My shrink recently told me that she thinks a lot of what I consider characteristics of my ADHD might be more related to my 'giftedness'. I asked her how she could tell the difference and she laughed. A lot of the characteristics explained here are also used as flags for ADHD and/or autism.
on my way getting a re-evaluation of my adhd because i want to become a pilot - ive found strong indication its ONLY giftedness. when i got diagnosed, all they cared about was my adhd...
The first person to mention not listening to music while focusing!! I always thought I might be sharing ADHD with being gifted (2e) but when I saw how all ADHDs agreed on how music helps them focus, I got confused?! Music hypnotizes me or annoys me.
I'm gifted, college was too slow and filled with useless classes. I'm a polyglot in human languages and computer languages too. People with Asperger's seem to be drawn to me. When I was younger I want to go to med school and law school and engineering school. I was too much to handle for my single mother who wanted me to just be normal. So I really had no direction 54 year old unemployed software engineer with multiple sclerosis which affects my memory really really badly😢
Oh my gosh. So glad I came across this. I have started to wonder if I am ASD, and then of course because of the way my brain works some people (who aren’t psychologists) might think I am a bit ADHD. Yet, I lack the impulsivity and risk seeking stimulation of ADHD minds, as well I can tend to focus and pay attention for long periods of time, even when the subject matter is boring. I was always highly intelligent and despite having a very traumatic childhood and moving around to multiple schools, by grade 3 my teacher wanted to advance me a grade because I was always bored and well ahead of others. I skipped so much class in university because it was boring to listen to things I could learn very quickly on my own. Without trying hard I still finished with mostly A’s in an accounting degree. All of these things make sense. Thank you for sharing your knowledge.
The serotonin one is interesting. I have been told most of my life that people thought I was autistic or ADHD or whatever was trending at the time. When I found your video comparing the three it was amost midnight and going to be the last video before sleep. It clicked so hard that I couldn't sleep for a few more hours.
The only one of these that I didn't have was the turning off music to focus. And by the end of the video I was watching on 2x. Thank you this was helpful
I only had your video at 1.25 lol. You’re succinct and not a slow talk-er. I agree with most of these, though I’d prefer silence when I’m reading just like I turn down music to see a street sign. In fact, television is my main nemesis. Oh, and that boyfriend controlling the remote, never muting commercials and if I leave the room, he comes in to interrupt my deep thinking. We need boundaries! I’d add “love of novelty” to the list. I love to try new routes, hidden secret escapes and boy, do I make an interesting cook. The boyfriend keeps his foods from touching each other and always wants to go on vacation to the same exact cabin. Cmon!!!😅
A friend of mine has been trying to tell me that I'm Gifted for months and I have been telling her she's crazy... not feeling like she's so crazy now. Nine of these points were 100% accurate to my life.
I didn’t realize these were gifted qualities. I always laugh first. Increasing the playback speed is the only way I can listen to audiobooks or I get bored.
Was anyone else here put through slow reader classes in grade school? School failed me in many ways. Thank God for the Internet. I stopped reading dictionaries and encyclopedias like I did in school. 😊
I relate to almost every sign, but when I hear someone speaking I cant focus on reading at all haha. It needs to be perfectly silent in order for me to concentrate on reading or to fall asleep for example.
Recently stumbled on your channel… I’ve always just thought i think about things backwards, fast, and that I hyperfixate… after listening to a few of your videos I think I might be gifted…. The music thing gets me. Ever since having kids I stopped listening to music completely… in the house it’s just too much stimulation and in the car I just can’t focus.
Thanks for the info from another gifted, high sensitive and multipotentialite soul! 9/10 in my case in this video! haha! And also, the more I learn about myself and giftedness the more I realise that my partner is also ND (although he hasn't been evaluated and he doesn't want either, but it's fine). FUN FACT: I would like to tell you something very interesting; when I'm imagining myself in a calm and peaceful place, always come into my mind a specific vision/place, but I don't know exactly where it is. The point is that, I started following you some months ago, when I discovered I'm neurodivergent to create community, learn info about ND... AND what I have realised TODAY watching this video is that, the place I picture myself is YOUR picture of the lake and mountains in every video or your profile pic on IG! hahahaha! Synchronicity and I love it! Greetings!
I think for #10 it may also count to bask in the enjoyment of others' brainy solutions. When I try a new tool or technique, and it works, I can say, "This is BRILLIANT!! OUTSTANDING! Who did this? I wanna shake their hand!" For example, I love using those vacuum suction storage bags, where everything shrinks way down... I always feel a sense of satisfaction, like, "A-ha! I win! Take that, carry-on baggage rules!"
🤣 A friend posted this video, and I started to watch it because of the friendship. “Giftedness” is not on my radar right now. But dutifully, I listened. Then I realized that I do laugh first at jokes quite often. But I started to feel restless. I decided to watch this video on TH-cam so I could turn up the speed to at least 1.25. I thought it was, like, being crass or superficial for me to do that, but I didn’t care. I just needed to get the information faster. 🤣 Yeah.
6:43 it’s absolutely comical my inability to pay attention to someone talking while I’m playing a video game. People say I become a completely different person when I’m gaming and it shocks them how deeply and intensely focused I become, haha
What about being able to learn the pattern or formula for books and TV shows. I have a really hard time watching TV or reading books from the same author (think Dan Brown) because I pick up on the pattern of how things will develop. Don’t get me started on Madam Secretary! I wanted to love that show but the pattern was too obvious.
I used to get so bored in the workplace. I could go from A to Z almost instantly in comparison to most who required every step in between to be gone through. Such a waste of time.
I resonate with all this, but I still always ask why and how. I must be wrong, but I have a strong feeling. I am highly gifted; it makes sense while simultaneously not making sense. Most likely, my environment and all the people around me seem normal to me, so it was a pattern I subconsciously recognized as a very young age, but on a similar note, ask why I would be so special even with all the evidence I have witnessed in my own life experience. I also don't understand how I understand complex topics with no real education at all since I've always been suspended, skipped school, or had any experience and am able to come up with things I've discovered alone and soon realize they have been discovered. I should be the dumbest person, but not somehow, or at least I think 😂 At school, I was superior to everyone around me; I enjoyed fighting and was able to win, or I simply understood how to fight to a degree; everything was simply easy. At school, I just didn't want to do the work, so I just didn't. I wanted to just play video games or explore things on my own rather than be told what to do, and no one actually explained why it's important; they just told us we must do the work, and basically to the teachers and everyone, fuck you. I felt like an adult trapped in a child's body. I always found it odd how I was always teaching everyone how to do things like gaming, sports, etc. while no one was teaching me 😅
Im all of them except number 5. I cant even imagine that happening 😊. Thanks for the playback speed advice. Slow videos drive me nuts. Understanding things quickly: i can do this, but not every time. For example, im still trying to get my head round a lot of quantum physics, regardless of how many quantum physics for dummies i read. Is this normal for gifted people?
Absolutely. One common trait of gifted folks is asynchronous development, where we develop different skills at different rates. And also, we each have our own areas of expertise -- we'll learn new concepts in "our" areas quickly, and may learn concepts in other areas more slowly. I talk about this in my video about misconceptions of gifted people if you want to hear more :) th-cam.com/video/Hb-TQ6N-1Es/w-d-xo.html
When I get bored watching a video I start doing something else or if someone is talking long about something my brain wonders onto something more interesting. Sometimes I need people to repeat what they are saying cause I'm thinking of something else I just can't leave. I can't hear them really but I do see them talking...I'm not sure what all that is?
I don't really think, believe, I might be gifted. However, I did pretty much score either 8, 9 or 10 out of 10, depending.....on if my interp. was correct:-)
I'm pretty sure turning off the radio when you're lost in the car is a part of the shared human experience. I wouldn't be surprised if the cavemen that left Africa asked the birds to kindly shut the fuck up while they figured out how to get home.
Pretty much all 10 points. Some not to be proud of.... Luckily I don't get mad mad when someone interrupts me when i'm in my " I'm finally starting to understand this " phase. Due too allot of childhood trauma my " giftedness " got misinterpreted as autism. And ehh... it hasn't helped me much. I'm only finding out now that it's something else. At 32 years old.... what a waste.
Not necessarily. Some gifted people are on the spectrum, and some people on the spectrum are gifted, but they're not exactly the same thing. "On the spectrum" generally refers to autism. Both giftedness and autism are a neurodivergence, but in different ways. People with both are often referred to as twice exceptional, or 2E.
GenX-er recently diagnosed AU/ADHD. Life upside down. Just Found your channel. Never thought of myself as gifted. Although I feel exceptionally perceptive and love to learn and seek out large and diverse quantities of information - and have been called “Brilliant” I don’t actually feel smarter than other people. Hearing you say that recognizing giftedness isn’t about how much someone knows but how their brain works really takes me aback. Judging by these criteria, I am definitely gifted as well. If there is a test for this, or an assessment, I definitely want to find it. Just don’t know what to make of my life at this point. The diagnoses have made sense of my life and my mind and my experiences, but I also feel so lost. The good news is I’m not mentally ill lol. But that was the thing that terrified me before I got diagnosed as neurodivergent. I’m OK, but I’m really lost.
Have a question, we have some gifted people, but maybe not quite on the top of the list, or maybe because we are 2E, gifted and dyslexia, or gifted and BiPolar, so we never had the diagnosis u til adulthood. But now we have a grandson, 6 years old this week. Profoundly gifted. Has lots of things that actually everyone said autism when he was 2 and 3, but now no signs of autism at all. My question is schooling, public just does not work he was skipped 4 years last year, and will be ready for middle school in winter break. We can’t do that, so we will go school. Our problem is getting him to do anything he does not like, he will go through 20 pages of math, he will read his book in a day, rather than 2 weeks. He will do 5 weeks of science and history in 20 min. But then spelling, writing, putting thought on paper, he will not do even in the subjects he loves. It has become a block for both of us. I think it has something to do with him being a 6 year old and not having the fine motor skills he wants to have. Others think it is his stubbingness. How do we get over this, because it is holding him back in all subjects but math. He needs to practice to get better, but we go weeks begging, promising his favorite things if he will do it. I don’t want to punish because that could backfire, oh if it don’t do this I get to go to my room where I can read about space or do countries. Any suggestions?
It's normal for gifted children to have asynchronous development, meaning that they excel in certain areas but are still at their age level in other areas. Try to be patient and set realistic goals that focus on progress rather than perfection. You can also: Understand the Root Cause 1) Assess Motor Skills: Consider having his motor skills evaluated by an occupational therapist. Improving these skills could reduce his frustration with writing and spelling. 2) Identify Emotional Blocks: Sometimes, resistance can stem from fear of failure or perfectionism. Encourage a growth mindset by celebrating effort and progress rather than just the end result. Engage His Interests 1) Integrate Interests: Find ways to incorporate his favorite subjects into less favored ones. For example, if he loves science, have him write about a recent experiment or a scientific discovery. 2) Creative Approaches: Use creative methods to teach spelling and writing. For instance, create stories together where he dictates and you write, gradually encouraging him to take over the writing. Try Practical Strategies 1) Break Tasks into Small Steps: Smaller, manageable tasks can make the work seem less overwhelming. Celebrate the completion of each step to build a sense of accomplishment. 2) Use Technology: Allow him to use a computer or tablet for writing assignments. Typing might be easier for him than handwriting and can be more engaging. 3) Visual Aids: Use visual aids like mind maps or graphic organizers to help him structure his thoughts before writing. Use Motivation and Rewards 1) Choice and Autonomy: Give him some control over his learning. Let him choose the order in which he completes tasks or select from a list of writing prompts. 2) Positive Reinforcement: Use positive reinforcement, such as a reward system for completing less favored tasks. Make sure the rewards are immediate and meaningful to him. Collaborate and Communicate 1) Regular Check-ins: Have regular check-ins to discuss his feelings about different subjects and any challenges he faces. This can help you address issues as they arise. 2) Team Approach: Work with his teachers or a tutor who understands gifted children. They might have additional strategies and resources to offer. Good luck!
I seem to have most of these, with an added issue of being frustrated about my current circumstances and when I get overly frustrated I become lethargic or self destructive
It's like a gifted brain has a need to be active. Boredom is a major issue.
And if you don’t put it to something good…..it’ll find all kinds of wild problems to solve all on its own
My shrink recently told me that she thinks a lot of what I consider characteristics of my ADHD might be more related to my 'giftedness'. I asked her how she could tell the difference and she laughed. A lot of the characteristics explained here are also used as flags for ADHD and/or autism.
You'll want to check out my video on how to tell the difference between giftedness, ADHD and autism! th-cam.com/video/jOdQ4g1gjJU/w-d-xo.html
on my way getting a re-evaluation of my adhd because i want to become a pilot - ive found strong indication its ONLY giftedness. when i got diagnosed, all they cared about was my adhd...
The first person to mention not listening to music while focusing!! I always thought I might be sharing ADHD with being gifted (2e) but when I saw how all ADHDs agreed on how music helps them focus, I got confused?! Music hypnotizes me or annoys me.
I'm gifted, college was too slow and filled with useless classes. I'm a polyglot in human languages and computer languages too. People with Asperger's seem to be drawn to me. When I was younger I want to go to med school and law school and engineering school. I was too much to handle for my single mother who wanted me to just be normal. So I really had no direction
54 year old unemployed software engineer with multiple sclerosis which affects my memory really really badly😢
Oh my gosh. So glad I came across this. I have started to wonder if I am ASD, and then of course because of the way my brain works some people (who aren’t psychologists) might think I am a bit ADHD. Yet, I lack the impulsivity and risk seeking stimulation of ADHD minds, as well I can tend to focus and pay attention for long periods of time, even when the subject matter is boring. I was always highly intelligent and despite having a very traumatic childhood and moving around to multiple schools, by grade 3 my teacher wanted to advance me a grade because I was always bored and well ahead of others. I skipped so much class in university because it was boring to listen to things I could learn very quickly on my own. Without trying hard I still finished with mostly A’s in an accounting degree. All of these things make sense. Thank you for sharing your knowledge.
@@Spanish_ASD_Girlalso ADHD like autism can present pretty differently from person to person.
I speed them up sometimes, but more often i start reading the comments while listening to the video.
Holy cow! Thank you! I knew about the IQ definition but check check check on all of these points! There are others like me?
The serotonin one is interesting. I have been told most of my life that people thought I was autistic or ADHD or whatever was trending at the time. When I found your video comparing the three it was amost midnight and going to be the last video before sleep. It clicked so hard that I couldn't sleep for a few more hours.
The only one of these that I didn't have was the turning off music to focus. And by the end of the video I was watching on 2x. Thank you this was helpful
I only had your video at 1.25 lol. You’re succinct and not a slow talk-er. I agree with most of these, though I’d prefer silence when I’m reading just like I turn down music to see a street sign. In fact, television is my main nemesis. Oh, and that boyfriend controlling the remote, never muting commercials and if I leave the room, he comes in to interrupt my deep thinking. We need boundaries! I’d add “love of novelty” to the list. I love to try new routes, hidden secret escapes and boy, do I make an interesting cook. The boyfriend keeps his foods from touching each other and always wants to go on vacation to the same exact cabin. Cmon!!!😅
A friend of mine has been trying to tell me that I'm Gifted for months and I have been telling her she's crazy... not feeling like she's so crazy now. Nine of these points were 100% accurate to my life.
Welcome to the club :)
I didn’t realize these were gifted qualities. I always laugh first.
Increasing the playback speed is the only way I can listen to audiobooks or I get bored.
Was anyone else here put through slow reader classes in grade school? School failed me in many ways. Thank God for the Internet. I stopped reading dictionaries and encyclopedias like I did in school. 😊
"serotonin from soliving". YUP I've been sitting here grinning because i finally have a name for my brain.
AHHHHHHHH im so happy man....
I relate to almost every sign, but when I hear someone speaking I cant focus on reading at all haha. It needs to be perfectly silent in order for me to concentrate on reading or to fall asleep for example.
Recently stumbled on your channel… I’ve always just thought i think about things backwards, fast, and that I hyperfixate… after listening to a few of your videos I think I might be gifted…. The music thing gets me. Ever since having kids I stopped listening to music completely… in the house it’s just too much stimulation and in the car I just can’t focus.
Thanks for the info from another gifted, high sensitive and multipotentialite soul!
9/10 in my case in this video! haha!
And also, the more I learn about myself and giftedness the more I realise that my partner is also ND (although he hasn't been evaluated and he doesn't want either, but it's fine).
FUN FACT: I would like to tell you something very interesting; when I'm imagining myself in a calm and peaceful place, always come into my mind a specific vision/place, but I don't know exactly where it is. The point is that, I started following you some months ago, when I discovered I'm neurodivergent to create community, learn info about ND... AND what I have realised TODAY watching this video is that, the place I picture myself is YOUR picture of the lake and mountains in every video or your profile pic on IG! hahahaha! Synchronicity and I love it!
Greetings!
That's awesome! Let me know if you want me to try to send you the original picture without my logo on it :)
I think for #10 it may also count to bask in the enjoyment of others' brainy solutions. When I try a new tool or technique, and it works, I can say, "This is BRILLIANT!! OUTSTANDING! Who did this? I wanna shake their hand!" For example, I love using those vacuum suction storage bags, where everything shrinks way down... I always feel a sense of satisfaction, like, "A-ha! I win! Take that, carry-on baggage rules!"
YES! I love a good idea 😍 I actually keep a list of really genius, clever places, activities and inventions :)
You're funny, I like it
🤣 A friend posted this video, and I started to watch it because of the friendship. “Giftedness” is not on my radar right now. But dutifully, I listened. Then I realized that I do laugh first at jokes quite often. But I started to feel restless. I decided to watch this video on TH-cam so I could turn up the speed to at least 1.25. I thought it was, like, being crass or superficial for me to do that, but I didn’t care. I just needed to get the information faster. 🤣 Yeah.
Number 9!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I have seriously talked to my wife about having a cabin or separate little work room detached from our house for this reason.
I think you'd like a number 9 and a number 9 large :p
I've told my husband that I want to rent my own apartment. 😂
It is hard because nobody wants to listen to you and you have to watch them struggle with stupid ideas.
6:43 it’s absolutely comical my inability to pay attention to someone talking while I’m playing a video game. People say I become a completely different person when I’m gaming and it shocks them how deeply and intensely focused I become, haha
What about being able to learn the pattern or formula for books and TV shows. I have a really hard time watching TV or reading books from the same author (think Dan Brown) because I pick up on the pattern of how things will develop. Don’t get me started on Madam Secretary! I wanted to love that show but the pattern was too obvious.
I say "Only eight movies have ever been made, the rest are all duplicates of one of those original eight.
Sometimes 2x isn't fast enough and it gets in my nerves.
Subbed... Love your vibe
Thanks :)
I used to get so bored in the workplace. I could go from A to Z almost instantly in comparison to most who required every step in between to be gone through. Such a waste of time.
Are we mixing ASD symptoms with giftedness here?
There is a lot of overlap between ASD and giftedness -- here's how to tell the difference: th-cam.com/video/jOdQ4g1gjJU/w-d-xo.html
Maybe ASD and ADHD are over diagnosed/ misdiagnosed
The magic wand sound gets on my nerves. Sorry. I know it's probably cute and fun for everyone else.
In da clurb, we all fam.
You are my gifted spirit animal lol😂
All 10. And I'm an ENFP, so life is a song! 🎵 🎉
I resonate with all this, but I still always ask why and how. I must be wrong, but I have a strong feeling. I am highly gifted; it makes sense while simultaneously not making sense. Most likely, my environment and all the people around me seem normal to me, so it was a pattern I subconsciously recognized as a very young age, but on a similar note, ask why I would be so special even with all the evidence I have witnessed in my own life experience. I also don't understand how I understand complex topics with no real education at all since I've always been suspended, skipped school, or had any experience and am able to come up with things I've discovered alone and soon realize they have been discovered. I should be the dumbest person, but not somehow, or at least I think 😂
At school, I was superior to everyone around me; I enjoyed fighting and was able to win, or I simply understood how to fight to a degree; everything was simply easy. At school, I just didn't want to do the work, so I just didn't. I wanted to just play video games or explore things on my own rather than be told what to do, and no one actually explained why it's important; they just told us we must do the work, and basically to the teachers and everyone, fuck you. I felt like an adult trapped in a child's body. I always found it odd how I was always teaching everyone how to do things like gaming, sports, etc. while no one was teaching me 😅
Im all of them except number 5. I cant even imagine that happening 😊. Thanks for the playback speed advice. Slow videos drive me nuts. Understanding things quickly: i can do this, but not every time. For example, im still trying to get my head round a lot of quantum physics, regardless of how many quantum physics for dummies i read. Is this normal for gifted people?
Absolutely. One common trait of gifted folks is asynchronous development, where we develop different skills at different rates. And also, we each have our own areas of expertise -- we'll learn new concepts in "our" areas quickly, and may learn concepts in other areas more slowly. I talk about this in my video about misconceptions of gifted people if you want to hear more :) th-cam.com/video/Hb-TQ6N-1Es/w-d-xo.html
Same! Though Ive never driven in 49 years.
Can you do a video about giftedness and autism, please?
I'll put it on my list :)
2 recent, scientific studies strongly suggest that giftedness is just another part of the spectrum.
@@zqxzqxzqx1 Could you reference them, please?
Here you go! th-cam.com/video/jOdQ4g1gjJU/w-d-xo.html
I was recently tested for autism and I believe I have both giftedness and autism. I look forward to seeing what my results are.
When I get bored watching a video I start doing something else or if someone is talking long about something my brain wonders onto something more interesting. Sometimes I need people to repeat what they are saying cause I'm thinking of something else I just can't leave. I can't hear them really but I do see them talking...I'm not sure what all that is?
I was sewing on my kid's scouts badges while watching this. I have to be doing something else to stop the 'concentration leak' (ADHD 101)
I have all of them.
I don't really think, believe, I might be gifted. However, I did pretty much score either 8, 9 or 10 out of 10, depending.....on if my interp. was correct:-)
I'm pretty sure turning off the radio when you're lost in the car is a part of the shared human experience. I wouldn't be surprised if the cavemen that left Africa asked the birds to kindly shut the fuck up while they figured out how to get home.
IDK, not for my wife...
She has the next, conflicting characteristic, that if she'd reading / analyzing, she hears absolutely nothing.
I have them almost all but still feel like this would be true for most people and I'm just kidding myself.
Pretty much all 10 points. Some not to be proud of.... Luckily I don't get mad mad when someone interrupts me when i'm in my " I'm finally starting to understand this " phase.
Due too allot of childhood trauma my " giftedness " got misinterpreted as autism. And ehh... it hasn't helped me much. I'm only finding out now that it's something else. At 32 years old.... what a waste.
5:37 😂 I’m infact watching this video on speed
Yes!
2E is a pain!
Do you consider what you describes in this video as being on the spectrum?
Not necessarily. Some gifted people are on the spectrum, and some people on the spectrum are gifted, but they're not exactly the same thing. "On the spectrum" generally refers to autism. Both giftedness and autism are a neurodivergence, but in different ways. People with both are often referred to as twice exceptional, or 2E.
I added a new video about the difference between giftedness and autism: th-cam.com/video/jOdQ4g1gjJU/w-d-xo.html
Is there such a thing as Thrice Exceptional?
@@ThriveMindGiftedCoaching
Sounds like we’re all gifted!
And yes, I would like fries with that.
😂
As I'm watching this on 1.25 speed 😅
Same, I felt called out
@ 😆😆
If person on the autistic spectrum ( what was called Asperger's) does not notice or recognize micro expressions, can they still be gifted?
Absolutely! You don’t need to have every sign on this list to be gifted. Giftedness manifests in different ways in different people.
GenX-er recently diagnosed AU/ADHD. Life upside down. Just Found your channel.
Never thought of myself as gifted. Although I feel exceptionally perceptive and love to learn and seek out large and diverse quantities of information - and have been called “Brilliant” I don’t actually feel smarter than other people.
Hearing you say that recognizing giftedness isn’t about how much someone knows but how their brain works really takes me aback. Judging by these criteria, I am definitely gifted as well. If there is a test for this, or an assessment, I definitely want to find it.
Just don’t know what to make of my life at this point. The diagnoses have made sense of my life and my mind and my experiences, but I also feel so lost. The good news is I’m not mentally ill lol. But that was the thing that terrified me before I got diagnosed as neurodivergent. I’m OK, but I’m really lost.
Not me watching this at 1.75x speed lol
Slacker. I'm watching this at 2x. 😂
Would you not think everyone knows what you know
Yes x10. But I’m also 100% sure I have ADHD…
Have a question, we have some gifted people, but maybe not quite on the top of the list, or maybe because we are 2E, gifted and dyslexia, or gifted and BiPolar, so we never had the diagnosis u til adulthood. But now we have a grandson, 6 years old this week. Profoundly gifted. Has lots of things that actually everyone said autism when he was 2 and 3, but now no signs of autism at all. My question is schooling, public just does not work he was skipped 4 years last year, and will be ready for middle school in winter break. We can’t do that, so we will go school. Our problem is getting him to do anything he does not like, he will go through 20 pages of math, he will read his book in a day, rather than 2 weeks. He will do 5 weeks of science and history in 20 min. But then spelling, writing, putting thought on paper, he will not do even in the subjects he loves. It has become a block for both of us. I think it has something to do with him being a 6 year old and not having the fine motor skills he wants to have. Others think it is his stubbingness. How do we get over this, because it is holding him back in all subjects but math. He needs to practice to get better, but we go weeks begging, promising his favorite things if he will do it. I don’t want to punish because that could backfire, oh if it don’t do this I get to go to my room where I can read about space or do countries. Any suggestions?
It's normal for gifted children to have asynchronous development, meaning that they excel in certain areas but are still at their age level in other areas. Try to be patient and set realistic goals that focus on progress rather than perfection. You can also:
Understand the Root Cause
1) Assess Motor Skills: Consider having his motor skills evaluated by an occupational therapist. Improving these skills could reduce his frustration with writing and spelling.
2) Identify Emotional Blocks: Sometimes, resistance can stem from fear of failure or perfectionism. Encourage a growth mindset by celebrating effort and progress rather than just the end result.
Engage His Interests
1) Integrate Interests: Find ways to incorporate his favorite subjects into less favored ones. For example, if he loves science, have him write about a recent experiment or a scientific discovery.
2) Creative Approaches: Use creative methods to teach spelling and writing. For instance, create stories together where he dictates and you write, gradually encouraging him to take over the writing.
Try Practical Strategies
1) Break Tasks into Small Steps: Smaller, manageable tasks can make the work seem less overwhelming. Celebrate the completion of each step to build a sense of accomplishment.
2) Use Technology: Allow him to use a computer or tablet for writing assignments. Typing might be easier for him than handwriting and can be more engaging.
3) Visual Aids: Use visual aids like mind maps or graphic organizers to help him structure his thoughts before writing.
Use Motivation and Rewards
1) Choice and Autonomy: Give him some control over his learning. Let him choose the order in which he completes tasks or select from a list of writing prompts.
2) Positive Reinforcement: Use positive reinforcement, such as a reward system for completing less favored tasks. Make sure the rewards are immediate and meaningful to him.
Collaborate and Communicate
1) Regular Check-ins: Have regular check-ins to discuss his feelings about different subjects and any challenges he faces. This can help you address issues as they arise.
2) Team Approach: Work with his teachers or a tutor who understands gifted children. They might have additional strategies and resources to offer.
Good luck!
Interesting, but I always thought having all these things was normal... Maybe it's the impostor syndrome.
Imposter syndrome is a common thing gifted ppl go threw. Almost all of them.
10/10 😂
I am not gifted 😞
Not necessarily! These aren't the only signs. Check out this video (Smart vs Gifted) for more: th-cam.com/video/lDjZQlSVxe0/w-d-xo.html
Doesn't matter, everyone is unique in their own way.
I seem to have most of these, with an added issue of being frustrated about my current circumstances and when I get overly frustrated I become lethargic or self destructive