirsty.
I've also found that the hardest part of keeping on track is the out right sabatoge people around me seem to be trying. Either consciously or not, especially family seems determined to keep me eating "normal". Even when I explain how horrible eating "normal" makes me feel. I come from southern USA btw. Processed food, fast food, and copious amounts of sugar are normal here and anyone trying to eat in moderation is labled as "sick". I was asked if I had cancer for a few months before my muscles started filling in even though I looked completely normal and no longer bloated.
Also, old farmers will occasionally try to set me up with their sons or grandsons now. Which is weird but thats old southern men for ya. They mean well.
In addition to putting plateaus/slight gains into a greater perspective, I really shifted my thoughts about a plateau. Rather than a failure, I started to take pride that I was still sticking in the same range for so long. It shows that weight is sustainable and lets my body get used to that weight before trying to lose anything more
I really needed to hear this today, thank you ❤
One of the main things that I have learned to focus on is how I eat and what I eat. Losing weight isn’t about only losing weight. It’s about choosing a better life for yourself that you love and are comfortable with. It’s not only about being skinny and pretty, it’s also about making sure you feel good about who you are and comfortable in your skin. What needs to be done is creating a food plan. Not something that’s restricts everything you eat, but one that allows you to live and eat comfortably. Learn to eat in moderation. Be active. Go on walks and move your body. Everyone’s body is different. You need to do research for yourself. What works for you and discipline yourself and make that your lifestyle. Don’t feel like you have to cut everything out of your life just to lose weight. Even though I’m 15, I have managed to learn this and I am feeling much more confident for the long run of my life. ( as well as I’m going to the national guard or military to teach myself discipline and to better who I am. )
I know this sound a little weird, but your name is so pretty!
All you are saying is true you are full of truth thank you.
i guess people who eat healthy or exercise focusing on losing weight or to be pretty are fated to fail because the frustration is bigger, the changes are slow and its hard to be motivated when you dont see fast results, when i started to exercise and eat better foods to "be a happier person" seeing those things as self care and not obligation or "work" to do, then i started to see its easier than i thought. I exercise to prevent myself to feel pain in my bones since i have arthritis, i exercise and eat better to sleep better and to feel less stressed in my everyday life, and i dont go to the gym, i practised martial arts so it was fun! Now im doing pole dance and dance classes, its really enjoyable and it keeps me motivated, prevent depressive episodes and i interact with people who inspire me. I think even if you dont have access to classes, people could at least try dancing with videos they see on internet, 10 mins two days per week is where i started and i dont regret
That's really inspiring! could you share what your weight loss journey was like and how you targeted your current weight?