r/EntitledPeople - Karen Calls 911 When I Won't Let Her STEAL From Me!

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  • @WiseWordsbyWiki
    @WiseWordsbyWiki 2 ปีที่แล้ว +604

    2nd story: The bar is low if remembering her birthday gives him points.

    • @mondenkindqueen
      @mondenkindqueen 2 ปีที่แล้ว +118

      The fact that he has no problem spending money on himself, shows it’s not the money issue. It’s a priority problem.

    • @tyronmegawatts6580
      @tyronmegawatts6580 2 ปีที่แล้ว +39

      Cheap dude.

    • @pamithequeen
      @pamithequeen 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Yeah, totally

    • @GeorgieB1965
      @GeorgieB1965 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Guy is a cheap F, but at least he remembered. I can't even get my family to properly remember and/or celebrate my birthday properly.

    • @infblu3808
      @infblu3808 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      @@mondenkindqueen No context on what the woman is investing into the relationship.
      Maybe it is a lack of investment on both parties, but we don't know enough to make a judgment either way. As the accused party, the guy is so far in the rights. Sounds like he returns what he feels is equal to the investment put in by the other party.

  • @althealee9375
    @althealee9375 2 ปีที่แล้ว +188

    Story 3: “an honest mistake”??? An honest mistake is seeing that your son took someone’s switch and telling them to give it back right away, NOT calling the freaking cops!! Why do people even lie about that shit?? I don’t understand at all

    • @Dom_P1
      @Dom_P1 2 ปีที่แล้ว +35

      Lady wanted a free switch and figured his race would help her get it and expected the cop to do what many cops do, arrest him

    • @MysticLuster
      @MysticLuster 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I slightly question the veracity of the story, because why wouldn't the cop ask if he wanted to press charges? Why wouldn't HE ask the cop if he could press charges, if he's so dissatisfied with the resolution? It just seems like either the story isn't real and wasn't fully thought out, or else everyone involved is rather dumb.

    • @curtisalex456
      @curtisalex456 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      @@MysticLuster Really?! There are too many stories like this on TH-cam.

    • @atrane365
      @atrane365 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@MysticLuster probably just didn't include thst part, and the woman wasn't actually charged with anything

    • @michaelw1096
      @michaelw1096 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @@MysticLuster I know what you mean but considering its in a larger city like DC. The cop didnt want to waste any time on something that small. He was wrong not to take it more seriously but he figured she is leaving the premises and the items were returned. In my city, the cops are so busy with major crimes that "small" crimes get over looked all the time and people dont get the option to press charges unless its assault. What's sad is that OP has been raised to believe its because of his skin color and not his location and gender. Women have always gotten lighter treatment. Based on this story that cop wasnt a racist cop by any means.

  • @Derekloffin
    @Derekloffin 2 ปีที่แล้ว +114

    Story 3 really irks me. If I was that cop I would have said: "Okay lady, how about you produce this other switch your son apparently has that you mistook for this man's switch?" At the least she should have been charged with filing a false police report. If she could actually produce this other switch, okay I'd let her off, but I'm near certain she's lying through her teeth.

    • @lorifiedler13
      @lorifiedler13 2 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      She was weaponizing that he was a scary black man.
      She should have gotten fined for calling in a false report.

  • @logirl1975
    @logirl1975 2 ปีที่แล้ว +207

    Honestly in story 2 he’s showing just how invested he is in this relationship. If you can’t put extra effort into birthdays for someone you claim to love then says quite a lot in my opinion

    • @bluntizard4481
      @bluntizard4481 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Story 2 she is absolutely entitled

    • @pjschmid2251
      @pjschmid2251 2 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      @@rachel-in-the-208 oh and I’ll take you out for your birthday but you have to pay half. Really, you’ve got to be kidding me. And fluff was right it is the thought that counts and this guy put in zero thought. The fact that fluff thought that simply remembering what day her birthday was and putting in minimal effort was thoughtful makes me a little worried about him.

    • @koriandrstarfire9514
      @koriandrstarfire9514 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      😂 unless there's a third party involved in the relationship then the rules and guidelines are set by the couple. And if one doesn't feel like they were treated fairly then they should talk in out between themselves. I paid for my entire birthday this year, because my SO and I couldn't afford to spend a lot on my birthday. I bought gifts for myself and my SO. I bought things for the dogs as well. But he couldn't afford to give me the birthday I wanted, however he still tried and he still showed me support. Honestly OP should talk to her boyfriend instead of bringing it to strangers attention.

    • @connannbarbarin3033
      @connannbarbarin3033 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      effort or money?

    • @lorifiedler13
      @lorifiedler13 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      He wants out and is hoping she'll dump him. Then he can say she was a gold digger.
      And he wanted to split the bill for her birthday dinner? He said he was taking her out for dinner. Dude, if you cant afford to buy her dinner, go somewhere less expensive.

  • @AlexOvTheAbyss
    @AlexOvTheAbyss 2 ปีที่แล้ว +272

    Second Story: Yeah, kinda a hard one, since people treat birthdays differently. Some make a huge deal about it, while others don't care at all. I'm the type who will buy my friends lunch/dinner for their birthday. If she spent a lot on him for his and he cheaped out, I can understand the frustration.

    • @robertbode2716
      @robertbode2716 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      He didn’t even pay for her dinner. No excuse for the POS

    • @marilynbergemann6808
      @marilynbergemann6808 2 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      Happy birthday. I hope on your next birthday You have a new boyfriend.

    • @Gazzxy
      @Gazzxy 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      much to my partners and some work colleagues over the years annoyance. I have a habbit of even forgetting my birthday. once had my boss run up to me calling me an ass. in responce to my slightly confused face (only slightly as I actually am an ass but people dont usualy run at me shouting it) I had not reminded him it was my bday, and he would have changed the scedual.
      he also couldnt belive I genuinly forgot and since I was already working all was fine.
      He did pay for some beers after work.. which am ok with, bday or not ya dont turn down free beer

    • @vulpixle9659
      @vulpixle9659 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I’m making my friend a rag doll style plushy of drizzt from D&D

    • @EveryDayALittleDeath
      @EveryDayALittleDeath 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Yeah, I think the best measure of if she's being entitled is how much effort she put in for his birthday. Though if his hasn't happened yet, it could be a communication issue with him not really thinking birthdays are a big deal and her thinking they are, in which case they just need to talk.

  • @silverflight01
    @silverflight01 2 ปีที่แล้ว +89

    Story 3: If she really owned the Switch, the Karen wouldn't get so defensive when asked to prove she owned it. Yet, she stole it, and most likely knew she would be proven so, and tried to steer things away.

    • @AurizenDarkstar
      @AurizenDarkstar 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      She probably did it because a. the owner of the Switch was a large black man, b. it was a wealthy neighborhood and c. she was an entitled white woman. I hate to state it like that, but I'm sure the woman hoped that when she called the cops, they would have just handcuffed and arrested the owner of the switch and she and her entitled kid would walk off with his property.

    • @Lindseyisloony
      @Lindseyisloony 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I get what you're saying but actually plenty of people do get defensive when asked to prove they own things. Any cop will tell you. There are videos of people getting really upset about showing recipts for expensive items on the way out of stores when it's such an easy thing to do. You wouldn't believe how mad some people get about something so simple as pressing a button or two to allow a cop to resolve a dispute like that cause by the time they get involved both parties are already unhappy. Finding out who's unhappy for a valid reason can be a real chore.

    • @stormzcyn9719
      @stormzcyn9719 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      The sad reality is that even if you can prove it's yours through knowledge about it doesn't mean you get it back. Cops in our area require proof of ownership through warranty or recipe or some other paper records with your ID or card info.

    • @SilverScaleMA
      @SilverScaleMA 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Someone tried to steal my phone once. I had just upgraded to a S20 and this teen girl just picked it up and started walking off. I was at a library and I called her out on it and that caught the attention of one of the librarians who decided to mediate the conflict and wouldn't let either of us leave. The girl had the gall to say that she was taking back her phone and that I was lucky she wasn't calling the cops on me. So I dared her to unlock it and I could see her understanding that she was screwed when she activated the screen because I use both the fingerprint and pattern pins. She tried to backtrack saying I must have put the controls on after stealing it and that proved nothing. So I made the point that, well, my name is on the account for the phone itself if they gave me two minutes to pull it up. So the librarian made her give it to me, I immediately unlocked it, went into my Tmobile account and showed both of them that yes, the name on the account matches the name on my driver's license and the number on the account was for that specific phone. What was funny is that she would just not let it go that it was hers and I had just set it up to look like mine. I finally asked her what her phone number even was because if someone had stolen an S20 you can track them with the phone number and at that point she balked and ditched. Apparently the librarian had been so close because the girl had tried the same thing several times and the police were waiting for her outside to question her and that me not backing down but also staying calm meant she stuck around long enough they would probably actually catch her leaving this time. Don't know exactly what happened after but they didn't need me because of the librarian's witness account and proof they had already gathered over a few weeks. I really did like that library...

  • @silverflight01
    @silverflight01 2 ปีที่แล้ว +102

    Story 4: I really hate that we still have the type of people that would take advantage of the nice ones. It's a good thing that Martha lost all of her friends because of her own narcissism.

    • @SLOTHSRIDEUNICORNS
      @SLOTHSRIDEUNICORNS 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      AMBER HEARD
      AMBER HEARD
      AMBER HEARD
      AMBER HEARD

    • @SLOTHSRIDEUNICORNS
      @SLOTHSRIDEUNICORNS 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      They are always women.

    • @CosmiChaos1129
      @CosmiChaos1129 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@SLOTHSRIDEUNICORNS absolutely!

    • @startheangel9760
      @startheangel9760 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I wonder why they didn't try taking Martha to therapy? she sounds more mentally unstable than entitled

    • @dougodyssey50
      @dougodyssey50 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      And the victim, despite having so much to give, will probably never date again and just remain alone by choice. There destruction these selfish people cause is immeasurable.

  • @Ryujishida
    @Ryujishida 2 ปีที่แล้ว +91

    Birthday story: First thing you should do is talk to him. Talking to us isn't going to help much as we don't know either of you. I can think of a few reasons why he did things the way he did, some excusable and some not. As someone else said, he may not be used to buying jewelry or he may not put much stock in birthdays and/or got the impression that you don't. Or he may have something else planned that he hasn't revealed yet. Whatever it may be, you need to talk to him, not random strangers on the internet. The most we can do it's throw guesses at the wall and the internet at large is not good at guessing about relationships, especially Reddit and TH-cam comments. And regardless of how things end up, I wish you a wonderful belated birthday.

    • @gorilladisco9108
      @gorilladisco9108 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      One thing about men is that they don't care much about those "special dates" .. birthday, anniversary, whatever. Ask a man what's the birthday of their mother, and 80 to 90% will give you a blank look. Ask a woman the same question and 100% of them will answer it right away.
      Men and women are just different.

    • @DavidWsTrainVideos
      @DavidWsTrainVideos 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      You can also argue that with the 1 year anniversary coming up in less than 2 months, maybe he has something big planned for that, That he’s saving up for.

    • @Ryujishida
      @Ryujishida 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@gorilladisco9108 Generally that is true. The only birthday of my family I remember is my mom's, and that's mostly because it's 2 day before mine. I tend to rely on the rest of my family to be reminded of birthdays.

    • @Ryujishida
      @Ryujishida 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@DavidWsTrainVideos That's very true. It's probably what I'd do in his situation. Especially since 30 has never felt like a milestone birthday to me. It certainly wasn't one I celebrated. So he may be saving for something big for the anniversary since, to him, it may be a bigger deal.

    • @willowtabby4926
      @willowtabby4926 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@gorilladisco9108 hmmm, ok, guess I'm not female then, as I very often struggle to remember "special dates", aside from maybe a vague sense of "there's this thing coming up, right?"
      - sincerely, a female

  • @ernestlemmingway1124
    @ernestlemmingway1124 2 ปีที่แล้ว +125

    *Third Story:* It's people like that Karen that make me lock my electronics, including physical locks where possible, and install tracking programs on them. The latter are security risks but better that I can find them if they get stolen.
    *Last Story:* Yikes! Martha sounds like a total narcissist and not the functional kind, either. OP dodged more than a bullet by dumping her.

    • @SLOTHSRIDEUNICORNS
      @SLOTHSRIDEUNICORNS 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      "NEVER SAW A LIGHT AT THE END OF THE TUNNEL."
      BECAUSE SHE WAS BLOCKING IT!

    • @demegwgaming
      @demegwgaming 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      This is why I consider Karen's Not people

    • @woswasdenni1914
      @woswasdenni1914 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      marthy seemed tgo be stabled for years, something changed.
      that weoudl be the time for a psychiatrist

  • @terristroh3965
    @terristroh3965 2 ปีที่แล้ว +239

    30th birthday girl: he’s not in this relationship for anyone but himself. These are the red flags, the lights, bells, and sirens. You see it, you feel it. Now get on without him.

    • @antiloser-NFS
      @antiloser-NFS 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      Counter argument since OP mentioned that he was well off, maybe he is trying not to spoil her so that she falls in love with him and not his wallet because OP mentioned how cheap he was being so that could be the case. However, we don't know since we heard one side of the story

    • @PowerStruggle555
      @PowerStruggle555 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      @@antiloser-NFS theyve been dating for 10 months. maybe he doesnt want to spend a ton of money on fancy gifts just in case they break up within a few months. 10 months hasnt really hit the thresh hold of seriousness.

    • @antiloser-NFS
      @antiloser-NFS 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@PowerStruggle555 Very true

    • @JesusKreist
      @JesusKreist 2 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      @@antiloser-NFS
      There is "not wanting to spoil another person" and there is "don't care enough to care".
      For the 30th birthday of a supposedly loved person gifting said person a random joke birthday card, a very cheap necklace and the privilege of paying for their birthday dinner certainly is not the former, how ever you twist and turn the story.
      It is possible that his side of the story shines a different light, but from this story alone there are multiple red flags about him. Including flag pole and foundation.

    • @antiloser-NFS
      @antiloser-NFS 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@JesusKreist Yep, that's why we need the whole story. The joke card may have been a last minute thing but the inexpensive gifts could be him not wanting to spoil the girl too much. Or he could have thought the card was funny and thought the girl would like it. We don't really know as we don't have the whole story.

  • @AmandaGeyerSnobahr
    @AmandaGeyerSnobahr 2 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    Story 2: Could OP be the possible side-piece, that her boyfriend of 10 months is hiding from his wife? Small purchases on Amazon, single meals at restaurants, those can be explained away...

    • @Rhaenarys
      @Rhaenarys 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      That's a very good point.

    • @StarWizardGanymede
      @StarWizardGanymede 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Probably the case.

  • @vampy1923
    @vampy1923 2 ปีที่แล้ว +54

    Story 3: It's embarrassing that OP might be right with his guess - if he were the thief in the story, he probably wouldn't have gotten away with just being kicked out of the building. It is totally unacceptable that someone is punished more severely just because they have the "wrong" skin color.

  • @adame.9469
    @adame.9469 2 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    Final story: OP didn't just dodge a bullet, he dodged a nuke. I would of never thought there would be people who literally use others as straight up ATMs and nothing else to such a degree. If someone gets depressed because of 1 person's actions, something is *VERY* wrong.

    • @robinb.905
      @robinb.905 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I don't think he dodged it. He took a hit because of all the money she bled out of him, all the emotional abuse and damage, but luckily he survived this and was able to land in his feet

  • @SuperUnemployable
    @SuperUnemployable 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Story 3: OP should have pressed charges for theft and making a false police statement.

  • @petestorz172
    @petestorz172 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Re the story about the attempted Switch theft, the female should have been arrested for the attempted theft and her racist false 911 call. False accusations need to receive serious consequences.

    • @russlehman2070
      @russlehman2070 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I agree 100%. And what a horrible way to raise a child. Teach him that it's okay to steal, and lie when you get caught. Any decent parent would have made him return it and apologize.

  • @DarkEinherjar
    @DarkEinherjar 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    The Switch story has a good lesson. Guess the first thing I'll do when I get home is to set parental controls on mine.

    • @blitzwolfmon8297
      @blitzwolfmon8297 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I have parental controls on my Switch and it was easy to put them on the Switch as well.

  • @lindaouellette6656
    @lindaouellette6656 2 ปีที่แล้ว +208

    I’m a white woman in my fifties, and I am outraged and embarrassed by some idiots that pull stuff like this and get away with it, if you call the cops, then prove that YOU were in the wrong at the least, you should get a fine or a summons to appear in court and explain yourself.

    • @paulagoeringer9466
      @paulagoeringer9466 2 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      Yes, this.100%👍 start hitting them in their wallet and that will stop. Just as long as it is ALL their fault and they're wasting resources. I can't believe how many people call 911 over nonsense.😡

    • @Ketutar
      @Ketutar 2 ปีที่แล้ว +28

      "honest mistake", sure :-D "So, where's your son's switch? What's the name of your friend? Can you call him and ask him to tell us that he actually sold his switch to you? No? So... you stole an expensive item, called the police, lied to the police, accused an innocent man of a serious crime, and expect to get no consequences? No, ma'am."

    • @tarajamchenry171
      @tarajamchenry171 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      And that, ladies and gentlemen, is called 'white privilege' for those that say it doesn't exist.

    • @SailorMya
      @SailorMya 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Yea, they should have given her a fine or something not just an escort to her car... It is because they get away with it all the time and even when 100% wrong they get a easy out to the situation. No wonder they are getting worse...

    • @michanone
      @michanone 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Where I live, it's a offense to call the cops for a wrong accusation. You can get fined just because you did it.

  • @m2hmghb
    @m2hmghb 2 ปีที่แล้ว +59

    Story 2 can be him being cheap, him not being as invested, him seeing how the relationship goes, or him checking to see if she's a gold digger. Honestly the mention of the boyfriends financials make me the most concerned - I don't know many people who aren't married who divulge it to girlfriends - unless they're using the money to lure someone in. I'd honestly bail on the relationship - it seems like your financial plans don't match up and that's one of the biggest causes of divorce. Happy belated Birthday.

    • @DoctorOaks
      @DoctorOaks 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      I thought maybe he's just frugal, but if he's willing to spend money to treat himself to nice things it wouldn't be that. It could him trying to see if she's a gold digger, but even then it feels weird that he didn't at least pay for dinner. Reason being that, from the sound of it, they went out to dinner and he waited to tell her until after they had started eating to say he wanted to split it.
      It could just be that be doesn't view birthdays as a big deal while she does. It makes me curious what his own birthday celebration was like.

    • @toysruskid5074
      @toysruskid5074 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      I'd be happier with a sweet, well thought out letter. It could be written on free paper with a borrowed pen. But cheap jewelry and a joke card that doesn't even apply? I've gotten better birthday gifts from the dollar tree.

    • @mandymcnalis7551
      @mandymcnalis7551 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      @@toysruskid5074 exactly! Even my crappiest exes at least knew my likes enough to buy a card that applied to us/me. Even when my ex husband (emotionally clueless af) and I had zero money to buy gifts he'd write me a note or make dinner for us. I think she's talking about the cost aspect bc it's easier than admitting to herself that her bf either doesn't really know or care about her and gave her a gift that had about as much thought and love in it as a giftcard.

    • @Rhaenarys
      @Rhaenarys 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@DoctorOaks not to mention, for all we know, he could've had the bigger tab if it was split by person, not by half. He could've had her pay for part of his dinner on her birthday.

    • @sorinsnow3232
      @sorinsnow3232 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@xkittyxxkatx i think she mentioned the price because, at least as i saw, the lack of thought is already pretty apparent as the card bore no relevence, and she did heavily imply that he frequently splurges on himself on random days of no importance more than he did for her on her once a year birthday
      It seems to me shes mentioning his wealth because its of a significant amount to the point where a 20$ necklace off amazon *is* an afterthought/shows a lack of thought, like, to drag it to the extreme, imagine Mr Amazon himself, Bezos, buying his wife a random plastic ring from the dollar store on *her* birthday
      Normally id agree that mentioning the income is a red flag from her but it didnt seem like she was expecting a super expensive one, just one that seemed thoughtful, and that the price was an afterthought that added to the existing feeling of it not being so

  • @Danny_Mac_Author
    @Danny_Mac_Author 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Happy Birthday Melody! From a father of a daughter, I am telling you to consider dumping him. From what you said he sounds like he is self-serving to fill his needs without considering your feelings. If you chose to continue the relationship, there needs to be a long talk about expectations, feelings, and understanding of what your needs are in the relationship.

  • @HaakonTheRayquaza
    @HaakonTheRayquaza 2 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    Story 3: What i'm glad is that OP wasn't a victim of a Cliche Racist Cop, OP did everything correctly by remaining calm and pointing out all the holes in Karen's claims,
    it's not a good idea to act aggressively when a Police Officer is watching, even if Karen deserves to get the Empty Skull punched out of her

    • @soundwavegamer2321
      @soundwavegamer2321 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      No he’s in DC and Capital Police are more like an arm of the government they really only targets individuals who they feel looked at them the wrong way hell during the whole January 6th incident one of their officers beat a protester that had nothing in her hands and had surrendered so much so that she killed the individual after which this protester was said to have first died of an overdose, then her case of death was she was trampled, then finally was the video of the Capital police officer beating her to death with one of her colleagues trying to grab at her and screaming she down she isn’t moving. And then this cop was honored at the Super Bowl. Because when we praise cops we only praise those who fight for Democrats.and not for the average Joe

    • @BeefMeisterSupreme
      @BeefMeisterSupreme 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@soundwavegamer2321 gotta source?

    • @russlehman2070
      @russlehman2070 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@BeefMeisterSupreme Of course he doesn't have a source. He's not even smart enough to understand that the Capitol police had nothing to do with the story. It happened in a Virginia suburb of DC, for God's sake and Capitol police are only responsible for Capitol and grounds, not even all of DC. But he's a MAGAtard, and clearly not too bright.

    • @SonsOfLorgar
      @SonsOfLorgar 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@BeefMeisterSupreme yeah, his source is: his treasonous arse...

    • @BeefMeisterSupreme
      @BeefMeisterSupreme 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@SonsOfLorgar youtube sure didn't like your comment

  • @LeechiBites
    @LeechiBites 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    For Melody, I don't think you're being entitled really. Like obviously I don't think he has to spend a lot of money, but I do think that he definitely should have put some more thought into your present if he's going to give you anything, especially if you've been together for that long. Girl you deserve better cause I really feel like he doesn't take you seriously.

  • @allenbanks910
    @allenbanks910 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Switch guy: Why why why don’t people press charges?? GODDAMMIT!

  • @t3hp0larbear
    @t3hp0larbear 2 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    Story 2:
    You need to communicate. Or at least attempt to. You need to start up a mature, rational discussion with him about how his actions made you feel. It's not about the material or financial aspects in and of themselves, it's about how in that context they come across to you as empty gestures and it's bothering you. Everyone speaks different love languages, and a successful relationship comes down to how well the parties learn and "speak" each others' languages regardless of whether it's their native language or not. He might just not be aware of what makes you feel truly appreciated, especially if his own birthdays aren't something he makes a huge production about.
    If you try to open this discussion and he jumps immediately to calling you entitled or a gold digger without even attempting to meet you in the middle and listen, that right there is a deal breaker. A relationship truly fails when communication breaks down and there's no chance for reconciliation. You don't seem entitled, you're not asking for the world here, just a little more than what sounds like things that'd happen on a normal day.

    • @justtrouble1040
      @justtrouble1040 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Screw the boyfriend. A BS joke card and splitting HER birthday dinner? Unless you want to wait for HIS birthday…

  • @CromTuise
    @CromTuise 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    In the 4th story, OP didn’t dodge the bullet, he survived it.

    • @jasontoddman7265
      @jasontoddman7265 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Pretty much the same thought I had. He didn't dodge it; it gave him a serious wound at the very least. I'd have probably been vulnerable to such abuse myself if I weren't so very shy.

  • @sarizzlelynn
    @sarizzlelynn 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Story 3: if I was the guide I’d be like “good we don’t want your kind here in this community anyways if your going to steal from other potential neighbors”

    • @christophercuston
      @christophercuston 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I bet she put her on a "no lease" list. Just right above the background check.

  • @cliffcorson4000
    @cliffcorson4000 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    1st story
    The driver of the fire truck was most likely grinning for days after being told to move the cars
    And he/she was likely singing "Born to be wild" at same time

  • @EveryDayALittleDeath
    @EveryDayALittleDeath 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Happy Birthday Melody! You've been together 10 months, so there's a 5/6 chance you've celebrated his birthday with him. I think a good way to know if you're being entitled or not is to compare what you did for his birthday vs what he did for yours. If his birthday hasn't rolled around yet, what were you planning on doing? If there's a clear difference in the amount of effort you put in or planned to put in, then no, you're not being entitled.

  • @Maria-qd7jl
    @Maria-qd7jl 2 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    Birthday story: I think that he should've paid for dinner, especially since it was a birthday dinner. at least he did get gifts and maybe didn't want to buy anything expensive before at least a year. My brother had a girlfriend who he gifted really expensive stuff all the time before a year and found out she was using him for gifts and money and cheated a couples times. The bf might have gotten stung in a previous relationship. That doesn't mean that him not seeming to put effort in is justified, but it could be an explanation. Prolly best to talk with him about how you're feeling and being truthful with it. If he doesn't seem to change his ways or want to put in more effort, leave. It just shows he's not a good partner.

    • @antiloser-NFS
      @antiloser-NFS 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Exactly he could be hesitant to spoil her since he wants to see if she truly loves him or his wallet.

    • @DeMoraJS
      @DeMoraJS 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@antiloser-NFS Exactly, and she isn't doing very good on the test tbh.

    • @1toshi32
      @1toshi32 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@antiloser-NFS Or he is just a cheapskate.

    • @antiloser-NFS
      @antiloser-NFS 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@1toshi32 That could be it too, like I said before we don't know everything. OP should talk to her boyfriend about these concerns and then decide what to do next.

    • @1toshi32
      @1toshi32 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@antiloser-NFS Yep. Much better to talk to the partner. Men need things spelled out to them. They are not great in picking up hints. You nearly have to hit them with a brick. He is not a mind reader so talk to him for sure. But as I mentioned before and you agreed sort of, he could just be a cheapskate. lol

  • @meechyshelm3692
    @meechyshelm3692 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    TO THE BIRTHDAY GIRL: When I was younger, I had this happen. I have been married for 20+ years and it took a while for my husband and I to communicate what Birthdays mean to us. I grew up poor, very poor. the only time I got something new was on my birthday, and my family always had a huge party because I had dozens of cousins nearby. BUT My husband grew up affluent and just his immediate family would go out to dinner, and he would get something he needed and a small thing he wanted. So they weren't a big deal. You may just have a different frame of reference. Explain what they mean to you, and when it comes to his birthday, teach him how you would do it, but do it for him! But you first have to just explain that you are grateful, and feel bad for having unexpressed expectations - and you want to know what momentous occasions are important to him, and visa versa. MHO

  • @merlinathrawes746
    @merlinathrawes746 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Fire truck are built to move objects out of the way in order to get close enough to fight a fire or to escape from one that's out of control. I'm pretty sure the truck took no damage other than minor scratches to the chrome on the bumper, if that.

  • @joebove4
    @joebove4 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Story three legitimately makes me angry, especially if it’s here in the states where it’s not at all unreasonable to believe that calling the police on a black guy can result in him getting killed. The fact that that woman got to walk away, no harm, no foul, is maddening.

  • @Cruznick06
    @Cruznick06 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Story3: I am extremely defensive of my tech. This has been the case from when I got my first GBA SP through to my current Nintendo Switch. This whole incident infuriates me. So glad OP was listened to and was smart enough to setup the parental controls.

    • @SonsOfLorgar
      @SonsOfLorgar 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      But deeply dissatisfying that he didn't interrupt Karens fake 'mistake' appology with a: No, I don't buy that fake excuse at all, I want to press charges, and I want the CPS involved.

  • @eyekona
    @eyekona 2 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    Happy Birthday Melanie! I have been in your situation countless times. My husband of 10 years is just so very bad at giving gifts. I always lower my expectations but he still every year disappoints me, with his gift(s). Still every other part of our relationship is very good. It's not a dealbreaker but be aware that it won't get better over time. If you stick with him, you are in for a life of poor gifts.

    • @lorifiedler13
      @lorifiedler13 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Brit, you need to drop bricks on the man or buy them yourself.

  • @TheOfficialTarynTots
    @TheOfficialTarynTots 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Happy Birthday Melanie! I think he made an effort at least but he definitely shouldn't have asked to go dutch on your birthday meal. The necklace may have been cheap but he probably isnt use to shopping for gifts like that.

    • @lorifiedler13
      @lorifiedler13 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      He could have at least gone to a physical store to choose something. It doesn't even have to be jewelry.

    • @TheOfficialTarynTots
      @TheOfficialTarynTots 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@lorifiedler13 Thats true but did did try. They have been together for only 10 months and who knows how mnay other relationships he has been in. He may not have known what was expected of him.

    • @lorifiedler13
      @lorifiedler13 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@TheOfficialTarynTots sounds like a middle school try.

    • @TheOfficialTarynTots
      @TheOfficialTarynTots 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@lorifiedler13 I wouldn't go that far. I know a few guys in their mid 20s who haven't even been in a relationship that lasted 10 month to even know what would be considered an appropriate gift if she didn't give him any clues to what she was interested in. We know she is 30 but she doesn't say how old he is.
      Also, now I'm rethinking my comment about how he shouldn't have asked her to go dutch on the dinner. I'm starting to think that might have been the normal arrangement when they went out to eat and she could just be passive aggressive. I doubt he waited for her birthday meal to suggest something like that. If she doesn't speak up and voices what she wants/expects from him how is he to know?
      Also, who knows if he just got some bad dating advice somewhere. We all know it's out there or people like Andrew Tate wouldn't have so many views. I can definitely see a guy making some mistakes like this if he is inexperienced in relationships, is getting bad advice somewhere, and if she is expecting him to be a mind reader.
      I know in my first long-term relationship my bf didn't even so much as sign the card he got for me, write my name on the envelope, or even put the card in the thing. He was clueless. I just talked to him about it and told him what he is actually supposed to do with cards and how it's important it is the card says what you want it to say or to write it in. The next time he learned and instead of buying a card he spent a long time making one and put a heart warming poem in it that meant so much more than a store bought one. I had found out by talking to him that he never actually gave anyone a card before. And I'm sure he would have done the same thing again if I didn't talk to him about it. I'm sure you would agree that open communication is one of the most important things in a relationship.
      Also, I didn't want to say it but was thinking it but since I already said a lot I might as well. I was thinking maybe she had a higher expectation of a gift because he makes good money. I'm not assuming she is a gold digger but I know plenty of women who expect expensive gifts (even if they haven't been with their bf for long) if he makes good money. Even though she said he spends money on himself she can't expect him to spend the same on her (at very least without talking about it). I think he would come off as one of those guys who try to buy a woman's affections if he got her lavish gifts so early in the relationship. But I do understand the importance of a milestone birthday.
      I think we are (myself included) judging the situation too quickly without knowing all the details we need form a honest opinion but I don't doubt their relationship would improve with better communication. Sorry that I wrote so much.

  • @Maninawig
    @Maninawig 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Story 2: Happy birthday Melody. And yes, DarkFluff is right that it is the thought that counts, though it doesn't sound like much thought was given.
    If you want a modern relationship, going halfs on an average date is now something that happens, so I can't really comment on that, but if it is just the two of you on your birthday, then he should pay as you should on his.
    The qualities of a gift are where the issue comes in. If he was frugal, that would be one thing, but then he would be frugal on himself. From what you explained, I am honestly starting to question if you're seen as his side chick, cause then his actions would make perfect sense.

  • @chiggerjester1626
    @chiggerjester1626 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Melody, sweetie, first off: Happy Birthday!
    As for your question though, did he know your expectations about birthdays before it came around? I know this might sound odd, but I’ve been in your situation, so please hear me out. It is entirely possible he meant zero disrespect and that his perspective about birthdays is just very different than yours. My husband is the same way, and it has never been from a lack of love or affection, but rather from the fact that birthdays were never a bid thing with his family. He would usually get some random card from his mother, a cake from the grocery store (or maybe a home baked box of brownies), and that was it. When family or friends tried to do more for him about it, he would honestly feel rather awkward from all the attention. If your BF is anything like my husband, he’s just not aware that you wanted more effort. Give him some ideas as to what you would usually expect during birthdays; ask him what he is used to; work together to figure out what is best for both of you. You can’t expect him to wow you if he has no idea what would be normal to you from the get go. Setting aside the time to spend with you might have been enough in his mind, as it may be all he would want if the roles were reversed.
    Now, if you try and calmly ask him about this and he gets defensive or aggressive at all, then consider it might have been him being selfish and not wanting to admit it. But communication is super important in every relationship and this honestly sounds like a simple communication problem to me.
    Best of luck for you and yours. Hopefully this is just a growing pains thing and nothing more.

    • @oOIIIMIIIOo
      @oOIIIMIIIOo 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      No matter what the expectations are, don't buy toy jewelry and ask for half of paying for a birthday dinner. That is bold. 😄

  • @dragonweyr44
    @dragonweyr44 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    1st story: Neighbor didn't give a damn about the parking fines for parking in a handicap spot, do you really think he's going to pay for damage to the fire truck?
    2nd story: my sister isn't the most thoughtful of people, I haven't got a cake, a card or so much as a "Happy Birthday from her in the last 30 years, but she DID take me out to dinner on my birthday last month and paid for the meal herself.
    It was $52 for both of us not counting tip
    OP's BF should've at least have done that
    3rd story: Karens will steal others property, claim its hers yell and scream and say that they'll call the cops, always
    4th story: Drop Martha, drop her now

    • @aqacefan
      @aqacefan 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Story 1: “You want us to stop destroying your vehicles? You can f*ck right off!”

    • @SonsOfLorgar
      @SonsOfLorgar 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      1st: not paying fines to local government is not optional anywhere...
      And trying to avoid it usually ends up in civil or eventually criminal court, with a few hundred $ fine will have bloated into tens of thousands in court costs.

    • @dragonweyr44
      @dragonweyr44 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@SonsOfLorgar But they weren't paying the parking fines, why would they pay the new one either?

    • @haroldbenton979
      @haroldbenton979 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@dragonweyr44 when the government decides to seize the house for nonpayment of fines or suspension of your drivers license or registration of the car. I have heard of both happening on cases similar to this plus the city going after the person via their insurance company.

    • @dragonweyr44
      @dragonweyr44 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@haroldbenton979 All of that can happen
      But do you think that the neighbor in question would still pay the fines?
      I think not

  • @TheDarkLink7
    @TheDarkLink7 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Man that last story brought up some bad memories of two people who took advantage of me to literally pay for their crack habits. I'm happy that OP was able to escape and that Mandy was shown who she really is/was.

  • @BRINDANI2000
    @BRINDANI2000 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    As mentioned by others, it all depends on how they perceive birthdays. Our family has stopped doing gifts all together but I've seen other families make a production out of it. If his birthday comes around and he expects more, you'll have your answer. Probably a good topic to discuss and consider if his way of handling such events is going to be ok or leaving you feeling unappreciated.

  • @ldannu5627
    @ldannu5627 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Dang, feeling really sick,but watching/listening to these helps a bit! Thank you for the entertainment ! Fluffeeee!!!

  • @elfredyjuega3303
    @elfredyjuega3303 2 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    The entitlement that karens have grows and more by the day, it's so dissapointing that people are more horrible every day

    • @Cramblit
      @Cramblit 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      It seems there are more and more karens too.

    • @DoctorRobertNeville
      @DoctorRobertNeville 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Frankly I think I would blame the Pandemic for this happening. More, and more people are becoming only interested in themselves.

    • @Cramblit
      @Cramblit 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@DoctorRobertNeville Oh this has been going on WAAAAAY before the pandemic... This is about 3 generations deep.

    • @DoctorRobertNeville
      @DoctorRobertNeville 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Cramblit We are just now able to see this much easier with the introduction of tech which enables us to record these interactions.

  • @maryellenc6216
    @maryellenc6216 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    When it’s his birthday, give him the same day he gave you. Cheap card, cheap gift, go halves on dinner. If he says anything, x plain EXACTLY why you did it. ….and…HAPPY BIRTHDAY MELODY!!! 💕💐🎂

  • @jenolasmalls3178
    @jenolasmalls3178 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Happy birthday to the young lady, with that said a nice dinner and some flowers would of been nice and a lovely at home night, don’t have to spend so much money, but he has a birthday coming up make sure u do the exact same thing to him, $20 chain and half on dinner and go home that’s it

  • @colleencook382
    @colleencook382 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Happy Birthday Melody! Give yourself the gift of a partner whom shares your love language.

  • @patriciamarzec
    @patriciamarzec 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Happy belated birthday Melanie and you deserve so much more

  • @crescentedwards851
    @crescentedwards851 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Story 2: I've giving better gifts to mutual friends I don't care for or work associates. Honestly disgraceful

  • @SylviaOkoktok
    @SylviaOkoktok 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    For the second story. Did you hint at anything you might want for your birthday? Is receiving gifts your kind of love language and he doesn’t know? Lack of effort always hurt my heart as well but I’m the type of person to try and get you gifts that are related to things you like or could use daily if that makes sense.

  • @jackedwards7420
    @jackedwards7420 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    2nd story, Happy Birthday, young lady!! Word of advice if this is his level of commitment to you dump him NOW! My wife and I have just celebrated 35 yrs and I still not only celebrate her/our special occasions but still randomly leave her loving cards/notes and surprise her with small gifts both inexpensive and expensive!!

    • @oOIIIMIIIOo
      @oOIIIMIIIOo 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yes, there is a difference between inexpensive gifts. A beloved bar of chocolate is inexpensive but thoughtful, but an inexpensive toy necklace is a no go in my eyes.

  • @SGemini101
    @SGemini101 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Another day....Another Fluff....Keep them coming!

  • @kb1kos
    @kb1kos 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    33: I would have pressed charges. Grand theft is serious.

  • @margmally1439
    @margmally1439 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I love you Fluff! I've listened to others trying to do what you do but they fail miserably! I love your voice ❤️❤️❤️

  • @HaakonTheRayquaza
    @HaakonTheRayquaza 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Story 1: Prorevenge-Sim: *An annoying Neighbor Blocks the way*
    Fireman (Asks OP): Do I have Permission to execute Prorevenge? Yes or No
    OP: *OP Pressed Yes*

  • @juliebiggerbear7300
    @juliebiggerbear7300 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Second story. While “it’s the thought that counts” is nice and all, judging from his gifts and going halfies for his girlfriend’s *30th* birthday, I would say that his “thoughts” were less than complementary.
    I would say, based off of his efforts for her birthday, that the bloom is officially off of that rose.

  • @robertabackman4731
    @robertabackman4731 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    2nd story: does it feel kinda crappy when you celebrate your birthday and your SO doesn't? Yeah. But, if that guy spent what he did, he's probably the sort that doesn't care about birthdays, including his own. I'd talk about expectations with holidays/events/birthdays at random and see where he personally stands. If you two oppose, communicate how you like to feel appreciated. Special occasion or not.

  • @Bluedragon094
    @Bluedragon094 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    Story 2: He's not invested in the relationship. Homeboy is willing to treat himself and can't even be bothered to pay for dinner for OP's 30th bday. There's being frugal and then there's not giving a damn about anybody else.

  • @tattooedfrogger
    @tattooedfrogger 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    The 4th story is the one that touches me. As a woman of size I would cherish the crap out of a guy that felt he truly loved me. For this horrible woman to turn around and abuse that love is appalling. I hope he finds someone who will love him as much as he loves them.

  • @Arcader-cs9bs
    @Arcader-cs9bs 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Story 3: The fact that OP said that there was "no happy ending" is wrong. It's actually a bittersweet ending. The bitter part is the woman only get escorted to her car, but the sweet part is that OP got to keep his Nintendo Switch. I think the woman who tried to have her crotch-goblin steal the Nintendo Switch, she probably got a fine for attempted theft.

  • @annthiessen6868
    @annthiessen6868 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Happy belated 30th birthday, melody. My advice to u is confront him about how he made u feel but if he shows any signs of an entitled attitude, dump the dude.

  • @lovelywolv
    @lovelywolv 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Story 2: You've not even been together for a year. Did you tell him what you wanted? If not then I wouldn't expect anything. Tell him how you felt, he can't read your mind. If he's still like this for her gift giving holidays and it's something that's a deal breaker then break it off.

  • @schillieyoung4307
    @schillieyoung4307 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    On the upside if she does anything like that again she’s got a record of misusing the police and making false accusations (story 3)

  • @GiratinaofFury
    @GiratinaofFury 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I'm not too sure what to say about the second story. I mean, I dated someone around the time of a milestone birthday, and they really spoiled me for that one, particularly given how we had only been dating around seven months at the time, therefore whilst I can see OP's point in feeling a bit neglected, the fact the OP brings up wages, savings, and other financial background of their partner doesn't win me over. I think that since the necklace broke, the partner should be in touch with Amazon to replace it or refund it, at the very least. Then again, we don't know the full extent of the relationship, is it mutually fulfilling or very materialistic?

    • @maggpiprime954
      @maggpiprime954 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Kinda thinking all that was relevant info to point out bf is an established adult with a sense of how the world works, & that OP is not expecting/demanding anything beyond his means/luxurious gifts.
      He's not a teenager to be buying nickel costume jewelry online as a milestone bday gift; he's a grown man who can afford a decent gift even if it's not flashy.
      For example:
      I'm not into jewelry, I prefer comics.
      I'd be really hurt & offended if, instead of getting the latest volume of my favourite Saga (approx $20-30, so pretty affordable), my S.O. got me an Archie comic from the drugstore.
      It's still a comic book. And I like the nostalgia of reading Archie comics. But you see the difference, right?

  • @GarnerWood
    @GarnerWood 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Story 2: She should definitely talk to the guy about how she feels, this is the basis of a good relationship. Be honest with him and open. Iterate that you're not trying to be greedy or entitled. On the flip side making her pay half for a birthday meal is crappy.

  • @X3H3X
    @X3H3X 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Story 2: OP is not entitled. Her boyfriend is a cheap prick. If he can treat himself to expensive stuff, he can surely buy her a necklace that doesn't break within the first 20 minutes

    • @nanoglitch6693
      @nanoglitch6693 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      it's the thought that counts. And here the thought seems to be "oh crap it's her birthday tomorrow, I'll just order the first thing I find off Amazon Prime."

  • @elledaniels3176
    @elledaniels3176 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Story 2, Happy Birthday!! however, this is what happens when you give the milk for free.

  • @DarkEinherjar
    @DarkEinherjar 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Second story: I think OP needs a better person in her life.

  • @michellec5407
    @michellec5407 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Happy Birthday Mel! My advice.... RUN! You are better then this, don't allow anyone to make you feel bad!

  • @stevesteinberg2303
    @stevesteinberg2303 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    She should be glad all the lost was 10 months out of her life because this idiot's like slightly sour milk you put back in the fridge and hope your magic thinking will make it better. It IS the thought that counts and he thought very little about a milestone birthday. Hope she discards the boyfriend along with the cheapass bauble.

  • @dorothylloyd1804
    @dorothylloyd1804 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Even if birthdays are not a big deal, it's still nice to have it acknowledged. Thanks DF

  • @DeMoraJS
    @DeMoraJS 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Second story: OP's boyfriend is testing her, he wants to see how she'll react to modest and cheap gifts. If she makes a big deal out of it (as she is) she'll fail.

    • @mandymcnalis7551
      @mandymcnalis7551 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Then even more reason to dump him. Games are for children. And the gift wasn't just cheap, it had zero effort or thought put into it.

  • @BDogGrizzly
    @BDogGrizzly 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Okay, here’s my two cents about the Birthday. It’s completely ridiculous that the guy spent a whopping $20 when he is financially stable. I’m not saying that he needs to spend hundreds or even ONE hundred. But you owe it to someone you supposedly “Love” to spend a reasonable amount on them. Buy something that’s meaningful. Not junk!

  • @j.d.l._666
    @j.d.l._666 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Story #4: Yeah.. That's what happens if you share your bank account with someone else. I would never do that! I don't care, how much I love someone. Never share bank accounts. Always have separate ones! And maybe one joint account, that can't be over charged! Like, go into negative numbers!
    But yeah.. That's what you get if you stay with someone like her. But I get that not everyone has the guts to leave when they should!
    The first time my spouse would threatene to not mary me I would say: "Okey. Bye."

  • @AdamScottH
    @AdamScottH 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I struggle with really bad mental health issues (anxiety and depression to name a couple) to the point I can’t work. I always look forward to Fluff’s videos as they always put a smile on my face! Keep up the great work!!

  • @wfcoaker1398
    @wfcoaker1398 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Having been in relationships with people who grew up in dysfunctional homes and having gotten the therapy to get over it, I've learned that they are cruel, manipulative people who will mess with your head. Unless they were the kid who protected the other siblings from their abusive parents. They're usually sane. But the kids they protected? They're dangerous. They thrive on causing drama. Keeping everyone around them anxious is the only way they feel any control in their lives. And they won't get therapy because they don't think there's anything wrong.
    As soon as I heard she came from a dysfunctional home, knew exactly what was going to happen in that story, how long it would take for her to show her true colours, the mind games, the kind of guy OP is because he's got a good heart and that made him perfect prey, the whole 9 yards. I wonder if he realizes that she planned all that drama just to keep him off balance. Every single time, she knew what she was going to do and she felt a rush of power seeing him anxious.
    I wonder if he has stopped drenching his bed with sweat every night. It took me 4 months before that stopped, and that was after I dumped the psycho, and if his teeth have stopped hurting because he has finally stopped grinding his teeth in his sleep. I also hope he gives himself time to appreciate that when he comes home at the end of the day, he no longer dreads opening the door. 8 years later and that is still the best feeling EVER! The thought of having someone in my life, of there being someone on the other side of that door, now makes my blood run cold.

  • @shikamarunara2480
    @shikamarunara2480 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Happy birthday. Sorry your best day wasn't what you expected or deserved. Hope you can find someone that can put a bit more effort into the relationship.
    Cheers

  • @blair2743
    @blair2743 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    The last OP dodged a bullet, alright... Except it happened to be the size of a Bullet Bill from the Mario games.

  • @BryJamie
    @BryJamie 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    2nd story: he should have done more. Gifts should be special, not just some random junk. She is allowed it be disappointed. Happy birthday Melanie!!

  • @knottheory79220
    @knottheory79220 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    For the second story: My mom didn't get birthday celebrations at all growing up. In her case it was because her family was very poor and they just couldn't afford to make a big deal about it (they had like 15 kids, no joke), so she was an adult before she knew people celebrated it.
    This guy may not know it's supposed to be something.

  • @dinascharnhorst6590
    @dinascharnhorst6590 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Happy birthday, Melanie! 🎂 Now, give yourself the gift 🎁 of sanity and dump the inconsiderate leech.

  • @stephanniestarr717
    @stephanniestarr717 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Happy belated 30th birthday Melody! Sorry you were disappointed. It isn’t asking too much for your boyfriend to have paid for your dinner.

  • @dianeadams5598
    @dianeadams5598 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Happy Birthday, Melanie! Dump him! If he treats you like this now, what will the future be like.

  • @MegaHorrorLP
    @MegaHorrorLP 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    2nd Story: I'm not a person who needs plenty of stuff for my birthday. What really makes me happy is something were you can see the person really thought about you and the things you like. Even if it is something small. The fact that they remembered something that I enjoyed is so much more worth to me as this shows that they care about you

  • @charletbahr6568
    @charletbahr6568 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    2nd story, Kinda sounds like the dudes not serious at all about her. Shoot, she might not be the only he's seeing, that's why he went so cheap and wanted to go Dutch.

  • @wmdkitty
    @wmdkitty 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    If you have to write "I'm trying to say this without sounding entitled" then proceeds to sound entitled. He remembered.

  • @empressmarowynn
    @empressmarowynn 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I think it's pretty messed up to take someone out for their birthday but then make them pay for their own meal. The card and gift might be excused if maybe he forgot and bought them last minute but like come on dude. And they're almost a year in! It's not like it's only been a couple months and they still know nothing about each other. A year is when things start to get serious. He's either incredibly clueless or just doesn't think about anyone but himself.

  • @leslieking6259
    @leslieking6259 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Last story - OP didn't dodge a bullet... he dodged a nuke.

  • @CosmiChaos1129
    @CosmiChaos1129 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    At this point, I'm sad that I'm not even surprised at Karen behaviours.
    Have a good day or night, everyone

  • @InnerBushman
    @InnerBushman 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    In the last story saying he dodged a bullet is understatement. He got shot several times over they years and FINALLY dodged the last bullet.

  • @impagain
    @impagain 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Last OP didn't dodge a bullet at all. He took that bullet square to the heart, and let it bleed and fester for a long time, before digging out that bullet and letting himself heal. He dodged nothing, but I'm so glad to hear his recovery is going well!

  • @earlinejackson8151
    @earlinejackson8151 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Second one, he’s not op’s boyfriend, he’s her f-buddy, and that’s probably all he will ever be, because it’s all he wants to be to her. So, either accept the relationship as is, or opt out and find one that you like.

  • @jsmith1291
    @jsmith1291 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Story 4: Good to see OP finally wised up and ditched the lousy excuse for a girlfriend. Far better to be alone than with someone like that.

  • @elwoogie1963
    @elwoogie1963 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Second story, Treat Melody to a nice dinner at a good restaurant AT THE LEAST, don't go halfsies, he gets a fail on the necklace and the card as this shows he did have time to go get something nice with a more relevant personalized card, since any Amazon order takes time to get delivered.

  • @walterstarr1588
    @walterstarr1588 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Happy birthday, Melanie. I say just log the birthday events as a first red flag in a reluctance to commit by him. 10 months is a little early to do this but is close enough and the birthday important enough to take note. Three red flags in the first two years is a pretty good indication he won't commit.

  • @slrdarien
    @slrdarien 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    That last story hit home. I am glad he got out.

  • @Yori6552
    @Yori6552 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Second Story: All I can say to OP is talk to him. Probably DON'T mention the value as that will make you sound entitled and really it doesn't sound like it's the value that's the problem so much as the way it felt like OP was more upset about his gifts made *her* feel not valued. OP, if you see this, seriously consider what other than the price was upsetting. The fact that the gifts felt impersonal? The fact that splitting the cost of dinner makes it feel like you went 'halvsies' on your own gift? Would you have been happy with something that wasn't expensive but at least felt like more thought went into it? If you do talk to him, do it gently and try to make it clear that it's more about feeling like you weren't worth the effort, and not that he didn't spend a lot on you.
    Whether he makes bank or not, he's not obligated to spend a ton on you just because he gets himself nice stuff, but that's not a free pass to give you gifts that feel like most people would probably give their 10 y/o niece that they know nothing about, and most people who invite someone to dinner on their birthday plan to pay for all of it. He might really just suck at giving gifts though, or maybe he grew up poor and giving you anything at all is a big deal to him, or birthdays aren't a big deal in his family, all of which is why talking it out is important. Good luck, and Happy 30th Birthday!

  • @victoriabutterfly6521
    @victoriabutterfly6521 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    It's outrageous that this woman & her son clearly committed theft & just walked out there without any repercussions
    It also shows how very important it is to activate passwords on your devices so that you can always prove that it belongs to you

  • @alfr1
    @alfr1 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    ALWAYS press charges on thieves.

  • @richewilson6394
    @richewilson6394 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    The fine would be SUPER HIGH for blocking an ambulance.

  • @jessestaggs2136
    @jessestaggs2136 ปีที่แล้ว

    That last story seriously triggered me. I was in a relationship that was quite the exact same. The woman I fell in love with was in no way the person that she truly was and proved herself to be once she got her hooks in me. That was back in 2015 and I'm still recovering from the trauma and turmoil that she caused me.

  • @PowerStruggle555
    @PowerStruggle555 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    2nd story: I think both are jerks. OP for wanting his finacially well bf to spoil her (yes birthday but expecting him to spend a lot on you is still bad. 10 months isnt that long). and bf for being cheap.
    we have is an op who expects a lot and a cheap bf. even when its my birthday I dont expect people to shower me with expensive gifts. all I want is an acknowledgement.

    • @russlehman2070
      @russlehman2070 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I'm not big on making a big deal about birthdays, but it does seem that BF really didn't put much thought or effort into it

  • @mandymcnalis7551
    @mandymcnalis7551 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Oh Mel, I feel you. Like they say it's the thought that counts... and that's 100% true, but your bf put ZERO thought into that gift. I bet even a heartfelt note or card would have had you feeling loved and happy. It's not the price point that's bothering you, you're not being materialistic, you just want a gift that he actually put thought into! And that's sooooo valid! I don't blame you at all for feeling that way. If you choose to say something to him, focus on the lack of thought not the cost. Explain that you feel as if he didn't put any thought into celebrating your birthday. That you're not asking for 5 star dinners or flashy jewelry, all you wanted was to feel loved and thought about. I mean, the gift he got you had no meaning to you even! First xmas my bf and I weren't even official, only knew each other for a month and change, and he bought a book about a fandom I love as a gift. Like if dude I knew for a MONTH can spend $20 and have me sniffling tears bc it was so thoughtful, your bf has no excuse. And the going Dutch on dinner was just salt in the wound imo. I'd call him out but like I said not about the money but about how it was bankrupt of all thought or care.
    Happy belated birthday! I hope he sees his mistake.