Dan Howell was hiding this massive secret
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- I spent a day with Dan Howell to learn the truth about coming out and taking a break from TH-cam. Sponsors ▸This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp - go to betterhelp.com/padilla to get 10% off your first month. ▸ Go to rocketmoney.com/padilla to cancel your unnecessary subscriptions now.
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0:00 INTRODUCTION
3:21 BULLIED AS A CHILD
7:50 ON TH-cam FOR 13 YEARS
10:11 “BASICALLY I’M GAY”
14:44 REFLECTING ON EMOTIONS
17:20 STRAIGHT FOR 28 YEARS
19:45 SPONSOR MESSAGE
21:59 COMPARING NUMBERS TO SELF-WORTH
23:46 PARASOCIAL RELATIONSHIPS
24:52 WHAT’S NEXT FOR DAN HOWELL?
26:59 WE ARE ALL DOOMED
31:27 BLOOPER
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YAAAAAAYYYY
IM SO WXCITED
I definitely will!
Yesssss
Ahhhhh!!
i watched this whole thing and i don't even know who is who
God Anthony, stop commenting on your own videos
Oh, hey Anthony.
I can only tell because you have giraffe legs. In a good way im also string bean shaped
You guys are just so similar
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dan fighting for his life when anthony called him out for being on his gay crush tier list is so funny
like its okay dan we can't blame you anthony is attractive
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Where can I watch that video?
@@mollyisaverage Trueeee.
@@baguettegott3409 I can't remember. Sorry. :)
I love how with every other guest Anthony is just so kind and understanding and then Dan comes on and it's like "shut the fuck up" instead😂
fr it was jarring but heartwarming to see how comfortable they both were
just heartwarming because they’ve been friends for so long and dan used to be a smosh fan with loads of merch lol
The 2020s teenagers will never understand how much of a growth period the 2010s were for everyone. It’s so crazy seeing Dan’s audience (including myself) say that they’re turning/have turned 20+. It felt like just yesterday I was 14 watching Dan and Phil- time is flyingggg
That’s just not true is it? 😂 2020 literally started with a pandemic. These kids have it way harder than we do.
i’m 17 rn but i grew up with dan and phil and i have so many core memories from the internet and tumblr and youtube from the 2010s lmaooo
i was watching smosh.
Not me. Never been a massive Dan fan but I'm 18 rn
I just had my 21st birthday recently. Time went by so quick.
dan talking about not wanting to be perceived but also craving attention literally sums up the introvert experience
So real
It does, doesn't it?
More social anxiety than introversion, but there's a fine line there anyways
No. You just need validation because you're insecure.
that feeling when you want the attention on you, but when it is actually on you, you just wanna run away
This isn't even an interview, it's just two friends hanging out 😭 I love it
Hearing that Dan wrote 'We're all Doomed' to save his own life makes the show all that more meaningful.
this doesn’t even feels like an interview, it gives me old friend’s conversation vibe… and it is brilliant bc they ARE old friends. never thought about dan on this show, but loved every second of it! these two helped me so much with my mental health for past ten tears and i am truly happy to see them so open and honest about themselves. wish dan and anthony the best, can’t wait to see them even happier and healthier :,)
anthony's videos usually have a air of professionalism, and not to say he's not being professional here, but at a certain point this video feels a lot more like two old friends just chatting rather than the typical interview. it's very fun :)
yes!
Exactly what I was thinking
Watching these two interact felt like such a healing experience that reached my inner child
Haha yes I was going to say, this video has a different vibe from Anthony’s other videos. Both are good!
It’s a testimony to the authenticity of the exchange !
I feel like this is a perfect way to actually be an LGBTQ+ ally. Listening and bouncing off of what we actually say. Rather than just screaming “I love gay” “gay people are cool.” It’s so refreshing to see a straight creator actually act in a genuinely respectful way
Do you mean active listening/summarizing? In that case I agree! A lot of people don't have these skills or are aware of these skills and how important and powerful they are when it comes to listening to people who are considered as the minority group.
Well I don't mind both methods 😏/hj
ally??????????
@@maddielee1109 lmao ikr
i watched his interviews with aromantic people (since i'm aro) and i was impressed. for one thing, just by his giving them the opportunity to share their experiences, but also by how he contributed to the conversations. it meant a lot.
Every single time I think "they're nothing alike," they laugh manically in the same exact way
I was at Dan's show in Melbourne, and at the end everyone was shouting "you saved me" and I hope he takes with him the fact that he has made so many peoples lives so much better
🥺🥺🥺
Gosh, I think he unintentionally saved so many of us.
this genuienly made me tear up i hope he knows how much he's cherished
him and phil will never know but they saved me too! ❤
Anthony is like the older brother Dan always needed. I’m glad they’ve managed to have a such a long and genuine friendship
LITERALLY! Perfect description of them
I vividly remember when Dan posted "basically I'm gay" and I cried the whole day because I felt so proud of him and I was happy that he could finally be himself!
Yea
I remember when he came out I felt so alone because I was the only gay person I knew at the time and he released the video and I cried constantly because it was like me, the story was different but the feelings weren't and I still cry every time I watch it because I'm reminded of that time
I love it
I saw him live and let me tell you: to hear him say to a giant room full of people "I am unapologetically gay" casually as a segway hit me like a truck. How far he has come ❤️❤️
That was such a chaotic time bc half of my friends were like “I TOLD YOU SO!” And the other half were like “cmon!!! Don’t say that.” And it caused a bit of discourse…for some reason 😂
@@mars_is_cooler I hope you don't feel as lonely anymore and that you were able to find people as amazing as you to surround yourself ❤️
I hope Dan realises that, whilst he was scared of talking about depression and losing followers, he (w Phil) was literally the reason why some of us are still here now. I literally got so down and would spiral during nights and the only way to catch my breath and settle down was watching Phan for one vid at the time. Every time.
same their channels and the gaming videos helped me escape and actually feel like smiling/laughing lol
Hearing Dan say that he sort of tries to be a person he would've needed as a teen made me tear up a bit, because for me he literally was that person. His videos gave me comfort and safety as a 15 year old. I remember feeling that maybe I don't need to have it all figured out and maybe everything will work out after all. Dan managed word out some of the thoughts and fears I couldn't, while still being funny and making me feel seen through a screen. Also the fact that I learned English through both Dan and Anthony is still blows my mind! Thank you for being what I needed as a lost young scared human.
Same ❤️
I mean it was Anthony who said that
yes oh my god❤️😩
Same
I started watching Dan in 2011 and the fandom was absolutely feral. I'm honestly surprised that him and Phil still live together because I can't imagine how uncomfortable of a situation that was to barely be able to interact in public without it ending up in a "phan proof" compilation.
Feral is an understatement, really. It was a disgusting time in the phandom
I remember being in the fandom and every week we'd be arguing with other people in the fandom to take down their conspiracy posts or "proof". it was an odd dynamic especially bc so many of us were queer. We would make gay jokes about everyone but then when things felt more serious to us we would try and "do the right thing". like there was an old video that i think dan had deleted and asked that it not be re-uploaded anywhere bc it had some personal information in it so every time someone would come across a repost of it we would tell each other so we could all report it and hopefully take it down. and i honestly think we were so adamant about "protecting" (i don't really think we were helping but we thought we were) dan and phil bc a lot of us were in situations where it would be genuinely dangerous for us to be outed and it was honestly a little stressful sometimes because we had fear for them and their potential safety/mental health but honestly even that is probably bc of parasocial relationships and projection. All the people within the circle i was in were queer and out online but most of them weren't out irl and we all made assumptions about what their boundaries were based off what our own experience was which was like.. definitely not ideal and lead to problems.
even to this day i'll see phannies post phan proof videos and it's ridiculous.
same here, fan since 2011, grew up in that hell. the fandom wasn’t just feral it was despicably objectifying as nobody had any consideration for moral boundaries. i’m glad that era is long, long dead
as someone who was in the fandom in like 2012/2013 (i was 10/11) i agree, i did ship them & read the fan fictions but never commented on their videos about it or anything like that. i understand now how it’s so toxic & such an uncomfortable position to put people in
Loved when Dan acknowledged that they were NOT qualified for that conversation lmao - more people should be like that honestly
He has always been more aware than the average human. People like him should teach classes maybe the next generation wouldnt have so many mental problems.
@@ececansuertugrul8325 bad take
@@metaslaveforever why
@@ececansuertugrul8325it’s way more complicated than that
@@lily5458 Most mental illnesses are either completely random or genetic. Teaching children well will have very little effect on how many of them grow up to be mentally ill.
"The idea of commiting to anything long enough for it to be on my body forever terrifies me, and that sounds like a therapy thing." NOT DAN CALLING ME OUT LIKE THAT
really
I’m not a huge watcher of “TH-camrs” but I have SUCH respect for Dan Howell. He has such incredible emotional intelligence, has taken the darkest moments of his life and used them to help people and then has the actual audacity to be one of the wittiest and most beautiful man on earth, inside and out. He might not feel it sometimes but he really has his head screwed on the right way. I hope he finds contentment one day. He truly deserves it.
Dan came to this interview READY TO TALK. Bro just keeps going and honestly it makes me so happy to see him talk about this so much now :D
Yes u can see how comfortable he is w anthony bc they r old friends
They are just buddies hanging out and let us watch and I love it .
I hope Dan knows how many people he has helped throughout the years. Dan and his community has always been a safe space for LGBTQIA+ people even before he came out and I love it so much.
For real it's crazy how Dan and Phil were known for having a gay audience before they even came out
I wasn’t out IRL because I went to Christian schools but I could be out online so the phandom was my first safe space as a closeted queer trans kid 🥹 he’s done so much for us he doesn’t know
@@transmaniandevil I'm so happy to be a part of the phabdon and I'm glad you could find comfort on it, I was also a closeted queer person irl when I was a teen and having these people online to talk to made it bearable
@@junglejin3096 right!! it's like we picked up on the vibes and stuck together
I don’t mean to be homophobic but when was the I and A added to the lgbtq and what do they represent
It's always wonderful to hear Dan talk. He's such an intelligent, articulate young man. And watching you both talk like old friends, bouncing off each other's sentences was so refreshing.
i was 14 years old when i first saw a dan and phil video and i just turned 25 this week 😭 their audience has 100% aged upped and evolved with him. still love them even if i haven’t seen much of their content in the past 5ish years. im just happy they’re doing well.
As someone who turns 40 next year and is just now embracing my gender identity, I need people like Dan as a role model. Thank you for being you out loud!
You're valid or else 😤
@@G_FRE 😁
You're loved and appreciated and an incredible human or else 😤
lol
A suggestion I would give is don't put too much of your identity in your gender. Because gender puts you in a box of "you have to look and act a certain way". Your character, morals, and actions are what really matters. Good luck on your journey in deciding how you want to live your life ✨️
@@_veronica_r You too mf 💪😤😤
I love how Anthony and Dan are so similairly dressed and look so similair but have completly different personalities it works so well and makes the best video
edgy humor British gamer version and edgy fashion American whatever anthony is version
Dan's truly a gem. The way he understands and presents is his superpower. He's so eloquent and smart and honest about everything, I love him for this
Unexpected but so needed. I could listen to Dan talk for hours. Literally when I need to calm down I just have one of his story times type vids on. I found him and Phil by coincidence and what a journey it has been. I just want to say. Dan I hope you’re happy and healthy and thank you so much for contributing to my health and happiness.
I really love how Dan and Anthony have become closer as friends post Dan's coming out. I felt so sorry that Dan felt he needed to hold himself back with Anthony for so long, and it's wonderful to see Anthony show him every time they hang out that he enjoys the real Dan's company.
I grew up with Dan (and Phil) and I just turned 22 last week. I remember being a teenager learning to speak english and SCREAMING on twitter at them to bring the tour to Brazil. The day Dan posted BIG video I cried for half a hour to the point my mom wanted to take me to the hospital. That was also the day I came out to her. I don't think I'll ever be able to tell Dan how fucking grateful I'm for him giving me such an amazing and fun teen years and such an understanding and deep begining of adulthood. Can't wait to see my future but I'm sure Dan will be there. I love you SO FUCKING MUCH DANIELLLL, WE ARE SO PROUD OF YOU!!! 🖤
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happy late birthday and i'm so proud of you for coming out, that shit's hard! dan may have given you some courage to do so but in the end you were the one who came through for yourself & that's so important!! i wish you all the best for your future but i have a feeling it's a bright one :) 💛
I also feel like watching them in my teens and interacting as a fan helped me become fluent in English AND I'm turning 22 this month... very funny coincidence!! and happy bday!
@@harmony200013 this so so so kind of you! thank you so much, i wish you the best
@@UnBesoDeCristal omg thats amazing, happy early birthday
I grew up watching both Anthony & Dan. As an almost 30 year old, it’s so refreshing seeing them catch up on camera as great friends, but also giving strong advice. It’s so entertaining, even though they are having good conversation. Yea it’s like an interview but it’s more than that too. Great video, as usual! 🎉
Honestly hearing Dan talk about mental health in the way he is, is just so refreshing. It’s super awesome to see how far they both have grown- and like they said the internet (while still toxic) has too.
Me realising it’s been 10 years and I still relate to Dan Howell. Looks like it really wasnt a phase, mom.
It's like re-uniting with an old friend. Everything about him feels so familiar. I lived and breathed his videos when I was younger.
@@doraveronika I did, too. My friend really got me into Dan and Phil. The first from scratch brownies I ever made was their graveyard brownies.
@@elizabethheyn5365 oh my god you just unlocked a memory! I made those brownies too, probably the first thing I ever baked.
The phandom did very questionable things but we ended up just gay so it checks out lmao
As someone who has been watching Dan for years I feel so bad about how people were so invasive and tried to out him so many times before he was ready.
Same. I wouldn’t say I ever tried to out him, but I definitely contributed to the whole assuming thing and I deeply regretted it after his coming out video. In my defense, I was a young in-the-closet teen 😅
@@cai0409 I never tried to either and I ever remember thinking "there's no way he's coming out" when he tweeted about posting a new video that he always wanted to post in June lol
He talked about renting a separate apartment to film in and it clicked for so many of the wierd phan theories. At the time it made sense, Dan and Phil were relatable wierdos on the internet, looking like they were still in thier room was what made sense for the "brand" but i think its staged appearance definitely feed the theories in wierd ways. Im so glad that both of them and the internet has a reached a point where they can be honest and say, this is a set, respect my private life, ect. Because they didnt have that that long ago
Dan helped me realized that ignoring that I had depression wasn’t okay. That it’s okay to be depressed
This interview still gives me chills.
Dan is such an articulate speaker and Anthony is great with his questions, his ability to sincerely listen, and his clear friendship with Dan being something he uses to make Dan feel comfortable.
I appreciate the very introspective Dan of today because he reminds me of the growth that I realized I went on in the past with him without even knowing he was growing too. He was an adult making content that I found relatable and comforting during a period where I was a scared teenager. I was such an anxious and scared person, but Dan (and Phil) provided a world of content that made me feel understood and safe. They made me want to try writing again and they’re the reason I fell in love with it after a long period of depression and are quite honestly the reason why I think I’ve found my passion in life. BUT-
to know Dan was growing and struggling behind the scenes. To know that while he was honest about so much, there was also so much hidden. The fact that despite a lot of struggling and difficult moments he still made content that has made millions of people happy and changed so many lives? I can’t thank him enough. And as an adult I want to meet and hug Dan and Phil not in my teenage fangirl way (I mean there’d be a bit of that that would likely resurface lol) but in a genuine, sincere, honest to god grip of a strong hug. Because they provided a safe space for me to grow and feel safe and overcome a lot of my mental health obstacles. And I suppose that’s a thing that’s still on my bucket list but for almost a different and more meaningful reason: hug Dan as hard as I can (which might be difficult, I’m a 5’4” 130 pound woman and he’s taller than my father by many inches lol) and tell him “Thank you for giving me that space to feel understood and to grow. Thank you for the content you made for me when I most needed it, even though you were struggling. I hope you take care of yourself and start making the things that feel the most fulfilling to you.”
This felt more like a conversation than any other interview ever in a good way.
I also loved Dan telling Anthony that it was okay he made the joke. :)
Dan and Phil straight up got me through being a teenager. I had horrible mental health issues, and they were my escape. I had a tumblr dedicated to them for years lmao. At interactive introverts I got the chance to meet them, and by that point my mental health was much better (and I was an adult) and I still broke down crying because what they had done for me as a teenager meant so much. I wanted to tell them, but all I got out was a shaky "thank you, for everything" and I'm not even a crier lol
I saw we're all doomed in Phoenix. The quote he ended it on jabbed a knife through my heart, in a good way lmao!
… im the 69th person who liked ur comment
What was the end quote?
@@amylouise6646 embrace the void and have the courage to exist. It was a throwback to a quote he said once a long time ago, and it meant something to me back then. But I feel like it really took on a new meaning now.
I didn’t really grow up with the whole thing, I just had a bit of a phase in the later years after the whole phandom culture, maybe 2018-ish, where I watched the gaming channel and then some of their other videos together. I feel like I missed out on some craziness, and I was definitely the kind of mentally ill kid who would’ve gotten into it lmao. I'm thinking of going to the we're all doomed show because it’s going through here and the tickets are a reasonable price 😅
@@JasminMiettunen I really enjoyed it! And I think anyone who is on this corner of the internet probably would.
I really appreciate this episode. Not only because I love Dan, but also because Anthony seemed so relaxed and comfortable. I liked how he delivered the jokes to Dan, knowing that he wasn't being offensive, as well as how he stated the ads. It didn't seem gimmicky or over the top. Thank you for posting Anthony. Sidenote: This episode made me feel so seen. Love you Dan.
I'm a millennial too and I feel so glad for the progress I've seen in LGBTQ+ acceptance and attitude since childhood. My guy friend since the past 21 years told me recently that I give off lesbian vibes and encouraged me to explore it in case it's an undiscovered part of myself and it felt surprisingly wholesome. I think the biggest reason that convo could happen is because we know eachother so well but also that it is so much less taboo now to be gay or talk about it. I'm open to the possibility of falling in love with a woman one day but so far that hasn't happened yet.
Someone telling you you give off "lesbian vibes" and suggests you explore your sexuality because of it sounds very presumptuous. A "vibe" is not a sexuality, I don't know how many times someone has seemed gay to me only to end up being straight, so our perceptions of others' sexualities can be extremely inaccurate. Like why did your friend say "lesbian" vibes? Out of the long, long list of sexualities, why immediately assume you're a closeted lesbian? Besides, it's really not his or anyone's place to guess at your sexuality and then make suggestions to you based off their assumption. Have you ever actually been attracted to other women before? Had crushes on them growing up or been physically attracted to them? Have your crushes all exclusively been male? These are questions and conversations you're meant to have with yourself, not with a friend who may just be projecting his queerness onto you, which I've noticed is an unfortunate tendency of a lot of LGBT+ members (I'm LGBT+ myself btw so I've witnessed this behavior firsthand.)
@@Choshako Relax, there's a huge difference between telling this to a stranger and telling this to someone that has been a friend for *21 years*. She said the conversation is wholesome so let's trust that she knows more about her life than us internet strangers could possibly know.
I remember back in 2013/2014 being 17/18 at college, Dan & Phil's radio one show was my favourite thing to watch on a Sunday. I would go to the laundry room with my laptop and sit and watch them while I waited for my clothes to wash and dry. Having them be part of my routine helped keep me going when I was in one of my worst places mentally as the routine and the feeling of not being alone meant so much to me then. I'm 27 now and having Dan come back in the last few months to semi regular posting has been great
i relate so much to that experience!! how beautiful that we've all made it this far together
One of my tweets ended up on the radio show and I remember being so happy. Still have my screenshot of the last moments of the final radio show too.
Ahh I remember tuning in for their radio show too! I still remember the songs ppl would create fanmade videos for and send in! Dan and Phil's videos - as well as those of a bunch of other youtubers circa 2012-2014 - likely helped me way more than I realized at the time, bc looking back, I definitely had anxiety but didn't know that it was a thing others experienced or how to talk about it. Seeing Dan talk about relatable feelings made me feel less alone and distracted me from my own overthinking/thought spirals. And now watching this, I totally agree with Dan that the jokes about depression/mental health helped put some of the mental health terms on the table for me to eventually finally seek therapy in more recent years :) so big, big thanks to Dan for being one of the sources of joy in my life in those vulnerable preteen to teenager years and inadvertently teaching me things about life :')
Yesss I was 14-15 then and I watched their radio show a lot. I was sad when it ended lol
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Dans grandma liking gay people after having a favorite gay waiter is to funny
So happy to see Dan on this show! My two faves on one screen. Over a decade of watching Dan - for getting me through my teenage years. Every time I go to the cinema I think of “What Not To Do In The Cinema” 😂 so glad you felt comfortable enough to share your true self with the internet, you’re the bomb, Dan.
Dan saying that the tour was him trying to save his own life made me choke up, I’m glad he’s still here and even though none of us really know him personally I hope he knows that he is loved and is important to so many people
The fact that Dan feels his ability to come out was positively affected by his TH-cam journey and not the other way around is very interesting to me. I always sort of assumed he went back into the closet when he became a public figure.
As crazy as some of the fans were, Dan and Phil and the phandom truly impacted me in a good way. I was a weird, gay, mentally ill teen who had no friends and I felt so accepted and safe in the community. Dan has made such an incredible impact on so many of us and I hope he knows.
Dan and Phil were a massively impactful part of my teenage years and now in my twenties I'm just happy that they seem to have created a happy and fulfilling life for themselves, even if it is a slight step back from the public eye. Also seeing Anthony and Dan interacting is taking me back to the 2010s.
The way this guy describes the way it felt for him when other people say "thats gay" as an insult is exactly how sooooo many woman feel when they hear someone being called a "c*nt" or a "p*ssy" or all the other insults like that. It gets to you even when its not an insult meant to you. especially when your a kid hearing boys talk to eachother that way.
what do you even do about this? how do you even live a good life when it kinda seems like everyone low-key believes you're inferior for being gay or being a woman?
@@bronzeowl9you don't believe and don't live your life like you do. Gay guys and all women combined way outnumbers all douchey straight guys on the planet
@@bronzeowl9I call it out, and then tell them to replace it with their own characteristics. Eg “That’s straight” or “you’re being a ballsack”. And they HATE it. It opens the conversation up to WHY those replacements don’t “hit” as hard.
@@bronzeowl9 for example, when someone tells me the shirt im wearing is gay, i just reply with ‘’could be gayer’’.
It really confuses them and makes them question why ‘gay’ is even considered as an insult.
but men also call eachother "dick" or "dickhead" in a negative way, or say "bollocks" when something goes wrong also....im not saying pussy is the classiest insult but youre stretching a bit to compare that to using "gay" as a slur.
You really should do 'I spent a day with Ian Hecox' That would literally break the internet and it would be nice to see you guys again
Definitely!
you called it!!!!
@@shreyam7391 Ik, I'm a bloody time traveller
Anthony interviewing friends is always such a chaotic and fun interview
I'm only 3 minutes in and I love the friendship yall have where you can troll one another and just respond with STFU completely seriously while complementing each other in the same breath. I'm here for it
I found Dan when I was 13 (10 years ago). I was an outcast kid and he made me realize that I was fine the way I was. He was my support during the hard years of adolescence. I learned English watching his videos and now I’m an English teacher. He’ll always have a special place in my heart and I’m super happy to see him doing so well and living his life the way he deserves ❤
I grew up watching Dan! As a queer person who has struggled with their mental health for 10+ years now, I can’t thank Dan enough for creating a space that allowed me to me to feel like I wasn’t alone when I was growing up. I am currently in graduate school studying to be a therapist because I want to help other queer people like us find peace with themselves. Thank you Dan for all of your work with queer youth and for creating a space for all of us on TH-cam where we can exist freely. ❤
No joke, Dan and Phil truly made my teenage-hood so much more happy. They were a complete escape from everything and I was always left laughing my ass off. Whilst I don’t watch them as religiously anymore as I did back then, I still come back to them for nostalgia and to just have a good laugh 🥰😂
Honestly, Dan's saved me more than I'd like to admit, just getting to laugh and connect with him via the videos has been a little light throughout my teens and now in my twenties
I completely understand if this never happens, but I would really love to see Anthony and Ian do this. And to talk about the two different perspectives of their careers and friendship. I know that'll be very personal and maybe they can't for legality reasond or agreed to only be friends off-screen, I hope to see it one day.
Well you got your wish :)
I left the Phandom so many years ago because I got tired of people pressuring DnP to come out in every single fucking video. Felt really vindicated when Dan finally came out of his own accord.
I'm insanely happy he's doing so well these days :)
You can just tell that Dan thinks thinks thinks non stop. I relate to him so much. Always have, and it’s still inspiring and deeply helpful to see him continue to fight the fight that is staying hopeful in this messy world
yes! 💜
so when are we getting nun dan and maid anthony collab
Both of these guys are old school youtube legends, it's awesome to see Dan feeling comfortable talking about this
i don't think Dan realizes HOW MANY people he helped and encouraged with his videos because his audience when he had the "most views" used to be 16-20 and that is such a fragile age to figure out who your are and can be influenced easily.. and he used his platform to actually talk about serious shit but in a funny way and im 100% sure that ANYONE who watched his videos, even if they don't realize it, they were changed by him and not just the LGBTQ+ community literally everyone.. he just knew how to connect to people
I feel like Dan was so comfortable with Anthony as an interviewer/conversation partner! It makes me very happy to see him like this. Somehow the thing I took away from this video is optimism and a will to improve my life, which are precious things. Thanks to both of you, not just for this video, but for all you've done on TH-cam despite it being the hellsite it is
I want both Dan and Anthony to know that they had a really positive impact on my teenage years, just making me smile whenever they created something
knowing that Dan wrote We're All Doomed to save his life makes the show so much more meaningful than it already was. my granny and i saw him back in november, and we were both sobbing by the end. i was in a really rough place at the time, struggling with college and just life in general, and the show made me come to the realization that all the little things in life are worth it. thank you, anthony for such an amazing interview/hang-out with a friend :')
“I do not associate with that sperm” honestly the energy I’m channeling in my life
They have such good energy together, and it’s evident by the way they talk to each other that they are really good friends. There’s no filter and such ease in the conversation between them.
those two were such a part of my childhood, dealing with undiagnosed autism, dealing with bullying, developing deep depression lasting a decade (only in nov 21 i came out of it first time), PTSD, and now chronically ill, i've kinda grown with the two of them and still relating to them (you still remind me of each other) depression/anxiety gang join force!
I didn’t realize how much I look up to Dan until recently. The way he holds himself and how well he can articulate how he feels is so amazing, I hope I can get there one day. Thank you for this video Anthony
Why does this feel like a rly intimate convo between close friends their platonic chemistry is so sweet I’m so proud of both their growth.
I love how you two are somehow so respectful and patronising towards each other at the same time 😂
their friendship is wonderful they way they are comfortable and joking with eachother right away shows their connection, lovely given that they are old friends
This interview made me so nostalgic...literally grew up watching Dan and Phil and going through so many of the same struggles with my identity without even realizing it
Listening to Dan talk is like getting secondhand therapy
Between the show and You Will Get Through This Night, I've experienced such a shift in my mental health. For the first time in my life, I feel like I actually have the tools to make positive, lasting changes on the dumpster fire that is my life.
All this from the guy I started watching 12 years ago for his relatable, "lol random" humour. What a journey
Man, that last part really just drove home for me how unexpected yet incredible Dan’s journey and impact both are. He can genuinely say that he’s helped hundreds of thousands (if not millions!) of people transform their lives. :’)
@@Melissa-zr6zw Right?? I'm still just starting on the journey up, but it was really the book, the show, and in a way the 10+ years of following this guy's life that triggered this serious positive change in my life. It's maybe too much to get into right now, but I will say that when Dan said parasocial relationships aren't always bad, he was so right x)
I just really want him to know how much positive change he's inspired. Being a big internet personality sounds like it comes with so much negative attention, but he deserves to know how much he is loved and appreciated. Maybe one day he'll do another tour and I can finally go to a M&G and thank him 😭
Man coming out makes such a difference in having friendships, im so proud of him for being able to do it bc it’s so hard
so so so so proud of dan and anthony. to see someone's progression online... amazing
i think its so interesting to see two youtubers who’ve been there since the beginnings coming into their own beings. I used to watch dan and phil a lot back in 2017, and to see how things have changed since then is kind of heartwarming
Having followed Dan for too many years it’s been really nice to see not just him but this community all grow together. Seeing how content has evolved overtime and slowly coming to a place where there is less focus on Dan but just the world in general and how we feel as an audience as individuals has been really refreshing. Dan has really mastered making you feel so much without saying too much about himself and I think you can really see that shine in his tour right now. If there is anyone to learn the complexities of the internet from I think Dan is a great and gentle supportive example
This might be my favorite “I spent a day with” yet; Dan is just such a natural entertainer, and you can tell these two are actually good friends. Their chemistry is unmatched. Thanks for this Anthony
I love the way this video feels, it’s a conversation more than an interview. Both Anthony and Dan have helped me cope with some tough times in my life and I’m so happy to see them both thriving.
As someone who has been watching both Dan and Anthony since the early oughts of their channels, this video is so comforting. Im so happy that both of them are in a much better place these days, and their friendship is so wholesome especially now since Dan can truly be himself. Here’s to hopefully many more happy days ahead for them and their videos!
the older I get the more I begin to accept how much of an influence Dan had and still has on my personality. I'm totally here for this interview
I'm so happy Dan is a better place overall, he's always made me smile!
This was like watching two genuine friends remembering the good ol’ times. Loved it
it makes me sad knowing there are people that won't grow up with dan and phil
It's so true that being closeted hinders all relationships you have and so many other aspects of yourself. You don't even realise how bad it is to always have to second guess any topic you discuss with people, even if it completely unrelated and especially if you are being vulnerable about one thing. I still wish for the day when that weight falls off of my shoulders.
Best of luck, your day will come ❤
Disclaimer, do not come out if it's not safe, but just know it's amazing. It's honestly like nothing else. To be free to truly and wholly be yourself is incredible. Even if there are people who take issue with you or ridicule you, you can go through life making deeper and less fearful connections. After coming out to the people closest to me, I realized I stopped approaching new people holding back a part of myself and wondering, " should I come out to them?" I just approached them as myself and let them see me without pretense and it was so awesome. I wasn't worried about someone accidentally saying something to someone I wasn''t out to, or about rumors reaching the wrong person. I just was.
I’ve watched Dan since I was like 13, I always knew I was ‘different’ but I always felt safe in his community. I embraced myself because of him… Last year I married my wife. I hope Dan knows how much he’s helped other people as much as this community helped him
That's sweet, congrats 😊
agh,, this made me feel a lot. when i started watching dan’s videos, i was a teen in a really rough spot. even seeing someone talk about mental health in a joking way on the internet made my own mental health seem so much more manageable. now that i’m older, seeing a more mature “i’m actually gonna deal with this” perspective from him also hits home for where i am in my mental health journey and it just means so much to see him growing as well
I started watching Dan's videos in grade 7, and at the time I was dealing with panic attacks and anxiety and me and my family didnt even know what Anxiety was, let alone what to do about it. and in high school I became really depressed and was too scared to tell anyone because I thought they would tell me i was lazy, but Dans videos, especially the ones where he joked about depression and anxiety, made me feel better because at least it wasnt just me. I wasnt going crazy, there were other people experiencing these same things, and i wasnt irreparably broken. Eventually, after i graduated high school, I ended up telling my parents ab all of my mental health issues and now 4 yrs later am doing so much better and have been in therapy for almost 2 yrs, but Dans videos were so great for me as a teenager, because they were a place where i was no more "broken" than anyone else commenting ab their mental health issues.
Dan is such a chaotic guest which is hilarious and Anthony just makes it 10x better with his chill personality 😂
I love when Dan and Anthony collab!! Such a powerful duo
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These two guys are a great match intellectually and it's a great joy to listen to them in discussion together ..... whatever they're going to talk about!
Omg seeing you two having a deep conversation but being so obviously comfortable and friendly with each other is truly so comforting to watch, I love the dynamic and I hope we can see more of modern danthony in the future
I appreciate what Anthony did not ask just as much as I appreciate what he did ask. Dan was so forthcoming in this interview, and Anthony did not take advantage of him at all. I admire Dan and Anthony so much and look up to them.
Bro i can't believe this guy is still around considering most youtubers of that era pretty much died out, props to him, also still funny and relatable and of moderate amounts of cringe which is good actually. Also Anthony it would be so epic of you to invite Jerma985 thank u
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I barely comment but damn this series is so amazing and the deep conversations about mental health is so valuable I really hope you keep making these for awhile :)
it's crazy that after all these years i still get excited to see dan's face pop up in a new video. i started watching him & phil in 2011 & was lucky enough to meet them in 2014 & 2016. i grew up with them & met so many amazing people through the phandom, there was a niche loving supportive community that's only grown since
okay the part about joking about your mental health being a way to get it out there is so validating.
Idk how to explain this, but this video feels like a form of therapy
the “where did dan go? uh oh he gay” era was the best i missed dan so much and then THE COMING OUT VIDEO ugh it made me so happy!!! a) because i love dan and him being himself is the best thing that can happen in this world AND b) my queer little self felt so so so represented and it helped me come to terms with some things i was going through myself. love this video