Spot on re: cheating. Tried to make it work, but I was always over my shoulder, second guessing myself, and I realized that she was not willing to do the things I needed her to do to make me feel safe and loved.
Key insights 🤔 It's important to do the work on yourself regardless of whether your ex comes back or not. 🚫 Toxic relationships, cheating, monkey branching, and rebound relationships are completely off the table after a breakup. 💔 Sometimes a breakup is necessary for both parties to understand how much they miss and love each other, leading to the possibility of reconciliation. 🚫 Staying in a toxic or abusive relationship with an ex is a sign to move on, as it's not a healthy or sustainable option. 🧠 Rejection triggers a primal panic and survival mode within us, stemming from our innate fear of being exiled and left to die alone. 🚫 If your ex cheated or rebounded with someone else, taking them back will only lead to disrespect and resentment.
I agree for the most part but you can get over cheating and monkey branching/rebounds if you do the work on yourself. Getting rid of a victim mindset and becoming bulletproof is key, you also need to work on thinking antithetically and putting yourself into your ex’s shoes because if you can’t 💯 say you was perfect and never put a foot wrong in your relationship you WILL of caused all 3 of them behaviour with your lack of understanding on how to build a relationship
The problem is Paz: i think i pushed her away, i was neglectful to a certain degree( i now know i am fearful avoidant). I struggled last year with burnout and depression, i lost my job and dealt with a lot of anxiety and fear. I didn't want to go back to my former job and started further education. I tried to make her understand how difficult it is for me to reinvent myself at 38 years old, but she probably never understood how i felt(she is 10 years younger than me).She had enough, and after 2 weeks of silence, she broke up with me and a month later started dating a guy( she is now in a relationship with him). Honestly, I am confused. One side tells me she should have stayed by me through this difficult time, and the other side tells me, i can't rely on another person to fix my shit. It was my responsibility. What do you think in such cases about taking someone back after a rebound? (Btw, yes, i am doing the work, having a new job, doing fitness and therapy, and just trying to become better) Edit: I think you're right, I will have resentment, nonetheless.
Spot on re: cheating. Tried to make it work, but I was always over my shoulder, second guessing myself, and I realized that she was not willing to do the things I needed her to do to make me feel safe and loved.
Key insights
🤔 It's important to do the work on yourself regardless of whether your ex comes back or not.
🚫 Toxic relationships, cheating, monkey branching, and rebound relationships are completely off the table after a breakup.
💔 Sometimes a breakup is necessary for both parties to understand how much they miss and love each other, leading to the possibility of reconciliation.
🚫 Staying in a toxic or abusive relationship with an ex is a sign to move on, as it's not a healthy or sustainable option.
🧠 Rejection triggers a primal panic and survival mode within us, stemming from our innate fear of being exiled and left to die alone.
🚫 If your ex cheated or rebounded with someone else, taking them back will only lead to disrespect and resentment.
I agree for the most part but you can get over cheating and monkey branching/rebounds if you do the work on yourself. Getting rid of a victim mindset and becoming bulletproof is key, you also need to work on thinking antithetically and putting yourself into your ex’s shoes because if you can’t 💯 say you was perfect and never put a foot wrong in your relationship you WILL of caused all 3 of them behaviour with your lack of understanding on how to build a relationship
The problem is Paz: i think i pushed her away, i was neglectful to a certain degree( i now know i am fearful avoidant). I struggled last year with burnout and depression, i lost my job and dealt with a lot of anxiety and fear. I didn't want to go back to my former job and started further education. I tried to make her understand how difficult it is for me to reinvent myself at 38 years old, but she probably never understood how i felt(she is 10 years younger than me).She had enough, and after 2 weeks of silence, she broke up with me and a month later started dating a guy( she is now in a relationship with him). Honestly, I am confused. One side tells me she should have stayed by me through this difficult time, and the other side tells me, i can't rely on another person to fix my shit. It was my responsibility.
What do you think in such cases about taking someone back after a rebound?
(Btw, yes, i am doing the work, having a new job, doing fitness and therapy, and just trying to become better)
Edit: I think you're right, I will have resentment, nonetheless.
No contact forever never take them back. EVER!
My ex MB on me than 2 months later she try to come back