Autism Potty Training is Done!
ฝัง
- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 16 ต.ค. 2024
- It's taken over 7 years but Alistair finally pulled it off with this great little trick. It's surprising how few people will ask others what they want in life and only focus on the outcomes they want. We hope this video helps you on your journey with toilet training.
#autism #pottytraining #education #hotwheels #autismfamily
Autism Family Merchandise:
autismfamily.m...
Other links:
/ autismfamily
www.facebook.c...
![ILLSLICK - WINTER IS COMING [Official Video]](http://i.ytimg.com/vi/dwTMeM1zIhQ/mqdefault.jpg)
I am a nurse student and I am currently watching this from Kosova, the reason I love your channel and have been watching you guys for a long time is because I am currently working with autistic children and will work in the future as that's what I've chosen to do after I get licensed. I watch your videos religiously and I have learned so much on how to show empathy and be cautious for autistic people (especially children) and be able to have a healthy communication with them. As always, thank you and I hope all of you are doing great. Much love ❤️
If you ever find what would work for an 18 almost 19 year old autistic girl to potty train. Please let me know. She is double diapered for the night. We never know what to buy her, as far as gifts go. I have had her in cloth underwear for e few days, and she's back full time diapers again. I have not been able to get that far again for some years now. She also started with siezures in February on her 18th birthday. So if you find help for me, please let me know and I will send you my number so you can send it there.
Please talk to autistic adults and teens to understand us better. I've been institutionalised for autism and it's not fun because the adults always seemed to think that there was something wrong with me that needed to be fixed. The main factor of the negative things with autism is stress. I've gotten yelled at for being stressed at schedule changes. That only made it worse.
My son has been diagnosed of autism spectrum since childhood and has battled with it all his life. But recently taking Dr Oyalo herbs have helped him get rid of it completely
My son is 5 I don’t see any light for potty training
I know for a lot of people this is not a subject that they like to talk about. I was diagnosed with autism as a young child and I went through a lot of problems with using the number 2 as well. My parents said at first I would follow my brother to the bathroom and watch him use it. Which I started doing as well. But it started hurting and causing a lot of pain. Which caused a lot of problems. I started getting constipation. My parents tried everything they could think of. Then they tried something like you did. They had it everytime I went to the bathroom and did it I was given a quarter in a jar. I took several months but I started going. Yes I still had problems but they knew it would work out in the end. I still had problems all through my childhood and even in my teen years. But I was going but not always able to go on my own. I told this because I know what you are doing does work. There maybe up and downs but people with autism do get it. It just takes us longer than the normal person. I am happy he is doing good. To many people give up or result to spanking or punishment. That only makes things go in reverse not forward like we all want it to go. I grew up in the 70's and 80's. My parents and doctors say I am still like a kid but I don't care I am me and I am happy. We just want to be just like a normal person.
Thank you so much for sharing your story ❤ My son is autistic and a lot of times his dad and I just wish we could hear what he’s thinking in his head, and wish so much to be able to hear his voice. My son has a tough time going to the potty, he got number 2, but has a tough time with number 1. I think number 2 may be really uncomfortable in the pull-up but may be he got used to number 1 in the diaper… I think we’ll try this method as best as we can since he is verbal but has to be prompted with PECs to talk or be asked what do you want for him to tell us and not just go for what he wants.
Hi, thank you for sharing your experience. My son is autistic and unable to share his point of view at this point in his life. It’s nice to hear from an adult who has been through this and eventually succeeded. ❤️
I want to potty train my son but after an accident on grandma's carpet, she insisted going back to pull ups because she can't be shampooing her carpet all the time. I work full-time and there are no places that take autistic children here.
@@amberallen4181 don't give up on him. My parents and family didn't give up on me.
Excuse my question, but what about shame when you did the "big thing" and other peoples had to clean your privat parts?
Urin incontinence is another case, many, especially elderly people have problems here, but defecation is another level ....
My son was not potty trained until age 8. He stopped being in diapers a long time ago, but then we put pull-ups on him. He was getting better at going to the bathroom. At age 8, I let us run out of pull-ups and told him we were out. I put them on for school only, so he wouldn’t have an accident at school and be embarrassed. He was mostly potty trained at 8 and could go all day without a pull-up and go to the bathroom. He was only wearing it at night. We weaned him from pull-ups (gradually) and the strategy worked. Every child is different, so we can help them along the way to progress, but don’t push them too hard.
Congratulations and to cheers to many more milestones. My son is finally potty trained at 8 1/2 and no bed wetting since memorial weekend. Still working on being proficient at #2 wiping but I’m patient. This channel has helped through many difficult challenges. Many thanks and blessings to your family.
My son has been diagnosed of autism spectrum since childhood and has battled with it all his life. But recently taking Dr Oyalo herbs have helped him get rid of it completely
Hi! 😁 I love how you make sure your kids are comfortable enough to post videos about them! Good video I try to study a lot about autism and this helps a lot!!
I have autism
@@AnneAndAnlyOk
My son has been diagnosed of autism spectrum since childhood and has battled with it all his life. But recently taking Dr Oyalo herbs have helped him get rid of it completely
This was actually how my mom got me to use the potty when I was little. The deal was, in order to go to public school, kindergarten, I had to be able to use the potty, no accidents, and wash hands well, I was just finishing preschool when the deal was made and I worked with my occupational therapists and mom and family helped, and by the time I was supposed to be enrolled, I had everything down pat.
Was a great idea of my mom back then. I do not think if she had chosen this path would I have ever even made it to public school, or I would at least be in the special ed class and probably end up there permanently.
Thank you and your son for allowing us to see this. It’s very helpful. Congratulations to both him and you🤗
As one who also has autism and have been trying to research more as I live with it and these videos are super helpful and I'm 25 now but still learn new things about autism through your videos
thing is we know very little and it sucks. I have autism too, and I can easily imagine why my autism times 20 equals no language. But since no accurate description can be made by either me or another autistic person, research will have to continue, and it really feels like it has no end to reach!
Anyways, autism sucks. It certainly has great sides, but the biggest issue I have is inconsistency with difficulties.
Say fluent dialog for example, on a good day I can do that perfectly no effort and I have such a great time. If I was in this condition full time I would have gotten rid of every autism related issue I have.
The thing is I randomly go from full of energy to dead tired for no reason. That inconsistency destroys my ability to make progress.
My son has been diagnosed of autism spectrum since childhood and has battled with it all his life. But recently taking Dr Oyalo herbs have helped him get rid of it completely
LOL! I loved the fake monocle part. Thank you and Alistair for sharing. It really helps us families struggling with potty training.
Congrats on the potty training! I have two boys on the spectrum, 4 & 5 and we’re gonna try this method. Thanks for the advice and sharing your family’s journey.
I’m so happy that your son’s potty training was a success🙂! Although I have no one in my family has autism, this was very educational for me. I learned something new🙂! Thanks for sharing with us👍! Love you all and God bless✝️🙏🏻❤️🙂🌈!
Great job, Alastair!
I was also late with potty training but I was a year younger once I was potty trained at the age of 6. I’m glad you guys figured out what works and enjoy your diaper free days!
I have Aspergers and started potty training at 20 months old
Hi
@@MelB868 everyone starts at different ages. That’s great that you were potty trained by 20 months old
I got potty trained at 8
My son has been diagnosed of autism spectrum since childhood and has battled with it all his life. But recently taking Dr Oyalo herbs have helped him get rid of it completely
Good job Allistair!
I remember when I was Alistair's age, I would refuse to use the bathroom at school because the toilets were so loud. I don't even know how I managed to hold it in all day. By fourth grade, I finally got past that in which I'm glad I did
Well done Alistair! Huge progress!
Alistair, I am proud of you :) Very big thank you to all your Family for every video, have a good time and enjoy your life! Greetings from Ireland :)
I love how you ask your children for permission to post videos about him and explain what will be discussed in the video. I hate that so many ppl think that just because someone has ASD or any other type of special needs that they will not understand/care when people talk/post videos or pics about them. I work in special education with students with ASD (those that are more severe on the spectrum), are very limited on speech (most speech is done by scripting), and moderate to severe emotional and behavioral disorders/conditions, and will tell you my students ABSOLUTELY know what others are saying about them. My favorite thing is when we are in FC class and my wonderful students will say EXACTLY what they heard someone say about them or how sad and or mad it made them feel. The look on staff's face (this is usually new staff that is told our students are not stupid just learn and view the world differently but dont listen or staff that you know are only there foe a paycheck).
I also think the approach you took to potty training was great and in a way that does not shame your child if they have an accident (talking about spanking, belittling, etc.). While my 2 daughters are not on the spectrum I did take this approach to help potty train them and it worked better than any other method I had tried before hand. At work we have also done the same approach with students who began have frequent accidents at school due to behavioral reasons with great results. But we do not use this approach with students who are having accidents due to trauma they have endured at home or somewhere outside of school(that is something completely different and requires the help of a behavioral specialist to really reach the root of the problem and sadly sometimes CPS if abuse is suspected).
This is very helpful. My son is eight with autism and we’ve been waiting til he can talk to take that hurdle, and now it’s here. Thank you.
You make so much effort to please the youtube gods! I get it… going back to the video, my son is five and within the spectrum potty training is so challenging. What an amazing video yet again from autism family. ❤
I just discovered your channel and love your family and the videos you publish. The autism potty training done video helped my family so much. My son is 7, almost 8 and just now getting potty trained. I used the same toy for motivation and it worked! I wanted to say thank you for putting yourselves out there. You’re truly making a difference. 💙
Thanks for posting this. We’ve been on a hiatus from training our 6 y/o for a few months, after steadily trying for the past year. I’m trying to look for a new approach since the last try was pretty fruitless and stressful.
He’s semi-verbal and has lately started bargaining with us for treats, so I think I’ll try enticing him with a big ticket item to work towards.
My son has been diagnosed of autism spectrum since childhood and has battled with it all his life. But recently taking Dr Oyalo herbs have helped him get rid of it completely
I know that was a huge hurdle! I’m in the process with my son now but he recently used the potty all by himself without us asking so I’m hopeful!!
Oh my gosh, when I was 2 years old back in the late 70's, I 've potty trained myself by not using the diaper. So, this was when my parents where truck driving and, we were in Long Island, New York at that time. My Mom was getting ready to change my diaper like she would normally do everyday etc. When she had noticed that I was dry, she woke my Dad up and the next minute he was in the truck driving seat finding a restaurant for me to use the bathroom. Both my parents and I went inside the restaurant, ran straight into the women's restroom. I did my business of you will pardon me for it, my Mom was so happy I did used the toilet along with my Dad as well. Thank you so much for sharing your video since, I 'm a 46 year old woman with Apsburger Autism Spectrum. Thank you from the bottom of my heart!☺
Anita Augenti
My 4 year old has autism and this gives me hope for our own potty training journey.
I appreciate you asking Allister it if was okay to share. It's a sensitive topic. Thank you Allister for being brave and sharing. You are a great help and encouragement. I'm so happy for you that you can go potty and wipe too! Big skills! Those hot wheels sets are so awesome 😎👍 🌈 🦋
My son has been diagnosed of autism spectrum since childhood and has battled with it all his life. But recently taking Dr Oyalo herbs have helped him get rid of it completely
Awesome job, Alistair! Enjoy your Hot Wheels. You've earned them. I'm proud of you too.
Allister I am a big fan of seeing you happy on the videos. I love your personality and upbeat attitude. I still stim like that as an adult. Also Allister can be more independent and have a sleepover for example no worries. I feel confident that we will see videos of all 3 happy and making you thanksgiving dinner one day. They might have autism but they all have fun personalities that people want to be around.
Well done! It is hard enough for neurotypical children! My 5 year old has really come and long way and uses the potty but cannot tell me when he needs to go which is so challenging. But he has made progress.
I wasn’t able to even begin asking consistently until I was five-and-a-half in preschool. My communication skills just weren’t quite there yet (For example, I was at least age four when I started asking my first questions (which is at least a year late)). I don’t know for certain if I am on the spectrum or not. Back in the late 70s and some of the early 80s they didn’t test children for autism unless they were completely non-verbal and other causes have been ruled out (or so I have been told)).
What a brilliant video on this! So good of you to share it and it's true the money on nappies and wipes is more expensive. My friends son wasn't toilet trained until he was 10 it was very hard. Well done to your little guy and you!
I'm so proud of Alistair and the other two kids(Ian and Connor),they are doing pretty well,sometimes I wish I can being as good as them
Currently I'm trying to studying GED(I drop out of high school because of my mental illness),I hope I can study it well and get GED,after that I can study SAT and go to college,my dream is going to live in USA one day
Just found your videos. My daughter is 5 1/2. She was diagnosed with severe ADHD, but is going to be tested for autism in April. We feel quite sure she’ll be on the spectrum, though high functioning. Anyway, I see a lot of similarities including her still not being night time trained. I sometimes feel like the only one, but your videos have been so helpful. Thank you
My son has been diagnosed of autism spectrum since childhood and has battled with it all his life. But recently taking Dr Oyalo herbs have helped him get rid of it completely
for the most people it's an inconvenient topic, but you have it done very well... 👍
I’m glad you figured out a reward for him good ideas he seems so happy wit his toy too
Great job Alistair!
I wish my parents had the patience and naturally nurturing type of parenting skills you guys do… hope you are all well, thanks for another great video
Thank you for this video it's very helpful to me ,am from East Africa my son is autistic and your videos help me learn more about it
Awesome! Thanks for sharing. Your channel is so helpful!
I really want to thank you for this videos I have a daughter 5 years old with autism and I am struggling with the potty training and this help me a lot 🙏🏼
Don’t lose hope ! I d’ highly recommended find something she really likes! Then make it a reward for bathroom 🚽 use! I was eight. I finished ☑️. One month before my 9 birthday that’s was 18/1/2 years ago.
Thank you Alastair! this is very helpful for other kids and parents.
Well done alistar! 💙 You can also get a mattress for bedwetting problem in case he dose wet him self in the middle of the night just to be on the safe side
My sister did this with my niece after going through 2 mattresses and countless sets of sheets and comforters, boxes of pull-ups, etc. The good thing was she did not tell my niece this so that she wouldn't think it would be OK to continue to wet the bed at night. While my neices is not on the specrtum she she does have a medical condition that causes leaking and we found out once she was in grade school that her daycare/preschool teacher that had taken a great interest in her (which creeped me out at the time and still does) was arrested at another daycare for doing the unthinkable to infant and toddler aged children he had also taken a great interest in. While my neice at the time said she didnt remember any "bad touching" she also thought this person was her good friend and someone she was able to trust, who bought her fun stuff aka grooming. Which breaks my heart to think of and angers me a lot. But she did go to counseling and has been fully supported by our family and has been accident free since she was 8 and is now 14!
Mattress covers are great for anyone. Even kids who never wet the bed are still good at spilling sodas, leavivng markers uncapped, picking up a stomach bug and barfing, lots of things. One of those rubberized-on-the-bottom side covers under the fitted sheet does the trick.
@@scoobideux15 yes! I have these on both of my kids ages 6 and 14 beds and special covers in their pillows as it not only helps if they spill something or if the dog jumps on the bed after a bath, etc. But protects from things like bed bugs and dust mites. I lived in a large overcrowded city for a long time and there would be outbreaks of bed bugs a lot, especially if you lived in an apt complex, housing unit, or duplex (which I lived in all 3 at different points). We got bed bugs 1 time and it was the most disgusting, annoying, and expensive thing to go through...never again lol.
Congratulations Alistair!
I’ve always known it takes a longer time to Potty Train for most with Autism like me, heck I knew it took time for me! As someone who is a teen struggling with Autism, I feel for your family as I feel for my mother when she helped me with Potty Traning, I wish everyone who is parenting a child with Autism learns this, it will be ok!
I wish Alistair the best of luck in life!
My son has been diagnosed of autism spectrum since childhood and has battled with it all his life. But recently taking Dr Oyalo herbs have helped him get rid of it completely
This is great! I am potty training my 3
year old that is on the spectrum. I know it will take some time, but I make him go every 2-3 hours and he is very comfortable going but he just doesn’t ask to go on his own yet. He will be 4 in July and I am hoping he will be at least day trained by then
its good to give advce about potty training cause i think it is important way to go dude keep up the good videos.
Hey, I’m have autism and I’m from Canada and I have to say that every time I watch your video and I learn a lot of things about this stuff. I have to admit this the best content I enjoy so far.
I also live in Canada and have autism
@@Sonicfan-cc1te what part of Canada? I live in Lacombe and plan on moving to wolfville NS
@@rockythedog395 I live in Alberta
@@Sonicfan-cc1te what part of Alberta? I used to live in lacombe but moved to wolfville Nova Scotia
@@rockythedog395 Calgary
Good job. it took me a while to be potty trained too. I have a disability too. Everybody learns in on time. Keep up the good work.
Well done Alastair! Thank you for sharing your video. It is must helpful to others dealing with this issue.
My autistic son finally starting going #2 in the toilet instead of his pants around the beginning of 2022 before his 8th birthday. For a while, I was really afraid that I would still be changing his diaper when he was an adult; He was just so stubborn about it that the potty training felt hopeless. We tried everything including rewards since he was 3. I think part of it is that his gut issues finally improved. We no longer have to give him supplements for constipation. His favorite candy is Twix bars and I told him the only time he can have them is when he goes on the toilet. He would go in the bathroom and try hard for those Twix bars. He only goes about twice a week but at least its soft and not hard bricks. He really likes to use a kitchen timer. He watches the timer count down and when it gets to a certain number (of his choosing) then he lets it all go. Also, when he was around 5 or so, we were told by several different sources that their autistic sons started going when they were around 8. Interesting that it worked out that way for us too.
So was he withholding his bowels? My son is 5 and holds his bladder and bowels...
@@michellehood3345 he only wanted to go in a diaper. Also, for the longest time, when we would put him on the toilet, he would only get out small chunks of poop so would have to go like every hour or sometimes every 30 min. It made potty training extremely difficult because we couldn’t watch him all day long. He had constipation and GI issues.
@@turgrodan1018 what else did you do to persuade him to stop using the diaper and start using the toilet? I was working as an assistant OT with a non autistic 6 year old who had the same preferance for doing No2 in the diaper. For the one year I was seeing him, there was no change, sadly.
@@dim1377 lots of prayer
Great job, Allister!! We are really struggling with our 5 yo ASD/ADHD/SPD non-verbal son and potty training. He was doing great
filling up sticker charts and getting M&M's as rewards and he did awesome going #1, but never went #2. Then for some unknown reason he developed a fear of the toilet and sometimes the bathroom itself. We're trying to figure out how to make him comfortable with the toilet again and not afraid. His special education preschool teacher has started playing with toys in the bathroom to try to make it a fun, comfortable space.
Alistair went through that phase too. Turns out he hated the loud sound of the flushing and started making stories about a monster in the toilet. I had to go into to the bathroom with him many times to show him there was nothing to fear. 👍
@Autism Family I go with him everytime unless he gives me the impression he wants to do it all by himself in which case I wait close by the bathroom. He's going on six months on this potty training regression. He's non-verbal (he has an AAC device he's learning) and only has a small vocabulary, but communicates in different ways. So it makes it very hard to know if he's created a monster in his mind or a scary scenario or what it is that's scaring him. He's never been afraid of flushing and has always found it fun. We're so lost on this. He still thinks it's kind of fun flushing even though he doesn't sit or stand at/on the toilet. He gives all signs of being physically and cognitively ready for potty training developmentally. He even says the words for #1 & #2. We don't know how to correct this. How did you get Alistair to not be afraid of the toilet? Any help is appreciated!
@@sabrina_boymom0517it could also be the pain or general feeling of #2 especially if constipation involved. Laxatives can help but can also be a double edged sword if they cause diarrhea
I am so happy that it worked out so well. I am so glad that he is doing well!.
Great info.. Great delivery .🤗 Loads of love there.👍 Thanks for sharing!
@AutismFamilyChannel Ngl .. I was quite intrigued at first about the way you manage your kids in your videos being always cool and calm and emotionally detached for the sake of a proper observation...in the sense that you treat them just like NT kids unlike some ASD parents I know that treat their kids as having a handicap. Each one is on a different level of severity of the spectrum, I know, but you do a wonderful job being sharp, concise and offering great support to them. Which is probably why your kids although on spectrum, are actually extremely sensitive, smart and aware of themselves. For eg, taken separately would have never guessed Connor is on spectrum tbh .. such a wonderful kid. God bless you all.
On your video on Halloween ian is taller than his mom he doesn’t look 14 he looks 18 his voice is getting deeper how is Connor doing today
This is dedication!!!
Yeah I struggled with potty training too.
Awesome! I’m sure that’s a huge relief for him too, much less to deal with😄 I was potty trained fine but then I had a really bad bedwetting phase for a long time when I was his age, was very glad to be rid of it😂
Thanks for this video. We have two autistic children in our church, one is 2 and the other 4 and we have been on the 4 year old parents case to get him potty trained to attend the kid's classes for his age and be able to fully transition him out of the toddler class but they have Autistic Child Denial and keep saying he will potty train and learn to use his words when "he" is ready. It's gotten to the point to where most of us are tired of how the parents are treating their son,we wish that child services would come in to take him away because the father constantly is spanking him sometimes for nothing because they don't seem to fully understand that their child is autistic. The 2 year old on the other hand has good parents that noticed right away he had Autism and got him the necessary therapy and is two steps ahead the 4 year old and can use his words and soon might be potty training.
Thanks so much. This is great idea. I’m ashamed to admit but my son is much older and still having potty issues. So I’ll give this idea worth a try. Thank you so much!!
Update: I tried your idea and I’m so pleased to let you know that my son is fully potty trained. A huge thanks and blessings to you and your family!!
So glad he's going to the toilet well. My son is only 2 1/2 but is no where near even starting the thought process of potty training. He's not yet been diagnosed with ASD as he's still to young. But communication is a huge issue. He also super loves hot wheels. They are his thing. No other toy will do. Except some other cars. It took me till I was 7 to get fully out of nappies, so I'm not going to rush him, he'll let us know when he's more ready to learn. But the toy thing is a great idea I may be able to use when he's a bit older and he can hopefully communicate better with us. Thank you.
Same here 8 years old due to riddlen. Was finished just a month before my 9th birthday that’s was 18/1/2 years ago.
I potty trained my 2 autistic boys (then 7 and 5yrs) in a matter of hours during lockdown. I was highly stressed, depressed and at home with just the both of them. The house was a big mess and I had no help.
Their dad was sick admitted to hospital and until then he cooked most of the meals and helped with a lot of the household chores.
Both were in diapers and 1 of the 2 had smudged some poo on toilet wall. I was so stressed I got into a 5min fit of rage with both standing in front of me. I looked both in the eye and told them that from that moment on, neither one would be wearing diapers and both would use the toilet appropriately. I was yelling the whole time even I scared myself!!!!!!
From that moment on they both used the toilet appropriately.
You’re the man alistar !!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
We love him we love you guys
Hi I live in Ireland Dublin I have autism to I'm 12 years plus I love Ian and Conner and of course allister
Thank you so much for your videos and sharing with us. This has helped me and my spouse tremendously with our 6 year old who is on the spectrum. 🌺
Alester is a good little Trooper for this video he reminds me a lot my 5yr old ❤
I am raising my autistic granddaughter. And one day she came running through the house and knocked out a front tooth. Because of how her teeth were they took the other front one out and put partials in. That didnt work for her, she would not wear them. Then they put a new pair in that were wired to her other teeth. She took a fork and dug them out. Then they put braces in. She would cry almost every time we went to get them adjusted. After they came off she needed front teeth. I wanted implants put in, but insurance wouldnt pay for that. (Its cosmetic) so my only other option was to wire a partial in again. She fretted and fretted over it. So one day I told her that if she would do it without complaint, crying or prying them out I would give her $200. She came out without 1 peep. It's been a year now and she is still good! Even after she spent her money. Best $200 I ever spent in my life!
I'm having such hard time with #2 my son is high functioning but non verbal. I know he can do it because he has done it before. 🙏 We will get there
No, he doesn't understand what that means. My parents put me through similar experiences, and at the age of 30 I'm now finally in therapy discovering how I had no control of decisions elders made..even if at the time I said it was okay. I was a child, I had no idea, and I trusted the adults that said it was okay.
I’m curious, if it’s okay with you to answer, what experiences did they put you through? Was it social media related or something else? What did they post, etc.? It must’ve have been at the very beginning of social media because TH-cam started in 2005 (17 years ago) and you are 30. Thanks
@@AutismFamilyChannel Thank you for replying, I appreciate the constructive dialogue. My experience was not through social media, but word of mouth or gossip (which is today's form of social media). I believe I'm probably hypersensitive to topics like this due to my own situation, but I apologize if I was insensitive.
I remember my mum told me that I had to read a special custom book that would tell me how go. The book would say things like "Lilly gets on the toilet" "Lilly sits on the toilet" you get the idea.
That's really good for Alistair! I also have autism and for me the age that I became completely potty trained was age 8. I didn't really have a lot of trouble with number 1 but I had a lot of trouble with number 2, I was having accidents a lot even during the day. I remember all the times my parents would make me sit on the toilet for sometimes up till an hour long until i did my business, I remember back when I was having accidents during the day they said that if I have an accident in the pool (Every Sunday me, my brother who is really severe on the spectrum and my Dad would go to the autism swim every sunday) I would not come swimming with them the next week. By the time I was 8, I would mostly just be having accidents at night (It would be pretty much every night) so they had a chart that showed if I had accidents at night. Another thing I remember is that I was at a birthday party one night that had a sleepover and I remember really wanting to stay for the sleepover after the party and my Dad said that I couldn't because he didn't want them to have to clean me up in the morning and of course I was really upset. Eventually though before I turned 9 I finally got it. My brother also had really extreme struggles with being potty trained and had accidents a lot. It was even harder for him than it was for me because as I already mentioned his autism is very severe and even now at the age of 19 he struggles a tiny bit. I remember our parents getting mad at us when we were stil having accidents at that age when most kids are completely potty trained. But yeah those times were very difficult for the 2 of us and the rest of the family
Autism or not it shouldn’t take that long to potty train
W2
Same here 8 was finished one month before my 9th birthday 🥳. That’s was 18/1/2 years ago.
Wow you are all so amazing Autism family god bless ❤
Great! I’m still working with my daughter she’s 10 years old. Some days good other days relapse! Thank you!😊
The struggle is real, we have gotten to the step of him taking the dirty pull-ups to the trash and it’s not that he doesn’t acknowledge the #1/#2’s it’s that he will not go in the 🚽
Congrats Alistair! :D i hope he sees this !!
All of your kids seem 2 be doing fantastic!! Great job 2 everyone..
My cousin who has autism did had a problem with going to the bathroom at young age, he would take water pills every night to help him go to the bathroom when he couldn’t. You son alester just needed time to adjust when it came time for him to use the potty.😊😊😊
My 4.5 year old son has asd and is still in nappies. He has no issues doing wees but coz of his limited and poor diet he’s always had issues pooing. He has been taking osmolax on a daily basis to help and it definitely has helped but he holds onto it until he can’t hold the poo in for any longer and then it comes out in an explosion. He doesn’t have an issue sitting on the toilet but he’s only once had a wee on the potty but he prefers sitting on the toilet with an insert. He’s yet to have a wee or poo in the toilet. I guess just have to keep trying and hope eventually he will and then go over the top with praise
I am glad you shared this video, to share the challenges and triumphs. We were in the same boat. the wiping took years. His rewards were Thomas. I believe consistency mattered, once they were physically able to recognize elimination patterns.
Way to go, Alastair!
A - Amazing
L - Love
I - Incredible
S - Super
T - Talented
E - Excellent
R - Rocks
I am going to use your technique try to toilet teach him. We still struggling my son is 5. Your channel definitely made me more inform about autism. I am from UK we don't get much information ones we get diagnosed.
Ho family! Thanks for the nice video. Well done, Alistair! Good job! All of the video's have an educational function I follow the video with the transcription and it helpt me a lot. I hope that everything is fine with all of you. A big hug from the Netherlands. 🇳🇱😃❤️🇺🇲
I’ve always wondered why rewards for potty training and bed wetting work so well for some people, especially with bed wetting. I’ve often been told bed wetting is not intentional, but if it’s not intentional, how come rewards make the person stop? Is it because the person intentionally stopped or is it because the reward tricked their brain into stopping, like a phycological trick? Perhaps we will never know. Either way, I’m glad the idea of rewards worked for you guys. Congratulations!
I would imagine that it is probably just a coincidence.
I remember reading in a General Psychology course back in the 1990s that most children have the bladder capacity needed to begin to wake up dry right around the time that rewards start to work because brain and bladder development usually tend to make this possible (in many (but not all) autistic and non-autistic children) by the time that a certain percentage of one’s adult height and weight are reached (I forget the exact numbers, though (it was close to thirty years ago)).
There are also other factors such as anti-diuretic hormone levels and whether one is a deep sleeper or not. Bed-wetting has many possible causes (constipation can even play a role), but it is almost always accidental even if it really looks deliberate in a specific instance.
I am not a doctor, never have been, and probably never will be. I have just read some articles and essays off and on over the years.
Part of it may be a "mind over matter" kind of deal. I think many people can be trained to overcome many (not all) of their subconscious behaviors with enough time and training.
@@AutismFamilyChannel well said. Mind over matter and Love that gives you patience to avoid negativity. Happy travels lovely family!💥💜
The rewards don’t actually work for this (in general). Sometimes anti-diuretic hormone levels will increase around that time and people will assume that the rewards worked because one thing happened and then another thing happened after.
That being said it may help in a few rare instances if the bed-wetting is caused by sleeping too deeply. It could be that in some rare instances that excitement about a reward will effect sleep enough to result in not sleeping as deeply and that might cause wetting at night to stop in those instances, but even then (scientifically speaking) the jury is still out on this. It could just be a coincidence.
Really enjoyed your side of this problem ,we did the same thing with our son ,he got a car evey time he went to the toilet ,it started with hot wheels but then we found supermarket generic brand cheeper but it was what he wanted,a bit of bribing can go a long way ,good look with all your journeys it's always ongoing .👍😀
When a child on the spectrum (or any child for that matter) is toilet training a certain degree of awareness of what the body is doing and a certain level of verbal understanding is required.
It’s good to see that Alistair just had a good ninth birthday (the candles on the cake look like they might have been the relighting kind. In my experience those were funny (and a bit confusing) the first time, but after that it was just annoying) and his speech is still coming along and that (from the looks of it) he still seems to be toilet trained.
I had a right hemisphere stroke when I was born due to a premature birth and I’m also on the autism spectrum. I also have a very mild form of cerebral palsy. It had some effect of my speech, eye-hand coordination, and walking when I was growing up. I was very wobbly on my feet and tended to fall down a lot. These days (after years of adaptive PE when I was in school) it mostly affects my speech (primarily how I say the letter “r”). I was level two on the spectrum when I was younger but I’m level one now. It took a long time for me to get there because back in the 1970s and 1980s they didn’t have the therapies that they have now.
Like Alistair, one thing that I struggled with a lot was toilet training. My mother bought me a potty chair around 18 months to two years of age and introduced it to me right away but I didn’t understand what it was for at first. Back in those days the “urine training first” method was trendy. Based on the fact that Alistair also completed his bowel training last it would seem that the “urine training first” method has made a bit of a comeback. The major pro of that method is that the floor and furniture generally stay cleaner at an earlier point in time. The major con is that for most children bowel awareness develops first and delaying this part of training may cause most children (both autistic and neurotypical) to take a longer time to finish their training (sometimes much longer).
In your video you were indicating that Alistair was somewhat stubborn and that he might have perhaps been using manipulation tactics to get his Hot Wheels. It’s possible that this is true to a degree (especially if he’s level one, but I don’t remember his autism level so I’m unsure about this).
I noticed in earlier videos that Alistair struggled quite a bit with verbal development when he was younger (possibly even more than I did when I was that age). I noticed that more recently he has made a great deal of progress in this area (even if he has had some speech regression off and on (especially during the Summer months when activities are less structured)). His recent verbal development has probably helped him to finish his toilet training since he now understands what is expected of him. It’s possible (even likely) that (despite appearances to the contrary) that he didn’t really understand this before.
While I said my first word pretty much on schedule the words I learned after that did not come as quickly. I learned to say “moon” at age one (according to my parents). My baby book indicates that around 18 months (just about the time that my potty chair was introduced) the only other words in my vocabulary were “cat” and “clock”. I was at least as old as three when I knew words like “mama” and “dada”. By around age four I knew words like “up”, “down”, “yes”, “no”,”water”, and “potty”. Some time in the four-and-a-half to five year age range I was also able to understand words like “pee-pee”,”poo-poo”, “bath”, “all done”, and some other words and phrases with similar meanings. I was also able to ask basic questions like “What’s that?”. From what I remember I actually remember it actually came out sounding more like “What that?”. “Why?” and other questions would come later. It was also around this age that I was learning basic words for parts of the body (Like the words in the “Head, Shoulders, Knees and Toes” song), and certain words and concepts such as “wet” and “dry”. It was only around this time that I started to make it to the downstairs toilet at home somewhat consistently (Other toilets would come a bit later starting at age five-and-a-half in preschool) when I needed to “go”. My clearest memories started around age three (although I have some memories here and there from age two, or even slightly younger (For example I remember my parents unboxing my potty chair and setting it up in front on the heating duct in the downstairs bathroom)).
My biggest issues with training involved understanding what was expected of me and when and being able to hold it long enough to get to the toilet. Due to the conditions that I have my pelvic floor muscles have never been particularly strong. Given that my pediatrician believed in only beginning bowel training after urine training had been completed the result is that my bowel training only began after my fourth birthday. I was essentially bowel trained by my late sixes or early sevens (my daytime diapers came off for the most part just before age six when I started kindergarten). I would continue to have a number of daytime bowel accidents even at age eight (and less often at age nine (or even slightly older, like ten (especially during the summer))) that looked like “on-purposes” to the outside observer (even though they were genuine accidents the vast majority of the time).
When I was younger many of my “wetting accidents” (and some of the other kind) that were not a result of a loss of muscular control (especially after I turned five) were a result of misunderstandings about what I was supposed to do in a given situation. For example, at that age I didn’t understand sarcasm yet. Therefore if I was sitting in my car seat (or in a shopping cart at the grocery store, for example) and I indicated that I was about to have an accident and my mother said that it was “Just great” or “fantastic” I would think that she was giving me permission to “go”. In these situations I usually had a Pamper on but not always. I wonder if some of Alistair’s difficulties with his training could have been caused by misunderstandings such as this when he was younger. After all, many parents tend to use sarcasm in situations such as this.
Another issue that came up with my toilet training was that I took longer than most kids to understand that words can have more than one meaning. For example when I was around age five my mother was teaching me about traffic lights and she would do this as follows. When the light turned red she would stop the car and point to the traffic light and say “Red, stop!”. Then when the light turned green she would say “Go, mommy and Tommy!” and then move the car forward. Early on when she did this I only understood the word “go” to be a reference to “going to the bathroom”. This led to quite a few “mistakes” when I was sitting in my car seat. It was only around the time that I started kindergarten (around age six) that I understood that the word “go” has at least two meanings and I no longer made that mistake. Thinking back to that one Halloween a number of years back I wonder if Connor might have had similar misunderstandings off and on when he was around preschool or kindergarten age. I remember in that one video you were saying “Go Connor!” just before the video changed to the next scene when you were back at home. If he didn’t yet understand that the word “go” has two or more meanings and he misinterpreted what you were saying to him it might explain what happened. If Connor made mistakes like this for that reason it’s possible (even likely) that Alistair did as well at that age. This would seem to be a fairly common type of misunderstanding for someone on the spectrum at an early age. This is not a result of a lack of intelligence (despite what a few of my close relatives (for example) continue to believe). My IQ today is around 125 (give or take a few points). Today (based on a recent video I watched on your channel) Connor’s understanding of math would seem to be at least two or three years ahead of where mine was growing up. I didn’t even begin to learn about the order of operations until Algebra 1 in ninth grade (age fifteen) and even at that age I was still struggling with fractions and long division. Connor has made a great deal of progress in all areas since he was around kindergarten age and I would estimate that his current IQ is at least in the 130s (if not 140s). I think that’s intelligent enough for him to get into a group like Mensa (if he chooses). You might want to consider this if Mensa membership would not effect his access to any services that he might still need for social skills or anything else that he may still need to work on. It will be important to consider the pros and cons of this.
I think this pretty much sums up my current observations on these topics.
Such great wisdom! Thank you so much for that. We just have to figure out how to do that with Ezra. :-)
I noticed in recent videos that Simon seems to be at least pretty much toilet trained at least during the day. If he’s not night-time trained yet (or even for the next year or two) don’t worry that will eventually come with time.
I was thinking that maybe Simon can occasionally act as a role model for Ezra and show him the mechanics of how the process works. This may help Ezra with his training while reinforcing Simon’s own training. In addition, he could maybe help to cheer him on (if his social skills training up to this point includes that). As long as Simon enjoys doing this and isn’t under too much pressure this should eventually benefit both of them. One thing to note, though: Don’t put Simon under too much pressure in this regard that might cause his own toilet training to regress and we don’t want that.
Also, I have noticed that Alistair’s social skills and communication have come along quite a bit lately. Given that Alistair and Ezra are close in age and Alistair was very recently trained he might have enough memories of the process and what it was like to also act as a role model for Ezra and possibly be able to cheer him on. Who knows, maybe Alistair might be able to think of some toilet training tips for Ezra that I can’t think of yet because the process is likely to still be pretty fresh in his mind.
The success of this may depend on how well Alistair and Ezra can get along with and communicate with each other. And also how often they see each other. If they can get along with and communicate with each other fairly well in some fashion then meeting up even once or twice a week might help Ezra with both his toilet training and his social development.
I think this pretty much sums up any tips I have on this subject for now.
Thanks for sharing! How old is Alister when you try the potty training. My kid is about to be 3yrs old but I do not think he is ready. Our 6yr old we tried right at 3yrs old and he did great with no regressions but I fear with my other kiddo it will be a different story. (FYI - for context both of my kiddos are on the spectrum)
We tried I think as early as 2, but had to wait a while longer until he was ready again. It took many, many attempts.
@@AutismFamilyChannel I comment on your video on TH-cam
@@AutismFamilyChannel My mother started with me when I was about 18 months to two years old. She pretty much kept at it the whole time until I got there all the way. She never really took a complete break from it and for me that was key in eventually getting there.
In my case one of the hardest parts is that between being on the spectrum and having some other conditions I had difficulty understanding what peeing and pooping were. Therefore for at least the first one-and-a-half to two years that the downstairs bathroom had a potty chair in it I had no idea what to do with it. Before that results (if any) were completely accidental.
My mother had to teach me about this in a very unconventional way that to an outside observer would probably look more like untraining than training. Specifically shortly after I turned three-and-a-half she would take my diaper off, put me on her lap (after making sure that I was well hydrated) and put me on her lap with either the TV running or while reading a story. Then she would wait for me to wet her lap and say something along the lines of “Look Tommy, you’re going pee-pee can you say pee-pee?”. Around this time she taught me what the phrase “Go pee-pee!” meant by saying something along the lines of “Go pee-pee, Tommy! Go pee-pee!” whenever she noticed me going (no matter where I happened to be). After maybe about a month of this (at the most) my mother would tell me in that fashion to “go” when I was on my potty chair and I finally knew what to do at least in regard to this part of my training. That was one of the few times that my mother took a break from putting me on the potty chair for any significant period of time. But even then she was still working on my potty training (in a fashion). During this time what my mother was doing with me was (essentially) Elimination Communication (minus the receptacle (and with words and phrases instead of cueing noises)).
After I turned four the potty chair was thrown out because it was decided that I was “too old” for it. My parents started training me on the big toilet and I started to regress. It was also at this point that my doctor said it was time for my bowel training to begin. The bowel training was carried out in pretty much the same fashion as my urine training. There were two differences when it came to bowel training. First, words like poo-poo (and a few others) were used for that function and second my mother would initially work on this with me during walks around the neighborhood. In essence she would have me drink some fluids and walk about two or three blocks with her to help to move things along. Then she would have me sit on her lap and eat lunch or a snack to help things along further. After that she would have me push my feet against a large rock or a tree stump (or sometimes even her hands) in order to learn the mechanics of how to “go” in a sitting position. Sometimes I would have a diaper on for this but due to the regression mentioned above she was also working on my urine training once again so I usually did not have a diaper on for any such practice. After maybe a month of this (at the most) she had me try it on the big toilet and (as I recall) it worked after only one, two (or at the most three) tries. This was one of the few times that a break was taken (for any significant period of time) from putting me on the big toilet during my initial training. Even during this time my mother still worked on my training with me in some fashion (as described above).
Between age four-and-a-half and five I was pretty much trained at home (aside from some accidents and regressions here and there). It took until age five-and-a-half to almost six before I was able to use any unfamiliar toilets, though. Therefore it was not uncommon for me to be wearing a diaper on shopping trips and long car rides (even during the day) until almost kindergarten.
Sometimes over the course of my childhood I would regress (especially during the summer time even at kindergarten age and during the grade school years (especially grades one through three (age seven through nine)) and my mother would need to repeat the process described above. During my childhood my mother probably had to do up to six months of extra laundry and I was still in diapers at night (and sometimes on long car rides and shopping trips during periods of regression) until the end of fourth grade (if not fifth) but in the end I got there both night and day before I started middle school.
When I was in school middle school was sixth through eighth grade (ages twelve through fourteen for me).
This pretty much sums up the basic details of how I was trained and how long it took.
@@AutismFamilyChannelIn some older videos I saw a potty chair when Alistair was younger. I wonder if maybe you tried EC (Elimination Communication) with him and maybe saw a few initial results from that. Some people I know who have kids on the spectrum have indicated that EC methods have some effectiveness in terms of teaching children what to do even if it’s not technically potty training in and of itself.
My mother used similar methods with me starting when I was three-and-a-half after two years of not getting any results from traditional toilet training methods. One technique that she used was the EC method mentioned on Andrea Olson’s TH-cam channel of “cueing along with an accident” (typically used up to the age of six months with neurotypical children) instead of using punishments or other corrections (with either cueing noises or words or short phrases depending on the child’s age and level of language understanding). When my mother was training me (back in the late 1970s and early 1980s she never heard of EC she just stumbled upon the idea completely by accident after trying everything else.
In essence she would take my diaper off, wait for me to “go” (whenever and wherever it happened) and she would make a cueing noise or say “go pee-pee” or “go poo-poo” whenever and wherever I went. After up to a month of this she was able to get me to go (#1) on the potty chair for the first time now that I knew some of the mechanics of what to do.
It was more than two years after that before I really mastered it, but it was at least a start.
Yeah... when you know they know how and are able to bathroom themselves, you have to give them incentives or disincentives (once they are capable and have demonstrated that they can.). Just be patient.
I remember when my 1st grade sped teacher got me toys when I set word goals
I'm trying to learn more about this, I'm wanting to go into the field of helping children with this condition.
On that note,sometimes,diapers are necessary. Even for fully potty trained people.
For example,If you or your beautiful children want to go to Space for real,they have to wear diapers.
Also,Their continence might be tested.
One known date for me is 18 Feb,2019. I had eaten a big Chef Salad the day before,and,I might have contracted something from it.
I know so from experience.
Well done Alistair!! You are a star 🌟!! My 3.10 year old girl is partially potty trained recently. If she wants to poo or pee, she pulls her pants down, goes to toilet. But still can't flush or wash her hands yet. Still, it's a progress from what she was until couple of months back. We took an 8 hr flight to Singapore and staying here for last 3 days. All without diapers on her.
How old? 3.10??? HUH????
I am a bit surprised that it took him so long with him being so highly functioning… i understand wiping, it takes even some neurotypical kids up to age 10 to stop asking their parents for help.
Yeah everyone has their trials for sure
I'm also really high funcioning and it took me until age 8
@@Sonicfan-cc1te same here 8 years old..
@@Sonicfan-cc1teI’m level one now but I didn’t function as well when I was younger. Autism levels can (and often do) change with age.
I needed this video thank you 🙏
This is amazing to see! I personally havent had much problems with that but I did have some problems when I was 6-7 on my own with some bathroom stuff from my autism and anxiety, but I did move past that, btw, I do wanna ask, Im in something called Project SEARCH this year (school to work program for people with disabilities for adults) and I think Ian, connor, and allistar could benefit from that When theyre out of school and such if they wanna do job skills (if there is one in utah, there are 707 known locations and I am in one of them in michigan) because It really does help as a school to work program and can help hire! I hope to get hired after the internship and You should try and look into it! Hope you and the family is doing well!
P.s., ian is so tall… i mean I am 6”0 and 19 years old but man… ian is tall for a 14 year old!
There is a program like that where I live called the transitional Vocational program which my parents are gonna try to get me into next year. I’m currently in grade 12 and have high functioning Autism.
@@Sonicfan-cc1te I see, hope it goes well if you get in!
Thank you for sharing this experience, and especially we thank Alistair. Our son is 6 and has challenges with this milestone in life. We have tried so many things, and yet none have been successful. We have also engaged specialists and that has not yielded positive results. I believe our son has an incredible amount of anxiety over the whole process, which may cause the constant regression. I wonder if Alistair felt that way? We tried to make the environment for going as comfortable as possible, though we would appreciate if you have any tips in this regard as well?
Two other questions we are hoping you can provide some more background on is: 1) The overnight process. Is there anything different that you do for overnight? 2) When beginning (or beginning again) did you have a timed schedule for trying or was it a verbal request from Alistair for going?
We appreciate all you do for the autism community. We feel blessed to have you as a resource. Thank you in advance for your help. - Laura
Alastair good job! And Pap’s love the contet
Thanks for this video!!!
Good job dude!
I have a 5 year old that relapses often...every few weeks..will decide to go in clothing...loves hot wheels...I will try this...thanks! I wanted to be careful with incentives bcuz only incentives work and when upset will use bowels as a weapon...
Hello.
I have to thank you for sharing this, we did the same with our 6 yo sons and is working, 4 days not pissing in his diaper at nights, we promise him that if in 30 days he does not pee in his diaper or bed we will buy him a nintendo swicht, and is working, thank you again
I had issues with potty training as well and didn't poop on the toilet until I was 6.
It was somewhat similar for me. My bowel training started just after age four but I was not all that consistent with it until age five-and-a-half in preschool. My daytime diapers came off (aside from some sick days) when I started kindergarten just before age six. I had some accidents of both kinds (but mostly bowel) all the way through grade school (grades one through five) but they became less common (on average) each year.
THANK YOU 🙏💕
Guys let me pay for something first of all just because the doctor diagnoses you with some type of a pyramid or some type of like something I sound like ADHD. It doesn't actually mean that your life is going to be not as you planned it guys. I know liking be hard sometimes y'all, but I was starting those with cerebral palsy ADHD. I went through a lot of physical therapy throughout my years. Some 30 years old and I'm just a regular functioning person though just because someone says your life is not going to work out for you son. Your life is going to be good. I promise you that brother. God bless you all. Love you all. Merry Christmas!