I had colon cancer back in 2007, then endometrial in 2022 and came back in 2024 stage 4. I’ve never been so sick and vulnerable in my life. I just finished what I hope is my last chemo. Had my Pet Scan this morning and I’m so scared. You’re so right, we don’t love any of those awful side effects. I’m still nauseous, neuropathy is killing me. I haven’t been able to work all this time. We’re definitely warriors. Everyone fighting this terrible desease is on my prayers.
Hello Dee. I am 6 years cancer free as of January. My life has not been the same since treaments. I have neuropathy in my feet and fingers. I have to watch out for frostbite in the winter because I do not have proper feeling anymore. I do not have anywhere near the stamina that I used to have and have had to retire early because like you I went to work too soon after treatment. I was actually forced to go back to work by my insurance company. I actually got so angry at my boss at the time because she said her son was going through chemo and he was still running 5k every day. I almost completely lost it on her. Everyone's journey is different. I am living the best me I can be and that is all that matters. Thank you for this video. Hugs
@@TiralynnEruanna your boss should have kept her nose out of your business! What an idiot! That’s a cancer muggle for sure!!! I am SO lucky the neuropathy did not last for me, I only experience mild neuropathy now with my current treatment… but believe me, I KNOW from patients close to me that it is debilitating!! I, nor anyone else, should be someone to compare to… you do what is best and right for you, and it sounds like you finally know that too x Continue living your best life ❤️❤️❤️
@@DeeDoherty You have been such encouragement to me right from the beginning of my cancer journey. I found your channel back then and you helped me when I was terrified. Thank you so much for sharing your journey with us as it let us know that we are not crazy in what we feel.
Bernadette, i am in the journey of second cancer. It's very hard on ones body mind & spirit! I pray your continued improvement/healing. I was 32. Now i'm fixing to ( God willing) turn 67. I know it takes time to get the strength back. Being afraid robs us of life. Right now, i have a lot yet to get passed in treatment. It is hard! I thank you for this. I know i needed to hear you. Praying for you and everyone feeling beaten down. I pray for your recovery!
12 years since diagnosis and still find October particularly triggering - the ridiculous, pink ribbon branding everywhere like BC is some sexy, fun, girly disease 🤮. Spot on video- sums the entire experience up exactly Dee, well done - you are really helping a lot of people.
@@miriamperry3836 I cringe a lot in October. People doing things that are pink or showing their bras but not donating to a charity. We are AWARE, I feel like it’s the cancer people are most AWARE of. It is embarrassing. I have always loved bright colours and pink… and for years pink things made me feel sick to my stomach!!! I like pink again now haha
This was amazing! Thank you. It took me 4 years of worrying, before the 'pts' subsided. I used to think about cancer every day. I wouldn't plan for the future. Now 6 years later I am living my life and I almost never think about cancer. I am a totally different person. I wish I was the old me, but I have new amazing things in my life. I am just fine with the new me. She is a wiser, more resilient, less anxious and braver version of me. The looks do go back to normal (I recommend retin a cream and cerave moisturizer for the face). Dee, this is the best thing I have seen as post cancer advice anywhere!
Thank you x it’s so hard to try and say everything you want to say to people! I remember you from aaalll those years ago and I’m so glad you’re doing better now ❤
Omg love you! You are so amazing. Your videos are so wonderful and relatable… I was diagnosed stage four November 2020 I am now turning 55. I’ve had a really healthy wonderful life. I will always appreciate my condition… In times when it’s hard to stay positive I do try to reflect and what a wonderful life I’ve already had. It’s not an easy life, but it’s still wonderful! Even though it changes you forever sometimes you have to focus on all the positive changes that have come into your life from this condition… I turned deep into my faith, but I know that’s not for everyone and it’s OK but that’s what has helped me so much to understand why we go through such hard times here on this earth… Best wishes to you keep on doing what you’re doing. You are so amazing. Your kids are so lucky to have you as a mom!❤️❤️❤️❤️
I came across your video at the right time. Thank you so much for sharing. I’m a stage 3 breast cancer survivor, diagnosed at 36. Due my 3 year scan soon, all the usual thoughts and feelings coming up. Sending lots of love x
Thank you Dee such a brilliant video. I had BC 8 years ago and a recurrence 3 years ago. I’m in remission and do pretty well but I think of cancer everyday, Ive put weight on and don’t feel myself. Just a big reminder to enjoy life while you can and I hope you continue to do so ❤
Many thanks, ❤ This is such a good explanation as to the many highs and lows we feel throughout our cancer journey. I will definitely share with my family and close friends in an effort to help them better understand me. So well said. 😊
Thank you for this film. Thank you talking about how most of us who are on this cancer journey are feeling. Very very helpful , I love your positivity in this very realistic video and subject.🥰
Thaaaank you so much!Everything you said I have felt 100 % and I just couldn’t talk about because no one understood me. WOW thank you 2020 I was diagnosed with lymphoma and first round of chemo left me in the ICU with a 40% chance to live. I am still here standing strong.
Oh, Dee, that was so well said as always! I love you, girl, i've said it so many times before. Your positivity and harsh realism have been my companion since my diagnosis 3 years ago. I am already doing the things that you mentioned and you are right - we need to accept it, learn to live with the uncertainty and don't put off the things that we really want to do/buy/experience. That bloody cancer was a proper kick in the butt for me to make time and space for all the things that i never had the courage or time to do! Keep thriving and enjoying life, Dee ❤️
I love watching your videos. I’m more than a year out and I’m still crazy anxious it will come back. Example- I literally am sitting here writing this with onions in my socks because I read today that it will draw out toxins. 😅Cancer is crap. It literally changed everything. But this video kinda turned a light on for me. I was stage 3 breast cancer and you said it perfectly. Live like it will come back. Maybe it won’t. I sure as heck hope it doesn’t but I gotta change my thinking to living like this. Love your compassion for others! Keep strong my friend!!!!
@@michellemonahan1797 awww Michelle! Your feet will smell delicious 😂 Yes it might not, but you know the chances are it might… act like it definitely will and start enjoying yourself. The short term thing really helps. ❤️❤️
You are doing absolutely fabulous! I’ve been logging my journey too and you are handling things like a champ! I’m currently taking a break from targeted therapy and I have metastatic breast cancer. I was so afraid to make this decision because of the fear of it spreading, but I had to get over that fear and push through it. My quality of life is really important to me. So anyway I’m rambling now, but I really appreciate your videos. They make me feel like I’m not alone in all this 🫶🏼
Thank you so much for this video, and for all the videos you make! I'm currently going through chemo, and will have radiation and endocrine therapy after that, but I feel like it's very useful to think through, and prepare a bit for life after treatment now, and not wait and be shocked by how ever it will be like. I wish you all the best for your ongoing treatment ❤
Thank you so much Dee. You are so real. I am a little over a year out from stage 1 grade1 invasive lobular (4mm) node negative, and DCIS low grade. Dbl mx for surgery. I tried the AI hormone blockers, awful quality of life. Only gave me a 2% advantage anyway. Risk vs benefits = not worth it. I do worry about a recurrence a lot. I have lived a wonderful life. God willing, I will have many more years enjoying my kids and 5 grandkids. Living life to the fullest, while I can. I really appreciate your videos. You are so right, I told my husband recently, I wish I could be me again. I know I will never be. Counting blessings everyday helps. Dumping negative relationships has been freeing.
Loved your video. I just started radio therapy and am trying to stay on top of the things i can control like skin care, exercise & diet. I'm still on the fence about hormone therapy and am willing to try it after i recover from radiation. My cancer is stage 1 invasive ductal with ER & PR +, HER2-, 6mm. Thankfully very early catch on screening mammogram. I am definitely not the same person! My lumpectomy was on 9/11 and the post op was rough. Your discussion of PTS really hit home for me and this is exactly what I will work on with a therapist's help. Your mention of "silver linings" also hit home for me. I have been able to resolve the relationships between my family members during my diagnosis and treatments. And I am definitely spending more time taking care of my health. Also continuing to work a little less than before and trying to keep my musical endeavors going too... I appreciate your advice and support. Be well, peace to you lovely Dee
@@cynthialang1845 Cynthia, thank you for such a lovely comment. Sounds to me like you’re doing everything right, well done because it is not an easy path to navigate. I have radiotherapy videos from years ago if they’re any use - but sounds like you’re on top of that too with skin care. Best of luck with the radiotherapy - I found it fine and I hope it’s the same for you ❤️ See you on the other side x
Thank you from the bottom of my heart your view rings true with my experience in breast cancer a lot of the same things and feelings happen to all of us and by sharing it helps so Thank you
Bless you for your words, Dee ❤ You have given us courage, resolve and enthusiasm to live our lives to the fullest. I myself needed a pep talk this week, and I listened to you on my drive to the pool. Swimming has always been a great rehab for me, but my swim tonight was especially exhilarating after hearing you speak ! Thank you ☘️💕
This is so spot on! I had triple negative…there are not all of the options available to us….our fear is a bit more intense. I love your videos and how honest you are!
Triple negative is bloody terrifying! I agree! I obviously just speak from my own experiences 🫣 the TNBC groups on FB would be a great idea - talking to others who know exactly how you feel and what you’re going through ❤️
30:20…. Exactly, it could and I live each day today like it isn’t the end of the world if it returns again, I will keep on keeping on…… until I don’t! Love you girl. Truly, mean it.
I'm really grateful for you Dee. Not only do you normalise my feelings but you manage to make me laugh along the way 😊 I live with low grade lymphoma which is different to other cancers in that almost certainly will come back and will need treatment again. Dealing with the fear of that is a daily war I fight with myself.
@@Eightfathorses yes… very different. I have met MANY lymphomies along the way! I think your ability to get on with life is inspiring! Compared to you, we can’t complain!! 🫂
You are such a positive and supportive girl! You always give the best advice and make so much sense. I think you should be a therapist yourself. Wait! I think you are one already!! Thank you again for sharing your wealth of knowledge and experience with us. You always keep it real❤
I just had my 1 year post chemo at the end of September. I have a lot of fear of coming off the supplemental treatment (PARP inhibitor for BRCA) in December - have AI’s to still be on for a while. I just recently started feeling more like myself, but am far from being where I want to be (realistically post cancer). I need to take the next step for therapy. Thanks so much for being here!
Tracy I’m so happy you’re starting to feel like you again. If you’re worried about coming off the PARP inhibitor just make sure you have a chat with your oncologist-could put you at total ease OR could say you can continue on it 🤷♀️ xx
Never going back to the old you, but accepting the new you was a big step for me. ive learned not to sweat the small stuff which helps face fear down. Im 2 years out of treatment for triple negative bc and am now being checked out for gastric cancer. Focusing on the now helps tremendously. Thanks for the video, you did well ❤️
@@summerbreeze6567 yes well you were already doing all the right bits! Definitely it is hard. Omg gastric, anxiety unleashed! Will you tell me why? Symptoms, how are they checking - does that show up on normal CTs? If you don’t mind sharing!
@@DeeDoherty my immune system is attacking the lining on my stomach causing nausea and vomiting, and my stomach is sore. They will take biopsies when they do the gastroscopy and then I'm not sure. I've already been told it was pre cancerous so fingers crossed it hasnt progressed to full blown cancer. I really don't want to do chemo again
I loved this ❤ I'm starting radiation next week after surgery which I had a month ago that diagnosed me with DCIS, After the small invasion had been totally removed during the biopsy. I was feeling quite low about myself and my life in general before I got diagnosed, a little lost. Then this happened, I was told I have IDC ,and later that day told myself: "OK! I GOTTA CHANGE MY WAY OF THINKING". Strangely I feel happier than before I was diagnosed because it was a wake up call to ease my anxiety over the small stuff I obsessed over. I've been anxious for most of my life which probably stems from childhood. I am taking therapy in fact and that past trauma comes to surface alot in my sessions, and is probably the reason why I already worry about a recurrence. Hopefully if I can overcome the PTS from my past it will be easier to overcome any other worry or fear I have about pretty much anything in life (which btw i actually described how i feel to my psychologist as you did: "the PTSD the soldiers have when they come back from war"). So yes, together with treating yourself to some pampering, practicing mindfulness and meditation, a fancy dinner out or the occasional burger from Shake Shack, THERAPY IS THE WORD 😊 much love to you from Dubai 😘
Thanks Dee. You’re spot on. I’ve been in fear of moving to Stage 4 since diagnosis 6 months ago. I put everything on hold and stay home and avoid travel because I have no neutrophils. It’s quite isolating at the moment. Your Patient story was excellent by the way.
I'm metastatic. The fear comes and goes. Mostly I try to live normally but occasionally I start thinking about things like statistics and get depressed even though my health is currently good. You are right that acceptance is the first step., but it's still hard.
@@janeellis4926 of course! I have those ups and downs and worrying about the future for my kids. But on the whole, I’m content and happy with how my life is going x
It is soooo helpful Dee. I agree with your opinion of therapy being an important tool. I reached my chemoversary in September and realized I’m still a mess. In therapy now and while not perfect… I’m working on all my bottled up trauma and emotions . It does work if you work it!! ❤️
You are so kind and sweet. You encouraged me through this process. I am totally agreed with you about changing the way you think and accept it. Trust in God every day of your life. Improve your metabolic health by lower the sugar intake to stop the tumor growth. (Per Dr Thomas Seyfried) Thank you for your encouragement and sharing your journey ❤
In the US kisqali and Verzenio are considered oral chemotherapy. I’m taking Verzenio with hormone blockers to reduce risk of recurrence. Not easy but grateful this medication exists!
I don't have cancer. But this video got me thinking. Cause I have noticed I stopped going out of the house only when I had to Gave up my mobile dog grooming business. I had groceries deliver and did doctors online and not answering calls from my love ones. I starting to have panic attacks. Cause of my stage 5 kidney disease and having to start home dialysis 8 hours a night. What a burden I am on my family. I just want go back to who I was before this. I love to travel and volunteer with my dog rescues taking dogs all over.I had plans for me and my hubby 25 yrs married retirement yrs doing going where we always talked about. Now what do I got to look forward to. Nothing but hooked up machine the neuropathy is in my feet hands and eyes I now have to get eye injection in both cause of it. Just miserable. Family don't get it looking at me I'm OK but not I can't explain to them how it feels tired all the time. Scared of all the procedures that have to threw. But I gotta get out this funk. Wish I new how.
I’m so sorry Jennifer! I really don’t know what it’s like at all x if you’re house bound because of machinery it’s not by choice! Maybe you could get some home help even for the companionship?
@@DeeDoherty I recently came across this video and feel compelled to share some encouraging information that should bring a sense of optimism. Call it an act of kindness or simply meddling on my part-it's up to you. However, it disturbs me to see people suffer from life threatening health conditions. Although my following statements may seem bizarre, you must understand that it needs to be this way to reach you. Some things are just too difficult to say here (if you know what I mean), so please write down the capital letters from the following paragraph in the order you encounter them. Then, study and divide them into individual words to form a coherent thought. Understand? Okay, here it goes: Frogs Often Leap Lightly Over Water. WILLIAM has More Adventures by Keeping In Shape. Ostriches occasionally Need X-rays. Fish Often Rest Comfortably while Ants Navigate Complex Environments Rapidly. Cats Understand Rules Easily Sometimes. Some people find it hard to decode so I will translate part of the message but cannot completely translate. I hope you understand. Follow William _____ on _ for ______ _____. many blessings. 👍
Beloved.. It's very hard when your life is turned up side down. Mine has been that. There are many I see that have struggles. I pray for them. It is difficult for those around you to not realize how weak you are. You do " look" like your ok but you're not. The burden thing.. Yes! You used to do x y z. I cry. You say what use am I? In the midst of all that you're in the midst of... I try to encourage another...i pray... We are weak but I have faith in the one who carries me every day. I pray for that one to cross your path to help you find the strength of spirit to know your not alone. Dear Lord, it's been a day! We are so tired and weary. I ask your mercy & grace to liftbour minds & hearts to you. Reveal your manifest presence in our circumstance. I don't know this one's deepest need but you do... I pray they find comfort in your strength. I cannot do this on my own. Phil. 4:6-7. Is a. 41:9. I cry too. We need to encourage one another... Jesus hold this one close. Amen
I had full body bone scan cause of pain in my right ribs a couple of weeks ago . I kept thinking of what you wrote to me in a comment and it helped me so much 😊
Each us is unique i know women who aftwr stage1 cancer back stage 4 and I see women with stage 3 never back i believe if we said it comes back prabobly it will if you say not come back it's possible live long life it's all meant too plus cancer change me 16 hours fasting,eating super clean,walking 7 km daily and exercise with weights keep us strong no more wine .So it's all how we thinking if we negative that's happening.
They spotted the nodule in 2022 when it was stage 1. Then the surgeon who did the bronch couldn't manage to find anything. He reassured me up and down, "no cancer". So we sat on it for a year. Then my pulmonologist didn't like what he saw in the new scan, so he ordered another PET and did the second bronch himself - and he found it - stage 2b. I had a lobectomy and the surgeon was real optimistic that she got it all. All the lymph node samples came back negative. 12 weeks of chemo, lost my job when I was ready to come back, The January PET scan (2023) was the first one that showed ABSOLUTELY NOTHING. They could find nothing even of note. I had every range of emotion seeing that. I thought I'd dodged the bullet. 12 weeks of immuno and it messed me up bad and I couldn't continue with it. Then the June PET scan showed that it just picked up where it left off - in a lymph node - stage 3 (which it probably was at the time of surgery). And it also showed my pancreas lighting up and my eye doctor had just told me that he thinks my vision loss is in my brain, which was ominous. FML. Brain scan said nothing, pancreas followups say it's probably autoimmune reaction from the immunotherapy - "minor miracles" *eye-roll*. But the lymph node makes perfect sense and was confirmed by a second bronch, to be the same lung cancer from the now absent lobe. I just completed 6 weeks of chemo-radiation (with an extra chemo) and was able to work the entire time this time. Emotional as my final day of radiation might have been, I told them "it's never goodbye, it's see you later" - because this shit always pops up somewhere else like whack-a-mole. I've got no optimism left in me.
My experience with cancer has been quite different. I was born disabled and sick. Being mostly bedridden my whole life, I have never been able to work. I have also been through lots of surgeries and medical treatments since birth. I was never expected to live this long. I am at the hospitals 1-3 times a week. So when I got diagnosed with cancer last year, nothing really changed. All cancer has done to me is kick me while I am already down. I reached NED 2 weeks ago and I have a high reoccurrence rate, so at this moment in time, I am worried it will come back. It's hard explaining this to my friends and family, because I am not in remission, they just cannot see it in my scans. My cancer markers are still elevated as well, but that could go away on its own. It is a weird feeling. Thank you for this video. ❤
@@DeeDoherty I have an amazing psychologist that I see regularly! I am under a disability insurance scheme called NDIS in Australia but not sure how long I can do this for. The funding seems to lessen each year along with the therapy hours I am allowed (I had 25 hours of therapy last year, now I have 15 hours of therapy this year and this includes my physiotherapy which makes it difficult). In fact I just saw her a couple of hours ago. You are right that it really helps to talk to someone! Great advice. ❤
Please get yourself some stronger treatment, go back on strong chemo, get those mets radiated off and take immunotherapies. Demand it, don’t be fobbed off. Fellow stage 4 warrior here x
I had colon cancer back in 2007, then endometrial in 2022 and came back in 2024 stage 4. I’ve never been so sick and vulnerable in my life. I just finished what I hope is my last chemo. Had my Pet Scan this morning and I’m so scared. You’re so right, we don’t love any of those awful side effects. I’m still nauseous, neuropathy is killing me. I haven’t been able to work all this time. We’re definitely warriors. Everyone fighting this terrible desease is on my prayers.
Hello Dee. I am 6 years cancer free as of January. My life has not been the same since treaments. I have neuropathy in my feet and fingers. I have to watch out for frostbite in the winter because I do not have proper feeling anymore. I do not have anywhere near the stamina that I used to have and have had to retire early because like you I went to work too soon after treatment. I was actually forced to go back to work by my insurance company. I actually got so angry at my boss at the time because she said her son was going through chemo and he was still running 5k every day. I almost completely lost it on her. Everyone's journey is different. I am living the best me I can be and that is all that matters. Thank you for this video. Hugs
@@TiralynnEruanna your boss should have kept her nose out of your business! What an idiot! That’s a cancer muggle for sure!!! I am SO lucky the neuropathy did not last for me, I only experience mild neuropathy now with my current treatment… but believe me, I KNOW from patients close to me that it is debilitating!! I, nor anyone else, should be someone to compare to… you do what is best and right for you, and it sounds like you finally know that too x Continue living your best life ❤️❤️❤️
@@DeeDoherty You have been such encouragement to me right from the beginning of my cancer journey. I found your channel back then and you helped me when I was terrified. Thank you so much for sharing your journey with us as it let us know that we are not crazy in what we feel.
@@TiralynnEruanna definitely not crazy! Much love ❤️
Bernadette, i am in the journey of second cancer. It's very hard on ones body mind & spirit! I pray your continued improvement/healing. I was 32. Now i'm fixing to ( God willing) turn 67. I know it takes time to get the strength back. Being afraid robs us of life. Right now, i have a lot yet to get passed in treatment. It is hard! I thank you for this. I know i needed to hear you. Praying for you and everyone feeling beaten down. I pray for your recovery!
12 years since diagnosis and still find October particularly triggering - the ridiculous, pink ribbon branding everywhere like BC is some sexy, fun, girly disease 🤮. Spot on video- sums the entire experience up exactly Dee, well done - you are really helping a lot of people.
@@miriamperry3836 I cringe a lot in October. People doing things that are pink or showing their bras but not donating to a charity. We are AWARE, I feel like it’s the cancer people are most AWARE of. It is embarrassing. I have always loved bright colours and pink… and for years pink things made me feel sick to my stomach!!! I like pink again now haha
This was amazing! Thank you. It took me 4 years of worrying, before the 'pts' subsided. I used to think about cancer every day. I wouldn't plan for the future. Now 6 years later I am living my life and I almost never think about cancer. I am a totally different person. I wish I was the old me, but I have new amazing things in my life. I am just fine with the new me. She is a wiser, more resilient, less anxious and braver version of me. The looks do go back to normal (I recommend retin a cream and cerave moisturizer for the face). Dee, this is the best thing I have seen as post cancer advice anywhere!
Thank you x it’s so hard to try and say everything you want to say to people! I remember you from aaalll those years ago and I’m so glad you’re doing better now ❤
Omg love you!
You are so amazing. Your videos are so wonderful and relatable… I was diagnosed stage four November 2020 I am now turning 55. I’ve had a really healthy wonderful life. I will always appreciate my condition… In times when it’s hard to stay positive I do try to reflect and what a wonderful life I’ve already had.
It’s not an easy life, but it’s still wonderful! Even though it changes you forever sometimes you have to focus on all the positive changes that have come into your life from this condition… I turned deep into my faith, but I know that’s not for everyone and it’s OK but that’s what has helped me so much to understand why we go through such hard times here on this earth… Best wishes to you keep on doing what you’re doing. You are so amazing. Your kids are so lucky to have you as a mom!❤️❤️❤️❤️
@@lisa-eg8nx so glad that you’re living the same way ❤️❤️
Thank you so much ❤ you are so right about this journey! You are so right about life after cancer. Thank you for putting this out. ❤
I came across your video at the right time. Thank you so much for sharing. I’m a stage 3 breast cancer survivor, diagnosed at 36. Due my 3 year scan soon, all the usual thoughts and feelings coming up. Sending lots of love x
@@florancerogersasmr1675 you’ve got this 💪🫂❤️
This is the best video I’ve ever seen. You summarised my thoughts and feelings during cancer journey. I highly appreciated
@@bchasthma aw ❤️
Thank you Dee such a brilliant video. I had BC 8 years ago and a recurrence 3 years ago. I’m in remission and do pretty well but I think of cancer everyday, Ive put weight on and don’t feel myself. Just a big reminder to enjoy life while you can and I hope you continue to do so ❤
Many thanks, ❤ This is such a good explanation as to the many highs and lows we feel throughout our cancer journey. I will definitely share with my family and close friends in an effort to help them better understand me. So well said. 😊
Great video, Dee. You understand what having cancer does to a person. Thank you
Thank you for this film. Thank you talking about how most of us who are on this cancer journey are feeling. Very very helpful , I love your positivity in this very realistic video and subject.🥰
Yes, yes, YES! You said it all so beautifully. Thank you! 🩷🩷🩷
Thaaaank you so much!Everything you said I have felt 100 % and I just couldn’t talk about because no one understood me. WOW thank you
2020 I was diagnosed with lymphoma and first round of chemo left me in the ICU with a 40% chance to live.
I am still here standing strong.
Look at you now Jocelyn! ❤
Oh, Dee, that was so well said as always! I love you, girl, i've said it so many times before. Your positivity and harsh realism have been my companion since my diagnosis 3 years ago. I am already doing the things that you mentioned and you are right - we need to accept it, learn to live with the uncertainty and don't put off the things that we really want to do/buy/experience. That bloody cancer was a proper kick in the butt for me to make time and space for all the things that i never had the courage or time to do! Keep thriving and enjoying life, Dee ❤️
@@belavasileva5886 hurray! I’m so happy to hear this!! ❤️❤️
I love watching your videos. I’m more than a year out and I’m still crazy anxious it will come back. Example- I literally am sitting here writing this with onions in my socks because I read today that it will draw out toxins. 😅Cancer is crap. It literally changed everything. But this video kinda turned a light on for me. I was stage 3 breast cancer and you said it perfectly. Live like it will come back. Maybe it won’t. I sure as heck hope it doesn’t but I gotta change my thinking to living like this. Love your compassion for others! Keep strong my friend!!!!
@@michellemonahan1797 awww Michelle! Your feet will smell delicious 😂 Yes it might not, but you know the chances are it might… act like it definitely will and start enjoying yourself. The short term thing really helps. ❤️❤️
You are doing absolutely fabulous! I’ve been logging my journey too and you are handling things like a champ! I’m currently taking a break from targeted therapy and I have metastatic breast cancer. I was so afraid to make this decision because of the fear of it spreading, but I had to get over that fear and push through it. My quality of life is really important to me. So anyway I’m rambling now, but I really appreciate your videos. They make me feel like I’m not alone in all this 🫶🏼
@@Anew_Reviews subscribed!! And yes I completely get it! Side effects, and immune system etc…. You have to look at quality of life!!
@@DeeDoherty Awe thank you so much! Our community is stronger together 🫶🏼
Thank you so much for this video, and for all the videos you make! I'm currently going through chemo, and will have radiation and endocrine therapy after that, but I feel like it's very useful to think through, and prepare a bit for life after treatment now, and not wait and be shocked by how ever it will be like. I wish you all the best for your ongoing treatment ❤
Thank you so much Dee. You are so real. I am a little over a year out from stage 1 grade1 invasive lobular (4mm) node negative, and DCIS low grade. Dbl mx for surgery. I tried the AI hormone blockers, awful quality of life. Only gave me a 2% advantage anyway. Risk vs benefits = not worth it. I do worry about a recurrence a lot. I have lived a wonderful life. God willing, I will have many more years enjoying my kids and 5 grandkids. Living life to the fullest, while I can. I really appreciate your videos. You are so right, I told my husband recently, I wish I could be me again. I know I will never be. Counting blessings everyday helps. Dumping negative relationships has been freeing.
Hurray! ❤ ❤
Loved your video. I just started radio therapy and am trying to stay on top of the things i can control like skin care, exercise & diet. I'm still on the fence about hormone therapy and am willing to try it after i recover from radiation. My cancer is stage 1 invasive ductal with ER & PR +, HER2-, 6mm. Thankfully very early catch on screening mammogram. I am definitely not the same person!
My lumpectomy was on 9/11 and the post op was rough. Your discussion of PTS really hit home for me and this is exactly what I will work on with a therapist's help.
Your mention of "silver linings" also hit home for me. I have been able to resolve the relationships between my family members during my diagnosis and treatments. And I am definitely spending more time taking care of my health. Also continuing to work a little less than before and trying to keep my musical endeavors going too... I appreciate your advice and support. Be well, peace to you lovely Dee
@@cynthialang1845 Cynthia, thank you for such a lovely comment. Sounds to me like you’re doing everything right, well done because it is not an easy path to navigate. I have radiotherapy videos from years ago if they’re any use - but sounds like you’re on top of that too with skin care. Best of luck with the radiotherapy - I found it fine and I hope it’s the same for you ❤️ See you on the other side x
Thank you from the bottom of my heart your view rings true with my experience in breast cancer a lot of the same things and feelings happen to all of us and by sharing it helps so Thank you
Bless you for your words, Dee ❤ You have given us courage, resolve and enthusiasm to live our lives to the fullest. I myself needed a pep talk this week, and I listened to you on my drive to the pool. Swimming has always been a great rehab for me, but my swim tonight was especially exhilarating after hearing you speak ! Thank you ☘️💕
Aw Maureen!! 😊 That’s made my day! Well done on the swimming, I need to take a leaf out of your book!
❤❤❤ you are my hero, Dee ❤❤❤
This is so spot on! I had triple negative…there are not all of the options available to us….our fear is a bit more intense. I love your videos and how honest you are!
Triple negative is bloody terrifying! I agree! I obviously just speak from my own experiences 🫣 the TNBC groups on FB would be a great idea - talking to others who know exactly how you feel and what you’re going through ❤️
30:20…. Exactly, it could and I live each day today like it isn’t the end of the world if it returns again, I will keep on keeping on…… until I don’t! Love you girl. Truly, mean it.
@@JJO-Writer ❤️❤️❤️❤️
I'm really grateful for you Dee. Not only do you normalise my feelings but you manage to make me laugh along the way 😊 I live with low grade lymphoma which is different to other cancers in that almost certainly will come back and will need treatment again. Dealing with the fear of that is a daily war I fight with myself.
@@Eightfathorses yes… very different. I have met MANY lymphomies along the way! I think your ability to get on with life is inspiring! Compared to you, we can’t complain!! 🫂
@@DeeDoherty oh gosh I think you are certainly entitled to complain now and again. You are amazing 🤩 x
You are such a positive and supportive girl! You always give the best advice and make so much sense. I think you should be a therapist yourself. Wait! I think you are one already!! Thank you again for sharing your wealth of knowledge and experience with us. You always keep it real❤
Thank you so much!!
You are amazing! You have helped me so much with your videos. Thank you!
@@elisagomez172 thank you so so much, that’s very kind!
Sooooo helpful Dee! You are a total inspiration. Clear, concise and practical advice. Thank you. Bless ya. 👍🙏😃❤️☘️
Hi Dee, nice to see you looking good ❤
Absolutely was so so helpful ❤ thank you
I just had my 1 year post chemo at the end of September. I have a lot of fear of coming off the supplemental treatment (PARP inhibitor for BRCA) in December - have AI’s to still be on for a while. I just recently started feeling more like myself, but am far from being where I want to be (realistically post cancer). I need to take the next step for therapy. Thanks so much for being here!
Tracy I’m so happy you’re starting to feel like you again. If you’re worried about coming off the PARP inhibitor just make sure you have a chat with your oncologist-could put you at total ease OR could say you can continue on it 🤷♀️ xx
Thanks so much Dee. This helps so much🩷 You make a difference to so many.
Never going back to the old you, but accepting the new you was a big step for me. ive learned not to sweat the small stuff which helps face fear down. Im 2 years out of treatment for triple negative bc and am now being checked out for gastric cancer. Focusing on the now helps tremendously. Thanks for the video, you did well ❤️
@@summerbreeze6567 yes well you were already doing all the right bits! Definitely it is hard. Omg gastric, anxiety unleashed! Will you tell me why? Symptoms, how are they checking - does that show up on normal CTs? If you don’t mind sharing!
@@DeeDoherty my immune system is attacking the lining on my stomach causing nausea and vomiting, and my stomach is sore. They will take biopsies when they do the gastroscopy and then I'm not sure. I've already been told it was pre cancerous so fingers crossed it hasnt progressed to full blown cancer. I really don't want to do chemo again
@@summerbreeze6567 oh no!! That’s sounds terrible!! I really hope it isn’t! Look after yourself and big hugs 🫂
Exactly! Live your life❤❤
I loved this ❤ I'm starting radiation next week after surgery which I had a month ago that diagnosed me with DCIS, After the small invasion had been totally removed during the biopsy. I was feeling quite low about myself and my life in general before I got diagnosed, a little lost. Then this happened, I was told I have IDC ,and later that day told myself: "OK! I GOTTA CHANGE MY WAY OF THINKING". Strangely I feel happier than before I was diagnosed because it was a wake up call to ease my anxiety over the small stuff I obsessed over. I've been anxious for most of my life which probably stems from childhood. I am taking therapy in fact and that past trauma comes to surface alot in my sessions, and is probably the reason why I already worry about a recurrence. Hopefully if I can overcome the PTS from my past it will be easier to overcome any other worry or fear I have about pretty much anything in life (which btw i actually described how i feel to my psychologist as you did: "the PTSD the soldiers have when they come back from war"). So yes, together with treating yourself to some pampering, practicing mindfulness and meditation, a fancy dinner out or the occasional burger from Shake Shack, THERAPY IS THE WORD 😊 much love to you from Dubai 😘
@@melissamariano3552 I love this Melissa! You sound like you have it completely together ❤️ best of luck with the radiotherapy 🫂🤞
@@DeeDoherty ❤️❤️❤️
Amazing video Dee , your videos are always helpful , thank you so much ❤
Thanks Dee. You’re spot on. I’ve been in fear of moving to Stage 4 since diagnosis 6 months ago. I put everything on hold and stay home and avoid travel because I have no neutrophils. It’s quite isolating at the moment. Your Patient story was excellent by the way.
@@Trish-h8h thank you! I hope things get better soon x
I'm metastatic. The fear comes and goes. Mostly I try to live normally but occasionally I start thinking about things like statistics and get depressed even though my health is currently good. You are right that acceptance is the first step., but it's still hard.
@@janeellis4926 of course! I have those ups and downs and worrying about the future for my kids. But on the whole, I’m content and happy with how my life is going x
I just LOVE you girl!!! You are the realest person ever! 🍁🇨🇦
@@MichelleJohnston-e6l 😘😘😘
It is soooo helpful Dee. I agree with your opinion of therapy being an important tool. I reached my chemoversary in September and realized I’m still a mess. In therapy now and while not perfect… I’m working on all my bottled up trauma and emotions . It does work if you work it!! ❤️
@@MichelleJohnston-e6l glad to hear this Michelle x hundred percent you’ve got to do it at the right time when you’re ready to do the work x
Really good advice good talk u said it like it is I am a cancer survivor thank to God the all mighty thanks for all the good advice 🙏🏻🤗
Omg you are so right in everything you said … thank you so much xxx Love from Brunei xx
You are so kind and sweet. You encouraged me through this process. I am totally agreed with you about changing the way you think and accept it. Trust in God every day of your life. Improve your metabolic health by lower the sugar intake to stop the tumor growth. (Per Dr Thomas Seyfried) Thank you for your encouragement and sharing your journey ❤
Great insightful video Dee. Thank you❤❤❤
In the US kisqali and Verzenio are considered oral chemotherapy. I’m taking Verzenio with hormone blockers to reduce risk of recurrence. Not easy but grateful this medication exists!
@@vilmavelazquez1979 the NATALEE trial was in the states.
Thank you! I needed to hear this today. Love and prayers❤❤❤
I don't have cancer. But this video got me thinking. Cause I have noticed I stopped going out of the house only when I had to Gave up my mobile dog grooming business. I had groceries deliver and did doctors online and not answering calls from my love ones. I starting to have panic attacks. Cause of my stage 5 kidney disease and having to start home dialysis 8 hours a night. What a burden I am on my family. I just want go back to who I was before this. I love to travel and volunteer with my dog rescues taking dogs all over.I had plans for me and my hubby 25 yrs married retirement yrs doing going where we always talked about. Now what do I got to look forward to. Nothing but hooked up machine the neuropathy is in my feet hands and eyes I now have to get eye injection in both cause of it. Just miserable. Family don't get it looking at me I'm OK but not I can't explain to them how it feels tired all the time. Scared of all the procedures that have to threw. But I gotta get out this funk. Wish I new how.
I’m so sorry Jennifer! I really don’t know what it’s like at all x if you’re house bound because of machinery it’s not by choice! Maybe you could get some home help even for the companionship?
@@DeeDoherty I recently came across this video and feel compelled to share some encouraging information that should bring a sense of optimism. Call it an act of kindness or simply meddling on my part-it's up to you. However, it disturbs me to see people suffer from life threatening health conditions.
Although my following statements may seem bizarre, you must understand that it needs to be this way to reach you. Some things are just too difficult to say here (if you know what I mean), so please write down the capital letters from the following paragraph in the order you encounter them. Then, study and divide them into individual words to form a coherent thought. Understand? Okay, here it goes:
Frogs Often Leap Lightly Over Water. WILLIAM has More Adventures by Keeping In Shape. Ostriches occasionally Need X-rays. Fish Often Rest Comfortably while Ants Navigate Complex Environments Rapidly. Cats Understand Rules Easily Sometimes.
Some people find it hard to decode so I will translate part of the message but cannot completely translate. I hope you understand.
Follow William _____ on _ for ______ _____.
many blessings. 👍
Beloved.. It's very hard when your life is turned up side down. Mine has been that. There are many I see that have struggles. I pray for them. It is difficult for those around you to not realize how weak you are. You do " look" like your ok but you're not. The burden thing.. Yes! You used to do x y z. I cry. You say what use am I? In the midst of all that you're in the midst of... I try to encourage another...i pray... We are weak but I have faith in the one who carries me every day. I pray for that one to cross your path to help you find the strength of spirit to know your not alone. Dear Lord, it's been a day! We are so tired and weary. I ask your mercy & grace to liftbour minds & hearts to you. Reveal your manifest presence in our circumstance. I don't know this one's deepest need but you do... I pray they find comfort in your strength. I cannot do this on my own. Phil. 4:6-7. Is a. 41:9. I cry too. We need to encourage one another... Jesus hold this one close. Amen
Love. You so much I enjoy watching your videos❤
👊Keep goin'. You did great! 💚💙
I had full body bone scan cause of pain in my right ribs a couple of weeks ago . I kept thinking of what you wrote to me in a comment and it helped me so much 😊
Aw Cass! You are very kind! What about the scan, how’d it go? How are the ribs?
@@DeeDoherty it was all clear . They said it’s probably just muscle soreness 😌
@@cassandraturner1343 I get that too! Costochondritis!! It even stops me sleeping! At least it is not cancer!!!!
Thanks for that I’m always worried about a reacurance after being first diagnosed in 2023 its very hard as I’m a worrier anyways ❤
Nicely done....👍
Each us is unique i know women who aftwr stage1 cancer back stage 4 and I see women with stage 3 never back i believe if we said it comes back prabobly it will if you say not come back it's possible live long life it's all meant too plus cancer change me 16 hours fasting,eating super clean,walking 7 km daily and exercise with weights keep us strong no more wine .So it's all how we thinking if we negative that's happening.
Amen girlfriend!!! ❤️
They spotted the nodule in 2022 when it was stage 1.
Then the surgeon who did the bronch couldn't manage to find anything.
He reassured me up and down, "no cancer".
So we sat on it for a year.
Then my pulmonologist didn't like what he saw in the new scan, so he ordered another PET and did the second bronch himself - and he found it - stage 2b.
I had a lobectomy and the surgeon was real optimistic that she got it all.
All the lymph node samples came back negative.
12 weeks of chemo, lost my job when I was ready to come back,
The January PET scan (2023) was the first one that showed ABSOLUTELY NOTHING.
They could find nothing even of note.
I had every range of emotion seeing that.
I thought I'd dodged the bullet.
12 weeks of immuno and it messed me up bad and I couldn't continue with it.
Then the June PET scan showed that it just picked up where it left off - in a lymph node - stage 3 (which it probably was at the time of surgery).
And it also showed my pancreas lighting up and my eye doctor had just told me that he thinks my vision loss is in my brain, which was ominous. FML.
Brain scan said nothing, pancreas followups say it's probably autoimmune reaction from the immunotherapy - "minor miracles" *eye-roll*.
But the lymph node makes perfect sense and was confirmed by a second bronch, to be the same lung cancer from the now absent lobe.
I just completed 6 weeks of chemo-radiation (with an extra chemo) and was able to work the entire time this time.
Emotional as my final day of radiation might have been, I told them "it's never goodbye, it's see you later" - because this shit always pops up somewhere else like whack-a-mole.
I've got no optimism left in me.
Uh oh! Well it definitely sounds like the therapy is a good idea. Doesn’t sound like you’re in a good place mentally at all!!
@@ritarene2965 stay strong. Stay positive
My experience with cancer has been quite different.
I was born disabled and sick. Being mostly bedridden my whole life, I have never been able to work.
I have also been through lots of surgeries and medical treatments since birth. I was never expected to live this long. I am at the hospitals 1-3 times a week.
So when I got diagnosed with cancer last year, nothing really changed.
All cancer has done to me is kick me while I am already down.
I reached NED 2 weeks ago and I have a high reoccurrence rate, so at this moment in time, I am worried it will come back. It's hard explaining this to my friends and family, because I am not in remission, they just cannot see it in my scans. My cancer markers are still elevated as well, but that could go away on its own. It is a weird feeling.
Thank you for this video. ❤
Sounds so so tough. What a hand to be dealt. I think talking to someone is probably very much needed in your case ❤
@@DeeDoherty I have an amazing psychologist that I see regularly! I am under a disability insurance scheme called NDIS in Australia but not sure how long I can do this for. The funding seems to lessen each year along with the therapy hours I am allowed (I had 25 hours of therapy last year, now I have 15 hours of therapy this year and this includes my physiotherapy which makes it difficult). In fact I just saw her a couple of hours ago. You are right that it really helps to talk to someone! Great advice. ❤
You look beautiful ❤️
Your great. I feel like you are talking to me
@@marymazzoni2079 I am talking to you, Mary!
It is TRAUMA!!
Please get yourself some stronger treatment, go back on strong chemo, get those mets radiated off and take immunotherapies. Demand it, don’t be fobbed off. Fellow stage 4 warrior here x
This was such a sweet video 🥹
We are grateful for you ❤
@@tiaapet love you 😘