praying ❤ my mom just lost her mom right before Mother's day so we know how it feels, it's been really tough but God has been showing us that He is faithful and that they're now in heaven smiling like never before and experiencing the best joy ever. don't blame yourself, know that your dad loves you and he knows you love him. don't worry. may the Lord bless your family 😊
Really good points. A couple at our church had talked to our college group in the past and said they are a team. They agree on all parenting issues. If one kid wants one thing and the dad says no his wife will be on board and vise versa. Also I've learned that how parents are, Dads are, that is how they will view God to them. In a way. That's why people who don't have a dad find it hard to believe in God who loves you unconditionally because they never had that father on earth. My pastor has said how you are as a dad will be how your kids see God. it can be a mom if someone has just a mom, but how kids view their dad is (to an extent) how they will view God. So Dads are very important you really have an impact on your kids. Congrats on your new son by the way!!
Thank you for sharing this, Jefferson! This honest truth is needs to be said and heard. I want to encourage the single parents out there that you can still raise Christ-like children even if your spouse or childrens' parent is not being a parent. God is our Father and completes each of us ... even our children! I love the devotion you have to your family, Jefferson. You're such a shining example of love and sacrifice. Your children will be forever blessed!
Excellent points. I am blessed with a husband who is an excellent teammate in the raising of our daughter and in the upkeep of our home. Your video made me appreciate him just that much more. Thank you for sharing.
Not even halfway through and I'm already having goosebumps. My dad isn't even a pastor and he gives the church so much time. I'm not even going to lie. I don't really see him as a dad. He's just someone that helped conceive me. Just someone that works. I appreciate that he provides for the family don't get me wrong. But it's just that I have these memories of a much more togetherness that our family used to have and I used to try so hard to get that again. But no one cooperates and I'm bitter towards him for not even trying.
I'm sorry to hear that. As a father, I always put my kids first and I try to include them in my activities as much as possible. Even though you shouldn't have to, maybe this father's day give him a card with a coupon that says, "Pick a day and I will do c with you." Put an expiration date on it. BTW the X idea should be something he likes to do. Maybe he likes to fish, go golfing, build stuff or camping? Then put that down. This way your asking him to include you in what he loves so maybe you can love it too.
Allen Straith He doesn't even have hobbies though. He'll come home from work and just watch TV. Sometimes I'll sit down and watch with him but then if I try to talk during commercials about what we are watching he'll tell me to go away. And so I do. I did watch soccer with him yesterday and it was nice but neither of us said anything. I guess I want him to just talk to me more than just "how was school?"
Rachel, you just touched me because I don't want to be that Father that just does things either. Right now, my daughter is 5 going on 6 soon in a few months, and the way you think is how I want my daughter to feel( meaning she has togetherness feelings as she gets older). Right now its good, but there are times that I'm the father that just provides, BUT, because of the ideas that were given to you and seeing how you feel, I will make sure to keep a healthier balance. We do activities, but I need to add more or shall I say include her more, even if its just going to the store. Your father probably just wants to relax and focus on the things he watches, not realizing that he needs to do quality time with you. Just tell him how you feel though, and really make sure he hears you. I know he Loves you. It will be a process and be patient as he tries to adapt and being that Father you want. I have to say this tho, my wife is in a position to where right now she takes and picks up our daughter from school because of our work schedules and other things. I previously did have some marriage issues that are finally working out, but during the trying time, like for 2yrs, my wife would pick up our daughter but then would keep her out and do activity things like parks, mall, random things and would stay out until it got close for bed time meaning when they got home, their was no family time let alone father and daughter time. So she would see me, watching TV or playing my video games etc. Now you seem older than 5 obviously but what my wife wasn't aware of, that her issues to avoid being around me was creating distance between me and my daughter and WE live together. So like I said, there has been changes thru the Grace of God, so things are getting better but I will add on the wonderful ideas given to you and also keep your testimony at heart because I don't like that you feel that way. Not saying that there are other issues and my marriage trial wasn't really your thoughts you shared, but I said mine to say this, maybe its not what you think it is all the time, other things could be on his mind and that's blocking his vision towards you. Be Blessed and hang in there!
Work is not more important than the family. I remember my dad having to work this extra jobs to pay bills during my childhood, but he always made time for me and my sister. I cherish those times so much and I will definitely miss him when I go to China this year. I am still a daddy's girl at 27 years old. 😊😆
Awesome! 👍 So straight up and true. love that! We deff need more REAL men!! You are doing great Jeff! Keep up the good work!! Life experience is what helps us grow! Amen!! 😊😊😊
Glad you didn't edit. You spoke truthfully and not PC. Thank you for the Fathers Day wish, Happy Fathers Day to you to. My 5yr old is growing fast, will be 6 in Aug. Thank you for this video. Been a sub for like 4yrs now, but my first time commenting. God Bless you and your Family.
I have a 2 years old and 2 months old. I had always been a gamer growing up. Video game is what I go to for relaxation and entertainment. But I had been struggling with time management lately, I wish someone could have told me about this before getting married. I enjoy our time with wife and/or kids. But I agree it's impossible to find time and energy to do something else after work, helping wife with chores, putting kids to bed... It's hard to let go of what I had been holding onto for so long and much. But I think I have to, at least, begin to. I know it's the right thing to do, but it's also the hard thing to do. I need GRACE and POWER from Jesus and within myself. It's a joint project, kind of like raising our kids with my wife, I think. Thanks for your sharing and video though, it's helpful to re-organize the priorities in life.
I liked how you called Dad's out on how being a father is not about not being emotional. I wrote a Senior Thesis (Undergrad) on family communication and how it can be applied by the church. In my research, one of my books actually suggested that by teaching boys not to be emotional, we are actually instilling a quality that will hurt their ability to be a father later on in life. Personally, I think that the church needs to stop and objectively analyze how they are doing in this area. I think that the church's conception of being a man and being a woman, have become more and more like the world's and the church is finding verses that they use to justify this. I also came across research that says that the parents should be helping their children figure out what God is has given them talent in. The whole family should be encouraging a child to develop their God given skills. In order for the church body to function well, the individual family units within the church need to function well. The family communication climate is built on the communication habits of the parents. Kids are smarter than they are given credit for and will pick up on how Mom and Dad communicate with each other. Bad habits are not impossible for them to fix later in life, but much harder to correct. Parents should always reevaluate their own communication methods, being aware that they will never be a perfect communicator, but that even "minor" improvements will have a lasting impact on generations to come. Children will pick up on the openness to change as needed instead of the egotistical American mentality of "I am always right."
I can totally relate that there's no time for "hobbies" in this stage. I have a 1.5 year old and a 4 month old and I think it's so healthy to have time for "me", but I also know it's not realistic right now. I struggle with that a lot though, because its easy to lose yourself in all the responsibility with family too. Everything in moderation I guess.
Really lovely vlog Jeff, while doing some babysitting I also was aware of the 'stupid father' thing and I think it's really bad, great to see and hear you gently pushing against that. Thanks.
Love the realness of this video! Thanks, Jeff! Where is the background from? Looks cool! Annnd I'm in my 30s and have been thinking about going back to school so thank you for that awesome info! I'm gonna sign up for it now!
Even though I'm not a dad (I'm a woman haha), I don't think hobbies should be avoided. For me they are often times a huge part of self care. Otherwise awesome points in this!
I don't have kids yet but I imagine that babies and small children won't let me have much (if any) time to be alone. As the kids grow up and become more independent there will be more time for hobbies. I like the idea of inviting the children for play time when possible though. Oh and those cheesy family vacations are pretty cool. :)
There is one thing in taking responsibility and being a full time dad, but it's almost like you're saying that the dad has to do everything alone.... My wife and I shared the care of our children since the earliest beginnings of our parenthood and we both had time for our own activities and interests! There should be personal time too. It's just a matter of communication, mutual respect and being flexible.
I don't have kids, but it's nice to see a Christian male acknowledge that providing doesn't stop at being a breadwinner. It includes nurturing as well. I'm not married, but I don't want a full time housewife. There's nothing appealing about only seeing my kids at 4:00 am.
+Jefferson Bethke thank you for this video. It seems like you're saying that self care is important but that we (parents) shouldn't have hobbies. Can you explain the difference? I like to workout and am passionate about learning about nutrition. Is this a hobby or self care? I'd love t hear your input. God bless!
HELP. this was been driving me crazy. I watched video of a Christian speaker on Facebook couple days ago and I would love to watch it again and I can't find her name no matter how hard I try. she was fairly young (maybe early 20s), she had red hair, dreads, and she is white. she had amazing things say and I really want to see it again. so if anyone knows her name, please let me know.
Being a father is awesome and taking care of my son is the most amazing gift God has given me. But what about the wife? I struggle with this constantly because being the sole income earner and taking on a majority of the responsibilities gets draining quick. I understand that kids aren't easy trust me - but shouldn't that be the greatest joy in the world taking care of your kids? I would trade work any day to do it but this viewpoint that comes across constantly about men having to take on more responsibility with the wife raising kids coming from the church structure I struggle to comprehend. If we are supposed to love everyone shouldn't that love come with a Reducing the stress that is put in modern day husbands by helping provide for finances or providing free time for de-stressing or going out with friends once in awhile? I think this viewpoint coming from the church (from my personal experience) of the men being kinda like superheroes and the wife staying home to raise kids (because only women are called to do so) actually leads to higher divorce rates.
This is one of the few videos I dont agree with. I feel everyone should have hobbies, when you literally live every single second of every single day, living for your kids or family or for work, and you have no "me" time, you'll be burned out and resentful. Yes, family is important, but your mental wellness is very important and if you're not supposed to have hobbies, why does God give us interests and skills outside of our jobs and families? It's not to distract us from "reality" but to also enjoy other things in life, and to express ourselves and be unique. It's only bad when you hyper focus on those and it pulls and distracts you from your job as a Christian. It's like telling our kids they cant go our for sports or enjoy things in life too because they'll never be able to be individuals growing up. And saying "that's basically the time I pass out, so I dont have time for hobbies" I totally get that, some days I cant do other things I enjoy either, but I cant post a video expressing my personal time frames stating that dads shouldn't have it because I dont have time for it.
I was thinking about the recent orlando shootings and a couple other things that have come up in the past months, and I was wondering if you had an opinion on sexuality and religion in correlation to parents disowning their children and these hate crimes against the lgbt+ community that have been happening for so long. I guess my question to you is: can people's homophobic behaviors truely be backed by the words of the Bible? and if not isnt it wrong to display self righteous behaviors such as telling domeone the way they are is wrong because it isnt "how things are supposed to be". i would really appreciate you're thoughts on this.
Ach krass!^^.. ich fand halt auch seine hanbewegungen mega gespult!^^ Ich kenn es von freunden, die mich auch imemer unterbrechen und sagen ich soll langsamer reden... dabei bin ich noch garnicht auf diesem Level!!;D
I can't handle this. This guy encourages people to think critically and says it's a good thing. But just 4 minutes earlier in the same video he's telling people HOW TO THINK! He is saying "If [work] gives you more joy and identify" then it's a problem. Everyone's different. Everyone has different priorities. Disclaimer, I am not religious. However, there is nowhere in the Bible that says you must have kids or you must have a family. If you value work and think you can do more good with that, go for it! Jeff's hypocrisy kills me. I encourage everybody to think and make decisions for themselves.
Ahh, yes, so when the Dad has had his alarm beeping at 6 am then gone and worked hard for ten hours and is physcically and mentally shattered, he should then go home and relieve the mother of her duties and change nappies (dypers) and chip in with anything else she needs? are you friggin kidding me? Utter crap. Now before anyone starts with "yeah but she`s tired from looking after the kids all day and cleaning the house" bull crap, I am a father and had to raise a baby pretty much on my own as well as keep up with domestic chores and I can say with 100% certainty that it is way easier than a full time job. Babies may wake in the night but they also sleep alot in the day , and when they do, you can just chill, unlike the dad at work, no chilling for him. House chores take an hour or two tops in the morning, leaving the rest of the day to just feed the baby when they need it, or change them, not difficult at all. Then when the baby gets to 3 years old, they start nursery and school, freeing up even more time for the mother, again, no such joy for the dad working ten hours. So cut the crap. Women and men have their roles, that doesn`t mean men have nothing to do with their kids, they of course should play and engage with them, especially on weekends when they have free time, but don`t expect a 50/50 on all chores and child reering responsibilites AND work full time. Really makes me angry this nonsense.
What the hell is this guy on about? he obviously has no idea what being a parent and in particular what being a farther involves, he has not long finished puberty yet seems to think he knows enough to preach to people who have and are walking the walk. At 5:23-5:30 who on earth do you think you are boy? how dare you say to another man that you think that he should not have children. This is a disgraceful show of ignorance that the channel owner has tried to cover with some sort of religious philosophy.
Uriel Agredano No, he is preaching on the back of fuck all experience. There are many people who have spent their entire adult life raising children and working in the field of family dynamics that say the exact opposite, that you should have hobbies and time for yourself and your partner away from the children. He has absolutely no idea what he is talking about and thinks he is helping when I'm fact he is not. No matter how many times he asks for an amen it does not make his inexperienced "advice" valid.
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My father just died Saturday night and we weren't close for the last decade. If any fellow believers could pray for my family I would be so grateful.
praying ❤ my mom just lost her mom right before Mother's day so we know how it feels, it's been really tough but God has been showing us that He is faithful and that they're now in heaven smiling like never before and experiencing the best joy ever. don't blame yourself, know that your dad loves you and he knows you love him. don't worry. may the Lord bless your family 😊
Thank you for all the prayers!
Been there, just with my step-dad. He was a wonderful father in my life. Praying for you, I know how hard it is.
Smh
praying for you :)
*I'm not a dad nor married but you really have a point here, thank you for the wisdom here. Love from Israel*
Really good points. A couple at our church had talked to our college group in the past and said they are a team. They agree on all parenting issues. If one kid wants one thing and the dad says no his wife will be on board and vise versa. Also I've learned that how parents are, Dads are, that is how they will view God to them. In a way. That's why people who don't have a dad find it hard to believe in God who loves you unconditionally because they never had that father on earth. My pastor has said how you are as a dad will be how your kids see God. it can be a mom if someone has just a mom, but how kids view their dad is (to an extent) how they will view God. So Dads are very important you really have an impact on your kids. Congrats on your new son by the way!!
This is so helpful as a young adult and giving good pointers for things to pray for my future husband and the father that he would be. Thanks Jeff!!
My son, my first born was born the day you posted this. Thank you.
My husband is the best dad! He deserves an entire week!
Thank you for sharing this, Jefferson! This honest truth is needs to be said and heard. I want to encourage the single parents out there that you can still raise Christ-like children even if your spouse or childrens' parent is not being a parent. God is our Father and completes each of us ... even our children! I love the devotion you have to your family, Jefferson. You're such a shining example of love and sacrifice. Your children will be forever blessed!
Excellent points. I am blessed with a husband who is an excellent teammate in the raising of our daughter and in the upkeep of our home. Your video made me appreciate him just that much more. Thank you for sharing.
You touch on really good points😊 You have a gift of explaining things😊
Not even halfway through and I'm already having goosebumps. My dad isn't even a pastor and he gives the church so much time. I'm not even going to lie. I don't really see him as a dad. He's just someone that helped conceive me. Just someone that works. I appreciate that he provides for the family don't get me wrong. But it's just that I have these memories of a much more togetherness that our family used to have and I used to try so hard to get that again. But no one cooperates and I'm bitter towards him for not even trying.
I'm sorry to hear that. As a father, I always put my kids first and I try to include them in my activities as much as possible. Even though you shouldn't have to, maybe this father's day give him a card with a coupon that says, "Pick a day and I will do c with you." Put an expiration date on it. BTW the X idea should be something he likes to do. Maybe he likes to fish, go golfing, build stuff or camping? Then put that down. This way your asking him to include you in what he loves so maybe you can love it too.
forgive him
Allen Straith He doesn't even have hobbies though. He'll come home from work and just watch TV. Sometimes I'll sit down and watch with him but then if I try to talk during commercials about what we are watching he'll tell me to go away. And so I do. I did watch soccer with him yesterday and it was nice but neither of us said anything. I guess I want him to just talk to me more than just "how was school?"
Angel Francisco I'm not mad about it. I'm just sad you know? I see people with their dads and I just want something like that.
Rachel, you just touched me because I don't want to be that Father that just does things either. Right now, my daughter is 5 going on 6 soon in a few months, and the way you think is how I want my daughter to feel( meaning she has togetherness feelings as she gets older). Right now its good, but there are times that I'm the father that just provides, BUT, because of the ideas that were given to you and seeing how you feel, I will make sure to keep a healthier balance. We do activities, but I need to add more or shall I say include her more, even if its just going to the store. Your father probably just wants to relax and focus on the things he watches, not realizing that he needs to do quality time with you. Just tell him how you feel though, and really make sure he hears you. I know he Loves you. It will be a process and be patient as he tries to adapt and being that Father you want.
I have to say this tho, my wife is in a position to where right now she takes and picks up our daughter from school because of our work schedules and other things. I previously did have some marriage issues that are finally working out, but during the trying time, like for 2yrs, my wife would pick up our daughter but then would keep her out and do activity things like parks, mall, random things and would stay out until it got close for bed time meaning when they got home, their was no family time let alone father and daughter time. So she would see me, watching TV or playing my video games etc. Now you seem older than 5 obviously but what my wife wasn't aware of, that her issues to avoid being around me was creating distance between me and my daughter and WE live together. So like I said, there has been changes thru the Grace of God, so things are getting better but I will add on the wonderful ideas given to you and also keep your testimony at heart because I don't like that you feel that way.
Not saying that there are other issues and my marriage trial wasn't really your thoughts you shared, but I said mine to say this, maybe its not what you think it is all the time, other things could be on his mind and that's blocking his vision towards you. Be Blessed and hang in there!
Thanks Jeff! Appreciate this video. Been a Dad for just over 2 weeks. It's amazing, but a massive learning curve!
Work is not more important than the family. I remember my dad having to work this extra jobs to pay bills during my childhood, but he always made time for me and my sister. I cherish those times so much and I will definitely miss him when I go to China this year. I am still a daddy's girl at 27 years old. 😊😆
Awesome! 👍 So straight up and true. love that! We deff need more REAL men!! You are doing great Jeff! Keep up the good work!! Life experience is what helps us grow! Amen!! 😊😊😊
Thanks Jeff! Really enjoy your messages, which by the way this one truly hit home.
Great video! Please start vlogging again! :)
Glad you didn't edit. You spoke truthfully and not PC. Thank you for the Fathers Day wish, Happy Fathers Day to you to. My 5yr old is growing fast, will be 6 in Aug. Thank you for this video. Been a sub for like 4yrs now, but my first time commenting. God Bless you and your Family.
I have a 2 years old and 2 months old. I had always been a gamer growing up. Video game is what I go to for relaxation and entertainment. But I had been struggling with time management lately, I wish someone could have told me about this before getting married. I enjoy our time with wife and/or kids. But I agree it's impossible to find time and energy to do something else after work, helping wife with chores, putting kids to bed... It's hard to let go of what I had been holding onto for so long and much. But I think I have to, at least, begin to. I know it's the right thing to do, but it's also the hard thing to do. I need GRACE and POWER from Jesus and within myself. It's a joint project, kind of like raising our kids with my wife, I think. Thanks for your sharing and video though, it's helpful to re-organize the priorities in life.
I liked how you called Dad's out on how being a father is not about not being emotional. I wrote a Senior Thesis (Undergrad) on family communication and how it can be applied by the church. In my research, one of my books actually suggested that by teaching boys not to be emotional, we are actually instilling a quality that will hurt their ability to be a father later on in life. Personally, I think that the church needs to stop and objectively analyze how they are doing in this area. I think that the church's conception of being a man and being a woman, have become more and more like the world's and the church is finding verses that they use to justify this. I also came across research that says that the parents should be helping their children figure out what God is has given them talent in. The whole family should be encouraging a child to develop their God given skills. In order for the church body to function well, the individual family units within the church need to function well. The family communication climate is built on the communication habits of the parents. Kids are smarter than they are given credit for and will pick up on how Mom and Dad communicate with each other. Bad habits are not impossible for them to fix later in life, but much harder to correct. Parents should always reevaluate their own communication methods, being aware that they will never be a perfect communicator, but that even "minor" improvements will have a lasting impact on generations to come. Children will pick up on the openness to change as needed instead of the egotistical American mentality of "I am always right."
This is a really awesome video, thank you! I would love to see a mother version of this video!
Aww I'm so happy your married, your life is awesome:)! Your videos have helped me sooo much! God bless you and your family!
Each point made me want to shout so good a little bit more passionately each time. So good!
I can totally relate that there's no time for "hobbies" in this stage. I have a 1.5 year old and a 4 month old and I think it's so healthy to have time for "me", but I also know it's not realistic right now. I struggle with that a lot though, because its easy to lose yourself in all the responsibility with family too. Everything in moderation I guess.
I think it's a little bit of both. Self care is so important.
I so agree with you. I have a 2 year old, and and 3 month old. It's so tiring sometimes. Me time is hard to come by. So worth it though
You have so much wisdom!
Thanks, bro. Great insight...glad I watched!
When are you going to do another spoken word
Very good! So true, so real.
Really lovely vlog Jeff, while doing some babysitting I also was aware of the 'stupid father' thing and I think it's really bad, great to see and hear you gently pushing against that. Thanks.
Finally Jeff!! I've been waiting for a video :D
thank you!!!!!! thank you!!!!! thank you!!!!!
I agree with the no hobbies. it is hard to sallow. thanks for throwing that out there
Love the realness of this video! Thanks, Jeff! Where is the background from? Looks cool! Annnd I'm in my 30s and have been thinking about going back to school so thank you for that awesome info! I'm gonna sign up for it now!
nice video maybe i should do a video on this topic as well when its father's day in my country
The points you made were 👌 on point lol, great video!
Even though I'm not a dad (I'm a woman haha), I don't think hobbies should be avoided. For me they are often times a huge part of self care. Otherwise awesome points in this!
totally! which I even mention self care on that topic. So hope the point was taken :D
Absolutely :)
P.S. Listening to "It's Not What You Think" on Audible. Loving it!
I don't have kids yet but I imagine that babies and small children won't let me have much (if any) time to be alone. As the kids grow up and become more independent there will be more time for hobbies. I like the idea of inviting the children for play time when possible though. Oh and those cheesy family vacations are pretty cool. :)
Welcome to the world of being an epic dad dude
Awesome video!
Love the background, you should keep it for other videos you do like this
Great video Jeff. I was wondering if I can still the school thing if I'm already in school?
There is one thing in taking responsibility and being a full time dad, but it's almost like you're saying that the dad has to do everything alone....
My wife and I shared the care of our children since the earliest beginnings of our parenthood and we both had time for our own activities and interests!
There should be personal time too. It's just a matter of communication, mutual respect and being flexible.
amen on the "sitcom" dad bro
"... probablyy shouldn't of let your little swimmers swim XD lol OMG dying
#TRUTH. That's ALL that needs to be SAID!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :)
I don't have kids, but it's nice to see a Christian male acknowledge that providing doesn't stop at being a breadwinner. It includes nurturing as well. I'm not married, but I don't want a full time housewife. There's nothing appealing about only seeing my kids at 4:00 am.
+Jefferson Bethke thank you for this video. It seems like you're saying that self care is important but that we (parents) shouldn't have hobbies. Can you explain the difference? I like to workout and am passionate about learning about nutrition. Is this a hobby or self care? I'd love t hear your input. God bless!
more vlogs please!
I like your opinion on hobbies. a man belongs to God and his family
HELP. this was been driving me crazy.
I watched video of a Christian speaker on Facebook couple days ago and I would love to watch it again and I can't find her name no matter how hard I try.
she was fairly young (maybe early 20s), she had red hair, dreads, and she is white.
she had amazing things say and I really want to see it again. so if anyone knows her name, please let me know.
haha, like your choise of words lol
Reminds me of that Spongebob episode with Clammy
If I have a 10 years old daughter. Can I have a hobby? And how about the 4 things MOM (stay home mom) need to know?
What shirt was that you were wearing?
Being a father is awesome and taking care of my son is the most amazing gift God has given me. But what about the wife? I struggle with this constantly because being the sole income earner and taking on a majority of the responsibilities gets draining quick. I understand that kids aren't easy trust me - but shouldn't that be the greatest joy in the world taking care of your kids? I would trade work any day to do it but this viewpoint that comes across constantly about men having to take on more responsibility with the wife raising kids coming from the church structure I struggle to comprehend. If we are supposed to love everyone shouldn't that love come with a Reducing the stress that is put in modern day husbands by helping provide for finances or providing free time for de-stressing or going out with friends once in awhile? I think this viewpoint coming from the church (from my personal experience) of the men being kinda like superheroes and the wife staying home to raise kids (because only women are called to do so) actually leads to higher divorce rates.
5:25 lol Hahahahahaha
Jeff .. Spoken words man !!! Where are those
This is one of the few videos I dont agree with. I feel everyone should have hobbies, when you literally live every single second of every single day, living for your kids or family or for work, and you have no "me" time, you'll be burned out and resentful. Yes, family is important, but your mental wellness is very important and if you're not supposed to have hobbies, why does God give us interests and skills outside of our jobs and families? It's not to distract us from "reality" but to also enjoy other things in life, and to express ourselves and be unique. It's only bad when you hyper focus on those and it pulls and distracts you from your job as a Christian. It's like telling our kids they cant go our for sports or enjoy things in life too because they'll never be able to be individuals growing up.
And saying "that's basically the time I pass out, so I dont have time for hobbies" I totally get that, some days I cant do other things I enjoy either, but I cant post a video expressing my personal time frames stating that dads shouldn't have it because I dont have time for it.
I was thinking about the recent orlando shootings and a couple other things that have come up in the past months, and I was wondering if you had an opinion on sexuality and religion in correlation to parents disowning their children and these hate crimes against the lgbt+ community that have been happening for so long. I guess my question to you is: can people's homophobic behaviors truely be backed by the words of the Bible? and if not isnt it wrong to display self righteous behaviors such as telling domeone the way they are is wrong because it isnt "how things are supposed to be". i would really appreciate you're thoughts on this.
haha I like when u don't edit that stuff out. good message.
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how can I get my dad to see this without showing him and therefore offending him
Lexi G put on ur tv screen when hes around lol
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I'm a single dad. :/
thats a whole different story I hope you know :D first off blessings to you! I think I'd die parenting by myself. You are our hero so thank you!!!
+Jefferson Bethke really love your videos man. Always look forward to what you have to say.
I was wondering if BMX is a sin? Yes it's a sport but you're hurting yourself for it.
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ich würde sagen, das video war ziemlich gespult!:D
Er redet immer so schnell :D
Ach krass!^^.. ich fand halt auch seine hanbewegungen mega gespult!^^
Ich kenn es von freunden, die mich auch imemer unterbrechen und sagen ich soll langsamer reden... dabei bin ich noch garnicht auf diesem Level!!;D
I can't handle this. This guy encourages people to think critically and says it's a good thing. But just 4 minutes earlier in the same video he's telling people HOW TO THINK! He is saying "If [work] gives you more joy and identify" then it's a problem. Everyone's different. Everyone has different priorities.
Disclaimer, I am not religious. However, there is nowhere in the Bible that says you must have kids or you must have a family. If you value work and think you can do more good with that, go for it!
Jeff's hypocrisy kills me. I encourage everybody to think and make decisions for themselves.
Ahh, yes, so when the Dad has had his alarm beeping at 6 am then gone and worked hard for ten hours and is physcically and mentally shattered, he should then go home and relieve the mother of her duties and change nappies (dypers) and chip in with anything else she needs? are you friggin kidding me? Utter crap.
Now before anyone starts with "yeah but she`s tired from looking after the kids all day and cleaning the house" bull crap, I am a father and had to raise a baby pretty much on my own as well as keep up with domestic chores and I can say with 100% certainty that it is way easier than a full time job. Babies may wake in the night but they also sleep alot in the day , and when they do, you can just chill, unlike the dad at work, no chilling for him. House chores take an hour or two tops in the morning, leaving the rest of the day to just feed the baby when they need it, or change them, not difficult at all.
Then when the baby gets to 3 years old, they start nursery and school, freeing up even more time for the mother, again, no such joy for the dad working ten hours.
So cut the crap. Women and men have their roles, that doesn`t mean men have nothing to do with their kids, they of course should play and engage with them, especially on weekends when they have free time, but don`t expect a 50/50 on all chores and child reering responsibilites AND work full time. Really makes me angry this nonsense.
wtfr r u talking about. start talking about shit that matters
What the hell is this guy on about? he obviously has no idea what being a parent and in particular what being a farther involves, he has not long finished puberty yet seems to think he knows enough to preach to people who have and are walking the walk.
At 5:23-5:30 who on earth do you think you are boy? how dare you say to another man that you think that he should not have children.
This is a disgraceful show of ignorance that the channel owner has tried to cover with some sort of religious philosophy.
Nick Pernet he was speaking to those dads who put their hobbies before their children
Uriel Agredano No, he is preaching on the back of fuck all experience.
There are many people who have spent their entire adult life raising children and working in the field of family dynamics that say the exact opposite, that you should have hobbies and time for yourself and your partner away from the children.
He has absolutely no idea what he is talking about and thinks he is helping when I'm fact he is not.
No matter how many times he asks for an amen it does not make his inexperienced "advice" valid.
If I have a 10 years old daughter. Can I have a hobby? And how about the 4 things MOM (stay home mom) need to know?