What Christian Guys REALLY Look For In A Wife
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Hey Fam, thoughts on the ‘Democrat’ answer? Weigh in and keep the dialogue going :)
The democrat one though🤣 I agree but you are def gonna get pushback for that LOL.
Also, I am definitely using the fact that Michael and I have the same name to my humorous advantage on the discord 🤣 🤣🤣
another difficult watch ❤
I felt you at "being open" 💯
I agree, comin from a women's perspective, I don't want a guy who is a democrat 👍
I think to clarify as a man who doesn't really care if a woman is in the gym all the time, but exercises and eats healthy enough to go on hiking trails for a couple hours.
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Exactly!!! I tried going to the gym for a year back when I was 21, until I couldn't afford it. Then, my son, now being old enough wanted to start going to the gym back in late 2020. So I signed him up. He wanted me to come with him and because the gym allowed you to 'bring a friend.' So, I hesitated, but went with him. I was so embarrassed about people looking at me, not really knowing how things worked.
Going through a few lockdowns and the gym changing its name and rules, I wasn't able to go for free anymore. I realised I really hate going to the gym and I don't want to be with a man who is obsessed with the gym.
I prefer: walks, runs, hiking, rock climbing, abseiling, biking, and a bit of swimming, etc... And try to eat better! Ultimately, I prefer doing "fun" activities that keep you fit like, Putt Putt, tree top climbing...! Though I do love a good sumo deadlift at the gym.
Paul is 💯 on point with the political comment. I was married to a Democrat when I was more conservative / libertarian. He went farther left (with the party) and I went farther right. Being divorced is awful (I was not a Christian when we split, so give me some grace please people), and my advice echos yours Paul. If you are a Democrat in 2023 your fundamental values are not in line with the Bible. It would be an unequal yoking at this point. Marry someone who shares your values.
Appreciate the comment, Juliet🙏
@juliet leblanc As a former Democrat I would not date or marry a Democrat either. I'm glad I realized the error of my ways.
I’m a married man and I’m watching this lol. Im just curious to see how much our priorities align
Haha welcome😊
I always think it's interesting how Christian women are supposed to be vey attractive, sexy, in shape, wear attrative clothes, this ideal fantasy, but don't go over the line so that one is "slutty". There is nothing wrong with saying you want to be attracted to your spouse. I want to be attracted to my spouse. I want someone that is thin and in shape, that feels around my size. I like to be active, go on hikes. And I actually dress pretty modestly, don't feel a need to wear shirts that show off my cleavage and so on, so I actually follow what they outline above pretty well, but it's this wierd tightrope of somehow being sexy is impure, but yet they are saying they want woman to try to be attractive, to put an effort into looking attractive for them. It feels like either way you're doomed to feel shame for either not being attractive enough, or being too attractive and now you've crossed into slutty.
Being too sexy is usually regarded as not dressing modestly. You can be a 10/10 and not slutty, if you dress modestly just as you can be a slutty 5/10 who is half naked all the time.
Going over the line is 'usually' the line of modesty, not your level of attractiveness.
I wonder if Morgan and Morgan would speak into what Christian women really look for in a husband!
Michael is quite the Word Smith and a great communicator! Personally, I die of boredom when it comes to movies and EVEN WORSE: someone who tells me the ENTIRE PLOT LINE of a move after I have told them that I'm not interested in movies. It's like a form of long winded torture. Saying that, I could be forced to watch a wildlife documentary for the right person :)
Haha thanks for the comment :)
Aww I'm so happy for Michael! You guys are awesome and I hope the Lord keeps allowing you two and Morgan to continue to bring light to these matters. Keep fighting the good fight y'all 💪🏼.
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It's nice to see you back together again, clearly having fun. There was nothing ground breaking that you shared, which makes this wife thing, feel more attainable.
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I liked how both of you went down the road of the political landscape. That is actually a big one for me and a major reason why I find putting myself out there to date, just not worth the bother. Even most proclaiming Christians seem to either have their heads in the sand or side with the current culture on worldview issues. I don't want to commit to submit to a man who has no understanding of what a Biblical Worldview is and why it is important to living out a God fearing life and/or is woke in any way. It seems to be more and more difficult to find Christians that actually know what a Biblical Worldview is and stand firm on it because so much of the pagan thinking of the culture seems to have infiltrated itself into the Church.
As for the "fun" question that you brought up towards the end about movies and boardgames, I would probably say I am more into books but I do enjoy watching and analyzing a good movie of TV show/series.
Thanks for the comment Ann! I hear you, but don’t give up hope :) Plenty of solid, conservative guys out there😉
I think that Hugh Bonneville is talking about the actor who plays/played Lord Grantham/Robert Crawley in the series "Downton Abbey".
@@PaulandMorgan So, only "conservative" people can be solid christian people?
@@PaulandMorgan I know you made a big deal out of saying you couldn't be with a Democrat, so maybe you're looking for a fight on this, but there are plenty of Chrstian reasons to not support some Repulbicans and support the Democrat instead. A blanket statement in a conscending manner as if you are sure you have nothing to learn from someone who may vote different than you does not seem very Christian to me.
That’s so interesting the point on a woman who extends forgiveness, grace and mercy. It’s something I used to hate about myself, the fact that I would be so quick to forgive when I had been wronged, literally an apology would make it all go away and I used to feel ashamed about that. It was only until I realised what it looks like for God to conform us to the image of Christ, that it made me fall in love with the fact that God has given me a willing heart to forgive and extend grace. I’m no longer ashamed of that, and grateful that God has trusted me to have that kind of heart posture. 🥹
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Paul your first “point” got me lol , I was so confused to hear you say that LOL 😂
😂😂 Keeping ya’ll on your toes
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I enjoyed this, thanks chaps. Michael seems more mellow and chilled than I remember...so happy for you Michael with your recent dating
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@@PaulandMorgan What about me as a young guy with a heart issue? I get so jealous seeing men with beautiful women, but am excited about heaven. Any suggestions for how I can deal with these thoughts?
With fitness being something I don't "love" per se, I've loved engaging in it with my husband. I'm proud when I exercise even when he's working long days / unavailable to do so with me. I have PCOS with hormonal issues. I'm average height and weight, and am active and eat well most of the time. As a generally healthy person, unfortunately I am not super "fit" or at the "weight" I want. Thankfully my husband has been supportive and loving at my current shape and size. He has his own goals and he's not where he wants to be.
TLDR: being active has little to no downsides, but have grace with each other in the process, even when our shape/size don't change quickly.
great to see Michael back on the channel! now you should bring Jacob back too haha. I'm feeling board games over movies tbh.
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I will subscribe to your patreon if you post a series about the conservatism vs. liberalism ideologies and how it's difficult to have a personal relationship with someone who is the opposite of you. It's something I'm incredibly interested in!!!
The FaceTime with Morgan was so sweet 🥹
Haha yeah that was fun😊
I completely agree with Michael about bikinis! Modesty is about the heart, we should not be quick to judge a brother or sister in Christ based off what they are wearing.
These are just rhetorical questions to stimulate introspection. You dont have to answer at all. The grace of God be with us all, for we all fall short.
Do you think Mary, the mother of Jesus, would wear a bikini? Do you think Jesus would wear a speedo? Do you think the prostitues recounted in the OT and NT dressed in a way that covered more skin than how much modern day bikinis do?
@@apracity7672 Of course not. I myself don’t wear a bikini, but I try not to be in the business of making other people feel condemned and let the Holy Spirit do the sanctifying. There’s a time and place to talk to a fellow believer about certain things.
@@Phoebe907 You say there is a time and place to talk about certain things. When would those times be, other than never?
@@apracity7672 That would depend on your relationship to that person, as well as the seriousness of the sin. Are they a stranger, someone at your church, a relative, a friend?
“If you find a brother taken in a fault, restore such a one in a spirit of meekness lest you too be tempted." Galatians 6:2. Meekness is key here.
@@Phoebe907 I understand your perspective, I just don't see that as being the standard used, as per:
1 Thessa. 2: 2: 11-12 & 5: 12-14
James 5: 19-20
Galatians 6: 1-2
2 Thessa. 3:13-15
1 Corinthians 5:9-13
Romans 15:14
1 Tim. 5: 20
Titus 1:9,13 & 2: 15
2 Timothy 2: 25 & 3:16 & 4: 2
The examples we see in scripture is the brethren correcting the brethren. The fact that one is part of the same family of God is a great enough bond in of itself. In other words, one need not be close to the person in order to offer rebuke, admonishment, correction, etc. In other words, a Christian can always correct another Christian without being close friends with them. This is how I understand things, at the moment
I Hope this helps, best regards in Christ
Skipped and listened to around ten minutes in when you guys spoke about parties. Look, they got this in the bag by design. They want you to have that conclusion. They set it up that way. Other party isn't much better when it comes to morality; all lies and greed. They make a false duality so people fight each other over petty things that don't truly matter rather than for what truly matters. I know you guys are plugged into the media because you create content but I invite you to take a step back and realize that the game is rigged and if you pick a side you lose. LIVE your morality and be a light for others; be above the mud slinging and party politics. Much love ! - Sean
I know what you guys mean but I truly believe the magic of the media is rigged to make that distinction that seems like you are setting yourself apart, but it actually divides you from the very people who need to hear truth from you.
Love this! Great job guys! And so happy for you Michael and Morgan ❤️
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lol the Bill Gates joke 😂😂
I agree with everything you said. I prefer board games to movies since you get to be active doing something interesting together😊 About politics, I agree💯 with your views, however, am also not big on majority of the mainstream Conservative media commentators, they sometimes think they are better than the Democrats, they come off a bit self-righteous, and pride is also a sin in God's word, so I would want someone who leans on God's word when it comes to voting for a leader, not necessarily about which party he supports but what values he upholds when he supports a certain leader. Thanks for sharing this. God bless your Ministry🙌
Appreciate you sharing :)
I am into fitness and also yoga, but it's not important to me at all that my future husband is. To me it has 0 importance.
Also for some reason I don't like guys who are too obsessed with it or who have too many mussels.
I prefer a more natural look.
The overarching thing about all of this is that people change and all of these good characteristics you look for in a wife can look completely different after kids, time, health etc. Not to say don't still seek these things from the start, but also don't expect these characteristics to just be there with a woman consistently through life. A lot of it can come down to how well she handles stress and how easily she is overwhelmed. And that's not something you can typically test out before marriage.
I just hope that when I’m ready to date that there will be good Godly men out there that think like this/have these desires for their relationships. 🙏🏼🙏🏼 Is it accurate to say that these guys are rare ? ! Lol!
Rare only if they are not in a decent Godly church. I myself disagree with the many dates these guys go on....... There are much better ways of getting to know people, like just becoming friends etc.....
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@Bav92 I absolutely agree. Although I was only talking about godliness; if there are very many godly men out there, which aren’t the majority of men that’s for sure (unfortunately.) I wouldn’t say my expectations are super high when it comes to other things such as looks and finances- I at least want to be attracted to him of course but most of all want a man who loves the Lord, will be a good leader spiritually and otherwise and cares about truly living as Jesus commands biblically. I don’t think that that’s too high of an expectation and I’m willing to be patient and I am praying on this as well 😊
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I want to live as commanded in God’s word. If my husband isn’t more devoted to follow Christ, Isn’t more mature in his faith than me, and can’t/won’t lead the household, then there will be a sort of tug-of-war. Scripture is clear: Do not be unequally yoked, wives submit to their husbands as the church submits to Christ, and husbands love your wives as Christ loved the church and gave His life for her. There is a good, God created order and I want to honor it. 2 Corinthians 6:14-18, Ephesians 5:22-33. There’s so much more scripture on this as well. 1 Peter 3, Colossians 3, Titus 2, 1 Corinthians 7. And more. I grew up in a household with a “Christian Dad” but not a Godly husband/father who leads his family spiritually/in God’s word/to follow Christ. I love and appreciate my dad and he loves us and provided for us, but that isn’t what I want for my children or myself.
@Bav92 it doesn’t always work out in what way, can you give an example of what you mean? if you don’t mind
Hey I wouldn't say I'm not into fitness or into it. don't really like sport but I do enjoy 20-30 mins of low intensity workout each day. Yoga, walking, dance ect but I am not a fitness fanatic or attend the gym. Just someone for me who isn't lazy and does want to look after themselves. But they don't have to love exercise even just trying to do exercise a few times a week
That’s really cool that Michael was single for a while, doing God’s will. I wonder how that time was for him? Michael seems like a great catch!
Yay :) Michael’s back!
This is an accurate information session. Please listen, women and men.
I agree with most of the things you guys say. However there is a stigma in Christianity against young Christian women wearing long dresses/skirts in Church and outside of Church. It seems like young Christian women are viewed as naive/dumb/cultish if they wear long skirts all the time.
Thanks for the video. My heart hurts about this very subject. I feel like I have been working on all those things you mentioned. Truth is maybe I want it too much and it is too obvious. My uncle who is God fearing and cares a lot about me invited me to a Bible study he has been leading and telling me there is this guy who has been coming for 2 years, but when I started coming the guy hasn’t shown up. It seems to be my lot. I hope my uncle didn’t talk too much. (He probably did, I am guessing). I am thinking at 37 God still has me single. Honestly, feeling selfishly tearful about it. Going to Jesus because I need to be satisfied with Him.
I am sorry Cindy about how you are feeling, I want to pray for you, I pray that God honors the desires of your heart all according to His will, my Heavenly Father, please give sister Cindy a man who is submitted to you, someone who will treat her with respect, someone who will lead her into knowing you more, I also pray that, in her season of waiting, you will take the anxiety and sadness away and replace it with joy and hopeful expectations, we thank you for saving her and making her your child, we come before you asking in Jesus name we pray, Amen. May it be well with you sister Cindy, you are a masterpiece, beautifully and wonderfully made, irrespective of your relationship status. Can't wait to hear your miracle story when God delivers your man, if that is his will. Take care dear.
@@shirlynmwangi5736 thank you very much!!! I do feel your prayer is working today as far as my mood for sure 😊.
I love your video's so much that i am addicted to it, in a good way. My question is will there be a video for Paul and Morgan interviewing Michael and his new women in his life. I would love to see that video hopefully soon or one day. Love you both from Australia
That could be fun😊
Movies are great, but board games are more interactive!
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I really think this is more Purity Culture than Christianity
Is there a problem with purity culture?
Did you even watch the video? Neither of them said that they prefer a virgin wife or a woman with a low body count.
@@gabbchan3305 Purity culture has a some elements of truth but a lot of dangers. In my experience people are led more away from Christ rather than closer to him when existing in purity culture.
I prefer if guys are into fitness in moderation because then he’s willing to hit the gym with me. If I’m into it and he’s not, I’d be less likely to go myself in the long run of life because I’d want to spend time with him instead.
Do you touch on the control and abuse??
so grossed out by plant based hot dogs as if they were made out of dead bodies lolll smh
I want to have a spiritual leader that is spiritually fit and I believe that includes having the body fit.
So it(the body & Spirit) can work together to glorify God! Male and female.
So I would need to be fit just like the man God would have for me.
Question to you guys. Would you marry a woman who is a vegetarian or vegan ? Would you agree to raising children with a vegetarian diet ?
I am curious about what they would answer too. I don't.think it matters to anyone if you eat meat or not as long as you are healthy.
My parents are married since almost 30 years, my mom is vegetarian and has always been and my dad eats a cow a day 😃
Me and my brother were raised with little meat, and at 12 I became vegetarian too, my brother didnt want to.
They gave us the choice about it
Okay but the fact that you guys are talking for a long time about the bikini issue means that there’s probably an issue with it. BUT this is also coming from a girl who believes bikinis are more comfortable sometimes so idk 😅 its kinda a wierd gray area
Nothing wrong with a bikini as long as all is well covered. They are nicer for tanning purposes... Not much difference besides seeing a tummy.. Nothing wrong with that
Very on-brand for Paul to ask Michael a question, then not want him to talk.
I didn’t watch this video specifically so my comment is just in general and I hope that it’s received well. I just want to say that I feel like you guys have gotten into some weird territory with your videos recently. Like so many of them are about sex to the point that it’s getting weird. And the one coming out today, should maverick city have performed at the Grammys because of the satanic nature of the other performances… it just seems like very surface level topics. You guys do a lot of good but I miss your more in depth videos where you offer more in depth advice on how to be a Christian in our world. How to share Christ with others etc. just my opinion and I’m sure I’ll get hate if anyone even sees this.
Hey guys it’s Paul and Michael made me laugh instead of saying Paul and Morgan
This is the first time that I'm watching you all's video and I think this is great I am a female and I have always been a Democrat kind of sort of I've never put myself in one political side per say because I've always had some conservatism and a little bit of liberalism if you want to call it that however I totally agree with you all I have my husband and we are happy and my family and I however if I was on the dating scene in this day and age I would definitely not look for a man that is a Democrat and definitely would not get with a man who is Democrat on political views. Thank you for video.
Games over movies. I got game. 😆
No, "neesh" is correct (from French), "nitsch" is not, sorry Michael 😂
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Hey guys! I greatly appreciate your videos! But I want to respectfully disagree with you about the whole political democrat thing.
I believe people are more similar than they are different. Ultimately both democrats and republicans both desire for there to be a better America. We just have different ideas of how we should get there and what problems should be considered priority.
I personally know couples with great marriages who joke that when they vote they cancel each other out. Their political views do not affect them living their day to day lives.
Where this DOES affect marriage/relationships is when a Christian ties their identity to their political party. I think this is perhaps what Paul was trying to say (talking about not being a radical democrat or being open to other things). The danger is this can go both ways.
I've dated a man who was far right leaning, thought trump was going to save America from the deep state, was constantly consuming conservative news channels, believed in q anon and that world war 3 was coming and constantly misquoting revelations.
I also dated a Christian who was very left leaning. When we talked about Jesus it was as if he only saw Him as a social justice warrior for the people. When in reality when we read the Bible we see that while Jesus greatly cared about injustice, his ultimate purpose of him coming was to save us from our sins.
I think both of these polarizing views can be harmful if you claim it as your identity instead of having Christ be your identity. However most people politically fall in the middle of the spectrum. We just assume that everyone is polarized since we only hear those ppl on the internet.
I came in for some no-nonsense content, and here Paulie startin us off with "small carbon footprint" as his FIRST criteria 😂do you, boo, but did ya haf ta make it the TOP of your list? Women out here tryna not get killed by their partners and here come the entitled requests? Not flying
Morgan May is so blessed to have Michael. Michael, you are such an amazing man and I adore everything about you. I love your values and your personality. You are everything that I would ever want in a man. You are so handsome too! I wish I could clone you because when I do desire to have a relationship again, I want someone just like you. I see Jesus all over you! You will be a great husband to Morgan in the near future. Even though I'm disappointed that you taken, I think that Morgan is perfect for you. She's lovely!
How do you know that Morgan? Are they on TH-cam as well?
Imagine you future husband reads this text. Or better, imagine you read a text from your husband and he wrote that to another girl. That he hopes to find a girl that loos like her, well, that he would want to clone her and that she wouldbe the perfect match for him... If I was you, I would deleted that. 🤣
@@lucamackenzie9229 I'm not worried about getting married right now, so I don't think it's that big of a deal. It was meant to be a complement to Michael.
Love the nasa sweatshirt, what is the connection there? Abortion is a gift from god to safely give the mother a chance to make a decision for her life.
Games over movies🤣
I have been married for 7 months and my husband leads me and it's amazing! My first marriage ended because of unrepentant cheating, it was a mess. I so appreciate my husband treating me the way he does, having a husband who loves the Lord is amazing! I would say to women marry someone who loves God, is kind and compassionate to others, that was what made me fall in love with my husband. His truly kind nature, and marry a hard worker.
mocking women who respect all of god's creatures, nice one guys
Y are u shaking like that or is it the video.
Honesty I think the first thing on your guys’s list
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She’s Hot
If she’s not hot and all the other boxes are checked I think that you wouldn’t go/have gone for her
I dont think its true. I worked as a make up artist for models so I have friends who are very hot.
I also have friends from childhood or other places who are not " hot".
Many of my " not hot" friends have found a guy and had kids and mamy of my model friends didn't.
If this rule was true, all my model friends would be married with kids, and my normal friends would not.
But its not the case.
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The models were probably just really picky and didn’t want to settle down. It’s harder to choose when one has the pick of the litter.
@@LoveHope-mi4lx sorry I don't know what " pick of the liter" means, english isnt my mothertongue
I don't think they were picky I think its deeper than that.
For instance, if a woman had a great father, she will probably choose a great man too, and have way more chances to be in a happy relationship earlier in life.
If a superhot model had some family issues ( abusive father or mother) she is more likely to choose guys who would abuse her in the same way too.
I am not saying that if you are ugly you find a husband quicker.
I am saying the psicological paterns somebody has, as well as many other things, determen if you are gonna be able to have a happy relationship or not.
Same happen with man. There are many rich super handsome man who can't find a relationship even if they have a lot of qualities as a human being.
It's more.complex than looks believe me.
Otherwise all hot people in the world would immediatly be happy and not single.
And as somebody who works and knows a lot of hot people, I can tell you it's not the case.
I also have seen models who literally sleep with anyone, and are not picky at all, because they dont have selfsteem as a person.
Again, selfsteem plays a big role too on finding a partner.
Aw I love that this gay couple is so open and honest
Love the chemistry lol
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did y'all get into a fight before this? energy is weird...
Idk what that nonsense about abortion was but it sounds you've been misinformed, there is no such thing as "abortion after birth", but then again I have noticed most people staunchly "pro-life" have very poor understanding of that whole thing and even often think that late term abortions are something common and easily handed out to anyone for whatever reason.
@Bav92 Sorry but no, I will continue to correct misinformation when I hear itz If you need to tell lies to make your argument - it's clearly not a good argument.
@Bav92 You come here and start a whole new argument, which I'm not praticularly interested in so go somewhere else with that nonsense. My comment was specifically about misinformation on late term abortions.
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This is dangerous stuff
So weird... The Democratic party is so much more in alignment with Biblical values.
How so? Almost everything they promote is completely against Biblical values.
@@kitkat_art Hi. Because the Democratic party is the one that fights for the little guy. They are for caring for the poor and for radical inclusion and compassion. Those are biblical values. Being all wound up about abortion, and about trans people are absolutely not biblical. The Republican party are the Pharisees of today.
*spit take* what now?
How is supporting the killing of babies in alignment with the Bible. I’d love to hear that explanation
@@nba2kmadness162 hi. If you were to cite places where the Bible in general, or Jesus in particular, spoke or acted in a way to communicate the importance of feeding the hungry, caring for prisoners, and creating a just and equitable society, it would take you weeks. If you were to cite where abortion is mentioned, you'd be done within seconds. I really like Paul & Morgan, but unfortunately I find that they've mostly fallen into the trap that many professing Christians have fallen into over the last 30-40 years, which is to mistake Republicanism for Christianity.