As far as Ziya’s dad, people have an idea of the situation, they’re just nosey and want details. They want you to validate their assumptions. It ain’t their business and you don’t have to explain that.
Exactly, I’m her single mom/baby mama podcast she touched on it. You really can just put 2 and 2 together…this isn’t tea time. It’s someone’s REAL life.
Keep your business to yourself. The world doesn’t deserve all of you. You can share how you felt without sharing what you experienced if folks want to “relate.” You put enough of yourself out for the world to see. Proud of you for setting boundaries and honoring yourself (and Ziya) in that way. I enjoy your podcast without needing to know every facet of your life ❤
What you explained about influencers being semi-controlled by brands is exactly what I don’t like about many of my favorite TH-camrs. As viewers, we can literally feel the change in content. Although it’s less relatable; we still support because we love YOU as a person! And we understand influencing is your job… and as you grow you have to protect your privacy. I just wish there was a healthy balance.
Def get Chef Toni on the next podcast episode. I would love to hear a different team member's perspective on how everything is playing out. As a fellow earth sign I want to find a solution for you, but besides the podcast I'm not too sure what else you can do to get that raw & real creative relief *sigh* sending positive vibes your way Rae, you got this ❤
I have not even finished yet but GIRL! Your explanation of not explaining Ziya's business was and is GOLDEN. Some of these other TH-cam moms have soooooo much to learn from you. You have TH-camrs like Keesha Kaylee writing tell alls about her baby daddy's cheating ways when all the kids are young babies but I'm so happy to see there are people with brains in their heads like you! You always been a real Raven Elyse! This is why you gone always win ❤
I’ve been a subscriber for +8y. One of the videos i clearly remember is when you were pregnant & went back to your parents house because you were going through tough time. It helped me so much to open to my parents for the struggles that i was going through. I understand that you’re frustrated that you can’t tell your story just yet, but trust that god’s timing is always perfect. Even though you haven’t shared your story yet, you motivate me to work harder on my business, believe in my dreams and be a good person. That’s the most valuable thing that someone can do. We love you Raven! Don’t forget! 💕💕💕
As a fatherless child/woman, Ziya will have those questions about her dad and why he didn’t stick around but she is BLESSED to have you and your family. She is blessed to have a mother that cares enough to create boundaries for her and to respect those boundaries!
The most important thing is that you’re a mother first and it’s so amazing to see you putting your daughter first and not falling for the same thing it seems a lot of influencers have been doing and putting everything on the internet. This just gave me so much more respect for you. I know it’s hard but you’re doing the right thing protecting Ziya because the world is so crazy.
Big sister advice in 3,2,1… 1. Put a therapist on payroll. That is another way for you to speak about things and receive advice on how to deal with it. 2. Heavy is the head that wears the crown. You are blessed, but more money =more problems. Trust. 3. I know you are not religious, but give all your worries and anxiety to God and watch how your life will begin to change. 4. I know dating is hard, so I hope you find someone that loves you and can fulfill your emotional needs. We are humans and need companionship.😏 5. People who are obsessed with knowing about Ziya’s Dad need to find some business of their own and mind it. I have watched you for years and have not thought twice about him. It didn’t work out and that’s all we need to know. ✌🏽 Keep doing you, Ray and really ask yourself what makes you happy. ❤
I’m not going to lie, as a single Mom I was looking forward to hearing @ravenelyse story, bc it’s a place where I can relate. As a mother I understand why she won’t share. 🤷🏾♀️
You probably don’t realize it, but this right here is you being open, real and vulnerable. This right here is Raven. This was the first step. It will work itself out. You got this. I know it’s not 100% what you want, but it’s real, raw, and truthful
I have no idea if you even feel comfortable investing into opportunities like these but I have had some ideas of how you could expand your brand. I don't know your demographics but a lot of us grew up with you and now mature enough to recognize the value of privacy. We really just want to see you doing things your passionate about because your passion really translates to us. I think some interesting business ventures that would align with your brand would be the following: 1. Home hardware line (stylized facuets, drains, door handles, latches, cabinet pulls, etc.) 2. Home linen collection (curtains, shower curtains, bed sheets, towels, etc.) 3. Wallpaper and wall vinyl designs 4. A jewelry boutique with a few designs for each season
The upmost respect for not telling us info that you haven’t told Ziya yet!! That shows how great of a mom you are by putting her first!!! Great podcast. ❤️❤️❤️
Hey, I do not usually leave a long comment but I feel led to leave one after watching this podcast just to show my appreciation and give a little encouragement through your journey. Raven, I’ve been watching you since your college days. I related to you in the beginning because we were both in college and dealing with depression. But, now I’m a mother and watching you transform to the wonderful mom you are has I know encouraged me and my other mom friends to be as half of a mother you are to Ziya. My husband and children know when raven on, everyone be quiet lol. I said all this to say girl your true supporters support whatever content you put out. Most of us understand the hard work that comes with creating content, even your tik Tok content. So, we gone like it and comment. I think I understand maybe more than most about not sharing the situation with Ziyas father because I do have two children and I remember when you put out a video about you dealing with depression and how the internet at the time blew it up out of portion. Anyway girl we gone support you regardless and keep being great. Share what you feel is right
Ok, from a social media creator perspective, the low has been hitting everyone. Including media outlets/publications. This shift has everything to do with authenticity. You have to look at it from your own perspective as a viewer. What content do you enjoy? As a viewer myself, if the content is always too professional, stretched, perfected, I automatically tune out because it's not authentic/honest. I don't come to TH-cam for TV content. Whenever some creators get to a point of financial success, they begin to create content that alienates their viewers. It's not about money for viewers or what creators own, it's the closed door that happens after the money starts flowing in. When prior, we were connected to the journey, ups and downs, personality, trying new things, making mistakes...basically LIFE! You don't need to spill any tea, just live and forget about trying to make everything perfect. Yes, as you grow you want the best of the best, but what was working for you before? What boosted growth? I personally don't need to know the inner workings of your life. Your personality is why I'm here and stayed. Even after losing phones and access to old accounts, I found you and subscribed all over again. I've been here prior to you becoming a Mum and it's always been just about the creative crazy, yet genuine, sophisticated nature that you possess.
I’m not sure if Raven remembers or can recall, but as an OG and a supporterfor yearss, years and years ago- Ziyas dad was seen on one of her vlogs. Ziya has his whole face lol and in that vlog you could see how their relationship was very briefly. I love your vulnerability and honesty bc it really isn’t anyone’s business, but you’re a fantastic human being in everything you do, and as a single mom myself I will forever support you ❤
I remember this, in the flat with the ikea kallax unit behind her desk… I commented the same thing, he was SO UNINTERESTED!!! He just felt blessed at the time to have the prettiest girl in college
Raven, I have watched you for years and respectfully, it's not our business if Ziya has a relationship with her father and why or why not. You aren't obligated to share that with us 🥰
this was a phenomenal episode. I'll never forget your dealing with depression episode from centuries ago that has kept me here to this day. you are the QUEEN of vulnerability. share however much you want whenever you want and I (we) will be right here. I know God has big and bigger plans for you, even though it may not feel that way in this season. I am so committed to this viewership and I think a lot of people are and so you'll always have a devoted audience. keep doing your thing Raven, we love you! I love you!
I commend you for not sharing too much information and protecting not only yourself but Ziya as well! I will say I’ve been curious as well but have NOT felt the need to comment and ask these things. It’s great to have you share when you’re ready and on your own time! ❤
This was a really great and raw podcast episode without spilling too many details. Like you said, it’s not the internets business to know the details. But these last few podcast episodes have allowed us to see a deeper look into your life/feelings without telling too much. I think an episode with your mom will be great!
Definitely a podcast with your mom would be fantastic, can't wait No need to spill the beans on your relationship with your ex, some things just need to stay private. One day when Ziya is old enough to know and understand without it scarring her in anyway, writing a book about your life might be the way to go. As for me I know what it's like to be a single mom From day (one) and with the grace of God my family has been my backbone my daughter is now 30yrs young and is the best thing that has ever happened to me she was exactly what I needed in order to be the best version of myself. Raven, you are doing it right bravo 👏
This one was for the OGs. Proud of your growth Raven. My suggestion is that go forward and share your truth of your present and future be more vulnerable while sharing about new parts of your journey without getting into the old stuff. And maybe instead of the channel being mainly focused on your life, shift the podcast to something that involves someone like Sadie so that your audience can relate to more than just your journey as a mom but you as a woman. Having a cohost or help from other guests that bring out your vulnerability in the way that we see you being real on Twitter for example would be great. I think seeing that kind of shift would really help take the burden off of your shoulders and allow you to be you. Just a thought I wanted to share that might hopefully help in this transition 💗
I won’t lie, I was most engaged in the content when it was more of the daily/weekly vlogs. I watched just about every video when you lived in the townhouse before moving to the new place. And then I kind of lost interest with the new approach to content. But I really enjoyed this episode of your podcast and it made me go back and watch your newer vlogs and they remind me of your old content. I’m glad you’re able to find a balance of both.
Someone mentioned exploring a trusted counselor or therapist and that’s good advice for several reasons. Tell your story as often as you need off the internet to trusted ears. The inability to tell the one major story has magnified the major event or events. It’s still major but it’s not borderline obsessive and skewed to think it needs to be shared in order to talk about other subjects. You can talk about relationship and parenting and mental health without the background. Truly without the nitty gritty your feelings and thoughts are valid and can reach people. In some ways it’s like allowing the past to stifle and dictate the present and future.
I thought we were so far removed from that situation that we all “healed” and moved on. I pray everyone can respect Ziya’s childhood and don’t rehash that. On another note (see what I did there?) this is the perfect example of “you are not your past.” To know Raven then and seeing who you’ve become now.. 💐💐
It’s no one’s business… regardless of their curiosity or purest intent … you may be our girl in our heads but this is your real life. You don’t owe any explanation girl! ❤
This was everything. Knowing that you are literally experiencing real life the same way all of us do is golden. It’s relatable, and while I would never wish these feelings of burnout or anxiety on anyone it’s is nice to hear it from someone else because everything is not always peachy. Shit goes left sometimes and that’s ok.
I’ve been watching you since Ray Baby Ray. Doing DIYs in your room. I was around when Ziya’s dad was in your vlogs. You have shared ALOT of your life. You haven’t been that vague about Ziya’s dad to me. You’ve said enough already lol. You don’t owe it to any of us watching. I’m so happy Ziya has a lovely mom and family. She won’t miss a step and I know for a fact when the day comes you will be fully equipped to answer her questions in full. It’s going to be tough on y’all, but it’s very much so his loss. She’s such a brilliant beautiful baby girl.
I respect you so much for this Raven! I’ve been watching you since you were in College, and I never once felt like you owed me or anyone else an explanation about her father. This is your channel. Not his, not hers, not your parents etc. You can pick and choose what you want to share & set those boundaries with your subscribers. People who are true supporters will understand that! I hope that you’re able to be yourself a lot more this year without feeling so restricted, but still able to get to the bag too! Lol. Loved this episode !
I do agree. I’m a long time subscriber and I used to LOVE your content. I still do, I watch every so often. BUT I was extremely excited when you decided to do the podcast because your main channel now feels so commercialized. In NO way am I wanting to know about Ziya’s dad, but sometimes it just feels so fake and unrelatable so I find that I have to be in a certain “mood” to watch your videos vs. your older content where I would click AS SOON as you uploaded. It now takes me a couple days to watch and sometimes I don’t watch the whole video. You’re still SOOOO motivational to me though and I love the way you mother, so I don’t ever see myself unsubscribing! I really hope you find your perfect balance. You’ll have supporters either way.
I,for one, have been here since Ziya was a new born baby. I have watched you throughout several stages of your life. The real supporters will be with you as you continue to grow and navigate who you are now. The good thing about hitting lows , you can only go up from there. You will progress upward and this low moment will be a learning experience ❤
Raven i never leave comments on videos, But i felt impelled to let you know that you have an entire community of people cheering and rooting for you! Keep doing what your doing because personally I am still entertained!
42:47 Hey Raven! I’ve been following you from your college days. I’ve seen you transition into many different spaces and I love seeing every version of you. Everyone truly has a purpose and if the DYIs, Home Decor etc is not your true calling, it will never work out. It is not you and it’s not your purpose. I am a 1000% more drawn to your Podcast, because you are raw and authentic. That is what I love about you, please do not lose yourself in the other stuff… it’s not worth it. I miss this side of you. Thanks for sharing❤
I just want to say I can't like this video enough ! I love seeing this side of you, raw and vulnerable. I love that you have this platform to speak your frustrations and have this safe space to even hear you use profanity, I love this for you. don't get me wrong I love the commercial and esthetic content but its over saturating I love the raw and vulnerable content where we actually have something to relate to but I get it its a business but I love this !
My daughter who is 12 started watching your content doing Ziya’s hair and I’ve gotten so drawn and attached! I did wonder the relationship between everyone but it really didn’t matter because you’re not the only single mom and unfortunately not the last. Things happen in life and us as women, especially black women know how to hold weight! We know how to get up out the mud and do what we have to do for not only ourselves but our children! And I love and adore how you’re taking care of baby girl and yourself! You’ve came a long way from where you were and you can only go UP from here! There are always going to be trials and tribulations that you’re going to face but just know that with God, all things are possible if you put your trust in Him and seek Him! Nothing last forever and you’re doing an AMAZING job as a mom, a daughter, a friend, etc! You’ll be just fine Raven.. 🩷 You inspired me to rearrange my kitchen cabinets girl!! 😂 Dust yourself off and continue as you were! You ain’t done yet and not going to be done! 🎉
I’m sure Ziya will appreciate your choice in protecting HER story. I grew up with an similar but opposite situation where my mother and her family wasn’t in the picture and all I knew was my fathers family. My dad and grandmother protected my story in a similar way except with other nosey family members and friends and I am SO grateful they had the for site to do that!! ❤
I've been following Raven since Tumblr days (the good old days), and I can vouch that she has always been super authentic and has a strength of expressing herself.
RAVEN, you said you love storytelling, I think you should do a children's book for Ziya and kids that don't have a complete family, meaning mom and dad and how to overcome it, or a series as she gets older. I think Ziya would be in awe of you as she gets older to know that you did that for her to ease her into her emotions as things start to hit her harder with not having her dad or family's dad in her life.
Please dont embarrassed about having to make cuts. That's apart of business. We are in a different time, different economy so it's definitely a rollercoaster. But your feelings are very valid.
Raven, you are an awesome, beautiful, and smart woman/mother/daughter/business owner..etc. Every chance I get I promote you and your content because of the home decor and everyday lifestyle. My home decor, my children parties, my makeup routine, and organizing comes from your brain girly! I too was a single mom and your right, something’s should not be said for the world but it doesn’t stop your emotions or truth. You are helping so many women more than what you think. Rather you have to pivot and continue to grow your empire by opening an online boutique, home decor, creating your own party supply line for kids and adults, you have the brain to do it all and the platform! Your purpose have given us women so much confidence. You are a force to be reckoned with Raven! It’s not compromising neither is it a struggle, it’s growth for a new level and a new season of your life! Take a moment, breath, and remember you was created for this very moment.❤
Ravvvveeeennnn, I’d love to see Chef Toni on the podcast and talking about the mother/daughter vs boss/manager relationship that Chef Toni has mentioned in your Ravens week episode! Also as a single mom, I get not wanting to discuss the details on a public platform. I hardly like talking about it in my circle of people 😅 so I’m glad you’re not letting the people online try to push you from that boundary. You’re doing a great job Raven, thank you for as open as you have been you got this friend!
Raven, I am an older subscriber and have followed your career even before you became a Mom. I enjoy seeing someone in your generation grow into the person you are meant to be. I have an inclination that you are far more inspiring to others than entertaining. Less than you probably realize, you are a role model to other single moms ( people in general) in similar situations. Not to dismiss any of your feelings about anything and less you probably know, you are a mentor for many women (young and old). You will come out ahead of this, you will be resourceful and you will get to tell your entire story. Continue to protect your baby at all cost. Love, love, love you and what your brand stands for.
Wow, you are really brave. I pray that you receive insight on what to do next to make you walk more in your purpose and be productive financially. Please we need more of these podcast. Trust me things will get better for you. Just keep having Faith it will.
The only person you owe an explanation to is Ziya. That’s it. You’ve made it clear (at least to me) on multiple occasions that your family is the only family Ziya knows. I’m here for the journey of Raven Elys no matter what
I've been watching your channel for so long and I rarely comment but Raven you are doing an amazing job as a mother. I know behind closed doors the emotions can and will build up, but you ALWAYS push through... You have an unimaginable strength for your daughter and the fact that you have accomplished so much while dealing with the trials of life is soooo inspirational to me and my own life. Let me tell you, NEVER EVER underestimate us Virgos!
I totally understand feeling like you're not walking/working in your purpose. I have felt the same way too for the past several years. One thing that's helped me is to simply be patient and kind to myself, and just BE. I still make plans for myself and the future, and I work in a high visibility 6 figure a year Information Technology career which I am beyond grateful for having. I learned not to apply unnecessary pressure on myself and to lean into spaces in my soul where the discovery of my purpose will appear authentic, organically, and at the right time. You'll get to your purpose Raven, no doubt about it! Best wishes to you on your journey! ❤🙏🏽
thanks for being so authentic Raven! Major props to you for wanting to share who you are at your core and not getting swept up in the glitz and glamour!
This was a wonderful window into your life Raven! Most people don’t understand boundaries, and if they get upset that you set a healthy boundary for not only yourself but ziya as well, then they don’t respect you as a whole. You have every right to share or not share whatever you please! Don’t let people corner you into giving answers and information that you don’t want to share! As someone who has watched you from the beginning, it is very easy to read between the lines on the situation. Keep your head up, and keep being you! You are doing a wonderful job and I feel like you don’t credit yourself as much as you should! ❤️
I first started following you pre Ziya because I didn’t know anyone else who was struggling with cystic acne. Thank you for telling your story and being yourself. I really really appreciate you.
I would love to see a video on diving more into social media as a business. You have a way of really laying everything out in a concise way that’s so easy to digest. This was a great video and I am looking forward to catching up on all of your podcasts! I’ve been watching for years and it would be nice tp hear more about what you’ve learned on the business end because you are super smart.
I definitely noticed being more tuned out of the content as the years have passed but I still support from afar! The more commercialized content doesn’t really get me going and I don’t have a child or a home of my own yet so I can’t really relate. The podcast however has been refreshing!
Let’s talk about the untalkable! This is real. I love you and I’ve been watching you for a long long time and ima stick beside this story, YOUR story and we gonna see how things unravel and play out for you. Keep ANY and all content coming.❤
Thank you for sharing, but you are entitled to keep your business to yourself. I completely understand. The way you take care of your daughter as a single mom is absolutely outstanding. I applaud you 👏 👏👏👏.
I feel like we are in the same boat and went through the same situation such as your story, I just feel that and have always said this since I've started watching your channel. I went through the courts with my daughter and it was rocky. There are things I have spoke on yet but I am because it's my story. So I started writing because I want to help and lead someone else. I always said I wish there was a me for me back then but we live and learn. I'm putting my book/story out this year, not just for me, not just for the world but for my daughter so she will know the real and not to make the same mistakes. I can say so much.
I think as a viewer who has watched you for years, that my favorite videos from you are when you are following your dreams. I just love to see you do fashion, or remodel a house, or your life as a mom. I would love for you to see you back in school or doing something tailored to your dreams.
Keep riding the wave. It’s going to change. It always does. We are definitely going through a little slow flow in my company but just with the way things are now economically we are grateful for opportunities. This low flow is so normal in business. You got this girl!
Your child and you come first period! Please don’t feel you owe us anything because no one is in your shoes but you! From what we can see you are a awesome person and mom!
At the end of the day people need to mind their business and stay in their lane. Me and my kids love watching your vlogs and on another note Raven you can't worry yourself about things you can't control if your business is for you your numbers will go back up
I love you Raven!!!! Keep doing you, I’ve been watching for about 6 years now and I’m staying…. We all go through struggles and your doing a damn good job maintaining😘😘😘😘😘
You have done a great a job raising ziya on your own as a single parent! I couldn’t imagine the long nights you had to deal with alone! You are so strong!!!
I loved this episode. I have so much respect for you and always appreciate your transparency. I'm a new single mom and I really value your experience and it truly makes me feel less alone. Thank you for being here raven ❤
I really respect you girl! You said all of the right things. Youre a great mother and you have a duty to protect and the right to gate-keep your privacy at your discretion ❤ thank you for sharing as much as you already do. 10:24
Thank you for being so open about all of this, even those of us that are working 9-5 jobs have had to pivot with outgoing expenses. Shit is real out here!!
I completely agree and understand the need to set those boundaries. The reasonable viewers can understand that. I also feel that TH-cam in general has declined just due to other social media apps and streaming services, content literally is coming from everywhere these days. I think venturing into new spaces, ie podcasting with guests, live streams, more beauty content will help give variety to your audience. Personally I have always appreciated that your content varies. Lifestyle, beauty, parenting, travel, home decor, Event planning. It can be tricky when your life is the content, because your life may change, your hobbies and interests may change so naturally there has been a shift in the content. Don’t view the decline as a bad thing, just as an opportunity to be a more savvy business woman. I am sure you will navigate through this season, and take valuable lessons from the journey. Thanks for the transparency ❤
You’ve been very clear in the past about Ziya’s father. You said “I’m her only parent.” How else could you have been more clear? Ppl need to learn context clues. Also, you’re amazing for not putting those details online before talking to her. Imagine if she found a video of you talking about the situation to us before you got to explain it to her in a way she could digest. That would be traumatic. She’s so lucky to have you as her mom❤
Hey Raven , I totally feel your frustration, this is the reason I deleted my instagram and got off twitter feeling boxed inn from talking about real topics that impact my community and women like myself. I feel companies are afraid of these topics because we live in a superficial world. I feel like a huge percent of this world is just surface level. Once you start talking about feelings and the serious topics brands want tend run away. My suggestion is going to require some real guts and courage so brace yourself. I am suggesting to take a stand -but please be smart about the strategy you use.- I would love to see TH-camrs like yourself get together and demand the industry to listen to you.(This could be fun and light hearted by the way.) Start a tik tok trend to get their attention, and get other TH-camrs who talk about mental health to support you. I honestly think it’s time we revolutionized being real and being human, the fake stuff is literally draining , if I see another haul or face beat post on my screen I’m going to jump in the Bermuda Triangle and escape to another galaxy.😂😂 I want to end by saying I totally understand your frustration, but you are an influencer so use your influence to make this world better. I believe you can do this because you’re brilliant at figuring things out. Good luck Queen !!
You have to do what’s best for you and Ziya. I know this is your business, but you also have a real life. Your mental matters. The day one supports will definitely understand if you change content, travel more, change your environment or even take a break to refresh your. Thanks for sharing this part of you story. It’s inspiring.
Just goes to show how having wrong people in your circle could alter your trajectory either positively or negatively…this is why it’s so important to protect your space and choose your friends wisely…you can’t choose your family but you can choose your friends and significant others
You have always been in-tune with your audience and your followers, which is one of the reasons I started following you years ago. It's also why your assessment on why your viewership has plateaued is dead on for me. I believe I started following you when Ziya was turning 2 and what brought me to your content was your video on acne and you were going to start your Accutane journey. I connected with the content because I've struggled with acne during my entire adult life but even more so, your vulnerability jump off the screen. I have never saw an influencer be so genuine and real, without being drama-filled. I started diving into your older content and I connected to your single mother story. Mine was very similar. Your mental health journey drew me in, without knowing at the time I was heading towards my own mental health crisis. I enjoyed and learned quite a bit watching makeup videos, interior decorating, etc. even though I don't consider myself as creative. I am at least 15 yrs older than you, maybe even more, but I could relate because your content came from an authentic place. Then there was a shift where the content felt a little more manufactured but I understood it's a business and you obviously need to make money but once you hit your million subscribers, there was a major shift. The vulnerability and being truly genuine was no longer there. It makes sense given there were things you couldn't share that is tied to your most important role...Ziya's Mom. I also feel though that your business goals drove your content instead of what your followers wanted to see. I think you can get back to having that transparent vulnerable connection with your audience. It may take time and may even mean scaling back your business in order for it to grow organically again. Thanks for sharing what has been going on in this podcast. I as a follower who has not engaged with your content much over the last year needed to hear that. It means you care and are trying to figure out a way to get back to what made you passionate about being an influencer. Maybe this is the content you were looking for. Taking your followers on the journey with you and your team as you figure this out.
We just happy to be here, & we support you 💗💗💗 The behind the scenes be wild af so we are just happy you have a supportive group of people that you can trust & truly want the best for you & Ziya, that’s priceless.
Ray, I’ve been with you through your college days, mental health struggles, and your apartments into home ownership. You kind of have already shared this story years ago, before Ziya was even born. People need to just chill on being “curious”. You are a open book. You are allowed to set strong boundaries. 💕🫶🏽
This episode made me tear up. I have been a subscriber for years, and I will watch anything you post. Of course the real ones understand. Thank you for sharing 🫶🏼
Raven never underestimate the value of providing videos that are an escape and distraction for your viewers. Of course we would love to get more of your story, but those other videos have value too.
I would love if she got out the house period. Even if she was just going to the Target or the mall. Most of the vlogs I watch they just be going to gym and the mall and cooking hello fresh.
Not everyone has the luxury of just being able to get up and go, especially with a kid. As supportive as her family is, she’s still the sole parent. I’m sure many of us can look in our own circle and think of a family member or friend who’s limited to what they can do because they have a kid. Something as simple as trying to go out to dinner can feel like a task. She also said her finances are different so I’m sure she is being mindful of not being able to just randomly plan a trip for content and not be sure if it’ll pay off
Well said and enough said!!!! This was insightful and completely understandable. I appreciate being able to watch people grow and navigate life as it is hard. People tend to forget that we are not watching a movie and that REAL people are doing the best they can and just trying to get through.
I fully understand so many things that were said here as a single mother as well, and I respect your honesty and policy of not putting too much on the internet. You are a perfect example of how you should boss up and hustle to provide regardless but especially when you're doing it alone. Trust me, you don't have to talk negatively about that person or the people associated with him. Your child will figure it out all on their own.
Raven I realize now how very Nice your are...Ziya and your family and friends are fortunate to have you in their lives. Remember "to thine own self be true" including your precious beautiful daughter
I have wondered also about Ziya's dad and where he was. But at the same time, I didn't dare ask you about it because its you and Ziya's personal business. You don't owe me nothing when it comes to your personal business. Everybody has boundaries. Great podcast today.
I absolutely love the transparency Raven. I am also a buiness owner and I can completely relate to this whole video. My family and friends are also on my payroll and although it definitely has its benefits I feel like it’s so much more pressure. The anxiety, the depression, the stress wow! Thank you for making this video. Glad to know I’m not the only one who feels this exact way. ❤
On the topic of your business, I personally would love to see more vlogs, cooking content, maybe even financial advice or business advice in general. I recently became gluten and dairy free for medical reasons and I would love to see content on that. All in all I think it’s just a dry spell and your channel will survive it. I think everyone goes through this at least once.
You were never vague about ziya’s father, people are just nosey. The real ones know and respect your boundaries!
Exactly
Facts
That part!
Period!
I was just talking to my sister about this. Im here for the vlogs and what she chooses to share.. Ziyas dad is NONE of our business.
As far as Ziya’s dad, people have an idea of the situation, they’re just nosey and want details. They want you to validate their assumptions. It ain’t their business and you don’t have to explain that.
Agreed!
I came here to say exactly this ❤
It’s not our place to even put our two cents in. She is an amazing mother her and chef Tony are raising Ziya amazing❤
Exactly, I’m her single mom/baby mama podcast she touched on it. You really can just put 2 and 2 together…this isn’t tea time. It’s someone’s REAL life.
Whats your assumption of the situation?
Completely understand and respect not putting information on the internet that you haven’t told Ziya about! Makes complete sense
Keep your business to yourself. The world doesn’t deserve all of you. You can share how you felt without sharing what you experienced if folks want to “relate.” You put enough of yourself out for the world to see. Proud of you for setting boundaries and honoring yourself (and Ziya) in that way. I enjoy your podcast without needing to know every facet of your life ❤
This 🎯... the world does not need ALL of you!
Raven, start writing a book, it will allow you have an outlet and vent and tell your story.
yes yes yes!
I second this motion ❤
Great idea 💡 👍!
Great idea !
And we all know a lot of ignorant people don’t read so that will weed those people out
What you explained about influencers being semi-controlled by brands is exactly what I don’t like about many of my favorite TH-camrs. As viewers, we can literally feel the change in content. Although it’s less relatable; we still support because we love YOU as a person! And we understand influencing is your job… and as you grow you have to protect your privacy. I just wish there was a healthy balance.
This is so true.
Def get Chef Toni on the next podcast episode. I would love to hear a different team member's perspective on how everything is playing out. As a fellow earth sign I want to find a solution for you, but besides the podcast I'm not too sure what else you can do to get that raw & real creative relief *sigh* sending positive vibes your way Rae, you got this ❤
We don't have to know the story, to understand the struggle
I have not even finished yet but GIRL! Your explanation of not explaining Ziya's business was and is GOLDEN. Some of these other TH-cam moms have soooooo much to learn from you. You have TH-camrs like Keesha Kaylee writing tell alls about her baby daddy's cheating ways when all the kids are young babies but I'm so happy to see there are people with brains in their heads like you! You always been a real Raven Elyse! This is why you gone always win ❤
It’s okay to praise Raven without judging Keesha or any putting down any other parent for their choices.
I’ve been a subscriber for +8y. One of the videos i clearly remember is when you were pregnant & went back to your parents house because you were going through tough time. It helped me so much to open to my parents for the struggles that i was going through. I understand that you’re frustrated that you can’t tell your story just yet, but trust that god’s timing is always perfect. Even though you haven’t shared your story yet, you motivate me to work harder on my business, believe in my dreams and be a good person. That’s the most valuable thing that someone can do. We love you Raven! Don’t forget! 💕💕💕
As a fatherless child/woman, Ziya will have those questions about her dad and why he didn’t stick around but she is BLESSED to have you and your family. She is blessed to have a mother that cares enough to create boundaries for her and to respect those boundaries!
The most important thing is that you’re a mother first and it’s so amazing to see you putting your daughter first and not falling for the same thing it seems a lot of influencers have been doing and putting everything on the internet. This just gave me so much more respect for you. I know it’s hard but you’re doing the right thing protecting Ziya because the world is so crazy.
Big sister advice in 3,2,1…
1. Put a therapist on payroll. That is another way for you to speak about things and receive advice on how to deal with it.
2. Heavy is the head that wears the crown. You are blessed, but more money =more problems. Trust.
3. I know you are not religious, but give all your worries and anxiety to God and watch how your life will begin to change.
4. I know dating is hard, so I hope you find someone that loves you and can fulfill your emotional needs. We are humans and need companionship.😏
5. People who are obsessed with knowing about Ziya’s Dad need to find some business of their own and mind it. I have watched you for years and have not thought twice about him. It didn’t work out and that’s all we need to know. ✌🏽
Keep doing you, Ray and really ask yourself what makes you happy. ❤
Number 3 is tone deaf asf but the rest is alright….
Took a screenshot of 1-4 for sure !!! Blessed me, thank you 😊.
Yes she should do that
I’m not going to lie, as a single Mom I was looking forward to hearing @ravenelyse story, bc it’s a place where I can relate. As a mother I understand why she won’t share. 🤷🏾♀️
You probably don’t realize it, but this right here is you being open, real and vulnerable. This right here is Raven. This was the first step. It will work itself out. You got this. I know it’s not 100% what you want, but it’s real, raw, and truthful
You are doing the right thing. Everything is not everyones business. Protect your child and yourself.
Would love to see Age on the podcast and how you guys are maintaining a friendship long distance and as she transitions to marriage
Such a great idea, and talking about friendships while in different seasons
I have no idea if you even feel comfortable investing into opportunities like these but I have had some ideas of how you could expand your brand. I don't know your demographics but a lot of us grew up with you and now mature enough to recognize the value of privacy. We really just want to see you doing things your passionate about because your passion really translates to us.
I think some interesting business
ventures that would align with your
brand would be the following:
1. Home hardware line (stylized
facuets, drains, door handles,
latches, cabinet pulls, etc.)
2. Home linen collection (curtains,
shower curtains, bed sheets,
towels, etc.)
3. Wallpaper and wall vinyl
designs
4. A jewelry boutique with a few
designs for each season
The upmost respect for not telling us info that you haven’t told Ziya yet!! That shows how great of a mom you are by putting her first!!! Great podcast. ❤️❤️❤️
Hey, I do not usually leave a long comment but I feel led to leave one after watching this podcast just to show my appreciation and give a little encouragement through your journey. Raven, I’ve been watching you since your college days. I related to you in the beginning because we were both in college and dealing with depression. But, now I’m a mother and watching you transform to the wonderful mom you are has I know encouraged me and my other mom friends to be as half of a mother you are to Ziya. My husband and children know when raven on, everyone be quiet lol. I said all this to say girl your true supporters support whatever content you put out. Most of us understand the hard work that comes with creating content, even your tik Tok content. So, we gone like it and comment. I think I understand maybe more than most about not sharing the situation with Ziyas father because I do have two children and I remember when you put out a video about you dealing with depression and how the internet at the time blew it up out of portion. Anyway girl we gone support you regardless and keep being great. Share what you feel is right
Ok, from a social media creator perspective, the low has been hitting everyone. Including media outlets/publications.
This shift has everything to do with authenticity. You have to look at it from your own perspective as a viewer. What content do you enjoy?
As a viewer myself, if the content is always too professional, stretched, perfected, I automatically tune out because it's not authentic/honest. I don't come to TH-cam for TV content.
Whenever some creators get to a point of financial success, they begin to create content that alienates their viewers. It's not about money for viewers or what creators own, it's the closed door that happens after the money starts flowing in. When prior, we were connected to the journey, ups and downs, personality, trying new things, making mistakes...basically LIFE!
You don't need to spill any tea, just live and forget about trying to make everything perfect. Yes, as you grow you want the best of the best, but what was working for you before? What boosted growth?
I personally don't need to know the inner workings of your life. Your personality is why I'm here and stayed. Even after losing phones and access to old accounts, I found you and subscribed all over again. I've been here prior to you becoming a Mum and it's always been just about the creative crazy, yet genuine, sophisticated nature that you possess.
I AGREE! Fantastic POV
I’m not sure if Raven remembers or can recall, but as an OG and a supporterfor yearss, years and years ago- Ziyas dad was seen on one of her vlogs. Ziya has his whole face lol and in that vlog you could see how their relationship was very briefly. I love your vulnerability and honesty bc it really isn’t anyone’s business, but you’re a fantastic human being in everything you do, and as a single mom myself I will forever support you ❤
I remember that vlog! That was shortly after I started watching raven, the og fans watched in real time. I always assume anyone asking is a newer fan.
Yup yup yup, I can't remember the vlog though
I remember this, in the flat with the ikea kallax unit behind her desk… I commented the same thing, he was SO UNINTERESTED!!! He just felt blessed at the time to have the prettiest girl in college
Raven, I have watched you for years and respectfully, it's not our business if Ziya has a relationship with her father and why or why not. You aren't obligated to share that with us 🥰
this was a phenomenal episode. I'll never forget your dealing with depression episode from centuries ago that has kept me here to this day. you are the QUEEN of vulnerability. share however much you want whenever you want and I (we) will be right here. I know God has big and bigger plans for you, even though it may not feel that way in this season. I am so committed to this viewership and I think a lot of people are and so you'll always have a devoted audience. keep doing your thing Raven, we love you! I love you!
I commend you for not sharing too much information and protecting not only yourself but Ziya as well! I will say I’ve been curious as well but have NOT felt the need to comment and ask these things. It’s great to have you share when you’re ready and on your own time! ❤
This was a really great and raw podcast episode without spilling too many details. Like you said, it’s not the internets business to know the details. But these last few podcast episodes have allowed us to see a deeper look into your life/feelings without telling too much. I think an episode with your mom will be great!
Definitely a podcast with your mom would be fantastic, can't wait
No need to spill the beans on your relationship with your ex, some things just need to stay private.
One day when Ziya is old enough to know and understand without it scarring her in anyway, writing a book about your life might be the way to go.
As for me I know what it's like to be a single mom From day (one) and with the grace of God my family has been my backbone my daughter is now 30yrs young and is the best thing that has ever happened to me she was exactly what I needed in order to be the best version of myself.
Raven, you are doing it right bravo 👏
This one was for the OGs. Proud of your growth Raven. My suggestion is that go forward and share your truth of your present and future be more vulnerable while sharing about new parts of your journey without getting into the old stuff. And maybe instead of the channel being mainly focused on your life, shift the podcast to something that involves someone like Sadie so that your audience can relate to more than just your journey as a mom but you as a woman. Having a cohost or help from other guests that bring out your vulnerability in the way that we see you being real on Twitter for example would be great. I think seeing that kind of shift would really help take the burden off of your shoulders and allow you to be you. Just a thought I wanted to share that might hopefully help in this transition 💗
I won’t lie, I was most engaged in the content when it was more of the daily/weekly vlogs. I watched just about every video when you lived in the townhouse before moving to the new place. And then I kind of lost interest with the new approach to content. But I really enjoyed this episode of your podcast and it made me go back and watch your newer vlogs and they remind me of your old content. I’m glad you’re able to find a balance of both.
Someone mentioned exploring a trusted counselor or therapist and that’s good advice for several reasons. Tell your story as often as you need off the internet to trusted ears. The inability to tell the one major story has magnified the major event or events. It’s still major but it’s not borderline obsessive and skewed to think it needs to be shared in order to talk about other subjects. You can talk about relationship and parenting and mental health without the background. Truly without the nitty gritty your feelings and thoughts are valid and can reach people. In some ways it’s like allowing the past to stifle and dictate the present and future.
I thought we were so far removed from that situation that we all “healed” and moved on. I pray everyone can respect Ziya’s childhood and don’t rehash that.
On another note (see what I did there?) this is the perfect example of “you are not your past.” To know Raven then and seeing who you’ve become now.. 💐💐
It’s no one’s business… regardless of their curiosity or purest intent … you may be our girl in our heads but this is your real life. You don’t owe any explanation girl! ❤
This was everything. Knowing that you are literally experiencing real life the same way all of us do is golden. It’s relatable, and while I would never wish these feelings of burnout or anxiety on anyone it’s is nice to hear it from someone else because everything is not always peachy. Shit goes left sometimes and that’s ok.
I’ve been watching you since Ray Baby Ray. Doing DIYs in your room. I was around when Ziya’s dad was in your vlogs. You have shared ALOT of your life. You haven’t been that vague about Ziya’s dad to me. You’ve said enough already lol. You don’t owe it to any of us watching. I’m so happy Ziya has a lovely mom and family. She won’t miss a step and I know for a fact when the day comes you will be fully equipped to answer her questions in full. It’s going to be tough on y’all, but it’s very much so his loss. She’s such a brilliant beautiful baby girl.
This is a prime example that you are an awesome Mom 👏🏽 👏🏽 👏🏽
I respect you so much for this Raven! I’ve been watching you since you were in College, and I never once felt like you owed me or anyone else an explanation about her father. This is your channel. Not his, not hers, not your parents etc. You can pick and choose what you want to share & set those boundaries with your subscribers. People who are true supporters will understand that! I hope that you’re able to be yourself a lot more this year without feeling so restricted, but still able to get to the bag too! Lol. Loved this episode !
I do agree.
I’m a long time subscriber and I used to LOVE your content. I still do, I watch every so often. BUT I was extremely excited when you decided to do the podcast because your main channel now feels so commercialized. In NO way am I wanting to know about Ziya’s dad, but sometimes it just feels so fake and unrelatable so I find that I have to be in a certain “mood” to watch your videos vs. your older content where I would click AS SOON as you uploaded. It now takes me a couple days to watch and sometimes I don’t watch the whole video.
You’re still SOOOO motivational to me though and I love the way you mother, so I don’t ever see myself unsubscribing! I really hope you find your perfect balance. You’ll have supporters either way.
I,for one, have been here since Ziya was a new born baby. I have watched you throughout several stages of your life. The real supporters will be with you as you continue to grow and navigate who you are now. The good thing about hitting lows , you can only go up from there. You will progress upward and this low moment will be a learning experience ❤
Raven i never leave comments on videos, But i felt impelled to let you know that you have an entire community of people cheering and rooting for you! Keep doing what your doing because personally I am still entertained!
42:47 Hey Raven!
I’ve been following you from your college days. I’ve seen you transition into many different spaces and I love seeing every version of you. Everyone truly has a purpose and if the DYIs, Home Decor etc is not your true calling, it will never work out. It is not you and it’s not your purpose. I am a 1000% more drawn to your Podcast, because you are raw and authentic. That is what I love about you, please do not lose yourself in the other stuff… it’s not worth it. I miss this side of you. Thanks for sharing❤
I just want to say I can't like this video enough ! I love seeing this side of you, raw and vulnerable. I love that you have this platform to speak your frustrations and have this safe space to even hear you use profanity, I love this for you. don't get me wrong I love the commercial and esthetic content but its over saturating I love the raw and vulnerable content where we actually have something to relate to but I get it its a business but I love this !
My daughter who is 12 started watching your content doing Ziya’s hair and I’ve gotten so drawn and attached! I did wonder the relationship between everyone but it really didn’t matter because you’re not the only single mom and unfortunately not the last. Things happen in life and us as women, especially black women know how to hold weight! We know how to get up out the mud and do what we have to do for not only ourselves but our children! And I love and adore how you’re taking care of baby girl and yourself! You’ve came a long way from where you were and you can only go UP from here! There are always going to be trials and tribulations that you’re going to face but just know that with God, all things are possible if you put your trust in Him and seek Him! Nothing last forever and you’re doing an AMAZING job as a mom, a daughter, a friend, etc! You’ll be just fine Raven.. 🩷 You inspired me to rearrange my kitchen cabinets girl!! 😂 Dust yourself off and continue as you were! You ain’t done yet and not going to be done! 🎉
I’m sure Ziya will appreciate your choice in protecting HER story. I grew up with an similar but opposite situation where my mother and her family wasn’t in the picture and all I knew was my fathers family. My dad and grandmother protected my story in a similar way except with other nosey family members and friends and I am SO grateful they had the for site to do that!! ❤
You’re like the ONLY TH-camr I’ve stuck with. & i can’t even tell you how long it’s been. You’re doing amazing. We’re here ❤
I enjoy your podcasts and I relate to Having Anxiety. So many things trigger it.
I've been following Raven since Tumblr days (the good old days), and I can vouch that she has always been super authentic and has a strength of expressing herself.
RAVEN, you said you love storytelling, I think you should do a children's book for Ziya and kids that don't have a complete family, meaning mom and dad and how to overcome it, or a series as she gets older. I think Ziya would be in awe of you as she gets older to know that you did that for her to ease her into her emotions as things start to hit her harder with not having her dad or family's dad in her life.
Please dont embarrassed about having to make cuts. That's apart of business. We are in a different time, different economy so it's definitely a rollercoaster. But your feelings are very valid.
Raven, you are an awesome, beautiful, and smart woman/mother/daughter/business owner..etc. Every chance I get I promote you and your content because of the home decor and everyday lifestyle. My home decor, my children parties, my makeup routine, and organizing comes from your brain girly! I too was a single mom and your right, something’s should not be said for the world but it doesn’t stop your emotions or truth. You are helping so many women more than what you think. Rather you have to pivot and continue to grow your empire by opening an online boutique, home decor, creating your own party supply line for kids and adults, you have the brain to do it all and the platform! Your purpose have given us women so much confidence. You are a force to be reckoned with Raven! It’s not compromising neither is it a struggle, it’s growth for a new level and a new season of your life! Take a moment, breath, and remember you was created for this very moment.❤
Ravvvveeeennnn, I’d love to see Chef Toni on the podcast and talking about the mother/daughter vs boss/manager relationship that Chef Toni has mentioned in your Ravens week episode! Also as a single mom, I get not wanting to discuss the details on a public platform. I hardly like talking about it in my circle of people 😅 so I’m glad you’re not letting the people online try to push you from that boundary. You’re doing a great job Raven, thank you for as open as you have been you got this friend!
Raven, I am an older subscriber and have followed your career even before you became a Mom. I enjoy seeing someone in your generation grow into the person you are meant to be. I have an inclination that you are far more inspiring to others than entertaining. Less than you probably realize, you are a role model to other single moms ( people in general) in similar situations. Not to dismiss any of your feelings about anything and less you probably know, you are a mentor for many women (young and old). You will come out ahead of this, you will be resourceful and you will get to tell your entire story. Continue to protect your baby at all cost. Love, love, love you and what your brand stands for.
Wow, you are really brave. I pray that you receive insight on what to do next to make you walk more in your purpose and be productive financially.
Please we need more of these podcast. Trust me things will get better for you. Just keep having Faith it will.
The only person you owe an explanation to is Ziya. That’s it. You’ve made it clear (at least to me) on multiple occasions that your family is the only family Ziya knows.
I’m here for the journey of Raven Elys no matter what
I've been watching your channel for so long and I rarely comment but Raven you are doing an amazing job as a mother. I know behind closed doors the emotions can and will build up, but you ALWAYS push through... You have an unimaginable strength for your daughter and the fact that you have accomplished so much while dealing with the trials of life is soooo inspirational to me and my own life. Let me tell you, NEVER EVER underestimate us Virgos!
I totally understand feeling like you're not walking/working in your purpose. I have felt the same way too for the past several years. One thing that's helped me is to simply be patient and kind to myself, and just BE. I still make plans for myself and the future, and I work in a high visibility 6 figure a year Information Technology career which I am beyond grateful for having. I learned not to apply unnecessary pressure on myself and to lean into spaces in my soul where the discovery of my purpose will appear authentic, organically, and at the right time. You'll get to your purpose Raven, no doubt about it! Best wishes to you on your journey! ❤🙏🏽
thanks for being so authentic Raven! Major props to you for wanting to share who you are at your core and not getting swept up in the glitz and glamour!
This was a wonderful window into your life Raven! Most people don’t understand boundaries, and if they get upset that you set a healthy boundary for not only yourself but ziya as well, then they don’t respect you as a whole. You have every right to share or not share whatever you please! Don’t let people corner you into giving answers and information that you don’t want to share! As someone who has watched you from the beginning, it is very easy to read between the lines on the situation. Keep your head up, and keep being you! You are doing a wonderful job and I feel like you don’t credit yourself as much as you should! ❤️
I first started following you pre Ziya because I didn’t know anyone else who was struggling with cystic acne. Thank you for telling your story and being yourself. I really really appreciate you.
Becoming a single mother at a young age idefinitely plays a major role in my life with depression, anxiety , work and etc. I felt this 💯.
I would love to see a video on diving more into social media as a business. You have a way of really laying everything out in a concise way that’s so easy to digest. This was a great video and I am looking forward to catching up on all of your podcasts! I’ve been watching for years and it would be nice tp hear more about what you’ve learned on the business end because you are super smart.
What’s understood doesn’t need to be explained ❤
I definitely noticed being more tuned out of the content as the years have passed but I still support from afar! The more commercialized content doesn’t really get me going and I don’t have a child or a home of my own yet so I can’t really relate. The podcast however has been refreshing!
Let’s talk about the untalkable! This is real. I love you and I’ve been watching you for a long long time and ima stick beside this story, YOUR story and we gonna see how things unravel and play out for you. Keep ANY and all content coming.❤
Love you being you. Not so much the commercialized part. Truly understand about the privacy of Ziya. The internet is not forgiving.
Thank you for sharing, but you are entitled to keep your business to yourself. I completely understand. The way you take care of your daughter as a single mom is absolutely outstanding. I applaud you 👏 👏👏👏.
I love that content creators are more purpose driven I understand Raven
I feel like we are in the same boat and went through the same situation such as your story, I just feel that and have always said this since I've started watching your channel. I went through the courts with my daughter and it was rocky. There are things I have spoke on yet but I am because it's my story. So I started writing because I want to help and lead someone else. I always said I wish there was a me for me back then but we live and learn. I'm putting my book/story out this year, not just for me, not just for the world but for my daughter so she will know the real and not to make the same mistakes. I can say so much.
This was so raw and real❤ thank you for opening yourself up. Do what you love it will always bring results😊
I think as a viewer who has watched you for years, that my favorite videos from you are when you are following your dreams. I just love to see you do fashion, or remodel a house, or your life as a mom. I would love for you to see you back in school or doing something tailored to your dreams.
Keep riding the wave. It’s going to change. It always does. We are definitely going through a little slow flow in my company but just with the way things are now economically we are grateful for opportunities. This low flow is so normal in business. You got this girl!
Your child and you come first period! Please don’t feel you owe us anything because no one is in your shoes but you! From what we can see you are a awesome person and mom!
At the end of the day people need to mind their business and stay in their lane. Me and my kids love watching your vlogs and on another note Raven you can't worry yourself about things you can't control if your business is for you your numbers will go back up
I love you Raven!!!! Keep doing you, I’ve been watching for about 6 years now and I’m staying…. We all go through struggles and your doing a damn good job maintaining😘😘😘😘😘
You have done a great a job raising ziya on your own as a single parent! I couldn’t imagine the long nights you had to deal with alone! You are so strong!!!
I loved this episode. I have so much respect for you and always appreciate your transparency. I'm a new single mom and I really value your experience and it truly makes me feel less alone. Thank you for being here raven ❤
I really respect you girl! You said all of the right things. Youre a great mother and you have a duty to protect and the right to gate-keep your privacy at your discretion ❤ thank you for sharing as much as you already do. 10:24
Thank you for being so open about all of this, even those of us that are working 9-5 jobs have had to pivot with outgoing expenses. Shit is real out here!!
I had to have that conversation with my son he didn't fully grasp it until he was like 9-10. You're doing a great job!
I completely agree and understand the need to set those boundaries. The reasonable viewers can understand that. I also feel that TH-cam in general has declined just due to other social media apps and streaming services, content literally is coming from everywhere these days. I think venturing into new spaces, ie podcasting with guests, live streams, more beauty content will help give variety to your audience. Personally I have always appreciated that your content varies. Lifestyle, beauty, parenting, travel, home decor,
Event planning. It can be tricky when your life is the content, because your life may change, your hobbies and interests may change so naturally there has been a shift in the content. Don’t view the decline as a bad thing, just as an opportunity to be a more savvy business woman. I am sure you will navigate through this season, and take valuable lessons from the journey. Thanks for the transparency ❤
Yes 34:29 yes we want details on the logistics of the business
You’ve been very clear in the past about Ziya’s father. You said “I’m her only parent.” How else could you have been more clear? Ppl need to learn context clues. Also, you’re amazing for not putting those details online before talking to her. Imagine if she found a video of you talking about the situation to us before you got to explain it to her in a way she could digest. That would be traumatic. She’s so lucky to have you as her mom❤
Good for you for putting up boundaries. You don’t owe people every detail of your life
Hey Raven , I totally feel your frustration, this is the reason I deleted my instagram and got off twitter feeling boxed inn from talking about real topics that impact my community and women like myself.
I feel companies are afraid of these topics because we live in a superficial world.
I feel like a huge percent of this world is just surface level.
Once you start talking about feelings and the serious topics brands want tend run away.
My suggestion is going to require some real guts and courage so brace yourself.
I am suggesting to take a stand -but please be smart about the strategy you use.-
I would love to see TH-camrs like yourself get together and demand the industry to listen to you.(This could be fun and light hearted by the way.)
Start a tik tok trend to get their attention, and get other TH-camrs who talk about mental health to support you.
I honestly think it’s time we revolutionized being real and being human, the fake stuff is literally draining , if I see another haul or face beat post on my screen I’m going to jump in the Bermuda Triangle and escape to another galaxy.😂😂
I want to end by saying
I totally understand your frustration, but you are an influencer so use your influence to make this world better.
I believe you can do this because you’re brilliant at figuring things out.
Good luck Queen !!
We love a boundary, sister!!! Good for you.
You have to do what’s best for you and Ziya. I know this is your business, but you also have a real life. Your mental matters. The day one supports will definitely understand if you change content, travel more, change your environment or even take a break to refresh your. Thanks for sharing this part of you story. It’s inspiring.
Just goes to show how having wrong people in your circle could alter your trajectory either positively or negatively…this is why it’s so important to protect your space and choose your friends wisely…you can’t choose your family but you can choose your friends and significant others
Your daughters relationship with her father is not for people to question. So sorry that you are experiencing these questions. ❤
You have always been in-tune with your audience and your followers, which is one of the reasons I started following you years ago. It's also why your assessment on why your viewership has plateaued is dead on for me. I believe I started following you when Ziya was turning 2 and what brought me to your content was your video on acne and you were going to start your Accutane journey. I connected with the content because I've struggled with acne during my entire adult life but even more so, your vulnerability jump off the screen. I have never saw an influencer be so genuine and real, without being drama-filled.
I started diving into your older content and I connected to your single mother story. Mine was very similar. Your mental health journey drew me in, without knowing at the time I was heading towards my own mental health crisis. I enjoyed and learned quite a bit watching makeup videos, interior decorating, etc. even though I don't consider myself as creative. I am at least 15 yrs older than you, maybe even more, but I could relate because your content came from an authentic place. Then there was a shift where the content felt a little more manufactured but I understood it's a business and you obviously need to make money but once you hit your million subscribers, there was a major shift. The vulnerability and being truly genuine was no longer there. It makes sense given there were things you couldn't share that is tied to your most important role...Ziya's Mom. I also feel though that your business goals drove your content instead of what your followers wanted to see.
I think you can get back to having that transparent vulnerable connection with your audience. It may take time and may even mean scaling back your business in order for it to grow organically again.
Thanks for sharing what has been going on in this podcast. I as a follower who has not engaged with your content much over the last year needed to hear that. It means you care and are trying to figure out a way to get back to what made you passionate about being an influencer. Maybe this is the content you were looking for. Taking your followers on the journey with you and your team as you figure this out.
We just happy to be here, & we support you 💗💗💗 The behind the scenes be wild af so we are just happy you have a supportive group of people that you can trust & truly want the best for you & Ziya, that’s priceless.
I 100% agree with that approach. It's unfortunate and sad that there is zero contact with her father, but no explanation is required or needed.
Ray, I’ve been with you through your college days, mental health struggles, and your apartments into home ownership. You kind of have already shared this story years ago, before Ziya was even born. People need to just chill on being “curious”. You are a open book. You are allowed to set strong boundaries. 💕🫶🏽
This episode made me tear up. I have been a subscriber for years, and I will watch anything you post. Of course the real ones understand. Thank you for sharing 🫶🏼
Raven never underestimate the value of providing videos that are an escape and distraction for your viewers. Of course we would love to get more of your story, but those other videos have value too.
GET OUT YOUR HOUSE AND GO TRAVEL. GO SEE THE WORLD! Your viewers will love it. 😊
I swear I was thinking the same thing travel vlogging seems like raven would do really well with it
I third this! I can't imagine how that would be blocked as well, and I personally love to vicariously live through other ppl's fabulousness lol
I would love if she got out the house period. Even if she was just going to the Target or the mall. Most of the vlogs I watch they just be going to gym and the mall and cooking hello fresh.
Not everyone has the luxury of just being able to get up and go, especially with a kid. As supportive as her family is, she’s still the sole parent. I’m sure many of us can look in our own circle and think of a family member or friend who’s limited to what they can do because they have a kid. Something as simple as trying to go out to dinner can feel like a task. She also said her finances are different so I’m sure she is being mindful of not being able to just randomly plan a trip for content and not be sure if it’ll pay off
I agree. Raven has focused on the housing portion. And it would be nice to see more mom and daughter travel during Ziyas school breaks or summer
Mother daughter/ family working relationship should be interesting! To do it successfully is amazing and a blessing. I could never.
Well said and enough said!!!! This was insightful and completely understandable. I appreciate being able to watch people grow and navigate life as it is hard. People tend to forget that we are not watching a movie and that REAL people are doing the best they can and just trying to get through.
I fully understand so many things that were said here as a single mother as well, and I respect your honesty and policy of not putting too much on the internet. You are a perfect example of how you should boss up and hustle to provide regardless but especially when you're doing it alone. Trust me, you don't have to talk negatively about that person or the people associated with him. Your child will figure it out all on their own.
Raven I realize now how very Nice your are...Ziya and your family and friends are fortunate to have you in their lives. Remember "to thine own self be true" including your precious beautiful daughter
I have wondered also about Ziya's dad and where he was. But at the same time, I didn't dare ask you about it because its you and Ziya's personal business. You don't owe me nothing when it comes to your personal business. Everybody has boundaries. Great podcast today.
I absolutely love the transparency Raven. I am also a buiness owner and I can completely relate to this whole video. My family and friends are also on my payroll and although it definitely has its benefits I feel like it’s so much more pressure. The anxiety, the depression, the stress wow! Thank you for making this video. Glad to know I’m not the only one who feels this exact way. ❤
On the topic of your business, I personally would love to see more vlogs, cooking content, maybe even financial advice or business advice in general. I recently became gluten and dairy free for medical reasons and I would love to see content on that. All in all I think it’s just a dry spell and your channel will survive it. I think everyone goes through this at least once.