It’s really sad that being a “ baby mother “ is disrespectful but being a Single dad is so highly respected because they “ have a choice “ to take care of their own child
That’s because dads are demonized for impregnating the woman soo much the important decisions are over looked.But if the woman can be logical and less emotional she could abort the baby,Give the baby up for adoption or even decide to take pills,Just as the man ought to wear a condom. Why should the life of a young man change forever just because a woman decides she wants to keep the baby? smh
@@heagreendaltv what’s logical about two humans making the decision to have sex knowing it’s still a big possibility of getting pregnant even while using every protection possible then running from the responsibility of being parents ? Men impregnated women.
@@destinyag Yes men Impregnate women,During the intercourse you also ejaculate just as the man but unfortunately the man's ejaculation is what leads to pregnancy so the man is made to suffer.But the two parties have a second chance two approach life afresh if only women will be logical and less emotional.
I’m not even a “baby mama” or mother in general but I was offended by all of those assumptions because why are women ALWAYS the blame for two party situations? It’s truly disgusting how this world really hates women when we are the nurturers, the caretakers, the ones who raise up the humans of this world. If anything I applaud the “baby mamas” because they’re strong enough to do on their own (not glorifying the stuggle) but raising a kid alone is not easy and it is a full time job. Y’all deserve way more credit than y’all get.
Clearly you've never seen Paternity Court because some women are triflin. Note I said some... I don't get unwanted pregnancies in an era where there a numerous cheap ways to ensure one doesn't get pregnant...
@@beyourself2444 I think you could’ve said that better but understand that these are generalizations that are placed on “baby mamas”. Granted, there are some trifling women who use babies as pawns but to place all baby mamas in one category is wrong, offensive, and rude. Honestly no one should have the right to judge anyone. Have sympathy for all including the “trifling women” because I can guarantee you that it is not their fault that they are the way they are. Trauma is real and people deal with it differently.
Hey Raven! I don’t think doing the podcast in the closet is a bad idea. Most times when closets are figuratively referred to, it’s a place of vulnerability and personal truth. Example: Coming out the closet & Your prayer closet. I’m proud of you ❤️
Most moms stop the men from seeing the kids because they are inconsistent you can’t just not see or talk to your kid for months or years then pop up. That was my case
This was what my mom had to deal with raising my brother and I. My "dad" would pop in and out when it was convenient for him. She never said a bad word about him and always said we would see his true character later on. It really set the bar high on who I choose to be with intimately and have kids with.
Exactly. People with no kids never take into consideration the reason of why a mother has to cut contact with a father. Sometimes it’s because we have to take care of our child’s well-being. No it’s not right to keep a father out simply because of spite, but there are actually appropriate reasons for the child’s sake
My kids dad is doing this to me. He pops in & out whenever. He just gets the kids happy then ends up leaving again and not coming around for weeks or months at a time. It sucks bc he sees nothing wrong with it. Hes been on drugs and does everything he wants but then tries to pop around like everything is fine. If i was the one doing this im sure he would of taken me to court already, and called me a dead beat mother. Ive been so nice and allowed him to come around everytime hes wanted to, but my kids started asking me why their dad leaves them that hurts me so much bc no child deserves that. Officially tired.
Well. Ain’t the question being ask (what do you think of stereo typical baby mom is?) so why would they fault the father when answering what being ask?
I’m a single mom with no help. When you have no/limited help it makes it hard to effectively provide because kids get sick and things happen that interfere with jobs. I’m pursuing my realtor license, writing books, and side hustling my ass off and still struggling. I consider myself a great woman/person and I would’ve NEVER chose this life for myself. My circumstances just happen to play out horribly after giving birth and I could no longer be with my child’s father because of a dangerous situation so I had no choice. Thank you for this video! It made me emotional
I separated from my now ex-husband in 2019. He was a SAHD. When we divorced he moved to the other side of the country and has had limited communication and face time with our children (this actually shocked me since like I said he was the stay at home parent). For the last 1.5 year it’s been a struggle but I’m making it work through the tears, as you probably are. Single motherhood is a level of strength that I didn’t even know I had.
God says he is the father to the fatherless. Cry out to Jesus and lay your cares on him. He will cover you. I pray God supports and guides your child through this life and that they are blessed profoundly. When you are down know God is with you. I believe in you, this rough season will be temporary. Many blessings to you.
Be proud of all you've accomplished this far ! don't give up on your dreams .i was in that same dangerous situation ,with emotional abuse and drug abuse.i had to protect myself and babygirl from this hell.
Not a parent. But I am a child of a single parent. And let me just say you’re so right about. Everyone situation is different. I don’t even consider that man a baby daddy, daddy, father, none of that. He was basically a sperm donor. Period! My mom never kept him away from me. She wanted us to have relationship but he didn’t want one with me. I think my mom use to get like $80 every two weeks as her child support. I’m not going to spill all my tea, but I remember when I was 18 (I’m 30 now) i was going for a checkup with my MG doctor (I was diagnosed with MG at 15. That a whole nuther story) I’m on his insurance or whatever. With no call or anything I find out from the nurse he dropped me from his insurance! I guess as soon as clock stroked midnight on my 18 bday he was like I am officially D O N E. (I guess he needed that money for his other kids) I was so confused and hurt. Chiiile after that day I never spoke to that man again. I mean I wasn’t speaking with him to begin with. But anywho. Raven you’re doing a great job as a mother. Zyia is so blessed to have a mom that loves her and works so hard that she don’t want for nothing! You keep doing your thing girl!
I’m so sorry you had to go through that. My daughter’s father was just arguing with me yesterday because I asked for help with her daycare. He told me that daycare is a luxury lol lol I have to laugh. Honey u made it to 30 years without him n u’ll be just fine regardless of life’s struggles. I will continue to do the best I can to ensure my daughter is raised right and taken care of.
The “single mom/baby mom” stereotype is always weird because I have a great job, I’m college-educated, okay financially stable AND I broke up with my daughters dad + we coparent 50/50. So the assumptions are always so narrow minded. I know plenty of single moms who don’t fit the stereotypical box so it’s like ??
A lot of women do fit the descriptions I know someone who falls in each one of those assumptions
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To me that’s not a single mom, a single mom means you do it alone. You co parent. You are a single person who’s a mother. (Not saying this is the only way to look at it)
@ I agree 100% that it’s different but to the majority of society, I was unmarried and I’m no longer with my daughters dad so I’m still considered a “baby mama”. My whole point was that there are so many different circumstances so assumptions and generalizing is kind of eh…
I recently became a “baby mama” and everything you said I 100% agreed with. I am learning that you really can’t take others judgment as your own reality, no one knows the full story. Also , loved the advice at the end. Thanks for sharing your story Raven, it’s not easy. Love seeing this side of you .
When I tell you that this hit HOME!!!! I’m a happily married woman and my husband has played the role of a father in my daughters life since she was 4, she is now 9. When I tell you that I WISH that my daughters daddy was an instrumental part of her upbringing. I have always said that if my daughters dad helped out, spent time with her and at least TRIED to do the things that a father should do for his children that child support would never be a part of the equation!! It’s sad how many daddies out here really are ok with not being a part of their children’s lives and missing out on so many beautiful things that come along with raising a child.
I’m not a single mum I’ve been married with two kids for nearly 20 years, however everything you said was spot on!! Never judge anyone’s situation they’re all different!! We’ll said Raven!! You’re a great single mum xx
You came to mind a few weeks ago because I was really wanting your perspective on being a thriving single mom. I am expecting my first child and I had to separate from the father because it became an abusive situation. His mother expected me to accommodate him because that’s what she did for his father when he lost his temper and I knew then I had to leave. I haven’t received support from their side because I choose to leave, but I’m blessed to have a village. It’s crazy how people generalize situations because like you said I don’t know any women who wouldn’t want to share the responsibility of such huge roles. Thanks for the content, I look forward to watching more.
It’s so weird how all the accountability falls on the woman . & the men just get a clean slate . I’m triggered listening to the tweets & I don’t even have kids . & I see ppl saying being a single mom & baby mama are different but why ? is it bc of how ppl have made the title baby mama such a negative thing ? Ik ppl that call eachother baby mama & baby daddy & the relationships are good so idk 🤷🏽♀️
I think it falls on us (women) bc you can’t have consensual sex without opening up our legs so become a baby mama. So basically it’s like we wouldn’t become a baby mama if we didn’t let the f. Most women know the men ain’t father worthy but still choose to get pregnant
That's why it's VITAL that as women we treat our bodies and personal space like a holy temple. So when we are ready to enter into a relationship, we seek men who will add to us and appreciate us. The truth is, many, many women are accepting men in any form they come in, when we are typically in control. Some of us are happy being side-pieces, knowing that man isn't decent or available. Our generation definitely makes it easy, considering our monumentus push out of patriarchal nonesense. We NEED to say NO, so men can see we value ourselves. This is for women who aren't valuing themselves and making it easy for men to be in their personal space - just because. So women have the power too!
I’ve seen both sides of the coin when it comes to this. honestly there are more single mothers out there that I’ve seen that crave the help from the father and don’t get it versus the ones who are just spiteful. I see more Instagram dads than REAL dads. I also came from a single mother house hold where my mother did everything for us. Meanwhile my father was out there running the streets, getting locked up and being an alcoholic. He barely helped out with anything. He probably showed up maybe once or twice a year if that. I am a mother who is engaged to the father of my son, but I am still labeled as a single mother. I do not share my son’s last name yet and I often get judged and looked at negatively because of it. I hate that single mothers are looked down on when they hold all the weight and responsibility of raising their child/children. Everything you said is spot on.
Thank you for this upload! I used to get dragged by my daughter’s dad family. He would tell anyone that listened that I kept him from his child, but never called, texted, sent a message in a bottle. He was acting in front of his friends/family, but was not actually/actively attempting to be a father. It’s been 5 years since he has reached out to my daughter, but will still tell people that I don’t let him be a dad.
It’s sad that some families don’t realize that they are actually enabling their loved one to be a less than honorable person(putting it nicely). I have sons, and I couldn’t imagine just blindly accepting their side of the story if I never see my grandchild. I would definitely at least try to get input from both sides, to get a clearer picture of what life will be like for the child.
I personally think the word “baby mama” in general just has a negative connotation associated with it. If someone presented the mother as “this is the mother of my child” I automatically have a different feeling towards it. But this is because of the way society views “baby mama”.
I completely agree!! My boyfriend has a child and always refers to the mother as “mother of my child” or “child’s mother”; he actually corrected me when I called her baby mama and it made me respect him more and look at their situation from a different perspective.
Everyone does not crave "marriage". Some prefer the union outside of a legal/religious aspect. And then the union grows apart, that does not make the mother a terrible decision maker.
I totally agree with you that it takes more then financial support to be there for a child. My daughter is 7 and honestly I’ve never received support for her financially. If I could pick which one I would choose to have them support mentally and physically rather then financially. But on a lighter note I’m still upset that someone has the audacity to call me their baby momma because I’m far from that. I am the mother of someone’s child and the sole provider for that child so I do not ever deserve to be called that 🙄.
It’s extremely difficult to hear these sexist and misogynoir “opinions” on baby mommas coming from someone raised by a single mother. All of those are wrong!
I hope the podcast gets a little more personal/ casual/ conversational. it seemed too formal in a way…almost like listing off facts or something. looking forward to this ❤️
@@KrystalNicole yessss , I know many Virgos and they are like that , but still hope she open up a little she did say the podcast will be different from the rest 🤷🏽♀️
honestly i’m so glad you started a podcast. i’ve been watching you for so long and i loved the daily vlogs. i remember seeing ziya’s dad in her earlier birthday vlogs and assumed you didn’t talk about it for privacy reasons. i’m very proud of you bc this isn’t a easy topic and those assumptions are crazy but you’re an amazing mother.
This was a good podcast. Personally, my number one fear in life is being a baby momma and now I see why. Society has put so many negative connotations with it that I have viewed it as a failure in life versus a blessing. Thanks for the eye opener. ❤️
As a divorcée, with a child from the marriage, I can tell you from experience that outsiders look in and assume you’re a baby mama regardless. If they see or hear that you have a child, they automatically assume, so even marriage won’t protect you from the stigma.
The bigger picture for me was realizing that the same men that spew these stereotypes towards great women that are mothers, pulling their weight and the father’s weight; these are the same men that will impregnate and cause a woman to be a single mother. And like Raven said in the video, they are making excuses to the public so they don’t get labeled a deadbeat dad. And the women that agree with them do not know the story and are not a single mother, and unaware of the experiences we go through.
I am very offended about other people’s assumptions on what a baby mama is or what happened in the relationship for the two not to be together. That’s F’d up I’m pissed
I really enjoyed this! I’m a first time mom to a 3 month old baby girl, her father and I are together and even as involved as he is still most of the responsibility falls on me because I’m her mom so I completely understood that part!
Hi Raven! Thank you so much for diving into this topic and sharing your thoughts + personal experiences. I am the daughter of a single mother of 2 children. I have received a greater understanding of single mothers from watching this video. As a child of a single mother, the missing piece in my life has been truly understanding what happened in the early stages of my parents' relationship. Of course, my biggest question is why my father was not present as he should have been and besides what they both tell me (which is limited information and sometimes egotistically shared) I still don't know the WHOLE story. I truly believe the only person who deserves a thorough explanation of the true series of events that happened before the child was born and while they were raised is the actual child. Plus, as a best friend to 2 single mothers it helped me be a bit more sensitive to the things I say and helped me think about how I show up to support them. Therefore, I thank you so much for sharing what you have. I've been watching you for about 3 years now and I never assumed why you were a single mom because I know for myself that at 28 years old it's still a sensitive topic for my mom. This video definitely provided a bit of healing for me. Thank you! Congratulations on your successful podcast! Keep going mama. :)
I don't have kids... but I'm here to say single moms/baby mamas whateva do you honey make that paper... cause as long as you and yours are alright at the end of the day you good.
I know your energy towards this topic is on 1000 but that aside it’s soooo hard to communicate effectively for an hour with no one to play off of!!! Your so good!
Thank you! Raven for this video I love that you talked about this situation and accusations. It was well needed to be addressed. Being a single mother is very hard and exhausting at times; having no help can be mentally draining also stressful sometimes. I love this video. Thanks again girl. And I don't label myself as a "baby mommy" I'm mother of his child.
From 16:20 and on GIRL YOU ARE ON POINTT !! The shit that goes on behind close doors and they judge meanwhile our silence keeps things as cool as possible.
I really appreciate you, Raven, for discussing the other factors of how one may become a single parent. It just makes me cringe to know that people actually think that this is the life we willingly chose and that we’d rather do this alone...
Excellent job, sweetie. I follow you on several platforms.I was an unmarried single Mom at 22 yrs. old.....my child from that experience is now 41! We were alone for 7 1/2 years. I married and had 2 more children - both over 30 now. I agree with what you're saying and can see the great insight you have in your single parenting skills. I think you're doing a fabulous job from what I see in your videos, and I think you should be very proud of yourself. And thank God for your parents and siblings, and friends who are like family. Just be careful how much you DO share with your audience. People will see your talent, beauty, success and drive and out of jealousy and hatred will try to derail all you have. YOU have the right to keep things as private as possible - your true followers will know so much of your story is none of our business, and can be happy with that. I just love you and Ziya - I want all the best for you both!
I'm only a dog mom but I come from a single mother & boy oh boy! Just seeing my mom provide for 4 kids by herself while trying to find & keep her own peace of mind?! My hat's off to you Raven (& any single mom reading this). i hope you continue to find a blissful balance & overall happiness. ❤
I’m so glad you mention “ just because you provided the money doesn’t make you a dad “ girl I agree especially us SAHM we get shamed so much too! People think we’re lazy and ungrateful people... it irks my nerves
Exactly. Taking care of a child is a full-time job. Even when I have a break I feel like I have to be doing something for my child or around the house.
I wonder if those same people that have those definitions consider the Kardashian’s/ Kylie Jenner a baby momma because according to those definitions they are 🤷🏾♀️🥴
They all baby mommas but Kim. And yet they are glorified and worshiped. But let a black women be a single mom and she’s looked down upon and critiqued smh it’s sad really
I'm not even 3 full minutes into this video and its already hitting home off the "I've BEEN a single mother" this is hitting soooo close to home, like instant subscribe. I'm a WHOLE MECHANIICAL ENGINEER but get referred to as a "baby mama" with nobody taking into consideration how I feel about being called that smh
Thanks for sharing your situation as a single mom. Your story seems like my situation. I too am a single mom since I was probably 2 months pregnant. So my daughter does not know her father. I have raised my daughter with my village. You are very blessed to have a mom and dad (or stepdad) in Ziya’s life. My mom or dad has not been actively involved in my daughter’s life. But again I have a village and family outside of her dad, my mom and dad.
wow these definitions of a baby momma in the beginning really broke my heart. This society we live in....ignorance and prejudice is running rampant. I definitely felt the mysoginoir jump through the screen.
I can relate with you! I’m on a similar situation and people are very judgmental without knowing. I have learn how not let those comments get in to me or affect me. ❤
You are right... I am a new mom and i do almost everything while my boyfriend just brings "baby stuff" around month end and spends two hours with the baby and thats it... When i try to talk to him about seeing the baby once a month he like i have to work... Forgetting that i also have to work but i am still with the baby 24/7
I was a “baby mama” while my kids were coming up, I say “was” because my children are now 21 & 24 years old. I have definitely been a victim of the stigma surrounding the “Baby Mama” term. Also at the time child support was an issue and none of those generalizations applied to me. People should really watch how they think, & watch what they say. To give a hint of how wrong people were in those generalizations of me, would be now years later when the “baby daddy” needed help in life I was the ONLY one who provided that help for him & we are still not in intimate relationship.
I really needed to hear this... I don't usually listen to podcasts (or comment) but THIS was great. The mother blaming/shaming needs to stop. How it is deemed in society for women to just accept things and carry it gracefully and quietly is unfair. Live and speak in your truth ladies.
I’m a single mother. I’ve been watching you for a while and want to let you know you are doing a great job and are an inspiration. The burden always falls on the women, men get a pass. Thanks for the conversation and bravery to take this on by yourself💕
So what about single mothers who are divorced? 🤔 I stayed in an unhealthy marriage so long bc I didn’t want to be “a baby mama” or single mother and it did my child more harm than good
This video/podcast was insightful. I’m not a baby momma but my husband does have a child with another woman. Our issue is failing to know how/what to provide other than financial support when the mother voices that she doesn’t want our support except in the financial manner. We’re in this long court process to provide financial and non-financial support. So I guess I’m just looking for ways to still support her and our daughter while we’re being held at a distance and while we wait for court matters to be finalized. But I’ll be reading the comments to get insight from a single mom perspective.
When people have children, they have to consider what kind of family they have. My family does not believe in watching kids or helping really. We aren’t a family…we just shared blood. I feel bad for my family members in this situation.
Ughh you need to do more episodes on this! Especially on black single moms. I almost made the decision not to even have my child solely on the stigma I knew I’d have to face 😩
I command you and I condone you Raven for putting part of your personal life out there before people telling them your situation and the reason why you are a single mother which is not of our business in the first place and you should not have to try to justify yourself because of nosy people because people should not judge you because of your situation because they don't know what really happened
I kept on nodding my head, you couldn’t have said it any better. The stereotypes are ridiculous. I’m a single mom and I have experienced all the stereotypes. I agree 100% with what you said. There is definitely a reason why dad is not in the picture not because mom doesn’t want to. It could be due to legalities different things.
Thank you for sharing. I watched your videos and they helped so much while I was pregnant and getting ready to become a ‘solo mom’. I would watch your videos with my mom and we were so impressed on how much you’ve achieved ⭐️
Those negative opinions are honestly super disheartening. I’m a single mom and I have a masters degree so not every “baby mama” is young and dumb. I never anticipated being a single mother when I started my family- I thought my daughters’ father and I would’ve gotten married. So hearing “baby mama” as being this ghetto terminology for an unworthy woman is frustrating to say the least. I’m happy you’re speaking on this young sis! Keep having these convos!! 🙏🏽
I'm so proud of Ray! I witnessed your experience for the very beginning and you are a true testimony. Are honestly my inspiration. It may seem extra lol, but I look to you for hope and an extra push. We are around the same age and have very similar interests and personalities. When I see you making a way and a life for yourself by yourself, I know I can do it. Thank you for your platform!
You are a wealth of good information. I felt your heart. Love the closet. No one would know that you are in a closet unless you said something. You have helped a lot of us by being transparent. Great job with sharing. Thank you and much love from another Single Parent.
The only podcast that has kept my attention from beginning to end ..I know it’s hard for you thank you for opening up slightly… the more you do it’ll be healing for you & your fans will draw in so much more …. You touched on everything… I just wanted you to say .. why are women (baby mommas) so looked down upon when in reality they are the parent who didn’t walk away …the parent who stayed & took on all the heavy weight of parenthood alone … it doesn’t make sense
Thank you for your vulnerability in speaking, and educating others about this topic. It is an exhausting topic to live, let alone to actually speak about.
Really proud of you Raven for the development of this podcast. The social media world is constantly changing and demanding more from content creators to stay “relevant”. It’s cool to see your personal and professional maturity and development. We can tell you put a great deal of work into your new endeavors and each new project is more polished than the last. Good for you!
Loving your Podcast….I love feeling like we get a glimpse of who Raven is with her friends…maybe not the exact same lol but I just love that you feel less restricted in expressing your opinions! Keep it up! ☺️
As a quote on "Baby Mom" I have loathe the use of this term. My twins father went on to become a dead beat Baby daddy to six kids by 4 different women. He currently lives off his last Baby Mom who supports him. I guess the question is why do men continue to make kids they don't want to father. It's a double standard when men are the ones not holding up their end of the parenting. Remember the more money you make the less you get. I would rather have the father participate in their life rather pay me support. Good topic and I like the podcast in the closet.
Wow! I didn't realize there were so many stereotypes & generalizations out there about baby mamas. Though I am not one, I was raised by a single mother & am very PROUD that I was. My mom did a great job w/ NO HELP from anyone.
Thank you so much for being vulnerable and sharing more of yourself personal story. I didn’t want to be a single mom at all and i, just like you, had no other choice it was forced upon me. I relate to you so much! I started watching you in college as i was in a fashion program as well. I can’t wait to see more episodes, so proud of how far you have come. Totally agree with your advise!
The way Raven refuted their definition of baby mama by breaking down the variety of possibilities that can lead to becoming a “baby mama.” 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 AGGHHH, I can SCREAM with the amount of relief I have from Raven doing this. Thank you, Raven, for you. People continue to draw conclusions about others through assumptions rather than material details. Next, can you break down the variety of personal reasons that can be involved when one discourages others’ dreams and why the recipient shouldn’t take their advice at face value? 🥹🥲 whew-wee, God be a fence against such projectors as these.
I’ve been here from the very beginning and my love your doing amazing. Your an amazing mother to Ziya and anybody who has been with you on your journey knows your not just someone’s baby mama 🖤. Hope the father knows it too cause goddess he’s very blessed he got a child with you,someone who has their sh**t together. It’s sad when the relationship goes downhill when you find out your having a little one. It’s happening to a lot of women these days around the world and I just pray for the future of our up and coming generations.
I already listened to the audio form. Here for the visual expressions ❤️ I’ve been following the journey for years. I’m so excited for this podcast since & future topics 🙌🏾
Good topic. I too hate the stigma of baby mamas cause I give my son’s sperm donor zero grief. He has no interest in anything. He is financially responsible only because of the courts, which I tried to avoid but with a newborn $40 every 3 months wasn’t cutting it. Also I hate when people say you knew what kind of man he was before you got pregnant. That’s not always true. People can change in a blink of an eye I never really bad talked him, I let my son learn him for himself. I tried to engage him in school stuff and he just didn’t care to know I eventually told my son you just never know what God is protecting you from Also. My son’s donor has 3 sons, 1 of which he found out About by chance later on in life and none of them have his last time which is sad for him because his legacy won’t go on.
It’s really sad that being a “ baby mother “ is disrespectful but being a Single dad is so highly respected because they “ have a choice “ to take care of their own child
This the one right here !!!
That’s because dads are demonized for impregnating the woman soo much the important decisions are over looked.But if the woman can be logical and less emotional she could abort the baby,Give the baby up for adoption or even decide to take pills,Just as the man ought to wear a condom. Why should the life of a young man change forever just because a woman decides she wants to keep the baby? smh
@@heagreendaltv what’s logical about two humans making the decision to have sex knowing it’s still a big possibility of getting pregnant even while using every protection possible then running from the responsibility of being parents ? Men impregnated women.
@@destinyag Yes men Impregnate women,During the intercourse you also ejaculate just as the man but unfortunately the man's ejaculation is what leads to pregnancy so the man is made to suffer.But the two parties have a second chance two approach life afresh if only women will be logical and less emotional.
@@heagreendaltv but what about cases where they both wanted the baby and then later on things didn't work out?
I’m not even a “baby mama” or mother in general but I was offended by all of those assumptions because why are women ALWAYS the blame for two party situations? It’s truly disgusting how this world really hates women when we are the nurturers, the caretakers, the ones who raise up the humans of this world. If anything I applaud the “baby mamas” because they’re strong enough to do on their own (not glorifying the stuggle) but raising a kid alone is not easy and it is a full time job. Y’all deserve way more credit than y’all get.
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Clearly you've never seen Paternity Court because some women are triflin. Note I said some... I don't get unwanted pregnancies in an era where there a numerous cheap ways to ensure one doesn't get pregnant...
@@beyourself2444 I think you could’ve said that better but understand that these are generalizations that are placed on “baby mamas”. Granted, there are some trifling women who use babies as pawns but to place all baby mamas in one category is wrong, offensive, and rude. Honestly no one should have the right to judge anyone. Have sympathy for all including the “trifling women” because I can guarantee you that it is not their fault that they are the way they are. Trauma is real and people deal with it differently.
@@SimplyRL-000 The mother didn’t get herself pregnant. It takes two to tango.
The bar is literally so low for men, anything that goes wrong is automatically the woman’s fault!
thats funny man have a similar opinion
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Then it be men RAISED by a SINGLE MOTHER that makes all those negative assumptions. 🤯
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Omg yes I was just about to say this!!
Hey Raven! I don’t think doing the podcast in the closet is a bad idea. Most times when closets are figuratively referred to, it’s a place of vulnerability and personal truth. Example: Coming out the closet & Your prayer closet. I’m proud of you ❤️
Your voice is perfect for podcasting!
Most moms stop the men from seeing the kids because they are inconsistent you can’t just not see or talk to your kid for months or years then pop up. That was my case
This was what my mom had to deal with raising my brother and I. My "dad" would pop in and out when it was convenient for him. She never said a bad word about him and always said we would see his true character later on. It really set the bar high on who I choose to be with intimately and have kids with.
Exactly. People with no kids never take into consideration the reason of why a mother has to cut contact with a father. Sometimes it’s because we have to take care of our child’s well-being. No it’s not right to keep a father out simply because of spite, but there are actually appropriate reasons for the child’s sake
My kids dad is doing this to me. He pops in & out whenever. He just gets the kids happy then ends up leaving again and not coming around for weeks or months at a time. It sucks bc he sees nothing wrong with it. Hes been on drugs and does everything he wants but then tries to pop around like everything is fine. If i was the one doing this im sure he would of taken me to court already, and called me a dead beat mother. Ive been so nice and allowed him to come around everytime hes wanted to, but my kids started asking me why their dad leaves them that hurts me so much bc no child deserves that. Officially tired.
@@Jasmine-cn6vl protect your kids f being nice
Its really crazy how easy it is for men to walk away on from the children they helped create with no judgement.
interesting how none of the assumptions seem to fault the father or make the father take accountability for the mother being a single parent
Never
Well. Ain’t the question being ask (what do you think of stereo typical baby mom is?) so why would they fault the father when answering what being ask?
I’m a single mom with no help. When you have no/limited help it makes it hard to effectively provide because kids get sick and things happen that interfere with jobs. I’m pursuing my realtor license, writing books, and side hustling my ass off and still struggling. I consider myself a great woman/person and I would’ve NEVER chose this life for myself. My circumstances just happen to play out horribly after giving birth and I could no longer be with my child’s father because of a dangerous situation so I had no choice. Thank you for this video! It made me emotional
I separated from my now ex-husband in 2019. He was a SAHD. When we divorced he moved to the other side of the country and has had limited communication and face time with our children (this actually shocked me since like I said he was the stay at home parent). For the last 1.5 year it’s been a struggle but I’m making it work through the tears, as you probably are. Single motherhood is a level of strength that I didn’t even know I had.
Do your thing mama👏🏽👏🏽
God says he is the father to the fatherless. Cry out to Jesus and lay your cares on him. He will cover you. I pray God supports and guides your child through this life and that they are blessed profoundly. When you are down know God is with you. I believe in you, this rough season will be temporary. Many blessings to you.
Be proud of all you've accomplished this far ! don't give up on your dreams .i was in that same dangerous situation ,with emotional abuse and drug abuse.i had to protect myself and babygirl from this hell.
Not a parent. But I am a child of a single parent. And let me just say you’re so right about. Everyone situation is different. I don’t even consider that man a baby daddy, daddy, father, none of that. He was basically a sperm donor. Period! My mom never kept him away from me. She wanted us to have relationship but he didn’t want one with me. I think my mom use to get like $80 every two weeks as her child support. I’m not going to spill all my tea, but I remember when I was 18 (I’m 30 now) i was going for a checkup with my MG doctor (I was diagnosed with MG at 15. That a whole nuther story) I’m on his insurance or whatever. With no call or anything I find out from the nurse he dropped me from his insurance! I guess as soon as clock stroked midnight on my 18 bday he was like I am officially D O N E. (I guess he needed that money for his other kids) I was so confused and hurt. Chiiile after that day I never spoke to that man again. I mean I wasn’t speaking with him to begin with. But anywho. Raven you’re doing a great job as a mother. Zyia is so blessed to have a mom that loves her and works so hard that she don’t want for nothing! You keep doing your thing girl!
I’m so sorry you had to go through that. My daughter’s father was just arguing with me yesterday because I asked for help with her daycare. He told me that daycare is a luxury lol lol I have to laugh. Honey u made it to 30 years without him n u’ll be just fine regardless of life’s struggles. I will continue to do the best I can to ensure my daughter is raised right and taken care of.
“I shouldn’t have to ask you for anything because it’s your responsibility” 🗣PERIODDDDDDDDDD
The “single mom/baby mom” stereotype is always weird because I have a great job, I’m college-educated, okay financially stable AND I broke up with my daughters dad + we coparent 50/50. So the assumptions are always so narrow minded. I know plenty of single moms who don’t fit the stereotypical box so it’s like ??
A lot of women do fit the descriptions I know someone who falls in each one of those assumptions
To me that’s not a single mom, a single mom means you do it alone. You co parent. You are a single person who’s a mother. (Not saying this is the only way to look at it)
@ I agree 100% that it’s different but to the majority of society, I was unmarried and I’m no longer with my daughters dad so I’m still considered a “baby mama”. My whole point was that there are so many different circumstances so assumptions and generalizing is kind of eh…
I recently became a “baby mama” and everything you said I 100% agreed with. I am learning that you really can’t take others judgment as your own reality, no one knows the full story. Also , loved the advice at the end. Thanks for sharing your story Raven, it’s not easy. Love seeing this side of you .
When I tell you that this hit HOME!!!! I’m a happily married woman and my husband has played the role of a father in my daughters life since she was 4, she is now 9. When I tell you that I WISH that my daughters daddy was an instrumental part of her upbringing. I have always said that if my daughters dad helped out, spent time with her and at least TRIED to do the things that a father should do for his children that child support would never be a part of the equation!! It’s sad how many daddies out here really are ok with not being a part of their children’s lives and missing out on so many beautiful things that come along with raising a child.
Single mom checking in.. "You're doing amazing sweetie" 💚💫
I’m not a single mum I’ve been married with two kids for nearly 20 years, however everything you said was spot on!! Never judge anyone’s situation they’re all different!! We’ll said Raven!!
You’re a great single mum xx
I love seeing this side of you. Don’t get me wrong mom raven is litt. But I’m definitely enjoying seeing this more personable side
Same
You are very brave for speaking your truth and telling your story. It’s not easy for people to do. 💕
These “baby mama assumptions” are WILD! 🤬 I don’t even have kids, and I’m offended.
You came to mind a few weeks ago because I was really wanting your perspective on being a thriving single mom. I am expecting my first child and I had to separate from the father because it became an abusive situation. His mother expected me to accommodate him because that’s what she did for his father when he lost his temper and I knew then I had to leave.
I haven’t received support from their side because I choose to leave, but I’m blessed to have a village. It’s crazy how people generalize situations because like you said I don’t know any women who wouldn’t want to share the responsibility of such huge roles. Thanks for the content, I look forward to watching more.
You don’t own ANYONE an explanation but your openness to be vulnerable is greatly appreciated!
It’s so weird how all the accountability falls on the woman . & the men just get a clean slate . I’m triggered listening to the tweets & I don’t even have kids . & I see ppl saying being a single mom & baby mama are different but why ? is it bc of how ppl have made the title baby mama such a negative thing ? Ik ppl that call eachother baby mama & baby daddy & the relationships are good so idk 🤷🏽♀️
Exactly
I think it falls on us (women) bc you can’t have consensual sex without opening up our legs so become a baby mama. So basically it’s like we wouldn’t become a baby mama if we didn’t let the f. Most women know the men ain’t father worthy but still choose to get pregnant
That's why it's VITAL that as women we treat our bodies and personal space like a holy temple. So when we are ready to enter into a relationship, we seek men who will add to us and appreciate us.
The truth is, many, many women are accepting men in any form they come in, when we are typically in control. Some of us are happy being side-pieces, knowing that man isn't decent or available.
Our generation definitely makes it easy, considering our monumentus push out of patriarchal nonesense. We NEED to say NO, so men can see we value ourselves.
This is for women who aren't valuing themselves and making it easy for men to be in their personal space - just because. So women have the power too!
I’ve seen both sides of the coin when it comes to this. honestly there are more single mothers out there that I’ve seen that crave the help from the father and don’t get it versus the ones who are just spiteful. I see more Instagram dads than REAL dads. I also came from a single mother house hold where my mother did everything for us. Meanwhile my father was out there running the streets, getting locked up and being an alcoholic. He barely helped out with anything. He probably showed up maybe once or twice a year if that. I am a mother who is engaged to the father of my son, but I am still labeled as a single mother. I do not share my son’s last name yet and I often get judged and looked at negatively because of it. I hate that single mothers are looked down on when they hold all the weight and responsibility of raising their child/children. Everything you said is spot on.
Thank you for this upload! I used to get dragged by my daughter’s dad family. He would tell anyone that listened that I kept him from his child, but never called, texted, sent a message in a bottle. He was acting in front of his friends/family, but was not actually/actively attempting to be a father. It’s been 5 years since he has reached out to my daughter, but will still tell people that I don’t let him be a dad.
Adding in that I don’t receive any financial support from her dad. Again, really enjoyed this upload.
It’s sad that some families don’t realize that they are actually enabling their loved one to be a less than honorable person(putting it nicely). I have sons, and I couldn’t imagine just blindly accepting their side of the story if I never see my grandchild. I would definitely at least try to get input from both sides, to get a clearer picture of what life will be like for the child.
Truth! It wasn’t until I got married and my husband & I changed my daughter last name to his, that the truth started unfolding & eyes were opened.
Wow I never knew all these stereotypes for a baby mama, I'm so shocked. People are so misinformed and judgmental.
I personally think the word “baby mama” in general just has a negative connotation associated with it. If someone presented the mother as “this is the mother of my child” I automatically have a different feeling towards it. But this is because of the way society views “baby mama”.
I completely agree!! My boyfriend has a child and always refers to the mother as “mother of my child” or “child’s mother”; he actually corrected me when I called her baby mama and it made me respect him more and look at their situation from a different perspective.
I needed this FR I’m 21 years old and imma a single mom to a beautiful 6 month old baby boy 🖤
Everyone does not crave "marriage". Some prefer the union outside of a legal/religious aspect. And then the union grows apart, that does not make the mother a terrible decision maker.
I totally agree with you that it takes more then financial support to be there for a child. My daughter is 7 and honestly I’ve never received support for her financially. If I could pick which one I would choose to have them support mentally and physically rather then financially. But on a lighter note I’m still upset that someone has the audacity to call me their baby momma because I’m far from that. I am the mother of someone’s child and the sole provider for that child so I do not ever deserve to be called that 🙄.
It’s extremely difficult to hear these sexist and misogynoir “opinions” on baby mommas coming from someone raised by a single mother. All of those are wrong!
I hope the podcast gets a little more personal/ casual/ conversational. it seemed too formal in a way…almost like listing off facts or something. looking forward to this ❤️
My thoughts exactly ... hope so as well .
agreed. I love her but EVERYTHINGGG is always so planned out it seems, I’m excited to see her grow though
I agreee. It’s a bit awkward
That will be HARDDDD for her she’s a Virgo lol! We have a hard time dropping character but she’s going to have to for the podcast to thrive
@@KrystalNicole yessss , I know many Virgos and they are like that , but still hope she open up a little she did say the podcast will be different from the rest 🤷🏽♀️
honestly i’m so glad you started a podcast. i’ve been watching you for so long and i loved the daily vlogs. i remember seeing ziya’s dad in her earlier birthday vlogs and assumed you didn’t talk about it for privacy reasons. i’m very proud of you bc this isn’t a easy topic and those assumptions are crazy but you’re an amazing mother.
My jaw dropped at the comments you received/saw on Twitter. Talking about she wasn’t worthy like…..
This was a good podcast. Personally, my number one fear in life is being a baby momma and now I see why. Society has put so many negative connotations with it that I have viewed it as a failure in life versus a blessing. Thanks for the eye opener. ❤️
And honestly sometimes it’s just easier to be a single mom and do it all yourself rather than trying to force a co-parenting relationship.
As a divorcée, with a child from the marriage, I can tell you from experience that outsiders look in and assume you’re a baby mama regardless. If they see or hear that you have a child, they automatically assume, so even marriage won’t protect you from the stigma.
The bigger picture for me was realizing that the same men that spew these stereotypes towards great women that are mothers, pulling their weight and the father’s weight; these are the same men that will impregnate and cause a woman to be a single mother. And like Raven said in the video, they are making excuses to the public so they don’t get labeled a deadbeat dad. And the women that agree with them do not know the story and are not a single mother, and unaware of the experiences we go through.
I am very offended about other people’s assumptions on what a baby mama is or what happened in the relationship for the two not to be together. That’s F’d up I’m pissed
I really enjoyed this! I’m a first time mom to a 3 month old baby girl, her father and I are together and even as involved as he is still most of the responsibility falls on me because I’m her mom so I completely understood that part!
Hi Raven! Thank you so much for diving into this topic and sharing your thoughts + personal experiences. I am the daughter of a single mother of 2 children. I have received a greater understanding of single mothers from watching this video. As a child of a single mother, the missing piece in my life has been truly understanding what happened in the early stages of my parents' relationship. Of course, my biggest question is why my father was not present as he should have been and besides what they both tell me (which is limited information and sometimes egotistically shared) I still don't know the WHOLE story. I truly believe the only person who deserves a thorough explanation of the true series of events that happened before the child was born and while they were raised is the actual child. Plus, as a best friend to 2 single mothers it helped me be a bit more sensitive to the things I say and helped me think about how I show up to support them. Therefore, I thank you so much for sharing what you have. I've been watching you for about 3 years now and I never assumed why you were a single mom because I know for myself that at 28 years old it's still a sensitive topic for my mom. This video definitely provided a bit of healing for me. Thank you! Congratulations on your successful podcast! Keep going mama. :)
I don't have kids... but I'm here to say single moms/baby mamas whateva do you honey make that paper... cause as long as you and yours are alright at the end of the day you good.
I love this Raven I’m glad to know I’m not the only person who calls myself a single parent instead of baby mama. It’s the false titles for me ✨❤️
being a single mom is definitely different than baby mama.
Don't have any kids but still watching. Hey girl 😊
Straight facts sis!!!! Very ignorant stigma that social media and many men keep going.
I know your energy towards this topic is on 1000 but that aside it’s soooo hard to communicate effectively for an hour with no one to play off of!!! Your so good!
I love the way you broke everything down in the way you did
Period sis
Thank you! Raven for this video I love that you talked about this situation and accusations. It was well needed to be addressed. Being a single mother is very hard and exhausting at times; having no help can be mentally draining also stressful sometimes. I love this video. Thanks again girl. And I don't label myself as a "baby mommy" I'm mother of his child.
Girl honestly I appreciate you talking about this subject because u don’t have to include your personal life but u did.
From 16:20 and on GIRL YOU ARE ON POINTT !! The shit that goes on behind close doors and they judge meanwhile our silence keeps things as cool as possible.
I’m so thankful for you saying the things that so many single mothers are feeling. The world needed this!!!
I’m glad you’re touching on this, I wish more people would listen. I just had twins and let me tell you.....everything you said was spot on...
I really appreciate you, Raven, for discussing the other factors of how one may become a single parent. It just makes me cringe to know that people actually think that this is the life we willingly chose and that we’d rather do this alone...
Excellent job, sweetie. I follow you on several platforms.I was an unmarried single Mom at 22 yrs. old.....my child from that experience is now 41! We were alone for 7 1/2 years. I married and had 2 more children - both over 30 now. I agree with what you're saying and can see the great insight you have in your single parenting skills. I think you're doing a fabulous job from what I see in your videos, and I think you should be very proud of yourself. And thank God for your parents and siblings, and friends who are like family. Just be careful how much you DO share with your audience. People will see your talent, beauty, success and drive and out of jealousy and hatred will try to derail all you have. YOU have the right to keep things as private as possible - your true followers will know so much of your story is none of our business, and can be happy with that. I just love you and Ziya - I want all the best for you both!
I'm only a dog mom but I come from a single mother & boy oh boy! Just seeing my mom provide for 4 kids by herself while trying to find & keep her own peace of mind?! My hat's off to you Raven (& any single mom reading this). i hope you continue to find a blissful balance & overall happiness. ❤
I’m so glad you mention “ just because you provided the money doesn’t make you a dad “ girl I agree especially us SAHM we get shamed so much too! People think we’re lazy and ungrateful people... it irks my nerves
Exactly. Taking care of a child is a full-time job. Even when I have a break I feel like I have to be doing something for my child or around the house.
So true. "Baby mama" carries such a negative connotation. But still, we thrive and do what's necessary. Shoutout to all the mamas making it happen ❤️
Wow, we have a perfect voice for podcasting. I love your TH-cam channel as well
I wonder if those same people that have those definitions consider the Kardashian’s/ Kylie Jenner a baby momma because according to those definitions they are 🤷🏾♀️🥴
God i wish we could post memes on here!
Insert Kandi meme "EXACTLY!"
The phase baby mama is usually geared towards black mothers more than any other group.
They are baby mamas too well Kylie, Kourtney & Khloe but not Kim
They all baby mommas but Kim. And yet they are glorified and worshiped. But let a black women be a single mom and she’s looked down upon and critiqued smh it’s sad really
I'm not even 3 full minutes into this video and its already hitting home off the "I've BEEN a single mother" this is hitting soooo close to home, like instant subscribe. I'm a WHOLE MECHANIICAL ENGINEER but get referred to as a "baby mama" with nobody taking into consideration how I feel about being called that smh
Thanks for sharing your situation as a single mom. Your story seems like my situation. I too am a single mom since I was probably 2 months pregnant. So my daughter does not know her father. I have raised my daughter with my village. You are very blessed to have a mom and dad (or stepdad) in Ziya’s life. My mom or dad has not been actively involved in my daughter’s life. But again I have a village and family outside of her dad, my mom and dad.
I have been watching you for YEARSSSSSSS and I have NEVER thought of you as a Baby Mama!
wow these definitions of a baby momma in the beginning really broke my heart. This society we live in....ignorance and prejudice is running rampant.
I definitely felt the mysoginoir jump through the screen.
Preach RAVEN!!!! Dads wants so much done but not the one doing it. Omggggggg
I can relate with you! I’m on a similar situation and people are very judgmental without knowing. I have learn how not let those comments get in to me or affect me. ❤
You are right... I am a new mom and i do almost everything while my boyfriend just brings "baby stuff" around month end and spends two hours with the baby and thats it... When i try to talk to him about seeing the baby once a month he like i have to work... Forgetting that i also have to work but i am still with the baby 24/7
I was a “baby mama” while my kids were coming up, I say “was” because my children are now 21 & 24 years old. I have definitely been a victim of the stigma surrounding the “Baby Mama” term. Also at the time child support was an issue and none of those generalizations applied to me. People should really watch how they think, & watch what they say. To give a hint of how wrong people were in those generalizations of me, would be now years later when the “baby daddy” needed help in life I was the ONLY one who provided that help for him & we are still not in intimate relationship.
I really needed to hear this... I don't usually listen to podcasts (or comment) but THIS was great. The mother blaming/shaming needs to stop. How it is deemed in society for women to just accept things and carry it gracefully and quietly is unfair. Live and speak in your truth ladies.
I’m a single mother. I’ve been watching you for a while and want to let you know you are doing a great job and are an inspiration. The burden always falls on the women, men get a pass. Thanks for the conversation and bravery to take this on by yourself💕
You said a mouth full, wow folks need to take heed to this real talk ❤️
So what about single mothers who are divorced? 🤔 I stayed in an unhealthy marriage so long bc I didn’t want to be “a baby mama” or single mother and it did my child more harm than good
Girl these keyboard clowns are ridiculous. They wanna judge people when they no absolutely nothing about the situation.
This video/podcast was insightful. I’m not a baby momma but my husband does have a child with another woman. Our issue is failing to know how/what to provide other than financial support when the mother voices that she doesn’t want our support except in the financial manner. We’re in this long court process to provide financial and non-financial support. So I guess I’m just looking for ways to still support her and our daughter while we’re being held at a distance and while we wait for court matters to be finalized. But I’ll be reading the comments to get insight from a single mom perspective.
You said a mouthful, keep these podcast coming ❤️
When people have children, they have to consider what kind of family they have. My family does not believe in watching kids or helping really. We aren’t a family…we just shared blood. I feel bad for my family members in this situation.
Hopefully it will get better soon🙏
Totally agree
Ughh you need to do more episodes on this! Especially on black single moms. I almost made the decision not to even have my child solely on the stigma I knew I’d have to face 😩
I command you and I condone you Raven for putting part of your personal life out there before people telling them your situation and the reason why you are a single mother which is not of our business in the first place and you should not have to try to justify yourself because of nosy people because people should not judge you because of your situation because they don't know what really happened
Raven said all the things. You are wise beyond your years.
I kept on nodding my head, you couldn’t have said it any better. The stereotypes are ridiculous. I’m a single mom and I have experienced all the stereotypes. I agree 100% with what you said. There is definitely a reason why dad is not in the picture not because mom doesn’t want to. It could be due to legalities different things.
I’m 30 seconds in and already getting upset 😒 It’s just so unfair how men are constantly not held accountable and women are vilified.
Loved this raven... you’ve always been so transparent with us from the beginning so it’s really cool that you want to share more.
Thank you for sharing. I watched your videos and they helped so much while I was pregnant and getting ready to become a ‘solo mom’.
I would watch your videos with my mom and we were so impressed on how much you’ve achieved ⭐️
I'm really proud of you Raven!! 🥰 Single moms deserve all the praise!!
Those negative opinions are honestly super disheartening. I’m a single mom and I have a masters degree so not every “baby mama” is young and dumb. I never anticipated being a single mother when I started my family- I thought my daughters’ father and I would’ve gotten married. So hearing “baby mama” as being this ghetto terminology for an unworthy woman is frustrating to say the least. I’m happy you’re speaking on this young sis! Keep having these convos!! 🙏🏽
I'm so proud of Ray! I witnessed your experience for the very beginning and you are a true testimony. Are honestly my inspiration. It may seem extra lol, but I look to you for hope and an extra push. We are around the same age and have very similar interests and personalities. When I see you making a way and a life for yourself by yourself, I know I can do it. Thank you for your platform!
You are a wealth of good information. I felt your heart. Love the closet. No one would know that you are in a closet unless you said something. You have helped a lot of us by being transparent. Great job with sharing. Thank you and much love from another Single Parent.
I really enjoyed this podcast. Great points made!! Big ups to every single mother parenting providing guiding your children. Your amazing!!!!!
The only podcast that has kept my attention from beginning to end ..I know it’s hard for you thank you for opening up slightly… the more you do it’ll be healing for you & your fans will draw in so much more …. You touched on everything… I just wanted you to say .. why are women (baby mommas) so looked down upon when in reality they are the parent who didn’t walk away …the parent who stayed & took on all the heavy weight of parenthood alone … it doesn’t make sense
Thank you for your vulnerability in speaking, and educating others about this topic. It is an exhausting topic to live, let alone to actually speak about.
Really proud of you Raven for the development of this podcast. The social media world is constantly changing and demanding more from content creators to stay “relevant”. It’s cool to see your personal and professional maturity and development. We can tell you put a great deal of work into your new endeavors and each new project is more polished than the last. Good for you!
Loving your Podcast….I love feeling like we get a glimpse of who Raven is with her friends…maybe not the exact same lol but I just love that you feel less restricted in expressing your opinions! Keep it up! ☺️
You’re such an inspiration. This podcast will help so many women. Hats off to you Raven 😊❤️
As a quote on "Baby Mom" I have loathe the use of this term. My twins father went on to become a dead beat Baby daddy to six kids by 4 different women. He currently lives off his last Baby Mom who supports him. I guess the question is why do men continue to make kids they don't want to father. It's a double standard when men are the ones not holding up their end of the parenting. Remember the more money you make the less you get. I would rather have the father participate in their life rather pay me support. Good topic and I like the podcast in the closet.
Wow! I didn't realize there were so many stereotypes & generalizations out there about baby mamas. Though I am not one, I was raised by a single mother & am very PROUD that I was. My mom did a great job w/ NO HELP from anyone.
Thank you so much for being vulnerable and sharing more of yourself personal story. I didn’t want to be a single mom at all and i, just like you, had no other choice it was forced upon me. I relate to you so much! I started watching you in college as i was in a fashion program as well. I can’t wait to see more episodes, so proud of how far you have come. Totally agree with your advise!
The way Raven refuted their definition of baby mama by breaking down the variety of possibilities that can lead to becoming a “baby mama.” 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 AGGHHH, I can SCREAM with the amount of relief I have from Raven doing this. Thank you, Raven, for you.
People continue to draw conclusions about others through assumptions rather than material details.
Next, can you break down the variety of personal reasons that can be involved when one discourages others’ dreams and why the recipient shouldn’t take their advice at face value? 🥹🥲
whew-wee, God be a fence against such projectors as these.
I’ve been here from the very beginning and my love your doing amazing. Your an amazing mother to Ziya and anybody who has been with you on your journey knows your not just someone’s baby mama 🖤. Hope the father knows it too cause goddess he’s very blessed he got a child with you,someone who has their sh**t together. It’s sad when the relationship goes downhill when you find out your having a little one. It’s happening to a lot of women these days around the world and I just pray for the future of our up and coming generations.
@34:06 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 I had this EXACT discussion with my significant other like 2 days ago….
I already listened to the audio form. Here for the visual expressions ❤️ I’ve been following the journey for years. I’m so excited for this podcast since & future topics 🙌🏾
Super excited for these video versions! The closet doesn’t feel strange at all
Good topic. I too hate the stigma of baby mamas cause I give my son’s sperm donor zero grief. He has no interest in anything. He is financially responsible only because of the courts, which I tried to avoid but with a newborn $40 every 3 months wasn’t cutting it.
Also I hate when people say you knew what kind of man he was before you got pregnant. That’s not always true. People can change in a blink of an eye
I never really bad talked him, I let my son learn him for himself. I tried to engage him in school stuff and he just didn’t care to know
I eventually told my son you just never know what God is protecting you from
Also. My son’s donor has 3 sons, 1 of which he found out About by chance later on in life and none of them have his last time which is sad for him because his legacy won’t go on.