We have to stop breeding like animals and start giving these kids the proper family structure .I’m speaking to myself too because I have a daughter out of wedlock (she is almost 18 ).
Plz for the Love of the father. Teach and train your children to practice abstinence and to put standards and requirements on your relationship partner. Plz give them the tools and expertise they need to make the best possible choices drill it into them on day one.
She shouldn’t compare her looks to a cancer patient. I work in oncology that’s incredible offensive and insensitive. She looks like this by choice and they look like this by unfortunate circumstances. 🤦🏽♀️
Relationship back to back. Get thearpy and keep your legs closed. Self love and dont make excuses. As the great late kevin samuels would say marry before carry
Did this lady forget she was on a dating show looking for a partner? 😂😂 she’s talking like this is a therapy session, lil baby needs a therapist not a man or a date.
@@meloran2571 😂😂😂 and without skipping a beat!! Girl was having flashbacks to the point she started to act like the situation was happening all over again lol.
I've been with a woman like this, who, upon talking about their past relationships and children, get so upset as if they're still in that moment today. She needs therapy, and I mean that in the most sincere way.
U never been with me so don’t compare me to NOBODY sir! I’m my own woman and what may work for someone else don’t always work for me! Y’all always trynna say what y’all THINK a person should do…. How bout U do it and gone bout to business 🙄
I will say although your opinion holds weight to some, I can say that living in flint mi majority of my life and I’m here now I can say some and I’m being generous with saying some, but these men out here are built different in the worst way! I’m a relationship and family oriented person as well, and they just can’t get right lol. So I’m finally leaving. So I wish her all the best with finding a good man in flint or surrounding areas because our city is a mess when it comes to dating.
No matter how much I watch this show! I’m still always surprised how much information people share with thousands of people. I wish her the best, she definitely needs therapy, she is still PISSED at that situation
Where will she ever find time to study medicine or money to study? She doesn't even have a bachelor's degree as yet??? I can understand wanting to be one but realistically I don't see it in her cards
Right! She a mess! Women have no class. She in the lower middle class with a lot of kids. She want to be doctor. No! Not unless she got a strong man. Maybe sell real estate or something. This woman at low class. She dating lower class men. Come on. Flint is the hood. I'm from Detroit area
The transition was crazy. Shy and nervous in the beginning to "this b*tch f*cking my husband and y'all think I aint finna whoop her ass. I pulled up at her job!" That little nervous shy girl in the beginning was not the real her.
@@Quinten4M if she had wanted to be doctor and stayed focused from the jump, she would be a doctor today, instead of a 4× baby momma. Bad choices are taking these women out!
Me to already praying for her 😇😇😇💗💗 Bless her heart the way she cut her hair and spoke of it in the manner she did is realy a show and sound of depression talking!!!.. Beautiful she is,,
This is a perfect example of why Sistas need to Love , Support & teach one another . This lady clearly didn’t get what she needed growing up & this is why her picker is off .
@@tid8583 you’re an idiot. Race has nothing to do with it. Africans are “Black(er)” than African Americans and their societies have some of the highest marriage rates and intact traditional extended families on the planet.
"A Woman will always show you who they are if you let them talk. Ask them a limited amount of questions, sip some tea, actively listen, and keep your mouth closed. She will tell you everything you need to know." Appreciate the game Dad!! You a real O.G...
Shit that was some shit my mother told me!! Since I didn’t have a father 😂 I believe women do that because they have more of a friendly/nurturing nature than men. We’re oftentimes protectors of many things including personal information, friends, family, ect.
I do this with men as well be it in business, friendship or relationships. The more they have, the more they love to speak endlessly about theirselves & there lies the truth that clothes & accolades can’t hide. Its common knowledge & totally goes both ways. Listen long enough & people will show you who they really are. Silence is golden.
Women like her don't want to listen to the women who have come before on how to navigate and not get stuck kids with multiple men. They call them bitter and jealous of them.
@@boastenandbraggin3947 That's still better than being a baby mama. Women need to move past this idea that marriage is like a romcom. If you're with someone for life, 60+ years, then you are going to have problems sooner or later. Better to put in the work to maintain that than bring kids up in an unstable environment.
Around 15:00 mark she starts acting out the chaos. She can't let go of the past and continually replays it in her mind so it stays fresh. This will never change without intensive therapy. She will always stay in chaos as it's her comfort level. Seen it many times.
😂 omg for sure. She got color comfortable & forgot she was online instead of in her hood sharing the same struggle love with her other ghetto counterparts.
I love these ladies responses when asked…. “Why you think you single?”😂 can’t wait for a woman that says “probably because I got multiple kids, I’m overweight & a bad attitude”
i can’t wait until somebody answers that with, “cause i need to be! raising and caring for my children are my 1st priority and i need to make sure they do not repeat my bad choices and end in stupid situations! the best way to make sure they get the best starting chance possible, i’ve made myself 100% available to them and their needs. i’ve put dating on the sidelines until my last one turns 18. currently, a relationship would be too much strain on me and my household because it takes more mental energy than i’m able to provide. i can only raise them once. i want them to look back and be proud of the life i lived in front of them and appreciate that i wanted the best for them by making them my 1st priority.!”
She has a lot going on as others have pointed out. She should focus on her kids. She mentioned constantly beating them which is basically passing down trauma, and her youngest recently diagnosed as autistic, which is a whole other can of worms. It’s ok to be single. Also, I know passing harsh judgement on black single mothers is all the rage these days, but it always takes two to create a broken home. There is room for improvement for all, including the men living their delusions of being a Nick Cannon.
Nope. The women are to blame. We can ALL see the dysfunction with the men but WOMEN are choosing to continue to lay down and procreate….the women are allowing themselves to be the vessels for broken homes. Both are to blame but it’s 2022 and there are PLENTY of birth control options for women to protect themselves.
No, it’s your fault. The man would have no access to the vagina, I y’all didn’t give it up. If y’all were forcing men to wed you before he bed you, there would be a less of a chance of this happening. 🤷🏾♂️
I feel so sorry for these women on this show, they go from man to man to man producing children trying to fill a void that only self LOVE can cure...several women have come on the show having almost just had a child. So many bw are suffering from unhealed trauma trying to heal our wounds with our wombs .
@@ToBHonest... the problem is women be the ones stuck with babies and then go on Kendras show and get mad when she says multiple kids limit your dating options. THEY DO...So ladies either you want kids or a man because a man with any substance will Not sign up for this...that's the problem
Those types of men as well. If we had more men have these types of comments under guys social media pages like Future instead of looking up to him, that would be a good. I'm not excusing her behavior, but I believe the guys with multiple baby mamas should have the same amount of criticism and the same amount of therapy. There should be a push from more bllkmen to hold other bllkmen accountable for controlling their s3xual appetite and to stop straight up lying, finessing women out of sEx knowing they have no intentions of doing what they tell the women they are going to do. The future faking is at an all-time high. If I got all of the promises that were told to me from guys just to have s3x, I would have been remarried, be in a "power couple" relationship, and would have been to all of the nice places in restaurants I was going to be taken to.🤣🤣 If that was condemned just as much, men would be doing their part in helping the situation. A woman wouldn't be able to have multiple baby daddies or be considered a h0e if the men refused to sleep with her because they are against women sleeping around. Men PROUDLY talk about how they finesse women out of sex with no intentions of marrying them. That should be shamed and frowned upon equally to women with multiple baby daddies. The community will always be trash if the men are held to a different standard than the women. This is my observation from a woman with ONE child from an ex-husband of over 10 years in an awesome co-parenting situation. Her story may not be my story, but it easily could be with the amount of men that try to talk to me on a regular basis that try to finesse me out of sex. I'm confused because I get online and see men saying women should be traditional, but yet every guy that tries to holler at me tries to rush to sex immediately even though I carry myself as a lady at all times and was raised very traditionally from parents that have been married for over 40 years. NONE of that means nothing to men. They all say it does to get in your pants, but they don't mean it. I'm trying to figure out where all of these guys online with these high standards are in my real life. All I know is guys trying to have sex me. Especially here in DUSTlanta, GA HIGHSCHOOL. As soon as I show that I have standards and I do not have sex in a couple of weeks (and sometimes in a couple of days) I get ghosted. I get all the promises in the world without even being asked to be taking on a date. I can't even remember the last time I was asked to be taking on a date, but I've had at least four guys try to holler at me over the last couple of days alone. 🤔🤔 It doesn't matter if I have weave or not. It doesn't matter if I wear makeup are not, doesn't matter if you are in a suit with stockings or not, work for yourself, make good money, not in the streets, carry yourself like a lady, not twerking on tables, have a low body count, haven't had sex in forever, being a virgin, not overweight, so on and so on, we still get tried like a h0e on the streets. #FACTS I wish men could be a woman for at least a month to see how much cap it is on TH-cam when it comes to men and talking about wanting women with standards. With the amount of men that try to holla to me, you would think my odds would be a lot better with meeting some of the men with all of these high standards on TH-cam. 🤔🙄 I wish men would just keep it real and say they don't want to settle down unless they find a woman that will allow them to still act like they're single and not blaming women for their reason to not settle down. #TheCapOnThisApp 🧢🧢 smh 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
@@harlemnights4381 sooooo you want my kids to be intimate with me and take me out on dates and pay the bills and treat me like a Queen!?! 😂😂😂 y’all really say anything I see
She’s still hurt 😔 it went from wanting a date into a erratic therapy session. Healing is what she needs. I can understand the pain. But one thing I’ve realized with interacting with men “who aren’t ready” - as women you will be stuck with the kids whether you like it or not and that’s what makes a lot of women bitter at life - you aren’t free anymore. (I am learning myself- this is definitely something to teach my daughters) be wise in who you laying down with a lot of people will waste your time and then your the one left hurt with kids to take care of solely. Men are free no matter how many kids they make. It’s unfortunate but true. And please people understand someone’s story before judging. Some men are playing and the mask doesn’t drop till someone is either married or pregnant
Correction the men who don’t care about their kids and don’t care about being fathers are free. A guy that is on his purpose and handling his business, actively in his kids lives does not have free time to do whatever he pleases. There are a lot of men out here in the black community that fit the mold.
@@kylefrazier6773 Buuuuut prayer is waaay more effective than therapy. Holy Spirit can get to the core of a person waaaaay better than a mere human. 🤷🏽♀️ (I’m not trying to be argumentative either😀)
Kendra’s expressions have me laughing. Great questions and I appreciate that there is some compassion for her. She needs to focus on her goals because the wrong man will derail her plans. I agree that she may also need to continue to talk to someone.
A truck driver that does hair on the side, to a plastic surgeon or "someone that delivers babies"... Wtf is going on? Kendra is getting trolled. Still watching, but I had to pause to type this.
I thought the same thing!... Dreams of becoming a doctor but, she got 4 kids and major BD drama. She's DONE! Her wants are just fantasy at this point. Take your ball & go HOME!
Shay seems nice honest and hardworking. I hope she gets back into therapy continues to raise her children and goes for her doctorate degree. It is never too late to course correct and self develop. I say leave the men alone for awhile and focus on your goals. Good luck.
She definitely has a lot going on. I honestly think she's still hurt from her past due to how she spoke about it with so much passion and her voice started to shake. I pray she can go back to therapy and finally heal
Glad you made that point. I didn't want to write a very long comment, but I realized that she never held herself accountable for her decisions. I heard nothing but excuses.
@@jermaineburgess3767 ... and sadly, I don't think she'll allow a man to lead in the relationship. Seems to me she may be one of those women who needs to have the last say.
@@be.youtiful4621 my child mother is that way I told her she is a dictator I have no say so in what my son does I'm just used as a wallet now found out my son got the c19 vaccine she didn't ask my opinion but I can't be mad she is a 3 time failed baby mother I blame myself for dealing with her all her other kids are bums with no dads I'm the only guy in the picture until August I'm moving away she wants to play the father role well I can't do shit anyway 😪
Do you have ANY idea how difficult schooling is? Especially for the disciplines you’ve listed? Those who actually make it prepare during their whole lives sacrificing their twenties and thirties pursuing them. Incredibly expensive and competitive. Not a fly-by-night whim of a wish 🤦🏻♀️ This isn’t just directed to her specifically. A lot of people think they deserve something just because they want it.
@@nikkibarnzable If being a Debbie downer means giving her a reality check, then so be it. Why not offer her tangible advice she can actually use to make her life better instead of “letting her dream” and still have the same outcomes?
Listening to people in that profession, you're 100%. Many report depression, anxiety etc. Worry over liability or not correctly documenting some detail.
I'm not gonna crap on her ambition to become a doctor because I'm doing it as an older nontrad. However, with all of the responsibilities she has, I would recommend exploring other healthcare careers as well. Becoming a Physician Assistant is a good option. It's a 2 years master's program with flexibility in practice. You can hop around in specialities. Anesthesiology assistant programs are lowkey but offer a solid career with a very high earning potential after 2 years. Last but not least, nursing is also a good option. You can become an NP and have a good amount of autonomy. But girl, if becoming a physician is what you want, you can do it!!!
There is a trauma surgeon here in Atlanta that used to be a well-known Black porn actress. Now she has MD and MBA behind her name. So if she can go to medical school and become a physician, anyone can.
😕. Just focus on your self, and the right one will come along. That’s exactly how it happened for me and a lot of other women I know. Social media is not the best representation of all men out here. Most good dudes are not even on social media, they don’t have time for it lol…they working and building stuff. Ladies just work on yourself and be ok with being ALONE! It’s not the end of the world.
You just said alot ! Men I meet that have things going on are not on social media or barely on it. The ones that are, are the ones complaining about woman all day. They focused on the wrong thing.
Haha wait, so you think a good man is coming along to deal with this bullshit?? She had to move to another state, just to get away from a pookie that was trying to kill her. This dude didn’t even care that she was his child’s mother and you think a good man is going to want to date her??? Negative.
I’m not sure this is well thought through. There’s too many things that have started and not finished. It’s important to have a focus on one or two things and maintain all of your energy there. Whatever happens, the children need to be secure. With a child who is diagnosed with autism, it’s hard work also. I think you also underestimate the effort needed to build a blended family. The vetting process is important and you may need to start slow as more men in the children’s lives can be detrimental. I think the doctor ambition needs careful consideration. It is possible but it will certainly be at the expense of the children’s future because Medicine is tough and you’re currently working a physically demanding job. It’s your life, but please take the time to identify the non-negotiables and from there opportunities will arise.
Dear Single Mothers: You have kids to raise and Ill just be in the way of that. Besides, the kids come first. Therefore, I shouldn't be there. Any time I ask of you will take away from your babies.😎👍🏿
@@JDMHaze I'm just stating a fact. Some women who say this, it may be a red flag to you all; however, for some women or (men), they may very well be in abusive relationships. I'm not saying this is her circumstance. I'm just adding a different perspective to the conversation.
probably got 6 kids and 6 baby daddies but 1 of the fathers took care of an xtra 1 cause the real daddy was an alleged dead beat. so she really claiming to have 5 baby fathers. that’s project math. that’s the only place a person can put that equation together and turn out answers like this.
Right she couldn’t even say OB … talkin about the doctor that deliver babies. She has a LONG way to go if at 31 she’s just now getting her associates. Not impossible but she got get focused! People should look into NP and PA positions.
4 kids multiple fathers unresolved trauma does hair on the side all of her past men were pookies She's not obnoxious, but checks all the boxes. It's a no from me, dawg.
She seems nice but 4 kids will frighten off a lot of potential suitors. If any decent man is looking for marriage then he'd have to be comfortable taking on an already made family of 5. That's a lot to consider. I think she should focus on raising her children. 4 is a lot to keep a parent busy.
As black women we really need to learn ourselves I never watched Kevin samuels content, can't stand his attitude but when I watch some of these guest's on Kendras show, I am starting to agree with a few of his messages. I can't believe it's women with multiple kids and different fathers that think they are deserving of a stable, childless "God fearing" man.... like what makes them think they deserve to have the same things that I want when I have 1 kid.
So having 1, 3 or 4 fathers…I know there’s a difference I think … and I’m honestly asking what is the difference?! I use to think that Kevin Samuels was right about women being single mothers not having a chance… I no longer agree because I have 1 child and I learned from my experience and made sure it wouldn’t happen again til marriage…..
Well she didn’t say a childless man. Idt she’s necessarily competing for the same men your probably wanting. She’s has kids so she’ll probably be with a man with children as well.
While I partially agree with you. 1. She said she prefers men with kids & doesn’t care if he has 25 & 2. She just wants them to have their own … meaning be an adult! Also your last statement is a little harsh … 1 or 4 kids a man still has to be with a you.. a BM & deal with another man. I’m childless and desire stable, God fearing, childless and me telling you because you have 1 child you don’t deserve the same & childless people should date childless people. How do you feel about that?.
She is toooo masculine. I can’t. Why are you beating a side chick up AT HER JOB!? Just leave the dumpster guy. You drove garbage trucks.. you know how to take the trash out!
This is exactly why im specific on what i do in the trucking industry. Being a garbage driver is completly different in pay AND job duty than actually operating tractor trailers. Alot of people love calling themselves a truck driver when they really a pizza guy.
i been saying that girl is lying bout being a truck driver and this is the 1st comment i’ve seen say it. that girl knows she work for the city waste management which is perfectly fine. but out here claiming to be a truck driver doing hair on the side and aspiring to be a surgeon. None of that sounds crazy to her cause she used to lying!
First of fckn all I was very GENERAL in my explanation… and for two with my childrens dad it was mainly THEM because if I say I want them back right now they’ll come running so yea! I took accountability in staying with them after seeing their 🚩
This woman is a toxic mess. She’s attracted to the chaos. Just from listening to her I can tell that she literally stopped maturing as a teenager. The saddest part is that she’s responsible for (4) four people. SMH
Now she's trying, we can't hold ppl to the past. What they are trying to do now is the focus. That applies to MEN and WOMEN since y'all love thinking we take up for women smh
@@FaithandNova but in what world are people NOT judged by their past?? I mean why do you think potential employers ask for resumes? to literally see what kind of work/ worker you have done/ were in the past. if a guy try to holla and he had four kids by three different women. you'd judge him. as you should by the way it's an obvious red flag
@@FaithandNova,NEGATIVE!!! We most definitely should hold people accountable for their past actions! This “woman” seems to have a obvious pattern in her mating decisions. She would be a bad deal for any man (much less a decent man). She’d just bring him down. She’s got entirely too much going on.
@@Pixxiedolll True...Men can't really tell ladies that though. Kendra can. All those "accessories" are ok and but often seem to hide real femininity we seek. It makes men want you sexuality because it seems to tell us "I want to be seen."
This is when Kevin Samuels will be missed. You're 31, 4 kids, 3 dads, truck driving, do hair on the side talking about admiration to be a doctor??? Exactly where would a "MAN" fit into all of this? Why would any man in his right mind sign up for this? I'd focus on that trucking job, you are already in that industry, scale up.
@@marimarielove Nope. I agree. It's not to tell you if she's a good fit though. lol KS helped many many people, myself included. (he dealt with men for years b4 women) Most people just pander to ladies for: s3x/ out of fear for backlash/ fear of being canceled/ or for profit like many pastors. It makes ladies feel good but gives them the wrong outcomes. KS had none of that so they got the blunt truth (most of the time that is NOT always).
@@marimarielove I’m so over people discrediting the point of the message. He’s missed because women listeners needed to hear it. We get that, they still don’t get it.
@@DJKidd301 and sadly you don't give a damn where your worthless daddy was, so you want women to lower their standards like your mother did and except any kind of BS, so you can have a pass to be the same piece of shit as your real daddy
Can somebody answer this question for me ….. but where in the hell are the woman getting money from to feed two Children …. Shiiiiii it’s expensive for an adult to eat at Chic -Fil -A 😂😂😂😂😂🤷🏾♂️ I’m just asking for a friend
@@jermaineburgess3767 man I’m just saying … because I’m pretty sure there are many children there are just being fed by the public schools and that’s it 😡😡 they are starving food wise and from a life of substance 🙏🏿
@@patriceshenelle7734 yes that was actually sad to hear. she’s stressed out. children are work and they require a lot of patience and dedication to raise them properly.
Shay you can do it. Please do not let any one discourage you or you will regret. Nothing beats a failure but a try. May God be with you and bless you.❤
Going to med school is her best bet. She will be around men who also are serious with studies. She can find someone there. I know a doctor that had 3 kids and married a woman with 5. They live in a mansion and blended the family well. Don't settle anymore young lady. Take your time and work on yourself and children.
@@AkakeyshiaCole555 sorry but you're not and you need to seek professional help for you and the children that you are raising. the last thing you need to focus on is a man.
she’s only doing that cause she’s learned that people want her to acknowledge those things. then she goes right into her next lie or unrealistic ambition.
I wish her the best in her endeavors. I hope she continues to get therapy and heal. Just focus on your kids and your goals. The right person will come along when you least expect it.
We have to stop breeding like animals and start giving these kids the proper family structure .I’m speaking to myself too because I have a daughter out of wedlock (she is almost 18 ).
But you stopped at one child. There’s a lot of people within our community who continues having children. She should’ve stopped by the second child.
I felt that
Plz for the Love of the father. Teach and train your children to practice abstinence and to put standards and requirements on your relationship partner. Plz give them the tools and expertise they need to make the best possible choices drill it into them on day one.
I'm right there with you!
I agree because that’s definitely what it seems like. The children who make up the next generation are the ones who suffer most.
Says she has no baby daddy drama…talks about excessive cheating, abandonment, fighting & shootings….got it!!
You can't make this stuff up 😂
😳🤥🚩 C'mon now, what're you afraid of? No drama here🤥🤡. It's all a miscommunication that's all. What??🧐👀🤐
😆 just a little fighting and a little shooting
🤦🏾♂️
She is a disaster
She shouldn’t compare her looks to a cancer patient. I work in oncology that’s incredible offensive and insensitive. She looks like this by choice and they look like this by unfortunate circumstances. 🤦🏽♀️
That was disgusting and sad
Don't take it personal. It's just a reflection of how she feels about herself.
Very offensive . She talks like she is 22
Relationship back to back. Get thearpy and keep your legs closed. Self love and dont make excuses. As the great late kevin samuels would say marry before carry
@@ud558 shut up
If you are a single black woman with no kids you are winning out here!!!
I guess I'm winning lol
Single black women without kids are winning if they are not checking for black men…there I fixed it for you.
Oh please. Men be the first to say something is wrong with her since no one has made a baby with her or married her!! Save it.
@@privatelifejust_4me exactly..
Let's be honest, a woman over 30 and childless usually comes with a bunch of red flags too.
She seems very genuine. She just got too much going on.
To her sex is more important than drinking water man.
And she's not too bright and that's where the men take advantage of her
You can be baby daddy number 4
You can tell she have low IQ
She needs to heal internally first….she has a lot of pain
Did this lady forget she was on a dating show looking for a partner? 😂😂 she’s talking like this is a therapy session, lil baby needs a therapist not a man or a date.
😆 exactly
I really was wondering why she's talking like she's talking to her homegirl on the phone.
@@meloran2571 exactly! I was saying the same thing to myself 😂😂
@@latoyaroberts4865 Went from I want a man to gguurrrlll lemme tell you
@@meloran2571 😂😂😂 and without skipping a beat!! Girl was having flashbacks to the point she started to act like the situation was happening all over again lol.
I've been with a woman like this, who, upon talking about their past relationships and children, get so upset as if they're still in that moment today.
She needs therapy, and I mean that in the most sincere way.
ur right
Agreed man. It's palpable.
U never been with me so don’t compare me to NOBODY sir! I’m my own woman and what may work for someone else don’t always work for me! Y’all always trynna say what y’all THINK a person should do…. How bout U do it and gone bout to business 🙄
I will say although your opinion holds weight to some, I can say that living in flint mi majority of my life and I’m here now I can say some and I’m being generous with saying some, but these men out here are built different in the worst way! I’m a relationship and family oriented person as well, and they just can’t get right lol. So I’m finally leaving. So I wish her all the best with finding a good man in flint or surrounding areas because our city is a mess when it comes to dating.
@@AkakeyshiaCole555 stop messing with pookies and you'll be fine
No matter how much I watch this show! I’m still always surprised how much information people share with thousands of people.
I wish her the best, she definitely needs therapy, she is still PISSED at that situation
It a free therapy session. They are so desperate to get it off their chest.
Right!!!!!
Vulnerability leads to change
The funny thing is in their lil circles they be thinking the way they living is normal! These people are dysfunctional asf.
It’s because Kendra keeps questioning them. She keep asking so many personal questions. Let the dates ask the personal questions
You can do it girl! Continued to strive for your goals. Become that doctor. One day at a time.We need more black doctors.
I wouldn’t want her operating on me
Let's be honest. She's not going to be a doctor. She lacks the required discipline and self-control.
When does encouraging becomes defending delusion
Her ass better go over the road and feed those 4 kids
Where will she ever find time to study medicine or money to study? She doesn't even have a bachelor's degree as yet??? I can understand wanting to be one but realistically I don't see it in her cards
The term "baby daddy" is now a part of our everyday vocabulary...so sad!
Welcome to the year 2000.
Ain't going nowhere any time soon.
Omg… Sis started off humble and then went into a whole therapy session. She flashed out!! This was a train wreck 🫣🫣 this was unreal 😥
Right! She a mess! Women have no class. She in the lower middle class with a lot of kids. She want to be doctor. No! Not unless she got a strong man. Maybe sell real estate or something. This woman at low class. She dating lower class men. Come on. Flint is the hood. I'm from Detroit area
The transition was crazy. Shy and nervous in the beginning to "this b*tch f*cking my husband and y'all think I aint finna whoop her ass. I pulled up at her job!" That little nervous shy girl in the beginning was not the real her.
@@Quinten4M if she had wanted to be doctor and stayed focused from the jump, she would be a doctor today, instead of a 4× baby momma. Bad choices are taking these women out!
you lot are going on like people can't achieve shit...and redeem themselves...I really do hope she goes off to be a doctor 🙏🏾
She's just a loser...
Kendra, I like how you made her know that her natural look was more preferred as opposed to the fake eye lashes.
truth
I'm going to be praying for this young lady.
I'm not
Her children definitely need those prayers.
Me to already praying for her 😇😇😇💗💗 Bless her heart the way she cut her hair and spoke of it in the manner she did is realy a show and sound of depression talking!!!.. Beautiful she is,,
🤣🤣🤣
😭😭😭
She seemed so cool and relaxed at first 😧😧😧 😭😭😭
She's not healed yet from what her ex husband put her thru. She needs to get back in therapy.
Yes, at first! Imagine being on a date with her!! 🤣😂😂
@@privatelifejust_4me right!! Kendra face when it took a turn… 😭😭😭
The Delusion is Real aka Delusional aka Emotionally Damaged 💔
Gotta let people talk lol
This is a perfect example of why Sistas need to Love , Support & teach one another . This lady clearly didn’t get what she needed growing up & this is why her picker is off .
For women, their bad choices are ALWAYS someone else’s fault. For men, their bad choices are just THEIR bad choices.
True but if u stay within the black race, it's my opinion that the pick is slim.
U right she probably didn't get what she needed growing up but you want a man talk to a man
@@tid8583 especially if you're trying to find a good woman without children or serious issues
@@tid8583 you’re an idiot. Race has nothing to do with it. Africans are “Black(er)” than African Americans and their societies have some of the highest marriage rates and intact traditional extended families on the planet.
"A Woman will always show you who they are if you let them talk. Ask them a limited amount of questions, sip some tea, actively listen, and keep your mouth closed. She will tell you everything you need to know." Appreciate the game Dad!! You a real O.G...
Shit that was some shit my mother told me!! Since I didn’t have a father 😂 I believe women do that because they have more of a friendly/nurturing nature than men.
We’re oftentimes protectors of many things including personal information, friends, family, ect.
Just let them speak....the lies will turn into the truth 🤫
I do this with men as well be it in business, friendship or relationships. The more they have, the more they love to speak endlessly about theirselves & there lies the truth that clothes & accolades can’t hide. Its common knowledge & totally goes both ways. Listen long enough & people will show you who they really are. Silence is golden.
My Grandma said the same thing..But, she meant it for both male and female ❤
You're always around judging women, you're a bitter old man
I’m praying that more GenX Aunties mentor more of these babies. We down bad as a community.
There is no community.
Women like her don't want to listen to the women who have come before on how to navigate and not get stuck kids with multiple men. They call them bitter and jealous of them.
The Gen X women just stayed with men through their bs. I don't recommend that either.
Gen X is the problem. They didn't listen or learn anything from Big Mama. They didn't pass down any values.
@@boastenandbraggin3947 That's still better than being a baby mama. Women need to move past this idea that marriage is like a romcom. If you're with someone for life, 60+ years, then you are going to have problems sooner or later. Better to put in the work to maintain that than bring kids up in an unstable environment.
Around 15:00 mark she starts acting out the chaos. She can't let go of the past and continually replays it in her mind so it stays fresh. This will never change without intensive therapy. She will always stay in chaos as it's her comfort level. Seen it many times.
You're exactly right, she doesn't want any discipline in her life
I like you. You're right
I should’ve waited but I fast forward to the 15 min mark and I’m
Secondhand embarrassed to watch
Right. She loves chaos.
Many get comfy & expose themselves. I LOVE how many forget this is a DATING SHOW.
😂 omg for sure. She got color comfortable & forgot she was online instead of in her hood sharing the same struggle love with her other ghetto counterparts.
😂
Where are the people that have standards before conceiving a child?
Not on Instagram 😂😂😂😂
having fun and finding themselves.
I asked the same question
Busy going to therapy, practicing self love, getting themselves prepared mentally, setting standards for themselves to attract better partners
@@Alyssaj1236 i think you missed the point
I feel like I just witness a person's 1st therapy session, when the therapist asks "so what brought you here?"
She's accountable for the most part with all the dysfunction I really respect that she knows those were her decisions
Are you going to claim lil Reese ? Take care of that baby 😢
@@meloniejobe9522 nope
Exactly
I love these ladies responses when asked…. “Why you think you single?”😂 can’t wait for a woman that says “probably because I got multiple kids, I’m overweight & a bad attitude”
Whenever that question gets asked on the various platforms and the answer starts with something like "because men". I automatically tune them out.
That's me 😂
i can’t wait until somebody answers that with, “cause i need to be! raising and caring for my children are my 1st priority and i need to make sure they do not repeat my bad choices and end in stupid situations! the best way to make sure they get the best starting chance possible, i’ve made myself 100% available to them and their needs. i’ve put dating on the sidelines until my last one turns 18. currently, a relationship would be too much strain on me and my household because it takes more mental energy than i’m able to provide. i can only raise them once. i want them to look back and be proud of the life i lived in front of them and appreciate that i wanted the best for them by making them my 1st priority.!”
😂😂😂😂
Or I was love and attention starved and I tried to find that through sex
There is a difference in revisiting the past and reLIVING the past. I’m praying for this woman’s healing. 🙏🏾
Agreed… ❤️ 🙏🏾
She has a lot going on as others have pointed out. She should focus on her kids. She mentioned constantly beating them which is basically passing down trauma, and her youngest recently diagnosed as autistic, which is a whole other can of worms. It’s ok to be single. Also, I know passing harsh judgement on black single mothers is all the rage these days, but it always takes two to create a broken home. There is room for improvement for all, including the men living their delusions of being a Nick Cannon.
Nope. The women are to blame. We can ALL see the dysfunction with the men but WOMEN are choosing to continue to lay down and procreate….the women are allowing themselves to be the vessels for broken homes. Both are to blame but it’s 2022 and there are PLENTY of birth control options for women to protect themselves.
That's not true one person can break a home. It takes two to keep a home together.
@@boastenandbraggin3947 no, it takes two. One stays and one goes; and sometimes it’s necessary.
Well said d taylor
No, it’s your fault. The man would have no access to the vagina, I y’all didn’t give it up. If y’all were forcing men to wed you before he bed you, there would be a less of a chance of this happening. 🤷🏾♂️
Her explaining all her BD drama is giving me "typical summer nights in the projects" vibes 😂
lol.. I hate this comment made me laugh
Lol
That’s a god book title lol
Please explain. 😂😂😂
😂😂😂
Dang! She put ALLLLL her business in the streets. Wow! I hope she can continue with therapy.
I’ve always been open like this tbh
I feel so sorry for these women on this show, they go from man to man to man producing children trying to fill a void that only self LOVE can cure...several women have come on the show having almost just had a child. So many bw are suffering from unhealed trauma trying to heal our wounds with our wombs .
Ladies one child is bad enough now especially if you have multiple different baby daddies YOU'RE DONE CAPEESH!!!!
@@Tre38843 just say its brotha...its over for them!
Yup, just like men go from wmn to wmn creating babies & multiple broken/fatherless homes
@@ToBHonest... the problem is women be the ones stuck with babies and then go on Kendras show and get mad when she says multiple kids limit your dating options. THEY DO...So ladies either you want kids or a man because a man with any substance will Not sign up for this...that's the problem
Actually, self love is secondary. You need the love of God first and foremost
These type of women need to stay away from relationships. Some people are better off being single.
Everyone deserves love; however, I do think she needs to focus on healing and herself for a while.
@@DrHen-xd3rv no one deserves anything she can get enough love from her children
Those types of men as well. If we had more men have these types of comments under guys social media pages like Future instead of looking up to him, that would be a good.
I'm not excusing her behavior, but I believe the guys with multiple baby mamas should have the same amount of criticism and the same amount of therapy.
There should be a push from more bllkmen to hold other bllkmen accountable for controlling their s3xual appetite and to stop straight up lying, finessing women out of sEx knowing they have no intentions of doing what they tell the women they are going to do. The future faking is at an all-time high.
If I got all of the promises that were told to me from guys just to have s3x, I would have been remarried, be in a "power couple" relationship, and would have been to all of the nice places in restaurants I was going to be taken to.🤣🤣 If that was condemned just as much, men would be doing their part in helping the situation.
A woman wouldn't be able to have multiple baby daddies or be considered a h0e if the men refused to sleep with her because they are against women sleeping around. Men PROUDLY talk about how they finesse women out of sex with no intentions of marrying them. That should be shamed and frowned upon equally to women with multiple baby daddies.
The community will always be trash if the men are held to a different standard than the women.
This is my observation from a woman with ONE child from an ex-husband of over 10 years in an awesome co-parenting situation. Her story may not be my story, but it easily could be with the amount of men that try to talk to me on a regular basis that try to finesse me out of sex.
I'm confused because I get online and see men saying women should be traditional, but yet every guy that tries to holler at me tries to rush to sex immediately even though I carry myself as a lady at all times and was raised very traditionally from parents that have been married for over 40 years. NONE of that means nothing to men. They all say it does to get in your pants, but they don't mean it.
I'm trying to figure out where all of these guys online with these high standards are in my real life. All I know is guys trying to have sex me. Especially here in DUSTlanta, GA HIGHSCHOOL. As soon as I show that I have standards and I do not have sex in a couple of weeks (and sometimes in a couple of days) I get ghosted. I get all the promises in the world without even being asked to be taking on a date. I can't even remember the last time I was asked to be taking on a date, but I've had at least four guys try to holler at me over the last couple of days alone. 🤔🤔
It doesn't matter if I have weave or not. It doesn't matter if I wear makeup are not, doesn't matter if you are in a suit with stockings or not, work for yourself, make good money, not in the streets, carry yourself like a lady, not twerking on tables, have a low body count, haven't had sex in forever, being a virgin, not overweight, so on and so on, we still get tried like a h0e on the streets. #FACTS
I wish men could be a woman for at least a month to see how much cap it is on TH-cam when it comes to men and talking about wanting women with standards.
With the amount of men that try to holla to me, you would think my odds would be a lot better with meeting some of the men with all of these high standards on TH-cam. 🤔🙄
I wish men would just keep it real and say they don't want to settle down unless they find a woman that will allow them to still act like they're single and not blaming women for their reason to not settle down. #TheCapOnThisApp 🧢🧢 smh 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
@@harlemnights4381 sooooo you want my kids to be intimate with me and take me out on dates and pay the bills and treat me like a Queen!?! 😂😂😂 y’all really say anything I see
@@AkakeyshiaCole555 Not a bad idea for you but I'd your kidd are smart as soon as they turn 18 they should leave you until you grow up. Goodluck
She’s still hurt 😔 it went from wanting a date into a erratic therapy session.
Healing is what she needs. I can understand the pain. But one thing I’ve realized with interacting with men “who aren’t ready” - as women you will be stuck with the kids whether you like it or not and that’s what makes a lot of women bitter at life - you aren’t free anymore.
(I am learning myself- this is definitely something to teach my daughters) be wise in who you laying down with a lot of people will waste your time and then your the one left hurt with kids to take care of solely. Men are free no matter how many kids they make.
It’s unfortunate but true. And please people understand someone’s story before judging. Some men are playing and the mask doesn’t drop till someone is either married or pregnant
Correction the men who don’t care about their kids and don’t care about being fathers are free. A guy that is on his purpose and handling his business, actively in his kids lives does not have free time to do whatever he pleases. There are a lot of men out here in the black community that fit the mold.
@@MrHoldThaWheel and this is what I meant so yes I agree
Agree 100%.
It’s cool for us to judge this sister in the comments but we should be praying for her. No judgement, we all got ish going on. Just pray for her.
Thank you 🙏🏾 at least someone has compassion for the young lady
This lady is combative. I ain't praying for her. She's a dangerous minded person. She needs therapy not prayer.
@@kylefrazier6773 Buuuuut prayer is waaay more effective than therapy. Holy Spirit can get to the core of a person waaaaay better than a mere human. 🤷🏽♀️ (I’m not trying to be argumentative either😀)
What you are speaking of is not reality
If anything she should be getting counseling instead of us just praying for her that's fairytale stuff
Kendra’s expressions have me laughing. Great questions and I appreciate that there is some compassion for her. She needs to focus on her goals because the wrong man will derail her plans. I agree that she may also need to continue to talk to someone.
“Getting stuck in the past is like guarding a cemetery.”
A truck driver that does hair on the side, to a plastic surgeon or "someone that delivers babies"... Wtf is going on? Kendra is getting trolled. Still watching, but I had to pause to type this.
Bruh. Lol
I'm confused myself
Lmaoooooo 💀
😅😂🤣
I thought the same thing!... Dreams of becoming a doctor but, she got 4 kids and major BD drama. She's DONE! Her wants are just fantasy at this point. Take your ball & go HOME!
Only a guy with no job, no prospects and no place to live would even think of being with this woman. She is certifiable
😂😂😂
Well she doesn't want them so...
Damn.
💯
Why?? Here’s just live and yours NOT!!
Her flash back was hilarious! I was like what the heck is going on!
My face 🤯😵💫😳 sis reminded me of someone with military PTSD or something.
I'm living the single, single,single, single, LIFE!!!!
Cameo, very nice.
@@lupavo1738 lmao!!!!!! You know it!!
For how long lol
Lmaoo pleasee
Shay seems nice honest and hardworking. I hope she gets back into therapy continues to raise her children and goes for her doctorate degree. It is never too late to course correct and self develop. I say leave the men alone for awhile and focus on your goals. Good luck.
she aint got a choice but to leave them alone lol
So you'd hook up one of your family members with this woman for a serious relationship?
She should NOT date until her youngest is 18yrs. Stay in therapy
@@meloran2571 he'll no
@@funstuffkeepmunchinbethank7848 exactly. They're just talking. They're either just like her or she's the type of friend they keep around.
She's pretty and her gap is genuinely cute. Best of luck homegirl!
She’s pretty but she has the brain of a pubic hair
I love woman with a gap tooth 😍
@@thunderjoy7250 And three different baby daddies. GTFOH... Women like these are DONE.
Thanks
She definitely has a lot going on. I honestly think she's still hurt from her past due to how she spoke about it with so much passion and her voice started to shake. I pray she can go back to therapy and finally heal
No accountability for actions
Glad you made that point. I didn't want to write a very long comment, but I realized that she never held herself accountable for her decisions. I heard nothing but excuses.
@@jermaineburgess3767 ... and sadly, I don't think she'll allow a man to lead in the relationship. Seems to me she may be one of those women who needs to have the last say.
@@be.youtiful4621 my child mother is that way I told her she is a dictator I have no say so in what my son does I'm just used as a wallet now found out my son got the c19 vaccine she didn't ask my opinion but I can't be mad she is a 3 time failed baby mother I blame myself for dealing with her all her other kids are bums with no dads I'm the only guy in the picture until August I'm moving away she wants to play the father role well I can't do shit anyway 😪
@@jermaineburgess3767 absolutely none
Do you have ANY idea how difficult schooling is? Especially for the disciplines you’ve listed? Those who actually make it prepare during their whole lives sacrificing their twenties and thirties pursuing them. Incredibly expensive and competitive. Not a fly-by-night whim of a wish 🤦🏻♀️ This isn’t just directed to her specifically. A lot of people think they deserve something just because they want it.
Let her dream u Debbie downer 🤮
I personally know. 💯
@@nikkibarnzable If being a Debbie downer means giving her a reality check, then so be it. Why not offer her tangible advice she can actually use to make her life better instead of “letting her dream” and still have the same outcomes?
Listening to people in that profession, you're 100%. Many report depression, anxiety etc. Worry over liability or not correctly documenting some detail.
Bruh big facts people who go through that when they come out the other side they want to marry a trophy not a dumpster fire.
Flint in the building!! Wishing her the best!
Beating and yelling at the children is ABUSE-that’s not discipline
We should not judge her but pray she elevates herself and do right by her children
I'm not gonna crap on her ambition to become a doctor because I'm doing it as an older nontrad. However, with all of the responsibilities she has, I would recommend exploring other healthcare careers as well. Becoming a Physician Assistant is a good option. It's a 2 years master's program with flexibility in practice. You can hop around in specialities. Anesthesiology assistant programs are lowkey but offer a solid career with a very high earning potential after 2 years. Last but not least, nursing is also a good option. You can become an NP and have a good amount of autonomy.
But girl, if becoming a physician is what you want, you can do it!!!
Good luck to you.
Great info. Thanks for sharing!
There is a trauma surgeon here in Atlanta that used to be a well-known Black porn actress. Now she has MD and MBA behind her name. So if she can go to medical school and become a physician, anyone can.
Stop the cap...
I think nursing might be her best best. With 4 kids she needs something flexible. I’ve seen a few online programs.
Glad I’m not a man. The options are horrendous😵💫
I'm glad women are starting to be honest her life is a dumpster fire
Just stay single is what I tell most men
now you see why men aren't getting married anymore. this is what men are supposed to pick from.
Now you know why half of BM choose to remain single and childless. It's pretty ratchet out here
I’m happy someone can break the girl code long enough to see how tragic things are for a decent hard-working man.
Any man who slides in her DM deserves whatever happens to him.😐
I'm only a minute in and I agree. It's getting worse as I'm typing this wow. Recreational use only, at best.
😆 dang I can't get some and go
Damn...
@@stinkreezy2791 dont get popped 🤷🏿♂️🤣
True True Truth
"My baby daddy cant touch me", is soooooo funny to me.. Like, "Ma'am, the damage in done!"
Awww positive thoughts to Shay! She seems like a beautiful human. Hard working, co-parenting a child with a special need, etc. Shay, you got this!!
You forgot crazy, drama filled, masculine, talks too much and needs therapy
She told ALL her business. 😳
This shit upsets me..there is no shame..I’m holding ninjas accountable for this man
This is an absolute DISASTER
No shame. 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️😡😡😡😡
Ladies one child is bad enough now especially if you have multiple different baby daddies YOU'RE DONE CAPEESH!!!!
@@Tre38843 stop commenting the same 💩 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄
😕. Just focus on your self, and the right one will come along. That’s exactly how it happened for me and a lot of other women I know. Social media is not the best representation of all men out here. Most good dudes are not even on social media, they don’t have time for it lol…they working and building stuff. Ladies just work on yourself and be ok with being ALONE! It’s not the end of the world.
Focus on yourself and the right one will come along? What terrible advice. Since you know where the good dudes are, direct her there.
@Mr.Rollins why cant it ever be im trash and i attract trash men? Its always the men and I'm great
You just said alot ! Men I meet that have things going on are not on social media or barely on it. The ones that are, are the ones complaining about woman all day. They focused on the wrong thing.
Haha wait, so you think a good man is coming along to deal with this bullshit?? She had to move to another state, just to get away from a pookie that was trying to kill her. This dude didn’t even care that she was his child’s mother and you think a good man is going to want to date her??? Negative.
@@CookWithStephh So the women on social media don't have things going on either? Women been using media to complain about men for decades.
I’m not sure this is well thought through. There’s too many things that have started and not finished. It’s important to have a focus on one or two things and maintain all of your energy there.
Whatever happens, the children need to be secure. With a child who is diagnosed with autism, it’s hard work also. I think you also underestimate the effort needed to build a blended family. The vetting process is important and you may need to start slow as more men in the children’s lives can be detrimental.
I think the doctor ambition needs careful consideration. It is possible but it will certainly be at the expense of the children’s future because Medicine is tough and you’re currently working a physically demanding job.
It’s your life, but please take the time to identify the non-negotiables and from there opportunities will arise.
Very solid advice 👌🏾
Well said ✨
Great advice.....I also think dating should be off the table for her, until further notice!
@@tochukwunjoku too much pots on the stove, something gonna get neglected…
Dear Single Mothers: You have kids to raise and Ill just be in the way of that. Besides, the kids come first. Therefore, I shouldn't be there. Any time I ask of you will take away from your babies.😎👍🏿
Same for these serial baby daddies out here
@@mekielabush Well those are the dudes you all apparently chose. Accept the consequences.
Ladies one child is bad enough now especially if you have multiple different baby daddies YOU'RE DONE CAPEESH!!!!
@@Tre38843 they choose not me not in that category thank you
@@Tre38843 this reply has nothing to do with my comment. I commented that serial baby daddies don’t have time to date either they have kids to raise.
Lord have mercy can you imagine going to a doctor who says “finna??”
@@Roccofan Yo cuz you trippin fur real. Ain’t nothin wrong wit how I’s speak. 😂
not u slamming aave. i’m sure she’d have the decency to cut off all aave and slang. many black doctors do
How many black doctors have you been around??
She got bebe kids
"I'm not the one to be controlled." Fellas listen and listen well.
Some forms of control can be abusive.
@@Missmewbs Ignore mistake in short were women who use that control words are saying is basically "you can't tell me nothin" ...
Yessss sir they betta 🤷🏾♂️🤔😎
@@Missmewbs they know what it means they always try to flip the narrative.
@@JDMHaze I'm just stating a fact. Some women who say this, it may be a red flag to you all; however, for some women or (men), they may very well be in abusive relationships. I'm not saying this is her circumstance. I'm just adding a different perspective to the conversation.
" I don't count that marriage..." 🤔🤔🤔
" That's how I feel in my head.." WTF?
2022 female logic...facts are irrelevant...the only thing that matters is how they feel.
That blew mines 2 like wow. Incredible! And the worst part is she really means that shyt 2! 🤷
The kind that says "I'm a virgin", but got a whole baby at home. Excuse: "I didn't like my baby's father, so that don't count"...
probably got 6 kids and 6 baby daddies but 1 of the fathers took care of an xtra 1 cause the real daddy was an alleged dead beat. so she really claiming to have 5 baby fathers. that’s project math. that’s the only place a person can put that equation together and turn out answers like this.
Women in this situation are emotionally and physically incapable of bonding . I wish her the best.
She wants to be a doctor ??? I don’t think she knows what she’s signing up for lol.
Right she couldn’t even say OB … talkin about the doctor that deliver babies. She has a LONG way to go if at 31 she’s just now getting her associates. Not impossible but she got get focused!
People should look into NP and PA positions.
@@none8726 shid I was nervous had a brain fart damn! A person has to be so perfect for yall and y’all still gon fine SOMETHING 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
Damn she from my hometown Flint MI it’s so rough on all levels that’s why I moved at 18 I’m now 46, never looked back!!!
4 kids
multiple fathers
unresolved trauma
does hair on the side
all of her past men were pookies
She's not obnoxious, but checks all the boxes.
It's a no from me, dawg.
"does hair on the side"🤣
only thing she missed was real estate
She seems nice but 4 kids will frighten off a lot of potential suitors. If any decent man is looking for marriage then he'd have to be comfortable taking on an already made family of 5. That's a lot to consider. I think she should focus on raising her children. 4 is a lot to keep a parent busy.
@@irvinkaleb I literally screamed lol
Ladies one child is bad enough now especially if you have multiple different baby daddies YOU'RE DONE CAPEESH!!!!
Can you imagine Kendra's facial expression serving on jury duty hot case ? She ain't hiding what she is hearing lol 😆
😂
Kendra after every testimony: “Whew Chile!”
Judge: “Contempt of Court!”
@@marcusgurley9495 lol
@@marcusgurley9495 😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂
Yesssssss CTFUUUUUUU
As black women we really need to learn ourselves I never watched Kevin samuels content, can't stand his attitude but when I watch some of these guest's on Kendras show, I am starting to agree with a few of his messages. I can't believe it's women with multiple kids and different fathers that think they are deserving of a stable, childless "God fearing" man.... like what makes them think they deserve to have the same things that I want when I have 1 kid.
Right
@@brielax4441 it's crazy out here.
So having 1, 3 or 4 fathers…I know there’s a difference I think … and I’m honestly asking what is the difference?! I use to think that Kevin Samuels was right about women being single mothers not having a chance… I no longer agree because I have 1 child and I learned from my experience and made sure it wouldn’t happen again til marriage…..
Well she didn’t say a childless man. Idt she’s necessarily competing for the same men your probably wanting. She’s has kids so she’ll probably be with a man with children as well.
While I partially agree with you. 1. She said she prefers men with kids & doesn’t care if he has 25 & 2. She just wants them to have their own … meaning be an adult!
Also your last statement is a little harsh … 1 or 4 kids a man still has to be with a you.. a BM & deal with another man.
I’m childless and desire stable, God fearing, childless and me telling you because you have 1 child you don’t deserve the same & childless people should date childless people. How do you feel about that?.
She is toooo masculine. I can’t. Why are you beating a side chick up AT HER JOB!? Just leave the dumpster guy. You drove garbage trucks.. you know how to take the trash out!
This is exactly why im specific on what i do in the trucking industry. Being a garbage driver is completly different in pay AND job duty than actually operating tractor trailers. Alot of people love calling themselves a truck driver when they really a pizza guy.
🤣🤣🤣I was going to say she’s probably a courier driver for a company
This is true
Preach.
i been saying that girl is lying bout being a truck driver and this is the 1st comment i’ve seen say it. that girl knows she work for the city waste management which is perfectly fine. but out here claiming to be a truck driver doing hair on the side and aspiring to be a surgeon. None of that sounds crazy to her cause she used to lying!
I find it funny how it is ALWAYS the man who is the problem…
Ladies one child is bad enough now especially if you have multiple different baby daddies YOU'RE DONE CAPEESH!!!!
That will never change. You even hear women leaving men who are too nice in their words
Unfortunately she has no accountability Factor about herself
First of fckn all I was very GENERAL in my explanation… and for two with my childrens dad it was mainly THEM because if I say I want them back right now they’ll come running so yea! I took accountability in staying with them after seeing their 🚩
@@AkakeyshiaCole555 Ms. Meadows go find something to do with your tired self
This woman is a toxic mess. She’s attracted to the chaos. Just from listening to her I can tell that she literally stopped maturing as a teenager. The saddest part is that she’s responsible for (4) four people. SMH
Now she's trying, we can't hold ppl to the past. What they are trying to do now is the focus. That applies to MEN and WOMEN since y'all love thinking we take up for women smh
She wants to be a dr😳
@@FaithandNova but in what world are people NOT judged by their past?? I mean why do you think potential employers ask for resumes? to literally see what kind of work/ worker you have done/ were in the past.
if a guy try to holla and he had four kids by three different women. you'd judge him. as you should by the way it's an obvious red flag
@@FaithandNova,NEGATIVE!!! We most definitely should hold people accountable for their past actions! This “woman” seems to have a obvious pattern in her mating decisions. She would be a bad deal for any man (much less a decent man). She’d just bring him down. She’s got entirely too much going on.
@@FaithandNova Ladies one child is bad enough now especially if you have multiple different baby daddies YOU'RE DONE CAPEESH!!!!
I like her, and I hope she experience real love she deserves it, blessings ma🥰
Thanks!!!
She doing TOO MUCH. NEXXXXTTTT. PLEASE RUN if YOU DONT want to end UP LIKE the rapper TROUBLE ❌
Facts
God bless her, I hope she gets the help she needs to live the life she aspires to..🙏🏾😇
31 years old + single mother with 4 kids + not even an associates degree = future doctor?!?!?!?!
This woman has 9 kids and graduated MD school th-cam.com/video/u6jFytNnlis/w-d-xo.html
@SiArra Williams well either way that is
She can do it. It's going to be harder but with determination it can happen.
@@Missmewbs 🤣🤣🤡
@@Missmewbs how many fucking doctors you seen with pink hair 🙄
Despite it all…I really like her. She seemed very genuine and kind hearted at her core. Pretty lady as well. ☺️
It’s a dating show.
She’s 31 4 kids from 3 different baby daddy’s and sounds like a 15 year old little girl from the projects!!! This is so sad!!!!
😂 sad AF!
We’ll be extinct as a people with women like her, Ray Ray and Pookie Nem!!
Well she did said, "I'm loud but that's normal."
She was honest. Respect to Kendra for telling her
about lashes though.
Yeah she make me not want to wear lashes lm like it’s that bad?
@@Pixxiedolll True...Men can't really tell ladies that though. Kendra can. All those "accessories" are ok and but often seem to hide real femininity we seek. It makes men want you sexuality because it seems to tell us "I want to be seen."
This is when Kevin Samuels will be missed. You're 31, 4 kids, 3 dads, truck driving, do hair on the side talking about admiration to be a doctor??? Exactly where would a "MAN" fit into all of this? Why would any man in his right mind sign up for this? I'd focus on that trucking job, you are already in that industry, scale up.
I'm so over grown ass men talking about missing and needing KS, do you as a grown man really need another man to tell you this woman is a bad idea
@@marimarielove Nope. I agree. It's not to tell you if she's a good fit though. lol
KS helped many many people, myself included. (he dealt with men for years b4 women) Most people just pander to ladies for: s3x/ out of fear for backlash/ fear of being canceled/ or for profit like many pastors. It makes ladies feel good but gives them the wrong outcomes. KS had none of that so they got the blunt truth (most of the time that is NOT always).
@@marimarielove I’m so over people discrediting the point of the message. He’s missed because women listeners needed to hear it. We get that, they still don’t get it.
@@marimarielove Yes grown men did need him because most of our mothers are like this pink haired clown right here.
@@DJKidd301 and sadly you don't give a damn where your worthless daddy was, so you want women to lower their standards like your mother did and except any kind of BS, so you can have a pass to be the same piece of shit as your real daddy
What does she mean by he tried to "control" her?
he had standards
Correction : this young lady probably becomes combative when corrected.
@@JustChristianBlack I doubt it
Set boundaries?
@@brielax4441 you're probably right. Perhaps he woke up one day and had a change of heart
So i just wanted to throw in that ,MOST of the time if a female cuts off all of her hair she is going through some personal upheaval's
especially if she wakes up in the morning and that’s what she thinking bout doing and actually does it! On the verge of a mental meltdown!!
She was very transparent. I hope she does get therapy.
Ignore BW that prefer to be naive in their situation instead of being accountable of it.
I tell u one thing, she could NEVER be my doctor 🤣
Lol. I would be nervous if she just checked my blood pressure.
Looooooooooollllll
Heeeelllllll nawl🤣🤣
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She’d probably be a Medicaid doctor lol
Can we all agree that trying to find love is a BLOOD SPORT?
'Im not to be controlled."
You aren't to be birth controlled.
😂🤣
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Damn lol. That's good 🤣
What a comment!!
😅😅😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣
Pray sis spend time with your children 🙏🏽 God will send you someone. Don’t rush it. She seems like a really nice young lady. Good luck
When I grow up I wanna be a Plastic surgeon or an Astronaut
Can somebody answer this question for me ….. but where in the hell are the woman getting money from to feed two Children …. Shiiiiii it’s expensive for an adult to eat at Chic -Fil -A 😂😂😂😂😂🤷🏾♂️ I’m just asking for a friend
Bro word up and all of these women are big too
@@jermaineburgess3767 man I’m just saying … because I’m pretty sure there are many children there are just being fed by the public schools and that’s it 😡😡 they are starving food wise and from a life of substance 🙏🏿
Two words:
Child support
Alimony
@@liljerry496 They're eating and living good off the baby daddies income.
@@Maxrepfitgm shiii I guess
this another woman who needs to stop looking for someone and raise yo danm kids
And not beat the shit out of them. Where's CPS when you need them.
@@patriceshenelle7734 right that's why picking the right man decreases a woman stress smfh
@@patriceshenelle7734 yes that was actually sad to hear. she’s stressed out. children are work and they require a lot of patience and dedication to raise them properly.
@@patescortez88 That's true. If she can moan for 5 minutes for a nut. She can tolerate her children. That's why many homes are so dysfunctional today.
@@brielax4441 and that's why the right man for a provider and not what makes you pants wet
She needs to backtrack and get with one of them baby daddies.
Oh No! It came out after explaining the failure of her marriage. No accountability from her end.
Shay you can do it. Please do not let any one discourage you or you will regret. Nothing beats a failure but a try. May God be with you and bless you.❤
Something is seriously wrong with some of these women. Who wants to deal with her and her 4 kids? What man is that insane???!!!! WTF!!!!
Going to med school is her best bet. She will be around men who also are serious with studies. She can find someone there. I know a doctor that had 3 kids and married a woman with 5. They live in a mansion and blended the family well. Don't settle anymore young lady. Take your time and work on yourself and children.
Wow do you know what it takes to be a doctor. What’s the probability of that. Ya women think about the possibility 🤦🏾
Also, I love how she consistently points out her bad decision making- Sister, you are nowhere near mate material.
I am boo sorry
@@AkakeyshiaCole555 sorry but you're not and you need to seek professional help for you and the children that you are raising. the last thing you need to focus on is a man.
she’s only doing that cause she’s learned that people want her to acknowledge those things. then she goes right into her next lie or unrealistic ambition.
Yeah right. Shes better than most black men.
I wish her the best in her endeavors. I hope she continues to get therapy and heal. Just focus on your kids and your goals. The right person will come along when you least expect it.
She shouldn't be looking for a date with anyone. Clearly she don't have things in order.
Dating this woman would be like tying a boat anchor around your neck, then jumping overboard to see how long you can tread water before you sink.
Stop giving these chicks hope. No they won't, no man is signing up for this.
Nah
@@Mike_M. 😂😂😂😂
Now... who is supposed to come in and deal with THIS whole mess?!
She seems real and goal oriented good luck sis
These young people look older than people in they 40s
All them kids ! Lol
"We can see the emotion is not that far away" 🤣🤣🤣
This girl craziness came out at the end 😳. Just image a man hitting her up after this for a relationship 😂😂
😆 crazy
The pink hair kinda gave that away at start of the video.
This story was 👏 🙀 😯
yes future doctor- you can get it!!! please dont have no more babies until your qualified and married.